July 17, 2025 • 16 mins
What if the secret to saving your career was as simple as counting to ten? In this candid and compelling episode of The Bama Brown Experience, Bama and Puma dive deep into the chaos and clarity of everyday life—from the most stressed-out cities in America to the subtle signs of fake friendships. With humor, heart, and a healthy dose of hard-earned wisdom, the duo explores what it really means to manage stress, maintain class, and cut toxic ties.
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- A hilarious yet humbling take on trying yoga for the first time.
- The incredible story of a Chihuahua who became an unlikely hero on a Swiss glacier.
- A breakdown of the “Five Habits of Classy People” and why impulse control might just be the hardest one.
- A brutally honest list of how to spot fake friends—and why Bama cut four people out of his life last year.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hello everybody, Bamma Brown with you and the Bama Brown Experience.
I heard podcast Network. We have no commercials in the
middle of this thing. We have a sponsor kind of
at the first and then uh we do ten minutes
along with my friend Puma, the Big Cat. He has
a sports cave. You get a good crowd last night
for your live show, your live sports cast.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Yeah, we you know, despite my lack of belief in
momentum when it comes to sports, it seems like the
show at least has a little bit of momentum. We're
still still growing. Appreciate all of y'all that come out
and watch and support. But if you just need the
audio version again, I trust me, I understand. Anywhere you
(00:43):
get your podcast, just search for the sports cave with
Biggest Puma.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
He's he's played sports, he's played college basketball. They know
what they're talking about. Your partners and Nut and he's
a Yankees fan. So just go and heckle him. If
you're not doing anything else, just gonna in it in
a San Francisco nine, either one of those is yeah,
just go and scream at him right in his face. Uh,
(01:07):
and do it live so we can hear it uh
ten most stressed cities in the US boom of the
ten most stressed. In the course of my list, I
always started the lasser. Number ten Jackson, Mississippi. Number nine Birmingham, Alabama.
I lived there for a while.
Speaker 3 (01:22):
It's about says, are in your neck of the woods.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
Yeah, I wasn't stressed for there. Number eight Toledo, seven, Philadelphia,
six Shreveport. That's not a good place. Number five Memphis.
Memphis is lost you. That's not even America anymore. Gulfport, Mississippi.
I can't believe it's number four.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
I I like it like resort town.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
Yeah, man, I don't know what's going on here.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
Like Shreveport.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
I understand if you're losing your life savings in Shreveport, Louisiana,
that's a terrible position to find yourself in.
Speaker 3 (01:56):
But golf stores, I don't get that one.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
Gol golf Port, missus good. I liked it. Number three Baltimore,
well sure, Number two Cleveland, and number one Detroit. And
I don't think it comes as a shock to anybody
that those three are the top three. Because you're just stressed.
Someone's going to kill you in your sleep, you know.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
Yeah, it's unfortunate but slightly true.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
Possibly, how about a nice story. This is a neat
story in Switzerland, that Switzerland glacier, that big giant glacier.
That there was a guy that was hiking with his
chihua and he fell twenty six feet in a hole.
Oh well, those ice holes like in a movie, he felt.
But the chihuala stayed on the by the rim of
(02:39):
the thing, barking. And believe it or not, when of
those Swiss helicopters flew by and saw the dog looking
down the hole and barking, and they stopped and got
the guy.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
I was about to make fun of the guy, because
who takes a chihuahua on a glacier hike like that?
Seems like you're just asking for catastrophe.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
But turns out the dog saved his life, so you.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
Know, a little little rat dog there.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
And they don't even mention his name, and it really
bothered me because he should have his name. Let's see here,
I've got a bunch of good lists today, five things
that clessy people stick to. So poom, I know you'll
do a bunch of these.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
Everyone gets your pinkies out for this.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
Yeah. Number five, cultivate a healthy inner circle of people,
love that wife. Other than that, the rest of your
people are lows of disc jockeys like me.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
You know, I could not agree more with that one.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
They're number four people that they do things that scare them.
This is a list of things that classy people stick to.
They do things that scare them. Neo experiences. Okay, I
don't know what's involved in that.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Yeah, that's I don't think I need a follow up
question there.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
Number three dedicate time to be alone. Now you do that?
I do that, like be alone. It's I'm not at
all not in some kind of you know, tower shooter
alone but alone, you know.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Doing those like float tanks where you're isolated with nothing.
But no, not that kind of alone, not that crazy
video games by myself.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Yeah. Here, this is the one that's got me my
whole life. Number two control impulses, no impulse buying.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
Yeah, I'm not classic enough for that.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
I just man, if I see it the marketplace, just
ding ding ding ding. Well, I need three turbo three
fifty transmissions because one's not enough. I need three that
I'm never going to put in anything, you know.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
I mean, look at the price I mean, I can't
just leave these sitting here. I got It's like, it's
how they put all of the impulse purchases right at
the cash register at.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
The grocery store. Absolutely what they're doing.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
Absolutely know what they're doing. And then number one, they
adopt the stress management taking. Uh. Now, this one I
do because I was screaming at a former employee and
almost got fired case for screaming at this idiot, and
my boss said, come in, sit down. I'm not gonna
fire you, but I want you to learn to count
(05:15):
to ten. If that I know, it's as simple and
it's the dumbest thing ever, but if you can learn
to count to ten, it is the most because you're
here's the deal. That's what he told me. He goes,
they're wrong, they're an idiot. You're still gonna have to
apologize and they're still gonna be wrong.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
That's correct.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
You're in trouble because you called him out on being stupid.
I mean, people are gonna be stupid no matter what.
So you can count to ten, it will It will
help you.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
And I've learned what's the old saying, you can't fix stupid, No, don't,
and you're wasting your time trying. I'm just hoping the
State of Texas doesn't take away my stress relieving routine
with with some of these THC laws that have been
entered lately. I need I need them to keep their
(06:03):
hands off a lot of Texans stress relieving materials.
Speaker 3 (06:07):
That are uh, you know, across the state.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
Whatever you do in porn is your business. We don't
care to more. No, he's gave me a great sight,
said teenage babysitter and infos what an awesome, awesome side. Uh, yoga,
you want to do yoga? They said that. They said
anyone can do yoga. There's yoga classes everywhere. Don't be
embarrassed to walk in and go. I got stress I
want to do you know. And I'm talking about guys
(06:32):
like me and you that that's work all the time,
but that are too manly to go to yoga. It
ain't easy, by the way it is. It will wear
you out. I did some and it will damn near
killed me.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
It was bashed it for years and then eventually eventually
went to finally got drug to a free yoga night. Yeah,
about five minutes into it, actually, I take that back,
about a minute and a half into it, I realized
I was in for something I had no understand, Like,
I had no idea what I had actually gotten myself into.
(07:05):
And I walked out of there with a newfound level
of respect.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
Anybody can do it all the time. And I have
a friend of mine, it's my age, that moves like
he's twenty one, and he said hot yoga was his deal.
He does hot yoga and he has kept his joints loose,
so good for him. Here's signs that you've got a
fake friend, Huma. You're a real friend, you always have been.
But if you've got one of those fake friends out here,
here's how you know. And there's ten of them, I'm
(07:30):
gonna give you all ten. All right, Let's see, you're
their backup plan. So if they don't get to do
what they want to do, you're the backup plan. You'll
be there.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
So yeah, you never want to be the backup.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
That person always wants to be the center of attention
around you. So there's something to that. They never say
they're sorry when they screw up.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
And that's that.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
If that's that should be number one on my list
because the lack of accountability at this point in society
drives me insane.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Yeah, that's exactly. That could be number one. In fact,
all this could be number one. Dimissive of your feelings.
You know, your feelings gonna count. I want to make
you feel guilty. Number five a big one. We got
a guy works at KVID. It's bad about this gossip
about future. I got a guy I work with almost
(08:21):
thirty six eight years. I'm known thirty eight years. Thought
he was a friend. Found out he has talked shit
about me.
Speaker 3 (08:27):
Oh, that's the worst.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
It's the worst because he plays like he's my buddy.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
Of course that Yeah, the two faced nature of that,
that's what makes it even worse.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
Unfortunately, he talked bad about me, and then the boss
found out about it. And the boss actually called me
and said, you want me to terminate this guy, I
can do it right now. And I said, no, I
don't because I said, I'm not that person. I'm confident
enough that if he tell anybody anything you want, dude,
you know, because then they're judging you. That's the thing.
(08:58):
Of course, he got that reputation is like he's always
talking shit, you know. And And and then my dad
I had a when I was a kid, I worked
at the grocery store, and this guy that was the manager,
whenever he was going to tell you something, he would
look over his shoulder, like both sides. Then he'd whisper
something to you. And my dad knew him, and my
(09:19):
dad said, I think he got his ass kick when
he was talking about somebody night every.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
Time, constantly in a paranoid state, like the next ass
whipping is just around the corner.
Speaker 3 (09:33):
Also, a way to solve that is just stop gossiping.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
Yeah, you could do that. You could just shut up, yeah,
or you could.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
Look over your shoulder every time you say something.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
And this is another reason this guy did a lot
of this gossip was he he he was always competing
with me on stuff, and he never ever had my
ratings or or my talent. Not that I got talent,
but he had none around for the fun. Only that
that guy he always shows when it's fun. Uh. Then
when it's time to clean up or do whatever, he's
(10:04):
missing in action.
Speaker 3 (10:05):
You know, I have to I have to admit fault
when uh.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Since and and for transparency reasons, there was a lot
of years in my twenties that I was the only
there for the fun guy. I feel I feel like
I've grown up a lot lately, but uh, maybe even
extending into my early thirties, it was a I can.
Speaker 3 (10:25):
Take fun and then I'm out.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
I can tell you right now, I'm not doing this
list because POUM and I are pointing fingers of you.
We've been we've done all this question. Yeah, and so
we're trying to show you, Hey, if you're young, you're
very few. It's funny. There is a lot of young
people listen to the show. And if you're young, these
are just things you taken that count to ten when
(10:47):
I was telling you about it, Boy, if you can
master that one, that might save your career at some point.
It I got a free pass on it from my
boss because he knew and the ratings were big.
Speaker 3 (10:57):
You know. I mean that helps too.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
Yeah, but still I mean you know, but I tell
you I've done it seven eight times since then, and
it works. By the time I get to ten, I've
realized it's not that I've forgiven them or anything. I
just go, these people are so stupid. Why am I
wasting my time? Because they don't care? You're working with them,
you know, you work with those people. The number two
(11:22):
always negative, Okay, I've known some people.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
Who hate that death and handle just bad energy. And
I think that I'm a big believer in chakras or
energy or any of that kind of crap. But if
you're negative all the time, it absolutely affects everyone around you.
We used to have a board op that you know,
I understand, you're doing a morning show. You're probably not
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going to be very happy at four point thirty in
the morning, but you don't have to act like your
dog just died every single morning.
Speaker 1 (11:54):
And when you're doing a radio show. I don't know
how to explain this. There's when you walk in, there's
an energy in the room. The reason that I never
enjoyed doing it on the computer or that kind of stuff.
I loved doing a real live show. You know, you
rope bits, you got in there and you did a
show man and it was live, and you know if
it was funny and fun and you did it for years,
(12:14):
and then when we went to just pre recording it
and all that, it just kind of went away. But
the energy in the room. If one person walked in
was in a bad mood, then the other three had
to take time out of her deal and try to
And I had some partners that had all kinds of
personal shit going on all the time, you know, and I'm.
Speaker 3 (12:33):
Like mixed for good content.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
Sometimes you use this go dude, I know your life sucks,
but look in the mirror, you're responsible for a huge
amount of it, you know, So fix it because they're
gonna bring somebody in that that's gonna make it better,
you know. And we did. We'd always get better partners,
and some were always unhappy. I just I don't know,
(12:54):
I've been happy my whole life, well when I got
in radio up until that point, is pretty miserable. And
then number one, they're always unavailable for stuff. If you
need them to do something, they're never there for you.
So that'll tell you some things there that that's how
you know you got a fake frint. And then just
cut them loose. I cut four people loose last year
(13:16):
for I just completely cut the ties man. And these
are four users they filled out most of these things,
and not just me, but everybody. They did it to everybody,
But he was four people that I went, you know what,
I don't need him in my life anymore. They're just
using me for stuff, you know.
Speaker 2 (13:33):
Well, and you know there's so many it feels like
over the last decade, a lot of people have just
become all too consumed with whatever the culture war or
battle of the White is, and so like a lot
of I feel like that's the eleventh submission to that
list of ten, Like if you're if you are so
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wound up every single day about something that's happening halfway
across the world or the city, you're never going to
visit Like I just I don't need that energy either
around me, because that drains me more than most things.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
There's two things that I had learned in my sixty
seven years. Number One, all you can do is vote.
Once you've voted, you've done all you can do. Okay.
Number two though, and I think this is a big
one in number two, in that people are going to
be miserable no matter what, and you can't change them.
I mean, you can listen to them, but you can't
(14:31):
change people. You can't help them turn it around, you know.
And I know professional counselors feel that, they go, yeah,
I can only I can only show you what's going
on and what we've seen. Here's what you have to change.
If you don't want to change, nothing's going to happen.
Speaker 3 (14:50):
Well, and that's it.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
Unfortunately, I think a lot of people would instead of
changing to make the situation better, they enjoy having something
to bitch about, right exactly, they don't people, but a
lot of times people don't even want things to get better.
They enjoy having the chip on their shoulder of something,
of everything being wrong, everything being miserable, because it gives
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them it's almost like a level. It's a consistency, a
foundations formed where they can always assume everything is terrible
and then never do anything to make it better.
Speaker 3 (15:23):
It's it's a it's a toxic cycle.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
It's up to you to change and make yourself better.
There was Alex growing up had a principle and she
would start every one of her are in there, every
one of her good morning announcements with make it a
good day or not. It's up to you, I always thought,
and Alex would repeat, make it a good day or
bad day, It's totally up to you.
Speaker 3 (15:46):
Great.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
I always thought that was a great way to end
the in the hey, get out there and get it done,
you know kind of thing.
Speaker 3 (15:52):
And maybe it's a great way to end an episode.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
There we go right there, it's up to you to
change and have a good day or not. It's up
to you.
Hello everybody, Bamma Brown with you and the Bama Brown Experience.
I heard podcast Network. We have no commercials in the
middle of this thing. We have a sponsor kind of
at the first and then uh we do ten minutes
along with my friend Puma, the Big Cat. He has
a sports cave. You get a good crowd last night
for your live show, your live sports cast.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Yeah, we you know, despite my lack of belief in
momentum when it comes to sports, it seems like the
show at least has a little bit of momentum. We're
still still growing. Appreciate all of y'all that come out
and watch and support. But if you just need the
audio version again, I trust me, I understand. Anywhere you
(00:43):
get your podcast, just search for the sports cave with
Biggest Puma.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
He's he's played sports, he's played college basketball. They know
what they're talking about. Your partners and Nut and he's
a Yankees fan. So just go and heckle him. If
you're not doing anything else, just gonna in it in
a San Francisco nine, either one of those is yeah,
just go and scream at him right in his face. Uh,
(01:07):
and do it live so we can hear it uh
ten most stressed cities in the US boom of the
ten most stressed. In the course of my list, I
always started the lasser. Number ten Jackson, Mississippi. Number nine Birmingham, Alabama.
I lived there for a while.
Speaker 3 (01:22):
It's about says, are in your neck of the woods.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
Yeah, I wasn't stressed for there. Number eight Toledo, seven, Philadelphia,
six Shreveport. That's not a good place. Number five Memphis.
Memphis is lost you. That's not even America anymore. Gulfport, Mississippi.
I can't believe it's number four.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
I I like it like resort town.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
Yeah, man, I don't know what's going on here.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
Like Shreveport.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
I understand if you're losing your life savings in Shreveport, Louisiana,
that's a terrible position to find yourself in.
Speaker 3 (01:56):
But golf stores, I don't get that one.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
Gol golf Port, missus good. I liked it. Number three Baltimore,
well sure, Number two Cleveland, and number one Detroit. And
I don't think it comes as a shock to anybody
that those three are the top three. Because you're just stressed.
Someone's going to kill you in your sleep, you know.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
Yeah, it's unfortunate but slightly true.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
Possibly, how about a nice story. This is a neat
story in Switzerland, that Switzerland glacier, that big giant glacier.
That there was a guy that was hiking with his
chihua and he fell twenty six feet in a hole.
Oh well, those ice holes like in a movie, he felt.
But the chihuala stayed on the by the rim of
(02:39):
the thing, barking. And believe it or not, when of
those Swiss helicopters flew by and saw the dog looking
down the hole and barking, and they stopped and got
the guy.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
I was about to make fun of the guy, because
who takes a chihuahua on a glacier hike like that?
Seems like you're just asking for catastrophe.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
But turns out the dog saved his life, so you.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
Know, a little little rat dog there.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
And they don't even mention his name, and it really
bothered me because he should have his name. Let's see here,
I've got a bunch of good lists today, five things
that clessy people stick to. So poom, I know you'll
do a bunch of these.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
Everyone gets your pinkies out for this.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
Yeah. Number five, cultivate a healthy inner circle of people,
love that wife. Other than that, the rest of your
people are lows of disc jockeys like me.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
You know, I could not agree more with that one.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
They're number four people that they do things that scare them.
This is a list of things that classy people stick to.
They do things that scare them. Neo experiences. Okay, I
don't know what's involved in that.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Yeah, that's I don't think I need a follow up
question there.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
Number three dedicate time to be alone. Now you do that?
I do that, like be alone. It's I'm not at
all not in some kind of you know, tower shooter
alone but alone, you know.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Doing those like float tanks where you're isolated with nothing.
But no, not that kind of alone, not that crazy
video games by myself.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Yeah. Here, this is the one that's got me my
whole life. Number two control impulses, no impulse buying.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
Yeah, I'm not classic enough for that.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
I just man, if I see it the marketplace, just
ding ding ding ding. Well, I need three turbo three
fifty transmissions because one's not enough. I need three that
I'm never going to put in anything, you know.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
I mean, look at the price I mean, I can't
just leave these sitting here. I got It's like, it's
how they put all of the impulse purchases right at
the cash register at.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
The grocery store. Absolutely what they're doing.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
Absolutely know what they're doing. And then number one, they
adopt the stress management taking. Uh. Now, this one I
do because I was screaming at a former employee and
almost got fired case for screaming at this idiot, and
my boss said, come in, sit down. I'm not gonna
fire you, but I want you to learn to count
(05:15):
to ten. If that I know, it's as simple and
it's the dumbest thing ever, but if you can learn
to count to ten, it is the most because you're
here's the deal. That's what he told me. He goes,
they're wrong, they're an idiot. You're still gonna have to
apologize and they're still gonna be wrong.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
That's correct.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
You're in trouble because you called him out on being stupid.
I mean, people are gonna be stupid no matter what.
So you can count to ten, it will It will
help you.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
And I've learned what's the old saying, you can't fix stupid, No, don't,
and you're wasting your time trying. I'm just hoping the
State of Texas doesn't take away my stress relieving routine
with with some of these THC laws that have been
entered lately. I need I need them to keep their
(06:03):
hands off a lot of Texans stress relieving materials.
Speaker 3 (06:07):
That are uh, you know, across the state.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
Whatever you do in porn is your business. We don't
care to more. No, he's gave me a great sight,
said teenage babysitter and infos what an awesome, awesome side. Uh, yoga,
you want to do yoga? They said that. They said
anyone can do yoga. There's yoga classes everywhere. Don't be
embarrassed to walk in and go. I got stress I
want to do you know. And I'm talking about guys
(06:32):
like me and you that that's work all the time,
but that are too manly to go to yoga. It
ain't easy, by the way it is. It will wear
you out. I did some and it will damn near
killed me.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
It was bashed it for years and then eventually eventually
went to finally got drug to a free yoga night. Yeah,
about five minutes into it, actually, I take that back,
about a minute and a half into it, I realized
I was in for something I had no understand, Like,
I had no idea what I had actually gotten myself into.
(07:05):
And I walked out of there with a newfound level
of respect.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
Anybody can do it all the time. And I have
a friend of mine, it's my age, that moves like
he's twenty one, and he said hot yoga was his deal.
He does hot yoga and he has kept his joints loose,
so good for him. Here's signs that you've got a
fake friend, Huma. You're a real friend, you always have been.
But if you've got one of those fake friends out here,
here's how you know. And there's ten of them, I'm
(07:30):
gonna give you all ten. All right, Let's see, you're
their backup plan. So if they don't get to do
what they want to do, you're the backup plan. You'll
be there.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
So yeah, you never want to be the backup.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
That person always wants to be the center of attention
around you. So there's something to that. They never say
they're sorry when they screw up.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
And that's that.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
If that's that should be number one on my list
because the lack of accountability at this point in society
drives me insane.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Yeah, that's exactly. That could be number one. In fact,
all this could be number one. Dimissive of your feelings.
You know, your feelings gonna count. I want to make
you feel guilty. Number five a big one. We got
a guy works at KVID. It's bad about this gossip
about future. I got a guy I work with almost
(08:21):
thirty six eight years. I'm known thirty eight years. Thought
he was a friend. Found out he has talked shit
about me.
Speaker 3 (08:27):
Oh, that's the worst.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
It's the worst because he plays like he's my buddy.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
Of course that Yeah, the two faced nature of that,
that's what makes it even worse.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
Unfortunately, he talked bad about me, and then the boss
found out about it. And the boss actually called me
and said, you want me to terminate this guy, I
can do it right now. And I said, no, I
don't because I said, I'm not that person. I'm confident
enough that if he tell anybody anything you want, dude,
you know, because then they're judging you. That's the thing.
(08:58):
Of course, he got that reputation is like he's always
talking shit, you know. And And and then my dad
I had a when I was a kid, I worked
at the grocery store, and this guy that was the manager,
whenever he was going to tell you something, he would
look over his shoulder, like both sides. Then he'd whisper
something to you. And my dad knew him, and my
(09:19):
dad said, I think he got his ass kick when
he was talking about somebody night every.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
Time, constantly in a paranoid state, like the next ass
whipping is just around the corner.
Speaker 3 (09:33):
Also, a way to solve that is just stop gossiping.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
Yeah, you could do that. You could just shut up, yeah,
or you could.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
Look over your shoulder every time you say something.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
And this is another reason this guy did a lot
of this gossip was he he he was always competing
with me on stuff, and he never ever had my
ratings or or my talent. Not that I got talent,
but he had none around for the fun. Only that
that guy he always shows when it's fun. Uh. Then
when it's time to clean up or do whatever, he's
(10:04):
missing in action.
Speaker 3 (10:05):
You know, I have to I have to admit fault
when uh.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Since and and for transparency reasons, there was a lot
of years in my twenties that I was the only
there for the fun guy. I feel I feel like
I've grown up a lot lately, but uh, maybe even
extending into my early thirties, it was a I can.
Speaker 3 (10:25):
Take fun and then I'm out.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
I can tell you right now, I'm not doing this
list because POUM and I are pointing fingers of you.
We've been we've done all this question. Yeah, and so
we're trying to show you, Hey, if you're young, you're
very few. It's funny. There is a lot of young
people listen to the show. And if you're young, these
are just things you taken that count to ten when
(10:47):
I was telling you about it, Boy, if you can
master that one, that might save your career at some point.
It I got a free pass on it from my
boss because he knew and the ratings were big.
Speaker 3 (10:57):
You know. I mean that helps too.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
Yeah, but still I mean you know, but I tell
you I've done it seven eight times since then, and
it works. By the time I get to ten, I've
realized it's not that I've forgiven them or anything. I
just go, these people are so stupid. Why am I
wasting my time? Because they don't care? You're working with them,
you know, you work with those people. The number two
(11:22):
always negative, Okay, I've known some people.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
Who hate that death and handle just bad energy. And
I think that I'm a big believer in chakras or
energy or any of that kind of crap. But if
you're negative all the time, it absolutely affects everyone around you.
We used to have a board op that you know,
I understand, you're doing a morning show. You're probably not
(11:47):
going to be very happy at four point thirty in
the morning, but you don't have to act like your
dog just died every single morning.
Speaker 1 (11:54):
And when you're doing a radio show. I don't know
how to explain this. There's when you walk in, there's
an energy in the room. The reason that I never
enjoyed doing it on the computer or that kind of stuff.
I loved doing a real live show. You know, you
rope bits, you got in there and you did a
show man and it was live, and you know if
it was funny and fun and you did it for years,
(12:14):
and then when we went to just pre recording it
and all that, it just kind of went away. But
the energy in the room. If one person walked in
was in a bad mood, then the other three had
to take time out of her deal and try to
And I had some partners that had all kinds of
personal shit going on all the time, you know, and I'm.
Speaker 3 (12:33):
Like mixed for good content.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
Sometimes you use this go dude, I know your life sucks,
but look in the mirror, you're responsible for a huge
amount of it, you know, So fix it because they're
gonna bring somebody in that that's gonna make it better,
you know. And we did. We'd always get better partners,
and some were always unhappy. I just I don't know,
(12:54):
I've been happy my whole life, well when I got
in radio up until that point, is pretty miserable. And
then number one, they're always unavailable for stuff. If you
need them to do something, they're never there for you.
So that'll tell you some things there that that's how
you know you got a fake frint. And then just
cut them loose. I cut four people loose last year
(13:16):
for I just completely cut the ties man. And these
are four users they filled out most of these things,
and not just me, but everybody. They did it to everybody,
But he was four people that I went, you know what,
I don't need him in my life anymore. They're just
using me for stuff, you know.
Speaker 2 (13:33):
Well, and you know there's so many it feels like
over the last decade, a lot of people have just
become all too consumed with whatever the culture war or
battle of the White is, and so like a lot
of I feel like that's the eleventh submission to that
list of ten, Like if you're if you are so
(13:55):
wound up every single day about something that's happening halfway
across the world or the city, you're never going to
visit Like I just I don't need that energy either
around me, because that drains me more than most things.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
There's two things that I had learned in my sixty
seven years. Number One, all you can do is vote.
Once you've voted, you've done all you can do. Okay.
Number two though, and I think this is a big
one in number two, in that people are going to
be miserable no matter what, and you can't change them.
I mean, you can listen to them, but you can't
(14:31):
change people. You can't help them turn it around, you know.
And I know professional counselors feel that, they go, yeah,
I can only I can only show you what's going
on and what we've seen. Here's what you have to change.
If you don't want to change, nothing's going to happen.
Speaker 3 (14:50):
Well, and that's it.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
Unfortunately, I think a lot of people would instead of
changing to make the situation better, they enjoy having something
to bitch about, right exactly, they don't people, but a
lot of times people don't even want things to get better.
They enjoy having the chip on their shoulder of something,
of everything being wrong, everything being miserable, because it gives
(15:11):
them it's almost like a level. It's a consistency, a
foundations formed where they can always assume everything is terrible
and then never do anything to make it better.
Speaker 3 (15:23):
It's it's a it's a toxic cycle.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
It's up to you to change and make yourself better.
There was Alex growing up had a principle and she
would start every one of her are in there, every
one of her good morning announcements with make it a
good day or not. It's up to you, I always thought,
and Alex would repeat, make it a good day or
bad day, It's totally up to you.
Speaker 3 (15:46):
Great.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
I always thought that was a great way to end
the in the hey, get out there and get it done,
you know kind of thing.
Speaker 3 (15:52):
And maybe it's a great way to end an episode.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
There we go right there, it's up to you to
change and have a good day or not. It's up
to you.
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