The Journey From GirlBoss To Wife

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Episode Transcript

(00:00):
On this week's episode of the GodboltLife podcast. I used to be very
critical and very it's either this orthat, and very hard on myself about
being able to be what I'm supposedto be in a moment, checking off
all the boxes, crossing every tand dotting every eye with whatever it is,

(00:21):
because I have such a high expectationof myself in all things that I
think. I'm coming out of aseason where I felt deeply that I was
doing everything wrong and that I wasn'ta good wife because partly I wasn't a
good wife, but it was alsothis inner communication that I had that told

(00:44):
me that I wasn't a good wifeand I would never grow to be better.
So it was like always hindering meof being open to this idea of
change and change being this scary thingfor me for a long time to now
being something that I have to manuallyembrace knowing that that's the good thing.

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Life breeds change simply submitting to youand making that manual decision like, yeah,
I wouldn't choose this, and Istill don't think this is right,
but God calls me to submit tohim and to follow him. So even
if I'm looking around, and Isee a different outcome than what you're pointing

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us towards. I have to believethat the act of following you is more
important than me being right in asituation. And when I spent so long
finding safety and being right, sometimesit feels unsafe to not be right or

(01:53):
to decide that I don't care whetherI'm right or wrong. But the folks
is following you. The focus isobedience to the Father. Because I'm more
aware now than I was before thatI think I know what the variables are
of the situation, but I reallydon't. And the more that I've broken

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that down in me, the pride, the self glory, the independence.
I have learned that it's not hardto submit when you know that the person
you're following is submitted to Christ,submitted to God. And also that everything

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I knew before is literally opposite inthe Kingdom. So if I think I'm
gonna still be able to be thatgirl that I was before in our marriage
is wrong. Oftentimes, were weat to make the decisions that we're making.
We didn't get there because God putus there or by following what he

(02:57):
said to do. We got thereby doing us doing what the world told
us to do to get set results. So then we come into an understanding
of His truth. And really theonly way to even get there is for
us to unlearn what we thought weknew, which also comes with a level
of necessary humility because it takes ourjust talking to a friend earlier today about

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how like, it's truly tough whenyou can tell that the only thing standing
between the life that people really desireto have and where they are is the
humility to repent for thinking that theyknew better. My purpose is centered and

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sits inside of who Christ has mademe to be. It's this idea that
what you do at work, whoyou are to your kids, who you
are to your husband, who youare to strangers, should not be different.
The idea is that you're the sameperson in all these roles and all
these hats that you wear. Andwhat I realized was I was kind of

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different depending on who I was talkingto. Because we're taught to code switch.
We're taught to you know, adjustto the room, and you know,
make sure you act like you've beensomewhere. You know, when you
go somewhere and act like da dada da da, And it's like well,
what if we did not act.Instead we focused our pursuits on being.

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If you focus on being, thenyou have the space to be aware
of what needs healing, what needsto be changed, what needs growth,
and what is ready to be pouredout into other people. But if you
don't have that awareness of who youare and you're only focused on well,

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I'm a wife, i'm a mom, I'm a Corporate America queen. That's
who I am. That's not whoyou are. These worldly positions are not
who we are and that separation inthat mindset shift has been huge for me

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in every position that I operate in, including being a wife. Watch the
full episode now at YouTube dot com. Slash Jade Godbolt