June 3, 2025 • 27 mins
In this heartfelt episode, Cheri Flake dives into one of the most transformative (and tricky!) mindset shifts of all: thinking like the version of you that you want to become. With wit, warmth, and wisdom from decades of therapy work, she unpacks why we’re not our thoughts—and how to separate from them using meditation, mindfulness, and sneaky brain hacks. This episode includes a powerful guided mantra meditation using Ham Sa (“I am That”), and even features an original song, “Joy,” by her band 13 Stories, written 18 years ago with this very message in mind. ✨ 🌟 Key Learning Points:
Yes! A beautiful mantra-based meditation using Ham Sa (“I am That”) to help you gently return to center and reclaim your narrative. 💫 Final Thought:
You’re allowed to change your thoughts. And when you do, your whole life shifts with them.
Produced and edited by Owen Flake | Audio production, editing, and creative direction 🎛️🎚️🎧
- You are not your thoughts—you're the one noticing them. Meditation helps you see that thoughts are just options, not truths.
- Convince your toddler brain by using affirmations with emotion and storytelling to make your beliefs feel real and sticky.
- Flip the 'what ifs' to serve you. Instead of catastrophizing, play out best-case scenarios with emotional clarity.
- 💻 Byron Katie’s “The Work” — Mind-shifting reframing tools.
- 📖 Bhagavad Gita translated by Stephen Mitchell — A poetic and soulful sacred text.
- 🎶 “Joy” by 13 Stories — Sheri’s song featured by Wayne Dyer on Hay House Radio.
- 🎤 Wayne Dyer’s Inspiration Show on Hay House — For the spiritual spark plug vibe.
- 🧠 Tip: Label your thoughts (“future,” “worry,” “planning”) to make them easier to release.
- 🦋 Butterfly "what-ifs" — A sweet metaphor for gently redirecting anxious or repetitive thoughts.
- 📧 Sheri wants to hear from you! Email her how you're taking control of your thoughts.
Yes! A beautiful mantra-based meditation using Ham Sa (“I am That”) to help you gently return to center and reclaim your narrative. 💫 Final Thought:
You’re allowed to change your thoughts. And when you do, your whole life shifts with them.
Produced and edited by Owen Flake | Audio production, editing, and creative direction 🎛️🎚️🎧
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, beautiful people. So we know that if we change
our thoughts that we feel better. We know that if
we change our thoughts, everything changes right as soon as
we do that. But it's so hard. It's so hard
to change our thoughts. But we can't just be on default.
We can't just let any thoughts in. I mean, this
is the one thing that we actually can control. And
(00:21):
I'm going to show you how to do it today.
And I might have some tips today that you've never
even heard of that have worked great with my clients.
Let's do this, Hey, beautiful people, It's time for some
(00:44):
Stress Therapy, a podcast about how to meditate and get
better at stress for people living in the real world.
Finally a place to park by twenty five plus years
of experience of working as a psychotherapist in the mental
health field and now your host me.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
The stress therapist, Cherry Flake. Hey, beautiful people, what's up?
Speaker 1 (01:17):
Okay? So, one of the things I love about meditation,
You know, I love meditation all the way around. But
one of the coolest things about it is that after
a while, and after you've been doing it and everybody
reports this, it's not just me, I swear, you start
to be able to see that you are not your thoughts.
You can see yourself separate from your thoughts. You can
(01:40):
see the thought and recognize that not only is it
not you or define who you are, or truly important
or absolutely true, but you see that it's an option,
that it's an opportunity that you don't have to think
(02:02):
that thought or latch onto it or make it a
sticky thought that attracts other types of thoughts. Right, Like,
our thoughts are a lot like you know, when you
google something and then Google finds out that you're looking
for a shwind bike, and then you see a swin
bike every time you turn around on the internet. Yeah,
and it's in the color that you wanted, and even
(02:23):
sometimes in the color that you thought you wanted. It's amazing.
That's how our thoughts work. And so you got to
kind of think of them as not yours. They're not yours.
They're in the ether, and you are attracting the ones
that are the most similar to the ones that you're
already having. Ugh, Okay, and if we're having fifty thousand
(02:44):
thoughts a day, we don't want to have the thirty
or forty thousand thoughts the same from yesterday, and the
day before that, the day before that and the day
before that. Let's make original thoughts because if you think
something enough, you think it's true. Whether it's true or not,
if you think it enough, you will think it's true
and important. My brain thinks wordles important, okay, But if
you think something off, you will think it's true and
(03:06):
you will think it's important. So this means it's an
opportunity for you to start thinking things that are true
and are important, so you change the way that you
see the world, and the world changes the way that
it sees you. And it sounds super cheesy, but I'm
just saying, what if it works? And I'm also saying,
(03:28):
it's magical to watch your thoughts all of a sudden
create your reality. And Byron, Katie's like, you don't have
to believe that your thoughts create your reality, or you're
gonna have a hell of a better life if you do.
And she does really well at reframing. You can go
(03:49):
to her website, thework dot com and side note, her
husband is Stephen Mitchell, who does a translation of sacred texts,
specifically The Big That Is. You can read it in
the evening and it's absolutely breathtaking, beautiful poetry and really
drives home that beautiful, beautiful story and all of its
(04:11):
meaning in a very I mean, it's just it's absolutely lovely.
I definitely would pick that up. The Baga Vagita translated
by Steven Mitchell Byron, Katy's husband. So you need to
be able to separate yourself from your thoughts if you
want to change them. Okay. So that's why affirmations get
a bad rap, because people are like, well, I don't
think that. Why would I say money comes easily naturally
(04:33):
in the mirror if I don't think that. Yeah, well
you don't think that because you don't believe it yet.
Right when I'm at my band rehearsal, we always say, well,
I can't sing and play that at the same time.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
Yet.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
You gotta leave yourself open for growth, baby, Okay. So
in order to separate your thoughts when you're meditating, it's magical.
All of a sudden, you're like focused on this one thing.
You're anchor. Now we're getting like to the end. I mean,
you've been in it to win it now for a
while and meditating with me, and so you know that
you focus on one thing when you meditate and that
your thoughts come, and that you just keep coming back
(05:08):
to that one thing, whatever anchor I give you a mantra,
a sound, an idea, a breath, whatever it is, whatever
anchor you have, right, And when you just keep showing
up for that and keep showing up for that, you
get really good at being like, I don't have to
think that thought. It looks like a choice. And the
problem is we're usually walking around and saying, well, I
(05:30):
don't think like that. That's not who I am, man,
that's not how i'm I don't think that way. I
would never think that way. Well, you know what, You're right,
you're absolutely right. If you're not gonna change your thoughts,
then you ain't gonna try your thought. But what if
you did, What if you could convince your brain? And
that's really the downstairs brain em when we talked about
Sherry Flake brand anatomy. When you look at the downstairs brain,
the lower part, the part that's like a baby, like
(05:52):
a toddler, you have to convince that part of your
brain that that is true. So your brain starts looking
because it loves to be right, but it starts looking
in your environment to be right. So, if you go
to a rally for, say, someone that you're not interested
in being the president of the United States, you would
not come around at that rally okay, to that person's
(06:15):
dogma or ideas. Okay, you would only see validation that
you're right in voting for the other girl.
Speaker 4 (06:24):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
Okay, if your brain is looking in your environment in
order to validate you and bring you things that are
like the thoughts that you're already happening, that are like
the thoughts that you're already having, and that validate that
you are right in all of your beliefs, wouldn't it
be very very important to be thinking the things that
(06:47):
you want to be true, that you wish for true. Yes.
And so what we have to do is we have
to spend some time meditating so we can see ourselves
separate from our thoughts and see when we have control.
Because we have all kinds of control over our thoughts.
They're not even yours, they're just floating around and you're
picking them out. You gotta be choosy about which ones
you pick. Right, You are not default. You're not just
(07:10):
receiving email all day long that you don't want No,
you got to set up a spam folder. Man. You
gotta be like, I'm not thinking that thought, that thought.
I can think this thought or this thought. Which one
makes me feel better? Which one has the goals that
I want in it? Which one makes my day better?
Which one helps me fall back asleep? Whatever it is, right,
you have to separate yourself from it, and then you're
(07:30):
able to flip it. Now, when you do have an affirmation,
let's just go over good old fashioned affirmations for a second.
If you are working on affirmations, you have to believe it.
You have to convince that part of your brain that
you believe in right, that toddler brain. Right. So you
can't just be saying money comes easily naturally. Me, I
always have enough money. No, no, no, it's check this out.
(07:53):
Every time I go to Vegas, I win. Every single
time my friends give me twenties, I come back with
honeys and hand them all out because I always make
money in Vegas. People talk about losing money. I brought
this money to lose what, No way, I brought this
money to triple it, to quadruple it. Okay, Because every
time I go to the washer or dryer, there's money
(08:14):
in there. I find money all the time. There's always
money in my pockets. And every time I go to
the bank statement there's more money in there than I
thought would be. And I just always have more than
enough money. And it's not a pie man. I'm not
taking money from other people. I just always have so
much money. It's always around me. Everywhere I go, it's
more and more money, and money just comes easily and naturally,
(08:36):
and I always have it. I mean, isn't that a
little more convincing? Then I'm filled with abundance? I mean what,
My brain doesn't even hear that because it doesn't speak English.
It speaks emotion. You have to have the clear intention
with the heightened emotions. Here's a cool tip. There's good
old fashioned reframing. Right. I have some clients with panic attacks,
(08:56):
and one of the terrible symptoms of panic disorder is
the end to scipatory anxiety that it's going to happen again.
It's terrible, and so often that is what we're treating, right,
And my client will tell me that they're terrified that
they're gonna happen again because they were driving or whatever
the scenario was. And I'll say to them, you know,
ninety nine point nine percent of the time, you're not
(09:17):
having a panic attack, so you're kind of an expert
at not having a panic attack. I'm telling you. They
don't usually think about that this way. You know, if
you get diagnosed with something, and ninety seven percent of
the people have this, what are the three percent of
the people doing? Okay? If ninety seven percent is despair
and it's awful and it's horrible, what why aren't we
(09:40):
talking about the three percent of the people? I want
to be that person. Another thing that you can do.
I call the what ifs, and I think of them
like little butterflies, Like if I make a bad decision,
what if this happens, if I hire the wrong person,
what if that happens, if I don't know about the
wrong thing or went down the wrong road or whatever.
It is, like what if? What if? What if? And
it feels like butterflies because they're just sort of fluttering
(10:02):
all around or fluttering all around, and usually we stop
our stories right in the middle. They're like, what if
this happened? Oh, okay, And much like people who are
not being treated for a traumatic experience, they will often
end their story at the traumatic part. Right. So I
was walking down the street and someone came up to
me and you know, they grabbed my purse and it
(10:23):
was absolutely terrifying. Right, people who have healed from trauma
ended the story, you know, and then someone came by
and you know, and it was okay, in the call
the guy or whatever, like they'll tell the rest of
the story, right. And so you could do this with
your little butterflies buzzing around. You could say, like, okay,
what if that happens? Because we're very good at catastrophizing
(10:45):
and going to how the worst case scenario would be terrible, okay,
and proving to ourselves that it would be. But what
if we actually spent some time entertaining the idea and
thinking about and having emotions about the most likely scenario
or the best scenario. What I mean, it could happen, right,
(11:12):
And so sometimes when we do that, that also helps
shift and the butterfly idea helps me really if I
ever have those thoughts at night, because what you don't
want to do is have really anxious thoughts at night,
and I figure out how to stop them so you
can fall back asleep. Because if you start making worry cocktail.
You know, hormones and all of these neurotransmitters going off
(11:35):
at once. One of them is going to be cortisol,
and it usually lasts about an hour and a half.
So you don't want that one to start pumping through
your veins because then you're up too long. Right, But
the butterfly one can be nice because you're also practicing
separating from it. What if this happened, here's another thought
I could have. Okay, so it's very it's not loaded.
It's not you need to do this and you have
to do that. But it's just another idea on how
(11:57):
to get your thoughts to shift a little bit, okay,
and you're moving towards something. It doesn't happen overnight. Right.
But the reason why affirmations are so popular is because
if you use them the right way, they actually work. Right,
they actually work. And affirmations, you know, in a loose
term and a loose definition could be like the butterfly,
most likely are better or best scenario ideas you're still
(12:18):
thinking those thoughts and changing your mood and attitude around them,
and eventually your personality and your life. I'm telling you
this works, but much like anything on this earth, the
only way that any of it works is if you
do it. Okay, So let's meditate together right now. Okay,
(12:39):
So find a comfortable seat and relax your beautiful body,
roll your shoulders back, maybe put your hands down on
your knees or facing up. Today we're going to be
using the mantra.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
Hum s h a m s a h hum sah.
And this sacred, beautiful mantra just means.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
I am that with a capital T. I am not
my thoughts. I am that, I am connected to the divine,
holy source and entity that surrounds all sentient beings. I
(13:47):
am that. And as you silently say this mantra to
yourself over and over, just for a few minutes, I'm
gonna I'll leave you. When you have a thought that
comes into your awareness and pulls you away from the mantra,
(14:12):
just simply keep coming back, keep coming back.
Speaker 4 (14:19):
So that is the practice.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Sometimes it helps to label a thought planning thought, future thought,
past thought, worry thought. Sometimes that can help for the
thought to dissipate and you can get back to the mantra.
(14:55):
So and I'll be back to guide you out.
Speaker 4 (16:16):
At hum Sah.
Speaker 1 (20:11):
Release this beautiful, sacred mantra into the ether. Before jumping
up to go have the next thought or do the
next thing, take a moment here, luxuriating in this calm
that you have created. Take a long, slow, deep breath
(20:36):
in your nose, letting it all go out of your mouth. Again,
a long, slow, deep breath in your nose, letting it
all go out of your mouth. One last breath in
your nose, out of your mouth. When you're ready, you
(21:04):
can open your beautiful eyes. Humsah. Thank you so much
for meditating with me today. I would love to hear
how you're taking control of your thoughts, how you're just
noticing them. I mean, that's the biggest step of all.
All you gotta do is just notice them, like, Oh,
(21:26):
I'm having a thought that's making me feel bad, or
why am I feeling bad? What thought am I thinking?
You know, work it backwards if you must, but start
thinking about what you're thinking about, tweaking those thoughts with
little tips and tricks and however you need to do
it to trick your brain, and you're just having different thoughts, beliefs,
behaviors and days and lives. I'm telling you it works.
(21:51):
And one thing that this reminds me of is just
how many blanket thoughts we have, right, Like I'll be like, oh,
this is the worst day, whole day. You're just having
a bad moment, not a bad life. In fact, one
of my friends gave me a little plaque that says
that I have it by my makeup heror it says
something like, it's not a bad life, it's a bad
moment or something. It's put much more eloquently than I'm
(22:13):
putting here. But the idea is, just let your bad
moments be moments, right. You don't have to attach them
to the day or the week, or the month, or
the year or the life. Okay, Like, keep it in perspective,
use your reasoning and logic to choose what thoughts you want.
And then next thing you know, your thoughts are getting
(22:34):
sticky and they're attracting thoughts that are really positive and
really happy and just better and just you're gonna love this,
So let me know how it goes for you. So
I got done recording this episode and I was thinking
about it, and I was thinking, you know, about eighteen
and maybe nineteen years ago, I wrote a song with
my band Thirteen Stories, about exactly this episode. I mean,
(22:57):
the whole intention of the song was to convey exactly
what we just talked about in this episode. Isn't that cool?
Even Wayne Dyer used it on the hay House Radio
for his show Inspiration, And I'm gonna leave it with
you here now because I think it's really relevant. Still.
The song is called Joy, and it's my gift to you,
and it's by thirteen stories.
Speaker 4 (23:20):
I take my joy.
Speaker 3 (23:22):
Straight up every day.
Speaker 1 (23:30):
Let simply little one to bottom change the way you
look at things and and awfuls and place.
Speaker 4 (23:50):
Dig tu braves awful again seems a tune, passtead of.
Speaker 1 (24:03):
You go on about nothing while you're missing what.
Speaker 5 (24:07):
It's not over again?
Speaker 4 (24:11):
It's so I take much of straight up every day.
Speaker 5 (24:16):
Shake chocolate coped p dake my own page, live like
a jes take Mama from noisy to buy prosy.
Speaker 4 (24:33):
It's not of my fasiness what you think. So take
much of straight up every day.
Speaker 3 (24:41):
I take much joy, straight up every day, from down
up the different streets.
Speaker 4 (24:50):
Do not go right back to sleep.
Speaker 1 (24:58):
I'm your buy it a savage man made restaurants, hand
like candle, like handa like handle.
Speaker 3 (25:07):
What takes joy?
Speaker 4 (25:08):
Straight up? Every day.
Speaker 5 (25:11):
Bell shake, chocolate, come home, dating my own.
Speaker 6 (25:19):
Lay it like a jes take ding to word of my.
Speaker 5 (25:27):
Rom say it's not one of my fas.
Speaker 6 (25:32):
What you eat?
Speaker 1 (25:33):
Something?
Speaker 4 (25:34):
Joy straight up every day? I take my joy straight
up every day.
Speaker 3 (26:07):
I don't die, don't die, don't.
Speaker 5 (26:10):
Die, don't die, don't die, don't die, don't die, don't die,
don't die, don't die.
Speaker 1 (26:18):
Don't die, don't music Still and Si, Mama got es.
Speaker 4 (26:32):
We're not going for three years old?
Speaker 1 (26:35):
Still be thank you, you hope me do everything I
asked and nothing.
Speaker 4 (26:42):
Take mother's way.
Speaker 6 (26:46):
Shot, come come, take my own.
Speaker 5 (26:53):
Alaia, my comma change, take mama.
Speaker 6 (26:57):
Come God on my phonsy. It's my days.
Speaker 4 (27:06):
What song?
Speaker 6 (27:07):
I take lujoy.
Speaker 1 (27:08):
Straight up every day.
Speaker 3 (27:12):
The chart.
Speaker 4 (27:18):
I like.
Speaker 6 (27:20):
My change, take my noise, my dosy, he's not my day.
Speaker 1 (27:33):
Song.
Speaker 4 (27:34):
Take lujoy straight up every day.
Speaker 3 (27:37):
I take my joy straight up every day
Hey, beautiful people. So we know that if we change
our thoughts that we feel better. We know that if
we change our thoughts, everything changes right as soon as
we do that. But it's so hard. It's so hard
to change our thoughts. But we can't just be on default.
We can't just let any thoughts in. I mean, this
is the one thing that we actually can control. And
(00:21):
I'm going to show you how to do it today.
And I might have some tips today that you've never
even heard of that have worked great with my clients.
Let's do this, Hey, beautiful people, It's time for some
(00:44):
Stress Therapy, a podcast about how to meditate and get
better at stress for people living in the real world.
Finally a place to park by twenty five plus years
of experience of working as a psychotherapist in the mental
health field and now your host me.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
The stress therapist, Cherry Flake. Hey, beautiful people, what's up?
Speaker 1 (01:17):
Okay? So, one of the things I love about meditation,
You know, I love meditation all the way around. But
one of the coolest things about it is that after
a while, and after you've been doing it and everybody
reports this, it's not just me, I swear, you start
to be able to see that you are not your thoughts.
You can see yourself separate from your thoughts. You can
(01:40):
see the thought and recognize that not only is it
not you or define who you are, or truly important
or absolutely true, but you see that it's an option,
that it's an opportunity that you don't have to think
(02:02):
that thought or latch onto it or make it a
sticky thought that attracts other types of thoughts. Right, Like,
our thoughts are a lot like you know, when you
google something and then Google finds out that you're looking
for a shwind bike, and then you see a swin
bike every time you turn around on the internet. Yeah,
and it's in the color that you wanted, and even
(02:23):
sometimes in the color that you thought you wanted. It's amazing.
That's how our thoughts work. And so you got to
kind of think of them as not yours. They're not yours.
They're in the ether, and you are attracting the ones
that are the most similar to the ones that you're
already having. Ugh, Okay, and if we're having fifty thousand
(02:44):
thoughts a day, we don't want to have the thirty
or forty thousand thoughts the same from yesterday, and the
day before that, the day before that and the day
before that. Let's make original thoughts because if you think
something enough, you think it's true. Whether it's true or not,
if you think it enough, you will think it's true
and important. My brain thinks wordles important, okay, But if
you think something off, you will think it's true and
(03:06):
you will think it's important. So this means it's an
opportunity for you to start thinking things that are true
and are important, so you change the way that you
see the world, and the world changes the way that
it sees you. And it sounds super cheesy, but I'm
just saying, what if it works? And I'm also saying,
(03:28):
it's magical to watch your thoughts all of a sudden
create your reality. And Byron, Katie's like, you don't have
to believe that your thoughts create your reality, or you're
gonna have a hell of a better life if you do.
And she does really well at reframing. You can go
(03:49):
to her website, thework dot com and side note, her
husband is Stephen Mitchell, who does a translation of sacred texts,
specifically The Big That Is. You can read it in
the evening and it's absolutely breathtaking, beautiful poetry and really
drives home that beautiful, beautiful story and all of its
(04:11):
meaning in a very I mean, it's just it's absolutely lovely.
I definitely would pick that up. The Baga Vagita translated
by Steven Mitchell Byron, Katy's husband. So you need to
be able to separate yourself from your thoughts if you
want to change them. Okay. So that's why affirmations get
a bad rap, because people are like, well, I don't
think that. Why would I say money comes easily naturally
(04:33):
in the mirror if I don't think that. Yeah, well
you don't think that because you don't believe it yet.
Right when I'm at my band rehearsal, we always say, well,
I can't sing and play that at the same time.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
Yet.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
You gotta leave yourself open for growth, baby, Okay. So
in order to separate your thoughts when you're meditating, it's magical.
All of a sudden, you're like focused on this one thing.
You're anchor. Now we're getting like to the end. I mean,
you've been in it to win it now for a
while and meditating with me, and so you know that
you focus on one thing when you meditate and that
your thoughts come, and that you just keep coming back
(05:08):
to that one thing, whatever anchor I give you a mantra,
a sound, an idea, a breath, whatever it is, whatever
anchor you have, right, And when you just keep showing
up for that and keep showing up for that, you
get really good at being like, I don't have to
think that thought. It looks like a choice. And the
problem is we're usually walking around and saying, well, I
(05:30):
don't think like that. That's not who I am, man,
that's not how i'm I don't think that way. I
would never think that way. Well, you know what, You're right,
you're absolutely right. If you're not gonna change your thoughts,
then you ain't gonna try your thought. But what if
you did, What if you could convince your brain? And
that's really the downstairs brain em when we talked about
Sherry Flake brand anatomy. When you look at the downstairs brain,
the lower part, the part that's like a baby, like
(05:52):
a toddler, you have to convince that part of your
brain that that is true. So your brain starts looking
because it loves to be right, but it starts looking
in your environment to be right. So, if you go
to a rally for, say, someone that you're not interested
in being the president of the United States, you would
not come around at that rally okay, to that person's
(06:15):
dogma or ideas. Okay, you would only see validation that
you're right in voting for the other girl.
Speaker 4 (06:24):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
Okay, if your brain is looking in your environment in
order to validate you and bring you things that are
like the thoughts that you're already happening, that are like
the thoughts that you're already having, and that validate that
you are right in all of your beliefs, wouldn't it
be very very important to be thinking the things that
(06:47):
you want to be true, that you wish for true. Yes.
And so what we have to do is we have
to spend some time meditating so we can see ourselves
separate from our thoughts and see when we have control.
Because we have all kinds of control over our thoughts.
They're not even yours, they're just floating around and you're
picking them out. You gotta be choosy about which ones
you pick. Right, You are not default. You're not just
(07:10):
receiving email all day long that you don't want No,
you got to set up a spam folder. Man. You
gotta be like, I'm not thinking that thought, that thought.
I can think this thought or this thought. Which one
makes me feel better? Which one has the goals that
I want in it? Which one makes my day better?
Which one helps me fall back asleep? Whatever it is, right,
you have to separate yourself from it, and then you're
(07:30):
able to flip it. Now, when you do have an affirmation,
let's just go over good old fashioned affirmations for a second.
If you are working on affirmations, you have to believe it.
You have to convince that part of your brain that
you believe in right, that toddler brain. Right. So you
can't just be saying money comes easily naturally. Me, I
always have enough money. No, no, no, it's check this out.
(07:53):
Every time I go to Vegas, I win. Every single
time my friends give me twenties, I come back with
honeys and hand them all out because I always make
money in Vegas. People talk about losing money. I brought
this money to lose what, No way, I brought this
money to triple it, to quadruple it. Okay, Because every
time I go to the washer or dryer, there's money
(08:14):
in there. I find money all the time. There's always
money in my pockets. And every time I go to
the bank statement there's more money in there than I
thought would be. And I just always have more than
enough money. And it's not a pie man. I'm not
taking money from other people. I just always have so
much money. It's always around me. Everywhere I go, it's
more and more money, and money just comes easily and naturally,
(08:36):
and I always have it. I mean, isn't that a
little more convincing? Then I'm filled with abundance? I mean what,
My brain doesn't even hear that because it doesn't speak English.
It speaks emotion. You have to have the clear intention
with the heightened emotions. Here's a cool tip. There's good
old fashioned reframing. Right. I have some clients with panic attacks,
(08:56):
and one of the terrible symptoms of panic disorder is
the end to scipatory anxiety that it's going to happen again.
It's terrible, and so often that is what we're treating, right,
And my client will tell me that they're terrified that
they're gonna happen again because they were driving or whatever
the scenario was. And I'll say to them, you know,
ninety nine point nine percent of the time, you're not
(09:17):
having a panic attack, so you're kind of an expert
at not having a panic attack. I'm telling you. They
don't usually think about that this way. You know, if
you get diagnosed with something, and ninety seven percent of
the people have this, what are the three percent of
the people doing? Okay? If ninety seven percent is despair
and it's awful and it's horrible, what why aren't we
(09:40):
talking about the three percent of the people? I want
to be that person. Another thing that you can do.
I call the what ifs, and I think of them
like little butterflies, Like if I make a bad decision,
what if this happens, if I hire the wrong person,
what if that happens, if I don't know about the
wrong thing or went down the wrong road or whatever.
It is, like what if? What if? What if? And
it feels like butterflies because they're just sort of fluttering
(10:02):
all around or fluttering all around, and usually we stop
our stories right in the middle. They're like, what if
this happened? Oh, okay, And much like people who are
not being treated for a traumatic experience, they will often
end their story at the traumatic part. Right. So I
was walking down the street and someone came up to
me and you know, they grabbed my purse and it
(10:23):
was absolutely terrifying. Right, people who have healed from trauma
ended the story, you know, and then someone came by
and you know, and it was okay, in the call
the guy or whatever, like they'll tell the rest of
the story, right. And so you could do this with
your little butterflies buzzing around. You could say, like, okay,
what if that happens? Because we're very good at catastrophizing
(10:45):
and going to how the worst case scenario would be terrible, okay,
and proving to ourselves that it would be. But what
if we actually spent some time entertaining the idea and
thinking about and having emotions about the most likely scenario
or the best scenario. What I mean, it could happen, right,
(11:12):
And so sometimes when we do that, that also helps
shift and the butterfly idea helps me really if I
ever have those thoughts at night, because what you don't
want to do is have really anxious thoughts at night,
and I figure out how to stop them so you
can fall back asleep. Because if you start making worry cocktail.
You know, hormones and all of these neurotransmitters going off
(11:35):
at once. One of them is going to be cortisol,
and it usually lasts about an hour and a half.
So you don't want that one to start pumping through
your veins because then you're up too long. Right, But
the butterfly one can be nice because you're also practicing
separating from it. What if this happened, here's another thought
I could have. Okay, so it's very it's not loaded.
It's not you need to do this and you have
to do that. But it's just another idea on how
(11:57):
to get your thoughts to shift a little bit, okay,
and you're moving towards something. It doesn't happen overnight. Right.
But the reason why affirmations are so popular is because
if you use them the right way, they actually work. Right,
they actually work. And affirmations, you know, in a loose
term and a loose definition could be like the butterfly,
most likely are better or best scenario ideas you're still
(12:18):
thinking those thoughts and changing your mood and attitude around them,
and eventually your personality and your life. I'm telling you
this works, but much like anything on this earth, the
only way that any of it works is if you
do it. Okay, So let's meditate together right now. Okay,
(12:39):
So find a comfortable seat and relax your beautiful body,
roll your shoulders back, maybe put your hands down on
your knees or facing up. Today we're going to be
using the mantra.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
Hum s h a m s a h hum sah.
And this sacred, beautiful mantra just means.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
I am that with a capital T. I am not
my thoughts. I am that, I am connected to the divine,
holy source and entity that surrounds all sentient beings. I
(13:47):
am that. And as you silently say this mantra to
yourself over and over, just for a few minutes, I'm
gonna I'll leave you. When you have a thought that
comes into your awareness and pulls you away from the mantra,
(14:12):
just simply keep coming back, keep coming back.
Speaker 4 (14:19):
So that is the practice.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Sometimes it helps to label a thought planning thought, future thought,
past thought, worry thought. Sometimes that can help for the
thought to dissipate and you can get back to the mantra.
(14:55):
So and I'll be back to guide you out.
Speaker 4 (16:16):
At hum Sah.
Speaker 1 (20:11):
Release this beautiful, sacred mantra into the ether. Before jumping
up to go have the next thought or do the
next thing, take a moment here, luxuriating in this calm
that you have created. Take a long, slow, deep breath
(20:36):
in your nose, letting it all go out of your mouth. Again,
a long, slow, deep breath in your nose, letting it
all go out of your mouth. One last breath in
your nose, out of your mouth. When you're ready, you
(21:04):
can open your beautiful eyes. Humsah. Thank you so much
for meditating with me today. I would love to hear
how you're taking control of your thoughts, how you're just
noticing them. I mean, that's the biggest step of all.
All you gotta do is just notice them, like, Oh,
(21:26):
I'm having a thought that's making me feel bad, or
why am I feeling bad? What thought am I thinking?
You know, work it backwards if you must, but start
thinking about what you're thinking about, tweaking those thoughts with
little tips and tricks and however you need to do
it to trick your brain, and you're just having different thoughts, beliefs,
behaviors and days and lives. I'm telling you it works.
(21:51):
And one thing that this reminds me of is just
how many blanket thoughts we have, right, Like I'll be like, oh,
this is the worst day, whole day. You're just having
a bad moment, not a bad life. In fact, one
of my friends gave me a little plaque that says
that I have it by my makeup heror it says
something like, it's not a bad life, it's a bad
moment or something. It's put much more eloquently than I'm
(22:13):
putting here. But the idea is, just let your bad
moments be moments, right. You don't have to attach them
to the day or the week, or the month, or
the year or the life. Okay, Like, keep it in perspective,
use your reasoning and logic to choose what thoughts you want.
And then next thing you know, your thoughts are getting
(22:34):
sticky and they're attracting thoughts that are really positive and
really happy and just better and just you're gonna love this,
So let me know how it goes for you. So
I got done recording this episode and I was thinking
about it, and I was thinking, you know, about eighteen
and maybe nineteen years ago, I wrote a song with
my band Thirteen Stories, about exactly this episode. I mean,
(22:57):
the whole intention of the song was to convey exactly
what we just talked about in this episode. Isn't that cool?
Even Wayne Dyer used it on the hay House Radio
for his show Inspiration, And I'm gonna leave it with
you here now because I think it's really relevant. Still.
The song is called Joy, and it's my gift to you,
and it's by thirteen stories.
Speaker 4 (23:20):
I take my joy.
Speaker 3 (23:22):
Straight up every day.
Speaker 1 (23:30):
Let simply little one to bottom change the way you
look at things and and awfuls and place.
Speaker 4 (23:50):
Dig tu braves awful again seems a tune, passtead of.
Speaker 1 (24:03):
You go on about nothing while you're missing what.
Speaker 5 (24:07):
It's not over again?
Speaker 4 (24:11):
It's so I take much of straight up every day.
Speaker 5 (24:16):
Shake chocolate coped p dake my own page, live like
a jes take Mama from noisy to buy prosy.
Speaker 4 (24:33):
It's not of my fasiness what you think. So take
much of straight up every day.
Speaker 3 (24:41):
I take much joy, straight up every day, from down
up the different streets.
Speaker 4 (24:50):
Do not go right back to sleep.
Speaker 1 (24:58):
I'm your buy it a savage man made restaurants, hand
like candle, like handa like handle.
Speaker 3 (25:07):
What takes joy?
Speaker 4 (25:08):
Straight up? Every day.
Speaker 5 (25:11):
Bell shake, chocolate, come home, dating my own.
Speaker 6 (25:19):
Lay it like a jes take ding to word of my.
Speaker 5 (25:27):
Rom say it's not one of my fas.
Speaker 6 (25:32):
What you eat?
Speaker 1 (25:33):
Something?
Speaker 4 (25:34):
Joy straight up every day? I take my joy straight
up every day.
Speaker 3 (26:07):
I don't die, don't die, don't.
Speaker 5 (26:10):
Die, don't die, don't die, don't die, don't die, don't die,
don't die, don't die.
Speaker 1 (26:18):
Don't die, don't music Still and Si, Mama got es.
Speaker 4 (26:32):
We're not going for three years old?
Speaker 1 (26:35):
Still be thank you, you hope me do everything I
asked and nothing.
Speaker 4 (26:42):
Take mother's way.
Speaker 6 (26:46):
Shot, come come, take my own.
Speaker 5 (26:53):
Alaia, my comma change, take mama.
Speaker 6 (26:57):
Come God on my phonsy. It's my days.
Speaker 4 (27:06):
What song?
Speaker 6 (27:07):
I take lujoy.
Speaker 1 (27:08):
Straight up every day.
Speaker 3 (27:12):
The chart.
Speaker 4 (27:18):
I like.
Speaker 6 (27:20):
My change, take my noise, my dosy, he's not my day.
Speaker 1 (27:33):
Song.
Speaker 4 (27:34):
Take lujoy straight up every day.
Speaker 3 (27:37):
I take my joy straight up every day
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