December 15, 2024 • 16 mins
In this episode, Sean talks about the orphan spirit and how many of us live as if we are all alone and have to scrap and scrounge to survive. That is not what scripture says. We are signs and daughters of the most high God and if we accept this fact, it will change everything in our lives.
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Speaker 1 (00:10):
Good morning everyone. This is Sean Copeland. Today is Sunday,
December the fifteenth. It is ten days from Christmas, and
welcome to another life changing, brand new edition of the
ninety four x Kingdom Driven CEO. So today on the
(00:34):
Kingdom Driven CEO, we are going to talk about the
orphan spirit. I was able to give this message to
a wonderful men's breakfast yesterday morning at Church on the
Move here in Broken Arrow, and it was very well received,
and so I wanted to share it with our larger
audience here. But I also want to take a moment
(00:57):
and dedicate this episode to my aunt, Darla Hall. She's
actually Angela's aunt, Rita, Angela's mom's sister. But I had
the very unique opportunity to know Darla as a family
member and as a coworker. So she worked for us
(01:19):
in our Oklahoma City office and I got to see
her on Tuesday when I made my monthly visit over there,
and we had a wonderful conversation, told her how much
I loved her, and then that night she passed away.
And we're not exactly sure why. We believe possibly an
aneurism or maybe a heart attack. Her husband just found
(01:41):
her there when he came home from an Oklahoma City
Thunder basketball game. So let's always remember how fragile life is.
Let's not put things off. Let's live life to the fullest.
Let's not have any regrets because it could end at
any time. And so I just want to take this
(02:03):
moment to tell everyone how much I love Darla and
how much we will miss her, and we're going to
dedicate this episode to her. This week, I did have
a really really special moment On Friday. We had our
(02:24):
Journey Discipleship group retreat, so we had about fifty to
fifty five men go to Camp Victory and we all
told our story, the story of our life, and we
spent two hours in prayer time with Jesus and we
had some amazing, amazing, amazing breakthroughs. So it was both
(02:46):
this week. I had some amazing highs and obviously had
a pretty significant low. So let's just live life to
its fullest. So let's jump in and talk a little
bit about the orphan spirit. Now, how many of you
remember being a kid and getting lost in.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
A store or in the mall.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
I remember being in the mall one time and I
thought I was following my mom and I looked up
and realized it was the wrong lady that I was following.
It was not her, and this panic set in. I
felt very alone, I felt very helpless. I felt like
I just didn't know what to do. And isn't that
(03:30):
kind of how life feels sometimes? It's like we're wondering,
unsure of where we belong, following things that we thought
would lead us home, only to feel more lost. So
today we're going to talk about that feeling of disconnection
that is often referred to as the orphan spirit. The
orphan spirit is living life without fully realizing or embracing
(03:51):
our identity, our identity as children of God. I believe
God wants every single one of us to know exactly
who we are are in Him. The orphan spirit is
a mindset. It's a way of living that disconnects us
from the love and security of God. And we live
out of fear, insecurity and self reliance.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
And if you think about it, so self.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
Reliance means I've got this, I don't need anyone's help,
you know. Does it sound familiar? It's like when I
refuse to ask for directions even when I am hopelessly
lost insecurity means we live with a constant feeling of
not being enough. We compare ourselves to others and feel
like we don't measure up. And then fear of rejection
(04:41):
means that we're afraid that if we mess up, we
will be abandoned, nobody will want us.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
But that's not what Scripture says.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
In Galatians four six and seven, it says, because you
are his sons, and I'm going to add in daughters,
God sent the spirit of his son into our hearts,
the spirit who calls out ab a father. So you
are no longer a slave but God's child. And since
you are his child, God has also made you into
an air. God doesn't want us to live as a
(05:13):
slave or an orphan. He wants us to live as
his son and daughter, a man or woman with a home,
an inheritance, and a father who loves us unconditionally. Now,
many of us have had, particularly men, have had challenging
relationships with our fathers, and oftentimes that's because they had
(05:35):
challenging relationships with their fathers. It just got passed down.
I believe this generation largely is changing that. But in
our hearts, if you were a victim of that type
of raising. You don't understand what it's like to have
a father who loves you unconditionally, but God does.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
How many of us.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
Live like spiritual orphans at the dinner table just think
we're like God, I know you provide, but I better
grab that last piece of chicken before someone else does.
An orphan hoards because they think resources are limited. A
son trusts because he knows the fathers got more in
the kitchen. So how do we stop living like orphans
(06:21):
and start living like sons and daughters of the Most
High God. This is very, very important. What I found
out yesterday morning is that so many people are struggling
with this orphan spirit. Number One, we have to believe
in our identity. The first step is recognizing who we are.
(06:42):
We're not defined by our past mistakes, our career success
or even our family background. We're defined by the fact
that we are a child of God.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
Think about this.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
Prince Charles, Prince William, Prince Harry. They didn't do anything
to earn their way into the royal family. We didn't
do much. We just had to accept Jesus Christ as
our savior. But when we did that, we literally just
had to as Jesus says, he knocks, and all we
have to do is open the door. But once we've
(07:14):
opened the door, Romans eight point fifteen says, the spirit
you received does not make you slaves so that you
live in fear again. Rather, the spirit you received brought
about your adoption to sonship, and by him we cry
Abba Father. Now, this is very very interesting. Adoption in
biblical terms is very very strong. Okay, here, here's what
(07:38):
happens in Jewish culture. Whenever someone is born naturally into
a family and they really really mess up and just
won't repent or whatever, they can be disinherited. They can
basically be removed from the will removed from the family.
(07:58):
They will get nothing. That is not the case with
an adopted child. You cannot be disowned. If you adopt
a child, you've made that decision and it is forever.
So when all of these scriptures talk about us being
adopted into sonship, and I'm gonna add daughtership in there,
(08:19):
it is forever. Okay, we have to realize that and
believe in our identity. Number Two, we have to trust
in the Father's love. Orphans live in fear of rejection,
but sons and daughters rest in the Father's love. God's
love is not something we earn, it's something we receive.
(08:42):
There's a story about a little boy who got adopted,
and on his first night in his new home, he
snuck food under his bed because he was afraid he
wouldn't have enough to eat tomorrow. It took months for
him to realize he could trust his new parents to
provide for him. How many of us are still hoarding
food under the bed in our spiritual lives. We think
(09:02):
we have to fend for ourselves. But God is saying, relax,
the pantry is full. So twenty three to one reminds
us the Lord is our shepherd.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
We lack nothing. Now, I want to tell you some.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
Samples and examples of the orphaned spirit versus a spirit
of sonship or daughtership okay, where we fully accept the
fact that we are sons and daughters of the Most
High God a right under. The orphaned spirit functions out
of insecurity and fear. We're jealous because of the success
(09:42):
of others. We constantly strive and try to earn the
Father's love. We satisfy our sense of alienation, loneliness, and
lack of self worth through earthly things. However, the more
we indulge, the more addicted we become, and the more
unfulfilled we feel. We are performance oriented, driven by the
(10:08):
need of success and significance to feel accepted. We use
and manipulate people to achieve our goals. We're always in
competition with others. We feel we must control others and
their circumstances in order to fulfill our goals. And we
receive our primary identity through material possessions, our physical appearance,
(10:30):
and our activities. But if we fully accept this spirit
of sonship, we operate out of love and acceptance of
Father God. We joyfully commit to serve, celebrate, and help
others succeed. We already know we are accepted in Christ
and serve others out of the abundance of this acceptance.
(10:51):
We feel our deep emotional needs in the presence of
love of God and practice the joy of the Lord
continually as his source of strength. We lead by the
Spirit into His calling and mission. We serving lead people
to fulfill their purpose in Christ. We are constantly looking
purpose for opportunities to bless and share love with others.
(11:12):
We rest in the Father's ability to control and guide
our future. Our identity is grounded in our sonship and
our father's affirmation.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
Isn't that wonderful? It's so beautiful.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
Now, there are three ways to overcome the orphan spirit. One,
we have to renew our mind. Romans twelve to two says,
do not conform to the pattern of this world, but
be transformed by the renewing of your mind. We have
to spend time in the Word, and we have to
start replacing thoughts like I'm not good enough with I
(11:46):
am fearfully and wonderfully made, or I am the righteousness
of God in Christ Jesus, Jesus. When Jesus died on
the cross, he made us righteous. You are righteous today.
We have to believe this and renew our mind. Number two,
we have to stay connected to the Father. The orphan
(12:06):
spirit thrives on disconnection, but when we stay close to God,
we're reminded of his love and our identity. Now we
do this by not only starting our day with him,
but spending all day with him, so all day thinking
about him, talking to him, thanking him, telling him, I
trust you when things are a little bit rough, just
(12:28):
staying connected, abiding with him all day long number three,
we have to live in community. Orphans isolate themselves. They
want to be alone, they don't want to be around others.
But sons and daughters embrace relationships. Hebrews ten twenty four
through twenty five says, and let us consider how we
may spur one another on toward love and good deeds,
(12:50):
not giving up meeting together as some are in the
habit of doing, but encouraging one another. Now, I know
many of us have kind of gotten used to online
worship at home, but I just want to tell you
that it is biblical to as we just read, to
worship together, and it is good to be in the
(13:11):
presence of other believers. Now let me close with the
story of the prodigal son. Okay, this is in Luke fifteen.
If you want to read the whole thing for time purposes,
we're not going to do that today. But we often
focus on the younger son, who squandered everything and came
crawling back to his father. But I want you to
(13:31):
think about the older son for a moment. He lived
in the father's house but acted like an orphan. He
thought he had to earn his father's love by working hard.
When the younger son came home. The father threw a
party and reminded both sons of an important truth. You
are always with me, and everything I have is yours.
(13:52):
That is the Father's heart for you. Whether you've been
running like the younger son or striving like the older son,
God is saying, come home. You are no longer an orphan.
You are my son. And today I want to close
with a poem entitled What God Won't Ask. It's one
(14:12):
of my favorites and I think it really ties into
this teaching today. God won't ask the square footage of
your house, but he'll ask how many people you welcomed
into your home. God won't ask about the clothes you
had in your closet, but he'll ask how many people
you helped to clothe. God won't ask what your highest
salary was, but he'll ask if you compromise your character
(14:34):
to obtain it. God won't ask what your job title was,
but he'll ask if you performed your job to the
best of your ability. God won't ask how many friends
you had, but he'll ask to how many people you
are a friend. God won't ask in what neighborhood you live,
but he'll ask how you treated your neighbors. And God
won't ask about the color of your skin, but he'll
ask about the content of your character. So in this
(14:58):
Christmas season int particular, let's remember that there is nothing
more that God can do to show you his love
for you. Okay, there's nothing more. He gave his son,
his only son, to die for you, so there is
no more orphaned spirit. We are royalty, We are sons
(15:21):
and daughters of the Most High God. And please let
me pray as we close do heaply. Father, I thank
you for this very, very important and powerful message. And
I pray that all over this country, all fifty thousand
listeners this morning would be healed. That if they are
(15:42):
if they feel empty inside, if they feel like an
orphan inside, that this morning we would accept being a
son and daughter of the Most High God, and you
would miraculously heal us of that of that pain, or
of that emptiness right now in this moment today, Thank
(16:05):
you so much. Father, Please be with Angela, her mom
and her family as they deal with the death of Darla,
with our employees who loved her so much. Father, and
we thank you for her life and the amazing person
that she was.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
In Jesus' name. Amen, and thank
Speaker 1 (16:25):
You, Thank you all so much for joining this very
important edition of the ninety four X Kingdom Driven CEO
Good morning everyone. This is Sean Copeland. Today is Sunday,
December the fifteenth. It is ten days from Christmas, and
welcome to another life changing, brand new edition of the
ninety four x Kingdom Driven CEO. So today on the
(00:34):
Kingdom Driven CEO, we are going to talk about the
orphan spirit. I was able to give this message to
a wonderful men's breakfast yesterday morning at Church on the
Move here in Broken Arrow, and it was very well received,
and so I wanted to share it with our larger
audience here. But I also want to take a moment
(00:57):
and dedicate this episode to my aunt, Darla Hall. She's
actually Angela's aunt, Rita, Angela's mom's sister. But I had
the very unique opportunity to know Darla as a family
member and as a coworker. So she worked for us
(01:19):
in our Oklahoma City office and I got to see
her on Tuesday when I made my monthly visit over there,
and we had a wonderful conversation, told her how much
I loved her, and then that night she passed away.
And we're not exactly sure why. We believe possibly an
aneurism or maybe a heart attack. Her husband just found
(01:41):
her there when he came home from an Oklahoma City
Thunder basketball game. So let's always remember how fragile life is.
Let's not put things off. Let's live life to the fullest.
Let's not have any regrets because it could end at
any time. And so I just want to take this
(02:03):
moment to tell everyone how much I love Darla and
how much we will miss her, and we're going to
dedicate this episode to her. This week, I did have
a really really special moment On Friday. We had our
(02:24):
Journey Discipleship group retreat, so we had about fifty to
fifty five men go to Camp Victory and we all
told our story, the story of our life, and we
spent two hours in prayer time with Jesus and we
had some amazing, amazing, amazing breakthroughs. So it was both
(02:46):
this week. I had some amazing highs and obviously had
a pretty significant low. So let's just live life to
its fullest. So let's jump in and talk a little
bit about the orphan spirit. Now, how many of you
remember being a kid and getting lost in.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
A store or in the mall.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
I remember being in the mall one time and I
thought I was following my mom and I looked up
and realized it was the wrong lady that I was following.
It was not her, and this panic set in. I
felt very alone, I felt very helpless. I felt like
I just didn't know what to do. And isn't that
(03:30):
kind of how life feels sometimes? It's like we're wondering,
unsure of where we belong, following things that we thought
would lead us home, only to feel more lost. So
today we're going to talk about that feeling of disconnection
that is often referred to as the orphan spirit. The
orphan spirit is living life without fully realizing or embracing
(03:51):
our identity, our identity as children of God. I believe
God wants every single one of us to know exactly
who we are are in Him. The orphan spirit is
a mindset. It's a way of living that disconnects us
from the love and security of God. And we live
out of fear, insecurity and self reliance.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
And if you think about it, so self.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
Reliance means I've got this, I don't need anyone's help,
you know. Does it sound familiar? It's like when I
refuse to ask for directions even when I am hopelessly
lost insecurity means we live with a constant feeling of
not being enough. We compare ourselves to others and feel
like we don't measure up. And then fear of rejection
(04:41):
means that we're afraid that if we mess up, we
will be abandoned, nobody will want us.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
But that's not what Scripture says.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
In Galatians four six and seven, it says, because you
are his sons, and I'm going to add in daughters,
God sent the spirit of his son into our hearts,
the spirit who calls out ab a father. So you
are no longer a slave but God's child. And since
you are his child, God has also made you into
an air. God doesn't want us to live as a
(05:13):
slave or an orphan. He wants us to live as
his son and daughter, a man or woman with a home,
an inheritance, and a father who loves us unconditionally. Now,
many of us have had, particularly men, have had challenging
relationships with our fathers, and oftentimes that's because they had
(05:35):
challenging relationships with their fathers. It just got passed down.
I believe this generation largely is changing that. But in
our hearts, if you were a victim of that type
of raising. You don't understand what it's like to have
a father who loves you unconditionally, but God does.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
How many of us.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
Live like spiritual orphans at the dinner table just think
we're like God, I know you provide, but I better
grab that last piece of chicken before someone else does.
An orphan hoards because they think resources are limited. A
son trusts because he knows the fathers got more in
the kitchen. So how do we stop living like orphans
(06:21):
and start living like sons and daughters of the Most
High God. This is very, very important. What I found
out yesterday morning is that so many people are struggling
with this orphan spirit. Number One, we have to believe
in our identity. The first step is recognizing who we are.
(06:42):
We're not defined by our past mistakes, our career success
or even our family background. We're defined by the fact
that we are a child of God.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
Think about this.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
Prince Charles, Prince William, Prince Harry. They didn't do anything
to earn their way into the royal family. We didn't
do much. We just had to accept Jesus Christ as
our savior. But when we did that, we literally just
had to as Jesus says, he knocks, and all we
have to do is open the door. But once we've
(07:14):
opened the door, Romans eight point fifteen says, the spirit
you received does not make you slaves so that you
live in fear again. Rather, the spirit you received brought
about your adoption to sonship, and by him we cry
Abba Father. Now, this is very very interesting. Adoption in
biblical terms is very very strong. Okay, here, here's what
(07:38):
happens in Jewish culture. Whenever someone is born naturally into
a family and they really really mess up and just
won't repent or whatever, they can be disinherited. They can
basically be removed from the will removed from the family.
(07:58):
They will get nothing. That is not the case with
an adopted child. You cannot be disowned. If you adopt
a child, you've made that decision and it is forever.
So when all of these scriptures talk about us being
adopted into sonship, and I'm gonna add daughtership in there,
(08:19):
it is forever. Okay, we have to realize that and
believe in our identity. Number Two, we have to trust
in the Father's love. Orphans live in fear of rejection,
but sons and daughters rest in the Father's love. God's
love is not something we earn, it's something we receive.
(08:42):
There's a story about a little boy who got adopted,
and on his first night in his new home, he
snuck food under his bed because he was afraid he
wouldn't have enough to eat tomorrow. It took months for
him to realize he could trust his new parents to
provide for him. How many of us are still hoarding
food under the bed in our spiritual lives. We think
(09:02):
we have to fend for ourselves. But God is saying, relax,
the pantry is full. So twenty three to one reminds
us the Lord is our shepherd.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
We lack nothing. Now, I want to tell you some.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
Samples and examples of the orphaned spirit versus a spirit
of sonship or daughtership okay, where we fully accept the
fact that we are sons and daughters of the Most
High God a right under. The orphaned spirit functions out
of insecurity and fear. We're jealous because of the success
(09:42):
of others. We constantly strive and try to earn the
Father's love. We satisfy our sense of alienation, loneliness, and
lack of self worth through earthly things. However, the more
we indulge, the more addicted we become, and the more
unfulfilled we feel. We are performance oriented, driven by the
(10:08):
need of success and significance to feel accepted. We use
and manipulate people to achieve our goals. We're always in
competition with others. We feel we must control others and
their circumstances in order to fulfill our goals. And we
receive our primary identity through material possessions, our physical appearance,
(10:30):
and our activities. But if we fully accept this spirit
of sonship, we operate out of love and acceptance of
Father God. We joyfully commit to serve, celebrate, and help
others succeed. We already know we are accepted in Christ
and serve others out of the abundance of this acceptance.
(10:51):
We feel our deep emotional needs in the presence of
love of God and practice the joy of the Lord
continually as his source of strength. We lead by the
Spirit into His calling and mission. We serving lead people
to fulfill their purpose in Christ. We are constantly looking
purpose for opportunities to bless and share love with others.
(11:12):
We rest in the Father's ability to control and guide
our future. Our identity is grounded in our sonship and
our father's affirmation.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
Isn't that wonderful? It's so beautiful.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
Now, there are three ways to overcome the orphan spirit. One,
we have to renew our mind. Romans twelve to two says,
do not conform to the pattern of this world, but
be transformed by the renewing of your mind. We have
to spend time in the Word, and we have to
start replacing thoughts like I'm not good enough with I
(11:46):
am fearfully and wonderfully made, or I am the righteousness
of God in Christ Jesus, Jesus. When Jesus died on
the cross, he made us righteous. You are righteous today.
We have to believe this and renew our mind. Number two,
we have to stay connected to the Father. The orphan
(12:06):
spirit thrives on disconnection, but when we stay close to God,
we're reminded of his love and our identity. Now we
do this by not only starting our day with him,
but spending all day with him, so all day thinking
about him, talking to him, thanking him, telling him, I
trust you when things are a little bit rough, just
(12:28):
staying connected, abiding with him all day long number three,
we have to live in community. Orphans isolate themselves. They
want to be alone, they don't want to be around others.
But sons and daughters embrace relationships. Hebrews ten twenty four
through twenty five says, and let us consider how we
may spur one another on toward love and good deeds,
(12:50):
not giving up meeting together as some are in the
habit of doing, but encouraging one another. Now, I know
many of us have kind of gotten used to online
worship at home, but I just want to tell you
that it is biblical to as we just read, to
worship together, and it is good to be in the
(13:11):
presence of other believers. Now let me close with the
story of the prodigal son. Okay, this is in Luke fifteen.
If you want to read the whole thing for time purposes,
we're not going to do that today. But we often
focus on the younger son, who squandered everything and came
crawling back to his father. But I want you to
(13:31):
think about the older son for a moment. He lived
in the father's house but acted like an orphan. He
thought he had to earn his father's love by working hard.
When the younger son came home. The father threw a
party and reminded both sons of an important truth. You
are always with me, and everything I have is yours.
(13:52):
That is the Father's heart for you. Whether you've been
running like the younger son or striving like the older son,
God is saying, come home. You are no longer an orphan.
You are my son. And today I want to close
with a poem entitled What God Won't Ask. It's one
(14:12):
of my favorites and I think it really ties into
this teaching today. God won't ask the square footage of
your house, but he'll ask how many people you welcomed
into your home. God won't ask about the clothes you
had in your closet, but he'll ask how many people
you helped to clothe. God won't ask what your highest
salary was, but he'll ask if you compromise your character
(14:34):
to obtain it. God won't ask what your job title was,
but he'll ask if you performed your job to the
best of your ability. God won't ask how many friends
you had, but he'll ask to how many people you
are a friend. God won't ask in what neighborhood you live,
but he'll ask how you treated your neighbors. And God
won't ask about the color of your skin, but he'll
ask about the content of your character. So in this
(14:58):
Christmas season int particular, let's remember that there is nothing
more that God can do to show you his love
for you. Okay, there's nothing more. He gave his son,
his only son, to die for you, so there is
no more orphaned spirit. We are royalty, We are sons
(15:21):
and daughters of the Most High God. And please let
me pray as we close do heaply. Father, I thank
you for this very, very important and powerful message. And
I pray that all over this country, all fifty thousand
listeners this morning would be healed. That if they are
(15:42):
if they feel empty inside, if they feel like an
orphan inside, that this morning we would accept being a
son and daughter of the Most High God, and you
would miraculously heal us of that of that pain, or
of that emptiness right now in this moment today, Thank
(16:05):
you so much. Father, Please be with Angela, her mom
and her family as they deal with the death of Darla,
with our employees who loved her so much. Father, and
we thank you for her life and the amazing person
that she was.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
In Jesus' name. Amen, and thank
Speaker 1 (16:25):
You, Thank you all so much for joining this very
important edition of the ninety four X Kingdom Driven CEO
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