July 19, 2023 • 32 mins
The Stronger U Summer Series hosted by Member Experience Specialist Branden Hazelwood continues! In this inspiring episode, he gets personal with Coach Candace Reed, who’s been with us since 2020. You’ll get a front-row seat to her incredible story of overcoming a significant health challenge and adversity that resulted from a childhood injury. You’ll hear how she’s proven to herself (and doctors!) that she could do what was once believed to be impossible. In their candid conversation, Candace takes us through her journey from injury to healing and how sharing her struggles with the Stronger U members she coaches was a comforting experience that brought an outpouring of support.
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Then, in the 2nd half of their conversation, Branden and Coach Candace dive into alcohol. You’ll walk away with practical tips on navigating social situations where alcohol is front and center while staying true to yourself and on track with your goals.
This episode is relatable, inspiring, and filled with actionable advice that leaves you feeling like you can conquer anything. Listen to it here, then head to the Stronger U Community to share your thoughts.
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- how fitness and nutrition played a crucial role in helping her achieve physical milestones
- the reason perspective plays a role in success regardless of your goals
- which struggles many members face, from moms to competitive athletes
- the importance of recognizing your value, what you’re truly capable of, and how a coach can help
Then, in the 2nd half of their conversation, Branden and Coach Candace dive into alcohol. You’ll walk away with practical tips on navigating social situations where alcohol is front and center while staying true to yourself and on track with your goals.
This episode is relatable, inspiring, and filled with actionable advice that leaves you feeling like you can conquer anything. Listen to it here, then head to the Stronger U Community to share your thoughts.
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Good morning, good afternoon, goodevening. I am Brandon Hazelwood, and
I thank you for listening to anotherepisode of the Stronger You podcast, this
summer series with amazing coaches here atStronger You, and today I have the
privilege to talk to Candice Read.As we were talking off air, h
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this is my first actual conversation outsideof emails with her, and it's you
get to know only a certain amountof somebody's personality through emails. But I
had a good gauge as I wasstaring with her. But now I get
to learn more along with you guys. And I got a little glimpse into
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a little bit more about Candice lastweek. But Candice has been with Shuston's
twenty twenty. It's it's those twopoint five years that she's been with us,
and she's has her P and onesince twenty seventeen. Uh. And
you, what you've expressed to meis your love for this community. But
that intertwines to such a bigger story. So I want to leave the floor
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to you to share more about yourself. Okay. Yeah, First of all,
Brandon, thank you for having metoday because you know this is this
is exciting, it's also so excitingthat you're correct, Like we always just
kind of email back and forth throughemails are always so warm and welcoming,
and it's great because like now justbefore UF their like we're talking, it's
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just like I feel like I justknown you for forever. So I appreciate
this, and so this is superfun for me. So, yeah,
nervous about this because it's not thatI'm nervous for the podcast in general.
It's that my story is so uniquethat I worry, I guess if you
will, about the perception of it, and and just you know, bad,
(01:51):
I guess. So last week youdid get a glimpse of it when
I told in front of the coaches, so to give like a backstory for
everyone, and just so you know, I just talked fast in general that
she's who I am. So I'vebeen part of the fitness and nutrition industry
since probably twenty twenty fourteen, twentyfifteen, give her take. So,
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my husband and I got together rightwhen he was opening up his Crossbit gym,
and we basically ran that business togetheruntil the fall of twenty nineteen.
And at that point we had apartner and we dissolved that partnership, and
that partner still has that gym,it's still open, still doing great,
but we decided we kind of wantedto steer in a different direction. During
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that time, I was also fightingfires for the for Service all over the
United States, So that's where kindof that health and nutrition kind of came
in because it's I don't I canhonestly think of three instances where had I
not field my body correctly, wemight not be having this conversation today.
You know, those are long days, long weeks, long hours, Like
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it is hard grueling work and youcan't just eat a bunch of sugar and
a bunch of candy and a bunchof MRIs and hope that it's going to
be good to go, because it'sjust about feeling your body for the life
you want to live. You know, fast forward to even just the last
five ten years, competing in CrossFitwhile owning the gym, Spartan races,
any athletic activities that you can imagine, I was doing them. Now there's
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a reason behind that. When Iwas four years old, I was just
this little country girl from Idaho.I got behind one of my family horses
and at that point I was thenkicked in the face by that horse mere
minutes from dying. To not gettoo gruesome for you, it basically took
off my entire nose, so myface was as flat as a pancake at
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that time. This was nineteen ninetyfive, Like we are not where we're
at in twenty twenty three with themedical like possibilities and all stuff. So
they did what they could have whatthey could do back then, and they
saved my life, which gave melike if you like a pugged appearance nose,
um, and it was you wereYou're never gonna You're never gonna be
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able to do pe with the otherkids. You're never gonna be able to
hike, You're never gonna be ableto do like all these things that like
I wanted to do. I mean, you're you're four, Like I didn't
recognize that I wanted to do thata few years later, right, but
then it became this fuel of like, oh, you say I can't do
it, yeah, and you know, next thing I know, you know,
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like, um, I'm out there. My dad was a professional outfitter,
so we took people all over themountains. I'm out there with the
best of them, Um, I'mout there. I still ride horses to
this day, I don't own anyhorses, just so you know. Um.
But like then, it was fightingfires. There were many many wildfires
that I was on that I wasthe only female. And then when we
owned the CrossFit gym, it wascompeting and it you know, there's this
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pressure when you own across the gymis that you need to be the best
at your gym. You need toshow, like everyone else, how it's
done. And like my husband andI held that kind of I guess weight
on our shoulders, if you will. And I organized crossbit events, I
organized marathons, you know, abunch of different things that if I wasn't
competing in it, I wasn't,you know, promoting it because I wanted
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people to see if I can doit, so can you. And so
this entire time, I know I'mnot breathing as good as you at that
point. And it wasn't until aboutfive years ago I started, like I
told my husband, I'm like,I just want to try one more time,
and doctors had said, Nope,what you have is what you have,
and you just need to deal withit. You know, if you
can't breathe really well, you know, sniff some flown as a kid,
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you not A doctor told me todo that, and it was like,
okay, cool. Fast forward tothis last year, we welcomed our last
little miracle, babe, and Iwas I just couldn't let it go,
Brandon, I don't know, it'sjust something about me. I can't.
I just couldn't let it go.And I reached out to a few doctors
and the next thing, you know, after twenty seven years, I'm getting
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yes, that's possible, Yes,that's possible, Yes, we can do
that. And it wasn't just onedoctor here or there, it was all
of them. Love that was likeit was like wait a minute, you
can do it? Like what Andit was just this like huge thing of
like we you can do hard stuffnow, like you know, we're everything's
constantly evolving. So now the nextthing was what doctor do we pick?
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Like, you know, how dowe do this? And we were initially
going to go to Austin, Texas. Now, if you know me,
I'm in I'd help. That's notlike a job across the pond. Yeah,
And we did find a doctor inUtah and three weeks ago tomorrow,
I got that surgery. I wentin for revision rhinoplasty. They redid my
steptom. I got a surgery thatI wanted for twenty seven years. But
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that's not the end. I'll beall of this is that three weeks ago
tomorrow I took the biggest breath I'vetaken since I was four years old.
That is, I swear when youwhen you shared this story with us in
an internal meeting, I just satthere and just like I just did now
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and just taking that in and I'mI'm a firm believer in that we tend,
as as as human beings, totake some things for granted. Just
hearing what you said, like I'veI complain about just having a stuffed nose
right every once in a while,like probably most people, not not ever
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in my mind thinking for a secondthat some people haven't been able to take
a deep breath or breathe since they'refour years old. Right. So it's
always a reminder to me that somebodyis always you're you're fortunate for what you
have. There's others that don't havewhat you have, and it's always a
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humbling experience once you hear stories suchas this. But I mean when when
you're explaining this, and three wordscame to my mind when you were sharing
you're fearless, undefeated, and perseverance, which was, by the way,
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one of my favorite words as akid. I learned it, I spelled
it, I was just like itwas all I was all about it.
But those are three things that immediatelycome to mind for you, amongst many
other things, as you are amom and I and to me, moms
are superheroes. So I just Icommend you for that. I commend you
for sharing this portion of your story, even even having the somewhat of the
(08:35):
fear in your mind, but tobe forthcoming with that because you never know,
which I'm sure you have the mindset. You never know who that can
affect and who that can help.In fuel which brings it to this,
you're teaching people how to better theirlife when it comes to nutrition. They've
they've taken that leap of faith,right, They've they've come here. They
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did the hard part, which wascome and sign up, and then you
got the part of now I getto work with you. You've taken the
hard part. Now let's get let'srefine this. So can you explain or
share your experience with thus far withmembers of how it's maybe changed you and
how it's impacted you overall with yourstory and just things you may have seen
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that has fueled you to this day. Oh yeah, so yeah, I
mean you hit it there, likewhere it's like the first step for these
members is signing up, right.So like when I I think I was
like a month or two out fromsurgery, I shot my members a message
and I was like, Hey,this is what we're dealing with. I
might have to take a little bitof time off of work. I'm just
kind of giving you. Guys.I'm very a transparent coach because I want
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my members to be transparent. Iyou know, I want to celebrate wins,
I want to celebrate losses, andlike if I don't let them in
on that part of my life,and they're probably not gonna let me in
on their life. So like I'mtransparent. I let them know what's going
on. And the feedback I gotfrom there was just so like it blew
me away. Right. It wasjust the it wasn't necessarily just the care
and concern. It was the messagesabout me and like Candice, I have
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needed to do this surgery, orI have needed to do this but I
have been too scared, or I'myou know, I have all these questions.
How did you go about finding doctors, how did you go about this?
How are you fueling your body foryou know, before you go to
surgery? Because that was like abig thing. Like my members knew that
I was trying to get to bedown with this surgery and be ready for
a competition in August, so likeyou know, it's like, Okay,
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I got a quick turnaround. Ialso have a seven month old that I'm
I was breastfeeding at the time,Like I have a lot going on,
and so it was just like beingthat transparent with them. It opened up
this just world for me and mymembers and just opened up all these new
conversations. But it also showed themlike they can do hard shit too.
Like excuse my language there, butthat's the thing, Like we're all busy,
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we all but we all have thesame twenty four hours in the day,
and like it's such a cliche commentin a way, but it's also
just it's the truth, and it'swhat we choose to do with it.
Like we're not the product of howwe were raised. Necessarily like, oh,
I'm not I can't waste food becauseI was told always clean my plate
through the product of what you chooseto be every single day. I never
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chose to be that person that waslike I can't run because the doctor said
that I can't do that, andlike three weeks ago, like the best
fan I explain it is like Iwas living my life for twenty seven years
underwater and I'd just come up forbreath and like I have a second chance
at life. And my members kindof know what's going on, and I
won't share too much because I stillam not prepared to, but like,
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we are going to take it andwe're going to run with it, and
it's it's exciting, but it's alsoshowing people like we're all uncomfortable when it
comes to something new, but wecan do it, and that transparency and
letting people in on your story canactually be more beneficial because I that's been
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the biggest thing I've kept it justkind of hidden in the back of my
mind. It's like, yep,I have a weird nose. You don't
need to know, end of discussion, and you know it. But instead
I just started sharing it and itwas like I couldn't believe like the stuff
that it was, like it wasn'tjust people sharing nose problems. It was
people sharing family problems, you know, mental problems, like all these things
that they're like I'm too scared tosay anything. But because you said it,
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take your tribe, grab your tribe, whoever it might be. It
might just be your your nutrition coachfrom Shaner you that is out there,
Like, you have to realize thatsome of these things weigh on you.
They might and they probably are affectingthose choices that are leading to potentially that
binging, to potentially that nighttime eating. You know, those those little extra
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bikes licks, Like why are wedoing that? Like you have to look
kind of within your life, withinyour circumstances to kind of see, I
guess, to get a bigger pictureof all of it. And sometimes just
this random person me or somebody elsethat is like sharing their journey is like
helping you see that a little bitmore so that No, that's it's it's
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enough. It's it's more than enough, and it's needed to be said because
it's it's the whole purpose of thissummer series is to share with members the
people that you are chatting with,that you're meeting with, that you're paired
with our humans as well, andthey're going through their own trials and tribulations.
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I know. It's one of theUH since since I started working here
for four years ago. It's oneof the main things that I I've heard
over the time. Is it fromcommunication from the members, like asking when
they sign up, is this isthis a real person? Is this somebody
that is it? Is it anAI computer whatnot. I'm sure that I'll
probably intensify with the chat, GPTand all that stuff now, but it
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is very very interesting too well.It's it's I love to have that conversation
and share that with people because peoplecome from UH different programs that they've dealt
with just a computer or they've dealtwith somebody that it's not fully invested in
them. Right, That doesn't dowhat you just did for us as an
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audience, which is humanize right,meet people where they're at and share what
is going on. You don't haveto pull the whole curtain back. Everybody
doesn't need to know everything about you, but what you're comfortable with sharing.
It allows other people to feel likeyou know what wow, like they did
that, I could, I coulddo this right. It's it's always that
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for me. It's that vote ofencouragement. I love hearing people's stories of
their trials and tribulations and how they'veconquered things, even in the eyes of
those that say they can't do it. I'm a firm believer. If you
tell me I can't do it,I'm going to one hundred percent improve you
wrong. I don't care what youdo. That's fine. It's just motivation
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for me. And it's it startsoff as okay, watch just watch me
then, right, but then itturns into something else for me. It's
it's just it's that I guess it'sthat athlete in me. Is that mentality,
is that that chalkboard material as theyrefer to, And it's just like
it's there. It's not written downany anywhere. It's just there in a
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small part in my mind. Sowhen I get to the part that I
just feel down or I can't doit, it's just like, remember what
they said over here. I rememberthat, you know, you're greater than
what anybody else says, and justcontinuing to push forward. So when your
value is huge and that's what wedon't recognize. Sometimes it's just like you
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said, you know what you cando, you know, like your cable,
but I guarantee like that probably tookyears to to like. So a
lot of times that's what our memberslike don't recognize, is like I can
do it. I just have tokind of reframe my thinking. I have
Candice there to kind of base ideasoff talk about, but never once as
she said, can't, Like sowhy can't? Why Why am I not
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saying? Why am I saying can't? Can't? So let's get camp out
of vocabulary exactly. I think Ito share about myself a little bit,
is uh. I know still tothis day, like I'm in the best
shape I've probably ever been in mylife, and I continue to push the
envelope for myself every year, likeI want to be the best shape I
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am of every year. Now goingforward, that that wasn't my mindset years
ago. I'd probably even say fouryears ago, right, it wasn't even
my mindset. It was just goingto the gym, working out, and
but then I had that that industrymisconception like I had to have the abs
and be ripped up and do allthat, and then when I finally learned
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all of the things that you haveto do to be that all the time,
essentially the the food fatigue right,the endless the endless hours of essentially
being in the gym were in watchingand being in a deficit for quite some
time to get everything that you needto get those abs, which are genetically
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different for every single person, rightof what they look like. Uh.
Once learning about that, I wasjust like and understanding that this is kind
of a what is it? Theeighties fueled image of what the body should
look like ripped up and all that, And I was just like, no,
I just want to be happy andcomfortable for myself. Like I want
to be in shape and be ableto do things when I when I'm fortunate
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enough to have kids, Right,I want to be able to hike with
my friends and not halfway through oreven a quarter into the hike, you
know. I want to be ableto just do these things that I just
want to do with no quorums.And I think one of the biggest fuels
for me is I ruptured my achillestwo years ago and I did it in
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the gym sprinting. So and Ijust refer back to some of my favorite
athletes, and I immediately knew whathappened, and I said to myself,
what can I do to get myselfin a position to be better when I
come out of this right? Andit was one of the quickest recoveries that
I've known it to be. Ithought it was going to be like a
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year out. I was walking againin three months, and it was super
cool to hear the optometrist telling methat, you know, the reason you
the reason that you're going to healquicker is the shape that you were in
prior to this. So it's it'sjust like, okay. So it kind
of gave me that affirmation like I'mdoing something right here, right, you
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know, like yes. I didn'tneed him to say that to me.
I didn't need anybody to say itto me. But it's just that those
little votes of encouragement that you getfrom the universe. It's kind of just
like, okay, okay, keepkeep doing what you're doing. You're doing
it right, you know, yesexactly, And like for you, that
was the doctor, right. Forsome of these other members, it could
be us like yes, my myroster's kind of morphed. It's really funny.
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I have like a version of moms, like stay at home moms,
working moms, and then I haveCrossFit athletes Like that's kind of it's it's
like it's really fun. I absolutelylove it. Wonderful little roster that I
have. UM and it's it's likeand it's a lot of women, and
you know, it's like the message. I mean they're like, cay is
I'm up like five pounds. I'mlike all right, you know, like
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where's where's your period at? Andlike these are things we're going to talk
about because it's like and and butthat's the thing is like you're not doing
anything wrong. It's we have tolook at this and it's like, oh,
okay, Ken, it's you.You just took me, You made
me step back a little bit.And sometimes that just like you said,
just those little outside voices like tellingyou like I'm not doing anything wrong is
the glue that's gonna make this allsticked. Like it's it's huge and like
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I one of my favorite things whenI see a check in is like the
scale is up this week, ButI'm not worried. I'm like yes,
because it's it's that's not the endI'll be all, let's look at all
the other wins. It's not Andthat that goes back to what I said
before about the industry. It's it'salways a scale, scale, scale.
It's kind of been engraved, andmost people's mind is looking at that scale.
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I remember if if you're old enoughlistening to this, like in Pe
in school, there was scales there, You're always like, so that's kind
of just been around, but finallylearning to take a step back. And
I was skinny and got bigger,Like I wasn't bigger and got smaller.
I was skinny and got bigger,and I was trying to get to a
weight that I felt comfortable with,and it was just like, okay,
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just looking at the scale. Ididn't really fight with it, but subconsciously
when you would see and not realizethat, okay, well you had a
lot of sodium and then you havethis way to weight and then you're doing
these things. Once you learn thosethings, you're you're kind of like,
Okay, I'm up today because Ihad a B and C. I know
I'm not going to be that intwo days or or a day and a
half later. Right. It's it'sjust knowing and understanding your body and that
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relationship to me is something that Iwould cherish for the rest of my life.
And I that's what I want tohighlight here. I want members to
know that this is something that youcan take with you and have you love
yourself in whatever way that looks like, right, is, have you love
yourself and be comfortable and be happywith yourself so you can go out there
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and do whatever it is that you'reable and capable of doing. Yeah,
so that's huge, huge for me. So with that said, it's summertime,
all right, So as as acoach and me internally, we see
a lot of our members going onvacation taking trips all right. Now,
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specifically, I want to ask youa question when it comes to a topic
that never dies down. Alcohol.A lot is consumed during this time of
the year, beach trips, familybarbecues, some holidays, so on and
so forth. What is the advicethat you give your member. Let's just
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say I'm your member to use anexample, I'm going to a family barbecue
this weekend. I know my familylike when they party, they like to
have some drinks, and I wantto indulge in it. But I don't
want to quote unquote burn the housedown. What would be your suggestion for
me as I prep towards this orwork towards that barbecue. So like,
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you know, let's look at thetime of day, so it's probably mid
day mid afternoon, give or takeright, So you have so many hours
prior to that that are one hundredand fifty percent in your control. That's
what people don't recognize. You areactually in control of everything that goes in
your mouth, unless you're my sevenmonth old that I'm giving peop little parade
too. So it's you are incontrol. And so that's when it's like,
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look at our controllables. What areour controllables? Can we are if
we're into working out, like I'mnot going to force you to work out,
but if we're into that, maybehit the morning wad out across the
gym, or you know, goto any type business like your gym,
whatever you choose to do. You. I totally believe in finding an exercise
that works for you and then likea walk, get your steps in,
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hydrate. Okay, that's a bigone because when we get to those barbecues
and we get socializing and we kindof get going, what's one of the
first things that goes out the windowwater Like it's it's it's just not a
conversation. If you have Famier unionnext weekend and I actually plan on bringing
a cooler water because I never seeup at the family re union. Um,
and so it's like, okay,we can get we can control that.
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What about that protein intake again,that m barbecue is probably not going
to be let's just say the mostnutritionist like like the most protein rich right,
um, if it's if it's abarbecue, like where what we have
here, it's probably be honestly thefattiest burgers and not the most best protein,
but they're really good, right becauselike that's that's another controllable, right,
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Like preload that protein in the morning, preload that activity in the morning,
and also that water. Talk abouthey, you know, maybe reach
out to your coach this. Iam wanting to go to barbecue. I
do want to indulge. What areyour thoughts? All right, Brandon?
You know where do you start feelinglike what's too much for you for me?
One or two? One drink andtwo and I'm done, Like we're
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done, Like it's the end ofdiscussion. But for other people that might
be three or four. It's likeyou can set a limit. It's probably
you need to recognize that it isgoing to take a hit on your macros.
So by heading, you know,getting ahead of it, having that
time, you know, in themorning, controlling every controllable possible, going
into it with the mentality of hey, I've set three drinks for this night,
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I'm going to have those three drinksand that's it. Remembering that no,
thank you or just no is acomplete sentence. You do not own
anybody at justification. Pass that andthat's the biggest thing. But another one
that you know, I love islike are you going for the people?
Are you going for the alcohol?Like can you enjoy and be social with
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the alcohol and it just kind ofsip on a beer or are you,
you know, going to where youprobably feel like crap tomorrow morning. You
have to kind of So it's likebreaking it down, like what's important,
what's our yest moment, and thentaking that and making the game plan around
it. But that's when it's reallyimportant to kind of reach out to your
coach and work through it together.I think one of the key things I'm
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taking away from this, So Istarted to think about my my story and
my journey when you when you weresharing that, uh, and one of
the key things you said there forme was, uh, knowing what you're
going there for. You know,if you're are you going there to to
indulge on the drinks and the food? Are you going there to enjoy the
(25:32):
companionship of your family's friends and soon and so forth? Right, I
I can remember when I remember whensitting down and being at a barbecue,
because the barbecues I go to,our long lasting I'm talking about six to
eight hours, depending on where andwhen it is. Yeah, it's it's
a wild I wouldn't go. See, there's a there's a trick to it.
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You don't go at the beginning rightwhen it happens. You gotta come,
you gotta find your sweets so youknow when to leave. And Yeah,
anyway, but I remember I usedto definitely indulge. And this is
I'm not ashamed to say this becauseI know where I am and what I
used to do. But definitely,if I was at one of those longer
barbecues and I brought a six pack, that would be gone, that would
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be gone. But now I'll sitthere and I'll have two to three at
max now understanding and knowing what Iwas doing then to myself. Also what
the aftermath lasts me two days nowadayswhere it's and I don't want that feeling,
(26:38):
right, So for me, it'sit's more it's and it's always has
been, but it's I guess it'sthe social pressures of being around people,
like we're continuously drinking and having fun. But fun comes in many forms and
shapes, and it doesn't mean youhave to be forced to drink. As
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you said, if you don't wantto do it, you don't have to
do it. If you want tohave one, you can have one.
If you want to have a builtin number, so you are still protecting
what you're trying to do and reachyour goals. Lovely, I that is
absolutely what I subscribe to. Afterlearning this and having a coach like you
share this with me and break itdown, like what what do you want
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to do? Right? Yeah?What do you want to get out of
this barbecue? You know it?Is it short term happiness or do you
want to like look at the bigpicture. Are you planning a vacation in
a week? We probably shouldn't indulgetoo much, just so we can kind
of have that fun in that vacationin a week. Like let's look at
your entire social calendar and break itdown. Another thing that we do.
So I don't like beer winds,okay, but hard ciders, oh,
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those are like, oh yes,Trader Joe's. You can't get a like
a six pack and you can mixit, mix a mash yep. So
something that we're known to do,even though with since we moved we don't
have a Trader was near us,would be to grab three of the kinds
that my husband liked and then thethree that I like, and then we
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brought it and we're completely in control. And nine times out of ten I
was leaving with one or two ofmine. But it's still just that concept
of being like, now I'm notsaying yes to something that's not worth the
calories, not worth it. LikeI don't know about you, but drinking
a crappy beer is still a crappybeer, Like yes, yes, it's
not worth it. Yeah, it'sit's that I'd much rather have drank something
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that I liked and then go fromthere. Yeah, and then you now,
especially now for me drinking something thatI bring whatever I want to drink.
And to your point, I'm leavingwith what I want to leave with,
understanding that driving safely people and justmake sure we're clarifying that as well
too. But I'm I'm leaving withwhat I'm was satisfied with having. And
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like I said, it's it's twofor me. Really is max for me
because it's I feel okay, Iwanted to assume depending on what it is.
And then I still had a wonderfultime because the overall theme for me,
or the overall objective for me,is to enjoy the company of those
that I'm around, and that's mymain goal every single time. And what
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you did right there, you didn'tgive up any of that big word control.
You owned that, you walked in, you owned it. Nobody needs
to know that. You just youknow, just won that barbecue. Yeah,
but you know, and now whatmatters. Now everyone's gonna have that
barbecue. Differently, If if it'sme and my husband and we don't have
the kids, you know, it'slike, okay, well we're not babysitting
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the kids at the jumphouse, maybeit's a little more social. Yeah.
If it's you know, us andthe kids. It's like, yeah,
we don't even have time to takea drink, like we Aspen's probably jumping
off a roof somewhere. So it'syeah, oh that's two and a half
LITDLD tornado. Let me tell you, I pray for you parrots. I
absolutely do. I absolutely do.With that being said, we are going
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to get out of here, butbefore we do, I've been asking every
coach to share little words of encouragementor anything you'd like to share on the
way out. So I'm gonna takea step back. The floor is yours
to share. So yeah, Ithink for me, I think something that
people don't recognize, and I knowthis is kind of what you're trying to
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do, is humanize us as coachesand like recognize that when we see those
intake forms that you know, youguys look at those and you're like,
Okay, this is who this wouldgo along with and based off what you
know of us coaches. So abig thing for me is build those intake
forms out, like really really reallyreally take the time build them out.
Let people know what season of lifeyou're in. Everyone's in a different season.
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You might be you know in afamily emergency season where it's like I
just need that accountability, or youmight be like I want to lose some
weight, Like really take time tofill that out with depth, because that's
going to help not only the NXDgive us to the right people, but
also us as coaches to be like, Okay, this would be my approach
to brand and it's not just macros, it's hey, we need to look
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at maybe there's maybe this would workbetter for Brandon, like allow the coach
to personalize it to you. Butwe can only do that with the information
that you give us. And Iguess, last, but not least,
you are completely in control of everythingthat goes in your mouth. So just
remember that you're going to eat anyways, So let's throw some protein in there.
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And if you're on my roster andyou're hearing this protein, I love
that. I absolutely love that,Kidis and I absolutely love this conversation.
And I appreciate you saying yes andtaking the time to share this with me
and spending time with you and learningmore about you is always a pleasure for
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me. It's one of my hI'd say it's one of my biggest traits
or one of my biggest pleasures islearning about people and understanding people. And
I feel to the point of likeyou sharing your story. Just sitting there
and chatting with somebody for doesn't evenhave to be long. You can consume
so much that you probably would havenever thought or known because everybody is so
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different and sees things from a differentlight. So thank you. I can
one hundred percent tell you that yourstory has encouraged me in ways that you
won't know that I won't share yet, but I will share with you in
due time. But I appreciate youfor taking the time today, and I
appreciate you, guys as an audience, for listening to another episode of the
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Stronger You podcasts. And we willsee you guys next week. Bye bye,
Thank you.
Good morning, good afternoon, goodevening. I am Brandon Hazelwood, and
I thank you for listening to anotherepisode of the Stronger You podcast, this
summer series with amazing coaches here atStronger You, and today I have the
privilege to talk to Candice Read.As we were talking off air, h
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this is my first actual conversation outsideof emails with her, and it's you
get to know only a certain amountof somebody's personality through emails. But I
had a good gauge as I wasstaring with her. But now I get
to learn more along with you guys. And I got a little glimpse into
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a little bit more about Candice lastweek. But Candice has been with Shuston's
twenty twenty. It's it's those twopoint five years that she's been with us,
and she's has her P and onesince twenty seventeen. Uh. And
you, what you've expressed to meis your love for this community. But
that intertwines to such a bigger story. So I want to leave the floor
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to you to share more about yourself. Okay. Yeah, First of all,
Brandon, thank you for having metoday because you know this is this
is exciting, it's also so excitingthat you're correct, Like we always just
kind of email back and forth throughemails are always so warm and welcoming,
and it's great because like now justbefore UF their like we're talking, it's
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just like I feel like I justknown you for forever. So I appreciate
this, and so this is superfun for me. So, yeah,
nervous about this because it's not thatI'm nervous for the podcast in general.
It's that my story is so uniquethat I worry, I guess if you
will, about the perception of it, and and just you know, bad,
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I guess. So last week youdid get a glimpse of it when
I told in front of the coaches, so to give like a backstory for
everyone, and just so you know, I just talked fast in general that
she's who I am. So I'vebeen part of the fitness and nutrition industry
since probably twenty twenty fourteen, twentyfifteen, give her take. So,
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my husband and I got together rightwhen he was opening up his Crossbit gym,
and we basically ran that business togetheruntil the fall of twenty nineteen.
And at that point we had apartner and we dissolved that partnership, and
that partner still has that gym,it's still open, still doing great,
but we decided we kind of wantedto steer in a different direction. During
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that time, I was also fightingfires for the for Service all over the
United States, So that's where kindof that health and nutrition kind of came
in because it's I don't I canhonestly think of three instances where had I
not field my body correctly, wemight not be having this conversation today.
You know, those are long days, long weeks, long hours, Like
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it is hard grueling work and youcan't just eat a bunch of sugar and
a bunch of candy and a bunchof MRIs and hope that it's going to
be good to go, because it'sjust about feeling your body for the life
you want to live. You know, fast forward to even just the last
five ten years, competing in CrossFitwhile owning the gym, Spartan races,
any athletic activities that you can imagine, I was doing them. Now there's
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a reason behind that. When Iwas four years old, I was just
this little country girl from Idaho.I got behind one of my family horses
and at that point I was thenkicked in the face by that horse mere
minutes from dying. To not gettoo gruesome for you, it basically took
off my entire nose, so myface was as flat as a pancake at
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that time. This was nineteen ninetyfive, Like we are not where we're
at in twenty twenty three with themedical like possibilities and all stuff. So
they did what they could have whatthey could do back then, and they
saved my life, which gave melike if you like a pugged appearance nose,
um, and it was you wereYou're never gonna You're never gonna be
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able to do pe with the otherkids. You're never gonna be able to
hike, You're never gonna be ableto do like all these things that like
I wanted to do. I mean, you're you're four, Like I didn't
recognize that I wanted to do thata few years later, right, but
then it became this fuel of like, oh, you say I can't do
it, yeah, and you know, next thing I know, you know,
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like, um, I'm out there. My dad was a professional outfitter,
so we took people all over themountains. I'm out there with the
best of them, Um, I'mout there. I still ride horses to
this day, I don't own anyhorses, just so you know. Um.
But like then, it was fightingfires. There were many many wildfires
that I was on that I wasthe only female. And then when we
owned the CrossFit gym, it wascompeting and it you know, there's this
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pressure when you own across the gymis that you need to be the best
at your gym. You need toshow, like everyone else, how it's
done. And like my husband andI held that kind of I guess weight
on our shoulders, if you will. And I organized crossbit events, I
organized marathons, you know, abunch of different things that if I wasn't
competing in it, I wasn't,you know, promoting it because I wanted
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people to see if I can doit, so can you. And so
this entire time, I know I'mnot breathing as good as you at that
point. And it wasn't until aboutfive years ago I started, like I
told my husband, I'm like,I just want to try one more time,
and doctors had said, Nope,what you have is what you have,
and you just need to deal withit. You know, if you
can't breathe really well, you know, sniff some flown as a kid,
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you not A doctor told me todo that, and it was like,
okay, cool. Fast forward tothis last year, we welcomed our last
little miracle, babe, and Iwas I just couldn't let it go,
Brandon, I don't know, it'sjust something about me. I can't.
I just couldn't let it go.And I reached out to a few doctors
and the next thing, you know, after twenty seven years, I'm getting
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yes, that's possible, Yes,that's possible, Yes, we can do
that. And it wasn't just onedoctor here or there, it was all
of them. Love that was likeit was like wait a minute, you
can do it? Like what Andit was just this like huge thing of
like we you can do hard stuffnow, like you know, we're everything's
constantly evolving. So now the nextthing was what doctor do we pick?
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Like, you know, how dowe do this? And we were initially
going to go to Austin, Texas. Now, if you know me,
I'm in I'd help. That's notlike a job across the pond. Yeah,
And we did find a doctor inUtah and three weeks ago tomorrow,
I got that surgery. I wentin for revision rhinoplasty. They redid my
steptom. I got a surgery thatI wanted for twenty seven years. But
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that's not the end. I'll beall of this is that three weeks ago
tomorrow I took the biggest breath I'vetaken since I was four years old.
That is, I swear when youwhen you shared this story with us in
an internal meeting, I just satthere and just like I just did now
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and just taking that in and I'mI'm a firm believer in that we tend,
as as as human beings, totake some things for granted. Just
hearing what you said, like I'veI complain about just having a stuffed nose
right every once in a while,like probably most people, not not ever
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in my mind thinking for a secondthat some people haven't been able to take
a deep breath or breathe since they'refour years old. Right. So it's
always a reminder to me that somebodyis always you're you're fortunate for what you
have. There's others that don't havewhat you have, and it's always a
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humbling experience once you hear stories suchas this. But I mean when when
you're explaining this, and three wordscame to my mind when you were sharing
you're fearless, undefeated, and perseverance, which was, by the way,
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one of my favorite words as akid. I learned it, I spelled
it, I was just like itwas all I was all about it.
But those are three things that immediatelycome to mind for you, amongst many
other things, as you are amom and I and to me, moms
are superheroes. So I just Icommend you for that. I commend you
for sharing this portion of your story, even even having the somewhat of the
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fear in your mind, but tobe forthcoming with that because you never know,
which I'm sure you have the mindset. You never know who that can
affect and who that can help.In fuel which brings it to this,
you're teaching people how to better theirlife when it comes to nutrition. They've
they've taken that leap of faith,right, They've they've come here. They
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did the hard part, which wascome and sign up, and then you
got the part of now I getto work with you. You've taken the
hard part. Now let's get let'srefine this. So can you explain or
share your experience with thus far withmembers of how it's maybe changed you and
how it's impacted you overall with yourstory and just things you may have seen
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that has fueled you to this day. Oh yeah, so yeah, I
mean you hit it there, likewhere it's like the first step for these
members is signing up, right.So like when I I think I was
like a month or two out fromsurgery, I shot my members a message
and I was like, Hey,this is what we're dealing with. I
might have to take a little bitof time off of work. I'm just
kind of giving you. Guys.I'm very a transparent coach because I want
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my members to be transparent. Iyou know, I want to celebrate wins,
I want to celebrate losses, andlike if I don't let them in
on that part of my life,and they're probably not gonna let me in
on their life. So like I'mtransparent. I let them know what's going
on. And the feedback I gotfrom there was just so like it blew
me away. Right. It wasjust the it wasn't necessarily just the care
and concern. It was the messagesabout me and like Candice, I have
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needed to do this surgery, orI have needed to do this but I
have been too scared, or I'myou know, I have all these questions.
How did you go about finding doctors, how did you go about this?
How are you fueling your body foryou know, before you go to
surgery? Because that was like abig thing. Like my members knew that
I was trying to get to bedown with this surgery and be ready for
a competition in August, so likeyou know, it's like, Okay,
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I got a quick turnaround. Ialso have a seven month old that I'm
I was breastfeeding at the time,Like I have a lot going on,
and so it was just like beingthat transparent with them. It opened up
this just world for me and mymembers and just opened up all these new
conversations. But it also showed themlike they can do hard shit too.
Like excuse my language there, butthat's the thing, Like we're all busy,
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we all but we all have thesame twenty four hours in the day,
and like it's such a cliche commentin a way, but it's also
just it's the truth, and it'swhat we choose to do with it.
Like we're not the product of howwe were raised. Necessarily like, oh,
I'm not I can't waste food becauseI was told always clean my plate
through the product of what you chooseto be every single day. I never
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chose to be that person that waslike I can't run because the doctor said
that I can't do that, andlike three weeks ago, like the best
fan I explain it is like Iwas living my life for twenty seven years
underwater and I'd just come up forbreath and like I have a second chance
at life. And my members kindof know what's going on, and I
won't share too much because I stillam not prepared to, but like,
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we are going to take it andwe're going to run with it, and
it's it's exciting, but it's alsoshowing people like we're all uncomfortable when it
comes to something new, but wecan do it, and that transparency and
letting people in on your story canactually be more beneficial because I that's been
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the biggest thing I've kept it justkind of hidden in the back of my
mind. It's like, yep,I have a weird nose. You don't
need to know, end of discussion, and you know it. But instead
I just started sharing it and itwas like I couldn't believe like the stuff
that it was, like it wasn'tjust people sharing nose problems. It was
people sharing family problems, you know, mental problems, like all these things
that they're like I'm too scared tosay anything. But because you said it,
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take your tribe, grab your tribe, whoever it might be. It
might just be your your nutrition coachfrom Shaner you that is out there,
Like, you have to realize thatsome of these things weigh on you.
They might and they probably are affectingthose choices that are leading to potentially that
binging, to potentially that nighttime eating. You know, those those little extra
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bikes licks, Like why are wedoing that? Like you have to look
kind of within your life, withinyour circumstances to kind of see, I
guess, to get a bigger pictureof all of it. And sometimes just
this random person me or somebody elsethat is like sharing their journey is like
helping you see that a little bitmore so that No, that's it's it's
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enough. It's it's more than enough, and it's needed to be said because
it's it's the whole purpose of thissummer series is to share with members the
people that you are chatting with,that you're meeting with, that you're paired
with our humans as well, andthey're going through their own trials and tribulations.
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I know. It's one of theUH since since I started working here
for four years ago. It's oneof the main things that I I've heard
over the time. Is it fromcommunication from the members, like asking when
they sign up, is this isthis a real person? Is this somebody
that is it? Is it anAI computer whatnot. I'm sure that I'll
probably intensify with the chat, GPTand all that stuff now, but it
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is very very interesting too well.It's it's I love to have that conversation
and share that with people because peoplecome from UH different programs that they've dealt
with just a computer or they've dealtwith somebody that it's not fully invested in
them. Right, That doesn't dowhat you just did for us as an
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audience, which is humanize right,meet people where they're at and share what
is going on. You don't haveto pull the whole curtain back. Everybody
doesn't need to know everything about you, but what you're comfortable with sharing.
It allows other people to feel likeyou know what wow, like they did
that, I could, I coulddo this right. It's it's always that
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for me. It's that vote ofencouragement. I love hearing people's stories of
their trials and tribulations and how they'veconquered things, even in the eyes of
those that say they can't do it. I'm a firm believer. If you
tell me I can't do it,I'm going to one hundred percent improve you
wrong. I don't care what youdo. That's fine. It's just motivation
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for me. And it's it startsoff as okay, watch just watch me
then, right, but then itturns into something else for me. It's
it's just it's that I guess it'sthat athlete in me. Is that mentality,
is that that chalkboard material as theyrefer to, And it's just like
it's there. It's not written downany anywhere. It's just there in a
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small part in my mind. Sowhen I get to the part that I
just feel down or I can't doit, it's just like, remember what
they said over here. I rememberthat, you know, you're greater than
what anybody else says, and justcontinuing to push forward. So when your
value is huge and that's what wedon't recognize. Sometimes it's just like you
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said, you know what you cando, you know, like your cable,
but I guarantee like that probably tookyears to to like. So a
lot of times that's what our memberslike don't recognize, is like I can
do it. I just have tokind of reframe my thinking. I have
Candice there to kind of base ideasoff talk about, but never once as
she said, can't, Like sowhy can't? Why Why am I not
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saying? Why am I saying can't? Can't? So let's get camp out
of vocabulary exactly. I think Ito share about myself a little bit,
is uh. I know still tothis day, like I'm in the best
shape I've probably ever been in mylife, and I continue to push the
envelope for myself every year, likeI want to be the best shape I
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am of every year. Now goingforward, that that wasn't my mindset years
ago. I'd probably even say fouryears ago, right, it wasn't even
my mindset. It was just goingto the gym, working out, and
but then I had that that industrymisconception like I had to have the abs
and be ripped up and do allthat, and then when I finally learned
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all of the things that you haveto do to be that all the time,
essentially the the food fatigue right,the endless the endless hours of essentially
being in the gym were in watchingand being in a deficit for quite some
time to get everything that you needto get those abs, which are genetically
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different for every single person, rightof what they look like. Uh.
Once learning about that, I wasjust like and understanding that this is kind
of a what is it? Theeighties fueled image of what the body should
look like ripped up and all that, And I was just like, no,
I just want to be happy andcomfortable for myself. Like I want
to be in shape and be ableto do things when I when I'm fortunate
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enough to have kids, Right,I want to be able to hike with
my friends and not halfway through oreven a quarter into the hike, you
know. I want to be ableto just do these things that I just
want to do with no quorums.And I think one of the biggest fuels
for me is I ruptured my achillestwo years ago and I did it in
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the gym sprinting. So and Ijust refer back to some of my favorite
athletes, and I immediately knew whathappened, and I said to myself,
what can I do to get myselfin a position to be better when I
come out of this right? Andit was one of the quickest recoveries that
I've known it to be. Ithought it was going to be like a
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year out. I was walking againin three months, and it was super
cool to hear the optometrist telling methat, you know, the reason you
the reason that you're going to healquicker is the shape that you were in
prior to this. So it's it'sjust like, okay. So it kind
of gave me that affirmation like I'mdoing something right here, right, you
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know, like yes. I didn'tneed him to say that to me.
I didn't need anybody to say itto me. But it's just that those
little votes of encouragement that you getfrom the universe. It's kind of just
like, okay, okay, keepkeep doing what you're doing. You're doing
it right, you know, yesexactly, And like for you, that
was the doctor, right. Forsome of these other members, it could
be us like yes, my myroster's kind of morphed. It's really funny.
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I have like a version of moms, like stay at home moms,
working moms, and then I haveCrossFit athletes Like that's kind of it's it's
like it's really fun. I absolutelylove it. Wonderful little roster that I
have. UM and it's it's likeand it's a lot of women, and
you know, it's like the message. I mean they're like, cay is
I'm up like five pounds. I'mlike all right, you know, like
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where's where's your period at? Andlike these are things we're going to talk
about because it's like and and butthat's the thing is like you're not doing
anything wrong. It's we have tolook at this and it's like, oh,
okay, Ken, it's you.You just took me, You made
me step back a little bit.And sometimes that just like you said,
just those little outside voices like tellingyou like I'm not doing anything wrong is
the glue that's gonna make this allsticked. Like it's it's huge and like
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I one of my favorite things whenI see a check in is like the
scale is up this week, ButI'm not worried. I'm like yes,
because it's it's that's not the endI'll be all, let's look at all
the other wins. It's not Andthat that goes back to what I said
before about the industry. It's it'salways a scale, scale, scale.
It's kind of been engraved, andmost people's mind is looking at that scale.
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I remember if if you're old enoughlistening to this, like in Pe
in school, there was scales there, You're always like, so that's kind
of just been around, but finallylearning to take a step back. And
I was skinny and got bigger,Like I wasn't bigger and got smaller.
I was skinny and got bigger,and I was trying to get to a
weight that I felt comfortable with,and it was just like, okay,
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just looking at the scale. Ididn't really fight with it, but subconsciously
when you would see and not realizethat, okay, well you had a
lot of sodium and then you havethis way to weight and then you're doing
these things. Once you learn thosethings, you're you're kind of like,
Okay, I'm up today because Ihad a B and C. I know
I'm not going to be that intwo days or or a day and a
half later. Right. It's it'sjust knowing and understanding your body and that
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relationship to me is something that Iwould cherish for the rest of my life.
And I that's what I want tohighlight here. I want members to
know that this is something that youcan take with you and have you love
yourself in whatever way that looks like, right, is, have you love
yourself and be comfortable and be happywith yourself so you can go out there
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and do whatever it is that you'reable and capable of doing. Yeah,
so that's huge, huge for me. So with that said, it's summertime,
all right, So as as acoach and me internally, we see
a lot of our members going onvacation taking trips all right. Now,
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specifically, I want to ask youa question when it comes to a topic
that never dies down. Alcohol.A lot is consumed during this time of
the year, beach trips, familybarbecues, some holidays, so on and
so forth. What is the advicethat you give your member. Let's just
(21:52):
say I'm your member to use anexample, I'm going to a family barbecue
this weekend. I know my familylike when they party, they like to
have some drinks, and I wantto indulge in it. But I don't
want to quote unquote burn the housedown. What would be your suggestion for
me as I prep towards this orwork towards that barbecue. So like,
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you know, let's look at thetime of day, so it's probably mid
day mid afternoon, give or takeright, So you have so many hours
prior to that that are one hundredand fifty percent in your control. That's
what people don't recognize. You areactually in control of everything that goes in
your mouth, unless you're my sevenmonth old that I'm giving peop little parade
too. So it's you are incontrol. And so that's when it's like,
(22:40):
look at our controllables. What areour controllables? Can we are if
we're into working out, like I'mnot going to force you to work out,
but if we're into that, maybehit the morning wad out across the
gym, or you know, goto any type business like your gym,
whatever you choose to do. You. I totally believe in finding an exercise
that works for you and then likea walk, get your steps in,
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hydrate. Okay, that's a bigone because when we get to those barbecues
and we get socializing and we kindof get going, what's one of the
first things that goes out the windowwater Like it's it's it's just not a
conversation. If you have Famier unionnext weekend and I actually plan on bringing
a cooler water because I never seeup at the family re union. Um,
and so it's like, okay,we can get we can control that.
(23:21):
What about that protein intake again,that m barbecue is probably not going
to be let's just say the mostnutritionist like like the most protein rich right,
um, if it's if it's abarbecue, like where what we have
here, it's probably be honestly thefattiest burgers and not the most best protein,
but they're really good, right becauselike that's that's another controllable, right,
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Like preload that protein in the morning, preload that activity in the morning,
and also that water. Talk abouthey, you know, maybe reach
out to your coach this. Iam wanting to go to barbecue. I
do want to indulge. What areyour thoughts? All right, Brandon?
You know where do you start feelinglike what's too much for you for me?
One or two? One drink andtwo and I'm done, Like we're
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done, Like it's the end ofdiscussion. But for other people that might
be three or four. It's likeyou can set a limit. It's probably
you need to recognize that it isgoing to take a hit on your macros.
So by heading, you know,getting ahead of it, having that
time, you know, in themorning, controlling every controllable possible, going
into it with the mentality of hey, I've set three drinks for this night,
(24:29):
I'm going to have those three drinksand that's it. Remembering that no,
thank you or just no is acomplete sentence. You do not own
anybody at justification. Pass that andthat's the biggest thing. But another one
that you know, I love islike are you going for the people?
Are you going for the alcohol?Like can you enjoy and be social with
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the alcohol and it just kind ofsip on a beer or are you,
you know, going to where youprobably feel like crap tomorrow morning. You
have to kind of So it's likebreaking it down, like what's important,
what's our yest moment, and thentaking that and making the game plan around
it. But that's when it's reallyimportant to kind of reach out to your
coach and work through it together.I think one of the key things I'm
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taking away from this, So Istarted to think about my my story and
my journey when you when you weresharing that, uh, and one of
the key things you said there forme was, uh, knowing what you're
going there for. You know,if you're are you going there to to
indulge on the drinks and the food? Are you going there to enjoy the
(25:32):
companionship of your family's friends and soon and so forth? Right, I
I can remember when I remember whensitting down and being at a barbecue,
because the barbecues I go to,our long lasting I'm talking about six to
eight hours, depending on where andwhen it is. Yeah, it's it's
a wild I wouldn't go. See, there's a there's a trick to it.
(25:55):
You don't go at the beginning rightwhen it happens. You gotta come,
you gotta find your sweets so youknow when to leave. And Yeah,
anyway, but I remember I usedto definitely indulge. And this is
I'm not ashamed to say this becauseI know where I am and what I
used to do. But definitely,if I was at one of those longer
barbecues and I brought a six pack, that would be gone, that would
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be gone. But now I'll sitthere and I'll have two to three at
max now understanding and knowing what Iwas doing then to myself. Also what
the aftermath lasts me two days nowadayswhere it's and I don't want that feeling,
(26:38):
right, So for me, it'sit's more it's and it's always has
been, but it's I guess it'sthe social pressures of being around people,
like we're continuously drinking and having fun. But fun comes in many forms and
shapes, and it doesn't mean youhave to be forced to drink. As
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you said, if you don't wantto do it, you don't have to
do it. If you want tohave one, you can have one.
If you want to have a builtin number, so you are still protecting
what you're trying to do and reachyour goals. Lovely, I that is
absolutely what I subscribe to. Afterlearning this and having a coach like you
share this with me and break itdown, like what what do you want
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to do? Right? Yeah?What do you want to get out of
this barbecue? You know it?Is it short term happiness or do you
want to like look at the bigpicture. Are you planning a vacation in
a week? We probably shouldn't indulgetoo much, just so we can kind
of have that fun in that vacationin a week. Like let's look at
your entire social calendar and break itdown. Another thing that we do.
So I don't like beer winds,okay, but hard ciders, oh,
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those are like, oh yes,Trader Joe's. You can't get a like
a six pack and you can mixit, mix a mash yep. So
something that we're known to do,even though with since we moved we don't
have a Trader was near us,would be to grab three of the kinds
that my husband liked and then thethree that I like, and then we
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brought it and we're completely in control. And nine times out of ten I
was leaving with one or two ofmine. But it's still just that concept
of being like, now I'm notsaying yes to something that's not worth the
calories, not worth it. LikeI don't know about you, but drinking
a crappy beer is still a crappybeer, Like yes, yes, it's
not worth it. Yeah, it'sit's that I'd much rather have drank something
(28:27):
that I liked and then go fromthere. Yeah, and then you now,
especially now for me drinking something thatI bring whatever I want to drink.
And to your point, I'm leavingwith what I want to leave with,
understanding that driving safely people and justmake sure we're clarifying that as well
too. But I'm I'm leaving withwhat I'm was satisfied with having. And
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like I said, it's it's twofor me. Really is max for me
because it's I feel okay, Iwanted to assume depending on what it is.
And then I still had a wonderfultime because the overall theme for me,
or the overall objective for me,is to enjoy the company of those
that I'm around, and that's mymain goal every single time. And what
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you did right there, you didn'tgive up any of that big word control.
You owned that, you walked in, you owned it. Nobody needs
to know that. You just youknow, just won that barbecue. Yeah,
but you know, and now whatmatters. Now everyone's gonna have that
barbecue. Differently, If if it'sme and my husband and we don't have
the kids, you know, it'slike, okay, well we're not babysitting
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the kids at the jumphouse, maybeit's a little more social. Yeah.
If it's you know, us andthe kids. It's like, yeah,
we don't even have time to takea drink, like we Aspen's probably jumping
off a roof somewhere. So it'syeah, oh that's two and a half
LITDLD tornado. Let me tell you, I pray for you parrots. I
absolutely do. I absolutely do.With that being said, we are going
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to get out of here, butbefore we do, I've been asking every
coach to share little words of encouragementor anything you'd like to share on the
way out. So I'm gonna takea step back. The floor is yours
to share. So yeah, Ithink for me, I think something that
people don't recognize, and I knowthis is kind of what you're trying to
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do, is humanize us as coachesand like recognize that when we see those
intake forms that you know, youguys look at those and you're like,
Okay, this is who this wouldgo along with and based off what you
know of us coaches. So abig thing for me is build those intake
forms out, like really really reallyreally take the time build them out.
Let people know what season of lifeyou're in. Everyone's in a different season.
(30:40):
You might be you know in afamily emergency season where it's like I
just need that accountability, or youmight be like I want to lose some
weight, Like really take time tofill that out with depth, because that's
going to help not only the NXDgive us to the right people, but
also us as coaches to be like, Okay, this would be my approach
to brand and it's not just macros, it's hey, we need to look
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at maybe there's maybe this would workbetter for Brandon, like allow the coach
to personalize it to you. Butwe can only do that with the information
that you give us. And Iguess, last, but not least,
you are completely in control of everythingthat goes in your mouth. So just
remember that you're going to eat anyways, So let's throw some protein in there.
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And if you're on my roster andyou're hearing this protein, I love
that. I absolutely love that,Kidis and I absolutely love this conversation.
And I appreciate you saying yes andtaking the time to share this with me
and spending time with you and learningmore about you is always a pleasure for
(31:48):
me. It's one of my hI'd say it's one of my biggest traits
or one of my biggest pleasures islearning about people and understanding people. And
I feel to the point of likeyou sharing your story. Just sitting there
and chatting with somebody for doesn't evenhave to be long. You can consume
so much that you probably would havenever thought or known because everybody is so
(32:12):
different and sees things from a differentlight. So thank you. I can
one hundred percent tell you that yourstory has encouraged me in ways that you
won't know that I won't share yet, but I will share with you in
due time. But I appreciate youfor taking the time today, and I
appreciate you, guys as an audience, for listening to another episode of the
(32:35):
Stronger You podcasts. And we willsee you guys next week. Bye bye,
Thank you.
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