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(00:18):
Let us gentlemen, thanks once againfor joining me. I'm your host,
Derek Lane, and I am soexcited that you're listening to this podcast and
appreciate all of the people that dolisten to the podcast. Okay, so
let's jump into it. Are yousuccessful or are you still waiting on success?
(00:42):
What are your plans to be successful? Then? Is a very broad,
very nebulous question. It opens upso many avenues for us. But
success is while, at least inmy mind, it's being able to do
what you love, when you wantto do it, how you want to
(01:03):
do it, Making a difference inthe world matters, Helping others matter,
being someone that can be counted on, reliable, someone that's very self reliant.
So there's a lot of different avenuesand a lot of different definitions for
success. So, but on yourpath and what you're trying to achieve,
(01:29):
where you're trying to go and I'vetalked about pencil and paper won't stop.
Now are you writing down where youwant to be? Are you writing down
your goals? Are you writing downwho you want to be, what that
looks like, How are you're goingto be, how you're going to achieve?
And then from that achievement the nextachievement. Life is not just get
(01:55):
there and you're finished. You keepon striving in life to be better.
So then you may think, well, gosh, if it never ends,
why do I want to start it? Well, if that is your view,
then you know you probably don't needto listen to this or any other
(02:16):
podcast on success. But that's notyou. You want to succeed, You
want to be the better person.You want certain things out of life.
So first off, I'm going toimplore you to allow it to happen.
Write down everything so there's no mysteries, so your mind understands what you want,
(02:39):
so your subconscious can go to workon what you want, how you
want to achieve it. All ofthe things, all of the goals,
all of the little steps to thebig steps. You've got to define those
because if you're if you just getin a are and you start driving,
(03:01):
you know, without a map,without a destination, without an aim,
where are you going? Will youwind up? You have to have a
destination. You have to have amap, So make sure that your life
has a map. Make sure yourlife has a destination so you can get
(03:23):
there. You've got to You've gotto map it out to get there.
So let's talk about some of thereasons why we don't, why we procrastinate,
why we seem to put things offso much. I think a lot
of it is fear. And fearcomes in two forms, the fear of
(03:46):
failure and the fear of success.Yes, there is such a thing as
fear of success. You know,I don't know how to handle it,
don't know what I would do.It won't change me as a person.
I'll be a different person. Peoplewill think differently of me. I'm not
sure I want to do that.Well. If you're a confident person that
wants to make a difference and notonly your life at the lives of others,
(04:10):
you will embrace success and you'll notfear success. You'll say, hey,
I'm okay with change because I knowI will take that change and turn
it into a positive, not anegative. The fear of failure will they'll
laugh at me if I try somethingthat doesn't work, or I'll feel like
a complete loser. I'll be somortified with embarrassment. You can't it's going
(04:35):
to hold you back. Fear isdebilitating. If you fear money, it
will elude you. If you fearsuccess, it will elude you. If
you fear relationships, they will eludeyou. You cannot fear them. You
(04:56):
have to embrace them. You haveto allow the universe to go to on
your behalf and bring these things intoyour reality. So how do you do
that? Well, Number one,you have to ask for it again.
The universe doesn't know what you wantwithout you telling the universe what you want.
We're all connected. We're all connected. So when you send out messages,
(05:23):
someone picks it up, someone thatneeds to pick it up, someone
that needs to hear your message,to hear your question, to hear your
needs and wants, because they're readyto help, just as you're ready to
help, just as you're ready tohelp people in their situations. And you'll
(05:43):
do it gladly. Because we nevergive without getting something back. May not
be immediate, may not be fromthe same person you give to, and
you can't go into it expecting toget back immediately. You just know that
it's going to happen. You justknow that you'll get it back. You
don't even care how, you don'teven care who. You just know that
(06:08):
when you give enough, you willget back. When you love enough,
you'll get it back. When youlove your life, when you love other
people, you love the situation,you really really just open arm, love
your life, others lives. Theuniverse has no choice but to give back
(06:33):
to you. The universe must giveback to you. It's the law of
the universe. I know that soundsa little New Age metaphysical whatever, and
it may be that's fine, butit's so true. It's so true.
You look through the annals of time, our history, to the great philosophers,
(06:58):
they will all tell you that it'sthere. So make sure that you're
giving back. Make sure you're giving. You know you don't. You don't
wait for it to give to youand then give it back. It doesn't
work that way. You have tosew before you reap. Okay, every
farmer will tell you that you've gotto put in before you can take out.
(07:23):
The universe knows that the universe iswaiting for you to put in.
The universe is waiting for your wantsand needs. The universe is ready to
help you. People are ready tohelp you. They just need to know
what type of help you need.So if you're stuck and your mindset is
the same over and over and youcan't seem to get out of the rut.
(07:47):
You need to change things up alittle bit. Sometimes just going on
a trip, just sometimes meditating isa huge being outside, breathing in the
air, asking for mother nature togive you its splendor. It all helped
(08:09):
change your mindset, tweak it,think of things, be open minded,
be open minded as to the possibilities. What if. To me, that's
one of the best questions ever.What if? What if? And for
every what if, there's a hundredsolutions, a hundred different scenarios. Well
(08:35):
what if? Never stop thinking aboutwhat if? It is life changing.
So we've talked a little bit aboutthis stuff in the past, and we've
we've touched on a lot of thesethings in the past. I just wanted
to reiterate what it makes, whatit takes rather to make things move forward.
(08:56):
And that's what we're really talking about, is moving forward. You can
have success in your life and stillstill feel loneliness, still feel unhappiness,
sorrow. You have to fulfill yoursoul. You have to create something within
you that wants to give back you. Where you feel so much love that
(09:24):
you can't bottle it up, youcan't hold it in it's got to get
out. It's it's got to beshown and taught and given to other people.
Our world sometimes can seem out ofcontrol when you turn on the news
and you hear all the negativity.And by the way, that's a that
is how they make their money.Okay, negativity is how the news makes
(09:46):
their money. Understand that. Onceyou do understand that, then you start
to see things a little different.So, with the world being what it
is, the more that you youconcentrate on love, the more that you
concentrate on giving back, the morethat you concentrate on moving forward and being
(10:07):
the best person you possibly can,and being a mentor to other people,
being an example to other people,maybe even strangers. It's your attitude that
you carry with you. It isyour confidence that you carry with you when
you go places, when you walkinto a restaurant, walk into a store,
(10:30):
whether you're going to a filling stationfor gas. If you're confident,
you've got love and you smile atpeople, it makes a difference, makes
a huge difference. You may noteven know it. I'd like to think
that I've made a difference in people'slives and never even knew it. I
mean I'm sure I have. Becausegrumpiness sour attitudes and get you nothing.
(10:56):
It's kind of like karma. Youknow, you whatever you put out there
is what you're going to get back. Whatever you exude is going to come
back to you, usually tenfold.So just understand that the best way to
be happy is to be happy.It's a decision, it's a choice.
(11:18):
You have to be happy. Youhave to be the one that says you
have to declare, Hey, I'mnot going to let this garbage in my
life affect me. I'm not goingto let it change the person that I
am. I'm not going to letit define me as a person. I'm
better than that. Discipline mental disciplineto carry on in a successful manner,
(11:46):
a manner of achievement, a mannerof enlightenment, a manner of success.
Discipline to say hey, I amsuccess, I am happy. I don't
have to wait until things happen tobe happy. I can be happy now,
and when positive things happened, Ican be happier. And I know,
(12:07):
not every situation it seems like,yeah, you want me to be
happy. You know I just lostmy best friend, or you know I
had to put my pet down whatever. Look, we all have time for
those moments that we reflect, youknow, in grieve. It's it's natural,
(12:30):
but we don't let it define usfor who we are in our life
as a whole. Because we're positivepeople, we're role goal oriented, and
we move forward. Okay, Sowith that, I want you to share
this podcast to people that you thinkwill enjoy it and that will get something
(12:52):
out of it, a message ofpositivity and go. You know, Derek's
right, I need to be positivemore. I need to be more disciplined
to say this is who I am. It will make a difference in your
life, it really will. Sharethis podcast for people, leave positive comments.
I appreciate each and every person thatlistens to this. I appreciate the
(13:18):
comments I get and feel free toleave comments. Okay. The Fascinine Podcast
for Your Success can be found onall of the major streaming services for podcast
listenership. Thank you for your listenership, and we will have another subject,
hopefully next week. I've been sobusy that it's you know, I feel
(13:45):
like I'm just miss golden opportunities toput out a few more than I normally
would. But we'll work on that. Because we're positive people, and we'll
do positive things and I'm positive.I will talk to you next week.
Let us gentlemen, thanks once againfor joining me. I'm your host,
Derek Lane, and I am soexcited that you're listening to this podcast and
appreciate all of the people that dolisten to the podcast. Okay, so
let's jump into it. Are yousuccessful or are you still waiting on success?
(00:42):
What are your plans to be successful? Then? Is a very broad,
very nebulous question. It opens upso many avenues for us. But
success is while, at least inmy mind, it's being able to do
what you love, when you wantto do it, how you want to
(01:03):
do it, Making a difference inthe world matters, Helping others matter,
being someone that can be counted on, reliable, someone that's very self reliant.
So there's a lot of different avenuesand a lot of different definitions for
success. So, but on yourpath and what you're trying to achieve,
(01:29):
where you're trying to go and I'vetalked about pencil and paper won't stop.
Now are you writing down where youwant to be? Are you writing down
your goals? Are you writing downwho you want to be, what that
looks like, How are you're goingto be, how you're going to achieve?
And then from that achievement the nextachievement. Life is not just get
(01:55):
there and you're finished. You keepon striving in life to be better.
So then you may think, well, gosh, if it never ends,
why do I want to start it? Well, if that is your view,
then you know you probably don't needto listen to this or any other
(02:16):
podcast on success. But that's notyou. You want to succeed, You
want to be the better person.You want certain things out of life.
So first off, I'm going toimplore you to allow it to happen.
Write down everything so there's no mysteries, so your mind understands what you want,
(02:39):
so your subconscious can go to workon what you want, how you
want to achieve it. All ofthe things, all of the goals,
all of the little steps to thebig steps. You've got to define those
because if you're if you just getin a are and you start driving,
(03:01):
you know, without a map,without a destination, without an aim,
where are you going? Will youwind up? You have to have a
destination. You have to have amap, So make sure that your life
has a map. Make sure yourlife has a destination so you can get
(03:23):
there. You've got to You've gotto map it out to get there.
So let's talk about some of thereasons why we don't, why we procrastinate,
why we seem to put things offso much. I think a lot
of it is fear. And fearcomes in two forms, the fear of
(03:46):
failure and the fear of success.Yes, there is such a thing as
fear of success. You know,I don't know how to handle it,
don't know what I would do.It won't change me as a person.
I'll be a different person. Peoplewill think differently of me. I'm not
sure I want to do that.Well. If you're a confident person that
wants to make a difference and notonly your life at the lives of others,
(04:10):
you will embrace success and you'll notfear success. You'll say, hey,
I'm okay with change because I knowI will take that change and turn
it into a positive, not anegative. The fear of failure will they'll
laugh at me if I try somethingthat doesn't work, or I'll feel like
a complete loser. I'll be somortified with embarrassment. You can't it's going
(04:35):
to hold you back. Fear isdebilitating. If you fear money, it
will elude you. If you fearsuccess, it will elude you. If
you fear relationships, they will eludeyou. You cannot fear them. You
(04:56):
have to embrace them. You haveto allow the universe to go to on
your behalf and bring these things intoyour reality. So how do you do
that? Well, Number one,you have to ask for it again.
The universe doesn't know what you wantwithout you telling the universe what you want.
We're all connected. We're all connected. So when you send out messages,
(05:23):
someone picks it up, someone thatneeds to pick it up, someone
that needs to hear your message,to hear your question, to hear your
needs and wants, because they're readyto help, just as you're ready to
help, just as you're ready tohelp people in their situations. And you'll
(05:43):
do it gladly. Because we nevergive without getting something back. May not
be immediate, may not be fromthe same person you give to, and
you can't go into it expecting toget back immediately. You just know that
it's going to happen. You justknow that you'll get it back. You
don't even care how, you don'teven care who. You just know that
(06:08):
when you give enough, you willget back. When you love enough,
you'll get it back. When youlove your life, when you love other
people, you love the situation,you really really just open arm, love
your life, others lives. Theuniverse has no choice but to give back
(06:33):
to you. The universe must giveback to you. It's the law of
the universe. I know that soundsa little New Age metaphysical whatever, and
it may be that's fine, butit's so true. It's so true.
You look through the annals of time, our history, to the great philosophers,
(06:58):
they will all tell you that it'sthere. So make sure that you're
giving back. Make sure you're giving. You know you don't. You don't
wait for it to give to youand then give it back. It doesn't
work that way. You have tosew before you reap. Okay, every
farmer will tell you that you've gotto put in before you can take out.
(07:23):
The universe knows that the universe iswaiting for you to put in.
The universe is waiting for your wantsand needs. The universe is ready to
help you. People are ready tohelp you. They just need to know
what type of help you need.So if you're stuck and your mindset is
the same over and over and youcan't seem to get out of the rut.
(07:47):
You need to change things up alittle bit. Sometimes just going on
a trip, just sometimes meditating isa huge being outside, breathing in the
air, asking for mother nature togive you its splendor. It all helped
(08:09):
change your mindset, tweak it,think of things, be open minded,
be open minded as to the possibilities. What if. To me, that's
one of the best questions ever.What if? What if? And for
every what if, there's a hundredsolutions, a hundred different scenarios. Well
(08:35):
what if? Never stop thinking aboutwhat if? It is life changing.
So we've talked a little bit aboutthis stuff in the past, and we've
we've touched on a lot of thesethings in the past. I just wanted
to reiterate what it makes, whatit takes rather to make things move forward.
(08:56):
And that's what we're really talking about, is moving forward. You can
have success in your life and stillstill feel loneliness, still feel unhappiness,
sorrow. You have to fulfill yoursoul. You have to create something within
you that wants to give back you. Where you feel so much love that
(09:24):
you can't bottle it up, youcan't hold it in it's got to get
out. It's it's got to beshown and taught and given to other people.
Our world sometimes can seem out ofcontrol when you turn on the news
and you hear all the negativity.And by the way, that's a that
is how they make their money.Okay, negativity is how the news makes
(09:46):
their money. Understand that. Onceyou do understand that, then you start
to see things a little different.So, with the world being what it
is, the more that you youconcentrate on love, the more that you
concentrate on giving back, the morethat you concentrate on moving forward and being
(10:07):
the best person you possibly can,and being a mentor to other people,
being an example to other people,maybe even strangers. It's your attitude that
you carry with you. It isyour confidence that you carry with you when
you go places, when you walkinto a restaurant, walk into a store,
(10:30):
whether you're going to a filling stationfor gas. If you're confident,
you've got love and you smile atpeople, it makes a difference, makes
a huge difference. You may noteven know it. I'd like to think
that I've made a difference in people'slives and never even knew it. I
mean I'm sure I have. Becausegrumpiness sour attitudes and get you nothing.
(10:56):
It's kind of like karma. Youknow, you whatever you put out there
is what you're going to get back. Whatever you exude is going to come
back to you, usually tenfold.So just understand that the best way to
be happy is to be happy.It's a decision, it's a choice.
(11:18):
You have to be happy. Youhave to be the one that says you
have to declare, Hey, I'mnot going to let this garbage in my
life affect me. I'm not goingto let it change the person that I
am. I'm not going to letit define me as a person. I'm
better than that. Discipline mental disciplineto carry on in a successful manner,
(11:46):
a manner of achievement, a mannerof enlightenment, a manner of success.
Discipline to say hey, I amsuccess, I am happy. I don't
have to wait until things happen tobe happy. I can be happy now,
and when positive things happened, Ican be happier. And I know,
(12:07):
not every situation it seems like,yeah, you want me to be
happy. You know I just lostmy best friend, or you know I
had to put my pet down whatever. Look, we all have time for
those moments that we reflect, youknow, in grieve. It's it's natural,
(12:30):
but we don't let it define usfor who we are in our life
as a whole. Because we're positivepeople, we're role goal oriented, and
we move forward. Okay, Sowith that, I want you to share
this podcast to people that you thinkwill enjoy it and that will get something
(12:52):
out of it, a message ofpositivity and go. You know, Derek's
right, I need to be positivemore. I need to be more disciplined
to say this is who I am. It will make a difference in your
life, it really will. Sharethis podcast for people, leave positive comments.
I appreciate each and every person thatlistens to this. I appreciate the
(13:18):
comments I get and feel free toleave comments. Okay. The Fascinine Podcast
for Your Success can be found onall of the major streaming services for podcast
listenership. Thank you for your listenership, and we will have another subject,
hopefully next week. I've been sobusy that it's you know, I feel
(13:45):
like I'm just miss golden opportunities toput out a few more than I normally
would. But we'll work on that. Because we're positive people, and we'll
do positive things and I'm positive.I will talk to you next week.
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