June 27, 2023 • 21 mins
In this episode I interview my friend, lovingly coined the BDSM Magnet as he attracts women that enjoy a good batin' in the bedroom. I also divulge my own singular experience with BDSM so IF YOU'RE RELATED TO ME, I ENCOURAGE YOU NOT TO LISTEN. Ta x
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(00:12):
Do you quit? Welcome to theDating Orange podcast. I'm your host the
Dating Orange and today we're talking toa very special person. Indeed, he's
a friend of mine who threw nofault nor kink of his own, seems
to mostly attract women who are intoBDSM, and it's gotten to such a
point that he has actually had toinstall a rig in his bedroom for all
(00:33):
of the kinky women that want abit of him. And because of this,
I have lovingly coined him the BDSMmagnet. I just got to start
as I was like, I don'tthink that is the best way to describe
me. Like, because you said, what more than half of the women
that you meet? More than half? Yeah, Like everyone's got a kink?
(00:54):
Really asked to be into it?And assume what is BDSM? What
actually going on? Hondage domination,faism for the masochism. So sadism is
enjoying putting pain onto other people,and masochism is enjoying pain on yourself.
And you're not into any of this, I would say that exactly, you
(01:18):
don't seek it out though I don'tseek it out. Is it quite an
intimidating thing to approach song or don'twant, you think, But those women
don't think to windows, they don'tmind to a product. Is that I
can't figure out what. Yeah,obviously I look to yourself, that looks
to yourself, that looks like thatshould enjoy the b DSM. I suppose
(01:42):
they will have a couple of yeah, I got nipple verison on that.
I suppose, yeah, I should. They wouldn't have known that before they
asked or how often are they asking? Well, like how quickly are they
asking? Sorry? Some of thewomen is just straight off the bat,
and what we're talking about her liketinder hinge bumble. I'm not tinder because
band often the last Yeah, shewas into it and more extreme one give
(02:07):
us, give us a taste ofthe extreme. The story wise, I
made well, she she she wasinto a lot of stuff, but you
know that was song. Then shealso had a rape fantasy, rape fantasy
and you did that for her.Well, yeah, but can't say it
(02:34):
was already happy about it? Howmany times she wanted an evening of it
to say, you're getting one nightonly and I'll offer you faint with the
lad and he's wanted to pick itup your at the wrong end and all.
Why would you all that I think, Oh, I wouldn't it be
(02:55):
I'm then not thinking here, Ireally want to know maybe twenty percent.
But on all of my long termboyfriends, which would have taken up most
of my life, so they allwanted it and it wasn't enough from me.
They can fuck off? Like fuck'ssake. Oh yeah, so that's
(03:17):
a bit fucking reader, isn't thereisn't Oh yeah, yeah, well have
to be if your partner's not intoit, like which it like it's obvious
its painful, Like it's painful.And then they were just like, oh,
you know, like we'll take aslow and we'll lo be up.
I'm like, bum but like,I wouldn't be like pushing you to show
(03:40):
something up your ars if you saidit was painful. It's actually an agreement.
I tend to out with a lotof them. It's like, I'm
not going to show up your earsbecause you are definitely not stuff and I
know my ears. Did they allwant to do that as well? Flat
out fucking no, And there's nois there any like what else is there?
Kim suit ball gags? Yeah,there was one of them into PBC
(04:03):
did try it? Oh you didn'tyou just said no, wore the babies.
I'm not word Okay, there's aline that you don't won't cross.
I'm not fucking stretching myself in thelogistics are getting into PBC. Think about
it. No, the twelve isactually making me cringe. Would you get
into the suit in a separate room. I don't have to come into the
(04:25):
imagine. He shattered the illusion.Oh yeah, sensuality of the evening.
You know, Lucy is the lastword I would choose. Look people to
be into things. You know.Story about a friend of mine, now
he's seventy eight. He was tellingme this brilliant story, so I sell
it. Tell it to you,okay, because I think you'll get a
(04:46):
great kid. Who's who's over theUK. And he was staying at his
his friend on this hotel and hewas friends with the guy who used to
throw on the reception of this hotel. And he met up with this lady
that he knew and she had anoutfit for him. So he had to
(05:09):
have these big sort of scary lookingboots on him, went up to his
knees and a cave and his leatherdevil mask but just covered like his jaw
she would ask him to wrap herhim bubble wrap and tire up and do
all these mad things to her.What was her kink? Then being murdered,
(05:30):
No, being rowed by the devilwhilst trapped in bubble wrap, Oh
my god stuff and she and sheused to love it, apparently because the
bubbles have popped and she'd said withoutlike having a second skin, what the
fuck? Well, that's not eventhe best part. What happened was this.
He went outside the smoke a cigarette. He got sucked out when he
(05:54):
went back to the whole deell room. He was banging at the door for
ages and there was loud music goingon the room, and she up near
him at the door. This couplewas coming back from dinner, came up
the corridor and found him, andhe turned around wearing the mask and everything.
The one screamed and fainted in thecorridor. Other people came out of
(06:14):
their all tail rooms and he wasthere, no patns on them, a
pair of fucking thy eye boots,the cape and the devil mask, like
not fucking giving up? What wasyou? Would you admit the feat that?
Why do you think it's become sopopular? Oh? Why do I
(06:35):
think it's becoming so popular. Iblame fifty Shades, of course, but
before fifty Shades came out, Iwas kind of doing this. So how
long is it? Like generally,you mean, how long is it?
How long is this is going offfor like two hours? Generally? At
least it's nice. Is it's notjust about you know, smacking someone up
(07:00):
or burning them or something like it. You don't necessarily burn them. But
she says, have you been burningthem? Kind of? I can't.
I was fucking can't. I've gotI've got this oxy is settling torch up
in the open the room and offerbecause I left it there when it was
welding up the thing. Now moneymess, Oh my god. I was
not even surprised at this day.Oh no, no, no. This
(07:23):
isse candles you can get and youcan drip them on someone, but they're
designing such a way you can actuallypeel it off the skin, mince and
neat. It's not like using anormal wax candle kind of sticks to your
bartner like plastic okay, or youcan use like instead of using whips,
you can use a bunch of flowers, have you? Yeah? Yeah?
(07:49):
Like is there torns on them?I'm trying to be a dick. We'll
go around try to scare people.I just feel like that's the opposite way.
Now, oh Flowers, I'd actuallyjust find the humors. I'd say,
give us, kid us a loaddown on the props or props.
(08:09):
Yeah, I know it though,Well, you don't want my props there?
My inventory list kiss give us givesus a little any other things you
get? The paddles, you guess, handcuffs, braces, you know,
I'm fucking gauntlet sort of round thewrist, or angles sort of day least
(08:31):
obviously ropes, but you don't wantto be using something like bail and wine
that's gonna cut your partner up.You know, you want nice sort of
cotton ropes. That makes sense.They considerate again, you don't want to
have someone leaving your bedroom and they'reall cuts and browsers there yet and like
you're I mean, for me,that's a dangerous look. I got pegged.
(08:52):
There's some sort of rebus or something. You know you don't want that
either? Yeah, I think areyou there? I feel like you're a
bit partamoid about that, though Ihave to be. I'm a dude.
They should be thinking about this thought, or maybe it make a lot of
them be a bit more respectful.This is a warning to my family,
(09:13):
and it is no joke. Igenuinely, genuinely want you to stop listening
now, and you only have yourselfto blame if you continue. The only
dealons I have had with that waswith a fellow that I knew for a
very very long time. We hadshifted a few times on and off over
the years, and then went backto his apartment one night. And but
(09:35):
before before we went back, wewere actually just out chatting and drinking and
he told me that he's this newlifestyle and he ghost parties like subdom parties,
orgies where he's tied up and there'smultiple people at him. At this
age, I didn't know that Iwas going to be going on and wrote
them that night, but anyway,out of the night went on, that
(09:56):
is what happened to picture a dressedI wouldn't know. I just got drunker.
Now. Weirdly throughout the night heasked me like, if you had
to pick, would you be soberTown? And I was like, well
I don't really, dude, factthat like and he was like, you
had to pick? And he waslike, I think you'd be dumb,
but I said I probably was thendumb. And then after that then he
(10:20):
was gone hell for leather, tryingto get me back to the apartment.
Then when he heard that, sohe went back and if if somebody asked
you to spit in their mouths andyou hadn't done it before, right,
how would you do it? Like, well, you wouldn't. You wouldn't
flame in their mouths. It wasn'tflam Well that is all good? Like
(10:46):
he would you shoot it or dribbleit? Oh? Should we can get
it over the way maybe yeh.When I dribbled it Jesus. And then
I went to that one of allthe girls and they went around the table
and I asked them like and theywere like, oh, never, I've
never spotted someone them out before.And then they were like, I suppose
(11:07):
I showould like its shoot in AndI was like, oh, I dribbled
it like a like a baby dribblingfood. O. It was the mouth.
It was a fucking mayre. Andhe how do you received? Did
he take it? Well? Well, yeah, it took this anyway.
And then and then he was aboutthirty seconds fished me over and grabbed me
(11:28):
by the job at spat heart intomy mouth. So then I was like,
okay, enough that one incorrect incorrect. Before this all happened, he
asked could he get his oil andmassage me with his cockage? John what
cockage? And I said no,I was already out my depth here.
(11:52):
And as he also had like anickname. He had a nickname that he
didn't like the called and I didn'trealize that. Okay, throughout the night,
I was calling him by the nicknameand he said, I don't go
without that anymore, like Cann'll becalled with that. And I was like,
okay, fair enough, Sorry,I didn't know that you didn't like
that. Everyone has nickname. Andwhile we were riding, he was asking
(12:18):
me to choke him, spitting hismouth and call him by the nickname.
Oh gone for you a reliation then? Yeah? Ah, I see.
So at this stage now I waslike pushed to my limit, so I
said no, I was just ridinga way depressed off my head on a
riding someone fella like I actually feltso sad for him, like I can't
(12:41):
get over it. I feel likeI'm that that he has some really deep
season. Yeah, and I'm chokinghim, spitting on him and calling him
by a name he had just toldme a few hours ago not to call
him when he was in like anormal frame of mind. It's meant to
be a bit of psychology behind it. So people that were into being dominated
(13:03):
tend to be people with a lotof responsibility. So it's common enough for
single mothers, say or when highprofile jobs wanting to be dominated and it
it's a release for them because theydon't feel like they're in control, and
(13:26):
they usually have to be in control, so this is their release. This
is they're allowing themselves to be outof control. Okay, so they got
something from that, and then maybesome of the more softly spoken people would
be more dominant because it's not therole they're used to play. Toy,
(13:48):
I'd like you to tell us aboutlike you're dating history, are unlucky in
love pdsm bag that I can rightwell more or lesson long relationships. They're
two long relationships smalls from a teenagerthen found myself singling me late twenties,
(14:11):
so I'd try the online dating thing. Well, I got my first match
on Tinder that actually responded in textbox, so I was working about thirty five
miles one direction from where I lived. She was thirty miles another direction.
So I got through the day's work, went home, cleaned up, went
(14:33):
through the date that I am justin such a pub, go make me
in here, going to the pub, and she's there with all her mates,
and then I got interrogated bamboozle.So I'm like, yeah, whatever,
maybe this is the thing that they'retrying to sust me out and make
sure she's not going off with someanother job. But they're asking me all
sorts of weird questions and that howthey're asking me things about working up because
(14:56):
of the work I was doing itat the time, and did I know
such and such, or did Idon't know anyone around that town? All
these sort of in that questions allabout me family and dating history and things
like that. That's fair enough,and answering just that. I was just
answering just once of the madias anyway, exhort. They didn't think I was
(15:18):
some nut job there, you know, but that was it. And then
they all fucked off very suddenly,and we're having a date and whnt ssider
then carried on, should be katingquiet and quiet is. He even went
on figure out why she was kindof closing up. I was like,
all right, fair enough, gotto a point then I was like,
(15:39):
is everything all right? It's likeyeah, yeah, just you seem a
lot more withdrawing any worth starting.I don't numbers that. It's like,
oh no, no, it's like, what is it that. It's like
Ah and herner mats had this groupchat where they would deliberately going dates for
the biggest weirdos they assume, andthen compared alls who went out with the
(16:00):
biggest freak dinner for shmucks, likedinner freshmucks, fucking animals. What age
of these people early thirties old thatstory like fucking I couldn't believe it.
Well, no, I kind ofcould. I don't know. It was
(16:22):
just used to saying things like I'vealways see him weird ship going down in
the date and the world because itwould have been eleven maybe sitting from your
sisters or well from your sister onher kid, and then all the other
mid twenties all her mates. Sothey finished today has worked at all,
congregating our living room and chat aboutwho they were seeing, who they were
(16:45):
dating, who they were dumping.All this sort of thing. But to
talk about this fellow, it's thenicest fellow ever. Oh it's just was
and feeling it. So I leftand b But then it became a campaign
of oh, right, let's stalkthem. Let's find out where he's going.
I see who he's talking, Let'ssee what pubs he's drinking in,
where is he working, who's herelated to? All this sort of CSI
(17:07):
crazy FBI ship that we're doing.So they could all stalk them then,
and if they saw anyone chatting up, they go and start fights with that
person or sabotagem in any way theycould, even though they didn't want them.
Yeah, I know, I justassumed that women did crazy things.
Again, I was very inexperienced atthis point the starting off of it.
(17:33):
Would you have already had normal sexbefore they then broached the subject or is
it already arranged before you even met? Also, very often it's pretty arranged,
so like you opened your front doorand then they come in and like
just to talk me through, likewhat what? When? It's fun more
(17:55):
often than not, and sheer bo'tknow you're going off stairs to be the
heads off each other. Then youstill gotta source this person out. You
know, everyone make sure they're they'rethey're not feeling catfish or anything like that.
You know, and you have alittle btsminationships going at the moment now,
(18:15):
and you're happy at with it.Sure should really sweet lady, huh's
But she straight away decided she wantedto do that straight away, like within
six messages. How did she broachthe subject? Brought it up? Said
no, I want to do this. I was like, what, yeah,
I want to do this. It'slike, yeah, I think it
(18:36):
could sort that. Well, supposeit's kind of practical and we'll have all
the care the rig over in thebedroom. Yeah, how long does it
take you to make it? Twentyminutes? What was it? Only sure
we're doing metal work? And whatwas this? It's like a pulley,
a pulley for you to suspend herin that Only pulleys use carbineers. What's
(19:02):
got carrabiner there? Like a littlehook sort of thing, the spring loaded
latched, the fan open there,say the more for her safety thing.
I had explained to her how Iwas a little uncomfortable because she was asking
for such extreme things, and Iwas like, well, Jesus Christ,
(19:22):
this goes wrong. I don't wantto take on some sort of monster brutalizing
yet it almost things going wrong.So she came up with a contract and
she sent it to being and itwas it was actually kind of was like,
oh, really sweet. I actuallyfeel a bit more comfortable comfortable doing
this sort of thing now. Soat dowarves that she would go to the
(19:45):
lengths to make her feel more comfortable. That's kind of odd too, though,
racing stuff in there, Like,I, Bloody Black dis solemnly and
sincerely declared that I gave permission toBloody Black to slap my ass on my
face, to hold my head onhis cog, to slap my pussy on
my boobs, to gently pull myhair, to punish me if I am
(20:08):
a naughty girl, to tie meup, and to make me his sex
slaves. Bloody Black, we'll stopeverything he's doing. If the safe word
KFC is spoken by me at anytime I issue us, the veracity of
this ordization must be reported to thecompetent authority. Yours, sincerely, Bladdy
(20:30):
Black, KAFC the Cracker. Whenyou text me about that and you were
like, I have a little wholesomeBDSM story for you, And it's like,
how how was that not wholesome?Like, Actually, the more I
thought it as I went on,like when you said it to me.
First I was like, there's notwholesome about this story at all. But
then I was like, oh,yeah, fair like she knows that you're
(20:52):
a bit uncoortable about the brutalizing andthen just she did that just to make
you feel safer. She does soundlike nice lady, Kayes, I hope
it works out for you, andlike when you make her your girlfriend,
there's a bit of a glass coffee. Jesus, what does that mean?
Remains to be Oh. Since therecording of this show, I'm delighted to
(21:14):
announce that the BDSM Magnet and hisLovely Lady Friend have made an official they're
in a relationship that I fondly referredto them as the BDSM bFGF. Thanks
for listening, sland Lad
Do you quit? Welcome to theDating Orange podcast. I'm your host the
Dating Orange and today we're talking toa very special person. Indeed, he's
a friend of mine who threw nofault nor kink of his own, seems
to mostly attract women who are intoBDSM, and it's gotten to such a
point that he has actually had toinstall a rig in his bedroom for all
(00:33):
of the kinky women that want abit of him. And because of this,
I have lovingly coined him the BDSMmagnet. I just got to start
as I was like, I don'tthink that is the best way to describe
me. Like, because you said, what more than half of the women
that you meet? More than half? Yeah, Like everyone's got a kink?
(00:54):
Really asked to be into it?And assume what is BDSM? What
actually going on? Hondage domination,faism for the masochism. So sadism is
enjoying putting pain onto other people,and masochism is enjoying pain on yourself.
And you're not into any of this, I would say that exactly, you
(01:18):
don't seek it out though I don'tseek it out. Is it quite an
intimidating thing to approach song or don'twant, you think, But those women
don't think to windows, they don'tmind to a product. Is that I
can't figure out what. Yeah,obviously I look to yourself, that looks
to yourself, that looks like thatshould enjoy the b DSM. I suppose
(01:42):
they will have a couple of yeah, I got nipple verison on that.
I suppose, yeah, I should. They wouldn't have known that before they
asked or how often are they asking? Well, like how quickly are they
asking? Sorry? Some of thewomen is just straight off the bat,
and what we're talking about her liketinder hinge bumble. I'm not tinder because
band often the last Yeah, shewas into it and more extreme one give
(02:07):
us, give us a taste ofthe extreme. The story wise, I
made well, she she she wasinto a lot of stuff, but you
know that was song. Then shealso had a rape fantasy, rape fantasy
and you did that for her.Well, yeah, but can't say it
(02:34):
was already happy about it? Howmany times she wanted an evening of it
to say, you're getting one nightonly and I'll offer you faint with the
lad and he's wanted to pick itup your at the wrong end and all.
Why would you all that I think, Oh, I wouldn't it be
(02:55):
I'm then not thinking here, Ireally want to know maybe twenty percent.
But on all of my long termboyfriends, which would have taken up most
of my life, so they allwanted it and it wasn't enough from me.
They can fuck off? Like fuck'ssake. Oh yeah, so that's
(03:17):
a bit fucking reader, isn't thereisn't Oh yeah, yeah, well have
to be if your partner's not intoit, like which it like it's obvious
its painful, Like it's painful.And then they were just like, oh,
you know, like we'll take aslow and we'll lo be up.
I'm like, bum but like,I wouldn't be like pushing you to show
(03:40):
something up your ars if you saidit was painful. It's actually an agreement.
I tend to out with a lotof them. It's like, I'm
not going to show up your earsbecause you are definitely not stuff and I
know my ears. Did they allwant to do that as well? Flat
out fucking no, And there's nois there any like what else is there?
Kim suit ball gags? Yeah,there was one of them into PBC
(04:03):
did try it? Oh you didn'tyou just said no, wore the babies.
I'm not word Okay, there's aline that you don't won't cross.
I'm not fucking stretching myself in thelogistics are getting into PBC. Think about
it. No, the twelve isactually making me cringe. Would you get
into the suit in a separate room. I don't have to come into the
(04:25):
imagine. He shattered the illusion.Oh yeah, sensuality of the evening.
You know, Lucy is the lastword I would choose. Look people to
be into things. You know.Story about a friend of mine, now
he's seventy eight. He was tellingme this brilliant story, so I sell
it. Tell it to you,okay, because I think you'll get a
(04:46):
great kid. Who's who's over theUK. And he was staying at his
his friend on this hotel and hewas friends with the guy who used to
throw on the reception of this hotel. And he met up with this lady
that he knew and she had anoutfit for him. So he had to
(05:09):
have these big sort of scary lookingboots on him, went up to his
knees and a cave and his leatherdevil mask but just covered like his jaw
she would ask him to wrap herhim bubble wrap and tire up and do
all these mad things to her.What was her kink? Then being murdered,
(05:30):
No, being rowed by the devilwhilst trapped in bubble wrap, Oh
my god stuff and she and sheused to love it, apparently because the
bubbles have popped and she'd said withoutlike having a second skin, what the
fuck? Well, that's not eventhe best part. What happened was this.
He went outside the smoke a cigarette. He got sucked out when he
(05:54):
went back to the whole deell room. He was banging at the door for
ages and there was loud music goingon the room, and she up near
him at the door. This couplewas coming back from dinner, came up
the corridor and found him, andhe turned around wearing the mask and everything.
The one screamed and fainted in thecorridor. Other people came out of
(06:14):
their all tail rooms and he wasthere, no patns on them, a
pair of fucking thy eye boots,the cape and the devil mask, like
not fucking giving up? What wasyou? Would you admit the feat that?
Why do you think it's become sopopular? Oh? Why do I
(06:35):
think it's becoming so popular. Iblame fifty Shades, of course, but
before fifty Shades came out, Iwas kind of doing this. So how
long is it? Like generally,you mean, how long is it?
How long is this is going offfor like two hours? Generally? At
least it's nice. Is it's notjust about you know, smacking someone up
(07:00):
or burning them or something like it. You don't necessarily burn them. But
she says, have you been burningthem? Kind of? I can't.
I was fucking can't. I've gotI've got this oxy is settling torch up
in the open the room and offerbecause I left it there when it was
welding up the thing. Now moneymess, Oh my god. I was
not even surprised at this day.Oh no, no, no. This
(07:23):
isse candles you can get and youcan drip them on someone, but they're
designing such a way you can actuallypeel it off the skin, mince and
neat. It's not like using anormal wax candle kind of sticks to your
bartner like plastic okay, or youcan use like instead of using whips,
you can use a bunch of flowers, have you? Yeah? Yeah?
(07:49):
Like is there torns on them?I'm trying to be a dick. We'll
go around try to scare people.I just feel like that's the opposite way.
Now, oh Flowers, I'd actuallyjust find the humors. I'd say,
give us, kid us a loaddown on the props or props.
(08:09):
Yeah, I know it though,Well, you don't want my props there?
My inventory list kiss give us givesus a little any other things you
get? The paddles, you guess, handcuffs, braces, you know,
I'm fucking gauntlet sort of round thewrist, or angles sort of day least
(08:31):
obviously ropes, but you don't wantto be using something like bail and wine
that's gonna cut your partner up.You know, you want nice sort of
cotton ropes. That makes sense.They considerate again, you don't want to
have someone leaving your bedroom and they'reall cuts and browsers there yet and like
you're I mean, for me,that's a dangerous look. I got pegged.
(08:52):
There's some sort of rebus or something. You know you don't want that
either? Yeah, I think areyou there? I feel like you're a
bit partamoid about that, though Ihave to be. I'm a dude.
They should be thinking about this thought, or maybe it make a lot of
them be a bit more respectful.This is a warning to my family,
(09:13):
and it is no joke. Igenuinely, genuinely want you to stop listening
now, and you only have yourselfto blame if you continue. The only
dealons I have had with that waswith a fellow that I knew for a
very very long time. We hadshifted a few times on and off over
the years, and then went backto his apartment one night. And but
(09:35):
before before we went back, wewere actually just out chatting and drinking and
he told me that he's this newlifestyle and he ghost parties like subdom parties,
orgies where he's tied up and there'smultiple people at him. At this
age, I didn't know that Iwas going to be going on and wrote
them that night, but anyway,out of the night went on, that
(09:56):
is what happened to picture a dressedI wouldn't know. I just got drunker.
Now. Weirdly throughout the night heasked me like, if you had
to pick, would you be soberTown? And I was like, well
I don't really, dude, factthat like and he was like, you
had to pick? And he waslike, I think you'd be dumb,
but I said I probably was thendumb. And then after that then he
(10:20):
was gone hell for leather, tryingto get me back to the apartment.
Then when he heard that, sohe went back and if if somebody asked
you to spit in their mouths andyou hadn't done it before, right,
how would you do it? Like, well, you wouldn't. You wouldn't
flame in their mouths. It wasn'tflam Well that is all good? Like
(10:46):
he would you shoot it or dribbleit? Oh? Should we can get
it over the way maybe yeh.When I dribbled it Jesus. And then
I went to that one of allthe girls and they went around the table
and I asked them like and theywere like, oh, never, I've
never spotted someone them out before.And then they were like, I suppose
(11:07):
I showould like its shoot in AndI was like, oh, I dribbled
it like a like a baby dribblingfood. O. It was the mouth.
It was a fucking mayre. Andhe how do you received? Did
he take it? Well? Well, yeah, it took this anyway.
And then and then he was aboutthirty seconds fished me over and grabbed me
(11:28):
by the job at spat heart intomy mouth. So then I was like,
okay, enough that one incorrect incorrect. Before this all happened, he
asked could he get his oil andmassage me with his cockage? John what
cockage? And I said no,I was already out my depth here.
(11:52):
And as he also had like anickname. He had a nickname that he
didn't like the called and I didn'trealize that. Okay, throughout the night,
I was calling him by the nicknameand he said, I don't go
without that anymore, like Cann'll becalled with that. And I was like,
okay, fair enough, Sorry,I didn't know that you didn't like
that. Everyone has nickname. Andwhile we were riding, he was asking
(12:18):
me to choke him, spitting hismouth and call him by the nickname.
Oh gone for you a reliation then? Yeah? Ah, I see.
So at this stage now I waslike pushed to my limit, so I
said no, I was just ridinga way depressed off my head on a
riding someone fella like I actually feltso sad for him, like I can't
(12:41):
get over it. I feel likeI'm that that he has some really deep
season. Yeah, and I'm chokinghim, spitting on him and calling him
by a name he had just toldme a few hours ago not to call
him when he was in like anormal frame of mind. It's meant to
be a bit of psychology behind it. So people that were into being dominated
(13:03):
tend to be people with a lotof responsibility. So it's common enough for
single mothers, say or when highprofile jobs wanting to be dominated and it
it's a release for them because theydon't feel like they're in control, and
(13:26):
they usually have to be in control, so this is their release. This
is they're allowing themselves to be outof control. Okay, so they got
something from that, and then maybesome of the more softly spoken people would
be more dominant because it's not therole they're used to play. Toy,
(13:48):
I'd like you to tell us aboutlike you're dating history, are unlucky in
love pdsm bag that I can rightwell more or lesson long relationships. They're
two long relationships smalls from a teenagerthen found myself singling me late twenties,
(14:11):
so I'd try the online dating thing. Well, I got my first match
on Tinder that actually responded in textbox, so I was working about thirty five
miles one direction from where I lived. She was thirty miles another direction.
So I got through the day's work, went home, cleaned up, went
(14:33):
through the date that I am justin such a pub, go make me
in here, going to the pub, and she's there with all her mates,
and then I got interrogated bamboozle.So I'm like, yeah, whatever,
maybe this is the thing that they'retrying to sust me out and make
sure she's not going off with someanother job. But they're asking me all
sorts of weird questions and that howthey're asking me things about working up because
(14:56):
of the work I was doing itat the time, and did I know
such and such, or did Idon't know anyone around that town? All
these sort of in that questions allabout me family and dating history and things
like that. That's fair enough,and answering just that. I was just
answering just once of the madias anyway, exhort. They didn't think I was
(15:18):
some nut job there, you know, but that was it. And then
they all fucked off very suddenly,and we're having a date and whnt ssider
then carried on, should be katingquiet and quiet is. He even went
on figure out why she was kindof closing up. I was like,
all right, fair enough, gotto a point then I was like,
(15:39):
is everything all right? It's likeyeah, yeah, just you seem a
lot more withdrawing any worth starting.I don't numbers that. It's like,
oh no, no, it's like, what is it that. It's like
Ah and herner mats had this groupchat where they would deliberately going dates for
the biggest weirdos they assume, andthen compared alls who went out with the
(16:00):
biggest freak dinner for shmucks, likedinner freshmucks, fucking animals. What age
of these people early thirties old thatstory like fucking I couldn't believe it.
Well, no, I kind ofcould. I don't know. It was
(16:22):
just used to saying things like I'vealways see him weird ship going down in
the date and the world because itwould have been eleven maybe sitting from your
sisters or well from your sister onher kid, and then all the other
mid twenties all her mates. Sothey finished today has worked at all,
congregating our living room and chat aboutwho they were seeing, who they were
(16:45):
dating, who they were dumping.All this sort of thing. But to
talk about this fellow, it's thenicest fellow ever. Oh it's just was
and feeling it. So I leftand b But then it became a campaign
of oh, right, let's stalkthem. Let's find out where he's going.
I see who he's talking, Let'ssee what pubs he's drinking in,
where is he working, who's herelated to? All this sort of CSI
(17:07):
crazy FBI ship that we're doing.So they could all stalk them then,
and if they saw anyone chatting up, they go and start fights with that
person or sabotagem in any way theycould, even though they didn't want them.
Yeah, I know, I justassumed that women did crazy things.
Again, I was very inexperienced atthis point the starting off of it.
(17:33):
Would you have already had normal sexbefore they then broached the subject or is
it already arranged before you even met? Also, very often it's pretty arranged,
so like you opened your front doorand then they come in and like
just to talk me through, likewhat what? When? It's fun more
(17:55):
often than not, and sheer bo'tknow you're going off stairs to be the
heads off each other. Then youstill gotta source this person out. You
know, everyone make sure they're they'rethey're not feeling catfish or anything like that.
You know, and you have alittle btsminationships going at the moment now,
(18:15):
and you're happy at with it.Sure should really sweet lady, huh's
But she straight away decided she wantedto do that straight away, like within
six messages. How did she broachthe subject? Brought it up? Said
no, I want to do this. I was like, what, yeah,
I want to do this. It'slike, yeah, I think it
(18:36):
could sort that. Well, supposeit's kind of practical and we'll have all
the care the rig over in thebedroom. Yeah, how long does it
take you to make it? Twentyminutes? What was it? Only sure
we're doing metal work? And whatwas this? It's like a pulley,
a pulley for you to suspend herin that Only pulleys use carbineers. What's
(19:02):
got carrabiner there? Like a littlehook sort of thing, the spring loaded
latched, the fan open there,say the more for her safety thing.
I had explained to her how Iwas a little uncomfortable because she was asking
for such extreme things, and Iwas like, well, Jesus Christ,
(19:22):
this goes wrong. I don't wantto take on some sort of monster brutalizing
yet it almost things going wrong.So she came up with a contract and
she sent it to being and itwas it was actually kind of was like,
oh, really sweet. I actuallyfeel a bit more comfortable comfortable doing
this sort of thing now. Soat dowarves that she would go to the
(19:45):
lengths to make her feel more comfortable. That's kind of odd too, though,
racing stuff in there, Like,I, Bloody Black dis solemnly and
sincerely declared that I gave permission toBloody Black to slap my ass on my
face, to hold my head onhis cog, to slap my pussy on
my boobs, to gently pull myhair, to punish me if I am
(20:08):
a naughty girl, to tie meup, and to make me his sex
slaves. Bloody Black, we'll stopeverything he's doing. If the safe word
KFC is spoken by me at anytime I issue us, the veracity of
this ordization must be reported to thecompetent authority. Yours, sincerely, Bladdy
(20:30):
Black, KAFC the Cracker. Whenyou text me about that and you were
like, I have a little wholesomeBDSM story for you, And it's like,
how how was that not wholesome?Like, Actually, the more I
thought it as I went on,like when you said it to me.
First I was like, there's notwholesome about this story at all. But
then I was like, oh,yeah, fair like she knows that you're
(20:52):
a bit uncoortable about the brutalizing andthen just she did that just to make
you feel safer. She does soundlike nice lady, Kayes, I hope
it works out for you, andlike when you make her your girlfriend,
there's a bit of a glass coffee. Jesus, what does that mean?
Remains to be Oh. Since therecording of this show, I'm delighted to
(21:14):
announce that the BDSM Magnet and hisLovely Lady Friend have made an official they're
in a relationship that I fondly referredto them as the BDSM bFGF. Thanks
for listening, sland Lad
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