September 26, 2024 • 40 mins
One of Becky P.'s favorite things in life is to "Highlight Your Present Experience" by connecting you with purpose. She loves showing you how to enjoy the life you're living, while pursuing the life of your dreams. Becky brings energy & clarity to yourself discovery, personal development, & spiritual growth. She encourages her soul clients to show up for themselves & be committed to living life on purpose. Becky is Midwest wife & mom of 3, an Empowerment Speaker & Photographer, Your Connection Strategist, Owner & CEO of the Virtual Co-Workspace & Community-Work: On Purpose. With Purpose.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Welcome to the Heal Thrived Dream Podcast, where trauma survivors
become healthy thrivers. Each month will feature a theme in
the trauma recovery and empowerment field to promote your recovery,
healing and learning how to build dreams. Here's your host,
Karen Robinson, transformational coach and therapist.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Hello, Welcome to the Heel Thrived Dream podcasts. Our guest
today is Becky Gluts, and I'm going to start with
something more unusual. Usually bios are like this person did this,
this and this and this. But Becky is a very
unique individual, so her biol reads a little different, which
(00:43):
I love. One of Becky's favorite things in life is
to highlight your present experience by connecting you with purpose.
She loves showing you how to enjoy the life you're
living while pursuing the life of your dreams. Becky brings
energy and clarity to your self discovery and personal development
(01:08):
and spiritual growth. She encourages your soul. She encourages her
soul clients to show up for themselves and be committed
to living life on purpose. Becky is a midwift wife
and mom of three, an empowerment speaker, photographer, your Connection Strategists,
(01:33):
owner and CEO the Virtual cowork space and community work
on purpose with purpose. So I know that wasn't so
super smiss because you know we're choosing a very early
time to record. Becky, what is there anything about your
bio you'd love to add at your time? Anything you
(01:54):
want to clean up that I'm at a butchered No.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
I think it's all It's all right, It's all there,
you know. I think the big thing is that I'm
multi passionate. If you gather anything from what we share
is that I'm multi passionate about life and helping other
people be inspired to live the life that they have
inside them that they want to bring to reality.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
How long have you felt the way? Have you felt
that way your whole adult career? Did you feel that
way as a kid? Like? How many more? How are
you got there? Well?
Speaker 3 (02:27):
I think it probably has been always, but like the
awareness of it definitely as I've gotten more experienced in
my human life, and a lot of that probably came
from becoming a mother. And my oldest is ten and
a half, so yeah, it's been you know, definitely a
(02:50):
decade of that, which is also when I became an entrepreneur.
So I've had photography in my world with an LLC,
I'll say on paper been a business for over a
decade too, So you know, that really started to fuel
how I know that I support people with guidance in
(03:10):
my words and supporting them in really really, what I
do is I help reflect who you are. So I
listen deeply to what you would say to me, and
then I reflect back the pieces that maybe you don't
sound as confident in and own for yourself that I
can reflect back and say, did you hear that? That's
(03:32):
what you said? And the photography, you know, was has
always been my passion. I was always the kid that
had a disposable camera at the birthday parties and would
run down to my local Ida and spend the money
to wait two weeks to see what did I just
take pictures of?
Speaker 2 (03:50):
Nigie? Is there's one from where I'm from? Two? Is
that a grocery? Is that a grocery store for you?
Speaker 3 (03:58):
Yeah? I don't think there is any more in the
midw like in Wisconsin. But that was my first job
that I ever had officially two, which is funny. Yeah,
So yeah, it was a IgA grocery store. Yeah, Yiga.
We used to say, I.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
We have that in Main There's still some there, Okay.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
Yeah, I don't know if there is any in Wisconsin still,
but there. Yeah, that was where I would always walk
down in my hometown and drop those off and then
I did end up having my first job there, and
awesomely enough, that's how I became a photographer. Was I was,
I say, wrongfully fired from a retail job, not that one,
(04:39):
but later in my life in my I think I
was twenty when that happened, and it was like screw
the man, I'm never working for someone else again type deal.
I was so upset, so caught off guard, and I
said that I was going to make my own business
and be my own boss and have ownership over my
life and my decisions and choose the way that I
(05:01):
wanted to support other people, and photography was my way
of doing that. I wanted to capture moments and experiences
with people, as that was a deep part of who
I have always been.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Very cool. Yeah. Yeah, So, as you know, my audience
is women that have recovered from some really hard stuff.
A lot of trauma, and trauma can look different for
everyone as you know, Yeah, some are survivors of childhood abuse,
some sexual assault, medical traumas across the gamut. Is there
(05:39):
anything that you feel as has been traumatic in your
life that you're comfortable sharing today?
Speaker 3 (05:48):
So I don't know. I don't think that there is
anything specific that comes to mind that you know, I
could share that would speak to the audience and what
comes to mind and for me though, Karen, is you
know with the work that I do, I have helped
breast cancer survivors with my empowerment photography. So that's a
(06:12):
way that I help women break through their beliefs about
their body being more about who they are, you know,
than who they are from the inside out. And so
I work with your connection strategist. Piece really is a
correlation between mindset coaching or consulting along with the photography.
(06:35):
So you know, I work with women on how they
feel and think about their bodies and who they are,
and then lead them to this photo shoot, this luxurious
photo shoot that really highlights their beauty through my lens.
And it's just different because I've had experiences in the
past where gorgeous women think that their pictures suck and
(07:00):
it's not my work that sex, it's that they see
themselves through a filter that shows something less than desirable
in the photos. And I started to understand very quickly,
very quickly that that wasn't about me. And knowing that
and knowing that I could help women get to this mindset,
(07:23):
but I had to help on the front end before
they got into my studio and before they had this experience.
So that's where the mindset and the support really comes
into play. To hear their stories. And I've had a
couple survivors of double mass sectomies come in and really
want to, you know, love on their body and really
own where they're at now versus living in the past
(07:45):
of what might have been the good old days or
any of that kind of thing. That just really helps
them move forward in their life and see their true
self keep going, you know, whether it looks different right
now in the physical body or not.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
Yeah, I think that's the empowerment work you're doing. The
mindset is huge, and I suspect, like a lot of
the women who aren't confident in their body it's because
someone has said something mean or they grew up and
get it culture. What are your thoughts about that?
Speaker 3 (08:21):
Oh, I would I mean definitely society as a whole.
You know, we all live in that world where you
can't go into a store without magazines, you know, or
in schools right teenagers and tweens that are hearing these
things and now right now thinking about the world that
we live in, how we have a phone everywhere we go.
(08:42):
It used to just be magazines on a rack and TV,
but now it's it's in our palm of our hand
all the time. So even if it's not something that
you're choosing to like really look at, it could scroll
past your feed if you are unconscious about who is
speaking into your life and who's in your feed. So
(09:03):
they're definitely society. And a lot of what I love
to bring to light is the I talk a lot
about fear as my friend in a mindset way, so
thinking about like the angel and devil on your shoulder,
or like you know, your inner critic that's speaking to you.
(09:23):
I look at fear in a way that is empowering
to me. That's how I've gotten through a lot of
not a lot, but I've got through the challenging times
in my head right that I build up to be
so big, daunting, scary, and I mentally have practiced shifting
these things to understand that my fear is here to
keep me safe, you know, And is it something that
(09:45):
I'm actually going to be need to protect myself from
or is my fear doing the work of protecting me
by keeping me small, keeping me away from doing these
mentally challenging things. So I'm definitely the mindset about you know,
let's look at it. Is that true? Will you? You know? What?
What's the worst will happen if you follow through on
(10:06):
that thing that feels seemingly scary? Right, Nothing terrible is
going to happen to have your picture taken. But there's
something mentally that protects women a lot from thinking that
they won't like what they see. And guess what, when
we focus what we focus on, we see. So if
you come in with a mindset that I already hate
my body, I'm on love you know by looking at
(10:28):
this picture. If you have that mindset, that's exactly what
they see. So that mindset work pre photo shoot is
just so important to get them prepared and understand like
your body is a sacred vessel, you are an amazing
human from the inside out, and confidence wearing the confidence
no matter what we look like on the outside or
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what the society version of what women are meant to
look like. That we get to choose inside of our
mind you know, how to feel about ourselves beautiful.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
And when you work with women on their mindset, helping
them feel more empowered to take space? Basically is do
you do that with them? In one online coaching? Do
you have a little workshop of course? How do you
how do you do that? Like what does that structure
look like? Oh?
Speaker 3 (11:22):
I love, I love how you phrase that, you know,
like taking up space? Okay, So I do it on
a couple different levels. That the leading to the photography.
That is very much. I do mindset coaching one on
one for my specific clients that are leading to the photography.
I also have a virtual the virtual space that is
a community called work on Purpose with Purpose that is
(11:45):
a community level. So we're in there sharing our celebrations,
We're in there setting our intentions around what we are
focusing on for the day. And the word work right,
work on purpose is all about actually, what are the
choices that you're making today? So your work is your
(12:05):
self work of Am I focusing on my healthy eating today?
Am I focusing on my healthy movement today? Am I
focusing on the business tasks that are mentally pushing me
down that I am ready to take action on today?
Speaker 2 (12:19):
Right?
Speaker 3 (12:19):
What are those things that you're focusing on and bringing
energy to today? And that's our choice. We're choosing to
either hold off on those things or we're choosing to
take action on them. And that's a big way that
I support women currently is the community because we come
in there and like I said, we share celebration and
(12:41):
that's because we love quantum physics. When we go into
energy for seventeen seconds or longer, we continue in that energy.
So especially in a virtual world when we jump on zoom,
who knows what chaos we just were like, I'm getting
on this call. This thing is happening, right, and we
just clear that energy and we rap in and get
present with the women that are in the room to
(13:04):
celebrate with them and for us to be heard in
a celebration smaller, big, right, And then setting that intention
verbalizing the things that we're focusing on is encouraging accountability
to show up for ourselves and know that we can
follow through on it. So those are and then just
to round off what I'm talking about is that we
(13:25):
turn our screens in our microphones off at ten minutes
after the hour and we hold space. So that's where
I said, oh, I love that you said take up
more space, because my virtual community is all about holding
space for each other and giving that support and encouraging accountability.
That you came and you said what your intention was, Karen,
(13:48):
and then we hold the space in a community for
you to go do that action or sit in that
energy of how you want to be. And then at
ten minutes to the top of the hour, we come
back in and we ask Karen, how did it go?
You know, did you get your vegetables chopped up? Did
you go for your walk and you get the dopamine
hit and the understanding that you followed through with what
(14:10):
you said you were going to do, or right or
life happens, squirrels run pass and things draw us away
and do something else, and we tend to talk about
that if anyone wants to and give some support and
coaching and accountability for those last ten minutes to have
discussion around how we can support you in what might
have unraveled or unfolded for you, or if it's just
(14:34):
a simple yeah, I decided I was doing something different
and I'm gonna, you know, move forward in this And
it's just that deeper understanding about the person that will
help them choose what's right for their life in a
daily way. So that's kind of like the two big
main things is that I do one on one coaching
(14:56):
and support people with accountability also not just photography. I
do accountability coaching and say that you have your big
hairy dream that you want to do like an in
person event or a retreat. I help women really shape
where they are now and how they're going to get there.
And then the accountability in between is that one on
(15:17):
one coaching that we get together weekly and keep taking
steps and it's the same framework, what's your victory, where
do you want to improve on it? And let's make
a plan. And I've been trained that that's the VIP method.
I love acronyms, and the VIP is easy to remember.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
Yeah, as I was listening to you, it was easy
for me to sorry connect the decks and how the
women you do photography with and doing the mindset work
ago that just just flows right, like, of course women
need that kind of help. Well, how did you get
the idea for the group work you're doing, like showing
(16:01):
up and having to be accountable celebrating successes. Why did
you come up with the coworking space idea? I don't know.
I had a better question in my head as you
were talking, but it went stage left.
Speaker 3 (16:20):
So when I hired my first coach, I hired her
to support me and bringing a woman community to life
because I knew in my vision of supporting women with photography,
my love for capturing who they are and showing them
(16:40):
that I wanted to develop. I was first calling it
fear fear feminine society, and that's where that stemmed from.
I hired my coach to support me in like how
do I do this? What do I do? I know
I want a virtual space. I'm first and foremost a
person that wants to be in person with you and
hug you. I'm a heart hugger and I'm so grateful
(17:03):
for virtual because we can connect all the time if
we want, and frequently. So I love that. So I
knew from the beginning of like okay, so like five
to seven years into my entrepreneur journey, it was very
clear to me that having a community online that we
were fostering this relationship and forming a community or a
(17:26):
family on another level was important to me, and so
in hiring my coach, I was working with her for
I think three years and it still wasn't forming, like
I was still feeling like it wasn't right yet, I
wasn't moving on it. There was something holding me up.
And we built a friendship and we said, well, what
(17:49):
if we did this thing that we were already doing
and support each other in taking the actions and doing
it like baby step out of time. My coach and
I formed an LLC together. We started a business together,
so the Work on Purpose with Purpose Community. I'm the
(18:10):
co founder of it, and last year, so twenty twenty two,
I took full ownership of the company. So it started
with a partnership and developed in helping me build my
dream of this community, and then I took full ownership
after three and a half year. After three years I
(18:30):
think three years. Timelines are tough for me these days.
And then so for a whole year now I have
been full owner of the company. But it came from
what we were already doing. Because she was in Minnesota,
I'm in Wisconsin, and we had a virtual relationship and
support and accountability from a coaching standpoint that I was
paying for. But how could we use my dream of
(18:52):
having a community to support women to really structure what
we know was working well for us and pieces of
other communities that we both were in because we found
that commonality that I'm a collector of, like education, I'm
a lifelong learner, and I want to know, like what's
working for other people, take what works for me from
(19:13):
their framework and make it my own and implement it
in my space to teach my women and my community
what I'm learning. And she had that same framework. So
we had so much knowledge and things to give value for.
So we brought it together, started building this out, and
then it it came to a point where we were
ready to break away and I was ready to take
(19:35):
over the baby and fast forward to figuring it out continuously,
you know, honing in and nurturing that community that we're here.
Speaker 2 (19:48):
Yeah, And I had an invite from you to attend
one and I was really intrigued by I thought it
was beautiful. I really love the What are we celebrating?
It's such a different tone right then? How are you
feeling what's wrong today? What could we what could we
(20:10):
support you want? It's a different level of support. I think,
although important to know how people are truly feeling, I
also think when we shift to what we're celebrating. But
I notice is when women were able to articulate what
they're celebrating, they thought of more things to celebrate and
(20:30):
then more things to celebrate, like it really grow like whatever,
like you said, you put your mind to growth, and
that's a beautiful thing to grow. Like celebration, gratitude. Yeah,
is that your favorite part of your the work you're
doing in your group or is there something different that's
your favorite.
Speaker 3 (20:50):
I mean, celebrations are fun and amazing because right like
I think most people equate for talkography and documenting something
to be a celebration, which I think is also a
society shift that I'm helping, you know, move into the
light that I love. I love hope. I love helping
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retreat facilitators that are also doing workshops, masterminds and retreats
right smaller intimate events of these strong female leaders that
are bringing other female leaders into a room, whether they
identify themselves as leaders yet or not. They're choosing to
go to retreats. They're choosing to go to workshops and
(21:35):
masterminds because they have a growth mindset, right, They're working
on themselves to grow so that they can ripple that
out into their community. Women are so likely to ripple
it out into their communities that I am focused. That
part of photography is amazing to me because I think
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that there's a separation between like marketing an event like
that that I'm all about capturing the connection, the tears,
the hugs, the transformation in the moment versus bodies in
a room. I call it hype event photography, which is
highlight your present experience. Did I mention, I'm affirmation.
Speaker 2 (22:17):
It's an acronym, acronym, an acronym girl.
Speaker 3 (22:20):
So I love the hype event which is highlighting your
present experience and basically on the paparazzi for the leader
to be able to highlight the experience that they've put
their heart and soul into, right, helping these other women
to feel whole and then that they ripple out. It's
just such a beautiful thing to be a part of.
So that's my favorite thing is being able to highlight
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the work that we're choosing to put in about who
we are. That's it. I love that question. Thank you
for asking me that, because I don't know if I've
said it in that way before, right, Like, I love
helping you see the work that you're putting in yourself
for yourself that makes a ripple effect, that has this
effect on the people that you touch in your world
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and the impact that you make because when we show
up to do our own self work, that's exactly what
we do.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
That's beautifully sad. And I see examples all the time
of rubles. For instance, trauma survivors struggle with self compassion.
So one of the reading that we do is Chris
doctor Kristenof's book and Self Compassion. And I've had several
(23:34):
clients purchased that book for the people in their lives
and then they would talk about what a difference that
book was making for their friend or their parents or
their sibling. And I was like, oh my gosh, it's
like the gift that keeps on giving. Yes, I love that.
(23:56):
And then I'll have a client say, well, I told
so and so have you thought about this or have
you thought about trying this? And I said, where did
you get that idea? And they're like from you?
Speaker 3 (24:08):
Like it sounded familiar wisdom just pours out once in
a while, you know.
Speaker 2 (24:15):
I was like, oh, that's so cool. It's yeah, it's
definitely cool to be in the space of empowering others
and then seeing them empower you know, that's to me,
that's true healing. You know, when you can give back
and support other people, you know you're looking at something
to say that resonated with you.
Speaker 3 (24:36):
It just it feels. It feels right to me, you know,
it feels right, And that's a big thing on my
entrepreneur journey that I haven't always gotten right, like tuning
back into what does feel right to me right. I'm
like I just mentioned, I'm serial person of like wanting
to learn the things and then you know they don't
(24:59):
always get to completion, which is another reason the accountability
community exists because me, because me. I know it was
something that I mean, I was paying some one thousands
of dollars to help me do that. So I wanted
to bring a more accessible way for people to receive
the kind of support and encouraging accountability that I was
(25:21):
receiving for thousands of dollars one on one and condense
it and work on how can we it's not distilling
it like I'm I am constantly told from the feedback
of my members that they feel safe and supported and
encouraged in such a beautiful way, even if they are
coming and holding space for ten minutes at the top
(25:41):
and ten minutes at the bottom with us, because it's
very authentic, and I don't host those hours on my own.
I have community leaders that help support those hours as well.
They've been trained, they know, you know, why they're doing this.
We have a bigger vision of that, and we hold
space for each other. The most beautiful compliment I've received
(26:02):
in the last probably whole year, for sure, is that
one of my members said that she was celebrating that
holding we hold this space for you isn't only a
tagline that we use in our community. That it's authentic
and true because she was going through she is going
through real life things that she was checked out for
(26:23):
a couple of months, and she chose to come back
in and she felt right at home. She felt so
welcomed because we were so excited to get to actually
see her and hear what's real in her life. So,
you know, I gave the example of the ten minutes
before and the ten minutes after and you're like, that's
really great. And the truth is that there are deeper
opportunities to hold space in the forty minutes that we
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connect as a community and build friendship that is deeper
than co working together. And that's where the real power
is in a community, right, we are really holding for
the tough things that we deal with. We've had members
lose two houses that they had at the same time
in different states. We had another member that had a
(27:08):
house fire and was going through this for a whole
year in this transitional point of these things, so we
know they bring those things to our cowork space as well.
And I'm doing the air quotes because it's so much
more than we sit here and we just say what
we're doing and we go do our thing. It is
that we listen deeply to each other as well and
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give support and encouragement.
Speaker 2 (27:35):
Yeah, it's such a unique special way to do that.
I love it.
Speaker 3 (27:39):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (27:40):
So maybe walk us through a client that hired you
to do their photography and they are not in love
with their body and they're hoping you make them look
good physically for the pictures, but you accomplished much more
of that with their mind and the way they see themselves.
(28:02):
Do you have a really I think maybe the double
missectory person might be it, or maybe there's another you know,
I want to rephrase that. In my training as a
social worker, we never say we never say the physical
before the person. So I should have said, the woman
who was recovering from the double misseectomy, is that is
(28:25):
that gentle or kindler, She's more than her double missectomy.
That's a probably very little, a little piece of who
she is. She's way more than that on a spiritual level,
for sure. Yes, So anyway, it doesn't be her, but
example of someone's transformation.
Speaker 3 (28:45):
So what's cool is that those were my learning experiences.
So that example, I'll just hold here for a second
to be very clear about something for myself and for
the movement forward, which is that that client actually didn't
get the mindset work. She came only the fact that
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she was ready because it was a celebration, right, she
was celebrating it. So I do work in the in
between of does this person need a breakthrough in their mindset,
which I believe that we all do at definitely certain times,
but majority of the time we always could use a
breakthrough right, but this client specifically, like I frame a
(29:30):
lot of things as here's some ideas of what you
can come in to do a photo shoot to celebrate.
Speaker 2 (29:37):
Right.
Speaker 3 (29:37):
That was a lot of the very beginning of my
empowerment Boudoir photography was here's a list of things that
maybe you're going to celebrate your birthday, your significant other
wanting a gift, you're getting married and it's a groom gift,
you're celebrating being a survivor or working through that your
survival story, and you want to see yourself And those
were ways that I was listening, let's celebrate and document
(30:00):
this milestone on your journey. Okay, So that was how
I began really framing my work. Now, the mindset breakthrough stuff,
I haven't actually used it on like with survivors specifically yet,
and it's really you know, and everyone's journey is unique.
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But the idea too is that it's like she came
ready and knowing that this was going to help her,
and she had a positive mindset about knowing that when
I see it, I want to, I want to And
we did like glitter on her body, like intentionally, she
she brought elements, we worked, we did work through some
ideas about what what would be unique to you. And
(30:45):
she loves glitter. She loves glitter, so instantly I was like, well,
let's incorporate glitter, Like, let's throw some glitter on it. Girl, Like,
let's go for it. And that's exactly what we did.
We put gold glitter on her and like owned her
scars and like so and there was there was definite
breakthroughs that happened, which is how I knew the mindset
(31:07):
work was also so important. So I didn't start with
this framework. I didn't start with this understanding. It was developed.
Speaker 2 (31:13):
It's you they did.
Speaker 3 (31:17):
I listened. I listened to what we were actually doing
and the results that there were. I heard it. And
the ones that like weren't like, oh my gosh, I
love these they found like some that they loved, but
there was definitely like they knocked themselves down more than
they rose up from it because of their mindset, you know.
And then there was other ones that were showing me
(31:38):
this like the celebration, the owning it, the really leaning
into the positive side of it for themselves to be
optimistic about looking through a new lens about who they were.
Speaker 2 (31:54):
Yeah, yeah, that's so beautiful. Yeah, I love all that questions,
Yeah you did. You could have easily said yes, I
do amazing mindset and that's how No you it's a
different level. That was really beautiful. I always tell my
clients like, yeah, like I guide you through things, but
(32:19):
I learned so much from my clients. It's it's it's amazing,
but they can teach us, which helps other people. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (32:28):
I think a big thing is just always knowing that
allowing ourselves to always be beginners too, right. I never
want to lose that. I always want to remember that
I'm a beginner. Like today's new day. My kids teach
me every day, Like coming with a fresh perspective of
what am I going to learn today and what can
I glean from the day is always something I want
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to remember, and especially with business, and this has been
kind of something coming recently. Is you know, I've been
in business for over a decade now, and it's like, oh,
I somehow sometimes I think I know what I'm doing,
and then right I get knocked upside the head and
I'm like, you are a baby. You are a baby,
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and be willing to be a baby and learn. And
sometimes I think that's better because then we're coachable, We're open,
and I think that's the big thing is being open,
open hearted, open minded, and being willing to let in
the teaching that we are sometimes being repeated until we do.
Speaker 2 (33:39):
It's a beautiful way to say that. So what's next
for you, Becky?
Speaker 3 (33:45):
Oh, what's next for me is in person events. That's
something that is something that baby Becky back in the
day was really like good at getting small groups of
women together myself and knowing that like that needed to
be highlighted and documented and all of that, and right
when you're in it, it's it's harder to be able
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to stop and document and be present in the moment,
which is why I love to do that for other leaders,
because I can be there like a fly on the
wall and document it and still feel the transformation in
the experience that happens. But and then twenty twenty four
is going to be all around. Let's get back to
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those smaller intimate events for myself to put on so
that I can find those women that then are ready
to go to the next levels for whether it's a
photo shoot or having a virtual community to give more
ongoing support in a collective way and just really getting
(34:48):
feet on the ground to hug women in twenty twenty
four is my focus.
Speaker 2 (34:54):
Beautiful And so women that are listening to our show
today struggling and they just love your energy because this
infections your energy. It's beautiful. Well, what's the best thing
for them to reach out to you?
Speaker 3 (35:08):
Well, the best way is right now would currently be
my website Becky ploutz dot com. Plouts is p l
a u t z. And also you can always email me.
And I'm actually not going to say my email because
it's long and people people are like, what how do
(35:28):
I expel it again? But go to the website and
contact me on there. And I would love to get
kext to you or find me on social media. Same
last name.
Speaker 2 (35:40):
You don't change it for your social media, no, no, I.
Speaker 3 (35:43):
Refer to myself as Becky p on everything. You can
definitely go check out Choo's on Purpose podcasts as a
way to receive more. Karen, I heard you say many times,
that's a beautiful way to say it. I'm just like
every time you said it, I was like, Becky, remind
yourself that sometimes you say some really beautiful things, because
you said it like three times today.
Speaker 2 (36:02):
So did I I didn't. I wasn't tracking. I'm glad
you were. Oh yeah, yeah, I track things like when
I've gotten to some especially virtually, it's it feels just ingenuous.
I know it's not meant to be. It feels just
(36:24):
in generous. When the post says my most favorite specialist guests,
you know, when they and then they say it about everyone,
like I know, like, for example, i'd love that's all
we're all his favorite. When a human says it, it's like,
(36:45):
is there a better way to say that? You know?
And so I'm always conscious of the beginning, like don't
say today's our special guest is because then you know,
it's better to highlight what is special, right.
Speaker 3 (37:00):
I love that. I love that awareness. I think that
that's true too, again, all about the authenticity and the realness.
And I think you're spot on when I listen to
other people that, like, on a consistent basis, like we
do catch those things and even if we aren't consciously
catching them, our subconscious nos they're like, I think that's
(37:21):
a little bs.
Speaker 2 (37:23):
Yeah, I don't feel so special now it's last three people?
What is special about me? That's what Yeah, kind of
attracts me. Okay, well we probably should wrap up because
of time and no one has to listen to three
hours of us or maybe they do.
Speaker 3 (37:42):
Maybe they do keep watching the podcast.
Speaker 2 (37:46):
Oh okay, so I'm not going to ask this question,
but maybe you could send it to me if it resonates,
because I think it does. I noticed too when I
visited your community you all were working in a book
club and oh my god, books and my favorite thanks ever,
thanks not you know people are my favorite? Then books
(38:06):
great and intro. Okay, let me start.
Speaker 3 (38:11):
So if you have.
Speaker 2 (38:13):
Ideas and books that are super empowering for our audience
that you highly recommend, maybe just send me two or three,
or take a picture of a bookcase like where whatever
feels the best, because I love doing that for my
community to.
Speaker 3 (38:28):
Remember remembering wholeness. This is one that we literally just started,
so I know by the time you see this will
be through this book. Connect with me about this book.
I already know that this is a powerful book for
everyone to sit with. And I mean we we are
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currently we've done thinking Grow Rich books inside of our
study as well, and you know they talk a lot
about from a business standpoint, but again, everything that we
talk about in my community, and that I'm about is
a wholeness approach. It's about working on the person and
the work fulfillment and the things come with that because
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we're working on ourselfs and we're bringing ourselves to everything
that we do. So that's I mean, those are the
two ones that definitely have stood out to me as
we've done Atomic Habits, because working on our habits and
our goals is a big piece of what we support
as a collective inside the community. We also have workshops
(39:33):
that are for our members. We have invitations for people
in the public to come in and experience some of
those to get a taste of what you'll get ongoing
support with a community. So I'm all about the books
that are about self development and personal growth journey because
of that wholeness perspective. So just totally on brand that
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this is the one that we're working on right now
by Carol Tebtle.
Speaker 2 (39:59):
That's great. I will check that book out too, all right, Becky,
thank you so much for taking time out this morning
to be my guests on my show. It was a
pleasure hosting you.
Speaker 3 (40:11):
Thank you, Karen, this was so fun. I appreciate you.
Speaker 1 (40:15):
Likewise, thank you for listening in today, Please join us
next week, same day and time. Also, I would love
for you to check out my website heel thrivedream dot
com
Welcome to the Heal Thrived Dream Podcast, where trauma survivors
become healthy thrivers. Each month will feature a theme in
the trauma recovery and empowerment field to promote your recovery,
healing and learning how to build dreams. Here's your host,
Karen Robinson, transformational coach and therapist.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Hello, Welcome to the Heel Thrived Dream podcasts. Our guest
today is Becky Gluts, and I'm going to start with
something more unusual. Usually bios are like this person did this,
this and this and this. But Becky is a very
unique individual, so her biol reads a little different, which
(00:43):
I love. One of Becky's favorite things in life is
to highlight your present experience by connecting you with purpose.
She loves showing you how to enjoy the life you're
living while pursuing the life of your dreams. Becky brings
energy and clarity to your self discovery and personal development
(01:08):
and spiritual growth. She encourages your soul. She encourages her
soul clients to show up for themselves and be committed
to living life on purpose. Becky is a midwift wife
and mom of three, an empowerment speaker, photographer, your Connection Strategists,
(01:33):
owner and CEO the Virtual cowork space and community work
on purpose with purpose. So I know that wasn't so
super smiss because you know we're choosing a very early
time to record. Becky, what is there anything about your
bio you'd love to add at your time? Anything you
(01:54):
want to clean up that I'm at a butchered No.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
I think it's all It's all right, It's all there,
you know. I think the big thing is that I'm
multi passionate. If you gather anything from what we share
is that I'm multi passionate about life and helping other
people be inspired to live the life that they have
inside them that they want to bring to reality.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
How long have you felt the way? Have you felt
that way your whole adult career? Did you feel that
way as a kid? Like? How many more? How are
you got there? Well?
Speaker 3 (02:27):
I think it probably has been always, but like the
awareness of it definitely as I've gotten more experienced in
my human life, and a lot of that probably came
from becoming a mother. And my oldest is ten and
a half, so yeah, it's been you know, definitely a
(02:50):
decade of that, which is also when I became an entrepreneur.
So I've had photography in my world with an LLC,
I'll say on paper been a business for over a
decade too, So you know, that really started to fuel
how I know that I support people with guidance in
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my words and supporting them in really really, what I
do is I help reflect who you are. So I
listen deeply to what you would say to me, and
then I reflect back the pieces that maybe you don't
sound as confident in and own for yourself that I
can reflect back and say, did you hear that? That's
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what you said? And the photography, you know, was has
always been my passion. I was always the kid that
had a disposable camera at the birthday parties and would
run down to my local Ida and spend the money
to wait two weeks to see what did I just
take pictures of?
Speaker 2 (03:50):
Nigie? Is there's one from where I'm from? Two? Is
that a grocery? Is that a grocery store for you?
Speaker 3 (03:58):
Yeah? I don't think there is any more in the
midw like in Wisconsin. But that was my first job
that I ever had officially two, which is funny. Yeah,
So yeah, it was a IgA grocery store. Yeah, Yiga.
We used to say, I.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
We have that in Main There's still some there, Okay.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
Yeah, I don't know if there is any in Wisconsin still,
but there. Yeah, that was where I would always walk
down in my hometown and drop those off and then
I did end up having my first job there, and
awesomely enough, that's how I became a photographer. Was I was,
I say, wrongfully fired from a retail job, not that one,
(04:39):
but later in my life in my I think I
was twenty when that happened, and it was like screw
the man, I'm never working for someone else again type deal.
I was so upset, so caught off guard, and I
said that I was going to make my own business
and be my own boss and have ownership over my
life and my decisions and choose the way that I
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wanted to support other people, and photography was my way
of doing that. I wanted to capture moments and experiences
with people, as that was a deep part of who
I have always been.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Very cool. Yeah. Yeah, So, as you know, my audience
is women that have recovered from some really hard stuff.
A lot of trauma, and trauma can look different for
everyone as you know, Yeah, some are survivors of childhood abuse,
some sexual assault, medical traumas across the gamut. Is there
(05:39):
anything that you feel as has been traumatic in your
life that you're comfortable sharing today?
Speaker 3 (05:48):
So I don't know. I don't think that there is
anything specific that comes to mind that you know, I
could share that would speak to the audience and what
comes to mind and for me though, Karen, is you
know with the work that I do, I have helped
breast cancer survivors with my empowerment photography. So that's a
(06:12):
way that I help women break through their beliefs about
their body being more about who they are, you know,
than who they are from the inside out. And so
I work with your connection strategist. Piece really is a
correlation between mindset coaching or consulting along with the photography.
(06:35):
So you know, I work with women on how they
feel and think about their bodies and who they are,
and then lead them to this photo shoot, this luxurious
photo shoot that really highlights their beauty through my lens.
And it's just different because I've had experiences in the
past where gorgeous women think that their pictures suck and
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it's not my work that sex, it's that they see
themselves through a filter that shows something less than desirable
in the photos. And I started to understand very quickly,
very quickly that that wasn't about me. And knowing that
and knowing that I could help women get to this mindset,
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but I had to help on the front end before
they got into my studio and before they had this experience.
So that's where the mindset and the support really comes
into play. To hear their stories. And I've had a
couple survivors of double mass sectomies come in and really
want to, you know, love on their body and really
own where they're at now versus living in the past
(07:45):
of what might have been the good old days or
any of that kind of thing. That just really helps
them move forward in their life and see their true
self keep going, you know, whether it looks different right
now in the physical body or not.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
Yeah, I think that's the empowerment work you're doing. The
mindset is huge, and I suspect, like a lot of
the women who aren't confident in their body it's because
someone has said something mean or they grew up and
get it culture. What are your thoughts about that?
Speaker 3 (08:21):
Oh, I would I mean definitely society as a whole.
You know, we all live in that world where you
can't go into a store without magazines, you know, or
in schools right teenagers and tweens that are hearing these
things and now right now thinking about the world that
we live in, how we have a phone everywhere we go.
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It used to just be magazines on a rack and TV,
but now it's it's in our palm of our hand
all the time. So even if it's not something that
you're choosing to like really look at, it could scroll
past your feed if you are unconscious about who is
speaking into your life and who's in your feed. So
(09:03):
they're definitely society. And a lot of what I love
to bring to light is the I talk a lot
about fear as my friend in a mindset way, so
thinking about like the angel and devil on your shoulder,
or like you know, your inner critic that's speaking to you.
(09:23):
I look at fear in a way that is empowering
to me. That's how I've gotten through a lot of
not a lot, but I've got through the challenging times
in my head right that I build up to be
so big, daunting, scary, and I mentally have practiced shifting
these things to understand that my fear is here to
keep me safe, you know, And is it something that
(09:45):
I'm actually going to be need to protect myself from
or is my fear doing the work of protecting me
by keeping me small, keeping me away from doing these
mentally challenging things. So I'm definitely the mindset about you know,
let's look at it. Is that true? Will you? You know? What?
What's the worst will happen if you follow through on
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that thing that feels seemingly scary? Right, Nothing terrible is
going to happen to have your picture taken. But there's
something mentally that protects women a lot from thinking that
they won't like what they see. And guess what, when
we focus what we focus on, we see. So if
you come in with a mindset that I already hate
my body, I'm on love you know by looking at
(10:28):
this picture. If you have that mindset, that's exactly what
they see. So that mindset work pre photo shoot is
just so important to get them prepared and understand like
your body is a sacred vessel, you are an amazing
human from the inside out, and confidence wearing the confidence
no matter what we look like on the outside or
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what the society version of what women are meant to
look like. That we get to choose inside of our
mind you know, how to feel about ourselves beautiful.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
And when you work with women on their mindset, helping
them feel more empowered to take space? Basically is do
you do that with them? In one online coaching? Do
you have a little workshop of course? How do you
how do you do that? Like what does that structure
look like? Oh?
Speaker 3 (11:22):
I love, I love how you phrase that, you know,
like taking up space? Okay, So I do it on
a couple different levels. That the leading to the photography.
That is very much. I do mindset coaching one on
one for my specific clients that are leading to the photography.
I also have a virtual the virtual space that is
a community called work on Purpose with Purpose that is
(11:45):
a community level. So we're in there sharing our celebrations,
We're in there setting our intentions around what we are
focusing on for the day. And the word work right,
work on purpose is all about actually, what are the
choices that you're making today? So your work is your
(12:05):
self work of Am I focusing on my healthy eating today?
Am I focusing on my healthy movement today? Am I
focusing on the business tasks that are mentally pushing me
down that I am ready to take action on today?
Speaker 2 (12:19):
Right?
Speaker 3 (12:19):
What are those things that you're focusing on and bringing
energy to today? And that's our choice. We're choosing to
either hold off on those things or we're choosing to
take action on them. And that's a big way that
I support women currently is the community because we come
in there and like I said, we share celebration and
(12:41):
that's because we love quantum physics. When we go into
energy for seventeen seconds or longer, we continue in that energy.
So especially in a virtual world when we jump on zoom,
who knows what chaos we just were like, I'm getting
on this call. This thing is happening, right, and we
just clear that energy and we rap in and get
present with the women that are in the room to
(13:04):
celebrate with them and for us to be heard in
a celebration smaller, big, right, And then setting that intention
verbalizing the things that we're focusing on is encouraging accountability
to show up for ourselves and know that we can
follow through on it. So those are and then just
to round off what I'm talking about is that we
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turn our screens in our microphones off at ten minutes
after the hour and we hold space. So that's where
I said, oh, I love that you said take up
more space, because my virtual community is all about holding
space for each other and giving that support and encouraging accountability.
That you came and you said what your intention was, Karen,
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and then we hold the space in a community for
you to go do that action or sit in that
energy of how you want to be. And then at
ten minutes to the top of the hour, we come
back in and we ask Karen, how did it go?
You know, did you get your vegetables chopped up? Did
you go for your walk and you get the dopamine
hit and the understanding that you followed through with what
(14:10):
you said you were going to do, or right or
life happens, squirrels run pass and things draw us away
and do something else, and we tend to talk about
that if anyone wants to and give some support and
coaching and accountability for those last ten minutes to have
discussion around how we can support you in what might
have unraveled or unfolded for you, or if it's just
(14:34):
a simple yeah, I decided I was doing something different
and I'm gonna, you know, move forward in this And
it's just that deeper understanding about the person that will
help them choose what's right for their life in a
daily way. So that's kind of like the two big
main things is that I do one on one coaching
(14:56):
and support people with accountability also not just photography. I
do accountability coaching and say that you have your big
hairy dream that you want to do like an in
person event or a retreat. I help women really shape
where they are now and how they're going to get there.
And then the accountability in between is that one on
(15:17):
one coaching that we get together weekly and keep taking
steps and it's the same framework, what's your victory, where
do you want to improve on it? And let's make
a plan. And I've been trained that that's the VIP method.
I love acronyms, and the VIP is easy to remember.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
Yeah, as I was listening to you, it was easy
for me to sorry connect the decks and how the
women you do photography with and doing the mindset work
ago that just just flows right, like, of course women
need that kind of help. Well, how did you get
the idea for the group work you're doing, like showing
(16:01):
up and having to be accountable celebrating successes. Why did
you come up with the coworking space idea? I don't know.
I had a better question in my head as you
were talking, but it went stage left.
Speaker 3 (16:20):
So when I hired my first coach, I hired her
to support me and bringing a woman community to life
because I knew in my vision of supporting women with photography,
my love for capturing who they are and showing them
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that I wanted to develop. I was first calling it
fear fear feminine society, and that's where that stemmed from.
I hired my coach to support me in like how
do I do this? What do I do? I know
I want a virtual space. I'm first and foremost a
person that wants to be in person with you and
hug you. I'm a heart hugger and I'm so grateful
(17:03):
for virtual because we can connect all the time if
we want, and frequently. So I love that. So I
knew from the beginning of like okay, so like five
to seven years into my entrepreneur journey, it was very
clear to me that having a community online that we
were fostering this relationship and forming a community or a
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family on another level was important to me, and so
in hiring my coach, I was working with her for
I think three years and it still wasn't forming, like
I was still feeling like it wasn't right yet, I
wasn't moving on it. There was something holding me up.
And we built a friendship and we said, well, what
(17:49):
if we did this thing that we were already doing
and support each other in taking the actions and doing
it like baby step out of time. My coach and
I formed an LLC together. We started a business together,
so the Work on Purpose with Purpose Community. I'm the
(18:10):
co founder of it, and last year, so twenty twenty two,
I took full ownership of the company. So it started
with a partnership and developed in helping me build my
dream of this community, and then I took full ownership
after three and a half year. After three years I
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think three years. Timelines are tough for me these days.
And then so for a whole year now I have
been full owner of the company. But it came from
what we were already doing. Because she was in Minnesota,
I'm in Wisconsin, and we had a virtual relationship and
support and accountability from a coaching standpoint that I was
paying for. But how could we use my dream of
(18:52):
having a community to support women to really structure what
we know was working well for us and pieces of
other communities that we both were in because we found
that commonality that I'm a collector of, like education, I'm
a lifelong learner, and I want to know, like what's
working for other people, take what works for me from
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their framework and make it my own and implement it
in my space to teach my women and my community
what I'm learning. And she had that same framework. So
we had so much knowledge and things to give value for.
So we brought it together, started building this out, and
then it it came to a point where we were
ready to break away and I was ready to take
(19:35):
over the baby and fast forward to figuring it out continuously,
you know, honing in and nurturing that community that we're here.
Speaker 2 (19:48):
Yeah, And I had an invite from you to attend
one and I was really intrigued by I thought it
was beautiful. I really love the What are we celebrating?
It's such a different tone right then? How are you
feeling what's wrong today? What could we what could we
(20:10):
support you want? It's a different level of support. I think,
although important to know how people are truly feeling, I
also think when we shift to what we're celebrating. But
I notice is when women were able to articulate what
they're celebrating, they thought of more things to celebrate and
(20:30):
then more things to celebrate, like it really grow like whatever,
like you said, you put your mind to growth, and
that's a beautiful thing to grow. Like celebration, gratitude. Yeah,
is that your favorite part of your the work you're
doing in your group or is there something different that's
your favorite.
Speaker 3 (20:50):
I mean, celebrations are fun and amazing because right like
I think most people equate for talkography and documenting something
to be a celebration, which I think is also a
society shift that I'm helping, you know, move into the
light that I love. I love hope. I love helping
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retreat facilitators that are also doing workshops, masterminds and retreats
right smaller intimate events of these strong female leaders that
are bringing other female leaders into a room, whether they
identify themselves as leaders yet or not. They're choosing to
go to retreats. They're choosing to go to workshops and
(21:35):
masterminds because they have a growth mindset, right, They're working
on themselves to grow so that they can ripple that
out into their community. Women are so likely to ripple
it out into their communities that I am focused. That
part of photography is amazing to me because I think
(21:56):
that there's a separation between like marketing an event like
that that I'm all about capturing the connection, the tears,
the hugs, the transformation in the moment versus bodies in
a room. I call it hype event photography, which is
highlight your present experience. Did I mention, I'm affirmation.
Speaker 2 (22:17):
It's an acronym, acronym, an acronym girl.
Speaker 3 (22:20):
So I love the hype event which is highlighting your
present experience and basically on the paparazzi for the leader
to be able to highlight the experience that they've put
their heart and soul into, right, helping these other women
to feel whole and then that they ripple out. It's
just such a beautiful thing to be a part of.
So that's my favorite thing is being able to highlight
(22:44):
the work that we're choosing to put in about who
we are. That's it. I love that question. Thank you
for asking me that, because I don't know if I've
said it in that way before, right, Like, I love
helping you see the work that you're putting in yourself
for yourself that makes a ripple effect, that has this
effect on the people that you touch in your world
(23:06):
and the impact that you make because when we show
up to do our own self work, that's exactly what
we do.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
That's beautifully sad. And I see examples all the time
of rubles. For instance, trauma survivors struggle with self compassion.
So one of the reading that we do is Chris
doctor Kristenof's book and Self Compassion. And I've had several
(23:34):
clients purchased that book for the people in their lives
and then they would talk about what a difference that
book was making for their friend or their parents or
their sibling. And I was like, oh my gosh, it's
like the gift that keeps on giving. Yes, I love that.
(23:56):
And then I'll have a client say, well, I told
so and so have you thought about this or have
you thought about trying this? And I said, where did
you get that idea? And they're like from you?
Speaker 3 (24:08):
Like it sounded familiar wisdom just pours out once in
a while, you know.
Speaker 2 (24:15):
I was like, oh, that's so cool. It's yeah, it's
definitely cool to be in the space of empowering others
and then seeing them empower you know, that's to me,
that's true healing. You know, when you can give back
and support other people, you know you're looking at something
to say that resonated with you.
Speaker 3 (24:36):
It just it feels. It feels right to me, you know,
it feels right, And that's a big thing on my
entrepreneur journey that I haven't always gotten right, like tuning
back into what does feel right to me right. I'm
like I just mentioned, I'm serial person of like wanting
to learn the things and then you know they don't
(24:59):
always get to completion, which is another reason the accountability
community exists because me, because me. I know it was
something that I mean, I was paying some one thousands
of dollars to help me do that. So I wanted
to bring a more accessible way for people to receive
the kind of support and encouraging accountability that I was
(25:21):
receiving for thousands of dollars one on one and condense
it and work on how can we it's not distilling
it like I'm I am constantly told from the feedback
of my members that they feel safe and supported and
encouraged in such a beautiful way, even if they are
coming and holding space for ten minutes at the top
(25:41):
and ten minutes at the bottom with us, because it's
very authentic, and I don't host those hours on my own.
I have community leaders that help support those hours as well.
They've been trained, they know, you know, why they're doing this.
We have a bigger vision of that, and we hold
space for each other. The most beautiful compliment I've received
(26:02):
in the last probably whole year, for sure, is that
one of my members said that she was celebrating that
holding we hold this space for you isn't only a
tagline that we use in our community. That it's authentic
and true because she was going through she is going
through real life things that she was checked out for
(26:23):
a couple of months, and she chose to come back
in and she felt right at home. She felt so
welcomed because we were so excited to get to actually
see her and hear what's real in her life. So,
you know, I gave the example of the ten minutes
before and the ten minutes after and you're like, that's
really great. And the truth is that there are deeper
opportunities to hold space in the forty minutes that we
(26:46):
connect as a community and build friendship that is deeper
than co working together. And that's where the real power
is in a community, right, we are really holding for
the tough things that we deal with. We've had members
lose two houses that they had at the same time
in different states. We had another member that had a
(27:08):
house fire and was going through this for a whole
year in this transitional point of these things, so we
know they bring those things to our cowork space as well.
And I'm doing the air quotes because it's so much
more than we sit here and we just say what
we're doing and we go do our thing. It is
that we listen deeply to each other as well and
(27:30):
give support and encouragement.
Speaker 2 (27:35):
Yeah, it's such a unique special way to do that.
I love it.
Speaker 3 (27:39):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (27:40):
So maybe walk us through a client that hired you
to do their photography and they are not in love
with their body and they're hoping you make them look
good physically for the pictures, but you accomplished much more
of that with their mind and the way they see themselves.
(28:02):
Do you have a really I think maybe the double
missectory person might be it, or maybe there's another you know,
I want to rephrase that. In my training as a
social worker, we never say we never say the physical
before the person. So I should have said, the woman
who was recovering from the double misseectomy, is that is
(28:25):
that gentle or kindler, She's more than her double missectomy.
That's a probably very little, a little piece of who
she is. She's way more than that on a spiritual level,
for sure. Yes, So anyway, it doesn't be her, but
example of someone's transformation.
Speaker 3 (28:45):
So what's cool is that those were my learning experiences.
So that example, I'll just hold here for a second
to be very clear about something for myself and for
the movement forward, which is that that client actually didn't
get the mindset work. She came only the fact that
(29:10):
she was ready because it was a celebration, right, she
was celebrating it. So I do work in the in
between of does this person need a breakthrough in their mindset,
which I believe that we all do at definitely certain times,
but majority of the time we always could use a
breakthrough right, but this client specifically, like I frame a
(29:30):
lot of things as here's some ideas of what you
can come in to do a photo shoot to celebrate.
Speaker 2 (29:37):
Right.
Speaker 3 (29:37):
That was a lot of the very beginning of my
empowerment Boudoir photography was here's a list of things that
maybe you're going to celebrate your birthday, your significant other
wanting a gift, you're getting married and it's a groom gift,
you're celebrating being a survivor or working through that your
survival story, and you want to see yourself And those
were ways that I was listening, let's celebrate and document
(30:00):
this milestone on your journey. Okay, So that was how
I began really framing my work. Now, the mindset breakthrough stuff,
I haven't actually used it on like with survivors specifically yet,
and it's really you know, and everyone's journey is unique.
(30:21):
But the idea too is that it's like she came
ready and knowing that this was going to help her,
and she had a positive mindset about knowing that when
I see it, I want to, I want to And
we did like glitter on her body, like intentionally, she
she brought elements, we worked, we did work through some
ideas about what what would be unique to you. And
(30:45):
she loves glitter. She loves glitter, so instantly I was like, well,
let's incorporate glitter, Like, let's throw some glitter on it. Girl, Like,
let's go for it. And that's exactly what we did.
We put gold glitter on her and like owned her
scars and like so and there was there was definite
breakthroughs that happened, which is how I knew the mindset
(31:07):
work was also so important. So I didn't start with
this framework. I didn't start with this understanding. It was developed.
Speaker 2 (31:13):
It's you they did.
Speaker 3 (31:17):
I listened. I listened to what we were actually doing
and the results that there were. I heard it. And
the ones that like weren't like, oh my gosh, I
love these they found like some that they loved, but
there was definitely like they knocked themselves down more than
they rose up from it because of their mindset, you know.
And then there was other ones that were showing me
(31:38):
this like the celebration, the owning it, the really leaning
into the positive side of it for themselves to be
optimistic about looking through a new lens about who they were.
Speaker 2 (31:54):
Yeah, yeah, that's so beautiful. Yeah, I love all that questions,
Yeah you did. You could have easily said yes, I
do amazing mindset and that's how No you it's a
different level. That was really beautiful. I always tell my
clients like, yeah, like I guide you through things, but
(32:19):
I learned so much from my clients. It's it's it's amazing,
but they can teach us, which helps other people. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (32:28):
I think a big thing is just always knowing that
allowing ourselves to always be beginners too, right. I never
want to lose that. I always want to remember that
I'm a beginner. Like today's new day. My kids teach
me every day, Like coming with a fresh perspective of
what am I going to learn today and what can
I glean from the day is always something I want
(32:51):
to remember, and especially with business, and this has been
kind of something coming recently. Is you know, I've been
in business for over a decade now, and it's like, oh,
I somehow sometimes I think I know what I'm doing,
and then right I get knocked upside the head and
I'm like, you are a baby. You are a baby,
(33:14):
and be willing to be a baby and learn. And
sometimes I think that's better because then we're coachable, We're open,
and I think that's the big thing is being open,
open hearted, open minded, and being willing to let in
the teaching that we are sometimes being repeated until we do.
Speaker 2 (33:39):
It's a beautiful way to say that. So what's next
for you, Becky?
Speaker 3 (33:45):
Oh, what's next for me is in person events. That's
something that is something that baby Becky back in the
day was really like good at getting small groups of
women together myself and knowing that like that needed to
be highlighted and documented and all of that, and right
when you're in it, it's it's harder to be able
(34:07):
to stop and document and be present in the moment,
which is why I love to do that for other leaders,
because I can be there like a fly on the
wall and document it and still feel the transformation in
the experience that happens. But and then twenty twenty four
is going to be all around. Let's get back to
(34:28):
those smaller intimate events for myself to put on so
that I can find those women that then are ready
to go to the next levels for whether it's a
photo shoot or having a virtual community to give more
ongoing support in a collective way and just really getting
(34:48):
feet on the ground to hug women in twenty twenty
four is my focus.
Speaker 2 (34:54):
Beautiful And so women that are listening to our show
today struggling and they just love your energy because this
infections your energy. It's beautiful. Well, what's the best thing
for them to reach out to you?
Speaker 3 (35:08):
Well, the best way is right now would currently be
my website Becky ploutz dot com. Plouts is p l
a u t z. And also you can always email me.
And I'm actually not going to say my email because
it's long and people people are like, what how do
(35:28):
I expel it again? But go to the website and
contact me on there. And I would love to get
kext to you or find me on social media. Same
last name.
Speaker 2 (35:40):
You don't change it for your social media, no, no, I.
Speaker 3 (35:43):
Refer to myself as Becky p on everything. You can
definitely go check out Choo's on Purpose podcasts as a
way to receive more. Karen, I heard you say many times,
that's a beautiful way to say it. I'm just like
every time you said it, I was like, Becky, remind
yourself that sometimes you say some really beautiful things, because
you said it like three times today.
Speaker 2 (36:02):
So did I I didn't. I wasn't tracking. I'm glad
you were. Oh yeah, yeah, I track things like when
I've gotten to some especially virtually, it's it feels just ingenuous.
I know it's not meant to be. It feels just
(36:24):
in generous. When the post says my most favorite specialist guests,
you know, when they and then they say it about everyone,
like I know, like, for example, i'd love that's all
we're all his favorite. When a human says it, it's like,
(36:45):
is there a better way to say that? You know?
And so I'm always conscious of the beginning, like don't
say today's our special guest is because then you know,
it's better to highlight what is special, right.
Speaker 3 (37:00):
I love that. I love that awareness. I think that
that's true too, again, all about the authenticity and the realness.
And I think you're spot on when I listen to
other people that, like, on a consistent basis, like we
do catch those things and even if we aren't consciously
catching them, our subconscious nos they're like, I think that's
(37:21):
a little bs.
Speaker 2 (37:23):
Yeah, I don't feel so special now it's last three people?
What is special about me? That's what Yeah, kind of
attracts me. Okay, well we probably should wrap up because
of time and no one has to listen to three
hours of us or maybe they do.
Speaker 3 (37:42):
Maybe they do keep watching the podcast.
Speaker 2 (37:46):
Oh okay, so I'm not going to ask this question,
but maybe you could send it to me if it resonates,
because I think it does. I noticed too when I
visited your community you all were working in a book
club and oh my god, books and my favorite thanks ever,
thanks not you know people are my favorite? Then books
(38:06):
great and intro. Okay, let me start.
Speaker 3 (38:11):
So if you have.
Speaker 2 (38:13):
Ideas and books that are super empowering for our audience
that you highly recommend, maybe just send me two or three,
or take a picture of a bookcase like where whatever
feels the best, because I love doing that for my
community to.
Speaker 3 (38:28):
Remember remembering wholeness. This is one that we literally just started,
so I know by the time you see this will
be through this book. Connect with me about this book.
I already know that this is a powerful book for
everyone to sit with. And I mean we we are
(38:49):
currently we've done thinking Grow Rich books inside of our
study as well, and you know they talk a lot
about from a business standpoint, but again, everything that we
talk about in my community, and that I'm about is
a wholeness approach. It's about working on the person and
the work fulfillment and the things come with that because
(39:10):
we're working on ourselfs and we're bringing ourselves to everything
that we do. So that's I mean, those are the
two ones that definitely have stood out to me as
we've done Atomic Habits, because working on our habits and
our goals is a big piece of what we support
as a collective inside the community. We also have workshops
(39:33):
that are for our members. We have invitations for people
in the public to come in and experience some of
those to get a taste of what you'll get ongoing
support with a community. So I'm all about the books
that are about self development and personal growth journey because
of that wholeness perspective. So just totally on brand that
(39:54):
this is the one that we're working on right now
by Carol Tebtle.
Speaker 2 (39:59):
That's great. I will check that book out too, all right, Becky,
thank you so much for taking time out this morning
to be my guests on my show. It was a
pleasure hosting you.
Speaker 3 (40:11):
Thank you, Karen, this was so fun. I appreciate you.
Speaker 1 (40:15):
Likewise, thank you for listening in today, Please join us
next week, same day and time. Also, I would love
for you to check out my website heel thrivedream dot
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