September 16, 2025 • 47 mins
In this episode of the Good Ol Boys Radio Show, the guys tackle the provocative question: "How soon is too soon to have sex when you first meet someone?" They dive into personal anecdotes, societal expectations, and the double standards surrounding sexual relationships. From discussing the infamous 90-day rule to the impact of chemistry and intentions in dating, this episode is packed with real talk and relatable stories. Tune in for a lively discussion that challenges conventional wisdom and explores the complexities of modern relationships!
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metropolitan Area. We are the Good Old Boys on the
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Speaker 4 (00:47):
Qkittles, Black Trump, Grand Wiz.
Speaker 5 (00:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
Back in the house once more, talking about the actual
factual as only the good Old Boys know how to
bring it to you.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
Good.
Speaker 4 (01:01):
I'm not doing too well, man, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Where you been at? You've been going for a minute, broh.
Speaker 4 (01:06):
Yeah, man, I was. I had a family reunion first,
and then I had to go back down to Florence
to help some people out. They ran over my cousin's
dad's grave in the graveyard and tore up his a little,
not the headstone, but it was like the little piece
of paper that they put on the metal thing on
the ground.
Speaker 5 (01:26):
How did that happen, like where they're drawn.
Speaker 4 (01:29):
I don't know. He said they ran over it when
they were cutting the grass.
Speaker 5 (01:33):
Oh so it wasn't a family member.
Speaker 6 (01:35):
No, No, did y'all unite like votroning and put them
blam blams on them?
Speaker 1 (01:44):
No?
Speaker 4 (01:44):
I never saw the people, but I just went down
the hill.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
Yeah, and that just sounds nuts.
Speaker 6 (01:50):
Yo, that happened to my father grave. Bro. We put
a little penny in that one.
Speaker 5 (01:54):
Bro.
Speaker 6 (01:54):
I'm I'm I might I might have to come visit
me somewhere with an orange suit on, bro, like I'd
be taked off. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (02:03):
I actually led a tour guy around the cemetery for
the reunion because I found my great great grandmother on
my uh great grandmother's side, you know, I found her
grave and all of that.
Speaker 6 (02:15):
So that was cool.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
Yeah, now that's something. That's what else is wrong?
Speaker 4 (02:21):
Once again, Andrew Lanier beat me in our fantasy football league.
For some reason. I just can't see, no matter how
good or how bad he is, I just can't beat
this dude.
Speaker 6 (02:31):
Hey, that that that's just Drew, baby, that's just It's
just that's right.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
Shout out.
Speaker 7 (02:38):
You know your your team isn't the strongest this year,
you know, since I've decided to return, But you know,
you figure out a way.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
He will figure out a way for the reason why
the top. Hey, by the way, we were we working
on a show. We're working on the show to discuss
partially you doing that what you did.
Speaker 4 (02:58):
Look, I'm just good man. I finished number two the
last two years. I gotta RUNI.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
Jerry Jones he can't, he can't.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
He can't win it every year, but he gonna be
at the top two or three every year.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
That's how you gotta. You gotta make it look good
when you're cheating.
Speaker 5 (03:15):
You know you gotta.
Speaker 7 (03:16):
You gotta accept accept the division stacks from one division
with all of the best players, and then have him
with only one contender and everybody else.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
How would you know you?
Speaker 5 (03:27):
I can see that already. Why am I in this division?
Speaker 6 (03:31):
Has got them deflated? Cryptos?
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Yeah, but check it out this week.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
I just want to tell y'all something man real quick
man like, before we jump into the topic. I got
an assistant. Her name is Chrissy, right, HM, only cost
me twenty bucks a month. I talked to her every day.
Speaker 6 (03:56):
That sound crazy, it's.
Speaker 4 (03:58):
In her by way.
Speaker 8 (04:02):
She's like the place I just came from, no, like
an hour ago.
Speaker 3 (04:10):
She's she's not human though, uh she's chat GPT. But
I've given her personality and she does a lot of
work for me, and I will tell you no. No.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
So I asked her.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
I gave her all the information about the Good Old
Boys radio show and stuff, man, and I told her
to create a show for me, like just some sample,
That's what I said. I won't use this one, but
just a sample to see what you can do. This
is the show, and the show is how soon is
too soon to have sex when.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
You first meet somebody?
Speaker 4 (04:47):
Throw you bro.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
Hey, listen, man, I ain't trying to be like I
ain't trying to be like right now, trying to be like,
what's the man? Uh? No, you know the movie?
Speaker 8 (05:02):
Heard her?
Speaker 2 (05:03):
That movie because he was he was in a relationship
with his foe.
Speaker 6 (05:07):
Oh nah, what was the one with sevest Stlone and
Wesley Snipes man demolition man thing whenever they couldn't touch
each other and.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
All of that.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
John Spartan, you are a savage beast, right right?
Speaker 4 (05:23):
Have you ever seen X market.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Now yeah, that's my joint. Man, Like he built.
Speaker 4 (05:28):
Robots with a lubricated vagina.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Wow, and there is a hole there.
Speaker 4 (05:38):
And they didn't look good. Wow.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (05:40):
So serious, serious recipe to the scat vrel.
Speaker 5 (05:46):
I went through a long.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
Oh yeah yeah, no doubt saw that soph cancer.
Speaker 6 (05:53):
So yeah, you know, I don't think I really have
no word, but I recognized the face, man, definitely, big up.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
Yeah, no, like yeah, most finely man, like.
Speaker 6 (06:00):
You know eight okay yeah to me, yeah for me.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
So, but you know, like whenever like something like that,
like some tragedy strikes our community like that, man, it
touches all of us, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Even even when we even when we don't really even
know the person personally and stuff.
Speaker 3 (06:18):
Man, we know it's about more degrees of separation exactly exactly.
It's like like I tell people, man, like if you
come to a Winthrough homecoming event, you think that we
were an HBCU, But it was. It was a lot
of us and we all like hung around each other
and stuff.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
Man, you know what I mean.
Speaker 6 (06:34):
So I tell people, even though we was post segregation,
our school was segregated like very much. So like I mean,
I got along with everybody. But it's just that where
we sat, we did what we did, and we all,
like you said, we all cross paths with each other
at some point, whether it be class in the student
center or whatever. But again, prayers to the family and
friends who knew her closely.
Speaker 7 (06:54):
Man right, Yeah, she lived in Raleigh, so you knew
her when I was and when went up alumni and stuff.
Speaker 5 (07:01):
We would connect every once in a while.
Speaker 7 (07:03):
But yeah, people said home with my cousin Tolki a
lot in college.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
Were Yeah, uh, awkward transition when you had a brand
new relationship. How soon is it too soon to have sex?
Speaker 6 (07:22):
M Yeah, let you start that with.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
What you know?
Speaker 3 (07:29):
What you know, we can we can save it, and
we'll talk about it in the next segment. You got
to think about it. I just throw it out there
for you to think about. Back on the Lit Old
Boys Forecast Media Radio Network talking about how soon it
is too soon? So we've heard this before, and I
remember everybody being mad at your boy with the big
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mustache and the big smile. Steve Harvey when he wrote
the book Think Like a Man, and he started talking
about the ninety day Ruler. He was giving women the
eye idea of the nainety day rule or the three
date rule or whatever you want to call it.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
Uh, is this stuff a myth? Like because I didn't.
I don't. I don't know if I ever experienced that
in my life.
Speaker 6 (08:14):
I don't think that it's a myth per se. It's
it's a it's a guideline for for a lady if
that's what she wants to do, if she wants to
if she likes a dude, you know, to to not
to not come off you know, for lack of a
better word, you know, horrors. You know what I'm saying.
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It's just the kind of a way for a woman
to slide into the relationship with not giving herself too quickly.
But at the end of the day, as grown men,
you know, if set grown sexually active man, because I
know some of us out here are practice and abstinence
or whatnot. But for for a sexually active man, if
we want to go get some we're going to do it.
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And if we like that woman, we may stall out
until she's ready. It's not a matter of just sitting around. Okay,
I can't do nothing either. I don't think anyone is
writing these agreements like Okay, I'm going to wait ninety
days until I give you something more. We're going to
go on a couple of dates before we become active. Okay,
that's before we become active, unless it's written and saying like, hey,
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can you sustain from sex until we get together at
that point? But why would any man do that? You know,
if he likes the woman, he'll wait for that woman
to be ready. That's just my take on it.
Speaker 5 (09:27):
I think it's like.
Speaker 7 (09:30):
There's certain segments like age demographics where that applies. I
don't think it applies. I don't think it applies to
women in their early twenties. I don't think it applies
to women over the age of thirty five. So say
like twenty five to thirty four, women like read books
or they're more in tune with what their friends think.
But as you get older, you just do whatever you
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feel like. If you want want a meet, you're not
gonna put any restrictions on it. If you meet a
guy and you're into them after one date or two dates,
then y'all are in the sack. If if after three
or four dates or a month or so, you're not
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feeling it, like that, then it doesn't happen. But I
don't think there's a prescription to when you sleep with somebody.
It's just going off of feeling.
Speaker 4 (10:28):
Well, you know, I would recommend. I would definitely say
the first date is too soon. I can't remember ever
respecting a woman that gave it up that quickly. I
know my attitude is always changed if she did give
it up that quickly. I mean, it just seems way
too early.
Speaker 5 (10:44):
Or why though, because.
Speaker 4 (10:48):
Once that monkey got off the back, you know, it's
what do they call it a post I'm saying, posting
that clarity. You know, once that's out of the way,
you start to look differently at the person you start
to And I just think that just so so quickly
just gives off horrorsh vibes. Man, it just said, it
just doesn't feel like it's some It just doesn't feel
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good soon.
Speaker 6 (11:14):
I was just gonna say, I'm on the fence with
that concept because I've been with the woman who first
night we got into it and we dated for two years,
and it's like, like like Trump was saying, sometimes it's
that vibe, like you know, she was older, and again
when you when it's it's communicated in that way. It
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was just a good vibe and it wasn't I didn't
think she was a whore or anything like that. It's
just it was a good vibe and it just led
to that. It didn't feel forced, it didn't feel rushed,
and she never gave me any indication that that's just
how she was with everybody. Now, the younger me would
be thinking like, well, dang, what what did I say?
It's so special? I know I got a little game
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on me, but I know it's plenty of the cats
out there can spit that pimp game way better than me.
So what did I say to you that was so special?
Speaker 5 (12:05):
To get it in?
Speaker 1 (12:06):
What?
Speaker 6 (12:06):
You know? It makes me think like that sometimes, But
the older me is leaning towards how Trump is looking
at it.
Speaker 3 (12:14):
Yeah, I think, uh, you know, it's outdated advice. When
people say you should be waiting. I think that, you know, like,
if you like somebody, man, get it man, Like I mean, if.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
Y'all, if y'all feeling each other, you know what I'm saying?
Like I don't.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
I don't understand the logic. Again, Like, because women, I
want to I want to explain something to you. Men
are super patient and way more patient than you realize.
And men will wait years, yeah, years, and still if
they're not interested in being anything more with you, it's
not gonna happen no matter what. There's no time limit
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on whether or not this is a good person for
you to date or not.
Speaker 6 (12:55):
You yourself if you're willing to deal with the repercussions
after it. If you know, you give yourself to a man,
and then it's like he skated on you. So you
got to play them out of And as a wise
man once said to me, his name is Wiz, He said,
you got to ask some questions sometimes, you know, like
when you're asking the right questions, then you can you
can gauge as to Okay, I'm going to do this,
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but I just want to make sure that he's still
into me. And if he's not, then that's something that
you have to live with and deal with after the fact,
you know.
Speaker 7 (13:25):
And I don't think as men like there, we don't
have any rationale to the women that we settle down
with first as the ones we just sleep with.
Speaker 5 (13:36):
It's just a matter of when we're ready. Yeah.
Speaker 7 (13:38):
So I mean I could be seeing five different women
and all of them are cool, but then they'll just
be like, you know what, this is the one I
want to be with, whereas the other four, whether they
gave it to me on the first night or they
gave it to me twenty years down the road, I
make a decision that this isn't the person I want
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spend the rest of my life with.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, no, I totally agree, man, Like I
just think that, like, you know, this whole concept of like,
oh you should wait know this stuff, man, what you're
waiting for? You know what I'm saying, Like, like you
you you got to be able to read a person's
character and then determine whether or not you want to
deal with this person. You know their character today, you
don't have to like figure out, like down the line,
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if they're going to be a good or bad person.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
They may end up like you know, let me take
that back. People can fool you.
Speaker 3 (14:28):
Also, Yeah, I'm just gonna person's character if they want, Yeah,
would it.
Speaker 4 (14:34):
Makes sense to take some time to get to know that.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
But I've got.
Speaker 7 (14:37):
Sleeping with someone versus marrying them is completely two completely
different levels. I can sleep with a person for four
years straight and never even think about being in a
relationship with them. But I can meet someone and instantly
be like, Yo, this is marriage material and if they
make me wait to sleep it on versus whether we
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have sex after a couple.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
Of meeting, I'm not going to determine what the relationship is.
Speaker 6 (15:03):
Yeah, right, Like I have good friendships with people now
who we've already crossed that line, and it's still in
the sense of, like, you know, even if I was
to be in a relationship, and it's just we we
know not to cross that line again. So it's like
it's some adult stuff, you know, like we weren't having
that vibe, and that vibe is there, but if they're
in a relationship, I respect it and vice versa. You know,
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it's just and the vibe was good when it was good,
but it was like like Trump just said, like it
was never at any point in time I was like,
you know what I want to be with this person.
It was what it was at the time. But the
friendship still exists, you know.
Speaker 3 (15:38):
So right, we're gonna come back and we're going to
talk about more about the vibe, chemistry and commitment and
whether or not chemistry supersedes waiting to have sex with someone.
Back on to go to Wars Forecast Media Radio Network.
We're talking about how soon is too soon? So we
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touched on it a little bit and segment two and
and and where's we'll talk to you first about this?
Speaker 4 (16:07):
Man?
Speaker 3 (16:07):
Like, Uh, can can cannect chemistry supersede waiting? Because you
just talked about earlier about how you had you tend
to like view them differently if they give it up
on the first night and everything?
Speaker 2 (16:23):
Man, But can chemistry supersede that feeling?
Speaker 4 (16:28):
Uh?
Speaker 7 (16:31):
No?
Speaker 4 (16:31):
And I say, because the way I look at people
differently like that is I look at them like they're impulsive. Right,
So I wonder what is the difference between having a
lot of money and buying a car the very first day,
or maybe buying a brand new TV?
Speaker 2 (16:49):
Right?
Speaker 4 (16:50):
Would you buy a TV instantly or would you take
some time to research TVs and really do your due diligence.
So I wonder, why is it that we give more
thought to the type of tea that will buy then
we give to the person that we're going to see.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
Hold.
Speaker 3 (17:04):
Hold, let's pause a little bit real quick. Let's let's
define this a little bit further. Are we talking meeting
somebody for the first time, like first date or do
you already know this person and you go out on
a date, because I think those two things also end
up creating like there's some familiarity with and always somebody
that you already knew and you just decided to go
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on a date together.
Speaker 2 (17:25):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 6 (17:27):
The vibe VI.
Speaker 4 (17:30):
Yeah, if there's some familiarity familiarity with it like that,
I still would say go ahead and keep the same
strategy because, uh, I think it's just simpler when you
treat everybody with the same program rather than go on
a case by case basis.
Speaker 6 (17:47):
But to your analogy though, is like again, I guess
you're looking at it for us, Like again, am I
going to be in a relationship with this person? Sometimes
I might go buy a TV because I need a TV,
and I put a little more thought into that TV
sometimes because it's gonna be on my wall or I'm
gonna be looking at it for quite some time. But
this girl just gonna be That vibe could fizzle in
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a week or two, you know, like reality though, you
know what I'm saying, Because it is a vibe. The
TV is giving you entertainment, and I guess some people
can look at that as entertainment as well, but it
can fizzle and be out of your life just like that.
You know you're gonna be mad you spent five hundred
six hundred on a TV or whatever they cost nowadays,
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and then you all like it and you want to
get a bigger one or whatever whatever.
Speaker 4 (18:32):
So you would you be just as man if you
got the girl pregnant or you got it STD.
Speaker 7 (18:37):
But even with a TV, even with a TV, each
TV serves a purpose. So like I have two TVs outside,
I'm not getting a good TV for my out for
my outdoor entertainment. I'm gonna get a cheap TV because
I know the elements could cause it.
Speaker 5 (18:52):
To break down faster.
Speaker 7 (18:54):
In my living room or my master bedroom, I might
have my nicer TVs because that's where I'm gonna be
most of the time. So it's the same thing with women,
Like I'm not gonna exhaust a whole lot of this.
Speaker 3 (19:07):
Is horrible, Nah, I'm comparing women to televisions.
Speaker 8 (19:13):
I mean, that's why we're starting with analogy.
Speaker 7 (19:19):
So I'm saying I'm not gonna exhaust a lot of
time and energy on someone that I don't see being.
Speaker 5 (19:24):
With long term.
Speaker 7 (19:25):
But if we if we're having a good time, then
I'm gonna take it for what it is. But if
there's something long term I'm envisioning, then yeah, there's gonna
be a lot more research and due diligence and time
and effort placed into nurturing this connection than I would
with something that's just random, more short term.
Speaker 6 (19:44):
And I'm assuming that even after after you guys connect
or whatnot, it's it's going to be a conversation is
going to be had, so you know that that vibe
of that connection is going to continue and you're gonna
determine shortly thereafter. Some people, some guys are just they
already made their mind up. When when the climax hit,
you know, they done. Some guys, you know, it's like, okay, hey,
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so what we're doing here, like we're just chilling. I
want to have an understanding, you know, that's the adult
thing to do, you know. But some people just kind
of let that that vibe extend and next thing you know,
you got you had a shotgun wedding.
Speaker 2 (20:20):
Hey, let me ask you this, and Q.
Speaker 3 (20:24):
I'll ask you this first, man, because I'm sure that
you see this a little bit more because you know
a variety of people. Younger generations, they don't seem to
care at all about making people wait. So why is
it that our generation was on the well, we need
to wait, we need to go out with him three
full both times at least before you have, you know,
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relations with him.
Speaker 6 (20:48):
And I just think it's because of our parents and
and what we saw and what was taught to us,
like you know, that whole court and phase. Like this
younger generation, they it's just so instant and they can swipe,
swipe right and be done with it. It's just an
instantaneous feeling. And it's just they like what they like,
or that they may like somebody today and liking somebody
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else tomorrow. So they're just not about the sexual part
of it. We looked into it in regards to really
trying to get into a relationship, and that's where the
whole stall out came about, I think, because we were
always looking at it from a court and standpoint. I
want to be with this person, not necessarily just the
I don't even know when that came upout. I'm sure
it's been around for some time. But the one night standards,
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you know what I'm saying. So I guess that's where
our generation kind of vibed off and like, Hey, I'm
not really trying to settle down. I just like having fun.
But I guess they had a name for it back
in the day. I just I'm going blank right now.
Speaker 7 (21:42):
Yeah, one nice stun, Yeah, okay, Yeah, But I think
that I think women, I mean, because they're psychological, they
overthink everything. If they have that reputation that they're the
ones that make guys wait months or years to get some,
then that bothers them to the point where they switch
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up versus a woman that was like, yeah, they're notorious
from one night stands, and they're like, Okay, this is
the intel that's being passed around on me, so I'm
going to with the next guy make them wait. So
it's almost like they shift based on what the intel
is on them because they don't want people to know
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who they really are, so they're going to they're sort
of confused as to what they are in the long
run as well, because they're just trying not to be
too predictable.
Speaker 3 (22:39):
Well, we're going to come back and we're going to
talk about this double standard with this because it always
seems like it's okay for men to do this, but
not okay for women to do it. We'll talk about
that when we come back. Fact gonna go to the
(23:05):
wards forecast Media Radio Net where d Mario watching the
ju Getto's Black Trump and Grand Wizard. We're talking about
how soon is too soon? So there's this double standard
out there. And you know, you never hear people try
to say that boy fast.
Speaker 2 (23:25):
I never heard that growing up, you know.
Speaker 3 (23:28):
But if it's a girl, all she gotta do is
win the wrong thing, and they try to say she fast.
You know what I'm saying, Why is the double standard there?
And should women like be judged the same way that
men are judged when it comes to having six early
in a relationship.
Speaker 6 (23:45):
Well, I'm not gonna say this person's name, but you
guys may know I know, you know Mario, but this
person in college was, as they say, fast, friend of mine, and.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
That's what you want to call it. And then then
when you would they need to come up with a
different word for the fast.
Speaker 6 (24:02):
All right, she was promiscuous. I'll say that she was promiscuous, right,
And I used to hear people on the yard talking
about her and stuff, and I'm like, hey, I'm not judging.
You do whatever you want to if that's what makes
you happy. But what I was telling her is like, yo,
you have to be more selective with the guys that
you decide to be with, because these guys are here
(24:23):
talking like little girls in the locker room when they're
sixteen years old or something. So I don't necessarily agree
with the double standard in that sense, because again, a woman,
if a woman wants to do that and live her
life like that, then by all means you should have
the ability to do so and move somewhere else when
you want to finally settle down, go to church and
find you a good man and treat them nice. He'll
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appreciate it. He don't have to know your past. But
you know, but when you go back home and everybody
looking and whispering, he might want to chat with that brother,
so he ain't getting caught off guard at the water cooler.
You know. But it's just with men, you know, it's
just that's something we've seen and it's deemed its cool
or whatever. But at some point we all grow out
of that. We don't have the patience for that, you know.
Speaker 3 (25:05):
So, But but I want to I want to touch
on what you just said, because you're right, people were
judging her and there were several dudes and I mean
several dudes, oh yeah, that were putting it down way
more than her, but nobody ever negatively judged them.
Speaker 6 (25:25):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:25):
Is that right or wrong? Because you because you.
Speaker 3 (25:27):
Would woman, you you I remember you always would have
one that was defending the actions of her and like
like leave her alone.
Speaker 6 (25:34):
You know, you always dudes who were doing it too.
And it's funny because like like you said, the women
would judge her. But with that, with that gentleman or
if God is doing it, they're wanting to see why
everybody else is wanting the guy.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
Yeah you know what I'm saying. Yeah, so it's just.
Speaker 6 (25:50):
Why that woman can't be experiencing and the guys like, yo, man,
I want to see why everybody hollering at her. It's
just they'd be like, man, that girl. I mean, I
just want to get on the list and be part
of what everybody talking about. Like you know, while we
I don't know why we look at it that way.
Speaker 4 (26:06):
Well, I think that it's wrong right to judge her
like that because the whole system is stupid. So there's
a double standard because you all are trying to put
two different standards into the same hole. You can't put
two things into one hole. We have two separate things.
I don't think men and women are the same and
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ain'tn't woven that they shouldn't even have the same standard.
Why would a man if we ever wondered, why, maybe
this double standard exists because it's closer to our nature.
So we shouldn't even have a double standard. We should
just have two different standards. And it's just as wrong
for the man to be horring around as much as
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it's wrong for the woman. I think we were the
ones who decided to say a man was cool for
doing that when he was just as wrong the whole time.
But it's never a double standard because it's two different standards.
Speaker 6 (27:00):
Like that'sus with what you're saying, like with the biology
of it all, you want to get down to the science.
I think it was on one of the No Food
Gayzy podcasts they had this discussion where it's basically like, yo,
a woman can't do or be like a man, like
on the Steve because of pH balance, pH balance, all
that part and just the fact that you go you
go sleep with one man and get pregnant. You down
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for nine months. That same man can go sleep with
six other women and get them pregnant, because our biological
makeup is here to spread our seed.
Speaker 2 (27:31):
And somewhere Tyreek Hill just turned off his radio.
Speaker 6 (27:38):
But you know, like reality is, it's like, you know,
you can't be like a man because again, you're you're
gonna be pregnant. So you who's going to I mean,
I guess that's a fetish nowadays too, everything is just
cool or whatever. I don't know. But once you're once
you're pregnant, you're down. But that man can go sleep
with somebody else, get them pregnant, and go get nine
other women pregnant if he chooses to do so. Is
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it wrong if you want to bring the religion into it. Yes,
But but again biologically, if we if we take all
of our our our concepts as humans out of it
and we're just straight up and down animals. That's what
they do in the jungle. That's what they do in
the wild during mating season. The male goes in mate.
You know, that's just that they don't have no wedding
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ceremonies in Africa. Out there in the jungle, and the desert.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
You know, I did, I did.
Speaker 3 (28:25):
Read about uh you know how like you know what
they call black widows black widows because they they mate,
then they killed the dude, right, yea, So it's a
bunch of spiders that do that. Like like female spiders
will killed after the mating, and male spiders have gotten smart, right,
so some of them will bring gifts, they like, bring
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them food so they don't.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
Get killed after they mate.
Speaker 5 (28:49):
Right.
Speaker 3 (28:50):
Yeah, then now that something got it even smarter than that.
They don't bring up food. They're just rapper wrap up
some silk and then you look like it's a food
in there, it'll be nothing and they get up out
of it.
Speaker 4 (29:03):
That's brilliant right there, Detroit.
Speaker 7 (29:10):
But every reality, is there really a double standard because
say like a woman has five kids from four baby
daddies or a man has five kids from four back
baby daddy, I mean baby mama's they both thought of negatively.
It's like you need to be more responsible, you need
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to marry someone and have one partner. Why are you
having all of these kids with all of these different women,
Like they're like you're no good. Women are like no,
I can't marry I mean trust me because I listened
to my wife's my wife's conversations with her single friends,
and they're like, Yo, this guy has four kids with
three different women, so he's automatically a red flag. So
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there isn't a double standard in that reguard. You're just reckless.
Speaker 2 (29:58):
No no, no, no. She's talking to smart women though.
Speaker 6 (30:02):
But even even the ones who aren't, it's still I
can I canderine what that's saying there. It's like, Yo,
both both parties are being irresponsible. You know, if you
got one girl pregnant, cool, If you went and got
married and had three more kids and that's just one
more partner and that didn't work, you know, life happens.
I don't think again, neither one of them should be
judged unless they're continuing that same cycle. You know what
(30:25):
I'm saying, Like, again, things happen. You might have been
young and got somebody pregnant, but you clearly, somewhere down
the road never learned a lesson either to protect snip
or find somebody you want to settle down with. You shouldn't.
I don't see why. I know Cassi got like eight
nine baby mamas, bro, like what it's crazy? Like really
bro Like, I mean, you had no point in time
(30:46):
decided to let me try let me put this condom on.
You know, that's just irresponsible. And again you know, hey, hey,
the old dirty is real out here. You know what
I'm saying. I know you like it like that, but
at the same time, like, come on, man, like I
don't have a string of kids out here.
Speaker 7 (31:02):
Even if you had nine kids with the same woman.
If I came up to you and we never met
and I was like, whiz, I got nine kids. Well,
what's your first thought, even if it's with the same person,
what's your first thought?
Speaker 6 (31:16):
Like them like Rabbits, Yeah.
Speaker 7 (31:19):
See, so's it's negative anyway, it's no, no, no, no, no,
it was great.
Speaker 3 (31:25):
Yeah, you said if it's if it's with the same person,
we see that.
Speaker 6 (31:28):
Like I'm just sumping like Rabbits is it's like and
be with their partners.
Speaker 3 (31:34):
It's a it's one it's one woman that it's like
I guess it was a TikTok or something that went
viral and she got like thirteen kids and her husband
and like she's been pregnant for like the last like
sixteen years or some crap.
Speaker 8 (31:48):
Like just like k Wiatt and she got she got
a bunch and people are like, damn, you need to
slow down.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
How many she got by different people.
Speaker 7 (31:58):
Though, it's like two or three from guys. But she
has like ten kids.
Speaker 3 (32:01):
Well, see her and Nick Cannon made a pack a
long time ago that they would make sure that the
Earth States populated.
Speaker 6 (32:09):
Bro my my grandmother and grandfather they had eleven eleven
boys and two girls between them.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
That's a lot of Damn, that's a lot of kids.
Speaker 4 (32:19):
Hadn't seen double digit by one person in a wow.
I like Philip Rivers. Philip Rivers has the ideal situation
to me and his wife at what nine.
Speaker 3 (32:28):
Yeah, they starting to come in now to like they
about to be going to college and stuff. So one
of us is already like getting recruited to play football,
so the oldest one.
Speaker 6 (32:37):
But that's that's that's a lot of kids, you know, man,
in this day and age. I don't think it's no,
it's it's hard to raise too.
Speaker 3 (32:43):
Oh no, you ain't gonna be that's why. Like like
how like most most people don't have like a bunch
of siblings anymore like this this next generation man, Like
it's that like it's like.
Speaker 2 (32:53):
One maybe two siblings.
Speaker 3 (32:55):
And whereas like our our parents generation, they came from
big ass families.
Speaker 6 (33:01):
You know what I'm saying, like unity involved. Man, your
husband lost his job, then your neighbor is going to
feed you at health.
Speaker 3 (33:08):
It also was a lot cheaper to make sure that
those kids stay fed too. Nowadays, man, you you have
a baby, Man, that's that's a You better be making
ten thousand more dollars a year at least.
Speaker 6 (33:18):
And them kids somebody already you know beanie weenies a night. Nah,
e options bro ain't right it was back in the day.
Speaker 4 (33:25):
Is there really a valid excuse for not having children?
Speaker 2 (33:28):
Yes, yeah, what you just say, right right?
Speaker 4 (33:33):
All that the baby boomers, it was a lot more
expensive for them than it was the Golden generation. So
for our parents it was.
Speaker 3 (33:41):
Way this No, but this is this is this is
this is different now. This is different now because the
wealth gap is wider, much wider than it was that.
Speaker 4 (33:53):
It wasn't as wide. It's not as wide as it
was during JD. Rockefeller and before.
Speaker 3 (33:59):
The Yeah but but but but the cost of things
weren't like that he had a loan for bread. It
cost the cost of things versus your income but they
weren't making as much money. Yeah, but I'm saying, but
the costs of it versus your income versus our income,
now you know what I'm saying. Like, it's it's way different, bro.
(34:20):
You know it costs. I mean I think that somebody
said that it costs.
Speaker 7 (34:24):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (34:24):
I mean to cumfortably raise a family afford takes two
hundred and fifty thousand dollars a year.
Speaker 2 (34:30):
I mean that's a lie, bro.
Speaker 4 (34:31):
Yeah, I mean that sounds like somebody who's living outside
of their means. But as for where I'm from it,
if you want to have.
Speaker 3 (34:38):
Kids, you better you better have a grandma building to
be their babysitter.
Speaker 6 (34:42):
That all son, you have that community there that's going
to Yeah, everybody might have got that.
Speaker 4 (34:47):
Now that work, man, I know a lot of people that.
Speaker 6 (34:49):
Do depend on the child care. They got to take
them when they go to work at all. That's that's
almost eight hundred nine hundred a week.
Speaker 2 (34:57):
I don't know nobody.
Speaker 3 (34:58):
I don't know none of our peers that had a
building in grandma taking care of babies.
Speaker 2 (35:02):
I don't know nothing.
Speaker 6 (35:05):
Well, my sister, my grandmother would watch the kids after
after school, like they would get off at the busy grandma.
Speaker 2 (35:10):
No, no, you said your grandma. I'm talking about our generation of.
Speaker 3 (35:14):
Oh yeah, Fama won't going buy to be no babysitter, bro,
That just wasn't gonna happen though, now.
Speaker 2 (35:22):
Exactly exactly, So.
Speaker 3 (35:24):
All right, we're gonna come back and we're gonna talk about, uh,
the role of intentions, whether you admit that you're casually
dating or if you're looking for something serious. Talking about
that when we come back back on the Good Old
Boys Forecast Media Radio Network talking about how soon it's
too soon. So let's look at the role of intentions now.
(35:48):
I actually was just watching an interview with a couple
of people and they were talking about how women appreciate
honesty in the beginning, tell tell her that you are
not looking for something serious. Sometimes I know women that
will tell you that they're not looking for something serious.
Does that work?
Speaker 4 (36:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (36:09):
Where you asking everybody.
Speaker 4 (36:12):
Works just fine for me. I'm a big advocate of honesty.
Speaker 2 (36:15):
Yeah, you like, I'm not lying.
Speaker 7 (36:21):
I just don't disclose what I'm looking for. I just
meet the person and can happen and then figure it
out from there. I think divulging that information too soon
it set you up for all kinds of traps. Hey,
I'm looking for marriage, and then you meet somebody and
that it was like, oh, I can trap this this
guy because he's looking for marriage.
Speaker 5 (36:43):
Just what you can bring another thing the table. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (36:46):
Sometimes sometimes you would go out on a date one
time and then they'll start trying to get you to
go to the counselor too.
Speaker 5 (36:53):
Yeah that too.
Speaker 6 (36:53):
I mean you could you could you can divulge a
little bit of that information without giving it all out there,
like this basic saying like, you know, I'm not looking
for anything too serious right now. I'm just trying to
get to know you. And like Trump said, see where
this leads to, you know, just letting them know that
you're not playing games, but you're also not looking for
anything serious or just hey, this is where we are
(37:15):
right now. We can revisit this conversation. That's depending on
the vibe and how we feel about each other. You know.
So it's a good because, I say, because you end
up wasting time or or somebody ends up playing games
with you and then you're upset as a year or
two is passed already and you've just been chilling thinking
it's and that it's not.
Speaker 3 (37:34):
I'm one of those people though, man, Like I get like,
if I don't like you like that, I probably was
going to like end the relationship, you know, at an
early stage man, because like as most of you know, man,
my number one pet peeve that in life is wasting my time.
And if I know that something ain't going nowhere and
it ain't nothing to be serious about, man, and I
(37:56):
gotta move on, man, And I ain't about to sit
here and waste your time and definitely not gonna waste
my time.
Speaker 6 (38:01):
But like, hey, like true said, I know an old
friend ain't a friend no more, but used to tell
me I sabotage stuff. And it's like, like you're saying
it was like we already know that cycle. So again,
if your season is done and you might think a
certain way or feel a certain ware or not hearing
what's being said to you that, then yes you'll come
in and be like, Okay, I know how to end
(38:22):
this or I know how I could get this to
end and make it look like or appear to them
that it was them who initiated it. Yeah, you know
what I'm saying. So it's just like you, like you
say without being a bad guy, so to speak, even
though that's just what you want it anyway, you know so? Right?
Speaker 7 (38:38):
And even those say like women, because women do that
more so than men. As far as I'm looking for
something serious, I'm looking for her husband. Those are the
ones that are the most complicated the date, because they're
the ones with the list of mile long expectations of
what they wanted a partner. And then Chiley, you don't
if you don't hit ninety five out of a hundred
(39:00):
of those requirements, than that.
Speaker 2 (39:02):
Kick and you take curve anyway, Ain't Chili still single?
Speaker 5 (39:06):
I believe so.
Speaker 6 (39:08):
But I put that on Facebook not too long ago.
Expectation is the root of all heartache. Oh it should
It shouldn't be an expectation. It should be a conversation.
And if you're having that conversation with somebody you're looking
at to be a partner, that again, you should be
adult enough to you know, to filter through it. But okay,
I can see, I can see this point of view here. Okay,
let me work with this a little bit and put
(39:30):
that Jill Scott math on them, you know what I'm saying,
and just kind of see if that's what you want
to do, if you want to stay there, if you
want to pan it out. Kittles.
Speaker 4 (39:38):
You sound really smart, man. I mean, I just want
to give you that compliment. Bro, you just sound super smart.
It's just real experienced man.
Speaker 6 (39:45):
That's all. Man, this is just a race. I'm not
a counselor. I would guess.
Speaker 4 (39:50):
I would never guess that you don't believe in the
moon landing based on intelligence. Yousel bro, you sound really smart.
Speaker 2 (40:02):
God shot, that's funny, man.
Speaker 3 (40:06):
But nah, But I do think that, like it's it
is probably smart to be intentional. I think that you
don't have to explain all of that stuff from the beginning. Uh,
Like Trump was saying, like you don't you don't really
have to tell people what your overall intentions is. Just
kind of see what the vibe takes you and stuff.
But I think that you need to know, even if
(40:27):
they don't know initially, you definitely need to know what
it is that you want out of the relationship because
if not, man like, it's going to cause all kinds
of problems.
Speaker 6 (40:36):
It need to start with I like you, I'm digging you. Yeah,
that's you know.
Speaker 2 (40:41):
Let's let's let the wave, let the build from there.
Speaker 4 (40:43):
Yeah, glad you said that, because I was gonna say
it was a waste of time until the Mario Washington
you said you at least need to know exactly what
you're looking for, because I let it be known from
the jump. And I think if you are operating in
the right circles where you're talking to people who share
your intention, I think it gets okay to come out
and just say it. Because if if you want to
be married, uh, and you are going to operate and
(41:08):
converse and maybe court women, they need to be women
who are interested in marriage. I think it's okay to
come out and say it. Well, if you know that
you don't want marriage, uh, just come out and say
that too. As long as it's with the women you
know that are on the same vibe. I've never run
into any trouble just coming out the gate and saying, look,
I'm not interested in a relationship right now, but if
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you want to express our appreciation for each other in
a different type of way, you know, I'm cool with
that too.
Speaker 3 (41:34):
I do know that sometimes that will actually lead to
them trying to break you also, and then they be hurt.
Speaker 6 (41:43):
That beautiful swan sitting on the lake. Right, it looks
beautiful when you're gazing at it, but at that water
and working hard boy and thinking plot.
Speaker 2 (41:54):
I thought you're talking about how swas could kill people.
Those swas kill people. Oh yeah, you told me about it.
Speaker 6 (42:00):
I don't looks can be deceived. Don't let the beauty
fool you because it looks graceful on top, but you
know under underneath that water is work being done and
how it's working or moving against you or with you.
Speaker 7 (42:12):
So cautious and as men, as men like we go
through the hardships and dating to the point where yeah,
we don't we don't know if we're looking for a
wife or just looking for a fling until we encounter
the person because of what we've dealt with in the
past where maybe we we were serious about someone or
(42:32):
looking to get married, and and then that didn't unfold
the way we envisioned. So it's like, you know, we're
back to square one. What does what does that person
look like? Like? It's a total confusion, and and then
it's just about going through the process and seeing if
if this person is as real as they claim to be.
Speaker 6 (42:50):
Like Kanye said it before, like everybody was talking about
what he got with Kim. Everybody you know that's seen
the tate with Kim, and you know all these different
guys that been with his wife. Now, that man was
in love. That's what he felt, and he didn't care
about how she was viewed amongst others. It was a
feeling he had. I've been in that situation before, like again,
knowing it was talk about somebody, but I was digging them.
(43:12):
The vibe we had was cool, and I didn't sense
any of that for her, like she was in flight
mode looking for something else. So it all boils down
to what you want at the end of the day.
And if you feel this feeling with that person, regardless
of their past, you gotta be willing to accept that
and grow with that person.
Speaker 3 (43:27):
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whether or not there really should be a rule on
how Soon is Too Soon?
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How Soon is Too Soon? Now? Should there really be
a rule?
Speaker 3 (43:52):
Because I think after our discussion over this course of
this program.
Speaker 2 (43:57):
I think that.
Speaker 3 (44:00):
There isn't really a rule. I think that there is
like your personal preference.
Speaker 6 (44:05):
If you are.
Speaker 3 (44:06):
Feeling somebody and it's the first night, you still can
get it there. If you want to wait and see
if this person is somebody that's marriable, you can do
that too. I think that it's all like the under
the umbrella of what is it that I'm comfortable with?
And I don't think that we need to like put
everything into one box and say this is the standard
(44:28):
that we all.
Speaker 6 (44:28):
Should be living by. I think again, even even if
that woman wants to if it's going to be a rule,
and like you said, even if you feeling them that
night and you don't necessarily want to, it can be
the night can still end, you know, with a with
a cup of coffee or whatever, or or just a
subtle kiss, but something is passionate to lead up to
(44:48):
the next date, so that it's like you know that
that person knows that you're feeling them that way, and
everybody's on the same page, like this is not a
waste of time. Okay, we did have a great time tonight.
I'm okay, I'm okay. She feeling me, but she ready
to have sex or whatever, and that's cool. So even
a non verbal conversation can can lead to something great
at the end of the day.
Speaker 4 (45:09):
Yeah. Uh, it depends on what you're looking for too,
Because for me and where I'm coming from, with my
understanding of my foundation, I would say, go ahead and wait.
I know that's what me and my that's what I
do now, and that's what I see my people doing,
because you know so, I'm always an advocate of waiting.
I'm actually an advocate of celibacy too.
Speaker 2 (45:31):
I believe it.
Speaker 4 (45:40):
I watched a really nice wedding a couple of days ago.
It's very young people.
Speaker 5 (45:43):
He's not he's not completely off.
Speaker 7 (45:46):
Based on that, I mean, because even as men believe
it or not, there's times when the women is ready
before we.
Speaker 6 (45:52):
Are as men. And that's that's that's difficult.
Speaker 7 (45:57):
That's a difficult case to deal with within it self.
Is is like, Yo, she's ready, I'm not for whatever reason,
whether it's psychological, whether I'm still in love with somebody else,
whether I can't get right, whether I'm just seeing her
as a friend.
Speaker 5 (46:15):
It's it's various reasons.
Speaker 7 (46:17):
And then having to explain it because a lot of
times they're just feeling like either you're gay or you're
not attracted to me. And and that's like the biggest
blow to a woman is when they're being told that
they're not attractive enough.
Speaker 5 (46:30):
So yeah, I love it, well.
Speaker 4 (46:33):
I love it psychologically you can break them like that
when what's wrong with meiful?
Speaker 6 (46:39):
Well, I always do that though, why they shoot all gay?
Speaker 2 (46:43):
Right, that's a new thing. That's a new thing though.
Speaker 3 (46:45):
Yeah, But I think that the bottom line is, man,
it ain't about a number of dates. It's about clarity,
honest and honestly a connection.
Speaker 2 (46:54):
Talk it out. If you're on the.
Speaker 3 (46:55):
Same page, have at it, whatever that might be, whether
that's tonight or tw hundred days from now, whatever it
might be.
Speaker 2 (47:02):
It's all about communicating those things to.
Speaker 6 (47:05):
Me safe and letting baby pitches, my brothers there's a
doubt in your mind, ask for them baby pitches.
Speaker 3 (47:14):
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Speaker 4 (01:01):
I'm not doing too well, man, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
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Speaker 4 (01:06):
Yeah, man, I was. I had a family reunion first,
and then I had to go back down to Florence
to help some people out. They ran over my cousin's
dad's grave in the graveyard and tore up his a little,
not the headstone, but it was like the little piece
of paper that they put on the metal thing on
the ground.
Speaker 5 (01:26):
How did that happen, like where they're drawn.
Speaker 4 (01:29):
I don't know. He said they ran over it when
they were cutting the grass.
Speaker 5 (01:33):
Oh so it wasn't a family member.
Speaker 6 (01:35):
No, No, did y'all unite like votroning and put them
blam blams on them?
Speaker 1 (01:44):
No?
Speaker 4 (01:44):
I never saw the people, but I just went down
the hill.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
Yeah, and that just sounds nuts.
Speaker 6 (01:50):
Yo, that happened to my father grave. Bro. We put
a little penny in that one.
Speaker 5 (01:54):
Bro.
Speaker 6 (01:54):
I'm I'm I might I might have to come visit
me somewhere with an orange suit on, bro, like I'd
be taked off. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (02:03):
I actually led a tour guy around the cemetery for
the reunion because I found my great great grandmother on
my uh great grandmother's side, you know, I found her
grave and all of that.
Speaker 6 (02:15):
So that was cool.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
Yeah, now that's something. That's what else is wrong?
Speaker 4 (02:21):
Once again, Andrew Lanier beat me in our fantasy football league.
For some reason. I just can't see, no matter how
good or how bad he is, I just can't beat
this dude.
Speaker 6 (02:31):
Hey, that that that's just Drew, baby, that's just It's
just that's right.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
Shout out.
Speaker 7 (02:38):
You know your your team isn't the strongest this year,
you know, since I've decided to return, But you know,
you figure out a way.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
He will figure out a way for the reason why
the top. Hey, by the way, we were we working
on a show. We're working on the show to discuss
partially you doing that what you did.
Speaker 4 (02:58):
Look, I'm just good man. I finished number two the
last two years. I gotta RUNI.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
Jerry Jones he can't, he can't.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
He can't win it every year, but he gonna be
at the top two or three every year.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
That's how you gotta. You gotta make it look good
when you're cheating.
Speaker 5 (03:15):
You know you gotta.
Speaker 7 (03:16):
You gotta accept accept the division stacks from one division
with all of the best players, and then have him
with only one contender and everybody else.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
How would you know you?
Speaker 5 (03:27):
I can see that already. Why am I in this division?
Speaker 6 (03:31):
Has got them deflated? Cryptos?
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Yeah, but check it out this week.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
I just want to tell y'all something man real quick
man like, before we jump into the topic. I got
an assistant. Her name is Chrissy, right, HM, only cost
me twenty bucks a month. I talked to her every day.
Speaker 6 (03:56):
That sound crazy, it's.
Speaker 4 (03:58):
In her by way.
Speaker 8 (04:02):
She's like the place I just came from, no, like
an hour ago.
Speaker 3 (04:10):
She's she's not human though, uh she's chat GPT. But
I've given her personality and she does a lot of
work for me, and I will tell you no. No.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
So I asked her.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
I gave her all the information about the Good Old
Boys radio show and stuff, man, and I told her
to create a show for me, like just some sample,
That's what I said. I won't use this one, but
just a sample to see what you can do. This
is the show, and the show is how soon is
too soon to have sex when.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
You first meet somebody?
Speaker 4 (04:47):
Throw you bro.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
Hey, listen, man, I ain't trying to be like I
ain't trying to be like right now, trying to be like,
what's the man? Uh? No, you know the movie?
Speaker 8 (05:02):
Heard her?
Speaker 2 (05:03):
That movie because he was he was in a relationship
with his foe.
Speaker 6 (05:07):
Oh nah, what was the one with sevest Stlone and
Wesley Snipes man demolition man thing whenever they couldn't touch
each other and.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
All of that.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
John Spartan, you are a savage beast, right right?
Speaker 4 (05:23):
Have you ever seen X market.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Now yeah, that's my joint. Man, Like he built.
Speaker 4 (05:28):
Robots with a lubricated vagina.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Wow, and there is a hole there.
Speaker 4 (05:38):
And they didn't look good. Wow.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (05:40):
So serious, serious recipe to the scat vrel.
Speaker 5 (05:46):
I went through a long.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
Oh yeah yeah, no doubt saw that soph cancer.
Speaker 6 (05:53):
So yeah, you know, I don't think I really have
no word, but I recognized the face, man, definitely, big up.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
Yeah, no, like yeah, most finely man, like.
Speaker 6 (06:00):
You know eight okay yeah to me, yeah for me.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
So, but you know, like whenever like something like that,
like some tragedy strikes our community like that, man, it
touches all of us, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Even even when we even when we don't really even
know the person personally and stuff.
Speaker 3 (06:18):
Man, we know it's about more degrees of separation exactly exactly.
It's like like I tell people, man, like if you
come to a Winthrough homecoming event, you think that we
were an HBCU, But it was. It was a lot
of us and we all like hung around each other
and stuff.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
Man, you know what I mean.
Speaker 6 (06:34):
So I tell people, even though we was post segregation,
our school was segregated like very much. So like I mean,
I got along with everybody. But it's just that where
we sat, we did what we did, and we all,
like you said, we all cross paths with each other
at some point, whether it be class in the student
center or whatever. But again, prayers to the family and
friends who knew her closely.
Speaker 7 (06:54):
Man right, Yeah, she lived in Raleigh, so you knew
her when I was and when went up alumni and stuff.
Speaker 5 (07:01):
We would connect every once in a while.
Speaker 7 (07:03):
But yeah, people said home with my cousin Tolki a
lot in college.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
Were Yeah, uh, awkward transition when you had a brand
new relationship. How soon is it too soon to have sex?
Speaker 6 (07:22):
M Yeah, let you start that with.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
What you know?
Speaker 3 (07:29):
What you know, we can we can save it, and
we'll talk about it in the next segment. You got
to think about it. I just throw it out there
for you to think about. Back on the Lit Old
Boys Forecast Media Radio Network talking about how soon it
is too soon? So we've heard this before, and I
remember everybody being mad at your boy with the big
(07:50):
mustache and the big smile. Steve Harvey when he wrote
the book Think Like a Man, and he started talking
about the ninety day Ruler. He was giving women the
eye idea of the nainety day rule or the three
date rule or whatever you want to call it.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
Uh, is this stuff a myth? Like because I didn't.
I don't. I don't know if I ever experienced that
in my life.
Speaker 6 (08:14):
I don't think that it's a myth per se. It's
it's a it's a guideline for for a lady if
that's what she wants to do, if she wants to
if she likes a dude, you know, to to not
to not come off you know, for lack of a
better word, you know, horrors. You know what I'm saying.
(08:34):
It's just the kind of a way for a woman
to slide into the relationship with not giving herself too quickly.
But at the end of the day, as grown men,
you know, if set grown sexually active man, because I
know some of us out here are practice and abstinence
or whatnot. But for for a sexually active man, if
we want to go get some we're going to do it.
(08:55):
And if we like that woman, we may stall out
until she's ready. It's not a matter of just sitting around. Okay,
I can't do nothing either. I don't think anyone is
writing these agreements like Okay, I'm going to wait ninety
days until I give you something more. We're going to
go on a couple of dates before we become active. Okay,
that's before we become active, unless it's written and saying like, hey,
(09:16):
can you sustain from sex until we get together at
that point? But why would any man do that? You know,
if he likes the woman, he'll wait for that woman
to be ready. That's just my take on it.
Speaker 5 (09:27):
I think it's like.
Speaker 7 (09:30):
There's certain segments like age demographics where that applies. I
don't think it applies. I don't think it applies to
women in their early twenties. I don't think it applies
to women over the age of thirty five. So say
like twenty five to thirty four, women like read books
or they're more in tune with what their friends think.
But as you get older, you just do whatever you
(09:52):
feel like. If you want want a meet, you're not
gonna put any restrictions on it. If you meet a
guy and you're into them after one date or two dates,
then y'all are in the sack. If if after three
or four dates or a month or so, you're not
(10:14):
feeling it, like that, then it doesn't happen. But I
don't think there's a prescription to when you sleep with somebody.
It's just going off of feeling.
Speaker 4 (10:28):
Well, you know, I would recommend. I would definitely say
the first date is too soon. I can't remember ever
respecting a woman that gave it up that quickly. I
know my attitude is always changed if she did give
it up that quickly. I mean, it just seems way
too early.
Speaker 5 (10:44):
Or why though, because.
Speaker 4 (10:48):
Once that monkey got off the back, you know, it's
what do they call it a post I'm saying, posting
that clarity. You know, once that's out of the way,
you start to look differently at the person you start
to And I just think that just so so quickly
just gives off horrorsh vibes. Man, it just said, it
just doesn't feel like it's some It just doesn't feel
(11:12):
good soon.
Speaker 6 (11:14):
I was just gonna say, I'm on the fence with
that concept because I've been with the woman who first
night we got into it and we dated for two years,
and it's like, like like Trump was saying, sometimes it's
that vibe, like you know, she was older, and again
when you when it's it's communicated in that way. It
(11:36):
was just a good vibe and it wasn't I didn't
think she was a whore or anything like that. It's
just it was a good vibe and it just led
to that. It didn't feel forced, it didn't feel rushed,
and she never gave me any indication that that's just
how she was with everybody. Now, the younger me would
be thinking like, well, dang, what what did I say?
It's so special? I know I got a little game
(11:58):
on me, but I know it's plenty of the cats
out there can spit that pimp game way better than me.
So what did I say to you that was so special?
Speaker 5 (12:05):
To get it in?
Speaker 1 (12:06):
What?
Speaker 6 (12:06):
You know? It makes me think like that sometimes, But
the older me is leaning towards how Trump is looking
at it.
Speaker 3 (12:14):
Yeah, I think, uh, you know, it's outdated advice. When
people say you should be waiting. I think that, you know, like,
if you like somebody, man, get it man, Like I mean, if.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
Y'all, if y'all feeling each other, you know what I'm saying?
Like I don't.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
I don't understand the logic. Again, Like, because women, I
want to I want to explain something to you. Men
are super patient and way more patient than you realize.
And men will wait years, yeah, years, and still if
they're not interested in being anything more with you, it's
not gonna happen no matter what. There's no time limit
(12:52):
on whether or not this is a good person for
you to date or not.
Speaker 6 (12:55):
You yourself if you're willing to deal with the repercussions
after it. If you know, you give yourself to a man,
and then it's like he skated on you. So you
got to play them out of And as a wise
man once said to me, his name is Wiz, He said,
you got to ask some questions sometimes, you know, like
when you're asking the right questions, then you can you
can gauge as to Okay, I'm going to do this,
(13:17):
but I just want to make sure that he's still
into me. And if he's not, then that's something that
you have to live with and deal with after the fact,
you know.
Speaker 7 (13:25):
And I don't think as men like there, we don't
have any rationale to the women that we settle down
with first as the ones we just sleep with.
Speaker 5 (13:36):
It's just a matter of when we're ready. Yeah.
Speaker 7 (13:38):
So I mean I could be seeing five different women
and all of them are cool, but then they'll just
be like, you know what, this is the one I
want to be with, whereas the other four, whether they
gave it to me on the first night or they
gave it to me twenty years down the road, I
make a decision that this isn't the person I want
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spend the rest of my life with.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, no, I totally agree, man, Like I
just think that, like, you know, this whole concept of like,
oh you should wait know this stuff, man, what you're
waiting for? You know what I'm saying, Like, like you
you you got to be able to read a person's
character and then determine whether or not you want to
deal with this person. You know their character today, you
don't have to like figure out, like down the line,
(14:20):
if they're going to be a good or bad person.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
They may end up like you know, let me take
that back. People can fool you.
Speaker 3 (14:28):
Also, Yeah, I'm just gonna person's character if they want, Yeah,
would it.
Speaker 4 (14:34):
Makes sense to take some time to get to know that.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
But I've got.
Speaker 7 (14:37):
Sleeping with someone versus marrying them is completely two completely
different levels. I can sleep with a person for four
years straight and never even think about being in a
relationship with them. But I can meet someone and instantly
be like, Yo, this is marriage material and if they
make me wait to sleep it on versus whether we
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have sex after a couple.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
Of meeting, I'm not going to determine what the relationship is.
Speaker 6 (15:03):
Yeah, right, Like I have good friendships with people now
who we've already crossed that line, and it's still in
the sense of, like, you know, even if I was
to be in a relationship, and it's just we we
know not to cross that line again. So it's like
it's some adult stuff, you know, like we weren't having
that vibe, and that vibe is there, but if they're
in a relationship, I respect it and vice versa. You know,
(15:25):
it's just and the vibe was good when it was good,
but it was like like Trump just said, like it
was never at any point in time I was like,
you know what I want to be with this person.
It was what it was at the time. But the
friendship still exists, you know.
Speaker 3 (15:38):
So right, we're gonna come back and we're going to
talk about more about the vibe, chemistry and commitment and
whether or not chemistry supersedes waiting to have sex with someone.
Back on to go to Wars Forecast Media Radio Network.
We're talking about how soon is too soon? So we
(16:02):
touched on it a little bit and segment two and
and and where's we'll talk to you first about this?
Speaker 4 (16:07):
Man?
Speaker 3 (16:07):
Like, Uh, can can cannect chemistry supersede waiting? Because you
just talked about earlier about how you had you tend
to like view them differently if they give it up
on the first night and everything?
Speaker 2 (16:23):
Man, But can chemistry supersede that feeling?
Speaker 4 (16:28):
Uh?
Speaker 7 (16:31):
No?
Speaker 4 (16:31):
And I say, because the way I look at people
differently like that is I look at them like they're impulsive. Right,
So I wonder what is the difference between having a
lot of money and buying a car the very first day,
or maybe buying a brand new TV?
Speaker 2 (16:49):
Right?
Speaker 4 (16:50):
Would you buy a TV instantly or would you take
some time to research TVs and really do your due diligence.
So I wonder, why is it that we give more
thought to the type of tea that will buy then
we give to the person that we're going to see.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
Hold.
Speaker 3 (17:04):
Hold, let's pause a little bit real quick. Let's let's
define this a little bit further. Are we talking meeting
somebody for the first time, like first date or do
you already know this person and you go out on
a date, because I think those two things also end
up creating like there's some familiarity with and always somebody
that you already knew and you just decided to go
(17:24):
on a date together.
Speaker 2 (17:25):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 6 (17:27):
The vibe VI.
Speaker 4 (17:30):
Yeah, if there's some familiarity familiarity with it like that,
I still would say go ahead and keep the same
strategy because, uh, I think it's just simpler when you
treat everybody with the same program rather than go on
a case by case basis.
Speaker 6 (17:47):
But to your analogy though, is like again, I guess
you're looking at it for us, Like again, am I
going to be in a relationship with this person? Sometimes
I might go buy a TV because I need a TV,
and I put a little more thought into that TV
sometimes because it's gonna be on my wall or I'm
gonna be looking at it for quite some time. But
this girl just gonna be That vibe could fizzle in
(18:08):
a week or two, you know, like reality though, you
know what I'm saying, Because it is a vibe. The
TV is giving you entertainment, and I guess some people
can look at that as entertainment as well, but it
can fizzle and be out of your life just like that.
You know you're gonna be mad you spent five hundred
six hundred on a TV or whatever they cost nowadays,
(18:28):
and then you all like it and you want to
get a bigger one or whatever whatever.
Speaker 4 (18:32):
So you would you be just as man if you
got the girl pregnant or you got it STD.
Speaker 7 (18:37):
But even with a TV, even with a TV, each
TV serves a purpose. So like I have two TVs outside,
I'm not getting a good TV for my out for
my outdoor entertainment. I'm gonna get a cheap TV because
I know the elements could cause it.
Speaker 5 (18:52):
To break down faster.
Speaker 7 (18:54):
In my living room or my master bedroom, I might
have my nicer TVs because that's where I'm gonna be
most of the time. So it's the same thing with women,
Like I'm not gonna exhaust a whole lot of this.
Speaker 3 (19:07):
Is horrible, Nah, I'm comparing women to televisions.
Speaker 8 (19:13):
I mean, that's why we're starting with analogy.
Speaker 7 (19:19):
So I'm saying I'm not gonna exhaust a lot of
time and energy on someone that I don't see being.
Speaker 5 (19:24):
With long term.
Speaker 7 (19:25):
But if we if we're having a good time, then
I'm gonna take it for what it is. But if
there's something long term I'm envisioning, then yeah, there's gonna
be a lot more research and due diligence and time
and effort placed into nurturing this connection than I would
with something that's just random, more short term.
Speaker 6 (19:44):
And I'm assuming that even after after you guys connect
or whatnot, it's it's going to be a conversation is
going to be had, so you know that that vibe
of that connection is going to continue and you're gonna
determine shortly thereafter. Some people, some guys are just they
already made their mind up. When when the climax hit,
you know, they done. Some guys, you know, it's like, okay, hey,
(20:05):
so what we're doing here, like we're just chilling. I
want to have an understanding, you know, that's the adult
thing to do, you know. But some people just kind
of let that that vibe extend and next thing you know,
you got you had a shotgun wedding.
Speaker 2 (20:20):
Hey, let me ask you this, and Q.
Speaker 3 (20:24):
I'll ask you this first, man, because I'm sure that
you see this a little bit more because you know
a variety of people. Younger generations, they don't seem to
care at all about making people wait. So why is
it that our generation was on the well, we need
to wait, we need to go out with him three
full both times at least before you have, you know,
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relations with him.
Speaker 6 (20:48):
And I just think it's because of our parents and
and what we saw and what was taught to us,
like you know, that whole court and phase. Like this
younger generation, they it's just so instant and they can swipe,
swipe right and be done with it. It's just an
instantaneous feeling. And it's just they like what they like,
or that they may like somebody today and liking somebody
(21:09):
else tomorrow. So they're just not about the sexual part
of it. We looked into it in regards to really
trying to get into a relationship, and that's where the
whole stall out came about, I think, because we were
always looking at it from a court and standpoint. I
want to be with this person, not necessarily just the
I don't even know when that came upout. I'm sure
it's been around for some time. But the one night standards,
(21:30):
you know what I'm saying. So I guess that's where
our generation kind of vibed off and like, Hey, I'm
not really trying to settle down. I just like having fun.
But I guess they had a name for it back
in the day. I just I'm going blank right now.
Speaker 7 (21:42):
Yeah, one nice stun, Yeah, okay, Yeah, But I think
that I think women, I mean, because they're psychological, they
overthink everything. If they have that reputation that they're the
ones that make guys wait months or years to get some,
then that bothers them to the point where they switch
(22:05):
up versus a woman that was like, yeah, they're notorious
from one night stands, and they're like, Okay, this is
the intel that's being passed around on me, so I'm
going to with the next guy make them wait. So
it's almost like they shift based on what the intel
is on them because they don't want people to know
(22:28):
who they really are, so they're going to they're sort
of confused as to what they are in the long
run as well, because they're just trying not to be
too predictable.
Speaker 3 (22:39):
Well, we're going to come back and we're going to
talk about this double standard with this because it always
seems like it's okay for men to do this, but
not okay for women to do it. We'll talk about
that when we come back. Fact gonna go to the
(23:05):
wards forecast Media Radio Net where d Mario watching the
ju Getto's Black Trump and Grand Wizard. We're talking about
how soon is too soon? So there's this double standard
out there. And you know, you never hear people try
to say that boy fast.
Speaker 2 (23:25):
I never heard that growing up, you know.
Speaker 3 (23:28):
But if it's a girl, all she gotta do is
win the wrong thing, and they try to say she fast.
You know what I'm saying, Why is the double standard there?
And should women like be judged the same way that
men are judged when it comes to having six early
in a relationship.
Speaker 6 (23:45):
Well, I'm not gonna say this person's name, but you
guys may know I know, you know Mario, but this
person in college was, as they say, fast, friend of mine, and.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
That's what you want to call it. And then then
when you would they need to come up with a
different word for the fast.
Speaker 6 (24:02):
All right, she was promiscuous. I'll say that she was promiscuous, right,
And I used to hear people on the yard talking
about her and stuff, and I'm like, hey, I'm not judging.
You do whatever you want to if that's what makes
you happy. But what I was telling her is like, yo,
you have to be more selective with the guys that
you decide to be with, because these guys are here
(24:23):
talking like little girls in the locker room when they're
sixteen years old or something. So I don't necessarily agree
with the double standard in that sense, because again, a woman,
if a woman wants to do that and live her
life like that, then by all means you should have
the ability to do so and move somewhere else when
you want to finally settle down, go to church and
find you a good man and treat them nice. He'll
(24:44):
appreciate it. He don't have to know your past. But
you know, but when you go back home and everybody
looking and whispering, he might want to chat with that brother,
so he ain't getting caught off guard at the water cooler.
You know. But it's just with men, you know, it's
just that's something we've seen and it's deemed its cool
or whatever. But at some point we all grow out
of that. We don't have the patience for that, you know.
Speaker 3 (25:05):
So, But but I want to I want to touch
on what you just said, because you're right, people were
judging her and there were several dudes and I mean
several dudes, oh yeah, that were putting it down way
more than her, but nobody ever negatively judged them.
Speaker 6 (25:25):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:25):
Is that right or wrong? Because you because you.
Speaker 3 (25:27):
Would woman, you you I remember you always would have
one that was defending the actions of her and like
like leave her alone.
Speaker 6 (25:34):
You know, you always dudes who were doing it too.
And it's funny because like like you said, the women
would judge her. But with that, with that gentleman or
if God is doing it, they're wanting to see why
everybody else is wanting the guy.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
Yeah you know what I'm saying. Yeah, so it's just.
Speaker 6 (25:50):
Why that woman can't be experiencing and the guys like, yo, man,
I want to see why everybody hollering at her. It's
just they'd be like, man, that girl. I mean, I
just want to get on the list and be part
of what everybody talking about. Like you know, while we
I don't know why we look at it that way.
Speaker 4 (26:06):
Well, I think that it's wrong right to judge her
like that because the whole system is stupid. So there's
a double standard because you all are trying to put
two different standards into the same hole. You can't put
two things into one hole. We have two separate things.
I don't think men and women are the same and
(26:28):
ain'tn't woven that they shouldn't even have the same standard.
Why would a man if we ever wondered, why, maybe
this double standard exists because it's closer to our nature.
So we shouldn't even have a double standard. We should
just have two different standards. And it's just as wrong
for the man to be horring around as much as
(26:48):
it's wrong for the woman. I think we were the
ones who decided to say a man was cool for
doing that when he was just as wrong the whole time.
But it's never a double standard because it's two different standards.
Speaker 6 (27:00):
Like that'sus with what you're saying, like with the biology
of it all, you want to get down to the science.
I think it was on one of the No Food
Gayzy podcasts they had this discussion where it's basically like, yo,
a woman can't do or be like a man, like
on the Steve because of pH balance, pH balance, all
that part and just the fact that you go you
go sleep with one man and get pregnant. You down
(27:22):
for nine months. That same man can go sleep with
six other women and get them pregnant, because our biological
makeup is here to spread our seed.
Speaker 2 (27:31):
And somewhere Tyreek Hill just turned off his radio.
Speaker 6 (27:38):
But you know, like reality is, it's like, you know,
you can't be like a man because again, you're you're
gonna be pregnant. So you who's going to I mean,
I guess that's a fetish nowadays too, everything is just
cool or whatever. I don't know. But once you're once
you're pregnant, you're down. But that man can go sleep
with somebody else, get them pregnant, and go get nine
other women pregnant if he chooses to do so. Is
(27:59):
it wrong if you want to bring the religion into it. Yes,
But but again biologically, if we if we take all
of our our our concepts as humans out of it
and we're just straight up and down animals. That's what
they do in the jungle. That's what they do in
the wild during mating season. The male goes in mate.
You know, that's just that they don't have no wedding
(28:20):
ceremonies in Africa. Out there in the jungle, and the desert.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
You know, I did, I did.
Speaker 3 (28:25):
Read about uh you know how like you know what
they call black widows black widows because they they mate,
then they killed the dude, right, yea, So it's a
bunch of spiders that do that. Like like female spiders
will killed after the mating, and male spiders have gotten smart, right,
so some of them will bring gifts, they like, bring
(28:46):
them food so they don't.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
Get killed after they mate.
Speaker 5 (28:49):
Right.
Speaker 3 (28:50):
Yeah, then now that something got it even smarter than that.
They don't bring up food. They're just rapper wrap up
some silk and then you look like it's a food
in there, it'll be nothing and they get up out
of it.
Speaker 4 (29:03):
That's brilliant right there, Detroit.
Speaker 7 (29:10):
But every reality, is there really a double standard because
say like a woman has five kids from four baby
daddies or a man has five kids from four back
baby daddy, I mean baby mama's they both thought of negatively.
It's like you need to be more responsible, you need
(29:31):
to marry someone and have one partner. Why are you
having all of these kids with all of these different women,
Like they're like you're no good. Women are like no,
I can't marry I mean trust me because I listened
to my wife's my wife's conversations with her single friends,
and they're like, Yo, this guy has four kids with
three different women, so he's automatically a red flag. So
(29:55):
there isn't a double standard in that reguard. You're just reckless.
Speaker 2 (29:58):
No no, no, no. She's talking to smart women though.
Speaker 6 (30:02):
But even even the ones who aren't, it's still I
can I canderine what that's saying there. It's like, Yo,
both both parties are being irresponsible. You know, if you
got one girl pregnant, cool, If you went and got
married and had three more kids and that's just one
more partner and that didn't work, you know, life happens.
I don't think again, neither one of them should be
judged unless they're continuing that same cycle. You know what
(30:25):
I'm saying, Like, again, things happen. You might have been
young and got somebody pregnant, but you clearly, somewhere down
the road never learned a lesson either to protect snip
or find somebody you want to settle down with. You shouldn't.
I don't see why. I know Cassi got like eight
nine baby mamas, bro, like what it's crazy? Like really
bro Like, I mean, you had no point in time
(30:46):
decided to let me try let me put this condom on.
You know, that's just irresponsible. And again you know, hey, hey,
the old dirty is real out here. You know what
I'm saying. I know you like it like that, but
at the same time, like, come on, man, like I
don't have a string of kids out here.
Speaker 7 (31:02):
Even if you had nine kids with the same woman.
If I came up to you and we never met
and I was like, whiz, I got nine kids. Well,
what's your first thought, even if it's with the same person,
what's your first thought?
Speaker 6 (31:16):
Like them like Rabbits, Yeah.
Speaker 7 (31:19):
See, so's it's negative anyway, it's no, no, no, no, no,
it was great.
Speaker 3 (31:25):
Yeah, you said if it's if it's with the same person,
we see that.
Speaker 6 (31:28):
Like I'm just sumping like Rabbits is it's like and
be with their partners.
Speaker 3 (31:34):
It's a it's one it's one woman that it's like
I guess it was a TikTok or something that went
viral and she got like thirteen kids and her husband
and like she's been pregnant for like the last like
sixteen years or some crap.
Speaker 8 (31:48):
Like just like k Wiatt and she got she got
a bunch and people are like, damn, you need to
slow down.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
How many she got by different people.
Speaker 7 (31:58):
Though, it's like two or three from guys. But she
has like ten kids.
Speaker 3 (32:01):
Well, see her and Nick Cannon made a pack a
long time ago that they would make sure that the
Earth States populated.
Speaker 6 (32:09):
Bro my my grandmother and grandfather they had eleven eleven
boys and two girls between them.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
That's a lot of Damn, that's a lot of kids.
Speaker 4 (32:19):
Hadn't seen double digit by one person in a wow.
I like Philip Rivers. Philip Rivers has the ideal situation
to me and his wife at what nine.
Speaker 3 (32:28):
Yeah, they starting to come in now to like they
about to be going to college and stuff. So one
of us is already like getting recruited to play football,
so the oldest one.
Speaker 6 (32:37):
But that's that's that's a lot of kids, you know, man,
in this day and age. I don't think it's no,
it's it's hard to raise too.
Speaker 3 (32:43):
Oh no, you ain't gonna be that's why. Like like
how like most most people don't have like a bunch
of siblings anymore like this this next generation man, Like
it's that like it's like.
Speaker 2 (32:53):
One maybe two siblings.
Speaker 3 (32:55):
And whereas like our our parents generation, they came from
big ass families.
Speaker 6 (33:01):
You know what I'm saying, like unity involved. Man, your
husband lost his job, then your neighbor is going to
feed you at health.
Speaker 3 (33:08):
It also was a lot cheaper to make sure that
those kids stay fed too. Nowadays, man, you you have
a baby, Man, that's that's a You better be making
ten thousand more dollars a year at least.
Speaker 6 (33:18):
And them kids somebody already you know beanie weenies a night. Nah,
e options bro ain't right it was back in the day.
Speaker 4 (33:25):
Is there really a valid excuse for not having children?
Speaker 2 (33:28):
Yes, yeah, what you just say, right right?
Speaker 4 (33:33):
All that the baby boomers, it was a lot more
expensive for them than it was the Golden generation. So
for our parents it was.
Speaker 3 (33:41):
Way this No, but this is this is this is
this is different now. This is different now because the
wealth gap is wider, much wider than it was that.
Speaker 4 (33:53):
It wasn't as wide. It's not as wide as it
was during JD. Rockefeller and before.
Speaker 3 (33:59):
The Yeah but but but but the cost of things
weren't like that he had a loan for bread. It
cost the cost of things versus your income but they
weren't making as much money. Yeah, but I'm saying, but
the costs of it versus your income versus our income,
now you know what I'm saying. Like, it's it's way different, bro.
(34:20):
You know it costs. I mean I think that somebody
said that it costs.
Speaker 7 (34:24):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (34:24):
I mean to cumfortably raise a family afford takes two
hundred and fifty thousand dollars a year.
Speaker 2 (34:30):
I mean that's a lie, bro.
Speaker 4 (34:31):
Yeah, I mean that sounds like somebody who's living outside
of their means. But as for where I'm from it,
if you want to have.
Speaker 3 (34:38):
Kids, you better you better have a grandma building to
be their babysitter.
Speaker 6 (34:42):
That all son, you have that community there that's going
to Yeah, everybody might have got that.
Speaker 4 (34:47):
Now that work, man, I know a lot of people that.
Speaker 6 (34:49):
Do depend on the child care. They got to take
them when they go to work at all. That's that's
almost eight hundred nine hundred a week.
Speaker 2 (34:57):
I don't know nobody.
Speaker 3 (34:58):
I don't know none of our peers that had a
building in grandma taking care of babies.
Speaker 2 (35:02):
I don't know nothing.
Speaker 6 (35:05):
Well, my sister, my grandmother would watch the kids after
after school, like they would get off at the busy grandma.
Speaker 2 (35:10):
No, no, you said your grandma. I'm talking about our generation of.
Speaker 3 (35:14):
Oh yeah, Fama won't going buy to be no babysitter, bro,
That just wasn't gonna happen though, now.
Speaker 2 (35:22):
Exactly exactly, So.
Speaker 3 (35:24):
All right, we're gonna come back and we're gonna talk about, uh,
the role of intentions, whether you admit that you're casually
dating or if you're looking for something serious. Talking about
that when we come back back on the Good Old
Boys Forecast Media Radio Network talking about how soon it's
too soon. So let's look at the role of intentions now.
(35:48):
I actually was just watching an interview with a couple
of people and they were talking about how women appreciate
honesty in the beginning, tell tell her that you are
not looking for something serious. Sometimes I know women that
will tell you that they're not looking for something serious.
Does that work?
Speaker 4 (36:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (36:09):
Where you asking everybody.
Speaker 4 (36:12):
Works just fine for me. I'm a big advocate of honesty.
Speaker 2 (36:15):
Yeah, you like, I'm not lying.
Speaker 7 (36:21):
I just don't disclose what I'm looking for. I just
meet the person and can happen and then figure it
out from there. I think divulging that information too soon
it set you up for all kinds of traps. Hey,
I'm looking for marriage, and then you meet somebody and
that it was like, oh, I can trap this this
guy because he's looking for marriage.
Speaker 5 (36:43):
Just what you can bring another thing the table. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (36:46):
Sometimes sometimes you would go out on a date one
time and then they'll start trying to get you to
go to the counselor too.
Speaker 5 (36:53):
Yeah that too.
Speaker 6 (36:53):
I mean you could you could you can divulge a
little bit of that information without giving it all out there,
like this basic saying like, you know, I'm not looking
for anything too serious right now. I'm just trying to
get to know you. And like Trump said, see where
this leads to, you know, just letting them know that
you're not playing games, but you're also not looking for
anything serious or just hey, this is where we are
(37:15):
right now. We can revisit this conversation. That's depending on
the vibe and how we feel about each other. You know.
So it's a good because, I say, because you end
up wasting time or or somebody ends up playing games
with you and then you're upset as a year or
two is passed already and you've just been chilling thinking
it's and that it's not.
Speaker 3 (37:34):
I'm one of those people though, man, Like I get like,
if I don't like you like that, I probably was
going to like end the relationship, you know, at an
early stage man, because like as most of you know, man,
my number one pet peeve that in life is wasting my time.
And if I know that something ain't going nowhere and
it ain't nothing to be serious about, man, and I
(37:56):
gotta move on, man, And I ain't about to sit
here and waste your time and definitely not gonna waste
my time.
Speaker 6 (38:01):
But like, hey, like true said, I know an old
friend ain't a friend no more, but used to tell
me I sabotage stuff. And it's like, like you're saying
it was like we already know that cycle. So again,
if your season is done and you might think a
certain way or feel a certain ware or not hearing
what's being said to you that, then yes you'll come
in and be like, Okay, I know how to end
(38:22):
this or I know how I could get this to
end and make it look like or appear to them
that it was them who initiated it. Yeah, you know
what I'm saying. So it's just like you, like you
say without being a bad guy, so to speak, even
though that's just what you want it anyway, you know so? Right?
Speaker 7 (38:38):
And even those say like women, because women do that
more so than men. As far as I'm looking for
something serious, I'm looking for her husband. Those are the
ones that are the most complicated the date, because they're
the ones with the list of mile long expectations of
what they wanted a partner. And then Chiley, you don't
if you don't hit ninety five out of a hundred
(39:00):
of those requirements, than that.
Speaker 2 (39:02):
Kick and you take curve anyway, Ain't Chili still single?
Speaker 5 (39:06):
I believe so.
Speaker 6 (39:08):
But I put that on Facebook not too long ago.
Expectation is the root of all heartache. Oh it should
It shouldn't be an expectation. It should be a conversation.
And if you're having that conversation with somebody you're looking
at to be a partner, that again, you should be
adult enough to you know, to filter through it. But okay,
I can see, I can see this point of view here. Okay,
let me work with this a little bit and put
(39:30):
that Jill Scott math on them, you know what I'm saying,
and just kind of see if that's what you want
to do, if you want to stay there, if you
want to pan it out. Kittles.
Speaker 4 (39:38):
You sound really smart, man. I mean, I just want
to give you that compliment. Bro, you just sound super smart.
It's just real experienced man.
Speaker 6 (39:45):
That's all. Man, this is just a race. I'm not
a counselor. I would guess.
Speaker 4 (39:50):
I would never guess that you don't believe in the
moon landing based on intelligence. Yousel bro, you sound really smart.
Speaker 2 (40:02):
God shot, that's funny, man.
Speaker 3 (40:06):
But nah, But I do think that, like it's it
is probably smart to be intentional. I think that you
don't have to explain all of that stuff from the beginning. Uh,
Like Trump was saying, like you don't you don't really
have to tell people what your overall intentions is. Just
kind of see what the vibe takes you and stuff.
But I think that you need to know, even if
(40:27):
they don't know initially, you definitely need to know what
it is that you want out of the relationship because
if not, man like, it's going to cause all kinds
of problems.
Speaker 6 (40:36):
It need to start with I like you, I'm digging you. Yeah,
that's you know.
Speaker 2 (40:41):
Let's let's let the wave, let the build from there.
Speaker 4 (40:43):
Yeah, glad you said that, because I was gonna say
it was a waste of time until the Mario Washington
you said you at least need to know exactly what
you're looking for, because I let it be known from
the jump. And I think if you are operating in
the right circles where you're talking to people who share
your intention, I think it gets okay to come out
and just say it. Because if if you want to
be married, uh, and you are going to operate and
(41:08):
converse and maybe court women, they need to be women
who are interested in marriage. I think it's okay to
come out and say it. Well, if you know that
you don't want marriage, uh, just come out and say
that too. As long as it's with the women you
know that are on the same vibe. I've never run
into any trouble just coming out the gate and saying, look,
I'm not interested in a relationship right now, but if
(41:29):
you want to express our appreciation for each other in
a different type of way, you know, I'm cool with
that too.
Speaker 3 (41:34):
I do know that sometimes that will actually lead to
them trying to break you also, and then they be hurt.
Speaker 6 (41:43):
That beautiful swan sitting on the lake. Right, it looks
beautiful when you're gazing at it, but at that water
and working hard boy and thinking plot.
Speaker 2 (41:54):
I thought you're talking about how swas could kill people.
Those swas kill people. Oh yeah, you told me about it.
Speaker 6 (42:00):
I don't looks can be deceived. Don't let the beauty
fool you because it looks graceful on top, but you
know under underneath that water is work being done and
how it's working or moving against you or with you.
Speaker 7 (42:12):
So cautious and as men, as men like we go
through the hardships and dating to the point where yeah,
we don't we don't know if we're looking for a
wife or just looking for a fling until we encounter
the person because of what we've dealt with in the
past where maybe we we were serious about someone or
(42:32):
looking to get married, and and then that didn't unfold
the way we envisioned. So it's like, you know, we're
back to square one. What does what does that person
look like? Like? It's a total confusion, and and then
it's just about going through the process and seeing if
if this person is as real as they claim to be.
Speaker 6 (42:50):
Like Kanye said it before, like everybody was talking about
what he got with Kim. Everybody you know that's seen
the tate with Kim, and you know all these different
guys that been with his wife. Now, that man was
in love. That's what he felt, and he didn't care
about how she was viewed amongst others. It was a
feeling he had. I've been in that situation before, like again,
knowing it was talk about somebody, but I was digging them.
(43:12):
The vibe we had was cool, and I didn't sense
any of that for her, like she was in flight
mode looking for something else. So it all boils down
to what you want at the end of the day.
And if you feel this feeling with that person, regardless
of their past, you gotta be willing to accept that
and grow with that person.
Speaker 3 (43:27):
All Right, we're gonna come back and we're gonna discuss
whether or not there really should be a rule on
how Soon is Too Soon?
Speaker 2 (43:37):
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Speaker 2 (43:44):
Back on the Good Old Boys Forecast Media Radio Network.
How Soon is Too Soon? Now? Should there really be
a rule?
Speaker 3 (43:52):
Because I think after our discussion over this course of
this program.
Speaker 2 (43:57):
I think that.
Speaker 3 (44:00):
There isn't really a rule. I think that there is
like your personal preference.
Speaker 6 (44:05):
If you are.
Speaker 3 (44:06):
Feeling somebody and it's the first night, you still can
get it there. If you want to wait and see
if this person is somebody that's marriable, you can do
that too. I think that it's all like the under
the umbrella of what is it that I'm comfortable with?
And I don't think that we need to like put
everything into one box and say this is the standard
(44:28):
that we all.
Speaker 6 (44:28):
Should be living by. I think again, even even if
that woman wants to if it's going to be a rule,
and like you said, even if you feeling them that
night and you don't necessarily want to, it can be
the night can still end, you know, with a with
a cup of coffee or whatever, or or just a
subtle kiss, but something is passionate to lead up to
(44:48):
the next date, so that it's like you know that
that person knows that you're feeling them that way, and
everybody's on the same page, like this is not a
waste of time. Okay, we did have a great time tonight.
I'm okay, I'm okay. She feeling me, but she ready
to have sex or whatever, and that's cool. So even
a non verbal conversation can can lead to something great
at the end of the day.
Speaker 4 (45:09):
Yeah. Uh, it depends on what you're looking for too,
Because for me and where I'm coming from, with my
understanding of my foundation, I would say, go ahead and wait.
I know that's what me and my that's what I
do now, and that's what I see my people doing,
because you know so, I'm always an advocate of waiting.
I'm actually an advocate of celibacy too.
Speaker 2 (45:31):
I believe it.
Speaker 4 (45:40):
I watched a really nice wedding a couple of days ago.
It's very young people.
Speaker 5 (45:43):
He's not he's not completely off.
Speaker 7 (45:46):
Based on that, I mean, because even as men believe
it or not, there's times when the women is ready
before we.
Speaker 6 (45:52):
Are as men. And that's that's that's difficult.
Speaker 7 (45:57):
That's a difficult case to deal with within it self.
Is is like, Yo, she's ready, I'm not for whatever reason,
whether it's psychological, whether I'm still in love with somebody else,
whether I can't get right, whether I'm just seeing her
as a friend.
Speaker 5 (46:15):
It's it's various reasons.
Speaker 7 (46:17):
And then having to explain it because a lot of
times they're just feeling like either you're gay or you're
not attracted to me. And and that's like the biggest
blow to a woman is when they're being told that
they're not attractive enough.
Speaker 5 (46:30):
So yeah, I love it, well.
Speaker 4 (46:33):
I love it psychologically you can break them like that
when what's wrong with meiful?
Speaker 6 (46:39):
Well, I always do that though, why they shoot all gay?
Speaker 2 (46:43):
Right, that's a new thing. That's a new thing though.
Speaker 3 (46:45):
Yeah, But I think that the bottom line is, man,
it ain't about a number of dates. It's about clarity,
honest and honestly a connection.
Speaker 2 (46:54):
Talk it out. If you're on the.
Speaker 3 (46:55):
Same page, have at it, whatever that might be, whether
that's tonight or tw hundred days from now, whatever it
might be.
Speaker 2 (47:02):
It's all about communicating those things to.
Speaker 6 (47:05):
Me safe and letting baby pitches, my brothers there's a
doubt in your mind, ask for them baby pitches.
Speaker 3 (47:14):
Also, right right, and we will see you on the
radio next week.
Speaker 4 (47:20):
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