November 5, 2023 • 52 mins
Episode 12: "Navigating Love, Family, and the Holiday Hustle: A Heart-to-Heart with Charlie and Lil Momo"
In this special episode, Charlie and Lil Momo take the reins to discuss some of life's most pressing questions. From the complexities of modern love to the challenges of the holiday season and the relentless grind of work, Episode 12 is a deep dive into the issues that touch us all.
Charlie kicks things off with a personal story about a recent romantic encounter that left him puzzled. Is it just him, or has dating become a game with ever-changing rules? Lil Momo chimes in with his own insights, making for a conversation you won't want to miss.
As the holidays approach, the duo tackles the tricky subject of introducing a new partner to a family that might not be as accepting as we'd like. How do you navigate the holiday season with grace, tact, and a dash of courage? We've got some thoughts.
And speaking of the holidays, let's talk about work-life balance. Is it even possible when you're giving up every holiday for a job that barely acknowledges your sacrifices? Charlie and Lil Momo get real about the cost of the hustle and whether it's worth it in the end.
Join us for Episode 12, a heartfelt and honest discussion that will leave you thinking long after you've stopped listening. Mark your calendars; this is one you won't want to miss!
In this special episode, Charlie and Lil Momo take the reins to discuss some of life's most pressing questions. From the complexities of modern love to the challenges of the holiday season and the relentless grind of work, Episode 12 is a deep dive into the issues that touch us all.
Charlie kicks things off with a personal story about a recent romantic encounter that left him puzzled. Is it just him, or has dating become a game with ever-changing rules? Lil Momo chimes in with his own insights, making for a conversation you won't want to miss.
As the holidays approach, the duo tackles the tricky subject of introducing a new partner to a family that might not be as accepting as we'd like. How do you navigate the holiday season with grace, tact, and a dash of courage? We've got some thoughts.
And speaking of the holidays, let's talk about work-life balance. Is it even possible when you're giving up every holiday for a job that barely acknowledges your sacrifices? Charlie and Lil Momo get real about the cost of the hustle and whether it's worth it in the end.
Join us for Episode 12, a heartfelt and honest discussion that will leave you thinking long after you've stopped listening. Mark your calendars; this is one you won't want to miss!
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[Music]
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What is up everybody? This is The Chad. It is a podcast with me, Charlie, and I've got our boy here, Lil Momo. Say boy.
Let's play right out of the moon. God, the delay on that was just way too long. I'm so distraught.
Man, well anyway, Lil Momo is doing it. We got a different intro plan.
Oh, no. I still wanted to do that, but I wanted to hear your original little momma. Okay, anyway.
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So now, since it is just you and I this show, I need something a little bit more sultry. Give it to me.
Yeah, clear that throw. Welcome to episode 11, navigating relationships, holidays, and a work-life balance featuring Charlie and me, Lil Momo.
Oh my. How's that? Wow, that is incredible. You had, honestly, have you ever thought about doing voiceover or audiobooks?
(01:16):
You know, I started thinking about it recently because I heard somebody talking, they were doing like the voiceover for Britney Spears' book, and I was like, I could do that.
See, you totally should do that, which by the way, talking about Britney Spears' book, I've got it right here and I've been reading it, and it is so good.
I bet it's juicy. It really is. And just like in the first part, like she talks about somebody in her family who basically committed suicide on the show.
(01:45):
on the grave of their deceased baby.
Like it's crazy.
Like just the stuff that she went through.
But no, it's good.
It's really good.
I was I wasn't proud.
I didn't think I was going to like it
because Brittany Spears
and I figured like we've seen everything.
Well, but I figured we've seen everything, right?
(02:05):
I mean, everything. - See nothing.
And that's what you find out.
Reading the books.
- Any real fan knows that you have seen nothing?
- I mean, but it just it kinda caught me off guard some of it.
And I'm not even into like some of the juiciest parts
that have come out like about, you know.
- Timberlake.
- Timberlake and just, you know,
(02:26):
when she was going through her mental episode,
like I haven't even got to that juicie part yet.
And it's already good.
- So TikTok has spoiled so much for me on that.
And I am here for all of it.
- I was scrolling through earlier
and it came across someone's TikTok
and they were doing that voiceover for the book.
They were just reading it.
(02:46):
I had to skip it.
I just, I didn't want to ruin it
'cause I wanted to have more mouth drop moments
like I had in just in that first part.
Like I just, yeah.
So anyway, no, it's really good.
If you were a reader, I would say you should get it.
- But.
- Bitch, I read people all day long.
- No, reading people is different
from reading words put together to make sentences.
(03:09):
Jesus.
Anyways.
- I guess they full on sentences.
What do you mean?
- Yeah, full on my ass.
So here we go.
It is just me and Momo today.
The end, Scotty out today, but it's all good.
We can maybe kind of carry this, I don't know.
We'll find out.
- I mean, we had a podcast before.
- No, we did.
We did.
(03:29):
Now I didn't.
- It was fantastic.
- It did something like that.
It didn't last long, but I don't know.
I think this goes in a different direction,
but I think it's a little bit more freestyle
than typically what we've done before.
- Absolutely.
- Speaking of freestyle, you know what is definitely freestyle
are most of the time hookups.
(03:49):
And hookups are fun.
- It can be.
- Experimental.
- And very awkward sometimes, depending on your chemistry
with that person.
- On the other person, yes.
- That's right, you're perfect no matter what.
My apologies.
- Exactly.
- There was this guy that I had spoke to him.
(04:12):
So here's a little bit of the history of this guy.
I got a message last night and it was very,
it was typical no picture blank profile type stuff.
- Oh, this was a grinder, okay.
- Yeah, grinder, yeah.
Said he was 22, he sent pictures,
and I knew I had seen him before.
(04:34):
And come to find out, I had already spoke to
and blocked this individual on Snapchat.
And we had exchanged, we had snapped before.
And I don't know, I guess it was like really,
something about it was like shady.
Like it didn't, something wasn't meshin' right with me.
(04:55):
And I think it was most of it like leading on
because his whole thing was he moved back here
to the sticks from Dallas
because he was living with his parents when he moved back here
and yada yada yada long story short,
he didn't have a job, whatever.
So, but, you know, okay, that's almost every twink on grinder.
(05:17):
So, yeah, exactly.
So anyway, so last night when he sent a picture,
I recognized it's him, but he obviously does
or recognize me, like he does not remember me.
Who is she?
So, his name is, I don't give a shit,
(05:37):
his name is Ty, is what he went by.
And so, I remembered that because of that whole chat
that we had, you know, I kinda keep faces and names
with the most part, I'm pretty decent with it,
but so we were talking and he ended up,
(06:00):
I didn't think he was gonna come out,
he was gonna flake, but I got the shower and everything
and kinda straightened up a little bit and ended up.
- You do all of that?
- Well, you're always ready at a moment's notice.
I'm not. - That's it, aren't you at top?
- Well, yeah, but I'm not.
- I just don't do all that.
- I know, I know, but I'm different, I'm caring.
(06:22):
And maybe I'm in the process of transitioning to a bottom.
I don't know.
- So, so, it's like things are getting too spicy for the pepper.
- Yeah, kind of, and I'm already a little spicy.
- Little. - Where?
- Shut up. - Shut up.
- Did you like paprika?
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- What does that mean?
- You've had a spicy as some pepper.
- No, I'm decent, am I not?
You didn't think I was in our make out sash,
in our beach sash.
- Look, look, I'm spicy as a ghost pepper.
- Are you though?
- Are you, I don't think so.
(07:03):
- You can ask my previous lovers.
- Yeah, I mean, I was open to,
- They loved me anyway.
- I was open to find out how spicy you were at that moment,
but I was honestly reading, and I was reading you,
as you say, you're a people person.
And I guess I read the wrong chapter
because I thought you were just like not into me,
(07:25):
so I just like didn't.
(sniffing)
- No, I was playing the innocent good boy.
- My pot, I didn't realize we were role playing.
- I was ready to be defiled.
- My bad?
- My bad, I wish I would have known.
But that was the thing.
So last night when he ended up showing up, he came over,
and we were hanging out and everything.
(07:48):
We're talking and we put on,
you know, you gotta have something on the background.
So we got Bob's burgers on, you know.
- Oh my God.
- And you're really a class act.
- Yeah, I know.
- I know, I'm truly, truly in.
And so, you know, we're doing everything,
and we, you know, he's riding away
(08:10):
and whatever, all is good.
And then he ends up shooting while he's riding,
and it gets all in my eye and everywhere.
And I just, you know, in a little kind of taking it back,
because, you know, I still needed to get off.
I didn't do that.
But he didn't allow that to happen.
He would, he would, you know.
(08:31):
- Oh.
- Yeah, no, he just wanted to, he was done and done.
And.
- Oh no.
- Yeah, I was just like, okay, so now I kind of see where this is going.
It was just a hook up, just on his part.
Okay, not that I expected anything more of that, but whatever.
I did make it clear that, you know, and he even said too,
like our friends with benefits would be cool.
(08:53):
So I was thinking, okay, well, cool, we can just be,
we'll still be friends, we'll talk, whatever.
'Cause he also said that he was a gamer
and watched scary movies.
And so I was just like, oh, cool, we got something
in common, something we can do.
Well, one thing that I thought was really odd
was I noticed that there was another profile on Grindr
of a guy that was the same distance away as him.
(09:17):
And it was in feet.
- Oh.
- And I mentioned it to him.
I was like, hey, do you know what guy named Jay?
And he just kind of looked like, no, thanks.
So, and I'm just like, oh, I just noticed that they were,
you two were literally the same distance away.
So I was just, you know, whatever, whatever, it's okay.
And then so we were talking a little bit later,
(09:38):
and I asked him, I said, so are you in like a relationship,
open relationship, like stuff like that?
And he's like, nope.
I was like, okay.
Oh, no details, okay.
- No details, nothing at all.
And so after--
- Suspicious.
- Oh, it gets better.
So after, you know, we do the D and everything,
(09:59):
he still wants to cuddle.
So he was telling me about how his back was hurting.
So I'm just massaging his back.
Yeah, I'm just, I'm being a decent top, I think.
- Still while I didn't get off, asshole.
And we're just laying there and bed naked, you know?
- No, I'm sorry.
If you want the premium package,
(10:20):
you have to make sure the other person gets off.
That's just, that's 101.
- I was, I was, I thought I was doing so well.
I mean, the attention was on him, like,
my tongue was deep in his hole, like, I mean, it was--
- Well, you are much nicer than me.
I would have been like, okay, bye, get out.
- Yeah, I, I, I, I, I,
- Thought I ever have anybody come over to my place.
(10:40):
I always go to theirs, 'cause I'm like,
if I'm gonna get murdered,
it's not gonna be in my own apartment.
- I know, yeah, you at least wanna leave it clean
for whoever's gotta, you know, come over and--
- Exactly.
- Yeah. - Yeah.
- Yeah, so, no, I know.
I wish, I, I don't know, I think because I was trying
to stay positive, I was like, well, certainly, you know,
he's chill and he's not lying or whatever.
(11:04):
Well, that obviously wasn't the case.
And so I didn't wanna just kick him out,
'cause I was thinking, oh, well, you know,
whatever, we're cuddling, whatever, it's all good.
And then so anyway, he gets up,
he starts getting ready and Ely's, I walk him out
and so we're just kinda talking for a second
and I'm just like, well, hey, if you want my number
(11:24):
and he kind of sounded a little hesitant.
And then I was just kinda reading that
and I said, hey, if you don't wanna trust me,
it's no big deal, like we can just talk through,
you know, grind or whatever.
He's like, no, here, and then he handed me his phone,
I put in my number, he texted me, he said, hey, it's Ty,
I was like, okay, I didn't have my phone with me
right then, it was still inside, but, you know, whatever.
(11:48):
So Ely's, I'm just like, well, hey, you know,
you're driving back all the way to Dallas, you know,
just text me, let me know, you made it, you know,
make sure you're safe or whatever.
- Oh, man, you, mm-mm.
- I know, I am a two way to nice.
So anyway, whatever.
So I come back in, I see his text message
and I respond and I said, hey, had fun tonight,
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text me sometime.
And it sent on I message, but it was never delivered.
(gasps)
It never said delivered.
And so when I saw that, I, I was saying, I was like,
why would it do that?
(12:29):
He obviously had service, like, there's no reason why it would--
- Why your ass got blocked.
- And that's exactly what happened.
Oh, no.
- And then I opened up Grindr and I see his profile
and I just know where it'd be found.
So he blocked me on there as well.
And-- - So, mm-mm-mm-mm.
(12:50):
So I do a little bit of digging
and I went back in my search history
and I went on Facebook where I found him.
- Oh, no.
- And-- - No!
- I was kind of shocked to see that a 22-year-old
was really active on Facebook, but fortunately for me
and my detective skills, he was doing that.
I wanna say for my purposes.
I noticed on October 8th, he posted something
(13:13):
that had about six pictures on it of him and his boyfriend.
And he said, "Happy National Boyfriend Day
to the man that I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with."
(buzzer)
I'm looking forward to seeing what more is to come.
- Oh, God, I love it.
I mean, maybe they have an open relationship.
(13:34):
- I literally asked that question.
He said no.
- Oh.
- Now, that doesn't mean that he wasn't lying about it.
Hoping that maybe I wouldn't feel weird about it.
And maybe that's why he blocked me was he was just like,
"Why is he asking these questions?"
Because I'll be all admit, it was kind of coincidence.
You know, that I asked that and lo and behold,
you know, this is the situation that he's in.
(13:55):
But he was, you know, very adamant that no,
he wasn't, that's kind of the situation.
So anyway, long story short, I'm kind of sad about it in a way,
but just because we spoke before and that was before,
like all, like obviously before he was in whatever relationship
(14:15):
he's in now.
But he was, you know, open to finding somebody.
And so, I don't know.
I just, I'm just kind of booty her by it.
- It's okay.
Your booty shouldn't be hurting.
You're a top.
- Well, I love your positivity in such wrong directions,
(14:36):
but you're welcome.
That's what I'm here for.
- I don't know.
I mean, should I be upset about that?
I don't think I should, but.
- I don't think you should waste your energy on it.
- I know.
That's the problem.
It's like I obviously am.
And I know I shouldn't, but here I am.
- You're doing it.
- Your friends with me get a harder skin.
- That's the problem is that I really should,
(14:58):
I'll say that over the years that I've gotten to the point
where I just don't give a shit as much as I used to,
but I still do care and I do have these feelings
for people that I really shouldn't have
and that bothers me.
But, and I think maybe because it's kind of like
with you in a way, because for so long,
(15:20):
you, in instillium to this day,
you will not enter into a relationship with me.
What, by any stretch, and-
- We tried that once.
- No, we never tried it once.
- You were.
- It was on Facebook.
- That was a joke.
That was- - That was Facebook official.
- That was made to be, that was a fucking joke.
(15:41):
But I guess because I will never,
like I won't have closure, like I won't know what did I do.
And I think that's what bothers me.
And I know that he, some people would say,
well, he doesn't owe you that explanation.
Well, I kind of disagree and think that I am owed
(16:02):
that explanation to a point.
Like, I'm not expecting detail,
but I at least wanna know how I can better myself
if it's something that I did.
And those are questions that I've also posed to you as well.
And I still feel that I haven't really gotten that answer.
And I think there's people out there
who have been in situations like that,
(16:23):
where they might wanna know, well, what did I do wrong?
Why?
- Maybe it's not that you did anything wrong,
but maybe it just, it didn't click.
Like, maybe for him it was like, oh,
and this is speaking from experience here,
it's like, oh, I have something going on.
And now that I've gotten with this guy,
I have conflicting feelings.
(16:43):
So I'm just gonna cut them out of my life completely now.
- Okay, bye.
- See, and okay, then let that be known.
Like, what is it that is so, I don't know.
Like, what scares people away from being truthful?
- I mean, three years ago when I was 22,
I don't think you could have gotten me to do that.
(17:04):
Nowadays, I'm just like,
or nowadays, I would just be like, yeah, sorry,
not working out, deuces.
But the thing is, I don't ever really block people.
It's like, I'll say my shit.
And then I'll just ignore them from that point on.
Be like, if you really wanna blow me up,
and I'm having a few drinks,
and I'm like, you know, feeling feisty, then I'll respond.
(17:26):
But I mean, like, I have this one to blow me up for days,
and I was like, dude, I don't wanna have anything to do
with you like, fuck off.
He's like, well, then block me, block me, you bitch.
And I was like, you're literally not worth
the energy of me blocking you.
- I mean, I blocked like three people in my life,
and one of those was my mother.
- It's just a button.
Let's be real.
- And that guy said, wasn't worth the effort.
(17:48):
- Oh my God.
- Well, okay, then whatever.
So there's that, right?
But still, wouldn't you think that in this situation,
particularly that given that there was some,
well, maybe not, maybe not.
I'm just talking out loud, I guess,
because I obviously blocked him for a reason
before on Snap.
(18:11):
And that was kind of my thing was,
I was curious as to maybe it didn't show delivered
because I actually already had his number before,
and I blocked it.
But then when I went through on my blocked list,
I didn't see it in there.
How many people do you have blocked?
- Oh, tons.
But I've seen none.
- Oh my God.
(18:31):
- But most of it is just like spam stuff.
So, you know, but I didn't know anyway.
I don't know.
It was a weird situation,
but then when I saw those pictures and all that, I was like,
this just became a little bit more awkward.
- Well, it won't be awkward anymore.
You're blocked.
(18:52):
- Yeah, yeah, that's true.
That's true.
Well, thanks for the positivity on that.
- You're welcome.
You're very welcome.
Free of charge.
- So it is already November,
and Turkey Day is up on us,
but I do wanna ask, what did you do for Halloween?
Did you have a party?
Did you do anything fun?
(laughing)
(19:15):
- You're like the party king.
- Yeah, I worked in the morning,
and then I took a nap,
and then I had a stream.
- God, you're old.
- Look, there are certain days of the week
that I stream over on Twitch, #StruggleBook.
- For now anyway.
- Are you still rebranding?
(19:37):
- Yeah, I let my old co-host do a stream last night,
and we talked about doing one more together
before the rebranding happens.
- How did that go?
- Oh, it went really well.
- Was it just him or was he with you?
- I popped in, but I was kinda like, I'm gonna let him do his own thing.
- And... - He said his farewell
(19:58):
at the end of his stream.
He was like, I love you guys,
and I might pop in for the occasional stream going forward,
but this is basically the last one I'll be doing.
It's like, oh, well.
- Sayonara, you're blocked.
- Sorry, I had to get some of my water.
- Yeah, right.
- Yeah.
- I left it in the freezer over, and I had to be fine.
(20:20):
- Oh, oh, real? I didn't know Baca froze.
- This is a four-local?
- Okay, then, that's like 10% alcohol.
That's still shitting the froze.
- It's only 10%.
- Only!
- That's not a percent more than what you should be having.
- The fuck it is.
- Definitely is.
- I think... - I should be drinking moonshine.
(20:41):
- No, I think you ought to save your four-locals
for your family get together on Thanksgiving,
and the long holidays coming up.
- You know what the funny thing is?
Is my siblings, we have a little group chat,
we just started whenever we buried my stepdad.
May he rest in pickles.
(laughing)
So they were like, hey, are you coming down for Thanksgiving?
(21:03):
'Cause I live like an hour and a half away,
and I'm like, um, probably not.
Just 'cause I worked in retail for so long
that's like, we didn't get any kind of holidays
off except for Christmas.
And that was it.
Like, we'd close early on Thanksgiving in preparation
for Black Friday where you had to come back early.
(21:24):
So it's like the store closes at 6 p.m.,
but you need to be back by 10 or 11 p.m.
so that you can do Black Friday.
- That's so stupid.
- Yeah.
- So it's like, we had a half day on Christmas Eve
off for Christmas, and that was it.
- That's it.
- So are you doing,
(21:45):
and 'cause you're working in food right now, part time, right?
So.
- Yeah, so I mean, I could, but I'm so used to not doing anything
for any holidays that I'm just like, it's just a Thursday.
- It, well, yeah, but,
aren't you going to meet 'cause you and your man,
you're actually trying to work things out.
- We are trying to work things out,
(22:05):
but the thing is, is he is gluten sensitive.
So taking him to a Thanksgiving thing,
it's like, did you put any flour in that?
Did you put any flour in that?
Is there any wheat in that?
Did you put any soy in that?
- I'm so, so he has celiacs?
- Yes, that's the word.
- Yeah, so I didn't realize it was all that.
(22:25):
What happens?
Like, what happens if he eats that stuff?
- Basically, I get on to him,
and I berate him for eating something.
He shouldn't have eaten.
And then he lays down for the next six hours.
- Does it hurt his stomach,
or is he just going to the bathroom,
or like, what is it?
- Yes.
Okay, all the above.
(22:46):
- Yeah, it seems like it hurts his stomach,
so that's why he usually just goes and lays down.
And it's like, I'll occasionally check on him,
like, do you need anything?
Like, are you alive?
- I told you not to get the Chinese food,
and there you are, getting more Chinese food.
- Oh, I don't blame him on that.
- No, I don't blame him either,
but I'm like, you bastard.
Like, I could have went and got some Chinese food,
(23:07):
and I would have enjoyed it.
- I still kind of wish,
you know what, maybe that's the whole thing.
Maybe you and I would have worked out
if we had went to get little bobo instead,
or, (laughing)
I think it was called the bobo Chinese over in a Murphy'sboro.
- Bobo Chinese.
- I think it's shut down now, but anyway.
It was, it was, I saw it off the highway
(23:30):
when I was turning to go to you,
and I asked you about that, and you were like,
"Oh no, we don't go to that place."
(laughing)
- Well, there you go.
(laughing)
But I saw that there,
it's, it's, you know, anyway.
- There was one place down in Murphy'sboro
that I absolutely loved.
It shut down, like last year, it's called Cathays,
but it was the college place if you wanted to enlist sushi
(23:53):
'cause it was 12.95 on Saturdays from 11 to three.
- For enlist sushi?
- Enlist sushi.
- Yeah, I don't want to shut down.
- Like, they have the dookies.
- Well, the thing is, like, there was only like,
there was like a page of sushi you could order,
and it's like, if you wanted to pay more,
it was like, okay, there's like three pages worth of sushi.
(24:13):
- But it's like, yeah, let me get that spider roll,
the avocado roll, the eel roll.
- Oh, so it was like custom stuff.
Like, it wasn't just like enlist California rolls.
- I mean, California's one, it was all set shit.
- Oh.
- But it was like, okay, what do you want?
And I would usually get like three rolls,
but, you know, three rolls, that's way more than 13 bucks.
(24:34):
- Yeah.
No, that's, yeah.
- I'm a friend in Calder, though.
We had to warn the staff when she was coming,
'cause she was like 95 pounds, beautiful Japanese girl,
and she ordered so much that they brought her
one of those wooden boats.
- Oh my God.
- She ate the whole goddamn thing,
(24:55):
and she's sitting there looking her lips, she's like,
"Ooh, ooh, I see, I'm ready for more."
- Oh, it's just like, where did she put it?
She's like, I think I have more.
- Wow.
I bet she was on the toilet for about a good hour.
- Mm-hmm.
- No, if we had a party that night.
- Oh my God.
See, that's the thing.
It's like, when Asians eat that much and they're so thin,
(25:17):
and then they, when they're done,
they, well, that's maybe that's what they're used to.
Like, they over in, well, I don't know, maybe it's only China,
but do Japan have those little toilets in the back,
and the ground, the hole, that you squat over,
the squatty potty?
- Basically, that's just in like, really roll areas of Japan.
- Oh.
(25:37):
- Most of the time, most of the time, it's like,
western style toilets.
- Oh.
- Except if you're like anywhere in like a metropolitan area,
it's like, they'll have like buttons and shit.
- See, that's why.
- Do do do do do.
- See, that's why I would,
he makes it sound like it's turning on your Samsung dryer
(25:58):
or something, like.
- That's, beep, beep, beep.
(laughs)
Hello.
- I don't know, I just, I was thinking that maybe it was,
I don't know, a little more than just the hole,
or maybe not just the hole in the ground.
- It's not the 1800s over there.
- Well, I don't know, I was just, I don't know.
(26:21):
I just thought that's how it all was.
Like that's why I was always really hesitant
about ever wanting to try to plan the trip to go over there,
'cause I'm like, girl.
- Oh my god.
- If I have to squat, I need somebody to help me up.
- Look, if you wanna go, just take me with you.
- Well, you'd have to, because I don't know Japanese,
and I don't know what I'm looking at,
(26:42):
but I would love to go.
I love watching on TikTok and even on YouTube,
Japanese street food videos.
- 'Cause that is so fascinating and it looks so good.
Like I feel like if I'm gonna have any real Japanese food,
like that's what I need to do.
Like I need to go there, try that,
and you know, venture out, basically.
(27:03):
See, that'd be the hardest part is like trying to order that,
because Japanese is taught in schools,
like how Spanish is taught in schools here.
- Proper.
- In the US.
- Yeah, like proper, but it's like, you know,
you take a year of English and it's like,
you're never gonna use it.
The most you'll use it for is like,
if there's like an English word that comes over to Japan,
(27:25):
like coffee, for example.
Cool he.
- Cool he.
- Yeah, 'cause they don't have like,
they don't have like the sounds that we do in English.
So it's like, cool he.
And it's like, okay, that's coffee.
That's the most English you're getting out of me.
- Yeah, see, but I would still wanna try to do it.
(27:45):
I mean, it sounds like you kinda have it,
but the Nancy have the thing.
They make these apps now.
Like I think Google translates one of them,
that you can literally put it on conversation mode
and have a conversation.
- It'll definitely, it'll help a lot.
It's came a long way.
(laughs)
Just don't try to say anything to advance
or not too long of sentences.
- Well like what have you said that,
(28:06):
what if you had to use it?
- I mean, I haven't, I played around with it
when somebody was doing like a YouTube video there,
like, can I get around Japan with just Google Translate?
- Oh.
- And it was like, okay.
And he was like, where's the bathroom?
(speaks in foreign language)
It's like, okay, it's over there, yeah right there.
(28:27):
- But did you just make that up?
Or did you actually say something?
- Toi-dee is toilet.
- Oh.
- And ducal is like where?
It's like where's the toilet?
- So, but you said it backwards.
- So,
you know how Yoda speaks?
(laughs)
(28:48):
- Yes.
- A lot of times you will start with the subject.
Like toi-dee wa ducal diska.
That's one way of saying it.
But it's the subject first.
That way they know what you're talking about.
- Is that how they actually talk?
- Yeah.
I actually, I got in trouble when I was in college
(29:09):
'cause I was learning Japanese.
And like we would have to have speaking tests
every so often.
So my professor would be like, Jake, you're speaking
in the casual, I was like, yeah, we haven't learned casual.
Like, I'm speaking how you would actually speak.
And she's like, yeah, you need to be more proper.
And I'm like,
(laughs)
- Yeah, already complaining, there you go.
(29:30):
- Well, 'cause like, if you're speaking like
to a friend of yours, we're like, toi-dee ducal.
It's like, where in toilet?
It's like, where's the toilet?
It's like, okay, cool, it's right over there.
Whereas proper is like, toi-dee wa ducal diska.
- Man. - Same exact thing.
It's just longer.
- I literally feel like I'm playing a Japanese game.
(29:54):
Right now. - Oh, thank you.
- Listen to you talk, yeah.
- Thank you.
- Well, why you're not doing those NPCs on TikTok,
making all that money.
- Bring it in. - Oh, good bank.
- I need to be doing something
because this part time job I have ain't doing it.
- See, well, but that's the whole thing.
Like, you've got the struggle book, you've got your Twitch.
(30:15):
So, why not just expand on that right now?
- I need to.
- Like, that's what you should be doing.
I mean. - See, here's the problem.
So, I have my boyfriend and I have my roommate
that live with me.
- Well, roommate for now, right?
He's leaving soon.
- So, oh my God, that was a whole situation.
- Oh my God.
(30:36):
- So, okay.
He was working at the same job I was.
He put in his notice and like, right after he quit,
like his last day, he was supposed to be going on a trip
with his soon to be new roommate.
So, it's like, okay, cool.
That'll be a really nice bonding experience for you guys.
You go on vacation, see you guys, click.
- Oh, the boyfriend.
(laughing)
(30:58):
- Anyway. - Yeah.
- So, I was like, okay, cool.
Well, apparently there was some lines that got crossed
because they were camping the entire time.
Like, when he came home, I was like, hey, oh my God,
it smells like something dies.
He's like, yeah, we've been camping.
I haven't showered in three days.
- Oh.
- Please, for the love of God.
- Oh no.
(31:18):
- So, once he got on showered, I was like,
so how did it go and everything?
He's like, half of it was good, but I found out
that he doesn't want to move down where I'm moving to.
He wants to move to Arkansas or something.
And I was like, well, when did he tell you this?
Like, two, three days ago.
And I was like, but you already had the apartment, right?
Like, yeah, we just had to basically sign some stuff
(31:38):
and move in.
And I'm like, he waited until then to tell you.
He doesn't want to move in together.
Oh my God.
So, I mean, him and I get along really well.
So, I was like, well, you're more than welcome
to stay as long as you need.
- Well, that's funny here in my back.
That's funny hearing that you say,
we get along really well now because there was that period.
(31:59):
- There was about a week long period,
but we talked about it.
We squashed all the drama and honestly,
we're better off for it.
- Okay.
- So, like, everything's Gucci there.
- That's, I mean, that's better, I guess,
better than not.
So, is that the plan now?
He's gonna stay around?
- No, he's still moving because he's going to school.
- Oh.
- So, yeah, he's still doing it,
but he had to like, obviously pivot a little bit.
(32:21):
But I say all this to say that I get really awkward
when I'm trying to record like a skit or something
and it doesn't bother me if they're in the room with me.
But if they're like, he's in his bedroom
and I know I'm talking loud enough for everyone to hear,
I feel really awkward about it.
- Oh my God.
(32:42):
- Oh yeah, I mean, if they're in the room,
I can like, look at their faces
and I can kind of like make a face at them or whatever.
And I can even like include them in the skit
if I need to to make it less awkward for me.
But if they're like in another room,
like I'm sitting there like,
what's the fairytale of my room?
It's all my hair.
(laughing)
- Well, you know what, that's true
(33:03):
because I've wondered that myself is like,
how does that sound on the other side of the door?
Like, exactly.
I would die, yeah, I'd probably.
- Well, it's stupid because I know they're both used to it
because I do it like three, four times a week.
- So I know they're used to it.
- And for those listening who aren't aware,
just go check out the struggle book.
(33:23):
Just do that, follow his socials and you'll see.
Exactly what it is.
You post those up on there, right?
You have your socials?
- Oh yeah, I post the,
so I do the little like my little,
my little memo voice, whatever I'm doing,
they don't on Facebook, Snapchat,
my Instagram or the struggle books Instagram.
I post it to all of those and it's like, okay, cool.
(33:45):
And then when I start the streams over on Twitch,
I'll be like, I'll turn the camera on and be like,
what's up everybody?
I'm the little memo and tonight we're playing Pokemon.
- Oh my God.
And then I let myself wean off of the voice
'cause it's hard to do that voice for too long.
So I'll wean off of it as I start doing the stream.
So within about 10 minutes into the stream,
(34:06):
it's like, I talk a little bit higher than I am now,
but it's, you know.
- That was one of my fears.
It's like when you started doing that,
I thought you were gonna try to keep that going
for the whole podcast.
- Hell no.
- Hell no.
- 'Cause I own that.
- I just couldn't be like,
okay, so now I'm gonna try to go in here
and see what happens and oh look, I just got char side.
- You're like, I did.
(34:26):
That's just too much.
- I think if I was wearing like a wig and makeup
and like fake boobs, I probably would, but.
- Oh, speaking of, I was gonna ask,
are you ever gonna go as Roger for Halloween?
Kinda going back in time a little bit, but.
- That was it.
So last year I had a friend group and he had just,
this guy had just bought a house.
We're gonna call him Jamal.
(34:48):
Sure.
(laughing)
Jamal had just bought a house.
So I told him about my Roger idea for Halloween.
He was like, oh, do that be awesome.
Well then drama happened and then, you know.
Him and I, we don't speak anymore,
but like if I saw him in public, it wouldn't be a big deal.
But his girlfriend though, I'd probably punch her in the face.
(35:10):
(laughing)
God.
But I told him, I was like,
I would love to dress up as one of Roger's personas
and then hide outfits throughout the house.
Like three or four outfits,
that way I can change outfits through the night.
(laughing)
Be like, wait, I thought you were wearing a Genevieve advance.
Like no, I'm Ricky Spanish now
and then like smack somebody and run away.
(35:31):
- Oh my God, that would be iconic, honestly.
- I'm telling you, like I was so happy
and I was like, it's not even gonna be that bad
'cause I can reuse some of the outfit pieces and whatnot.
- The biggest thing would be the wigs.
- One thing I was gonna do for you a couple of years ago
was get you a Roger sign and the actual,
(35:51):
what do they call that?
It's not LED, it's a...
- Oh, the neon?
- Yeah, the neon sign.
I was gonna get you one of those to put up in your kitchen.
- So I actually have a neon sign in my kitchen.
- But is it based after that though?
- So it was, it's basically like a neon,
like a drawing board.
(36:12):
So like I was on it.
I was like, little momo spot and I'd you like a cocktail and stuff.
- No, it's not the same.
- Yeah, I mean, but I can turn it on
and it's got like 15 or 20 different colors.
You can do some, like, there you go.
That's my sign.
When that sign is on, I'm drinking.
- Yeah, but you need a good Roger's place sign.
That's what you need.
- I mean, I do.
(36:33):
And I will still take one of those.
- Well good, good.
When I hit the lottery, I'm gonna fly up there
and scoop you up and we're gonna go,
we're gonna fly out to LA, we're gonna go shopping.
- Well, I think if you win the lottery,
I'm just gonna move.
- Yeah, that's what I'm worth it.
I got you.
I see now, I see.
- No, but you're my fluent.
(laughing)
(36:53):
- Only one I got money is what it sounds like.
- This, you've been my friend for how long?
- Too long.
- It's a long time.
A long time.
I think when, you know, when did we meet?
Was it 20?
- 15, 14, 15?
- I know.
- It's been longer than that, I think,
'cause I hadn't been on grouder for very long.
(37:13):
- God.
- 'Cause that's how we met.
- Yeah, yeah, it was good ol' apps.
Good ol' and look, here you are,
you're over there having fun and Tennessee and
- Mm-hmm. - Here I am,
something like that. - Some like,
"Hey, Haas." - Oh, God.
- God, I love that.
And you lived in Texas for a minute.
That whole situation still
throws me for a loop that you moved out here
(37:36):
for some dude that in his--
- Such sugar daddy.
- Yeah.
- How did that work out?
- It was great.
- And especially his last ditch effort
to keep me there.
(laughing)
- What did that in systems?
Like, what did he do?
- Okay, so I'm gonna go through
what he was offering and then I'm gonna say
(37:57):
why I had to say no.
- Okay. - All right.
- Okay, so some stuff happened and I was like,
"Yeah, I'm gonna have to figure something out."
So I called my old boss and I was like,
"Hey, I'm probably coming back to town.
I gotta work on my ride situation."
I was like, "But I can't keep doing this."
Well, he ended up coming up unannounced,
which I couldn't really get on to him
'cause he was paying for everything.
So I was like, "Okay, what's up?"
(38:18):
He was like, "I prepared to offer you."
I think it was 250K for the first year.
And then, I don't know, it was like 100K plus
every year after that, up until the time he passed away.
And that's how much I was gonna get whenever he passed,
which he had a bunch of medical issues.
(38:39):
So I was like, "Okay, it'll take anywhere
"between three to 10 years for him to pass.
"Is it worth me living like this? Probably not."
- Well, hold on.
So that was only if he passed.
- Yes, but it's like in the meantime though,
like he had somebody get me clothes
and bring them to my apartment,
go do all of my grocery shopping for me.
(39:01):
I went to dinners with him once a day,
and then I can't even--
- Is this apartment paid for?
- Yeah, it was paid for.
- Okay.
- So like, I think everything was taken care of,
and then it's like, "Hey, my phone bills do,
"Oh, here's the money for it,
"and here's like an extra 50 or whatever."
And it's like, "Okay, cool."
It's like, no big deal.
It's like if I wanted it, he would just take care of it for me.
(39:24):
Like I went to this one club where people were playing
like "Bock a rock and shit, never understood it."
I was just sitting there.
- Bock a rock.
- Yeah, I don't know. - Bock a rock.
Whatever.
(laughing)
- But like, this dude was like,
I was just sitting there like trying to smoke a cigar.
Turns out I don't like cigars.
And I was like drinking wine and shit,
(39:45):
'cause I was like, "Mm, they don't have like,
"he told me not to get tequila."
And I was like, "Fine, I'll get wine and try to be classy."
- Try.
- True one. - Yeah.
- Well, it wasn't barefoot.
- Wine, either.
It was real.
- Ew, no.
- It was actual wine.
- It was the real stuff.
- Not cool. - Cool, didn't it?
- I told you.
- Oh, this guy was like, "Oh man, I lost that hand."
(40:06):
Oh, well, onto the next one.
And throws out more fucking chips and stuff.
And I asked one of the guys that was walking around a worker
and I was like, "Hey, how much is that pile he just lost?"
He's like, "Oh, that's probably about $2,000, $2,500,
"something like that."
- Oh.
- And he just casually was like,
"Oh, and then bet more than that."
So I was like, "So that's gotta be at least like $3,500
"sit in there."
(40:27):
And I'm like, "What the fuck?"
- And that was your guy?
- No, that was somebody else across the table.
- My guy, I think he came out mostly even,
but I mean, he was betting thousands also.
And I'm just like, how do you guys just casually throw out
thousands of dollars like this?
- What did he do?
What type of work was he doing?
(sighs)
(40:50):
- Time to think about, okay.
His mother was a celebrity hairdresser,
so he wasn't that for a while,
started his own business with that.
But then I think he also had something to do
with oil.
- Oh.
- Because he took me to one of the plants down there.
- Yeah, there's a lot of them.
- Yeah, so he took me to one of those
(41:10):
and we went inside and kind of poked around for a little bit.
And he tried to go on top of one of them,
but I was like, "Look, you are like in your 60s almost,
"you probably don't need to be climbing this like 50 foot
"gas thing."
- Yeah, no, no.
(laughs)
- I'm just picturing, climbing the gas stack
with the flame coming out the top.
- Yes, I was like, "You did not need to go up there."
(41:31):
I was like, "That's what you have workers
"that you pay to do that for."
I was like, "You don't get hazard pay."
- Wow.
- What kind of car did he drive?
- He had a Rolls Royce.
- Of course, did you remember that?
But then he also had like three others, I don't remember.
- Was there ever talk about him buying you a car?
- Yeah, we actually went to a dealership one time
(41:53):
and he was like, "If you could have any of these,
"which one would you pick?"
And I was like, "I don't know, one that's got four wheels
"and goes room, room."
(laughs)
- I don't know.
So what do you point at the sion?
A pinto.
- I don't know.
I got him laughing about it
'cause I was just like, "I don't fucking know
"what these cars are called."
Like he had to tell me that it was a Rolls Royce
(42:13):
and I had to look it up and be like,
"Is it a Rolls Royce? Those are expensive."
- Yeah, that's kind of, I couldn't imagine you
pulling back up in Poetak, Town, Tennessee,
in a Rolls Royce, pulling out your little umbrella
outside the door.
- I don't get any clasps inside.
- Yeah.
- Oh, make she rest in peace.
- God rest her soul.
- Man, that's great.
(42:34):
Do you miss that whole situation?
- I'm not gonna lie.
It was exhilarating when it was good,
but the reason I had to say no to all of it
is without my knowledge, obviously.
He put microphones and cameras all up in my apartment.
- That's very like movie,
(42:56):
like that's American Horror Story type stuff.
- Yeah, because he said something one day
and I was like, "I never said that,
but I was on the phone talking to my friend
and I said something along those lines."
So by the time I was like, "No, what we're done,"
whatever, best of luck to you and whatever,
I was like, "No, I'm curious though."
(43:17):
How long has this been going on?
He's like, "Well, for a few weeks now,
and basically when I would take you to dinner,
I would have somebody come and swap out the stuff
or move the stuff if need be."
So he admitted to having someone do all that.
- Yeah, he admitted to it and then I got him to say
in a text message to me.
And then I was like, "Pretty."
(43:40):
- Yeah, so I was, yeah, I was,
which I baited him for it.
And then I was like, "Well, I mean,
I guess if I really have to,
I can sell this information to your ex-wife
who's family hates him."
And he was like, "I never admitted to anything."
And I was like, "I literally have a screen recording
of me going through our messages
that is about 15 minutes long."
- Oh my God.
- I was like, "I have all the paper trail I need."
(44:01):
I was like, "I'm not gonna do it just 'cause I'm not,
I'm a bitch, but I'm not like
an actually ruined your life type of bitch."
- So did he give you any money after that
to kind of get you to shut up, basically?
Any hush money?
Did you get any Donald Trump money?
- I did not get Donald Trump money.
(44:21):
But he was a Trump supporting Republican,
which is hilarious. - Of course he was.
- And he was going for like a Senator's seat
or something like that.
- Of course.
- So I got a little bit basically to just like,
help me get back.
So because of that, I was like, "Okay, I'll leave it alone
and a few months ago he was like,
"Hey, you know, hope you're doing okay."
Also, if you ever wanna go to,
(44:43):
I think Los Cabos, he's like,
I have like eight properties down there.
If you ever want one for like a week,
just let me know.
- So it's like, "Okay."
- So it's like, we don't talk regularly,
but it's like, "You know, I'll try to be friendly."
I was like, "You also know I have ammo to destroy you
if I need to."
- Wow, look at you.
That's, you know what though?
That's not bad to have in your back pocket if you need it.
(45:05):
- No, absolutely not.
- Do you think you'll ever use it?
- I might.
I've been tempted to do it a few times.
- I was gonna say like, especially in this period
where you're in this transitional phase,
like it might be worth it to say,
"Hey, I'm really stuck right now.
I'm based on everything that had happened with us.
I really feel like the least you could do
is to help me out during this time."
(45:28):
- No.
And maybe that means that you just need to send them
some videos every now and then.
- Well, I mean, there's definitely videos out there now.
- There are.
Which by the way, I'm still waiting on my free trial membership.
- So I decided that I was going to wait
to post any of my own individual stuff.
I don't want the individual.
(45:48):
I want to see some pound town happenin'.
- Well, well, we're gettin' there.
- What do you mean you're gettin' there?
- I can't just throw my pussy out there for everybody.
- Yes you can.
It's already on there, isn't it?
- Huh, shame on you.
- It is, isn't it?
- There is one video where there is some poo-pooin going on.
(46:09):
- And why don't I have a copy of this
or at least a free trial?
- Because it is the cornea start to a video ever.
You literally sent me a picture of you
and a pizza boy outfit the other day.
You're telling me that that is more corny
than a pizza boy uniform?
- Oh, see, no, it is that video.
(46:32):
- Are you serious?
See, it's that one.
Now I have to see the finished product.
- Please, God, please, I beg you.
- It's actually back story.
So he has to have gluten-free pizzas.
- Oh my God.
- Which they only have them in smalls.
- Is this a pizza box that by the way you saved
from your order?
(46:53):
- He saved it.
- Oh my God.
(laughing)
I've got to see.
- So basically I was like,
oh, what if I put on one of my old work uniforms
or whatever and I'll have this hat on or whatever
and try not to show the logo obviously?
But I was like, I'll come, I'll bring you the pizza.
You can be like, oh, come inside.
(47:15):
I gotta grab the money.
And then I was like, you turn around,
you go to grab your quote unquote money,
turn back around and you're like, wait a minute, a small.
It's like, and that's kind of like the setup for it.
- Wow.
And you're like, oh, well, let me give you a large.
Oh my God.
Now I did the whole thing, which is like, I'm sorry.
I'm just the delivery guy.
They just sent me with this to this actress.
(47:37):
Ah.
(laughing)
- I listen, there are not many things
that I'm begging to see, but can you please write me
right now?
- Send me that link.
- I, or send me, you can find it on his Twitter.
(laughing)
- The whole thing?
I mean, you can buy it?
(47:59):
- No, I'm not going to buy it.
I have, listen, I've got my in right now that you.
Okay. - Look, I have bills to pay.
- Not for me.
I'm not gonna help support that.
You're gonna help support me.
Okay, you're going.
- Oh!
- You need to help me out.
And let me see it.
(48:22):
Oh, well, one day maybe.
- Oh my God, you're painting the ass.
- But it's available for purchase 24/7.
- Oh my God.
And you know what?
I would almost, almost be okay with putting the link up
on the website, harshmediaink.com.
Just so you could see it.
But if I'm not gonna be able to see what I'm putting up,
(48:45):
you know, it's like,
some of between 10 and 12 bucks, you can afford that.
- You're right, I could,
but I'm waiting on you to send it to me.
- Mm, for free.
- Well, anyway, so basically we decided
that any collapse we do, we're gonna put that towards rent.
In the two videos we did this month,
(49:07):
I made over 400 after only fans took their 20% out.
- So I'm like, that ain't bad.
- So split between you two, you got 200 each.
- Well, basically what we did is we're like,
anything that's made off of a collab
just goes straight towards rent.
- Oh, it's like, yeah.
So I mean, basically it's the same thing,
(49:27):
but it's like, yeah, like, you know,
if we make $400 then boom, like,
rent just got $200 cheaper, I guess, per person.
So however you wanna work the math.
- So at this point, then you're not making,
you don't have your own content.
You're literally just rev sharing basically off his.
(49:48):
- Pretty much.
'Cause it's like, you know, I wanna go to the gym
a bit more and kinda get a little bit in better shape
before I start posting my own shit.
So I was like, hey, it's gonna take me a while
before I feel like comfortable enough to do my own shares.
Like so, on my only fans, which has nothing,
why don't we just put the collabs on there?
And that way we don't have to worry about like,
okay, we need to subtract how much you made off
(50:09):
of your videos, which is how much we made off
of these videos.
- Well, I was like, you know, I've, listen,
I'm waiting, I don't want any of these teasers,
the least you could do, listen, if I did it,
I would definitely make sure that you got a free membership
if you wanted it.
His thing is free to join.
(50:29):
I don't want a teaser.
Like I said, on only fans, you can buy the whole thing.
- I'm so sick of you right now.
I'm done.
- The next episode is done.
We're done.
We are done.
We are done.
Done.
If you want to find his, his, his,
his, uh, Poon Annie links, uh, go find it.
Google it.
(50:50):
I'm not helping anymore.
(laughs)
I have tried.
I have, I'm done.
Done with it.
And, uh, yeah.
So holidays coming up, um, make sure you,
you tell someone you love them.
And if you're gonna hook up with someone, don't lead them on.
- Thanks.
- I love you.
- That's, fuck off.
Fuck off.
- We're done.
Where?
- It's done.
(51:11):
Alright, I'm Charlie.
This is little bitch.
- I'm a little bit.
- Yeah, we'll see you later.
- Bye.
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[Music]
(00:20):
What is up everybody? This is The Chad. It is a podcast with me, Charlie, and I've got our boy here, Lil Momo. Say boy.
Let's play right out of the moon. God, the delay on that was just way too long. I'm so distraught.
Man, well anyway, Lil Momo is doing it. We got a different intro plan.
Oh, no. I still wanted to do that, but I wanted to hear your original little momma. Okay, anyway.
(00:47):
So now, since it is just you and I this show, I need something a little bit more sultry. Give it to me.
Yeah, clear that throw. Welcome to episode 11, navigating relationships, holidays, and a work-life balance featuring Charlie and me, Lil Momo.
Oh my. How's that? Wow, that is incredible. You had, honestly, have you ever thought about doing voiceover or audiobooks?
(01:16):
You know, I started thinking about it recently because I heard somebody talking, they were doing like the voiceover for Britney Spears' book, and I was like, I could do that.
See, you totally should do that, which by the way, talking about Britney Spears' book, I've got it right here and I've been reading it, and it is so good.
I bet it's juicy. It really is. And just like in the first part, like she talks about somebody in her family who basically committed suicide on the show.
(01:45):
on the grave of their deceased baby.
Like it's crazy.
Like just the stuff that she went through.
But no, it's good.
It's really good.
I was I wasn't proud.
I didn't think I was going to like it
because Brittany Spears
and I figured like we've seen everything.
Well, but I figured we've seen everything, right?
(02:05):
I mean, everything. - See nothing.
And that's what you find out.
Reading the books.
- Any real fan knows that you have seen nothing?
- I mean, but it just it kinda caught me off guard some of it.
And I'm not even into like some of the juiciest parts
that have come out like about, you know.
- Timberlake.
- Timberlake and just, you know,
(02:26):
when she was going through her mental episode,
like I haven't even got to that juicie part yet.
And it's already good.
- So TikTok has spoiled so much for me on that.
And I am here for all of it.
- I was scrolling through earlier
and it came across someone's TikTok
and they were doing that voiceover for the book.
They were just reading it.
(02:46):
I had to skip it.
I just, I didn't want to ruin it
'cause I wanted to have more mouth drop moments
like I had in just in that first part.
Like I just, yeah.
So anyway, no, it's really good.
If you were a reader, I would say you should get it.
- But.
- Bitch, I read people all day long.
- No, reading people is different
from reading words put together to make sentences.
(03:09):
Jesus.
Anyways.
- I guess they full on sentences.
What do you mean?
- Yeah, full on my ass.
So here we go.
It is just me and Momo today.
The end, Scotty out today, but it's all good.
We can maybe kind of carry this, I don't know.
We'll find out.
- I mean, we had a podcast before.
- No, we did.
We did.
(03:29):
Now I didn't.
- It was fantastic.
- It did something like that.
It didn't last long, but I don't know.
I think this goes in a different direction,
but I think it's a little bit more freestyle
than typically what we've done before.
- Absolutely.
- Speaking of freestyle, you know what is definitely freestyle
are most of the time hookups.
(03:49):
And hookups are fun.
- It can be.
- Experimental.
- And very awkward sometimes, depending on your chemistry
with that person.
- On the other person, yes.
- That's right, you're perfect no matter what.
My apologies.
- Exactly.
- There was this guy that I had spoke to him.
(04:12):
So here's a little bit of the history of this guy.
I got a message last night and it was very,
it was typical no picture blank profile type stuff.
- Oh, this was a grinder, okay.
- Yeah, grinder, yeah.
Said he was 22, he sent pictures,
and I knew I had seen him before.
(04:34):
And come to find out, I had already spoke to
and blocked this individual on Snapchat.
And we had exchanged, we had snapped before.
And I don't know, I guess it was like really,
something about it was like shady.
Like it didn't, something wasn't meshin' right with me.
(04:55):
And I think it was most of it like leading on
because his whole thing was he moved back here
to the sticks from Dallas
because he was living with his parents when he moved back here
and yada yada yada long story short,
he didn't have a job, whatever.
So, but, you know, okay, that's almost every twink on grinder.
(05:17):
So, yeah, exactly.
So anyway, so last night when he sent a picture,
I recognized it's him, but he obviously does
or recognize me, like he does not remember me.
Who is she?
So, his name is, I don't give a shit,
(05:37):
his name is Ty, is what he went by.
And so, I remembered that because of that whole chat
that we had, you know, I kinda keep faces and names
with the most part, I'm pretty decent with it,
but so we were talking and he ended up,
(06:00):
I didn't think he was gonna come out,
he was gonna flake, but I got the shower and everything
and kinda straightened up a little bit and ended up.
- You do all of that?
- Well, you're always ready at a moment's notice.
I'm not. - That's it, aren't you at top?
- Well, yeah, but I'm not.
- I just don't do all that.
- I know, I know, but I'm different, I'm caring.
(06:22):
And maybe I'm in the process of transitioning to a bottom.
I don't know.
- So, so, it's like things are getting too spicy for the pepper.
- Yeah, kind of, and I'm already a little spicy.
- Little. - Where?
- Shut up. - Shut up.
- Did you like paprika?
(06:43):
- What does that mean?
- You've had a spicy as some pepper.
- No, I'm decent, am I not?
You didn't think I was in our make out sash,
in our beach sash.
- Look, look, I'm spicy as a ghost pepper.
- Are you though?
- Are you, I don't think so.
(07:03):
- You can ask my previous lovers.
- Yeah, I mean, I was open to,
- They loved me anyway.
- I was open to find out how spicy you were at that moment,
but I was honestly reading, and I was reading you,
as you say, you're a people person.
And I guess I read the wrong chapter
because I thought you were just like not into me,
(07:25):
so I just like didn't.
(sniffing)
- No, I was playing the innocent good boy.
- My pot, I didn't realize we were role playing.
- I was ready to be defiled.
- My bad?
- My bad, I wish I would have known.
But that was the thing.
So last night when he ended up showing up, he came over,
and we were hanging out and everything.
(07:48):
We're talking and we put on,
you know, you gotta have something on the background.
So we got Bob's burgers on, you know.
- Oh my God.
- And you're really a class act.
- Yeah, I know.
- I know, I'm truly, truly in.
And so, you know, we're doing everything,
and we, you know, he's riding away
(08:10):
and whatever, all is good.
And then he ends up shooting while he's riding,
and it gets all in my eye and everywhere.
And I just, you know, in a little kind of taking it back,
because, you know, I still needed to get off.
I didn't do that.
But he didn't allow that to happen.
He would, he would, you know.
(08:31):
- Oh.
- Yeah, no, he just wanted to, he was done and done.
And.
- Oh no.
- Yeah, I was just like, okay, so now I kind of see where this is going.
It was just a hook up, just on his part.
Okay, not that I expected anything more of that, but whatever.
I did make it clear that, you know, and he even said too,
like our friends with benefits would be cool.
(08:53):
So I was thinking, okay, well, cool, we can just be,
we'll still be friends, we'll talk, whatever.
'Cause he also said that he was a gamer
and watched scary movies.
And so I was just like, oh, cool, we got something
in common, something we can do.
Well, one thing that I thought was really odd
was I noticed that there was another profile on Grindr
of a guy that was the same distance away as him.
(09:17):
And it was in feet.
- Oh.
- And I mentioned it to him.
I was like, hey, do you know what guy named Jay?
And he just kind of looked like, no, thanks.
So, and I'm just like, oh, I just noticed that they were,
you two were literally the same distance away.
So I was just, you know, whatever, whatever, it's okay.
And then so we were talking a little bit later,
(09:38):
and I asked him, I said, so are you in like a relationship,
open relationship, like stuff like that?
And he's like, nope.
I was like, okay.
Oh, no details, okay.
- No details, nothing at all.
And so after--
- Suspicious.
- Oh, it gets better.
So after, you know, we do the D and everything,
(09:59):
he still wants to cuddle.
So he was telling me about how his back was hurting.
So I'm just massaging his back.
Yeah, I'm just, I'm being a decent top, I think.
- Still while I didn't get off, asshole.
And we're just laying there and bed naked, you know?
- No, I'm sorry.
If you want the premium package,
(10:20):
you have to make sure the other person gets off.
That's just, that's 101.
- I was, I was, I thought I was doing so well.
I mean, the attention was on him, like,
my tongue was deep in his hole, like, I mean, it was--
- Well, you are much nicer than me.
I would have been like, okay, bye, get out.
- Yeah, I, I, I, I, I,
- Thought I ever have anybody come over to my place.
(10:40):
I always go to theirs, 'cause I'm like,
if I'm gonna get murdered,
it's not gonna be in my own apartment.
- I know, yeah, you at least wanna leave it clean
for whoever's gotta, you know, come over and--
- Exactly.
- Yeah. - Yeah.
- Yeah, so, no, I know.
I wish, I, I don't know, I think because I was trying
to stay positive, I was like, well, certainly, you know,
he's chill and he's not lying or whatever.
(11:04):
Well, that obviously wasn't the case.
And so I didn't wanna just kick him out,
'cause I was thinking, oh, well, you know,
whatever, we're cuddling, whatever, it's all good.
And then so anyway, he gets up,
he starts getting ready and Ely's, I walk him out
and so we're just kinda talking for a second
and I'm just like, well, hey, if you want my number
(11:24):
and he kind of sounded a little hesitant.
And then I was just kinda reading that
and I said, hey, if you don't wanna trust me,
it's no big deal, like we can just talk through,
you know, grind or whatever.
He's like, no, here, and then he handed me his phone,
I put in my number, he texted me, he said, hey, it's Ty,
I was like, okay, I didn't have my phone with me
right then, it was still inside, but, you know, whatever.
(11:48):
So Ely's, I'm just like, well, hey, you know,
you're driving back all the way to Dallas, you know,
just text me, let me know, you made it, you know,
make sure you're safe or whatever.
- Oh, man, you, mm-mm.
- I know, I am a two way to nice.
So anyway, whatever.
So I come back in, I see his text message
and I respond and I said, hey, had fun tonight,
(12:09):
text me sometime.
And it sent on I message, but it was never delivered.
(gasps)
It never said delivered.
And so when I saw that, I, I was saying, I was like,
why would it do that?
(12:29):
He obviously had service, like, there's no reason why it would--
- Why your ass got blocked.
- And that's exactly what happened.
Oh, no.
- And then I opened up Grindr and I see his profile
and I just know where it'd be found.
So he blocked me on there as well.
And-- - So, mm-mm-mm-mm.
(12:50):
So I do a little bit of digging
and I went back in my search history
and I went on Facebook where I found him.
- Oh, no.
- And-- - No!
- I was kind of shocked to see that a 22-year-old
was really active on Facebook, but fortunately for me
and my detective skills, he was doing that.
I wanna say for my purposes.
I noticed on October 8th, he posted something
(13:13):
that had about six pictures on it of him and his boyfriend.
And he said, "Happy National Boyfriend Day
to the man that I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with."
(buzzer)
I'm looking forward to seeing what more is to come.
- Oh, God, I love it.
I mean, maybe they have an open relationship.
(13:34):
- I literally asked that question.
He said no.
- Oh.
- Now, that doesn't mean that he wasn't lying about it.
Hoping that maybe I wouldn't feel weird about it.
And maybe that's why he blocked me was he was just like,
"Why is he asking these questions?"
Because I'll be all admit, it was kind of coincidence.
You know, that I asked that and lo and behold,
you know, this is the situation that he's in.
(13:55):
But he was, you know, very adamant that no,
he wasn't, that's kind of the situation.
So anyway, long story short, I'm kind of sad about it in a way,
but just because we spoke before and that was before,
like all, like obviously before he was in whatever relationship
(14:15):
he's in now.
But he was, you know, open to finding somebody.
And so, I don't know.
I just, I'm just kind of booty her by it.
- It's okay.
Your booty shouldn't be hurting.
You're a top.
- Well, I love your positivity in such wrong directions,
(14:36):
but you're welcome.
That's what I'm here for.
- I don't know.
I mean, should I be upset about that?
I don't think I should, but.
- I don't think you should waste your energy on it.
- I know.
That's the problem.
It's like I obviously am.
And I know I shouldn't, but here I am.
- You're doing it.
- Your friends with me get a harder skin.
- That's the problem is that I really should,
(14:58):
I'll say that over the years that I've gotten to the point
where I just don't give a shit as much as I used to,
but I still do care and I do have these feelings
for people that I really shouldn't have
and that bothers me.
But, and I think maybe because it's kind of like
with you in a way, because for so long,
(15:20):
you, in instillium to this day,
you will not enter into a relationship with me.
What, by any stretch, and-
- We tried that once.
- No, we never tried it once.
- You were.
- It was on Facebook.
- That was a joke.
That was- - That was Facebook official.
- That was made to be, that was a fucking joke.
(15:41):
But I guess because I will never,
like I won't have closure, like I won't know what did I do.
And I think that's what bothers me.
And I know that he, some people would say,
well, he doesn't owe you that explanation.
Well, I kind of disagree and think that I am owed
(16:02):
that explanation to a point.
Like, I'm not expecting detail,
but I at least wanna know how I can better myself
if it's something that I did.
And those are questions that I've also posed to you as well.
And I still feel that I haven't really gotten that answer.
And I think there's people out there
who have been in situations like that,
(16:23):
where they might wanna know, well, what did I do wrong?
Why?
- Maybe it's not that you did anything wrong,
but maybe it just, it didn't click.
Like, maybe for him it was like, oh,
and this is speaking from experience here,
it's like, oh, I have something going on.
And now that I've gotten with this guy,
I have conflicting feelings.
(16:43):
So I'm just gonna cut them out of my life completely now.
- Okay, bye.
- See, and okay, then let that be known.
Like, what is it that is so, I don't know.
Like, what scares people away from being truthful?
- I mean, three years ago when I was 22,
I don't think you could have gotten me to do that.
(17:04):
Nowadays, I'm just like,
or nowadays, I would just be like, yeah, sorry,
not working out, deuces.
But the thing is, I don't ever really block people.
It's like, I'll say my shit.
And then I'll just ignore them from that point on.
Be like, if you really wanna blow me up,
and I'm having a few drinks,
and I'm like, you know, feeling feisty, then I'll respond.
(17:26):
But I mean, like, I have this one to blow me up for days,
and I was like, dude, I don't wanna have anything to do
with you like, fuck off.
He's like, well, then block me, block me, you bitch.
And I was like, you're literally not worth
the energy of me blocking you.
- I mean, I blocked like three people in my life,
and one of those was my mother.
- It's just a button.
Let's be real.
- And that guy said, wasn't worth the effort.
(17:48):
- Oh my God.
- Well, okay, then whatever.
So there's that, right?
But still, wouldn't you think that in this situation,
particularly that given that there was some,
well, maybe not, maybe not.
I'm just talking out loud, I guess,
because I obviously blocked him for a reason
before on Snap.
(18:11):
And that was kind of my thing was,
I was curious as to maybe it didn't show delivered
because I actually already had his number before,
and I blocked it.
But then when I went through on my blocked list,
I didn't see it in there.
How many people do you have blocked?
- Oh, tons.
But I've seen none.
- Oh my God.
(18:31):
- But most of it is just like spam stuff.
So, you know, but I didn't know anyway.
I don't know.
It was a weird situation,
but then when I saw those pictures and all that, I was like,
this just became a little bit more awkward.
- Well, it won't be awkward anymore.
You're blocked.
(18:52):
- Yeah, yeah, that's true.
That's true.
Well, thanks for the positivity on that.
- You're welcome.
You're very welcome.
Free of charge.
- So it is already November,
and Turkey Day is up on us,
but I do wanna ask, what did you do for Halloween?
Did you have a party?
Did you do anything fun?
(laughing)
(19:15):
- You're like the party king.
- Yeah, I worked in the morning,
and then I took a nap,
and then I had a stream.
- God, you're old.
- Look, there are certain days of the week
that I stream over on Twitch, #StruggleBook.
- For now anyway.
- Are you still rebranding?
(19:37):
- Yeah, I let my old co-host do a stream last night,
and we talked about doing one more together
before the rebranding happens.
- How did that go?
- Oh, it went really well.
- Was it just him or was he with you?
- I popped in, but I was kinda like, I'm gonna let him do his own thing.
- And... - He said his farewell
(19:58):
at the end of his stream.
He was like, I love you guys,
and I might pop in for the occasional stream going forward,
but this is basically the last one I'll be doing.
It's like, oh, well.
- Sayonara, you're blocked.
- Sorry, I had to get some of my water.
- Yeah, right.
- Yeah.
- I left it in the freezer over, and I had to be fine.
(20:20):
- Oh, oh, real? I didn't know Baca froze.
- This is a four-local?
- Okay, then, that's like 10% alcohol.
That's still shitting the froze.
- It's only 10%.
- Only!
- That's not a percent more than what you should be having.
- The fuck it is.
- Definitely is.
- I think... - I should be drinking moonshine.
(20:41):
- No, I think you ought to save your four-locals
for your family get together on Thanksgiving,
and the long holidays coming up.
- You know what the funny thing is?
Is my siblings, we have a little group chat,
we just started whenever we buried my stepdad.
May he rest in pickles.
(laughing)
So they were like, hey, are you coming down for Thanksgiving?
(21:03):
'Cause I live like an hour and a half away,
and I'm like, um, probably not.
Just 'cause I worked in retail for so long
that's like, we didn't get any kind of holidays
off except for Christmas.
And that was it.
Like, we'd close early on Thanksgiving in preparation
for Black Friday where you had to come back early.
(21:24):
So it's like the store closes at 6 p.m.,
but you need to be back by 10 or 11 p.m.
so that you can do Black Friday.
- That's so stupid.
- Yeah.
- So it's like, we had a half day on Christmas Eve
off for Christmas, and that was it.
- That's it.
- So are you doing,
(21:45):
and 'cause you're working in food right now, part time, right?
So.
- Yeah, so I mean, I could, but I'm so used to not doing anything
for any holidays that I'm just like, it's just a Thursday.
- It, well, yeah, but,
aren't you going to meet 'cause you and your man,
you're actually trying to work things out.
- We are trying to work things out,
(22:05):
but the thing is, is he is gluten sensitive.
So taking him to a Thanksgiving thing,
it's like, did you put any flour in that?
Did you put any flour in that?
Is there any wheat in that?
Did you put any soy in that?
- I'm so, so he has celiacs?
- Yes, that's the word.
- Yeah, so I didn't realize it was all that.
(22:25):
What happens?
Like, what happens if he eats that stuff?
- Basically, I get on to him,
and I berate him for eating something.
He shouldn't have eaten.
And then he lays down for the next six hours.
- Does it hurt his stomach,
or is he just going to the bathroom,
or like, what is it?
- Yes.
Okay, all the above.
(22:46):
- Yeah, it seems like it hurts his stomach,
so that's why he usually just goes and lays down.
And it's like, I'll occasionally check on him,
like, do you need anything?
Like, are you alive?
- I told you not to get the Chinese food,
and there you are, getting more Chinese food.
- Oh, I don't blame him on that.
- No, I don't blame him either,
but I'm like, you bastard.
Like, I could have went and got some Chinese food,
(23:07):
and I would have enjoyed it.
- I still kind of wish,
you know what, maybe that's the whole thing.
Maybe you and I would have worked out
if we had went to get little bobo instead,
or, (laughing)
I think it was called the bobo Chinese over in a Murphy'sboro.
- Bobo Chinese.
- I think it's shut down now, but anyway.
It was, it was, I saw it off the highway
(23:30):
when I was turning to go to you,
and I asked you about that, and you were like,
"Oh no, we don't go to that place."
(laughing)
- Well, there you go.
(laughing)
But I saw that there,
it's, it's, you know, anyway.
- There was one place down in Murphy'sboro
that I absolutely loved.
It shut down, like last year, it's called Cathays,
but it was the college place if you wanted to enlist sushi
(23:53):
'cause it was 12.95 on Saturdays from 11 to three.
- For enlist sushi?
- Enlist sushi.
- Yeah, I don't want to shut down.
- Like, they have the dookies.
- Well, the thing is, like, there was only like,
there was like a page of sushi you could order,
and it's like, if you wanted to pay more,
it was like, okay, there's like three pages worth of sushi.
(24:13):
- But it's like, yeah, let me get that spider roll,
the avocado roll, the eel roll.
- Oh, so it was like custom stuff.
Like, it wasn't just like enlist California rolls.
- I mean, California's one, it was all set shit.
- Oh.
- But it was like, okay, what do you want?
And I would usually get like three rolls,
but, you know, three rolls, that's way more than 13 bucks.
(24:34):
- Yeah.
No, that's, yeah.
- I'm a friend in Calder, though.
We had to warn the staff when she was coming,
'cause she was like 95 pounds, beautiful Japanese girl,
and she ordered so much that they brought her
one of those wooden boats.
- Oh my God.
- She ate the whole goddamn thing,
(24:55):
and she's sitting there looking her lips, she's like,
"Ooh, ooh, I see, I'm ready for more."
- Oh, it's just like, where did she put it?
She's like, I think I have more.
- Wow.
I bet she was on the toilet for about a good hour.
- Mm-hmm.
- No, if we had a party that night.
- Oh my God.
See, that's the thing.
It's like, when Asians eat that much and they're so thin,
(25:17):
and then they, when they're done,
they, well, that's maybe that's what they're used to.
Like, they over in, well, I don't know, maybe it's only China,
but do Japan have those little toilets in the back,
and the ground, the hole, that you squat over,
the squatty potty?
- Basically, that's just in like, really roll areas of Japan.
- Oh.
(25:37):
- Most of the time, most of the time, it's like,
western style toilets.
- Oh.
- Except if you're like anywhere in like a metropolitan area,
it's like, they'll have like buttons and shit.
- See, that's why.
- Do do do do do.
- See, that's why I would,
he makes it sound like it's turning on your Samsung dryer
(25:58):
or something, like.
- That's, beep, beep, beep.
(laughs)
Hello.
- I don't know, I just, I was thinking that maybe it was,
I don't know, a little more than just the hole,
or maybe not just the hole in the ground.
- It's not the 1800s over there.
- Well, I don't know, I was just, I don't know.
(26:21):
I just thought that's how it all was.
Like that's why I was always really hesitant
about ever wanting to try to plan the trip to go over there,
'cause I'm like, girl.
- Oh my god.
- If I have to squat, I need somebody to help me up.
- Look, if you wanna go, just take me with you.
- Well, you'd have to, because I don't know Japanese,
and I don't know what I'm looking at,
(26:42):
but I would love to go.
I love watching on TikTok and even on YouTube,
Japanese street food videos.
- 'Cause that is so fascinating and it looks so good.
Like I feel like if I'm gonna have any real Japanese food,
like that's what I need to do.
Like I need to go there, try that,
and you know, venture out, basically.
(27:03):
See, that'd be the hardest part is like trying to order that,
because Japanese is taught in schools,
like how Spanish is taught in schools here.
- Proper.
- In the US.
- Yeah, like proper, but it's like, you know,
you take a year of English and it's like,
you're never gonna use it.
The most you'll use it for is like,
if there's like an English word that comes over to Japan,
(27:25):
like coffee, for example.
Cool he.
- Cool he.
- Yeah, 'cause they don't have like,
they don't have like the sounds that we do in English.
So it's like, cool he.
And it's like, okay, that's coffee.
That's the most English you're getting out of me.
- Yeah, see, but I would still wanna try to do it.
(27:45):
I mean, it sounds like you kinda have it,
but the Nancy have the thing.
They make these apps now.
Like I think Google translates one of them,
that you can literally put it on conversation mode
and have a conversation.
- It'll definitely, it'll help a lot.
It's came a long way.
(laughs)
Just don't try to say anything to advance
or not too long of sentences.
- Well like what have you said that,
(28:06):
what if you had to use it?
- I mean, I haven't, I played around with it
when somebody was doing like a YouTube video there,
like, can I get around Japan with just Google Translate?
- Oh.
- And it was like, okay.
And he was like, where's the bathroom?
(speaks in foreign language)
It's like, okay, it's over there, yeah right there.
(28:27):
- But did you just make that up?
Or did you actually say something?
- Toi-dee is toilet.
- Oh.
- And ducal is like where?
It's like where's the toilet?
- So, but you said it backwards.
- So,
you know how Yoda speaks?
(laughs)
(28:48):
- Yes.
- A lot of times you will start with the subject.
Like toi-dee wa ducal diska.
That's one way of saying it.
But it's the subject first.
That way they know what you're talking about.
- Is that how they actually talk?
- Yeah.
I actually, I got in trouble when I was in college
(29:09):
'cause I was learning Japanese.
And like we would have to have speaking tests
every so often.
So my professor would be like, Jake, you're speaking
in the casual, I was like, yeah, we haven't learned casual.
Like, I'm speaking how you would actually speak.
And she's like, yeah, you need to be more proper.
And I'm like,
(laughs)
- Yeah, already complaining, there you go.
(29:30):
- Well, 'cause like, if you're speaking like
to a friend of yours, we're like, toi-dee ducal.
It's like, where in toilet?
It's like, where's the toilet?
It's like, okay, cool, it's right over there.
Whereas proper is like, toi-dee wa ducal diska.
- Man. - Same exact thing.
It's just longer.
- I literally feel like I'm playing a Japanese game.
(29:54):
Right now. - Oh, thank you.
- Listen to you talk, yeah.
- Thank you.
- Well, why you're not doing those NPCs on TikTok,
making all that money.
- Bring it in. - Oh, good bank.
- I need to be doing something
because this part time job I have ain't doing it.
- See, well, but that's the whole thing.
Like, you've got the struggle book, you've got your Twitch.
(30:15):
So, why not just expand on that right now?
- I need to.
- Like, that's what you should be doing.
I mean. - See, here's the problem.
So, I have my boyfriend and I have my roommate
that live with me.
- Well, roommate for now, right?
He's leaving soon.
- So, oh my God, that was a whole situation.
- Oh my God.
(30:36):
- So, okay.
He was working at the same job I was.
He put in his notice and like, right after he quit,
like his last day, he was supposed to be going on a trip
with his soon to be new roommate.
So, it's like, okay, cool.
That'll be a really nice bonding experience for you guys.
You go on vacation, see you guys, click.
- Oh, the boyfriend.
(laughing)
(30:58):
- Anyway. - Yeah.
- So, I was like, okay, cool.
Well, apparently there was some lines that got crossed
because they were camping the entire time.
Like, when he came home, I was like, hey, oh my God,
it smells like something dies.
He's like, yeah, we've been camping.
I haven't showered in three days.
- Oh.
- Please, for the love of God.
- Oh no.
(31:18):
- So, once he got on showered, I was like,
so how did it go and everything?
He's like, half of it was good, but I found out
that he doesn't want to move down where I'm moving to.
He wants to move to Arkansas or something.
And I was like, well, when did he tell you this?
Like, two, three days ago.
And I was like, but you already had the apartment, right?
Like, yeah, we just had to basically sign some stuff
(31:38):
and move in.
And I'm like, he waited until then to tell you.
He doesn't want to move in together.
Oh my God.
So, I mean, him and I get along really well.
So, I was like, well, you're more than welcome
to stay as long as you need.
- Well, that's funny here in my back.
That's funny hearing that you say,
we get along really well now because there was that period.
(31:59):
- There was about a week long period,
but we talked about it.
We squashed all the drama and honestly,
we're better off for it.
- Okay.
- So, like, everything's Gucci there.
- That's, I mean, that's better, I guess,
better than not.
So, is that the plan now?
He's gonna stay around?
- No, he's still moving because he's going to school.
- Oh.
- So, yeah, he's still doing it,
but he had to like, obviously pivot a little bit.
(32:21):
But I say all this to say that I get really awkward
when I'm trying to record like a skit or something
and it doesn't bother me if they're in the room with me.
But if they're like, he's in his bedroom
and I know I'm talking loud enough for everyone to hear,
I feel really awkward about it.
- Oh my God.
(32:42):
- Oh yeah, I mean, if they're in the room,
I can like, look at their faces
and I can kind of like make a face at them or whatever.
And I can even like include them in the skit
if I need to to make it less awkward for me.
But if they're like in another room,
like I'm sitting there like,
what's the fairytale of my room?
It's all my hair.
(laughing)
- Well, you know what, that's true
(33:03):
because I've wondered that myself is like,
how does that sound on the other side of the door?
Like, exactly.
I would die, yeah, I'd probably.
- Well, it's stupid because I know they're both used to it
because I do it like three, four times a week.
- So I know they're used to it.
- And for those listening who aren't aware,
just go check out the struggle book.
(33:23):
Just do that, follow his socials and you'll see.
Exactly what it is.
You post those up on there, right?
You have your socials?
- Oh yeah, I post the,
so I do the little like my little,
my little memo voice, whatever I'm doing,
they don't on Facebook, Snapchat,
my Instagram or the struggle books Instagram.
I post it to all of those and it's like, okay, cool.
(33:45):
And then when I start the streams over on Twitch,
I'll be like, I'll turn the camera on and be like,
what's up everybody?
I'm the little memo and tonight we're playing Pokemon.
- Oh my God.
And then I let myself wean off of the voice
'cause it's hard to do that voice for too long.
So I'll wean off of it as I start doing the stream.
So within about 10 minutes into the stream,
(34:06):
it's like, I talk a little bit higher than I am now,
but it's, you know.
- That was one of my fears.
It's like when you started doing that,
I thought you were gonna try to keep that going
for the whole podcast.
- Hell no.
- Hell no.
- 'Cause I own that.
- I just couldn't be like,
okay, so now I'm gonna try to go in here
and see what happens and oh look, I just got char side.
- You're like, I did.
(34:26):
That's just too much.
- I think if I was wearing like a wig and makeup
and like fake boobs, I probably would, but.
- Oh, speaking of, I was gonna ask,
are you ever gonna go as Roger for Halloween?
Kinda going back in time a little bit, but.
- That was it.
So last year I had a friend group and he had just,
this guy had just bought a house.
We're gonna call him Jamal.
(34:48):
Sure.
(laughing)
Jamal had just bought a house.
So I told him about my Roger idea for Halloween.
He was like, oh, do that be awesome.
Well then drama happened and then, you know.
Him and I, we don't speak anymore,
but like if I saw him in public, it wouldn't be a big deal.
But his girlfriend though, I'd probably punch her in the face.
(35:10):
(laughing)
God.
But I told him, I was like,
I would love to dress up as one of Roger's personas
and then hide outfits throughout the house.
Like three or four outfits,
that way I can change outfits through the night.
(laughing)
Be like, wait, I thought you were wearing a Genevieve advance.
Like no, I'm Ricky Spanish now
and then like smack somebody and run away.
(35:31):
- Oh my God, that would be iconic, honestly.
- I'm telling you, like I was so happy
and I was like, it's not even gonna be that bad
'cause I can reuse some of the outfit pieces and whatnot.
- The biggest thing would be the wigs.
- One thing I was gonna do for you a couple of years ago
was get you a Roger sign and the actual,
(35:51):
what do they call that?
It's not LED, it's a...
- Oh, the neon?
- Yeah, the neon sign.
I was gonna get you one of those to put up in your kitchen.
- So I actually have a neon sign in my kitchen.
- But is it based after that though?
- So it was, it's basically like a neon,
like a drawing board.
(36:12):
So like I was on it.
I was like, little momo spot and I'd you like a cocktail and stuff.
- No, it's not the same.
- Yeah, I mean, but I can turn it on
and it's got like 15 or 20 different colors.
You can do some, like, there you go.
That's my sign.
When that sign is on, I'm drinking.
- Yeah, but you need a good Roger's place sign.
That's what you need.
- I mean, I do.
(36:33):
And I will still take one of those.
- Well good, good.
When I hit the lottery, I'm gonna fly up there
and scoop you up and we're gonna go,
we're gonna fly out to LA, we're gonna go shopping.
- Well, I think if you win the lottery,
I'm just gonna move.
- Yeah, that's what I'm worth it.
I got you.
I see now, I see.
- No, but you're my fluent.
(laughing)
(36:53):
- Only one I got money is what it sounds like.
- This, you've been my friend for how long?
- Too long.
- It's a long time.
A long time.
I think when, you know, when did we meet?
Was it 20?
- 15, 14, 15?
- I know.
- It's been longer than that, I think,
'cause I hadn't been on grouder for very long.
(37:13):
- God.
- 'Cause that's how we met.
- Yeah, yeah, it was good ol' apps.
Good ol' and look, here you are,
you're over there having fun and Tennessee and
- Mm-hmm. - Here I am,
something like that. - Some like,
"Hey, Haas." - Oh, God.
- God, I love that.
And you lived in Texas for a minute.
That whole situation still
throws me for a loop that you moved out here
(37:36):
for some dude that in his--
- Such sugar daddy.
- Yeah.
- How did that work out?
- It was great.
- And especially his last ditch effort
to keep me there.
(laughing)
- What did that in systems?
Like, what did he do?
- Okay, so I'm gonna go through
what he was offering and then I'm gonna say
(37:57):
why I had to say no.
- Okay. - All right.
- Okay, so some stuff happened and I was like,
"Yeah, I'm gonna have to figure something out."
So I called my old boss and I was like,
"Hey, I'm probably coming back to town.
I gotta work on my ride situation."
I was like, "But I can't keep doing this."
Well, he ended up coming up unannounced,
which I couldn't really get on to him
'cause he was paying for everything.
So I was like, "Okay, what's up?"
(38:18):
He was like, "I prepared to offer you."
I think it was 250K for the first year.
And then, I don't know, it was like 100K plus
every year after that, up until the time he passed away.
And that's how much I was gonna get whenever he passed,
which he had a bunch of medical issues.
(38:39):
So I was like, "Okay, it'll take anywhere
"between three to 10 years for him to pass.
"Is it worth me living like this? Probably not."
- Well, hold on.
So that was only if he passed.
- Yes, but it's like in the meantime though,
like he had somebody get me clothes
and bring them to my apartment,
go do all of my grocery shopping for me.
(39:01):
I went to dinners with him once a day,
and then I can't even--
- Is this apartment paid for?
- Yeah, it was paid for.
- Okay.
- So like, I think everything was taken care of,
and then it's like, "Hey, my phone bills do,
"Oh, here's the money for it,
"and here's like an extra 50 or whatever."
And it's like, "Okay, cool."
It's like, no big deal.
It's like if I wanted it, he would just take care of it for me.
(39:24):
Like I went to this one club where people were playing
like "Bock a rock and shit, never understood it."
I was just sitting there.
- Bock a rock.
- Yeah, I don't know. - Bock a rock.
Whatever.
(laughing)
- But like, this dude was like,
I was just sitting there like trying to smoke a cigar.
Turns out I don't like cigars.
And I was like drinking wine and shit,
(39:45):
'cause I was like, "Mm, they don't have like,
"he told me not to get tequila."
And I was like, "Fine, I'll get wine and try to be classy."
- Try.
- True one. - Yeah.
- Well, it wasn't barefoot.
- Wine, either.
It was real.
- Ew, no.
- It was actual wine.
- It was the real stuff.
- Not cool. - Cool, didn't it?
- I told you.
- Oh, this guy was like, "Oh man, I lost that hand."
(40:06):
Oh, well, onto the next one.
And throws out more fucking chips and stuff.
And I asked one of the guys that was walking around a worker
and I was like, "Hey, how much is that pile he just lost?"
He's like, "Oh, that's probably about $2,000, $2,500,
"something like that."
- Oh.
- And he just casually was like,
"Oh, and then bet more than that."
So I was like, "So that's gotta be at least like $3,500
"sit in there."
(40:27):
And I'm like, "What the fuck?"
- And that was your guy?
- No, that was somebody else across the table.
- My guy, I think he came out mostly even,
but I mean, he was betting thousands also.
And I'm just like, how do you guys just casually throw out
thousands of dollars like this?
- What did he do?
What type of work was he doing?
(sighs)
(40:50):
- Time to think about, okay.
His mother was a celebrity hairdresser,
so he wasn't that for a while,
started his own business with that.
But then I think he also had something to do
with oil.
- Oh.
- Because he took me to one of the plants down there.
- Yeah, there's a lot of them.
- Yeah, so he took me to one of those
(41:10):
and we went inside and kind of poked around for a little bit.
And he tried to go on top of one of them,
but I was like, "Look, you are like in your 60s almost,
"you probably don't need to be climbing this like 50 foot
"gas thing."
- Yeah, no, no.
(laughs)
- I'm just picturing, climbing the gas stack
with the flame coming out the top.
- Yes, I was like, "You did not need to go up there."
(41:31):
I was like, "That's what you have workers
"that you pay to do that for."
I was like, "You don't get hazard pay."
- Wow.
- What kind of car did he drive?
- He had a Rolls Royce.
- Of course, did you remember that?
But then he also had like three others, I don't remember.
- Was there ever talk about him buying you a car?
- Yeah, we actually went to a dealership one time
(41:53):
and he was like, "If you could have any of these,
"which one would you pick?"
And I was like, "I don't know, one that's got four wheels
"and goes room, room."
(laughs)
- I don't know.
So what do you point at the sion?
A pinto.
- I don't know.
I got him laughing about it
'cause I was just like, "I don't fucking know
"what these cars are called."
Like he had to tell me that it was a Rolls Royce
(42:13):
and I had to look it up and be like,
"Is it a Rolls Royce? Those are expensive."
- Yeah, that's kind of, I couldn't imagine you
pulling back up in Poetak, Town, Tennessee,
in a Rolls Royce, pulling out your little umbrella
outside the door.
- I don't get any clasps inside.
- Yeah.
- Oh, make she rest in peace.
- God rest her soul.
- Man, that's great.
(42:34):
Do you miss that whole situation?
- I'm not gonna lie.
It was exhilarating when it was good,
but the reason I had to say no to all of it
is without my knowledge, obviously.
He put microphones and cameras all up in my apartment.
- That's very like movie,
(42:56):
like that's American Horror Story type stuff.
- Yeah, because he said something one day
and I was like, "I never said that,
but I was on the phone talking to my friend
and I said something along those lines."
So by the time I was like, "No, what we're done,"
whatever, best of luck to you and whatever,
I was like, "No, I'm curious though."
(43:17):
How long has this been going on?
He's like, "Well, for a few weeks now,
and basically when I would take you to dinner,
I would have somebody come and swap out the stuff
or move the stuff if need be."
So he admitted to having someone do all that.
- Yeah, he admitted to it and then I got him to say
in a text message to me.
And then I was like, "Pretty."
(43:40):
- Yeah, so I was, yeah, I was,
which I baited him for it.
And then I was like, "Well, I mean,
I guess if I really have to,
I can sell this information to your ex-wife
who's family hates him."
And he was like, "I never admitted to anything."
And I was like, "I literally have a screen recording
of me going through our messages
that is about 15 minutes long."
- Oh my God.
- I was like, "I have all the paper trail I need."
(44:01):
I was like, "I'm not gonna do it just 'cause I'm not,
I'm a bitch, but I'm not like
an actually ruined your life type of bitch."
- So did he give you any money after that
to kind of get you to shut up, basically?
Any hush money?
Did you get any Donald Trump money?
- I did not get Donald Trump money.
(44:21):
But he was a Trump supporting Republican,
which is hilarious. - Of course he was.
- And he was going for like a Senator's seat
or something like that.
- Of course.
- So I got a little bit basically to just like,
help me get back.
So because of that, I was like, "Okay, I'll leave it alone
and a few months ago he was like,
"Hey, you know, hope you're doing okay."
Also, if you ever wanna go to,
(44:43):
I think Los Cabos, he's like,
I have like eight properties down there.
If you ever want one for like a week,
just let me know.
- So it's like, "Okay."
- So it's like, we don't talk regularly,
but it's like, "You know, I'll try to be friendly."
I was like, "You also know I have ammo to destroy you
if I need to."
- Wow, look at you.
That's, you know what though?
That's not bad to have in your back pocket if you need it.
(45:05):
- No, absolutely not.
- Do you think you'll ever use it?
- I might.
I've been tempted to do it a few times.
- I was gonna say like, especially in this period
where you're in this transitional phase,
like it might be worth it to say,
"Hey, I'm really stuck right now.
I'm based on everything that had happened with us.
I really feel like the least you could do
is to help me out during this time."
(45:28):
- No.
And maybe that means that you just need to send them
some videos every now and then.
- Well, I mean, there's definitely videos out there now.
- There are.
Which by the way, I'm still waiting on my free trial membership.
- So I decided that I was going to wait
to post any of my own individual stuff.
I don't want the individual.
(45:48):
I want to see some pound town happenin'.
- Well, well, we're gettin' there.
- What do you mean you're gettin' there?
- I can't just throw my pussy out there for everybody.
- Yes you can.
It's already on there, isn't it?
- Huh, shame on you.
- It is, isn't it?
- There is one video where there is some poo-pooin going on.
(46:09):
- And why don't I have a copy of this
or at least a free trial?
- Because it is the cornea start to a video ever.
You literally sent me a picture of you
and a pizza boy outfit the other day.
You're telling me that that is more corny
than a pizza boy uniform?
- Oh, see, no, it is that video.
(46:32):
- Are you serious?
See, it's that one.
Now I have to see the finished product.
- Please, God, please, I beg you.
- It's actually back story.
So he has to have gluten-free pizzas.
- Oh my God.
- Which they only have them in smalls.
- Is this a pizza box that by the way you saved
from your order?
(46:53):
- He saved it.
- Oh my God.
(laughing)
I've got to see.
- So basically I was like,
oh, what if I put on one of my old work uniforms
or whatever and I'll have this hat on or whatever
and try not to show the logo obviously?
But I was like, I'll come, I'll bring you the pizza.
You can be like, oh, come inside.
(47:15):
I gotta grab the money.
And then I was like, you turn around,
you go to grab your quote unquote money,
turn back around and you're like, wait a minute, a small.
It's like, and that's kind of like the setup for it.
- Wow.
And you're like, oh, well, let me give you a large.
Oh my God.
Now I did the whole thing, which is like, I'm sorry.
I'm just the delivery guy.
They just sent me with this to this actress.
(47:37):
Ah.
(laughing)
- I listen, there are not many things
that I'm begging to see, but can you please write me
right now?
- Send me that link.
- I, or send me, you can find it on his Twitter.
(laughing)
- The whole thing?
I mean, you can buy it?
(47:59):
- No, I'm not going to buy it.
I have, listen, I've got my in right now that you.
Okay. - Look, I have bills to pay.
- Not for me.
I'm not gonna help support that.
You're gonna help support me.
Okay, you're going.
- Oh!
- You need to help me out.
And let me see it.
(48:22):
Oh, well, one day maybe.
- Oh my God, you're painting the ass.
- But it's available for purchase 24/7.
- Oh my God.
And you know what?
I would almost, almost be okay with putting the link up
on the website, harshmediaink.com.
Just so you could see it.
But if I'm not gonna be able to see what I'm putting up,
(48:45):
you know, it's like,
some of between 10 and 12 bucks, you can afford that.
- You're right, I could,
but I'm waiting on you to send it to me.
- Mm, for free.
- Well, anyway, so basically we decided
that any collapse we do, we're gonna put that towards rent.
In the two videos we did this month,
(49:07):
I made over 400 after only fans took their 20% out.
- So I'm like, that ain't bad.
- So split between you two, you got 200 each.
- Well, basically what we did is we're like,
anything that's made off of a collab
just goes straight towards rent.
- Oh, it's like, yeah.
So I mean, basically it's the same thing,
(49:27):
but it's like, yeah, like, you know,
if we make $400 then boom, like,
rent just got $200 cheaper, I guess, per person.
So however you wanna work the math.
- So at this point, then you're not making,
you don't have your own content.
You're literally just rev sharing basically off his.
(49:48):
- Pretty much.
'Cause it's like, you know, I wanna go to the gym
a bit more and kinda get a little bit in better shape
before I start posting my own shit.
So I was like, hey, it's gonna take me a while
before I feel like comfortable enough to do my own shares.
Like so, on my only fans, which has nothing,
why don't we just put the collabs on there?
And that way we don't have to worry about like,
okay, we need to subtract how much you made off
(50:09):
of your videos, which is how much we made off
of these videos.
- Well, I was like, you know, I've, listen,
I'm waiting, I don't want any of these teasers,
the least you could do, listen, if I did it,
I would definitely make sure that you got a free membership
if you wanted it.
His thing is free to join.
(50:29):
I don't want a teaser.
Like I said, on only fans, you can buy the whole thing.
- I'm so sick of you right now.
I'm done.
- The next episode is done.
We're done.
We are done.
We are done.
Done.
If you want to find his, his, his,
his, uh, Poon Annie links, uh, go find it.
Google it.
(50:50):
I'm not helping anymore.
(laughs)
I have tried.
I have, I'm done.
Done with it.
And, uh, yeah.
So holidays coming up, um, make sure you,
you tell someone you love them.
And if you're gonna hook up with someone, don't lead them on.
- Thanks.
- I love you.
- That's, fuck off.
Fuck off.
- We're done.
Where?
- It's done.
(51:11):
Alright, I'm Charlie.
This is little bitch.
- I'm a little bit.
- Yeah, we'll see you later.
- Bye.
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