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Speaker 1 (00:01):
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Speaker 2 (01:00):
Hey everyone, or welcome to Tarah Crazy. I'm Dorothy. This
is our beginner's series and they are were going to
look a little bit at cards and context. We'll come
back to individual cards as we go on through, but
reading isn't just about individual cards, and one of the
bigger issues is trying to read cards as if they
are a sole event. When you've laid out three or
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you've laid out more cards, there's a need to probably
understand that the relationships of the cards should build a
story that you understand. When you try to read them individually,
you end up either just making it up, and there's
a fair bit of that that goes on, but you
could also find yourself focusing on the one card that
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suits your agenda, your narrative that's going through your mind.
And so we've got a question here that is very
much you know, I recently have gone through a breakup
and I wanted some clarity on the situation. Now that
would be a reasonable query, except that's not what this
person wants at all, So be honest with yourself right
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at the outset. If you want clarity on a situation,
then you must know at the outset that you don't
understand the situation. So if you've gone through a breakup
and the other person says, you know, this isn't working
for me, I'm out of this. We say we're fighting,
things are going badly. You know that's what's been going on.
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You know, if you've been fighting, if you're discordant, So
you don't actually need clarity. This is what happened, the
behavioral interactions over a period of time, and there's not
enough feelings, there's not enough history, there's not enough experience
in the relationship to allow for volatile events, or there's
been too many volatile events, and the other person has
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decided to quit. She goes on to say, our breakup
was a mess, but I know he still loves me.
Are you just lying to yourself right there? I know
he's still loves me. Is a crop. It's just the
most ignorant thing a person can say. And before you
get all up and up and arms, if a person
tells you they don't want to be with you. They're
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ending the relationship. You know they don't love you. You
know that whatever feelings they've had in the past were
not enough to drive past the issues that they've had.
And if you've had conversations and arguments over a period
of time, they've decided you're not worth the effort. And
that's without any cards drawn. But it gets worse when
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we look at the cards. I can promise you that.
So we've got that. So stop kidding yourself, because as
soon as you're doing this sort of thing and you're
asking how another person feels, you're just making it up.
This is like, this is what I know. He loves
me is absolutely what you're going to try and read
into these cards. And I can promise you when I
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look at the car drawer, I'm like, I don't even
know where that comes from. So she's predetermined no matter
what he says to me, no matter what the card's saying,
no matter what my friends say, he loves me. There's
a determination in that that totally dismisses the other person.
It totally disrespects the other person. It totally disrespects their
wishes and their desires to end the relationship, and it
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can be delusional, which is something to really watch out
for because that level of delusion can go on for years.
And I've worked with people a year to two years
after a weekend event, a bit of fun over a weekend,
still waiting for that person to come around and getting
really upset if they meet somebody else and get married.
I have seen those numerous times, and you have to
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ask yourself, what sane person banks a couple of years
on a weekend after not seeing a person and they
haven't got in touch or they have exited the relationship
making how does somebody feel about you? A total croc?
And there's no other way to put that, really, what
are they thinking about you? Total crock? And I've got
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another thing about that. You may not want to know.
If she's talking about an ending that's a real mess.
He might be hating on her emotionally and mentally, and
she doesn't want to know that. You don't want to
know that. It doesn't help you to know that you
already know how that relationship ended. That's not the surprise,
it's not a secret, So just something to think about it.
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So she's drawn these cards, the three of Swords, So
I want you to just take a moment. If you've
got these cards, this is the right away deck. But
if you've got cards that are similar, pause the show,
pause the episode, get your cards out and hunt these
ones up, and then think about how you would feel
if you drew them. They're not going to be the same.
It's we're nuanced and chet GBT. Readings and books that
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are static and meanings when there's no real meaning, they
fail because nuance matters. You could draw these same cards
with a different type of query and you would I
would read it slightly differently, if not quite differently. The
cards meanings don't change, the nuance does. The emphasis changes,
and that's intuitive. It's intuitive response and its experience. So
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she's drawn the Three of Swords first, then the Night
of Ones, and then the nine of Cups. That should
be en upright, So you take a moment to think
about that. Then she's got I interpreted this as he's heartbroken.
I'm like, how do you even get that from there?
Because your heartbroken? It doesn't sound like he's heartbroken. It
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sounds like he did some heartbreaking. And that's where this
whole what is the feeling thing comes from, because she's
predetermined he loves her, then he must be heartbroken. It's
a predetermined reading. It's nothing, it's got no divination in it.
She also said he acted hastily but knows our relationship
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was like a wish come true. After saying that they
were having problems, After saying that it was a really
messy breakup, I would suggest that he had trouble extracting
himself from the relationship for a while and went mean
on her to try and get the message across. That's
my aura reading. Actually, that's how I'm looking at it.
And when I'm looking at these three cards, that doesn't
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change my thoughts there. Then she's one that's not enough though,
she's like, she goes, I'm very confused. Well, that's because
of the misinterpretation. Then she draws a second row, and
the question was whether there's any future to this? So
the second one is absolutely moot future to what. So
now you've got we've broken up, what's our future look like?
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The future? Could be reading the breakup right. It doesn't
mean that there is a future as a couple. It
just means your futures will go on, both of you
will go on. And so when we start putting in
our own agenda and our own narrative, and we start
making it up, we really are doing damage to ourselves.
And if you are posting this stuff on our social
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media site, there are plenty of people that would jump in.
I had a girl today that I responded to simply
because of what people were saying where she had a
partner I believe, who was seeing a therapist. And to me,
this is a terrible question. Oh they what did your therapist?
What did his therapists tell him to do about me?
Or tell him about me? And first, you're never going
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to get that from the carts. Second, death is privacy.
It's nothing to do with you, even if you're in
a relationship, even if you've been married twenty years. That
is a private personal thing. And most people go to
therapy for betterment, to understand things, not to just rag
and complain. That's what you do with your mates. So
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I pointed out to her, he may never have spoken
about you. If he's going to a therapist to understand himself,
to understand his life, why would you assume that he
would be talking about you. And if you're having problems
and he's just speaking to the therapist about it, then
you can probably assume that he's asking for solutions. What
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do I do about that's? How do I manage this?
What can I do? I do this? In readings, people
ask me about the best way to deal with issues
in their relationships all the time. It's not a rarity,
but it's still their privacy, right. So she's drawn from
there the Teen of Swords, this one, the Ten of Swords,
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the Hirephant, and the King of Cups. With the other
girl who was asking about her partner, boyfriend whatever, her
partner's therapist. She it was ale, normand charge, and she
got the tower in the middle after the heart, and
then she got the sun after that, I believe. And
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all of these people came into the chat and they said, oh,
the therapist has advised her to him to be distant
from you, to separate from you, to step away from you.
And there was one after the other of the other.
If you don't think that that plays on your mind
as you step away from there, you're crazy, I know,
does we all know? It does? What was that they
did in a look at Instagram about eight years ago,
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and they had a look at the psychology. They did
a study on the psychology of those using that platform,
and they found that of girls, younger women from fourteen
to twenty, within five to ten minutes of going on
to that platform, they felt worse about themselves than they
did before they went there. That's powerful stuff, mainly because
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they're looking at bodies, they're looking at selfies, and they're
comparing themselves to that. But also if they post a picture,
there's all of these trolls come flying on in and
on Reddit where this was. There's all of these arrogant
people who've just read there. They've gone and gurgled quickly,
this is what the tower means when it can really
not mean that at all, and it has other connotations.
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So here we come to that nuance. You can't have
this is what this card means? What about the heart? Then?
So I interpreted that as she may not be ready
to understand what their emotional connection is, if she can't
allow him his autonomy and his private communication with an
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expert to stand without you trying to delve into it,
really interesting stuff. If she came to me as a
clearvoyant or a reader and that same question, I would
start with, it's not really your business, that's his private stuff.
I'm not going there that's just ethically wrong. Reading other
people isn't. But there's a line. There's got to be
a line. So when we come back to this messy
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breakup and he's heartbroken and he's acted hastily and he
wishes he didn't, she's got all of that from one
card here, Well, she's ignored the Three of Swords as
if it didn't happen. He's heartbroken. Nobody feels good about
breaking up with somebody, and if it was messy and painful,
that doesn't mean they want them back. And if you've
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ever broken up with anybody, think back to a time
where you've thought, you know what, this is painful and
not enjoying it, but it's for the best. This is
what the three cards, the Three of Swords, the Knight
of Ones, and the nine of Cups to me, they
indicate he's happy with his choice. The niner Cups boom,
I'm comfortable with what I've done. I'm perfectly content with
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what I've chosen to do. The Night of Wands is
very much. I'm out of here. I'm gone, I'm doing it.
I'm not even gonna look back. It's one of those cards.
They're the knaves, the knights. They don't really dully around.
And the three of Swords was possibly that there was
more pain in the relationship, then there will be out
of it if it was awkward or difficult. But that
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night and that three of swords together in this context
suggests to me because the Knight is facing towards the
three of Swords, that suggests to me that he has
tried to exit this relationship before and the messiness is
maybe her trying to hang on to it. Then we
go to that second layer where she goes about the future. Firstly,
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there is no future with those three cards, so that
makes the next three totally And I think it's important
to understand cards. Cards just said, Nope, stupid question, not
going there. You're not asking a question that is divination.
It can't be divination if there's no future. You understand that,
or the question you're asking, the intention you're asking has
absolutely no merit. But here we have the first card
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is the ten of Swords, but we're not going to
stop there. We go to the higher funt. What's the hirophont.
The hirophant will take charge over anybody else with wisdom
and knowledge, and then we've got the King of Cups
who walks on by and never looks back again. That king.
If I'm not happy with something, I'm out of here.
And he's not necessarily angry about that. He's just going
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to look at this and say, I like pretty things,
I like an enjoyable life. I'm not having fun right now,
say and see you later. That King of Cups with
the hirophant says, I know this is the best thing
for me. And he's sitting right underneath that nine of Cups.
So now we've got this little triad, this bottom corner
of the six card spread saying this is foundational. I'm
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the King of Cups and I'm going to move on
with my life and I'm not going to be too
worried about how you feel about that. And with that
horrifant and the tin of swords there, there's possibly an
understanding that she has made it harder for him and
pushed him to a point where he has acted out
of accordance and not in line with the kind of
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guy he is. He may have tried to be nice
about it. He might have tried to be gentle. She
might have shut him down until he just had to
yell it out loud. All of those are in these cards,
by the way, because she started with house he feeling,
which never going to get that. But this is where
he's at. So where is a person at? What is
their status? Is not how they're feeling. This is how
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they're behaving, This is what they're going to do. This
is what they're going to continue doing. And when you
look at it from that perspective, it's easier to say, well,
I don't like it. I really like the guy, but
I'm going to have to just set that aside and
deal with my grief. So when we move into delusion,
I know he loves me. It's such a shocking thing
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for somebody to say when somebody else has gone enough.
It's a shocking thing to completely dismiss another person and say, well,
I love you, but I don't care what you say.
Think about that just for a second. I don't think
that you know what you're doing. I don't think you
know what you believe. I don't think you have any
common sense whatsoever. I just refuse to believe you. All
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of those things are a non starter. And when you
have that attitude and you're pre determining an outcome for
a reading, you can never read these properly. I'd just
stopped at the Three of Swords, to be honest, and
once I got to the Night of Ones, and I've gone, Oh,
that Night of Ones. He's writing towards that Three of Swords.
If I have to hurt you, I will hurt you.
I might not like it, but I will do it
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if that's what I need. To extricate myself from the situation.
Because I'm the Night of Ones and I'm action man,
and that's the Night of One's full of action. I
don't have to worry about tomorrow. I just have to
worry about getting where I'm going today. Consequences be damned,
and I'm happy with that. We've come back to the end.
It should build a story. We've got three cards. It
should build a story. You're not reading the Three of
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Swords and the Night of Ones and the Niner Cups separately,
which a lot of learners and novices are doing. You're
reading them as a story. How do they fit together?
How do they work together? And it's not a pretty story.
Based on the fact that it's his status where he's at,
then we are looking at, well, he's going to hold
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his ground and he's just going to keep going, and
if I keep pushing, I'm going to keep getting hurt
because he's not too worried about hurting me anymore. He's
more interested in getting to the position or the status
that he's aiming for, which is I want to be
single and I want to move on with my life.
So when you read your cards with these predetermined ideas,
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you need to be able to read a story and
puzzle it out. That's what I love the most about
the tarot. As you're looking at them, you're inturiting. I'm
seeing or I'm doing all sorts of other things too.
But you look in the mine, you're insuriting, and you think,
of my heart, what's the story here? What's these three
cards as a single drawer? What is the story they're
telling me? Because it's got to have flow rate, I'm
seeing the Night of Ones as central to it. I'm
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just gonna just pull out my lance and I'm gonna
stab at anybody who's walking towards me. And that's the
only way i can get out of here. It's a card.
I'm into the action of it all, but I'm stopping
for no one. That's your Night of Ones. I'm stopping
for no one, and I know exactly what I'm doing,
and again we're aiming at that three of swords. There
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may be pain involved, but pain does not mean I
want to be back with you. It's hurtful and difficult
and challenging, but where a person's been experiencing those difficulties
for a while, it's not worse than that. For them.
It's a bit like you know, they talk about hip
surgeries and knee surgeries for older people, and they race
off and they get these surgeries and they get It's
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amazing how quickly they bounce back. My answer to that
is because they're in pain, so much pain before. The
pain they've got now is a fraction of what it was,
so in their mind and in their body, they feel
two hundred percent better. So they get up, they get charged,
and they carry on. That's some vast majority. You just
watch it. You see it all the time, and there's
barely any recovery because they may have spent years experiencing
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discord and pain and discomfort. Whether it's mental or emotional,
or physical, or a combination of all of those, it's
the same thing. And what have we got there? We've
got relief with that niner cups. I'm relieved. I can
sit down, I can relax, and I can just enjoy
my life being who I am straight under him, that
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king of cups in that position, and being under him
suggests I've done the wise thing. The Hierphint, by the way,
is not a priest, so it's a shame that they've
put that depiction there. The hierphint is a word based
on a character from the mystical rituals or the mystic
rituals from ancient Greece. And nobody's really sure about what
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went on, but when it did go on, they would
elevate a person who was an older man who had
no family anymore. Doesn't mean he didn't, who was living
a good life. That means he was being honorable, He
wasn't being a rat bag, and so he was living
that good life, and he had the wisdom of age,
and so they would elevate him above the priests, above
the priestess, above anybody, no matter how much money they
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had or whatever. The high event was above all of them,
and he started the ceremonies. He could kick anybody out,
he could refuse anybody entry, he could hold everything in
a moment to alter behaviors, and when you think about it,
that's a powerful space to be in. But he's not
the Emperor, he's not a nasty thing. He's wise. He's
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a wise man. He's a wise old person. He's a
wise person who deeply understands what needs to be done.
And he's central and under the Night of Ones. So
we're looking at a foundation energy now, and we can
read so cross referencing. It's one of my favorite things
when you're reading the cards, if you can cross reference
and you can read them in their pearings and understand
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that grouping doesn't matter. If she's asked two different questions,
it doesn't matter if they've got positions. These are the cards.
And so we've got this underlining underpinning. He's below the
Night of Ones. I mean, the Knight of Ones absolutely
knows he's done the best thing for him, even if
it's hurtful for the other person. And so that's sitting
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right beside the Teen of Swords. And again it's a
bit unfortunate if you've got the right away jet. They
make this look really awful. But the Teen of Swords
is a final, a final ending. It's a final moment.
That's not necessarily negative. If you're having a horrible time
with somebody and ending is a relief. We come back
to that word relief, right. You see it with people
who have suffered a long term chronic illness actually where
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once they pass away, once they die, there's a relief
in the family, and then there's guilt for feeling relieved.
But the person quite often will get to a point
where they decide, I don't want to be here anymore.
I'm over it. That's your chain of swords. There can
be the end of a terrible time. It could be
financial distress going on for Asies and Asianes, and you
work diligently, you get to the point where you've paid
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the car of you've sorted out the problems, and you're
finally it's a final ending to that period of time.
And that's a very positive thing. So we can't read
any card it's positive or negative. The imagery and this
deck is to titivate people, it's to scare them. That
was part of the purpose. In eighteen hundreds. Of late
eighteen hundreds, occultism was massively popular. Alistair Crowley went out
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of his way to look like he was evil. He
would underlight his fat face and it was fat so
he could see his gels and it was very dark.
And you know, if it's one of those things that's
supposed to look scary because people were enjoying being scared.
They couldn't go to a horror movie. They couldn't go
to a fund rise to freak themselves out like we
can today. But it's the same mentality. They were looking
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to be scared, they were looking to be to debate it.
They were looking to have that ea giness and what
might otherwise be a boring life. Because these weren't poor people.
These were the rich people. Women didn't work, they had
loads of money, and they sat around all day doing
not much. And so we've got this dynamic in these
cards that isn't really reflective of the whole thing. And
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I would like to say true that when these cards
were designed, they were designed for readers. That Arthur Waite
was very clear in his book, I really want people
to understand the symbology of this card. And so today
we're in a situation whe people are running around getting
a meaning and totally ignoring the symbology. So if I
look at the ten swords and the dark sky, and
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I look at the body lying prone, face down right.
As a final ending, you could be exhausted. It's time,
you know. That's the relief part, isn't it. You know,
if you have a terrible relationship and it ends, there's
your exaus. I'm over it. I just want it to stop.
I want it to end. And when it's a negative
circumstance for quite a while, the ending becomes a positive,
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wonderful thing as it frees you up to move on,
to do something different, to have something new. It may
just free up your days, It may just free up
your emotions. You may just wake up feeling good because
you don't have to deal with that person anymore, whether
they're at work, whether it's a relationship, or whatever that
might be. That's all l Ten of Swords, The Ten
of Swords, Like all the swords they cut to the chase.
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It's not emotional, it's intellectual. It's a sword mentally. Where
are you at when bad things end? And does that
leave you open to good things? So it's just finality.
It's not even always an ending. You could have an
argument with somebody for six months and it could be
getting out of hand, and then finally you sit down
and have that really good talk to them and you
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put that behind you. Finally see that word, Finally, I've
put that behind us. We've put that behind us, and
now we can on. We're happier couple. We've delved into
our bonding. We understand each other better, and that's great stuff, right,
Ten of Sorts still the ten of sorts. We can
think our way through a problem, even if the problem
is emotional. In fact, when we don't think our way
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through a problem, we have a bigger problem because we
stay emotional. And while we're emotional, we're not thinking. We're
not clear, we're not got clarity, and we start applying
our own story to events, no matter how obvious they are.
Sometimes another person can walk up and say, I don't
understand how you don't see this because it's obvious to
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everybody else, and most of us have lived that at
some point or other, And that's emotionalism overriding common sense,
overriding the intellect. In the past, I can remember many times,
but in particular, this girl coming for her third reading
over a couple of years, and she turned around and
she said to me, O methos, guy and then her
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next words were, they know he's wrong for me, but
I want to know where that's going to go. And
my first thought was to her, as I said, the
last time you came to me for a relationship reading,
you'd been with a man for four years and it
was going wrong, and she said yep. I said, do
you think he was a good guy? And she said, yeah,
we just sort of went apart. It wasn't horrible, but yeah,
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we just sort of fell apart. And said, well, you've
been seeing this guy for six weeks and you're already here,
and you never asked me about that other one until
you came to an ending. So that tells me there's
other parts in this new once that tells me that
she already knows it's not going to go Well. Then
she comes back about four weeks later and she says, oh,
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I've just discovered he's living with his ex. She's pregnant
with his baby. But they're not having sex, and they're
not doing this, and they're not doing that. Now we're delusional.
He's living with a person. That means it can't be
an ex, right, an ex is somebody you no longer
live with. And she's pregnant to have a baby. So
now he's letting her know just enough so he can say, oh, look,
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I told you. Then she came back about another eight weeks,
maybe nine weeks later, and she said, oh, this is
getting really hard. Now we meet in some really strange places.
I said, just admit you're the other woman, and then
do you want to be that? And go from there.
So the point that I'm making here is that the
narrative is our own. The cards are not answering your questions,
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they're not consciousness. So if you're going to read for yourself,
you need to be scrupulously honest with yourself. You need
to be really truthful before you even start asking a question.
If you know that your relationship has broken down and
you say, I just want some clarity, but I know
he loves me, I already know you're in the wrong zone,
especially if you want to get a good, clean reading.
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But more importantly, still even more important to that is
you could lead yourself on an emotional rollercoaster ride. I
had a client would have been early this year January.
She had been six months or was it nine months?
Might have been nine months, Being taken for a walk
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with psychics and terror readers paying for them. She was
very good at that. She came in and she said,
I've seen your posts, I've had a look at your website.
I believe you'll tell me the truth. And I just said, hey,
this is going nowhere. It's done, it's over. It was over.
As soon as it was over, there was no lagging
beyond that, and she started to cry. It was a
live session, online video call, and she started to cry,
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and it gave her a few moments and I said,
does that actually surprise you? And she said no, but
I was so wanting it that these psychics all told
me he'll come around. Give them some time, he'll come around.
It'll get better. And so she would go from I'm
frustrated and grieving to hopeful, and then she'd be hopeful
for a month and then she'd pay another psychic or
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another terror reader. And she did this for up to
nine months, and we ended that cycle. She got back
in touch with me probably about four weeks later, not
for another reading. She just got in touch and said, look,
I just feel so much better. I feel like I
literally tuned a corner like it's magic. And of course
it was because she was holding into something that inside
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herself she knew the truth of it, and that if
somebody really loves you, and if somebody really wants to
be this sort of relationship advice now, sir about that.
But if they really love you, if they really want
to be with you, even if they don't love you yet,
if they care for you, if they want to spend
time with you, they will not break up with you,
and they will let you know. And when you understand
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that that if somebody says I'm over, we're out of here.
It's quite common in a longer relationship to touch base
and maybe have a weekend together just to be sure,
which is really all it is. But the vast majority
of endings, especially if they're earlier in a relationship, stay ended.
And the word missy you she means somebody's not letting
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it go. The other person might be quite happy to
take advantage of that intimacy that they can't be bothered
going out and finding and working for So take that
to the bank, and then when you do, Terry reading's
on a relationship that's broken down, maybe a better question
isn't about the other person, but it's about how you navigate.
How can I navigate healing here, How can I navigate
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moving forward? Because I'll tell you something else. Sets of interest.
Say you do move on and you're having a good time.
You're going out with your friends just to go out
with your friends, you're spending time with people you care about,
and you're enjoying life. Oh, you might miss the X
a little bit, but you know your life's fine because
you've accepted that they're not in your life anymore. You
might have the odd cry here and there once a week,
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or when you're feeling a bit lonely at bedtime, usually
when you're feeling lonely, and so you carry on. And
a year goes by and you might have met another person.
You're having a really nice life, and then this person
calls you up and says, you know what, I think
I'm not over you. I find myself thinking about you
all the time. I'd like to explore getting back together. Now.
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At that moment, you might have met somebody else and think,
you know what, haha, Nope, not interested. Or you might think, well,
I wouldn't mind having a look at that, but I
need to know that something's changed, or that you want
commitment or whatever it is that we didn't succeed with
last time, isn't going to come and be the same
problem in a couple of months after we've got over
being all loved ark. Why I say this is that
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if you carry on with your life, and if you
let that go, and if you accept it and you
do the grieving, and that person genuinely has feelings for you,
like genuine feelings that they want to deepen, they want
to bond, they will come around again. You don't have
to wait for them. You don't you have to lie
they're crying in bed. You don't have to wait at all.
You carry on your life. You be the best person
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you can be, and you enjoy your life, and you'll
be a lot happier. And then when they do, or
if they do come around at some point in the future,
you'll also be stable emotionally. And you may look at
them with or without a boyfriend or a girlfriend in
your life and just go, you know what, I'm not
sure what I saw in them. I'm okay without them, Dorothy,
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this is terror crazy the Beginners Beginner series shouting out,
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Hey everyone, or welcome to Tarah Crazy. I'm Dorothy. This
is our beginner's series and they are were going to
look a little bit at cards and context. We'll come
back to individual cards as we go on through, but
reading isn't just about individual cards, and one of the
bigger issues is trying to read cards as if they
are a sole event. When you've laid out three or
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you've laid out more cards, there's a need to probably
understand that the relationships of the cards should build a
story that you understand. When you try to read them individually,
you end up either just making it up, and there's
a fair bit of that that goes on, but you
could also find yourself focusing on the one card that
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suits your agenda, your narrative that's going through your mind.
And so we've got a question here that is very
much you know, I recently have gone through a breakup
and I wanted some clarity on the situation. Now that
would be a reasonable query, except that's not what this
person wants at all, So be honest with yourself right
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at the outset. If you want clarity on a situation,
then you must know at the outset that you don't
understand the situation. So if you've gone through a breakup
and the other person says, you know, this isn't working
for me, I'm out of this. We say we're fighting,
things are going badly. You know that's what's been going on.
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You know, if you've been fighting, if you're discordant, So
you don't actually need clarity. This is what happened, the
behavioral interactions over a period of time, and there's not
enough feelings, there's not enough history, there's not enough experience
in the relationship to allow for volatile events, or there's
been too many volatile events, and the other person has
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decided to quit. She goes on to say, our breakup
was a mess, but I know he still loves me.
Are you just lying to yourself right there? I know
he's still loves me. Is a crop. It's just the
most ignorant thing a person can say. And before you
get all up and up and arms, if a person
tells you they don't want to be with you. They're
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ending the relationship. You know they don't love you. You
know that whatever feelings they've had in the past were
not enough to drive past the issues that they've had.
And if you've had conversations and arguments over a period
of time, they've decided you're not worth the effort. And
that's without any cards drawn. But it gets worse when
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we look at the cards. I can promise you that.
So we've got that. So stop kidding yourself, because as
soon as you're doing this sort of thing and you're
asking how another person feels, you're just making it up.
This is like, this is what I know. He loves
me is absolutely what you're going to try and read
into these cards. And I can promise you when I
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look at the car drawer, I'm like, I don't even
know where that comes from. So she's predetermined no matter
what he says to me, no matter what the card's saying,
no matter what my friends say, he loves me. There's
a determination in that that totally dismisses the other person.
It totally disrespects the other person. It totally disrespects their
wishes and their desires to end the relationship, and it
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can be delusional, which is something to really watch out
for because that level of delusion can go on for years.
And I've worked with people a year to two years
after a weekend event, a bit of fun over a weekend,
still waiting for that person to come around and getting
really upset if they meet somebody else and get married.
I have seen those numerous times, and you have to
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ask yourself, what sane person banks a couple of years
on a weekend after not seeing a person and they
haven't got in touch or they have exited the relationship
making how does somebody feel about you? A total croc?
And there's no other way to put that, really, what
are they thinking about you? Total crock? And I've got
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another thing about that. You may not want to know.
If she's talking about an ending that's a real mess.
He might be hating on her emotionally and mentally, and
she doesn't want to know that. You don't want to
know that. It doesn't help you to know that you
already know how that relationship ended. That's not the surprise,
it's not a secret, So just something to think about it.
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So she's drawn these cards, the three of Swords, So
I want you to just take a moment. If you've
got these cards, this is the right away deck. But
if you've got cards that are similar, pause the show,
pause the episode, get your cards out and hunt these
ones up, and then think about how you would feel
if you drew them. They're not going to be the same.
It's we're nuanced and chet GBT. Readings and books that
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are static and meanings when there's no real meaning, they
fail because nuance matters. You could draw these same cards
with a different type of query and you would I
would read it slightly differently, if not quite differently. The
cards meanings don't change, the nuance does. The emphasis changes,
and that's intuitive. It's intuitive response and its experience. So
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she's drawn the Three of Swords first, then the Night
of Ones, and then the nine of Cups. That should
be en upright, So you take a moment to think
about that. Then she's got I interpreted this as he's heartbroken.
I'm like, how do you even get that from there?
Because your heartbroken? It doesn't sound like he's heartbroken. It
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sounds like he did some heartbreaking. And that's where this
whole what is the feeling thing comes from, because she's
predetermined he loves her, then he must be heartbroken. It's
a predetermined reading. It's nothing, it's got no divination in it.
She also said he acted hastily but knows our relationship
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was like a wish come true. After saying that they
were having problems, After saying that it was a really
messy breakup, I would suggest that he had trouble extracting
himself from the relationship for a while and went mean
on her to try and get the message across. That's
my aura reading. Actually, that's how I'm looking at it.
And when I'm looking at these three cards, that doesn't
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change my thoughts there. Then she's one that's not enough though,
she's like, she goes, I'm very confused. Well, that's because
of the misinterpretation. Then she draws a second row, and
the question was whether there's any future to this? So
the second one is absolutely moot future to what. So
now you've got we've broken up, what's our future look like?
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The future? Could be reading the breakup right. It doesn't
mean that there is a future as a couple. It
just means your futures will go on, both of you
will go on. And so when we start putting in
our own agenda and our own narrative, and we start
making it up, we really are doing damage to ourselves.
And if you are posting this stuff on our social
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media site, there are plenty of people that would jump in.
I had a girl today that I responded to simply
because of what people were saying where she had a
partner I believe, who was seeing a therapist. And to me,
this is a terrible question. Oh they what did your therapist?
What did his therapists tell him to do about me?
Or tell him about me? And first, you're never going
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to get that from the carts. Second, death is privacy.
It's nothing to do with you, even if you're in
a relationship, even if you've been married twenty years. That
is a private personal thing. And most people go to
therapy for betterment, to understand things, not to just rag
and complain. That's what you do with your mates. So
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I pointed out to her, he may never have spoken
about you. If he's going to a therapist to understand himself,
to understand his life, why would you assume that he
would be talking about you. And if you're having problems
and he's just speaking to the therapist about it, then
you can probably assume that he's asking for solutions. What
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do I do about that's? How do I manage this?
What can I do? I do this? In readings, people
ask me about the best way to deal with issues
in their relationships all the time. It's not a rarity,
but it's still their privacy, right. So she's drawn from
there the Teen of Swords, this one, the Ten of Swords,
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the Hirephant, and the King of Cups. With the other
girl who was asking about her partner, boyfriend whatever, her
partner's therapist. She it was ale, normand charge, and she
got the tower in the middle after the heart, and
then she got the sun after that, I believe. And
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all of these people came into the chat and they said, oh,
the therapist has advised her to him to be distant
from you, to separate from you, to step away from you.
And there was one after the other of the other.
If you don't think that that plays on your mind
as you step away from there, you're crazy, I know,
does we all know? It does? What was that they
did in a look at Instagram about eight years ago,
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and they had a look at the psychology. They did
a study on the psychology of those using that platform,
and they found that of girls, younger women from fourteen
to twenty, within five to ten minutes of going on
to that platform, they felt worse about themselves than they
did before they went there. That's powerful stuff, mainly because
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they're looking at bodies, they're looking at selfies, and they're
comparing themselves to that. But also if they post a picture,
there's all of these trolls come flying on in and
on Reddit where this was. There's all of these arrogant
people who've just read there. They've gone and gurgled quickly,
this is what the tower means when it can really
not mean that at all, and it has other connotations.
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So here we come to that nuance. You can't have
this is what this card means? What about the heart? Then?
So I interpreted that as she may not be ready
to understand what their emotional connection is, if she can't
allow him his autonomy and his private communication with an
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expert to stand without you trying to delve into it,
really interesting stuff. If she came to me as a
clearvoyant or a reader and that same question, I would
start with, it's not really your business, that's his private stuff.
I'm not going there that's just ethically wrong. Reading other
people isn't. But there's a line. There's got to be
a line. So when we come back to this messy
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breakup and he's heartbroken and he's acted hastily and he
wishes he didn't, she's got all of that from one
card here, Well, she's ignored the Three of Swords as
if it didn't happen. He's heartbroken. Nobody feels good about
breaking up with somebody, and if it was messy and painful,
that doesn't mean they want them back. And if you've
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ever broken up with anybody, think back to a time
where you've thought, you know what, this is painful and
not enjoying it, but it's for the best. This is
what the three cards, the Three of Swords, the Knight
of Ones, and the nine of Cups to me, they
indicate he's happy with his choice. The niner Cups boom,
I'm comfortable with what I've done. I'm perfectly content with
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what I've chosen to do. The Night of Wands is
very much. I'm out of here. I'm gone, I'm doing it.
I'm not even gonna look back. It's one of those cards.
They're the knaves, the knights. They don't really dully around.
And the three of Swords was possibly that there was
more pain in the relationship, then there will be out
of it if it was awkward or difficult. But that
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night and that three of swords together in this context
suggests to me because the Knight is facing towards the
three of Swords, that suggests to me that he has
tried to exit this relationship before and the messiness is
maybe her trying to hang on to it. Then we
go to that second layer where she goes about the future. Firstly,
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there is no future with those three cards, so that
makes the next three totally And I think it's important
to understand cards. Cards just said, Nope, stupid question, not
going there. You're not asking a question that is divination.
It can't be divination if there's no future. You understand that,
or the question you're asking, the intention you're asking has
absolutely no merit. But here we have the first card
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is the ten of Swords, but we're not going to
stop there. We go to the higher funt. What's the hirophont.
The hirophant will take charge over anybody else with wisdom
and knowledge, and then we've got the King of Cups
who walks on by and never looks back again. That king.
If I'm not happy with something, I'm out of here.
And he's not necessarily angry about that. He's just going
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to look at this and say, I like pretty things,
I like an enjoyable life. I'm not having fun right now,
say and see you later. That King of Cups with
the hirophant says, I know this is the best thing
for me. And he's sitting right underneath that nine of Cups.
So now we've got this little triad, this bottom corner
of the six card spread saying this is foundational. I'm
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the King of Cups and I'm going to move on
with my life and I'm not going to be too
worried about how you feel about that. And with that
horrifant and the tin of swords there, there's possibly an
understanding that she has made it harder for him and
pushed him to a point where he has acted out
of accordance and not in line with the kind of
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guy he is. He may have tried to be nice
about it. He might have tried to be gentle. She
might have shut him down until he just had to
yell it out loud. All of those are in these cards,
by the way, because she started with house he feeling,
which never going to get that. But this is where
he's at. So where is a person at? What is
their status? Is not how they're feeling. This is how
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they're behaving, This is what they're going to do. This
is what they're going to continue doing. And when you
look at it from that perspective, it's easier to say, well,
I don't like it. I really like the guy, but
I'm going to have to just set that aside and
deal with my grief. So when we move into delusion,
I know he loves me. It's such a shocking thing
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for somebody to say when somebody else has gone enough.
It's a shocking thing to completely dismiss another person and say, well,
I love you, but I don't care what you say.
Think about that just for a second. I don't think
that you know what you're doing. I don't think you
know what you believe. I don't think you have any
common sense whatsoever. I just refuse to believe you. All
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of those things are a non starter. And when you
have that attitude and you're pre determining an outcome for
a reading, you can never read these properly. I'd just
stopped at the Three of Swords, to be honest, and
once I got to the Night of Ones, and I've gone, Oh,
that Night of Ones. He's writing towards that Three of Swords.
If I have to hurt you, I will hurt you.
I might not like it, but I will do it
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if that's what I need. To extricate myself from the situation.
Because I'm the Night of Ones and I'm action man,
and that's the Night of One's full of action. I
don't have to worry about tomorrow. I just have to
worry about getting where I'm going today. Consequences be damned,
and I'm happy with that. We've come back to the end.
It should build a story. We've got three cards. It
should build a story. You're not reading the Three of
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Swords and the Night of Ones and the Niner Cups separately,
which a lot of learners and novices are doing. You're
reading them as a story. How do they fit together?
How do they work together? And it's not a pretty story.
Based on the fact that it's his status where he's at,
then we are looking at, well, he's going to hold
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his ground and he's just going to keep going, and
if I keep pushing, I'm going to keep getting hurt
because he's not too worried about hurting me anymore. He's
more interested in getting to the position or the status
that he's aiming for, which is I want to be
single and I want to move on with my life.
So when you read your cards with these predetermined ideas,
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you need to be able to read a story and
puzzle it out. That's what I love the most about
the tarot. As you're looking at them, you're inturiting. I'm
seeing or I'm doing all sorts of other things too.
But you look in the mine, you're insuriting, and you think,
of my heart, what's the story here? What's these three
cards as a single drawer? What is the story they're
telling me? Because it's got to have flow rate, I'm
seeing the Night of Ones as central to it. I'm
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just gonna just pull out my lance and I'm gonna
stab at anybody who's walking towards me. And that's the
only way i can get out of here. It's a card.
I'm into the action of it all, but I'm stopping
for no one. That's your Night of Ones. I'm stopping
for no one, and I know exactly what I'm doing,
and again we're aiming at that three of swords. There
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may be pain involved, but pain does not mean I
want to be back with you. It's hurtful and difficult
and challenging, but where a person's been experiencing those difficulties
for a while, it's not worse than that. For them.
It's a bit like you know, they talk about hip
surgeries and knee surgeries for older people, and they race
off and they get these surgeries and they get It's
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amazing how quickly they bounce back. My answer to that
is because they're in pain, so much pain before. The
pain they've got now is a fraction of what it was,
so in their mind and in their body, they feel
two hundred percent better. So they get up, they get charged,
and they carry on. That's some vast majority. You just
watch it. You see it all the time, and there's
barely any recovery because they may have spent years experiencing
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discord and pain and discomfort. Whether it's mental or emotional,
or physical, or a combination of all of those, it's
the same thing. And what have we got there? We've
got relief with that niner cups. I'm relieved. I can
sit down, I can relax, and I can just enjoy
my life being who I am straight under him, that
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king of cups in that position, and being under him
suggests I've done the wise thing. The Hierphint, by the way,
is not a priest, so it's a shame that they've
put that depiction there. The hierphint is a word based
on a character from the mystical rituals or the mystic
rituals from ancient Greece. And nobody's really sure about what
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went on, but when it did go on, they would
elevate a person who was an older man who had
no family anymore. Doesn't mean he didn't, who was living
a good life. That means he was being honorable, He
wasn't being a rat bag, and so he was living
that good life, and he had the wisdom of age,
and so they would elevate him above the priests, above
the priestess, above anybody, no matter how much money they
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had or whatever. The high event was above all of them,
and he started the ceremonies. He could kick anybody out,
he could refuse anybody entry, he could hold everything in
a moment to alter behaviors, and when you think about it,
that's a powerful space to be in. But he's not
the Emperor, he's not a nasty thing. He's wise. He's
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a wise man. He's a wise old person. He's a
wise person who deeply understands what needs to be done.
And he's central and under the Night of Ones. So
we're looking at a foundation energy now, and we can
read so cross referencing. It's one of my favorite things
when you're reading the cards, if you can cross reference
and you can read them in their pearings and understand
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that grouping doesn't matter. If she's asked two different questions,
it doesn't matter if they've got positions. These are the cards.
And so we've got this underlining underpinning. He's below the
Night of Ones. I mean, the Knight of Ones absolutely
knows he's done the best thing for him, even if
it's hurtful for the other person. And so that's sitting
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right beside the Teen of Swords. And again it's a
bit unfortunate if you've got the right away jet. They
make this look really awful. But the Teen of Swords
is a final, a final ending. It's a final moment.
That's not necessarily negative. If you're having a horrible time
with somebody and ending is a relief. We come back
to that word relief, right. You see it with people
who have suffered a long term chronic illness actually where
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once they pass away, once they die, there's a relief
in the family, and then there's guilt for feeling relieved.
But the person quite often will get to a point
where they decide, I don't want to be here anymore.
I'm over it. That's your chain of swords. There can
be the end of a terrible time. It could be
financial distress going on for Asies and Asianes, and you
work diligently, you get to the point where you've paid
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the car of you've sorted out the problems, and you're
finally it's a final ending to that period of time.
And that's a very positive thing. So we can't read
any card it's positive or negative. The imagery and this
deck is to titivate people, it's to scare them. That
was part of the purpose. In eighteen hundreds. Of late
eighteen hundreds, occultism was massively popular. Alistair Crowley went out
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of his way to look like he was evil. He
would underlight his fat face and it was fat so
he could see his gels and it was very dark.
And you know, if it's one of those things that's
supposed to look scary because people were enjoying being scared.
They couldn't go to a horror movie. They couldn't go
to a fund rise to freak themselves out like we
can today. But it's the same mentality. They were looking
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to be scared, they were looking to be to debate it.
They were looking to have that ea giness and what
might otherwise be a boring life. Because these weren't poor people.
These were the rich people. Women didn't work, they had
loads of money, and they sat around all day doing
not much. And so we've got this dynamic in these
cards that isn't really reflective of the whole thing. And
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I would like to say true that when these cards
were designed, they were designed for readers. That Arthur Waite
was very clear in his book, I really want people
to understand the symbology of this card. And so today
we're in a situation whe people are running around getting
a meaning and totally ignoring the symbology. So if I
look at the ten swords and the dark sky, and
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I look at the body lying prone, face down right.
As a final ending, you could be exhausted. It's time,
you know. That's the relief part, isn't it. You know,
if you have a terrible relationship and it ends, there's
your exaus. I'm over it. I just want it to stop.
I want it to end. And when it's a negative
circumstance for quite a while, the ending becomes a positive,
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wonderful thing as it frees you up to move on,
to do something different, to have something new. It may
just free up your days, It may just free up
your emotions. You may just wake up feeling good because
you don't have to deal with that person anymore, whether
they're at work, whether it's a relationship, or whatever that
might be. That's all l Ten of Swords, The Ten
of Swords, Like all the swords they cut to the chase.
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It's not emotional, it's intellectual. It's a sword mentally. Where
are you at when bad things end? And does that
leave you open to good things? So it's just finality.
It's not even always an ending. You could have an
argument with somebody for six months and it could be
getting out of hand, and then finally you sit down
and have that really good talk to them and you
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put that behind you. Finally see that word, Finally, I've
put that behind us. We've put that behind us, and
now we can on. We're happier couple. We've delved into
our bonding. We understand each other better, and that's great stuff, right,
Ten of Sorts still the ten of sorts. We can
think our way through a problem, even if the problem
is emotional. In fact, when we don't think our way
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through a problem, we have a bigger problem because we
stay emotional. And while we're emotional, we're not thinking. We're
not clear, we're not got clarity, and we start applying
our own story to events, no matter how obvious they are.
Sometimes another person can walk up and say, I don't
understand how you don't see this because it's obvious to
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everybody else, and most of us have lived that at
some point or other, And that's emotionalism overriding common sense,
overriding the intellect. In the past, I can remember many times,
but in particular, this girl coming for her third reading
over a couple of years, and she turned around and
she said to me, O methos, guy and then her
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next words were, they know he's wrong for me, but
I want to know where that's going to go. And
my first thought was to her, as I said, the
last time you came to me for a relationship reading,
you'd been with a man for four years and it
was going wrong, and she said yep. I said, do
you think he was a good guy? And she said, yeah,
we just sort of went apart. It wasn't horrible, but yeah,
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we just sort of fell apart. And said, well, you've
been seeing this guy for six weeks and you're already here,
and you never asked me about that other one until
you came to an ending. So that tells me there's
other parts in this new once that tells me that
she already knows it's not going to go Well. Then
she comes back about four weeks later and she says, oh,
(25:39):
I've just discovered he's living with his ex. She's pregnant
with his baby. But they're not having sex, and they're
not doing this, and they're not doing that. Now we're delusional.
He's living with a person. That means it can't be
an ex, right, an ex is somebody you no longer
live with. And she's pregnant to have a baby. So
now he's letting her know just enough so he can say, oh, look,
(26:01):
I told you. Then she came back about another eight weeks,
maybe nine weeks later, and she said, oh, this is
getting really hard. Now we meet in some really strange places.
I said, just admit you're the other woman, and then
do you want to be that? And go from there.
So the point that I'm making here is that the
narrative is our own. The cards are not answering your questions,
(26:24):
they're not consciousness. So if you're going to read for yourself,
you need to be scrupulously honest with yourself. You need
to be really truthful before you even start asking a question.
If you know that your relationship has broken down and
you say, I just want some clarity, but I know
he loves me, I already know you're in the wrong zone,
especially if you want to get a good, clean reading.
(26:47):
But more importantly, still even more important to that is
you could lead yourself on an emotional rollercoaster ride. I
had a client would have been early this year January.
She had been six months or was it nine months?
Might have been nine months, Being taken for a walk
(27:08):
with psychics and terror readers paying for them. She was
very good at that. She came in and she said,
I've seen your posts, I've had a look at your website.
I believe you'll tell me the truth. And I just said, hey,
this is going nowhere. It's done, it's over. It was over.
As soon as it was over, there was no lagging
beyond that, and she started to cry. It was a
live session, online video call, and she started to cry,
(27:31):
and it gave her a few moments and I said,
does that actually surprise you? And she said no, but
I was so wanting it that these psychics all told
me he'll come around. Give them some time, he'll come around.
It'll get better. And so she would go from I'm
frustrated and grieving to hopeful, and then she'd be hopeful
for a month and then she'd pay another psychic or
(27:53):
another terror reader. And she did this for up to
nine months, and we ended that cycle. She got back
in touch with me probably about four weeks later, not
for another reading. She just got in touch and said, look,
I just feel so much better. I feel like I
literally tuned a corner like it's magic. And of course
it was because she was holding into something that inside
(28:14):
herself she knew the truth of it, and that if
somebody really loves you, and if somebody really wants to
be this sort of relationship advice now, sir about that.
But if they really love you, if they really want
to be with you, even if they don't love you yet,
if they care for you, if they want to spend
time with you, they will not break up with you,
and they will let you know. And when you understand
(28:35):
that that if somebody says I'm over, we're out of here.
It's quite common in a longer relationship to touch base
and maybe have a weekend together just to be sure,
which is really all it is. But the vast majority
of endings, especially if they're earlier in a relationship, stay ended.
And the word missy you she means somebody's not letting
(28:56):
it go. The other person might be quite happy to
take advantage of that intimacy that they can't be bothered
going out and finding and working for So take that
to the bank, and then when you do, Terry reading's
on a relationship that's broken down, maybe a better question
isn't about the other person, but it's about how you navigate.
How can I navigate healing here, How can I navigate
(29:18):
moving forward? Because I'll tell you something else. Sets of interest.
Say you do move on and you're having a good time.
You're going out with your friends just to go out
with your friends, you're spending time with people you care about,
and you're enjoying life. Oh, you might miss the X
a little bit, but you know your life's fine because
you've accepted that they're not in your life anymore. You
might have the odd cry here and there once a week,
(29:39):
or when you're feeling a bit lonely at bedtime, usually
when you're feeling lonely, and so you carry on. And
a year goes by and you might have met another person.
You're having a really nice life, and then this person
calls you up and says, you know what, I think
I'm not over you. I find myself thinking about you
all the time. I'd like to explore getting back together. Now.
(30:01):
At that moment, you might have met somebody else and think,
you know what, haha, Nope, not interested. Or you might think, well,
I wouldn't mind having a look at that, but I
need to know that something's changed, or that you want
commitment or whatever it is that we didn't succeed with
last time, isn't going to come and be the same
problem in a couple of months after we've got over
being all loved ark. Why I say this is that
(30:22):
if you carry on with your life, and if you
let that go, and if you accept it and you
do the grieving, and that person genuinely has feelings for you,
like genuine feelings that they want to deepen, they want
to bond, they will come around again. You don't have
to wait for them. You don't you have to lie
they're crying in bed. You don't have to wait at all.
You carry on your life. You be the best person
(30:42):
you can be, and you enjoy your life, and you'll
be a lot happier. And then when they do, or
if they do come around at some point in the future,
you'll also be stable emotionally. And you may look at
them with or without a boyfriend or a girlfriend in
your life and just go, you know what, I'm not
sure what I saw in them. I'm okay without them, Dorothy,
(31:03):
this is terror crazy the Beginners Beginner series shouting out,
jes me, just Beny, just
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