August 11, 2025 • 9 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:06):
Hi, Quen Hi. This is Danny Felt and you're listening
to the Danny Felt Podcast. On this episode, we're gonna
talk about raising our standards to get more clear on
what we want. Let's get into it. Hey, y'all, hope
(00:27):
you are having a beautiful Wednesday. It is Wednesday, July
ninth as I'm recording this episode, and I would love
to talk to you guys about something on my heart.
I went on a recent date about two days ago,
and I had some realizations that I had to share
(00:47):
with you guys. The truth is, we're not gonna know
what we want until we understand what we don't want.
And then once we understand what we don't want, we
can keep raising our standards. Now what does this mean exactly?
What is racing standards? Okay, so say you really want
(01:11):
a car. Now, you could just say to the universe,
please send me a car. I just want a car.
But when you're not specific with what you want, it
could send you any car. It could send you a motorcycle.
It could send you a clown car. It could send
you a truck. It could send you so many varieties
(01:34):
of cars. It could send you an old car, a
new car, a shiny car, a beat up car. If
we're not clear on what we want, then we could
just get any car. And I'm using the car as
a metaphor for anything that you want in your life.
So for me, I went on a few dates recently
(01:57):
and I just had some realizations of what I do
not want because these men were clearly what I am
not looking for, but I wasn't clear that they were
not what I was looking for until I actually went
on dates with them. And so it's really important to
experiment in your life to figure out what you don't want,
(02:22):
and then once you figure out what you don't want,
you're going to be able to get more clear on
what you do want. And then once you figure out
what you do want, you have to start raising your standards.
Meaning if you want a future long term relationship, then
maybe being on Tinder or hookup apps with most people
(02:44):
that just want a hookup, especially if it says it
in their profile, is not the ideal situation for you.
In fact, I deleted my Tender profile today because I
had a realization that a lot of the guys that
I was attracting for dating apps for some reason, just
(03:06):
wanted to hook up. Now, I'm not judging people for
just wanting to hook up. There's nothing wrong with sexual empowerment.
I'm just stating everyone wants something different. Some people don't
even want marriage, they just want a long term partnership,
which is also totally fine. Some people just want to
(03:27):
have fun. Some people just get out of a relationship
and just going on dates and flirting with new people
is all they can handle right now. Some people want
polyamory and want to be with multiple people, and there's
also nothing wrong with that either. Everyone has different preferences.
But my point is you need to figure out what
you want so you can start raising your standards. So
(03:48):
for me, I said, Okay, what do I want? What
do I want in my life? In my dating life,
what do I want? What do I want in my
business life? What kind of clients do I want? What
do I want to do to make money? We'll keep
going with the example of dating. So I recently realized
(04:08):
I really do want a long term partnership. So being
on apps like Tinder probably isn't the highest chance of
finding someone that wants a long term partnership, especially if
it's in their profile. It's really helpful to start eliminating
what you do not want in order to bring in
(04:29):
more of what you do want. So by deleting my
tender profile today, I'm telling the universe that I am
ready for something more meaningful and that I don't just
want someone to hook up with. And like I said,
there's nothing wrong if there's some if there's someone that
you just want to hook up with, or that's all
you want, like, we all have to get clear on
(04:50):
what we want so then we can attract more of
what we do want and then raise our standards to
match that level. So, for example, if if you want
to have clients, get clear on what kind of clients
do you want to have? How much money do you
want to make. If you're making ten dollars an hour
(05:11):
and you want to make one hundred dollars an hour,
raise your standards, start asking for more, start thinking about
how you can make more money. If you want a
different set of clients, maybe your clients are always paying late,
or they're not respecting you, or they stop paying you,
or they're always complaining about how they don't have money.
(05:31):
Then work with different set of clients. Create new standards,
create new rules. I create a rule recently in one
of my programs that said that there's a late fee
because there was people that were taking advantage of our
payment plan and then just not like totally just skipping
a payment for a week and just like canceling a session.
(05:56):
So I put in fees to actually charge them if
they're if they're like skipping a session, because that affects
income if someone is like receiving money every week. And
so it's really important to just get really clear on
what you want and start raising your standards and then
make a list of what you actually do want in
(06:18):
your life. So I want you to grab a journal,
and I want you to start brainstorming and ask yourself,
what do I want in my life? What kind of
job do I want? If I want to work for someone,
what do I want my boss to be? Like? Do
I want to work from home? Do I want to
work from an office? Do I want to do a
(06:39):
hybrid mix of both? What kind of relationship or person
in my life? If I don't have a relationship, who
do I want in my life? Do I just want
to go on dates? Do I just want to meet
like a million people? Do I want just someone to
hook up with? Like? What do I want, and then
focus on taking action steps to go after or what
(07:00):
you want. If you want to be an author, what
kind of author do you want to be? Can you
start taking action steps to become that author by getting
an editor. I just got an editor from my book
that I worked on for like multiple It was like
at least three years old at this point. It was
just kind of sitting in my Google Docs and I decided, Okay,
(07:24):
like I need to actually find someone to work with.
I need to raise my standards for myself and say, okay, Danny, like,
I'm the type of person that's gonna commit to things.
When I say I want to do something, I'm gonna
go do it. So I want you to think about
how can you start raising the standards in your own life,
whether that is making new friends, getting higher standards with
(07:47):
your clients, eliminating some of the services that you offer
to focus on other services. Maybe you want to get
into public speaking, Maybe you want to launch an online course,
Maybe you want to do retreats or intensives. Maybe you
want to release an album this year. Okay, go find
(08:07):
your team, don't settle. Don't settle with just anyone that
can help you make sure you raise your standards and
you have a high quality production team, a high quality
marketing team, because you do get what you pay for.
And also you get what you put your energy into.
So if you don't put a lot of effort or
(08:27):
love or energy into something, you're going to get that
right back. So it's really important to raise your standards,
not just with the people you work with, but with yourself.
So I want you to start thinking about how you
can raise your standards in your own life. Whether it's
the dating life, whether it's the work life, whether it's
family life, whether it's anything, it doesn't matter. The point
(08:51):
is you can always raise your standards. You can always
have higher expectations. It starts with getting clear on what
you want and making a list. So I want you
to go do that, let me know how it goes,
and I'll see you in the next episode. Thanks so
much for listening. Hi, this is Danny Fell and thanks
(09:12):
so much for listening to the Danny Fell Podcast. Stay
tuned for the next episode. See you then.
Hi, Quen Hi. This is Danny Felt and you're listening
to the Danny Felt Podcast. On this episode, we're gonna
talk about raising our standards to get more clear on
what we want. Let's get into it. Hey, y'all, hope
(00:27):
you are having a beautiful Wednesday. It is Wednesday, July
ninth as I'm recording this episode, and I would love
to talk to you guys about something on my heart.
I went on a recent date about two days ago,
and I had some realizations that I had to share
(00:47):
with you guys. The truth is, we're not gonna know
what we want until we understand what we don't want.
And then once we understand what we don't want, we
can keep raising our standards. Now what does this mean exactly?
What is racing standards? Okay, so say you really want
(01:11):
a car. Now, you could just say to the universe,
please send me a car. I just want a car.
But when you're not specific with what you want, it
could send you any car. It could send you a motorcycle.
It could send you a clown car. It could send
you a truck. It could send you so many varieties
(01:34):
of cars. It could send you an old car, a
new car, a shiny car, a beat up car. If
we're not clear on what we want, then we could
just get any car. And I'm using the car as
a metaphor for anything that you want in your life.
So for me, I went on a few dates recently
(01:57):
and I just had some realizations of what I do
not want because these men were clearly what I am
not looking for, but I wasn't clear that they were
not what I was looking for until I actually went
on dates with them. And so it's really important to
experiment in your life to figure out what you don't want,
(02:22):
and then once you figure out what you don't want,
you're going to be able to get more clear on
what you do want. And then once you figure out
what you do want, you have to start raising your standards.
Meaning if you want a future long term relationship, then
maybe being on Tinder or hookup apps with most people
(02:44):
that just want a hookup, especially if it says it
in their profile, is not the ideal situation for you.
In fact, I deleted my Tender profile today because I
had a realization that a lot of the guys that
I was attracting for dating apps for some reason, just
(03:06):
wanted to hook up. Now, I'm not judging people for
just wanting to hook up. There's nothing wrong with sexual empowerment.
I'm just stating everyone wants something different. Some people don't
even want marriage, they just want a long term partnership,
which is also totally fine. Some people just want to
(03:27):
have fun. Some people just get out of a relationship
and just going on dates and flirting with new people
is all they can handle right now. Some people want
polyamory and want to be with multiple people, and there's
also nothing wrong with that either. Everyone has different preferences.
But my point is you need to figure out what
you want so you can start raising your standards. So
(03:48):
for me, I said, Okay, what do I want? What
do I want in my life? In my dating life,
what do I want? What do I want in my
business life? What kind of clients do I want? What
do I want to do to make money? We'll keep
going with the example of dating. So I recently realized
(04:08):
I really do want a long term partnership. So being
on apps like Tinder probably isn't the highest chance of
finding someone that wants a long term partnership, especially if
it's in their profile. It's really helpful to start eliminating
what you do not want in order to bring in
(04:29):
more of what you do want. So by deleting my
tender profile today, I'm telling the universe that I am
ready for something more meaningful and that I don't just
want someone to hook up with. And like I said,
there's nothing wrong if there's some if there's someone that
you just want to hook up with, or that's all
you want, like, we all have to get clear on
(04:50):
what we want so then we can attract more of
what we do want and then raise our standards to
match that level. So, for example, if if you want
to have clients, get clear on what kind of clients
do you want to have? How much money do you
want to make. If you're making ten dollars an hour
(05:11):
and you want to make one hundred dollars an hour,
raise your standards, start asking for more, start thinking about
how you can make more money. If you want a
different set of clients, maybe your clients are always paying late,
or they're not respecting you, or they stop paying you,
or they're always complaining about how they don't have money.
(05:31):
Then work with different set of clients. Create new standards,
create new rules. I create a rule recently in one
of my programs that said that there's a late fee
because there was people that were taking advantage of our
payment plan and then just not like totally just skipping
a payment for a week and just like canceling a session.
(05:56):
So I put in fees to actually charge them if
they're if they're like skipping a session, because that affects
income if someone is like receiving money every week. And
so it's really important to just get really clear on
what you want and start raising your standards and then
make a list of what you actually do want in
(06:18):
your life. So I want you to grab a journal,
and I want you to start brainstorming and ask yourself,
what do I want in my life? What kind of
job do I want? If I want to work for someone,
what do I want my boss to be? Like? Do
I want to work from home? Do I want to
work from an office? Do I want to do a
(06:39):
hybrid mix of both? What kind of relationship or person
in my life? If I don't have a relationship, who
do I want in my life? Do I just want
to go on dates? Do I just want to meet
like a million people? Do I want just someone to
hook up with? Like? What do I want, and then
focus on taking action steps to go after or what
(07:00):
you want. If you want to be an author, what
kind of author do you want to be? Can you
start taking action steps to become that author by getting
an editor. I just got an editor from my book
that I worked on for like multiple It was like
at least three years old at this point. It was
just kind of sitting in my Google Docs and I decided, Okay,
(07:24):
like I need to actually find someone to work with.
I need to raise my standards for myself and say, okay, Danny, like,
I'm the type of person that's gonna commit to things.
When I say I want to do something, I'm gonna
go do it. So I want you to think about
how can you start raising the standards in your own life,
whether that is making new friends, getting higher standards with
(07:47):
your clients, eliminating some of the services that you offer
to focus on other services. Maybe you want to get
into public speaking, Maybe you want to launch an online course,
Maybe you want to do retreats or intensives. Maybe you
want to release an album this year. Okay, go find
(08:07):
your team, don't settle. Don't settle with just anyone that
can help you make sure you raise your standards and
you have a high quality production team, a high quality
marketing team, because you do get what you pay for.
And also you get what you put your energy into.
So if you don't put a lot of effort or
(08:27):
love or energy into something, you're going to get that
right back. So it's really important to raise your standards,
not just with the people you work with, but with yourself.
So I want you to start thinking about how you
can raise your standards in your own life. Whether it's
the dating life, whether it's the work life, whether it's
family life, whether it's anything, it doesn't matter. The point
(08:51):
is you can always raise your standards. You can always
have higher expectations. It starts with getting clear on what
you want and making a list. So I want you
to go do that, let me know how it goes,
and I'll see you in the next episode. Thanks so
much for listening. Hi, this is Danny Fell and thanks
(09:12):
so much for listening to the Danny Fell Podcast. Stay
tuned for the next episode. See you then.
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