Episode 3: Intersectionality and ENM

Episode 3: Intersectionality and ENM

What happens when your queerness, culture, neurodivergence, and upbringing all collide with ethical non-monogamy? We’re talking about the beautiful mess that is intersectionality. In this episode, we explore how identity shapes the way we show up in ethical non-monogamy (ENM). From growing up in religious households or navigating white privilege to being queer, neurodivergent, or culturally “othered,” we get real about how our histories affect our desires, relationships, and sense of belonging in polyamorous and open relationship spaces. This is one for anyone who's ever wondered, "Am I doing this right?" or "Is it just me?" (Spoiler: it’s not.)

What We Talk About:

• How race, culture, gender, and queerness influence our experiences in ENM
• The impact of religious and conservative upbringings on identity and relationships
• Shame, internalised norms, and how we begin to unlearn them
• The role of gender identity and sexuality in open relationships
• Navigating ENM while feeling “not queer enough” or “too much”
• Relationship structures beyond the mainstream
• Friendship, intimacy, and redefining what connection means
• Vulnerability, self-discovery, and making space for change

Mentioned in This Episode:

• Ko-Fi.com/enmdnm – Support the pod and our community
• The Ethical Slut (book)

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Next episode, we’re diving into communication and boundaries—how we define them, where we struggle, and what it means to communicate well in ENM.
Thanks for joining us in this honest conversation about ethical non-monogamy, queer identity, communication, consent, and community.