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Speaker 1 (00:14):
Welcome to the Fortified Life podcast where we learn how
to develop a dependency on Jesus in the marketplace. From
the boardroom to the bathroom, God is with you. Here's
our host, author, speaker, teacher, encourager, puritip coach, my husband,
the man they call mister Fortify, Jason Davis.

Speaker 2 (00:38):
Hey, what's going on everybody? Welcome back to another episode
of Fortified in Wisdom where we talk about walking in
the wisdom of God daily. I'm your host, Jason Davis
aka mister Fortify. I'm an author, speaker, teacher, encourager and
stewardship coach, and I help mission driven people prior to

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as their faith in the marketplace. Today, we're going to
be talking about the emotional spectrum, what the Bible says
about our emotions and how it differs from how society
views our emotions. More specifically, we're going to compare and
contrast emotional intelligence to what the Bible says about managing

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our emotions. Now, as far as the emotional spectrum, emotional
intelligence itself was popularized by an individual name doctor Daniel Goleman,
and so he's the most recognizable name when it comes
to EQ or emotional intelligence, also known as the emotional equotion.

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So doctor Daniel Goleman, when we look at emotional intelligence,
it's broken down into what are known as five skills,
five EQ skills. The first one is self awareness. Knowing
one's strengths, weaknesses, drives values and impact on others. That's

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self awareness. The next skill we have is self regulation,
and that's controlling or redirecting disruptive impulses or moods. So
there's a kind of a stacking effect that builds. We
have self awareness, self regulation, and then we have motivation, relishing,

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achievement for its own sake. That's the skill sets that
focus on self. And then for the last two, it
transitions into how well do you communicate with others? And
that's where the next one, number four, empathy comes into play.

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Empathy is understanding people's emotional makeup. Understanding people's emotional makeup,
and then number five social skill, the ability to build
rapport with others to move them in a desired direction.
So and review. When it comes to emotional intelligence, we

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have self awareness, self regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skill.
If you look at this from a classification perspective, emotional,
the emotional intelligent skills are broken out into two categories
self and other Self and other centric. So it's kind

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of a three x two model when you look at that.
So three out of the five emotional intelligent skill sets
deal itself that self awareness, self regulation, and motivation. The
last two emotional intelligent skills deal with others and that's
empathy and social skill. So you have the three self awareness,

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self regulation, motivation, and the two empathy and social skill.
But let's take a step back for a second. That's
data and research from a human perspective. But what does
the Bible say? What does the Bible comment on when
it comes to emotions. Well, you think about all those things,

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those are good, but what's the spirit behind it? And
when we look at scripture, we see some of those
same concepts in scripture, but the motivation and the power
and the impact is different. So know this and we're
going to impact this during the episode emotional intellence and intelligence.

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When we think about scripture, emotional intelligence is really spirit intelligence.
Emotional intelligence is really spirit intelligence. Let me let me explain.
Let me break this down. What is strived for with
human behavior modification is accomplished by the spiritual power of

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the Holy Spirit me say that again, what is strived
for with human behavior modification is really accomplished by the
power of the Holy Spirit. By the power of the
Holy Spirit, you can do things like have self awareness.
You can do things like self regularly. You could do

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things like have a strong sense of motivation. You can
have empathy, you can have social skill. Trying to do
that with human effort alone there it's futile. You can
do your best, but you will fail. But when we

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have the Spirit of the Living God inside of us
and we're when we're in relationship, the Holy Spirit is
the one changing us from the inside out. You see,
behavior modification is from the outside in, and that doesn't stick. However,
when you when there's a change made inside out, that's

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more permanent. Romans Chapter twelve talks about this, be not
conformed to the pattern of this world, but be transformed
by the renewing your mind. A butterfly can't go back
to being a caterpillar. It was a caterpillar at one point,

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but then it transformed and it became a butterfly. A
butterfly cannot return back to being a caterpillar. So the
Holy Spirit, when we come in relationship with God by
way of Jesus Christ, by grace through faith, a transformation
occurs in our heart and we become a new creation,

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and that gives us access to relationship with God and
the spirit of God, God's spirit, the Holy Spirit. And
so the Holy Spirit is the one who ministers to
us day to day in our mind and our heart,
and he renews us. And so those five EQ skills
that a lot of people try to lead and manage with,

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they're doing it at a human effort, but the Holy
Spirit helps us do that. And we're going to talk
about it because it's in scripture the things that emotional
intelligence is getting behind and suggesting we already have access
to it by way of the Holy Spirit. So I
mentioned emotional intelligence is really spirit intelligence. Emotional strength impacts

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our endurance, our conduct, and our thought process, our mindset.
So when the Holy Spirit is governing our emotions in
this emotional spectrum, we're living a spirit controlled life. And
the Bible talks about not having control, not having self control,

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not having self discipline. The Bible talks about this. Second
Timothy one point seven, a scripture that allot of us
know and hear, says God has not given us a
spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind.
Some translations say self control or self discipline. So God
has not given us a spirit of fear or timidity,

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but of power, love and a sound mind or self
control or self discipline. By way of the Holy Spirit,
we can live a self controlled, self disciplined, sound mind
lifestyle with the help of the Holy Spirit. So a

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spirit controlled life is one that is self controlled, of
a sound mind, and has self discipline. Proverbs twenty five
twenty eight talks about a person, gives an analogy of
a person without self control. And we're all about walking

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in the wisdom of God on this show, So the
Wisdom Book pay very close attention to what the Book
of Proverb says here Proverbs twenty five, twenty eight, A
person without self control is like a city with broken walls.

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A person without self control is like a city with
broken walls. My God, what a vivid picture that the
Bible gives us. And yet that is the explanation of
someone who does not have self control. It's like a
city that's been wrecked and blown through. So how does

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the Holy Spirit help us? Where can we go in
scripture to unpack this emotional spectrum none other than Galatian
chapter five. Now we've talked about the fruit of the
spirit in terms of business, but now we're talking about
it from an emotional perspective, the emotional spectrum. So we

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find the fruit of the spirit in Galatian chapter five,
and it is the proper expression of emotion. The fruit
of the spirit is the proper expression of emotion. So
let's examine the nine fruit of the spirit. The first

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one is love, right out at the gate love the
Bible talks about if you don't have love, you don't
have anything else. And remember, the biblical love that God
challenges us to love others with is unconditional love. We brotherhood,
sisterhood type of love. That's fine. Family type of love.

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That's fine. Romantic love is cool, but it's not biblical love.
Biblical love is a gopa. It's the highest form. It's
the highest expression of love. You could make the argument,
how can I romantically love someone? Well, how can I

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be a brother or a sister to someone? How can
I love my family the way that they should if
I'm not walking in a gape love? So, actually, when
you think about love, brotherhood, sisterhood, friendship, family, romance. All

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of that can be expressed in a gape love, which
is unconditional. Those other love types, when you start attaching conditions,
they fall apart. That's what makes a gape love biblical love,
God type of love. It's what makes it the most
powerful force on earth. Love and right out the gate

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First Corinthians Chapter thirteen is known as the love chapter.
Love is patient of his kind. It does not envy,
it doesn't boast, It believes all things, that trust all
these things. We hear this read a lot at weddings,
But I wonder how much of us take it seriously,
where it's not just a nice picture that we put

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up on our wall or a nice little magnet on
our refrigerator. It's the definition of love. And also the
Bible says that God is love, so when we look
at scripture, it's not surprising that love is the foundation.
It's the foundation of the fruit of the spirit. A

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mentor of mine told me this concerning love. Those who
have been loved well are able to love well. Those
who have not been loved well, it's more difficult for
those individuals to love well. If you're loved well, you

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can love well. If you're not loved, well, it's more
difficult too. That's how powerful love or the lack of
it is. So God is love. There's a whole chapter
dedicated to it in First Corinthians, chapter thirteen, and it's
the foundational thru to the spirit, and without love, we

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don't have anything Bible talks about. If you don't have love,
you're like someone clashing symbols. So it's important love. Next
for to the spirit is joy build. So we've got love,
and that paves the way for joy. Joys not happiness.
Happiness is temporary. Joy isn't based on circumstance. Happiness is oh,

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I got money, I got this, I got that, But
in the absence of those things, my happiness is gone.
It's fleeting. Nope. Joy last, Joy isn't based on circumstance.
I can be joyful in the midst of trials. I
can be joyful in the midst of going through a
tough time. I can maintain joy not on my own merit,

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but by the spirit of the Lord. So we have
love and joy, then we have peace, the peace of God.
People try to seek peace in so many different ways.
They think they get peace with power or money or influence.
The Bible talks about peace Isaiah twenty six y three.

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And he he will keep him in perfect peace, whose
mind is stayed on thee because he trust in him.
When you look at that verse, it's funny. You actually
see peace the word for peace shalom. You see it twice.
And he will keep him in perfect peace. So perfect
also is shalom, perfect peace. So if you actually read

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it and hebrewtsy, and he he will keep him in
peace peace whose mind is stayed on thee. Now, I
don't know about you. When it comes to the Lord,
a double portion of peace, I'll take that. It's better
than any other two piece. I'm not talking about a
two piece chicken meal, and I'm not talking about a

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two piece bathing suit. I'm talking about a double portion,
a double dispensation of peace. When we keep our mind
on the things of the God of God. That's a
promise he'll keep us. God will do, He'll keep us
in perfect peace. We've got to keep our mind on Him.

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We don't have to run and seek out these other
things that only provide satisfaction on a temporary basis. We
have peace when we are in God. Next, we've got patience,
Oh my goodness, gracious who patient endurance, patience towards circumstance,

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patience toward dealing with people. The Holy Spirit helps us.
So I hope as we're stepping through the fruit of
the Spirit, you can kind of see hmm, those the
emotional intelligence skills that deal with itself. See the fruit
of the spirit. You're dealing the Holy Spirit is working
in you and working in you and on you so

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that you can be a blessing to others or other
things that people do. It doesn't even bother them. So
the Holy Spirit is with you. So self regulation, self management,
motivation that comes from the Holy Spirit, and then walking
in the kingdom purpose that God has given us. So

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I just hope you're seeing that how we deal with
our self and how we deal with others, it becomes
evident with the fruit of the Spirit. So patience is
about patient endurance, enduring how a circumstance, or enduring how
people treat you. That's patience. Kindness, oh my goodness. The

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world we live in today, wouldn't it be a greater
place if everyone was kind? But people's hearts are growing cold,
and the Holy Spirit keeps us warm. The holy Spirit
keeps us in a spirit of fellowship, so where we
can walk in kindness. God's character is loving kindness. How

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much more is the Father kind and we have the
opportunity to live out kindness as well his loving kindness,
to be an image bearer of Christ goodness, moral excellence.
A lot of the world is just gosh, it's moral

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decay everywhere you say that, all across society, the semblance
of people doing whatever they want, whenever they want, however
they want, not living by the laws of the land,
and certainly not living by the principles that God has
laid out. And so goodness is talking about moral excellence, faithfulness, dedication,

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being faithful, being steadfast, that's faithfulness. Gentleness, that's the opposite
of being harsh, that kind when you think about kindness,
that loving kindness, but also gentleness, a gentle spirit. This
life has grown extremely harsh. People talk to each other

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any kind of way, but gentle, having a gentle spirit
and gentleness is not weak. It's nothing weak about gentleness,
is nothing weak about kindness. And lastly, number nine, self control,
living a spirit controlled life with spirit controlled appetites, spirit

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controlled appetites, so the fruit of the spirit love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness,
and self control. Now we see in scripture we're going
to talk about some positive and negative displays of emotion.

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And scripture we're going to talk about different accounts, and
you'll see the fruit of the spirit kind of being
lived out or not in some of these individuals. But
the Bible we have the luxury of living two thousand
years later, so we can learn from these biblical examples.
But also just that the human condition. Humans are all

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over the place with their emotions, and so we need God,
we need the Holy Spirit to work in our life.
So let's look at some of these compare and contrasts
these individuals in scripture where they had a positive and
a negative display of emotion. First up, we're going to
look at Elijah. Elijah, he was a prophet of God.

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One of the things that becomes apparent about Elijah in
scripture is he's kind of got a little bit of
instability with his emotions. Now, this is the prophet who,
by the spirit of God called down fire from heaven,
called down fire from heaven. He went toe to toe

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with the prophets of bail toe to toe. But this
is the same prophet. After doing so, the Queen Jezebel
threatens his life and he takes off in fear. He
runs in terror. Wait a minute, Elijah, you're bold on

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one hand, and then you get a letter in the
mail from the queen saying I'm gonna kill you. And
your emotions they're all over the place. So we see positive.
God has not given you a spirit of fear, but
of power. We see power evident in the life of Elijah.

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But then we also see him with that negative side,
of that shadow side, the emotion. He is human after all,
but we see him. How can you be bold one
moment and immediately walk in fear the next moment. That's
that instability. So that's the prophet Elijah. We also see
it with Jonah. Elijah's instability. We see Jonah's immaturity. Jonah,

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God called him to go to the city of Ninevah.
Now Ninevah was a woh that was a wicked city.
But what Jonah did not know is that God had
already been working on the people of Ninevah. He had
already been working on their hearts, and he wanted Jonah
to come and give the message to repent, but he

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was scared. He said, Lord, whoa, listen Ninevah whoa? He
wanted no part. And so there's the fear drove Jonah
away and he gets on the boat. You know, the
rest is history. He gets thrown overboard and the big,
the great fish keeps him for three days. What an

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analogy to point just as Jonah was in the mouth
of the fish for three days, Jesus died on the
cross for our sins, and for three days he was
underground for three days he was dead before he was resurrected.
So what a kind of interesting parallel there. But Jonah's

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a maturity. He feared going to Ninevah, and then he repents,
He gets back on track. He goes to Nineveh, finds
out God had already been working, and the people end
up repenting. And then Jonah has a nerve to go
sit and pout under a tree and get angry with
God because he wanted him to take him out. Oh Lord,

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you should have wiped out the city is Wait a minute, Jonah,
you were afraid to go, then you go, Then you're
mad God didn't wipe him out. Wait a minute. God
wanted to restore a mentor of mindset it this way.
Before God replaces, God restores. God wanted to restore, or

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gave an opportunity to restore the city and the people
of Nunevah, and Jonah just wanted to He's the one
who believes in God. Oh, Nope, take him out, my God.
So we see Elijah's instability, courageous one moment, fearful another.
We see Jonah. He's a messenger, he's disobedient, fear leads

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to disobedience, then he says, I'm sorry. Then he goes
and he is obedient, and the city gets spared and
they repent. But then he comes back and he wants
to whine because God didn't wipe out the city. You
see the positive and the neg You see the emotional
spectrum between Elijah and Jonah. Let's look at another one
Noah Genesis six, nine and ten. This is the account

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of Noah and his family. Noah was a righteous man,
the only blameless person living on earth at the time,
and he walked in close fellowship with God. Noah is
the father of three sons, shem Ham and Jpeth. Listen,
Noah was a righteous man, a blameless person, and he

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walked and had close fellowship with God. Positive. Let's look
at the emotional swing though later on in Genesis chapter nine.
That was Genesis six, nine and ten, Now Genesis nine
twenty through twenty seven. After the flood, Noah began to
cultivate the ground, and he planted a vineyard. One day,

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he drank some wine he had made, and he became
drunk and lay naked in his tent. Pam, the father
of Canaan, saw that his father was naked in one
outside and told his brothers. Then Chim and Jpeth took
a robe and held it over their shoulders and backed
into the tent to cover their father. As they did this,

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they looked the other way so that they would not
see him naked. When Noah woke from his stupor, he
learned what Ham, his youngest son had done. Then he
cursed Canaan, the son of him. May Canaan be cursed,
May he be the lowest of the servants and his relatives.
My God, Noah, wait a minute, you come out of

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a drunken stupor, and you curse the lineage of your
own son. Wait a minute, just a second ago, this
was the righteous man, the blameless person, he walked in
close fellowship with God, and yet that same man pronounced
a curse. And I understand there's some additional context there

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with Noah and his son and theologians unpacked that there's
some other thoughts there as to why Noah reacted so strongly,
but he did. And so again you see that emotional
spectrum with Noah. We also see it with King David.
So we have Elijah's instability, Jonah's in maturity, Noah's over reaction,

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David's passions first Samuel three fourteen. But now your kingdom
must end, for the Lord sought out a man after
his own heart. The Lord has already appointed him to
be leader of his people because you have not kept
the Lord's command. So context here, King Saul had been
disobedient and the Lord was replacing King Saul with David.

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And so the Lord is telling Saul like, hey, this
is what you did. You didn't act right. So I'm
picking another man, I'm calling and raising up another king, David,
David who had become But David was the one who
was called a man after God's own heart. It's the

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positive side. Let's see how the emotions and his passion
swing though Second Samuel eleven one through four. In the
spring of the year, when kings normally go at the war,
David sent joe Ab and the Israelite army to fight
the Ammonites. They destroyed the Ammonite army and laid siege
to the city of Rabbah. However, David stayed behind in Jerusalem.

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Late one afternoon uh oh, after his midday rest, David
got out of bed and he was walking on the roof,
and he saw something. He looked over the city and
he noticed a woman of unusual beauty taking a beat,
and that was none other than Bathsheba. You know, the
rest is history. He ended up having an affair with

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her and then had her husband murdered. So David's passion,
he was a man after God his own heart. But
this same man that had that strong passion, he let
his passions get the best of him, and he ended
up having an affair and then had the husband killed
of the woman he had the affair with emotional spectrum.

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We see that the last person will look at Those
are all Old Testament examples. Here's one in the New Testament. Peter,
you know him well. If you watch the chosen the
chosen does a good job of kind of showing you
that emotional range of Peter. So David's passion, Noah's overreaction,

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Joan is a maturity, Elijah's instability, and now Peter, you
apostle Peter's impulses Acts chapter four, verse one through four.
While Peter and John were speaking to the people, they
were confronted by the priest, the captain of the temple guard,
and some sadducees. These leaders were very disturbed that Peter

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and John were teaching the people that through Jesus there
is a resurrection of the dead. They arrested them and
it was already evening, put in jail, but many people
who heard the message they believed, and the number total
five thousand. So we see the boldness of Peter and John.
They were not going to allow They weren't going to

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be denied from preaching the gospel. So we see the
resolve of the apostle Peter. But he wasn't always that way.
Let's take a look back. Let's flip back to Matthew
chapter sixteen, verse twenty one through twenty three. From then on,
Jesus began to tell his disciples plainly that it was
necessary for him to go to Jerusalem, that he would

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suffer many terrible things at the hands of the elders,
the leading priests, and the teachers of the religious law.
He would be killed, but on the third day he
would be raised from the dead. But Peter took him
aside and began to reprimand him for saying such things.
Heaven forbid, Lord, He said, this will never happen to
Jesus turned to Peter and said, get away from me, Satan.

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You are a dangerous trap to me. You were seeing
things merely from a human point of view and not God's.
To Peter's impulse, Jesus, the scripture says, Jesus spoke very
plainly about what was going to happen to him, and Peter, no, no, no, no, no, no, Lord,
it can't be. This was already prophetically spoken, this was

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prophesied what would happen to Jesus. And so Jesus was
responding in that moment. It wasn't Peter who was talking
to the thing behind what Peter said, Satan, And that's
what Jesus rebuked. But we see Peter's boldness and resolve
and courage in one account and this one. He's reacting

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out of fear and disbelieve. No, Lord, you can't. It's
part of the plan, Peter. So again, emotional spectrum, we
see it with Peter, I know what you're thinking, My goodness, Well, Jason,
you talked about Elijah, Jonah, Noah, David, and Peter, and

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we see the emotional spectrum. We see that pendulum swing
back and forth. But folks, I'm here to tell you
we have an example. Our ultimate example is Jesus. He
displayed emotions but didn't send Hebrews chapter four, verse fifteen.

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For we do not have a high priest who is
unable to empathize with our weaknesses. But we have one
who has been tempted in every way. Highlight that we
have one who has been tempted in every way just
as we are, Yet he did not sin. Our ultimate

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example is Jesus. Jesus displayed emotions, but he didn't sin.
And so, folks, as we get ready to talk about
some practicality, this make it practical. We talked about the
emotional intelligent skills, but the world tries behavior modification. We

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talked about they try outside in, but the spirit of
the Living God is inside out. And we see that
when we walk and the spirit and the fruit of
the Spirit are evident in our life, that transformation that
occurred when we came in relationship with Jesus Christ. So
now things like self management, self regulation, motivation, empathy and

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social skills, self and being other centric. We see that
through the fruit of the spirit, and Jesus is our
old time example. Let's talk about making things practical when
it comes to the emotional spectrum and managing our emotions.

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Sometimes you just need to halt, halt, but it may
be a halt that you'd never heard of. I'm talking
about an acronym HLT halt. The H stands for hungry,
the A stands for angry, the L stands for lonely,

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and the T stands for tired. Brothers and sisters, ladies
and gentlemen. A practical indicator of you maybe not being
at your most emotionally stable is are you hungry, angry,

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lonely or tired? Is that the best time to sell
is that the best time to negotiate, is that the
best time to have a really serious conversation, is that
the best time to do X y and Z, to
say x y and Z, no if we're honest about

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it or not. I know I'm honest about it. So
one of the ways, a practical way that we can
allow the fruit of the spirit to be present in
our life is to consider, when's the last time you ate?
Are you angered about something? Are you bitter? Have you

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let something take root? Do you feel lonely? We came
out of the pandemic, loneliness was highlighted more than ever
people were in isolation, and so we underestimate loneliness. And
the fourth one, of course, man, when we're tired, our

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cognition and everything is operating at low levels. So think
about that next time and managing your emotions. Sometimes you
need to halt, take inventory if you're hungry, angry, lonely,
or tired. Another practical way to deal with our emotions.

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Now I said halt, but that was an acronym. Literally
also halt, except we're going to call this a pause.
And sports, when a team feels like they're losing momentum
or that the crowd is in a frenzy, especially if
you're the visitor and you're playing against the home team,

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sometimes you need to call a timeout. In fact and basketball,
you can take a full timeout or a thirty second
time though, So a thirty second time out, you'll see
him touch the shoulders like this, and then a full
timeout is the normal time you get TV timeout, So
you'll see the refs confirm with the thirty second timeout,

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and then you'll see them stretch out the hands fully
for a full timeout. With our emotions, it's the same way.
Maybe we're deep in conversation, we're getting super passionate, we're arguing,
we're starting to dominate the convo a little bit. Oh,
hold on, Billy, hold on, Sally, pause, call a timeout

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to regroup. It doesn't just work in sports. It works
if you're having a tough conversation. It works if you
just need a do over. You know what, I'm I
miss something clearly, I'm not I hadn't listener. I'm not understanding.

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Can we just start over? Can we regroup? Can we
call it time out so you can pause and regroup,
or you can pause, take five, take ten minutes, come
back after you calm down. Don't get your blood pressure
all out of whack. Two practical ways to deal with

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emotion halt, call timeout, regroup, going back to halt for
a second. Hungry, angry, lonely, tired. We're going to talk
about one of those in particular, because if it's not
managed well, things will go south quickly. And that's the

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a anger, A quick examination of anger James, Chapter one,
verse nineteen and twenty. Be quick to listen, slow to speak,
and slow to get angry. The anger of man doesn't
produce the righteousness of God. Quick to listen, slow to speak,

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slow to get angry human anger. The anger of man
does not produce the righteousness of God. Ephesians four twenty eight.
The a part of the verse says, be angry, but
do not sin, brothers and sisters. If we're not careful,

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anger takes a root and we become bitter, and then
we hold grudges, and the Bible talks about all three
of them. It's okay to be angry, but we can't
sin with it. Anger is like a disease. It kills
at the cellular level, the heart level. I know from

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personal experience, God did a great work in my life
where I've had to reconcile with family members, and that's
a testimony for another day. But I know I was angry,
I was fearful. I didn't like where my family had
come from, and so the fear crated this anger, and

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for a seven year period, anger dictated my life. I
don't want that for you. More importantly, God doesn't want
it for you. Forgiveness, repentance, and reconciliation fancy words, repentance,
saying I'm sorry, making a U turn. Doctor Tony Evans

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talks about making a U turn. I was going in
this direction and I need to go off, get off
the exit, and turn around and go the opposite way.
Not just saying I'm sorry, but going away from that action. Repentance, forgiveness.
When someone comes to you and repents and says they're

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sorry and makes an effort to turn it around, are
you gonna let them when they go and get off
the exit? Are you gonna hold them up? Are you
going to stop them? Are you going to allow them
to try to be a man or woman of their word?
Jesus said, forgive seventy times seven. Forgive others, because our

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father in heaven first forgave us. Our father won't forgive
us if we don't forgive others. That's kind of that.
We don't have time to even unpack that. But Jesus
and the Father were very serious about our ability to
forgive and our ability to repent and then reconciliation. Interesting words.

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So the two parties, the party that says I'm sorry,
the party that accepts the apology, So the repenter and
the forgiver the process. You can do that and still
keep a chasm. There can still be a gap. Reconciliation
brings the relationship back to what it was originally. We

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can have people repent, we can have people ask for forgiveness,
but the relationship never gets fully back. Reconciliation is that
restoring or bringing back the relationship between the two warring parties.
Now I'm not saying that every reconciliation is perfect or
that you should reconcile with everyone, because there's some people

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that they just never get it, they never understand, And
maybe you need to protect your own sanity and your
own emotions. But if at all you can forgive, repent
and reconcile, If at all, as we get ready to close,

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if you're out here listening, we're talking about these nuggets
of wisdom. We talked about the emotional spectrum. We talked
about how the world pushes emotional intelligence. But if you're
in christ you have the spirit, the Holy Spirit, spiritual intelligence,
which is the thing that allows you to govern your
emotions day to day with love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness,

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and self control. And as humans, we have this emotional spectrum,
but we can't manage our emotions without being in relationship
with God. And I'd like to invite you if you're
listening to these nuggets and it's like, man, this stuff
is good. This isn't just cool good stuff to do.

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This comes out from a heart change. This comes from
a transformation. This comes from doing things differently, allowing God
to come in your heart and have relationship with you.
And I want to invite you into a relationship with

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Jesus Christ. If that's you, and you no longer want
to be bound by anger, You no longer want to
be pulled and stretched by your emotions and feel out
of control. You can have a controlled life in Jesus.
If that's you, I want to invite you in relationship.

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Would Jesus repeat this prayer after me? Dear Lord, I
am a sinner, and I recognize the error of my ways.
I confess with my mouth and believe in my heart
that Jesus Christ died on the cross for my sins,

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and that the Father raised him from the dead, and
that he is now seated at the right hand of God.
I choose to day to commit my life to you, Jesus.
I commit to serve you all the days of my life.
I invite you into my heart and I desire to

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have relationship with you. I open up my heart and
I receive you by faith in Jesus name. Amen. If
you prayed that prayer, Glory to God. Welcome to the
Family of God. You are in Christ. You have access

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to manage your emotions with the Holy Spirit's help. But
we want to celebrate with you. Email us at info
at Jericho Force j E r I c h O
FO r CE info at Jerichoforce dot com. Email us

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and we'd love to celebrate with you. We'd love for
you to get connected with a local church and to
talk about the journey that's next now that you're in Christ.
It's about growing and maturing day to day, and we'd
love to hear from you. Info at Jerichoforce dot com. Folks,

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that's all we have time today on fortified and wisdom.
You know how we end things. You can walk in
the Wisdom of God daily and remember when you don't
know what to do, Wisdom splits the difference. Stay tuned
for some musical selections from some outstanding artists. We'll see

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you next time on Fortified and Wisdom God.

Speaker 1 (46:50):
Bless Thank you for listening to the Fortified Life podcast.
You can catch us live on Wednesdays at a thirty
pm Eastern Time and on demand. Check out Fortified Live
Podcasts dot com for more details. So learn how to
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