Episode 4: Coming Out… or Not: ENM and the People We Love

Episode 4: Families, Friends, and the (Mono) World

World What happens when you’re living ethically non-monogamous — but your friends, family, or workplace aren’t? In this episode, we unpack the messy, beautiful, and often awkward moments of coming out in a monogamous world. We talk about the choices we make around who to tell, how we tell them, and why some of us don’t tell anyone at all. From religious upbringings and conservative families to tricky friendship dynamics and professional boundaries, this episode dives into the real-life impact of being ENM in spaces that might not understand it. Whether you’re fully out, quietly navigating disclosure, or somewhere in between, this conversation holds space for it all — with vulnerability, reflection, and a little bit of sass. What We Talk About:

• Coming out as ethically non-monogamous to friends, family, and colleagues
• Navigating disclosure in conservative or religious families
• Balancing identity, safety, and authenticity in the workplace
• Friendship shifts, chosen family, and community support
• How queer identity, culture, and values shape ENM disclosure
• The emotional labour of educating others about ethical non-monogamy

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• Polysecure (book)
• The E&M DNM Discord – connect, learn, and share in a supportive space (accessible via the Ko-Fi link)

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