January 29, 2025 • 55 mins
The topic discussing will be how using positive psychology towards influencing one’s behavior regarding Mental Illness, Depression and Anxiety.
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Speaker 1 (00:21):
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because I really wasn't seeking someone or anyone I should say,
I just hope if I did meet someone that they
would be a positive person to meet.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
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in love with him.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
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Speaker 4 (01:00):
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got to be.
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Speaker 5 (01:47):
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her for thousands of dollars four coming to quot how
much money you came to get paid? You don't Jesus.
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Welcome to the Doctor Malika Clary show on the Boat
and Brave TV Network, but welcome in live Oh yes,
we are so here. It goes. First of all, I
want to say thank you God for allowing me to
get up this morning and to be able to say
I love you to all my loved ones. I think
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that is so important for us to be able to
say that, because you don't know what's going to go on,
and you just don't know. So I give thanks to
God because he knows and I don't, so I appreciate that.
And here we go, people, We're in the new year.
How about that? A new year? Okay, So with that
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being said, new things should come about and we're going
to talk about it. So I want to say, first
of all, I want to thank you to my engineer
who does you know, Caleb and Dan, thank you so much.
I appreciate all your hope last year and made it wonderful.
We did the best we could, and you know, audio
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and engineer just just let y'all know. Let me just
go ahead and put this out there, just in case
we are lagging with internet right now. Is because I
am out of town. You guys already know when I'm
out of town, the internet works funny. So we got
some funny things going on. So I might be lagging
here and there, but it's out of Michael trope. But
that's life. So going back to thank you Kleep and
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Dan for your engineering, everybody else who contributes to bringing
the Doctor Malika Clary Show on Bold and Brave TV live.
And I'm so grateful for that because I get to
do the things I like to do. And I want
to say thank you to my fans. Thank you very
much for you know, watching the Doctor Melika Clary Show,
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really contributing and sharing. I see you, I see you,
I see you, And thank you for watching the movie
Three Coins Exception that is available on Prime Video. So please,
if you have not seen it already, just go and
watch it. You know it's part of me. It's a
bival something I've been through, but it's also a movie,
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so enjoy. I get your pop on if you haven't
seen it yet. Also let me let you know that
if you haven't signed up to my group, the Doctor
Milika Clary ghoshou I believe it is. It might just
be Doctor Milika Clary, but anyway, it's a group I
have on Facebook. Go ahead. That's positivity. I put a
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lot a lot of informations on there and what people
are saying that's good things positive. So that's on Facebook,
and you also could follow me on Instagram, TikTok, snapchat,
linked in, YouTube, or just google me. You know, I
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have all these social media so please just google me
and follow me, follow, follow, and you know, I just
want us to have a wonderful, great year. But I'm
going to get into a lot of that stuff, and
I just wanted to give acknowledgements to my family. Thank
you so much for everything you guys do, and I
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mean all all my family. You know who you are,
share and do things, and you know, I just want
to throw that out there and my friends, thank you
so much. And I think it's always important to your
knowledge even though some support people give you, and then
there's some support people give you that might be a
little different than others. And I just want to let
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you all know that I appreciate you all and I
love you so much. So you keep up the good
work and whatever you're sending my way, whatever I can
do to help, I do. You know who you are,
so we work together, and I think that is so important,
you know, to understand that it's not just about you,
but it's also about other people too, And I think
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that's what we need to do this year. Is remember
others too, because I try to do that now and
I'll get into other stuff because I want this year,
you know, to be amazing for everyone. And of course
if you don't know by now, I live one day
at a time, and before I get into all that,
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I want to also say my website, just in case
you do not remember, it's doctor Melika Clary dot com.
So please go ahead and email me. You can go
on my website email me. You know, I try to
discuss certain questions on my platform, and I do have
a pile of questions and sometime I've already answered your
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question without putting you out there, already answered it. So
I'm glad with all the feedback that I'm getting. Thank
you so much. I appreciate all of you for tuning
in and listening, and I'm so glad some things are
working for you. Like I said, and I always going to
state this, that you're never going to just change all
in one day. It would be great, great to just
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change one day. It's going to take time, and that's
something that one day at a time. So if you're
patient to understand one day at a time, then things
could change for you. I'm sure it will so. But
and I am going to mention this with prayer. You
can do anything, you know. I believe in God. But
what if that spirituality thing for you is seek it
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because it works for you. And I think that's important.
So keep on doing that as long as it's positive,
it's not hurting anybody. And on that note, what I'm
going to do right now, I'm going to take a
brief commercial and I'll be right back with the Doctor
Malika Claire Show on the Boat and Brave TV Network,
not going nowhere from will be right back. Hello.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
All Three Corners of Deception movie is now available on
Prime video.
Speaker 5 (08:11):
How about that?
Speaker 1 (08:13):
October fourteen, twenty twenty three, on my fiftieth birthday, I
am going.
Speaker 5 (08:18):
To release this, and you guys could go ahead and
help me do just that. Go see that movie. Thank
you for all the support and not giving up on me.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
Go see that Three Corners of Deception release me from
all the pain and everything I've been through.
Speaker 5 (08:39):
Go see the movie.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
Thank you, I love you all. Thank you for all
of the support. Go see that movie Prime video, Prime video.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
How about that?
Speaker 5 (08:54):
God bless you all. I love you all.
Speaker 4 (08:58):
It was really hard for me to do that.
Speaker 5 (09:00):
Movie sometimes because at that time, because ten years ago
is what I went through, it wasn't then, so I
had to take Even they say you play yourself, it's
not really always easy to play yourself.
Speaker 4 (09:13):
You have to play.
Speaker 5 (09:14):
Yourself ten years ago when your mind was just comboblated
and you felt betrayed, you know what I mean. You
felt like, you know, life was just not it and
you know, not in my situation. And it's based on
true events and you know, unfortunately it's about judicial deception,
but it's also about romance and drama and divorced.
Speaker 4 (09:34):
It's something that just went to a.
Speaker 5 (09:36):
Different way, but as I changed it and went into
a movie. But what's interesting about this situation People don't understand.
It's a flow technique for me. That was my release
to finish this movie. Welcome Back to the Dark and
Malika Clari Show on the Boat and Brave TV Network.
(09:58):
Well we're come in, lah, Yes we are have become
in life people. Oh gosh, I'm so happy about that. Well,
you know, I'm in Tennessee, so let me bring that up.
I had to come back here. I went here for
a gala award ceremony by the International Association of Top professionals,
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but I decided to bring some of my family members
that could make it with me. I'm not too far
drove like what four hours, and it was like cool
and they actually like it, you know, So I figure, hey,
bringing the new year with family and doing something a
little different. You know. Sometime when I get these chances
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that I experienced new you know, areas and cities or states,
I like to, you know, invite my family members on
vacation or something you know, together that we can do
and they haven't experienced, so now they have, at least
a couple of them did so. But it's just so
much fun to be able to do that. So we're
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having a blast. You're having a good time actually relaxing,
because that's what vacation is too. It's also relaxing. You know,
you do so much, you work, you go to school.
You know that you just take some downtime and this
is when you can lay around and be lazy and
it doesn't matter. It's like, okay, whatever, I don't want
to do nothing. I don't have to because you're on vacation,
and that's what it is. Sometimes you can be on
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vacation at home too and say hey, I'm gonna take
a day off and I'm gonna be vacation. That's what
vacation is. People. You take a day off for yourself
and you relax, and if you want to stay in
your pj's all day, go ahead and do it. Who
you're hurting nobody, you know, So just keeping that mind vacation.
But this is going to go right into some things
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that I want to talk about. Okay, So we know
we're going we're in this new year, all right, what
does that mean to you when you go into a
new year? And let me just highlight us some of
the things that I've known and last year that I
think people need to change this year. Okay, And if
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this is you, please pay attention because I want you
to catch it. Okay, how about let's talk about habits.
See I have many clients that have different habits. Now,
when I talk about habits, a habit could be something
that you don't like to do for yourself. And some
habits could be something that you like to do, but
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they might be called hobbies. So when you talk about habit,
that is something that you really don't want to do, like,
for example, swearing. You may not want to swear all
the time. So how do you stay disciplined in that? Well,
let's talk about why something is making you feel like
you need to put extra attention to something, and that
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is with emotions. Okay, So if you're having this different
type of emotion that's getting you ready to come up,
think about why are you having that emotion? And it
might be something that you don't like, or you're feeling
a little different, or maybe your surroundings and you feel uncomfortable.
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Well you could start to try to change that. Let's
tune into your emotions and think about Okay, so I
don't like how I feel when I'm around this individual,
for instance, and maybe they are more argumentive. How do
you avoid that? Well, you may have to avoid being
around that person as much as you used to. Why
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because you're not as comfortable anymore. And if you do
want to be around that individual, then you're going to
learn how to be around the individual and not let them,
you know, develop help you with your increasing your anxiety
or increasing your emotions. You might want to go ahead
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and realize why you're having that that feeling around that person.
It would be wonderful if you could deal with that
emotion around them, because then when you get around that individual,
you'll know how to deal with that individual. But then
I'm going to have to say there's two sides to that.
You don't have to be around that person either if
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they're making you feel that way. See, we think that
we have to be around other people all the time
that makes us feel like we're not comfortable or not worthy.
Or you don't have to. That's a choice. It's a
choice to get up. No, actually it's God's choice to
get you up. But it's a choice after you do
get up to whatever you want to do during that
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day or some action. Okay, so you're putting a mind
to the action, and your action is do I want
to go call this individual and deal with Maybe this
person is making you feel bad because they you know,
they have negative talks. Yeah, see negative conversations. Do you
want to be around somebody who is welcome? But negativity?
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And what I mean by negativity is that is it
always got to be something wrong. And I'm always going
to stress this with anyone I talk to. The reason
why people are mainly talk about negativity or what comes
at it off because they're not happy with their situation.
And if they're not going to take your advice, and
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you mentioned say go get counseling. Then you may going
to have to change your surroundings. And you might want
to do that now because this is a new year.
See this habits, habits that we have and we can
change them. Okay. See these are different things that if
making you feel funny. You don't have to be around
these individuals. That's a choice. So you can change that
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if you want to. Okay. Just like if you don't
want to swear, you don't have to find what is
promoting you to swear. Okay. Now, we're not always going
to have a perfect day. Now. I do believe that
you have to deal with things each day so it
can make you stronger. I get that and I had
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to learn that myself. Okay, But there is people that
you don't need to be around. If they're making you
feel not happy for yourself or content, or they're making
you feel sad, you don't need to be around those individuals.
So this is something that you want to take in
consideration this year as you go day by day. I
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don't like the way that person feels will make I
don't like the way that person makes me feel simple, right.
I don't want to be around somebody who makes me
feel bad about me, or maybe they feel bad about themselves,
but they're you know, they're forcing me to feel bad.
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And it's not my fault that their life is this way. See,
it's not your fault. But you have to allow people
to They can be who they want to be, but
they don't have to be around you in your circle.
So you got to think about that. That's something that's
very important that you really need to consider. And on
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that note, I'm gonna come back one and talk more.
I'd be right back with the doctor Malika Clarischell on
the Boat and Brave TV Network. Well what come in life?
Do not go nowhere? If I will be right back.
It was because of me having a voice and saying
something about what had happened to me, because I can't
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believe it. I can't believe that these individuals put their
good name and their reputation on the line just to
hurt somebody because they spoke up. Yes, see, that's what
happens when you speak up. I get it, but I'm
not fearful because of that. Even though I went through
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a lot and still go through a lot of things.
I got God on my side, and I feel like
if that is not enough, then I don't know what
it is. Because I'm still standing and I'm still telling
my story and I'm gonna keep on telling stories. And
that is why I like film, Because film you're being
able to express things that you went through and experiences
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and people. You know, you'd be amazed what you can do.
Speaker 1 (18:19):
Hello, All Three Corners of Deception movie is now available
on Prime Video.
Speaker 5 (18:28):
How about that.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
October fourteen, twenty twenty three, on my fiftieth birthday, I am.
Speaker 5 (18:35):
Going to release this and.
Speaker 1 (18:37):
You guys could go ahead and help me do just that.
Speaker 5 (18:42):
Go see that movie.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
Thank you for all the support and not giving up
on me.
Speaker 5 (18:48):
Go see that Three Corners of Deception. Release me from
all the pain and everything I've been through.
Speaker 1 (18:56):
Go see the movie.
Speaker 5 (18:58):
Thank you.
Speaker 4 (18:59):
I love you all.
Speaker 5 (19:00):
Thank you for all of the support.
Speaker 1 (19:03):
See that movie, Prime Video, Prime Video.
Speaker 5 (19:11):
God bless you all. I love you all. Welcome back
to the Doctor Melika Claire Show on the Build and
Brave TV Network. Well we'll come in love, Yes, We'll
recome in life. People will back. So before I went
on break, I was talking about how you don't have
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to interact with individuals that make you feel indifferent and
it brings your increases your anxiety level and increases your
emotions towards the negative. And I and you know, I
just want to really really let you know that you
might have to do some changing. And I say that
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these are type of habits because we have a habit
of being around somebody, a habit of you know, talking
of people on the phone that we normally talk to.
That could be a habit after a while, you know.
But these are habits that we can change because they're
not helpful habits if they're making you feel not good
inside and then that shows outside. So here's the word
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of advice, you know, let's change some of these habits.
Like and I use the example of swearing because it's like, okay,
that's something I always, you know, try to change because
I don't feel like I need to always swear and
utilize that word when I can put another word. It's
just something like else don't need to do. And so
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I've done that, okay, So I kind of like master
to a point that I'm like, yeah, I'm good, take
that off the list, you know, but don't get me
wrong if I want to poper swear, so I could
be in conversation, but I'm just saying it's just something
I worked at. So we're not perfect people, but you
can work on something and the other habits that you
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can work If you're upset about something and you normally
smoke or drink or you know, those type of habits too,
because they go back into emotions, you have to think
about why are you doing that. The emotion could develop
an anxiety something that you're not comfortable with, and it
makes you uncomfortable, so you do something to try to
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calm your nerves down, which I give you my example.
I used to feel like really bad anxiety about court,
but not the fact that I didn't want to go
to court. It's the fact that when I was going
to court, they weren't utilizing the law correctly, and it
was hurting me because I was like, Wow, this is
not the law. What they're doing it's really bad, and
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I don't trust the system because of that. But what
it really was is that I didn't trust the people.
Those people were doing bad things with the law, and
that's what made me feel uncomfortable. And so when I
started changing things and going to different places, I was like, oh, wow,
everyone's like this, So my anxiety level was decreasing. But
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I wasn't feeling as intimidated to go to court because
I realized that when I change different locations in different courts,
I was like, Okay, not everybody asks like that, not
everybody behaves like that, not everybody treats people like that.
So I'm starting to feel a little ease. But what
really helps is that I pray. I pray God. I
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pray to God all the time for protection, and that
is really the sum of it, you know. But that's
what I do because there's something I can't see, and
if I can't see it, I don't know why I'm
walking into. But I know God does see it, and
he knows what I'm walking into. And I pray for
protection because he's gonna have to make me strong so
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I can get stronger to deal with whatever I gotta
deal with. And that's life. Sometimes you have to get stronger.
And I always have to tell my children that too.
I say, Yay, you know what, You're gonna have to
fight the fear. You know, you just gotta have to.
There's good people out there, and there's bad people out there,
and not everybody has your best interest. Unfortunately. I wish
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I could just tell my kids or even just tell
you guys that it's a perfect world. It's not a
perfect world, and not everybody is. They have good intentions.
Some people don't have good intentions. But we can't be
fearful because of that. We have to fight that. And sometimes,
like I said, those the habits are temporary and they
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kind of like make you feel good and you're like,
oh now I feel better, but you really didn't. You
really didn't do anything. I mean, you feel better for
a minute, which is only temporary, but you really didn't
get through it. You gotta learn not to use something
to make you feel better. You have to learn how
to control it on your own without nothing. I know.
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Oh my gosh, it's that hard because it is so
that means you can't go out there and drink, can't smoke,
can't do drugs, pills, whatever it is. You have to
try to control these emotions on your own well nothing.
I know. That's hard, right, yeah it is, but you
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gotta do it. And how can you get through that?
How can you do it? Well? Prayer helps, it really does.
Put it in God's hand. I realize that when you
take things in your own as the self flesh, you
make it more difficult because the flesh don't want to struggle.
They want it, they don't first of all, we're not
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patient and we don't want to wait. We want it
over now. And believe me, I know what now means
because I've been in that situation. Now, I'm gonna take
care of this myself. But it doesn't work like that,
and I wish it did, but it doesn't. So you're
gonna have to learn. Let's start with the basics. Why
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am I feeling this way? Internal? And if I could
say a word to you and it made you feel
that way, let's deal with that word, and let's take
it apart like a definition. You know, you got a
suffix the previous, you got a root. Let's go to
the root of the problem and find out why are
we having this feeling of anxiety? Why? And you could
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say a couple of words to yourself and then you
know it'll just instantly get that emotion going. You could
be your first Actually, I want to say, you could
be your worst enemy, because sometime we let our mind
go somewhere else and we constantly just think about it.
Like you could have a good day and then all
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sudden you think about this thing, and then what happens.
You go right down to that bad day or that feeling,
and that is what you gotta control. So even if
you thought about it, you're like, all right, dealt with it.
I'm good. Let me go pray some more, you know, Oh,
let me go meditate, let me do something that I
really like to get out of this funk, out of
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this feeling, because you know what you are bringing it.
You're thinking about it, and maybe it's not happening. Like,
for instance, I don't go to court thirty one days
out of the year. I mean thirty one days out
of the month. I don't, So why would I keep
thinking about it. I don't have to keep on thinking
about it. I need to go ahead and relax and
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just say, hey, you know what, deal with it. When
I deal with it, and keep praying, and God will
let me know.
Speaker 4 (26:29):
I know.
Speaker 5 (26:30):
That's kind of like it's easy said than done, because
you're kind of saying it yourself. Well, I can't. I
don't know if it's going to happen. I don't know
if he's going to make a move right there. I'm
gonna have to believe and have faith that he's going
to make a move to make me feel better. And
every time I do that, I feel better. And I
will have to say, it takes some time for you
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to get to that place of discipline. And I'm fifty
one years old and it took me a minute, but
I'm getting close to like feel like, yeah, okay, I'm
good with this because I'm still going to get upset
and I'm still going to be disappointed, but I asked
God he helps me at that moment and I don't
feel like the pressure and I lower those emotions and
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that anxiety level goes down.
Speaker 4 (27:17):
All right.
Speaker 5 (27:18):
On that note, I'm going to take a brief commercial
and I'll be right back with the Doctor Malika Claire
Show on the Bolt and Brave TV Network. Do not
go nowhere. Felm will be right back. It was really
hard for me to do that movie sometimes because at
that time, because ten years ago is what I went through,
it wasn't then, So I had to take Even they
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say you play yourself, it's not really always easy to
play yourself. You have to play yourself ten years ago
when your mind was just comboblated and you felt betrayed,
you know what I mean, You felt like, you know,
life was just not it and you know, not in
my situation.
Speaker 4 (27:58):
And it is based on true events, you know.
Speaker 5 (28:00):
Unfortunately, it's about judicial deception, but it's also about romance
and drama and divorced.
Speaker 4 (28:05):
It's something that just went.
Speaker 5 (28:07):
To a different way, but as I changed it and
went into a movie. But what's interesting about this situation
people don't understand. It's a flow technique for me. That
was my release the finish of this movie. I'm a
human being, but I'm not perfect and I have my
own flaws, but I'm working in progress. And if you're
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trying to change something, you're able to do it. You
have the power, you have the key to your own success.
And with that being said, I'm just glad that I'm
able to do this and share other people's testimonies. And
I'm so glad that there's many guests that I've already
had on the show that have expressed their you know,
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challenges or what they've been going through or went through
in their life. And I say that it's because they're
not perfect. So it's good that they expressed that Welcome
back to the Doctor Malica Clary Show on the Built
and Brave TV network. Well we're coming, lah oop, well
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where we're coming. Love, I didn't want to come out,
so there you go. I'm like, well, oops, I had
an oops, and that happens. That's life. You have an oops.
That's so funny, but you know what, that's life. Things
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don't always happen when you plan them out, and sometimes
that happens. You just have an oops. And does it
stop you. No, it doesn't. You got to keep on moving.
And that is what I also want to say before
we went on break. Changing your surroundings and changing what
is making you feel uncomfortable and dealing with those emotions,
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and you can call me. I mean, like I said,
I will set you in the right direction. And if
I don't know it or I need to find a
psych cologists in your era, I will do that. If
I'm not available just to try to help you, and
I'm always having people on my platform you know that
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you can reach out to to be able to learn
how to control these emotions because that's what they are too.
When we have disappointments in our life and things just
don't go the way we want, you know, and you
could always ask somebody else and tell them, hey, do
you need help? Explain to them do you need help?
You know, the best gift that you can give somebody
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that you constantly hearing that they're not enjoying their life
is give them a card or give them some advice
and say, hey, this is a person you know, a psychologist,
a counselor, or a mental therapist or psychiatrists, you know,
call that person because I think they will be able
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to help you. I think that's good. Sometimes it's like,
don't give me a gift, give me something that I
can utiliz that I know that I need. And it
helped me mentally and physically, because think about it, when
you hear about your friends or loved ones or anybody,
you don't always want to hear how bad the day is.
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You know, you want them to have a good day.
You want them, but it has to start with internal first.
They gotta love how they feel, they gotta love how
they look. They kind of love themselves. And I think
that's so important to go into this year and loving
yourself because it's not a selfish act to love yourself,
and it's not like consider or anything like that, because
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think about it, If you don't love yourself, how can
you love anybody else? So why not start with yourself?
So then you could smile because smiling is therapeutic people,
and that means you're happy with yourself. You're happy how
you feel, and don't let nobody take that joy away
from you. Just shine because you can't and it's okay,
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it's not hard. I'm getting tired of walking black people
and they just don't even want to smile. They're just bad.
So I think we need to work on that. So
here's a couple of things that I like to work
on and I want people to work on. How about listening?
How about listening? Listening people, You don't have to listen
to everybody that you think that's, you know, trying to
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tell you this or tell you how to live your life.
But listen to if they are not able to say hey,
I don't have the answer to your question, you know
what I mean, listen to the advice and say, hey,
maybe you should seek counselor let them listen to you
tell your problems to that person, let them give you advice.
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And don't get me wrong, I've heard this too. Not
every mental therapist or psychologist or psychiatrists or counselor gives
great advice. I know they're human beings. I mean, unfortunately,
I feel like they are human beings. But if you
are giving them the information and you're not trying to
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hold anything out, then they'll be able to help you.
Because I look at like this. If I couldn't help you,
then I'm going to transfer you to somebody else they can,
because I believe, hey, I'm not a perfect person. But
if I don't know something and I don't specialize in
that's something, then I'm definitely going to transfer you to
another individual that can help you better than I can.
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But I'm gonna try first because I like knowing new
things too, and I like to know that I can
help anyone, you know, whatever the issue may be. But
if I don't, I'm not going to keep on, you know,
encouraging you and then or not even encourage you, kind
of like listening to you and just taking your money
and just saying yay, yay, yay, yay yay. That's not
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that's not the word. That's not how help works. That
that I could tell that to a friend of mine
and just have them sit there and listen to me
without giving no advice and without receiving no advice and nothing.
And I just got a body right there, and they're
just gonna listen to me. Event No, we are not
here just to listen to you. Event we are here
to listen to what you want to change so we
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can help you change that. You understand what I'm saying. See,
that's how it works. So if you are looking for
a new job, tell me why you want that job?
New job? Why? And I tell you what kind of
tools you need to be able to have that new job.
So hell's well listening God, start listening. So if you
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ain't listening very well and everything is your way, not
in highway, it's just you know whatever, then that's the start.
You're not listening and you get a job and you
lose a job and you wonder why you are not working?
Is why? Start asking what did you do? What you
didn't do? Okay, if you're wondering why the relationship is
(34:56):
not working, well I ask some questions. Why are you
listening to what they have to say? Or you just
listen to yourself because you don't want to hear what
they have to say. That doesn't mean you have to
agree with them. It's just you hurt them and they
hurt you. Now you can make a decision if you
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guys want to be together or you want to continue
the job. But at the end of the day, it
still starts with listening. Because now everybody knows everything, you
got to listen to something. And I know every time
I speak to people, I always tell them they don't
like it, but I still tell them that's what's on
my mind. That's how I feel. You know, you cancknowledge
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it or not, but I'm still gonna tell you the truth.
For me, that's my truth. Now if you don't agree,
that's on you. But maybe this is what we have
is not gonna work out, and that could be a
working relationship, it may not work out because you know,
some people just it clashes. Not everybody interacts well, and
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that is just like that. So stop with listening. I
know it's hard, but stop listening. Okay, stop with listening,
because at the end of the day, you do still
have choices in your life what to do and what
not to do, and what you want to tolerate and
what you don't have to tolerate. You know what I mean,
you have the answer and you have a decision to make,
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So it's can't blame anybody else for something you did.
You have to be accountable. That goes right into the
next something. I want to talk about accountability. We all
talk about being accountable. I think we need to really
be accountable for our actions. And if you don't understand
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that what accountability is. And I know that's kind of
hard because we always be like, well you did that,
Oh you did that, it's your fault? Is it really
your fault? You got A is first in alphabets AB,
so you got cause and effect. People cause and effect,
you got action and reaction. See how that goes one
(37:10):
and two. See but I'm going to tell you that
these are the things that we need to work on
because you're in a new year. It means new attitude, right,
and you have to make decisions. So you have to
have a different perspective on life so you can enjoy
each day and have a better outlook. So on that note,
(37:32):
we are going to take a brief commercial and we'll
be right back with the Doctor Malica Claary show. Don't
go nowhere fro them, We'll be right back. It was
because of me having a voice and saying something about
what had happened to me, because I can't believe it.
I can't believe that these individuals put their good name
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and their reputation on the line just to hurt somebody,
because because they spoke up. Yes see, that's what happens
when you speak up. I get it, but I'm not
fearful because of that. Even though I went through a
lot and still go through a lot of things, I
got God on my side, and I feel like if
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that is not enough, then I don't know what it is.
Because I'm still standing and I'm still telling my story
and I'm gonna keep on telling stories. And that is
why I like film, Because film you're being able to
express things that you went through and experiences and people.
You know, you'd be amazed what you can do. Oh,
(38:36):
because you mentioned it said, you know, I believe in
God and I surrendered, and you know, when someone is
addicted to something, it's a challenge, it's tough. What was
that moment that you said, I can't do it anymore?
Speaker 7 (38:53):
Well, in book number two, I talk about how I've
been in prison, My prison number fifty eight nine nine
thirty one, I had that number for the rest of
my life. Is just not a functional number. I talk
about how I was delivered from a homosexual lifestyle. I
talk about how I had a man that left him
for another man. I talk about how I had a
man that was HIV but never told me. But I'm
(39:13):
sitting here today I don't have as HIV and I
have a lot of people always say your immune system
was so strong, that was the blood of Jesus that
colored me.
Speaker 5 (39:23):
Welcome back to the Doctor Malika Claire show when we're
coming in life on the bolting Bridge TV, So welcome back.
All right. Before it went on break, he is talking
about listening while we went into accountability. Okay, so let
me explain what I mean by accountability. And I'm always
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going to have to really preach that because it's the
beginning of the year. People. Let's start with these bad
habits and not being accountable. So let's say, for example,
I know you don't like this, and it WIT's perfect,
but let's say if you scheduled appointment. Okay, well you
scheduled appointment with the individual, all right, and it's at
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one o'clock.
Speaker 2 (40:11):
All right.
Speaker 5 (40:12):
Well, if you had scheduled a meeting with someone at
one o'clock. Don't you think that the person should be
there at one o'clock at least you're thinking one o'clock, right, Okay,
Well you're meeting the one o'clock person didn't show up,
so you're just kind of waiting, you know, right around
not one o'clock is one fifteen. Now you communicate with
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individual and you know, no response, no response. Okay, so
you waited and waited and waited. No communication. You know,
no communication. All right. Well, if it's no communication, what
can you do? Well, you call again, like you say,
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you know, just to see what happened. Maybe something happened,
you know, no, nothing, flatline nothing, And like two days later,
person or a business person pop up, okay, and they
don't act like they care if they're late or didn't
call or didn't respond, or maybe you did have a
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little bit of communication but nothing to say that you
had the meeting because you didn't have the meeting. Maybe
they were the NM late, maybe they did let you
know something but didn't get back on the call or something.
I don't know. But let's think about accountability. So if
that is the situation, you're accountable for your own actions
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and the other person's countable for their own actions. Discloes
with relationships, business relationships, romantic relationships, personal relationships, children relationships,
family relationships, anything. Accountability is taking accountability for what you
did in that situation. Being accountable. So if a person
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is not saying why they did not get in touch
with you, or they're denying the fact and they just
sit up there and tell you, well, okay, two it's
been two days. Okay, well it's a new year, then
that means that person really not value in your time.
I mean you're saying two days ago or three days ago,
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and then they get back in touch with you. Well,
that kind of makes you feel like it's not a
serious situation when I do business with that person. Or
if you have a relationship and you ask questions and
you spoke about something a person wanting. Now you aren't
arguing nothing, but you want to answer on something and
they don't get back in touch with you, or when
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they do, they don't even mention about what you was
talking about. That's somebody who doesn't want to be accountable.
That you're waiting for some information from them and they
don't want to give it to you, or they don't
want to discuss anything, So that means that it's not
your fault. So you people who don't want to be
accountable for your own actions, it's not the other person's fault.
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If they're trying to communicate with you and you refuse
to communicate. If something's going on or something happened, why
didn't you show up? You have to be accountable for that.
And being accountable is acknowledging that there's other people waiting
for you, and they're waiting on they have other things
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to do with their life too. Now we're not We're
not meant to just sit here. Don't get me wrong.
I could be patient, even me, and I have to
say this, If you have a one o'clock appointment, I'll
give it to you. Well one fifteen, then I'm going to
reschedule you. Okay, Now that's how I feel, because evidently
you're not ready and so you got until one fifteen.
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I'm pro bonum, but that doesn't mean I want to
waste my time waiting for you and you're you know
you're busy. Something's going on. This is not a good time.
You got to communicate that, because even if I'm pro boned,
that doesn't mean I'm gonna waste my pro bono time
waiting for you. You have to consider people's feelings and
consider their time, and don't try to argue to say, hey,
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this person or you know whatever, I did this or
I did that. Well, if it's an emergency or something,
then you should communicate that. But if you're not communicating
that there was an emergency crisis and you're just basically
not caring that you didn't communicate with this person and
you had a meeting or whatever the case may be,
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then that means you're a fault. You gotta be accountable.
I know we can argue about things if we want to,
but why argue if you're wrong? I would get on
the phone, or if I'm meeting somebody, if I'm talking
about something and I did something, I would just say
you're right, I'm sorry. There's more than one way to
communicate with person something's going on. You can call them,
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you can text them, you can email them, or you
could say something that's just in a business situation. But
let's say if there was something you were supposed to
do for your loved one and you didn't do it,
you put it off forever and then until they get
really upset and they say, hey, did you do this?
Can you do this? Then you're and you come up
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with all these different excuses instead of I, actually, can
you do this? You know I needed this done, and
then you're coming with all these laundry lists of why
you didn't do it. So that's not being accountable for
your action, because you should just say I didn't have
time or I'm sorry, I'm sorry. Shouldn't even commit it
to that, you know what I mean. I shouldn't made
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no commitment to doing that because I had something else
to do and I did not know that, because then
you make someone else feel bad. So we have to
learn on being a common and I think that is
really important because some people, you know, some people do
depend on you to be accountable for your own actions,
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not always trying to blame it on somebody else or
blame it on the fact that, well, you know, come
with all these excuses. You don't have to come with
all these excuses, you really don't. I mean, that's how
being accountable is. You know you didn't do it, you
should have did it, and let's move on and what
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can we do to resolve it? And some people you
can't resolve certain things because think about in the professional world,
professionalism is very important. If you show people that you
are late or you not responding and you don't do
that until a couple of days later or whatever, it
keise me, you show no interest and why would I
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wouldn't want to do business with that person? Why would
you think about it? You're not being accountable for your
make you look bad and you make me feel bad
or make the other person feel some way because you're
just you're not taking it serious. So therefore, while you're
wasting time, don't get me wrong, let's stop wasting time
with people who don't want to have our time. Bam,
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they go, I understand some things happened, but if you
don't really got an excuse soon you're really just like
hey whatever, then you're really not tuned in and that
shows a lot. So let's stop wasting time for you know,
people who don't want to have our time. How's that?
I think? I like that one. Okay, so we got
to learn that accountability people. And on that note, I'm
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going to take a brief commercial and I'll be right
back with the Doctor Malika Claire show on the Bolting
Braid TV Network, be right back them, We'll be right back.
Speaker 2 (47:51):
It was an interesting moment for.
Speaker 1 (47:53):
Me at the time because I really wasn't seeking someone
or anyone, I should say. I just hope if I
did meet someone that they would be a positive person
to meet.
Speaker 2 (48:11):
Everything he would sing and doing was making me fall
in love with him.
Speaker 4 (48:28):
Fighting over custody a lot of people quit, but when
that's just.
Speaker 3 (48:31):
How we got to be, but she keeps on fighting
ninety takes.
Speaker 4 (48:34):
A lot of that.
Speaker 5 (48:36):
How you like your part?
Speaker 2 (48:39):
The characters objection?
Speaker 4 (48:41):
Where's any of this evidence?
Speaker 5 (48:46):
I say to you for fifteen thousand dollars to see myself.
Speaker 6 (48:50):
This is all about a child, a poor point, born
into a battle, you know, with your life.
Speaker 3 (48:58):
But God's supply supply.
Speaker 5 (49:17):
You're trying to have a judge removed. I'll send you
herb for thousands of dollars for coming to court.
Speaker 3 (49:27):
How much money is clicks to get paying you and
your fellow survive survise.
Speaker 5 (49:50):
Welcome back to the Dark, Meliga Clary Show on the
Vote and Brave TV Network. Boy come in lovey we
are You know I always run at a time, and
I always want to say everything, and sometimes I just
try to get everything out because you know, I have
a lot on my plate. I try to help a
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lot of people.
Speaker 4 (50:14):
And I love it.
Speaker 5 (50:15):
Don't get me wrong. I wanna My concentration for this
year is to try to help individuals live a better life,
including myself. One day at a time, I give out
this information, little advice here, little advice there is to
help you live a better life within your means. So
I do want to go ahead and just stick on
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caring passion. I think we need to have. You know,
you have to welcome caring and have a little passion
about it. You know, it's for example, if you see
a little old lady across the street, what are you
gonna do. You're gonna walk a past the old lady.
You're gonna try to help across the street. You see
a little old lady try to open a door and
(50:57):
she's struggling. What you're gonna do. You're gonna help the
door so the little old lady can go walking in
the door. Well, you don't have to be a little
old lady or a little old man to do that,
And you can do that for anyone. See somebody struggling,
you know they got bags in the hand. Oh can
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I help you? I think that goes far. You know,
woman or male, we all can help, you know. And
I think that we need to have a little bit
of compassion for others because I think we're missing that.
And I think it was walking into this year caring
and smiling because you never know what one's going through,
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you know, we can. I guess put smile on my
face right now, and I shut this down and then
I'm thinking something totally negative. And that's how life is
with people. So I need I need you to try
to be the best you can be for you, but
let that version of you be good. Try to smile more,
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you know, try to have cap passion, and try to
care about you know, others. Like I said, if you
don't care about yourself, you're not gonna be able to
care about anybody else. So let's work that together and
feel good together and say thank you and appreciate when
people do things. Say thank you. I think we lost
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to thank you. I think we gotta say thank you.
We talk about negativity, but how do you change that
to positivity? If you can't change what you do, if
you can't be a leading example, say thank you. I
know I get upset. I do, but then I also
catch myself and I no problem apologize. Sorry, you know what,
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my bag, I didn't mean to do it like that.
I just get so you know, and that's true. You're
only here, but acknowledge it. And I think that's what's
so important. You got knowledge it, man, And I say
that because it's true. You have to acknowledge it. And
if you don't, you're going to keep on repeating the
(53:14):
same cycle and you're not going to care, and you're
just going to keep on until somebody really gets frustrated
with you and cut you off.
Speaker 2 (53:22):
Done.
Speaker 5 (53:23):
And sometimes it's like that. Sometimes you gotta be done.
You got to move on. But let's start with being
better and better than yesterday. Ask for it. You don't
know how to do it, and I know you can,
so smile more, try find something, got up, do something
different because you can't. All right, And on that note,
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I love you. I want you to have a wonderful
rest of the day and a wonderful weekend to come
and remember God is watching. Pray and do that thing
that makes you feel good. And if you haven't did
it anything different and you're putting it off and you
want to do something different.
Speaker 4 (54:04):
You can call me.
Speaker 5 (54:05):
I'll try to help you understand that you can do it.
You can do anything you want. No, just allow yourself
to do it, one day at a time. All right, people,
all right, God bless you and I wish you all
the best today always, But this is what we got. Enjoy,
(54:26):
finish off strong and have a wonderful time. And thank
you for tuning in to the building The Doctor Melika
Clary Show on the Bold and Brave TV Network. Unless
you are all.
Speaker 8 (54:37):
Right, love you, you've been watching the Doctor Malika Clarie Show.
Tune in next week as Doctor Malika will help you
shift towards a better life. But this show doesn't stop there.
She'll provide helpful tips regarding surviving the entertainment industry and
the judicial system with practical information Thursday, two pm Eastern
(55:01):
here on the Bowl Brave TV Network
It was an interesting moment for me at the time
because I really wasn't seeking someone or anyone I should say,
I just hope if I did meet someone that they
would be a positive person to meet.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
Everything he was saying and doing was making me fall
in love with him.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
Nostodic.
Speaker 4 (01:00):
Lot of people quit, but when that's just how we
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But she keeps on fighting nothing.
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Speaker 5 (01:07):
Do like you in mature card shot characters. Objection with
any of this evidence of this, Harner, I say to
you for getting eight thousand dollars to see myself.
Speaker 6 (01:21):
This is all about a child, a poor boy born
into a bout five.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
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You know what your lies God supply got a.
Speaker 3 (01:36):
Surply star, No pay, no joy something.
Speaker 5 (01:47):
You're trying to have a judge. I'll shake you from
her for thousands of dollars four coming to quot how
much money you came to get paid? You don't Jesus.
(02:20):
Welcome to the Doctor Malika Clary show on the Boat
and Brave TV Network, but welcome in live Oh yes,
we are so here. It goes. First of all, I
want to say thank you God for allowing me to
get up this morning and to be able to say
I love you to all my loved ones. I think
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that is so important for us to be able to
say that, because you don't know what's going to go on,
and you just don't know. So I give thanks to
God because he knows and I don't, so I appreciate that.
And here we go, people, We're in the new year.
How about that? A new year? Okay, So with that
(03:04):
being said, new things should come about and we're going
to talk about it. So I want to say, first
of all, I want to thank you to my engineer
who does you know, Caleb and Dan, thank you so much.
I appreciate all your hope last year and made it wonderful.
We did the best we could, and you know, audio
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and engineer just just let y'all know. Let me just
go ahead and put this out there, just in case
we are lagging with internet right now. Is because I
am out of town. You guys already know when I'm
out of town, the internet works funny. So we got
some funny things going on. So I might be lagging
here and there, but it's out of Michael trope. But
that's life. So going back to thank you Kleep and
(03:46):
Dan for your engineering, everybody else who contributes to bringing
the Doctor Malika Clary Show on Bold and Brave TV live.
And I'm so grateful for that because I get to
do the things I like to do. And I want
to say thank you to my fans. Thank you very
much for you know, watching the Doctor Melika Clary Show,
(04:09):
really contributing and sharing. I see you, I see you,
I see you, And thank you for watching the movie
Three Coins Exception that is available on Prime Video. So please,
if you have not seen it already, just go and
watch it. You know it's part of me. It's a
bival something I've been through, but it's also a movie,
(04:30):
so enjoy. I get your pop on if you haven't
seen it yet. Also let me let you know that
if you haven't signed up to my group, the Doctor
Milika Clary ghoshou I believe it is. It might just
be Doctor Milika Clary, but anyway, it's a group I
have on Facebook. Go ahead. That's positivity. I put a
(04:51):
lot a lot of informations on there and what people
are saying that's good things positive. So that's on Facebook,
and you also could follow me on Instagram, TikTok, snapchat,
linked in, YouTube, or just google me. You know, I
(05:13):
have all these social media so please just google me
and follow me, follow, follow, and you know, I just
want us to have a wonderful, great year. But I'm
going to get into a lot of that stuff, and
I just wanted to give acknowledgements to my family. Thank
you so much for everything you guys do, and I
(05:33):
mean all all my family. You know who you are,
share and do things, and you know, I just want
to throw that out there and my friends, thank you
so much. And I think it's always important to your
knowledge even though some support people give you, and then
there's some support people give you that might be a
little different than others. And I just want to let
(05:55):
you all know that I appreciate you all and I
love you so much. So you keep up the good
work and whatever you're sending my way, whatever I can
do to help, I do. You know who you are,
so we work together, and I think that is so important,
you know, to understand that it's not just about you,
but it's also about other people too, And I think
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that's what we need to do this year. Is remember
others too, because I try to do that now and
I'll get into other stuff because I want this year,
you know, to be amazing for everyone. And of course
if you don't know by now, I live one day
at a time, and before I get into all that,
(06:37):
I want to also say my website, just in case
you do not remember, it's doctor Melika Clary dot com.
So please go ahead and email me. You can go
on my website email me. You know, I try to
discuss certain questions on my platform, and I do have
a pile of questions and sometime I've already answered your
(06:59):
question without putting you out there, already answered it. So
I'm glad with all the feedback that I'm getting. Thank
you so much. I appreciate all of you for tuning
in and listening, and I'm so glad some things are
working for you. Like I said, and I always going to
state this, that you're never going to just change all
in one day. It would be great, great to just
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change one day. It's going to take time, and that's
something that one day at a time. So if you're
patient to understand one day at a time, then things
could change for you. I'm sure it will so. But
and I am going to mention this with prayer. You
can do anything, you know. I believe in God. But
what if that spirituality thing for you is seek it
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because it works for you. And I think that's important.
So keep on doing that as long as it's positive,
it's not hurting anybody. And on that note, what I'm
going to do right now, I'm going to take a
brief commercial and I'll be right back with the Doctor
Malika Claire Show on the Boat and Brave TV Network,
not going nowhere from will be right back. Hello.
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To release this, and you guys could go ahead and
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God bless you all. I love you all.
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It was really hard for me to do that.
Speaker 5 (09:00):
Movie sometimes because at that time, because ten years ago
is what I went through, it wasn't then, so I
had to take Even they say you play yourself, it's
not really always easy to play yourself.
Speaker 4 (09:13):
You have to play.
Speaker 5 (09:14):
Yourself ten years ago when your mind was just comboblated
and you felt betrayed, you know what I mean. You
felt like, you know, life was just not it and
you know, not in my situation. And it's based on
true events and you know, unfortunately it's about judicial deception,
but it's also about romance and drama and divorced.
Speaker 4 (09:34):
It's something that just went to a.
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Different way, but as I changed it and went into
a movie. But what's interesting about this situation People don't understand.
It's a flow technique for me. That was my release
to finish this movie. Welcome Back to the Dark and
Malika Clari Show on the Boat and Brave TV Network.
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Well we're come in, lah, Yes we are have become
in life people. Oh gosh, I'm so happy about that. Well,
you know, I'm in Tennessee, so let me bring that up.
I had to come back here. I went here for
a gala award ceremony by the International Association of Top professionals,
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but I decided to bring some of my family members
that could make it with me. I'm not too far
drove like what four hours, and it was like cool
and they actually like it, you know, So I figure, hey,
bringing the new year with family and doing something a
little different. You know. Sometime when I get these chances
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that I experienced new you know, areas and cities or states,
I like to, you know, invite my family members on
vacation or something you know, together that we can do
and they haven't experienced, so now they have, at least
a couple of them did so. But it's just so
much fun to be able to do that. So we're
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having a blast. You're having a good time actually relaxing,
because that's what vacation is too. It's also relaxing. You know,
you do so much, you work, you go to school.
You know that you just take some downtime and this
is when you can lay around and be lazy and
it doesn't matter. It's like, okay, whatever, I don't want
to do nothing. I don't have to because you're on vacation,
and that's what it is. Sometimes you can be on
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vacation at home too and say hey, I'm gonna take
a day off and I'm gonna be vacation. That's what
vacation is. People. You take a day off for yourself
and you relax, and if you want to stay in
your pj's all day, go ahead and do it. Who
you're hurting nobody, you know, So just keeping that mind vacation.
But this is going to go right into some things
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that I want to talk about. Okay, So we know
we're going we're in this new year, all right, what
does that mean to you when you go into a
new year? And let me just highlight us some of
the things that I've known and last year that I
think people need to change this year. Okay, And if
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this is you, please pay attention because I want you
to catch it. Okay, how about let's talk about habits.
See I have many clients that have different habits. Now,
when I talk about habits, a habit could be something
that you don't like to do for yourself. And some
habits could be something that you like to do, but
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they might be called hobbies. So when you talk about habit,
that is something that you really don't want to do, like,
for example, swearing. You may not want to swear all
the time. So how do you stay disciplined in that? Well,
let's talk about why something is making you feel like
you need to put extra attention to something, and that
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is with emotions. Okay, So if you're having this different
type of emotion that's getting you ready to come up,
think about why are you having that emotion? And it
might be something that you don't like, or you're feeling
a little different, or maybe your surroundings and you feel uncomfortable.
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Well you could start to try to change that. Let's
tune into your emotions and think about Okay, so I
don't like how I feel when I'm around this individual,
for instance, and maybe they are more argumentive. How do
you avoid that? Well, you may have to avoid being
around that person as much as you used to. Why
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because you're not as comfortable anymore. And if you do
want to be around that individual, then you're going to
learn how to be around the individual and not let them,
you know, develop help you with your increasing your anxiety
or increasing your emotions. You might want to go ahead
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and realize why you're having that that feeling around that person.
It would be wonderful if you could deal with that
emotion around them, because then when you get around that individual,
you'll know how to deal with that individual. But then
I'm going to have to say there's two sides to that.
You don't have to be around that person either if
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they're making you feel that way. See, we think that
we have to be around other people all the time
that makes us feel like we're not comfortable or not worthy.
Or you don't have to. That's a choice. It's a
choice to get up. No, actually it's God's choice to
get you up. But it's a choice after you do
get up to whatever you want to do during that
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day or some action. Okay, so you're putting a mind
to the action, and your action is do I want
to go call this individual and deal with Maybe this
person is making you feel bad because they you know,
they have negative talks. Yeah, see negative conversations. Do you
want to be around somebody who is welcome? But negativity?
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And what I mean by negativity is that is it
always got to be something wrong. And I'm always going
to stress this with anyone I talk to. The reason
why people are mainly talk about negativity or what comes
at it off because they're not happy with their situation.
And if they're not going to take your advice, and
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you mentioned say go get counseling. Then you may going
to have to change your surroundings. And you might want
to do that now because this is a new year.
See this habits, habits that we have and we can
change them. Okay. See these are different things that if
making you feel funny. You don't have to be around
these individuals. That's a choice. So you can change that
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if you want to. Okay. Just like if you don't
want to swear, you don't have to find what is
promoting you to swear. Okay. Now, we're not always going
to have a perfect day. Now. I do believe that
you have to deal with things each day so it
can make you stronger. I get that and I had
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to learn that myself. Okay, But there is people that
you don't need to be around. If they're making you
feel not happy for yourself or content, or they're making
you feel sad, you don't need to be around those individuals.
So this is something that you want to take in
consideration this year as you go day by day. I
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don't like the way that person feels will make I
don't like the way that person makes me feel simple, right.
I don't want to be around somebody who makes me
feel bad about me, or maybe they feel bad about themselves,
but they're you know, they're forcing me to feel bad.
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And it's not my fault that their life is this way. See,
it's not your fault. But you have to allow people
to They can be who they want to be, but
they don't have to be around you in your circle.
So you got to think about that. That's something that's
very important that you really need to consider. And on
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that note, I'm gonna come back one and talk more.
I'd be right back with the doctor Malika Clarischell on
the Boat and Brave TV Network. Well what come in life?
Do not go nowhere? If I will be right back.
It was because of me having a voice and saying
something about what had happened to me, because I can't
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believe it. I can't believe that these individuals put their
good name and their reputation on the line just to
hurt somebody because they spoke up. Yes, see, that's what
happens when you speak up. I get it, but I'm
not fearful because of that. Even though I went through
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a lot and still go through a lot of things.
I got God on my side, and I feel like
if that is not enough, then I don't know what
it is. Because I'm still standing and I'm still telling
my story and I'm gonna keep on telling stories. And
that is why I like film, Because film you're being
able to express things that you went through and experiences
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and people. You know, you'd be amazed what you can do.
Speaker 1 (18:19):
Hello, All Three Corners of Deception movie is now available
on Prime Video.
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How about that.
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October fourteen, twenty twenty three, on my fiftieth birthday, I am.
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Going to release this and.
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You guys could go ahead and help me do just that.
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Go see that movie.
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Thank you for all the support and not giving up
on me.
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Go see that Three Corners of Deception. Release me from
all the pain and everything I've been through.
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Go see the movie.
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Thank you.
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I love you all.
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Thank you for all of the support.
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See that movie, Prime Video, Prime Video.
Speaker 5 (19:11):
God bless you all. I love you all. Welcome back
to the Doctor Melika Claire Show on the Build and
Brave TV Network. Well we'll come in love, Yes, We'll
recome in life. People will back. So before I went
on break, I was talking about how you don't have
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to interact with individuals that make you feel indifferent and
it brings your increases your anxiety level and increases your
emotions towards the negative. And I and you know, I
just want to really really let you know that you
might have to do some changing. And I say that
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these are type of habits because we have a habit
of being around somebody, a habit of you know, talking
of people on the phone that we normally talk to.
That could be a habit after a while, you know.
But these are habits that we can change because they're
not helpful habits if they're making you feel not good
inside and then that shows outside. So here's the word
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of advice, you know, let's change some of these habits.
Like and I use the example of swearing because it's like, okay,
that's something I always, you know, try to change because
I don't feel like I need to always swear and
utilize that word when I can put another word. It's
just something like else don't need to do. And so
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I've done that, okay, So I kind of like master
to a point that I'm like, yeah, I'm good, take
that off the list, you know, but don't get me
wrong if I want to poper swear, so I could
be in conversation, but I'm just saying it's just something
I worked at. So we're not perfect people, but you
can work on something and the other habits that you
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can work If you're upset about something and you normally
smoke or drink or you know, those type of habits too,
because they go back into emotions, you have to think
about why are you doing that. The emotion could develop
an anxiety something that you're not comfortable with, and it
makes you uncomfortable, so you do something to try to
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calm your nerves down, which I give you my example.
I used to feel like really bad anxiety about court,
but not the fact that I didn't want to go
to court. It's the fact that when I was going
to court, they weren't utilizing the law correctly, and it
was hurting me because I was like, Wow, this is
not the law. What they're doing it's really bad, and
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I don't trust the system because of that. But what
it really was is that I didn't trust the people.
Those people were doing bad things with the law, and
that's what made me feel uncomfortable. And so when I
started changing things and going to different places, I was like, oh, wow,
everyone's like this, So my anxiety level was decreasing. But
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I wasn't feeling as intimidated to go to court because
I realized that when I change different locations in different courts,
I was like, Okay, not everybody asks like that, not
everybody behaves like that, not everybody treats people like that.
So I'm starting to feel a little ease. But what
really helps is that I pray. I pray God. I
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pray to God all the time for protection, and that
is really the sum of it, you know. But that's
what I do because there's something I can't see, and
if I can't see it, I don't know why I'm
walking into. But I know God does see it, and
he knows what I'm walking into. And I pray for
protection because he's gonna have to make me strong so
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I can get stronger to deal with whatever I gotta
deal with. And that's life. Sometimes you have to get stronger.
And I always have to tell my children that too.
I say, Yay, you know what, You're gonna have to
fight the fear. You know, you just gotta have to.
There's good people out there, and there's bad people out there,
and not everybody has your best interest. Unfortunately. I wish
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I could just tell my kids or even just tell
you guys that it's a perfect world. It's not a
perfect world, and not everybody is. They have good intentions.
Some people don't have good intentions. But we can't be
fearful because of that. We have to fight that. And sometimes,
like I said, those the habits are temporary and they
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kind of like make you feel good and you're like,
oh now I feel better, but you really didn't. You
really didn't do anything. I mean, you feel better for
a minute, which is only temporary, but you really didn't
get through it. You gotta learn not to use something
to make you feel better. You have to learn how
to control it on your own without nothing. I know.
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Oh my gosh, it's that hard because it is so
that means you can't go out there and drink, can't smoke,
can't do drugs, pills, whatever it is. You have to
try to control these emotions on your own well nothing.
I know. That's hard, right, yeah it is, but you
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gotta do it. And how can you get through that?
How can you do it? Well? Prayer helps, it really does.
Put it in God's hand. I realize that when you
take things in your own as the self flesh, you
make it more difficult because the flesh don't want to struggle.
They want it, they don't first of all, we're not
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patient and we don't want to wait. We want it
over now. And believe me, I know what now means
because I've been in that situation. Now, I'm gonna take
care of this myself. But it doesn't work like that,
and I wish it did, but it doesn't. So you're
gonna have to learn. Let's start with the basics. Why
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am I feeling this way? Internal? And if I could
say a word to you and it made you feel
that way, let's deal with that word, and let's take
it apart like a definition. You know, you got a
suffix the previous, you got a root. Let's go to
the root of the problem and find out why are
we having this feeling of anxiety? Why? And you could
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say a couple of words to yourself and then you
know it'll just instantly get that emotion going. You could
be your first Actually, I want to say, you could
be your worst enemy, because sometime we let our mind
go somewhere else and we constantly just think about it.
Like you could have a good day and then all
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sudden you think about this thing, and then what happens.
You go right down to that bad day or that feeling,
and that is what you gotta control. So even if
you thought about it, you're like, all right, dealt with it.
I'm good. Let me go pray some more, you know, Oh,
let me go meditate, let me do something that I
really like to get out of this funk, out of
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this feeling, because you know what you are bringing it.
You're thinking about it, and maybe it's not happening. Like,
for instance, I don't go to court thirty one days
out of the year. I mean thirty one days out
of the month. I don't, So why would I keep
thinking about it. I don't have to keep on thinking
about it. I need to go ahead and relax and
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just say, hey, you know what, deal with it. When
I deal with it, and keep praying, and God will
let me know.
Speaker 4 (26:29):
I know.
Speaker 5 (26:30):
That's kind of like it's easy said than done, because
you're kind of saying it yourself. Well, I can't. I
don't know if it's going to happen. I don't know
if he's going to make a move right there. I'm
gonna have to believe and have faith that he's going
to make a move to make me feel better. And
every time I do that, I feel better. And I
will have to say, it takes some time for you
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to get to that place of discipline. And I'm fifty
one years old and it took me a minute, but
I'm getting close to like feel like, yeah, okay, I'm
good with this because I'm still going to get upset
and I'm still going to be disappointed, but I asked
God he helps me at that moment and I don't
feel like the pressure and I lower those emotions and
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that anxiety level goes down.
Speaker 4 (27:17):
All right.
Speaker 5 (27:18):
On that note, I'm going to take a brief commercial
and I'll be right back with the Doctor Malika Claire
Show on the Bolt and Brave TV Network. Do not
go nowhere. Felm will be right back. It was really
hard for me to do that movie sometimes because at
that time, because ten years ago is what I went through,
it wasn't then, So I had to take Even they
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say you play yourself, it's not really always easy to
play yourself. You have to play yourself ten years ago
when your mind was just comboblated and you felt betrayed,
you know what I mean, You felt like, you know,
life was just not it and you know, not in
my situation.
Speaker 4 (27:58):
And it is based on true events, you know.
Speaker 5 (28:00):
Unfortunately, it's about judicial deception, but it's also about romance
and drama and divorced.
Speaker 4 (28:05):
It's something that just went.
Speaker 5 (28:07):
To a different way, but as I changed it and
went into a movie. But what's interesting about this situation
people don't understand. It's a flow technique for me. That
was my release the finish of this movie. I'm a
human being, but I'm not perfect and I have my
own flaws, but I'm working in progress. And if you're
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trying to change something, you're able to do it. You
have the power, you have the key to your own success.
And with that being said, I'm just glad that I'm
able to do this and share other people's testimonies. And
I'm so glad that there's many guests that I've already
had on the show that have expressed their you know,
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challenges or what they've been going through or went through
in their life. And I say that it's because they're
not perfect. So it's good that they expressed that Welcome
back to the Doctor Malica Clary Show on the Built
and Brave TV network. Well we're coming, lah oop, well
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where we're coming. Love, I didn't want to come out,
so there you go. I'm like, well, oops, I had
an oops, and that happens. That's life. You have an oops.
That's so funny, but you know what, that's life. Things
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don't always happen when you plan them out, and sometimes
that happens. You just have an oops. And does it
stop you. No, it doesn't. You got to keep on moving.
And that is what I also want to say before
we went on break. Changing your surroundings and changing what
is making you feel uncomfortable and dealing with those emotions,
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and you can call me. I mean, like I said,
I will set you in the right direction. And if
I don't know it or I need to find a
psych cologists in your era, I will do that. If
I'm not available just to try to help you, and
I'm always having people on my platform you know that
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you can reach out to to be able to learn
how to control these emotions because that's what they are too.
When we have disappointments in our life and things just
don't go the way we want, you know, and you
could always ask somebody else and tell them, hey, do
you need help? Explain to them do you need help?
You know, the best gift that you can give somebody
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that you constantly hearing that they're not enjoying their life
is give them a card or give them some advice
and say, hey, this is a person you know, a psychologist,
a counselor, or a mental therapist or psychiatrists, you know,
call that person because I think they will be able
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to help you. I think that's good. Sometimes it's like,
don't give me a gift, give me something that I
can utiliz that I know that I need. And it
helped me mentally and physically, because think about it, when
you hear about your friends or loved ones or anybody,
you don't always want to hear how bad the day is.
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You know, you want them to have a good day.
You want them, but it has to start with internal first.
They gotta love how they feel, they gotta love how
they look. They kind of love themselves. And I think
that's so important to go into this year and loving
yourself because it's not a selfish act to love yourself,
and it's not like consider or anything like that, because
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think about it, If you don't love yourself, how can
you love anybody else? So why not start with yourself?
So then you could smile because smiling is therapeutic people,
and that means you're happy with yourself. You're happy how
you feel, and don't let nobody take that joy away
from you. Just shine because you can't and it's okay,
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it's not hard. I'm getting tired of walking black people
and they just don't even want to smile. They're just bad.
So I think we need to work on that. So
here's a couple of things that I like to work
on and I want people to work on. How about listening?
How about listening? Listening people, You don't have to listen
to everybody that you think that's, you know, trying to
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tell you this or tell you how to live your life.
But listen to if they are not able to say hey,
I don't have the answer to your question, you know
what I mean, listen to the advice and say, hey,
maybe you should seek counselor let them listen to you
tell your problems to that person, let them give you advice.
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And don't get me wrong, I've heard this too. Not
every mental therapist or psychologist or psychiatrists or counselor gives
great advice. I know they're human beings. I mean, unfortunately,
I feel like they are human beings. But if you
are giving them the information and you're not trying to
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hold anything out, then they'll be able to help you.
Because I look at like this. If I couldn't help you,
then I'm going to transfer you to somebody else they can,
because I believe, hey, I'm not a perfect person. But
if I don't know something and I don't specialize in
that's something, then I'm definitely going to transfer you to
another individual that can help you better than I can.
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But I'm gonna try first because I like knowing new
things too, and I like to know that I can
help anyone, you know, whatever the issue may be. But
if I don't, I'm not going to keep on, you know,
encouraging you and then or not even encourage you, kind
of like listening to you and just taking your money
and just saying yay, yay, yay, yay yay. That's not
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that's not the word. That's not how help works. That
that I could tell that to a friend of mine
and just have them sit there and listen to me
without giving no advice and without receiving no advice and nothing.
And I just got a body right there, and they're
just gonna listen to me. Event No, we are not
here just to listen to you. Event we are here
to listen to what you want to change so we
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can help you change that. You understand what I'm saying. See,
that's how it works. So if you are looking for
a new job, tell me why you want that job?
New job? Why? And I tell you what kind of
tools you need to be able to have that new job.
So hell's well listening God, start listening. So if you
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ain't listening very well and everything is your way, not
in highway, it's just you know whatever, then that's the start.
You're not listening and you get a job and you
lose a job and you wonder why you are not working?
Is why? Start asking what did you do? What you
didn't do? Okay, if you're wondering why the relationship is
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not working, well I ask some questions. Why are you
listening to what they have to say? Or you just
listen to yourself because you don't want to hear what
they have to say. That doesn't mean you have to
agree with them. It's just you hurt them and they
hurt you. Now you can make a decision if you
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guys want to be together or you want to continue
the job. But at the end of the day, it
still starts with listening. Because now everybody knows everything, you
got to listen to something. And I know every time
I speak to people, I always tell them they don't
like it, but I still tell them that's what's on
my mind. That's how I feel. You know, you cancknowledge
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it or not, but I'm still gonna tell you the truth.
For me, that's my truth. Now if you don't agree,
that's on you. But maybe this is what we have
is not gonna work out, and that could be a
working relationship, it may not work out because you know,
some people just it clashes. Not everybody interacts well, and
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that is just like that. So stop with listening. I
know it's hard, but stop listening. Okay, stop with listening,
because at the end of the day, you do still
have choices in your life what to do and what
not to do, and what you want to tolerate and
what you don't have to tolerate. You know what I mean,
you have the answer and you have a decision to make,
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So it's can't blame anybody else for something you did.
You have to be accountable. That goes right into the
next something. I want to talk about accountability. We all
talk about being accountable. I think we need to really
be accountable for our actions. And if you don't understand
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that what accountability is. And I know that's kind of
hard because we always be like, well you did that,
Oh you did that, it's your fault? Is it really
your fault? You got A is first in alphabets AB,
so you got cause and effect. People cause and effect,
you got action and reaction. See how that goes one
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and two. See but I'm going to tell you that
these are the things that we need to work on
because you're in a new year. It means new attitude, right,
and you have to make decisions. So you have to
have a different perspective on life so you can enjoy
each day and have a better outlook. So on that note,
(37:32):
we are going to take a brief commercial and we'll
be right back with the Doctor Malica Claary show. Don't
go nowhere fro them, We'll be right back. It was
because of me having a voice and saying something about
what had happened to me, because I can't believe it.
I can't believe that these individuals put their good name
(37:53):
and their reputation on the line just to hurt somebody,
because because they spoke up. Yes see, that's what happens
when you speak up. I get it, but I'm not
fearful because of that. Even though I went through a
lot and still go through a lot of things, I
got God on my side, and I feel like if
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that is not enough, then I don't know what it is.
Because I'm still standing and I'm still telling my story
and I'm gonna keep on telling stories. And that is
why I like film, Because film you're being able to
express things that you went through and experiences and people.
You know, you'd be amazed what you can do. Oh,
(38:36):
because you mentioned it said, you know, I believe in
God and I surrendered, and you know, when someone is
addicted to something, it's a challenge, it's tough. What was
that moment that you said, I can't do it anymore?
Speaker 7 (38:53):
Well, in book number two, I talk about how I've
been in prison, My prison number fifty eight nine nine
thirty one, I had that number for the rest of
my life. Is just not a functional number. I talk
about how I was delivered from a homosexual lifestyle. I
talk about how I had a man that left him
for another man. I talk about how I had a
man that was HIV but never told me. But I'm
(39:13):
sitting here today I don't have as HIV and I
have a lot of people always say your immune system
was so strong, that was the blood of Jesus that
colored me.
Speaker 5 (39:23):
Welcome back to the Doctor Malika Claire show when we're
coming in life on the bolting Bridge TV, So welcome back.
All right. Before it went on break, he is talking
about listening while we went into accountability. Okay, so let
me explain what I mean by accountability. And I'm always
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going to have to really preach that because it's the
beginning of the year. People. Let's start with these bad
habits and not being accountable. So let's say, for example,
I know you don't like this, and it WIT's perfect,
but let's say if you scheduled appointment. Okay, well you
scheduled appointment with the individual, all right, and it's at
(40:10):
one o'clock.
Speaker 2 (40:11):
All right.
Speaker 5 (40:12):
Well, if you had scheduled a meeting with someone at
one o'clock. Don't you think that the person should be
there at one o'clock at least you're thinking one o'clock, right, Okay,
Well you're meeting the one o'clock person didn't show up,
so you're just kind of waiting, you know, right around
not one o'clock is one fifteen. Now you communicate with
(40:34):
individual and you know, no response, no response. Okay, so
you waited and waited and waited. No communication. You know,
no communication. All right. Well, if it's no communication, what
can you do? Well, you call again, like you say,
(40:56):
you know, just to see what happened. Maybe something happened,
you know, no, nothing, flatline nothing, And like two days later,
person or a business person pop up, okay, and they
don't act like they care if they're late or didn't
call or didn't respond, or maybe you did have a
(41:17):
little bit of communication but nothing to say that you
had the meeting because you didn't have the meeting. Maybe
they were the NM late, maybe they did let you
know something but didn't get back on the call or something.
I don't know. But let's think about accountability. So if
that is the situation, you're accountable for your own actions
(41:38):
and the other person's countable for their own actions. Discloes
with relationships, business relationships, romantic relationships, personal relationships, children relationships,
family relationships, anything. Accountability is taking accountability for what you
did in that situation. Being accountable. So if a person
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is not saying why they did not get in touch
with you, or they're denying the fact and they just
sit up there and tell you, well, okay, two it's
been two days. Okay, well it's a new year, then
that means that person really not value in your time.
I mean you're saying two days ago or three days ago,
(42:27):
and then they get back in touch with you. Well,
that kind of makes you feel like it's not a
serious situation when I do business with that person. Or
if you have a relationship and you ask questions and
you spoke about something a person wanting. Now you aren't
arguing nothing, but you want to answer on something and
they don't get back in touch with you, or when
(42:49):
they do, they don't even mention about what you was
talking about. That's somebody who doesn't want to be accountable.
That you're waiting for some information from them and they
don't want to give it to you, or they don't
want to discuss anything, So that means that it's not
your fault. So you people who don't want to be
accountable for your own actions, it's not the other person's fault.
(43:10):
If they're trying to communicate with you and you refuse
to communicate. If something's going on or something happened, why
didn't you show up? You have to be accountable for that.
And being accountable is acknowledging that there's other people waiting
for you, and they're waiting on they have other things
(43:33):
to do with their life too. Now we're not We're
not meant to just sit here. Don't get me wrong.
I could be patient, even me, and I have to
say this, If you have a one o'clock appointment, I'll
give it to you. Well one fifteen, then I'm going to
reschedule you. Okay, Now that's how I feel, because evidently
you're not ready and so you got until one fifteen.
(43:54):
I'm pro bonum, but that doesn't mean I want to
waste my time waiting for you and you're you know
you're busy. Something's going on. This is not a good time.
You got to communicate that, because even if I'm pro boned,
that doesn't mean I'm gonna waste my pro bono time
waiting for you. You have to consider people's feelings and
consider their time, and don't try to argue to say, hey,
(44:19):
this person or you know whatever, I did this or
I did that. Well, if it's an emergency or something,
then you should communicate that. But if you're not communicating
that there was an emergency crisis and you're just basically
not caring that you didn't communicate with this person and
you had a meeting or whatever the case may be,
(44:40):
then that means you're a fault. You gotta be accountable.
I know we can argue about things if we want to,
but why argue if you're wrong? I would get on
the phone, or if I'm meeting somebody, if I'm talking
about something and I did something, I would just say
you're right, I'm sorry. There's more than one way to
communicate with person something's going on. You can call them,
(45:04):
you can text them, you can email them, or you
could say something that's just in a business situation. But
let's say if there was something you were supposed to
do for your loved one and you didn't do it,
you put it off forever and then until they get
really upset and they say, hey, did you do this?
Can you do this? Then you're and you come up
(45:25):
with all these different excuses instead of I, actually, can
you do this? You know I needed this done, and
then you're coming with all these laundry lists of why
you didn't do it. So that's not being accountable for
your action, because you should just say I didn't have
time or I'm sorry, I'm sorry. Shouldn't even commit it
to that, you know what I mean. I shouldn't made
(45:47):
no commitment to doing that because I had something else
to do and I did not know that, because then
you make someone else feel bad. So we have to
learn on being a common and I think that is
really important because some people, you know, some people do
depend on you to be accountable for your own actions,
(46:10):
not always trying to blame it on somebody else or
blame it on the fact that, well, you know, come
with all these excuses. You don't have to come with
all these excuses, you really don't. I mean, that's how
being accountable is. You know you didn't do it, you
should have did it, and let's move on and what
(46:33):
can we do to resolve it? And some people you
can't resolve certain things because think about in the professional world,
professionalism is very important. If you show people that you
are late or you not responding and you don't do
that until a couple of days later or whatever, it
keise me, you show no interest and why would I
(46:54):
wouldn't want to do business with that person? Why would
you think about it? You're not being accountable for your
make you look bad and you make me feel bad
or make the other person feel some way because you're
just you're not taking it serious. So therefore, while you're
wasting time, don't get me wrong, let's stop wasting time
with people who don't want to have our time. Bam,
(47:16):
they go, I understand some things happened, but if you
don't really got an excuse soon you're really just like
hey whatever, then you're really not tuned in and that
shows a lot. So let's stop wasting time for you know,
people who don't want to have our time. How's that?
I think? I like that one. Okay, so we got
to learn that accountability people. And on that note, I'm
(47:37):
going to take a brief commercial and I'll be right
back with the Doctor Malika Claire show on the Bolting
Braid TV Network, be right back them, We'll be right back.
Speaker 2 (47:51):
It was an interesting moment for.
Speaker 1 (47:53):
Me at the time because I really wasn't seeking someone
or anyone, I should say. I just hope if I
did meet someone that they would be a positive person
to meet.
Speaker 2 (48:11):
Everything he would sing and doing was making me fall
in love with him.
Speaker 4 (48:28):
Fighting over custody a lot of people quit, but when
that's just.
Speaker 3 (48:31):
How we got to be, but she keeps on fighting
ninety takes.
Speaker 4 (48:34):
A lot of that.
Speaker 5 (48:36):
How you like your part?
Speaker 2 (48:39):
The characters objection?
Speaker 4 (48:41):
Where's any of this evidence?
Speaker 5 (48:46):
I say to you for fifteen thousand dollars to see myself.
Speaker 6 (48:50):
This is all about a child, a poor point, born
into a battle, you know, with your life.
Speaker 3 (48:58):
But God's supply supply.
Speaker 5 (49:17):
You're trying to have a judge removed. I'll send you
herb for thousands of dollars for coming to court.
Speaker 3 (49:27):
How much money is clicks to get paying you and
your fellow survive survise.
Speaker 5 (49:50):
Welcome back to the Dark, Meliga Clary Show on the
Vote and Brave TV Network. Boy come in lovey we
are You know I always run at a time, and
I always want to say everything, and sometimes I just
try to get everything out because you know, I have
a lot on my plate. I try to help a
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lot of people.
Speaker 4 (50:14):
And I love it.
Speaker 5 (50:15):
Don't get me wrong. I wanna My concentration for this
year is to try to help individuals live a better life,
including myself. One day at a time, I give out
this information, little advice here, little advice there is to
help you live a better life within your means. So
I do want to go ahead and just stick on
(50:35):
caring passion. I think we need to have. You know,
you have to welcome caring and have a little passion
about it. You know, it's for example, if you see
a little old lady across the street, what are you
gonna do. You're gonna walk a past the old lady.
You're gonna try to help across the street. You see
a little old lady try to open a door and
(50:57):
she's struggling. What you're gonna do. You're gonna help the
door so the little old lady can go walking in
the door. Well, you don't have to be a little
old lady or a little old man to do that,
And you can do that for anyone. See somebody struggling,
you know they got bags in the hand. Oh can
(51:17):
I help you? I think that goes far. You know,
woman or male, we all can help, you know. And
I think that we need to have a little bit
of compassion for others because I think we're missing that.
And I think it was walking into this year caring
and smiling because you never know what one's going through,
(51:41):
you know, we can. I guess put smile on my
face right now, and I shut this down and then
I'm thinking something totally negative. And that's how life is
with people. So I need I need you to try
to be the best you can be for you, but
let that version of you be good. Try to smile more,
(52:06):
you know, try to have cap passion, and try to
care about you know, others. Like I said, if you
don't care about yourself, you're not gonna be able to
care about anybody else. So let's work that together and
feel good together and say thank you and appreciate when
people do things. Say thank you. I think we lost
(52:28):
to thank you. I think we gotta say thank you.
We talk about negativity, but how do you change that
to positivity? If you can't change what you do, if
you can't be a leading example, say thank you. I
know I get upset. I do, but then I also
catch myself and I no problem apologize. Sorry, you know what,
(52:53):
my bag, I didn't mean to do it like that.
I just get so you know, and that's true. You're
only here, but acknowledge it. And I think that's what's
so important. You got knowledge it, man, And I say
that because it's true. You have to acknowledge it. And
if you don't, you're going to keep on repeating the
(53:14):
same cycle and you're not going to care, and you're
just going to keep on until somebody really gets frustrated
with you and cut you off.
Speaker 2 (53:22):
Done.
Speaker 5 (53:23):
And sometimes it's like that. Sometimes you gotta be done.
You got to move on. But let's start with being
better and better than yesterday. Ask for it. You don't
know how to do it, and I know you can,
so smile more, try find something, got up, do something
different because you can't. All right, And on that note,
(53:46):
I love you. I want you to have a wonderful
rest of the day and a wonderful weekend to come
and remember God is watching. Pray and do that thing
that makes you feel good. And if you haven't did
it anything different and you're putting it off and you
want to do something different.
Speaker 4 (54:04):
You can call me.
Speaker 5 (54:05):
I'll try to help you understand that you can do it.
You can do anything you want. No, just allow yourself
to do it, one day at a time. All right, people,
all right, God bless you and I wish you all
the best today always, But this is what we got. Enjoy,
(54:26):
finish off strong and have a wonderful time. And thank
you for tuning in to the building The Doctor Melika
Clary Show on the Bold and Brave TV Network. Unless
you are all.
Speaker 8 (54:37):
Right, love you, you've been watching the Doctor Malika Clarie Show.
Tune in next week as Doctor Malika will help you
shift towards a better life. But this show doesn't stop there.
She'll provide helpful tips regarding surviving the entertainment industry and
the judicial system with practical information Thursday, two pm Eastern
(55:01):
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