October 13, 2025 • 34 mins
(00:00:00) We read Reddit r/AITA Stories: Booger Sugar and Nose Pints
(00:06:42) AITA for not stocking the fridge for my husband after his business trip?
(00:12:22) AITA for calling out my parents for being greedy landlords?
(00:21:01) AITA if I told my niece she needs to move out?
(00:27:04) AITA for asking my sister what she expected to happen at her excuse of a bachelorette party?
On the 11th episode of The Joevelocity Show, Joe is joined by Hubba, and we discuss some r/AITA stories from Reddit.
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• AITA for not stocking the fridge for my husband after his business trip?
In the first story, Joe and Hubba examine the evolving dynamics of marriage and family expectations, particularly focusing on traditional gender roles and their impact on relationships. We explore how some men may view marriage as a final destination, leading to an imbalance in shared responsibilities at home. Anecdotes about family experiences highlight these themes, such as the story of a father who expected his wife to make him a sandwich while she was in labor. The conversation shifts to generational differences in relationships, with older couples often enduring hardships longer than younger ones today.
• AITA for calling out my parents for being greedy landlords?
Next, we examine the ethical responsibilities of landlords, with a focus on a personal story of confronting parents about their treatment of tenants during tough economic times. These discussions highlight issues of fairness, empathy, and evolving societal norms.
• AITA if I told my niece she needs to move out?
In the third story, we explore a challenging family dynamic where a listener is faced with the decision of asking their niece to move out after living with them rent-free for three years. The niece, who originally stayed behind to pursue college while her parents moved out of state, has not enrolled in school and has developed poor living habits. We discuss the listener's perspective, who feels the niece is taking advantage of the situation, and consider the fairness of expecting her to adhere to the original agreement or contribute more responsibly to the household.
• AITA for asking my sister what she expected to happen at her excuse of a bachelorette party?
Finally, Joe and Hubba explore the chaotic aftermath of a joint bachelorette party gone awry, leading to multiple breakups, a divorce, and even an arrest. We discuss the questionable decisions of celebrating with heavy drinking and drug use, and the inevitable consequences that followed. The conversation touches on personal anecdotes related to cocaine use, with reflections on its impact on relationships and behavior. The broader implications of indulging in substances and the importance of personal boundaries are also examined, shedding light on the repercussions of attempting to escape reality without considering the fallout.
Subscribe to The Joevelocity Show in your favorite podcast app so you don’t miss an episode! For access to all of our websites, visit us at joevelocity.com
(00:06:42) AITA for not stocking the fridge for my husband after his business trip?
(00:12:22) AITA for calling out my parents for being greedy landlords?
(00:21:01) AITA if I told my niece she needs to move out?
(00:27:04) AITA for asking my sister what she expected to happen at her excuse of a bachelorette party?
On the 11th episode of The Joevelocity Show, Joe is joined by Hubba, and we discuss some r/AITA stories from Reddit.
Brought to you by:
Old Glory offers over 300,000 items for music, sports, entertainment, and pop culturefans, featuring officially licensed merch from iconic bands and top sports teams.Discover your perfect fan gear and save 15% with the exclusive discount code JOEVELOCITY at https://oldglory.com.
• AITA for not stocking the fridge for my husband after his business trip?
In the first story, Joe and Hubba examine the evolving dynamics of marriage and family expectations, particularly focusing on traditional gender roles and their impact on relationships. We explore how some men may view marriage as a final destination, leading to an imbalance in shared responsibilities at home. Anecdotes about family experiences highlight these themes, such as the story of a father who expected his wife to make him a sandwich while she was in labor. The conversation shifts to generational differences in relationships, with older couples often enduring hardships longer than younger ones today.
• AITA for calling out my parents for being greedy landlords?
Next, we examine the ethical responsibilities of landlords, with a focus on a personal story of confronting parents about their treatment of tenants during tough economic times. These discussions highlight issues of fairness, empathy, and evolving societal norms.
• AITA if I told my niece she needs to move out?
In the third story, we explore a challenging family dynamic where a listener is faced with the decision of asking their niece to move out after living with them rent-free for three years. The niece, who originally stayed behind to pursue college while her parents moved out of state, has not enrolled in school and has developed poor living habits. We discuss the listener's perspective, who feels the niece is taking advantage of the situation, and consider the fairness of expecting her to adhere to the original agreement or contribute more responsibly to the household.
• AITA for asking my sister what she expected to happen at her excuse of a bachelorette party?
Finally, Joe and Hubba explore the chaotic aftermath of a joint bachelorette party gone awry, leading to multiple breakups, a divorce, and even an arrest. We discuss the questionable decisions of celebrating with heavy drinking and drug use, and the inevitable consequences that followed. The conversation touches on personal anecdotes related to cocaine use, with reflections on its impact on relationships and behavior. The broader implications of indulging in substances and the importance of personal boundaries are also examined, shedding light on the repercussions of attempting to escape reality without considering the fallout.
Subscribe to The Joevelocity Show in your favorite podcast app so you don’t miss an episode! For access to all of our websites, visit us at joevelocity.com
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Speaker 2 (00:40):
And Welcome to the Joe Vlossi Show. I am here
this week.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
With a welcome back. Hey going on.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
How you doing I'm good? How are you? I'm doing good.
I'm doing good. It's been wile since I've seen you
because literally, like the month of September was the month
of month. Yeah, and then the last show, I did
it by myself. Actually it turned out better than I
thought it would. But it is a little different when
you're doing it yourself because you have to talk a lot. Yeah,
(01:09):
and so it's probably when the last show was a
little shortly.
Speaker 3 (01:11):
Yeah. Yeah, But we're gonna hook it up today.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
We are, We're gon hook.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
It up today.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
The reason why I've been seeing you for a while,
You've had a lot going on in your own personal life.
Speaker 3 (01:23):
I've had a lot going on.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
The first thing I've mentioned here is is that you're
stove caught on fire. Oh so what happened there?
Speaker 4 (01:35):
I want to just go bake something, and all of
a sudden the oven caught on fire.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
And the oven, the stove.
Speaker 4 (01:44):
Was old, and it was just time for it to
get you know what I mean, It was just time
for it to be replaced.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
It was old. The stove was about I want to say,
almost stove.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
In a refrigerator m hm, and a dishwasher.
Speaker 4 (01:59):
No, I got the I've been had the refrigerator. I
got the refrigerator last year.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Okay, so you only body stoven, a dishwasher, stove, dishwasher,
and the microwave and a microwave. Okay, yeah, because you
because it's the microwave above, yes, okay.
Speaker 4 (02:13):
And I had to go but above and beyond. I
had to go beyond and beyond. But yeah, I had
to get another like I had to get a whole
new basically a new, whole new set.
Speaker 3 (02:25):
But now it matches my well, well my no, the stove,
the dishwasher, and they were white. You know, they were old.
Speaker 4 (02:36):
I know, so it definitely was time for me to
get you know, new appliances anyway, and they were almost
almost over thirty years old.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
Oh wow, wow, yeah, so I think at that point there, yeah,
I mean it's kind of weird, just I mean, it's
made me now kind of very you know, worried when
I go and I cook anything in the oven that's
gonna let them fire. So but I'm glad you're okay.
But then on top of it, there too, and this
is the joys of owning a house, apparently, is that
you have to get your roof replaced.
Speaker 4 (03:08):
Oh the joys, the joys, the joys.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
Listen, do you just want to hit that dollar button yourself.
Speaker 4 (03:21):
I ain't got it like that, but apparently this house, dude,
but apparently this damn house, dude.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
Yeah. I had to get a new roof.
Speaker 4 (03:29):
And it started out with a leak in my kitchen,
I mean my kitchen, a leak in my bathroom, and
I'm like, that's the first that's the first time I
ever had a leak in my house. Oh wow, you know,
from the roof, you know. So that's when I looked
into it and I had someone up and look and
they were like, you can get that patched up. It
was around the what is the pipe before the what
(03:53):
is the pipe?
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Like, it's the airpipe that's used to keep your plumbing
from me stopping your house.
Speaker 4 (03:59):
Yeah, well well well yeah, so anyway I had He's like,
you can get this sealed and yeah.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
And then because.
Speaker 4 (04:10):
Like a month before that, there was there was I
had wind damage on there and I didn't even realize.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
Oh wow, so from from the storm we had back
in Yeah, yeah, probably precipitated your roof flaking. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (04:24):
Right, so and even before that, I didn't realize, like
my my roof definitely needed to be replaced eventually within
He said, you can get these patched up, but you're
gonna need to replace it within a year.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
Between the year and three.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
Years, was it just like a shingle roof, Yes, so
thankfully that's a loss expensive than like a slate roof for.
Speaker 4 (04:43):
It, right, right, So so I really started to shop around,
like really started to look around, got a couple of estimates,
and I got to touch with a friend of mine
from work and he was telling me about how he
got a metal root okay, and he went to you know,
damage and they were given they did.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
It for a reasonable price.
Speaker 4 (05:08):
So so it worked out. I'm not gonna say the price
or none of that, but but but it definitely worked
out for the best because everywhere else was so expensive
just for the pave the paving, the pavement what is it, asphault,
just for the as fhoult, it was so expensive and
(05:29):
it was just like if I would have got metal
with any of them, it would have been.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
Double okay, So it just was ridiculous.
Speaker 4 (05:39):
And it was just like just shopping around and I
finally ran into who I finally ran into, you know
what I mean, and he was wonderful, and it just
all worked out. That definitely worked out. But it was
a stressful time. It was stressful, was stressful, was stressful,
I would imagine, and I got it done because this
(06:00):
is you know, it's because you know, like people don't
feel realize how much it is like being a homeowner.
Speaker 3 (06:10):
You're doing it on young yeah, you know what I mean.
Speaker 4 (06:13):
And you know I got this house at a young age,
so it's I mean, but I'm proud of myself.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
But oh yeah, that stuff you gotta deal with.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
See, you're better off than I am because I still
actually live in an apartment.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
Right right, But that's what's been going on. There's been more,
but I don't feel like talking about.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
It same way as We'll go ahead here and we
will move on to the first story. So in this case,
so the first story is am I the oushol for
not stalking the fridge for my husband after his business trip?
WHOA right? Anyways, the story goes, my husband went out
(06:55):
out of the country for a business trip and returned
home over the weekend. I was out of town visiting
friends when he returned. His grape was that he was
left with no food.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
Ooh.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
For context, I did the majority of the grocery shopping,
like ninety percent of his ten percent, and he does
his share of other chores, etc. I admit there was
not a refrigerator full of fresh food because I did
not go to the store that week. However, I can't test.
There was a freezer with several meals and a patriot
with food that could have been prepared. Perhaps not what
he was hoping for, but there were some options also.
(07:27):
We live in a major city with plenty of grocery
stores and restaurants within walking distance. Again, not ideal after
red eye international flight, but there's options. At first, it
wasn't a big deal, more than a joke. But when
he repeatedly met jams at me about it, I stood
up for myself. And now it's a full blown argument.
We're both stubborn people. I can a knowledge it would
have been nice if I socked a fridge upon his
(07:49):
return from the trip. However, I work a full time
job myself, and I see it as we're both capable
adults at providing food for ourselves when the other is busy.
I've got to know, am I the asshole in this
seat situation?
Speaker 3 (08:01):
No?
Speaker 4 (08:01):
No, no, absolutely not, no, absolutely not. She's not an asshole,
and and she's not an asshole. It's just it happened.
She just slipped her mad she forgot, Yeah, but then
just to keep on hounding her about it, like what
the hell? Like you keep bugging her about this?
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Come on, man, you would have thought maybe that he
would have been like, Hey, I'm gonna buy some food
so when I return out something to eat, right, you know,
starving in that case story, So the way keep you
forget to get something? I at least have something then, right,
So I think this, Yeah, he's you know, she's certainly
not the asshole. I definitely would say, he's the asshole
in this situation.
Speaker 4 (08:38):
Yeah, he's being a ass about the situation. But at
the same time, I think, you know what, sometimes when
people do that, they just want your attention.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
Right, And plus there was food there that he could
have eaten, so it wasn't like a situation where he
was starving. And I think the commenters were great with
us here. The first one goes the family men had
access to the family money and allowed to go to
the grocery stores. I surely hope he did not start
to death, not the asshole. And then somebody responded back
and said, maybe we could start to go fund me
the raise awareness of the sad situation. Can you imagine
(09:11):
a hungry he was after a business trip without food
and then the entire weekend, and then the next one
is kind of pregnant there. The problem is is that
men see marriage as as the ending line, like all
of a sudden, they forget how to do things and
expect the wife to pick up the rest all the
time complete one hundred and eighty. Then when they were
shown up to that point, they don't want wives. They
want the married caretakers, where not the mothers. Going somewhere
(09:33):
with this bullshit.
Speaker 4 (09:34):
Absolutely sometimes you know, it could go both ways though too,
you know what I mean. But yeah, especially the men,
you know, they we can be something else, you know
what I mean. So it's like but it's just like
they said, they think it's the end of it all,
like they don't have to do nothing when they.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Come to My dad, who I don't talk to anymore,
is a very good example of this here where basically
his wife will cook clean, you know now, and basically
just sit there like a you know, a fat log
and be like, I'm gonna watch my World War War
two movies on on the History Channel. Yeah it's bad,
just bad. I don't know why guys think that, you
(10:14):
know that's the case, or because then I have my
mom and my stepfather, and the last time I went
up there, he was cooking dinner, you know, so they
share the responsibilities. And I'll be honest, his dinner was
damn good. But it was not soup because it was
supposed to be a pasta dish. But we kept calling
it soup, and it's like, it's not soup, right, it
(10:35):
was it was.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
Soup, right, What the hell?
Speaker 4 (10:40):
I don't know, I don't know that just meant, it
could be something else when it comes in like once
they during the marriage, they just seem like they the
white do everything for right in the house, and it's
like this is a tame effort, like you know, you
gotta work together on this.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Yeah, and the last one is very very pertinent. Allow
me to tell you the story about how my mom
had to make my dad a sandwich for lunch before
they went to the hospital. My mom was having contractions
at the time. The hospital was a thirty minute drive away.
I was born in less than five hours later. Whoa he,
(11:17):
I'm surprised you didn't take him outside and like bury him.
Speaker 4 (11:21):
I was just wondering if they got a divorce right
after that.
Speaker 3 (11:26):
You know, I mean, or probably not because that single mother.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
Because what's kind of funny is is that, like one
thing I noticed there is that older folks are more
likely to stay together when times are rough, and then
newer folks basically won't actually go ahead there and stay
together when things go wrong. I mean, I can go
to that myself, right, But it's also one of those
(11:53):
things are I guess people won't want to pup a
lot more shit back in.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
The day, right, right, They.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
Here cases where like people are alcoholics, you know, and
they're together for years. Like yeah, like my dad was
an alcoholic and they were together for like twenty five years,
so come on, you know.
Speaker 3 (12:12):
Yeah, it's just I don't know how. I don't know
how they did it.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
I really don't. Yeah, I don't know how they did it. Well,
this may have been how they did it there, yea.
And by the asshole for calling it my parents for
being greedy landlords. My parents own a number of rental
properties in my town. Essentially don't work. They called a business,
but maybe once or twice a year they'll buy a
small house to flip. Most of the work they subcontract out.
(12:37):
They're incredibly well off. Were also frugal with their money.
They still shop at Laddo, which is basically like the
the foreign version of all these and the most you'll
get on your birthday is fifteen pounds and sweets. They
eat out maybe two to four times a year for
birthdays and the like. At the same time, they had
several homes worth over one million pounds, with pools and
(12:59):
huge gardens which they moved between. I usually bout my
tongue and don't say anything about their business dealings, but
recently they had several tenants lose their jobs and failed
to make rent. Rather than supporting the people who have
been paying for their lifestyle, they instead chose to attack them,
call them lazy. They had been in the process of
evicting two sets of tenants to keep talking about how
the system was rugged against them and how tenants have
(13:21):
too many rates. Recently, I've been noticing their hypocrisy more
and more and it's really started to bother me. I
spoke up against them last evening when I was over
for my sister's birthday, and they both blew up at me.
They claim that they worked hard, saved up, and now
can live well due to their smart decisions. But to me,
this seems unfair because in the current economy, it'd be
impossible to do what they did. They take real pride
(13:44):
in spending as limiting as physically possible and called me
stupid for not doing what they're doing. So and by
the asshole, were speaking up and risking my relationship with them.
Speaker 4 (13:52):
She's not an asshole. She's not an asshole. She just
have more like she she cares for others, and she
see that they're taking advantage of do you know what
I mean the situation not necessarily taking event, but like
the way they're treating their tenants and they've been there
for years, and it's like, come on, give them a
(14:14):
little break, Like, come on, and y'all got all the
money in the world.
Speaker 2 (14:19):
It's not like the parents are hard off or depending
upon that for their income. They're well to do, so,
I mean, I have a feeling there that probably this
story occurred like around COVID, which is like a lot
of people lost their jobs because people just couldn't be together,
you know. Of course, then there's me. You know, it's like,
let's take a five percent pay cut and it work
(14:40):
harder than you ever have, right, but nothing else to do.
So it was kind of like, okay, you know, well
either that or lose my job, you know, so exactly
it kind of worked out in the end thing god right, Right,
But still it's kind of like, yeah, I agree with
you one hundred percent, she's not the asshole, and I
think the commenters agree too. So the commenters go, what
(15:00):
kind of relationship can you have with anyone who can't
handle being called wrong once in a while?
Speaker 4 (15:05):
Right, Yeah, I think it too. Before you get to
I think too, it is because that's their child. So
they're looking at that as how dealed you? Who orged
you to speak up on what's going over that? They
don't feel realize that's a grown that's a she's a
grown woman, right, Yeah, she's a grown woman now.
Speaker 3 (15:20):
She see things for herself. She has a voice, she's
allowed to use it, and she should call out her
parents when they are wrong. That's her parents. If you're wrong,
you're wrong.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
Another commentery, though, didn't agree. They said, you're the asshole
that worked hard, and they're allowed to collect money on
their investments. If the government wants to subsidize their tenants rent,
then that's our progative. It's not your parents to house
people for free. I do get that point. You know,
you know, their leniency only can extend to a certain point.
Speaker 3 (15:52):
I completely get that.
Speaker 4 (15:54):
More two, I would still have to hear from the
parents that far as that. Maybe they're like, well, we
waited months and they could have Maybe they like when
we went through COVID, Yeah, we had to deal with
the unemployment through COVID and all that ex sort of stuff,
And it's like if they knew, I don't know, But
she said they said that they're lazy. Yeah, well, which
(16:18):
can go both ways.
Speaker 2 (16:19):
Yeah, that's one of those things there where they basically
want to you know, basically blem it on the tenants
and me just been on the tentis control because like
COVID like scrutleized stuff up, you know everybody. The other
commentery goes, I don't think you're the ousehold for thinking
and feeling what you do. I'm be inclined to agree,
but I do think that your sister's birthday was not
the place and also think that you made opinions like this. No,
(16:41):
you need to be one that accept an in consequences
in including potentially being removed from their wealth walk the walk,
as well as talk to talk so to speak.
Speaker 4 (16:49):
That's true. I mean I get that poor. But at
the same time, sometimes you be fed up and you
see bull crap, and sometimes it's just she's human. She's
young still too, you know what I mean, Like right,
you know, she's still learning herself. I get like they
didn't try to say it on some you know, yeah
and mean about it, or just like look, mabe, you
(17:10):
still watch watch your timing going in. Maybe that's something
you should have talked to them personally about like somewhere
else when instead that's your sister's birthday.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
It's also too it sounds like how they reacted, maybe
she could have phrased it.
Speaker 3 (17:22):
A little bit better, right, right, So it's.
Speaker 2 (17:25):
One of those cases there too. She could maybe could
have been a little easier about it there, instead of
being like, you know what, stop taking advantage of these people,
that could have been like, you know, maybe because of
the circumstances, you can give them a break, you know,
And that's really the case. They're where I think everybody
sucks here, you know, to a certain extent then, for
reacting so poorly, you know, because they're cheap skates in
(17:46):
her for maybe being a little bit too harsh in
regards with us. Right, But that's my own personal opinion, right,
And that's what this show is all about. And speaking
of wish're going ahead here and we're gonna take a
break and be right back with the Joe Less Show
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Speaker 2 (19:29):
Welcome back to the job, welass show. I'm here with Hubba.
Welcome back. By the way, I'm so happy about doing
in their podcast with my mom. I love my moff
don't get me wrong, but you know it's kind of
give a watch yourself, you know, right, your parents got
to watch what you say around Yeah, you.
Speaker 4 (19:48):
Can say anything around me. Say something you don't want
to say too much around your parents.
Speaker 2 (19:53):
I know, well, you know it's kind of funny because
I'm with my mom and one of the stories was
about like a woman basically fel down as she farted hm.
And so in this case, I'm like, I have a
fart noise on the sandboard and she started laughing. But
afterwards we were talking, She's like, I didn't like that
(20:15):
fart story too much. And I was like, well, you
were laughing when I played the fart noise. He was
like yeah, right. I was like, parts are funny. Anyways
to go, and there's this story too, so whenever you're older,
(20:38):
you're dancing to this. Yeah, he keeps going and going.
That's hilarious getting out of your seat and start dancing
around and being like right about right. Anyways, were go
(20:59):
ahead and move on to the third story here, and
by the asshole, if I told my niece she needs
to move out. Three years back, my niece came to
live with me after her mom and stepdad moved out
of state. The understanding was that she stayed behind and
live with me while they relocated. I agreed to let
her live with my wife and I without paying rent
or other expenses. The formal agreement was that she would
(21:20):
prioritize college and work towards some kind of education or
career goal. I didn't care what major. However, that didn't happen.
She didn't enroll in school at the time, and for
the past three years hasn't taken any visible steps towards
a degree. She does have a job and pays for
her own phone plan and luxuries, but I cover all
the housing related costs. Recently she mentioned she's taken some classes,
but I haven't seen any evidence to this. She doesn't
(21:43):
bring it up, and the conversations are usually about work
or our news, but not school. Explicitly asking and gets
me generic responses. The bigger issue, though, is are living habits.
Her room is extremely messy. I found trash like a
disposable spork outside her door, and when I get a
looking side, I can't even see the floor through all
the clothes and boxes. I've asked her multiple times to
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clean it. She ays says that she will, but nothing changes.
My wife has also tried talking to her, with no success.
When her mom talked to her about moving back, my
niece refused and says she felt abandoned because my sister
chose to move out of state despite choosing to remain
in our home state in the city. Her feelings are valid,
but I don't think that's fair to my sister that
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my niece claims that she was abandoned. At this point,
my wife and I both feel that it's time for
her to move out. I'm offering her two clear options.
She can live with her mom and stepdad or with
her dad and his wife. But I don't think she
continue living here when there's no real plan in progress
or respect for the space. So am I the asshole
if I told her it's time to move out and
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choose between living with her mom or her dad. I'm
not trying to be cruel, but I don't think this
arrangement is healthy or fair to anyone.
Speaker 3 (22:53):
Absolutely not.
Speaker 4 (22:54):
She needs to grow up, she needs to figure out
what she's going to do in life, you know what
I mean.
Speaker 3 (23:00):
Like, it's been three years and.
Speaker 4 (23:02):
It's just like they're getting to a point where it's like, Okay,
you're not doing that with yourself, You're not cleaning up
behind yourself, all this extra stuff.
Speaker 3 (23:09):
And it's just like, but she's young, you know.
Speaker 2 (23:11):
What I mean, but I feel like that she's actually
taking advantage of the situation. Absolutely, absolutely, because number one,
she's not paying rent, and that's probably the biggest problem here,
you know, absolutely. And also there was an agreement that
she'd be going to school during the time, and she
really hasn't done that, let's be honest.
Speaker 4 (23:29):
And she's been lying about it. She ain't been in school. Yeah,
she's been in school, like.
Speaker 3 (23:33):
Come on now, she come.
Speaker 2 (23:35):
On girl, right, And then also too on top of
it there it's not like she's even like a good
she's not a good roommate, I guess she could say.
I mean, for lack of a better way to put it, there,
her room is completely messive.
Speaker 4 (23:46):
And they have a right to want to have their
home to themselves. At this point, they thought this girl
would be in college and right, you know, she and
and things just didn't work out that way. And it's
not like she's getting kicked out and having nowhere to go. Yeah,
she has a couple options exactly if you are fine,
get out.
Speaker 2 (24:07):
Right, I mean, and thankfully she's not paying rent, right
because she was, you know, she'd be in her world
of her So let's be honest, I mean, when when
did you move out your house? You're our parents' house.
Speaker 4 (24:19):
I mean I moved out there by the time I
was seventeen.
Speaker 2 (24:24):
Oh wow, okay, see for me it was twenty you know,
so it was around this time here that you know.
I mean, so it's really one of those cases there
where she is gonna really you know, she thinks the
world is hard. Now just wait, yeah, yeah, just wait.
Makes you wish you were back in high school, right,
and you.
Speaker 4 (24:43):
Got to go and live with somebody else and like
live by their rules and everything too.
Speaker 3 (24:48):
Right from pillar to post, gool, get it together.
Speaker 2 (24:53):
Let's go ahead here and talk about some of the comments,
not the asshole. You had an agreement. She has failed
to fulfill even its most basic terms. The agreement should
have ended much much sooner. And then the other commenter said,
you have two vouter reasons for not wanting this to continue,
her messy habits which sound like filth, not just on tidiness,
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and the fact that she pays you no rent like
I said here before you and contribute towards household expenses.
No one is entitled to live at rent free life
unless they are a minor or studying or actively and
generally looking for work or too disable to work. Her
niece says a job that she has an income and
can afford to pay.
Speaker 3 (25:31):
You.
Speaker 2 (25:32):
If you're worried about coming across this crewel, you can
consider letting her stay on a condition that she starts
paying her way and cleans up her mess. She kicks
up a FOSSi says that she will and fails to deliver,
then you can show her the door. Right, Yeah, I.
Speaker 4 (25:47):
Mean absolutely absolutely. But I don't even think it's like
even more to rent thing. It's just like she didn't
She really don't know what to do with her life,
and she lying about going to school and everything.
Speaker 2 (26:05):
Is she's being lazy and then taking advantage of the situation.
Speaker 3 (26:08):
Yeah, and taking advantage.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
She don't care, and it's not going to end the
well for her.
Speaker 4 (26:11):
You cannot here somewhere the funk else, Yeah right, get
the funk out.
Speaker 3 (26:17):
I'm sorry. I don't mean to be so horse to
get out.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
Right exactly.
Speaker 3 (26:24):
I ain't dealing with that neither. Get out my house
with that neither.
Speaker 2 (26:28):
So hey, guess what time it is.
Speaker 3 (26:31):
It's time for the last time.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
You're right, try singing to us. Yeah, this is from seventies. Anyways,
I just knew I did something.
Speaker 4 (26:52):
I did so singing.
Speaker 2 (27:00):
Anyways, let's go ahead, he let's go on with the
last story here and by the also for asking my
sister was she expected to happen at her excuse of
a bachelorette party for some reason, my I'm thirty two
sister who's twenty three in her fiance, who's twenty five,
the son of did the very best way to celebrate before
getting married was to have a joint bachelor bagualurette party
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at strip clubs. They also hired a bus limit for
the evening. The aftermath was thus far, three breakups, four
people dropping out of the wedding party when impending divorce,
in one arrest. The cleaning bill for the limit was
more than the original rental fee. She was crying to
our mom at dinner the other day, and I snorted.
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I tried not to. I honestly did. I was trying
my best just to keep my mouth shut. She asked
me what was so funny? I said, I wasn't sure
what she expected to happen, Getting a group of people drunk,
using illicit substances and getting horned up watching exoct danswers.
She said that I was a jerk for judging her
and her friends. I said I wasn't judging just that.
Literally anyone could have seen the outcome. My mom told
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me to apologize because my sister is having to replace
minst of our wedding party on the fly. I did,
but I still think I'm right.
Speaker 4 (28:15):
I wouldn't say she's she's a smart ass, but she's
not an asshole.
Speaker 3 (28:21):
I don't know. It's like, what did you expect to happen?
Speaker 2 (28:25):
Right?
Speaker 3 (28:26):
Not wrong? One that? Like, girl, what did you expect
to happen? Like you didn't.
Speaker 4 (28:30):
You didn't have all this chaos going on like they
they're under the influence.
Speaker 3 (28:35):
Damn you caused what what? She caused? Three breakups?
Speaker 2 (28:40):
I was looking at this, I'm like, holy ship, you
know my girl? Oh my god, wonder and what the
hell were they doing?
Speaker 4 (28:50):
My god, they must have been snorting coke like they
were get out, because that's actually the first call at her.
Speaker 2 (28:58):
It was snowing god, sugar, burger sugar nose pintes. Today
I learned burger sugar is the thing. But no, I
think it was just the cocaine. I mean, so yeah,
which the next commentator said, yeah, honestly that I shouldn't
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blame the coke doesn't make you completely lose control. The
people that cheated were likely cheaters anyway.
Speaker 3 (29:27):
Can you believe, bingo? Can you believe regardless?
Speaker 2 (29:34):
Can you believe I've never done coke in my life?
Speaker 3 (29:36):
Me? Neither?
Speaker 2 (29:38):
So how do we know what we have?
Speaker 3 (29:41):
No? How we will probably act with it.
Speaker 2 (29:43):
I'll be honest with you though. My my ex had
a big cocaine habit. I found that afterwards when I
was cleaning out my old car and I found, like
when those little baggies that you put cocaine in in
my glove box and it had cocaine in there. I
was carrying around cocaine in my car. I'm like, for God's.
Speaker 3 (30:00):
Sakes, you know, he literally forgot it was in there.
Speaker 2 (30:04):
Right, And then talking to people, I just kind of
learned it was just kind of like, yeah, he did
it all the time. Mmm, so cause I kind of
knew about that. And then even a good friend of
mine had a really bad cocaine habit there, and it
was kind of like, you know, it kind of led
to that was one of the things there where it
was kind of like it was always an issue in
or a friendship.
Speaker 3 (30:22):
There did his mood change a lot?
Speaker 4 (30:24):
Like, uh, did he go from like zero to have
real quick all of a sudden?
Speaker 2 (30:29):
Sometimes I don't know, it's almost kind of like, you know,
just almost it's kind of drinking a ton of caffeine
all once. It's kind of sitting like very jittery and
everything there. Yeah, and uh, maybe the more you do
it there, the more you need it, you build up
a resistance to do there. And so basically I didn't
understand any difference there, but it was just always kind
of annoying because every time we were hanging out, it
was kind of like the you know, the mirror would
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come out and you know, the blade and everything there.
It was just kind of.
Speaker 3 (30:55):
Like the mirror.
Speaker 2 (30:57):
Seriously, no, seriously, they were they were making lines, you know, in.
Speaker 3 (31:01):
A minute, all I can think of was scarface.
Speaker 4 (31:05):
All I can think up with scarface, the mirror and
the black.
Speaker 3 (31:12):
Shit. Okay, I'm sorry, don't put me no.
Speaker 2 (31:14):
Bad No, Honestly, I kind of thought of that there too.
When I first saw it. The first time he did it, it
was kind of like, oh God, seriously, am I watching
what I'm actually watching here? If it's seriously, I watched
so many people do cocaine in my life. It's not
even funny. And it's kind of like, I don't know
why I put up with it there, because I'll be
honest with you there, it's just kind of like it's
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such an ugly hapbit.
Speaker 4 (31:37):
Let's I'm gonna look at it like this. I don't
care what nobody do. You do whatever you want to do, boo,
you know what I mean, But don't force somebody to
watch something or be around something that they don't want
to be around.
Speaker 3 (31:48):
That's not fear on them. If they don't feel comfortable.
Speaker 4 (31:50):
With that, don't do it or don't you know what
I mean, Like, don't make it obvious if you're doing
it like you're rolling out the motherfucking mirror and the blade.
Speaker 3 (32:03):
You are too deep in it, you know what I mean? Yeah, right,
I mean, if you're too deep in it. It's just like.
Speaker 2 (32:10):
Maybe the second commenter, I think maybe kind of hits
upon this little more. Yeah, this whole thing smacks with
slightly two repressed suburbanites who have never done hard drugs
want to go wild, so you get some coke used
to coke as an excuse they have absolutely no boundaries
and behave horribly and then can't deal with the consequences
of their actions. I don't feel bad for anyone in
the tendance. They made their bed, but I feel bad
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for the performers at the club they went to. Bachelorettes
are bad enough without being coked up, and then the
last one was there in Florida. I feel that's a
pretty good reason to assume something like that would go
horribly wrong. They're lucky new alligators work their way into
the story.
Speaker 4 (32:51):
God, they got went up to make at me. That's
what they did.
Speaker 3 (32:59):
Child. They went there and right.
Speaker 4 (33:02):
Yeah, I'm sorry, but I hate to go back to
that one. But if they were they were going to
cheap regardless cocher or not, they were going to do it.
Speaker 3 (33:09):
They just got caught.
Speaker 2 (33:10):
It's basically, it's kind of one of those things are
basically was an excuse to lash out and unfortunately, Yeah,
the topic up. I was drunk, I was you know,
I was out of my mind, right like you what
you was doing anyways, believe or not, we come to
the end of the show, so we're gonna ahead here
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Speaker 3 (00:45):
With a welcome back. Hey going on.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
How you doing I'm good? How are you? I'm doing good.
I'm doing good. It's been wile since I've seen you
because literally, like the month of September was the month
of month. Yeah, and then the last show, I did
it by myself. Actually it turned out better than I
thought it would. But it is a little different when
you're doing it yourself because you have to talk a lot. Yeah,
(01:09):
and so it's probably when the last show was a
little shortly.
Speaker 3 (01:11):
Yeah. Yeah, But we're gonna hook it up today.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
We are, We're gon hook.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
It up today.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
The reason why I've been seeing you for a while,
You've had a lot going on in your own personal life.
Speaker 3 (01:23):
I've had a lot going on.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
The first thing I've mentioned here is is that you're
stove caught on fire. Oh so what happened there?
Speaker 4 (01:35):
I want to just go bake something, and all of
a sudden the oven caught on fire.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
And the oven, the stove.
Speaker 4 (01:44):
Was old, and it was just time for it to
get you know what I mean, It was just time
for it to be replaced.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
It was old. The stove was about I want to say,
almost stove.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
In a refrigerator m hm, and a dishwasher.
Speaker 4 (01:59):
No, I got the I've been had the refrigerator. I
got the refrigerator last year.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Okay, so you only body stoven, a dishwasher, stove, dishwasher,
and the microwave and a microwave. Okay, yeah, because you
because it's the microwave above, yes, okay.
Speaker 4 (02:13):
And I had to go but above and beyond. I
had to go beyond and beyond. But yeah, I had
to get another like I had to get a whole
new basically a new, whole new set.
Speaker 3 (02:25):
But now it matches my well, well my no, the stove,
the dishwasher, and they were white. You know, they were old.
Speaker 4 (02:36):
I know, so it definitely was time for me to
get you know, new appliances anyway, and they were almost
almost over thirty years old.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
Oh wow, wow, yeah, so I think at that point there, yeah,
I mean it's kind of weird, just I mean, it's
made me now kind of very you know, worried when
I go and I cook anything in the oven that's
gonna let them fire. So but I'm glad you're okay.
But then on top of it, there too, and this
is the joys of owning a house, apparently, is that
you have to get your roof replaced.
Speaker 4 (03:08):
Oh the joys, the joys, the joys.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
Listen, do you just want to hit that dollar button yourself.
Speaker 4 (03:21):
I ain't got it like that, but apparently this house, dude,
but apparently this damn house, dude.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
Yeah. I had to get a new roof.
Speaker 4 (03:29):
And it started out with a leak in my kitchen,
I mean my kitchen, a leak in my bathroom, and
I'm like, that's the first that's the first time I
ever had a leak in my house. Oh wow, you know,
from the roof, you know. So that's when I looked
into it and I had someone up and look and
they were like, you can get that patched up. It
was around the what is the pipe before the what
(03:53):
is the pipe?
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Like, it's the airpipe that's used to keep your plumbing
from me stopping your house.
Speaker 4 (03:59):
Yeah, well well well yeah, so anyway I had He's like,
you can get this sealed and yeah.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
And then because.
Speaker 4 (04:10):
Like a month before that, there was there was I
had wind damage on there and I didn't even realize.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
Oh wow, so from from the storm we had back
in Yeah, yeah, probably precipitated your roof flaking. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (04:24):
Right, so and even before that, I didn't realize, like
my my roof definitely needed to be replaced eventually within
He said, you can get these patched up, but you're
gonna need to replace it within a year.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
Between the year and three.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
Years, was it just like a shingle roof, Yes, so
thankfully that's a loss expensive than like a slate roof for.
Speaker 4 (04:43):
It, right, right, So so I really started to shop around,
like really started to look around, got a couple of estimates,
and I got to touch with a friend of mine
from work and he was telling me about how he
got a metal root okay, and he went to you know,
damage and they were given they did.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
It for a reasonable price.
Speaker 4 (05:08):
So so it worked out. I'm not gonna say the price
or none of that, but but but it definitely worked
out for the best because everywhere else was so expensive
just for the pave the paving, the pavement what is it, asphault,
just for the as fhoult, it was so expensive and
(05:29):
it was just like if I would have got metal
with any of them, it would have been.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
Double okay, So it just was ridiculous.
Speaker 4 (05:39):
And it was just like just shopping around and I
finally ran into who I finally ran into, you know
what I mean, and he was wonderful, and it just
all worked out. That definitely worked out. But it was
a stressful time. It was stressful, was stressful, was stressful,
I would imagine, and I got it done because this
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is you know, it's because you know, like people don't
feel realize how much it is like being a homeowner.
Speaker 3 (06:10):
You're doing it on young yeah, you know what I mean.
Speaker 4 (06:13):
And you know I got this house at a young age,
so it's I mean, but I'm proud of myself.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
But oh yeah, that stuff you gotta deal with.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
See, you're better off than I am because I still
actually live in an apartment.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
Right right, But that's what's been going on. There's been more,
but I don't feel like talking about.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
It same way as We'll go ahead here and we
will move on to the first story. So in this case,
so the first story is am I the oushol for
not stalking the fridge for my husband after his business trip?
WHOA right? Anyways, the story goes, my husband went out
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out of the country for a business trip and returned
home over the weekend. I was out of town visiting
friends when he returned. His grape was that he was
left with no food.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
Ooh.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
For context, I did the majority of the grocery shopping,
like ninety percent of his ten percent, and he does
his share of other chores, etc. I admit there was
not a refrigerator full of fresh food because I did
not go to the store that week. However, I can't test.
There was a freezer with several meals and a patriot
with food that could have been prepared. Perhaps not what
he was hoping for, but there were some options also.
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We live in a major city with plenty of grocery
stores and restaurants within walking distance. Again, not ideal after
red eye international flight, but there's options. At first, it
wasn't a big deal, more than a joke. But when
he repeatedly met jams at me about it, I stood
up for myself. And now it's a full blown argument.
We're both stubborn people. I can a knowledge it would
have been nice if I socked a fridge upon his
(07:49):
return from the trip. However, I work a full time
job myself, and I see it as we're both capable
adults at providing food for ourselves when the other is busy.
I've got to know, am I the asshole in this
seat situation?
Speaker 3 (08:01):
No?
Speaker 4 (08:01):
No, no, absolutely not, no, absolutely not. She's not an asshole,
and and she's not an asshole. It's just it happened.
She just slipped her mad she forgot, Yeah, but then
just to keep on hounding her about it, like what
the hell? Like you keep bugging her about this?
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Come on, man, you would have thought maybe that he
would have been like, Hey, I'm gonna buy some food
so when I return out something to eat, right, you know,
starving in that case story, So the way keep you
forget to get something? I at least have something then, right,
So I think this, Yeah, he's you know, she's certainly
not the asshole. I definitely would say, he's the asshole
in this situation.
Speaker 4 (08:38):
Yeah, he's being a ass about the situation. But at
the same time, I think, you know what, sometimes when
people do that, they just want your attention.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
Right, And plus there was food there that he could
have eaten, so it wasn't like a situation where he
was starving. And I think the commenters were great with
us here. The first one goes the family men had
access to the family money and allowed to go to
the grocery stores. I surely hope he did not start
to death, not the asshole. And then somebody responded back
and said, maybe we could start to go fund me
the raise awareness of the sad situation. Can you imagine
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a hungry he was after a business trip without food
and then the entire weekend, and then the next one
is kind of pregnant there. The problem is is that
men see marriage as as the ending line, like all
of a sudden, they forget how to do things and
expect the wife to pick up the rest all the
time complete one hundred and eighty. Then when they were
shown up to that point, they don't want wives. They
want the married caretakers, where not the mothers. Going somewhere
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with this bullshit.
Speaker 4 (09:34):
Absolutely sometimes you know, it could go both ways though too,
you know what I mean. But yeah, especially the men,
you know, they we can be something else, you know
what I mean. So it's like but it's just like
they said, they think it's the end of it all,
like they don't have to do nothing when they.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Come to My dad, who I don't talk to anymore,
is a very good example of this here where basically
his wife will cook clean, you know now, and basically
just sit there like a you know, a fat log
and be like, I'm gonna watch my World War War
two movies on on the History Channel. Yeah it's bad,
just bad. I don't know why guys think that, you
(10:14):
know that's the case, or because then I have my
mom and my stepfather, and the last time I went
up there, he was cooking dinner, you know, so they
share the responsibilities. And I'll be honest, his dinner was
damn good. But it was not soup because it was
supposed to be a pasta dish. But we kept calling
it soup, and it's like, it's not soup, right, it
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was it was.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
Soup, right, What the hell?
Speaker 4 (10:40):
I don't know, I don't know that just meant, it
could be something else when it comes in like once
they during the marriage, they just seem like they the
white do everything for right in the house, and it's
like this is a tame effort, like you know, you
gotta work together on this.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Yeah, and the last one is very very pertinent. Allow
me to tell you the story about how my mom
had to make my dad a sandwich for lunch before
they went to the hospital. My mom was having contractions
at the time. The hospital was a thirty minute drive away.
I was born in less than five hours later. Whoa he,
(11:17):
I'm surprised you didn't take him outside and like bury him.
Speaker 4 (11:21):
I was just wondering if they got a divorce right
after that.
Speaker 3 (11:26):
You know, I mean, or probably not because that single mother.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
Because what's kind of funny is is that, like one
thing I noticed there is that older folks are more
likely to stay together when times are rough, and then
newer folks basically won't actually go ahead there and stay
together when things go wrong. I mean, I can go
to that myself, right, But it's also one of those
(11:53):
things are I guess people won't want to pup a
lot more shit back in.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
The day, right, right, They.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
Here cases where like people are alcoholics, you know, and
they're together for years. Like yeah, like my dad was
an alcoholic and they were together for like twenty five years,
so come on, you know.
Speaker 3 (12:12):
Yeah, it's just I don't know how. I don't know
how they did it.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
I really don't. Yeah, I don't know how they did it. Well,
this may have been how they did it there, yea.
And by the asshole for calling it my parents for
being greedy landlords. My parents own a number of rental
properties in my town. Essentially don't work. They called a business,
but maybe once or twice a year they'll buy a
small house to flip. Most of the work they subcontract out.
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They're incredibly well off. Were also frugal with their money.
They still shop at Laddo, which is basically like the
the foreign version of all these and the most you'll
get on your birthday is fifteen pounds and sweets. They
eat out maybe two to four times a year for
birthdays and the like. At the same time, they had
several homes worth over one million pounds, with pools and
(12:59):
huge gardens which they moved between. I usually bout my
tongue and don't say anything about their business dealings, but
recently they had several tenants lose their jobs and failed
to make rent. Rather than supporting the people who have
been paying for their lifestyle, they instead chose to attack them,
call them lazy. They had been in the process of
evicting two sets of tenants to keep talking about how
the system was rugged against them and how tenants have
(13:21):
too many rates. Recently, I've been noticing their hypocrisy more
and more and it's really started to bother me. I
spoke up against them last evening when I was over
for my sister's birthday, and they both blew up at me.
They claim that they worked hard, saved up, and now
can live well due to their smart decisions. But to me,
this seems unfair because in the current economy, it'd be
impossible to do what they did. They take real pride
(13:44):
in spending as limiting as physically possible and called me
stupid for not doing what they're doing. So and by
the asshole, were speaking up and risking my relationship with them.
Speaker 4 (13:52):
She's not an asshole. She's not an asshole. She just
have more like she she cares for others, and she
see that they're taking advantage of do you know what
I mean the situation not necessarily taking event, but like
the way they're treating their tenants and they've been there
for years, and it's like, come on, give them a
(14:14):
little break, Like, come on, and y'all got all the
money in the world.
Speaker 2 (14:19):
It's not like the parents are hard off or depending
upon that for their income. They're well to do, so,
I mean, I have a feeling there that probably this
story occurred like around COVID, which is like a lot
of people lost their jobs because people just couldn't be together,
you know. Of course, then there's me. You know, it's like,
let's take a five percent pay cut and it work
(14:40):
harder than you ever have, right, but nothing else to do.
So it was kind of like, okay, you know, well
either that or lose my job, you know, so exactly
it kind of worked out in the end thing god right, Right,
But still it's kind of like, yeah, I agree with
you one hundred percent, she's not the asshole, and I
think the commenters agree too. So the commenters go, what
(15:00):
kind of relationship can you have with anyone who can't
handle being called wrong once in a while?
Speaker 4 (15:05):
Right, Yeah, I think it too. Before you get to
I think too, it is because that's their child. So
they're looking at that as how dealed you? Who orged
you to speak up on what's going over that? They
don't feel realize that's a grown that's a she's a
grown woman, right, Yeah, she's a grown woman now.
Speaker 3 (15:20):
She see things for herself. She has a voice, she's
allowed to use it, and she should call out her
parents when they are wrong. That's her parents. If you're wrong,
you're wrong.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
Another commentery, though, didn't agree. They said, you're the asshole
that worked hard, and they're allowed to collect money on
their investments. If the government wants to subsidize their tenants rent,
then that's our progative. It's not your parents to house
people for free. I do get that point. You know,
you know, their leniency only can extend to a certain point.
Speaker 3 (15:52):
I completely get that.
Speaker 4 (15:54):
More two, I would still have to hear from the
parents that far as that. Maybe they're like, well, we
waited months and they could have Maybe they like when
we went through COVID, Yeah, we had to deal with
the unemployment through COVID and all that ex sort of stuff,
And it's like if they knew, I don't know, But
she said they said that they're lazy. Yeah, well, which
(16:18):
can go both ways.
Speaker 2 (16:19):
Yeah, that's one of those things there where they basically
want to you know, basically blem it on the tenants
and me just been on the tentis control because like
COVID like scrutleized stuff up, you know everybody. The other
commentery goes, I don't think you're the ousehold for thinking
and feeling what you do. I'm be inclined to agree,
but I do think that your sister's birthday was not
the place and also think that you made opinions like this. No,
(16:41):
you need to be one that accept an in consequences
in including potentially being removed from their wealth walk the walk,
as well as talk to talk so to speak.
Speaker 4 (16:49):
That's true. I mean I get that poor. But at
the same time, sometimes you be fed up and you
see bull crap, and sometimes it's just she's human. She's
young still too, you know what I mean, Like right,
you know, she's still learning herself. I get like they
didn't try to say it on some you know, yeah
and mean about it, or just like look, mabe, you
(17:10):
still watch watch your timing going in. Maybe that's something
you should have talked to them personally about like somewhere
else when instead that's your sister's birthday.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
It's also too it sounds like how they reacted, maybe
she could have phrased it.
Speaker 3 (17:22):
A little bit better, right, right, So it's.
Speaker 2 (17:25):
One of those cases there too. She could maybe could
have been a little easier about it there, instead of
being like, you know what, stop taking advantage of these people,
that could have been like, you know, maybe because of
the circumstances, you can give them a break, you know,
And that's really the case. They're where I think everybody
sucks here, you know, to a certain extent then, for
reacting so poorly, you know, because they're cheap skates in
(17:46):
her for maybe being a little bit too harsh in
regards with us. Right, But that's my own personal opinion, right,
And that's what this show is all about. And speaking
of wish're going ahead here and we're gonna take a
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Speaker 2 (19:29):
Welcome back to the job, welass show. I'm here with Hubba.
Welcome back. By the way, I'm so happy about doing
in their podcast with my mom. I love my moff
don't get me wrong, but you know it's kind of
give a watch yourself, you know, right, your parents got
to watch what you say around Yeah, you.
Speaker 4 (19:48):
Can say anything around me. Say something you don't want
to say too much around your parents.
Speaker 2 (19:53):
I know, well, you know it's kind of funny because
I'm with my mom and one of the stories was
about like a woman basically fel down as she farted hm.
And so in this case, I'm like, I have a
fart noise on the sandboard and she started laughing. But
afterwards we were talking, She's like, I didn't like that
(20:15):
fart story too much. And I was like, well, you
were laughing when I played the fart noise. He was
like yeah, right. I was like, parts are funny. Anyways
to go, and there's this story too, so whenever you're older,
(20:38):
you're dancing to this. Yeah, he keeps going and going.
That's hilarious getting out of your seat and start dancing
around and being like right about right. Anyways, were go
(20:59):
ahead and move on to the third story here, and
by the asshole, if I told my niece she needs
to move out. Three years back, my niece came to
live with me after her mom and stepdad moved out
of state. The understanding was that she stayed behind and
live with me while they relocated. I agreed to let
her live with my wife and I without paying rent
or other expenses. The formal agreement was that she would
(21:20):
prioritize college and work towards some kind of education or
career goal. I didn't care what major. However, that didn't happen.
She didn't enroll in school at the time, and for
the past three years hasn't taken any visible steps towards
a degree. She does have a job and pays for
her own phone plan and luxuries, but I cover all
the housing related costs. Recently she mentioned she's taken some classes,
but I haven't seen any evidence to this. She doesn't
(21:43):
bring it up, and the conversations are usually about work
or our news, but not school. Explicitly asking and gets
me generic responses. The bigger issue, though, is are living habits.
Her room is extremely messy. I found trash like a
disposable spork outside her door, and when I get a
looking side, I can't even see the floor through all
the clothes and boxes. I've asked her multiple times to
(22:04):
clean it. She ays says that she will, but nothing changes.
My wife has also tried talking to her, with no success.
When her mom talked to her about moving back, my
niece refused and says she felt abandoned because my sister
chose to move out of state despite choosing to remain
in our home state in the city. Her feelings are valid,
but I don't think that's fair to my sister that
(22:24):
my niece claims that she was abandoned. At this point,
my wife and I both feel that it's time for
her to move out. I'm offering her two clear options.
She can live with her mom and stepdad or with
her dad and his wife. But I don't think she
continue living here when there's no real plan in progress
or respect for the space. So am I the asshole
if I told her it's time to move out and
(22:45):
choose between living with her mom or her dad. I'm
not trying to be cruel, but I don't think this
arrangement is healthy or fair to anyone.
Speaker 3 (22:53):
Absolutely not.
Speaker 4 (22:54):
She needs to grow up, she needs to figure out
what she's going to do in life, you know what
I mean.
Speaker 3 (23:00):
Like, it's been three years and.
Speaker 4 (23:02):
It's just like they're getting to a point where it's like, Okay,
you're not doing that with yourself, You're not cleaning up
behind yourself, all this extra stuff.
Speaker 3 (23:09):
And it's just like, but she's young, you know.
Speaker 2 (23:11):
What I mean, but I feel like that she's actually
taking advantage of the situation. Absolutely, absolutely, because number one,
she's not paying rent, and that's probably the biggest problem here,
you know, absolutely. And also there was an agreement that
she'd be going to school during the time, and she
really hasn't done that, let's be honest.
Speaker 4 (23:29):
And she's been lying about it. She ain't been in school. Yeah,
she's been in school, like.
Speaker 3 (23:33):
Come on now, she come.
Speaker 2 (23:35):
On girl, right, And then also too on top of
it there it's not like she's even like a good
she's not a good roommate, I guess she could say.
I mean, for lack of a better way to put it, there,
her room is completely messive.
Speaker 4 (23:46):
And they have a right to want to have their
home to themselves. At this point, they thought this girl
would be in college and right, you know, she and
and things just didn't work out that way. And it's
not like she's getting kicked out and having nowhere to go. Yeah,
she has a couple options exactly if you are fine,
get out.
Speaker 2 (24:07):
Right, I mean, and thankfully she's not paying rent, right
because she was, you know, she'd be in her world
of her So let's be honest, I mean, when when
did you move out your house? You're our parents' house.
Speaker 4 (24:19):
I mean I moved out there by the time I
was seventeen.
Speaker 2 (24:24):
Oh wow, okay, see for me it was twenty you know,
so it was around this time here that you know.
I mean, so it's really one of those cases there
where she is gonna really you know, she thinks the
world is hard. Now just wait, yeah, yeah, just wait.
Makes you wish you were back in high school, right,
and you.
Speaker 4 (24:43):
Got to go and live with somebody else and like
live by their rules and everything too.
Speaker 3 (24:48):
Right from pillar to post, gool, get it together.
Speaker 2 (24:53):
Let's go ahead here and talk about some of the comments,
not the asshole. You had an agreement. She has failed
to fulfill even its most basic terms. The agreement should
have ended much much sooner. And then the other commenter said,
you have two vouter reasons for not wanting this to continue,
her messy habits which sound like filth, not just on tidiness,
(25:14):
and the fact that she pays you no rent like
I said here before you and contribute towards household expenses.
No one is entitled to live at rent free life
unless they are a minor or studying or actively and
generally looking for work or too disable to work. Her
niece says a job that she has an income and
can afford to pay.
Speaker 3 (25:31):
You.
Speaker 2 (25:32):
If you're worried about coming across this crewel, you can
consider letting her stay on a condition that she starts
paying her way and cleans up her mess. She kicks
up a FOSSi says that she will and fails to deliver,
then you can show her the door. Right, Yeah, I.
Speaker 4 (25:47):
Mean absolutely absolutely. But I don't even think it's like
even more to rent thing. It's just like she didn't
She really don't know what to do with her life,
and she lying about going to school and everything.
Speaker 2 (26:05):
Is she's being lazy and then taking advantage of the situation.
Speaker 3 (26:08):
Yeah, and taking advantage.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
She don't care, and it's not going to end the
well for her.
Speaker 4 (26:11):
You cannot here somewhere the funk else, Yeah right, get
the funk out.
Speaker 3 (26:17):
I'm sorry. I don't mean to be so horse to
get out.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
Right exactly.
Speaker 3 (26:24):
I ain't dealing with that neither. Get out my house
with that neither.
Speaker 2 (26:28):
So hey, guess what time it is.
Speaker 3 (26:31):
It's time for the last time.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
You're right, try singing to us. Yeah, this is from seventies. Anyways,
I just knew I did something.
Speaker 4 (26:52):
I did so singing.
Speaker 2 (27:00):
Anyways, let's go ahead, he let's go on with the
last story here and by the also for asking my
sister was she expected to happen at her excuse of
a bachelorette party for some reason, my I'm thirty two
sister who's twenty three in her fiance, who's twenty five,
the son of did the very best way to celebrate before
getting married was to have a joint bachelor bagualurette party
(27:22):
at strip clubs. They also hired a bus limit for
the evening. The aftermath was thus far, three breakups, four
people dropping out of the wedding party when impending divorce,
in one arrest. The cleaning bill for the limit was
more than the original rental fee. She was crying to
our mom at dinner the other day, and I snorted.
(27:43):
I tried not to. I honestly did. I was trying
my best just to keep my mouth shut. She asked
me what was so funny? I said, I wasn't sure
what she expected to happen, Getting a group of people drunk,
using illicit substances and getting horned up watching exoct danswers.
She said that I was a jerk for judging her
and her friends. I said I wasn't judging just that.
Literally anyone could have seen the outcome. My mom told
(28:06):
me to apologize because my sister is having to replace
minst of our wedding party on the fly. I did,
but I still think I'm right.
Speaker 4 (28:15):
I wouldn't say she's she's a smart ass, but she's
not an asshole.
Speaker 3 (28:21):
I don't know. It's like, what did you expect to happen?
Speaker 2 (28:25):
Right?
Speaker 3 (28:26):
Not wrong? One that? Like, girl, what did you expect
to happen? Like you didn't.
Speaker 4 (28:30):
You didn't have all this chaos going on like they
they're under the influence.
Speaker 3 (28:35):
Damn you caused what what? She caused? Three breakups?
Speaker 2 (28:40):
I was looking at this, I'm like, holy ship, you
know my girl? Oh my god, wonder and what the
hell were they doing?
Speaker 4 (28:50):
My god, they must have been snorting coke like they
were get out, because that's actually the first call at her.
Speaker 2 (28:58):
It was snowing god, sugar, burger sugar nose pintes. Today
I learned burger sugar is the thing. But no, I
think it was just the cocaine. I mean, so yeah,
which the next commentator said, yeah, honestly that I shouldn't
(29:20):
blame the coke doesn't make you completely lose control. The
people that cheated were likely cheaters anyway.
Speaker 3 (29:27):
Can you believe, bingo? Can you believe regardless?
Speaker 2 (29:34):
Can you believe I've never done coke in my life?
Speaker 3 (29:36):
Me? Neither?
Speaker 2 (29:38):
So how do we know what we have?
Speaker 3 (29:41):
No? How we will probably act with it.
Speaker 2 (29:43):
I'll be honest with you though. My my ex had
a big cocaine habit. I found that afterwards when I
was cleaning out my old car and I found, like
when those little baggies that you put cocaine in in
my glove box and it had cocaine in there. I
was carrying around cocaine in my car. I'm like, for God's.
Speaker 3 (30:00):
Sakes, you know, he literally forgot it was in there.
Speaker 2 (30:04):
Right, And then talking to people, I just kind of
learned it was just kind of like, yeah, he did
it all the time. Mmm, so cause I kind of
knew about that. And then even a good friend of
mine had a really bad cocaine habit there, and it
was kind of like, you know, it kind of led
to that was one of the things there where it
was kind of like it was always an issue in
or a friendship.
Speaker 3 (30:22):
There did his mood change a lot?
Speaker 4 (30:24):
Like, uh, did he go from like zero to have
real quick all of a sudden?
Speaker 2 (30:29):
Sometimes I don't know, it's almost kind of like, you know,
just almost it's kind of drinking a ton of caffeine
all once. It's kind of sitting like very jittery and
everything there. Yeah, and uh, maybe the more you do
it there, the more you need it, you build up
a resistance to do there. And so basically I didn't
understand any difference there, but it was just always kind
of annoying because every time we were hanging out, it
was kind of like the you know, the mirror would
(30:51):
come out and you know, the blade and everything there.
It was just kind of.
Speaker 3 (30:55):
Like the mirror.
Speaker 2 (30:57):
Seriously, no, seriously, they were they were making lines, you know, in.
Speaker 3 (31:01):
A minute, all I can think of was scarface.
Speaker 4 (31:05):
All I can think up with scarface, the mirror and
the black.
Speaker 3 (31:12):
Shit. Okay, I'm sorry, don't put me no.
Speaker 2 (31:14):
Bad No, Honestly, I kind of thought of that there too.
When I first saw it. The first time he did it, it
was kind of like, oh God, seriously, am I watching
what I'm actually watching here? If it's seriously, I watched
so many people do cocaine in my life. It's not
even funny. And it's kind of like, I don't know
why I put up with it there, because I'll be
honest with you there, it's just kind of like it's
(31:35):
such an ugly hapbit.
Speaker 4 (31:37):
Let's I'm gonna look at it like this. I don't
care what nobody do. You do whatever you want to do, boo,
you know what I mean, But don't force somebody to
watch something or be around something that they don't want
to be around.
Speaker 3 (31:48):
That's not fear on them. If they don't feel comfortable.
Speaker 4 (31:50):
With that, don't do it or don't you know what
I mean, Like, don't make it obvious if you're doing
it like you're rolling out the motherfucking mirror and the blade.
Speaker 3 (32:03):
You are too deep in it, you know what I mean? Yeah, right,
I mean, if you're too deep in it. It's just like.
Speaker 2 (32:10):
Maybe the second commenter, I think maybe kind of hits
upon this little more. Yeah, this whole thing smacks with
slightly two repressed suburbanites who have never done hard drugs
want to go wild, so you get some coke used
to coke as an excuse they have absolutely no boundaries
and behave horribly and then can't deal with the consequences
of their actions. I don't feel bad for anyone in
the tendance. They made their bed, but I feel bad
(32:32):
for the performers at the club they went to. Bachelorettes
are bad enough without being coked up, and then the
last one was there in Florida. I feel that's a
pretty good reason to assume something like that would go
horribly wrong. They're lucky new alligators work their way into
the story.
Speaker 4 (32:51):
God, they got went up to make at me. That's
what they did.
Speaker 3 (32:59):
Child. They went there and right.
Speaker 4 (33:02):
Yeah, I'm sorry, but I hate to go back to
that one. But if they were they were going to
cheap regardless cocher or not, they were going to do it.
Speaker 3 (33:09):
They just got caught.
Speaker 2 (33:10):
It's basically, it's kind of one of those things are
basically was an excuse to lash out and unfortunately, Yeah,
the topic up. I was drunk, I was you know,
I was out of my mind, right like you what
you was doing anyways, believe or not, we come to
the end of the show, so we're gonna ahead here
(33:32):
and wrap this up, and thanks for checking out. The
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Speaker 3 (33:48):
Have a good one, y'all.
Speaker 4 (33:49):
Yeah,
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