July 15, 2025 • 28 mins
🌀 Episode Summary: In this delightfully candid and mind-opening episode, Cheri Flake (a.k.a. your friendly neighborhood Stress Therapist) dives into the often-cringey concept of manifestation—but from a place of authenticity, clarity, and spiritual alignment. With a touch of skepticism and a whole lot of soul, Cheri shares real-life stories about manifesting the impossible: from her dream house (hello, Zillow magic and Ganesh chants!) to her new car (cue divine dealership intervention). The episode wraps with a heart-centered “Peace In, Peace Out” meditation that helps you become a magnet for the calm and clarity you're seeking. 🧘♀️✨ 🔑 Three Key Learning Points:
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- Specificity is Power: Get crystal clear on exactly what you want—not what you “should” want. Manifestation only works when you're aligned with your true desires.
- Feel It to Believe It: Emotions fuel manifestation. Pair your intentions with genuine, heightened feelings to convince your brain (and the universe) that it matters.
- Divine Timing Loves a Listener: You’ve got to show up, pay attention, and be open to nudges, signs, and sacred coincidences—even if they arrive disguised as a grocery cart exchange.
- 📚 The Surrender Experiment by Michael Singer – Sheri says, “Don’t read the back. Just read the book. Trust me.”
- 🧘♂️ Paramahansa Yogananda – On how money can be sacred and surrender is strength.
- 🧠 Wayne Dyer – His advice on focusing your thoughts with emotion and intention.
- 🎶 Cheri's new band! (Yup, she’s singing and her heart is wide open.)
- 🏡 Andrew “Gilby” Gilbert – Rock star real estate agent in Atlanta (Keller Williams).
- 🐘 Ganesh – Remover of obstacles, featured in Sheri and Violet’s adorable manifesting chant.
- 🚗 Kia Sorento SX Prestige Plug-In Hybrid – Her new dream car (times three!).
- 🔮 Guided Meditation: Peace In, Peace Out – A gentle, grounding practice to help you receive and radiate peace.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, beautiful people, what's up today? We're going to actually
be talking about manifesting things, which totally usually really annoys me.
Manifesting this, I'm manifesting that. My mom always my mom
always says that you can't throw a stick anywhere without
hitting the word manifesting my destiny or manifesting my desires.
But what does that mean and how does it look?
I'm gonna show you and I'm going to blow your
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mind today. Let's learn how to manifest something. Y'all come on,
like for real, like use your magical powers to get
something to appear, and you don't even have to go
get it, it comes to you. Baby.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
Hey, beautiful people, it's time for some Stress Therapy, a
podcast about how to meditate and get better at stress
for people living in the real world. Finally a place
to park by twenty five plus years of experience of
work as a psychotherapist in the mental health field and
now your host me the stress therapist Cherry Flake. Hey,
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beautiful people, what's up? Okay? So, sometimes the word manifesting
kind of bugs me because it seems so not related
to God or spirituality or you know, for the greater good.
It seems usually it is presented, not always, but usually
is presented in a very material way. But sometimes we
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need material things. And I was reading this thing by
Yogananda yesterday and he was like, listen, it's your job,
if you have a family, to work and make money.
Money isn't the enemy, right, but you know, money and
material things, you know can be used or manifested in
a way that that's good for the greater good, right
for your family, for your you know, a business that
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helps other people, not just looking at like what's going
to make me the most money, I'll do that thing, right, Like,
you know, he was trying to talk about how your
passion and your gifts are very closely related and that
when you put those things together, that things kind of
just come together. And there's a great book it's by
Michael Singer and it's called The Surrender Experiment. If you
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pick up this book, I highly recommend that you do
not even look at the back, do not read one
thing about it, because it'll completely ruin the whole thing.
It will blow your mind. So this guy lets the
universe decide every single thing for him, right, And I
mean that's really not feasible for most of us. And
it's really clear why in the book and that type
of thing. But the lesson there is that we can
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practice that on a small scale, and then when our
beliefs begin to change about what is possible right, those
things will appear better to us. Like it's just as
easy to make ns one dollar is it is a
million dollars, except for the fact that you already have
a belief probably that a million dollars is harder, and
so therefore it will be Does that make sense? Remember
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that when you change the way that you think about things,
the things that you think about start to change. So
when I talk about Wayne Dyer and thinking about and
using the skills and ideas and tools that he has,
he had a really good way of telling people and
describing how to actively be thinking about and thinking about
constantly bringing into your awareness a very clear intention with
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a heightened emotion. Okay, you have to convince your brain
that it means something to you. It can't just be words.
That you start to really believe it, and that anything
we think enough we start to believe. This is why,
you know, we believe thoughts that clearly are not true,
and we often we believe thoughts that just thoughts that
we've had over and over. Right, this why people drink
the cooler. This white people get into trouble. This is
why people think terrible thoughts about themselves that aren't true. Right,
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But whatever it is, he's saying, why don't you use
that to your advantage and start thinking and daydreaming about,
and having emotions about, and really thinking about details about
things that you want, not things that you don't want.
We're very good at talking about what we don't want.
When someone comes to sit in my chair for the
first time, usually launching into long stories about what they
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don't want. We're very clear about what we don't want.
We're not that good about what we want. And I
got to tell you, I've gotten really good here lately
about getting very specific about what I want, not what
I should want, not what other people think I should
be doing, not what someone else did, but what I
truly truly want. And when I get that crystal clear,
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I'm telling you, now that I've done all this work,
it's astounding how it goes down for me. I was like,
I want a meditation class in a yoga studio, which
is almost impossible to do if you can believe that like,
so I had to go get certified in yoga, and
like things started just coming together. And then I met
the right person and this, you know, yoga studo didn't
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feel right. And I'm trying to vibrate with the type
of people I want to work with and for and around,
and that I want to be in my own community
and help my own neighborhood. And so you have to
really believe it. You have to trust it, and you
have to think it over and over and over again.
And I was thinking, the only time I'm really happy
is when I'm singing. And so now you know, I
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just started in this band and there's really something special there.
It's super fun. It makes my heart wide open. I mean,
I just feel amazing every time I go and practice
with these guys. It's a blast. And when you're in
alignment with it, I mean, it just starts. It just
starts showing up for you. And I think where we
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get lost is we're not specific enough and we don't
think it's possible. So my mantra in my life, and
I offered this to you and put it in your pocket.
I just had a former client he came to me
and said, I use that all the time. It's just
changed my life. And this is it. I walk around saying,
multiple times a day, multipon times a day, things just
have a way of working out for me. Things have
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a way of working out perfectly. Things just have a
way of working out just right right, And that way
I allow myself to be divinely guided. So I'm going
to give you this example. A long time ago, almost
exactly ten years ago to the day, really, I was
looking for a house and we were living in a
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place where my kids were very small, they were toddlers,
and the schools were just they were terrible. I mean
they were one. Like how do you even get a
school to be a one? I mean, it's so sad.
So we knew that we didn't want to be in
that community for long because the public schools over there,
you know, and you know, a mile away, they were
excellent schools. Very odd, and this is kind of what
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goes on in atlant unfortunately sometimes. But we knew we
were going to be moving because that community also just
wasn't our place right, and so we decided that we
would move to a place that had better school system.
So I had to go around and look for some
neighborhoods that I would like, except I did not know
exactly where that would be. So we weren't really in
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a hurry because we were renting and everybody was already
in a good school that we really liked at the time.
So I found this amazing real estate agent. His name
is Andrew Gilbert. He's in Atlanta if you need a
real estate agent at Keller Williams. He's an amazing guy.
I love this guy. But his name is Andrew, and
so my husband's name is Andrew as well, so everyone
calls him Gilby, and so we sort of went with
his nickname just to clarify things a little bit. Because
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we started going around and just looking at houses in
our spare time, and I would take him off for
tacos and we would look here and there, and it
started to be kind of fun and they became kind
of tight, and my son counted the houses that we
went to. I can't believe that I put this through
this guy. But over the course of a long time,
you know, months and months and months, we went and
saw fifty three houses together. And there was no rush,
right because we were renting. Well, all of a sudden,
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our landlord calls and says, you got to get out
because we're going to sell the house, right, So now
we are in a hurry. And I'm like, oh, no, Gilbert,
We're in a hurry. So I'm online on this little
Facebook neighborhood group and I sell my little daughter's baby
pretend grocery cart online and the buyer says, I will
come by your house and pick it up. Well, we
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go to church. I completely forget that I didn't leave
it out there, and I feel terrible. So I call
her up and I'm like, listen, I will bring it
to your house. I feel terrible. You drove all the
way out here. I forgot to leave it out and
now you don't have this grocery cart. Just give me
your head. Just tell me where you live. So I
drive into her neighborhood. It's magical. I'm driving around the
neighborhood going, oh, I think I want to live here, right,
And so I'm driving around it bring her the grocery cart.
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She tells me that she loves this neighborhood right, that
the schools are great. She's actually a teacher and she
wants to work in the school's there. She ended up
working there She ended up being my son's favorite teacher.
She ended up being really tight with me, and still
when she calls me, grocery card comes up. Just a
little bit of foreshadowing for you. Okay, Okay. So I'm
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thinking I want to move here. I love this n
h It's absolutely beautiful there. It's in the city still,
but it's like there's all these trees. It's just gorgeous.
So I got to the car and I decide I'm
going to sit with this for a little bit and
ask for some guidance. And so I sit and I
say a little prayer. I love this snigbhood. I feel
good about the neighborhood becausehen you're in alignment with your purpose,
it feels good. It does not feel bad. When you're
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in alignment with your purpose, it feels good. It does
not feel bad. So I sit down and I'm like,
could you send me a sign if this is in
fact my family's new neighborhood right? And all of a sudden,
on my window of my car, I look over. My
friend Emma. Is there this sweetest, cutest little British sweet
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I love her to death. I roll down the window.
I'm like, hey, Hamma, She's like, why are you parked?
Why are you parked in front of my house? Member.
I can't do a British accent. I'm terrible, especially since
she's so sweet and has the sweetest voice anyway, and
with the accent both. And I'm like, you live here,
She's like, yeah, I love this neighborhood. So I talk
to her about that. So I'm thinking, oh, my gosh,
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this is my neighborhood. Right. So me and Violet, my daughter,
we decide, let's manifest the house that we want, y'all.
Let's manifest the best neighborhood with the new best friends
we're going to make, in the school we're going to
be a part of, in the community that we're going
to belong to, in the pool that we're going to visit,
and lose all of it. Like, let's like manifest the
perfect house. And so I took some pictures from red
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Fan or Zillow or whatever on a house that like
we could not afford, but like one that had the
things that I wanted. A fireplace, you know, this kind
of kitchen with a lot of windows that was really
important to me, harbord floors, whatever, right, And so we
put these pictures on my computer desktop and we would
do this little chant, me and Violet. It was to Ganesh,
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who is believed to be a DA team that you
can call on for the remover of obstacles, okay, And
so we would look at these pictures and think about
how our house is going to be while we went
around and looked at houses with Gilby, and we did
this little channel.
Speaker 3 (11:01):
Anna Patti sheamha o, I'm gunna pattiamaha omuana, patiamaha oom
then pattiamaha.
Speaker 1 (11:20):
Otia cute as a button, right, the cutest thing. And
we're doing it. And so one day I'm getting these
alerts from redfin from the app, you know, and it's like, oh,
there's this house and it's in Sagamore Hills, which is
the neighborhood that I love in Atlanta. And I'm like,
oh my gosh, I want to go. And so I
call Gilby and I'm like, Andrew is at a soccer
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game with Owen, Me and Violet are separate, but we
want to come and look at this house. And it
just went on the market and I want to see it.
I want to be the first one because it's you know,
now I know in my neighborhood, like, I gotta be
on the ball, right, I gotta go out and get
my desires. Maybe not, I don't know. Just listen. And
so Gilby's like, you know what, I'm leaving town. I
don't have time. I'm like, please, please, please get this
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could be the house. You might not ever show me
another house again. And he's really annoyed, and he's like okay,
And so he goes to the house and opens it.
And I drive to the house and he's not there,
and he's like, I'm here. And I'm like, you're not
here though, because I'm here. And he's like, well, I'm
at this address. And I'm like, oh, I'm not at
that address. I'm at a different address. I'm here. And
he's like, well, i'm here, and there's two separate houses
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in Sagamore. He says, well, come here anyway, because I
already have it open. I'm already standing in here, and
I don't have a lot of time because I'm about
to leave town. So I drive over there. Y'all, brace yourselves.
It's the house that Met and Violet have been praying
and chanting over all those pictures. I'm like, I can't
afford this house, and he's like, oh, I thought that
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was why there was a sense of urgency because the
price trapped, you know, thousands and thousands of dollars this
morning because it wasn't selling. And I thought that's why
you were in such a rush. And I'm like, oh
my gosh, it's in our price range. And you know what, y'all,
I live in that house now. Side note, I did
take them to the other house that I was in
and it was not nearly as good as this other house.
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And now I live in this house. And it was surreal.
For months, I could not believe I was walking around
in this house. It was amazing. I've been looking at
pictures of this house, y'all. I'm just saying, what if
it works? And we have to be good listeners. We
have to listen when Gilby says, come, we gotta go,
you know what I mean, Like, we have to be
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very good listeners. I was trying to buy a car
last week. I was in a hurry, you know, like
mechanics like I really don't think you should take your
car down to the beach. It's too dangerous. I'm like,
oh my gosh, I'm in a mad rush, and I
don't know if the tariffs are coming in. Maybe I
could save a couple bucks if I buy it now.
I don't know how that's gonna go for cars and parts.
And so I go to the dealer and I do
all this research. I'm from Detroit, Okay, I do all
this research. I decide the very car that I want.
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I want a Kia Sorrento twenty twenty three. I'm from Detroit.
We don't buy a new cars. We always buy used car.
Kia Sorrento twenty twenty three s X Prestige Hybrid plug in.
There's none, as you can imagine, right because it's so specific.
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And I keep looking and I keep looking, and I
keep looking because it's like a mad rush. Right Like
today is Monday. I'm going to the beach on Friday, okay,
like I gotta get a new car. I find this
dealer that's kind of far away. It was like thirty
miles away. It's pretty far, but not like outrageously far,
like thirty miles or something. And I go there and
I find not one, not two, but three cars that
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are exactly that, that are white with gray interior, which
is also exactly what I was looking for. After all
the other Kila dealers in Atlanta told me there are
none in Georgia. They were all three at this one dealer.
So I drive up there, right. I get up there,
and I get a good feeling about things there, because
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when you're in alignment, which purpose, it feels good. I
get a good feeling about this. I'm like, Okay, I'm
in a good spot, like I got leverage. These guys
can't even move these three things. Then I find out,
are you ready for this? Brace yourself? This is twenty
twenty three. I'm recording this in twenty twenty five. Two
of them have two thousand miles on it and one
of them has four thousand miles on it, not twenty thousand,
not forty thousand, two and four. I'm like, who's not
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dr Why are you guys driving these cars? They're like, oh,
we're using them as loaners. They forgot about them. They're
sitting on the lot, the battery is dead, all that
because this is a plugin one. And I got a
good feeling about this. So I meet the guide. He
takes me for a test drive, and he's telling me
all the things that's wrong with it. Well, in the
twenty twenty five, it's this. In the twenty twenty five,
it's that, and I'm following for it. He's trying to
talk me into buying a new car, and I'm thinking
it over and I just found three of the cars
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that I want. I felt like the guy on top
of the house where there's a big flood, remember this story,
and he's like, God's gonna save me, Save me, God
save me. And all of a sudden a canoe comes by.
They're like, jumping the canoe, we got you. And he's like, no, no,
God's gonna save me. And then all of a sudden,
the little boat comes by. They're like, come on, jump
in the He's like no, no, God's gonna save me.
And then the helicopter and he denies it all. He's like,
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God's gonna save me. He ends up drowning in the flood. Yeah,
buying a new car and goes to heaven and God
is like, hey, what were you waiting for? And this
guy's like, why do you save me? God? He's like,
I sent you a canoe, I sent you a boat,
I sent you a helicopter, I sent you three of
the same cars. And now you're thinking about buying a
new one. I slept on it, prayed about it, send
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intentions out about it, and allowed it to come to me.
I was like, bring me asign. I woke up the
next morning, I'm like, my car is already up there,
and there's three of them, three of them, three of
the exact same car that I want, all under four
thousand miles. This is not normal. Okay, this is not normal.
Why would this like? Sometimes we think, oh my gosh,
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it's gotta be too good to be true. We're thinking
there must be something wrong with those cars. We're not
thinking that we're the masters and commanders and we're the
divine and holy creators of our reality. We don't know
how powerful we are. Do I have that car? Yes?
Speaker 4 (17:03):
I do.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
I drove it to the beach, and I put more
miles on it in the past months than it had
on it in the first place. Okay, I'm just saying
I think we forget how powerful we are, and then
we don't do the work. We don't use the resources
that we have. We don't use the divine connection that
we already have to help us and guide us with
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our emotions. Our emotions are emotional guidance system. When we
feel good, we know we're in alignment with something not good,
like I'm right about something that only lasts this long,
or not good I won this argument, or something like
that that only lasts this long. That's why people who
are putting other people down, they have to keep on
doing it, and keep on doing it, keep on doing
it in order to feel good, because it's not real goodness.
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It's this distorted confidence that you're doing better than someone else,
and that never really works. It only lasts for this long, right,
But really feeling good comes with peace. And I woke
up that morning and I'm like, what what am I
debating about? The car that I want is up there.
It's mine for the picking. There are three there's a canoe,
a boats, and a helicopter, and all I gotta do
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is go up there and get it. Okay, so you
will see it when you believe it, baby, that's when
you will see it. We're going to do a meditation,
and it's not going to be about manifesting our desires.
I think I recently did one of those. But instead
it's going to be about being receptive and allowing peace
and then sending that exact piece outward, because if we
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are not open, we're either open or closed. Right, if
we're not open to the idea that we are divinely connected,
we're not going to get that into it. You know,
when you're driving and you're like, I know I shouldn't
turn left. Always says turn left, or Google Maps or whatever,
I know I shouldn't. There's gonna be. There's gonna be,
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and then you turn left. Anyone, You're like, why, no
one ever says I wish I hadn't listened to my gut.
No one ever says that. Ever. We all say we
wish we would have, and then we think we know everything,
you know, Like I had a client in my office
the other day. He was really upset he did not
get the job of his dreams, of his dreams, and
he just knew that this was all things wrong with
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the world. And it turned out that he later says
to me, I was being divinely protected. That job would
have been terrible, and the job I have now is
just right right. And so that's why I talk about
disappointment being a waste of time. How do you know
what's exactly right? Take what's in front of you and
see take what the universe is giving to you on
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a platter and get saved. Right. So, we're gonna do
a piece in and peace out meditation right now. Okay,
So close your beautiful eyes, sit up, find your comfortable space.
Allow your head to settle in, your neck to settle,
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Allow your shoulders to settle in, and your arms and elbows, forearms, wrists,
and hands and fingers.
Speaker 3 (20:13):
To settle in.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
Notice any gripping that you're doing, allow yourself to just
let go. Paramhansa Yogananda says that the surrender is not
a weakness, it's the strength of the wives. So allow
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yourself this gift to let go all the way down
your upper back and middle back and lower back, all
the way down your spine to your sacrem settle in
to your comfortable seat. Your legs and knees and chintz
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and calves and ankles and feet and toes find their
space as well. And after doing this body scan and
finding where you may need to release and let go,
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bring yourself now to your beautiful heart center and with
laser focus right there on your heart center, from breastplate
to spine, from shoulder to shoulder, watch your breath pass through,
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and as your breath comes in, imagine peace in om
shanti in. With every inhalation, peace comes all the way
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past your throat, past your heart center, into your belly,
and with every exhalation peace out, knowing that we only
have to give what we have inside of us, peace in,
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peace out, bringing your attention to your heart center with
the mantra piece in and then peace out. I'll leave
you for a few minutes and I'll be back to
guide you out. And if for some reason you get
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distracted you find your thoughts moving away from peace and
peace out, simply keep coming back to the breath at
your heart with incoming, peace out, going peace peace in,
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peace out.
Speaker 4 (24:10):
Show.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
Peace in, peace out. Take a long, slow, deep breath
in your nose, letting it all go out of your mouth,
releasing the mantra into the ether. And another long slow,
deep breath in your nose, clensing awakening, letting it all
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go out of your mouth. More breath in, letting it
all go out of your mouth, and when you're ready,
you can open your beautiful eyes. Thank you so much
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for meditating with me today and for listening. You can
start with a free cup of coffee. You can start
with deepax. Chopra says to start with strawberry ice cream.
You can start with a yellow butterfly. You can start
with a pen that you love writing with. You can
start with amazing parking spot. Start small and just know
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that where you put your intention, your energy flows, and
that when you act as if it's already yours and
what it feels like and what you know to be true,
what it would be like to have whatever it is
that you want, you're not thinking about it coming around
the corner, because then it's always coming around the corner.
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You're thinking about already having it, enjoying it, being the relationship,
the job, the cup of coffee, whatever it is. You
got this, and it's the end of the season. So
I'm leaving you on this peaceful peaceful and we'll see
you next season next time. I love you. Have a lovely,
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Hey, beautiful people, what's up today? We're going to actually
be talking about manifesting things, which totally usually really annoys me.
Manifesting this, I'm manifesting that. My mom always my mom
always says that you can't throw a stick anywhere without
hitting the word manifesting my destiny or manifesting my desires.
But what does that mean and how does it look?
I'm gonna show you and I'm going to blow your
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mind today. Let's learn how to manifest something. Y'all come on,
like for real, like use your magical powers to get
something to appear, and you don't even have to go
get it, it comes to you. Baby.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
Hey, beautiful people, it's time for some Stress Therapy, a
podcast about how to meditate and get better at stress
for people living in the real world. Finally a place
to park by twenty five plus years of experience of
work as a psychotherapist in the mental health field and
now your host me the stress therapist Cherry Flake. Hey,
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beautiful people, what's up? Okay? So, sometimes the word manifesting
kind of bugs me because it seems so not related
to God or spirituality or you know, for the greater good.
It seems usually it is presented, not always, but usually
is presented in a very material way. But sometimes we
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need material things. And I was reading this thing by
Yogananda yesterday and he was like, listen, it's your job,
if you have a family, to work and make money.
Money isn't the enemy, right, but you know, money and
material things, you know can be used or manifested in
a way that that's good for the greater good, right
for your family, for your you know, a business that
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helps other people, not just looking at like what's going
to make me the most money, I'll do that thing, right, Like,
you know, he was trying to talk about how your
passion and your gifts are very closely related and that
when you put those things together, that things kind of
just come together. And there's a great book it's by
Michael Singer and it's called The Surrender Experiment. If you
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pick up this book, I highly recommend that you do
not even look at the back, do not read one
thing about it, because it'll completely ruin the whole thing.
It will blow your mind. So this guy lets the
universe decide every single thing for him, right, And I
mean that's really not feasible for most of us. And
it's really clear why in the book and that type
of thing. But the lesson there is that we can
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practice that on a small scale, and then when our
beliefs begin to change about what is possible right, those
things will appear better to us. Like it's just as
easy to make ns one dollar is it is a
million dollars, except for the fact that you already have
a belief probably that a million dollars is harder, and
so therefore it will be Does that make sense? Remember
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that when you change the way that you think about things,
the things that you think about start to change. So
when I talk about Wayne Dyer and thinking about and
using the skills and ideas and tools that he has,
he had a really good way of telling people and
describing how to actively be thinking about and thinking about
constantly bringing into your awareness a very clear intention with
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a heightened emotion. Okay, you have to convince your brain
that it means something to you. It can't just be words.
That you start to really believe it, and that anything
we think enough we start to believe. This is why,
you know, we believe thoughts that clearly are not true,
and we often we believe thoughts that just thoughts that
we've had over and over. Right, this why people drink
the cooler. This white people get into trouble. This is
why people think terrible thoughts about themselves that aren't true. Right,
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But whatever it is, he's saying, why don't you use
that to your advantage and start thinking and daydreaming about,
and having emotions about, and really thinking about details about
things that you want, not things that you don't want.
We're very good at talking about what we don't want.
When someone comes to sit in my chair for the
first time, usually launching into long stories about what they
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don't want. We're very clear about what we don't want.
We're not that good about what we want. And I
got to tell you, I've gotten really good here lately
about getting very specific about what I want, not what
I should want, not what other people think I should
be doing, not what someone else did, but what I
truly truly want. And when I get that crystal clear,
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I'm telling you, now that I've done all this work,
it's astounding how it goes down for me. I was like,
I want a meditation class in a yoga studio, which
is almost impossible to do if you can believe that like,
so I had to go get certified in yoga, and
like things started just coming together. And then I met
the right person and this, you know, yoga studo didn't
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feel right. And I'm trying to vibrate with the type
of people I want to work with and for and around,
and that I want to be in my own community
and help my own neighborhood. And so you have to
really believe it. You have to trust it, and you
have to think it over and over and over again.
And I was thinking, the only time I'm really happy
is when I'm singing. And so now you know, I
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just started in this band and there's really something special there.
It's super fun. It makes my heart wide open. I mean,
I just feel amazing every time I go and practice
with these guys. It's a blast. And when you're in
alignment with it, I mean, it just starts. It just
starts showing up for you. And I think where we
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get lost is we're not specific enough and we don't
think it's possible. So my mantra in my life, and
I offered this to you and put it in your pocket.
I just had a former client he came to me
and said, I use that all the time. It's just
changed my life. And this is it. I walk around saying,
multiple times a day, multipon times a day, things just
have a way of working out for me. Things have
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a way of working out perfectly. Things just have a
way of working out just right right, And that way
I allow myself to be divinely guided. So I'm going
to give you this example. A long time ago, almost
exactly ten years ago to the day, really, I was
looking for a house and we were living in a
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place where my kids were very small, they were toddlers,
and the schools were just they were terrible. I mean
they were one. Like how do you even get a
school to be a one? I mean, it's so sad.
So we knew that we didn't want to be in
that community for long because the public schools over there,
you know, and you know, a mile away, they were
excellent schools. Very odd, and this is kind of what
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goes on in atlant unfortunately sometimes. But we knew we
were going to be moving because that community also just
wasn't our place right, and so we decided that we
would move to a place that had better school system.
So I had to go around and look for some
neighborhoods that I would like, except I did not know
exactly where that would be. So we weren't really in
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a hurry because we were renting and everybody was already
in a good school that we really liked at the time.
So I found this amazing real estate agent. His name
is Andrew Gilbert. He's in Atlanta if you need a
real estate agent at Keller Williams. He's an amazing guy.
I love this guy. But his name is Andrew, and
so my husband's name is Andrew as well, so everyone
calls him Gilby, and so we sort of went with
his nickname just to clarify things a little bit. Because
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we started going around and just looking at houses in
our spare time, and I would take him off for
tacos and we would look here and there, and it
started to be kind of fun and they became kind
of tight, and my son counted the houses that we
went to. I can't believe that I put this through
this guy. But over the course of a long time,
you know, months and months and months, we went and
saw fifty three houses together. And there was no rush,
right because we were renting. Well, all of a sudden,
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our landlord calls and says, you got to get out
because we're going to sell the house, right, So now
we are in a hurry. And I'm like, oh, no, Gilbert,
We're in a hurry. So I'm online on this little
Facebook neighborhood group and I sell my little daughter's baby
pretend grocery cart online and the buyer says, I will
come by your house and pick it up. Well, we
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go to church. I completely forget that I didn't leave
it out there, and I feel terrible. So I call
her up and I'm like, listen, I will bring it
to your house. I feel terrible. You drove all the
way out here. I forgot to leave it out and
now you don't have this grocery cart. Just give me
your head. Just tell me where you live. So I
drive into her neighborhood. It's magical. I'm driving around the
neighborhood going, oh, I think I want to live here, right,
And so I'm driving around it bring her the grocery cart.
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She tells me that she loves this neighborhood right, that
the schools are great. She's actually a teacher and she
wants to work in the school's there. She ended up
working there She ended up being my son's favorite teacher.
She ended up being really tight with me, and still
when she calls me, grocery card comes up. Just a
little bit of foreshadowing for you. Okay, Okay. So I'm
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thinking I want to move here. I love this n
h It's absolutely beautiful there. It's in the city still,
but it's like there's all these trees. It's just gorgeous.
So I got to the car and I decide I'm
going to sit with this for a little bit and
ask for some guidance. And so I sit and I
say a little prayer. I love this snigbhood. I feel
good about the neighborhood becausehen you're in alignment with your purpose,
it feels good. It does not feel bad. When you're
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in alignment with your purpose, it feels good. It does
not feel bad. So I sit down and I'm like,
could you send me a sign if this is in
fact my family's new neighborhood right? And all of a sudden,
on my window of my car, I look over. My
friend Emma. Is there this sweetest, cutest little British sweet
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I love her to death. I roll down the window.
I'm like, hey, Hamma, She's like, why are you parked?
Why are you parked in front of my house? Member.
I can't do a British accent. I'm terrible, especially since
she's so sweet and has the sweetest voice anyway, and
with the accent both. And I'm like, you live here,
She's like, yeah, I love this neighborhood. So I talk
to her about that. So I'm thinking, oh, my gosh,
(10:00):
this is my neighborhood. Right. So me and Violet, my daughter,
we decide, let's manifest the house that we want, y'all.
Let's manifest the best neighborhood with the new best friends
we're going to make, in the school we're going to
be a part of, in the community that we're going
to belong to, in the pool that we're going to visit,
and lose all of it. Like, let's like manifest the
perfect house. And so I took some pictures from red
(10:22):
Fan or Zillow or whatever on a house that like
we could not afford, but like one that had the
things that I wanted. A fireplace, you know, this kind
of kitchen with a lot of windows that was really
important to me, harbord floors, whatever, right, And so we
put these pictures on my computer desktop and we would
do this little chant, me and Violet. It was to Ganesh,
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who is believed to be a DA team that you
can call on for the remover of obstacles, okay, And
so we would look at these pictures and think about
how our house is going to be while we went
around and looked at houses with Gilby, and we did
this little channel.
Speaker 3 (11:01):
Anna Patti sheamha o, I'm gunna pattiamaha omuana, patiamaha oom
then pattiamaha.
Speaker 1 (11:20):
Otia cute as a button, right, the cutest thing. And
we're doing it. And so one day I'm getting these
alerts from redfin from the app, you know, and it's like, oh,
there's this house and it's in Sagamore Hills, which is
the neighborhood that I love in Atlanta. And I'm like,
oh my gosh, I want to go. And so I
call Gilby and I'm like, Andrew is at a soccer
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game with Owen, Me and Violet are separate, but we
want to come and look at this house. And it
just went on the market and I want to see it.
I want to be the first one because it's you know,
now I know in my neighborhood, like, I gotta be
on the ball, right, I gotta go out and get
my desires. Maybe not, I don't know. Just listen. And
so Gilby's like, you know what, I'm leaving town. I
don't have time. I'm like, please, please, please get this
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could be the house. You might not ever show me
another house again. And he's really annoyed, and he's like okay,
And so he goes to the house and opens it.
And I drive to the house and he's not there,
and he's like, I'm here. And I'm like, you're not
here though, because I'm here. And he's like, well, I'm
at this address. And I'm like, oh, I'm not at
that address. I'm at a different address. I'm here. And
he's like, well, i'm here, and there's two separate houses
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in Sagamore. He says, well, come here anyway, because I
already have it open. I'm already standing in here, and
I don't have a lot of time because I'm about
to leave town. So I drive over there. Y'all, brace yourselves.
It's the house that Met and Violet have been praying
and chanting over all those pictures. I'm like, I can't
afford this house, and he's like, oh, I thought that
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was why there was a sense of urgency because the
price trapped, you know, thousands and thousands of dollars this
morning because it wasn't selling. And I thought that's why
you were in such a rush. And I'm like, oh
my gosh, it's in our price range. And you know what, y'all,
I live in that house now. Side note, I did
take them to the other house that I was in
and it was not nearly as good as this other house.
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And now I live in this house. And it was surreal.
For months, I could not believe I was walking around
in this house. It was amazing. I've been looking at
pictures of this house, y'all. I'm just saying, what if
it works? And we have to be good listeners. We
have to listen when Gilby says, come, we gotta go,
you know what I mean, Like, we have to be
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very good listeners. I was trying to buy a car
last week. I was in a hurry, you know, like
mechanics like I really don't think you should take your
car down to the beach. It's too dangerous. I'm like,
oh my gosh, I'm in a mad rush, and I
don't know if the tariffs are coming in. Maybe I
could save a couple bucks if I buy it now.
I don't know how that's gonna go for cars and parts.
And so I go to the dealer and I do
all this research. I'm from Detroit, Okay, I do all
this research. I decide the very car that I want.
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I want a Kia Sorrento twenty twenty three. I'm from Detroit.
We don't buy a new cars. We always buy used car.
Kia Sorrento twenty twenty three s X Prestige Hybrid plug in.
There's none, as you can imagine, right because it's so specific.
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And I keep looking and I keep looking, and I
keep looking because it's like a mad rush. Right Like
today is Monday. I'm going to the beach on Friday, okay,
like I gotta get a new car. I find this
dealer that's kind of far away. It was like thirty
miles away. It's pretty far, but not like outrageously far,
like thirty miles or something. And I go there and
I find not one, not two, but three cars that
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are exactly that, that are white with gray interior, which
is also exactly what I was looking for. After all
the other Kila dealers in Atlanta told me there are
none in Georgia. They were all three at this one dealer.
So I drive up there, right. I get up there,
and I get a good feeling about things there, because
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when you're in alignment, which purpose, it feels good. I
get a good feeling about this. I'm like, Okay, I'm
in a good spot, like I got leverage. These guys
can't even move these three things. Then I find out,
are you ready for this? Brace yourself? This is twenty
twenty three. I'm recording this in twenty twenty five. Two
of them have two thousand miles on it and one
of them has four thousand miles on it, not twenty thousand,
not forty thousand, two and four. I'm like, who's not
(15:22):
dr Why are you guys driving these cars? They're like, oh,
we're using them as loaners. They forgot about them. They're
sitting on the lot, the battery is dead, all that
because this is a plugin one. And I got a
good feeling about this. So I meet the guide. He
takes me for a test drive, and he's telling me
all the things that's wrong with it. Well, in the
twenty twenty five, it's this. In the twenty twenty five,
it's that, and I'm following for it. He's trying to
talk me into buying a new car, and I'm thinking
it over and I just found three of the cars
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that I want. I felt like the guy on top
of the house where there's a big flood, remember this story,
and he's like, God's gonna save me, Save me, God
save me. And all of a sudden a canoe comes by.
They're like, jumping the canoe, we got you. And he's like, no, no,
God's gonna save me. And then all of a sudden,
the little boat comes by. They're like, come on, jump
in the He's like no, no, God's gonna save me.
And then the helicopter and he denies it all. He's like,
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God's gonna save me. He ends up drowning in the flood. Yeah,
buying a new car and goes to heaven and God
is like, hey, what were you waiting for? And this
guy's like, why do you save me? God? He's like,
I sent you a canoe, I sent you a boat,
I sent you a helicopter, I sent you three of
the same cars. And now you're thinking about buying a
new one. I slept on it, prayed about it, send
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intentions out about it, and allowed it to come to me.
I was like, bring me asign. I woke up the
next morning, I'm like, my car is already up there,
and there's three of them, three of them, three of
the exact same car that I want, all under four
thousand miles. This is not normal. Okay, this is not normal.
Why would this like? Sometimes we think, oh my gosh,
(16:46):
it's gotta be too good to be true. We're thinking
there must be something wrong with those cars. We're not
thinking that we're the masters and commanders and we're the
divine and holy creators of our reality. We don't know
how powerful we are. Do I have that car? Yes?
Speaker 4 (17:03):
I do.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
I drove it to the beach, and I put more
miles on it in the past months than it had
on it in the first place. Okay, I'm just saying
I think we forget how powerful we are, and then
we don't do the work. We don't use the resources
that we have. We don't use the divine connection that
we already have to help us and guide us with
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our emotions. Our emotions are emotional guidance system. When we
feel good, we know we're in alignment with something not good,
like I'm right about something that only lasts this long,
or not good I won this argument, or something like
that that only lasts this long. That's why people who
are putting other people down, they have to keep on
doing it, and keep on doing it, keep on doing
it in order to feel good, because it's not real goodness.
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It's this distorted confidence that you're doing better than someone else,
and that never really works. It only lasts for this long, right,
But really feeling good comes with peace. And I woke
up that morning and I'm like, what what am I
debating about? The car that I want is up there.
It's mine for the picking. There are three there's a canoe,
a boats, and a helicopter, and all I gotta do
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is go up there and get it. Okay, so you
will see it when you believe it, baby, that's when
you will see it. We're going to do a meditation,
and it's not going to be about manifesting our desires.
I think I recently did one of those. But instead
it's going to be about being receptive and allowing peace
and then sending that exact piece outward, because if we
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are not open, we're either open or closed. Right, if
we're not open to the idea that we are divinely connected,
we're not going to get that into it. You know,
when you're driving and you're like, I know I shouldn't
turn left. Always says turn left, or Google Maps or whatever,
I know I shouldn't. There's gonna be. There's gonna be,
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and then you turn left. Anyone, You're like, why, no
one ever says I wish I hadn't listened to my gut.
No one ever says that. Ever. We all say we
wish we would have, and then we think we know everything,
you know, Like I had a client in my office
the other day. He was really upset he did not
get the job of his dreams, of his dreams, and
he just knew that this was all things wrong with
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the world. And it turned out that he later says
to me, I was being divinely protected. That job would
have been terrible, and the job I have now is
just right right. And so that's why I talk about
disappointment being a waste of time. How do you know
what's exactly right? Take what's in front of you and
see take what the universe is giving to you on
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a platter and get saved. Right. So, we're gonna do
a piece in and peace out meditation right now. Okay,
So close your beautiful eyes, sit up, find your comfortable space.
Allow your head to settle in, your neck to settle,
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Allow your shoulders to settle in, and your arms and elbows, forearms, wrists,
and hands and fingers.
Speaker 3 (20:13):
To settle in.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
Notice any gripping that you're doing, allow yourself to just
let go. Paramhansa Yogananda says that the surrender is not
a weakness, it's the strength of the wives. So allow
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yourself this gift to let go all the way down
your upper back and middle back and lower back, all
the way down your spine to your sacrem settle in
to your comfortable seat. Your legs and knees and chintz
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and calves and ankles and feet and toes find their
space as well. And after doing this body scan and
finding where you may need to release and let go,
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bring yourself now to your beautiful heart center and with
laser focus right there on your heart center, from breastplate
to spine, from shoulder to shoulder, watch your breath pass through,
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and as your breath comes in, imagine peace in om
shanti in. With every inhalation, peace comes all the way
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past your throat, past your heart center, into your belly,
and with every exhalation peace out, knowing that we only
have to give what we have inside of us, peace in,
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peace out, bringing your attention to your heart center with
the mantra piece in and then peace out. I'll leave
you for a few minutes and I'll be back to
guide you out. And if for some reason you get
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distracted you find your thoughts moving away from peace and
peace out, simply keep coming back to the breath at
your heart with incoming, peace out, going peace peace in,
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peace out.
Speaker 4 (24:10):
Show.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
Peace in, peace out. Take a long, slow, deep breath
in your nose, letting it all go out of your mouth,
releasing the mantra into the ether. And another long slow,
deep breath in your nose, clensing awakening, letting it all
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go out of your mouth. More breath in, letting it
all go out of your mouth, and when you're ready,
you can open your beautiful eyes. Thank you so much
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for meditating with me today and for listening. You can
start with a free cup of coffee. You can start
with deepax. Chopra says to start with strawberry ice cream.
You can start with a yellow butterfly. You can start
with a pen that you love writing with. You can
start with amazing parking spot. Start small and just know
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that where you put your intention, your energy flows, and
that when you act as if it's already yours and
what it feels like and what you know to be true,
what it would be like to have whatever it is
that you want, you're not thinking about it coming around
the corner, because then it's always coming around the corner.
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You're thinking about already having it, enjoying it, being the relationship,
the job, the cup of coffee, whatever it is. You
got this, and it's the end of the season. So
I'm leaving you on this peaceful peaceful and we'll see
you next season next time. I love you. Have a lovely,
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lovely day. How y'all feeling after that stress therapy session? Good? Awesome?
Check out the show notes to connect with me the
Stress Therapist on social media at the stress Therapist on
Instagram and at stress Therapy on Twitter. You can always
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go to I loovethapy dot com to find out about
meditation and yoga retreats and other offerings that I have there.
If you live in Georgia and you're ready to be
one of my clients, go to my website to find
out how you can sign up for a free face
to face consultation with me at the very least, Jump
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thing until next time, Have a lovely, lovely day,
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