172 - The Art of Authentic Masculinity with Mason Kuhr - The Captain's Lifestyle Podcast

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And there's always like fundamental principles andlaws that will help you become a better
man. And it really masculinity hasnothing to do with like having a posse
of women around you, right,or just like being ignorant all the time
and just spending money on nothing likeThat's that's not what masculinity is, which
is unfortunate because a lot of specificallyteens and people in their mid twenties,

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I notice it primarily they think that'swhat it is. Yeah, the thing
is just get as much women aspossible by you know, flashy things to
make you look cool. On thisepisode of The Captain's Lifestyle Podcast, I'm

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joined by Mason Corp and My Balls. And it's perfect because today we were
going to be getting toxic that's right, not not inserting toxins into our body,
but asserting our toxic dominance masculinity.Yeah, damn right. And before
that, we're gonna we're gonna takea shot of some rocket fuel. Let's

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do it, ready to go?Yeah, So before we had a shot
of your new Awakened, which absolutelydoes the trick, you're feeling a little
bit. Oh yeah, all right, so you'll you'll go first. There
we go yeah, m hm awesome, good stuff about to be buzzing.

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Oh yeah, all right, I'vebeen here for fifteen minutes. The amount
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Code Captain Morgan Underscore twenty to trythe rocket fuel for yourself, for your
brain body. We took it thismorning when we were doing some MMA.
That was great. It was fun. It wasn't That was a lot of
fun. Yeah. How did youfeel afterwards? Wrecked? Yeah, that
was a good workout. I tooka twenty minute nap before this and I'm

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I'm ready to go. You kicklike a tank, dude. The kicks
are the one thing that I've practicedis specifically with my left foot. I
feel confident with the kicks. Thepunches are new for me, way new,
but that was good. I alwayssay it would be unreasonable for me
to be good at something that I'vejust started learning, right, So I

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go into it with that mindset,because before I started doing all this personal
development, I would have like beenway more critical on myself, like I
should be good at this naturally,right, But that's absolutely not the case.
So I'm not. I'm no longerasking the universe to be unreasonable for
me to allow me to be goodat something that I've never really practiced before.

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So that was a great lesson withJosh. He taught technique, he
taught movement, which was great.It's what I need and I'm excited to
go back again. Yeah, we'regonna hit it again. Do do a
little more, do a little morehitting. You at least know how to

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learn though. That's what's imports,right, and that's the most important thing.
Yes, I have I have learnedto go into it with the beginner's
mind and go into it with curiosity. One of the things I noticed from
the Marine Corps is a lot ofthe guys who when learning shooting, if

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they practiced as a civilian, likebefore going in, if they hunted or
went to the shooting range or whatever, they went into it knowing or thinking
that they knew already how to shoot, and so when the instructors were teaching,
they were going into it with thismindset, Oh, I already know
what I'm doing, and most ofthe time they would score lower than the
people who have never shot before becausethey were just absorbing everything, right,

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right, Yeah, it's all ego. That's what we talked about the last
podcast. I think, yeah,ego, going into it with the beginner's
mind. This book, The Wayof the Superior Man. I saw you
recently put out an email with this, and you put some stories on your
Instagram the other day about toxic masculinity. So that's where we're going to start

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today. This book, The Wayof the Superior Man, by David Dida,
is essentially the guide book for menin masculinity. This is required reading,
would you agree, Hunt dude probablyread it fifty times at this point,
and so yeah, I mean there'sso many different takes on like what
men should be and what masculinity is, and like what the definition of that

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is. But it really comes downto, like you create it, right,
and so this helps you step intothat awareness in the perspective of the
creator and really just coming from aplace of conscious living so that you can
do that. And there's always likefundamental principles and laws that will help you
become a better man. And itreally masculinity has nothing to do with like

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having a posse of women around you, right, or just like being ignorant
all the time and just spending moneyon nothing like. That's not what masculinity
is, which is unfortunate because alot of specifically teens and people in the
mid twenties I noticed it primarily theythink that's what it is. Yeah,
the thing is just get as muchwomen as possible, buy, you know,

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flashy things to make you look cool. But really, from my experience,
if if that's what you're doing,you're you're covering up some deeper like
insecurity. Most men are insecure becausethey have no purpose, right, and
so you're big on the purpose toyes, let's let's talk purpose do I

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first started to discover my purpose whenI was in Saudi Arabia, when I
was working as a CrossFit coach thereand me and the owners were butting heads
because one of the first things thatI implemented as head coach were I created
core values for the gym because Iunderstood the importance of that. They're essentially

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directions like we are this type ofgym, we do this, this,
and this. These are our values. And the owners would go against that.
They were just they were more focusedon money, and I was like,
I'm not about that, Like I'mnot going to sacrifice my own integrity
to follow this. And I readthe Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.

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That was what first got me,or what got me deeper into mission and
values. And then I read hisfollow up book to that, First Things
First, which is all about craftingyour mission vision values. And then I
read The Art of Impossible by StephenCodler, and in there he talked about

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creating your MTP massively Transformative Purpose.And that's where I came to contemplate my
purpose, which is now make thrivingstandard. And that's everything I do is
to make thriving standard, right,And that was a whole process, Like
it's not just a quick thing,like this is an ongoing says that takes

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time and contemplation. You really haveto be introspective and think about who you
are and like, what is mypurpose on this earth for? And I
feel like a lot of men theyjust get caught up in doing what they
think they're supposed to do, right, go to college, get a good
job that you don't really like,but it makes good money. I hear
that all the time, Like Iasked my friends, why are you doing

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this? Oh? It's good money, so what do you enjoy it?
Right? Right? Yeah? Alot of does they, I mean unfortunate.
Reality is a lot of guys today, especially grew up with fathers who
were just following the herd, right, and so a lot of it is
just mimicking what they saw in thefirst seven years of their life when they're
absorbing it, right. And some, for example, I grew up

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my dad was a hell of anentrepreneur, right. I always saw the
independence and the freedom side of things. And that's what you were just talking
about, is when you're with allthese guys chasing money, you're like,
Okay, this is there's no deeperaspect to what's the belief that got you
to that point where you were thinkingthose thoughts? Because for me. When
I was watching my dad growing up, even though he was a great entrepreneur,

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there was always this like underlying energyof not being fulfilled and so like
when I was eight years old,I thought the exact same thought. I
was like, I'm never going tosacrifice myself, even if it's you know,
even if I'm an entrepreneur and Ihave tons of freedom with money,
I will never sacrifice my soul ordo something that does not actually energize me

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or light me up that I careabout, because I don't want to go
a single day with regret, youknow. So like what for you is
that? Yeah, that's that's oneof the big things that sets us apart,
is that we're not going to sacrificeour fulfillment simply for the sake of
making more money. Right, Like, I get different brands hitting me up
for, you know, to promotetheir product and they've got like artificial sweeteners

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in it and stuff like that,and it's like, no, I don't
care how much you pay me,and I'm not going to promote this.
So to answer question, it waswhen I was coaching in Saudi Arabia and
making a large amount of money forme at the time, I was making
about fifty five thousand dollars a year, which I was happy with. I
was like, cool, this isa lot more than making thirty thousand dollars

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a year as a CrossFit coach.And I realized like, okay, I'm
making more money now, but I'mstill not fulfilled. So and I took
the job in Saudi Arabia for theprimary purpose to make more money and also
trained the facility. There was incredible, how did you end up in Saudi

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Arabia? Okay, okay, that'sthe elephant in the room right now.
All right. So I was afterthe Marine Corps, was coaching CrossFit in
Dana Point and it wasn't a fulltime thing. So I was looking to
go somewhere full time. And Igot an email from this apparently new gym

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that was going to open up inSaudi Arabia like Hey, we're looking for
a head coach. We found youon Instagram. Would you be interested?
And first thought was like, oh, this is a scam, Like there's
no way that this is real.It's like when the Nigerian princess fucking asked
you to send their money or something, right, But I got on a
call with him and it was legit. So and then at the same time

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I also had an offer to goto the Cayman Islands to coach, and
they actually flew me out there tothe Cayman Islands, had me coaching the
gym, you know, showed mearound. It's fucking beautiful. Obviously.
To the Cayman Islands, the gymwas great, the community was great.
Again. The two reasons I tookthe job in Saudi Arabia was because they

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paid me significantly more money and tothe training facility was world class. So
I consciously decided to go to SaudiArabia because I figured, Okay, well,
I just spent years in the MarineCorps hating life for almost no money.
I can tolerate what was supposed tobe a two year contract in a
place that I knew I wouldn't likefor more money. I found out very

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quickly that that's not the case.So I was like, Okay, I'm
done sacrificing my happiness and fulfillment formoney. And that's when I started thinking,
Okay, what do I actually wantto do. How can I create
a bigger impact in people? Andthat's when I came up with the idea
of well, I'd already had theidea of the captain's lifestyle, but that's
when I went fully into and sortof actually building the program. And then

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I burned the ships at the shoresailed back home in one of those yea.
So that was at the beginning orat the end of twenty nineteen,
and then I started like going headon in the beginning of twenty twenty and
never looked back. It was like, Okay, I'm done with this.
Like the etymology of the word decideLatin right to cut off right, So

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that's literally what I did. Iwas like, Okay, i am no
longer being an employee. It's thisis going to succeed or I'm gonna be
living under bridge. So it's likeI am now making the succeed and it's
fulfilling and I'm making more money.That's badass. Well, I mean when
you fully surrender to it, everythingjust changes, right. So a lot

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of dudes, um, they don'tunderstand the process of surrender too, And
that's like the biggest part, Likewe're we think we need to add all
these different layers, and that's whereyou really get lost, especially in like
the pursuit of money. And theexternal things, just chasing women and and
fame and all these things on theoutside, because you're just continuously adding this
layer of bs on top when inreality, it's just like surrendering all that

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away, going back to our fundamentaltruth and living from that place. So
I mean, that seems like that'swhat you did. So I talk to
a lot of guys who are ina similar position where they they're making good
money, but they know they're notfulfilled in their current position. Like I
ask them, Okay, you seeyourself a year from now, five years

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from now, are you still workingthis job? They're like, oh no,
Like I would hate it if Iwas here. But yet if you
would have asked them that years back, they probably would have said the same
thing, and they're still working thisjob. So it's just this constant,
like negative downward spiral of I'm stressed, but I'm making good money, and

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I don't really know what else Iwould do because it's uncertain, right,
We're scared to go out into theuncertain. So what what advice would you
give to guys who are in thatposition knowing they're working a job that does
not bring them fulfillment. You needto first acknowledge right now that you are
comfortable, and you're stuck in arut, and you're scared, and those

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are the three main things you needto just accept right now. So it
comes down to acceptance of just thetruth. Like, no matter what you
do, until you accept right now, you can't move forward because you're just
an autopilot. I want to pausehere because is this gets brought up a
lot when when talking with guys,it's like, hey, how are you
doing good? How are you right? It's just this, okay, are

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you actually good? You're not actuallygood? Yeah, Like it's difficult for
guys, and I can say thisbecause I've been there, Like it's it's
difficult for us to admit when we'restruggling. Right. We think that we
have to have it all together allthe time, and if you're working a
job that you don't like, thatcan be stressful to admit that, hey,
I'm not in the position that Iwant to be in and looking out

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it's uncertain and that's a scary placeto be. And the more that we
suppress that, right, what weresist persists. So if we if we
resist that feeling, the more that'sgoing to compound and then we get to
like our mid thirties and forties,and then we're piling on this stress and
inflammation and we're living in a stateof disease. Right, So to your

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point, the first step is tosimply accept where you are, except okay,
I'm not in fact in the positionthat I want to be in.
That step one is admitting it toyourself, yeah, for sure, And
then the easiest thing you can do, like on top of that is in

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your next conversation, just you haveto force yourself. And it's hard,
right, because there's gonna be peoplewho tell you you can do this hack
and this and that, and it'sgonna be like it's gonna naturally be hard
because you're going to be resistant toit. But like, once you can
fully accept that you don't like whereyou're at, start manifesting that into your

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conversations. Right. So, forexample, I mean, if you're not
having a good day, the nexttime someone says how are you doing,
say I could be better, right, because on the surface you sound like
you know, whimp in your mind, but you're at least being honest,
and that'll also snap them into realitytoo, because they're like, oh,
I'm so used to people saying I'mgood, right, and then they look

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at you and they're like, ohthat was that was real, And so
it also opens the door for otherpeople to be real. And so by
you being the truthful and most authenticversion yourself, you're effectively changing the world
without really doing anything. So Ifirst say, snap in a reality,
start speaking your truth, start livingyour truth, and just go one step

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at a time, like you don'thave to you'll have to go dive bombing
into the thing immediately that you wantto do. It's just like work up
to it and start building the courageto be yourself because that's going to that's
gonna reveal itself with authenticity. Sostart practicing the art of authenticity, which
is it's a I wouldn't call itan exercise, it's it's an effortless exercise

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on its own. I guess youcan call it that, but it's just
surrender. Like just start speaking yourtruth and living it in the smallest way
possible. Why in this moment isbeing halt of you and just kind of
lean into it. Because once youstart leaning and get the momentum, that's
fifty right, and then the restof it just carried over from momentum,

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and it really can be effortless becausewhen you stop pretending to be something you're
not, or to feel some waythat you're not, or to be someone
that you're not, life gets alot easier because you can just be who
you are, yeah, and nothave to think, oh, well,
I'm at this person now and Itold them this, so I have to
act this way now, right,So it's acting in integrity with yourself.

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I recently interviewed Chris Marhefka, who'sAmend's leadership coach, and one of the
things that he said was maturity comeswith meticulous integrity and doing what you say
you're going to do. That isa huge part of masculinity, and a
lot of guys are out of alignmentwith that. They say things and then

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they do the opposite of that.Right, that's the whole abracadabra thing.
And we were talking about So,I mean with it's ancient aramic right,
ye, So with my word Icreate, so every word you say is
happening and it's true. And thenwhen you don't act in accordance to that,
your mind and your spirit's gonna pickup on that. Incoherency, and

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that's going to create that anxiety andall that feeling inside of you that you
know you're lying to yourself. Andso just start doing something like just start
saying small things, don't commit tothings too big, just build your way
up like I was saying, andjust be authentic in the moment. Like
I mean, I can even admittoo, Like when I came here,

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there's I had a huge fear ofbeing seen, right, and so we
talked about that at the immersion,right, and so you know even on
YouTube now or TikTok sometimes or podcasts, like for me, there's still like
that little fear of you know,being scared to be vulnerable and admit that.
Like I still had a little bitof anxiety coming on it here because

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it's like you feel like you haveto perform. Yeah, right, you
don't have to perform performance. Anxietyisn't just in the bedroom, it's life,
yes, And so you don't haveto perform. You just have to
be just accept who you are.And again it all comes back to truth,
Like it's hard to give people tacticsto live their truth because it just

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comes from acceptance and just more ofa like not fighting, not trying to
do anything, just being what youare now and experience. Yeah, that
helps to I found, right forsure, the more you put yourself in
I'll speak for myself. The morethat I've put myself in new and challenging
situations, the more I've learned aboutmyself. Right. I think a lot

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of guys, especially if they're stuckin that, you know, traditional college
nine to five, worked the job, come home, be stressed, grow
out to the bar's drink and justthis constant basically autopilot, loop up,
the same, the same, thesame. It's like, well, who
are you really like? What doyou actually enjoy? Like, challenge yourself.

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There's a quote in the War ofArt by Stephen Pressfield that says,
I'm going to paraphrase, but fearshows us what we most need to do.
So whatever it is that you're mostscared of doing or most nervous about,
that is a clearer path. Like, yes, it's scary, that's

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the fucking point. And that's whyvery few people are actually successful, because
they see that, they see theuncertainty. They're like, oh, what
if I fail? What if Iembarrass myself in front of all these people?
It's like, Okay, that's thepoint, that's where you want to
go. Yeah, And if youthink about it, every time you've overcome
that fear, you felt better afterYes, every single time, there's not
one time you didn't. And wehave this preconceived notion that people who are

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highly successful don't have fear. It'snot unless they're a psychopath. That's not
true at all. They only getbigger, right, But the payoff is
also an equal proportion. That's thelaw of polarity, right. And so
as you keep making progress in life, these fears are only going to stack
up more and more and more.And it really just comes down to your
ability to again accept that and diveinto it. And that's what in the

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way of the Superior Man it talksso much about, is living on your
edge, right, And so usas men, if we're not living on
our edge, we are slowly decayingevery single day. Because masculinity and feminine
energy you can think of them likea soft and a hard shell, right.
And so the more you push yourselfout into the world, the more
you live on your edge, themore you need kind of that shield on

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the outside that keeps you strong,that keeps you sturdy and grounded. So
when you encounter this chaos in theworld, you can be that grounded place
of awareness and presence that you knownot only a woman can rely on,
but people around you can rely on. That's true leadership too, And so

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once you start implementing those principles,not only is it going to help you
overcome the fears and the stresses inyour life, but if you're struggling in
your relationships, you're going to startattracting more quality ones. To one of
my favorite quotes, Meditations Marcus arereally great, great book, to be
like the rock that the waves keepcrashing over, it stands unmoved and the

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raging of the sea full still aroundit. So that's essentially a great description
of masculinity to you know, theworld is in chaos around you, and
you can be that centered, groundingpresence the rock when everything else is crumbling
around you. You are at leastcertain of yourself and the next step that

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you take. And you mentioned courageand fear, Having courage and being courageous
is not the absence of fear.I'm still a little fearful of getting in
front of the camera again, feelinglike you have to perform, right,
So it's not the absence of fear, it's acting in the face of fear.

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Yeah, you do it anyway.It's faith. Yes, the opposite
of fear is faith. So I'llsay that one again. Yeah, the
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works out for me. Yeah,because it always has and it always will,
always will, it always will itnever once has it no, Right,
even my worst quote unqu failures havebeen my greatest learning experiences. It's
still yeah, yeah, every time, there is no such thing as failure.
That's the whole point is, like, every time you have this in
your mind, this negative experience,it always taught you something new, so

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you never fail ever, And likethat changes your whole approach to life.
Right, failures a mindset. Yeah, for sure, you only fail if
you give up. And a lotof people when they do meet that resistance
and it's too challenging and they failed, and maybe they felt embarrassed from the
failure they give up, They're like, oh fuck that, I'm not experiencing

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that again. It's also choosing whatyou focus on. Yes, right,
because you feel that feeling of say, embarrassment, right, you go out,
you make a flaw to yourself.Okay, well maybe if you look
at that feeling at a deeper leveland you really feel it, it's the
same as excitement or humor, right, because something we laugh too when we

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get embarrassed, right, So there'sgot to be some humorous aspect to it.
So it's it's like choosing what tofocus on. Um, there's this
experiment. It was called the doublestud experiment. Yeah, we're going there.
We can go into it. Yeahyou probably I haven't read it in
a while, but basically, um, they took a it wasn't a particle

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accelerator, it was a particle gunor something. Yeah, they fucking somehow
shot particles at this Yeah you know, Yeah, they shot these two particles.
It's two atoms, and the onethat they focused on was the one
that registered on this machine. Correct. Yeah, and when they didn't focus

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on both of them, one ofthem disappeared. Yeah, we're going to
completely butcher the explanation of this ifwe we try to go guys, look,
we're gonna we're gonna put the linkto the YouTube video that explains this
in the show notes and it's fuckingmind blowing. Yeah. So moral of
the story is you focus I meanwhat you focus us on, you get
right? Um, Yeah, that'sbasically the whole point. Let's focus on

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confidence, which is something a lotof men today lack. Yeah, they
feel insecure and going back to thestart of this podcast, they feel like
it's even toxic to be confident inthemselves. In themselves, right, we've
we've all been taught to you know, stay humble, you know, be
quiet, like and that's exactly theopposite of how the masculine is supposed to

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present themselves. And I'm not talkinglike you know you have to walk into
the room like, oh hey,look at me. But it's the opposite
of that. It's this quiet confidencelike you should feel the presence when you
enter the room. I would say, honestly, confidence comes more down to
are you coherent with your actions?Right? So you can have people like

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Muhammad Ali and Trump and all thesedudes too talk, but it's like they
actually back it up. Yeah right, so you're backing it up. You
have no reason to walk in aroom and talk. You can. You
can affirm these things all day,but your true affirmation is going to come
from what you do. And solike, yeah, a lot of guys
they lack confidence. The first stepto getting confidence is first realizing that it's

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a spectrum and you're just on thenegative side of it. You can get
to neutral by accepting, oh yeah, I have no fucking confidence. It's
all good, and all of asudden you feel more confidence. Say that,
saying that because it's truth, andtruth is like a lion. It
doesn't need protection. It's going toprotect itself. And that's when you come
from a place of truth. Allof a sudden, you're that lion.

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I love the lion, like that'sthat's my favorite symbol other than the horse.
Yeah. But once you accept that, you get yourself this place of
neutrality and you can start thinking,Okay, now that I accept I am
low confidence. What actions can Itake that would make me feel confident?
What are some times in my lifeI did feel confident? When did I
feel secure in myself? When didI flow with life? When did I

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not worry about the opinions of others? What are some things that allow me
to bring that out? You start, I mean, you'll realize a lot
of it can come down to likefitness and all these things going going against
like you said, the things thatyou're scared of. But that's how you
start moving to the other side ofthe spectrum. And life's just really like
this dance of the positive and negativepolls. That's a lot of polarity.
Yeah, there's there's physical confidence andthen there's mental confidence. So me,

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I've I've had the physical confidence likeI've I've looked good for a large majority
of my life because I've I've madefitness a pillar in my life. It's
like, I can't imagine a worldwhere I don't work out, like this
is just what I do. Right. So a lot of people experience a
lack of confidence because they don't likethe way that they look. So if

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you don't like the way that youlook, do something about it. Yeah.
And then so in addition to that, even when you do something about
it, like I've I've had lackof confidence even when I did look good,
and so then it was this mentalstory that I was telling myself.
So once you get the physical sideout of the way, once you do

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look good, feel good. Andthis isn't just you know, being ripped
in having a six pack. Thisis how you present yourself. This is
how you walk your posture. Right. You know, if you are down
here and like nobody look at meright right, there's like opening your chest
up to the world like that completelychanges your your reality. And then it's

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it's mental confidence, which goes backto integrity. Like if you keep saying
things and then going against that,of course you're not going to feel confident
because you have no integrity. Right. Yeah, it's character, dude.
I mean, that's why you seein the bodybuilding space there's a lot of
guys who look like Lamborghini's but they'redriving a camera engine. Yes, Like
deep down they're they're really still scaredor fearful or angry at something. And

(30:55):
so it's like that's why you seeall these dudes. It drives me crazy
guys who their brand off of likebreakups and stuff, like, I get
it, you went through a phase, yeah, but you just got a
man up and realize, like,you can't build your entire life off of
this negative outlook because you're going tojust keep yourself from getting to where you
want to go. And so alot of guys today, you know,

(31:15):
they put on this hard shell withoutactually mending the internal aspects of themselves.
The truth again, because it's likea lot of the dudes that are successful
in fitness, for example, yesthey love it, but at the same
time, a lot of them aredoing it to mask themselves from some fear

(31:37):
that they're scared of going to overcome. And at a deeper level, for
most guys, that's something entrepreneurial orcreation that they're scared to create. And
so they just keep they keep workingon themselves and their body and telling themselves
these things, I'm going to bethe most jacked in aesthetic room and the
guy for the blah blah blah blahblah and put on the shell and it's

(32:00):
bs and like, eventually you justgot to look in the mirror and realize,
like, Okay, I look strongon the outside, but inside I'm
actually not being the person that isthe one I see in my mind.
Like, just because you look gooddoesn't mean that you can take care of
a family in the future. Andyou know that. So you just got
a man up and accept it andgo out. And I've yelled at so

(32:21):
many dudes on this be like,listen, man, sure you look better
at me esthetically, but you're apussy. Yeah you're scared to go after
your goals and listen, like,we're all scared of that. It scares
all of us, but you stillhave to dive into it. And so
I think a lot of guys needto hear that today and they don't have
someone who tells them the truth.I was very fortunate. I grew up

(32:42):
with a dad who would just tellme straight up the truth. That's why
I'm very grateful for my mentor Robertfor right. It's because there are people
who tell us the truth. Andwe have so much how can I phrase
this? So we need feminine andenergy, but is men we can't have
feminine energy. Tell us how toincrease our masculine energy? Yes, right,

(33:06):
And that's so that's what so manyguys are growing up with is um,
you know, kind of an absentdad, one who's not living his
own purpose, not on his edge, and they don't have good masculine role
models. That's why you see peoplelike mister t topg taken off right,
because these dudes are looking for andthat's a whole different discussion, but like

(33:28):
it's coming from a place of liketruth and more so what you need to
hear in the moment. And sothat's what guys are looking for today.
And that's really where this lack ofmasculinity and this lack of purpose and feeling
loss is coming from. Is someonewho's just not They don't look at you
in the eyes and they say,you're dude, you're jacked up, Like
you've got to fix it. MustOh it's okay, Yeah, it's okay,

(33:50):
Like you'll figure it out if IsilyNo figured it out right fucking now.
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All right, back to the show. I talked to a lot of
guys and I ask, hey,what are your goals? Cool? Who's

(34:34):
holding you accountable to those goals?A lot of them will say my girlfriend
or my wife. It's like bro, yeah, dude, like that's that's
that's great. And if you startslacking off, unless she's in the masculine
role and you're in the feminine,like, she's gonna say, oh,
exactly what you said. Oh it'sokay, you know, we can just

(34:54):
get back. She doesn't how tobe a man, no, and when
she does, she's gonna lose attractionfor you. Yes, So let's talk
about polarity and why polarity is soimportant between the masculine and the feminine.
I mean, opposites attract, andI mean that's why you see, you

(35:15):
know, a electron orbits around aproton, if you look at it at
an atomic level, that's what's happening. You got these two different polarities that
attract to each other. And soif you are a male who's in this
feminine role, what's going to happenis you're naturally going to attract a partner

(35:36):
in terms of like romantic relationships andstuff who is going to fill that opposite
role because you need balance, andthat's that's what the universe is always seeking,
right, And so if you're attractingall these masculine women and they're the
ones who have to take charge andthey have to lead and all these things,
like it's obviously a given take forboth sides. It's a dance.

(35:58):
But if she's the one initiated everythingand you don't have to really do anything,
look at yourself in the mirror fora minute and ask myself, am
I being the fool man that Icould be? Am I living at my
edge? Because your relationship is justa small example of what you're doing with
life. And I put a quoteout the other day where masculinity maintains society,

(36:21):
femininity retains maintains life. Okay,And so the way you approach the
feminine is the way you approach life. And I've learned that the hard way,
Like I've noticed it in my lifetoo, and that's what got me
really into it. I was like, why are all my relationships so bad?
Why am I attracting women that justlike I feel like a loser dude?

(36:43):
And so I had to look atmyself in the mirror. And I
think that's a big motivation for guysobviously, because that's how you create life
itself. And so if to belike, oh, man, if I'm
not getting the women I want,it means I'm not the man I need
to be. And so it reallydoes come down to us becoming that person.
That's what the journey of masculinity is. Let's define masculine and feminine energy,
because when when you say attract amasculine partner, we're not talking about

(37:07):
like this butch lesbian necessarily, right, No, that's not my type.
Yeah, I think it's most guystype. But so we already covered some
of the most important pillars of masculinity, integrity being one of them, doing
what you say you're going to do, making and keeping promises, right,
That's that's one creating order out ofchaos. Structure boundaries, I'd say is

(37:34):
number one. Like the best wayto put that, because what the feminine
wants is to flow because life flows. And again we can just think of
like masculinity and femininity as creation andthen just life and the flow of life
itself, right, and so usas men as we create. And I'm

(37:54):
not saying be controlling, but ifyou create like a safe yeah space um
boundaries for the feminine to flow around, then it's going to be more.
She's gonna feel safe and protected.And so if you don't have the ability
to make boundaries in your own life, like if you're getting stepped on,

(38:14):
that's that's your first sign you havezero boundaries. So, like boundaries are
so important. Two is you go? Yeah, I was telling these guys
today. I got a message awhile back on Instagram from a woman saying
that she's lost respect for her husbandbecause he lets their daughter walk all over

(38:36):
him, Like there are no boundaries. He's not he's not he's not the
leader of the family, he's notin the father role. Right. So
that's a perfect example of how howif you let if you let other people,
specifically women, influence your decisions,that's you basically admitting that you don't

(39:02):
trust your own intuition. That youdon't trust yourself. Yeah, right,
Like, no, okay, we'llgo with your choice because I trust you
more than my own decisions. Anda lot of guys think that it's because
that's the funny thing, Like alot of dudes think it's because the woman

(39:22):
doubts them. But it's more soshe's just testing you to see how strong
you are as a man. She'sshe's subconscious, she has no idea,
she has no idea she's doing this, but she's subconsciously thinking is he going
to stick to this decision? Becauseshe wants to follow someone who's certain.
She has to know that she's safe. Right, Yeah, women just flow

(39:45):
around, they're uncertain. Yeah,it's like the emotional roller coaster exists,
and embracing that is like the mostbeautiful thing of women, Like keep doing
that thing, But you have tobe a man that allows them to do
that. Wise they're gonna be like, oh, I don't feel safe,
and now I have to like monitormyself and close myself down. And she

(40:06):
doesn't want to feel closed down.And the act of sex itself is symbolic
of this, right, And soit comes down to like opening yourself up
spiritually and once you. Once youreally start to see that in the symbolism
of it, it kind of justmakes sense, right, But you have
to expand your awareness and get tothat point. Feminine women want to be

(40:29):
ravished by their man, for sure. They don't want a little diddling like
they want to be fucking taking controlof and they want that warrior dude in
a safe and yeah, they wantto feel like like they're safe because when

(40:50):
they are fully safe, they canfully open themselves and be free. Right
right, I completely completely forgot whatI was going to say next, But
let's go into toxic masculinity. Whatis toxic masculinity? Why? Why is
that a thing right now? Becausetoxic femininity, which the whole toxic thing

(41:12):
doesn't even exist ironically, like feminismtoday has become masculinity. Oh isn't it
funny? Yeah, you know becauseit even talks about this in the book.
There's like, I forget what thelaws, but it's like this law
of I call masculine replacement. Andso if there's no masculine energy in the
room, someone's going to come andto fill it, and in a relationship,

(41:36):
that's the women, right, Andso I don't want to point fingers
and all that stuff. But youcan look at a lot of like modern
day feminism and all that stuff,a lot of them have been wounded by
a mail in some way, someway, whether it was a father,
whether someone broke their heart, whatever, whatever it is, and they put
on a shield. And so that'slike reinforced over and over over, and

(41:57):
it becomes this projection onto rejecting masculinity, and ironically, the natural energy of
the woman is going to come outand have to fill that role. And
so you notice like the feminine sideof it becomes more masculine, which then
guys are also growing up in thisreactive nature, being raised in a more
feminine nature, and they accept that, and so that reinforces this lack of

(42:20):
masculinity, and so you get adepolarized society where everyone is secretly in trauma
and lost in hurting and they haveno idea why because they've never understood what
awareness is in the first place.And so that's really how we've gotten to
this point. And so this wholetoxic masculinity thing has come from a lack
of men modeling what true masculinity isfrom a place of consciousness and awareness.

(42:46):
I'm not talking about the controlling stuff, because I would definitely say there's wounded
masculinity one, and that's a lackof internal feminine energy because we have a
harmony of But I wouldn't say balancebecause balance neutralizes you. Right, that's
fifty fifty, that's like a teetertotter. That's chilling. I'd say we

(43:07):
more have the harmony because that's whatyou see in Yin and Yang is there's
a little bit in each side.It's like eighty twenty, right, eighty
twenty principle pops up everywhere. Yeah. Interesting, but yeah, like we
have to accept that we have alittle of that feminine energy inside of us
too, because that's what allows usto tap into God or divine, the

(43:30):
source, whatever you want to callit. And without that, we're just
we're gonna be like throwing things againstthe wall and just hyper aggressive without knowing
why. Like that's our GPS guidingsystem. If we don't have that connection
of the feminine energy of life itself, then we're just a ruthless barbarian that's
doing everything for nothing for no reason. And so it's like finding again that

(43:53):
inner harmony. And once you dothat in ourselves, then society will start
to autocrat too, and so weyou know, I'm going so many tangents.
But we can go at like asocietal level and try and fix these
things on the surface, but it'snot going to do anything. Starts with
us. It always starts with us. There's there's a sentence, whatever sentence,

(44:15):
quote, whatever it was, wherebasically was talking about if you took
all the money in the world anddivided it evenly to everybody, it would
still end up in the same people'shands because we don't have the underlying knowledge,
foundations, fundamentals, truths that allowus to understand what to even do
with it. And so again it'slike coming back to awareness and all this

(44:37):
stuff, and most guys just lackthat awareness in general. And so we've
had this manifestation of anger and frustrationbecause we know something is wrong deep down,
but people don't know how to lookwithin and they're distracted outside just at
a monumental degree. A lot ofit is projections. Because we don't want

(45:00):
to look internally and we don't wantto take the ownership for our own problems,
we project it onto society. Yeah, I am I feel this way
because of this person or society isthe root cause of the problem. Well,

(45:20):
what is society? Like, Weare all part of society. So
if we change, everybody else canchange. But the longer that you wait
for some external circumstance to change,well you're gonna be waiting a long time.
But you can change whenever you decideto. Right, Yeah, and
I mean the media. And likeI said, the feminine influence on guys

(45:42):
growing up, not having a masculinerole model tells you like, it's okay
to put your responsibility somewhere else.It's not your fault. It's someone else's
fault's government's following this, and that'sno, it's your fault because you let
it happen. A lot of peopleview that as as hurtful or what's what's

(46:06):
a good word to describe it,Yeah, hurtful or inaccurate. But really
it's the most empowering thing that youcan realize because once you understand that everything
in your life is within your controlbased on your actions, then it's like,

(46:29):
okay, well now I can actuallychange something. Where before I was
just complaining and blaming everybody else andnot getting anything productive done. Now I
can take ownership of that and startto move forwards. It's only hurtful if
you perceive it as hurtful, right, Because you could be in a hospital

(46:49):
and the doctor could be doing surgeryon you with a scalpel, and you
could look at it as, Oh, he's digging a bullet out of me,
or he's stabbing me, Like whichone do you see that? Yeah?
Right? The truth is going tohurt, but it's also going to
save your life. Why do youthink a lot of us are afraid to

(47:10):
face the truth. I think alot of people are living in a false,
false truth, right, Like they'reliving in the world that the media,
the government, social media is sayingthis is reality, right, and

(47:32):
they just blindly accept that and theythink that's that's how things are. When
you and I are disconnected from thatand we can see from like, oh,
like this is what they're saying.But really, I'm in control of
my life. These things that themedia says are huge issues, Like I'm

(47:53):
not affected by this whatsoever? Sowhy is it? Why do you imagine
it's it's hard for people to moveaway from the whatever their narrative is to
change. Why why are people reluctantto change? I guess would be a
better question. Well, we we'reto cover that. It goes back to

(48:17):
the uncertainty. Because they're living,they're addicted to the certainty of misery.
I would say this that, yeah, that's a huge part of it.
I would say most people are morescared of the pain that comes from accepting

(48:39):
the truth in this moment than theyare of the pain that they'll feel from
sustaining a lie. Say that again, most people are scared of the pain
that they'll feel from accepting the truthin this moment more than the pain that

(49:00):
they'll feel from long term regret ofliving a lie. I want it's deep.
Yeah, Regret I imagine to bethe worst possible emotion a human being

(49:20):
can feel, especially when it's toolate, like when you're older, and
especially if you're on your deathbed andthen there's no way that you can go
back and change things. So Iwould say, if you're experiencing any level
of regret right now, if you'relistening to this podcast, that's it's your

(49:44):
opportunity to make new choices and goingback to Abercadabra. If we want to
change our personal reality, soso withthe words, because your words dictate how
you feel. Right, he sayssomething negative to you're going to feel,
oh, I'm angry or I'm sador whatever. If you change how you're

(50:08):
perceiving that story, right, becauseit's just words. Like words cannot actually
harm you, it's your perception ofthem. So you change how you're perceiving
the words, You change how youfeel. If you change how you feel,
you're going to act differently because youact in accordance with how you feel.
Right, So then if you changehow you feel, you're gonna act

(50:30):
differently. When you act differently,you create a new personality, and that
new personality creates a new personal reality. Yeah, so instead of projecting,
right, we take ownership. Okay, my words and my thoughts are in
my control. You change those things, change how you feel, change how

(50:51):
you feel, change how you act, change how you act. New personal
reality. I think too, theliving on your edge helps you minimize the
regret aspect because today we're so comfortable, right, We're so used to not
having to push ourselves. We don'tsee death every day like a thousand years

(51:16):
ago, and so back then they'reso used to people like just being dead
on the streets and wars and alltypes of stuff. And it makes you
look at life differently, and sowe don't live in that edge as men
today. That allows us to seehow short it all really is. Like

(51:36):
they were reminded every day people weredying from diseases, all this stuff.
We have, all these beautiful miracles, they're being created in our world.
But it sustains us instead of remindsus about the fact that we're still mortal.
We're not going to be here forever. And so I mean me personally,

(51:58):
I watched my older brother die whenas a fresh from the high school,
right, that was tough, andso I learned quickly the finality of
life and how fast it can end. And that will change your perspective.
When you can truly see that infront of your face, it makes you

(52:19):
minimize regret because you're constantly reminded,especially when it's something close to you.
You think, you know what,I might as well make the most of
today because tomorrow is not even promised. It's not And so you know,
even us doing like the MMA allthat's why I love it. I love
it so much. I was avoidingit for a while because I knew as

(52:39):
soon as I started it, I'dbe hooked. I was like, Oh,
I don't know if I should dothis, because I know I'm gonna
be going three days a week,nights. I'll tell you right now.
My mental, spiritual, physical,financial relationships, every aspect of those is
increased. For putting yourself in asituation where death is in front of your

(53:04):
face, you get to this primalIt's almost an autopilot where like your instincts
kick in and your body is preparingto die. But at the same time
what happens is with the law ofpolarity, you're preparing to prevail, right
So you need that edge where you'realways facing death. Otherwise you can never

(53:27):
become the man that you know.You are beat down other than mma,
how are you living at your edge? I just do things that scare me.
When I moved to When I movedto Tampa was on a like month
and a half notice, and Ijust hated where I was at so much.
And we look at hate is abad thing, but it's what allows
you to get to a place oflove too, because it's just a spectrum.

(53:50):
I didn't like at all where Iwas at, and I was like,
I need to get out of hereright now, and so I was
scared of the move. And youknow it's funny, is I thought it
was going to be this expect it'sa thing. It cost me less than
like a thousand bucks to move acrossthe country, and all of a sudden
I had exactly what I wanted,had the freedom I wanted. I was
like, you know what, I'mI haven't gone skydiving a while. I'm

(54:10):
gonna do that from a birthday becauseit kind of scares me a little bit,
Let's do it. And so it'sjust really ramping it up over and
over. You know, I've signedup to mentorships that I was scared to
put thousands of dollars in two paysoff. And it also makes you put
your ass on the line, right, We're so used to getting things handed
to us. But it's like,without you putting in your half and putting

(54:34):
yourself at that edge willingly, you'renot going to get to where you want
to go. You got to havethat buy in and you got to just
force yourself to do those things thatreally scare you. Like I wish,
I wish there was a simple solutionto it other than like smart, start
small. But it's just putting yourselfin those situations where you have, you

(54:59):
know, a lot of things thatscare you and a lot on your shoulders.
And I think too, that thatcomes from taking up more responsibility.
I think that's the biggest thing forguys. It's responsibility. That's why I
like cold showers amazing. If that'swhere you're starting, Like you're you're deliberately
putting yourself into a challenging situation.Yeah, like you know it's gonna suck,

(55:20):
you know it's going to be cold, and you do it anyway.
So that can be a stepping stoneto these larger decisions. And really most
of the time, the big scarymonster that we're afraid of is actually just
in our head. When you actuallygo do the thing, you're like,
oh, I was way more worriedabout this than I should have been.

(55:44):
Like this is really not that bigof a deal. So an exercise that
can help with that is like,if you have a major decision that you're
fearful of making, list out,like your top three biggest fears, like
what is the worst thing that canhappen? List those out and then play
those rolls out and see like,okay, is this what I'm so worried

(56:04):
about, like I moved to Tampa, and so let's play this, what
were your biggest fears or hesitancies aroundmoving? It was more so like,
well I'd be able to support myself, what if I fail and have to
come back home? And all typesof things where I was already thinking of
like these imaginary outcomes when I haven'teven done it yet. Right, So

(56:24):
you make this monster in the closetbigger when you haven't you open the closet
yet, you don't even know ifit is a closet. It could be
adored to a greener pastors, right, And so it's just like you make
up things in your head. It'sthe same with cold showers. Dude,
you like stand there dancing for likefifty minutes and then you get into it

(56:45):
and you're like, Okay, it'snot that bad. It's like, guys,
I've watched Taylor listen. I'm tellingyou, like, once you do
these things that suck, that's whereyou find transcendence because that's how you that's
how you enter flow state. That'swhat most people are seeking in life is
just to live in the flow,in the flow state, and that has

(57:06):
to come from challenge, because youcan be skillful at something, you can
be talented whatever it is. Butunless you like put yourself with that little
bit of an edge, it's notgoing to wake up that primal savage inside
you that we're all seeking to releasebecause it's so repressed today. And so
I watched Taylor unsubmerged in an icebath for twenty minute. I thought you

(57:29):
were dead. I literally thought thisguy was dead. I'm serious. I
was like, um, leo,Leo. I was like, dude,
I don't know if he's coming upserious, like as he's breathing, and
so you checked and yeah, he'sreal, all right, you were in
zen mode and so you came up. I won't forget you came up so
slowly. You just slick your hairback and you're just like, like,

(57:52):
dude, just went to heaven.That was crazy for real, because I've
gotten I've gotten really good at whenuncomfortable down regulating my nervous system because it
does no good to panic and freakmyself out. One of my superpowers is
staying calm amidst chaos. Like Idiscovered this when I was in the Marine

(58:14):
Corps and as a machine gunner,there's high amounts of stress and chaos,
and that's where I thrive, LikeI was always clearheaded and just focused and
dialed. And again that that comesthrough putting yourself through these challenging situations and
realizing also unless you're actually like inbattle, there is no pressure, only

(58:37):
practice. So a lot of thesethings that we're fearful of, it's because
we view the outcome as the endall be all, Like if I fail
this off, I actually failed,right, It's like, no, that's
just practice for the next thing,for the next time you do it.
That's a great mindset, right.So Mason, it's been great talk with

(59:00):
you. Let's let's wrap it upby because it could have kept going for
hours. Yeah, there's a lotof different rabbit holes that we opened a
lot if you go down. Ye, So before I ask the two final
questions, talk to us about what'sin this pre workout. So we got
some bee pollen extract. If youdon't know what my brand is, the

(59:21):
Stampede Network. We came to marketbased off our premiere products Spartan b brand,
which is basically a fermented bee pollenand hunt. You have it on
that one right now. I forgotabout this, Yeah, Yeah, but
these things loaded in polyphenols, glueto thion, antioxidants, um, flavonoids,
all types of good stuff. Helpsyour body recover faster, Your sleep
is way better, vitality is better, you perform better in the gym.

(59:44):
It's antioxidative stress. So it's literallylike nature's miracle super food. In ancient
Egypt, they called it the foodof the gods. So how's it?
How long have you had that?While? Yeah, how's this? Basically
immersion taste is so yeah, tastesum. Honey is the only food that
never goes bad. Yeah, especiallywhile they fermented too. Yeah. Bee

(01:00:06):
products are phenomenal, it's amazing.Um. Yeah. So with the pre
I wanted to incorporate all the goodelements of the bee bread. So we
did be pollen extract four to one, so it's high potency. We also
got beat rooting there, three gramsof that. So I was just talking
to Chase about this. He's like, I want to know what's in it
chain by the way, Yeah,and so yeah, here you go,

(01:00:29):
Chase, But we got beat rootinghere. Um, we got some theo
borromine, which is in cacao,so it increases your serotonin levels. We
also got some alpha GPC that's helpthat helps you with the focused side of
things. We got some makuna whichis going to help your dopamine levels,
also help heal your central nervous system, Tonga ali which is for testosterone.

(01:00:57):
M dude, I put so manythings. And here we got a little
natural caffee decaffee mallets, so youhave no crash, none of the jitters.
And then we got rodeola rosea,which is an adapted gen It's kind
of similar to an upper version ofoshwaganda, and so that's going to give
you this euphoric feeling as well asum have an effect on your serotonin levels.
But the thing that I was mostexcited about is one we have none

(01:01:20):
of like the natural or none ofthe synthetic flavoring in there. So no
suculos, no acisulfame, potassium,whatever, still garbage, whatever it is,
whatever that shit is called um asupflame. We also have no natural
flavors labeling, because that's a wholeit's those are not natural. That's a

(01:01:40):
whole different rabbit hole. And thenwe added some magnesium into it, some
um Himalayan pink salt, and someother good stuff to help because ninety percent
of Americans have a mineral deficiency.So it's like, oh, well,
what if we could offset the effectsof that in this pre and just make
it like an all in one Becausepeople have hormone levels that are whack low.

(01:02:02):
Minerals they take CAP, they takeall these caffeine supplements every day that
are highly diuretic, right, soyou end up peeing out all these minerals
and all this stuff. And soI wanted to offset that and at least
get us to a neutral baseline whereyou can go positive. And so that's
what the other ingredients do. Nice. I like that it's not fucking loaded

(01:02:22):
with daffine. Yeah you don't don'twant to You don't want to jack your
adrenals up like that. Yeah cool, All right, what are you most
excited about. I'm going hard onmy YouTube this year, So that's like
my big goal, Like I'm seton that and I'm obsessed with it.
So I just brought on a wholeteam. Um they're killing it. But

(01:02:44):
my goal is I want to Iwant to hit fifty K and I'm going
to hit fifty K by the endof this year. Like I'm obsessed with
it. It's at this point andso for me it's all like just videos.
I'm realizing what I really love todo is I just love to make
videos that distill knowledge and help peoplesee the world a different way and create

(01:03:05):
some controversy. Yes, put sometruth into the videos, right yeah,
yeah, just be a messenger ina way. Um, And so that's
what I really love to do,and I don't like to think about it.
I always get asked all the time, what are you doing, and
I'm like, I'm doing the exactsame thing because I love what I do.
It's just a a bigger scale.So I think once you find that,

(01:03:27):
life really changes. But for me, I'm excited about YouTube obviously,
this pre workout release and just buildinga brand in a community more than anything.
Thank you. Last question, whatdoes thriving I mean do? Let'd
say waking up every single day lookingforward to the overarching vision of what you're

(01:03:52):
doing. So I wouldn't say wewake up every single day excited. Yeah,
but I thought that's where you're going. I was like, huh,
yeah, but it's going to counterit. Yeah, But I would say
where you're going that at least inspiresyou. So as long as you have
like a big north star to follow. Going back to the purpose purpose,

(01:04:12):
I have a whole formula on that. Let's hear it. In addition,
let's hear it. It's a fivestep purpose formula and it applies to every
man or woman on earth, okay, because it comes from awareness. Let's
go. So Step one through threeis about the journey of self actualization.
So becoming who you can be asyou four and five is about self transcendence.

(01:04:38):
So we know, like Maslow's hierarchy, you get to the top of
this pyramid and then then what youhit a point, Well, now it
flips upside down, and that's whereself transcendence happens. And if you look
at if you visualize that in yourmind, this pyramid upside down, what's
happening? Is it? It onlyexpands, So all of a sudden,
you're infinite versus this triangle that that'slimiting you. And you know the funny

(01:05:01):
thing about it is it's in directproportion to you, the bottom triangle or
the bottom pyramid, right. Andso this whole journey of finding your purpose
starts with you, and the firstthree steps of self actualization are as follows.
So you start with fitness and nutritionthe body right, because that's what
we have the most access to rightnow, and it's where we get the

(01:05:26):
most needs. If we don't takecare of it, we die. And
so I always recommend for people startwith getting your nutrition in check because food
is the ultimate motivation. You don'treally have to do much to want to
eat right, so at least startchanging what you eat and getting awareness of
that. Fixing up your nutrition,cutting out the seed oils, cutting out
the synthetic ingredients, cutting out likethe fast food, and just start changing

(01:05:49):
those habits. Once you do that, you also start going into the fitness
side of things because once you canget nutrition with or once you get discipline
with the nutrition, and it's gonnabe a lot easier to go to the
gym every day. And you're goingto have a reason too, because you're
going to start seeing yourself in themirror is becoming the person that you want
to be. Like, if youfix your diet's ninety percent of it right.

(01:06:11):
So it's like, if you canget your nutrition and check, then
you're going to start looking good,but you want to look even better,
and you'll have more motivation to doso. Once you start hitting the gym,
and so that's step one is justtake care of the body. Step
two is where we enter the mind. And so that comes from step one
because in order to get our nutrition, our fitness and check, you have

(01:06:31):
to learn how to take control ofyour mind. You have to learn how
to give yourself discipline and direct yourselftowards a goal. And so this is
where you start to really understand themind and you can start putting in new
goals and directives that you want todo on yourself, Like what other aspects
of myself, what beliefs do Ihave are bad? Then I want to
fix because if you again, ifyou a man or a woman that can

(01:06:55):
control their nutrition and their diet andwhat they put into their body, they
can control anything. So get yourselfinto that mind area by taking care of
the body. Once you get yourmind on lock, you'll naturally and this
is like a float. You don'teven have to force these things. Once
you get the mind on lock,you'll naturally start to gain awareness because you've

(01:07:15):
been changing the way you think,and so you'll start to naturally get curious
about, oh, how was Idoing this? Where was this belief coming
from? And that leads to thisactive awareness. And so once you start
to really understand what awareness is,because we don't know what we don't know,
and that's how you wake that up, you can start getting into like

(01:07:36):
meditative practices and you can start goingdeeper. And meditation is just like an
active thing. We don't have tosit there and omday we can witness right
now, like what we're doing isan act of meditation. We're conscious of
our thoughts, we're conscious what wesay, and we consciously choose to put
it out there. And so onceyou gain that awareness, you really you've

(01:07:58):
become the person in the moment thatyou can be, Like you get to
your innate state, which is thisaware person who's taking care of themselves and
all these things. And that's wherepeople will get messed up, is because
self improvement is such a rabbit hole, like you'll keep improving, improving,
improving, but no one asked forwhat what are you improving for? Like,
sure you're making yourself better, butit's like where does it go past

(01:08:23):
you? And so that's where weget to this self transcendence thing. Step
four. Using the previous ones inyour newfound sense of awareness, you can
start figuring out what is energizing me, because you have that awareness inside of
you. And that's what I wastalking about with the bodybuilders. They know
they're not doing these things like you. Start using that awareness to pick up

(01:08:45):
what am I scared of? Whatare the things that energized me? What
are the skills I have? Whatwas I doing as a little kid that
I flow with? What are somethings that I'm innately good at? For
me? I found out and Irealized I always love being on camera,
I love making videos, I lovecommunicating, I love sharing knowledge. I
was always into the fitness side ofthings, and that was natural for me.

(01:09:08):
Holistic wonus all these things. Andso that was my step four is
that realization of this, and soI committed, which is also part of
step four to mastery, which isjust continuously refining and developing those things that
are innate to you and natural.And so once you do that, once
you develop your skills, you hitstep five, which is really the peak,

(01:09:31):
and it goes infinite. You startgiving it to the world. And
so for me, for example,I had realized I have knowledge on fitness
nutrition. You know exactly what I'mtalking about right now, masculinity, and
I use that awareness to start usingthe same skills that I was developing,

(01:09:53):
such as content and video and speakingwhen I started building an audience and distilling
it on TikTok. So it's likestep five is really just finding the vehicle
to give it to the world.And in the process, you're giving yourself
from steps one through three to theworld. And so the more you continuously
refine you and continue to give yourselfto the world, that's how you find

(01:10:15):
purpose, create impact, and findfulfillment. Because at the end of the
day, fulfillment comes from three things, creation, connection, and contribution,
and so that covers every single one. You create yourself, you create your
gifts, You connect to yourself,you connect to others, You contribute to

(01:10:38):
your growth, you contribute to thegrowth of others. And it's that simple.
And if you do that, you'regoing to find fulfillment. It's impossible
for you not to because that's theinnate human desire. I mean, that's
just what we are. So ifyou follow the five steps, you'll literally
radically change your life. So basically, just become the best version of yourself

(01:10:58):
and give your gifts to the world. Yeah, not simple, simple,
and that framework. Let's fucking doit. Let's do it. Mason,
appreciate you coming on leave the captain'slifestyle right Peace

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