How Your Decor Impacts Your Relationship: The Valentine's Week Episode | Panel (Ep36) - StreamLeader Report with Ross Brand

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It's the Valentine's Day special edition ofthe stream Leader Report Live Panel, or
you could say it's the Valentine's Weekas we get ready for the holiday.
We've got some Valentine's related topics todiscuss, and also some of the regular
tech and creator and worldwide news aswell. Let's do a show. It's

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The stream Leader Report Live panel.Creators talking to creators, craw real and
unscripted, and sometimes they say thequiet part out loud. Cure your hosts
Claudia Santiago, Rebecca Gunter, RobGreenley, and Ross Brand. Hey gang,

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Welcome to the stream Leader Report.We have Rebecca Gunter, the peach
in chee at stone Fruit, ClaudiaSantiago from Claudiasantiago dot com, and Rob
Greenley, the co host of thenew media show. I'm Ross Brand.
This show is the stream Leader Reportand every Thursday at one thirty pm Eastern,
we do this stream Leader Report livepaneled with the four of us or

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whoever is available, and it's beena lot of fun. I think we
were up to thirty something episodes now, so we're going strong, and it's
Valentine's Day coming up, and sowe thought why not have a special Valentine's
issue. I mean, what couldbetter fit with the rest of our content

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than love and sweetness and all goodthings. It's Valentine's Day coming up,
and Rob, of all people,found a story that touches all of our
hearts and gives us just a tremendousamount of hope for all humanity. What

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to watch out for might be thebetter way of saying right. So tell
us, Rob, what's what's happeningout there in the world of relationships?
Oh well, I came across thisthe survey study that came out here,
you know, ahead of Valentine's Day, which it's a survey of about three

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thousand women to find their biggest apartmentx right, things that they will be
willing to break up with the guyover essentially, and a lot of them
are really related to kind of malecleanliness. Actually might be a good way
of saying it. And then howthey create a decor in their their their

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place. So maybe this is alittle bit of a of a application of
women's preferences on men when men kindof have their own kind of way of
doing things. So you can takeit with a grain of salt. I
think that there's always a natural tensionbetween men and women. Men are different

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than men. It's the venus versusmars argument that's been going on for decades.
But about seventy five percent of thewomen would leave their partners over dirty
towels in the apartment and half ofthe women forty eight percent cided getting the
ick when someone they're getting or they'redating doesn't own a bed frame. So,

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ladies, you know, what's yourcomments on this? Do you agree
with this? Or are women beinga little nitpicky about their men? I
brought some kiki talkies. This isa hot topic. I brought some tiki
talkies. I'm not done either.There's other highlights to this story that will

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other issues. Let's start with thebed frame female relations here. Go ahead.
Do you do you own a bedframe? Rob the Ross? I
don't why I'm still single? Right? Let's go back to bought Ross who

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was going to date on Tinder?If you'll remember that from a few episodes
ago in which the dating life ofRoss Brand was brought into the AI revolution.
So step one or in a bedframe? Ross, I have to
admit you're brave for admitting to that. It would have been really easy just
to say, yeah, of courseI own a bed frame. Sorry that

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I asked the question. You're nottalking about the frame that just holds the
mattress. You're talking about like aheadboard and surrounding accoutrement. I think in
this I think in this piece,they mean is your mattress on the freaking
floor? Right? Oh? No, I mean it's It's always been on

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a frame. It means like doyou have a sleigh bed from pottery barn.
No, the mattress has always beenin the mattress frame. I even
when I had my first apartment intwenty three or whatever, it was in
the mattress frame. So what kindof animal? What kind of animal do

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you think? My parents raise?There's another question here is do you have
a box spring under your mattress?Of course? Okay, of course,
like a like a piece of plywood, because that's all out there. Although
although there are beds now that like, or at least in the last twenty
years or so, that like it'skind of hip to have like the single

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mattrecks. Yeah, mattress, nobox spring and have it in some sort
of designer No way, I wantthe box springs underneath like a box.
I got a batch to friend whohas the mattress on the floor and then
another mattress on top of it,and they're not the same size. Oh,

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that's kind of I'm just saying that'skind of well. I mean,
I think that's what we're talking abouthere is grossed out. So your bed
has stairs to get into it?Is that what you're telling me? Because
it looks like it looks like amushroom, because it's like the queen is

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on top and the full is onbottom. Okay, I mean me personally,
I'd be like right onto the floor. Hey, listen, I'm five
to one on a good hair day. So you put a nice, nice
stick box spring with it. Yeah, I almost need stairs to get on
that plucker. And okay, itdepends on how high up in the air.

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It isn't how tall you are,right, Yeah. And I'm not
wearing my letters, so you knowit's a challenge. I have to run
like from the end of the roompole vault. Wow, So I passed
that test. You thought you thoughtI was going to fail. You're gonna

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fail, you said. That's whyI'm saying, clearly, that's not you
know, a stumbling block, thenTinder business. So we need to get
our bucks in a row. Ross. You know, we have to driven
research. What do the numbers say? What do the numbers say? I've
brought a piece. I brought apiece of media to illustrate exactly what is

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it talking about? If you wantto play it? Yeah, absolutely absolutely
bring that up. Yeah, wegot on the screen share whenever you're ready
fire. Okay, yeah, therewe go talk women versus men, decorating,
women versus men decorating. Okay,he's got a chair, he's got

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everything you need to sound, ancharm to eat off of, you know,
played in a plastic fork, andhe's good to go. Soon this
delivery gets there, he's ready tohe's ready to chow down and living.
It's a camp chair, for sure. There was plenty of content to choose

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from, and I do have notsloppy at all, very neat. I
do have another piece of content thatis from a female creator who shows you
have he reads a room. ButI don't want to step on a rob
story. If there's more, definitelymore here, all right, So let's
let's get a little more and thenwe'll cut. We'll come back to Yeah,
it sounds great to another clip.So, uh, well, we

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haven't talked about the the biggest elephantin the room, which is the dirty
towels yet. So and I'm gladthat you didn't ask me about my bed
so i'd be focused on ross,which was good. Now you're up for
the toweling question. Yeah, yeah, So what do women think about water
beds? That that's the other question. My mom had a water bag when

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I was growing up. That wasfun, but I haven't seen one in
real life and in seventy I haven'tseen a waterbeded in seventy five years.
Yeah, slashing around in there likeit's uh on the ocean, right,

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you do? I do have awater pillow. I have a water bottle.
I'd be scared I drowned, soI have drowning dreams. Do you
I do have a water water pillar? Wow? Not a bad not a

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bed, no, rob, Doyou have the waterbed that's pleas you're gonna
get to the world. I hadone in the past, but I don't
currently have one now. Temper pedicbed. So nice. We're showing our
we're showing our age, y'all.The whole waterbed and it wasn't one of

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those compartment water beds you know thatdoesn't do as much of that. So
it actually popped on me and itwasn't. It wasn't a pleasant experience.
Were you asleep when it happened?Uh? You were like talking about I

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gotta get out of here. Mygod, I'm thinking the imaginary car.
So Rob, I'm just curious again, And maybe I missed the memo.
But where were where were these statsfound again on some social media platform.
I can't I can't remember where itwas. They're from. Its new data
from a source called red Decor.It's r E D E c O R,

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which is a real life design simulationgame. The yeah, your home
decord does matter when it comes tohaving a successful So no vested interest in
making people think that, right,I'm sure it's unbiased research. Sure.

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So another one, I would justargue about the towels. It's not so
much a dirty towel on the floorthat makes us fat out. It's just
like repeat, repeat, repeat,I'll just say this treading lightly with respect
to my male cointerparts of like thedisparity of home housework and how that can

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show up in a saterosexual couple andso it's not always about the dirty towel.
It's just like, you know,that's the straw that broke the camel's
back. So if you ask me, you know, in the survey of
like would you leave would you leaveyour partner of oor a dirty towel on
the floor, if you can envisionthat you've been picking that towel up for
fifteen years or how much you askedthem up a towel, it didn't happen,

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that's probably more of a context.So that's my answer to what do
we think. Yeah, and totallyand all fairness to the women that were
interviewed in this ten to one,it's exactly what Rebecca's saying is some things
are It's not about those things inparticular. It's more the attitude of like

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where a man wants you to betheir mommy, right, I hate but
hello, you know, I'm notyour mama. And you know I'm a
wife or a partner, you know, but I'm not your mama. You
know, to go figure that thatone out, you know that that's kind
of where it is. I thinkmore of the heart of it is it's

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not so much about these silly things. It's repeated ad vice versa. Not
just for man. Guys hate hatedoing laundry. There's no question about that.
They see it in their own mindthat they're being environmentally and efficient conscious.
So by using that towel repeatedly,they're saving these environments. Used the

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towel repeatedly, just hanging on thefucking hook, just to hang back up.
Because the question was about towels onthe floor, Oh was it right?
It wasn't specific about anything. Ithought maybe station for the towel.
It was that could be in thekitchen, and it could be in the
bathroom, it could be in youknow, a shower, towel could be

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This is a deal breaker for me. I'm just gonna say this is I
don't care so much about the towelsand all that, but you know,
yeah, there's a repeated attitude forme. It's like if a man can
lie to me, like not bestraightforward like to me, that's foundational.
So it's more stuff like that forme that I'm like, gek, you

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know, just saying yeah, Iwould like sometimes okay, I'm gonna throw
this one. And I grew upwith like four brothers. I grew up
in a houseman, so sometimes I'dgo to my brother and I already knew
the answer. Okay, it doesn'tmatter if you're a girlfriend or a friend.

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Okay, I'm just saying this outthere. Doesn't matter if you're a
girlfriend or a friend or somebody thatyou say you value. Okay, my
brothers, Okay, I wouldn't knowthe answer to something already. And I
go up to them, I,hey, you know, what were you
doing this night? Or what doyou you know what? And they outright
lie to me and already knew theanswer. They outright to me. Okay,

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I wasn't born yesterday. And sowhen I when I'm man especially,
I mean, I'm saying any relationship, but I'm just saying, because we're
hard at Valentine and dating. Man, if you can't be honest even with
a friend and value that woman,screw it. You are done. They

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already know the answer, and youjust outright lie to them. You've been
caught. And then you're trying tobe like, oh, smooshy and friendly
and lovey, and it's like givethem a Valentine's will you be mine?
It's like yeah, no, bye, sorry my rat for the day,
saying, sister, you told thetruth. The next highest objection was fort

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cannot stand to see holes in theirpartner's comforter. So there's there. I
mean, yeah, there you go. So this sounds like very different stages
of relationships to me, because ifyou've made it and years and years,

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the way you're breaking up with somebodybecause they keep throwing the towel on the
floor, that isn't like but likecomforts. Sounds like, hey, I
went home before I really knew whothis guy was. Yeah, I'd be
immediately thinking that I've got a mothproblem. Right, I mean, if

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this is a long term relationship,you probably should have noticed the holes.
Are these long term relations ships?Tell us again, is this dating?
It says, it's just a it'sjust a survey of three thousand women to
find their biggest apartment X So thingsthat turn off a woman as a percentage

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now forty pretty big. So guys, get a get a less holy comforter,
would be my advice if you wantto hold on your relationship right to
go home, right, yeah,and put up a bug strip to catch

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those moths that are eating your comforts. Threadbare and old nonsense college and it
smells, and who knows what's onit, Like, give us a break,
dude. I'm just saying I'd beprobably more concerned if they were like
burn holes or something like that fromlike cigarettes or something. Right, high
Rock to come and do the Valentine'sinspection right, right, and then the

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go that's a great idea, services, right, and you professionally is check
out people's comforters. That's right.And then you can be on a podcast
too to tell the world how youovercame your I can start a new TV
series just doing this. It's it'salmost like it's like like a hoarder series,

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right, like disasters in the apartment, right, you can raiding with
rob right. Oh. Then alsothirty percent of women said they're done with
the club lighting that guys have inthere, which is which is interesting,
like lava lamps, led strip lights, neon signs. I know some women

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love. Right, So seventy percentof women are okay with club lighting in
there there, that's happening. ServiceRoss, tell me you don't have just
overhead light everywhere, just the normallights, just normal regular house lights,

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not overhead everywhere. No lamb Okay. And the next one is said that
they had they had to make theirpartner get rid of old underwear before they
would move in. That would belike the you know, what kind of

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situation are we talking about here?Are we moving from white underwear to colored
underwear? We boxers? What arewe doing here? I think we're throwing
away the ones that have been roadhard and put away wet, So we
don't it's like we don't want tosee your period panties. God, I'm

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just saying, well, white whiteundies do lead marks, right, so
well, just at some point canwe make an agreement that they're Sometimes at
some point they get so old thatwe're like, it's worn out, they're
worn out. Do we agree thatthey get worn out if they have holes
in them? That's a common threadhere as if Yeah, that's what I'm

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saying, holes in them that aren'tsupposed to be there, right threadbear stained
like it's not it's not giving saucyromantic moment. I don't usually buy that
product from the yeah budget eye Like, I think I've gotten rid of them

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before they've gone the right back.That's all we're asking, Ross, which
is why you're going to make sucha great boyfriend. That's why we're asking
just get rid of them before itbecomes problematic, helping worse than road stripes
in the underwear. So that's allI mean, look, just invest,

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just invest in some new underwear.Wouldn't you want that from us as well?
Absolutely? Okay, what about thecouch. There was something about the
couch in there, right, wouldbreak up with their partner outright if they
didn't own a couch. Here maythanks for coming over. Here's a nice

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folding care you saw the camp chair. In that chair, here's the blanket
sit on the floor. That's yeah, it happened. I mean, Claudia,
you remember the old days, datingaround with these like just out of
college guys, and it's like they'vegot a couple of cushions stacked up on

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the floor, milk crates, bookshelvesmade out of sin blocks and two by
fours, those old spool like likeindustrial spools that they would roll up the
street and make a coffee table,all the beer bottles along the along the
wall. I had friends like that. But you know what, this might

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come as a surprise, But Idated the first I married the first guy
I dated. Stopping so sweet,Claudia Santiago. It's kind of weird,
like some people ask me stuff like, hey, you know, do you
remember this boyfriend? That boy friendLike, hey, I couldn't tell you,

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but so I got was the sweetestthing I've ever heard a girl.
Mmm, I'm so happy for you. It seems like a good one,
happy Valentine's stay to you. AndBruce does seem a little odd by this
question? Is it would break upwith their partner if they didn't own a
couch. That that implies that they'realready in a relationship and that they didn't

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know that the guy didn't own acouch before they started dating him. Six
months of sitting on the floor isenough. That's my limit. It could
be it could be six weeks,it could be six states. Could her
place and there wasn't a problem,But then they went over his place for
the first time. She could havegone over to his place. And again

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we're being very head of normative here, So let's taken place his place and
been like, Okay, we'll trythe no couch thing because he's really cute
and I'm feeling it. And thenthen and then like he says something dickish
and you're kind of over it andhe's just looking for a reason and then
the next time you couch to makeout. I mean, does it need

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to be a lovesy coach or doesit need to be a full size couch.
I think it's just an environment inwhich two people can sit next to
each other. Can Can I justrant a little more here? So this
is a deal. This is adeal. Okay, some guys kind of
mean to go Quada. You know, I'm just still single. Okay,
great, you know, a niceguy and everything, and and but this

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is the thing is, you know, they've got all the time in the
world. You know, they don'tmake an effort in a date. In
other words, they're always going toher place. They never offer to pay
for anything. They're they're always like, it's kind of like be my mommy,
be my sugar girl, you know, And it's always take take,

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take, take take, and it'sthere's never a giving, right. So
and it's like at some point,dude, you got to learn how to
like show up for her, likeget a freaking couch, get get something
secondhand. So I mean maybe inthat question, there's it's the girls swing
where they're going. You know,I've been with this dude for a while
and it's always about me giving givinga couch by right with your girlfriends,

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and another thing, let me evenhave a couch. And that's like,
there's these guys sometimes you and Ilove men, by the way, and
I really respect an honor man.So I just don't want this to sound
like man bashing because it's not.It's just this is a little tip maybe
from a girl who's halfly married,who has an amazing guy. Okay,
but this is the deal is someof these guys are are are waiting to

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find this amazing woman they got allthe time in the world that all they
do is play video games through thattime. It's like, dude, do
you do you even have money toget or a ring. You don't have
a couch, you have folding chairs, Go get another job, put money
away, do something so that youcan at least contribute to some of her
comfort. And you know, justsaying right, anyway, I think that

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this is an opportunity for the womento get their couch into the yeah,
the priority couch that they picked,right, yeah, right, I'll just
say, Claudia on the TikTok,I've learned that they call that a bare
minimum man, and just eventually bareminimum men are making and it goes the

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other way too, to honor man, because I really highly respect man and
I hate women that bash man allthe time. Okay, this is not
about bashing men. This is adeal. Is there some women out there
who are expecting sugar daddies and they'renot coming halfway either? Or like if
it was a long term relationship,Let's say and dude's really he's working hard,

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he's doing what he can. Maybehe's building a side business for the
future, you know, to bringan extra income for the future for the
both of them, So he's reallytrying hard. Okay, Well, if
I was a woman in that inthat scenario, I'd be like, hey,
babe, like, let's let letlet's go in together on a couch.
Let's you know, it'd be niceto have it here, right,

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Like, don't leave it all upto the guy. Ladies, right say,
with dates, like you plan onedate, I'll plan another. You
know, let's let let's let's doa stay in date, but maybe once
a month, let's do a goingout date. And then instead of going
out every week, let's put thatmoney away. Let's save up together,

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you know, Claudia and selling thepartnership package. I'm loving it. I
love relationships, and I love healthyrelationships, and I love seeing people get
ahead. And you know, Ilove Valentine's Day. But the reality is
a lot of people struggling through Valentine'sDay because they don't have a significant other.
If they've lost a spouse, sothey've lost a significant other. You
know, it's a very hard time. But anyways, Rebecca, you got

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another clip for us. I doI think you'll like this one? Ross?
Okay, Tomb Decor Part three.Men who decorate with blue are solid
men. I will say that theyare a little bit basic, nothing wrong
with that, though. These menare ready to settle down. Okay,
we all know that men who decoratewith anime are nerds. But I will

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say that they're very loyal, supergenuine, and they'll never cheat on you.
But they are kind of low energy. You're not really going to romance
you either. Men with fake fansor players. You heard it here.
You were a man with a marblecoffee table lyars run. Men who decorate
with a lot of man are closewith their mothers and they make great husbands
and fathers. You just don't reallyhave good style. Hey, but that's

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why he needs you. Men whodecorate with like little stuff, I mean
it goes not saying that they're veryoutdoors. They have low emotional intelligence.
Men who decorate with a lot ofmirrors, narcissists, men who always have
a fire going amount of time followfor our next part. Well, I
thought you'd find that adorable. Likebut when we say what does it mean

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to judge and like make assessments basedon your apartment? Here's that's some serious.
Do you have her other clips there? That was pretty darn good.
Let's I will share. I willshare this with you on TikTok and see
you when I are TikTok friends.Okay, color in my background now her

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name Annie K. Schaeffer and I'llput that in the chat. That was
good. So if anybody wants tofollow her as a creator. Yeah,
I thought you'd like that, Ross, I mean, this is a you
know, just as a piece oflike TikTok entertainment. I thought that was
pretty good. That was very clever. Can I bring one next time about

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a customer service guy who gets acall from a dog? Oh my god?
Okay, yeah, right next time, I'm going to bring in since
at which probably just have a showwith our favorite like shorts Reels and Tiktoks.
Oh my god, let's do awhy should people over thirteen watch TikTok?

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Or why they shouldn't? Well,that's a different show and I'm not
coming I'm not coming to that one, right, all right, let's let's
pivot this discussion now to our areaas creators and hosts. When you're watching
somebody on video, are there certainthings that you see in their background that

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make you say I can't watch thisor this person is not credible to me?
Like, are there certain things asa viewer that that are turn offs
when you see them in someone's background? Yeah? I think it's the fuzzy
background. It's the ones that aretrying to hide where they're at the background.

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Yeah, yeah, it's kind offuzzy around their head in what's behind?
Isn't clear? Substracting? Isn't itso distracting? I think I'd much
rather see what's in your green screen? What are you trying to hide?
Is always have for me green screen? You know when people start moving and

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then it's like yeah, yeah,a great, Claudia. I think you
have a very cool background because it'sgot It's got visual elements that aren't distracting.
It has color and depth. Yeah, you have a very cool background.
I some time redoing my background becauseof this, because of this episode,
Like I'm gonna have to show upspending a little bit of time on

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my aesthetic for sure. Ross,What do you think do you broadcast from
like different locations, Rebecca? Wereyou always in the same location? You
just have it framed differently? Thisis it? Or you don't have to
help? This is this is it? Baby, This is it. I
love too well. I'm in acorner that helps. When I'll just interrupt

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you role, I'm so sorry Italk all ready for just a second.
But when I you'll remember Ross,when I started the stone Fruit roll Up,
the whole point of the show isto bring people on to tell me
how to make the show. Andon episode three I had Paul King from
King Productions come on and give mepointers and tips, and he showed me
to do a cover card and allthis stuff the software could use. And
at the end of it, hiswhole point was how abysmal my background was.

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Like that was his critique, Like, you can't play like that.
You have to have something interesting thelittle light that's from him about creating a
video aesthetic. He's like, it'sreally really important. So ever since then,
I've made a lot of effort totry and pay attention to my background.
But you're also in an office andso like notebooks are stacked, like

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you've got stuff happening, my dogopens the door. It's it's not perfect
scenario, but I think that I'drather see that somebody's at home or in
their home office than fronting something else. So I think the aesthetic is important,
and that's because Paul told me so, and I believe him. So
you're kind of saying you don't trustthe green screen. Then when somebody,

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when you know that that's not theirhome or that's not their office, there's
a part of you that's wondering whatelse are they hiding? Well, no,
I hadn't thought of that until Robbrought it up. I think it's
distracting, But now that you bringit up, I'm like, yeah,
Actually, in the age of aiand as we've seen how almost imperceptible an

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ai bo can be, like goingwhere the sausage is made, you know,
showing that you're actually in your ownhome. I think the more we
show that we're real people, thebetter off will be. And this is
a way to do it. Soit takes just some planning and your ability
to sit in a corner. No, I don't have it. I don't

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have a green screen set up,so I'm just using the background replacement in
stream yard. But this is withwith a green screen. This is kind
of how I broadcast for a while. I don't think anybody thought I was
in a real studio or did they? And did that take away from my
credibility or did it add to it? Like it's an interesting it's an interesting

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question. I just kind of visuallycluttering, so it's hard to pay attention
to you, which I think meansthat you're working harder to ingest the content,
and that's not doing you a lotof favors as a creator who wants
people to stick around and watch them. So I just found that busy not
discrediting right, right, And thenI went to something so like this,

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which is still a virtual background.Uh, there's it's not a fake plant.
I don't think. I don't reallyknow what was actually in that room
and if my fake plant died becauseI forgot to pretend to water them.
I come from the angle where Ithink if I was sitting in Rob's beautiful

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room there with that awesome background,it would confuse my audience. I think,
to stay true to who you areand what your show actually is.
Like I ran a series of showsfor quite a while with the Abile to
the Success, and I had myRevived Live health and wellness shows I did

(35:49):
not broadcast out of my entertainment show. This this studio is literally true to
stage. It's got all the lightsand everything, it's hot, it's it's
what I broadcast my shows that Iwould be doing as an entertainer now.
When I did those for Revived Live, my target audience was people looking for

(36:09):
health and wellness. I got gigswith doctors with health UH focused people,
and I was in a in aroom with a lot of white very I
had a background that just had verysimple uh like black frame on it UH,

(36:30):
and I was showing UH. Ihad a TV screen or something and
I was showing like diagrams and anddoing some topics on and had guests on
that were in that health and wellnessvein. So I think, for me,
that's how I produce and that's howI show up on screen. And

(36:50):
then also too, you know,there's there're the whole minimalistic movement out there
and where women were like going greatand all that. Hey, all the
power to you. But I'm anentertainer. I'm a public figure, and
if I'm going to speak on somebody'sstage, I Am not going to show
up without being well dressed, havemy proper shoes on, my mate,

(37:12):
cut my hair done. Because Iwant to deliver as a professional, deliver
my topic so that the people thatare coming and paying money for tickets are
going to go away going Hey,I'm not distracted by the fact that she
showed up in her sweats to see. Come show up your sweats at my
house anytime, girl, right,And I do show up in my sweats.
And in some cases, you know, when I'm doing a health and

(37:34):
wellness thing, I'm an overcomer ofa life threatening illness where my immune system
attack my kidneys. So sometimes whenI'm speaking and in that in that realm,
you know, I show up inmy tracksuit. Uh, and I
show how I overcame that thing byeating well, by following you know,
the plan the doctors had for me. I went, who came a radiation.

(37:55):
I almost lost my life. It'sa powerful, powerful story. I
am not going to show up inmy entertainment GARB unless I'm doing the halftime
show, you know. And Ithink that's sort of how I see it
and how I position my backgrounds whenI do live streaming bectually the most adorable

(38:15):
track suit that ever lived too.Yes, it has a photograph of my
real background with a green screen beforewhen I've changed locations for a while,
because I hadn't built a new backgroundyet, so so I used like I

(38:39):
moved from one place to my newplace, and I used a virtual background
that was the same as my oldbackground for some period of time. So
that that's how I've used the virtualbackground thing. I do have a giant
green green screen that I can putbehind me. Is it a physical object?

(39:00):
We were talking about this today actuallylooking in stream yard as like we
were playing with some virtual backgrounds andanticipation of the show and just playing around
and kind of looking and I couldn'ttell whether or not when they said use
a green screen with good lighting,if that was software or a physical thing.
It's a very large, actual physicalgreen screen. Actually on one side,

(39:22):
it's green on the other side.It's blue, so you can flip
it around, but it has ametal frame around the outside of it's probably
it's probably six and a half feetin diameter or like a step and repeat.
Yeah, you actually hang it froma tripod. Oh wow, and
it basically takes up the whole frameof it. Depends on how close the

(39:44):
image is. I mean, Imean you can't. It depends on how
big the screen view is on it. But yeah, you can do that.
And it's also possible now to noteven have that, just like what
Ross was doing. Yeah, thosetechnologies come because if I tried to do
it without a green screen before,it would have been horrible. But yeah,

(40:08):
it's also important to really light thegreen screen with separate lights if you
can do that, So it's kindof complicated. That's exactly what I did.
I bought a couple of LED lightsthat I would put on the floor
and I would shine up at thegreen screen so it would make that color
more vibrant and that would make amuch cleaner cut line around, like around

(40:32):
my face and shoulders and things likethat. Question. Is that considered club
lighting, Well, this lighting behindme right now would be considered to be
club lighting, and so the studio. I think there's a distinction between the
studio and the living room and bedroom. Because let's see what some people think.

(40:55):
Science grinds. Karma m mcduire says, Ross, the fake background is
better. Okay, so there's onevote for the fake background. Anthony,
great to see. Anthony Loyola says, hey, fam, hope you're all
good. Carlos Phoenix, Carlos ourfriend says I go live and bed all

(41:17):
the time, but when I'm doinga show, I set things up differently.
Let's see. Kareema says, Idon't like big microphones like both Ross
and Robert. Using Claudia's is notdistracting because you can't see it. No
comment on my microphone? Yeah whatwhat? It's barely visible. So that's

(41:42):
probably why he didn't say anything aboutit, right, Yeah, I agree
with the big microphones. I prefernot to do that, but I have
yet to be able to come upwith a solution that's better. That's that
I can do on a live show. I would love to be able to
put a further away like this andit still sounds okay, but it does

(42:05):
sound a little hollow. And thento crank up the gain and then it
picks up. Then it starts topick up root noise and stuff. So
yeah, I'm I'm ramping up thegame right now, and you can start
to hear a little bit of echoright right. So it's just made a
cool comment. He says, Ihave an app on my iPhone that analyzes
correct lighting on a green screen,so you don't have to don't get the

(42:28):
flare. Oh wow, I needto check that out. Yeah, very
cool. I think, I think, I think anything that distracts I think
from connecting with your audience. Soit could be just not showing up in

(42:52):
a way that whether it's lighting oryou got too much going on in the
background audio. Sometimes that using likeI just did forever, you just just
just I think everybody I know,we just learn at our pace, but

(43:15):
we also learn what works with ouraudience. Let's see Fraser Ramsay's joining us
says evening didn't see Fraser. Imet. I met Fraser in Edinburgh.
Oh that's right, you did aconcert over there, right when I was
touring Europe. Yeah, we madea point. We met online and then
we made a point to connect whileI was out touring. How cool is

(43:37):
that? Cool, there's the blurrybackground. Rob Scott Andrew Kavanas says,
my wife suggested placing the bookcase behindme and ad lights works. Well.
See there's working as a team,right, there's a couple working as a
team. His jacket covers and yeah, I don't think that's better a right

(44:01):
like it, And sometimes, quitehonestly, sometimes it's really nice to have
live streams where you're outside by theocean, like Mitch Jackson does that really
well, right, but of course, being careful not to get too many
people in here your view saying metCarlos in New York. Okay, nice,

(44:22):
I met Carlos in New York too, but I'm from New Jersey,
so it's not quite the adventures comingfrom Scotland. I have not quite met
my may Ermano Carlos, Carlos Phoenixone day, Carlos Karima says, Rob,
it's better off, so it's betterwithout the blurring off. Now,

(44:42):
yeah, yeah, I mean that'sa good example what I was talking about,
that there are people that will dothat, that are doing their show
from less than ideal backgrounds. Right, here's my mic. I mean,
Ross, I think that looks terrificfor you. Because it's got your ing
there. And that's though. Ithink I have one with my book to
wait, hang on, I haveone. Oh my god, you guys,

(45:07):
maybe have one with my book.Here's here's the book there. It's
more to scale nice, the realdeal, the real deal. What do
you say? That's an awfully bigbook that is not the scale that's your

(45:29):
head. Yeah, it's like Igot this big prop books hard it's a
hardback edition that we just released forvolume four. Big ideas require big projections,
right, all right, so I'mgoing back to, uh, just

(45:50):
the basic well that's what I usedwhen I was doing stream Yard Connect.
And then there's the live stream Universeone. Okay, so let's take a
vote. Who likes with just mynatural background better? I think this one
is more interesting? Who likes withthe studio better? I could go the

(46:15):
way Russ, but yeah, Ithink it depends on what you're doing.
What is I find a picture distracting? Like what's behind you Manhattan Skyline?
Well, it's just it's kind ofwhat they do with you know, like
studios and broadcast studios. You alwayskind of wonder what's outside, you know,

(46:37):
what is is it a favorite?Is it a skyline that should be
recognized. I have no idea.It was a stock footage video in which
I pulled the frame out and meanthe static background and then adjusted the coloring,
and then friend helped me put thelogo so it would be in line
and stuff like that. Hey,I just stepped over to Facebook because that's

(47:00):
where like half a party is hereall right, hanging out Chrys Stone.
Chris Stone votes for natural background.Chris Stone has a good eye for design
and visual So we got credence towhat Christine says with absolute absolute Yeah,
Ross, So you get some lasersthat are kind of like moving around.

(47:28):
Well, so we've got we've gotthe natural background, we've got a semi
bedframe, we've got an amazing personality. We've got like four best sellers who
would want to date Ross. Bringingit all back to the valley right right,
he's got a bed frame. He'sbuilding a business here the AI.

(47:49):
Ross like, he doesn't have anylava lamps as far as I know.
I was also I was thinking thatif you don't like to laundry, or
you find it to be tedious,or you don't like shopping for a new
bed spread, or you don't likeorganizing your space. You could call Rob

(48:12):
Greenley's AI troop of Merrymaids to comeout for the Bachelor package and it will
guarantee that you will not turn peopleoff by your apartment alone. And I
think that would be worth that's amillion dollars an army of Tesla Optimus robots

(48:36):
here soon I can just I canassign one over to your your product issues.
You know how everybody talks about likehow the fact that the technology is
available to everybody for all these differenttypes of content creation. So it really
comes down to your personality, yourknowledge, what you bring, because no

(48:59):
longer do you have to be anexpert in the tech. Well it's gonna
come down to that with relationships too. No longer will you have to do
all these little things. You'll haverobots that will pick up your towels and
put it away. So that's aleveler for the guy who doesn't like to
do any That's that's what I'm saying, to show up with his personality and

(49:21):
listen, listen, Sam will havelike the whole dating scene where it's like
you can just date me, oryou can date me and my robot.
Right, my robot will do everythingthat I'm not. So if you get
tired of me, you can likesend me, kick me out to go
see a movie and you can spendtime with my robot. There you go.

(49:45):
It's the bare minimum, basher like, it's it raises the playing field
for everybody who's allergic to washing towels. There you go, all right,
Rob, I'm seeing so many avenuesfor this robot. Yep, and apologies
to Science Crimes for chastising you.Apparently my microphone is behind my name,

(50:06):
Blate, so it was super invisibleanyway, falsely accused. There's nothing worse.
So in a couple of minutes wehave left any thoughts on Joe Rogan's
two hundred and fifty million? Isthat what it is deal to do podcasts?
Being paid like an all star baseballplayer to do podcasts today? Right?

(50:30):
Yeah? I think it's a though. I did want to show one
thing, that is before we moveon to that topic that is related to
podcasting. But this huge trend withthe jin z population. And let me
share this image with everyone, SoI'll do a screenshare at ross and you

(50:53):
can see this. Sure, let'ssee here here it is and I can't
remember if we covered this or not, but this is the image. You
know, podcasters, especially in thegen Z population, are doing this.
They're they're podcasting from bed. AndI did see a comment in the thread

(51:15):
here talking about I do all mypodcasts from bed. You can wow.
Yeah, I see a lot oflike chair chairs together with the mix kind
of coming in and this makes senseto me. Yeah, I mean it
is a thing if you're not Imean, I mean some of these are

(51:35):
actually doing video from right. Soso there you go, Like that's where
you need to get that bed frame, headboard there. Ross, It's important
check exactly. Now you have abackground, Now you have a bed frame.
You're handling two major problems with onepurchase, and then you can to

(52:00):
put undtable right here right behind you. Oh right, God, that's what
everybody's first impression wants to be.Hey, it is gonna be right.
More about your your headboard, experience, transparency and advertising. Ross, that's
what we're asking for here. Speakingof gen Z, I have a little

(52:22):
Valentine's thing to show everybody. Quaudia. You're gonna love it because it's an
activity. It's not a TikTok,it's not a tech that's this is something
I cuede up in case we ranout. I don't know that it's not
it's not media. I'm gonna teachyou something, Okay, So you know
how like we all do the littleheart thing. I have a sixteen almost

(52:42):
sixteen year old gen Z or shouldhere's the new thing. That's a heart.
It's two little fingers that make atiny heart. That's it. This
is the new gesture of the newheart gesture. Just make a little make
a little heart out of your twofingers. Yeah, Ross has it?
What has it? Yeah? Man, this is the new gen Z like

(53:04):
hard emoji thing. That's it.Just a little guy. So I'm leaving
us, and we're jumping on ameme here, aren't we what we're doing?
Everybody? Yeah? So is itthe upper part of the low lail
cover. It's it's this and thatmakes that like the heart together. Yeah,

(53:25):
you did it? I leave youwith that gen zs Wow. All
right. Well, I hope everybody'senjoyed our Valentine's Week and special. I
hope it brought you closer together withyour loved one. Or maybe this is
breakup, or maybe you recognize whatthey lack in decor is an indication of

(53:49):
something bigger. No couch, nospouse, that's it. Go ahead,
it's Valentine's. I wore my earrings that are like five inches long.
I did these for a photo shootfor a Valentine's promo thing, and I
wanted to show up a beautiful dress. Wow, and let's see what else

(54:15):
have I got here? Come on, we got it. We gotta like
pump it up because it's Valentine's.There's red, lovely little purse. And
if you're so inclined to forget thered and just go bling bling, here
you go or both? All right? All right for the eyes. Kareema

(54:37):
McGuire says, I can't believe you'veeven got me making the gen Z thing
now. I forgot how to doit right? Yes, And Carlos Phoenix
has like he has his h whatis it here he's got like I'm trying
to read some some technology, right, Carlos. Where you can podcast from

(55:00):
bed right Interesting and Extreme Leader Reportis now available as a video podcast on
Apple Podcasts. So each of ourepisodes each week will be added to that.
I put a few back episodes into start off the feed. And

(55:22):
so if you're big on hanging outin the Apple app, you can listen
to the audio, or you canfind the video podcast and actually watch it
on desktop or in the mobile app. That's hot all right for Rebecca Gunter,
our peachin chief from Stonefruit dot comand Claudia Santiago are international recording artist

(55:49):
from Claudia Santiago dot com. AndRob Greenley, host of the new media
show and Podcasting Tips with Rob Greenley, a Hall of Fame podcaster. Mister
Rob Greenley, I am Ross Brand. Our show is The stream Leader Report
and we will be back again nextweek on Thursday with another episode of The

(56:10):
stream Leader Report. Take care,everybody,

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