November 18, 2025 • 43 mins
On this episode of The Good Ole Boys Radio Show, the guys tap in with some grown-man talk about aging out of the chase. They break down why so many men hit 40 and decide they’re done running behind women—and start protecting their peace instead.
They dive into how priorities shift from “spreading seed” to protecting assets, time, and mental health; why men become more selective while some women become less so; and how self-worth and reciprocity change the dating game. The crew talks about spotting red flags faster, refusing to waste time on chaos, and why purpose, legacy, and peace of mind hit harder than nightlife and numbers.
Along the way, they touch on Outkast’s Rock & Roll Hall of Fame induction, the difference between being “OG” and “Unc,” and why real companionship has to add value—not stress.
It’s funny, honest, and all the way actual factual… just how the Good Ole Boys do it.
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They dive into how priorities shift from “spreading seed” to protecting assets, time, and mental health; why men become more selective while some women become less so; and how self-worth and reciprocity change the dating game. The crew talks about spotting red flags faster, refusing to waste time on chaos, and why purpose, legacy, and peace of mind hit harder than nightlife and numbers.
Along the way, they touch on Outkast’s Rock & Roll Hall of Fame induction, the difference between being “OG” and “Unc,” and why real companionship has to add value—not stress.
It’s funny, honest, and all the way actual factual… just how the Good Ole Boys do it.
Don't forget to subscribe and share!
Check out the music version featuring music from The Roots, TLC, D’Angelo, Prince and more on our mixcloud channel mixcloud.com/fourcastmedia/ and on pushplaypods.com/thegoodoleboys/
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:34):
From Fanfact South Carolina to bue for northbroto Beach, New
York City, Florence, Columbia and back here and Rock Hills,
South Carolina and Charlotte, North Carolina metropolitan Area. We are
the Good Old Boys on the Forecast Media Radio Network
with the Mario Washington, Q.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
Kittles, Black Trump, Grand Wiz.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Yes, back in the house. One spare talking about that
actual factual as only the Good Old Boys know how
to bring it to you. This week we're talking about aging,
but in a good way.
Speaker 4 (01:02):
Yeah, we'll sound like like Quirky off of that old
show when he came in with his introduction.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
He's like, is like in the world, Bro, they don't
know what what's a show called Life Goes On or
something like that?
Speaker 4 (01:17):
I think so yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
Yeah, see agent making a reference to a show that
was on in nineteen eighty eight is being old.
Speaker 4 (01:31):
Yeah, I think I'm I'm I'm og. I'm past the
unk stage out here in these streets now, hey.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Man, Like I like to hear it, Like, I'd rather
hear the young bucks call me O g then for
them to call me uk man. Unk sounds so old.
Speaker 5 (01:47):
Broh, No, that sounds like the cool uncle, the cool og. Yeah,
that's how it sounds to me, old.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Like old man. I don't like I wouldn't like that,
old man. Yeah, old man.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Yeah, wellps like pops Pops sounds old too.
Speaker 4 (02:10):
Matter. Yeah, I'm still remember I can move. I can
go out here and play ball with some cats. You know,
I ain't saying I won't be hurting afterwards, but I
can still move out there. And nah, I'm not no
pop show. I take O Gito man, because I'm an
offer of game. You know, I got game for these
young bucks.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
We as we we're talking about why men stop chasing
when they reach the age of forty, and what we
mean by chasing is that we ain't running behind no
women after we get to age forty and basically until
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like you, you got to you gotta make this worth
my time now, as opposed to when you were in
your teens and in your twenties and even somewhere in
your thirties, you're willing to play the game and run
behind people. But at this stage that we're all in
in life, it seems like you just tie it of
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all of that.
Speaker 4 (03:14):
I think it's the majority too in that aspect and
what you're referring to. There are a few people who
you might you ever spoke to a younger person, and
you know they're young by the way they look, but
yet their mannerisms and some of their actions, you can say, hey,
you was raised by your grandmother, wasn't you? Or you
was raised by your grandfather. There are a handful of
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people who grasp some things a little bit earlier in life.
But today's show it sounds like we're going to be
on a majority of the folks. Like you say, around
that thirty five forty ish, you know, you start grasping
life and understanding how things actually work, regretting that you
didn't listen to your parents a little bit sooner about
certain things. But yeah, yeah.
Speaker 5 (04:00):
You think as men get older, we become more selective,
but as women get older, they become less selective.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
So that's a great point because I think that you're
one hundred percent correct because in the early days of
courtship and stuff, when we're younger, women are looking for
somebody that can provide support, you know, somebody that they
can build a life with and all of this type
of stuff, and men at that age, I think are
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more inclined to be thinking about how they're going to
spread their seed, right, And I think as you age
and you have established yourself somewhat now as a man,
you're starting to think about do I want to share
everything that I've built with this person because I put
in all this work and effort, and now I got
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to share with this person, and I don't know if
want I want to make sure that this person is
worthy of me sharing all of this with them. I
think you're one hundred percent correct about that. That they ship, yeah,
and they don't need to support anymore because they've established themselves.
So now they're just out here looking to have fun
the way that we were looking to have fun when
we were in our twitties.
Speaker 4 (05:14):
But I think some of the women that like, like
Trump was saying, like they they he said, they're not
as selective in the sense because they were chasing the
guys like you're saying, they were looking for somebody to
support them and do all of that. I think they
were looking for the guy that made them look good
as well, you know, like the whole the cheerleader in
the jock syndrome and and just what what can you
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do for me? Like that? That dialogue has not changed
over time. I think it's still that dynamic. And you see,
like a lot of people like if you weren't that
the guy that was pushing weight or or had the
you know, the parents who were making decent money, you
were still with the average folks. You were still looked
at as I I don't know, he just average, and
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a lot of girls overlooked that when you get older
start to figure out things, and stuff starts connecting for
us as men. I think Trump you may have said
it on a previous show, like women want the finished product.
They not looking for somebody that's building. So when they
look at that that dope dealer, it's pushing the Burretto
or whatever car was hot at the time. Oh I'm
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gonna come to the game, and that they're not looking
for the dude that's going to McDonald's every Wednesday, Thursday,
and Friday and on the weekends, trying to establish himself
and build a future. But then they want you later
down the road.
Speaker 6 (06:30):
Who's the drug dealer? That hurts you?
Speaker 7 (06:32):
Because you mentioned this scenario like the ninety seven times
in the history of this show.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
Hey, listen, and it hurt me.
Speaker 4 (06:40):
It's just I mean, it's just like you rapped about
what he saw in the streets of la I just
seen it so many times, and I'm sure other brothers
have seen it.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
And when as I can guarantee you if somebody you
had your eye on that was sneaking out with the
drug dealer at five o'clock after school, though, guarantee like
I had, and you had to better hurt. But that's
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what we're talking about today. We're talking about when you
hit forty and you finally know what disrupts your lifestyle
and you stop letting that crap in. And we're gonna
talk about that throughout today's program. We'll start it off
with my man common. This is called love is and
it's zero. I was about to say in the bedroom,
but it's not the bedroom. The Good Ol Boys Radio
(07:36):
Show back on the Good Ole Boys four Gas Media
Radio Network talking about man stopping that chase once they
become forty years old. Now it's a value shift. My
piece cost me a lot more nowadays.
Speaker 4 (07:56):
Right.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
And we're basing this off of like a video that
uh that that that I stumbled across and uh and
the video says that the biggest, the biggest reason why
I messed up chasing is because the piece becomes priceless.
Do you agree with that?
Speaker 4 (08:14):
Oh, don't jump in at once everybody, like, uh, I
do agree, you know, just just growing up man, you
you you I tie it into it, like I think
we Again, We've spoken about this topic in so many
different ways, but it's kind of like the locker room
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thing where you're trying to impress folks. Uh, going off
to school, where you're constantly around people, whether you know, women,
your homeboys, everything you're doing. You're going to lunch, you're
seeing a group of people together. And in your early
twenties and thirties, you're going to work where you're around
a group or a mass of people on a regular basis.
(08:57):
As you tend to get older, you know, you may
move up within the company, you're not around as many
people you might have your own office secluded in the
corner somewhere. You're at smaller meetings, you're just not within
that the mass of people, as they say, on the yard,
so to speak. You know, so you start to value
your piece in the time that you have to do
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what you enjoy doing. And I think that just comes
with age and it ties into your relationship, personal and
business life. Just as we get older, we realize that
we don't have to impress the masses, or we don't
have to do anything to quote unquote keep up with
the Joneses. You know, it's just a matter of what
can I do to get from A to B. I've
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made it to be. Now let me set some other
short term goals and long term goals. And you're trying
to accomplish that versus worrying about who's in your bed
and what bar are you going out to this week?
Or you know, it's just that just becomes futile.
Speaker 3 (09:52):
Bro.
Speaker 5 (09:53):
Yeah, I think what like a name of the Immature album,
what's called playtime is over as you get older. That's
indeed the case. Playtime is over. Like you go from
like having time to just play around and do whatever
you want to transition, transitioning to the point where everyone
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depends on you. Like the people that you could count on,
like your parents and aunts and uncles, they're much older
and in some cases you're taking care of them. You
have kids, you have to raise them. So it's that
paradigm shift from like needing people to the one that
people rely on. And when you have time for yourself,
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you're going to be protective of it. You're going to
do the things you like. You're going to turn your
phone off or only talk to a handful of people,
because everybody wants either your time or your money, and
those are the two culprits that take away your piece
is time and money. So yeah, I just think it's
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it's that shift that playtime is pretty much over well.
Speaker 6 (11:07):
I think I.
Speaker 7 (11:10):
Think that men at that point start to realize that
how stupid women are that they've been chasing, and how
stupid the idea of chasing women are. They start to
realize how stupid the whole game is and how stupid
all the players involved are. Because now it happened to
me around that same aage too, when I started to
realize lying to a woman is stupid. It's best if
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I just tell her the truth and then she can
either get with it or not. And in a lot
of cases they actually like me more when I just
tell the truth. Because I told the truth, they start
to We start to realize how stupid it is to
be chasing a woman when we can simply be ourselves
and force women to come to us. So I think
we realize that we don't need everybody. Uh not everybody
(11:58):
is valuable, not every women is valuable, so we tend
to just only go with the women that are valuable.
An example of that in practical terms in the real
world is when I don't even ask women for their
phone numbers. I just give them mind and say call me.
And I might even say call me at a certain time,
and if they don't call me, I might not even
answer if they don't call me in a certain time.
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So what that does is it weeds out the women
who I'm not supposed to be with, the ones that
aren't valuable. And we have a certain piece in that
because we realize how stupid the old way was.
Speaker 4 (12:32):
Do You don't want to say stupid, but it is
though in a sense, I think after my first major
breakup with somebody where I dated someone for an extensive
amount of time and your boy was crushed. And it
was like I realized in that moment, like I put
a lot of energy into that relationship and I didn't
(12:54):
really cater to other relationships in my life, family, friends,
and I kind of put a lot of things on
the back burner. And then when that relationship was over,
it was like, dang, I'm trying to reach out to
I'm calling my mother more, I'm reaching out to my
sister and call it other family members and friends I
haven't spoke to in a while. Not that I neglected them,
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but I did, you know what I'm saying. So I
realized at that moment that you do have to have
a balance of it all. It has to be something
you can't give yourself all to one person and let that,
you know, be your whole, your everything, so to speak.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
I do feel like at as we age, we don't
want emotional instability in our lives and we don't like
chaos as we age, whereas we kind of thrive over
these things in our younger age. And I think that
that's one of the things, because you start experiencing different
things and then that teaches you. I don't need this
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in my life, and that causes us, I think, to
be able to like make better choices with who we
decide to let into our lives.
Speaker 3 (13:59):
Yeah, we work hard.
Speaker 4 (14:00):
You can still enjoy the volcano from Afar. You don't
have to walk up on the volcano to know us
a volcano. You know, you can go, oh, that's beautiful,
the ashes from way over there where you're somewhere saying
at peace.
Speaker 3 (14:13):
Yeah, we work hards.
Speaker 4 (14:14):
Just a beautiful thing and you want to get into it.
Speaker 5 (14:17):
But yeah, yeah, we work hard just to alleviate the
unnecessary and put ourselves in a position to where we
can like sit and smoke a cigar or you know,
have a drink, or go hang out with the fellas,
watch football or or read a book. Like those are
the moments, whether it's just thirty minutes a day or
(14:38):
an hour like that's that's like it's like an energy drink.
It just rejuvenates you. And like without that, especially with
everything that we deal with on a daily basis, sometimes
you know, it's hard to it's hard to just live
your life to the fullest.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
Right, we're going to come back and we're going to
talk about self worth. This is outcast liberation outcasts? What
do they do recently? Trump?
Speaker 5 (15:09):
Well, I mean, they're the greatest hip hop group of
all time and they got recognized.
Speaker 3 (15:13):
They are.
Speaker 5 (15:16):
Forever enshrined in the walls of the rock and roll
Hall of Fame, well deserved. The South has something to say,
and boyd, did they not lie. And for those that
are going after Stacks for not performing, like, leave that
man alone. He's contributed enough. Stop pressuring him to make
(15:37):
another album like he's left us with like for five albums, right,
four of them classics.
Speaker 4 (15:46):
And then a linger in your head for an hour
kind of sour, take a shower, being your nerves and
that man is protected his piece.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
How about that?
Speaker 5 (15:55):
But so, if anything, just give him, just give him
love and thank him for you know what he's contributed
to our culture over the last thirty years.
Speaker 6 (16:04):
But I know two people that say Little Kim is
a better rapper.
Speaker 2 (16:09):
For those people are insane. Back on the Little Boys
four Gas Media Radio Network talking about why men stop
chasing once they reach the age of forty, and we
talk about self worth. Now, men stop competing for women
who don't bring value back right, and that scarcity mindset
(16:33):
disappears one of the things that we used to talk
about back in the day. We had to start telling
each other, there's plenty of efficient to see, there's a
lot more women out here than there are men, all
kinds of stuff like that, Right, We kind of stop
doing that as we age because we don't care about
all the multitude of women. We just want to find
(16:56):
one that actually works out with you know what I mean.
And I think that you start understanding that, Wait a minute,
why am I treating this person like they're the prize
when I'm the prize because I'm the one that's scarce.
It's less good men out here than there are good women.
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And I think that that's something that we develop as
we age, something that we don't quite understand in our twities.
And I think that as we age, women in our
age range don't understand why if we have that shift advice,
do you agree.
Speaker 4 (17:35):
Because we just like, we just don't. We don't care
anymore in that sense, you know, like we're not trying
to aim to please or like you're saying, like it's
not like we feel like, oh man, if I don't
do this, man, I ain't gonna have another chance, or
I ain't gonna find nobody else to be a man.
Like you said, we the prized, like it's like cool.
(17:56):
If you don't, then I'm gonna chase this bag. I'm
gonna do what I need to do because I understand
what needs to be done in order for me to
be successful. And it shouldn't be so hard to to
get someone on that level with you or whatever. They
should They should be wanting to go just as hard
as you to do what they need to do in
their lives. And you should be coming together and it
should be a genuine thing. And you guys work. It
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shouldn't be that much work to make the relationship itself work.
So we just a lot of men are just tired, like, hey,
it is what it is, so.
Speaker 5 (18:28):
Did you So for a lot of women, a lot
of women don't chase men and they feel like they're
the prize. And if men feel like they're the prize
as well, how how does a successful, happy couple come
from that? If both sides are thinking they're the prize
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and one side doesn't chase.
Speaker 4 (18:52):
Let me say this with your what your comment is?
The women they they are it's like they're living in
the matrix. They feel like that because they have a
thousand and so many people online gassing them up that
they have no access to.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
But you also, I can walk.
Speaker 4 (19:11):
I can walk to the walmart and meet a lady
coming out of church mine. I don't have to be
online with filters and whatever else that they're utilizing to
get lights and thinking that they're getting gassed. Oh I
could this, and I can that, or everybody want me no,
But you're in the matrix, shorty. But but as being,
we can go to the church, we can go to
(19:31):
a basketball game. In reality, we can get these women, y'all.
I can have your auntie, the niece, the grandmama. At
the age that we're at, we can do that, And
a lot of these women can't because they got filters
and a lot of fake stuff. But they're not out
there in the real world doing it.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
Like what what you're talking about, Trump, I think is
I think that you're talking about women who are much younger,
and then they maintain that idea even into their thirties
and forties and fifties that they're still the prize. When
I think that there's a shift where they aren't a
prized anymore as much as they were when they were younger,
but they it was drilled into them so much. This
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is what Wiz often talks about about how men gas
women up at such a young age and stuff, and
then that never leaves them and they're looking for that
comparison even when they start dating into their forties.
Speaker 6 (20:24):
Right, Whiz, yeah, it does it?
Speaker 3 (20:26):
Does? You know this?
Speaker 7 (20:29):
You're exactly right. And I think the women thinking that
they're a prized is I think that's like a really
really silly thing, because you know, if you have to
do a whole lot of work to make yourself desirable,
how valuable are you? You know, as like Hugh Kittles
just said, he can just go to Walmart and get
a woman coming out of there, But the women has
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to go has convinced herself to seneze, to put on
fake eyelashes, fake fingernails, a wig and a fake butt
and makeup to make yourself remotely desirable. And even then
that desire is mainly just for her vagina. It will
be there even if she had no head. So I
wonder how valuable are you really?
Speaker 4 (21:11):
And I think to your point as well, excuse me,
like I think some of the older women that have
that mentality they don't think they're the prized anymore because
of just what Wiz just said. These younger girls, for one,
they're not taking care of themselves like the older generation
of women. Did you know. You'll see a girl in
her twenties that has two kids and looks terrible, body
(21:35):
just all everywhere, and you'll see an older woman who's
actually taking care of herself because she has that old
school mentality, but she's also aware of the times, and
in the sense of that, like what Wiz was saying,
these young girls are saying, Okay, I ain't got to
go to the gym, I'm gonna go get a BBL.
Or you may have women who go to the gym
and these other women saying, okay, in order for me
(21:57):
to keep up or even compete, there are certain things
that I have to do just to be on that
that wavelength to have a guy even look in my direction.
So it's it's not all of them. I don't want
to make it seem like we are right bash y'all,
but you know it's it's a it's a the majority
still wins in the same area.
Speaker 5 (22:15):
And I would say quickly that. I mean, even when
I was like still dating. A lot of times it
would be you know, like just the other the woman
initiating a conversation with me, like to me that that
doesn't mean that I think I'm the prize, but it
shows that you know, this person's attentive and like she's
(22:36):
actually engaged in wanting to, you know, get to know
me or asking how I'm doing. So then that that
motivates me to put forth an effort. And I think
a lot of women that think they're the prized, they
just feel like you all say, they don't have to
do anything. They don't care about how you're doing, your
well being or nothing. It's just what can you do
(22:57):
for me?
Speaker 4 (22:58):
Right? Because when they make you feel like you're special
or just like they're not even special, when they showing
a genuine interest like you're speaking on, it makes you,
as a man, just simply want to do things and
want to be around them because of that that simple feeling.
You know, it's just but they all it's like somebody
always wants more, But just that simple feeling makes us
(23:20):
want to do better, makes us want to be better,
and they don't understand that sometime.
Speaker 2 (23:24):
We're gonna come back and we're gonna talk about how
we don't like wasting our time. As we age back
on to go to Wars four Gas Media Radio Network.
(23:46):
While you're watching it, Ju Kitto's Black Trump and Grand
Wiz and we're talking about how we stop chasing after
the age of forty. Now, we have touched on this
a bit throughout today's show, and we talked about how
we don't want to waste our time. We're trying to
preserve our energy and put our energy towards things that
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matter the most in our lives, like health and purpose
and getting money and building a legacy and stuff like that,
and chasing seems to become inefficient. It's not worth the
emotional output that it takes to chase. And I also
(24:30):
think that we stop chasing because we've already seen the
outcomes because of our experiences. So, Trump, you talked about
the process of dating, and I remember having conversations with
you and there were multiple times when you like stop
(24:50):
seeing somebody because you knew that you were going to
be wasting your time if you continue to see them.
Speaker 3 (24:55):
Correct, Oh, without a doubt.
Speaker 5 (25:00):
I think like when you're you're going through the screening
process of you know, talking to people and like every
you can't waste any any moment, whether it's just the
messaging or the initial conversation, just to evaluate like how
this person fits into your orbit. And yeah, there was
a lot of times where it just seemed like, you know,
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this person will be a head case or they're gonna
their their expectations are going to be through the roof,
and we weren't aligning on certain things. So what I'm
going to say is, for me, spontaneity is the devil.
I cannot function under spontaneity. Like I have to know
(25:50):
what's going on when, so I can prepare my schedule
around that. Like if someone reaches out to me last
man's like, oh, let's go do this in like ten minutes,
I'm gonna be like nah, because I'm already I already
made my mind up that I'm going to do this
or I'm going to do nothing, because you have to
prepare to do nothing as well. So that's that's my
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my mindset when it comes to time.
Speaker 4 (26:18):
I don't mind a little sponsoreity though. That's the excitement
and the thrill. You know. Again, it has to be
some sort of structure, like you know, the chaotic you know,
organization of things. But but like you're saying, it's like
a I like to say I'm an extroverted introvert because
(26:38):
I like to be out. I like to do things.
But at the same time, I like to just sit
down and chill by myself sometimes. But if somebody called,
be like, you know what, I was going to sit
here and just chill out. I might just go out
and have a drink to see what's cracking. If Mario
calls up, if somebody calls, I'm like, hey, okay, you
know what, Yeah, I'll slide out for a minute. But
it's not all the time. I can't base my life
(26:58):
on this. And just even in a relationship, part of
it is to drive with an.
Speaker 2 (27:03):
Introverted extrovert things And what you said just now, it's
only like probably like fifteen of y'all that to call
me and pulled me out the house. And that's a lot.
I see, that's a lot, man. But like you know,
everybody knows who they are, man, Like it just happened
this past weekend. Shout out to the shot us like
(27:26):
I got me out the house. You know what I'm saying,
But you know other people can't. And because time is
so valuable. And I've said this a million times. I
don't know y'all heard me say this. There is nothing
worse to me. It's my number one pet peeve in life,
wasting my time because we don't get that jump back, man,
I'm not sitting here wasting my time talking to somebody
who ain't added no value to my life.
Speaker 4 (27:47):
Yep.
Speaker 6 (27:48):
People don't like having that time wasted.
Speaker 7 (27:50):
So I think the smart women that we speak of
understand where the real value lies. And it's not in
the hair and the makeup and the butt and stuff
like that. It's another thing that are more intangible, like conversation, uh,
support uh, support of your your goals, support of your
piece and stuff like that, you know, being a homemaker
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and stuff like that. We tend to value stuff like
that more as we age because we start to realize
what really matters and the stuff that we thought mad
at before we realize it's just frivolous.
Speaker 6 (28:21):
So people who are.
Speaker 7 (28:22):
Still chasing the frivolous stuff, we look at them more
as a waste of time because they're wasting their time.
Speaker 6 (28:27):
So we don't like that.
Speaker 4 (28:30):
Yeah, uh, you ever you ever think about like guys
who just be somewhere and it's like they are you
saying they tired of the chase, but yet you you
still don't want to do anything else because you also
like the aspect or the idea of the companionship.
Speaker 2 (28:49):
I think that, yeah, for sure, Like I think that,
you know, like if you you look for companionship, but
then like also like if you if that can ship
isn't like adding value, then it becomes worthless. Like if
you if if you want this person around and stuff
for their conversation, their sex, all of this stuff, if
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one of those things isn't like seemingly adding value to
your life, man, You're not going to continue to have
that there because you would rather spend that time by yourself. Man.
Like you know, before before y'all hopped on the call
to day, I was telling Trump how I'm much rather
sit sit at the house, turn on the TV, watch football,
have a couple of drinks, smoke a cigar, take a nap.
(29:38):
You know what I'm saying, Like all that type of stuff. Man,
Like if you if you can't, yeah exactly, but if
you can't make me enjoy be with your company more
than me having the company of myself. And I'm not
coming in.
Speaker 5 (29:50):
See you, and there's a reliability fact that I know
where I can find you. Just like when I was
younger and I was living North Carolina, we would come
home to Buford, we would go visit my great grandmother
and great grandfather. Every time we would visit, my great
grandfather would be sitting in the same chair watching Westerns,
(30:13):
gun smoking Bonanza.
Speaker 3 (30:14):
Every time, like no doubt.
Speaker 5 (30:18):
Yeah, and yeah, I think I think that's that provides
security in a relationship, Like you can depend on this
person to be in this spot, doing this all all
the time.
Speaker 3 (30:29):
There's never any question.
Speaker 2 (30:31):
Yeah, uh, we're gonna come back. We're gonna talk about
how experience makes us smarter, back going to go Told Boys,
Forecast Media Radio Network, talking about how we stop that chase.
So experience makes me smarter now because of our life experiences,
(30:53):
because we've dealt with all of the non sets and everything,
it seems like we can spot the red flags a
whole lot faster and we aren't paying. It's such a
tower intuition where you see somebody and be like, Nope,
that looks good right there, but Nope, that's gonna be
a problem right there. And then like all of a sudden,
like I had this conversation this weekend where like you
(31:13):
look at somebody who used to you used to find attractive,
and then you'd be like, she don't look that good.
But then you realize it ain't that she don't look good,
It is that you know other stuff about her that
makes her not look good to you. If you start
losing that attraction, I think that's something that comes with age, man.
Speaker 4 (31:33):
Because as young men, we put women up on a pedestal. Man,
Like he's saying, it's just that to gain that attention
from your homies, to say that you conquered this, and
you want to tell everybody. But like you said, with age,
cous peace comes wisdom. You recognize things a little bit sooner,
and you start to sift through certain questions before you
(31:53):
even put yourself in a situation with somebody who got
crazy eyes, so to speak, like New Orleans. You know,
you start looking at pictures and recognize crazy in people.
But all it take, or all it took, as Wiz
used to tell us, all the time, ask a thousand
questions at them, first two dates or so, man, and
you can, you know, whist through a lot, sit through
(32:14):
a lot of the crazy stuff without even having to
deal with it. But I don't say necessarily just seeing
a red flag and running. It's seeing that red flag
and as a grown man, recognizing what you see and
starting to pose up your questions or set up your
questions around that to see if if that red flag
is indeed a red flag or is it a yellow flag?
(32:35):
Is it okay to go? Was it just a glimpse
of something that you thought was there but it was
It's you really have to ask these other questions and
layers of questions to understand people and not just throw
folks in a box or a certain category because of
your past traumas you know. But as men, you do
that because we're thinking, well, we're not just thinking with
(32:57):
the other head, you know. We looking at it like, okay,
what's the future? What else lies there besides its beauty.
Speaker 7 (33:03):
I don't think we care about the red flags when
we're younger because we don't have as many options. But
when you get older, you have more options because you
realize there are more women than you thought when you
were sixteen or twenty four. There's way more women out
there now, so we got more options. We can be more,
we can be more choosy. And we also understand the
(33:24):
detriment of the red flags is greater than we ever thought,
because now we got a lot more to lose.
Speaker 3 (33:31):
Because we're no longer thirsty.
Speaker 4 (33:33):
Listen when I was seventeen.
Speaker 5 (33:34):
We're no longer thirsty, butdhounds. You know, We're not like
any woman that passes by. We're not like salivating at
the mouth to be like, yo, I gotta get at that.
I gotta holler at ten to twenty people in the club.
I gotta smash one hundred and fifty women. Like just that,
that energy and that desire to score, Like it's just
(33:55):
like the NBA. Like you reach a point where Bradley
Beal had an injury and his career is probably in question.
Speaker 3 (34:04):
Moving forward.
Speaker 5 (34:04):
A few years ago he was leaning ambien scoring. Now
he can he can barely get on the court. So
it's the same with with men in our forties and fifties,
Like we get to that point where we're tired of playing,
tired of being on the court.
Speaker 4 (34:19):
Remember we used to go to the mall, and this
is before cell phones. That we get back all of us,
it'd be five of us go to the mall, crapped
up in Accura or something. How many numbers you get?
How many numbers you got? You know what I'm saying,
That was just the thing to do. And and but
back to what We's was saying, Like when I was
sixteen seventeen, bro, I was it was still an abundance
(34:40):
to me from the world that I saw because I
played ball. He had girls from different schools, cheerleaders, ball
played six foot since I got my car, and let's
not forget about that on the roll, Bro, Well.
Speaker 7 (34:52):
You know, I actually disagree with Trump here because my
equipment still works. So I don't think it's that we
all get old and broken down like Bradley Beal. I
think it's more a more accurate description would be we
become like we reached the realization of how to impact
the game, like Tim Duncan and.
Speaker 6 (35:13):
Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant.
Speaker 7 (35:15):
Did you know in the beginning, Michael was averaging thirty
five points a game, but then he started to realize,
I don't need to be scoring every time. I can wait.
Like bj Armstrong said in the Last Dance, Jordan didn't
play basketball until the fourth quarter when it was time
to win. He realized he could impact the game and
conserve himself more for what's most valuable. And I think
(35:37):
that's what we do, is as we age, we can
serve ourselves more for what's most valuable. We realize a
lot of these chicken heads walking around in the first
and the second quarter are not what's most valuable, so
we can serve our energy for what is when we
get to that fourth quarter.
Speaker 2 (35:51):
It's basically that our wisdom outweighs our hormones as we age,
and we're not chasing in the same place.
Speaker 4 (36:02):
Like I think we mentioned it before the scenario from
uh it's a thin line. Still see stuff, you know,
but it's not about chasing it, and like, oh man,
I need to I need to get that. We still
see it. We recognize beauty and everything.
Speaker 2 (36:15):
We're just smarter today though, so because we're not about
to be out here again abused by people just because
they know that we're interested in them. So it's not
gonna happen.
Speaker 4 (36:27):
And we've read books and know the stats on a
STDs and everything.
Speaker 2 (36:31):
We're gonna come back and we're gonna talk about how
purpose outweighs pursuit or the full left version of the
Good Old Boys Radio Show. Follow us on Big Cloud
or check us out on pushplaypods dot Com. Back on
the Good Old Boys Forecast Media Radio Network talking about
how we stop that chasing at the age of forty.
I think this is the biggest point that the video made,
(36:55):
is that we start searching for our purpose a whole
lot more were as we age, and chasing women pretty
much falls completely off of the list of priorities, and
our focus start shifting on our careers, our health, if
we have children, children, trying to get to financial freedom
(37:18):
and being grounded. And I think that as as I've aged,
this has always been my thing, but I've I've I
desire reciprocity in all of our relationships with with with everybody,
like friends, family, relationships, whatever it might be. I need
to know that you feel the same way about me
(37:40):
that I feel about you. And I think that if
you don't see that earlier on, it makes you quit
and you start moving on. And because you rather like
spend that energy on people that are pouring it back
into you. I don't feel like I'm off base with that, right.
Speaker 5 (38:01):
Well, I mean, I think a lot of times you
just you don't have time for everybody or everything. So
in some cases you want to give other people more time,
but there's just not enough time of to day, like
to squeeze in phone calls to the homies or flying
home and spending time with loved ones and things of
(38:22):
that nature. Like I would love to do that, I
just can't and it's something I regret. I wish I could.
Speaker 3 (38:30):
So I don't know.
Speaker 4 (38:37):
Yeah, I posted something about that not too long ago. Man,
Just you know, like you say, the real heads know that,
you know, we out here, we live in life and
and and sometimes you know, I may not know what's
going on on your side of things. You may have
family stuff you're dealing with and hadn't even had a
chance to tap in with me on that particular topic.
(38:57):
But you know, the love is real with those is
real with you know. And it's like at any given time,
we can go months without talking to each other or
seeing each other, and when we all tap in, it's
like a homecoming event, bro, Like you know, we're gonna
go out to eat, we gonna drink and chop it
up and there's no love loss. You know, at the
end of the day, I feel like I could call
any of y'all if I needed to, because again I
(39:19):
know as a man, I'm trying not to, and I
know we all have that same mentality and trying to
handle our business and stuff like that. So yeah, if
I can count on you, you can always count on me
and show those who know know it.
Speaker 3 (39:30):
Man.
Speaker 2 (39:32):
Always, I thought you was gonna jump in there.
Speaker 6 (39:34):
No, I said, five minutes. I think it just no.
Speaker 2 (39:39):
We still got a couple of times minutes left.
Speaker 4 (39:41):
Man.
Speaker 2 (39:41):
But I just think that, like, our focus has to
always be as we age on, it has to be
building me. And like I think, I don't know, maybe
I reached maturity on this stuff a long time ago,
and I realized that I I only wanted people around
me that were an addition to my life. And oftentimes,
(40:08):
if you're dating, it feels like those people are a
drain on your life more than they are adding to
your life. And for women, if you want to be
successful in dating a man, the easiest thing I can
tell you to do is to make that man feel
(40:29):
like you're pouring into him, whether that's emotionally physically, just
do something for that man so that man feels like
you're reciprocating what he's doing. For you, because men have
been trained their entire lives to pour into the woman,
and I don't think that women have been taught that.
Women have been taught to receive, and then they have
(40:51):
to learn, they have to adjust on the fly on
how to pour back into the man. And that's something
that happens. I think after they get married and they
start learning that, Okay, he's going to be this way
if I do this and stuff like that. But I
think that if you're dating, start doing that early enough
so the man can recognize it. Because I'm telling you
(41:11):
right now, then eight walking away from you for no reason.
You might not know why they walking away, and they
may not be able to verbalize why they're walking away,
but there's a reason why they're walking away.
Speaker 4 (41:27):
Because they bored. And you're doing the same thing you
was doing from the Da giddio, and you're not adding
those spontaneity to it. You're not doing something different to
keep that man and that man, like you were just saying,
how he's constantly pouring into you, Well, if that's what
he's always done and he's no longer getting anything from you,
that all he wants to do is, well, let me
pour into somebody else to try to get that feeling
(41:49):
that he's being missing.
Speaker 5 (41:50):
So like we're in this current chapter, so looking down
the road when we're seventy eighty is old. Do you
do you feel like it's going to be the same,
god willing, same outlook or is it going to revert
back to is there a prize when you're seventy or eighty?
(42:12):
Like are men the prize or women the prize? Are
we just trying to just wake up and see the
next day, Like what what's the outlook? What's the outlook
for that?
Speaker 2 (42:22):
Yeah? Peace of mind is the prize that that that's it,
piece of I've watched a many through that every day
you know, for you know, he dad has people off
just so he can have peace. And he's in the seventies.
It's all he cares about now. And he was one
that was chasing, but he cut a lot of people off.
Speaker 3 (42:44):
Man.
Speaker 4 (42:45):
And I like some excitement, but you know, when it
comes to your everyday life, man, piece is everything. You know,
I want to have that choice to say, Okay, I
don't have that year around you right correct, I don't
have to do this. But again, I like excitement, and
like I said, spontaneity is just something with me. I
don't know if there's some Capricorn stuff or what, but well, like.
Speaker 2 (43:05):
I just want to say this to close out. We
don't stop chasing women because we give up. We stop
because we grow up. That's the difference. And we'll see
you on the radio next week and we
Speaker 6 (43:16):
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Speaker 2 (00:50):
Yes, back in the house. One spare talking about that
actual factual as only the Good Old Boys know how
to bring it to you. This week we're talking about aging,
but in a good way.
Speaker 4 (01:02):
Yeah, we'll sound like like Quirky off of that old
show when he came in with his introduction.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
He's like, is like in the world, Bro, they don't
know what what's a show called Life Goes On or
something like that?
Speaker 4 (01:17):
I think so yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
Yeah, see agent making a reference to a show that
was on in nineteen eighty eight is being old.
Speaker 4 (01:31):
Yeah, I think I'm I'm I'm og. I'm past the
unk stage out here in these streets now, hey.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Man, Like I like to hear it, Like, I'd rather
hear the young bucks call me O g then for
them to call me uk man. Unk sounds so old.
Speaker 5 (01:47):
Broh, No, that sounds like the cool uncle, the cool og. Yeah,
that's how it sounds to me, old.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Like old man. I don't like I wouldn't like that,
old man. Yeah, old man.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Yeah, wellps like pops Pops sounds old too.
Speaker 4 (02:10):
Matter. Yeah, I'm still remember I can move. I can
go out here and play ball with some cats. You know,
I ain't saying I won't be hurting afterwards, but I
can still move out there. And nah, I'm not no
pop show. I take O Gito man, because I'm an
offer of game. You know, I got game for these
young bucks.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
We as we we're talking about why men stop chasing
when they reach the age of forty, and what we
mean by chasing is that we ain't running behind no
women after we get to age forty and basically until
(02:49):
like you, you got to you gotta make this worth
my time now, as opposed to when you were in
your teens and in your twenties and even somewhere in
your thirties, you're willing to play the game and run
behind people. But at this stage that we're all in
in life, it seems like you just tie it of
(03:11):
all of that.
Speaker 4 (03:14):
I think it's the majority too in that aspect and
what you're referring to. There are a few people who
you might you ever spoke to a younger person, and
you know they're young by the way they look, but
yet their mannerisms and some of their actions, you can say, hey,
you was raised by your grandmother, wasn't you? Or you
was raised by your grandfather. There are a handful of
(03:37):
people who grasp some things a little bit earlier in life.
But today's show it sounds like we're going to be
on a majority of the folks. Like you say, around
that thirty five forty ish, you know, you start grasping
life and understanding how things actually work, regretting that you
didn't listen to your parents a little bit sooner about
certain things. But yeah, yeah.
Speaker 5 (04:00):
You think as men get older, we become more selective,
but as women get older, they become less selective.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
So that's a great point because I think that you're
one hundred percent correct because in the early days of
courtship and stuff, when we're younger, women are looking for
somebody that can provide support, you know, somebody that they
can build a life with and all of this type
of stuff, and men at that age, I think are
(04:32):
more inclined to be thinking about how they're going to
spread their seed, right, And I think as you age
and you have established yourself somewhat now as a man,
you're starting to think about do I want to share
everything that I've built with this person because I put
in all this work and effort, and now I got
(04:52):
to share with this person, and I don't know if
want I want to make sure that this person is
worthy of me sharing all of this with them. I
think you're one hundred percent correct about that. That they ship, yeah,
and they don't need to support anymore because they've established themselves.
So now they're just out here looking to have fun
the way that we were looking to have fun when
we were in our twitties.
Speaker 4 (05:14):
But I think some of the women that like, like
Trump was saying, like they they he said, they're not
as selective in the sense because they were chasing the
guys like you're saying, they were looking for somebody to
support them and do all of that. I think they
were looking for the guy that made them look good
as well, you know, like the whole the cheerleader in
the jock syndrome and and just what what can you
(05:37):
do for me? Like that? That dialogue has not changed
over time. I think it's still that dynamic. And you see,
like a lot of people like if you weren't that
the guy that was pushing weight or or had the
you know, the parents who were making decent money, you
were still with the average folks. You were still looked
at as I I don't know, he just average, and
(05:59):
a lot of girls overlooked that when you get older
start to figure out things, and stuff starts connecting for
us as men. I think Trump you may have said
it on a previous show, like women want the finished product.
They not looking for somebody that's building. So when they
look at that that dope dealer, it's pushing the Burretto
or whatever car was hot at the time. Oh I'm
(06:19):
gonna come to the game, and that they're not looking
for the dude that's going to McDonald's every Wednesday, Thursday,
and Friday and on the weekends, trying to establish himself
and build a future. But then they want you later
down the road.
Speaker 6 (06:30):
Who's the drug dealer? That hurts you?
Speaker 7 (06:32):
Because you mentioned this scenario like the ninety seven times
in the history of this show.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
Hey, listen, and it hurt me.
Speaker 4 (06:40):
It's just I mean, it's just like you rapped about
what he saw in the streets of la I just
seen it so many times, and I'm sure other brothers
have seen it.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
And when as I can guarantee you if somebody you
had your eye on that was sneaking out with the
drug dealer at five o'clock after school, though, guarantee like
I had, and you had to better hurt. But that's
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what we're talking about today. We're talking about when you
hit forty and you finally know what disrupts your lifestyle
and you stop letting that crap in. And we're gonna
talk about that throughout today's program. We'll start it off
with my man common. This is called love is and
it's zero. I was about to say in the bedroom,
but it's not the bedroom. The Good Ol Boys Radio
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Show back on the Good Ole Boys four Gas Media
Radio Network talking about man stopping that chase once they
become forty years old. Now it's a value shift. My
piece cost me a lot more nowadays.
Speaker 4 (07:56):
Right.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
And we're basing this off of like a video that
uh that that that I stumbled across and uh and
the video says that the biggest, the biggest reason why
I messed up chasing is because the piece becomes priceless.
Do you agree with that?
Speaker 4 (08:14):
Oh, don't jump in at once everybody, like, uh, I
do agree, you know, just just growing up man, you
you you I tie it into it, like I think
we Again, We've spoken about this topic in so many
different ways, but it's kind of like the locker room
(08:36):
thing where you're trying to impress folks. Uh, going off
to school, where you're constantly around people, whether you know, women,
your homeboys, everything you're doing. You're going to lunch, you're
seeing a group of people together. And in your early
twenties and thirties, you're going to work where you're around
a group or a mass of people on a regular basis.
(08:57):
As you tend to get older, you know, you may
move up within the company, you're not around as many
people you might have your own office secluded in the
corner somewhere. You're at smaller meetings, you're just not within
that the mass of people, as they say, on the yard,
so to speak. You know, so you start to value
your piece in the time that you have to do
(09:18):
what you enjoy doing. And I think that just comes
with age and it ties into your relationship, personal and
business life. Just as we get older, we realize that
we don't have to impress the masses, or we don't
have to do anything to quote unquote keep up with
the Joneses. You know, it's just a matter of what
can I do to get from A to B. I've
(09:38):
made it to be. Now let me set some other
short term goals and long term goals. And you're trying
to accomplish that versus worrying about who's in your bed
and what bar are you going out to this week?
Or you know, it's just that just becomes futile.
Speaker 3 (09:52):
Bro.
Speaker 5 (09:53):
Yeah, I think what like a name of the Immature album,
what's called playtime is over as you get older. That's
indeed the case. Playtime is over. Like you go from
like having time to just play around and do whatever
you want to transition, transitioning to the point where everyone
(10:15):
depends on you. Like the people that you could count on,
like your parents and aunts and uncles, they're much older
and in some cases you're taking care of them. You
have kids, you have to raise them. So it's that
paradigm shift from like needing people to the one that
people rely on. And when you have time for yourself,
(10:40):
you're going to be protective of it. You're going to
do the things you like. You're going to turn your
phone off or only talk to a handful of people,
because everybody wants either your time or your money, and
those are the two culprits that take away your piece
is time and money. So yeah, I just think it's
(11:03):
it's that shift that playtime is pretty much over well.
Speaker 6 (11:07):
I think I.
Speaker 7 (11:10):
Think that men at that point start to realize that
how stupid women are that they've been chasing, and how
stupid the idea of chasing women are. They start to
realize how stupid the whole game is and how stupid
all the players involved are. Because now it happened to
me around that same aage too, when I started to
realize lying to a woman is stupid. It's best if
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I just tell her the truth and then she can
either get with it or not. And in a lot
of cases they actually like me more when I just
tell the truth. Because I told the truth, they start
to We start to realize how stupid it is to
be chasing a woman when we can simply be ourselves
and force women to come to us. So I think
we realize that we don't need everybody. Uh not everybody
(11:58):
is valuable, not every women is valuable, so we tend
to just only go with the women that are valuable.
An example of that in practical terms in the real
world is when I don't even ask women for their
phone numbers. I just give them mind and say call me.
And I might even say call me at a certain time,
and if they don't call me, I might not even
answer if they don't call me in a certain time.
(12:20):
So what that does is it weeds out the women
who I'm not supposed to be with, the ones that
aren't valuable. And we have a certain piece in that
because we realize how stupid the old way was.
Speaker 4 (12:32):
Do You don't want to say stupid, but it is
though in a sense, I think after my first major
breakup with somebody where I dated someone for an extensive
amount of time and your boy was crushed. And it
was like I realized in that moment, like I put
a lot of energy into that relationship and I didn't
(12:54):
really cater to other relationships in my life, family, friends,
and I kind of put a lot of things on
the back burner. And then when that relationship was over,
it was like, dang, I'm trying to reach out to
I'm calling my mother more, I'm reaching out to my
sister and call it other family members and friends I
haven't spoke to in a while. Not that I neglected them,
(13:14):
but I did, you know what I'm saying. So I
realized at that moment that you do have to have
a balance of it all. It has to be something
you can't give yourself all to one person and let that,
you know, be your whole, your everything, so to speak.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
I do feel like at as we age, we don't
want emotional instability in our lives and we don't like
chaos as we age, whereas we kind of thrive over
these things in our younger age. And I think that
that's one of the things, because you start experiencing different
things and then that teaches you. I don't need this
(13:51):
in my life, and that causes us, I think, to
be able to like make better choices with who we
decide to let into our lives.
Speaker 3 (13:59):
Yeah, we work hard.
Speaker 4 (14:00):
You can still enjoy the volcano from Afar. You don't
have to walk up on the volcano to know us
a volcano. You know, you can go, oh, that's beautiful,
the ashes from way over there where you're somewhere saying
at peace.
Speaker 3 (14:13):
Yeah, we work hards.
Speaker 4 (14:14):
Just a beautiful thing and you want to get into it.
Speaker 5 (14:17):
But yeah, yeah, we work hard just to alleviate the
unnecessary and put ourselves in a position to where we
can like sit and smoke a cigar or you know,
have a drink, or go hang out with the fellas,
watch football or or read a book. Like those are
the moments, whether it's just thirty minutes a day or
(14:38):
an hour like that's that's like it's like an energy drink.
It just rejuvenates you. And like without that, especially with
everything that we deal with on a daily basis, sometimes
you know, it's hard to it's hard to just live
your life to the fullest.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
Right, we're going to come back and we're going to
talk about self worth. This is outcast liberation outcasts? What
do they do recently? Trump?
Speaker 5 (15:09):
Well, I mean, they're the greatest hip hop group of
all time and they got recognized.
Speaker 3 (15:13):
They are.
Speaker 5 (15:16):
Forever enshrined in the walls of the rock and roll
Hall of Fame, well deserved. The South has something to say,
and boyd, did they not lie. And for those that
are going after Stacks for not performing, like, leave that
man alone. He's contributed enough. Stop pressuring him to make
(15:37):
another album like he's left us with like for five albums, right,
four of them classics.
Speaker 4 (15:46):
And then a linger in your head for an hour
kind of sour, take a shower, being your nerves and
that man is protected his piece.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
How about that?
Speaker 5 (15:55):
But so, if anything, just give him, just give him
love and thank him for you know what he's contributed
to our culture over the last thirty years.
Speaker 6 (16:04):
But I know two people that say Little Kim is
a better rapper.
Speaker 2 (16:09):
For those people are insane. Back on the Little Boys
four Gas Media Radio Network talking about why men stop
chasing once they reach the age of forty, and we
talk about self worth. Now, men stop competing for women
who don't bring value back right, and that scarcity mindset
(16:33):
disappears one of the things that we used to talk
about back in the day. We had to start telling
each other, there's plenty of efficient to see, there's a
lot more women out here than there are men, all
kinds of stuff like that, Right, We kind of stop
doing that as we age because we don't care about
all the multitude of women. We just want to find
(16:56):
one that actually works out with you know what I mean.
And I think that you start understanding that, Wait a minute,
why am I treating this person like they're the prize
when I'm the prize because I'm the one that's scarce.
It's less good men out here than there are good women.
(17:17):
And I think that that's something that we develop as
we age, something that we don't quite understand in our twities.
And I think that as we age, women in our
age range don't understand why if we have that shift advice,
do you agree.
Speaker 4 (17:35):
Because we just like, we just don't. We don't care
anymore in that sense, you know, like we're not trying
to aim to please or like you're saying, like it's
not like we feel like, oh man, if I don't
do this, man, I ain't gonna have another chance, or
I ain't gonna find nobody else to be a man.
Like you said, we the prized, like it's like cool.
(17:56):
If you don't, then I'm gonna chase this bag. I'm
gonna do what I need to do because I understand
what needs to be done in order for me to
be successful. And it shouldn't be so hard to to
get someone on that level with you or whatever. They
should They should be wanting to go just as hard
as you to do what they need to do in
their lives. And you should be coming together and it
should be a genuine thing. And you guys work. It
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shouldn't be that much work to make the relationship itself work.
So we just a lot of men are just tired, like, hey,
it is what it is, so.
Speaker 5 (18:28):
Did you So for a lot of women, a lot
of women don't chase men and they feel like they're
the prize. And if men feel like they're the prize
as well, how how does a successful, happy couple come
from that? If both sides are thinking they're the prize
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and one side doesn't chase.
Speaker 4 (18:52):
Let me say this with your what your comment is?
The women they they are it's like they're living in
the matrix. They feel like that because they have a
thousand and so many people online gassing them up that
they have no access to.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
But you also, I can walk.
Speaker 4 (19:11):
I can walk to the walmart and meet a lady
coming out of church mine. I don't have to be
online with filters and whatever else that they're utilizing to
get lights and thinking that they're getting gassed. Oh I
could this, and I can that, or everybody want me no,
But you're in the matrix, shorty. But but as being,
we can go to the church, we can go to
(19:31):
a basketball game. In reality, we can get these women, y'all.
I can have your auntie, the niece, the grandmama. At
the age that we're at, we can do that, And
a lot of these women can't because they got filters
and a lot of fake stuff. But they're not out
there in the real world doing it.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
Like what what you're talking about, Trump, I think is
I think that you're talking about women who are much younger,
and then they maintain that idea even into their thirties
and forties and fifties that they're still the prize. When
I think that there's a shift where they aren't a
prized anymore as much as they were when they were younger,
but they it was drilled into them so much. This
(20:11):
is what Wiz often talks about about how men gas
women up at such a young age and stuff, and
then that never leaves them and they're looking for that
comparison even when they start dating into their forties.
Speaker 6 (20:24):
Right, Whiz, yeah, it does it?
Speaker 3 (20:26):
Does? You know this?
Speaker 7 (20:29):
You're exactly right. And I think the women thinking that
they're a prized is I think that's like a really
really silly thing, because you know, if you have to
do a whole lot of work to make yourself desirable,
how valuable are you? You know, as like Hugh Kittles
just said, he can just go to Walmart and get
a woman coming out of there, But the women has
(20:50):
to go has convinced herself to seneze, to put on
fake eyelashes, fake fingernails, a wig and a fake butt
and makeup to make yourself remotely desirable. And even then
that desire is mainly just for her vagina. It will
be there even if she had no head. So I
wonder how valuable are you really?
Speaker 4 (21:11):
And I think to your point as well, excuse me,
like I think some of the older women that have
that mentality they don't think they're the prized anymore because
of just what Wiz just said. These younger girls, for one,
they're not taking care of themselves like the older generation
of women. Did you know. You'll see a girl in
her twenties that has two kids and looks terrible, body
(21:35):
just all everywhere, and you'll see an older woman who's
actually taking care of herself because she has that old
school mentality, but she's also aware of the times, and
in the sense of that, like what Wiz was saying,
these young girls are saying, Okay, I ain't got to
go to the gym, I'm gonna go get a BBL.
Or you may have women who go to the gym
and these other women saying, okay, in order for me
(21:57):
to keep up or even compete, there are certain things
that I have to do just to be on that
that wavelength to have a guy even look in my direction.
So it's it's not all of them. I don't want
to make it seem like we are right bash y'all,
but you know it's it's a it's a the majority
still wins in the same area.
Speaker 5 (22:15):
And I would say quickly that. I mean, even when
I was like still dating. A lot of times it
would be you know, like just the other the woman
initiating a conversation with me, like to me that that
doesn't mean that I think I'm the prize, but it
shows that you know, this person's attentive and like she's
(22:36):
actually engaged in wanting to, you know, get to know
me or asking how I'm doing. So then that that
motivates me to put forth an effort. And I think
a lot of women that think they're the prized, they
just feel like you all say, they don't have to
do anything. They don't care about how you're doing, your
well being or nothing. It's just what can you do
(22:57):
for me?
Speaker 4 (22:58):
Right? Because when they make you feel like you're special
or just like they're not even special, when they showing
a genuine interest like you're speaking on, it makes you,
as a man, just simply want to do things and
want to be around them because of that that simple feeling.
You know, it's just but they all it's like somebody
always wants more, But just that simple feeling makes us
(23:20):
want to do better, makes us want to be better,
and they don't understand that sometime.
Speaker 2 (23:24):
We're gonna come back and we're gonna talk about how
we don't like wasting our time. As we age back
on to go to Wars four Gas Media Radio Network.
(23:46):
While you're watching it, Ju Kitto's Black Trump and Grand
Wiz and we're talking about how we stop chasing after
the age of forty. Now, we have touched on this
a bit throughout today's show, and we talked about how
we don't want to waste our time. We're trying to
preserve our energy and put our energy towards things that
(24:08):
matter the most in our lives, like health and purpose
and getting money and building a legacy and stuff like that,
and chasing seems to become inefficient. It's not worth the
emotional output that it takes to chase. And I also
(24:30):
think that we stop chasing because we've already seen the
outcomes because of our experiences. So, Trump, you talked about
the process of dating, and I remember having conversations with
you and there were multiple times when you like stop
(24:50):
seeing somebody because you knew that you were going to
be wasting your time if you continue to see them.
Speaker 3 (24:55):
Correct, Oh, without a doubt.
Speaker 5 (25:00):
I think like when you're you're going through the screening
process of you know, talking to people and like every
you can't waste any any moment, whether it's just the
messaging or the initial conversation, just to evaluate like how
this person fits into your orbit. And yeah, there was
a lot of times where it just seemed like, you know,
(25:25):
this person will be a head case or they're gonna
their their expectations are going to be through the roof,
and we weren't aligning on certain things. So what I'm
going to say is, for me, spontaneity is the devil.
I cannot function under spontaneity. Like I have to know
(25:50):
what's going on when, so I can prepare my schedule
around that. Like if someone reaches out to me last
man's like, oh, let's go do this in like ten minutes,
I'm gonna be like nah, because I'm already I already
made my mind up that I'm going to do this
or I'm going to do nothing, because you have to
prepare to do nothing as well. So that's that's my
(26:12):
my mindset when it comes to time.
Speaker 4 (26:18):
I don't mind a little sponsoreity though. That's the excitement
and the thrill. You know. Again, it has to be
some sort of structure, like you know, the chaotic you know,
organization of things. But but like you're saying, it's like
a I like to say I'm an extroverted introvert because
(26:38):
I like to be out. I like to do things.
But at the same time, I like to just sit
down and chill by myself sometimes. But if somebody called,
be like, you know what, I was going to sit
here and just chill out. I might just go out
and have a drink to see what's cracking. If Mario
calls up, if somebody calls, I'm like, hey, okay, you
know what, Yeah, I'll slide out for a minute. But
it's not all the time. I can't base my life
(26:58):
on this. And just even in a relationship, part of
it is to drive with an.
Speaker 2 (27:03):
Introverted extrovert things And what you said just now, it's
only like probably like fifteen of y'all that to call
me and pulled me out the house. And that's a lot.
I see, that's a lot, man. But like you know,
everybody knows who they are, man, Like it just happened
this past weekend. Shout out to the shot us like
(27:26):
I got me out the house. You know what I'm saying,
But you know other people can't. And because time is
so valuable. And I've said this a million times. I
don't know y'all heard me say this. There is nothing
worse to me. It's my number one pet peeve in life,
wasting my time because we don't get that jump back, man,
I'm not sitting here wasting my time talking to somebody
who ain't added no value to my life.
Speaker 4 (27:47):
Yep.
Speaker 6 (27:48):
People don't like having that time wasted.
Speaker 7 (27:50):
So I think the smart women that we speak of
understand where the real value lies. And it's not in
the hair and the makeup and the butt and stuff
like that. It's another thing that are more intangible, like conversation, uh,
support uh, support of your your goals, support of your
piece and stuff like that, you know, being a homemaker
(28:12):
and stuff like that. We tend to value stuff like
that more as we age because we start to realize
what really matters and the stuff that we thought mad
at before we realize it's just frivolous.
Speaker 6 (28:21):
So people who are.
Speaker 7 (28:22):
Still chasing the frivolous stuff, we look at them more
as a waste of time because they're wasting their time.
Speaker 6 (28:27):
So we don't like that.
Speaker 4 (28:30):
Yeah, uh, you ever you ever think about like guys
who just be somewhere and it's like they are you
saying they tired of the chase, but yet you you
still don't want to do anything else because you also
like the aspect or the idea of the companionship.
Speaker 2 (28:49):
I think that, yeah, for sure, Like I think that,
you know, like if you you look for companionship, but
then like also like if you if that can ship
isn't like adding value, then it becomes worthless. Like if
you if if you want this person around and stuff
for their conversation, their sex, all of this stuff, if
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one of those things isn't like seemingly adding value to
your life, man, You're not going to continue to have
that there because you would rather spend that time by yourself. Man.
Like you know, before before y'all hopped on the call
to day, I was telling Trump how I'm much rather
sit sit at the house, turn on the TV, watch football,
have a couple of drinks, smoke a cigar, take a nap.
(29:38):
You know what I'm saying, Like all that type of stuff. Man,
Like if you if you can't, yeah exactly, but if
you can't make me enjoy be with your company more
than me having the company of myself. And I'm not
coming in.
Speaker 5 (29:50):
See you, and there's a reliability fact that I know
where I can find you. Just like when I was
younger and I was living North Carolina, we would come
home to Buford, we would go visit my great grandmother
and great grandfather. Every time we would visit, my great
grandfather would be sitting in the same chair watching Westerns,
(30:13):
gun smoking Bonanza.
Speaker 3 (30:14):
Every time, like no doubt.
Speaker 5 (30:18):
Yeah, and yeah, I think I think that's that provides
security in a relationship, Like you can depend on this
person to be in this spot, doing this all all
the time.
Speaker 3 (30:29):
There's never any question.
Speaker 2 (30:31):
Yeah, uh, we're gonna come back. We're gonna talk about
how experience makes us smarter, back going to go Told Boys,
Forecast Media Radio Network, talking about how we stop that chase.
So experience makes me smarter now because of our life experiences,
(30:53):
because we've dealt with all of the non sets and everything,
it seems like we can spot the red flags a
whole lot faster and we aren't paying. It's such a
tower intuition where you see somebody and be like, Nope,
that looks good right there, but Nope, that's gonna be
a problem right there. And then like all of a sudden,
like I had this conversation this weekend where like you
(31:13):
look at somebody who used to you used to find attractive,
and then you'd be like, she don't look that good.
But then you realize it ain't that she don't look good,
It is that you know other stuff about her that
makes her not look good to you. If you start
losing that attraction, I think that's something that comes with age, man.
Speaker 4 (31:33):
Because as young men, we put women up on a pedestal. Man,
Like he's saying, it's just that to gain that attention
from your homies, to say that you conquered this, and
you want to tell everybody. But like you said, with age,
cous peace comes wisdom. You recognize things a little bit sooner,
and you start to sift through certain questions before you
(31:53):
even put yourself in a situation with somebody who got
crazy eyes, so to speak, like New Orleans. You know,
you start looking at pictures and recognize crazy in people.
But all it take, or all it took, as Wiz
used to tell us, all the time, ask a thousand
questions at them, first two dates or so, man, and
you can, you know, whist through a lot, sit through
(32:14):
a lot of the crazy stuff without even having to
deal with it. But I don't say necessarily just seeing
a red flag and running. It's seeing that red flag
and as a grown man, recognizing what you see and
starting to pose up your questions or set up your
questions around that to see if if that red flag
is indeed a red flag or is it a yellow flag?
(32:35):
Is it okay to go? Was it just a glimpse
of something that you thought was there but it was
It's you really have to ask these other questions and
layers of questions to understand people and not just throw
folks in a box or a certain category because of
your past traumas you know. But as men, you do
that because we're thinking, well, we're not just thinking with
(32:57):
the other head, you know. We looking at it like, okay,
what's the future? What else lies there besides its beauty.
Speaker 7 (33:03):
I don't think we care about the red flags when
we're younger because we don't have as many options. But
when you get older, you have more options because you
realize there are more women than you thought when you
were sixteen or twenty four. There's way more women out
there now, so we got more options. We can be more,
we can be more choosy. And we also understand the
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detriment of the red flags is greater than we ever thought,
because now we got a lot more to lose.
Speaker 3 (33:31):
Because we're no longer thirsty.
Speaker 4 (33:33):
Listen when I was seventeen.
Speaker 5 (33:34):
We're no longer thirsty, butdhounds. You know, We're not like
any woman that passes by. We're not like salivating at
the mouth to be like, yo, I gotta get at that.
I gotta holler at ten to twenty people in the club.
I gotta smash one hundred and fifty women. Like just that,
that energy and that desire to score, Like it's just
(33:55):
like the NBA. Like you reach a point where Bradley
Beal had an injury and his career is probably in question.
Speaker 3 (34:04):
Moving forward.
Speaker 5 (34:04):
A few years ago he was leaning ambien scoring. Now
he can he can barely get on the court. So
it's the same with with men in our forties and fifties,
Like we get to that point where we're tired of playing,
tired of being on the court.
Speaker 4 (34:19):
Remember we used to go to the mall, and this
is before cell phones. That we get back all of us,
it'd be five of us go to the mall, crapped
up in Accura or something. How many numbers you get?
How many numbers you got? You know what I'm saying,
That was just the thing to do. And and but
back to what We's was saying, Like when I was
sixteen seventeen, bro, I was it was still an abundance
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to me from the world that I saw because I
played ball. He had girls from different schools, cheerleaders, ball
played six foot since I got my car, and let's
not forget about that on the roll, Bro, Well.
Speaker 7 (34:52):
You know, I actually disagree with Trump here because my
equipment still works. So I don't think it's that we
all get old and broken down like Bradley Beal. I
think it's more a more accurate description would be we
become like we reached the realization of how to impact
the game, like Tim Duncan and.
Speaker 6 (35:13):
Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant.
Speaker 7 (35:15):
Did you know in the beginning, Michael was averaging thirty
five points a game, but then he started to realize,
I don't need to be scoring every time. I can wait.
Like bj Armstrong said in the Last Dance, Jordan didn't
play basketball until the fourth quarter when it was time
to win. He realized he could impact the game and
conserve himself more for what's most valuable. And I think
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that's what we do, is as we age, we can
serve ourselves more for what's most valuable. We realize a
lot of these chicken heads walking around in the first
and the second quarter are not what's most valuable, so
we can serve our energy for what is when we
get to that fourth quarter.
Speaker 2 (35:51):
It's basically that our wisdom outweighs our hormones as we age,
and we're not chasing in the same place.
Speaker 4 (36:02):
Like I think we mentioned it before the scenario from
uh it's a thin line. Still see stuff, you know,
but it's not about chasing it, and like, oh man,
I need to I need to get that. We still
see it. We recognize beauty and everything.
Speaker 2 (36:15):
We're just smarter today though, so because we're not about
to be out here again abused by people just because
they know that we're interested in them. So it's not
gonna happen.
Speaker 4 (36:27):
And we've read books and know the stats on a
STDs and everything.
Speaker 2 (36:31):
We're gonna come back and we're gonna talk about how
purpose outweighs pursuit or the full left version of the
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the Good Old Boys Forecast Media Radio Network talking about
how we stop that chasing at the age of forty.
I think this is the biggest point that the video made,
(36:55):
is that we start searching for our purpose a whole
lot more were as we age, and chasing women pretty
much falls completely off of the list of priorities, and
our focus start shifting on our careers, our health, if
we have children, children, trying to get to financial freedom
(37:18):
and being grounded. And I think that as as I've aged,
this has always been my thing, but I've I've I
desire reciprocity in all of our relationships with with with everybody,
like friends, family, relationships, whatever it might be. I need
to know that you feel the same way about me
(37:40):
that I feel about you. And I think that if
you don't see that earlier on, it makes you quit
and you start moving on. And because you rather like
spend that energy on people that are pouring it back
into you. I don't feel like I'm off base with that, right.
Speaker 5 (38:01):
Well, I mean, I think a lot of times you
just you don't have time for everybody or everything. So
in some cases you want to give other people more time,
but there's just not enough time of to day, like
to squeeze in phone calls to the homies or flying
home and spending time with loved ones and things of
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that nature. Like I would love to do that, I
just can't and it's something I regret. I wish I could.
Speaker 3 (38:30):
So I don't know.
Speaker 4 (38:37):
Yeah, I posted something about that not too long ago. Man,
Just you know, like you say, the real heads know that,
you know, we out here, we live in life and
and and sometimes you know, I may not know what's
going on on your side of things. You may have
family stuff you're dealing with and hadn't even had a
chance to tap in with me on that particular topic.
(38:57):
But you know, the love is real with those is
real with you know. And it's like at any given time,
we can go months without talking to each other or
seeing each other, and when we all tap in, it's
like a homecoming event, bro, Like you know, we're gonna
go out to eat, we gonna drink and chop it
up and there's no love loss. You know, at the
end of the day, I feel like I could call
any of y'all if I needed to, because again I
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know as a man, I'm trying not to, and I
know we all have that same mentality and trying to
handle our business and stuff like that. So yeah, if
I can count on you, you can always count on me
and show those who know know it.
Speaker 3 (39:30):
Man.
Speaker 2 (39:32):
Always, I thought you was gonna jump in there.
Speaker 6 (39:34):
No, I said, five minutes. I think it just no.
Speaker 2 (39:39):
We still got a couple of times minutes left.
Speaker 4 (39:41):
Man.
Speaker 2 (39:41):
But I just think that, like, our focus has to
always be as we age on, it has to be
building me. And like I think, I don't know, maybe
I reached maturity on this stuff a long time ago,
and I realized that I I only wanted people around
me that were an addition to my life. And oftentimes,
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if you're dating, it feels like those people are a
drain on your life more than they are adding to
your life. And for women, if you want to be
successful in dating a man, the easiest thing I can
tell you to do is to make that man feel
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like you're pouring into him, whether that's emotionally physically, just
do something for that man so that man feels like
you're reciprocating what he's doing. For you, because men have
been trained their entire lives to pour into the woman,
and I don't think that women have been taught that.
Women have been taught to receive, and then they have
(40:51):
to learn, they have to adjust on the fly on
how to pour back into the man. And that's something
that happens. I think after they get married and they
start learning that, Okay, he's going to be this way
if I do this and stuff like that. But I
think that if you're dating, start doing that early enough
so the man can recognize it. Because I'm telling you
(41:11):
right now, then eight walking away from you for no reason.
You might not know why they walking away, and they
may not be able to verbalize why they're walking away,
but there's a reason why they're walking away.
Speaker 4 (41:27):
Because they bored. And you're doing the same thing you
was doing from the Da giddio, and you're not adding
those spontaneity to it. You're not doing something different to
keep that man and that man, like you were just saying,
how he's constantly pouring into you, Well, if that's what
he's always done and he's no longer getting anything from you,
that all he wants to do is, well, let me
pour into somebody else to try to get that feeling
(41:49):
that he's being missing.
Speaker 5 (41:50):
So like we're in this current chapter, so looking down
the road when we're seventy eighty is old. Do you
do you feel like it's going to be the same,
god willing, same outlook or is it going to revert
back to is there a prize when you're seventy or eighty?
(42:12):
Like are men the prize or women the prize? Are
we just trying to just wake up and see the
next day, Like what what's the outlook? What's the outlook
for that?
Speaker 2 (42:22):
Yeah? Peace of mind is the prize that that that's it,
piece of I've watched a many through that every day
you know, for you know, he dad has people off
just so he can have peace. And he's in the seventies.
It's all he cares about now. And he was one
that was chasing, but he cut a lot of people off.
Speaker 3 (42:44):
Man.
Speaker 4 (42:45):
And I like some excitement, but you know, when it
comes to your everyday life, man, piece is everything. You know,
I want to have that choice to say, Okay, I
don't have that year around you right correct, I don't
have to do this. But again, I like excitement, and
like I said, spontaneity is just something with me. I
don't know if there's some Capricorn stuff or what, but well, like.
Speaker 2 (43:05):
I just want to say this to close out. We
don't stop chasing women because we give up. We stop
because we grow up. That's the difference. And we'll see
you on the radio next week and we
Speaker 6 (43:16):
Out this funky thing.
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