Alucard’s Alchemist Academy Vol. 6😈

Everything has an origin…even your nightmares

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Speaker 1 (00:24):
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mind in the persis and district goard coach conversay, I'm.

Speaker 2 (00:30):
Like cant in the south the final things. When the
other said it appears to leaving now.

Speaker 1 (00:35):
Time of peace, I mean than the pinions cut the
back of the Spanish face.

Speaker 2 (00:40):
Ends my force waiting to back to the beeing a gold.

Speaker 3 (00:44):
Suckbody in the air.

Speaker 2 (00:45):
Let me digress. I'm not saying I'm okay for purple
this because that's prediculous. You're spending playing the summer about.

Speaker 4 (00:51):
You said you.

Speaker 5 (00:52):
I came upon the bion the lavish and tossed a
little cabbage, So what can feel above dabbage?

Speaker 3 (00:57):
I'm gonna do it.

Speaker 2 (00:58):
Why not come to new ship?

Speaker 6 (00:59):
You don't say just the.

Speaker 7 (01:01):
Male one to want to cut to school without all right,
you know you need to mind your big smile your
whole time.

Speaker 3 (01:15):
You ain't talking money. They don't get about side.

Speaker 8 (01:18):
It's like keep all you gus.

Speaker 3 (01:22):
Don't get.

Speaker 2 (01:25):
I want to tell me sniff the cat to the
school because.

Speaker 1 (01:29):
Something is it is an apple properly district and I
don't find any pleasant have no food in the kitchen.

Speaker 2 (01:34):
The kicks in my closet no k yeah water bear luck,
I'm knowing your buffer. No ball a bunchet so with
my girl and too.

Speaker 3 (01:41):
Don't need to be.

Speaker 1 (01:42):
Humble because I want my apple breach because my packet
stay hunting.

Speaker 2 (01:45):
People call Eaco store in made. Do you want to
tell you you hate? I'm want to tell my money
to What is most.

Speaker 3 (01:57):
Like you don't care.

Speaker 2 (02:00):
Is just don't worry about melms. That episode of people
say no talking to them.

Speaker 9 (02:06):
That to want to when you want to talk sip.
I came to the school's my life.

Speaker 2 (02:14):
I'm all right, you know you need to go you
old bases is my life, no home. Time you ain't
talking about then.

Speaker 3 (02:21):
Get about side.

Speaker 2 (02:23):
It's my life. It stays right, Keep old Hell.

Speaker 3 (02:26):
Claan's call bec I.

Speaker 2 (02:29):
Don't want to che. I don't want to tell it
became old school because I'm called my life. I'm all right.
You know you need to mind you own buses. It's
my life the whole time you ain't talking.

Speaker 10 (02:42):
Money, then get about side.

Speaker 2 (02:45):
It's my life.

Speaker 10 (02:46):
It's stays right.

Speaker 2 (02:47):
Keep old Hell. Please can't be your guys too. I
don't want to do when I don't want to do it.
If I came to a school, because uncle is my life.
I'm all right because I don't can't change. It's my
life your whole time. It's also you need to be
like that.

Speaker 10 (03:06):
It's not like it's stay righted.

Speaker 2 (03:09):
I'll feel so loads. I don't want to do then.
I don't want to do it if I can't doing
the school because I'm.

Speaker 10 (03:16):
My mind hiding.

Speaker 2 (03:19):
Hold right, you know you need to get your baby.
It's my hiding your whole time. If you ain't talking
about you, thanking about side, it's my library. It's stay
keep on her play, don't be I don't want to
do the man. I don't want to do it if
I can't do it to school because I'm going my.

Speaker 11 (04:39):
Tid.

Speaker 12 (05:04):
Yes, became a bourbon bruiser and abuser of people who

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fact on that year the plantures are.

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Making over his holiday a PAXI copy.

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This loop with courage must be second day kid. The
subplaning better than a pound of skin. Let's came home
from you trades cant get when you reduce two people.

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The pay just the tooth, hop about the juice, the
support and the from glasses and sell the suffers and
my friends.

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And yet she's the check on fraid of lead from another.

Speaker 3 (06:09):
Ship in the flock. I'm not a boost on those some.

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Cup back before. I have not until we heard our.

Speaker 3 (06:14):
Dot stop every mic ou ilbot.

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Every check out jill, like my boot was cons touched.

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You change the binders of only dollars.

Speaker 2 (06:50):
They can't kill the spirits are hand. Bring myself, bring
at the frame, bill and equipment with the tooth.

Speaker 5 (06:56):
I need to succeed here. And this the majon, Well,
I love the geon. Don't imagine you have the supersing
apage and never accept production. You fiftout the progression, but
doesn't opposition.

Speaker 2 (07:07):
Why you know you to win a field when you
begin to sa So when you get entertainment, do.

Speaker 9 (07:12):
You judge of the strangers they go to hold you
pay it puts on advertager.

Speaker 3 (07:16):
You can check the data puts.

Speaker 2 (07:18):
Accepting the page for pay contain and they say it
who said they put a present for help someone?

Speaker 1 (07:25):
You might have no pray, only family an associate that
can be causing you get success the time, its not
bad for chick.

Speaker 2 (07:33):
Is such a small ship fortinate the self.

Speaker 14 (07:36):
Yes, down this road, t keep myself.

Speaker 3 (08:17):
And slow.

Speaker 9 (08:22):
Keep down from the tele slow.

Speaker 2 (08:47):
Keep on.

Speaker 3 (08:50):
Down this.

Speaker 9 (09:13):
Unt the coming out the dumber and it's my god,

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but you mother sydomic.

Speaker 3 (10:07):
Who listens to my brain?

Speaker 2 (10:08):
My maintain it is not a Sunday pretty same thing
in the old nan, I mis a what the what
is this? Don't maybe mind first last week? My stuff?

Speaker 10 (10:38):
Who s buck?

Speaker 3 (10:39):
And really what one says?

Speaker 9 (10:42):
A type of things the days fust would later bess
what it's about that?

Speaker 2 (10:53):
I said?

Speaker 1 (11:00):
So I can see after the time the second in
the an.

Speaker 3 (11:08):
Not in the course the man and then.

Speaker 2 (11:10):
Sip the fun is the man said, so you simply.

Speaker 3 (11:14):
Give me enough that I'm not when the.

Speaker 2 (11:19):
Women they mother, So.

Speaker 3 (11:23):
Society, what is a doctor? Not the rat?

Speaker 10 (11:35):
So what is a doctor?

Speaker 4 (11:43):
Not?

Speaker 3 (11:51):
Just try.

Speaker 2 (12:03):
Let me out of bed? And you want do what
to me? Wanted to out down.

Speaker 3 (12:17):
At the felt just ask me down.

Speaker 4 (12:21):
So we need to help them. You fucking ma, you sick.
That's when you don't be sid wanted to felt down.
Every fount for sat me down, So need to help that.
I wasn't get down to talk about it.

Speaker 3 (13:03):
That I get to play by as not a weddun.
I say it's so bad. Why do.

Speaker 2 (13:16):
I get to play like a knock the weddown? I'm
t get it so bad.

Speaker 3 (13:24):
You can try to break.

Speaker 2 (13:26):
Off by.

Speaker 15 (13:29):
I to love that a bag basb around you will make.

Speaker 3 (13:36):
Me out of big back.

Speaker 2 (13:41):
Sit.

Speaker 3 (13:41):
You don't want me to do like that? Be people

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walking when they come you say.

Speaker 2 (14:21):
You look at the mirror, bring yourselthing s.

Speaker 3 (14:28):
The pa the people walking when they co say you
think your mother?

Speaker 16 (14:35):
Did you.

Speaker 2 (14:38):
Look at the mirror? Bring yourselfing?

Speaker 3 (14:40):
Say just then.

Speaker 2 (14:44):
Assist and I watched the chuns some money. This love sick,
but I'm not this loves that only mind remiss.

Speaker 17 (14:51):
I've been from making meditating with the mind that you're
breaking the mcain with love over lives.

Speaker 3 (14:57):
This word is too with God, the plast.

Speaker 2 (15:02):
My mind myself for a ben charge more the crept
for life as the designed and not the table.

Speaker 18 (15:12):
Talk of the slope to the mass must the pay that.

Speaker 2 (15:17):
They must be show.

Speaker 18 (15:19):
I see the class slope were both coming so but
I haven't done.

Speaker 2 (15:24):
It's all the same. Now us to play.

Speaker 3 (15:40):
People walking, bring yourself in the.

Speaker 2 (15:54):
People bokcause.

Speaker 3 (15:57):
You did you.

Speaker 2 (16:00):
Look in the mirror, bring yourself and left to say,
just let the down, saying I've just coming to.

Speaker 18 (16:12):
The game, the greatest and the thirsty minutes so wonderful.
But start persons, all you want I have to.

Speaker 2 (16:20):
Chase my boy.

Speaker 18 (16:22):
You be pulling in a strange meaning what you need
to participats when you won't trust.

Speaker 2 (16:28):
I've just trust made you femingly became the.

Speaker 18 (16:31):
Blue Hood along your better prest bed. I just resistance
to the west to come.

Speaker 3 (16:40):
In contemplating and.

Speaker 2 (16:42):
Then get prection the county, our frosting and to see
the country I have set emersizing. But the more you
just to be wearing or starts putting all under the
cottage concern.

Speaker 3 (17:00):
FI gave the plank, They've got the dog people fucking win.
They come to say, you don't think come on.

Speaker 2 (17:07):
Planet, look at the ver freeing yourselthing.

Speaker 3 (17:11):
That the doctor say, just let the don spies gave
the plane.

Speaker 2 (17:15):
They've got the dog people got.

Speaker 3 (17:17):
You w They come to say it don't think you
all you think you.

Speaker 2 (17:20):
Don't think it? So can the mirver bring yourself? And
that the said just let the donas h you talk

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about from the team into.

Speaker 3 (18:07):
My past, cause it was jellous.

Speaker 15 (18:10):
I've been a part of me, but all this love
to the lass.

Speaker 3 (18:15):
And its difficult time to recrast and the love have away.

Speaker 10 (18:22):
But passsed this that you ate she because I had
to learn some day.

Speaker 19 (18:32):
At the time for one occasion in the streams for relationships.

Speaker 2 (18:37):
I'm trying to stay.

Speaker 20 (18:39):
You where you from and compromising since you wation us
all and the menifous, the blast commissional shplastic.

Speaker 2 (18:52):
And don't mother find no moment nobody say me to coport.

Speaker 19 (19:01):
Every time I love some whity fling like outre Sa
destruction has like you an shakes feeling and its gray
dots of birds all that they just paint exact mean
why I'm trying? So why not you breaking something.

Speaker 3 (19:14):
To the take yet.

Speaker 2 (19:17):
Know the wan shrip dot of birds all that thing
is pain inside? May go why I'm trying? So why
not just breaking something from to day and chilling me?
S can't inside of me.

Speaker 10 (19:33):
Cannot serve.

Speaker 3 (19:35):
We have to thought and out from.

Speaker 2 (19:38):
My sensation and the woman I called my by.

Speaker 8 (19:42):
But I can tell you all the hardest school just
trying to take my love away. What they don't understand,
just the strength up I commit and I loved it
to steady, So can I.

Speaker 2 (20:00):
These side reposing usage to ray.

Speaker 19 (20:03):
Ship frustration straight and they go farthy and tis rand.

Speaker 2 (20:09):
Don't thing can go in fight purpose and usage. You
read ship for frustration straight.

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And thin thor I mean and to be random.

Speaker 3 (20:24):
Winking go away.

Speaker 2 (20:28):
Every time I love away, I'm feeling like I'll love
for sastress because I can.

Speaker 19 (20:33):
I should get feeling and it's great, and that's a
burst all that things paintings.

Speaker 2 (20:37):
I mean a low way. I'm trying.

Speaker 3 (20:39):
Someone got to.

Speaker 19 (20:40):
Breaking something in temptation, thoughts of burns, all that that
gets paintings.

Speaker 2 (20:51):
I mean the way I'm trying. Someone got you breaking
something out to to day.

Speaker 3 (20:56):
Every time I love a way.

Speaker 2 (20:57):
I'm feeling like Alco for sis try she is.

Speaker 3 (21:00):
I can't not take his feeling and his granddad.

Speaker 2 (21:03):
I'll tell hers all the bat paint inside me go away.
I'm trying. So why not you breaking something out in temptation?

Speaker 3 (21:10):
She let s.

Speaker 19 (21:17):
Talks up herds all if they gets paint inside me,
come away. I'm trying, So why not you breaking.

Speaker 3 (21:22):
Something to temptation?

Speaker 2 (21:24):
She don't know both her, but if she finds out
of making you what you don't vot is me.

Speaker 8 (21:33):
Wait for her time taking it up for grand and
somewhere what she don't know her but if she finds out.

Speaker 10 (21:43):
Of bag and.

Speaker 2 (21:45):
What she don't with me working her time taking up
up a grand and somewhere, O she can't she don't.

Speaker 3 (21:54):
She don't. She don't don't want it.

Speaker 2 (21:57):
I'm missing with her bonds.

Speaker 3 (21:59):
He don't. She don't.

Speaker 2 (22:00):
She don't keep go.

Speaker 16 (22:02):
She don't that's it where her home keep going? She
don't she go, She don't keep don't listen with her
go keep go.

Speaker 2 (22:14):
You don't keep go? Keep going? You time like I'm
peling like I'm her, save this trushing as.

Speaker 3 (22:31):
I cannot shake this feeling and this crash, counts.

Speaker 19 (22:34):
Of birds, all the bags, paintings I need to go away.
I'm trying some why not you breaking something to dmtage She.

Speaker 10 (22:44):
Shut down up birds, all.

Speaker 19 (22:48):
The things paintings I need go away. I'm trying some
hang not you breaking something for dmtage.

Speaker 2 (22:54):
Every time I la, I'm pnding like I'm her, saying
this trushing as.

Speaker 10 (22:58):
I cannot shake this lad is.

Speaker 17 (23:00):
Breakings of hers, all the bags paint inside me go away.
I'm trying so hard not to breaking something to temptations
of hers.

Speaker 19 (23:16):
I bigs paint inside may go the way I'm trying
so hard not to breaking something up to temptation.

Speaker 2 (23:22):
She can't, she don't, she don't, she don't.

Speaker 3 (23:26):
She don't.

Speaker 2 (23:27):
Who I said, were her bo?

Speaker 20 (23:29):
She calls them?

Speaker 2 (23:30):
She don't, she don't, she don't, she don't w me I.

Speaker 15 (23:35):
Said, we're her mica, And.

Speaker 2 (24:22):
Can you talk to something to.

Speaker 10 (24:41):
So come TODs.

Speaker 2 (24:43):
One person can go back to about she pays on
with you and say then over yourself a.

Speaker 10 (25:02):
So like store.

Speaker 21 (26:00):
Than of dissing by saying.

Speaker 2 (26:47):
So excited friends finding come and die the money WoT

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must be rash.

Speaker 14 (27:19):
Go the turn it Tuesday by.

Speaker 2 (27:26):
Mon Dieu, Day.

Speaker 22 (28:40):
Part three.

Speaker 23 (28:42):
When what's wrong with you is what's right with you?
Revealing and healing everyday Genius.

Speaker 22 (28:50):
Eight. Gifted or cursed.

Speaker 23 (28:54):
Quite often I have been faced with people who were
praised and admired for their talents and their achievements. According
to prevailing platitudes, these people, the pride and joy of
their parents, should have had a strong and stable sense
of self assurance.

Speaker 22 (29:10):
But the case is exactly the opposite.

Speaker 23 (29:13):
Whenever they suddenly get the feeling they have failed to
live up to some ideal image or have not measured up.

Speaker 22 (29:19):
To some standard.

Speaker 23 (29:21):
Then they are plagued by anxiety or deep feelings of
guilt and shame. What are the reasons for such disturbances
in these competent, accomplished people, Alice Miller, no gifted person
I know was ever approached as a child and told
you have gifts that may make you very special. They

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may also make you very vulnerable. Consequently, developing our gifts
is always a compensatory process, charged with aliveness and adventure,
while at the same time fraught with obstacles and moments
of profound loneliness, with war, the effect of others preconceived
ideas about us, and the unwonted indoctrination we experience that

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develops a false self falters under the weight of life's
deeper truths and emerging self knowledge. Over time, we can
grow to trust that our gifts came with an inner
guidance system that can help us reclaim and fulfill the
promise of our high potential. Ironically, we also discover that

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much of our most potent creative energy arises from the
flames of past injustices and inhibited creative efforts.

Speaker 22 (30:35):
Clarissa Pincola Estes, pH d. Author of Women.

Speaker 23 (30:39):
Who Run with the Wolves, Jungian analyst, poet and contadora,
or a keeper of a culture's traditional stories, illuminates creativity's
natural cycles in The Creative Fire, She describes the creative process,
which is analogous to.

Speaker 22 (30:57):
The fulfillment of potential, as a law.

Speaker 23 (31:00):
And restoration pattern of slowing down, dissent, underground gathering, quickening,
and a burst of intensity. This ebb and flow is
the reality of the creative life and that we must
expect and accept. Nonetheless, we must also understand the unnatural

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forces that impede the creative process and keep the resources
of the true self out of reach.

Speaker 22 (31:26):
Although creative energy.

Speaker 23 (31:28):
Can never be extinguished entirely, sometimes, as Estays explains, due
to such things as internalized complexes or fear to commit,
the creative incubation period is interrupted or prolonged. Destructive complexes
are often permitted to grow to a size where they
can attack the soul and hold it hostage. These complexes

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are often the result of being denigrated and devalued. Estays
wrote Ways to Silence a Woman at a time when,
as Ye note, over eighty five percent of the books
that were published were written by men, and over ninety
percent of the awards in literature were given to men.
She assures us, however, that her words apply to creative

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men as.

Speaker 22 (32:13):
Well as women.

Speaker 23 (32:15):
Here are a few excerpts from this provocative poem. Say
we're saying the same thing, don't you see? Say don't
defy my authority. If you want to pass, do it
the way I tell you. Say your ideas are dangerous.
Say you're overreacting. Say I can't understand you when you're upset.

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Say you've missed the point. Say that's a wild idea,
And then talk about your own word. Say who do
you think you are? Correcting the two to two misdiagnosis.
The chief complaint directed toward the gifted is that they

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think do, say, imagine, or emote too much.

Speaker 22 (33:09):
They are simply too too in comparison to the norm.

Speaker 23 (33:13):
Oddly, it remains a merely unknown fact that the development
of high potential and the advancement of excellence depend upon
a reversal of society's defamation of the gifted character as individual,
every day geniuses. Our task is to contribute to this
reversal by understanding that the ten criticisms comprise the very

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foundation of excellence and evolutionary intelligence. What we have been
taught to think of as personal liabilities are in fact
our greatest assets. What on the surface may appear to
others as a set of behaviors and attributes that are overblown,
over the top exaggeration, or simply immaturity, may not be

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that at all. In fact, many of the intense characteristics
and expressions of gifted people are key factors in the
process of developing insight, expertise, and ultimately the kind of
integration of knowledge, experience, and personality that comprises wisdom. The
problem is, these foundations of exceptional achievement and advanced development

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have been given a bad rap because they tend to
stand out of it. These authentic assets are misdiagnosed as
something wrong, something unacceptable. Yet something at the subconscious level
of the everyday genius insists these traits are not wrong,
even though others may find them unacceptable. To reclaim lost

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gifts and damaged self belief, we must be clear about
the inseparable nature of these traits and excellence. We must
remind ourselves and others as often as necessary, that what
may at first look out of place will eventually be
the very set of personal asset that helps us find
our place in the larger scheme of things.

Speaker 3 (35:05):
Two.

Speaker 23 (35:06):
Two liabilities skipping from one interest to another. Two scattered
foundations of these. Adaptability, essential to creativity, multiple areas of expertise,
ability to simultaneously grasp concepts on diverse levels.

Speaker 22 (35:26):
Two.

Speaker 23 (35:27):
Two liabilities deep concern for others, champion of ultimate truths,
intolerance of injustice two crusading foundations of these humanitarian benevolence,
trans personal problem solving and moral leadership. Two two liabilities

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rapid fire, thought and speech. Two glib foundations of these
advanced original thinking, constructive influence, creative productivity.

Speaker 22 (36:03):
Two two liabilities high.

Speaker 23 (36:06):
Energy and single minded zealous effort two intense foundations of
these unorthodox innovation, breakthrough or trendsetting ideas, perseverance and endurance
in the face of adversity two two liabilities extra sensitivity

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and excitability, too sensitive and dramatic foundations of these. Empathy,
compassion and responsiveness, arousing, motivation, and cooperation.

Speaker 22 (36:41):
Two.

Speaker 23 (36:41):
Two liabilities perfectionism two anal and demanding foundations of these
systems orientation, commitment, restructuring, and synthesizing excellence and eminence.

Speaker 22 (36:58):
Two.

Speaker 23 (36:59):
Two liability relentless pursuit of goals, impassioned concentration. Two driven
foundations of these advanced depth of knowledge, ability to delve
into life's largest questions, outstanding achievement and self actualization.

Speaker 3 (37:19):
Two.

Speaker 23 (37:20):
Two liabilities radical or unconventional ideas. Two different foundations of these.
Creative change, autonomy and courageous revolutionary acts able to alter
talent domain two two liabilities passion for intellectual scrutiny, abstract cause, effect,

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relationships and paradox. Two complex foundations of these visionary research
and discovery, bridge building effects on progress.

Speaker 3 (37:56):
Two.

Speaker 23 (37:57):
Two liabilities contemplative, open to spiritual and other worldly experiences.
Two intuitive foundations of these transcendent insights, strong inner resources, integrity,
richness of life, dynamic wisdom. As everyday genius is, we

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are an intensely curious group of seekers, determined to become
more than what we were yesterday, seeking the most complete
answers to the universal questions. Nevertheless, a first order question
of our personal universe bedevils us.

Speaker 22 (38:37):
The why of our very nature.

Speaker 23 (38:40):
A need to know drives us like nothing else, As
was the case with the early explorers, the world will
remain flat for us until we dispel antiquated notions, which
can be summed up in the ten criticisms of gifted People,
which we will explore in.

Speaker 22 (38:57):
Detail later in the chapter.

Speaker 23 (39:00):
Whire the benefits of liberation by rolling up our sleeves
and getting our hands right into the mess of what
has hurt us and hindered us.

Speaker 22 (39:08):
This is the only way to.

Speaker 23 (39:09):
Steal our critics thunder, to move from silent to shielded
to strong. The process of discovering that what we've been
told is wrong with us is precisely what's right and
intelligent about us must begin with choosing to confront disapproval,
something most of us have tried tirelessly to avoid. This

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is work we must do against the odds, since there
is no designated haven for the gifted adult. Since forced
normalcy leaves us feeling robbed, we must never lose sight
of two facts, self neglect and acceptance of the false
self kill The potential of everyday genius and knowing the

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true meaning of giftedness is the only way to open
new avenues. If everyday genius is to be a blessing
rather than a curse, we must get serious about which
of the two we intend to support, remembering that resisting
our gifts is a choice to ignore the true.

Speaker 22 (40:10):
Power of our abilities. De ja vous.

Speaker 23 (40:16):
Several years ago I observed and relived the dilemma of
the gifted child in the class room my.

Speaker 22 (40:22):
Gifted older sons.

Speaker 23 (40:23):
Encounters with early education tricked an internal switch in me
that evoked old feelings. His kindergarten class had been learning
about community helpers. One of the assignments was to choose
an occupation and don the related pat or costume for
a song and parade around the room. There were miniature
fire fighters, nurses, librarians, chefs, and even a mayor, each

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child seeming to enjoy the experience. This was the type
of events the school considered suitable for parental participation, a
sort of show and tell of creative education. Indeed, the
children were adorable and appeared, by their words and actions,
to have learned something of value. However, as the parents

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beamed from their squeezed in positions in the tiny chairs,
I noticed that my son was not among them. As
I scanned the squirming crowd of five year olds, the
teacher walked over to address my puzzled expression, an unusually
astute and sensitive teaching. She inconspicuously pointed to the space
behind the piano where my son was encamped. Matter of factly,

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she informed me that my son had announced that marching
around the piano in Hans was stupid and that he
wanted to continue his work on a model of the
Solar system instead. She thought that was just fine, and
so did I. Regrettably, the other children and their parents
reacted quite differently to his independence and assertion. Most responded

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with irritation, punishing questions, and eventually politen dismiss The everyday,
bittersweet experience of being a gifted child was repeating itself
right before my eyes.

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I walked over to my son and delighted in his
creation of his own universe. So are you going to
help your community by being an astronomer or an astronaut?

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I questioned. He smiled and pointed at the planet he'd
surrounded with rings. I'm going to have a house on Saturn.
Will you come and visit me there? His response pleased
me greatly, for his acceptance of his uniqueness was completely natural.
He seemed unaffected by the opinions and assumptions of others.

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His experience stood in stark contrast to my own childhood,
when I dutifully followed the rules, submitted to the expectations
of others, and nearly lost my true self, gifted, or
cursed my own beginnings. The same world that a caseally
flung erroneous complaints at me also told me I could

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do anything I wanted because I was special. While I
was glad for my ability to do well in school,
it was confusing when I was chided for being too curious,
too inquisitive, and too concerned for such.

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A little girl. But then I was just a kid,
so what did I know.

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What I learned was to faithfully follow the rules, to
be a good girl, to make people smile, to gain approval,
and to keep my unusual ideas to myself. When I
dared to be authentic, the cost was often high. I
blushed easily, and often at times, I naively placed my
trust in the wrong hands and suffered the hurtful consequence

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of betrayal. One of my first such experiences occurred in
the fifth grade, when, to my horror, my teacher shredded
a poem I had written in praise of the divine
for the wonder of animals. She insisted that I had
copied it from a book, humiliating me in front of
the class by bellowing, no one your age could have

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written such a thing.

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Shame on you. I learned that expressing myself was a
dangerous thing to do.

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Becoming a person of few words was difficult for an
enthusiastic extrovert such as myself. Granted, my poems, drawings, pointed, questions,
and occasional challenges to authority were not always badly received.
Yet when they were, I found that my spirit withered quickly.

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Who do you think you are? Still rings in my ears,
words that.

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Made me feel small, pressuring me to try even harder
to keep poiet.

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I conformed and played the part I was given.

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I didn't understand that the withering feeling I experienced didn't
come from my own fragility or instability. It was the
side effect of a culture that insists on pigeonholing and
limiting the creative spirit and uncommon intelligence. Though I was
taught that uniqueness and individuality were the American way, this

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proved to be more myth than reality. So I stayed
on the approved track and played my prescribed part quite successfully.
I put away my water colors and poems, and lived
a conventional adult life that, by most people's estimation, should
have been good enough for a long time. I may

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believe that I was content, because that was true on
many friends. Yet in my quiet times, I was bothered
by a profound feeling of emptiness, as though I had
lost something vital. I couldn't figure out the source of
my discomfort. Years later, in midlife, this memory came to
the forefront when I hit the identity wall, suddenly unable

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to recognize myself. Worse still, I noticed that, instead of
becoming more clear minded as the years went on, I
felt increasingly uneasy and scattered. I started to think that
the possibilities of life I had always imagined were destined
to be nothing more than faded childhood fantasies. After all,

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I concluded, I had lost so many years being unclear
about the direction I wanted my life to take. I'd
had the bad luck of being an early orphan and
had studied the wrong subjects in school. This anxiety began
to mount into an increasing fear that I had made
my bed and must now be content to lie in it.

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I re examined my special fondness for counseling gifted and
talented adolescents and adults, noting a special kinship with them.
This was the beginning of a fascinating and revealing self exploration.
Since I had never been formally identified as a gifted child,
I never expected to see myself in the books and

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scientific studies I was researching. I enthusiastically shared my interest
in gifted adults with a valued professor. Her revealing remark
both shocked and relieved me. Of course your interested in
gifted people, she insisted, because you are one. I was
stunned and wondered could she be right? Am I a

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gifted person? It was as if a switch had been tripped,
turning on a series of bloodlights that illuminated areas of
my experience that had been bathed in darkness. Insights and
memories flooded my consciousness. I was finally able to find
pieces of my personal puzzle that I thought had been lost. Suddenly,

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I understood, with uncharacteristic certainty that my gifted nature had
nothing to do with arrogance or eccentricity. Rather, it had
everything to do with finally making sense of my life,
especially those unanswered questions.

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Of who I truly was and was not.

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It was a bombshell that blasted me into a personal
cycle of newfound energy, possibility, and confidence that has not
slackened to this day. In retrospect, I am utterly convinced
that a corrected self image was the only thing powerful
enough to release me from the dominance of my false self.

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Liberation of any kind is a blessed deliverance for me.
It unleashed a rush of wild enthusiasm and ideas, a
renewed vitality that ignited an episode of intense reading and
relentless efforts to survey my inner landscape. I was determined
to recollect my true self from the inside out. I

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rejected my old self doubts and fielded fewer instances.

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Of false self pretending.

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Over time, I developed a new assertive attitude, stemming from
giving myself permission to take risks. The overall effect was
a clarity and firmness of mine lost to me since
early childhood. At the age of five, I already knew
how and what to hold back. My child's view of

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the world informed me I needed to be on guard
to protect myself. Of course, I told no one that
I talked to the birds outside my window every morning,
or that I had an imaginary mouse named Maudie who
was my confidante and best friend. No one knew I
wrote poems just for the fun of it, or asked

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questions about God and death and heaven and Hell that
made my Sunday school teachers fringe. Surely, I decided I
must keep secret the fact that I sometimes sat alone
in my room at night trying to send my thoughts
to other kids across town and even to England and Russia.

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I discovered it was not always safe to let others
hear me sing my own songs. Soon I learned to
downplay the fact that I could earn ace without much effort,
figure out the end of the story before the teacher
read it, and throw a pretty mean fastball.

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Gradually, whenever a leader was called for, I didn't step
forward the way I had before.

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I developed a management system that I now call selective stupidity.

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In order not to outdo others, especially boys.

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Whom I had been told hadn't fragile egos, I feigned ignorance,
or at least pretended to be slow on the uptake. Nevertheless,
because of my talents, hard work, and laser like focus
on things I deemed important.

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People seemed to think I could do just about anything.

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They were convinced that was how I felt, too, that
I was as strong on the inside as I appeared.

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On the outside.

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In contrast, in my private world, I felt far from exceptional.
After all, there were so many things I could imagine
doing but couldn't actually do. For example, I was completely
unable to paint the three dimensional pictures I contrived in
my mind's eye, or write down the musical arrangements I
composed so easily in my dreams. And I was totally

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unable to do anything to help the poor boy down
the street everyone made fun of because he had one
leg shorter than the other. I had no bag of
magic tricks that really mattered. There were so many accomplished
others who were already recognized. I fretted, what could I
possibly offer that hasn't already been done better?

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I had them all fooled.

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I decided if they only knew the whole story, they
would see that I was not special after all. Eventually
I agreed with those who said I was too sensitive.
I think that stemmed from the time when my realization
that some people in the world, went to bed hungry,
kept my stomach in knots for days. The slaughter of

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turkeys for Thanksgiving made me cry, but I was the
only one who did. Why does God let these things happen?
And why aren't the adults doing something about it?

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I worried.

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Very early on.

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I was sometimes a strident stickler for fairness who was
profoundly upset by acts of cruelty or neglect. I felt
responsible for each and every hurt that crossed my awareness.
Everything in my world had feelings. The house, the furniture,
the frogs in the pond, and even the moon. Once

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in a terrible storm, I remember rushing outside to brace
a newly planted tree so it wouldn't break in the wind,
and even to comfort it so it wouldn't be scared.
Anthropomorphism seemed perfectly reasonable to me. That is until the
neighborhood kids found out and I became a laughing stock.
I was also an odd duck in that I loved school.

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To me, school was a world of.

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Ideas and new information. My teachers said I was a
nice girl and a good student, and.

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That made me feel as though I fit in.

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I quickly learned that too many questions were bad and
that my frequent smart remarks were not funny at all.
I was also chastised for not knowing when to leave
well enough alone. Clearly, the unimpeded me was too much
for every one else's taste. If I wanted to keep

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my good standing, I needed to learn to keep a
lid on it. It wasn't long before I discovered the
first and at the time the only available key to
personal liberation mastery. Whether making a paper machete penguine out
of a milk carton, categorizing rocks from the beach, memorizing

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lines for the school play, or scoring big and kickball,
I was intent on proficiency. Outstanding achievement did two things.
It brought on smiles of approval, and it fit well
with the fact that I found nearly everything an exciting challenge.
There were things I simply had to know and which

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I needed to understand in great detail. I had to
create and revise and revise and revise, and to be active,
exuberant and playful. I needed to discuss and then discuss
some more, and again some more. After I had thought
about it for a while, when all of these factors
came together wonder, investigate, understand, create, and activate. I felt

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as though I could fly. That scared me too, because
what would happen if I did?

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Where would I go? And what would become of me?

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Creative bursts had a way of setting off alarms of
secondary worries and guilt. In one respect, I was fortunate
there was one pair of eyes that consistently looked upon
me with understanding and approval, my mother's. She too found
merely everything in the world to be something of spectacular wonder. Together,

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she and I took in the richness of nature, the
joy of imagination, and relished.

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In the joy of the common moment. She was truly
a descended angel in my life who.

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Made it possible for me to grow up with my
sense of wonder and playful spirit intact. Yet she died early,
leaving me with no one to help me figure out
the difficulties of life as a gifted adult. No one
was there to support my efforts to grow up and
into my abilities. No one told me my personality and

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needs were inextricably tied to traits of the gift itself.

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Never did anyone.

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Mention that my numerous career changes were common among gifted
people that people like me thrive on change and challenge,
and either shifted fields altogether or moved from one thing
to another within a professional arena. Most important, no one
ever suggested that my odd duck differences, my perfectionistic and

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excitable ways, or my obvious sensitivity and drive could be
what was most right about me instead of what was
most wrong. Inevitably, this experience set the stage for my
mandated mission to identify and comprehend the complexities of the
gifted personality, and to share my discoveries with the world.

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Five basic truths about giftedness.

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Being gifted means being unavoidably different in certain ways. These
differences are not liabilities, but are actually assets and the
building blocks of excellence. Occasionally, others will misunderstand you and
attempt to hinder your visionary efforts. You must acquire special
street smarts to deal with this opposition effectively. Although gifted

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adults are smart and creative, to discover and fulfill one's
life mission is a painstaking task that may take many
years to complete.

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Be prepared to be patient.

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The cultivation of high potential is markedly enhanced by finding
a gifted mentor and a few true peers whose support
is unfettered by jealousy or self serving agendas. You will
benefit greatly from discovering your spiritual center. It can serve
as a primary resource for guidance, affirmation, and inspiration.

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A bittersweet experience. Long before the.

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Word gifted was ever coined, people admired and respected individuals
of special vision and pragmatic intuition. Many were acknowledged as seers, healers, inventors,
business leaders, artists, and exemplars of all that is good
about humankind.

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They were the children with exceptional intellectual abilities.

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They asked unusual questions, learned rapidly, and demonstrated an extraordinary
interest in justice, ethics, and.

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Cause effect relationships.

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Nevertheless, the typical everyday genius has been pre programmed with
misinformation and left to cope without adequate resources in a
world that sees him or her through foreign eyes. Most
gifted adults find their life experience bitter sweet. Yet much
of the bitter is not necessary.

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In nearly every case.

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Gifted adults are ill trained to understand themselves, much less
to deal with the lifelong challenges they face, particularly because
of others tendency to stereotype them. Because everyday. Geniuses are
driven by the spirit of human progress. We possess a
tendency to stir things up, whether we intend to or not.

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We often make waves together with an awareness system that
allows us to see things others may not. Our sense
of responsibility makes it hard for us to brush off
our ideas and concerns as might be expected. We are
constantly faced with the dilemma of making us flash with
our expanded perspectives or swimming silent laps in the norm pool.

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This paradoxical inability to blend in while standing out must
be acknowledged. We are incapable of always successfully approximating normal,
just as it is for anyone who is obviously different,
We are apt to become targets for discrimination. Peter Bucky,
author of The Private Albert Einstein, addressed this question difference

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in his conversations with Einstein. In response to Bucky's inquiry
about how the great scientist managed judgments of the outside world,
Einstein answered, well, I have considered myself to be very
fortunate in that I have been able to do mostly
only that which my inner self told me to do.

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I am also aware that I do receive much criticism
from the outside world for what I do, and some
people actually get angry at me. But this does not
really touch me because I feel that these people do
not live in the same world as do I. To
his credit, Einstein, whose name has become merely synonymous with science,

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resisted the label gifted because the term had historically implied
superiority and advantage. Nonetheless, the great physicist, thinker, poet, musician,
and theorist was quite aware that he was different, not
more gifted than the average human being. If you know
anything about history, you would know this is so. What

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hard times I had in studying, and the fact that
I do not have a memory like some other people do.
I am just more curious than the average person, and
I will not give up on a problem.

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Until I have found the proper solution.

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This is one of my greatest satisfactions in life, solving problems,
and the harder they are, the more satisfaction do I
get out of them. Maybe you could consider me a
bit more patient in continuing with my problems than is
the average human being. Now, if you understand what I
had just told you, you see that it is not

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a matter of being more gifted, but a matter of
being more curious and maybe more.

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Patient until you solve a problem.

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Einstein also recognized, as do we whose gifts are far
less profound, that even if one is revered and well liked,
it is not the same as being understood buck.

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He goes on to tell us that in nineteen forty nine,
a German.

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Playwright sent Einstein some verses he had written to honor him.

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On his seventieth birthday.

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Part of his poetic reply reflects his gratitude for the
collegial words of a kindred spirit who also believed himself
to be not really gifted. Non comprehenders are often distressed.
Not you, though, because with good humor you're blessed. After all,
your thought went like this, I dare say it was

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none but the Lord who made us that way the
essentials of self discovery. Our life experience as evolutionaries is
unavoidably set along a hazardous route somewhere between self denial
and high risk individuality. We may reasonably wonder where is

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the road that leads every day geniuses to fulfillment without
dead ending in loneliness. The answer is often found in
self understanding. Those of us who take the time to
discover who we are can make peace with our nature
and gain a decided advantage in our attempt to aim
ourselves in the right direction. As a result, we can

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come to love our adventurous lives as travelers who are
open to new opportunities that match our gifts, the delivery
of which makes us feel extraordinarily alive. It is in
these momentary reunions with the soul's self that we remember
how to fly free.

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An excerpt from C.

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Day Lewis's O Dreams O Destinations artfully expresses it to
travel like a bird, likely to view deserts where stone
gods founder in the sand ocean, embraced in a white
sleep with land, to escape time, always to start anew
hooded by a dark sense of destination. Travelers, we are

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fabric of the road. We go, we settle, but like feathers.

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On time's flow.

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As we come to know ourselves more completely, we may
find it necessary to make changes in the application of
our creative energies. If we have been typecast in unfulfilling roles,
whether as a front line manager under the thumb of
a boss with narrow vision, a midlife mother in a
dead end job, or a broad retiree who finds conventional

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senior gatherings a disappointment, we may discover we have.

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Been going in the wrong direction.

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In his writing on psychotherapy as Theater, Sheldon Kof observes,
too often, as children, we are encouraged to try to
be something other than ourselves. It is demanded that we
assume a character not our own, live out a life
story written by another. The plot line is given, improvisations
are unacceptable, and the direction is an oppressive form of

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close quarter tyranny. As you shed the hindering aspects of misidentification,
you will begin to heal old wounds and to shift
from acting the scripted role of performer to starring in
your own authentic life. Keep in mind that self discovery
is a process and not an event, because internalized criticisms

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take time and conscious effort to remove. Reclaiming your full scale,
every day genius is never the result of a simple
salvational wish.

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Yet it will help to know you are not a
lone climber on the mountain.

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As you begin to recognize other gifted adults in your
midst you will increasingly hear your true voice and trust
in it. As you liberate your soul's frequency, you will
invariably discover other members of your evolutionary community who march
to the same rhythm of life. It is essential to
remember to work with, not around, your own uniqueness. The

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most precious gives you own, the ones that are yours
to cherish, nourish, and deliver, are not to be found
in such a combination in any other individual. While the
collective task of everyday geniuses is the advancement of civilization,
your individual challenge is to become the most complete self
possible in this lifetime, which is, of course, your everyday

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genius made real. Picasso's mother held great ambitions for him
when he was a child. She instructed him, if you
become a soldier, you'll be a general. If you become
a monk, you'll end up as pope. Instead, Picasso quipped,
I became a painter and became a Picasso the real

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enemy fitting in. Gifted children do have the inclination to
adapt to the group, but at what price. If one
works very hard at fitting in with others, especially when
one feels very different from others, self alienation can result
in their desperation to belong. Many well adjusted gifted youth

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and adults have given up or lost touch with vital
parts of themselves. Fitting in is a high price to
pay when it means selling out. It's an endless typrope
walk for everyday geniuses. To fully express the true South
is at best a calculated risk.

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Nevertheless, giving the false self free reign is like tying
your dreams to an anchor.

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We can't run away from the responsibility, either to our
potential or to our inner needs.

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Most of us long for the acceptance and endorsement of
who we are and what we might accomplish.

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Yet we reside in the real world just as it is,
not as it might be. To varying degrees, we all
experience rejection. But when the criticisms as our very nature,
and when they grow up alongside us at every turn,
they tend to attach themselves like barnacles, tinting the integrity

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of our self image and the quality of our internal dialogue.

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Even in adulthood, whenever.

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Our ego takes a hit, the wind is knocked out
of us and we strain to breathe, suddenly feeling weakened
and vulnerable. Over the years, ten specific criticisms have disguised
themselves as our own opinions, censuring us in false self voice.
They tear holes in our self confidence because we have

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forgotten they were actually created by others. The false self
is a powerful adversary, one whose sharp tongued admonitions can
be heard in every situation of self doubt, a foe
that keeps us from our true selves and sometimes distances
us from others as well. Nonetheless, it is merely the

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accomplice of the real enemy. The real enemy fitting in
wages a kind of gorilla warfare, shrouding itself in thick
fog and dense underbrush, avoiding direct confrontation. This is why
it is so important to confront false self criticisms that
often conspire to obstruct personal growth. Unlike the larger morti

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his problem of fitting in, we can learn to deal
with the false self on our own terms because we
can hear its voice. We can sensitize ourselves to its
influence if we learn to recognize its tactic of carping
at us in hushed tones, like a talk radio host
of the mind, with propaganda that is as subtle and

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seductive as it is dangerous until we hear its critical
attack for what it is. The internalized voice of disapproval.
We are destined to go through life unwittingly duped by
its lies. What then do we do if we want
to fit in and yet it must remain true to ourselves.

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Is living a watered down version of life possible when
self actualization hangs in the balance. In some respects, it's
true that everyday geniuses lead a curious life. Consequently, we
can expect that sometimes others will consider us curiosities. But
wouldn't it be nice if we could go about the
business of living that curious life without being bruised by

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hostile remarks and inaccurate labels. The following criticisms are external
complaints that gifted adults routinely internalize. They are lifelong obstructions
that interrupt the flow of burgeoning potential. The ten criticisms.
There are ten primary criticisms that gifted people are made

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to repeatedly endure. Though these complaints are often intended as
harmless observations, they are not benigned or easily dismissed because
they pierce the susceptible skins of the evolutionary personality. They
are written in descending order, number ten being the least
destructive and number one having the greatest negative.

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Impact on your self worth.

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As you hear them, take note of your feelings and
any images that emerge. Then listen to the list again,
mindful that these criticisms are not and never war facts.

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Ten Why don't you slow down? Nine? You worry about everything? Eight?
Can't you just stick with one thing? Seven?

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You're so sensitive and dramatic? Six you have to do
everything the hard way. Five you're so demanding. Four can't
you ever be satisfied?

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Three? You're so driven? Two? Where did you get all
those wild ideas?

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One? Who do you think you are? Nine?

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Confronting the first five criticisms the most dangerous of our prejudices.
Rein in ourselves against ourselves to dissolve them is a
creative act, Hugo von Hoffmannsthal. As we've seen every day,
genis can be both a blessing and a curse, a

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positive force and a negative force in our lives.

Speaker 22 (01:12:44):
Yet it is indeed a real.

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Force, conscious and unconscious, far more than a set of
distinct qualities. It is a state of being. Denying our
ability makes us feel as though we don't exist. Consequently,
many find their fundamental character traits unwelcome even to themselves.
This perspective is all upside down, and in a very

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real sense, we may need to stand everything on its
head to see things correctly. A choice to reframe old
negatives into affirming positives urges us to remove the obstacles
that impair our vision and impede the expression of our gifts.
Trust is the key element. A rekindled trust in life

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and its opportunities enables us to avoid becoming a victim
of cynicism. To that end, as everyday geniuses, we are
called to discover who we are and are not, Make
peace with our given nature past and present. Find new
ways to let our gifts be assets in our lives

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instead of liabilities. Avoid the anti life forces of self
sabotage and oppression by others.

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Make changes in how.

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We apply our gives, learn to trust and cooperate with
our inner guidance, clarify and enact our life's mission.

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Rewriting personal history.

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There's magic to be done here that turns undeserved censure
into valuable self acceptance. It occurs when we risk looking
at ourselves again from the other side of the norm palm,
the well informed side where our daring efforts will be
rewarded with the gift of freedom. We're highly adaptable and
have learned to live in a restrictive existence. At the core,

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we have been a bit like Merlin of Arthurian legend.
Upon his unjust imprisonment, Merlin cried out without fresh air,
I cannot breathe. These four walls are suffocating me. To
correct this involuntary confinement, we can perform a type of wizardry. Essentially,

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we must rewrite our his through our imagination and reinvent
ourselves on an important new plane. People rarely accomplish this.
Prior to developing mature perspective. We need to metaphorically retrain ourselves.
If we develop a portable internal counselor, we can reduce
the lingering ill effects of the past. Once we respond

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as chief advocate for our characteristics and reframe our excesses
as our assets, we can replace the criticisms that stifle
us and restrict us with more positive messages of love, trust,
and self acceptance. Magically, when there is no enemy within,
there are far fewer Without. Waging needless wars with ourselves

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and others sacks creative energy the way a faulty air
conditioner sucks up kilowos on a one hundred degrees fahrenheit day. Frankly,
we can't afford such self sabotaging indulgences. Any of us
have learned to defend ourselves against the ten criticisms with
clever remarks for quick embarrassed retreat. By learning what experts

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have uncovered about the gifted experience, and by listening to
our genius, our inner guide for confirmation, we can stop
being hounded by internalized dogma that demands that we need
to conform like everybody else. The goal is not to
toot our own horn, but to fortify ourselves with accurate information.

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When false stereotypes fall away, we will begin to repair
some of the damage and become revitalized and re committed
to individuality with a greater sense of freedom. Then it
won't be so difficult to find the courage to express
our gifts with authority to say yes to opportunities when
they are right for us and know when they are not.

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And should we ever again be hit with one of
the old undeserved criticisms, we will meet the challenge with
a confident yet respectful reply. There's no time like the
present to begin Criticism Number ten why don't you slow down?
New response, Going fast is normal for me. It is

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imperative that we begin to apply the term normal to
our ways. Most of us do think and move quickly
at times, often to the confusion and frustration of others.

Speaker 22 (01:17:29):
It's as simple as this, because.

Speaker 2 (01:17:32):
We can we do.

Speaker 23 (01:17:35):
Jumping to conclusions and running from pillar to post, as
we've heard so often, may seem disorganized and unnecessary to
those around us. But we're simply designed differently than others.
When combined with powers of intuition, our thought processes and
perceptual abilities allow us to surge through information to quickly

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detect the core problem, recognize patterns, and reveal impossible answers.
The process might be described as a right brain left
brain team, with all systems working full speed ahead. Gifted
adults automatically understand what President John F. Kennedy observed. You
can't depend on your judgment when your imagination is out

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of focus. We need not deny that we process things
differently and often faster than others. We understand that this
does not.

Speaker 22 (01:18:27):
Make us insincere.

Speaker 23 (01:18:29):
It is important to be sensitive to the fact that
to others, our rapid pace may seem as though we
are skipping over important factors in our analysis, or may
suggest a lack of earnestness about the topic at hand.
Our critics wonder if our unconventional decision making process is
too superficial or careless when it doesn't take a year

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and a day.

Speaker 22 (01:18:51):
Others may think we.

Speaker 23 (01:18:52):
Do a lot of educated guessing, and they're right, because
our cognitive style is a form of guessing that is
synergistic and goes beyond the application of previously learned facts.
Indescribable though it may be, we have learned to rely
on our specialized methods of grasping concepts on multiple levels simultaneously.

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Information from our multiple awarenesses and internal resources produces insights
that can seem to come out of thin air. The
fact that much of the work takes place in the
subconscious does not mean our conclusions are without logic. Accumulated
knowledge and speedy processing permit us to accurately sum up
and characterize things with only a minimum of data, and

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we're used to that. Most of us don't know quite
how it works ourselves, only that it does. Chastising us
for proceeding in this way is like being in math
class and being graded down for not showing all of
our work. If we can do it in our heads,
why do we need to do it on paper too.

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Complex thinking is linked to our use of time in
interpersonal situations as well as occupational projects. It offers us
ways to quickly size up dynamic aspects of human interaction
and find creative solutions for improved interpersonal encounters. We can
ascertain important bits of communication at once words, personality, goal,

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emotional state, body language. Because we are proficient multitaskers, we
can simultaneously observe, respond, analyze, and predict what will come next.
In no way are we mind readers, but we do
seem to develop a sixth sense that helps us quickly
understand how other people operate. This is why many gifted

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people are superb negotiators, salespersons, and diplomats. Peace is linked
to creative inspiration. I once knew a man who noticeably
increased his speed whenever innovation and originality were required. He
literally ran from book to desk to lab and back,

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nearly bowling over everything and everybody in his path. His brother,
who had a history of butting heads with him on
such occasions, wanted to avoid these encounters. He noted that
his brother's wife seemed to take her husband's pace in stride.
When he asked her, how can you tell how fast
he's going so you know when to get out of

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his way, she chuckled and replied by the size of
the flame. When creative juices start to flow, the hands
of the clock follow suit and start to spin. Time
streaks by in an instant as we run for the
pen or brush to compose our vision. The force is
so strong it bends off any attempt we may make

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to return to the demands of the real world. In truth,
creativity is the keeper of the clock tower. Activated creative
vision redirects our attention and pace nearly every time, and
often to its own, dictates Sally, a computer programmer whose
part time dream job was writing song lyrics, describes it

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this way. The days before I am ready to write
seem colorless and slow, not bad, just different minus the spark.
Sometimes I sleep more than usual and feel sluggish. I read,
I wander about in the mixture of things. I might
spend hours in the garden or planning a party, or

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reading everything that catches my attention. Most of this looks
like it has nothing to do with my lyric writing
like I'm just goofing off. I do my regular job
like I'm not really there some of the time, even
though I get things done. It's something I've adjusted to
in spite of how strange it seems. Then the clock

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seems to start ticking faster. My mind clears out some
of the cobwebs, and ideas start to surface, usually while
I'm running or in the shower. There it is right
in front of me, but still like unformed play. My
feelings and thinkings start to join forces, and off I go,
sometimes at the most inconvenient times. I hate that part

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when I have to delay, but that's part of it too.
People like me don't have the luxury of a patron,
so we have to respond to every vision and notion
that pulls on us. When it works out, I notice
that I'm in a strange space, neither good nor bad,
and that time has been altered. I'm going into my

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work as if I were on the tracks of a
roller coaster. I'm excited, afraid, nervous, and ready. As the
process builds, I wish I could just squeeze it out
of my head, because as soon as I put a
pencil in my hand and get down to the business
of writing the words. I know I'll lose some of
the purity of my inspiration. Then I go into some

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sort of trance and get pulled down into my ideas.
It can last anywhere from a few seconds to weeks.
Some of it is awful looking, for that just right
combination that only comes after several rewrites takes what feels
like an eternity. People think creativity just blasts forth like

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a volcano. But that feeling of ecstasy when I'm off
the ground with inspiration that is in a flash, and
then the clock slows down again, I miss it when
it leaves. When I land again, I feel as though
I'm somehow larger, and I'm waking from a dream adventure.

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For many of us, especially those of us born with
a need for speed, urgency is a common sensation in actuality.
Some of this may be tied to our heightened sensory
system and innate need for stimulation. In any case, we
are never far removed from the awareness of time, since
we have a sensory relationship with it, as if the

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past thing of the hours where something we can almost
feel like the temperature of the air on our skin.
Beyond this vague impulse to keep things moving forward. Economy
of time is a major factor in our ability to
be high achievers as self starters. Once we are task
committed and determine our goal, we seldom.

Speaker 22 (01:25:20):
Waste a moment.

Speaker 23 (01:25:22):
This feels natural to us, given our instinctive goal directedness.
As we've seen, goals have a way of pulling on us,
almost whispering in our ear. Every minute counts. The commonly
accepted image of the gifted adult is akin to the
white rabbit in Wonderland, always rushing about, absent mindedly, caught

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up in thought, late, disorganized, and oblivious to matters of
external consequence. True enough, when we are on a mission,
we can speed about like five o'clock shoppers on Christmas Eve.

Speaker 22 (01:25:56):
Many of us move along at breakneck speed every.

Speaker 23 (01:25:59):
Day out of have it, though it is a risky
practice because it may keep us in a constant state
of anxiety. We go slow at times because we are
lovers of theory who can easily drift off into complex
thought processes, puzzles, fantasy, and imaginative inner gains. The abstract
commands attention as we build castles in the air, become

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lost in fascinating details, and at times find ourselves bogged
down in a maze of our own making. This tendency
doesn't always sit so well with others, who may berate
us for taking these flights of fancy. Our swings between
tortoise behavior and hair behavior are indeed baffling to those
around us. In part, their concern is useful because we

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must be certain that this kind of absorption is truly
warranted and not avoidance in disguise. If we need to
develop other aspects of our personality, we cannot afford to
hide out in the inner world. Most of the time,
being lost in thought is simply the byproduct of creative thinking,
a rich resource for grounding ourselves and reviving our sense

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of well being. Criticism number nine, You worry about everything?
New response. Yes, I'm a person of deep concern and
moral conviction, Kimberly. If there aren't enough things going on
to keep me fascinated, things that stir up my mind,

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it means trouble. My mind is like a hungry beast.
If I don't feed it the right mix of puzzles
and possibilities and questions, things to ponder and wonder about,
it goes off on its own into worry lamp and
believe me, you don't want to know how upsetting and
how far down the road a mind like mine can
go with worry. If I don't pay attention and nip

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it in the bud, I can work myself into a
frenzy in ten seconds. Every ability to identify problems, envision
the best, and experienced feelings at a deep level increases
the likelihood that we will become accomplished worriers.

Speaker 22 (01:28:10):
The worry habit develops early.

Speaker 23 (01:28:13):
It is probably unavoidable, since in childhood we had few
channels to express our serious concerns and certainly no way
to solve issues of universal importance.

Speaker 22 (01:28:23):
We had no authority to.

Speaker 23 (01:28:24):
Do otherwise, because the only option was to roll our
concerns around in our heads and worry.

Speaker 22 (01:28:30):
Earnest concern for.

Speaker 23 (01:28:31):
The welfare of others, endangered plants and animals, historic sites,
natural treasures, and the disenfranchised of the world is almost
always included in the gift package. By the time most
of us were in the second grade, we had already
developed a strong sense of social justice and were deeply
concerned by any form of inequality or injustice. Our awareness

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and sensitivity compelled us to be social.

Speaker 22 (01:28:58):
Monitors, important role Brendon.

Speaker 23 (01:29:03):
When I was six years old, I was already a
fanatic for fairness, monitoring the playground and stepping in when
things went wrong to make sure everyone played fair. I
was a little watchdog for the potentially abused, on the
lookout for bullies who took advantage of the little kids.
I don't know why they all paid attention to what
I said, but when I meant business, they listened.

Speaker 22 (01:29:26):
Thinking back on it, that.

Speaker 23 (01:29:28):
Was really odd because I was at least three years
younger than some of them. I don't know why, but
I didn't give the fact that I was smaller than
everyone else a second thought. Making sure things ran fairly
was a job that just seemed to fall to me.
It's always been like that. I don't feel okay unless
everybody has an equal chance. I can't stand oppression and intimidation.

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That stuff makes me see red. I notice injustice all
around us, and it still bothers me a lot. But
I can't go on anymore letting myself be undone by it.
That's counterproductive. I suppose I'll always be a fighter for
the wronged, but now I realize I have to manage
my zeal in order for my concern to be effective

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and to keep me from feeling overwhelmed like a one
man's social justice army. Often when the rights of others
are abused, we still react as if it were happening
to us, because we have a strong connection to humanity
on a higher level. Again, this is normal, as is
our tendency to spend a significant time pondering life's most

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perplexing puzzles, such as war, discrimination, and famine. Who one
may wonder will wrestle with such concerns if we do not.
In her writing on the Characteristics and Emotions of gifted adults,
gifted education expert Anne Marie Ropert asserts many gifted people
have strong moral convictions and try to use their specific talents, insights,

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and knowledge for the betterment of the world. These are
the people who, for example, use their gifts in the
service of the planet.

Speaker 22 (01:31:05):
It is the gifted who are global thinkers.

Speaker 23 (01:31:07):
Who have an understanding of the complexities, the patterns, and
the interrelatedness of global affairs. It is the gifted who
have the capacity to replace the world's short sighted, short
term reactions with careful, overall solutions. Another manifestation of deep
concern and moral conviction is our frequent difficulty with authority figures.

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These confrontations are to be expected and are not necessarily negative.
At various times, the existing rules need to be challenged
and sometimes even rewritten. Roper describes gifted adults as independent
thinkers who do not automatically accept the decisions of their supervisors.
Their reactions may be based on perceptions of the fallibility

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of decisions, or may relate to moral questions. Our sense
of justice and willingness to push at the boundary of
conformity are suited for the difficult work of championing social
causes and breaking down the barriers of prejudice. Our ability
to see through facades helps us to quickly identify the
issue at heart. In situations of moral conflict, such gifts

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can help steer us clear of inauthentic people and involvements
that may compromise our strongest values. When I first met Graham,
I could see that he was a razor sharp detective
of pretense. The fact that he had a history of
clashes with people and positions of authority was no surprise.
Graham seemed to illustrate the every day genius's uncanny ability

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to perceive artificiality and deception. He could not only detect
hidden agendas and cleverly disguised untruths, he was a born
master at sizing people up and being able to discern
the true person beneath social veneers. Not every one appreciated
Graham's gift.

Speaker 22 (01:33:00):
I just call it as I see it. That's what
I've always done.

Speaker 23 (01:33:04):
My teachers used to tell my parents they'd hoped I'd
go into politics so I could use my sharp tongue
in some constructive way. There was more than one disorganized
teacher that felt the sting of my disrespect, even in college.
If I thought the teacher was incompetent or biased, stand back.
It's taken me years to figure out that this ability

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of mind to see through fakery and pretense is only
a gift when I have it under control. I think
I used to spit out everything I discovered about people
and their intentions, especially if they were trying to pull
something over on me or someone else, because I felt obligated.
It was as if I knew the truth about what
was going on, so I was charged with setting things right.

Speaker 22 (01:33:48):
The other thing that occurred to me is that pretending
I don't see or.

Speaker 23 (01:33:53):
Know what I can easily detect makes me feel like
a fake too, which is something I can't reconcile.

Speaker 22 (01:33:59):
And last motive for my truth telling habit.

Speaker 23 (01:34:02):
Is the realization that others' efforts to conceal, or sidestep
or whitewash things they don't want revealed feels insulting to me.
I say to myself, do they really think I can't
see through that? Do they really believe I'm that stupid?
It makes me angry enough to show them up. And
it all happens so fast sometimes it seems like I

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don't even have to say anything or even make an
exasperated face. Like last week, we were in a meeting
at work and these two guys from the marketing department
came in, all puffed up with enthusiasm for their ideas
about our new product. I could hardly believe it, but
no one else in the room seemed to get it.
It was so obvious to me that they hadn't done

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their homework. They had just reconstituted last year's game plan
without doing any new market research. I was a lone
wolf with my outspoken cry of sham. Even though I
kept my opinion to myself, I tried to put on
a poker face. They glared at me like I was
a traitor when their ideas fell on deaf ears. I

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don't know how, but I must have communicated my feelings
via some sort of negative vibration or something. I want
more than anything to be an effective team player. I
honestly want to support my colleagues, not to undermine their efforts.

Speaker 22 (01:35:23):
I just don't know how to.

Speaker 23 (01:35:24):
Turn off my radar system. I can't help what I
become aware of, and if that's the case, I need
to do something different, change my approach or attitude in
some way that will permit me to still be a
seeker of truth and a street shooter, but not one
who just shoots from the head all the time ends

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up the bad guy.

Speaker 22 (01:35:47):
Although we are prone to worry.

Speaker 23 (01:35:49):
Worry by itself is rarely useful and can easily diminish
our personal resources. Yet intense concern is the precursor of
all evolutionary action. It is important for us not to
beerate ourselves or our watchful attention. Reasonable worry can serve
as a kind of radar that draws our attention to

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something that is painfully wrong. Although we cannot become involved
in everything that gives us empathic pause, we need not
feel singularly responsible because we can rest assured that many
others hear these alarms. Nevertheless, we are ever vigilant in
the face of menacing threats to humanity. As those who

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can hear the faintest of alarms and proceed problems early,
we are often the ones called upon to notify others
than to take action. Criticism number eight. Can't you just
stick with one thing? New response?

Speaker 22 (01:36:49):
No, probably not.

Speaker 23 (01:36:51):
In our society, there is great pressure to answer the
question what are you going to be? When you grow
up with a decisive and singular choice, we are usually
presented with a small array of options, mostly in the
form of a job list. However, those with ev I
rarely benefit from the traditional career planning methods because.

Speaker 22 (01:37:13):
Our underlying goals are not aligned with a simplistic job
seeking formula.

Speaker 23 (01:37:19):
I chose my initial college major and first job in
a most haphazard way, even though it was according to
three seemingly reasonable criteria one.

Speaker 22 (01:37:30):
What others said I should do?

Speaker 23 (01:37:33):
Two whatever fit with the mixture of things I've studied
thus far, and three the necessary training, didn't take too
long or cost too much. These were the requirements for
getting a good job. My friends and I understood that
a good job was anything that would pay the bills
and wouldn't raise eyebrows. A few of my acquaintances were

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more daring and took classes based on their interests and
for fun. Most of them seemed to fare better in
the long run, ending up in jobs more closely related
to their gifts and passions.

Speaker 22 (01:38:08):
They somehow valued.

Speaker 23 (01:38:09):
The wisdom of their inner voice over the prescribed voice
of reason. I discovered, as many of us eventually do,
that my indoctrination in reasonableness was highly overrated. Career misdirection
was followed by yet another mandate. It's not wise to
change directions once you've selected a line of work. The

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gifted adult who lends an unfulfilling job often ends up
suffering from intellectual and spiritual exhaustion. Those who brave an
unwise new direction frequently do so with little support. Even
if they find success in a second, third, or fifth career,
their search may.

Speaker 22 (01:38:50):
Be rewarded with nothing better than I knew you'd do it.

Speaker 23 (01:38:54):
What took you so long? The issue of what to
be when we grow up. Is even more complicated. For
the multi talented individual. It is essentially a problem of
too many options. In school, such a person may have
been excellent in mathematics, first chair violin, captain of the
track team, and a member of the student council.

Speaker 22 (01:39:16):
Many talents, many interests, many choices. Gifted people are.

Speaker 23 (01:39:22):
Also confronted with the need to select a direction from
several possible areas of success that may hold equal interest.

Speaker 22 (01:39:30):
Rudimentary do what you like best advice doesn't make.

Speaker 23 (01:39:34):
The sorting process any easier when most of us are
interested in merely everything, When our decisions about where we
will invest our time and energy in the future are
guided by our need to expand, not narrow our horizons Andrew,
much of my energy comes from getting involved in something
new that excites me. That's why it looks like I'm

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always switching gears and starting over.

Speaker 22 (01:40:00):
But what if that's normal for me? What if that's
how I work? Tracia.

Speaker 23 (01:40:06):
This may sound like I'm nuts, and I don't want
you to take this wrong, but I feel like I'm
a gathering of personalities, not that I'm split off from
them and disturbed by them. Like people with multiple personality disorder.
I seem to be a combination of characters. There's the playful,
mischievous me who tends to stir things up and have

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a good time, sometimes at the wrong time. Then I
can swing into the serious, minded, overbearing, conventional me who
rags on myself to get with it and stop boofing off.
She's not so much fun, but I rely on her
to help keep my nose to the grindstone. There are
a whole bunch of these characters in me, and I

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think I need them all. Kevin, I'm interested in everything,
well almost everything. Change is my friend, not the enemy.
My friends think it has to be. They've been after
me for years to settle down. One of them even
suggested I might be hyperactive.

Speaker 22 (01:41:07):
They just don't get it.

Speaker 23 (01:41:09):
There's so much to learn to discover, so many places
to travel and books to read. I can't imagine ever
finding myself in a position with nothing to do. The
truth is that even if I live to be a hundred,
I'll be sorry that I didn't have enough time to
do all the things I want to do. It bothers
my friends that I'm on my fifth career, but that

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feels so normal to me. Every time I go to
the theater, I have the strongest urge to be in
a musical production.

Speaker 22 (01:41:39):
When I'm camping, I want to be another John Muir.

Speaker 23 (01:41:42):
When I watch CNNfn, I find myself wishing I had
become a Wall Street money shark. I'm just not able
to sit still in the status quo. Lots of stability
might be the ticket for lots of other people, but
not me. In fact, I tell my friends that if
they ever find me just swinging in the hammock with
no passion boujour, that will be the time to worry

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about me. Career choice demands occur just as the world
is beginning to open up to us, so that, in
many respects, the timing couldn't be worse.

Speaker 22 (01:42:16):
The need to choose is.

Speaker 23 (01:42:17):
Like taking a child to an amusement park for the
first time and saying, now just one ride, no more.

Speaker 22 (01:42:25):
Choose carefully.

Speaker 23 (01:42:27):
Even later in life, it may be quite difficult for
us to match ability with highest interest, deepest values, and
long range life goals without skilled mentoring, which is always
in short supply. Occasionally, even work that seems like a
good job may fail to expand and concert with our
need to grow Unless we explore the larger issue of

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personal mission, we run the risk of becoming stock for
years in a life direction that starts to feel like
a set of repeated, uninspiring asks. A career path suited
to our needs must provide us with a sense of
meaning and large scale purpose. If our initial avenue is
filled with dead ends, a change is often inevitable.

Speaker 22 (01:43:13):
For many of us.

Speaker 23 (01:43:14):
It often takes years of varied experience to clarify a
life mission and to find our niche. Frequently, multiple interests
and talents call for the creation of a tailor made career.
Sometimes the right path requires additional training, which is not
proof positive that we wasted time in other endeavors. Since

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the creative person is a great recycler of experience, good
and bad.

Speaker 22 (01:43:43):
Lionel, it's so confusing.

Speaker 23 (01:43:46):
People praise me for being so diverse and then turn
right around and try to pigeonhole me. I've become known
as the fun maker, the one who lifts people's spirits
and lighten things up when they get too solemn. Then
I get cast as the si the clown, even though
I don't always want to be the one who provides
the enthusiasm and zine, I can be as melancholy as

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the next guy. I'm odd in that I seem to
be an introvert and an extrovert. I've become used to
the many sides of me, soft and edgy, involved and
aloof in charge and in the background. Why is it
so hard to understand that I'm as wacky as I
am thoughtful, and in some ways as conventional as I

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am different? Is it impossible for others to accept all
the aspects of my personality?

Speaker 22 (01:44:38):
The changeable met.

Speaker 23 (01:44:40):
Change is a natural outcome of multipotentiality, self directedness, and adaptability,
not an indicator of instability. Many of us progress along
a convoluted track of seemingly unrelated careers. As it turns out,
such a course can make the necessity of earning a
living a fascinating ad venture that contributes immeasurably to the

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development of wisdom in hindsight. Many successful self actualizers identify
their career shifts as integral steps in the spiral of change.
This is when they begin the story of their brilliant
careers with if it hadn't been for the time I.

Speaker 22 (01:45:20):
Had to.

Speaker 23 (01:45:22):
Criticism number seven, You're so sensitive and dramatic new response.

Speaker 22 (01:45:29):
Yes, my senses and feelings are heightened across the board.

Speaker 23 (01:45:35):
Experts identify our heightened sensory awareness and perceptivity as markers
of giftedness. This means we are serious experiencers. Life really
is dramatic for us. Each part of our sensory system
is magnified, so we operate in, around, and through all
of the sensations.

Speaker 2 (01:45:55):
Of the moment.

Speaker 23 (01:45:56):
We react to things more because we feel them more,
respond to the intricacies, patterns, tone, and color of situations.
The gifted person understands on a sensory level the difference
between a lavender velvet evening and a white satin morning.
Though we may think our life experience is not different

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from anyone else's, this is not the case.

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It may help to think of.

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Our gifts of sensitivity and perceptivity as the difference between.

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Listening to a digital.

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Recording of the Moonlight Sonata and sharing the piano bench
with Beethoven as he plays it. Same music, different experience.
We not only live in a colorful world, we detect
all the subtle shadings of experience and feel impassion by
many things. Everything in our surroundings seems to be endowed

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with an energy that can be translated through the senses.
Because this is so, we need the validation of like
minded others to ward off sneak attacks of self doubt
and low self esteem.

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My gifted friends not in unison.

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When we discuss the scent of an inspiring melody, the
pride that emanates from a sculpture, the feeling of the
rhythmic pulse of the earth, or being bruised by the
hostile edge of an angry look, this is not irrational.
It is the normal result of a physiological hard wiring
that contains a sensory system that is different, broader, deeper,

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and more intense. Clinical psychologist doctor Deirdre Levecky, in an
article on gifted adults entitled can You Hear the Flowers Singing?

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Informs us that.

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Gifted adults may be unusually aware of the feeling tone
of situations and of the more sensual aspects of the environment,
such as color and shading. They hear the flowers singing,
feel a unity with the universe, and want every one
else to hear the song as well. In addition, she
observes adults gifted with perceptivity are those who can hear

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the flowers singing within others not yet aware of their
own gifts. They are able to understand the meaning of
personal symbols and to see beyond the superficiality of a
situation to the person beneath. People who are gifted at
seeing often seem to have a touch of magic about them.
Jane Austen, Langston Hughes, Anne Hutchinson, William Shakespeare, and Henry

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David Thoreau are all examples. As children, many of us
had a strong connection with animals, rocks, birds, or flowers,
engaging in a form of anthropomorphism that humanized objects with
an animal, vegetable or mineral soul. This sensitivity and perception
of the common thread of energy within the cosmos was

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spirit in action. You too may be some one who
apologizes to plants, or neglect or listens carefully when the
birds in the park tell you their stories. When others
complain that we are too dramatic, they are suggesting we
are too expressive, too passionate, too connected to our emotions,

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and that our inviting them into the deeper realm of
life frightens them. Gifted adults are often dubbed dramatic or
crazy when they confront others with their intensity.

Speaker 22 (01:49:24):
Charlene, when someone is.

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In emotional pain, I'm right there in it with them,
I feel it right along with them and react deeply.
Sometimes I think I feel what they're experiencing even more
strongly than they do. The role of emotion is an
integral part of our creative nature and a gift to
be treasured. It might even be said that we think

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with our feelings and feel our way through our thoughts.
In other words, our intuitive, feeling mind and our logical
mind work in concert. As one might guess, Passion and
the willingness to feel the highest crescendo and deepest decrescendo
is the realm of the artist. Nobody sees a flower, really,

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it is so small. It takes time. We haven't time,
and to see takes time, like to have a friend
takes time. Georgia O'Keefe. Many would prefer that we repress
our awareness and emotional energy, but channeled appropriately, intensity can

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be exceptionally useful, as feeling and thought are reshaped into
paint stroke, piano chord, or pirouette. It is also the
source of enthusiasm, dedication, care, and devotion. Mariel do you
know how hard it is to keep the lid on
my emotions? Even when I do, people mimic me or

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scold me for being so emotional, like expressing my feet
feelings somehow makes me a lunatic or a drama.

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Queen begging for attention. I don't know what to do
in a world that.

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Tells us to acknowledge our feelings and express them to
avoid becoming depressed or having headaches.

Speaker 22 (01:51:13):
I know I'm different and I'm not allowed to be
that open.

Speaker 23 (01:51:17):
If I really let loose with my emotions, I'd probably
be either locked up in a psych word or everyone
would run away from me like I was a bomb
about to explode. The only place where I dare to
come close to fully expressing my feelings is with my family,
not with outsiders, and even then I have to be
careful not to scare everybody. Over the years, I've had

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to put a lid on my feelings to fit into
the world around me. I know I have to in
order to be taken seriously. The truth is that my
intense emotions are the center of my passion about things.
Do people really think meaningful changes in society are brought
about by the apathetic and dulled out. It's a real dilemma.

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People love me for my passion until they decide it's
too much. Then they want me to do away with it,
like throwing ice water on a flame.

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And that's simply impossible.

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Our dramatic side reflects our intensity of mood. Often discredited,
mood is the director of the idea process, playing an
integral role in motivation. Otherwise obvious musical art forms such
as the blues would not exist. In fact, one of
the quickest ways to change moods is to experience music, dance,

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or drama. Mood also makes us deeply human, which is
the vital difference between us and the androids of science fiction.
Throughout his career, esteemed humanistic psychologist Abraham Maslow found that
self actualizing people dealt with emotional expression differently than other

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ad else their feelings were unencumbered, their expression and spontaneity
childlike in its freedom. His exceptional subjects, who were considered
to be models of human evolution, might also be seen
as dramatic. Their demonstrativeness and openness were obviously essential to
their unusual progress in living successful and meaningful lives. Maslow

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determined that self actualizing people were not ordinary people with
something special added, but dynamic people with nothing suppressed or
taken away. In the Right to Be Human, a biography
of Abraham Maslow, author Edward Hoffmann tells how Maslow challenged
modern psychological premises by studying human exemplars rather than the

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mentally ill or statistically average, to devise accurate theories about
human nature. Maslow's research indicated that self actualizing people tended
to demonstrate greater self acceptance and acceptance of others, autonomy, spontaneity,
esthetic sensitivity, frequent mystic like or transcendent experiences, and democratic

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rather than authoritarian outlook, and involvement in a cause or
mission outside oneself. Self actualizing people too seemed to possess
a good natured rather than a cruel sense of humor,
and an earnest desire to improve the law of humanity.
In addition, they tended to seek privacy and detach themselves

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from much of the petty and trivial socializing taking place
around them.

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He also found that, regardless.

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Of their particular occupation or station in life, self actualizers
tend to be highly creative as an outpouring of their
very personality. Not limited to activities like writing or composing music.
Whatever one does can be done with a certain attitude,
a certain spirit which arises out of the ne nature

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of the person. And although self actualizing people are not
emotionally flallness, they can serve as exemplars in the values
by which they lead their lives.

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In concert with our concerns.

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Here, Maslow sought to correct a misunderstanding of self actualization
as a static, perfect state in which all human problems
are transcended and in which people live happily ever after
in a superhuman state of serenity or ecstasy. Instead, he
insisted self actualization is a development of personality which frees

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the person from the deficiency.

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Problems of growth and from the neurotic problems of.

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Life, so that he or she is able to face, endure,
and grapple with the real problems of the human condition.
Through his studies of excellence and fulfillment, Maslow discovered three
important factors that contributed to the gifted reaching a higher
level of human experience than other people. One liberated feelings,

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two openness to new ways of seeing things, and three
fascination would the unknown. They were able to be more
natural and less controlled and inhibited in their behavior, It
seemed to be able to flow out more easily and freely,
and with less blocking and self criticism. This ability to

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express ideas and impulses without strangulation and without fear of
ridicule from others turned out to be a very essential
aspect of self actualizing creativeness. Their innocence of perception and
expressiveness was combined with sophisticated minds. Aliveness is often described

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as being in touch with feelings. Rather than labeling intensity
as excessive, expanded sensitivities might better be defined as a
major component of artful living. If you were to ask
someone in the arts or sciences what feeling have to
do with their work.

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Most would reply everything. They will tell you.

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That feelings and creativity are never separated. Allan I can
be hit with emotional highs that are truly beyond articulation.
Many times they come right out of the blue, like
I'm suddenly bathed in a shower of light and energy
and peace.

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It's fabulous. No, it's more than that.

Speaker 23 (01:57:26):
It's ecstasy, a gift from another realm, free and clear
and totally fulfilling.

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It's a great ride.

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Personal experience is not the only value of intensity. Some
experts in the area of leadership believe so called dramatic
individuals make the best leaders.

Speaker 22 (01:57:46):
They are charismatic.

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Models of loyalty to a cause who demonstrate unweavering commitment.
One of our most valuable gifts is the ability to
stir up enthusiasm in others. The hat Magandhi Martin, Luther
King Junior, and Eleanor Roosevelt took the moral high ground
and relied on emotional response to fuel their campaigns for
justice without our having an emotional response to them. Our

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experiences are just commonplace experiences, and we in particular are equipped.

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For what Maslow called peaque experiences.

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We have, in his words, this wonderful capacity to appreciate
again and again, freshly and naively the basic goods of life,
with awe, pleasure, wonder and even ecstasy, however paled these
experiences may have become to others.

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In short, we are highly not overly.

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Sensitive and perceptive, which means we see more and feel more.

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We are thereby more likely to be.

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Compelled to express ourselves more than other people, and none
of this should be equated with excess. Intensity is a
gift that allows us to know the meaning of rapture
as well as of despair. Therefore, exceptional experiencers live more

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intensely than most people live more acutely, with more color.
Most of the time we have a unique opportunity to
be transformed by the spectacular revelations made available in each moment.
Why would we want it any other way? Criticism number six.

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You have to do everything the hard way.

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You give a buck, I can give a coup there.
I'm not said up.

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I'm gonna love the picture.

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a comedy them was as at.

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you can give up up.

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I can give a part man.

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I can give about that.

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