August 26, 2025 • 41 mins
In this Pillow Talk edition of The Good Ole Boys Radio Show, the guys delve into the dynamics of dating across age gaps, exploring the challenges and humorous moments that arise when younger and older partners navigate their relationships. The guys share personal anecdotes and discuss the importance of finding common ground, adapting to each other's interests, and the complexities of dating while managing responsibilities like children. Tune in for a light-hearted yet insightful conversation that tackles everything from music preferences to the etiquette of dating as a parent!
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
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Speaker 2 (00:15):
Fairfact South Carolina's a due for North Little Beach, New
York City, Florence, Columbia. Back here in Rock Hills, South
Carolina and Charlotte, North Carolina metropolitan area. We are the
good old Boys. On the Forecast Media Radio Network with
fe Mario Washington, Q Kittles Black Trump Grand wars out
this week that boy be busy man out here right.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
That boy need a planning book. Need he needed an assistant?
Speaker 2 (00:40):
He probably does need an assystem, like for sure, man,
But uh but this week like years old, Oh my gosh, bro.
Speaker 4 (00:47):
No, no, jeez, yeah, I uh there's a I don't.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
I don't nor if if people heard this already yet,
I can't, like I'll be recording so much of stuff
and I can't even remember when like how stuff is
out of sequence and stuff.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
Man.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
But I did on a on a recent episode of
The Bedroom. If you ain't heard it yet, it's coming soon.
But uh uh got ready to play uh uh love
you down on uh from uh ready for the world.
And I was explained to the youngest the gen Zers
(01:29):
it was a thing for young men to be dating
grown ass women back in like the eighties and nineties, right,
like like and like looking back on that stuff now,
like it seems like kind of creepy, man that like
how how how how cute? Was Date not u Q,
but GQ was Dady uh was Dady Yolanda And she
(01:50):
had a grown person job, an ex husband, you know
what I'm saying, an apartment and he was in high school.
Like Tue was like a thing what back in the day.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
But that's our society for you, man.
Speaker 5 (02:03):
We will take something to be taboo and then make
it norm and then vice versa will flip it up
in ten twenty years and it's right.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
You know, remember back.
Speaker 5 (02:11):
In the day, they didn't even show much of a
makeout session on TV in prime time.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
That's like shit, whatever, that's that rated?
Speaker 6 (02:20):
G Right, Yeah, I came to screenplay. They didn't. They
weren't thinking about writing about, oh, this person is thirty
years old and this kid's only sixteen or something.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
But it was but it was normal. It was it
was just normal.
Speaker 6 (02:33):
I'm just saying, like, that wasn't something in the script
that they were like even thinking about. They're just like,
we were casting this beautiful, beautiful woman that could pass
or being in the early twenties, and we're not thinking
about the age gap at.
Speaker 5 (02:46):
All, because think about it, like when we we had
like some teachers at high school or whatever who who
were fresh out of college and we were about to
go to college. So you talking a five maybe six
year gap. She could have been fresh out of nursing
or college and doing her uh.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
What you call it her residency. Yeah, every I knew
you would know. We don't know. We didn't get all
the detail behind that story.
Speaker 5 (03:11):
But like, like like Mario said, it seemed weird crawl
the way I did things in life.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
Bro.
Speaker 5 (03:17):
Like I always dated older women, thinking they knew better
or they knew what they wanted, and then come to
find out it's just you just got everybody's like a
clay man. You just gotta you gotta shape them in
and figure him out. It is no exact mold to
this thing man. So older women don't know it all.
Younger women gotta figure them out. Older women, you gotta
figure them out.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
I just I don't. I just never understood, like, is
I like the older woman thing? You know? Like uh,
when I'll say, like you know, being like I've already
adult and like being interested in like an older, older woman,
you know, like if you like eighteen nineteen and she
like thirty, you know, yeah, you know what I'm saying,
(04:00):
Like how.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
They say side scooped the hot one.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
You know what I'm saying, like, well, you put that
work here?
Speaker 3 (04:06):
What did you do to her? How did you spark
her interest? You know?
Speaker 6 (04:09):
I would be your know when I was working, I
went up went to the library. I was what twenty three,
twenty four, and I was working with nothing but women
lik in the forties and fifties and sixties, and they'll
be flirting with me.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Of course because.
Speaker 5 (04:23):
They they you young man, let me show you how
to handle a Cooper dress.
Speaker 6 (04:29):
I love the way you're dressing all of it.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Well, this is uh, this is actually uh gonna segue
us into our next segment. This is a pillow talk
condition of the Good Old Boys radio show. Lots of
good uh love songs and all that type of stuff,
and we're going to talk about certain types of situations.
And the next situation that we're going to talk about
(04:51):
is how do you not bore a younger woman that
you're dating. Back on the Good Old Boys forecast, we
Radio Network talking about the pillow and the talking on
the pillow. Uh so I saw this. I saw this clip, man,
(05:12):
and this dude was with his with with his young
and and the youngin was filming herself while dude was
listening to like some Stevie Wonder plastic that jont right,
and she was like rolling her eyes and stuff the
whole time.
Speaker 5 (05:28):
Like I saw that, Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
I thought it was hilarious, man. But then they got
me to thinking, man, like, how do you like date
somebody that much younger who isn't impressed by Stevie Wonder
music and stuff like that? Because for me, if you
don't like Stevie Wonder music, I probably can't date you.
Speaker 5 (05:50):
I mean, I'm not a huge fan of Stevie. I
mean I like his music, but I mean I can't
sit here and say I have a bunch of his records,
but I can listen to some of it. But the
answer to your question, it's simply, you gotta you gotta
know some dad on Chris Breezy.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
You you you gotta know some of these.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
You don't know Chris Brown.
Speaker 5 (06:10):
But if you don't throw no Chris Brown on and
and you with this younger crowded. Even now they listening too.
I don't even know that. I can't even name these cats.
That's what's crazy. But this different type of vibe. They
rather get in a situation off of some drill music
and that puts them in the mood like you have
to learn how to navigate if you're going to that dirt.
Speaker 6 (06:33):
Yeah, you know, ain't that bad? Ain't that bad? Like that?
I mean like Friday and Tie Dollar Sign and Division
and you know there's there's people Walker snow SnO, Yeah,
(06:53):
j Eko on her like, there's a lot of people.
That's that's what it is. It's just funny common ground.
I don't want to be as the old man in
a relationship. I don't want to make it seem like
I know it all and she doesn't know anything. I mean,
we have to find common ground, and I have to
be willing to learn from her as well. Like that's
what that's what keeps it fresh in my opinion.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
Well, you know what keeping it fresh in my opinion
is to not talk to him. I ain't about to
sit here and listen to that jump man.
Speaker 5 (07:24):
See, sometimes a younger person can keep an old spirit,
you know, at baby man, like, you know, just keeping
you in touch. Like I laugh at my mom, man,
Like my mom know more about the current culture of
things that I do now cause she's dating a young dude.
Speaker 3 (07:37):
Let me throw that out. Oh oh yeah.
Speaker 5 (07:39):
But it's just it's inspiring that, you know, she she's
still in touch with what's going on because she talked
for so long, dealt with different generations of kids and
just understand what's popular at the time when I've just
moved on and just focused on what I like, you know,
So she's seen a lot of that. So it's it's
inspirational in a sense. Man, It's just a breath of
fresh air and just the taked like like Trump said,
(08:02):
you don't have to be into it, but you gotta
find that common ground in order.
Speaker 3 (08:06):
To balance it out. If that's what you choose to do.
Speaker 5 (08:08):
When you're on your own time, you still might bump
your Stevie and your Lutha and whatever else.
Speaker 3 (08:12):
But when you with her, you might have to mix
it up a little bit, you know.
Speaker 6 (08:15):
Yeah, I can't be the person that is still stuck
playing the Nintendo nes eight bit system or Second Genesis,
and then there's so many other systems that have come
out that I'm totally missing the boat on because I'm
stuck in my ways. I want to be able to watch, observe,
(08:36):
be like, yo, this looks fun. Same with kids, Like,
it's the same thing when you buy some of your
kids and they're playing it and they want you to
play as well. Then you hop on and you be like,
all right, this is kind of cool. This is much
more advanced than what I was playing thirty years ago.
It's the same thing. You just gotta be willing to adap.
Speaker 5 (08:54):
I threw on a uh it was a PlayStation two
with I had an NBA Live game right with Vince
Carter on the cover, and I'm playing that in The
graphics were so choppy in comparison to this current two
K And you know these games, you know, and I
still like the nostalgia of it, But once you play
the Pressure game, it's kind of like, you know, the
(09:16):
movement and everything is just different when you go back.
But I still like to tap into those things I got.
I got a game with Stevie Franchise on the cover. Bro,
It's just good to go back and see those teams.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
You back into, like this is like our colleges.
Speaker 5 (09:30):
Yeah, yeah, Tracy, but Grady I got I got a
bunch of old games. I want to get my PlayStation
two cracking. I got two of them, but I gotta clean.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
I watched up. I saw a video the other day.
I ain't seen it a long time. I remember when
Tracy McGrady had got ejected and was putting the basketball
and Joe he put the basketball twice in the game
and got ejected.
Speaker 6 (09:54):
Gave them the second ball, so.
Speaker 2 (09:57):
Put it the first time. They gave him a take
and somehow the ball is it up back like near
him and somebody was trying to grab him and stop it,
but he got to it again and he put the
hell out of that ball.
Speaker 6 (10:08):
I know her kitching basketballs and yeah, joint people.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
Don't be crashing out like that no more in the NBA.
And something you get suspended for like six games for
doing the letters.
Speaker 3 (10:19):
The Palace, Babe. The Palace was the last crack down.
And then Spree Well said it all off.
Speaker 6 (10:29):
Dreamond Dreamond is still nuts.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
He's crazy, yeah now, But but I'm just saying, man like,
I think that you're going to bore the younger woman like,
no matter what you end up doing, she's going to
get bored with you and and.
Speaker 5 (10:45):
That's that's the excitement too, though. Man, you you really
if you're trying to stay on your toes, you gotta
you got, like we were saying earlier, keep keeping it fresh.
I don't think they'll get bored if you just stay
on top of your game and do some of the
things that she likes us. She into you for a
reason that you you're getting played. Is she taking you
for your money or you just enjoy having a trophy
on your arm. So it's a it's a give give
(11:07):
in that situation. So I don't know too many who
come together and it's some they really build from that.
But I know a couple of people who have. You know,
it's got a huge age difference between them, a huge
age gap. So it just depends on how you go
into that relationship, what you're looking for, what they're looking for.
Speaker 6 (11:24):
You just can't be stuck in your ways, as you
can't as older guy. If you're stuck in your ways,
then you're not you're not leaving things open forward growth
on either end.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
Or or or you could date somebody in your age
range and then you don't have to worry about the history.
Speaker 5 (11:41):
That's why you're looking at the younger one because you're bored,
because you're looking for something exciting or whatever.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
Whatever. Yeah, well just never know.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
We're gonna come back and we're going to talk about
the etiquette of dating while you got kids back on
the Good Old Boys four Gass Media Radio Network Pillow
Talk edition of The Good Old Boys Radio Show. You know,
we break down that good music, that good like slow
jams music for you to get it in if you
(12:12):
feel like it.
Speaker 5 (12:14):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
Now, dating with kids, man, it seems to be something
that's like a lot more difficult for women than it
is for men, usually because women are the custodial parent typically.
How how do you like, like, what's the etiquette with that?
Because you got to deal with like the woman having
(12:36):
to take care of child before she can like do
anything with you. What's the etiquette and take and deal
with that when you're dating a woman who has a
child or children, h.
Speaker 6 (12:49):
Bert, I don't deal with it. I just let them
whatever they need to do, like if they need to
drop their kids off to their parents and come see
me cool. I've had an occasion where the girl woman
just had a baby, like two three months ago, and
(13:09):
brought the baby over to my apartment and sat the
baby on the couch and we went in a room
and did our thing. Or you know, sometimes the kids
will stay at the place and I'll be downstairs sleeping
on the couch, and she'll sneak downstairs, you know, while
the kids when the kids go to sleep. So I mean,
it's just whatever they need to do, that's not my concern.
(13:32):
I'm just trying to, you know, get me. So that's
my philosophy.
Speaker 5 (13:36):
So and I'll attest to that, like in the sense
that you initially you're watching and seeing how they're moving
with it, because like you said, it ain't your responsibility,
because it's not your responsibility if like you said, we've
spoken about it before on a different episode than the
sense that or we might have been talking about.
Speaker 3 (13:55):
It off air.
Speaker 5 (13:56):
But when we're at men at our age, if we're
going to date someone within our age range, they're probably
gonna have kids. For the most part, I'll say ninety
percent of these women are probably already having kids, you know.
So it's like that's the package deal that comes with it.
So you have to see how they're moving, and if
you can get within that, you know, because it's either
(14:17):
going to be a problem or it's not going to
be a problem for you have to gauge it, you know.
But if you like them enough, then you know you're
gonna try to, you know, weave yourself into her system
and to determine if it works for you, if it's
something that you want to move forward with.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
Do you think that like women have a hard time
like juggling it though, because I've I've seen that before,
where like you want to like get time with dudes
and everything, but then like you don't want to like
feel like you're neglecting your children. So like, if it
seems like it's overall it seems harder for women to
(14:52):
properly date when they have children.
Speaker 3 (14:54):
I mean, it depends on that scene.
Speaker 6 (14:57):
It depends on like all of the other variables, whether
what sort of custody situation with the father or if
there is any like usually if the father isn't involved,
and it's more difficult than it is if one week
you have the kids, next week the father has the kids.
(15:18):
Then you know, every other week or two one or
two weekends a month she's free and you playing around that.
But I just think I honestly think it's harder to
date a woman with an older child than it is
today a woman with a younger child, especially like when
they're like nineteen twenty, because then they act like da'da
(15:43):
grown ass man in the household and they want to
talk to you and be like all right, don't you.
Don't you be doing anything crazy with my mom, or
I'm gonna come see you. They'd be trying to threaten you.
So it's like, look, I'm just I'm chilling. Your mom
is trying to go see.
Speaker 3 (15:58):
If you babysit your brothers to shut up.
Speaker 6 (16:02):
Yeah, play your position, like one day you be in
my shoes and you totally understand. But yeah, dating dating
women with grown ass kids is more of a headache
in my opinion.
Speaker 5 (16:13):
I don't you know, not to invalidate it, it's more
like it's the same as if you got if you
have to go to work. You know, you have to
go to work. You have to provide if you're a
single parent, so you have to find that that that
balance of happy life and happy work environment, you know,
to make them work. If you're deciding to date within that,
(16:34):
then again, yes, it's it's difficult it's something else you
have to juggle. But if that's something you choose to do,
then you have to figure out how it works so
that you're not stressed out or overwhelmed.
Speaker 3 (16:45):
And yes, we do feel like that. You know. Again,
we know your child or your children are going to
come first. But again, if you're trying to establish a
relationship with somebody, they have to also incorporate you and
make you feel you got to have that time to
where you're feeling special as well, not saying neglect the children,
but again you got to cater to home as well,
if that's something you're trying to engage in.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
I think that's important. And I think that a lot
of times, uh people feel like they gotta sacrifice everything. Well,
I think that you become a better parent if you
actually do spend some time for yourself and by you know,
spending time for yourself, that means going out and having
a good time with somebody that you're interested in, you know,
and like you know.
Speaker 5 (17:26):
Decompression stage at some point to get away from your
day to day or not.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
Or whatever, right because because eventually, like you get you
get tired of like just the company of this this
child now it's interesting that you bring up Trump about
uh dating uh women with adult children. I actually think
that that like from from from from my experience seeing it,
it seems like that's a lot easier when when when
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they're not when they're not living in the home. It
seems like it's a lot easier now if they're like,
if you're talking like twenty years old, they still at home,
then yeah, that's probably a prop you know, I could
definitely see that.
Speaker 3 (18:11):
Being an issue. He made job bro listen right, Yeah.
Speaker 6 (18:17):
I mean, I'm even even one of the guy that
did the prayer of my wedding. Dicon Montgomery, his wife
passed away, so he has they had grown kids, and
when he started dating, he was telling me how his
daughter especially was hard to It was hard for her
to face the fact that another woman could be taking
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her mom's place, and in some respects she was sabotaging
some of the opportunities he had. Eventually he was able
to find, you know, his current wife, and they were
able to work out you know, all of those differences.
But Nah, with grown kids, it's a pain in the hands.
Speaker 5 (19:00):
As a child, you know, it's selfish of you to
not want your mother or father be happy again. Like
it's like you want, I understand, like you feel like
somebody coming in and taking your other parents' place. But
it's not about taking their place. It's about your parent feeling,
you know, like lonely and wanting to have that companionship
if that's what they choose to do. Now again, I
(19:22):
know I gave my hey man rest in peace, mister
bank head. Yo, dude, it was dating my mother back
in the day when I was like in junior high
school or whatever. I gave this man pure hell. But
that was that was again because not because I didn't
want my mama to be happy.
Speaker 3 (19:36):
It was just from my child and not understand that.
Speaker 5 (19:39):
Yeah, not understanding wondering why my dad not coming around
and this man around teaching me stuff. And you know,
before he passed away, he and I got to speak
and I say, Bro, I know I gave you hell.
Speaker 3 (19:49):
Bro, I know it, But I said, I learned a
lot from you. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5 (19:52):
He wanted to flip it on me, like I was
the reason they broke up, but I said, hey, we
grown now. I say, you dropped the ball, bro, I said,
I never heard your side of the story.
Speaker 3 (20:02):
But I heard enough, and.
Speaker 5 (20:03):
As a man now you dropped that back right right,
But yeah, you got those risks, and you just you
never know the situation with that young man and his
father and where he is and why he's coming at you.
And it's just a matter if you understand that going
into it, and you can just talk to the man,
just be like, bro, I'm just trying to get to
know you. I'm not trying to take your dad's place
and build a relationship. And that's what I've done with
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any woman that I've dated who's had children. Luckily, they've
only the youngest of my current kids now, like they
were four and five. But like then you got Mariah,
she was like eight something like that, and then that's
Shorty from I forgot her name.
Speaker 3 (20:40):
I can't think of it right now that quick.
Speaker 5 (20:41):
But when I first got to Charlotte, her kids were
like seven and nine or something like that, you know,
so I never had to deal with that older child.
But again, knowing me and how I was, I would
approach that in that manner. Again, just try to establish
these relationships with them. But you still have to cater
to the woman because that's who you're in the relationship
with You can't establish the relationship with the child and
(21:02):
then neglect the woman because that's the relationship.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
Yeah, all right, we're gonna come back I one number
two and uh we're gonna talk about ego. Uh we'll
tell you all about.
Speaker 3 (21:14):
It when we come back.
Speaker 2 (21:37):
Back on a Little Boys Podcast Media Radio Network. Mario
watching that you kill us like Trump crying whize. I
guess we'll be back next week. Oh no, one need no.
I mean, like I knew, like we were pressed for time.
So that's the only reason why I didn't get you know,
I need a Baker. Hey, but Anita Baker is the
diva of all divas, as you know. So all right, uh,
(22:03):
all right, we we've did a whole show about this before,
but I can't remember exactly what y'all I was saying.
I asked Trump Trump first, Uh do you do you
ask what the body count is?
Speaker 3 (22:15):
No? KEI Nah?
Speaker 5 (22:19):
Okay, you know you know you're gonna, you know, for
your first intimacy, the first it's how you know, how
you know, listen, how that could be, that could be,
that could be one person that did all that work
to get them to where they at now. Listen, like
when you step on a basketball court, you get it.
You get this person to step on a basketball court,
(22:40):
you know if that person got talent or they don't
and you don't get talent or or or or.
Speaker 2 (22:45):
You could have like had like like uh uh, like
I said, like a vast arrangement with the previous partner.
Speaker 5 (22:54):
But most people are how many people you know come
out of the gate being Jordan, you have to play
against other players to get your game up to par
like that, and most people, like imagine you remember your
first time you get.
Speaker 2 (23:07):
Up the part you can get hold on. You can
get in the par with one person one hundred thousand times.
Speaker 5 (23:12):
No, you can't, because if you're doing the same thing
with that same person, Bro, you're not learning anything new
unless you're unless you're reading.
Speaker 3 (23:19):
Comma Sutra books or or or doing different.
Speaker 5 (23:21):
Some people do that, but at this day and age, bro,
you can't even do that because a minute you come
in the bedroom with something new that that female is
gonna think you're doing something with somebody else. You can't
even try to bring something new without them thinking that
you're doing something else. So so again my whole point
is that, bro, you you can tell when someone is
being practicing and it's not the wrong with a little
(23:42):
bit of experience. Because again we're gonna do like Betty
right here, I want you all to close your eyes.
Speaker 3 (23:47):
It's time. Hey.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
So all right, So next question, if it's like that,
if it's Jordan out the gate, you know what I'm saying,
Trump at thirty eight? Uh, does that hurt your ego?
Speaker 3 (24:03):
I'm thinking it's my turn. I'm not asking questions.
Speaker 5 (24:10):
I'm just thankful, you know you you go from there
being like I can't say those names on this one,
but I know a brother who's in a situation now
to where it's kind of like when when you date
somebody in your hometown, you you always have that hometown
vibe or that small town vibe or whatever, so you
know who they've been with and this and that. So
(24:31):
it's harder for you to be in your hometown and
having a long term relationship with somebody from your hometown
and they've been Jordan so to speak, cause you got it.
You walk to the gas station and casts looking at
you because they don't they dounplay ball with your lady,
you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (24:47):
So it's like that's hard to do.
Speaker 5 (24:50):
But when you were, when you expand out and you
go off the school and you meet different people, you
don't necessarily know how they were when they were in
high school. You just you're accepting of what's moving forward.
You don't ask that question. Even if you go home
and Cats is talking about you might want to hope that,
but she'll be like, hey, listen, you know I was
wild back in my days or or whatever whatever, and
(25:11):
it might spark some curiosity, but you're not going to
ask that question as long as it was back in
the day, you know.
Speaker 2 (25:18):
I just think that, man Like, I don't understand why
people feel like they need to know all this information
and stuff. Man Like, I don't care, you know what
I'm saying.
Speaker 5 (25:27):
Like like like some people will make a decision based
off of what they feel they know about a person,
and then and then that person has falsified that information.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
A lot of times you be wrong, you be thinking
about these things.
Speaker 6 (25:42):
I think a lot of times, just the people with
the extremely low body count that cares about how many
people the other person's been with because they made the
experience as more more of a sacred experience, whereas with
other people it's more just like you know, another day,
(26:02):
day at the park, another another adventure, another ride, and
that disconnect within itself is really what opposes a problem.
Like I never go into the situation trying to find
out how experienced a person is. We just vibe and
then when we become intimate, we figure out each other's limits,
(26:25):
like what how far are you gonna go? And sometimes
I've been surprised and other times i haven't been. But
I'm just gonna go with the flow. Whatever this person's
willing to do, I'm gonna let them do it, and
if it's great, I'm gonna want more the next time.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
So so so so so you know, you'd be like, WHOA,
I don't.
Speaker 3 (26:44):
I don't do that. I don't do that part, all right?
Speaker 2 (26:45):
What if?
Speaker 3 (26:46):
What if?
Speaker 2 (26:46):
What if? What if it's mid and and you were
going into it with the impression that the account was
high and then it's mid.
Speaker 6 (26:55):
I don't have those expectations, like I'm saying you, like, yeah,
it's like if I go in there expecting this person
to rock my world and she doesn't, then then yeah,
it's gonna be a negative experience. But I just think,
like I'm just thinking about Okay, I'm adding another another
(27:19):
one like Khaled would say, you know, I'm not thinking
about whether it's going to be great or now. I'm
just thinking about Okay, I'm smashing this one. Let's see
how it goes, and then I'll add this person to
the rotation. Of course, this is eight to ten years
ago because I'm happily married. But yes, it's just something
(27:40):
that I would never think about as far as this
person is is experienced or she's she's a virgin, or
she's laying I don't think about that like.
Speaker 5 (27:50):
So like think about it all goes down to confidence
for me. So, like you know, and you know, back
in the day, we used to lie on our stuff
or whatever whatever we tell the girl, Oh yeah, I
did this before when you was younger. Bro, you're trying
to pretend like you got a little more experienced that
you do to make that other, that girl comfortable that
you're trying to get with.
Speaker 2 (28:08):
Man, I got no game. It's just that some women
understand my story.
Speaker 5 (28:12):
I feel you on that, b I feel you all
day on that. But it's when when you're putting it
down like that. It was all to get your confidence
up and make her feel comfortable.
Speaker 3 (28:21):
So it was it was you told that lie when
and she might have been like if she was lying too,
she might his boy being with nobody.
Speaker 5 (28:29):
But you know, it's it's all about how you feel
in the moment, so that that confidence comes into play.
Speaker 3 (28:35):
I think, man, just in that regard.
Speaker 6 (28:38):
Yeah, so if a person says they have forty had
forty dudes on their belt, what is that gonna decrease
your confidence? Are you going to go in there feeling intimidated?
Speaker 2 (28:50):
I think the kids to not ask. Yeah, I don't ask,
don't tell.
Speaker 6 (28:55):
On this question.
Speaker 3 (28:56):
Healthy.
Speaker 5 (28:57):
Yeah, if you're healthy and this and that, you say,
let me see my chart. You know, if you're good
in that aspect, then it's nothing for me to worry about.
You know again, it's like if I'm into you, I'm
into you, regardless of your path.
Speaker 3 (29:11):
You know what I'm saying. All Right, we're.
Speaker 2 (29:14):
Gonna come back. We're gonna talk about whether or not
social media is killing relationships.
Speaker 3 (29:20):
Killing is dead, like Uncle CJ would say, kill it dead.
Speaker 2 (29:26):
Back on the Go Old Boys, Forecast Media Radio Network,
the Mario Watch the Kittles like Trump. All right, So, uh,
y'all know how much I hate social media. I can't
stand social media, bro, is it killing relationships? Because one
thing that I always like would encourage people to do,
do not be friends on Facebook. Don't follow on Instagram
(29:50):
the person that you're in a relationship with because you're
going to see some stuff and you're gonna misinterpret some
things sometimes and then it's gonna cause riffs in the
relationship ship because you're think it's something and that is nothing,
you know what I mean.
Speaker 5 (30:04):
So like thinking nothing, I'm just saying, you gotta communicate this,
communicate it, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (30:11):
It's what people do.
Speaker 5 (30:12):
Yeah, things and they can be misinterpreted on there, they
can't you know. Yeah, it's it's a social platform at
the end of the day. But you know, again, you
can't be mad at if if if a bunch of
people say oh hey beautiful, hey gorgeous, that's cool. It's
just the other comments to get out of pocket, you
know what I'm saying. But again, it's about checking those
You can't you can't sit there and be like get
(30:33):
upset about everything.
Speaker 3 (30:35):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5 (30:35):
That's crazy to me, you know, But like you said,
some people, why this person like your picture?
Speaker 3 (30:40):
Oh my god, it's social media.
Speaker 5 (30:42):
It's public, you know, Come on, man, yeah, I mean.
Speaker 3 (30:47):
I think he's killing though I go ahead, my bad.
Speaker 6 (30:50):
Now I under saying I don't. I don't think social
media is killing relationships. I think the way a person
behaves on social media is the same way they behave
at work, same way they behave, same way they behave
at the grocery store. There's no difference. It's just that
you can see see them, see them communicating or I guess,
(31:11):
disrespecting your relationship publicly.
Speaker 3 (31:15):
But I mean the right there, it's that public part
of it.
Speaker 5 (31:18):
If you if you run into such and such at
the grocery store, and whoever shooting they shot at the
grocery store, how you handle it is how you handle it.
But it still needs to be handled either way. You know,
if it's on a social platform, it needs to be
handled there as well because other people see it in
the misinterpretation comes.
Speaker 2 (31:35):
Yeah, but I but that's the thing, man, like you know,
like if you if you, if you like, if you're
on like let's say you're on Instagram or something and
your girl posting thirst traps, and then the same dude
is always with the hard eyes underneath the picture and stuff, man,
Like I don't want to see that jump.
Speaker 3 (31:54):
I don't.
Speaker 5 (31:55):
I told like I told my sister in law one time,
like you got the prize though that's that's.
Speaker 2 (32:00):
No, That's what I'm saying. But like but I don't.
Speaker 3 (32:01):
I don't care to see it.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
So like why like like go ahead and do your thing,
man like like that's fine, man, Like you know what
I'm saying, she coming, she come in here. You know,
you're just talking wasting your breath, you know what I'm saying,
Like you know, but but yeah, yeah, but I mean.
Speaker 3 (32:16):
But it's funny. You can't. You can put hard eyes
all day. That's cool. Now you're talking about like no.
Speaker 2 (32:24):
Just no, no, no, no, no, I want a third strap.
Could be anything like dudes like like like because this
is this is I ain't gonna lie. This is why
I had to stop posting pictures on Facebook.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
Man.
Speaker 2 (32:40):
I'm just saying like comments like inappropriate comments would show
up on like the bottom of picture sometimes.
Speaker 3 (32:47):
Man.
Speaker 5 (32:47):
Really and I had that bro like like real real, I.
Speaker 2 (32:51):
Mean, you ain't swamming sexey like me do whatever?
Speaker 5 (32:56):
Like I've never had that though, Like seriously, they're crazy thing.
Somebody ever said it wasn't even crazy. It was like
when we took our first uh oh yeah yeah, somebody
was like, oh you modeling now, nah, you know that
ain't so.
Speaker 2 (33:10):
So people people was in my inbox asking about you
though that time. So they talking no no, no no no
no no no no no no. These are people that
like like like for whatever reason, like didn't reach out
to you, but reached out to me to talk to you.
Speaker 5 (33:26):
Oh but again it wasn't on my page.
Speaker 2 (33:30):
I don't even think you have maybe you didn't have
Facebook at the time or something.
Speaker 6 (33:34):
When we first like it would just be met you
and feet.
Speaker 2 (33:40):
Okay, yeah, yeah, that's what it was.
Speaker 6 (33:43):
It was about eight years right, and then he popped up.
Speaker 2 (33:52):
Yeah Zach, Nah, but I will say, man, like just
stay off of social media. That joint came't nothing but
the devil, bro, nothing but the devil.
Speaker 5 (34:01):
I mean bro with the fact like if we sit
here talking now about this, it'll pop up on the
timeline about what we're talking about now. Of course, it's
crazy in that aspect algorithm and stuff.
Speaker 2 (34:13):
It's like just like if you like, if you look
at a picture of a big booty girl on Instagram
for three seconds, all you get in your feed now
is big Booty girls.
Speaker 3 (34:23):
Yeah. Yeah, don't ask me how.
Speaker 2 (34:26):
I don't know because I don't have Instagram.
Speaker 3 (34:29):
Sure telling me I need to post something on Instagram.
I don't have no posts, man.
Speaker 5 (34:34):
I just be on there liking stuff and viewing through
and stuff and gotta contact.
Speaker 2 (34:39):
I mean, y'all lucky I still got Facebook.
Speaker 3 (34:41):
Dog.
Speaker 2 (34:45):
All Right, We're gonna come back and we're gonna talk
about whether or not black men get the space to
heal before they date or the full length version of
The Good Old Boys Radio Show. Follow us on bix
Cloud or check us out on pushplaypods dot Com. Back
on a Little Boys for ass Media Radio Network. So
we're going to talk about this in a future episode
(35:07):
of the show, man, but I wanted to get your
thoughts on it, you know now, on this one, uh,
because I think this is something that's that's that's lesson,
that's real. Do black men really get the space to
heal from a previous relationship before they date? Because I
think that like people feel like they got to rush
into something new like hardcore and don't give themselves time
(35:32):
enough to actually heal. Because I think that one of
the biggest problems with with with black men in America
is that we don't get a chance to talk about
the stuff that is troubling us. And typically when you're
in a relationship, the person that you're in a relationship
is that that that person ends up being like the
sounding board that you can talk to and stuff, and
(35:54):
then that person goes away. Now you don't have that anymore,
and then you're going to a new relationship, and then
after a couple of weeks, now you're like making that
person to sound aboard. So do we give ourselves enough
time to heal.
Speaker 5 (36:05):
A lot of us, don't I read somewhere before, like
they said, if you were in a five year relationship,
then you need to give yourself at least two and
a half years to figure out what it is you
did wrong in that to kind of heal yourself within
that process before you that's a long time, b it is.
Speaker 3 (36:26):
But that's just just.
Speaker 5 (36:27):
Something I read or I don't know where I came
about it, but that was the information I gathered that.
So basically, give yourself half of the time of that
relationship to kind of not you know, you can be
dating but not getting into anything serious to allow yourself
time to view what was done, how you can move
forward in the next one so that you're not carrying
that baggage to your current partner and taking stuff out
(36:49):
on them that it was from the last relationship. So
you know, prior to this relationship, bro my longest relationship
was like three years maybe you know. So I've always
given myself time before I jumped into something. But as men,
we've always been taught what the best way to get
over somebody is to get under somebody, right, So you
try to try to mask that hurt by simply doing
(37:11):
what we were taught to do or what we think
is good, and then end up in a relationship with
that very person and it becomes toxic and you got
the same cycle of okay, boom, I'm in this one
for two two and a half years, ended it because
you have it healed from the one that was prior
to that. So again, it's very important I think for
you to take time out evaluate yourself and figure out
(37:31):
what went wrong in prior ones or heal yourself if
you got to do counseling or whatever.
Speaker 3 (37:35):
It may be. Before you move forward.
Speaker 5 (37:38):
You gotta be real with yourself and hold yourself accountable
and not just when you start talking to people and
they'd be like, so, what happened to your last relationship? Oh,
that mother wasn't about nothing, or that girl ain't about this,
and Okay, what did you do? I had to really
ask myself that at one point, you know, like cause
I noticed this accountability. Yeah, I noticed a pattern and
what I was doing, so I tried to change things up,
(37:59):
you know what I'm saying. So it's just not just men,
but everybody should do that at some point.
Speaker 6 (38:05):
Yeah, I mean, I think part of having that space,
like you, it has to be valuable. You can just
take take a break from dating. You have to have
people that you can talk to openly and talk about
what went wrong, what you did wrong, what they did wrong,
(38:25):
what you can do better, and and then then you
can start to move forward and look for what you're
really what you're compatible with, who you're compatible with. I'd say,
I think I'm blessed to where I have. You know,
a lot of people I can go to and a
lot of people come to me whenever they're going through
(38:47):
a breakup or the relationship is rocky, and we can
have open, honest conversations and put people in place, or
tell them that you know, just be give it time,
or be like, yo, you know, I'm praying for you,
but you know I'm staying out of this. And sometimes
(39:09):
that's that's necessary as well. It's like, don't tell everybody everything.
Keep some things. You just have to live and learn
and figure it out because some people aren't going to
have your best interests either. I don't think there's a
template to this, like you just have to You just
have to gain those experiences. That's what life is about.
It is about experiences, and you know, what the previous
(39:32):
person went through isn't necessarily what you're going through or
will go through, right, So I think it's about living
and learning.
Speaker 5 (39:39):
I think you said it bro like just being real
with yourself, like having a good circle of friends and
people you can talk to in those friends I just
told somebody is recently like in the sense of like
you don't tell the story to.
Speaker 3 (39:53):
Get allies and whatnot.
Speaker 5 (39:54):
You know what I'm saying, to make yourself look good
in the situation, because, like you said, you not holding
yourself accountable and figuring out what you can do to
better yourself. When you tell a story like that or
that person. They wasn't about nothing. They just blase blase
bly without holding yourself accountable. So when you're seeking advice
for your friends and telling your friends or whomever you know,
what took place, you should be trying to gather like, Okay,
(40:16):
what can I do differently? How could I move differently?
Versus just tell that.
Speaker 3 (40:20):
Somebody Oh, man, I did this, I did that. Man,
she's stupid and blase blase bly. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5 (40:27):
You ain't really telling the story. You ain't trying to
learn nothing from the situation.
Speaker 2 (40:31):
Yeah, well I do think that, like, you know, like
taking accountability is the most important thing I think that
that we have to do. Like I really like despise
hearing people going through breakups and then they everything is
the other person's fault.
Speaker 3 (40:50):
Yeah, and then.
Speaker 2 (40:50):
They never take any accountable, like because it takes two
people for fail it ain't like one person that Like
even if somebody like was you know, out here doing
whatever and stuff, man, like, well why what did you do?
Like you know what I'm saying, Like because sometimes it's
it's something that's within you, you know what I mean, Like
part why yeah, yeah, yeah, And we'll see you on
(41:14):
the radio.
Speaker 3 (41:14):
Next week, be out this movie.
Speaker 6 (41:17):
Don't keep thing
Pushplaypards dot com for.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
Fairfact South Carolina's a due for North Little Beach, New
York City, Florence, Columbia. Back here in Rock Hills, South
Carolina and Charlotte, North Carolina metropolitan area. We are the
good old Boys. On the Forecast Media Radio Network with
fe Mario Washington, Q Kittles Black Trump Grand wars out
this week that boy be busy man out here right.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
That boy need a planning book. Need he needed an assistant?
Speaker 2 (00:40):
He probably does need an assystem, like for sure, man,
But uh but this week like years old, Oh my gosh, bro.
Speaker 4 (00:47):
No, no, jeez, yeah, I uh there's a I don't.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
I don't nor if if people heard this already yet,
I can't, like I'll be recording so much of stuff
and I can't even remember when like how stuff is
out of sequence and stuff.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
Man.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
But I did on a on a recent episode of
The Bedroom. If you ain't heard it yet, it's coming soon.
But uh uh got ready to play uh uh love
you down on uh from uh ready for the world.
And I was explained to the youngest the gen Zers
(01:29):
it was a thing for young men to be dating
grown ass women back in like the eighties and nineties, right,
like like and like looking back on that stuff now,
like it seems like kind of creepy, man that like
how how how how cute? Was Date not u Q,
but GQ was Dady uh was Dady Yolanda And she
(01:50):
had a grown person job, an ex husband, you know
what I'm saying, an apartment and he was in high school.
Like Tue was like a thing what back in the day.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
But that's our society for you, man.
Speaker 5 (02:03):
We will take something to be taboo and then make
it norm and then vice versa will flip it up
in ten twenty years and it's right.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
You know, remember back.
Speaker 5 (02:11):
In the day, they didn't even show much of a
makeout session on TV in prime time.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
That's like shit, whatever, that's that rated?
Speaker 6 (02:20):
G Right, Yeah, I came to screenplay. They didn't. They
weren't thinking about writing about, oh, this person is thirty
years old and this kid's only sixteen or something.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
But it was but it was normal. It was it
was just normal.
Speaker 6 (02:33):
I'm just saying, like, that wasn't something in the script
that they were like even thinking about. They're just like,
we were casting this beautiful, beautiful woman that could pass
or being in the early twenties, and we're not thinking
about the age gap at.
Speaker 5 (02:46):
All, because think about it, like when we we had
like some teachers at high school or whatever who who
were fresh out of college and we were about to
go to college. So you talking a five maybe six
year gap. She could have been fresh out of nursing
or college and doing her uh.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
What you call it her residency. Yeah, every I knew
you would know. We don't know. We didn't get all
the detail behind that story.
Speaker 5 (03:11):
But like, like like Mario said, it seemed weird crawl
the way I did things in life.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
Bro.
Speaker 5 (03:17):
Like I always dated older women, thinking they knew better
or they knew what they wanted, and then come to
find out it's just you just got everybody's like a
clay man. You just gotta you gotta shape them in
and figure him out. It is no exact mold to
this thing man. So older women don't know it all.
Younger women gotta figure them out. Older women, you gotta
figure them out.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
I just I don't. I just never understood, like, is
I like the older woman thing? You know? Like uh,
when I'll say, like you know, being like I've already
adult and like being interested in like an older, older woman,
you know, like if you like eighteen nineteen and she
like thirty, you know, yeah, you know what I'm saying,
(04:00):
Like how.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
They say side scooped the hot one.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
You know what I'm saying, like, well, you put that
work here?
Speaker 3 (04:06):
What did you do to her? How did you spark
her interest? You know?
Speaker 6 (04:09):
I would be your know when I was working, I
went up went to the library. I was what twenty three,
twenty four, and I was working with nothing but women
lik in the forties and fifties and sixties, and they'll
be flirting with me.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Of course because.
Speaker 5 (04:23):
They they you young man, let me show you how
to handle a Cooper dress.
Speaker 6 (04:29):
I love the way you're dressing all of it.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Well, this is uh, this is actually uh gonna segue
us into our next segment. This is a pillow talk
condition of the Good Old Boys radio show. Lots of
good uh love songs and all that type of stuff,
and we're going to talk about certain types of situations.
And the next situation that we're going to talk about
(04:51):
is how do you not bore a younger woman that
you're dating. Back on the Good Old Boys forecast, we
Radio Network talking about the pillow and the talking on
the pillow. Uh so I saw this. I saw this clip, man,
(05:12):
and this dude was with his with with his young
and and the youngin was filming herself while dude was
listening to like some Stevie Wonder plastic that jont right,
and she was like rolling her eyes and stuff the
whole time.
Speaker 5 (05:28):
Like I saw that, Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
I thought it was hilarious, man. But then they got
me to thinking, man, like, how do you like date
somebody that much younger who isn't impressed by Stevie Wonder
music and stuff like that? Because for me, if you
don't like Stevie Wonder music, I probably can't date you.
Speaker 5 (05:50):
I mean, I'm not a huge fan of Stevie. I
mean I like his music, but I mean I can't
sit here and say I have a bunch of his records,
but I can listen to some of it. But the
answer to your question, it's simply, you gotta you gotta
know some dad on Chris Breezy.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
You you you gotta know some of these.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
You don't know Chris Brown.
Speaker 5 (06:10):
But if you don't throw no Chris Brown on and
and you with this younger crowded. Even now they listening too.
I don't even know that. I can't even name these cats.
That's what's crazy. But this different type of vibe. They
rather get in a situation off of some drill music
and that puts them in the mood like you have
to learn how to navigate if you're going to that dirt.
Speaker 6 (06:33):
Yeah, you know, ain't that bad? Ain't that bad? Like that?
I mean like Friday and Tie Dollar Sign and Division
and you know there's there's people Walker snow SnO, Yeah,
(06:53):
j Eko on her like, there's a lot of people.
That's that's what it is. It's just funny common ground.
I don't want to be as the old man in
a relationship. I don't want to make it seem like
I know it all and she doesn't know anything. I mean,
we have to find common ground, and I have to
be willing to learn from her as well. Like that's
what that's what keeps it fresh in my opinion.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
Well, you know what keeping it fresh in my opinion
is to not talk to him. I ain't about to
sit here and listen to that jump man.
Speaker 5 (07:24):
See, sometimes a younger person can keep an old spirit,
you know, at baby man, like, you know, just keeping
you in touch. Like I laugh at my mom, man,
Like my mom know more about the current culture of
things that I do now cause she's dating a young dude.
Speaker 3 (07:37):
Let me throw that out. Oh oh yeah.
Speaker 5 (07:39):
But it's just it's inspiring that, you know, she she's
still in touch with what's going on because she talked
for so long, dealt with different generations of kids and
just understand what's popular at the time when I've just
moved on and just focused on what I like, you know,
So she's seen a lot of that. So it's it's
inspirational in a sense. Man, It's just a breath of
fresh air and just the taked like like Trump said,
(08:02):
you don't have to be into it, but you gotta
find that common ground in order.
Speaker 3 (08:06):
To balance it out. If that's what you choose to do.
Speaker 5 (08:08):
When you're on your own time, you still might bump
your Stevie and your Lutha and whatever else.
Speaker 3 (08:12):
But when you with her, you might have to mix
it up a little bit, you know.
Speaker 6 (08:15):
Yeah, I can't be the person that is still stuck
playing the Nintendo nes eight bit system or Second Genesis,
and then there's so many other systems that have come
out that I'm totally missing the boat on because I'm
stuck in my ways. I want to be able to watch, observe,
(08:36):
be like, yo, this looks fun. Same with kids, Like,
it's the same thing when you buy some of your
kids and they're playing it and they want you to
play as well. Then you hop on and you be like,
all right, this is kind of cool. This is much
more advanced than what I was playing thirty years ago.
It's the same thing. You just gotta be willing to adap.
Speaker 5 (08:54):
I threw on a uh it was a PlayStation two
with I had an NBA Live game right with Vince
Carter on the cover, and I'm playing that in The
graphics were so choppy in comparison to this current two
K And you know these games, you know, and I
still like the nostalgia of it, But once you play
the Pressure game, it's kind of like, you know, the
(09:16):
movement and everything is just different when you go back.
But I still like to tap into those things I got.
I got a game with Stevie Franchise on the cover. Bro,
It's just good to go back and see those teams.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
You back into, like this is like our colleges.
Speaker 5 (09:30):
Yeah, yeah, Tracy, but Grady I got I got a
bunch of old games. I want to get my PlayStation
two cracking. I got two of them, but I gotta clean.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
I watched up. I saw a video the other day.
I ain't seen it a long time. I remember when
Tracy McGrady had got ejected and was putting the basketball
and Joe he put the basketball twice in the game
and got ejected.
Speaker 6 (09:54):
Gave them the second ball, so.
Speaker 2 (09:57):
Put it the first time. They gave him a take
and somehow the ball is it up back like near
him and somebody was trying to grab him and stop it,
but he got to it again and he put the
hell out of that ball.
Speaker 6 (10:08):
I know her kitching basketballs and yeah, joint people.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
Don't be crashing out like that no more in the NBA.
And something you get suspended for like six games for
doing the letters.
Speaker 3 (10:19):
The Palace, Babe. The Palace was the last crack down.
And then Spree Well said it all off.
Speaker 6 (10:29):
Dreamond Dreamond is still nuts.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
He's crazy, yeah now, But but I'm just saying, man like,
I think that you're going to bore the younger woman like,
no matter what you end up doing, she's going to
get bored with you and and.
Speaker 5 (10:45):
That's that's the excitement too, though. Man, you you really
if you're trying to stay on your toes, you gotta
you got, like we were saying earlier, keep keeping it fresh.
I don't think they'll get bored if you just stay
on top of your game and do some of the
things that she likes us. She into you for a
reason that you you're getting played. Is she taking you
for your money or you just enjoy having a trophy
on your arm. So it's a it's a give give
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in that situation. So I don't know too many who
come together and it's some they really build from that.
But I know a couple of people who have. You know,
it's got a huge age difference between them, a huge
age gap. So it just depends on how you go
into that relationship, what you're looking for, what they're looking for.
Speaker 6 (11:24):
You just can't be stuck in your ways, as you
can't as older guy. If you're stuck in your ways,
then you're not you're not leaving things open forward growth
on either end.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
Or or or you could date somebody in your age
range and then you don't have to worry about the history.
Speaker 5 (11:41):
That's why you're looking at the younger one because you're bored,
because you're looking for something exciting or whatever.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
Whatever. Yeah, well just never know.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
We're gonna come back and we're going to talk about
the etiquette of dating while you got kids back on
the Good Old Boys four Gass Media Radio Network Pillow
Talk edition of The Good Old Boys Radio Show. You know,
we break down that good music, that good like slow
jams music for you to get it in if you
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feel like it.
Speaker 5 (12:14):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
Now, dating with kids, man, it seems to be something
that's like a lot more difficult for women than it
is for men, usually because women are the custodial parent typically.
How how do you like, like, what's the etiquette with that?
Because you got to deal with like the woman having
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to take care of child before she can like do
anything with you. What's the etiquette and take and deal
with that when you're dating a woman who has a
child or children, h.
Speaker 6 (12:49):
Bert, I don't deal with it. I just let them
whatever they need to do, like if they need to
drop their kids off to their parents and come see
me cool. I've had an occasion where the girl woman
just had a baby, like two three months ago, and
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brought the baby over to my apartment and sat the
baby on the couch and we went in a room
and did our thing. Or you know, sometimes the kids
will stay at the place and I'll be downstairs sleeping
on the couch, and she'll sneak downstairs, you know, while
the kids when the kids go to sleep. So I mean,
it's just whatever they need to do, that's not my concern.
(13:32):
I'm just trying to, you know, get me. So that's
my philosophy.
Speaker 5 (13:36):
So and I'll attest to that, like in the sense
that you initially you're watching and seeing how they're moving
with it, because like you said, it ain't your responsibility,
because it's not your responsibility if like you said, we've
spoken about it before on a different episode than the
sense that or we might have been talking about.
Speaker 3 (13:55):
It off air.
Speaker 5 (13:56):
But when we're at men at our age, if we're
going to date someone within our age range, they're probably
gonna have kids. For the most part, I'll say ninety
percent of these women are probably already having kids, you know.
So it's like that's the package deal that comes with it.
So you have to see how they're moving, and if
you can get within that, you know, because it's either
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going to be a problem or it's not going to
be a problem for you have to gauge it, you know.
But if you like them enough, then you know you're
gonna try to, you know, weave yourself into her system
and to determine if it works for you, if it's
something that you want to move forward with.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
Do you think that like women have a hard time
like juggling it though, because I've I've seen that before,
where like you want to like get time with dudes
and everything, but then like you don't want to like
feel like you're neglecting your children. So like, if it
seems like it's overall it seems harder for women to
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properly date when they have children.
Speaker 3 (14:54):
I mean, it depends on that scene.
Speaker 6 (14:57):
It depends on like all of the other variables, whether
what sort of custody situation with the father or if
there is any like usually if the father isn't involved,
and it's more difficult than it is if one week
you have the kids, next week the father has the kids.
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Then you know, every other week or two one or
two weekends a month she's free and you playing around that.
But I just think I honestly think it's harder to
date a woman with an older child than it is
today a woman with a younger child, especially like when
they're like nineteen twenty, because then they act like da'da
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grown ass man in the household and they want to
talk to you and be like all right, don't you.
Don't you be doing anything crazy with my mom, or
I'm gonna come see you. They'd be trying to threaten you.
So it's like, look, I'm just I'm chilling. Your mom
is trying to go see.
Speaker 3 (15:58):
If you babysit your brothers to shut up.
Speaker 6 (16:02):
Yeah, play your position, like one day you be in
my shoes and you totally understand. But yeah, dating dating
women with grown ass kids is more of a headache
in my opinion.
Speaker 5 (16:13):
I don't you know, not to invalidate it, it's more
like it's the same as if you got if you
have to go to work. You know, you have to
go to work. You have to provide if you're a
single parent, so you have to find that that that
balance of happy life and happy work environment, you know,
to make them work. If you're deciding to date within that,
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then again, yes, it's it's difficult it's something else you
have to juggle. But if that's something you choose to do,
then you have to figure out how it works so
that you're not stressed out or overwhelmed.
Speaker 3 (16:45):
And yes, we do feel like that. You know. Again,
we know your child or your children are going to
come first. But again, if you're trying to establish a
relationship with somebody, they have to also incorporate you and
make you feel you got to have that time to
where you're feeling special as well, not saying neglect the children,
but again you got to cater to home as well,
if that's something you're trying to engage in.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
I think that's important. And I think that a lot
of times, uh people feel like they gotta sacrifice everything. Well,
I think that you become a better parent if you
actually do spend some time for yourself and by you know,
spending time for yourself, that means going out and having
a good time with somebody that you're interested in, you know,
and like you know.
Speaker 5 (17:26):
Decompression stage at some point to get away from your
day to day or not.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
Or whatever, right because because eventually, like you get you
get tired of like just the company of this this
child now it's interesting that you bring up Trump about
uh dating uh women with adult children. I actually think
that that like from from from from my experience seeing it,
it seems like that's a lot easier when when when
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they're not when they're not living in the home. It
seems like it's a lot easier now if they're like,
if you're talking like twenty years old, they still at home,
then yeah, that's probably a prop you know, I could
definitely see that.
Speaker 3 (18:11):
Being an issue. He made job bro listen right, Yeah.
Speaker 6 (18:17):
I mean, I'm even even one of the guy that
did the prayer of my wedding. Dicon Montgomery, his wife
passed away, so he has they had grown kids, and
when he started dating, he was telling me how his
daughter especially was hard to It was hard for her
to face the fact that another woman could be taking
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her mom's place, and in some respects she was sabotaging
some of the opportunities he had. Eventually he was able
to find, you know, his current wife, and they were
able to work out you know, all of those differences.
But Nah, with grown kids, it's a pain in the hands.
Speaker 5 (19:00):
As a child, you know, it's selfish of you to
not want your mother or father be happy again. Like
it's like you want, I understand, like you feel like
somebody coming in and taking your other parents' place. But
it's not about taking their place. It's about your parent feeling,
you know, like lonely and wanting to have that companionship
if that's what they choose to do. Now again, I
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know I gave my hey man rest in peace, mister
bank head. Yo, dude, it was dating my mother back
in the day when I was like in junior high
school or whatever. I gave this man pure hell. But
that was that was again because not because I didn't
want my mama to be happy.
Speaker 3 (19:36):
It was just from my child and not understand that.
Speaker 5 (19:39):
Yeah, not understanding wondering why my dad not coming around
and this man around teaching me stuff. And you know,
before he passed away, he and I got to speak
and I say, Bro, I know I gave you hell.
Speaker 3 (19:49):
Bro, I know it, But I said, I learned a
lot from you. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5 (19:52):
He wanted to flip it on me, like I was
the reason they broke up, but I said, hey, we
grown now. I say, you dropped the ball, bro, I said,
I never heard your side of the story.
Speaker 3 (20:02):
But I heard enough, and.
Speaker 5 (20:03):
As a man now you dropped that back right right,
But yeah, you got those risks, and you just you
never know the situation with that young man and his
father and where he is and why he's coming at you.
And it's just a matter if you understand that going
into it, and you can just talk to the man,
just be like, bro, I'm just trying to get to
know you. I'm not trying to take your dad's place
and build a relationship. And that's what I've done with
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any woman that I've dated who's had children. Luckily, they've
only the youngest of my current kids now, like they
were four and five. But like then you got Mariah,
she was like eight something like that, and then that's
Shorty from I forgot her name.
Speaker 3 (20:40):
I can't think of it right now that quick.
Speaker 5 (20:41):
But when I first got to Charlotte, her kids were
like seven and nine or something like that, you know,
so I never had to deal with that older child.
But again, knowing me and how I was, I would
approach that in that manner. Again, just try to establish
these relationships with them. But you still have to cater
to the woman because that's who you're in the relationship
with You can't establish the relationship with the child and
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then neglect the woman because that's the relationship.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
Yeah, all right, we're gonna come back I one number
two and uh we're gonna talk about ego. Uh we'll
tell you all about.
Speaker 3 (21:14):
It when we come back.
Speaker 2 (21:37):
Back on a Little Boys Podcast Media Radio Network. Mario
watching that you kill us like Trump crying whize. I
guess we'll be back next week. Oh no, one need no.
I mean, like I knew, like we were pressed for time.
So that's the only reason why I didn't get you know,
I need a Baker. Hey, but Anita Baker is the
diva of all divas, as you know. So all right, uh,
(22:03):
all right, we we've did a whole show about this before,
but I can't remember exactly what y'all I was saying.
I asked Trump Trump first, Uh do you do you
ask what the body count is?
Speaker 3 (22:15):
No? KEI Nah?
Speaker 5 (22:19):
Okay, you know you know you're gonna, you know, for
your first intimacy, the first it's how you know, how
you know, listen, how that could be, that could be,
that could be one person that did all that work
to get them to where they at now. Listen, like
when you step on a basketball court, you get it.
You get this person to step on a basketball court,
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you know if that person got talent or they don't
and you don't get talent or or or or.
Speaker 2 (22:45):
You could have like had like like uh uh, like
I said, like a vast arrangement with the previous partner.
Speaker 5 (22:54):
But most people are how many people you know come
out of the gate being Jordan, you have to play
against other players to get your game up to par
like that, and most people, like imagine you remember your
first time you get.
Speaker 2 (23:07):
Up the part you can get hold on. You can
get in the par with one person one hundred thousand times.
Speaker 5 (23:12):
No, you can't, because if you're doing the same thing
with that same person, Bro, you're not learning anything new
unless you're unless you're reading.
Speaker 3 (23:19):
Comma Sutra books or or or doing different.
Speaker 5 (23:21):
Some people do that, but at this day and age, bro,
you can't even do that because a minute you come
in the bedroom with something new that that female is
gonna think you're doing something with somebody else. You can't
even try to bring something new without them thinking that
you're doing something else. So so again my whole point
is that, bro, you you can tell when someone is
being practicing and it's not the wrong with a little
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bit of experience. Because again we're gonna do like Betty
right here, I want you all to close your eyes.
Speaker 3 (23:47):
It's time. Hey.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
So all right, So next question, if it's like that,
if it's Jordan out the gate, you know what I'm saying,
Trump at thirty eight? Uh, does that hurt your ego?
Speaker 3 (24:03):
I'm thinking it's my turn. I'm not asking questions.
Speaker 5 (24:10):
I'm just thankful, you know you you go from there
being like I can't say those names on this one,
but I know a brother who's in a situation now
to where it's kind of like when when you date
somebody in your hometown, you you always have that hometown
vibe or that small town vibe or whatever, so you
know who they've been with and this and that. So
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it's harder for you to be in your hometown and
having a long term relationship with somebody from your hometown
and they've been Jordan so to speak, cause you got it.
You walk to the gas station and casts looking at
you because they don't they dounplay ball with your lady,
you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (24:47):
So it's like that's hard to do.
Speaker 5 (24:50):
But when you were, when you expand out and you
go off the school and you meet different people, you
don't necessarily know how they were when they were in
high school. You just you're accepting of what's moving forward.
You don't ask that question. Even if you go home
and Cats is talking about you might want to hope that,
but she'll be like, hey, listen, you know I was
wild back in my days or or whatever whatever, and
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it might spark some curiosity, but you're not going to
ask that question as long as it was back in
the day, you know.
Speaker 2 (25:18):
I just think that, man Like, I don't understand why
people feel like they need to know all this information
and stuff. Man Like, I don't care, you know what
I'm saying.
Speaker 5 (25:27):
Like like like some people will make a decision based
off of what they feel they know about a person,
and then and then that person has falsified that information.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
A lot of times you be wrong, you be thinking
about these things.
Speaker 6 (25:42):
I think a lot of times, just the people with
the extremely low body count that cares about how many
people the other person's been with because they made the
experience as more more of a sacred experience, whereas with
other people it's more just like you know, another day,
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day at the park, another another adventure, another ride, and
that disconnect within itself is really what opposes a problem.
Like I never go into the situation trying to find
out how experienced a person is. We just vibe and
then when we become intimate, we figure out each other's limits,
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like what how far are you gonna go? And sometimes
I've been surprised and other times i haven't been. But
I'm just gonna go with the flow. Whatever this person's
willing to do, I'm gonna let them do it, and
if it's great, I'm gonna want more the next time.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
So so so so so you know, you'd be like, WHOA,
I don't.
Speaker 3 (26:44):
I don't do that. I don't do that part, all right?
Speaker 2 (26:45):
What if?
Speaker 3 (26:46):
What if?
Speaker 2 (26:46):
What if? What if it's mid and and you were
going into it with the impression that the account was
high and then it's mid.
Speaker 6 (26:55):
I don't have those expectations, like I'm saying you, like, yeah,
it's like if I go in there expecting this person
to rock my world and she doesn't, then then yeah,
it's gonna be a negative experience. But I just think,
like I'm just thinking about Okay, I'm adding another another
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one like Khaled would say, you know, I'm not thinking
about whether it's going to be great or now. I'm
just thinking about Okay, I'm smashing this one. Let's see
how it goes, and then I'll add this person to
the rotation. Of course, this is eight to ten years
ago because I'm happily married. But yes, it's just something
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that I would never think about as far as this
person is is experienced or she's she's a virgin, or
she's laying I don't think about that like.
Speaker 5 (27:50):
So like think about it all goes down to confidence
for me. So, like you know, and you know, back
in the day, we used to lie on our stuff
or whatever whatever we tell the girl, Oh yeah, I
did this before when you was younger. Bro, you're trying
to pretend like you got a little more experienced that
you do to make that other, that girl comfortable that
you're trying to get with.
Speaker 2 (28:08):
Man, I got no game. It's just that some women
understand my story.
Speaker 5 (28:12):
I feel you on that, b I feel you all
day on that. But it's when when you're putting it
down like that. It was all to get your confidence
up and make her feel comfortable.
Speaker 3 (28:21):
So it was it was you told that lie when
and she might have been like if she was lying too,
she might his boy being with nobody.
Speaker 5 (28:29):
But you know, it's it's all about how you feel
in the moment, so that that confidence comes into play.
Speaker 3 (28:35):
I think, man, just in that regard.
Speaker 6 (28:38):
Yeah, so if a person says they have forty had
forty dudes on their belt, what is that gonna decrease
your confidence? Are you going to go in there feeling intimidated?
Speaker 2 (28:50):
I think the kids to not ask. Yeah, I don't ask,
don't tell.
Speaker 6 (28:55):
On this question.
Speaker 3 (28:56):
Healthy.
Speaker 5 (28:57):
Yeah, if you're healthy and this and that, you say,
let me see my chart. You know, if you're good
in that aspect, then it's nothing for me to worry about.
You know again, it's like if I'm into you, I'm
into you, regardless of your path.
Speaker 3 (29:11):
You know what I'm saying. All Right, we're.
Speaker 2 (29:14):
Gonna come back. We're gonna talk about whether or not
social media is killing relationships.
Speaker 3 (29:20):
Killing is dead, like Uncle CJ would say, kill it dead.
Speaker 2 (29:26):
Back on the Go Old Boys, Forecast Media Radio Network,
the Mario Watch the Kittles like Trump. All right, So, uh,
y'all know how much I hate social media. I can't
stand social media, bro, is it killing relationships? Because one
thing that I always like would encourage people to do,
do not be friends on Facebook. Don't follow on Instagram
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the person that you're in a relationship with because you're
going to see some stuff and you're gonna misinterpret some
things sometimes and then it's gonna cause riffs in the
relationship ship because you're think it's something and that is nothing,
you know what I mean.
Speaker 5 (30:04):
So like thinking nothing, I'm just saying, you gotta communicate this,
communicate it, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (30:11):
It's what people do.
Speaker 5 (30:12):
Yeah, things and they can be misinterpreted on there, they
can't you know. Yeah, it's it's a social platform at
the end of the day. But you know, again, you
can't be mad at if if if a bunch of
people say oh hey beautiful, hey gorgeous, that's cool. It's
just the other comments to get out of pocket, you
know what I'm saying. But again, it's about checking those
You can't you can't sit there and be like get
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upset about everything.
Speaker 3 (30:35):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5 (30:35):
That's crazy to me, you know, But like you said,
some people, why this person like your picture?
Speaker 3 (30:40):
Oh my god, it's social media.
Speaker 5 (30:42):
It's public, you know, Come on, man, yeah, I mean.
Speaker 3 (30:47):
I think he's killing though I go ahead, my bad.
Speaker 6 (30:50):
Now I under saying I don't. I don't think social
media is killing relationships. I think the way a person
behaves on social media is the same way they behave
at work, same way they behave, same way they behave
at the grocery store. There's no difference. It's just that
you can see see them, see them communicating or I guess,
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disrespecting your relationship publicly.
Speaker 3 (31:15):
But I mean the right there, it's that public part
of it.
Speaker 5 (31:18):
If you if you run into such and such at
the grocery store, and whoever shooting they shot at the
grocery store, how you handle it is how you handle it.
But it still needs to be handled either way. You know,
if it's on a social platform, it needs to be
handled there as well because other people see it in
the misinterpretation comes.
Speaker 2 (31:35):
Yeah, but I but that's the thing, man, like you know,
like if you if you, if you like, if you're
on like let's say you're on Instagram or something and
your girl posting thirst traps, and then the same dude
is always with the hard eyes underneath the picture and stuff, man,
Like I don't want to see that jump.
Speaker 3 (31:54):
I don't.
Speaker 5 (31:55):
I told like I told my sister in law one time,
like you got the prize though that's that's.
Speaker 2 (32:00):
No, That's what I'm saying. But like but I don't.
Speaker 3 (32:01):
I don't care to see it.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
So like why like like go ahead and do your thing,
man like like that's fine, man, Like you know what
I'm saying, she coming, she come in here. You know,
you're just talking wasting your breath, you know what I'm saying,
Like you know, but but yeah, yeah, but I mean.
Speaker 3 (32:16):
But it's funny. You can't. You can put hard eyes
all day. That's cool. Now you're talking about like no.
Speaker 2 (32:24):
Just no, no, no, no, no, I want a third strap.
Could be anything like dudes like like like because this
is this is I ain't gonna lie. This is why
I had to stop posting pictures on Facebook.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
Man.
Speaker 2 (32:40):
I'm just saying like comments like inappropriate comments would show
up on like the bottom of picture sometimes.
Speaker 3 (32:47):
Man.
Speaker 5 (32:47):
Really and I had that bro like like real real, I.
Speaker 2 (32:51):
Mean, you ain't swamming sexey like me do whatever?
Speaker 5 (32:56):
Like I've never had that though, Like seriously, they're crazy thing.
Somebody ever said it wasn't even crazy. It was like
when we took our first uh oh yeah yeah, somebody
was like, oh you modeling now, nah, you know that
ain't so.
Speaker 2 (33:10):
So people people was in my inbox asking about you
though that time. So they talking no no, no no no
no no no no no no. These are people that
like like like for whatever reason, like didn't reach out
to you, but reached out to me to talk to you.
Speaker 5 (33:26):
Oh but again it wasn't on my page.
Speaker 2 (33:30):
I don't even think you have maybe you didn't have
Facebook at the time or something.
Speaker 6 (33:34):
When we first like it would just be met you
and feet.
Speaker 2 (33:40):
Okay, yeah, yeah, that's what it was.
Speaker 6 (33:43):
It was about eight years right, and then he popped up.
Speaker 2 (33:52):
Yeah Zach, Nah, but I will say, man, like just
stay off of social media. That joint came't nothing but
the devil, bro, nothing but the devil.
Speaker 5 (34:01):
I mean bro with the fact like if we sit
here talking now about this, it'll pop up on the
timeline about what we're talking about now. Of course, it's
crazy in that aspect algorithm and stuff.
Speaker 2 (34:13):
It's like just like if you like, if you look
at a picture of a big booty girl on Instagram
for three seconds, all you get in your feed now
is big Booty girls.
Speaker 3 (34:23):
Yeah. Yeah, don't ask me how.
Speaker 2 (34:26):
I don't know because I don't have Instagram.
Speaker 3 (34:29):
Sure telling me I need to post something on Instagram.
I don't have no posts, man.
Speaker 5 (34:34):
I just be on there liking stuff and viewing through
and stuff and gotta contact.
Speaker 2 (34:39):
I mean, y'all lucky I still got Facebook.
Speaker 3 (34:41):
Dog.
Speaker 2 (34:45):
All Right, We're gonna come back and we're gonna talk
about whether or not black men get the space to
heal before they date or the full length version of
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we're going to talk about this in a future episode
(35:07):
of the show, man, but I wanted to get your
thoughts on it, you know now, on this one, uh,
because I think this is something that's that's that's lesson,
that's real. Do black men really get the space to
heal from a previous relationship before they date? Because I
think that like people feel like they got to rush
into something new like hardcore and don't give themselves time
(35:32):
enough to actually heal. Because I think that one of
the biggest problems with with with black men in America
is that we don't get a chance to talk about
the stuff that is troubling us. And typically when you're
in a relationship, the person that you're in a relationship
is that that that person ends up being like the
sounding board that you can talk to and stuff, and
(35:54):
then that person goes away. Now you don't have that anymore,
and then you're going to a new relationship, and then
after a couple of weeks, now you're like making that
person to sound aboard. So do we give ourselves enough
time to heal.
Speaker 5 (36:05):
A lot of us, don't I read somewhere before, like
they said, if you were in a five year relationship,
then you need to give yourself at least two and
a half years to figure out what it is you
did wrong in that to kind of heal yourself within
that process before you that's a long time, b it is.
Speaker 3 (36:26):
But that's just just.
Speaker 5 (36:27):
Something I read or I don't know where I came
about it, but that was the information I gathered that.
So basically, give yourself half of the time of that
relationship to kind of not you know, you can be
dating but not getting into anything serious to allow yourself
time to view what was done, how you can move
forward in the next one so that you're not carrying
that baggage to your current partner and taking stuff out
(36:49):
on them that it was from the last relationship. So
you know, prior to this relationship, bro my longest relationship
was like three years maybe you know. So I've always
given myself time before I jumped into something. But as men,
we've always been taught what the best way to get
over somebody is to get under somebody, right, So you
try to try to mask that hurt by simply doing
(37:11):
what we were taught to do or what we think
is good, and then end up in a relationship with
that very person and it becomes toxic and you got
the same cycle of okay, boom, I'm in this one
for two two and a half years, ended it because
you have it healed from the one that was prior
to that. So again, it's very important I think for
you to take time out evaluate yourself and figure out
(37:31):
what went wrong in prior ones or heal yourself if
you got to do counseling or whatever.
Speaker 3 (37:35):
It may be. Before you move forward.
Speaker 5 (37:38):
You gotta be real with yourself and hold yourself accountable
and not just when you start talking to people and
they'd be like, so, what happened to your last relationship? Oh,
that mother wasn't about nothing, or that girl ain't about this,
and Okay, what did you do? I had to really
ask myself that at one point, you know, like cause
I noticed this accountability. Yeah, I noticed a pattern and
what I was doing, so I tried to change things up,
(37:59):
you know what I'm saying. So it's just not just men,
but everybody should do that at some point.
Speaker 6 (38:05):
Yeah, I mean, I think part of having that space,
like you, it has to be valuable. You can just
take take a break from dating. You have to have
people that you can talk to openly and talk about
what went wrong, what you did wrong, what they did wrong,
(38:25):
what you can do better, and and then then you
can start to move forward and look for what you're
really what you're compatible with, who you're compatible with. I'd say,
I think I'm blessed to where I have. You know,
a lot of people I can go to and a
lot of people come to me whenever they're going through
(38:47):
a breakup or the relationship is rocky, and we can
have open, honest conversations and put people in place, or
tell them that you know, just be give it time,
or be like, yo, you know, I'm praying for you,
but you know I'm staying out of this. And sometimes
(39:09):
that's that's necessary as well. It's like, don't tell everybody everything.
Keep some things. You just have to live and learn
and figure it out because some people aren't going to
have your best interests either. I don't think there's a
template to this, like you just have to You just
have to gain those experiences. That's what life is about.
It is about experiences, and you know, what the previous
(39:32):
person went through isn't necessarily what you're going through or
will go through, right, So I think it's about living
and learning.
Speaker 5 (39:39):
I think you said it bro like just being real
with yourself, like having a good circle of friends and
people you can talk to in those friends I just
told somebody is recently like in the sense of like
you don't tell the story to.
Speaker 3 (39:53):
Get allies and whatnot.
Speaker 5 (39:54):
You know what I'm saying, to make yourself look good
in the situation, because, like you said, you not holding
yourself accountable and figuring out what you can do to
better yourself. When you tell a story like that or
that person. They wasn't about nothing. They just blase blase
bly without holding yourself accountable. So when you're seeking advice
for your friends and telling your friends or whomever you know,
what took place, you should be trying to gather like, Okay,
(40:16):
what can I do differently? How could I move differently?
Versus just tell that.
Speaker 3 (40:20):
Somebody Oh, man, I did this, I did that. Man,
she's stupid and blase blase bly. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5 (40:27):
You ain't really telling the story. You ain't trying to
learn nothing from the situation.
Speaker 2 (40:31):
Yeah, well I do think that, like, you know, like
taking accountability is the most important thing I think that
that we have to do. Like I really like despise
hearing people going through breakups and then they everything is
the other person's fault.
Speaker 3 (40:50):
Yeah, and then.
Speaker 2 (40:50):
They never take any accountable, like because it takes two
people for fail it ain't like one person that Like
even if somebody like was you know, out here doing
whatever and stuff, man, like, well why what did you do?
Like you know what I'm saying, Like because sometimes it's
it's something that's within you, you know what I mean, Like
part why yeah, yeah, yeah, And we'll see you on
(41:14):
the radio.
Speaker 3 (41:14):
Next week, be out this movie.
Speaker 6 (41:17):
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