October 15, 2023 • 29 mins
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It's one of the things that thatthat I dealt with early on was the
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conviction ain't overbearing. So if itain't punching you in the face, you
ain't about to change. Yeah,it's like we want God to like pick
our arm up and put it aroundour wife's shoulders and right right, Welcome
to the god Boat Life Podcast.I'm your host, Mark Gotboat with my
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beautiful wife Jane Cowboat. We believethat marriage God's way is the most powerful
catalyst towards healing and holiness for youand everybody after you. It's crazy that
the season one comes up today withother people where like I went to go
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and share the link and I'm youknow, I'm looking at like the way
I'm dressed, and like the waywe're talking, what we're talking about,
and even when he's bringing you know, these playbacks back, it actually feels
like that was longer ago than itactually was. So when you say that
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that was just last April that wereleased it, almost two years since we
actually filmed it, which is,you know, kind of he feels more
of that, I guess is whatI'm feeling. But we're so different now
and even if we would have didsomething like this when we wanted to.
I don't think that it would bewhat it's going to be now because we
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are truly different. Our virtue hasincreased the way we view each other.
Our marriage is different, Yeah,we are. Our marriage is very different
than it was. Even when weshot the first podcast. I think we
were just at the it was likewe are in our parents' home, still
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married, but living with our parents. So like at that time we were
were just like finally getting out ofthe house to actually build our marriage the
way we were supposed to build ourmarriage that wasn't centered on what someone thlose
fields of things and their experiences,but what God actually wants to do through
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us. And so now we've beenliving on our own for a while,
we've had to like actually have theconversations and do all the things because it's
us. And we've also discovered inthis time that like it was always in
us, Yes, it was goingto take us both growing, healing,
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doing the work. Setting boundaries.Boundaries have been such a key point,
and not setting boundaries to not letanyone in, but setting boundaries so that
there's a safe space not just forus, but who God brings in to
us. It's so refreshing. Nowfeels like the right time. Now it
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feels like, okay, well wherewe're supposed to be. We waited on
him, we're in his provision,were being obedient to what he wants us
to do. So yeah, thisis fire. I mean it feels different.
I'm just like, yeah, thisfeels good. Like I didn't know
what to expect. I mean,like I said, I trust you,
but it was like I've had tobe focused and focused and you know,
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being present is something that I've beenlike really clinging to as a late and
so in doing that, I didn'thave the time to fantasize about what we
talk about where we'd be Well,let's setting talk it out. Now,
what do you what are you prayingfor over this season? Like, what
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do you desire from God on thisjourney, specifically in this season for this
podcast number one, that it doeswhat he wants it to do. Going
back to how different we are now, we got an idea of what to
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pray, not my will, butyour will be done, but we've actually
had the experience to putting that intoaction, and we've realized that through that,
truly his ways are better than ourways. Even thinking about the season
one the relationships that came out ofseason one, there are so many people,
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not so many, but a groupof people who are in our lives.
Now. That was that we didn'teven know prior to season one,
but they came into our lives becausethrough season one that are like family to
us, that are very important tous, that we love dearly, that
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we're there for and that's there forus. So that was through obedience.
That wasn't something that we were prayingfor, like God send righteous community our
way. It was something that likebecause we were being obedient to the present,
that was just a part of it. Yeah, And that's part of
following his leading is He's taken careof all the things that you need before
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you even know that you need them. And so I think that if you're
listening to this podcast, you needthis. You may not know exactly all
the reasons why you need this atthis very moment, but trust that God
orchestrates everything. So it is soif someone shared this with you or you're
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just stumbling upon this, it's notfor nothing and it's not just by chance.
There's a purpose in it. AndI hope that through this God reveals
what that is to you and thatit hits you at your core and your
heart so that you can pick upwhatever He's trying to deliver to you through
this show. And so for me, that's all I am praying over this
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podcast this season is that it givespeople the deliveries that God is trying to
get to them, that we aresimply being the messengers of that message,
you know, taking it from oneplace to the next and making sure that
it gets to you when it's supposedto get to you. So that's why
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your obedience, our obedience is soimportant because God's got a huge plan working
and there's all these moving parts andit's like, you know, we're trying
to make sure that we're doing ourpart at the time that He tells us
to do it so that you getwhat you need to get and not it.
So it's not just about what wecan receive because we're being obedient,
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It's not about what we're going toget out of all of it. In
front of you being present, thenext thing God said to do, no
matter what that is, and we'vewe've that's been a big lesson in this
season that like, no matter whatthat is, we are better off trusting
him than anything that we can possiblyconjure up ourselves. Yea too. I'm
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praying that this is watermelon juice formarriages. Watermelon juice for marriages, Yes,
because I was trying to think oflike one instead of like saying all
these different things like breath fast.I dreached you all that watermelon juice for
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me y'all in this season, Babe, don't I drink every week? Like
I go, get a whole watermelon. I'll take time to cut it up.
Many kids eat it as we're going. MJ eating it now. He
has something for the first time afew days ago. But I put it
in the VitaminX and I'll bleme thatthing, strained it seven times and it's
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hydrating. It tastes good. Itjust electrolytes the whole nine. But like
it tastes best though, when it'swhen I really really really need it,
like after run or after I've beencutting out yard y'all because it's been hot.
It's I don't know what in Texas, but the works they gotta get
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done on the garden planning things whateverI'm doing. Watermelon juice just like ah,
So that's what I wanted to be. I want this to be for
marriages, because marriage is under suchattack and it grieves me, especially from
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the man side of things, becauseI know that it starts with us.
I know it starts with us,and all we gotta do is get those
barriers out of the way, whateverthose like, all of our barriers are
different. Mama's secrets, like gettingthe secrets out so that we can have
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the marriage that we are supposed tohave, getting the distractions out of the
way, so that I can hearGod from my family to lead them the
way he desires for them to beled. So it's like, I want
this to be like watermelon juice,like hydration stuff that is in it that
your body needs that you don't evennotice in it that your body needs.
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Like that's what I want this tobe, and that's what I believe that
He wants it to be, whichis why we've had to have the year
and a half that we've had toget to this point. And then three,
hmm, God, what is three? When it is three? What
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are you trying to put the meon? Like reason things you want to
pray for over the podcast that's aboutto say it may just be that.
It may just be that it doesn'thappen. And I was about to say
the same thing, but you yea, my beautiful real ticket. I love
it. So those two things,if it does, those like those are
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the two things that not just thatI'm praying for, but that we've got
in confirmation, then it will be. So it's just us. Well,
you know, as I'm thinking,maybe three is using it and putting it
to action, is actually taking thedelivery that you got from this podcast and
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doing something with it. So basicallywhat you're saying is it ain't just like
buying a watermelon juice in it andthen put it in the frieze because I
put it in a fresh for toolong. It's spoils y'all. Let me
tell y'all real quick, this storyof hearing the Holy Spirit, okay and
obeying, especially on the little stuffthat don't cost you nothing to obey,
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like, just do it. SoI'm parched. I had some coconut water.
I was like, Oh, I'mgonna have some cantleloap juice in the
fridge. I'm like, oh,I'm gonna put this candlo juice in my
coconut water bottle. Shake it up, drink it right, and it's my
last bottle of coconut water. SoI take it out the free I take
both out the fridge, I takethe tops off and I'm like, I'm
about to pour it. Then theHorsebury said try that canloa juice before you
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pour it. And at first Iwas like, man, that's just me.
I was like, you know what, it wouldn't hurt me to try
this before. I like wo Sothen the cap that the cantload containers and
I poured something in the cap andI sipped it. It was spoiled,
and I'm so glad. That soundsso nasty, but I'm so glad I
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did cringe. Things is to inexperience realize that something you thought was still
good is actually spoiled. Well see, but not this time, because there
was like a fifty fifty shot ofmy head. I'm like, it's been
in here for about a week.But I mean even the fact that you
had to taste the spoiled canalope juice, but I would have rather tasted it
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like I poured it in the restof my coat andut water. Then to
pour it in there and then Ihave to throw both in the trash and
all I have to do is trythis one to be protected from. So
it's like it was that simple.It was literally that simple. So yeah,
you can do all that. Youcan come and you can buy your
watermelon. You can cut it openand you can do all the things and
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put the juice in and then notdrink it. Yeah, so like one
of the things that I mean,that's like, you know, Biblically,
people read the Bible and then forgetwhat they read and not put in an
action, as if they were lookingin the mirror at their face and then
walk through it from the mirror andforget what you look like. Like,
you have to put these things intoaction. There's so many conversations I have
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where it's like, man, I'mdoing what God told me to do by
sharing this, but that's all Ican do. Yeah, you have to
actually take it and piet do itbecause it all sounds nice and looks good.
But if all you're doing is justsitting and listening and then continuing on
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about your life as if you didn'tcome in contact with information that you know
convicted you and that you should implementin your life, but you're choosing not
to because the resistance is too muchor people think too much, or because
one of the things that I dealtwith early on was the conviction ain't overbearing.
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So if it ain't punching you inthe face, you ain't about to
jack. Yeah, it's like wewant God to like pick our am up
and put it around my wife's shouldersand right right like making it and it's
like there, like you're just doingfor me, just for me, and
it's like, no, okay.Prime example, last night, I did
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not want to touch you. Iknow you didn't. Oh, there you
go. I did not want totouch you because he was mad at me.
Y'all. Y'all because she spent allday yesterday doing these breaks. And
she told me the night before thatshe was spending some of the days.
She said, and I quote,it's not going to take that long.
And it took her thirteen fourteen hours. No, it did not. You
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started at six am. It didnot start at six. I still have
to get stuff together. I reallydidn't start till seven. Okay, you
didn't finish at seven thirty. Sotwelve and half hours. No, that's
break. That's ten hours first offseven and seven, it's twelve hour.
I don't know what your math lookright, that's not your strong suit.
But that's twelve hours because I wasthinking I did take a break like in
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the middle of it, but ittook me way longer than yes, and
it was labor days, so itwas just me and the kids, and
it was just a lot, okay, y'all, so getting the weak stuff.
It was just a lot. SoI wasn't in the mood to touch
her. Your said nothing. However, I knew that it was going to
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be a thing, and I prayedthroughout the day for the patients to deal
with this differently than I normally dealwith it. And last night I was
convicted to grab you, to getclose to you, even in me not
wanting to immediately. And God didn'thave a wind blow hard enough to push
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me closer to you in the bed. There wasn't a spider on this side
of me, so I had tomove closer. Like it was just a
conviction to love my wife. Andwe are in a very different place now
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to where that gentleness is not justenough, but like that's the one that
we want to listen to every singletime, and sometimes in my past I
want I wanted God to like justsnatch my point addiction, just pick it
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up and throw it. I didn'twant to use my agency to make different
decisions, to make a decision periodin the way that he wanted me to,
in the way that he gave meagency for. So sometimes because God
is gentle, because He is lovingkindness, we take that for like,
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well, the way I've learned inthe world that if you want to do
something, you got to go overthere and make them do it. You
gotta give them signs them that it'slike no, yeah, with loving kindness,
how I drawn thee right, it'salways that, So yeah, it's
this shit. If you feel thatlike through in your heart, that's like,
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yeah, you need to move now. But the gentleness that we pray
that this podcast convicts with is likethat's that's the sign to do something different,
to move like him, that small, gentle voice. And I think
the unfortunate part of how even alot of pastors preach is they screaming at
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you. And in a way theydoing that because they've taken note on people
only engage with me when I yellat them, because that's how they've been
dealt with outside of this place.And so I got to speak to them
the way that they're gonna engage andouslike that that hole, this is how
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I experience it. So this ishow it's just that is literally playing God
because you are deciding in that momentthat the way you think that they need
to be talked to takes precedence overHis spirit, and his spirit is just
because he talks to you in acertain type of way. Because I've heard
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people say like, oh, wellGod talks to me like this and he
gonna and it's like he very well, maybe I can't discern the Holy Spirit
for you, So yeah, butwhat but what we do know is the
character of the Holy Spirit is literallybased off of Jesus, and loving kindness
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and gentleness and comfort and patience andlong suffering are all of its fruit.
So where in that is like thisaccusatory pointing the finger intensity of anything.
And the thing is this is notto point fingers at anyone, but it
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is to just pose the question andthe thought, and to pose the question
and the thought of are you morelikely to listen to somebody who is screaming
at you with truth or are youmore likely to pay attention to somebody who's
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speaking truth? To you, butcalmly and gently, and if you answer
the first one, then I wouldencourage you to dive into deeper as to
why, because if that is theway you've been brought up and that's what
you're used to, then that meansthat you have been influenced by the world.
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And so in order to grow andto really understand who the Father is,
you have to understand what loving kindnessis and what gentleness is, and
why you don't need to puff yourchest up and scream at people or even
raise your voice to get your pointacross. That's been something for me that
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I've grown to understand so much inthe past couple of years, is that
I don't need to put on thisstrength in order to get what I'm trying
to get across to somebody. IfI need to say something and I'm being
specific, then I will be sternin my voice, I will be direct.
I have no issue with that.But I definitely felt this influence from
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the world to be you know,the witty, strong kind of pet but
like low key petties so you can'ttell unless you know if you know kind
of thing, but like very quickto like cut somebody down and or point
out somebody's flaw and that showed thatyou were, in some way, shape
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or form, more dominant, morepowerful than someone else. And that happens
in so many different spaces, includingat church. And I think that for
me as a person, this hasbecome something that is like core essential to
myself, to my platform as aninfluencer, but also like us as a
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couple and myself as a mom awife. Is to realize that I do
not need to exert myself. Idon't need to exert myself. If God
has put something in me to deliverto somebody, then I don't need to
figure out ways to persuade the personto understand what I'm saying. Because if
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God brought me to you to sharesomething with you, He's already worked on
you, and He's created this opportunityfor us to gather and to communicate,
and so I don't need to likedo a lot to get something across.
If you want to know more,I will continue on as far as you
allow me to go and as faras the Father will allow me to go.
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But I think that we are veryquick to appreciate people who are witty
and clever, and can you knowout wordsmith somebody else in a you know,
communication debate. But at the endof the day, where has that
actually gotten us as a generation debatingIt's like, to your point, what
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it is is manipulation and something thatI've been working on tremendously is that.
And the reality is if manipulation taintschoice, So I say, you can
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choose to do this or you cannot. But I'm strong arming you in the
direction that I think that you shouldgo. So it's taking more for you
to move away from that versus beinggentle, being kind in my approach.
Every time Christ talk to people,no matter what the setting was, no
matter what was on the line,you got gentleness. You never got let
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me yell at you, and youknow, do all like No for those
and for those who want to talkabout the whole flipping tables thing, even
even if we want to debate onwhether or not he actually flipped the tables
or not, that is one instanceout of every other. No, he
didn't feel the table, but that'sanother. That's another up brought. I'm
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trying to get to the point ofwhy I brought it up, which was
either way, that was an anomalyof his character, that was a rarity
in his character. It wasn't hisall the time. This is how I
am, and I'm just sometimes orrarely gentle and kind. It's not so
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people like Red. So so sayingthat, it's like a lot of us
will cling to the exception when thatis not the norm. And so spirit
that's a spirit too. But yeah, like we came, We came to
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the exception, but the norm isgentleness. So like how we talk to
people and allowing them to choose howfar they want to go, whether or
not they want to listen all ofthose things, because it actually will mean
more for them to actually change theother way, because it won't be because
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of something that I said, butbecause of something older spirit can confirmed through
me. And also what we don'tunderstand sometimes in our living worldly being,
you know, young spiritually or weakenedspiritually, is that we will because somebody's
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yelling something at me or saying somethingand they're telling me and it's got some
truth in it, we will thenmake it about well, if I don't
do this the way that such andsuch told me, they're gonna be mad
at me. So then the truthbecomes about somebody else and not about you,
so you start to pick up onthings like, yeah, they're true.
They're telling me to be this way, and they're telling me to change
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my life like this, And mypastor said X, Y and Z.
But and I don't want to disappointmy pastor and the people around me,
so I'm I'll stick to It can'tbe about that. It has it has
It has to be about how muchdo you love the Father to follow him?
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How much do you love Christ tofollow him and to allow him to
guide your life and to listen tohim, obey his Holy Spirit so that
you can actually live the life thatwas created for you. That has nothing
to do with anybody else. Godcan use people, and God will allow
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even people that are not delivering hismessage in the way he saw fit.
He can still use that and dosomething fruitful in your life with it.
But it just gets hairy when it'sdelivered in such a way where because we
don't want to do the bad thingor the wrong thing, or we're trying
to be better and this person islooming over us, whether it be virtually,
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whether it be spiritually, whether itbe physically, we don't want to
do anything wrong, so we're justgonna do what they say because they said
it, and it's like you're stillmissing it. It's got to be because
in your heart you desire a closerrelationship. I did not change my walk
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or change myself or pursue Christ becauseyou did. Maybe in the beginning,
I was like, Okay, he'sdoing something different. But God had already
been working on me my whole life, trying to get me to this place.
He used you, He used ourmarriage to get me closer to him.
Even in those moments when you startedbeing more spiritual and being more focused
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on your Bible study and all thosethings, and I was like, I'm
good. I'm good on that.I don't need that. I'm good even
to that point though, Like Ididn't force you. I didn't force it
on. I didn't make you doanything. There were moments when you tried
to and then you realize very quicklythat that wasn't gonna it wasn't gonna work.
But that wasn't the way. Yeah, because he doesn't force us to
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do anything. No, he doesn'tforce us to choose him. He does
not force us to do what hesays, and he texted and stuff.
Further, he respects your choice.Yeah. So a lot of times I've
heard this too, like, youknow, God, God gonna make this
happen to you, and he's like, no, it's if I'm in my
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daddy's house. He's just analogy.You're doing the young from in my daddy's
house, and he has these rulesto her, for example, don't run
in the street. Well, ifI'm in the house, I don't even
have to worry about running in thestreet because I'm in the house. But
when I go outside, I'm notsupposed to go in the street. If
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I go in the street, thenthat means I'm not vulnerable to outside things
that are not inside of my daddy'shouse, whether that be getting hit by
a car, whether that be followingand scabbing up my knee, whatever those
things are. He didn't make thosethings happen. Now, I've said this
before. If he was to seeme in the street and then get in
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his car and come hit me onpurpose to teach me a lesson, that's
not a good father. However,if I'm not in the street, I
don't have to worry about that.God is not getting in his car to
hit me because I'm in the street. But I am now more susceptible to
the enemy's attacks because I'm outside ofthe will of my father. Thank you
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so much for tuning in to thisepisode of the Godbolt Life Podcast. We'd
love to hear from you. Shootus a DM or leave us a review
wherever you're listening. We really appreciatehaving you with us on this journey.
It's one of the things that thatthat I dealt with early on was the
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conviction ain't overbearing. So if itain't punching you in the face, you
ain't about to change. Yeah,it's like we want God to like pick
our arm up and put it aroundour wife's shoulders and right right, Welcome
to the god Boat Life Podcast.I'm your host, Mark Gotboat with my
(00:25):
beautiful wife Jane Cowboat. We believethat marriage God's way is the most powerful
catalyst towards healing and holiness for youand everybody after you. It's crazy that
the season one comes up today withother people where like I went to go
(00:47):
and share the link and I'm youknow, I'm looking at like the way
I'm dressed, and like the waywe're talking, what we're talking about,
and even when he's bringing you know, these playbacks back, it actually feels
like that was longer ago than itactually was. So when you say that
(01:07):
that was just last April that wereleased it, almost two years since we
actually filmed it, which is,you know, kind of he feels more
of that, I guess is whatI'm feeling. But we're so different now
and even if we would have didsomething like this when we wanted to.
I don't think that it would bewhat it's going to be now because we
(01:32):
are truly different. Our virtue hasincreased the way we view each other.
Our marriage is different, Yeah,we are. Our marriage is very different
than it was. Even when weshot the first podcast. I think we
were just at the it was likewe are in our parents' home, still
(01:55):
married, but living with our parents. So like at that time we were
were just like finally getting out ofthe house to actually build our marriage the
way we were supposed to build ourmarriage that wasn't centered on what someone thlose
fields of things and their experiences,but what God actually wants to do through
(02:15):
us. And so now we've beenliving on our own for a while,
we've had to like actually have theconversations and do all the things because it's
us. And we've also discovered inthis time that like it was always in
us, Yes, it was goingto take us both growing, healing,
(02:37):
doing the work. Setting boundaries.Boundaries have been such a key point,
and not setting boundaries to not letanyone in, but setting boundaries so that
there's a safe space not just forus, but who God brings in to
us. It's so refreshing. Nowfeels like the right time. Now it
(03:00):
feels like, okay, well wherewe're supposed to be. We waited on
him, we're in his provision,were being obedient to what he wants us
to do. So yeah, thisis fire. I mean it feels different.
I'm just like, yeah, thisfeels good. Like I didn't know
what to expect. I mean,like I said, I trust you,
but it was like I've had tobe focused and focused and you know,
(03:25):
being present is something that I've beenlike really clinging to as a late and
so in doing that, I didn'thave the time to fantasize about what we
talk about where we'd be Well,let's setting talk it out. Now,
what do you what are you prayingfor over this season? Like, what
(03:46):
do you desire from God on thisjourney, specifically in this season for this
podcast number one, that it doeswhat he wants it to do. Going
back to how different we are now, we got an idea of what to
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pray, not my will, butyour will be done, but we've actually
had the experience to putting that intoaction, and we've realized that through that,
truly his ways are better than ourways. Even thinking about the season
one the relationships that came out ofseason one, there are so many people,
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not so many, but a groupof people who are in our lives.
Now. That was that we didn'teven know prior to season one,
but they came into our lives becausethrough season one that are like family to
us, that are very important tous, that we love dearly, that
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we're there for and that's there forus. So that was through obedience.
That wasn't something that we were prayingfor, like God send righteous community our
way. It was something that likebecause we were being obedient to the present,
that was just a part of it. Yeah, And that's part of
following his leading is He's taken careof all the things that you need before
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you even know that you need them. And so I think that if you're
listening to this podcast, you needthis. You may not know exactly all
the reasons why you need this atthis very moment, but trust that God
orchestrates everything. So it is soif someone shared this with you or you're
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just stumbling upon this, it's notfor nothing and it's not just by chance.
There's a purpose in it. AndI hope that through this God reveals
what that is to you and thatit hits you at your core and your
heart so that you can pick upwhatever He's trying to deliver to you through
this show. And so for me, that's all I am praying over this
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podcast this season is that it givespeople the deliveries that God is trying to
get to them, that we aresimply being the messengers of that message,
you know, taking it from oneplace to the next and making sure that
it gets to you when it's supposedto get to you. So that's why
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your obedience, our obedience is soimportant because God's got a huge plan working
and there's all these moving parts andit's like, you know, we're trying
to make sure that we're doing ourpart at the time that He tells us
to do it so that you getwhat you need to get and not it.
So it's not just about what wecan receive because we're being obedient,
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It's not about what we're going toget out of all of it. In
front of you being present, thenext thing God said to do, no
matter what that is, and we'vewe've that's been a big lesson in this
season that like, no matter whatthat is, we are better off trusting
him than anything that we can possiblyconjure up ourselves. Yea too. I'm
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praying that this is watermelon juice formarriages. Watermelon juice for marriages, Yes,
because I was trying to think oflike one instead of like saying all
these different things like breath fast.I dreached you all that watermelon juice for
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me y'all in this season, Babe, don't I drink every week? Like
I go, get a whole watermelon. I'll take time to cut it up.
Many kids eat it as we're going. MJ eating it now. He
has something for the first time afew days ago. But I put it
in the VitaminX and I'll bleme thatthing, strained it seven times and it's
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hydrating. It tastes good. Itjust electrolytes the whole nine. But like
it tastes best though, when it'swhen I really really really need it,
like after run or after I've beencutting out yard y'all because it's been hot.
It's I don't know what in Texas, but the works they gotta get
(08:24):
done on the garden planning things whateverI'm doing. Watermelon juice just like ah,
So that's what I wanted to be. I want this to be for
marriages, because marriage is under suchattack and it grieves me, especially from
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the man side of things, becauseI know that it starts with us.
I know it starts with us,and all we gotta do is get those
barriers out of the way, whateverthose like, all of our barriers are
different. Mama's secrets, like gettingthe secrets out so that we can have
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the marriage that we are supposed tohave, getting the distractions out of the
way, so that I can hearGod from my family to lead them the
way he desires for them to beled. So it's like, I want
this to be like watermelon juice,like hydration stuff that is in it that
your body needs that you don't evennotice in it that your body needs.
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Like that's what I want this tobe, and that's what I believe that
He wants it to be, whichis why we've had to have the year
and a half that we've had toget to this point. And then three,
hmm, God, what is three? When it is three? What
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are you trying to put the meon? Like reason things you want to
pray for over the podcast that's aboutto say it may just be that.
It may just be that it doesn'thappen. And I was about to say
the same thing, but you yea, my beautiful real ticket. I love
it. So those two things,if it does, those like those are
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the two things that not just thatI'm praying for, but that we've got
in confirmation, then it will be. So it's just us. Well,
you know, as I'm thinking,maybe three is using it and putting it
to action, is actually taking thedelivery that you got from this podcast and
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doing something with it. So basicallywhat you're saying is it ain't just like
buying a watermelon juice in it andthen put it in the frieze because I
put it in a fresh for toolong. It's spoils y'all. Let me
tell y'all real quick, this storyof hearing the Holy Spirit, okay and
obeying, especially on the little stuffthat don't cost you nothing to obey,
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like, just do it. SoI'm parched. I had some coconut water.
I was like, Oh, I'mgonna have some cantleloap juice in the
fridge. I'm like, oh,I'm gonna put this candlo juice in my
coconut water bottle. Shake it up, drink it right, and it's my
last bottle of coconut water. SoI take it out the free I take
both out the fridge, I takethe tops off and I'm like, I'm
about to pour it. Then theHorsebury said try that canloa juice before you
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pour it. And at first Iwas like, man, that's just me.
I was like, you know what, it wouldn't hurt me to try
this before. I like wo Sothen the cap that the cantload containers and
I poured something in the cap andI sipped it. It was spoiled,
and I'm so glad. That soundsso nasty, but I'm so glad I
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did cringe. Things is to inexperience realize that something you thought was still
good is actually spoiled. Well see, but not this time, because there
was like a fifty fifty shot ofmy head. I'm like, it's been
in here for about a week.But I mean even the fact that you
had to taste the spoiled canalope juice, but I would have rather tasted it
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like I poured it in the restof my coat andut water. Then to
pour it in there and then Ihave to throw both in the trash and
all I have to do is trythis one to be protected from. So
it's like it was that simple.It was literally that simple. So yeah,
you can do all that. Youcan come and you can buy your
watermelon. You can cut it openand you can do all the things and
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put the juice in and then notdrink it. Yeah, so like one
of the things that I mean,that's like, you know, Biblically,
people read the Bible and then forgetwhat they read and not put in an
action, as if they were lookingin the mirror at their face and then
walk through it from the mirror andforget what you look like. Like,
you have to put these things intoaction. There's so many conversations I have
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where it's like, man, I'mdoing what God told me to do by
sharing this, but that's all Ican do. Yeah, you have to
actually take it and piet do itbecause it all sounds nice and looks good.
But if all you're doing is justsitting and listening and then continuing on
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about your life as if you didn'tcome in contact with information that you know
convicted you and that you should implementin your life, but you're choosing not
to because the resistance is too muchor people think too much, or because
one of the things that I dealtwith early on was the conviction ain't overbearing.
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So if it ain't punching you inthe face, you ain't about to
jack. Yeah, it's like wewant God to like pick our am up
and put it around my wife's shouldersand right right like making it and it's
like there, like you're just doingfor me, just for me, and
it's like, no, okay.Prime example, last night, I did
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not want to touch you. Iknow you didn't. Oh, there you
go. I did not want totouch you because he was mad at me.
Y'all. Y'all because she spent allday yesterday doing these breaks. And
she told me the night before thatshe was spending some of the days.
She said, and I quote,it's not going to take that long.
And it took her thirteen fourteen hours. No, it did not. You
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started at six am. It didnot start at six. I still have
to get stuff together. I reallydidn't start till seven. Okay, you
didn't finish at seven thirty. Sotwelve and half hours. No, that's
break. That's ten hours first offseven and seven, it's twelve hour.
I don't know what your math lookright, that's not your strong suit.
But that's twelve hours because I wasthinking I did take a break like in
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the middle of it, but ittook me way longer than yes, and
it was labor days, so itwas just me and the kids, and
it was just a lot, okay, y'all, so getting the weak stuff.
It was just a lot. SoI wasn't in the mood to touch
her. Your said nothing. However, I knew that it was going to
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be a thing, and I prayedthroughout the day for the patients to deal
with this differently than I normally dealwith it. And last night I was
convicted to grab you, to getclose to you, even in me not
wanting to immediately. And God didn'thave a wind blow hard enough to push
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me closer to you in the bed. There wasn't a spider on this side
of me, so I had tomove closer. Like it was just a
conviction to love my wife. Andwe are in a very different place now
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to where that gentleness is not justenough, but like that's the one that
we want to listen to every singletime, and sometimes in my past I
want I wanted God to like justsnatch my point addiction, just pick it
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up and throw it. I didn'twant to use my agency to make different
decisions, to make a decision periodin the way that he wanted me to,
in the way that he gave meagency for. So sometimes because God
is gentle, because He is lovingkindness, we take that for like,
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well, the way I've learned inthe world that if you want to do
something, you got to go overthere and make them do it. You
gotta give them signs them that it'slike no, yeah, with loving kindness,
how I drawn thee right, it'salways that, So yeah, it's
this shit. If you feel thatlike through in your heart, that's like,
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yeah, you need to move now. But the gentleness that we pray
that this podcast convicts with is likethat's that's the sign to do something different,
to move like him, that small, gentle voice. And I think
the unfortunate part of how even alot of pastors preach is they screaming at
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you. And in a way theydoing that because they've taken note on people
only engage with me when I yellat them, because that's how they've been
dealt with outside of this place.And so I got to speak to them
the way that they're gonna engage andouslike that that hole, this is how
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I experience it. So this ishow it's just that is literally playing God
because you are deciding in that momentthat the way you think that they need
to be talked to takes precedence overHis spirit, and his spirit is just
because he talks to you in acertain type of way. Because I've heard
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people say like, oh, wellGod talks to me like this and he
gonna and it's like he very well, maybe I can't discern the Holy Spirit
for you, So yeah, butwhat but what we do know is the
character of the Holy Spirit is literallybased off of Jesus, and loving kindness
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and gentleness and comfort and patience andlong suffering are all of its fruit.
So where in that is like thisaccusatory pointing the finger intensity of anything.
And the thing is this is notto point fingers at anyone, but it
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is to just pose the question andthe thought, and to pose the question
and the thought of are you morelikely to listen to somebody who is screaming
at you with truth or are youmore likely to pay attention to somebody who's
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speaking truth? To you, butcalmly and gently, and if you answer
the first one, then I wouldencourage you to dive into deeper as to
why, because if that is theway you've been brought up and that's what
you're used to, then that meansthat you have been influenced by the world.
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And so in order to grow andto really understand who the Father is,
you have to understand what loving kindnessis and what gentleness is, and
why you don't need to puff yourchest up and scream at people or even
raise your voice to get your pointacross. That's been something for me that
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I've grown to understand so much inthe past couple of years, is that
I don't need to put on thisstrength in order to get what I'm trying
to get across to somebody. IfI need to say something and I'm being
specific, then I will be sternin my voice, I will be direct.
I have no issue with that.But I definitely felt this influence from
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the world to be you know,the witty, strong kind of pet but
like low key petties so you can'ttell unless you know if you know kind
of thing, but like very quickto like cut somebody down and or point
out somebody's flaw and that showed thatyou were, in some way, shape
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or form, more dominant, morepowerful than someone else. And that happens
in so many different spaces, includingat church. And I think that for
me as a person, this hasbecome something that is like core essential to
myself, to my platform as aninfluencer, but also like us as a
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couple and myself as a mom awife. Is to realize that I do
not need to exert myself. Idon't need to exert myself. If God
has put something in me to deliverto somebody, then I don't need to
figure out ways to persuade the personto understand what I'm saying. Because if
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God brought me to you to sharesomething with you, He's already worked on
you, and He's created this opportunityfor us to gather and to communicate,
and so I don't need to likedo a lot to get something across.
If you want to know more,I will continue on as far as you
allow me to go and as faras the Father will allow me to go.
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But I think that we are veryquick to appreciate people who are witty
and clever, and can you knowout wordsmith somebody else in a you know,
communication debate. But at the endof the day, where has that
actually gotten us as a generation debatingIt's like, to your point, what
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it is is manipulation and something thatI've been working on tremendously is that.
And the reality is if manipulation taintschoice, So I say, you can
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choose to do this or you cannot. But I'm strong arming you in the
direction that I think that you shouldgo. So it's taking more for you
to move away from that versus beinggentle, being kind in my approach.
Every time Christ talk to people,no matter what the setting was, no
matter what was on the line,you got gentleness. You never got let
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me yell at you, and youknow, do all like No for those
and for those who want to talkabout the whole flipping tables thing, even
even if we want to debate onwhether or not he actually flipped the tables
or not, that is one instanceout of every other. No, he
didn't feel the table, but that'sanother. That's another up brought. I'm
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trying to get to the point ofwhy I brought it up, which was
either way, that was an anomalyof his character, that was a rarity
in his character. It wasn't hisall the time. This is how I
am, and I'm just sometimes orrarely gentle and kind. It's not so
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people like Red. So so sayingthat, it's like a lot of us
will cling to the exception when thatis not the norm. And so spirit
that's a spirit too. But yeah, like we came, We came to
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the exception, but the norm isgentleness. So like how we talk to
people and allowing them to choose howfar they want to go, whether or
not they want to listen all ofthose things, because it actually will mean
more for them to actually change theother way, because it won't be because
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of something that I said, butbecause of something older spirit can confirmed through
me. And also what we don'tunderstand sometimes in our living worldly being,
you know, young spiritually or weakenedspiritually, is that we will because somebody's
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yelling something at me or saying somethingand they're telling me and it's got some
truth in it, we will thenmake it about well, if I don't
do this the way that such andsuch told me, they're gonna be mad
at me. So then the truthbecomes about somebody else and not about you,
so you start to pick up onthings like, yeah, they're true.
They're telling me to be this way, and they're telling me to change
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my life like this, And mypastor said X, Y and Z.
But and I don't want to disappointmy pastor and the people around me,
so I'm I'll stick to It can'tbe about that. It has it has
It has to be about how muchdo you love the Father to follow him?
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How much do you love Christ tofollow him and to allow him to
guide your life and to listen tohim, obey his Holy Spirit so that
you can actually live the life thatwas created for you. That has nothing
to do with anybody else. Godcan use people, and God will allow
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even people that are not delivering hismessage in the way he saw fit.
He can still use that and dosomething fruitful in your life with it.
But it just gets hairy when it'sdelivered in such a way where because we
don't want to do the bad thingor the wrong thing, or we're trying
to be better and this person islooming over us, whether it be virtually,
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whether it be spiritually, whether itbe physically, we don't want to
do anything wrong, so we're justgonna do what they say because they said
it, and it's like you're stillmissing it. It's got to be because
in your heart you desire a closerrelationship. I did not change my walk
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or change myself or pursue Christ becauseyou did. Maybe in the beginning,
I was like, Okay, he'sdoing something different. But God had already
been working on me my whole life, trying to get me to this place.
He used you, He used ourmarriage to get me closer to him.
Even in those moments when you startedbeing more spiritual and being more focused
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on your Bible study and all thosethings, and I was like, I'm
good. I'm good on that.I don't need that. I'm good even
to that point though, Like Ididn't force you. I didn't force it
on. I didn't make you doanything. There were moments when you tried
to and then you realize very quicklythat that wasn't gonna it wasn't gonna work.
But that wasn't the way. Yeah, because he doesn't force us to
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do anything. No, he doesn'tforce us to choose him. He does
not force us to do what hesays, and he texted and stuff.
Further, he respects your choice.Yeah. So a lot of times I've
heard this too, like, youknow, God, God gonna make this
happen to you, and he's like, no, it's if I'm in my
(28:29):
daddy's house. He's just analogy.You're doing the young from in my daddy's
house, and he has these rulesto her, for example, don't run
in the street. Well, ifI'm in the house, I don't even
have to worry about running in thestreet because I'm in the house. But
when I go outside, I'm notsupposed to go in the street. If
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I go in the street, thenthat means I'm not vulnerable to outside things
that are not inside of my daddy'shouse, whether that be getting hit by
a car, whether that be followingand scabbing up my knee, whatever those
things are. He didn't make thosethings happen. Now, I've said this
before. If he was to seeme in the street and then get in
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his car and come hit me onpurpose to teach me a lesson, that's
not a good father. However,if I'm not in the street, I
don't have to worry about that.God is not getting in his car to
hit me because I'm in the street. But I am now more susceptible to
the enemy's attacks because I'm outside ofthe will of my father. Thank you
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so much for tuning in to thisepisode of the Godbolt Life Podcast. We'd
love to hear from you. Shootus a DM or leave us a review
wherever you're listening. We really appreciatehaving you with us on this journey.
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