May 19, 2025 • 16 mins
A man's wife refuses to acknowledge her stepson, a misspelled post leads to massive tattoo confusion, and a relationship leads to the single life when a man puts his girlfriend on the spot in front of his friends.
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Speaker 1 (00:07):
Welcome to that's based Happy Monday.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
I'm your host, has always Caleb Savatine, reporting from somewhere underground.
We're a lap on our way through the end of Days,
brought to you by outlaw Streamers. It is the unsolicited
Advice segment where we take a break from politics and
social commentary and we scour the Internet searching for some
folks that need a little bit of help, but they
don't necessarily want it from an asshole like me.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
Stockholm Mea. The red face of white supremacy is with.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Us as usual and rather than our normal sponsored segment,
I want to give a shout out to a benefit
concert in Ralston, Nebraska, May thirty first, at eleven am
to four pm at the Granary in Ralston, Nebraska.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
The Granary, it's right by what's that redneck bar called
me the Pushbuckers. Yes, it's right over by there.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
They've got a friend of my mother's has actually been
diagnosed with some really aggressive late stay overian cancer. They're
doing a fundraiser for her. If you want to donate,
we will drop the donation links on the Facebook page
in the links for that space with Caleb Salvator in
both the group and the page you can donate there.
I think they also have a venmo for it, for
(01:20):
which we will provide the information for as well. You
should go help them out if you want to go
donate or support them at the benefit concert where they're
gonna have all kinds of local musicians.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
That's again May thirty.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
First, it's a Saturday from eleven am to four pm
at the Granitur Granary in Ralston, and I want to
make it clear the person we're raising money for is
a lesbian, So you guys can't keep calling me homophobic.
You have to stop with those baseless allegations. I'm helping
(01:54):
raise money for a lesbian Okay, so we're good, all right.
First the Granary and Ralston eleven am to four pm.
They're gonna be doing that and we'll also once again
drop the donation links for both to gofund me or
if you just want to scut cut out the middleman
and go straight to the venmo, depending on what your level.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
Of trust is, that's fine.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
You know we've we've done fundraisers on here before, though
we would never mislead you. We'll drop all those in
both the Facebook group and the page. If you're not
following batspace with Caleb Savatore. It's on both the fate
It's on both the Facebook page and a group. Go
do that as well. The dog is having an outburst
right now? Do you have anything you want to lead off.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
With with these stories? Anything? People need to know? No?
Figure it out? Should I get some pepto bismo for
what they might do to my stomach?
Speaker 2 (02:39):
Like?
Speaker 1 (02:39):
What's what's going on here? My voice is half cooked? Stories? Okay,
my voice is half cooked. I am not sick.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
I was at a concert the other night and I
lost my voice through fire. It's an Omaha band Grammy nominated.
Was supposed to be their last dance.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
We don't know. We'll have to wait and see. No
poop stories. You said, no poop stories, no peace stories,
ex com stories.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
Oh good, the trifecta good, but didn't get one of
them this week?
Speaker 1 (03:08):
All right? First one, hare, am I the asshole for
telling my.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Husband that I am not changing my conditions regarding his
son or else we divorce?
Speaker 1 (03:17):
All right? Saus.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
I'm thirty eight of two children, twelve male, eight female
with my husband.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
When my son was.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
One, my husband cheated on me because our marriage was
going through rough waters and he got I show love
is she just leads off, make an excuse for it.
And he got his mistress, Selena pregnant. He fathered a
ten year old with her and his name is Jack.
We were nearly about to divorce, but at the end
we reconciled. But condition to reconcile was that he can't
(03:43):
bring his affair child to my house. I owned my
home which I inherited from my parents. Oh my god.
He pays child support to his ex mistress and gets
one week a month with his affair baby.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
Oh so she just.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
The affair baby a fair child. So the names what
she needs to realize here. She can have all the
resentment she wants toward her husband. She can have all
the resentment she wants toward that woman. Not but the
kid plays no role in this. This is not the
(04:17):
kid's fault. He didn't ask to be brought into your
fucked up little family to take it out on him
as bullshit. You have every right to be upset with
everyone at the same time, though, if you genuinely want
to reconcile the marriage, you have to stop being upset
with everyone that you have to move on. You have
to forgive them. You certainly can't do this thing with
the kid. This is not forgiveness taking it out on
(04:39):
his son. You can't tell a man he can't see
his son if he wants to stay with you, that's
part of the condition. Now he needs to leave at
this point, because listen, I'm not one of those people
that I think everything is black and white, where infidelity
is an automatic deal breaker.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
You never know until you've been there, right.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
But come on, if like you genuinely want to try
to fix it's the marriage and you're telling him part
of your conditions is he can't bring his kid into
the house. At this point, you've taken a situation where
you were the wronged and you've become the wrong er.
Is wrong er, you're the one doing the wronging, is
(05:15):
what I'm saying. Here says so far it has been
pays childhood or child sports. The ex mistress gets one
month there's a fair baby, and he stays that week
at his parents' house.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
So far it's been good.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
He also owns his house, but have to pay mortgage
and has rented his own house Outwait, so they have
two houses just to play for Oh my god, my
brother in law had two dogs that they kept in
separate rooms because the dogs were at each other's throats,
And I thought that was ridiculous.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
Not separate rooms, separate stories.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
Of the house, separd areas of the house. Yeah, one
was in the basement. They did have to like move
maneuver them whenever they wanted to bring the other one
upstairs or whatever the case may be.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
I thought that was ridiculous.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
But having two houses so your wife doesn't go casey
Anthony on your bastard son is a whole other level
of insanity. Here says now his ex is traveling for
some more weeks. He has to keep him for longer,
he asked me, and I refuse that. I also told
him that his long absence at home will cause issues.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
She doesn't want to save their marriage. She hates him.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
She never really forgave him for the affair, which is
totally within her right. But she needs to drop this
act because it's bad for everyone. It's bad for you,
it's bad for your husband, it's bad for the two
kids you have together, and it's bad for the kid
that he had.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
With the other woman.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
And by the way, those three kids, none of them
asked to be involved in any of this, and you're
making this their problem. He says he has to sort
out with his ex mistress. Selina's family doesn't help her
because she had an affair with my husband, and they
find it pathetic that she mothered a child with a
married man. Her family supported me in the past. Why
are you with this guy like? He just sounds like
she just hates him. He's been calling me names and
(06:57):
asking me to reconsider. I told him that the condition
of our marriage reconsideration was to clear him and he
chose that, and he chose that back then. I didn't
put a gun in his head, and he decided to
stay married. I told him the son can't keep a
step in my house.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Well, you're also an illiterate retard as well. If he
wants to live with this son, we can divorce. He
called me cruel, But I don't want to take that
boy at my place. Can you take that color off him?
Speaker 2 (07:22):
Because I know the fact that I won't be nice
to I know for a fact that I won't be
nice to him. His mother and I have already gotten
invites physically in the past. Neither me nor my children
has met the kid out okay, so there's physical violence.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
Involved as well.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
Now, except for a few times when my husband tried
to sneak them out and we had a huge fight.
After that, he stopped and told my kids that his
father cheated on me with the ex mistress. Since then,
they don't want anything to do with the boy. So
you're turning children against another cho Okay. I wanted my
kids to stay away from this mess my husband has created. No,
you didn't know. You didn't because you would have divorced
your husband if you wanted to keep your kids out
(07:55):
of this. You didn't do that. He said, he can't
divorce me and will ask his parents to take care
of him. No, he can divorce me. I am not
stopping him. It's okay, what are we doing. We're playing
like chicken with divorce court. Right now, you can divorce me.
There's nothing stopping you. Guys, if you're at the point
in your marriage or your relationship or whatever where you're like,
(08:15):
go ahead and do it.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
There's nothing stopping you. Your marriage is over, it's done.
There's nothing to salvage because you don't want to salvage it.
That's all there is to it.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
Until you change your mindset like that shouldn't be your attitude.
Until you change your mindset, you're done.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
So.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
So my conditions were clear from day one, and he
can feel free to divorce me and my conditions. Yeah,
I mean, you're not even she The problem here is
she never actually wanted to get back with him.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
Am I wrong?
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Here? She never actually wanted to get back with him.
She just did it because it would be easier. And
this is in a way, again, I'm not excusing him
having an affair, and that's scumbag behavior. In a way,
this almost feels like to her, she's able to punish
(09:05):
the guy even more by staying with him and putting
him through all these loops to see his kid. Am
I off debate here? Am I off the beat?
Speaker 1 (09:14):
Here? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (09:15):
That's what this feels like to me, is this is
a way to actually punish him even more harshly than
just a divorce where yeah, you might have to pay
a lawyer and do some alimony and child support or whatever,
but at least you can cut your losses. This is
like cruel And again, like I said, I'm not going
to excuse what the guy did, but.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
I don't know. It sounds like he genuinely feels bad
for what he did.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
And it's, like I said, I'm not one of those
people that thinks if one of.
Speaker 1 (09:45):
The party's cheats, you have to be over.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
If there's like the person realizes how badly they fucked
up and they want to truly reconcile, that's fine, but
it can't come with all these strings attached. And both
parties need to be invested in making it work. And
it sounds like, at least for sure, one of the
parties is not invested in making it work. I don't
know about what's going through the other guy's head here,
(10:07):
but this is not gonna This is a fail This
is a failure.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
There's no situation where this works. Do you have anything
you want to add? No, just that I agree her
grammar is terrible. Oh my god, no, wonder he cheated.
That's one of the reasons why I picked this story
because of how bad it was. Do you think Selena
was like an English teacher?
Speaker 2 (10:29):
Oh? I just wanted to overcorrect to someone who didn't
talk like an illiterate bastard. I also would to note
that this got deleted like shortly after it was posted.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
That's why it's on like some random website that I
had to find it. But yeah, I saved it and
then went back to it a little bit later and
it was gone. All right, next one here.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
Why don't tattoo places just euthanize their clients? Okay, I
drive around a lot for work. I recently saw some
signs for a dentist that says they offer euthanasia for
their clients who might be scared of going to the dentist.
I mean, look, I don't like going to the dentist either,
(11:11):
but I don't think death is a good alternative to it.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
Do they mean anesthesia? Okay? Because I was driving so
I couldn't take a picture, but I thought it was
really cool.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
Since I never really liked going to the dentist, it
got me thinking as to why tattoo places don't do
the same. I have a little pain tolerance, so I
think if a place offered euthanasia, I'd be more likely
to visit. You know, a what, man, there's some days
where if a place offered youth in Asia, I'd be
more likely to visit too.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
I fucking so I'm gonna go.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
We're gonna Well, it's obvious why tattoo shops don't offer euthanasia,
and neither do dental offices for that matter. I'm assuming
he means anesthesia, and what I will say to that
is anesthesia is a actually a very very delicate process.
(12:04):
You have to give make sure someone has the right
amount in them or it could kill them. Even if
it's slightly off too much, they could die too little,
it doesn't work, and they wake up in the middle
of the surgery in tremendous amounts of pain. Now let
me tell you, I've got some friends that are tattoo artists.
I wouldn't want any of those people administering anesthesia to me,
none of them whatsoever, including my friend who did all
(12:26):
of my tattoos that I have all over my chest
and both of my arms and my legs.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
Great friend of mine. You know, if we were in a.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
End of the world apocalypse scenario and you gave me
ten people that I wanted in my corner, he'd probably
be one of them, because he's one of the most
resourceful people I know.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
Wouldn't want him giving.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
Me anesthesia, though, so I'm gonna go no. I don't
know why. That's why tattoo places don't offer anesthesia.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
As far. I thought they were just gonna be like
shitting on people with tattoos, and that's what this was about.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
That's uh okay, let's go to the last one. Am
I the asshole for refusing to pay for my boyfriend
my boyfriend's bro night after he just or after he
put me on the spot. So I twenty four female
and date my boyfriend twenty six mail for about a year.
He's super into his weekly bro nights with his friends,
which I totally support. I usually just chill it home,
(13:21):
do my own thing, no problem. This past Friday, we
were out grabbing dinner what his friends called asking him
to come over for poker and drinks. He said sure,
then right in front of him turned to me and went, babe,
you got this right, meaning the bill. I was caught
off guard but figured whatever, I'll cover dinner. Then he added,
can you send me some money for drinks? I'm kind
of low on cash, but he's gonna go play poker.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
So that's what you do when you're low in money,
guys is gamble.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
At this point, his friends were laughing and hyping him up, like, yeah,
take care of your man. I felt super awkward, but
just said nope, I think you got it. He got quiet,
paid for his half, and left. Later he texted saying
I embarrassed him in front of his and then I
made him look like he doesn't wear the pants in
the relationship. I don't think he knows what wearing the
pants and the relationship entails. It does not entail living
(14:08):
like a sugar baby, that's for sure. Have I ever
asked you for money once? All the time, all the time?
Speaker 1 (14:16):
When you ask me every month to pay the mortgage.
Speaker 2 (14:18):
Yes, when I say, hey, it's time to pay the mortgage,
let's do that, I am asking you for money.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
That's true.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
So I told him I'd be happy to treat him sometimes,
but I don't like being put on the spot, especially
when it's for him to go out with me. Now
he's sulking and his friends are apparently joking about how
he lost his sponsor. Am I the asshole for standing
in my card? No, this guy's this is even real.
This guy's a loser, it says update. We officially just
broke up. Yeah, you dodged a bullet. Listen, guys, as
(14:48):
a man, there's no circumstance, none, zero, zilch, zip, nada
where you should be asking your girlfriend, wife whatever, to
pay for you to go out with your bullet. That's
not something you do. If she chooses to out of
the goodness of her heart, then so be it. But
your wife should not be covering your girlfriend, whatever it is.
(15:10):
Should not be covering you to go out and party
with your boys. That's no, that's ridiculous and it's juvenile.
I can see him asking it as a joke, but
it doesn't sound like he was joking. It actually very
much the opposite. Based on what we know here, it
sounds like he was doubling if you're not tripling down
on it. So no, you are not not the asshole here.
(15:33):
Look at that I fundraised for a lesbian and I
side with a woman in the same episode.
Speaker 1 (15:38):
I'm not the Am I going woke? Am I getting soft? Here?
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Welcome to that's based Happy Monday.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
I'm your host, has always Caleb Savatine, reporting from somewhere underground.
We're a lap on our way through the end of Days,
brought to you by outlaw Streamers. It is the unsolicited
Advice segment where we take a break from politics and
social commentary and we scour the Internet searching for some
folks that need a little bit of help, but they
don't necessarily want it from an asshole like me.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
Stockholm Mea. The red face of white supremacy is with.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Us as usual and rather than our normal sponsored segment,
I want to give a shout out to a benefit
concert in Ralston, Nebraska, May thirty first, at eleven am
to four pm at the Granary in Ralston, Nebraska.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
The Granary, it's right by what's that redneck bar called
me the Pushbuckers. Yes, it's right over by there.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
They've got a friend of my mother's has actually been
diagnosed with some really aggressive late stay overian cancer. They're
doing a fundraiser for her. If you want to donate,
we will drop the donation links on the Facebook page
in the links for that space with Caleb Salvator in
both the group and the page you can donate there.
I think they also have a venmo for it, for
(01:20):
which we will provide the information for as well. You
should go help them out if you want to go
donate or support them at the benefit concert where they're
gonna have all kinds of local musicians.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
That's again May thirty.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
First, it's a Saturday from eleven am to four pm
at the Granitur Granary in Ralston, and I want to
make it clear the person we're raising money for is
a lesbian, So you guys can't keep calling me homophobic.
You have to stop with those baseless allegations. I'm helping
(01:54):
raise money for a lesbian Okay, so we're good, all right.
First the Granary and Ralston eleven am to four pm.
They're gonna be doing that and we'll also once again
drop the donation links for both to gofund me or
if you just want to scut cut out the middleman
and go straight to the venmo, depending on what your level.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
Of trust is, that's fine.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
You know we've we've done fundraisers on here before, though
we would never mislead you. We'll drop all those in
both the Facebook group and the page. If you're not
following batspace with Caleb Savatore. It's on both the fate
It's on both the Facebook page and a group. Go
do that as well. The dog is having an outburst
right now? Do you have anything you want to lead off.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
With with these stories? Anything? People need to know? No?
Figure it out? Should I get some pepto bismo for
what they might do to my stomach?
Speaker 2 (02:39):
Like?
Speaker 1 (02:39):
What's what's going on here? My voice is half cooked? Stories? Okay,
my voice is half cooked. I am not sick.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
I was at a concert the other night and I
lost my voice through fire. It's an Omaha band Grammy nominated.
Was supposed to be their last dance.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
We don't know. We'll have to wait and see. No
poop stories. You said, no poop stories, no peace stories,
ex com stories.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
Oh good, the trifecta good, but didn't get one of
them this week?
Speaker 1 (03:08):
All right? First one, hare, am I the asshole for
telling my.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Husband that I am not changing my conditions regarding his
son or else we divorce?
Speaker 1 (03:17):
All right? Saus.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
I'm thirty eight of two children, twelve male, eight female
with my husband.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
When my son was.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
One, my husband cheated on me because our marriage was
going through rough waters and he got I show love
is she just leads off, make an excuse for it.
And he got his mistress, Selena pregnant. He fathered a
ten year old with her and his name is Jack.
We were nearly about to divorce, but at the end
we reconciled. But condition to reconcile was that he can't
(03:43):
bring his affair child to my house. I owned my
home which I inherited from my parents. Oh my god.
He pays child support to his ex mistress and gets
one week a month with his affair baby.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
Oh so she just.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
The affair baby a fair child. So the names what
she needs to realize here. She can have all the
resentment she wants toward her husband. She can have all
the resentment she wants toward that woman. Not but the
kid plays no role in this. This is not the
(04:17):
kid's fault. He didn't ask to be brought into your
fucked up little family to take it out on him
as bullshit. You have every right to be upset with
everyone at the same time, though, if you genuinely want
to reconcile the marriage, you have to stop being upset
with everyone that you have to move on. You have
to forgive them. You certainly can't do this thing with
the kid. This is not forgiveness taking it out on
(04:39):
his son. You can't tell a man he can't see
his son if he wants to stay with you, that's
part of the condition. Now he needs to leave at
this point, because listen, I'm not one of those people
that I think everything is black and white, where infidelity
is an automatic deal breaker.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
You never know until you've been there, right.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
But come on, if like you genuinely want to try
to fix it's the marriage and you're telling him part
of your conditions is he can't bring his kid into
the house. At this point, you've taken a situation where
you were the wronged and you've become the wrong er.
Is wrong er, you're the one doing the wronging, is
(05:15):
what I'm saying. Here says so far it has been
pays childhood or child sports. The ex mistress gets one
month there's a fair baby, and he stays that week
at his parents' house.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
So far it's been good.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
He also owns his house, but have to pay mortgage
and has rented his own house Outwait, so they have
two houses just to play for Oh my god, my
brother in law had two dogs that they kept in
separate rooms because the dogs were at each other's throats,
And I thought that was ridiculous.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
Not separate rooms, separate stories.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
Of the house, separd areas of the house. Yeah, one
was in the basement. They did have to like move
maneuver them whenever they wanted to bring the other one
upstairs or whatever the case may be.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
I thought that was ridiculous.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
But having two houses so your wife doesn't go casey
Anthony on your bastard son is a whole other level
of insanity. Here says now his ex is traveling for
some more weeks. He has to keep him for longer,
he asked me, and I refuse that. I also told
him that his long absence at home will cause issues.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
She doesn't want to save their marriage. She hates him.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
She never really forgave him for the affair, which is
totally within her right. But she needs to drop this
act because it's bad for everyone. It's bad for you,
it's bad for your husband, it's bad for the two
kids you have together, and it's bad for the kid
that he had.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
With the other woman.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
And by the way, those three kids, none of them
asked to be involved in any of this, and you're
making this their problem. He says he has to sort
out with his ex mistress. Selina's family doesn't help her
because she had an affair with my husband, and they
find it pathetic that she mothered a child with a
married man. Her family supported me in the past. Why
are you with this guy like? He just sounds like
she just hates him. He's been calling me names and
(06:57):
asking me to reconsider. I told him that the condition
of our marriage reconsideration was to clear him and he
chose that, and he chose that back then. I didn't
put a gun in his head, and he decided to
stay married. I told him the son can't keep a
step in my house.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Well, you're also an illiterate retard as well. If he
wants to live with this son, we can divorce. He
called me cruel, But I don't want to take that
boy at my place. Can you take that color off him?
Speaker 2 (07:22):
Because I know the fact that I won't be nice
to I know for a fact that I won't be
nice to him. His mother and I have already gotten
invites physically in the past. Neither me nor my children
has met the kid out okay, so there's physical violence.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
Involved as well.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
Now, except for a few times when my husband tried
to sneak them out and we had a huge fight.
After that, he stopped and told my kids that his
father cheated on me with the ex mistress. Since then,
they don't want anything to do with the boy. So
you're turning children against another cho Okay. I wanted my
kids to stay away from this mess my husband has created. No,
you didn't know. You didn't because you would have divorced
your husband if you wanted to keep your kids out
(07:55):
of this. You didn't do that. He said, he can't
divorce me and will ask his parents to take care
of him. No, he can divorce me. I am not
stopping him. It's okay, what are we doing. We're playing
like chicken with divorce court. Right now, you can divorce me.
There's nothing stopping you. Guys, if you're at the point
in your marriage or your relationship or whatever where you're like,
(08:15):
go ahead and do it.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
There's nothing stopping you. Your marriage is over, it's done.
There's nothing to salvage because you don't want to salvage it.
That's all there is to it.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
Until you change your mindset like that shouldn't be your attitude.
Until you change your mindset, you're done.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
So.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
So my conditions were clear from day one, and he
can feel free to divorce me and my conditions. Yeah,
I mean, you're not even she The problem here is
she never actually wanted to get back with him.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
Am I wrong?
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Here? She never actually wanted to get back with him.
She just did it because it would be easier. And
this is in a way, again, I'm not excusing him
having an affair, and that's scumbag behavior. In a way,
this almost feels like to her, she's able to punish
(09:05):
the guy even more by staying with him and putting
him through all these loops to see his kid. Am
I off debate here? Am I off the beat?
Speaker 1 (09:14):
Here? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (09:15):
That's what this feels like to me, is this is
a way to actually punish him even more harshly than
just a divorce where yeah, you might have to pay
a lawyer and do some alimony and child support or whatever,
but at least you can cut your losses. This is
like cruel And again, like I said, I'm not going
to excuse what the guy did, but.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
I don't know. It sounds like he genuinely feels bad
for what he did.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
And it's, like I said, I'm not one of those
people that thinks if one of.
Speaker 1 (09:45):
The party's cheats, you have to be over.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
If there's like the person realizes how badly they fucked
up and they want to truly reconcile, that's fine, but
it can't come with all these strings attached. And both
parties need to be invested in making it work. And
it sounds like, at least for sure, one of the
parties is not invested in making it work. I don't
know about what's going through the other guy's head here,
(10:07):
but this is not gonna This is a fail This
is a failure.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
There's no situation where this works. Do you have anything
you want to add? No, just that I agree her
grammar is terrible. Oh my god, no, wonder he cheated.
That's one of the reasons why I picked this story
because of how bad it was. Do you think Selena
was like an English teacher?
Speaker 2 (10:29):
Oh? I just wanted to overcorrect to someone who didn't
talk like an illiterate bastard. I also would to note
that this got deleted like shortly after it was posted.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
That's why it's on like some random website that I
had to find it. But yeah, I saved it and
then went back to it a little bit later and
it was gone. All right, next one here.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
Why don't tattoo places just euthanize their clients? Okay, I
drive around a lot for work. I recently saw some
signs for a dentist that says they offer euthanasia for
their clients who might be scared of going to the dentist.
I mean, look, I don't like going to the dentist either,
(11:11):
but I don't think death is a good alternative to it.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
Do they mean anesthesia? Okay? Because I was driving so
I couldn't take a picture, but I thought it was
really cool.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
Since I never really liked going to the dentist, it
got me thinking as to why tattoo places don't do
the same. I have a little pain tolerance, so I
think if a place offered euthanasia, I'd be more likely
to visit. You know, a what, man, there's some days
where if a place offered youth in Asia, I'd be
more likely to visit too.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
I fucking so I'm gonna go.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
We're gonna Well, it's obvious why tattoo shops don't offer euthanasia,
and neither do dental offices for that matter. I'm assuming
he means anesthesia, and what I will say to that
is anesthesia is a actually a very very delicate process.
(12:04):
You have to give make sure someone has the right
amount in them or it could kill them. Even if
it's slightly off too much, they could die too little,
it doesn't work, and they wake up in the middle
of the surgery in tremendous amounts of pain. Now let
me tell you, I've got some friends that are tattoo artists.
I wouldn't want any of those people administering anesthesia to me,
none of them whatsoever, including my friend who did all
(12:26):
of my tattoos that I have all over my chest
and both of my arms and my legs.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
Great friend of mine. You know, if we were in a.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
End of the world apocalypse scenario and you gave me
ten people that I wanted in my corner, he'd probably
be one of them, because he's one of the most
resourceful people I know.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
Wouldn't want him giving.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
Me anesthesia, though, so I'm gonna go no. I don't
know why. That's why tattoo places don't offer anesthesia.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
As far. I thought they were just gonna be like
shitting on people with tattoos, and that's what this was about.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
That's uh okay, let's go to the last one. Am
I the asshole for refusing to pay for my boyfriend
my boyfriend's bro night after he just or after he
put me on the spot. So I twenty four female
and date my boyfriend twenty six mail for about a year.
He's super into his weekly bro nights with his friends,
which I totally support. I usually just chill it home,
(13:21):
do my own thing, no problem. This past Friday, we
were out grabbing dinner what his friends called asking him
to come over for poker and drinks. He said sure,
then right in front of him turned to me and went, babe,
you got this right, meaning the bill. I was caught
off guard but figured whatever, I'll cover dinner. Then he added,
can you send me some money for drinks? I'm kind
of low on cash, but he's gonna go play poker.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
So that's what you do when you're low in money,
guys is gamble.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
At this point, his friends were laughing and hyping him up, like, yeah,
take care of your man. I felt super awkward, but
just said nope, I think you got it. He got quiet,
paid for his half, and left. Later he texted saying
I embarrassed him in front of his and then I
made him look like he doesn't wear the pants in
the relationship. I don't think he knows what wearing the
pants and the relationship entails. It does not entail living
(14:08):
like a sugar baby, that's for sure. Have I ever
asked you for money once? All the time, all the time?
Speaker 1 (14:16):
When you ask me every month to pay the mortgage.
Speaker 2 (14:18):
Yes, when I say, hey, it's time to pay the mortgage,
let's do that, I am asking you for money.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
That's true.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
So I told him I'd be happy to treat him sometimes,
but I don't like being put on the spot, especially
when it's for him to go out with me. Now
he's sulking and his friends are apparently joking about how
he lost his sponsor. Am I the asshole for standing
in my card? No, this guy's this is even real.
This guy's a loser, it says update. We officially just
broke up. Yeah, you dodged a bullet. Listen, guys, as
(14:48):
a man, there's no circumstance, none, zero, zilch, zip, nada
where you should be asking your girlfriend, wife whatever, to
pay for you to go out with your bullet. That's
not something you do. If she chooses to out of
the goodness of her heart, then so be it. But
your wife should not be covering your girlfriend, whatever it is.
(15:10):
Should not be covering you to go out and party
with your boys. That's no, that's ridiculous and it's juvenile.
I can see him asking it as a joke, but
it doesn't sound like he was joking. It actually very
much the opposite. Based on what we know here, it
sounds like he was doubling if you're not tripling down
on it. So no, you are not not the asshole here.
(15:33):
Look at that I fundraised for a lesbian and I
side with a woman in the same episode.
Speaker 1 (15:38):
I'm not the Am I going woke? Am I getting soft? Here?
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