June 8, 2025 • 29 mins
For almost the first year of her relationship with John, Linda was over the moon. she thought she had the perfect relationship, and the BDSM aspect was the cherry on top. But things took a turn, and John's manipulation became relentless - convincing her and even her family that she was unwell, stealing from her and mentally abusing her. In this episode, Linda opens up about the emotional and mental torture she endured.
Monica also shares her harrowing experience - the night he threatened her with a wrench, and she feared her child would find her dead in a pool of blood the next morning.
Trigger warning: This episode discusses emotional and physical abuse, coercive control, and threats of violence.
If you’ve been affected by anything in this series, support is available. Contact Women’s Aid on 1800 341 900 or the Dublin Rape Crisis Centre on 1800 77 88 88. Both helplines are free and available 24/7.
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Monica also shares her harrowing experience - the night he threatened her with a wrench, and she feared her child would find her dead in a pool of blood the next morning.
Trigger warning: This episode discusses emotional and physical abuse, coercive control, and threats of violence.
If you’ve been affected by anything in this series, support is available. Contact Women’s Aid on 1800 341 900 or the Dublin Rape Crisis Centre on 1800 77 88 88. Both helplines are free and available 24/7.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-dating-orange-podcast--5898530/support.
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
You meet a man. He's funny, attentive, he actually listens
to you. You go on a date and you get
home with sore cheeks from laughing. He says all the
right things, wants the same things. It feels easy and rare.
Dates turn into a relationship and you think this is
exactly what you've been looking for. Now imagine discovering that
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everything he told you was a lie, and you're only
one of many women that he has on the go.
This is the story of Filthy John, a compulsive liar,
a manipulator, a man with a serious drug problem, a
habit of stealing, and a dangerous temper. On the surface,
he was hilarious, affectionate, the perfect man. But behind the scenes,
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he was creating chaos in multiple women's lives, lying to them,
mirroring their personalities, love bombing, stealing, vanishing, reappearing, and slowly
wrecking their sense of reality. These women didn't just overlap,
their lives became tangled in the most bizarre ways. In
this podcast, you'll hear from four of them, four women
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brave enough to sit down and tell their story. There
are more, but some of them are still too scared
to speak. This is a story about manipulation, survival, and
the power that comes when women start comparing notes. Linda
met John on Facebook dating in February twenty three. They
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hit it off straight away, chatting for a few weeks
before making it official in April. Linda was thrilled with him,
and it felt like a good year, like she had
finally met someone she could build something with.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
And I'll be honest with you right up until the
New Year's in twenty twenty three, I had a great
relationship with John. It was fantastic gather. I was madly
in love with him. He was just the perfect man.
He was everything I was looking for, and I was
just delighted.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
At this point, John had already been in a relationship
with Monica for at nine months, so to get ahead
of his own web of lies, he mentioned Monica to Linda,
framing her as just a friend.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
So I knew about Monica because he had told me
that he was very good friends with Monica's husband John.
He kind of imploied Monica rings me sometimes because she's
always looking for me to juice up around her house.
Picked some husband's used to this, that kind of thing,
So I kind of try none of it but he
also told me that he had a holiday home in
Gory and it was right near Monica and John's house,
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and he stayed there some weekends. Didn't really kind of
thing and what jobs? And I was like all around,
because he did put himself across to be like this
hugely successful businessman, which altern it should be a lot
of horseshit in the end. Anyway, none of it was true.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
Up until this point to Linda was happy. Things had
been good, better than good, but around New Year's something shifted.
She had planned a gorgeous weekend, a trip to the Wildlights,
a hotel s day, and a day out at Powers Court,
all paid for by her, of course, just like with Monica.
John's daughter was the same age as Linda's, and the
two little girls became the best of friends. It was
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all happy families, but not for.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
Long, you know. We had a nice little family thing
going on. So him in his dorm, myself with my door.
My son Matthew has grown so he does his own thing.
So that was fine, and I saut money agoh, and
I heard that he invited her. What would he have
done if you had said yes? Since I had paid
for this whole thing, and it was we came back
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and something changed. John started to get very nitpicky about everything.
I noticed that money was starting to go missing out
my purse, My personal belongers were starting to go disappearing
from my house. A laptop, Wi Fi, johnle PlayStation. So
I actually wasn't sure whether it was John or Acaus
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like Matthew to be in the house for his friends
and stuff. So I planned me and John are here alone.
Kids were school because he never went to work. I
had a really good job, so I worked four days
where he couldn't be here because I was doing twelve
hour shifts, were shift work, so I'm assuming that's when
he was written Monica. But he would tell me that
he was at work, so he'd be working when I'd
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be working. Then when I was off, he was with me.
So I wasn't sure what was going on with my
money and all that kind of suff So I planted
fifty euro into a blue raincoat. Why he was talking
to me, I made sure he saw he putting in
there into the raincoat in the hall and went off
with pattering around Jim things around the house and all,
and maybe I don't know, A small short time later
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went back to the raincoat and the fifty euro was gone,
So I knew that, right, he's robbing from me.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
John didn't just steal from her. He also sparked constant
arguments and used gas lighting to make Linda doubt her
own sanity. He grew increasingly controlling and manipulative, inflicting emotional
pain and mental torment on Linda.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
But then there was an incident there. Now, there were
many incidents, but there's a few that kind of okay,
I had my dishwasher block, right, and I went and
portraying cleaner and okay, yeah, obviously, on a reflection, I
realized I probably wasn't the best decision to make. But
John was trying to unplug it, and he put his
hand into my dishwasher, and then he claimed he went
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home and he was getting very mad about it. Whatever.
He went home, and then he started sending me messages
saying that it hadn't swelled up when he has to
go to the hospital. He started telling me then, you know,
lecturing me, you know, how did say I am and
this that and the other, and he was basically being
very very kind of abusive. Then he told me he
had to get a blood transfusion, so he was in
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the hospital for days. But when I met up at
monic it turns out he was actually in her house
while mentally torturing me, letting me think that I had
potentially killed this man with my dishwater. We we kind
of argued about this back and forward, because we started
to argue a lot. Like he convinced me that I
had a hearing problem, and I went and got here
in Nates. I don't have a hearing problem. I functioned fine.
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I don't need hearing it. But I let this man
convince me that I had a hearing problem, which I
don't get, just for the sake of piece. Because I
was just maddling over this man. Everything was just starting
to change. I didn't know how to react to what
was going on. It was all coming very hard and
very fast. The hear nails was only like on minor thing,
Like he was getting onto me about having too much
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sugar in my diet. He went over and convinced my
mother that I had health issues, Like he took upon
himself to visit my mother and convince her that there
was issues with me, like and you know, it was
everything he was picking out absolutely everything he is. All
of a sudden, nothing I did was good enough, which
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which was just crazy.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
John's emotional manipulation kept building. But one night he pushed
Linda too far. That's when she started to see the
cracks in his stories and realized things weren't as they seemed. Slowly,
his lives began to unravel.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
So we were arguing back and forth, and then there
was one particular night he sent me a message basically
saying that he was going to kill himself, and he
felt like it was you've heard it's like honestly. So
I woke up in the middle of the night and
I was due to being work and I started ringing
them and texting him, and there was no response, and
I was panicking. I got up in the middle of
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the night and I dropped his house, first time ever
being into his house. Backstory, he had told me that
his father was senile, dementitiate, the whole shoe bang and
mental and they had to commit him into Saint John's
and then a scourgy mental institution. I absolutely hammered down
his joor in the middle of the night, and who
adds his door? Only his father, And I was just
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like hello, and he was just like, you're looking at me,
like who are you you crazy lady? And I was like,
it's John here, and he goes, no, John isn't gory.
And I said Jonathan Gory and he said yeah, and
he was like who are you And I said I'm Linda,
I'm John's partner. And he was like all right. And
I said, are you sure John is not here because
that's his car and he goes, that's my car and
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I said that green Mark is your car and he
goes yeah. And I was like okay, and I said
does John have a business here? And he goes that
business is gone? And I said is this not John's
house and he goes, no, this is my house. And
I said, well, where's John's house And he says, johnathn't
have a house. And I was just like what. So
I was very confused. I didn't know what was going on.
I text John and I said, I've just been to
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your house and I met your father. He's a lovely man.
John sent me back a whole load of canic text messages.
Dad is mental, you know? Is this is that in
the other He's making my life head He's lying about
and everything and whatever, and I was like, right, okay,
so I knew there was something just absolutely bananas going on.
I was just like, I don't know what's happening here.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Linda took it upon herself to reach out to John's
ex partner, the mother of his child, and asked if
she would meet for a coffee. To her surprise, the
woman agreed. When Linda finally met her, she was absolutely
blown away by what she had to say. She described
John in stark terms, laying bare exactly what kind of
man he really was, something Linda now wishes she had
listened to back then. But more than that, the woman
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shared her deepest worry. There were so many different women
picking up her don her from school and from the
house that she had no idea whose home her daughter
was actually going to, whether she was safe, or what
kind of people these women were. This obviously came as
a big shock to Linda.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
And I was like, hang on, what do you mean?
And she said, well, there's you, there's a girl named Monica,
there's a girl named Claire, and his a girl Namchelle.
At the moment, and I was just like sorry, So
I was like hardly, I couldn't believe it, and she goes,
I actually have a contact number for Monica, and I said,
would you mind at all just texting her and asking her,
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you know, is she in a relationship with John? Because
I need some answers.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
The message Monica had received from the mother of John's child,
asking if she was still in a relationship with him,
was actually sent while Linda was sitting in a coffee
shop with that same ex. At the time, Linda had
no idea who Claire or Michelle were. John had only
ever told her that Monica was the wife of a
close friend. During their conversation, Linda learned a lot, and
none of it was good. John's ex spoke about their
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deeply strained relationship and how she was constant left in
the dark, simply wanting answers about the women who were
spending time around her daughter. Linda also found out something
even more shocking. John had another child he didn't acknowledge
or take any part in raising. She left that cafe
feeling shaken and very aware that she didn't know this
man at all.
Speaker 2 (10:16):
John Rangley actually when I left the coffee shop and
he was like, hey, babe, everything all right? And I
was like, I don't know. He said, what you mean
you don't know? And I said, who's Michelle? Who's Claire?
And he went absolutely mental on the phone. We got
into huge rails for days and days and days. He
wanted to know who I've been talking to, and he
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accused Monica and I said, I haven't been talked to Monica,
because I said I know that Monica as well. And
he said, you've been talking to Demonica and I said
I haven't been talking to Demonica and he goes, I'll
be getting her back. I'm going to punish her. And
I said, okay, well it wasn't Monica.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
This was the same situation we touched on in episode
two where John took his revenge on Monica by sending
those intimate voice notes she had exchanged with the male
acquaintance back to the man where his wife would find them.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
We argued a lot about this, and I think because
I was so in love with him at the time,
he managed to convince me that it was all wrong
and that wasn't the case. But I knew in the
back of my head it was the case, but for
some reason, it might have been the whole BDS thing.
I was really into it like I loved it all,
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I was still willing to overlook it for the sake
of trying to repair our relationship. So he had told
me when I confronted about Michelle, I only cleaned her
shed once, and I don't like her if she's crazy
into unicorns and aliens. And I was like, right, okay,
and he said Claire Claire's in an iron dublin friend
from his past that keeps asking them for favors. She
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wanted her kitchen rap and her car keeps breaking down
and she keeps ringing him and she's nobody else. So
I bought it like an idiot anyway. So he told
me then that Monica was in fact then next girlfriend
at that stage, and he didn't want to tell me
because he didn't want me to be jealous. So then
he told me that Monica was like his best friend,
his best friend in the whole world, and he loved
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to death and he can't live without her in his life,
and if we were going to be able to fix
our relationship, it was important to him that me and
Monica become friends. So he organized for a very very
awkward video call between him and Monica and I where
Monica was under the impression I was just John's friend
getting over him, and that she was working on her
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relationship with him, And during this video call, I was
under the depression that I was being forced to befriend
Monica or John for John to be able to move
forward in our relationship. Were retrieve us on this very
strange video call. It was grand, like, I mean, I
did like her when I was talking to her, but
I wasn't really sure what the hell was going on,
Like why do I need to be friends with your
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ex girlfriends kind of things. It was very lovely. It
was all very lovely. A couple of jokes back and forward.
I think we were talking about botox, so I just
got boat docks and just kind of basic conversation.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
Linda and John did go on a few more dates
after that. At one point she even traveled to Gorey
to see him, where by chance, they bumped into Monica.
It seemed Monica believed that John had told her the truth,
that Linda was still madly in love with him and
he was just trying to be a good friend to her.
But behind Monica's back, John was saying something very different.
When he was with Linda. He was telling her he
loved her, that they should start fresh and things would
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be good again.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
He was supposed to follow me home that night, but
he didn't. He spent the night with Monica instead, and
I was absolutely devastated. I was just like, oh my god,
I can't believe it is happening. But yeah, I knew
what was happening, and we argued about it. He told
me I was crazy for even accusing him of having
sex at Monica, starting to kind of draw a dollar
me down what was going on. So we got into
it again, arguing again. I just I couldn't believe what
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was going on, and I went through a phase of
making him send me his live location the whole time
because I just couldn't get over all these different women.
Clearly I had trust issues.
Speaker 1 (13:53):
But John was about to cross another line, one that
would spark a huge argument and leave Linda genuinely frightened.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
When we were working on a relationship and we were
dating after I found out what I had and we
were trying to fix our relationship, he had come back
down and he had spent the night with me again,
and I had put a camera up in my house,
in my porch with a litt less steak card in it.
Obviously John doesn't sleep. I wasn't aware that he was
taking drugs either. I thought he was just wired, you know,
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all the time, adhd hoshebank. The next morning, he spotted
the camera when we were having a cigarette in my porch,
and he's like, oh, cruel camera.
Speaker 3 (14:29):
He took me.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
I watched him take it off the wall. I popped
the SD card out of it and put it back,
and I put it back. I took with that thing
up straight away and I sidhere's the YESD card gone
out there? And he said there wasn't anyone in it.
With a big argent about this. I saw you do it.
No you didn't. You're crazy. This is you all over again.
You're paranoiah. Blah blah blah. I said, John, give me
the SD card back and he said I don't have it.
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So I kicked him out of the house. Anyway, that
was fine. We got into serious arguments and then he
sent me my passwords from my social media's and my
LinkedIn my Facebook, so I had to delete everything. We
were still arguing quite heavily. It was later on then
I discovered all the property that was missing the laptop
and all that he'd taken the SD card because he
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thought it was on the camera. At this stage, I
kind of hated John. I was so angry for everything,
but I had decided it was safer for my sanity
to be his friend than his enemy, because he was
starting to scare me quite frankly. So we did. But
our friendship was strictly but no, that was probably around
the May May twenty and twenty four. From there, our
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friendship was strictly phone calls, video caused on occasion, and
texted and that was it. He you know, he checked
with me the whole time, and you know, we did
have a couple of calls or whatever, blah blah blah.
He had told me that the whole story about Monica
cheating with the boss, he told me that that happened twice,
and the second time it was the same story that
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he gave Kim that he was taking a picture of
Monica were a phone and a message popped up and
he had to jumper And I was like, well, look
at she's still cheating on youa then forget about it.
Then it's gone, like or whatever. He never told me.
He still denied that they were just friends because he
was dating other women and send me pictures of them
stuff like that. Somewhere along the way mentioned that he
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was in a relationiois Well. I actually commented, that's the
first time you've ever admitted to me that you're in
a relish. I actually sent that to him in a
message and everything Priston's day. He rang me. He wanted
to come down to my house because Monica and him
had broken up because she cheated on him again. And
I was like, John, hero and not come into my house.
I said, absolutely not, but you have family over, have
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got my own things going on. Then he asked me
to go bowling. I felt that since Monica broke up
from he was constantly asking me out.
Speaker 1 (16:44):
Linda couldn't resist the opportunity to get back at John
when she saw his name pop up on Are We
Dating the Same Guy? She knew it would get under
his skin, and truthfully, she got a bit of satisfaction
from that. What she didn't realize at the time, though,
was just how serious the consequences would be for Kim. Oh.
Speaker 2 (16:59):
Yeah, he was the one who told Johnny was up
on the r We Same Guy? I told him because
I was trying to pass him off more than any
and it worked and I was pretty happy with that.
It'll win obviously. If I hadn't known that the impact
that would have had on Kim, I never would have
did that, and I have apologized and died forever'll be
sorry for that. He basically there. Just maybe a month
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or so ago, he asked me out again and I
said no, and then he pretty much called me a
bad mother because I wouldn't meet up for them, and
I just said, look, you're in a position to be
making judgments and hoow, I lived my life and I
just said we shouldn't be talking anymore. So I finally
did it and blocked on one absolutely everything. It's probably
less than a week later, Monica had reached out to
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me and we got talking and we were I think
the first call was for about four and a half hours.
Monica wasn't It was just incredible the stuff that she
had told me. John has some serious mental issues, Like
I think he needs to sell down a straight jack
at this stage, like me said from Kim, and Monica
ran a video call there as well, and we had
discovered that the property, some of the property John stole
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from me he gifted to the other ladies in there
in our other WhatsApp brothers. I was this first round place.
Monica has a lot of it, and I have some
of their property, Like he gave me stuff belonging to
Monica and other ladies and honiest properties scattered around the plate.
So he's been stealing from ladies and gifting it to
other ladies. Monica and I even met up and we've
a bit of property exchanged situation going on like both. Yeah,
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it's just absolutely ridiculous. I have been to the guard
about there was only one item might be saying to
prove that he's stole from now because of a text
message and a photograph that Monica sent me. So there's
the search warrant being done though, and hopefully they'll kick
in his door and the rest him just to be
the best thing. Ever, I don't think he realizes, like
it's painful when you go through this with John, like
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it hurts to the core, like and and and it
takes time then to put yourself back together afterwards. I
think we're very lucky that we have all of each other.
Like I will give John one thing he has impeccable
tasting women to all these ladies, all they're beautiful, intelligent, successful,
just you're just really lovely, lovely, lovely women. And he
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never deserved any single one of them. And he was
very lucky that he even he even got one of
the one of these ladies. You know what it is.
I think he has his and he has his way
about him, and it's it's clearly scripted because we all
have the same messages from him at the start to
the same pictures. He really is solid the same way.
He's just charming and funny and lovely and everything he
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says is absolutely hilarious, and you know, everything is very
light heart to start. Unfortunately, and when he turns on it,
he really really turns on it. He is dangerous. He's
very dangerous, like you know, and I think what we're
trying to do is make other women well aware to
watch out for this man, because he really he's not
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worth it, like at all, what he droves you on,
why he leaves you with and then moves on to
a new victim. It's really owarthed.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
Like unfortunately, Monica witnessed that violence firsthand. It wasn't just shocking.
It is something that haunts her to this day, she
describes it as the most frightening experience of her life.
Speaker 3 (20:15):
He met the woman some marine double all one of
the dating sites, and he went to meet her in
my car because he was apparently broken. His daughter and
my daughter were in my house at that stage. He
was going for a few hours, right, so he left
my house probably about seven o'clock in the evening. It
was around eleven, about ten o'clock. I texted him that
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I would be going to bed soon and he should
drop my carke through my letter box when he, you know,
on his way home. But then I wasn't getting anything
back from him. There was just no acknowledgment of my
messages that tried to call him a few times because
it was getting later and later, and I was kind
of all wrapped up, and I was just getting paranoid
because there's me with two of the girls in the house.
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No car was very because he took mine and his
is broken. I've no key for it anyway, started to overthink,
you know, just get the annoyed because it was supposed
to be a few hours now and it's like five
six hours and I was getting instead of for him
replying to my messages I got. It was a life
location somewhere from Dublin. At first they were walking around
Dublin somewhere, and then the life location like was in
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the same spot at the back of Dublin Airport, you
know where people sit and watch planes. They were there
like for four or five hours, and I was getting
really wired up, and I just started to text him
and was just I hope you know, you know he
was having sex in my car, because as I don't
mind you, I was. I have to say, that was
pretty vall guard and I was just texting him something like,
you know, I don't mind you fucking hair, just don't
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e my car because you know, this is the last
thing I want to clean the carryer. I'm driving the
kids in this car, and you know, all sort of this.
Because he wasn't a reply, I was getting angry and angry,
and I was just, I don't even know it was angery,
which I was upset that he, you know, like, there's
me minding his child and he, you know, he's no
respect in that respect, even just through acknowledge my message,
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he is in my car. So about four o'clock I
think I finally got a reply from him saying that
he's on the way back and he sorry, I didn't
he I didn't see your messages because I didn't want
Martina to, you know, to know that you were texting me.
And then another excuse was I was on the you know,
the phone was on to not disturb. Obviously I know
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it wasn't because the messages were sent and delivered. So
he was kind of kept texting me back and forth
on the way back from Dublin, from explaining himself to
apologizing and then to getting angry because he was telling me, oh,
I didn't you know I didn't have sex with her.
You know, I don't understand why you are you accusing
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me or you should know me better and very shy,
you know, all I just is to kiss her and
we had such a great time. And now she doesn't
want to talk to me because I mentioned it to her,
and now she thinks why you're why you're inquiring about
us having ill sex anyway the first place. And then
from that it was kind of you getting more angry
with me, you know, and there were messages, like the
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messages were getting quite nasty. Then you know, you fucking
destroyed that I had the best time of my life.
You know this, this might have been the beginning of
the you know, perfect relationship. I was so happy. I'd
never been that happy in my life. You know, blocked
him for a few minutes because I just couldn't handle
it was just getting really, really intense. He came to
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sending me life location, you know, just to let me know.
So he's getting near my house, and then he I
don't remember what happened, but he drove to his house.
I think he jumped off my key. He drove to
his house, and then something happened in the house. Now
Hei there, took more drugs because he went fucking ballistic,
then driving again a life location just to let me
know that he was getting closer and closer to my
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house and shouting to me on the phone and calling
me all sorts of names, and then telling me wake
my fucking child when I'm there. I want my fucking
child waiting for me. You know, it was like five am,
but I've been telling him, listen, you come here, you
wake your child up yourself. I'm not going to wake
the child up at five or six am, And well,
am iself supposed to tell her anyway. I wasn't going
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to give it because I knew what, you know state
he was in, so he was He goes really really
nasty at that stage. She says, you're not going to
fucking make it difficult for me to get my own child,
and like really like I was scared at that stage.
He never was reaggressive with me before, so I knew
that there's probably only talk at soundstage. I noticed that
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his car pulled up out my house. He got out
of the car, went to the back of his car
the board, grabbed something out of it, and he was
walking towards my house, smashing it the bits and pieces.
I had a little like wind bill with like a
flower pot, and he smashed it and I noticed it
was like a wrench, you know, the one told the
long one that you used to unscrew your wheels. And
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he walked to my house with it, and he went
through the hallway to the kitchen, and I was I
noticed that he had the thing in his hand, and
I stood at the back of my kitchen beside the
back door. But I didn't really know what to do.
I did. I couldn't scream because all I had these
two girls in her house and there was no point
screaming because you know things are happening, because he said,
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you know, and he was stunning with this thing over
my head. Fuck, it's a very it's a weird impie,
and just it was happening in so fast and I
didn't know what to do, and all I could think
that I had to either I have to optionally try
to coming down some hard. Those two girls are going
(25:35):
to find me in the morning on the floor, you know,
in the puddle of blood, because that couldn't end any
other way because he was just like what I was
looking in his face, It was like I was, I
was looking at a different person, Like his eyes were
just filled with rage. There was nothing in it there.
Just I could not get through whatever I did. At
some stage, I was just standing still. I was I
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was scared to make the smallest movement, even how I am,
I don't know. But I did manage to Camelon down
and he went straight into the drama, you know, on
his knees, crying and slots all over, you know, hanging
with his face and I begged him just to put
that range down. They finally did, and you know, I
was just crying or want you to look what you
did to me. You know it's not because of you.
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You upset me so much. Why did you think that
I would have sex with you? Know that I love you.
All I could talk to her it was you. It
just and I did not listen to any of that.
I was just praying I would just please go to bed,
as you're very tired. Obviously you need embarrassed.
Speaker 1 (26:31):
Monica sent him to bed, hoping that if he slept
he might calm down. She wasn't sure if he'd even
remember what had happened, but she was so frightened she
couldn't take the risk. That night, while he was asleep,
Monica texted Martina. She apologized and begged her to do
her a favor to please reach out to him and
say that their relationship wasn't over, that there was still
a chance. It was confusing for Monica. Just two days earlier,
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she had been the love of his life, but now
it seems that Martina is either way, She didn't want
to risk facing John's rats the next day.
Speaker 3 (26:59):
And the pool woman her play to her. She replied
to me, and she said, well listen, don't mind him.
You know his box. You know, he's just a mad man,
I don't know. Obviously I would reached out to her.
There's nothing much happening. Obviously I didn't have sex with him,
you know, just in case if you wonder it, and
this and that. But yeah, I think that was the scariest.
So that was the first time that I realized who
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I really deal with, you know that things that he
can do using technology. Because we were all told by
the way this story in that first message after the
you know from the dating side that he was I
am a single dad. I have a full custody of
my daughter. I was. I used to be addicted to unfreatements,
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but I never touched drugs as my daughter was born.
Her mom is a terrible woman. She was cheating on
me with multiple multiple men, and I asked her to stop,
and because I wanted to save this relationship, she wasn't
interested at all. I was to hug her messages on
WhatsApp and share them on Christmas Day with her family,
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and she still wouldn't break up with him. And he
was in thero slayried for two years. You know, that's
start of grab. So we kind of all knew of
us all new. I discovered it later when I when
I started thinking, I figured out that this is all
made up. Sorry, this is all for us to think
that he would never ever cheat on anyone, because if
he's staffered, if he had suffered so much after you know,
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he's expirted, teaches on them, obviously he would never do that.
So every single time when I had some issues with him,
I blamed drugs for everything. Never even for a second
it crossed my mind that he would cheat on me,
not to mention with so many women, I just thought
it was all drugs, and that was always That's why
I kept trying, because I knew that we could fix
And the story about hugging. This is a little warning
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for all those women who would try to do something
against them. He is letting you know straight away in
that first message about the potential consequences, what he's capable of,
what he can do with you know, technology, He can
punish you if he doesn't like what you're doing. This
is just the beginning of manipulation, just in that first letter.
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We can see this clearly now, But when we were
reading the letter for the first time, all I could
see is that vulnerable, gorgeous single dad, so brave and
you know, so devoted to his child. We all make mistakes.
Speaker 1 (29:29):
Thank you for listening to Part three or Filthy John.
Please like, subscribe and share. In our next episode, we
will meet Anya. If you've been affected by any of
the issues mentioned, please know that you're not alone. Support
is available. Reach out to Women's Aid or the Dublin
Rape Crisis Center for helping, guidance
You meet a man. He's funny, attentive, he actually listens
to you. You go on a date and you get
home with sore cheeks from laughing. He says all the
right things, wants the same things. It feels easy and rare.
Dates turn into a relationship and you think this is
exactly what you've been looking for. Now imagine discovering that
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everything he told you was a lie, and you're only
one of many women that he has on the go.
This is the story of Filthy John, a compulsive liar,
a manipulator, a man with a serious drug problem, a
habit of stealing, and a dangerous temper. On the surface,
he was hilarious, affectionate, the perfect man. But behind the scenes,
(00:47):
he was creating chaos in multiple women's lives, lying to them,
mirroring their personalities, love bombing, stealing, vanishing, reappearing, and slowly
wrecking their sense of reality. These women didn't just overlap,
their lives became tangled in the most bizarre ways. In
this podcast, you'll hear from four of them, four women
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brave enough to sit down and tell their story. There
are more, but some of them are still too scared
to speak. This is a story about manipulation, survival, and
the power that comes when women start comparing notes. Linda
met John on Facebook dating in February twenty three. They
(01:30):
hit it off straight away, chatting for a few weeks
before making it official in April. Linda was thrilled with him,
and it felt like a good year, like she had
finally met someone she could build something with.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
And I'll be honest with you right up until the
New Year's in twenty twenty three, I had a great
relationship with John. It was fantastic gather. I was madly
in love with him. He was just the perfect man.
He was everything I was looking for, and I was
just delighted.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
At this point, John had already been in a relationship
with Monica for at nine months, so to get ahead
of his own web of lies, he mentioned Monica to Linda,
framing her as just a friend.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
So I knew about Monica because he had told me
that he was very good friends with Monica's husband John.
He kind of imploied Monica rings me sometimes because she's
always looking for me to juice up around her house.
Picked some husband's used to this, that kind of thing,
So I kind of try none of it but he
also told me that he had a holiday home in
Gory and it was right near Monica and John's house,
(02:29):
and he stayed there some weekends. Didn't really kind of
thing and what jobs? And I was like all around,
because he did put himself across to be like this
hugely successful businessman, which altern it should be a lot
of horseshit in the end. Anyway, none of it was true.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
Up until this point to Linda was happy. Things had
been good, better than good, but around New Year's something shifted.
She had planned a gorgeous weekend, a trip to the Wildlights,
a hotel s day, and a day out at Powers Court,
all paid for by her, of course, just like with Monica.
John's daughter was the same age as Linda's, and the
two little girls became the best of friends. It was
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all happy families, but not for.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
Long, you know. We had a nice little family thing
going on. So him in his dorm, myself with my door.
My son Matthew has grown so he does his own thing.
So that was fine, and I saut money agoh, and
I heard that he invited her. What would he have
done if you had said yes? Since I had paid
for this whole thing, and it was we came back
(03:30):
and something changed. John started to get very nitpicky about everything.
I noticed that money was starting to go missing out
my purse, My personal belongers were starting to go disappearing
from my house. A laptop, Wi Fi, johnle PlayStation. So
I actually wasn't sure whether it was John or Acaus
(03:52):
like Matthew to be in the house for his friends
and stuff. So I planned me and John are here alone.
Kids were school because he never went to work. I
had a really good job, so I worked four days
where he couldn't be here because I was doing twelve
hour shifts, were shift work, so I'm assuming that's when
he was written Monica. But he would tell me that
he was at work, so he'd be working when I'd
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be working. Then when I was off, he was with me.
So I wasn't sure what was going on with my
money and all that kind of suff So I planted
fifty euro into a blue raincoat. Why he was talking
to me, I made sure he saw he putting in
there into the raincoat in the hall and went off
with pattering around Jim things around the house and all,
and maybe I don't know, A small short time later
(04:37):
went back to the raincoat and the fifty euro was gone,
So I knew that, right, he's robbing from me.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
John didn't just steal from her. He also sparked constant
arguments and used gas lighting to make Linda doubt her
own sanity. He grew increasingly controlling and manipulative, inflicting emotional
pain and mental torment on Linda.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
But then there was an incident there. Now, there were
many incidents, but there's a few that kind of okay,
I had my dishwasher block, right, and I went and
portraying cleaner and okay, yeah, obviously, on a reflection, I
realized I probably wasn't the best decision to make. But
John was trying to unplug it, and he put his
hand into my dishwasher, and then he claimed he went
(05:16):
home and he was getting very mad about it. Whatever.
He went home, and then he started sending me messages
saying that it hadn't swelled up when he has to
go to the hospital. He started telling me then, you know,
lecturing me, you know, how did say I am and
this that and the other, and he was basically being
very very kind of abusive. Then he told me he
had to get a blood transfusion, so he was in
(05:36):
the hospital for days. But when I met up at
monic it turns out he was actually in her house
while mentally torturing me, letting me think that I had
potentially killed this man with my dishwater. We we kind
of argued about this back and forward, because we started
to argue a lot. Like he convinced me that I
had a hearing problem, and I went and got here
in Nates. I don't have a hearing problem. I functioned fine.
(05:57):
I don't need hearing it. But I let this man
convince me that I had a hearing problem, which I
don't get, just for the sake of piece. Because I
was just maddling over this man. Everything was just starting
to change. I didn't know how to react to what
was going on. It was all coming very hard and
very fast. The hear nails was only like on minor thing,
Like he was getting onto me about having too much
(06:18):
sugar in my diet. He went over and convinced my
mother that I had health issues, Like he took upon
himself to visit my mother and convince her that there
was issues with me, like and you know, it was
everything he was picking out absolutely everything he is. All
of a sudden, nothing I did was good enough, which
(06:39):
which was just crazy.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
John's emotional manipulation kept building. But one night he pushed
Linda too far. That's when she started to see the
cracks in his stories and realized things weren't as they seemed. Slowly,
his lives began to unravel.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
So we were arguing back and forth, and then there
was one particular night he sent me a message basically
saying that he was going to kill himself, and he
felt like it was you've heard it's like honestly. So
I woke up in the middle of the night and
I was due to being work and I started ringing
them and texting him, and there was no response, and
I was panicking. I got up in the middle of
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the night and I dropped his house, first time ever
being into his house. Backstory, he had told me that
his father was senile, dementitiate, the whole shoe bang and
mental and they had to commit him into Saint John's
and then a scourgy mental institution. I absolutely hammered down
his joor in the middle of the night, and who
adds his door? Only his father, And I was just
(07:32):
like hello, and he was just like, you're looking at me,
like who are you you crazy lady? And I was like,
it's John here, and he goes, no, John isn't gory.
And I said Jonathan Gory and he said yeah, and
he was like who are you And I said I'm Linda,
I'm John's partner. And he was like all right. And
I said, are you sure John is not here because
that's his car and he goes, that's my car and
(07:53):
I said that green Mark is your car and he
goes yeah. And I was like okay, and I said
does John have a business here? And he goes that
business is gone? And I said is this not John's
house and he goes, no, this is my house. And
I said, well, where's John's house And he says, johnathn't
have a house. And I was just like what. So
I was very confused. I didn't know what was going on.
I text John and I said, I've just been to
(08:15):
your house and I met your father. He's a lovely man.
John sent me back a whole load of canic text messages.
Dad is mental, you know? Is this is that in
the other He's making my life head He's lying about
and everything and whatever, and I was like, right, okay,
so I knew there was something just absolutely bananas going on.
I was just like, I don't know what's happening here.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Linda took it upon herself to reach out to John's
ex partner, the mother of his child, and asked if
she would meet for a coffee. To her surprise, the
woman agreed. When Linda finally met her, she was absolutely
blown away by what she had to say. She described
John in stark terms, laying bare exactly what kind of
man he really was, something Linda now wishes she had
listened to back then. But more than that, the woman
(08:56):
shared her deepest worry. There were so many different women
picking up her don her from school and from the
house that she had no idea whose home her daughter
was actually going to, whether she was safe, or what
kind of people these women were. This obviously came as
a big shock to Linda.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
And I was like, hang on, what do you mean?
And she said, well, there's you, there's a girl named Monica,
there's a girl named Claire, and his a girl Namchelle.
At the moment, and I was just like sorry, So
I was like hardly, I couldn't believe it, and she goes,
I actually have a contact number for Monica, and I said,
would you mind at all just texting her and asking her,
(09:33):
you know, is she in a relationship with John? Because
I need some answers.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
The message Monica had received from the mother of John's child,
asking if she was still in a relationship with him,
was actually sent while Linda was sitting in a coffee
shop with that same ex. At the time, Linda had
no idea who Claire or Michelle were. John had only
ever told her that Monica was the wife of a
close friend. During their conversation, Linda learned a lot, and
none of it was good. John's ex spoke about their
(09:57):
deeply strained relationship and how she was constant left in
the dark, simply wanting answers about the women who were
spending time around her daughter. Linda also found out something
even more shocking. John had another child he didn't acknowledge
or take any part in raising. She left that cafe
feeling shaken and very aware that she didn't know this
man at all.
Speaker 2 (10:16):
John Rangley actually when I left the coffee shop and
he was like, hey, babe, everything all right? And I
was like, I don't know. He said, what you mean
you don't know? And I said, who's Michelle? Who's Claire?
And he went absolutely mental on the phone. We got
into huge rails for days and days and days. He
wanted to know who I've been talking to, and he
(10:36):
accused Monica and I said, I haven't been talked to Monica,
because I said I know that Monica as well. And
he said, you've been talking to Demonica and I said
I haven't been talking to Demonica and he goes, I'll
be getting her back. I'm going to punish her. And
I said, okay, well it wasn't Monica.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
This was the same situation we touched on in episode
two where John took his revenge on Monica by sending
those intimate voice notes she had exchanged with the male
acquaintance back to the man where his wife would find them.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
We argued a lot about this, and I think because
I was so in love with him at the time,
he managed to convince me that it was all wrong
and that wasn't the case. But I knew in the
back of my head it was the case, but for
some reason, it might have been the whole BDS thing.
I was really into it like I loved it all,
(11:21):
I was still willing to overlook it for the sake
of trying to repair our relationship. So he had told
me when I confronted about Michelle, I only cleaned her
shed once, and I don't like her if she's crazy
into unicorns and aliens. And I was like, right, okay,
and he said Claire Claire's in an iron dublin friend
from his past that keeps asking them for favors. She
(11:44):
wanted her kitchen rap and her car keeps breaking down
and she keeps ringing him and she's nobody else. So
I bought it like an idiot anyway. So he told
me then that Monica was in fact then next girlfriend
at that stage, and he didn't want to tell me
because he didn't want me to be jealous. So then
he told me that Monica was like his best friend,
his best friend in the whole world, and he loved
(12:04):
to death and he can't live without her in his life,
and if we were going to be able to fix
our relationship, it was important to him that me and
Monica become friends. So he organized for a very very
awkward video call between him and Monica and I where
Monica was under the impression I was just John's friend
getting over him, and that she was working on her
(12:26):
relationship with him, And during this video call, I was
under the depression that I was being forced to befriend
Monica or John for John to be able to move
forward in our relationship. Were retrieve us on this very
strange video call. It was grand, like, I mean, I
did like her when I was talking to her, but
I wasn't really sure what the hell was going on,
Like why do I need to be friends with your
(12:48):
ex girlfriends kind of things. It was very lovely. It
was all very lovely. A couple of jokes back and forward.
I think we were talking about botox, so I just
got boat docks and just kind of basic conversation.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
Linda and John did go on a few more dates
after that. At one point she even traveled to Gorey
to see him, where by chance, they bumped into Monica.
It seemed Monica believed that John had told her the truth,
that Linda was still madly in love with him and
he was just trying to be a good friend to her.
But behind Monica's back, John was saying something very different.
When he was with Linda. He was telling her he
loved her, that they should start fresh and things would
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be good again.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
He was supposed to follow me home that night, but
he didn't. He spent the night with Monica instead, and
I was absolutely devastated. I was just like, oh my god,
I can't believe it is happening. But yeah, I knew
what was happening, and we argued about it. He told
me I was crazy for even accusing him of having
sex at Monica, starting to kind of draw a dollar
me down what was going on. So we got into
it again, arguing again. I just I couldn't believe what
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was going on, and I went through a phase of
making him send me his live location the whole time
because I just couldn't get over all these different women.
Clearly I had trust issues.
Speaker 1 (13:53):
But John was about to cross another line, one that
would spark a huge argument and leave Linda genuinely frightened.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
When we were working on a relationship and we were
dating after I found out what I had and we
were trying to fix our relationship, he had come back
down and he had spent the night with me again,
and I had put a camera up in my house,
in my porch with a litt less steak card in it.
Obviously John doesn't sleep. I wasn't aware that he was
taking drugs either. I thought he was just wired, you know,
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all the time, adhd hoshebank. The next morning, he spotted
the camera when we were having a cigarette in my porch,
and he's like, oh, cruel camera.
Speaker 3 (14:29):
He took me.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
I watched him take it off the wall. I popped
the SD card out of it and put it back,
and I put it back. I took with that thing
up straight away and I sidhere's the YESD card gone
out there? And he said there wasn't anyone in it.
With a big argent about this. I saw you do it.
No you didn't. You're crazy. This is you all over again.
You're paranoiah. Blah blah blah. I said, John, give me
the SD card back and he said I don't have it.
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So I kicked him out of the house. Anyway, that
was fine. We got into serious arguments and then he
sent me my passwords from my social media's and my
LinkedIn my Facebook, so I had to delete everything. We
were still arguing quite heavily. It was later on then
I discovered all the property that was missing the laptop
and all that he'd taken the SD card because he
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thought it was on the camera. At this stage, I
kind of hated John. I was so angry for everything,
but I had decided it was safer for my sanity
to be his friend than his enemy, because he was
starting to scare me quite frankly. So we did. But
our friendship was strictly but no, that was probably around
the May May twenty and twenty four. From there, our
(15:35):
friendship was strictly phone calls, video caused on occasion, and
texted and that was it. He you know, he checked
with me the whole time, and you know, we did
have a couple of calls or whatever, blah blah blah.
He had told me that the whole story about Monica
cheating with the boss, he told me that that happened twice,
and the second time it was the same story that
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he gave Kim that he was taking a picture of
Monica were a phone and a message popped up and
he had to jumper And I was like, well, look
at she's still cheating on youa then forget about it.
Then it's gone, like or whatever. He never told me.
He still denied that they were just friends because he
was dating other women and send me pictures of them
stuff like that. Somewhere along the way mentioned that he
(16:16):
was in a relationiois Well. I actually commented, that's the
first time you've ever admitted to me that you're in
a relish. I actually sent that to him in a
message and everything Priston's day. He rang me. He wanted
to come down to my house because Monica and him
had broken up because she cheated on him again. And
I was like, John, hero and not come into my house.
I said, absolutely not, but you have family over, have
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got my own things going on. Then he asked me
to go bowling. I felt that since Monica broke up
from he was constantly asking me out.
Speaker 1 (16:44):
Linda couldn't resist the opportunity to get back at John
when she saw his name pop up on Are We
Dating the Same Guy? She knew it would get under
his skin, and truthfully, she got a bit of satisfaction
from that. What she didn't realize at the time, though,
was just how serious the consequences would be for Kim. Oh.
Speaker 2 (16:59):
Yeah, he was the one who told Johnny was up
on the r We Same Guy? I told him because
I was trying to pass him off more than any
and it worked and I was pretty happy with that.
It'll win obviously. If I hadn't known that the impact
that would have had on Kim, I never would have
did that, and I have apologized and died forever'll be
sorry for that. He basically there. Just maybe a month
(17:23):
or so ago, he asked me out again and I
said no, and then he pretty much called me a
bad mother because I wouldn't meet up for them, and
I just said, look, you're in a position to be
making judgments and hoow, I lived my life and I
just said we shouldn't be talking anymore. So I finally
did it and blocked on one absolutely everything. It's probably
less than a week later, Monica had reached out to
(17:44):
me and we got talking and we were I think
the first call was for about four and a half hours.
Monica wasn't It was just incredible the stuff that she
had told me. John has some serious mental issues, Like
I think he needs to sell down a straight jack
at this stage, like me said from Kim, and Monica
ran a video call there as well, and we had
discovered that the property, some of the property John stole
(18:07):
from me he gifted to the other ladies in there
in our other WhatsApp brothers. I was this first round place.
Monica has a lot of it, and I have some
of their property, Like he gave me stuff belonging to
Monica and other ladies and honiest properties scattered around the plate.
So he's been stealing from ladies and gifting it to
other ladies. Monica and I even met up and we've
a bit of property exchanged situation going on like both. Yeah,
(18:32):
it's just absolutely ridiculous. I have been to the guard
about there was only one item might be saying to
prove that he's stole from now because of a text
message and a photograph that Monica sent me. So there's
the search warrant being done though, and hopefully they'll kick
in his door and the rest him just to be
the best thing. Ever, I don't think he realizes, like
it's painful when you go through this with John, like
(18:53):
it hurts to the core, like and and and it
takes time then to put yourself back together afterwards. I
think we're very lucky that we have all of each other.
Like I will give John one thing he has impeccable
tasting women to all these ladies, all they're beautiful, intelligent, successful,
just you're just really lovely, lovely, lovely women. And he
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never deserved any single one of them. And he was
very lucky that he even he even got one of
the one of these ladies. You know what it is.
I think he has his and he has his way
about him, and it's it's clearly scripted because we all
have the same messages from him at the start to
the same pictures. He really is solid the same way.
He's just charming and funny and lovely and everything he
(19:37):
says is absolutely hilarious, and you know, everything is very
light heart to start. Unfortunately, and when he turns on it,
he really really turns on it. He is dangerous. He's
very dangerous, like you know, and I think what we're
trying to do is make other women well aware to
watch out for this man, because he really he's not
(19:58):
worth it, like at all, what he droves you on,
why he leaves you with and then moves on to
a new victim. It's really owarthed.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
Like unfortunately, Monica witnessed that violence firsthand. It wasn't just shocking.
It is something that haunts her to this day, she
describes it as the most frightening experience of her life.
Speaker 3 (20:15):
He met the woman some marine double all one of
the dating sites, and he went to meet her in
my car because he was apparently broken. His daughter and
my daughter were in my house at that stage. He
was going for a few hours, right, so he left
my house probably about seven o'clock in the evening. It
was around eleven, about ten o'clock. I texted him that
(20:36):
I would be going to bed soon and he should
drop my carke through my letter box when he, you know,
on his way home. But then I wasn't getting anything
back from him. There was just no acknowledgment of my
messages that tried to call him a few times because
it was getting later and later, and I was kind
of all wrapped up, and I was just getting paranoid
because there's me with two of the girls in the house.
(20:58):
No car was very because he took mine and his
is broken. I've no key for it anyway, started to overthink,
you know, just get the annoyed because it was supposed
to be a few hours now and it's like five
six hours and I was getting instead of for him
replying to my messages I got. It was a life
location somewhere from Dublin. At first they were walking around
Dublin somewhere, and then the life location like was in
(21:20):
the same spot at the back of Dublin Airport, you
know where people sit and watch planes. They were there
like for four or five hours, and I was getting
really wired up, and I just started to text him
and was just I hope you know, you know he
was having sex in my car, because as I don't
mind you, I was. I have to say, that was
pretty vall guard and I was just texting him something like,
you know, I don't mind you fucking hair, just don't
(21:40):
e my car because you know, this is the last
thing I want to clean the carryer. I'm driving the
kids in this car, and you know, all sort of this.
Because he wasn't a reply, I was getting angry and angry,
and I was just, I don't even know it was angery,
which I was upset that he, you know, like, there's
me minding his child and he, you know, he's no
respect in that respect, even just through acknowledge my message,
(22:01):
he is in my car. So about four o'clock I
think I finally got a reply from him saying that
he's on the way back and he sorry, I didn't
he I didn't see your messages because I didn't want
Martina to, you know, to know that you were texting me.
And then another excuse was I was on the you know,
the phone was on to not disturb. Obviously I know
(22:21):
it wasn't because the messages were sent and delivered. So
he was kind of kept texting me back and forth
on the way back from Dublin, from explaining himself to
apologizing and then to getting angry because he was telling me, oh,
I didn't you know I didn't have sex with her.
You know, I don't understand why you are you accusing
(22:43):
me or you should know me better and very shy,
you know, all I just is to kiss her and
we had such a great time. And now she doesn't
want to talk to me because I mentioned it to her,
and now she thinks why you're why you're inquiring about
us having ill sex anyway the first place. And then
from that it was kind of you getting more angry
with me, you know, and there were messages, like the
(23:03):
messages were getting quite nasty. Then you know, you fucking
destroyed that I had the best time of my life.
You know this, this might have been the beginning of
the you know, perfect relationship. I was so happy. I'd
never been that happy in my life. You know, blocked
him for a few minutes because I just couldn't handle
it was just getting really, really intense. He came to
(23:23):
sending me life location, you know, just to let me know.
So he's getting near my house, and then he I
don't remember what happened, but he drove to his house.
I think he jumped off my key. He drove to
his house, and then something happened in the house. Now
Hei there, took more drugs because he went fucking ballistic,
then driving again a life location just to let me
know that he was getting closer and closer to my
(23:45):
house and shouting to me on the phone and calling
me all sorts of names, and then telling me wake
my fucking child when I'm there. I want my fucking
child waiting for me. You know, it was like five am,
but I've been telling him, listen, you come here, you
wake your child up yourself. I'm not going to wake
the child up at five or six am, And well,
am iself supposed to tell her anyway. I wasn't going
(24:07):
to give it because I knew what, you know state
he was in, so he was He goes really really
nasty at that stage. She says, you're not going to
fucking make it difficult for me to get my own child,
and like really like I was scared at that stage.
He never was reaggressive with me before, so I knew
that there's probably only talk at soundstage. I noticed that
(24:28):
his car pulled up out my house. He got out
of the car, went to the back of his car
the board, grabbed something out of it, and he was
walking towards my house, smashing it the bits and pieces.
I had a little like wind bill with like a
flower pot, and he smashed it and I noticed it
was like a wrench, you know, the one told the
long one that you used to unscrew your wheels. And
(24:51):
he walked to my house with it, and he went
through the hallway to the kitchen, and I was I
noticed that he had the thing in his hand, and
I stood at the back of my kitchen beside the
back door. But I didn't really know what to do.
I did. I couldn't scream because all I had these
two girls in her house and there was no point
screaming because you know things are happening, because he said,
(25:14):
you know, and he was stunning with this thing over
my head. Fuck, it's a very it's a weird impie,
and just it was happening in so fast and I
didn't know what to do, and all I could think
that I had to either I have to optionally try
to coming down some hard. Those two girls are going
(25:35):
to find me in the morning on the floor, you know,
in the puddle of blood, because that couldn't end any
other way because he was just like what I was
looking in his face, It was like I was, I
was looking at a different person, Like his eyes were
just filled with rage. There was nothing in it there.
Just I could not get through whatever I did. At
some stage, I was just standing still. I was I
(25:56):
was scared to make the smallest movement, even how I am,
I don't know. But I did manage to Camelon down
and he went straight into the drama, you know, on
his knees, crying and slots all over, you know, hanging
with his face and I begged him just to put
that range down. They finally did, and you know, I
was just crying or want you to look what you
did to me. You know it's not because of you.
(26:17):
You upset me so much. Why did you think that
I would have sex with you? Know that I love you.
All I could talk to her it was you. It
just and I did not listen to any of that.
I was just praying I would just please go to bed,
as you're very tired. Obviously you need embarrassed.
Speaker 1 (26:31):
Monica sent him to bed, hoping that if he slept
he might calm down. She wasn't sure if he'd even
remember what had happened, but she was so frightened she
couldn't take the risk. That night, while he was asleep,
Monica texted Martina. She apologized and begged her to do
her a favor to please reach out to him and
say that their relationship wasn't over, that there was still
a chance. It was confusing for Monica. Just two days earlier,
(26:52):
she had been the love of his life, but now
it seems that Martina is either way, She didn't want
to risk facing John's rats the next day.
Speaker 3 (26:59):
And the pool woman her play to her. She replied
to me, and she said, well listen, don't mind him.
You know his box. You know, he's just a mad man,
I don't know. Obviously I would reached out to her.
There's nothing much happening. Obviously I didn't have sex with him,
you know, just in case if you wonder it, and
this and that. But yeah, I think that was the scariest.
So that was the first time that I realized who
(27:19):
I really deal with, you know that things that he
can do using technology. Because we were all told by
the way this story in that first message after the
you know from the dating side that he was I
am a single dad. I have a full custody of
my daughter. I was. I used to be addicted to unfreatements,
(27:42):
but I never touched drugs as my daughter was born.
Her mom is a terrible woman. She was cheating on
me with multiple multiple men, and I asked her to stop,
and because I wanted to save this relationship, she wasn't
interested at all. I was to hug her messages on
WhatsApp and share them on Christmas Day with her family,
(28:05):
and she still wouldn't break up with him. And he
was in thero slayried for two years. You know, that's
start of grab. So we kind of all knew of
us all new. I discovered it later when I when
I started thinking, I figured out that this is all
made up. Sorry, this is all for us to think
that he would never ever cheat on anyone, because if
he's staffered, if he had suffered so much after you know,
(28:28):
he's expirted, teaches on them, obviously he would never do that.
So every single time when I had some issues with him,
I blamed drugs for everything. Never even for a second
it crossed my mind that he would cheat on me,
not to mention with so many women, I just thought
it was all drugs, and that was always That's why
I kept trying, because I knew that we could fix
And the story about hugging. This is a little warning
(28:49):
for all those women who would try to do something
against them. He is letting you know straight away in
that first message about the potential consequences, what he's capable of,
what he can do with you know, technology, He can
punish you if he doesn't like what you're doing. This
is just the beginning of manipulation, just in that first letter.
(29:10):
We can see this clearly now, But when we were
reading the letter for the first time, all I could
see is that vulnerable, gorgeous single dad, so brave and
you know, so devoted to his child. We all make mistakes.
Speaker 1 (29:29):
Thank you for listening to Part three or Filthy John.
Please like, subscribe and share. In our next episode, we
will meet Anya. If you've been affected by any of
the issues mentioned, please know that you're not alone. Support
is available. Reach out to Women's Aid or the Dublin
Rape Crisis Center for helping, guidance
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