October 28, 2024 • 36 mins
Episode 3: Real Life - How to Maintain Inner Peace Regardless of the Election Outcome Welcome to the Real Life Podcast with Elizabeth Hamilton-Guarino and Dr. Katie Eastman. This self-help podcast series focuses on self-help discussions about topics related to gratitude, change, success, compassion and peace. We're here to help you Percolate Peace. There are changes and transitions that challenge all of us. Think of this as tools for your best life toolbox, so that when you need to reach within to navigate something in your life, you have resources and have been taught how to chart a course forward. Each hour-long audio segment offers stories and lessons learned by us and people who have overcome these challenges and practical ways for you to manage these stressors in your own life. Dr. Katie Eastman and Elizabeth Hamilton-Guarino, CMC are the authors of the bestselling book Percolate-Let Your Best Self Filter Through which was published by Hay House in 2014. Dr. Eastman is also the author of Uplifting. Elizabeth is the author of The Change Guidebook and The Success Guidebook. Elizabeth and Dr. Katie are the creators of The Percolate Peace Project. The Percolate Peace Project is a global movement co-founded by Elizabeth Hamilton-Guarino and Dr. Katie Eastman, designed to inspire individuals and communities to cultivate hope, healing, and harmony in their daily lives. They aim to reach and impact 1,000,000 people, empowering them to live with greater mindfulness and promote a more peaceful, understanding world. https://www.besteveryou.com/percolatepeace
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hey, everybody, welcome to real life. I'm Elizabeth here with
my great pal, doctor Katie Eastman, and we've had a
little bit of real life, real life lighting going on.
You know, these are these how do.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
We how do we get front of these things?
Speaker 1 (00:17):
Like when we're on okay, I think we need to
be twenty but the light, We're messing around the lights
and everything, and I'm like, am I too, Bride and
my two turn on that one light? That's pretty funny.
Oh yeah, here's a way to do it.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Now.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
You don't have to worry about ringkoles. They're gone, all right.
It's the home equivalent fun of a filter on the camera.
Oh that's funny. Anyway, how are you man? I'm good,
I'm good.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
I just we just got back from a getaway, which
was really nice to get away and and regroup, and
we talked a lot about what our vision is for
the next few months. And I love my husband about that.
He just is just like I am. He likes to
see about the future and how do we want to
(01:02):
make it better? And we always try to make things better.
That's it was really wonderful. It was really really wonderful.
I think that's one of the keys to staying married
so long, you've got to constantly navigate and change and
grow and yeah, and a lot of stuff. Yeah, well,
those those compassionate conversations and the communication and things like
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that are so good. So we're going to have a
show of that everybody. The title of this show is
Percolating Peace or percolate piece, how to maintain inner piece
regardless of the election outcome, which yet we're going there,
aren't we And we're not going to go to there
to there, but we're going to go there a little
bit and just help people out a little because I know,
(01:42):
I'm I'm super stressed.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
I know you're stressed. I know. Yeah, people shutting the
media off, for shutting the medio off or whatever it is.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
It's really important that we recognize that, you know, part
of our country is going to be really unhappy and
and we're not going to say which one, because we
obviously don't have a magic wand or a crystal ball,
but we need to honor that and value that and
value each other. That we're one big community and that
our neighbors, some of our neighbors are going to be upset,
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and we might be upset and it's just really important
that we plan ahead. How are you going to deal
with that? Because if you just go into it thinking
blindly like, oh, it's going to be fine, No, it's
not going to be fine for a lot of people.
And that's okay because we're all in this together and
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we have to be if we're going to percolate piece,
we got to play piece with everybody, and that's what
we're all about. So we're going to give some real
practical tools for how all of us can get through.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
This, going to navigate. Yeah, and I noticed you and
I were kind of doing similar things, like almost prepping
for it a little bit, like taking our breaks and
taking our vacations or take you know, little vacations, not
extravagant ones, but you know, just little little pieces parts
of peace where we can get them. And I know
we had our whole family together, uh, for the first
time and over a year because our son has been
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playing professional baseball in Germany and so he came back
with his fiance and we have have had everybody here,
We've got a family picture. We all agreed to shut
off politics. No one said we know nothing, so it
was just perfectly you know, peaceful in here for you know,
it's always pretty peaceful in here. But you know, we
had two days of everybody together and it was just fabulous.
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And now everybody's kind of scattered again and and they'll
come back for Thanksgiving and whatnot. But but but everybody's
home and in the US, and so it's it's lovely.
That's wonderful.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
And I think that's another part of Percolating Pieces, just
remembering what do you value it's most important to you
as a family, and how do you maintain that peaceful
value of connection.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
Connection.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
Today's show is all about connection. We're all connected, and
if you're doing something that's going to hurt someone else.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
It's not peace. It's not people.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
Peaceful is something where you are maintaining a value of
connection and you're loving the person we're with as just
because we're all connected, we all have our light. I
see the light in you, you see the light in me.
That's what percolating Piece is all about. It's seeing that
part of us that connects us.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Yeah, yeah, absolutely. By the way, we have our website
for Percolating Pieces starting to come up. I just wanted
to let people know that you can go to best
ever and I'm not going to type all we're talking
because I'm not true. It'll turnout and I could put
it along the bottom. Maybe I'll try while you're talking,
but best ever you dot com forward slash Percolate Piece
(04:54):
is up and there are two groups you can join.
You can join our group on Facebook and you can
join our group on LinkedIn. So we hope that you
do that. We stream that, we put this on YouTube,
we stream this live into our social media platforms and
all that stuff. But we certainly appreciate it if you
go and join our community. We're trying to get a
million people together to percolate peace, and we'll kind of
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explain that as we go and as it unfolds and
so forth, but for now, join for updates and we'll
keep you posted done on all the things that we do.
And certainly we're best selling authors as well, and we
hope that you'll take a look at our websites, which
are doctor Katieastman dot com and Elizabethgarino dot com. Our
books are up there, we're on Amazon. We we're out
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there for you to enjoy our books, audiobooks, ebooks and
all that good stuff, and we certainly hope that you'll
take a moment from the show and support us as authors.
And I know, Katie, you just put out a big note.
I put out one today too. But Katie actually has
room for some clients as well, which is a huge thing.
Katie's got openings, So I think that's just fabulous. Everybody's
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ears should perk up on that, because there's no more
fabulous human being in the world to work with than
doctor Katie Eastman. So if you're interested in working with
doctor Katie, how do we reach you? How would you
like to have people do that?
Speaker 2 (06:18):
Well, you can go to my website, doctor Katieastman dot
com and you can sign up for coaching, for information,
for visioning, for whatever your needs are. And that's actually
one of the ways that I'm directing my energy around
the election is when I get anxious or upset or
worried or anything, i'd like start working on, Okay, how
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can I help someone? How can I get myself out there?
How can people find me? I'm really dedicated to giving
my skills, gifts and talents to people who need it.
That's what I'm here for, and I think all of
us need to do that. That we all need to
percolate piece by figuring out what we can contribute to
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someone else.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
I love it all right, So we If I look down,
it's because I have some notes for our show to
just kind of keep us going in the right direction
that we wrote down ahead of time. So we're slightly produced.
There's no real producer behind us where we've got our
own studios here with our kids and our well and
everything else.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Yeah, we're keeping it real for sure, definitely real.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Somebody wrote me a note and said you need fake eyelashes,
and I'm like, no, I don't, no, no, no, no no,
I don't want fake eyelashes on. So yeah, keep your
comments nice. Please remember also we're fifty five and almost
sixty five as well. We are not twenty, and we're
not putting fake eyelashes. I don't know about you. And
somebody I two comments about my parents, so I'm addressing them.
(07:44):
Is my hair real? Yes, my hair is real. There's
no extensions in my hair or anything like that. That's
the other comment I got. And are your teeth real?
I'm like, yes, my teeth, Oh my gosh, yes, my
teeth are real. Those are not vinears. My mom my,
grandma and I all have the same piece. So I
got three comments about my parents. I'm like, could help
me out here, Katie, because this is not about our parents.
I'm like, listen to what we have to say and
(08:05):
what we write and what we read and who we
are as business executives.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Yes, yeah, I like, I'm like what I got eyelash
extensions for a while, and it just kind of drove
me nuts because all of a sudden I'd be like,
oh wait a minute, that's not me.
Speaker 1 (08:24):
Yet.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
It's hard to keep up. And no, I'm no maintenance. Remember,
I mean everybody, we have a no fluff Oh yes,
please commitment here on this show, and we are who
we are. You're seeing the real us. You're listening to
the real us, and we have a no fluff agreement.
And I just think that it's important for people to
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do what's right for them, and if you have the
time and the.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
Energy and the resources to.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
Do us, go for it for you know, that's wonderful.
We are not putting that down in the slightest. I
just simply don't have time. It's a lot of work.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
Yeah, yeah, I don't.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
Have that much time to put in my I'd much
rather put it into coaching.
Speaker 1 (09:11):
Yeah, yeah, we say we don't fluff around, and this
is a no fluff zone and you're hearing our real
beliefs and our real experiences. Everything are completely real. Yeah,
all right, So we want to hear from you and
in the comments or otherwise about being nervous. We have
a couple of questions, several questions actually that we're going
(09:32):
to talk about, ask you and so forth, And one
of them is out there, are you nervous anxious? You
were talking earlier Katie with me about like an energetic
stop and a hold going on right now?
Speaker 2 (09:43):
Yeah, it's really interesting. There are a lot of people
seem to be stopping the energy. Fe feels like so
many questions and people aren't making choices or decisions there.
It feels like they're just on pause until after November fifth,
which we all know is not going to be the
end anyway, it's going to be after that likely if
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it's close. So why are we pausing our lives? That
just blows me away, And yet I hear it all
the time everywhere, that there's this anxiety that's causing people
to just literally stop what they're doing. And so I
want to encourage people don't do that. Keep living and
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in preparation, remind yourself of what's most important to you
and how you need to keep going no matter what.
We all need to keep going. So putting life on pause,
waiting for what may or may not happen, is not
a way to live your life. Yeah, And I think
that we were going to give people some tips on
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what to do with that nervous and anxiety or anxiousness.
And I think one of the because it doesn't really
serve you or serve anybody else right in a way.
But I think one of the things that we had
talked about was really getting out there and turning it
around and maybe putting your energy toward helping someone like
you had mentioned earlier, like do So we're all about
random acts of kindness because we believe that they create
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waves of peace.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
That's a that's a quote from our book Percolate. Let
your best self filter through it. Random acts of kindness
create waves of peace. And so you find yourself this way,
turn it around and go do something kind for someone else.
And that's one way. Can you think of some other ways? Well?
Speaker 2 (11:30):
I think go do something nice. Family, Go do something
nice as a family, Turn the TV off, turn your
electronics off, and sit and read a book together, or
listen to music together, or go for a walk together,
or talk about peace, talk about how you want to
get through this no matter what, and make it a
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discussion and a family like challenge your kids. Let's come
up with some ways that we as a family can
percolate piece. Let's let what can we as a family
do to randomly act kind? How can we all be
kinder to each other? Redirect that anxiety towards something positive,
Make it powerful, Make your anxiety something that can redirect
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to a purpose.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
Power your purpose power.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
You know.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
I don't know about you, but this is for me.
It's bringing back near COVID levels of anxiety. It's close
for me. And so some of the things that I
did during COVID is I would turn off the news
hours before I would go to sleep, No news before bedtime,
no news in the morning, right off the bat either
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and just put a puffer buffer zone in there. Less
social media, less absorbing all the memes and all the
mean comments that are going on and all of the
things that are happening. What do you what do you
think about that? Or add some more to it? Could
benefit from.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
One of the things that happened with COVID is we
were caught off guard and we felt helpless. When people
feel helpless, they go into anxiety, They go into fear,
which then can translate into anxiety, which can then become
anger very easily.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
So if you are.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
Scared about anything, well, of course you're scared. That's natural
because there's a change of foot that you feel helpless about.
Once you've voted, you've voted, and there's nothing you can
do about it. So except for a volunteer for whomever,
whichever group you're with, or whatever candidate you're backing. But
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for the most part, it is a situation where we
all feel quite helpless. We're not. That's the thing to remember.
You're not helpless. Regardless of what change. You do whatever
you can to bring about the change you hoped for,
but then the change becomes you. Whatever happens, what are
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you going to do differently, What are you going to
do to help your fellow human beings? What are you
going to do to percolate peace? So start now thinking
about that and redirect that energy. What helped us during
COVID is when we felt like there was something we
could do. It was I'm going to wear a mask,
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or I'm not going to wear a mask, or I'm
going to use hand sanitizer or I'm not. But it's
a choice. We made choices that fit our values and
as long as they don't hurt someone else, you're percolating piece.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
Yeah, so what happens? Let's talk about this because I
think that with that helplessness comes the next question, which is,
you know, when we decided we were going to ask this,
let's go here for a minute, but what happens if
the person that you want to win doesn't win? You know,
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if your candidate doesn't win, what's that going to be
like for people? What's that going to be like for you?
Because we're so sharply divided already, what's going to happen?
Speaker 2 (15:16):
Well, we have to remember that our neighbors are going
to be upset, and they have a right to be upset.
Everyone has a right to feel their feelings. Their feelings
are their feelings. When it becomes non peaceful is when
you invade someone else's life. That's when it's when you
intrude your beliefs and your affect your feelings on someone else.
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Without the asking for it. Okay, So we all have
to be really honest about our feelings, but also very
respectful of others, because we all deserve our own experiences
as long as we don't intrude and invade on someone else's.
Be honest about it. Hold those feelings, they're your grief.
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Treat it like grief. You've lost something that you thought
was important to you. Now what are you going to
do about it? How are you going to redirect those
values in a peaceful, positive way?
Speaker 1 (16:18):
Yeah, and you know, I think being empathetic is really
good too, you know, having when something doesn't go somebody
else's way, you know, kind of holding that space for
the other people and relating to them rather than trampling
all over them with your own beliefs and so forth
is an interesting way to be. It's sometimes not always
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the way people are, but you know that. I think
that's why we're here, is to help people learn how
to not only percolate inner peace, but to project that
piece outward.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
Absolutely absolutely, And if you need help with that, there
are people available like us who are there to help
you figure out what your communication triggers are, what your
sense of loss is, what you value whom you value,
how you want to make a difference in the world.
How do you want to percolate peace? I mean, that's
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what we're here to help you do. How do you
want to live your life so.
Speaker 1 (17:20):
That it doesn't turn into anger exactly?
Speaker 2 (17:22):
Well, it can turn into anger, but what do you
do with that anger?
Speaker 1 (17:27):
Yeah? And how do you make sure that what you
do with that anger continues to keep the peace exactly
for yourself and for the people around you, for the world. Yeah, yeah, No,
I think that's just a really important point. And I
don't know that I've heard anybody discussing that yet. Of
you know, there's going to be all these people one
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way or the other, and how are you going to
how are you going to act and behave and so forth?
What are your values in that moment?
Speaker 2 (17:57):
Do you value the passion you compassion, which I hope
everyone does, Then that's important because if you value compassion,
then you have to be compassionate. It starts with us.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
Yeah. You know, as we're talking, I was thinking about
what do you do if you feel that way? But
around you and the world, it just isn't that way. Like,
let's say there's far more people percolating unrest than there
are peace, and we're shouting peace into the world and
feeling like nobody's hearing us, and so forth. Keep shouting
peace correctly, correct keep being who we are, and so forth.
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But how do you remain peaceful in a world that
has such unrest? Well, I think it's really important.
Speaker 2 (18:44):
Why Why I was recently reading a lot of information
about why people have felt in different cultures, cultures alienated
and meant to be second class citizens, and how that's
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been done culturally in so many different cultures, include of
our including our own, and how it's done subtly, and
that we really have to practice compassion. Compassion is not
something that you just do. You have to learn how
to be compassionate. We have to teach our kids. And
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if you don't see the other person as equally as
important and their needs as equally as important to yours,
then you can't be compassionate because you're seeing them as less.
Then So compassion starts with recognizing we're all in this together,
and we're all alike, we all need compassion, And so
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it begins with you saying, Okay, so I'm angry because
I lost, and I need to practice compassion towards myself.
I need to take care of my emotions. I need
to take care of my needs, and I need to
recognize that there are others out there who are feeling
that way, and how do I support them? So, regardless
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of what happens, we all have a responsibility to each
other to get through it.
Speaker 1 (20:17):
Yeah, right here and some smiles hopefully, Yeah, just some happiness.
Happiness is so important to abuse in all of this,
you know, you pull in the joy, pulling things that
make you happy, pull in pull in things that hold
that space of compassion for yourself and the joy and
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the love and so forth, you know, especially when so
to me, I'm really sensitive, really sensitive to politics, really
just sensitive to things like this. So for me, I go, oh,
let's just shut this off and walk away from it.
I can't engage, do not engage in any way, shape
or form it. I'll go vote and things like that.
But it all feels like bullying, like next level bullying
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to me, especially when you see all these commercials like
this and this one's a jerk, and this and this
one's a this and this is you know, it just
feels like next level bullying to me. Can you address
that That's why it feels to me again, I have
my own little world here in opinion. Maybe I don't know.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
The dynamic of judgment creates bullying if we allow it to.
The dynamic of judgment is sometimes we need to say
something because we're informing people, But when it becomes judgment
and criticism, it can be really painful to listen to
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and really and it can evoke in us our own
triggers of bullying. So we need to be really careful
and think about the intention behind it. If it's intentionally
trying to inform, that's one thing that's not bullying. That's
intentionally the intention behind it is to educate and inform.
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But if the intention is to harm or evoke fear,
then it becomes absolutely bullying or targeting or targeting. And
one of the things I did a research project that
was really interesting because I was curious how certain news
shows evoke different levels of fear, and I found it
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was fascinating. I counted the number of times certain shows
use language that is intentioning, intentionally trying to evoke terror
or or rage or anything related to fear with a
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really high level. And I read these and they are
very different. They are a ball across the levels. You
can have some news shows that are trying to stay balanced,
and then others really want you to be terrified.
Speaker 1 (23:03):
Yeah or mad or whatever. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's interesting
out there. So and and that's why we limit and
limit social media and things like that. That doesn't even
that doesn't even touch on you know, the social media
means that you might come across that and people what
you know, you're.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
Wanting to percolate peace, then don't give those any energy. Yeah,
I don't give judgment that's intended to evoke terror or
fear or anxiety the planet instead of information and education
and and and think of it that way, what is
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the intention. If the intention is positive, then listen to it.
If the intention is to harm, you.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
Don't because if you keep paying attention to it, to it,
there's more and more advertising, don't it, you get more
of it. Just yeah, it's going all right. So let's
move on to our next question, and that is we
were going to discuss how do we rationalize with what
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we feel might be irrational irrational behavior people and so forth.
You know, I think what we talked about was, you know,
have a bottom line piece.
Speaker 2 (24:26):
Yes, there's in psychology, there's fear, the anxiety, and there's anger,
and there's rage. Okay, when we're having peaceful dialogue, we're
able to maintain a boundary around how we express those emotions.
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When it begins to impose itself on the experience of
another person in a judgment or a critical or a
fearful way, it no longer serves the purpose of dialogue.
So only you know when you're having a dialogue with
someone if you start to feel attacked or judged or
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criticized or and you'll feel it, your body will tell you.
Then you can say that hurts, that's not helpful, that's
not working for me. And if the person can't stop,
then you walk away. And unfortunately, one of the greatest
losses for our country has been families torn apart by
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this stuff because somehow we stopped being peaceful in our
dialogue a long time ago, and their boundaries need to
be drawn around that kind of dialogue.
Speaker 1 (25:49):
And I have as a therapist, I have.
Speaker 2 (25:52):
Seen so many family members torn apart by this stuff.
And it does not need to be that way. But
both parties need to make an agreement to maintain peace, all.
Speaker 1 (26:06):
Right, So what if I'm doing all this, you know,
I'm I'm practicing my compassionate self care. I'm turnaling, I've
shut the TV off, I'm reading my books, I'm going
for my wox, I'm cuddled up with my debt, whatever
it is that makes me feel peaceful, my tea, my coffee,
my you, the show, whatever it is. And what if
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I just still can't calm that down, Like it's still
an under you know, it might be calmer, but there's
still like an underlying underlying angst or anxiousness.
Speaker 2 (26:41):
Or like, well, you know, that is a natural response
to something that concerns us. Fear is a natural It
informs us. It tells us that we need to do something,
or we need to prepare for something, or something's important
to us. So quieting it is. May not maybe the
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best you can do, and that's okay, It's okay, do
your best. That's what best ever you is all about.
Best over you real life, real life is you do
your best and then you let go of it because
you know none of us are going to do this
perfectly by any means, but we best you just try
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your best?
Speaker 1 (27:24):
Do you think sometimes so that I'm gonna flip this
around a little bit. Do you think sometimes change is
fueled by some of that uneasiness. Oh?
Speaker 2 (27:34):
Yes, change can be I mean good changes, yes, Like
like COVID. COVID was so good for so many things.
Like we figured out that we like to work from
home sometimes and be around our families more. We don't
like long commutes sometimes, and we figured out we can
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be more productive working from home sometimes. That was a
positive album out outcome. There are always positive outcomes from change.
There are losses, but there are always positive outcomes. One
of the positive outcomes we're hoping for is, regardless of
the outcome of the election, we are all committing a
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million of us at least are going to commit to
no matter what, be more peaceful.
Speaker 1 (28:23):
Yeah. So yep, I love you know. That's that best
view dot com for Slash Percolate peace and our groups
that we've got going on, which you know, I'm going
to come back a little bit to that because when
you when you still don't feel good and you know
good or you know you have that inks going on
or whatever it is, you know, you know, when you
feel that way, it's hard to descript it. You know,
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it's that I can't calm down from this quite yet,
and maybe I won't for a while even, but I
think it's so important in those moments to connect with
other people in a way of like doing those random
acts of kindness. So please go out and do something
for someone else that's kind and those moments and take
the pressure off of yourself and think about something else.
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I love what you said earlier. I was writing notes
down about some of the things that you know, we
were solutioning for everybody. You know, you might have your
own solution, so type them in. You know when you
feel that way, what do you do? Katie's like, well,
I organize, organize.
Speaker 2 (29:22):
I have purposely put aside organizing my office until the
week of the election so that I don't watch the news.
And I'm just going to organize my office and make
myself more available for people who need help. And I'm
(29:45):
going to stay calm, and I'm going to introduce We
jokingly talked about our chocolate because both of us love chocolate.
So I'm going to have my chocolate available, but it's
going to be gluten free, and it's going to be
in my raisins, and it's going to be with my
protein bar, and so it's gonna be something that satisfies
(30:07):
both my taste, my anxiety, and also it's gonna be
good for me. So I'm practicing peace ahead of time
by setting myself up for things that will direct my
energy towards something positive. And I'm going to tell you
the best I can. And you know, if I get
to a point where I need to eat the whole
darn chocolate bar.
Speaker 1 (30:28):
Okay, I'm going to eat it.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
And you know.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
I brought up you know, we were talking and I'm like,
so confession, a little bit anxious, and guess what I do.
You know, my hands back in the chocolate chip bag
and I'm like, oh, stop already. And then I said
to Katie. I'm like, well, you know, o, Katie, I'll
just replace this habit with carrots.
Speaker 2 (30:50):
Oh and I said, oh, bulow I.
Speaker 1 (30:54):
Something else, but like that's going to work.
Speaker 2 (30:57):
No, got bless the people who that will work for,
who have that kind of discipline, But I may. What
I end up doing in that case is I'll just
eat a bunch of carrots and then a bunch of chocolate.
The carrots don't satisfy me, So you know, you got
to satisfy yourself or you're just gonna do it again,
(31:17):
and so your body needs to be satisfied. So find
a way to eat chocolate in a protein.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
News flash, though, you know, no amount of eating really
cures the ankst bug either. It's just it makes you
more anxious because then you step on the scale and go, oh, God,
state all that chocolate or whatever it is. You tend
to sometimes feel worse unless you know, I'm thinking just
the thought I haven't melted the chocolate and dipped the
carrots in.
Speaker 2 (31:50):
You know, ourn dorphins are going to kick up, and
we're gonna need happiness. Our little happiness hormones are going
to need to be met, and so some amount of
of some of those foods that give us those happiness.
Speaker 1 (32:03):
Kicks might meet them.
Speaker 2 (32:05):
But do it in a way that you don't ever
feel guilty for or judge yourself. No judgment none, I mean,
nobody judged yourself at all. If you're stressed out, if
you're anxious, if you're fearful, be away with.
Speaker 1 (32:22):
That right now.
Speaker 2 (32:22):
It's temporary. You know, it's temporary. We're all going to
be better off in a few months. Just know that
that's just temporary anxiety. Yeah, I really have to do
the old camera trick. I have to really get out
my camera, my old trusty camera, and go outside, go
on a walk with my camera and take pictures, no
matter if they are how bad they are or my
(32:43):
other second go to is to go where there is
an ocean, Yes, and just walk on the ocean. I
know you did this too, and you we were trying
not to bug you, Katie, but Hi, that's the ocean,
that kind of thing. Hi. Yeah, we during COVID, one
of the things we did as friends is we met
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down at the beach in our cars and we sat
in our cars and we just looked at the water.
And if you don't have water near you, then you
have a peaceful place somewhere. You have a peaceful room,
you have a peaceful corner. That's why I'm going to
redo my office during next week because I want to
create a very peaceful atmosphere with no clutter, because I
(33:27):
want to practice piece no matter what happens on the
fifth and so I think that everybody has their own
peaceful place. It doesn't have to be something extravagant like
the ocean or the sunrise or sunset, but it's what
gives you a peaceful place. What gives you a peaceful
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experience for sure?
Speaker 1 (33:50):
Yeah, so that's I mean, that's about our time for
right now. I think this was I think this is
really a helpful spot for the next few weeks. If
you're feeling this way, come listen to us again, Come
listen to this again. And then all week long this week,
each day we will stream live to LinkedIn and Facebook.
(34:12):
I haven't quite figured out Instagram yet, we might need
to do an Instagram live. But every day at about
ten am Eastern we stream live into social media with
just a little five minute Percolate Piece episode, and we
talk about a little topic for the day. We talk
about an affirmation and a journal prompt. And I would
(34:33):
invite everybody, bring your friends, bring your classrooms, whatever it is,
and whoever it is, to us to those shows because
they really help you get perspective and set the tone well.
Because remember, if a million people commit to Percolating Piece,
(34:54):
it's not just a million people who are impacted, because
each person you impact also feels and experiences the the
energy of peace. So let's do it, because no matter what,
we all need it. Yep. So all right, I'm not
going to type all we talk. I was going to,
but I decided not to. Best ever you dot com
(35:17):
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and join and we will keep you updated there as well.
And then again, don't forget. Katie and I are the
authors of Katie's the author of Uplifting Uplifting Together, we're
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the authors of Percolate and I have the Change Guidebook
and the Success Guidebook, and we love your support as
authors and coaches too. We've got some coaching if you
need us, which I would guess people are probably going
to be dialing your number, Katie. I know I do
when I'm like, I really don't like what's going on, Katie.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
I've worked with a lot of a lot of a
lot of people, and I was, yeah.
Speaker 1 (36:07):
Yeah, I was on the phone with somebody today and
they're like hang on and they hang on to middle
Elizabeth and they picked up the phone the other phone.
They were like no, no, like you need doctor baby.
I know it was fun. I referred to somebody right
out to you over the phone. It was pretty hilarious anyway,
all right, everybody, take care, Thanks for watching, and we
hope you'll share our mission with you, which is percolate
(36:29):
Piece again. A million people together, percolating peace. Join best
ever you dot com forward slash percolate Piece and we
will see you every day this week for about five minutes.
Anything else, Katie, Now, just figure out what's most important to.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
You and own it own piece on pie.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
I love it, all right, take care, everybody,
Hey, everybody, welcome to real life. I'm Elizabeth here with
my great pal, doctor Katie Eastman, and we've had a
little bit of real life, real life lighting going on.
You know, these are these how do.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
We how do we get front of these things?
Speaker 1 (00:17):
Like when we're on okay, I think we need to
be twenty but the light, We're messing around the lights
and everything, and I'm like, am I too, Bride and
my two turn on that one light? That's pretty funny.
Oh yeah, here's a way to do it.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Now.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
You don't have to worry about ringkoles. They're gone, all right.
It's the home equivalent fun of a filter on the camera.
Oh that's funny. Anyway, how are you man? I'm good,
I'm good.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
I just we just got back from a getaway, which
was really nice to get away and and regroup, and
we talked a lot about what our vision is for
the next few months. And I love my husband about that.
He just is just like I am. He likes to
see about the future and how do we want to
(01:02):
make it better? And we always try to make things better.
That's it was really wonderful. It was really really wonderful.
I think that's one of the keys to staying married
so long, you've got to constantly navigate and change and
grow and yeah, and a lot of stuff. Yeah, well,
those those compassionate conversations and the communication and things like
(01:22):
that are so good. So we're going to have a
show of that everybody. The title of this show is
Percolating Peace or percolate piece, how to maintain inner piece
regardless of the election outcome, which yet we're going there,
aren't we And we're not going to go to there
to there, but we're going to go there a little
bit and just help people out a little because I know,
(01:42):
I'm I'm super stressed.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
I know you're stressed. I know. Yeah, people shutting the
media off, for shutting the medio off or whatever it is.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
It's really important that we recognize that, you know, part
of our country is going to be really unhappy and
and we're not going to say which one, because we
obviously don't have a magic wand or a crystal ball,
but we need to honor that and value that and
value each other. That we're one big community and that
our neighbors, some of our neighbors are going to be upset,
(02:15):
and we might be upset and it's just really important
that we plan ahead. How are you going to deal
with that? Because if you just go into it thinking
blindly like, oh, it's going to be fine, No, it's
not going to be fine for a lot of people.
And that's okay because we're all in this together and
(02:38):
we have to be if we're going to percolate piece,
we got to play piece with everybody, and that's what
we're all about. So we're going to give some real
practical tools for how all of us can get through.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
This, going to navigate. Yeah, and I noticed you and
I were kind of doing similar things, like almost prepping
for it a little bit, like taking our breaks and
taking our vacations or take you know, little vacations, not
extravagant ones, but you know, just little little pieces parts
of peace where we can get them. And I know
we had our whole family together, uh, for the first
time and over a year because our son has been
(03:13):
playing professional baseball in Germany and so he came back
with his fiance and we have have had everybody here,
We've got a family picture. We all agreed to shut
off politics. No one said we know nothing, so it
was just perfectly you know, peaceful in here for you know,
it's always pretty peaceful in here. But you know, we
had two days of everybody together and it was just fabulous.
(03:35):
And now everybody's kind of scattered again and and they'll
come back for Thanksgiving and whatnot. But but but everybody's
home and in the US, and so it's it's lovely.
That's wonderful.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
And I think that's another part of Percolating Pieces, just
remembering what do you value it's most important to you
as a family, and how do you maintain that peaceful
value of connection.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
Connection.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
Today's show is all about connection. We're all connected, and
if you're doing something that's going to hurt someone else.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
It's not peace. It's not people.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
Peaceful is something where you are maintaining a value of
connection and you're loving the person we're with as just
because we're all connected, we all have our light. I
see the light in you, you see the light in me.
That's what percolating Piece is all about. It's seeing that
part of us that connects us.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Yeah, yeah, absolutely. By the way, we have our website
for Percolating Pieces starting to come up. I just wanted
to let people know that you can go to best
ever and I'm not going to type all we're talking
because I'm not true. It'll turnout and I could put
it along the bottom. Maybe I'll try while you're talking,
but best ever you dot com forward slash Percolate Piece
(04:54):
is up and there are two groups you can join.
You can join our group on Facebook and you can
join our group on LinkedIn. So we hope that you
do that. We stream that, we put this on YouTube,
we stream this live into our social media platforms and
all that stuff. But we certainly appreciate it if you
go and join our community. We're trying to get a
million people together to percolate peace, and we'll kind of
(05:18):
explain that as we go and as it unfolds and
so forth, but for now, join for updates and we'll
keep you posted done on all the things that we do.
And certainly we're best selling authors as well, and we
hope that you'll take a look at our websites, which
are doctor Katieastman dot com and Elizabethgarino dot com. Our
books are up there, we're on Amazon. We we're out
(05:42):
there for you to enjoy our books, audiobooks, ebooks and
all that good stuff, and we certainly hope that you'll
take a moment from the show and support us as authors.
And I know, Katie, you just put out a big note.
I put out one today too. But Katie actually has
room for some clients as well, which is a huge thing.
Katie's got openings, So I think that's just fabulous. Everybody's
(06:05):
ears should perk up on that, because there's no more
fabulous human being in the world to work with than
doctor Katie Eastman. So if you're interested in working with
doctor Katie, how do we reach you? How would you
like to have people do that?
Speaker 2 (06:18):
Well, you can go to my website, doctor Katieastman dot
com and you can sign up for coaching, for information,
for visioning, for whatever your needs are. And that's actually
one of the ways that I'm directing my energy around
the election is when I get anxious or upset or
worried or anything, i'd like start working on, Okay, how
(06:39):
can I help someone? How can I get myself out there?
How can people find me? I'm really dedicated to giving
my skills, gifts and talents to people who need it.
That's what I'm here for, and I think all of
us need to do that. That we all need to
percolate piece by figuring out what we can contribute to
(06:59):
someone else.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
I love it all right, So we If I look down,
it's because I have some notes for our show to
just kind of keep us going in the right direction
that we wrote down ahead of time. So we're slightly produced.
There's no real producer behind us where we've got our
own studios here with our kids and our well and
everything else.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Yeah, we're keeping it real for sure, definitely real.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Somebody wrote me a note and said you need fake eyelashes,
and I'm like, no, I don't, no, no, no, no no,
I don't want fake eyelashes on. So yeah, keep your
comments nice. Please remember also we're fifty five and almost
sixty five as well. We are not twenty, and we're
not putting fake eyelashes. I don't know about you. And
somebody I two comments about my parents, so I'm addressing them.
(07:44):
Is my hair real? Yes, my hair is real. There's
no extensions in my hair or anything like that. That's
the other comment I got. And are your teeth real?
I'm like, yes, my teeth, Oh my gosh, yes, my
teeth are real. Those are not vinears. My mom my,
grandma and I all have the same piece. So I
got three comments about my parents. I'm like, could help
me out here, Katie, because this is not about our parents.
I'm like, listen to what we have to say and
(08:05):
what we write and what we read and who we
are as business executives.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Yes, yeah, I like, I'm like what I got eyelash
extensions for a while, and it just kind of drove
me nuts because all of a sudden I'd be like,
oh wait a minute, that's not me.
Speaker 1 (08:24):
Yet.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
It's hard to keep up. And no, I'm no maintenance. Remember,
I mean everybody, we have a no fluff Oh yes,
please commitment here on this show, and we are who
we are. You're seeing the real us. You're listening to
the real us, and we have a no fluff agreement.
And I just think that it's important for people to
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do what's right for them, and if you have the
time and the.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
Energy and the resources to.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
Do us, go for it for you know, that's wonderful.
We are not putting that down in the slightest. I
just simply don't have time. It's a lot of work.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
Yeah, yeah, I don't.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
Have that much time to put in my I'd much
rather put it into coaching.
Speaker 1 (09:11):
Yeah, yeah, we say we don't fluff around, and this
is a no fluff zone and you're hearing our real
beliefs and our real experiences. Everything are completely real. Yeah,
all right, So we want to hear from you and
in the comments or otherwise about being nervous. We have
a couple of questions, several questions actually that we're going
(09:32):
to talk about, ask you and so forth, And one
of them is out there, are you nervous anxious? You
were talking earlier Katie with me about like an energetic
stop and a hold going on right now?
Speaker 2 (09:43):
Yeah, it's really interesting. There are a lot of people
seem to be stopping the energy. Fe feels like so
many questions and people aren't making choices or decisions there.
It feels like they're just on pause until after November fifth,
which we all know is not going to be the
end anyway, it's going to be after that likely if
(10:04):
it's close. So why are we pausing our lives? That
just blows me away, And yet I hear it all
the time everywhere, that there's this anxiety that's causing people
to just literally stop what they're doing. And so I
want to encourage people don't do that. Keep living and
(10:28):
in preparation, remind yourself of what's most important to you
and how you need to keep going no matter what.
We all need to keep going. So putting life on pause,
waiting for what may or may not happen, is not
a way to live your life. Yeah, And I think
that we were going to give people some tips on
(10:48):
what to do with that nervous and anxiety or anxiousness.
And I think one of the because it doesn't really
serve you or serve anybody else right in a way.
But I think one of the things that we had
talked about was really getting out there and turning it
around and maybe putting your energy toward helping someone like
you had mentioned earlier, like do So we're all about
random acts of kindness because we believe that they create
(11:12):
waves of peace.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
That's a that's a quote from our book Percolate. Let
your best self filter through it. Random acts of kindness
create waves of peace. And so you find yourself this way,
turn it around and go do something kind for someone else.
And that's one way. Can you think of some other ways? Well?
Speaker 2 (11:30):
I think go do something nice. Family, Go do something
nice as a family, Turn the TV off, turn your
electronics off, and sit and read a book together, or
listen to music together, or go for a walk together,
or talk about peace, talk about how you want to
get through this no matter what, and make it a
(11:53):
discussion and a family like challenge your kids. Let's come
up with some ways that we as a family can
percolate piece. Let's let what can we as a family
do to randomly act kind? How can we all be
kinder to each other? Redirect that anxiety towards something positive,
Make it powerful, Make your anxiety something that can redirect
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to a purpose.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
Power your purpose power.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
You know.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
I don't know about you, but this is for me.
It's bringing back near COVID levels of anxiety. It's close
for me. And so some of the things that I
did during COVID is I would turn off the news
hours before I would go to sleep, No news before bedtime,
no news in the morning, right off the bat either
(12:42):
and just put a puffer buffer zone in there. Less
social media, less absorbing all the memes and all the
mean comments that are going on and all of the
things that are happening. What do you what do you
think about that? Or add some more to it? Could
benefit from.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
One of the things that happened with COVID is we
were caught off guard and we felt helpless. When people
feel helpless, they go into anxiety, They go into fear,
which then can translate into anxiety, which can then become
anger very easily.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
So if you are.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
Scared about anything, well, of course you're scared. That's natural
because there's a change of foot that you feel helpless about.
Once you've voted, you've voted, and there's nothing you can
do about it. So except for a volunteer for whomever,
whichever group you're with, or whatever candidate you're backing. But
(13:43):
for the most part, it is a situation where we
all feel quite helpless. We're not. That's the thing to remember.
You're not helpless. Regardless of what change. You do whatever
you can to bring about the change you hoped for,
but then the change becomes you. Whatever happens, what are
(14:07):
you going to do differently, What are you going to
do to help your fellow human beings? What are you
going to do to percolate peace? So start now thinking
about that and redirect that energy. What helped us during
COVID is when we felt like there was something we
could do. It was I'm going to wear a mask,
(14:28):
or I'm not going to wear a mask, or I'm
going to use hand sanitizer or I'm not. But it's
a choice. We made choices that fit our values and
as long as they don't hurt someone else, you're percolating piece.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
Yeah, so what happens? Let's talk about this because I
think that with that helplessness comes the next question, which is,
you know, when we decided we were going to ask this,
let's go here for a minute, but what happens if
the person that you want to win doesn't win? You know,
(15:07):
if your candidate doesn't win, what's that going to be
like for people? What's that going to be like for you?
Because we're so sharply divided already, what's going to happen?
Speaker 2 (15:16):
Well, we have to remember that our neighbors are going
to be upset, and they have a right to be upset.
Everyone has a right to feel their feelings. Their feelings
are their feelings. When it becomes non peaceful is when
you invade someone else's life. That's when it's when you
intrude your beliefs and your affect your feelings on someone else.
(15:41):
Without the asking for it. Okay, So we all have
to be really honest about our feelings, but also very
respectful of others, because we all deserve our own experiences
as long as we don't intrude and invade on someone else's.
Be honest about it. Hold those feelings, they're your grief.
(16:04):
Treat it like grief. You've lost something that you thought
was important to you. Now what are you going to
do about it? How are you going to redirect those
values in a peaceful, positive way?
Speaker 1 (16:18):
Yeah, and you know, I think being empathetic is really
good too, you know, having when something doesn't go somebody
else's way, you know, kind of holding that space for
the other people and relating to them rather than trampling
all over them with your own beliefs and so forth
is an interesting way to be. It's sometimes not always
(16:42):
the way people are, but you know that. I think
that's why we're here, is to help people learn how
to not only percolate inner peace, but to project that
piece outward.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
Absolutely absolutely, And if you need help with that, there
are people available like us who are there to help
you figure out what your communication triggers are, what your
sense of loss is, what you value whom you value,
how you want to make a difference in the world.
How do you want to percolate peace? I mean, that's
(17:16):
what we're here to help you do. How do you
want to live your life so.
Speaker 1 (17:20):
That it doesn't turn into anger exactly?
Speaker 2 (17:22):
Well, it can turn into anger, but what do you
do with that anger?
Speaker 1 (17:27):
Yeah? And how do you make sure that what you
do with that anger continues to keep the peace exactly
for yourself and for the people around you, for the world. Yeah, yeah, No,
I think that's just a really important point. And I
don't know that I've heard anybody discussing that yet. Of
you know, there's going to be all these people one
(17:48):
way or the other, and how are you going to
how are you going to act and behave and so forth?
What are your values in that moment?
Speaker 2 (17:57):
Do you value the passion you compassion, which I hope
everyone does, Then that's important because if you value compassion,
then you have to be compassionate. It starts with us.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
Yeah. You know, as we're talking, I was thinking about
what do you do if you feel that way? But
around you and the world, it just isn't that way. Like,
let's say there's far more people percolating unrest than there
are peace, and we're shouting peace into the world and
feeling like nobody's hearing us, and so forth. Keep shouting
peace correctly, correct keep being who we are, and so forth.
(18:36):
But how do you remain peaceful in a world that
has such unrest? Well, I think it's really important.
Speaker 2 (18:44):
Why Why I was recently reading a lot of information
about why people have felt in different cultures, cultures alienated
and meant to be second class citizens, and how that's
(19:06):
been done culturally in so many different cultures, include of
our including our own, and how it's done subtly, and
that we really have to practice compassion. Compassion is not
something that you just do. You have to learn how
to be compassionate. We have to teach our kids. And
(19:27):
if you don't see the other person as equally as
important and their needs as equally as important to yours,
then you can't be compassionate because you're seeing them as less.
Then So compassion starts with recognizing we're all in this together,
and we're all alike, we all need compassion, And so
(19:47):
it begins with you saying, Okay, so I'm angry because
I lost, and I need to practice compassion towards myself.
I need to take care of my emotions. I need
to take care of my needs, and I need to
recognize that there are others out there who are feeling
that way, and how do I support them? So, regardless
(20:11):
of what happens, we all have a responsibility to each
other to get through it.
Speaker 1 (20:17):
Yeah, right here and some smiles hopefully, Yeah, just some happiness.
Happiness is so important to abuse in all of this,
you know, you pull in the joy, pulling things that
make you happy, pull in pull in things that hold
that space of compassion for yourself and the joy and
(20:39):
the love and so forth, you know, especially when so
to me, I'm really sensitive, really sensitive to politics, really
just sensitive to things like this. So for me, I go, oh,
let's just shut this off and walk away from it.
I can't engage, do not engage in any way, shape
or form it. I'll go vote and things like that.
But it all feels like bullying, like next level bullying
(21:03):
to me, especially when you see all these commercials like
this and this one's a jerk, and this and this
one's a this and this is you know, it just
feels like next level bullying to me. Can you address
that That's why it feels to me again, I have
my own little world here in opinion. Maybe I don't know.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
The dynamic of judgment creates bullying if we allow it to.
The dynamic of judgment is sometimes we need to say
something because we're informing people, But when it becomes judgment
and criticism, it can be really painful to listen to
(21:41):
and really and it can evoke in us our own
triggers of bullying. So we need to be really careful
and think about the intention behind it. If it's intentionally
trying to inform, that's one thing that's not bullying. That's
intentionally the intention behind it is to educate and inform.
(22:03):
But if the intention is to harm or evoke fear,
then it becomes absolutely bullying or targeting or targeting. And
one of the things I did a research project that
was really interesting because I was curious how certain news
shows evoke different levels of fear, and I found it
(22:27):
was fascinating. I counted the number of times certain shows
use language that is intentioning, intentionally trying to evoke terror
or or rage or anything related to fear with a
(22:47):
really high level. And I read these and they are
very different. They are a ball across the levels. You
can have some news shows that are trying to stay balanced,
and then others really want you to be terrified.
Speaker 1 (23:03):
Yeah or mad or whatever. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's interesting
out there. So and and that's why we limit and
limit social media and things like that. That doesn't even
that doesn't even touch on you know, the social media
means that you might come across that and people what
you know, you're.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
Wanting to percolate peace, then don't give those any energy. Yeah,
I don't give judgment that's intended to evoke terror or
fear or anxiety the planet instead of information and education
and and and think of it that way, what is
(23:46):
the intention. If the intention is positive, then listen to it.
If the intention is to harm, you.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
Don't because if you keep paying attention to it, to it,
there's more and more advertising, don't it, you get more
of it. Just yeah, it's going all right. So let's
move on to our next question, and that is we
were going to discuss how do we rationalize with what
(24:14):
we feel might be irrational irrational behavior people and so forth.
You know, I think what we talked about was, you know,
have a bottom line piece.
Speaker 2 (24:26):
Yes, there's in psychology, there's fear, the anxiety, and there's anger,
and there's rage. Okay, when we're having peaceful dialogue, we're
able to maintain a boundary around how we express those emotions.
(24:48):
When it begins to impose itself on the experience of
another person in a judgment or a critical or a
fearful way, it no longer serves the purpose of dialogue.
So only you know when you're having a dialogue with
someone if you start to feel attacked or judged or
(25:13):
criticized or and you'll feel it, your body will tell you.
Then you can say that hurts, that's not helpful, that's
not working for me. And if the person can't stop,
then you walk away. And unfortunately, one of the greatest
losses for our country has been families torn apart by
(25:37):
this stuff because somehow we stopped being peaceful in our
dialogue a long time ago, and their boundaries need to
be drawn around that kind of dialogue.
Speaker 1 (25:49):
And I have as a therapist, I have.
Speaker 2 (25:52):
Seen so many family members torn apart by this stuff.
And it does not need to be that way. But
both parties need to make an agreement to maintain peace, all.
Speaker 1 (26:06):
Right, So what if I'm doing all this, you know,
I'm I'm practicing my compassionate self care. I'm turnaling, I've
shut the TV off, I'm reading my books, I'm going
for my wox, I'm cuddled up with my debt, whatever
it is that makes me feel peaceful, my tea, my coffee,
my you, the show, whatever it is. And what if
(26:27):
I just still can't calm that down, Like it's still
an under you know, it might be calmer, but there's
still like an underlying underlying angst or anxiousness.
Speaker 2 (26:41):
Or like, well, you know, that is a natural response
to something that concerns us. Fear is a natural It
informs us. It tells us that we need to do something,
or we need to prepare for something, or something's important
to us. So quieting it is. May not maybe the
(27:02):
best you can do, and that's okay, It's okay, do
your best. That's what best ever you is all about.
Best over you real life, real life is you do
your best and then you let go of it because
you know none of us are going to do this
perfectly by any means, but we best you just try
(27:23):
your best?
Speaker 1 (27:24):
Do you think sometimes so that I'm gonna flip this
around a little bit. Do you think sometimes change is
fueled by some of that uneasiness. Oh?
Speaker 2 (27:34):
Yes, change can be I mean good changes, yes, Like
like COVID. COVID was so good for so many things.
Like we figured out that we like to work from
home sometimes and be around our families more. We don't
like long commutes sometimes, and we figured out we can
(27:54):
be more productive working from home sometimes. That was a
positive album out outcome. There are always positive outcomes from change.
There are losses, but there are always positive outcomes. One
of the positive outcomes we're hoping for is, regardless of
the outcome of the election, we are all committing a
(28:16):
million of us at least are going to commit to
no matter what, be more peaceful.
Speaker 1 (28:23):
Yeah. So yep, I love you know. That's that best
view dot com for Slash Percolate peace and our groups
that we've got going on, which you know, I'm going
to come back a little bit to that because when
you when you still don't feel good and you know
good or you know you have that inks going on
or whatever it is, you know, you know, when you
feel that way, it's hard to descript it. You know,
(28:43):
it's that I can't calm down from this quite yet,
and maybe I won't for a while even, but I
think it's so important in those moments to connect with
other people in a way of like doing those random
acts of kindness. So please go out and do something
for someone else that's kind and those moments and take
the pressure off of yourself and think about something else.
(29:06):
I love what you said earlier. I was writing notes
down about some of the things that you know, we
were solutioning for everybody. You know, you might have your
own solution, so type them in. You know when you
feel that way, what do you do? Katie's like, well,
I organize, organize.
Speaker 2 (29:22):
I have purposely put aside organizing my office until the
week of the election so that I don't watch the news.
And I'm just going to organize my office and make
myself more available for people who need help. And I'm
(29:45):
going to stay calm, and I'm going to introduce We
jokingly talked about our chocolate because both of us love chocolate.
So I'm going to have my chocolate available, but it's
going to be gluten free, and it's going to be
in my raisins, and it's going to be with my
protein bar, and so it's gonna be something that satisfies
(30:07):
both my taste, my anxiety, and also it's gonna be
good for me. So I'm practicing peace ahead of time
by setting myself up for things that will direct my
energy towards something positive. And I'm going to tell you
the best I can. And you know, if I get
to a point where I need to eat the whole
darn chocolate bar.
Speaker 1 (30:28):
Okay, I'm going to eat it.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
And you know.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
I brought up you know, we were talking and I'm like,
so confession, a little bit anxious, and guess what I do.
You know, my hands back in the chocolate chip bag
and I'm like, oh, stop already. And then I said
to Katie. I'm like, well, you know, o, Katie, I'll
just replace this habit with carrots.
Speaker 2 (30:50):
Oh and I said, oh, bulow I.
Speaker 1 (30:54):
Something else, but like that's going to work.
Speaker 2 (30:57):
No, got bless the people who that will work for,
who have that kind of discipline, But I may. What
I end up doing in that case is I'll just
eat a bunch of carrots and then a bunch of chocolate.
The carrots don't satisfy me, So you know, you got
to satisfy yourself or you're just gonna do it again,
(31:17):
and so your body needs to be satisfied. So find
a way to eat chocolate in a protein.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
News flash, though, you know, no amount of eating really
cures the ankst bug either. It's just it makes you
more anxious because then you step on the scale and go, oh, God,
state all that chocolate or whatever it is. You tend
to sometimes feel worse unless you know, I'm thinking just
the thought I haven't melted the chocolate and dipped the
carrots in.
Speaker 2 (31:50):
You know, ourn dorphins are going to kick up, and
we're gonna need happiness. Our little happiness hormones are going
to need to be met, and so some amount of
of some of those foods that give us those happiness.
Speaker 1 (32:03):
Kicks might meet them.
Speaker 2 (32:05):
But do it in a way that you don't ever
feel guilty for or judge yourself. No judgment none, I mean,
nobody judged yourself at all. If you're stressed out, if
you're anxious, if you're fearful, be away with.
Speaker 1 (32:22):
That right now.
Speaker 2 (32:22):
It's temporary. You know, it's temporary. We're all going to
be better off in a few months. Just know that
that's just temporary anxiety. Yeah, I really have to do
the old camera trick. I have to really get out
my camera, my old trusty camera, and go outside, go
on a walk with my camera and take pictures, no
matter if they are how bad they are or my
(32:43):
other second go to is to go where there is
an ocean, Yes, and just walk on the ocean. I
know you did this too, and you we were trying
not to bug you, Katie, but Hi, that's the ocean,
that kind of thing. Hi. Yeah, we during COVID, one
of the things we did as friends is we met
(33:05):
down at the beach in our cars and we sat
in our cars and we just looked at the water.
And if you don't have water near you, then you
have a peaceful place somewhere. You have a peaceful room,
you have a peaceful corner. That's why I'm going to
redo my office during next week because I want to
create a very peaceful atmosphere with no clutter, because I
(33:27):
want to practice piece no matter what happens on the
fifth and so I think that everybody has their own
peaceful place. It doesn't have to be something extravagant like
the ocean or the sunrise or sunset, but it's what
gives you a peaceful place. What gives you a peaceful
(33:48):
experience for sure?
Speaker 1 (33:50):
Yeah, so that's I mean, that's about our time for
right now. I think this was I think this is
really a helpful spot for the next few weeks. If
you're feeling this way, come listen to us again, Come
listen to this again. And then all week long this week,
each day we will stream live to LinkedIn and Facebook.
(34:12):
I haven't quite figured out Instagram yet, we might need
to do an Instagram live. But every day at about
ten am Eastern we stream live into social media with
just a little five minute Percolate Piece episode, and we
talk about a little topic for the day. We talk
about an affirmation and a journal prompt. And I would
(34:33):
invite everybody, bring your friends, bring your classrooms, whatever it is,
and whoever it is, to us to those shows because
they really help you get perspective and set the tone well.
Because remember, if a million people commit to Percolating Piece,
(34:54):
it's not just a million people who are impacted, because
each person you impact also feels and experiences the the
energy of peace. So let's do it, because no matter what,
we all need it. Yep. So all right, I'm not
going to type all we talk. I was going to,
but I decided not to. Best ever you dot com
(35:17):
slash percolate piece. On that landing page, you will see
two Facebook groups to join I'm sorry, Facebook group to
join and a LinkedIn group to join. Please go ahead
and join and we will keep you updated there as well.
And then again, don't forget. Katie and I are the
authors of Katie's the author of Uplifting Uplifting Together, we're
(35:38):
the authors of Percolate and I have the Change Guidebook
and the Success Guidebook, and we love your support as
authors and coaches too. We've got some coaching if you
need us, which I would guess people are probably going
to be dialing your number, Katie. I know I do
when I'm like, I really don't like what's going on, Katie.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
I've worked with a lot of a lot of a
lot of people, and I was, yeah.
Speaker 1 (36:07):
Yeah, I was on the phone with somebody today and
they're like hang on and they hang on to middle
Elizabeth and they picked up the phone the other phone.
They were like no, no, like you need doctor baby.
I know it was fun. I referred to somebody right
out to you over the phone. It was pretty hilarious anyway,
all right, everybody, take care, Thanks for watching, and we
hope you'll share our mission with you, which is percolate
(36:29):
Piece again. A million people together, percolating peace. Join best
ever you dot com forward slash percolate Piece and we
will see you every day this week for about five minutes.
Anything else, Katie, Now, just figure out what's most important to.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
You and own it own piece on pie.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
I love it, all right, take care, everybody,
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