March 12, 2025 • 15 mins
Alarming Statistic: 86% of teenagers feel trapped by their parents.
This shocking reality can have devastating consequences, including:
✦ Poor physical health
✦ Debilitating depression
✦ Crushing anxiety
But there's hope!
The Win/Win Solution is a revolutionary approach that transforms parent-teen relationships through proven behavior modification techniques.
By focusing on positive reinforcement and mutual understanding, you can:
✦ Break free from the cycle of conflict
✦ Build trust and strengthen your bond
✦ Empower your teen to thrive and reach their full potential
Join the movement and discover a more harmonious, supportive, and loving relationship with your teen.
https://family.pnbcgroup.com/
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-doctor-s-corner-with-dr-john-oda--5470834/support.
Dr. John Oda has spent 38 years helping teens and parents strengthen communication, overcome struggles, and build thriving families. Download a free 23-minute deep dive from his book *Connecting with Your Teen: Send an email to info@drjohnoda.com for your download.
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This shocking reality can have devastating consequences, including:
✦ Poor physical health
✦ Debilitating depression
✦ Crushing anxiety
But there's hope!
The Win/Win Solution is a revolutionary approach that transforms parent-teen relationships through proven behavior modification techniques.
By focusing on positive reinforcement and mutual understanding, you can:
✦ Break free from the cycle of conflict
✦ Build trust and strengthen your bond
✦ Empower your teen to thrive and reach their full potential
Join the movement and discover a more harmonious, supportive, and loving relationship with your teen.
https://family.pnbcgroup.com/
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-doctor-s-corner-with-dr-john-oda--5470834/support.
Dr. John Oda has spent 38 years helping teens and parents strengthen communication, overcome struggles, and build thriving families. Download a free 23-minute deep dive from his book *Connecting with Your Teen: Send an email to info@drjohnoda.com for your download.
Articles, Books, and Podcasts
https://drjohnoda.com/pr-media
Bonding the Family Together
:https://family.pnbcgroup.com/
If your teen is playing sports and wants that extra edge
https://sports.pnbcgroup.com
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Everybody, This is welcome to the Doctor's Corner. Parents. Thank
you so much for joining me today.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
It has been a long long time that you guys know.
I'm I'm the author of Connecting with Your teen wrote
this book almost ooh jeez, nineteen twenty years ago, but
the book is still fire.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
UH.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
So here goes today as I'm talking about how to
create a win win. So do you guys a parent
of teenagers or preteens? Verson foremost, thank you so much
for joining me today. If it's in daytime, it's nighttime,
if it's on the way to work, if it's after work,
whatever it takes that should take play today. That she
(00:45):
took time to listen to my podcast, thank you, but
my much appreciative. So we're gonna talk about it as
a win win and I have been working with that
lessons now for geez thirty eight years now.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
UH.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
I started in the in UH hospital, started in residential,
outpatient and patient and everything. I mean, I've worked with
adolescent teans for twenty three years of my career, which
is a long period of time. And I worked to
a lot of double shifts and different units, and and
I came back to UH adolescenteans, cause they're really the
(01:22):
most smartest individuals in the world. That's only my opinion
on guys. Uh, but they're smart. They they know their
stuff and they know if you care about 'em. They Uh,
the kids are the gr kids are the are the
greatest gifts.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
In the whole world.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
So what I always w like to uh focus on
is a win win and I and I and I
tell parents all the time that you should have a
win win with your kid.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
And let me explain to you a win win.
Speaker 2 (01:47):
I give you to a couple examples, right, I b I,
but I I was working with uh uh uh a
couple of kids recently right here in the Irvine area.
And of course you know a lot of 'em are
are more affluent. So parents do have money. But the
challenge about is having money. They don't have any they
(02:08):
it's it's is interesting.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
And how I say a win win is I give
you a Pacific. Uh.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
Then we had the one the kid who who plays
baseball and he's damn good to baseball, and but uh,
he did something wrong and the parent took away everything
went a mound, everything, phone, everything. This kid didn't have nothing.
And I said that they should be a win win.
She said, what it was?
Speaker 1 (02:29):
What do you mean?
Speaker 2 (02:29):
That'ss I created a level system that I created with
all my kids. Uh, I have a talked with over
a hundred thousand kids and they have been ninety percent success. Right,
it's a level system that it's a behavior modification. So
if they do anything wrong, we mind his points. If
they don't think great they plus they get some points.
This way is a win win. This way that they
(02:50):
know how to win the game called being at home
because if they go to school.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
There have they have a system.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
They go to class all the time in X, Y
and Z, and that's why, well, some of them do
decently well in school. Let's say have some behavior issues
at home. When they come home, they have nothing. They
have they it's like a free for all. I says,
let's create a level system. And that says we can
base one on your rules and everything else. I give
you an example and then we have it. Guys, You
(03:21):
guys gonna be amazed about when I say this. Eighty
percent of my parents didn't want to do it. Let
me explain to you why they said, John, Doctor John
is too much work. I have to work and I says,
you'll be doing work about a good month. You're right
about that, but after that they understand the system, it
would be consistent. Well, it would be fine, and it'll
(03:41):
be a win one I said. But now when you
take away that points, you just can't be angry and
madden take away crazy amount of points that says you
have to still do it in a win one way, right,
And now the parents who did this. I used to
work with the foster care a lot right back in
when I was in state of Oregon. A lot of
it was in the state of uh uh Illinois or so.
(04:04):
I used to work with the foster kids a lot.
We put the system on in these kids was like
poetry in motion, cause now they knew what to do
to get their points. They knew what they do to
hang out with the whole nine yards and it works
like poetry in motion. So you work with some of
the uh kids who have privileges and have money, and
the parents say, well, I work too much.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
And I don't wanna work like this.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
And there's one woman told me, yeah, I had this kid,
but I'm thinking it'd be just hard for a kid downside.
Anything that you have is gonna be worked hard for.
So the question I have for parents out there is
is do I do have a question?
Speaker 1 (04:39):
Right? Do you have a system at home to work
with the child?
Speaker 2 (04:46):
Now, think about this if you if you guys are
in business, right, just so you guys have business owners,
to run your business, you have to have systems, not correct, right,
You have to have systems to run it, to to
j to make it go effortly and easy at work.
And when you don't have a system, it completely mess up.
Let's go backwards if your household don't have a system,
(05:08):
and how can it run?
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Now, let's go backwards to a business.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
If if you have a business, or you work for
a business or anything else, don't you have a mission statement? Yes,
let's go backwards at home? Do you have a mission
statement at home? So when I was growing up, our
mission statement was everyone's going to graduate college.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
That was with my parents.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
That there was no instance about the butt it And
of course, by the grace of God, I come from
a family of ten siblings biological we all have graduated college,
some of us, seven of us, seven of us have
advanced degrees, I mean in uh master's and PhDs. Right,
But that was their mission statement. Do you get a
mission statement for your house? Now, if you look at
(05:53):
the business, a successful business of a mission statement, and
they understand a mission statement, they know they understand what's
I should take place. A family that's not the greatest,
they have no mission statement, they have no system to
run the family system that means a level system based
on their behavior. So if you look at the business
(06:14):
and look at the family, it's similar. Second thing about it,
which is really sh shocking to me, to be truly
honest with you, I see parents treat their kids like
they're their friends. Oh, this is a this is a cringer.
Your kid's not your friend. Your job's to be a parent,
(06:35):
not their friends. You can be friendly, they still gotta
have a consequence if they mess up on the level
system or mess up in life, they gotta have a consequences.
They have to learn what's actually taking place.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Did you know that?
Speaker 2 (06:48):
I see so many parents who don't do this. They
wanna be their buddies, they wanna be their friends.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
Nah, I got friends, alright. I know sometimes how I
lie for my friends. And here's you know what's a
sad thing about it?
Speaker 2 (07:04):
I see parents doing the exact same thing they life
for their kids then don't have them take responsibility. And
they wonder why these kids are growing up crazy nuts,
have no respect.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
I don't care if you're young or old. They don't
care why.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Parenting and shocks me, But not when I get a
parent who goes with a mission statement, who goes to
win one have a level system at home, and everything's
moving s effortsly.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
And easily at home and the a and and.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
These kids grow up to be role models or to
be successful.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
And the reason why is they have a system now.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
And I want you to guys, think about it inside
your family right now?
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Do you have a system in place? And he's a
sad thing about it.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
I believe that that the way uh ih the I
was raised was pretty damn good. A lot of the
parents they don't wanna d treat their kids how they
were doing. They come up with their own system. And
guess what system doesn't work? If you create a a
whole new system at work and it's not the same
system that.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
You would run, your business would fail.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
Did you guys know that in ten years eighty percent
of companies fell here's a sad thing about this too,
and others to that. But you know that eighty percent
of the of the families fail as well. Eighty percent
s eighty six percent of kids think that their parents
have them in prison, they don't have support. So when
(08:48):
they don't have that, guess what happened? They health to
mess up. They have depression, they have anxiety. Why their
parents is have this? This that the parents are becoming
a micromanager supposed to be a parent. Give you a
great example. I was working with this kid and uh
she was and she was going to online school. Smart girl,
really smart girl. Worked with her shorts with a different therapist.
Speaker 1 (09:11):
No big deal.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
We worked together three or four months and the outcome
was in January for to go to school. And here
goes the dad didn't wanna do no extra work, so
he got rid of me. Okay, little big deal, that's
the choice. Didn't you know that the kid's not going
to school still, she's at home, sleeping in until nine
(09:32):
and ten o'clock at night. In the morning time, going
during the school work, chicks in about the hour to
get her school work done, and then she got ah
the whole day all by herself. Why because the parents
don't wanna be responsible. Now, well, so what do you
think is gonna happen to to this kid? Couldn't tell
you what it's said. I said, man, have her go
(09:54):
to school and if she fail, it doesn't make difference.
Have her have me be it, it be the contact.
I go there, not straight her out, but we have
to put it back in school again. If you don't
put it back to school again, well she's this and
she said, well that was her past behavior, not her
behavior right now. Again though, no system and parents don't
(10:16):
want to work on the system to make the kid better.
So as a parent, are you working on your system?
Speaker 1 (10:28):
Do you do?
Speaker 2 (10:29):
You guys have a systemized level system. It's systemized for
your household, so you guys can so the kids know
what's gonna take place. They know that they do X,
Y and Z, they get points, they get extra points.
But they know if they don't make just say, make
their bed up or do their homework, they lose points. Now,
at the end of the week, you add everything up,
(10:51):
it comes out and if they don't hit the level
of three or four whatever levels that you have, they
lose their privileges.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
This is called a behavioral modification.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
I've been on this behavior modification program for the last
twenty years and doing this. All my kids who parents
do the program are supers, are super successful. I took
the fo a foster parent. She had ten kids, man,
and maybe maybe eight. God rest her soul. Man, Uh,
I just found out that just passed away. They were
(11:25):
like in their nineties. When that passed away. I mean
they were one of the top foster parents in the
state of Oregon. I mean they were phenomenal. Love 'em
to death and God, bust your soul. So I had
I was working with the kids, all foster kids, and
now of all the all of the foster kids that
(11:45):
I worked with, all the kids that were successful. We
had a commercial pilot. If you read my book, uh
kind to a b the teen he's cant studying Number five.
I called him Robert, and all the rest of the
kids was success for kids like nurses and the social workers.
And they did extremely well. Why because we have a system.
(12:06):
It's a win win. They knew it was going on.
Did they fight the first? Of course they did. They
wanted to see if Derek gonna ask you follow the system.
So I shorted the system probably about early two thousands.
She says she'd been she used it all the way
through and all her foster kids became successful and did
extremely well. Why because system, Now this is foster parents.
(12:30):
Imagine none, this is not foster parents, is your kids.
How could you take the same system and go further faster.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
Alleviate the anxiety and.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
The anger and the depression and you know, suicidal thoughts.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
Because what the program is. I work with the.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
Parents and I work with the adolescents. You gotta work
with it.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
Here it goes.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
If you get to if you get the kids doing
extremely well, the parents are messed up, right, they gonna
go backside.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
Uh, infect it behavior again. Here's what I want you
to do.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
I'll guys want you to reach out and say, Okay,
where am I at?
Speaker 1 (13:13):
Where is my gap? Right? And how can I get better?
So here he goes. If you guys need to go f.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
Further faster, I do have programs. Go to my website
doctor Johnoda dot com. Right, and uh, it's it's a
it's a it's it's websites for my business as well
as my as well as my mentalth par part of
it as well.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
Right. But I call it a life coaches cause we
don't have life issues. Right. Let me know, contact me
and we'll talk.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
I wanna give you, guys some tools and some strategies
to take your business, which is your family, to that
next level. And to me, business and families are pretty
much it's parallel in one of 'em in a lot
of different ways.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
Right.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
So if if, if you're a parent and who need
to go to that next level, contact me now. If
your kids doing well, congratulations, congrat you doing something right. Guys,
listen to me on my website is doctor Johnoda dot com.
(14:19):
Or guys, if you guys are like me, and you
guys just say I don't want to I don't want
to call. I mean like I don't want to actually
email this guy.
Speaker 1 (14:32):
My phone number is nine nine eight six eight nine
one four four. Now you guys can google me as well.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
I should pop up in almost you know, every search
engine everything else, guys, listen to me is a quick one. Guys,
until next time, take care. Do you guys want me
to do a special one or something on a topic,
let me know. I'm an open for suggestions and everything.
But until next time, guys, take.
Speaker 1 (15:01):
Care and all the blessings. Bye for now. Mm hm
Everybody, This is welcome to the Doctor's Corner. Parents. Thank
you so much for joining me today.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
It has been a long long time that you guys know.
I'm I'm the author of Connecting with Your teen wrote
this book almost ooh jeez, nineteen twenty years ago, but
the book is still fire.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
UH.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
So here goes today as I'm talking about how to
create a win win. So do you guys a parent
of teenagers or preteens? Verson foremost, thank you so much
for joining me today. If it's in daytime, it's nighttime,
if it's on the way to work, if it's after work,
whatever it takes that should take play today. That she
(00:45):
took time to listen to my podcast, thank you, but
my much appreciative. So we're gonna talk about it as
a win win and I have been working with that
lessons now for geez thirty eight years now.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
UH.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
I started in the in UH hospital, started in residential,
outpatient and patient and everything. I mean, I've worked with
adolescent teans for twenty three years of my career, which
is a long period of time. And I worked to
a lot of double shifts and different units, and and
I came back to UH adolescenteans, cause they're really the
(01:22):
most smartest individuals in the world. That's only my opinion
on guys. Uh, but they're smart. They they know their
stuff and they know if you care about 'em. They Uh,
the kids are the gr kids are the are the
greatest gifts.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
In the whole world.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
So what I always w like to uh focus on
is a win win and I and I and I
tell parents all the time that you should have a
win win with your kid.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
And let me explain to you a win win.
Speaker 2 (01:47):
I give you to a couple examples, right, I b I,
but I I was working with uh uh uh a
couple of kids recently right here in the Irvine area.
And of course you know a lot of 'em are
are more affluent. So parents do have money. But the
challenge about is having money. They don't have any they
(02:08):
it's it's is interesting.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
And how I say a win win is I give
you a Pacific. Uh.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
Then we had the one the kid who who plays
baseball and he's damn good to baseball, and but uh,
he did something wrong and the parent took away everything
went a mound, everything, phone, everything. This kid didn't have nothing.
And I said that they should be a win win.
She said, what it was?
Speaker 1 (02:29):
What do you mean?
Speaker 2 (02:29):
That'ss I created a level system that I created with
all my kids. Uh, I have a talked with over
a hundred thousand kids and they have been ninety percent success. Right,
it's a level system that it's a behavior modification. So
if they do anything wrong, we mind his points. If
they don't think great they plus they get some points.
This way is a win win. This way that they
(02:50):
know how to win the game called being at home
because if they go to school.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
There have they have a system.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
They go to class all the time in X, Y
and Z, and that's why, well, some of them do
decently well in school. Let's say have some behavior issues
at home. When they come home, they have nothing. They
have they it's like a free for all. I says,
let's create a level system. And that says we can
base one on your rules and everything else. I give
you an example and then we have it. Guys, You
(03:21):
guys gonna be amazed about when I say this. Eighty
percent of my parents didn't want to do it. Let
me explain to you why they said, John, Doctor John
is too much work. I have to work and I says,
you'll be doing work about a good month. You're right
about that, but after that they understand the system, it
would be consistent. Well, it would be fine, and it'll
(03:41):
be a win one I said. But now when you
take away that points, you just can't be angry and
madden take away crazy amount of points that says you
have to still do it in a win one way, right,
And now the parents who did this. I used to
work with the foster care a lot right back in
when I was in state of Oregon. A lot of
it was in the state of uh uh Illinois or so.
(04:04):
I used to work with the foster kids a lot.
We put the system on in these kids was like
poetry in motion, cause now they knew what to do
to get their points. They knew what they do to
hang out with the whole nine yards and it works
like poetry in motion. So you work with some of
the uh kids who have privileges and have money, and
the parents say, well, I work too much.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
And I don't wanna work like this.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
And there's one woman told me, yeah, I had this kid,
but I'm thinking it'd be just hard for a kid downside.
Anything that you have is gonna be worked hard for.
So the question I have for parents out there is
is do I do have a question?
Speaker 1 (04:39):
Right? Do you have a system at home to work
with the child?
Speaker 2 (04:46):
Now, think about this if you if you guys are
in business, right, just so you guys have business owners,
to run your business, you have to have systems, not correct, right,
You have to have systems to run it, to to
j to make it go effortly and easy at work.
And when you don't have a system, it completely mess up.
Let's go backwards if your household don't have a system,
(05:08):
and how can it run?
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Now, let's go backwards to a business.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
If if you have a business, or you work for
a business or anything else, don't you have a mission statement? Yes,
let's go backwards at home? Do you have a mission
statement at home? So when I was growing up, our
mission statement was everyone's going to graduate college.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
That was with my parents.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
That there was no instance about the butt it And
of course, by the grace of God, I come from
a family of ten siblings biological we all have graduated college,
some of us, seven of us, seven of us have
advanced degrees, I mean in uh master's and PhDs. Right,
But that was their mission statement. Do you get a
mission statement for your house? Now, if you look at
(05:53):
the business, a successful business of a mission statement, and
they understand a mission statement, they know they understand what's
I should take place. A family that's not the greatest,
they have no mission statement, they have no system to
run the family system that means a level system based
on their behavior. So if you look at the business
(06:14):
and look at the family, it's similar. Second thing about it,
which is really sh shocking to me, to be truly
honest with you, I see parents treat their kids like
they're their friends. Oh, this is a this is a cringer.
Your kid's not your friend. Your job's to be a parent,
(06:35):
not their friends. You can be friendly, they still gotta
have a consequence if they mess up on the level
system or mess up in life, they gotta have a consequences.
They have to learn what's actually taking place.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Did you know that?
Speaker 2 (06:48):
I see so many parents who don't do this. They
wanna be their buddies, they wanna be their friends.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
Nah, I got friends, alright. I know sometimes how I
lie for my friends. And here's you know what's a
sad thing about it?
Speaker 2 (07:04):
I see parents doing the exact same thing they life
for their kids then don't have them take responsibility. And
they wonder why these kids are growing up crazy nuts,
have no respect.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
I don't care if you're young or old. They don't
care why.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Parenting and shocks me, But not when I get a
parent who goes with a mission statement, who goes to
win one have a level system at home, and everything's
moving s effortsly.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
And easily at home and the a and and.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
These kids grow up to be role models or to
be successful.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
And the reason why is they have a system now.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
And I want you to guys, think about it inside
your family right now?
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Do you have a system in place? And he's a
sad thing about it.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
I believe that that the way uh ih the I
was raised was pretty damn good. A lot of the
parents they don't wanna d treat their kids how they
were doing. They come up with their own system. And
guess what system doesn't work? If you create a a
whole new system at work and it's not the same
system that.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
You would run, your business would fail.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
Did you guys know that in ten years eighty percent
of companies fell here's a sad thing about this too,
and others to that. But you know that eighty percent
of the of the families fail as well. Eighty percent
s eighty six percent of kids think that their parents
have them in prison, they don't have support. So when
(08:48):
they don't have that, guess what happened? They health to
mess up. They have depression, they have anxiety. Why their
parents is have this? This that the parents are becoming
a micromanager supposed to be a parent. Give you a
great example. I was working with this kid and uh
she was and she was going to online school. Smart girl,
really smart girl. Worked with her shorts with a different therapist.
Speaker 1 (09:11):
No big deal.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
We worked together three or four months and the outcome
was in January for to go to school. And here
goes the dad didn't wanna do no extra work, so
he got rid of me. Okay, little big deal, that's
the choice. Didn't you know that the kid's not going
to school still, she's at home, sleeping in until nine
(09:32):
and ten o'clock at night. In the morning time, going
during the school work, chicks in about the hour to
get her school work done, and then she got ah
the whole day all by herself. Why because the parents
don't wanna be responsible. Now, well, so what do you
think is gonna happen to to this kid? Couldn't tell
you what it's said. I said, man, have her go
(09:54):
to school and if she fail, it doesn't make difference.
Have her have me be it, it be the contact.
I go there, not straight her out, but we have
to put it back in school again. If you don't
put it back to school again, well she's this and
she said, well that was her past behavior, not her
behavior right now. Again though, no system and parents don't
(10:16):
want to work on the system to make the kid better.
So as a parent, are you working on your system?
Speaker 1 (10:28):
Do you do?
Speaker 2 (10:29):
You guys have a systemized level system. It's systemized for
your household, so you guys can so the kids know
what's gonna take place. They know that they do X,
Y and Z, they get points, they get extra points.
But they know if they don't make just say, make
their bed up or do their homework, they lose points. Now,
at the end of the week, you add everything up,
(10:51):
it comes out and if they don't hit the level
of three or four whatever levels that you have, they
lose their privileges.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
This is called a behavioral modification.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
I've been on this behavior modification program for the last
twenty years and doing this. All my kids who parents
do the program are supers, are super successful. I took
the fo a foster parent. She had ten kids, man,
and maybe maybe eight. God rest her soul. Man, Uh,
I just found out that just passed away. They were
(11:25):
like in their nineties. When that passed away. I mean
they were one of the top foster parents in the
state of Oregon. I mean they were phenomenal. Love 'em
to death and God, bust your soul. So I had
I was working with the kids, all foster kids, and
now of all the all of the foster kids that
(11:45):
I worked with, all the kids that were successful. We
had a commercial pilot. If you read my book, uh
kind to a b the teen he's cant studying Number five.
I called him Robert, and all the rest of the
kids was success for kids like nurses and the social workers.
And they did extremely well. Why because we have a system.
(12:06):
It's a win win. They knew it was going on.
Did they fight the first? Of course they did. They
wanted to see if Derek gonna ask you follow the system.
So I shorted the system probably about early two thousands.
She says she'd been she used it all the way
through and all her foster kids became successful and did
extremely well. Why because system, Now this is foster parents.
(12:30):
Imagine none, this is not foster parents, is your kids.
How could you take the same system and go further faster.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
Alleviate the anxiety and.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
The anger and the depression and you know, suicidal thoughts.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
Because what the program is. I work with the.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
Parents and I work with the adolescents. You gotta work
with it.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
Here it goes.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
If you get to if you get the kids doing
extremely well, the parents are messed up, right, they gonna
go backside.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
Uh, infect it behavior again. Here's what I want you
to do.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
I'll guys want you to reach out and say, Okay,
where am I at?
Speaker 1 (13:13):
Where is my gap? Right? And how can I get better?
So here he goes. If you guys need to go f.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
Further faster, I do have programs. Go to my website
doctor Johnoda dot com. Right, and uh, it's it's a
it's a it's it's websites for my business as well
as my as well as my mentalth par part of
it as well.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
Right. But I call it a life coaches cause we
don't have life issues. Right. Let me know, contact me
and we'll talk.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
I wanna give you, guys some tools and some strategies
to take your business, which is your family, to that
next level. And to me, business and families are pretty
much it's parallel in one of 'em in a lot
of different ways.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
Right.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
So if if, if you're a parent and who need
to go to that next level, contact me now. If
your kids doing well, congratulations, congrat you doing something right. Guys,
listen to me on my website is doctor Johnoda dot com.
(14:19):
Or guys, if you guys are like me, and you
guys just say I don't want to I don't want
to call. I mean like I don't want to actually
email this guy.
Speaker 1 (14:32):
My phone number is nine nine eight six eight nine
one four four. Now you guys can google me as well.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
I should pop up in almost you know, every search
engine everything else, guys, listen to me is a quick one. Guys,
until next time, take care. Do you guys want me
to do a special one or something on a topic,
let me know. I'm an open for suggestions and everything.
But until next time, guys, take.
Speaker 1 (15:01):
Care and all the blessings. Bye for now. Mm hm
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