September 8, 2025 • 38 mins
(00:00:00) Intro
(00:03:55) AITJ for emergency braking?
(00:12:20) AITJ for how I handled a frustrating situation at the pharmacy?
(00:21:08) AITJ for not wanting to pursue my dream job because my wife sacrificed hers?
(00:28:34) AITJ for not being mad at my daughter and thinking she's actually pretty funny?
(00:37:31) Ending
On the 6th episode of The Joevelocity Show, Joe is joined by his mother Sharon, and we discuss some r/AITJ parties stories from Reddit.
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• AITJ for emergency braking?
We start with a situation involving an emergency stop to avoid hitting a cat, which led to a minor disagreement. We debate whether the driver's actions were justified, considering the safety concerns and the instinctive nature of the reaction. It's a blend of lighthearted banter and thoughtful discussion on responsibility and reflexes in tricky situations.
• AITJ for how I handled a frustrating situation at the pharmacy?
Next, we explore a situation at a pharmacy where a customer, who prefers privacy regarding her medications, encountered an issue when a pharmacy clerk insisted on having her state her first name aloud, despite her handing over her ID. We discuss the discomfort and potential privacy concerns, touching on the possibility of HIPAA violations when pharmacy staff are not discreet about personal information. Suggestions for handling such situations, including asking for a supervisor or pharmacist, are considered. Additionally, we reflect on the lack of privacy in pharmacies generally, with anecdotes about how medication details are sometimes spoken aloud, prompting some individuals to opt for mail-order prescriptions to maintain their privacy.
• AITJ for not wanting to pursue my dream job because my wife sacrificed hers?
This chapter explores a complex situation faced by a man who is torn between pursuing his dream job at a game studio and staying with his wife, Emily, who has put her own dreams on hold to support her family. We reflect on the man's internal struggle and the sacrifices both partners have made, questioning whether he is being fair to himself or if he might end up resenting his decision to stay. We discuss the dynamics of their relationship, the need for open communication, and the potential benefits of seeking counseling to address their conflicting aspirations. Ultimately, we ponder the importance of balancing personal dreams with relationship commitments, highlighting the need for a shared vision for the future.
AITJ for not being mad at my daughter and thinking she's actually pretty funny?
In our Moment of Conclusion, we explore a situation where a 12-year-old daughter repeatedly uses a word her parents disapprove of, leading to disagreements between her mother and father on how to handle the behavior. While the mother insists on punishment to deter attention-seeking behavior, the father believes ignoring it will make the daughter lose interest. The conversation highlights the importance of parental unity in setting boundaries and addresses the awkwardness parents feel when their children use language associated with growing up and sexuality. It also touches on the potential differences in parental reactions based on the child's gender.
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(00:03:55) AITJ for emergency braking?
(00:12:20) AITJ for how I handled a frustrating situation at the pharmacy?
(00:21:08) AITJ for not wanting to pursue my dream job because my wife sacrificed hers?
(00:28:34) AITJ for not being mad at my daughter and thinking she's actually pretty funny?
(00:37:31) Ending
On the 6th episode of The Joevelocity Show, Joe is joined by his mother Sharon, and we discuss some r/AITJ parties stories from Reddit.
Brought to you by:
Old Glory offers over 300,000 items for music, sports, entertainment, and pop culture
fans, featuring officially licensed merch from iconic bands and top sports teams.
Discover your perfect fan gear and save 15% with the exclusive discount code JOEVELOCITY at https://oldglory.com.
• AITJ for emergency braking?
We start with a situation involving an emergency stop to avoid hitting a cat, which led to a minor disagreement. We debate whether the driver's actions were justified, considering the safety concerns and the instinctive nature of the reaction. It's a blend of lighthearted banter and thoughtful discussion on responsibility and reflexes in tricky situations.
• AITJ for how I handled a frustrating situation at the pharmacy?
Next, we explore a situation at a pharmacy where a customer, who prefers privacy regarding her medications, encountered an issue when a pharmacy clerk insisted on having her state her first name aloud, despite her handing over her ID. We discuss the discomfort and potential privacy concerns, touching on the possibility of HIPAA violations when pharmacy staff are not discreet about personal information. Suggestions for handling such situations, including asking for a supervisor or pharmacist, are considered. Additionally, we reflect on the lack of privacy in pharmacies generally, with anecdotes about how medication details are sometimes spoken aloud, prompting some individuals to opt for mail-order prescriptions to maintain their privacy.
• AITJ for not wanting to pursue my dream job because my wife sacrificed hers?
This chapter explores a complex situation faced by a man who is torn between pursuing his dream job at a game studio and staying with his wife, Emily, who has put her own dreams on hold to support her family. We reflect on the man's internal struggle and the sacrifices both partners have made, questioning whether he is being fair to himself or if he might end up resenting his decision to stay. We discuss the dynamics of their relationship, the need for open communication, and the potential benefits of seeking counseling to address their conflicting aspirations. Ultimately, we ponder the importance of balancing personal dreams with relationship commitments, highlighting the need for a shared vision for the future.
AITJ for not being mad at my daughter and thinking she's actually pretty funny?
In our Moment of Conclusion, we explore a situation where a 12-year-old daughter repeatedly uses a word her parents disapprove of, leading to disagreements between her mother and father on how to handle the behavior. While the mother insists on punishment to deter attention-seeking behavior, the father believes ignoring it will make the daughter lose interest. The conversation highlights the importance of parental unity in setting boundaries and addresses the awkwardness parents feel when their children use language associated with growing up and sexuality. It also touches on the potential differences in parental reactions based on the child's gender.
Subscribe to The Joevelocity Show in your favorite podcast app so you don’t miss an episode! New episodes drop every Monday.
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Speaker 2 (00:38):
Com and Welcome to the Joe velosit Show. This is
a special show for me. I am here with in
every news shoe is Sharon. But to me, you are
my mom.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
Hi Mom, Hi honey, how are you.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
I'm doing well? How are you?
Speaker 3 (00:57):
I am very well?
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Thank you doing this here for me?
Speaker 3 (01:02):
So, oh you're welcome because I always need guessed.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
It's like you didn't think I was actually telling the truth.
Speaker 3 (01:08):
It's like, no, I didn't think you wanted me. You
wanted someone your age anyway.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
No, yeah, let's not talk about my age because god,
I'm so close to fifty now, Oh my god, and
you're perpetually twenty nine, so.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
You know, yes, right, I'd like to think so right.
My body doesn't tell me.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
That, but yeah, I know, tell me about it. Yeah,
it's kind of like I've noticed as I've gotten older,
it's kind of like if I'm on my knees doing
something and I get up, it's kind of like a god.
You know. It used to be no problem at all
whenever I was younger, but now it's kind of like,
oh God. But but I must say though, I still
feel young, at least in thought, but maybe not in
(01:56):
actually body movements, you know.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
But anyway, only a number. It's only a number, right,
That's right, so my mother tells me.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
So. By the way, I just wanted to mention something here,
is that that adam to being there for the Old
Glory has all those they have all these t shirts.
And I have a good idea for a Christmas gift,
so I'll send it off to you. Oh okay, it's
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hell Vetica and it's like so and so and so
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(02:30):
Deacon and May and Taylor and Mercury. It's the last
names of all the Queen members. So it's a cool
looking shirt and I figured it'd be a little bit different.
Speaker 3 (02:40):
For you. Yeah, okay, I don't think my queen days
are kind of over.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
Yeah, I'm not listening to them all the time anymore
while we're at home and everything there. But right, but anyways, here,
so this episode, we're gonna do am I the Jerk stories,
so we don't say the word asshole all the time.
Speaker 3 (03:06):
Do you think do you think I'd be offended?
Speaker 2 (03:09):
No? But because because we're going to record in our
episode and it's all am I the Asshole story? So
so I was I wasn't thinking this all the way
through there. Basically, it was kind of like and in
the beginning it was kind of like, yeah, let me
tone it down a little bit for mom, But then
on the next show is kind of like that scirt
(03:29):
or I could just say, am I the a hole
and they could avoid me swearing as much. You know,
we do.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Well, that's so sweet.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
All he's thinking about your precious ears.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
You know, yes, I hear that.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
But AnyWho, Yeah, we'll go ahead here and uh, we'll
get this started here with the first story that we
have here, am I the Jerk for emergency breaking and
it goes, hey, everyone, I had the weirdest situation happened.
I was on the way back for my parents with
my girlfriend in the car, when as we ranted the
corner going about fifty miles per hour, I saw a
(04:08):
cat in the middle of the road. I acted instinctively
and did a full and emergency stop. In total, the
whole thing took about a second, and the cat just
barely managed to escape my rent FORNT tire. I immediately
got out to see if I'd injured it, but luckily
it escaped. Now here's the part that tripped me up.
My girlfriend, a cat lover an avid proponent of not
(04:28):
hitting animals on the road, was mad at me because
the emergency stop hurt her neck, nothing terrible. I offered
to get to the hospital with her to get it
checked out, but she refused. There was no room to
swerve a higher curb on the left and I get
her on the right. And most importantly, I didn't think
it was pure reflex By the time I had processed
(04:50):
the whole situation, we were standing still. I find it
a bit unfair to her to tell me I was
actively putting her in danger when I didn't even have
the time to think the road was empty, and any
other reaction like swerving to the left or to the right.
But I certainly wrecked my car. What do you think?
Speaker 3 (05:09):
What do I think?
Speaker 2 (05:10):
Yeah, well, yeah, we can start off with your thought.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
Okay, Well, first of all, I do think he was
an a hole for driving, For driving fifty miles an
hour the curve. M that's slow down and then you
know something runs out in front of you. You can
have time to break.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
I've never been able to drive a car fifty miles
an hour around the curve.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
Okay, good, that was like the first thing I was thinking, said,
car over, Yeah right, you want to land up in
the in the gutter or the you know, off the
side of the right. Okay, but according you know, for
everything else. For swearing for an animal, No, he's not
an a hole for that. He's I mean, from my
(05:57):
own personal experience from married to a vegetarian, if there
is a bird, a mouse, or even a butterfly in
our path, not to mention any other kind of wild
animal on the road, my husband is like, it's their
life first, and my life is secondary to all of that.
(06:20):
So I can say it's just it's hard to make
sure that she has her seatbelt like fastened tightly.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
I've seen him with bugs, and it's kind of like,
you know, whenever. Yes, it's like he will not kill
a bug, you know, it'll give me a spotted lantern fly,
which is you know, which they recommend that.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
You kill, that's right.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Or a stink bug, which you know you usually grab
a tissue and then throw it in them and the toilet.
He'll go ahead and basically take it outside and let
it go.
Speaker 3 (06:48):
That's right.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
I'm not sure he's actually helping things.
Speaker 3 (06:52):
Some instances, but in this case, though, I mean, she
better just buckle up, because you know, if if you
can't at least try to avoid hitting an animal, you
see too many on the road, too many deer and
you know, everything else on the road. So yeah, like
he's giving kudos for.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
That, right.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
That kind of reminds me of the one time, though
I felt so bad about this. I was driving between
your house and my my father's house, and a bunny
ran across the road and it ran across the road
in such an amount of time that I could not
stop and I ran over the bunny. Yeah, I was like,
oh my god, it was no, no, thank god, here
(07:41):
it comes and tells squash. But anyways, I.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
Mean, sometimes you just can't be avoided. But yeah, I
mean when there are butterflies and things, you know, birds
flying in front of you, we started calling them suicide
birds or butterfly if they get hit, because you know,
bug gets squashed on the windshield. There's suicide bugs.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
Oh god. But anyways here, Yeah, I think the commenters,
I think agreed with us. There absolutely not a jerk.
Did you ask her what else could I do but
slam on the brakes? If you could safely swerve, then
I don't know what you expected. You avoid killing an
animal and no one is seriously injured. In my book,
that makes you a fine human being. So uh, the
(08:29):
other one's going there to say, I agree, you have
good reflexes and critical path method on judgment of the situation.
The funny thing is, whenever I break heart, I reflectively
reach over to catch the passenger. What reflects from before
safety belts? Do you do that?
Speaker 3 (08:44):
I used to do that. Yeah, I used to do
that with when you kids were you know, in the
car and little in the car and we didn't have
to have seat belts on. Oh yeah, all the time,
all the.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
Time, right, And so we don't slam our heads against
the dashboard.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
Yeah, it's like that was your safety.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
But here's a good question. Did we wear safety belts
when we were kids.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
I don't think that really started until I don't know.
You'd have to look that one up.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
But like us, me and my sister.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
You had car seats, I mean I had you have
car seats.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Well, no, Like what I'm saying is that after we
got out of the car seats there we were just
sitting the car seat. Were we wear in our seatbelt
all the time?
Speaker 3 (09:24):
No? I mean I don't think our cars even had
seatbelts in them.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
I think they did, but.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
Maybe but you weren't. They could have had seatbelts. I
don't know. I don't know, you don't know. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
We weren't driving nineteen fifty Ford fairlanes that seatbelts.
Speaker 3 (09:43):
This was I don't know when the seat belt came
out and you weren't.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
I mean, we had seatbelts in the eighties.
Speaker 3 (09:48):
It was a mandatory that you wear them and use them.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
I will agree with you there, it wasn't in mandatory
until like the.
Speaker 3 (09:54):
Nineties sometimes, so then you were all growing up.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
Because at that point there we also grew up during
the time where they started before airbags, so they had
like so they started either you had to have air
bags in the car or you had to have the
retractable seatbelts, like the motorized seatbelts remember those, Yes, but
we never had a car that had those, thank god.
So but anyways, yeah, it was just like you know,
(10:21):
but still instinctively, like if I had to break quickly
and I have some eels in the car, yeah, I
will put my arm out, you know, check in there. Yeah.
It's always just it's kind of like a good reflex
to have.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
I guess, yeah, you know, I mean really getting back
to to all this, it'd be nice if they had
some sort of underground roadway for animals, and I know
some places do have things like that, but I think,
you know, they could do a lot more too.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
Or put the cars underground.
Speaker 3 (10:52):
And animals above.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Yeah, level of animals above. Because it's kind of funny
there because like there'll be signs for deer crossing and
some people be like, how do they think if they
move this deer crossing? It's not like, you know, we
have any true where they.
Speaker 3 (11:06):
Need to build an underground you know, just a tunnel.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
Yeah, and the Grand Tunnel with the.
Speaker 3 (11:14):
No, I don't want to drive like through a tunnel
all the time.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
I don't see the way it's going to work. Finally,
the comment the last comment said, ask her she would
rather have you run over the cat because that seems
the only other option here. So I mean, yeah, basically
me here, it's kind of like, you know what I mean,
it was like she had to sop hard. You know,
(11:38):
I'm sorry he did.
Speaker 3 (11:40):
You know, he should ask her, what would you do?
What would you have done?
Speaker 2 (11:43):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (11:44):
You know, first of all, she probably said, I wouldn't
be doing fifty miles Oh god.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
Still, yeah, that's the part that kind of struck me
when I read that. It's kind of like fifty miles
an hour around a curve, like your tires have these
squ at that point, you know. Yeah, but also too Yeah,
it's just I mean, you know, I think he did
the right thing. That that's all you could do there, you.
Speaker 3 (12:09):
Know, Yeah, he did the best in his situation, and
she should be happy he did.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
That right exactly. So anyways, here go ahead here and
move on to the second story. Am I the jerk?
About how I handled a frustrating situation at the pharmacy?
I take multiple medications. I don't like people knowing what
they are. I live in a town where it's very
likely to know at least one person in the store
you're on in any given day. My name is also
(12:37):
somewhat well known around town. For this reason, when I
pick up my meds at CVS, I hand them my
ID instead of having to save my name and other
information out loud. And also, as a female, I feel
better doing it this way and not saying my address
out loud. I also need to show my ID for
some of the meds. Anyways, this has never been a problem.
The workers behind the counter always just take the ID
(12:59):
and go about the transaction. Well, the other day a
lady behind the counter took my ID and then said,
not quietly, your last name is Smith. I'm annoyed already,
but just say yeah. She then says, what is your
first name? I said, do I really have to say
it out loud? That's the whole entire point of me
handing you the ID. And she says yes, but I
typed that in pointing to my last name and I
(13:21):
find nothing. And then she says, can you point to
your name on here? Referring to the ID, and at
this point, I was confused and just asked, you don't
know how to read a Massachusetts ID? And she said, no,
I know, and then finished a transaction. I said thank you,
and she didn't say anything back or even look at me.
(13:43):
So I think I was mad or thought I was
just being rude, But I was generally perplexed by wise
being put through the whole entire process, and was honestly
asking if she didn't know how to read an ID,
because obviously that would be an issue for her in
that line of work. I didn't say it harshly, as
I was asking, so am by the jerk.
Speaker 3 (14:03):
Now I can see a lot of reasons she wouldn't
want to give her name and address allowed in a pharmacy.
But I think what the clerk did was really against
a lot of HEPPA laws. I think, you know, you're
not supposed to be telling people about, you know, medications
you take and things like that.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
Yeah, because I think, I mean, if she hadn't violated
that hippolawe, then at that point she was very close
to doing.
Speaker 3 (14:29):
It there, very close.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
I have your cream, I have your solve this, I.
Speaker 3 (14:36):
Have your that yes, and I mean, you know you're
not allowed to do that. So she should have at
some point just asked for the pharmacist or the manager
of the pharmacists to talk with them because they probably
knew her there. It's not like, you know, she said,
it was a small town and everybody knew each other,
but you know, they probably knew who she was. And
(14:58):
I mean maybe the girl was new, but and you know,
trying to follow directions that she can get nice. You know, well,
she doesn't sound like she is being very nice, but
you know, she could have been a little bit more accommodating.
But at some point she should have. I think this lady,
miss Smith, should have just asked to talk to the
(15:18):
manager pharmacist. I think that would have been the best
way to handle that situation, because you know, I mean,
you know, like she said, there there are people out
there if she's screaming her dress out loud stuff. You know.
I know, at my pharmacy, I have to always give
my birth date, and I'm like, really, I'm like Diane
(15:41):
can and I lie about my age all the time,
so sometimes I can't remember my birthday.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
I was born in nineteen eighty, I'm twenty nine. Well,
I don't think you twenty nine, if nineteen eighty, but anyways, still, yeah,
it's I could understand that. It's just kind of like
like I'm at working for example, when I had the
verify people who don't actually work there, they're like a contractor,
I toy other information other than their Social Security number
(16:06):
because we're not allowed to keep that information. So I
ask them their date of birth. And I know, I
was cringe when I have to do that there, because
masking women their day to birth, and a lot of
women don't like telling their age, you know, right because discrimination.
It still is this unfortunately in this world. And for me,
it's just kind of like, okay, what's your date of birth?
You know? And then I cringe when it's like two thousands,
(16:30):
you know when they were born, you know, and it's
kind of like, well, I was really yeah, it's like
you're either very young or really old, you know, why
are you still here? Kind of thing you should be
retired for at least the last fifteen years at this point.
Speaker 3 (16:47):
Well that's probably why they don't want to give there, right.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
Yeah. So but anyways here, Yeah, the commenters I think
agreed with us as well there, but they get really
funny in the comments there. The first one basically said,
I agree with you wanted to keep her name in private.
I don't think you're being difficult. I think that tech
was being impatient and didn't want to take the time
to read your I D. Asked to speak to a
supervisor like you suggested. This happens again. Explain what you
(17:11):
prefer to have them read your I D and so
now to state your name. But anyways, here, yeah, they
go on the let's say here, maybe she didn't have
her reading glasses on and couldn't read the small font easily.
But in any case, I notice a lack of privacy
at the pharmacy. Sometimes that my pharmacy. They even say
it loud. I've drug A, drug B, and drug C
ready for you a lot enough that other people can
(17:32):
definitely hear what meds you're picking up.
Speaker 3 (17:34):
No, they should never do that, never ever.
Speaker 2 (17:37):
Yeah, I actually stopped to even give my meds there
through the pharmacy. Actually, I now do it basically through
the mail or basically I ordered them, you know online,
have them to ship them to me basically, and it's
amazing how well that works out and how much time
it saves me and everything I know that everybody can't
do that because there's certain like drugs you can't get
(17:58):
online through the mail.
Speaker 3 (17:59):
So I do the same thing. I get mine through
the mail. I've had my own run hands at the pharmacies,
and you know, I'd rather not stand in line forever.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
The last one made me laugh. There try picking vaginal
cream at Walgreens through the speaker's turned all the way up.
Inspite of the customer's request of no, I don't need instructions,
will receive the broadcast every humillion detail about using the product. Yes,
the whole time of waiting, car Is get to hear names,
medication stick her right on in there.
Speaker 3 (18:32):
Not we did k.
Speaker 2 (18:36):
But in that case, yeah, I think that goes in
the half.
Speaker 3 (18:38):
I would never go to that pharmacy again. I would
do everything I could get them.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
I want to show my face.
Speaker 3 (18:45):
I mean, unless they were doing it as a jake,
maybe they knewer, you know, maybe you.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
Know, here's your vaginal cream.
Speaker 3 (18:51):
Yeah, Jennevie steaking.
Speaker 2 (18:54):
In your who ha three times a day. It's like God, no, no, no, no, no,
but uh believe it or not. Guess what time it is.
It's time for a break. So we're gonna ahead, We're
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Speaker 3 (20:58):
Hey episode that we always have something to talk about.
Speaker 2 (21:03):
But we made it work so far, and you know, anyways,
third story, here am I the jerk for not only
to pursue my dream job because my wife sacrificed hers
I twenty eight mal I've always dreamed of being an
artist as a kid. I's been iron sketching characters, landscapes
and whatever came to mind. It was the only thing
that made me feel live whenever life got hard. Growing up,
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my family was financially unstable, so art supplies weren't always accessible.
My parents were always supported in the theory, but they
were also realists. They often said things like art is
a nice hobby, but you need a real job. Fast
forward to college, I majored in graphic design because it
felt like a safe way to pursue art will stay employable.
Around this time, I met my now wife, Emily twenty
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seven female. Emily was studying biology and dream of becoming
a veg vegetarian. Yeah, dream of becoming a veterinarian. She's
always been one of the most hard working and selfless
people I know. We colicked immediately became inseparable. After graduation,
Emily's path to becoming a VET hited major red block.
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Her father had a stroke and her family couldn't afford
the cost of both his care in her graduate school.
Without a hesitation, Emily dropped our plans and started working
full time to help her parents. I offered the contribute,
but she refused, saying, you've got your dreams too focus
on them. She encouraged me to chase my art career,
even when I felt guilty watching her put hers on hold.
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With her support, I managed to lay in a decent
graphic design job at a marketing firm. It wasn't exactly
what I envisioned, but it paid the bills. Over the years, though,
my passion for art started to fade. Deadlines, uninspiring projects,
and corporate constraints made me feel like I was just
another clog in the machine. About a year ago, Emily
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suggested I take some time off to rediscover my love
for art. She said, you've always supported me, let me
return the favor. At first, I was hesitant, but her
insistence won me over. I quit my job and started
working on personal art projects. For the first time in years,
I felt like myself again. But here's where things get complicated.
A few months ago, I was offered an incredible opportunity
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to work for a game studio, something I've dreamed those
since I was a kid. It's a high paying, prestigious position,
and everyone says I'd be crazy to turn it down.
The problem it's in a city across the country, and
Emily can't come with me. Emily recently started a small
pet care business in our town, finally finding a way
they reconnect with her passion. She has built a loyal
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client base and is generally happy. Moving isn't an option
for her right now, and she does want to do
long distance. She told me repeatedly that she'd support me
if I took the job, but I can see the
sadness in her eyes when we talk about it. Here's
the part that makes me feel like a jerk. I've
decided not to take the job. I haven't told Emily yet,
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but I made up my mind. I know she has
encouraged me to go, but I can't bring myself to
leave her She's sacked so much for me in her family.
How could I repay her by abandoning her now? At
the same time, I wonder if I'm being unfair to
myself by getting up in my dream for no reason.
What if I start to resent her later, even though
she never asked me to stay. I don't want to
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feel like I've wisdom my potential, But I also don't
want to hurt the person who means the most to me.
So am I the jerk for not wanting to pursue
my dream job because my wife sacrificed hers? This is
really interesting.
Speaker 3 (24:31):
I think she's the jerk. Why because what has he
sacrificed for her?
Speaker 2 (24:41):
Well, that's a good question.
Speaker 3 (24:45):
She said to him over and over again that you've
got your dreams, to focus on them. You've always supported me,
Let me return the favor. How is she ever? I mean,
she has as long as he's like tied to the
town that she's living in. But they're married now, and
I think this is a discussion they should really really
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talk to, you know, over with like a counselor or
something like that, so neither one of them ends up
being the jerk. But you know, someone somewhere along the line,
they have decide what their end gool game is going
to be. You know, are they going to live in
a small town where he's sounds like he's yeah, he's
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you know, burnt out there too, and he uh, you know,
has a great opportunity. She is a small business, small
pet care business. She could start that anywhere, you know,
and build up a clientele if she was that good
in her own town to do that. So I think
she's being the jerk about here.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
Well I also understand where he's coming from there too.
It's kind of like, you know, I don't want to
disrupt her because she has a good thing going.
Speaker 3 (25:54):
He has a small pet care business. I mean, I
don't take that lightly. I mean I'm glad that she's
doing that, and it sounds like, you know, it's important
business in her town.
Speaker 2 (26:05):
But but it's something that could be mobile, can be moved.
Speaker 3 (26:08):
Yes, yes, And you know, unless he would look into
seeing if his job would be mobile, you know, maybe
he could work from home. That never wasn't brought up here,
but it would be uninteresting, you know, maybe he could
do do that. But I do think they should go
and talk to a counselor about this because moving's not
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an option for her right now, so you know, and
she doesn't want to do long distance what's that mean?
It doesn't sound like she's too happy with ye.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
But anyways, here I think the commenters agreed with you,
especially with the you know, you know, seeking advice here.
One of them said, don't make a decision without asking
her opinion first. Yes, definitely talk it over. Yeah, they
need to have a sit down and have a you know,
but I think.
Speaker 3 (26:53):
They even should go through like, you know, a mediator
some some kind, because you know, he's like two into
her and she's like, you know, kind of like setting
her way or something. I don't know what. I don't
know her problem she has definitely probably she doesn't want
to leave her family because her father still needs care.
Speaker 2 (27:14):
But the other thing is there too, is that she
never went to graduate school, so she never really became
an actual vet.
Speaker 3 (27:21):
Right. I think they've heard the opportunity and yeah, she
wants to.
Speaker 2 (27:26):
Do that still, right, Because in the case then I
think that you know, there.
Speaker 3 (27:31):
Is a way here for them both to be happy
and have their dream job as well.
Speaker 2 (27:36):
Because when the commenter said, we should be able to
go back to school maybe and become a vet tech
at the very least would be able to cover all
the bills. And then also to related to that, there,
your dream job may enable her to chase her dream.
The one is the jerk, but you may eventually is
not her encourage her to look at schools in the
new city. It's a tough situation, right, Yeah, they kind
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of agree with us. There is that one they need
to talk into. They need to basically figure out here
what to do so that way everybody is at least
you know, happy there because if they move and she
can get back to school, I think she'll be happy
with the fact that she can actually become a debt
you know.
Speaker 3 (28:13):
Yeah, or at the very least you know, you know,
vet tech or something like that. But yeah, right, right, So,
but I guess it's too late for them now.
Speaker 2 (28:27):
Well, it's not too late yet.
Speaker 3 (28:28):
They can talk so well they I hope they're talking, right.
Speaker 2 (28:33):
But anyways, guess what time it is time to do?
It's time for the last story. Our moment of conclusion.
Am I the jerk for not being mad at my
daughter and thinking that she's actually pretty funny? So my
I'm forty three. Dad, who's sixty four, used to love
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taking us on adventures as kids, but he's slowed down recently.
He still loves spending time with my daughter, who is
a female and twelve years old. So Dad decided to
introduce them to his favorite childhood shows, and for whatever reason,
she loves them. Star Trek, Bonanza, Dandy Griffith Show, all
of it. She's hooked. She thinks it's all fantastic. Okay,
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so fun fact about my daughter. She loves googling fun facts.
Her favorite phrase is did you know? Like we'll drive
past a sign that says we're X miles away from
some location. She whips out that phone and it's like,
did you know X location is the salamander capital of
the world. It's really cute and annoying at the same time.
So last week she comes downstairs and says, did you
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know that ABC made Bert war to take pills to
shrink his penis? Totally dead pan, didn't even crack when
I tell you I wheezed. She showed me the article,
and yet they did the sixties. What a time. The
wife was mad. She told daughter that never used that word.
We were gonna wash her mouth up. My daughter patted
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and went about her day. Next day, she told her dad,
you didn't believe her at first, then absolutely lost it
when he read the article she pulled up. I can't
remember the last time I saw him laugh that hard.
The wife came out, heard that what the commotion was
all about, and told the daughter she brought it up again,
she would be in big trouble. Well, today, one of
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my wife's friends called while the girls were having a playdate,
and you'll never guess what my daughter did. You'll never
guess in a million years. Go on, yes, yes, she
told this story to her little friend, who also thought
it was hilarious. Mother did not. My wife is serious
now and says we need to come up with a punishment.
I don't want to punish her. I think we stopped
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making a big deal about it. She'll get bored of
it eventually. The voice's argument is that she's doing it
for attention. Yeah, she's twelve, but she's going to learn
about the stuff now in health class soon anyways, as
we'll get the giggle out of the system. Now, A
mother church for not supportting my wife and dragging my
heels unpunishing my daughter. My wife says, even if I'm right,
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we at least need to punish her for disobeying us.
I say, the harder we come down, the more she
will push back. Did you ever have that problem with
us the kids?
Speaker 3 (31:22):
I think every parent has a moment, you know, and
it usually comes from like babies when they're learning to talk.
You know, you're in the grocery store and all of
a sudden, like you know, something comes out that you like,
want to crawl under the table because how did you
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learn that word? We never use that word in our house.
But yeah, I think every parent this is every parent's
kind of nightmare. The thing here I think is, you know,
in your own house, you set your own rules, but
it's important to you know, make sure that it's part
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on it's put on the parents that you know, they
both get on the same side of this. He can't.
He can't let her tell him, sneak around, tell him
stuff like this on the sly and he giggles about it.
But then if she's caught doing it, you know with
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her dad and her mother disappears. I mean, it just
causes tension. They have to both get on the on
the same side of this.
Speaker 2 (32:35):
Because otherwise it makes one parent look like the bad parents.
Speaker 3 (32:38):
Yes, I mean they you know, I mean even it's
it may sound like it's just a trivial little thing,
but twelve year olds going around and you know, saying this,
you know, you get in the wrong crowd or something.
It just it just looks bad on you. And yeah,
the whole family basically, I mean, you know, I like.
Speaker 2 (32:57):
A compromise, be like, yeah, you can say that at home,
but don't, right, please.
Speaker 3 (33:02):
You know, and please don't enough if I hear that
you are, you know, telling these stories, even to your
friend at her house. You know there will be consequences
for it, and you know, I.
Speaker 2 (33:14):
Mean and also too, we should point out Bert Ward
is actually Robin from Batman and Robin back in the day.
So and actually I looked this up here. That's say,
if it was true, it's absolutely absolutely true.
Speaker 3 (33:27):
It is true. I remember back when it, you know,
it came out and.
Speaker 2 (33:31):
Yeah, it was like so apparently the story was making
the pills and then he immediately stopped because it was
kind of like, well, I'm not going to be able
to have kids if I take these pills.
Speaker 6 (33:44):
I have kids, I don't know, because okay, I thought.
Speaker 3 (33:54):
Yeah, I think they just need to have a heart
to heart, you know, with their daughter. It seems like
there they must have a pretty good relationship with her anyway,
And even if there are younger kids in the house too,
I mean, that's something else to be concerned about. You
don't want them going around and saying things that are
inappropriate for their age, you know, like like you said,
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they're going to be learning about this and health class.
You know, it's going to be you know, awkward and
all that when they go through that stage. But right now, yeah,
I think it's too late to punish her now though
I think it's a little over the you know now
that he doesn't he can't punish her for something that happened,
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you know way back when it's you have to you
have to make it fit with the you know, consequences,
fit with the punishment.
Speaker 2 (34:45):
The commenter is actually brought up an important point, not
the assholes. She's twelve. She keeps bringing it up because
she'll get a reaction from mom just to ignorant and
it will stop.
Speaker 3 (34:54):
So that's that's a lot of it too. That is
a lot of it.
Speaker 2 (34:57):
Another person said, I think that throws a lot of
parents for a loop. To hear names for generals proper
or slang dropped casually by their middle schoolers. They associate
those words with sex and sexuality, and it freaks them
out to hear it av a child's mouth. It's a
jarring reminder that their baby is not quite a baby anymore.
Speaker 3 (35:15):
You know. The other the other focus on this and
it's like a sexist thing. But maybe if if they
had a son and he said it, okay, you know,
I don't I don't know anymore, like, you know, would
they the same way? Yeah? Would they? That'd be an
interesting you know, right actor in this as well.
Speaker 2 (35:36):
Yeah. I never thought of that actually there, Yeah, that's
an that's kind of interesting. I don't think they would
be taken as well there, I mean, but I just
think it was just kind of like the fact that's
so absurd. But it's also true that I think that's why,
you know, he's kind of like, you know, this is hilarious.
Speaker 3 (35:51):
You know, yes, And I guess to hear his daughter
like say it to you. And I know I know
families that this would have been completely completely you know,
a non issue for them. I know couples that you know,
their kids, I mean, they think their kids are hilarious
and they let them say like just about anything they want,
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you know, right, you know, and it doesn't bother them.
But then, like you say, you take them into another
household and maybe it's you know, yeah, I mean, you.
Speaker 2 (36:24):
Know it's going to fly here's not going to fly there.
Speaker 3 (36:26):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (36:27):
Right. The final one I thought was hilarious. We're not
allowed to use the words penis or volva at work
because my boss's wife thinks will give the doctor impure thoughts.
I work in a veterinary dermatology. I promise that if
I'm talking about a penis or volva is not a healthy,
sexually appealing human one.
Speaker 3 (36:50):
God, Well, that's you know, that's another that's something he
has to deal with every day.
Speaker 6 (36:57):
His punishment is, oh, man, you.
Speaker 3 (37:04):
Have to have a sense of humor. If you're going
to have kids, you need to have a sense of humor.
And you know, I mean, if this goes on and
on and on on, no, you know, you have to
set them straight. But you know it's going to happen.
Every family has had yees, this happened.
Speaker 2 (37:22):
So anyways, Yeah, Burke can take his penis reducing pills
and Robin won't have as much of a you know
show in the front, but aways believe or not, we
come to the end of the show, so no I know.
I want to thank you so much for being with
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us here.
Speaker 3 (37:45):
I can't wait to do the next one.
Speaker 2 (37:46):
Well guess what we're going to recording.
Speaker 3 (37:48):
Everyone wratch with us, so we'll be around.
Speaker 2 (37:51):
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Com and Welcome to the Joe velosit Show. This is
a special show for me. I am here with in
every news shoe is Sharon. But to me, you are
my mom.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
Hi Mom, Hi honey, how are you.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
I'm doing well? How are you?
Speaker 3 (00:57):
I am very well?
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Thank you doing this here for me?
Speaker 3 (01:02):
So, oh you're welcome because I always need guessed.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
It's like you didn't think I was actually telling the truth.
Speaker 3 (01:08):
It's like, no, I didn't think you wanted me. You
wanted someone your age anyway.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
No, yeah, let's not talk about my age because god,
I'm so close to fifty now, Oh my god, and
you're perpetually twenty nine, so.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
You know, yes, right, I'd like to think so right.
My body doesn't tell me.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
That, but yeah, I know, tell me about it. Yeah,
it's kind of like I've noticed as I've gotten older,
it's kind of like if I'm on my knees doing
something and I get up, it's kind of like a god.
You know. It used to be no problem at all
whenever I was younger, but now it's kind of like,
oh God. But but I must say though, I still
feel young, at least in thought, but maybe not in
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actually body movements, you know.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
But anyway, only a number. It's only a number, right,
That's right, so my mother tells me.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
So. By the way, I just wanted to mention something here,
is that that adam to being there for the Old
Glory has all those they have all these t shirts.
And I have a good idea for a Christmas gift,
so I'll send it off to you. Oh okay, it's
a Queen shirt. And you know the shirts that the
hell Vetica and it's like so and so and so
and so and so and so. Yeah, this one says
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Deacon and May and Taylor and Mercury. It's the last
names of all the Queen members. So it's a cool
looking shirt and I figured it'd be a little bit different.
Speaker 3 (02:40):
For you. Yeah, okay, I don't think my queen days
are kind of over.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
Yeah, I'm not listening to them all the time anymore
while we're at home and everything there. But right, but anyways, here,
so this episode, we're gonna do am I the Jerk stories,
so we don't say the word asshole all the time.
Speaker 3 (03:06):
Do you think do you think I'd be offended?
Speaker 2 (03:09):
No? But because because we're going to record in our
episode and it's all am I the Asshole story? So
so I was I wasn't thinking this all the way
through there. Basically, it was kind of like and in
the beginning it was kind of like, yeah, let me
tone it down a little bit for mom, But then
on the next show is kind of like that scirt
(03:29):
or I could just say, am I the a hole
and they could avoid me swearing as much. You know,
we do.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Well, that's so sweet.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
All he's thinking about your precious ears.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
You know, yes, I hear that.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
But AnyWho, Yeah, we'll go ahead here and uh, we'll
get this started here with the first story that we
have here, am I the Jerk for emergency breaking and
it goes, hey, everyone, I had the weirdest situation happened.
I was on the way back for my parents with
my girlfriend in the car, when as we ranted the
corner going about fifty miles per hour, I saw a
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cat in the middle of the road. I acted instinctively
and did a full and emergency stop. In total, the
whole thing took about a second, and the cat just
barely managed to escape my rent FORNT tire. I immediately
got out to see if I'd injured it, but luckily
it escaped. Now here's the part that tripped me up.
My girlfriend, a cat lover an avid proponent of not
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hitting animals on the road, was mad at me because
the emergency stop hurt her neck, nothing terrible. I offered
to get to the hospital with her to get it
checked out, but she refused. There was no room to
swerve a higher curb on the left and I get
her on the right. And most importantly, I didn't think
it was pure reflex By the time I had processed
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the whole situation, we were standing still. I find it
a bit unfair to her to tell me I was
actively putting her in danger when I didn't even have
the time to think the road was empty, and any
other reaction like swerving to the left or to the right.
But I certainly wrecked my car. What do you think?
Speaker 3 (05:09):
What do I think?
Speaker 2 (05:10):
Yeah, well, yeah, we can start off with your thought.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
Okay, Well, first of all, I do think he was
an a hole for driving, For driving fifty miles an
hour the curve. M that's slow down and then you
know something runs out in front of you. You can
have time to break.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
I've never been able to drive a car fifty miles
an hour around the curve.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
Okay, good, that was like the first thing I was thinking, said,
car over, Yeah right, you want to land up in
the in the gutter or the you know, off the
side of the right. Okay, but according you know, for
everything else. For swearing for an animal, No, he's not
an a hole for that. He's I mean, from my
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own personal experience from married to a vegetarian, if there
is a bird, a mouse, or even a butterfly in
our path, not to mention any other kind of wild
animal on the road, my husband is like, it's their
life first, and my life is secondary to all of that.
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So I can say it's just it's hard to make
sure that she has her seatbelt like fastened tightly.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
I've seen him with bugs, and it's kind of like,
you know, whenever. Yes, it's like he will not kill
a bug, you know, it'll give me a spotted lantern fly,
which is you know, which they recommend that.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
You kill, that's right.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Or a stink bug, which you know you usually grab
a tissue and then throw it in them and the toilet.
He'll go ahead and basically take it outside and let
it go.
Speaker 3 (06:48):
That's right.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
I'm not sure he's actually helping things.
Speaker 3 (06:52):
Some instances, but in this case, though, I mean, she
better just buckle up, because you know, if if you
can't at least try to avoid hitting an animal, you
see too many on the road, too many deer and
you know, everything else on the road. So yeah, like
he's giving kudos for.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
That, right.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
That kind of reminds me of the one time, though
I felt so bad about this. I was driving between
your house and my my father's house, and a bunny
ran across the road and it ran across the road
in such an amount of time that I could not
stop and I ran over the bunny. Yeah, I was like,
oh my god, it was no, no, thank god, here
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it comes and tells squash. But anyways, I.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
Mean, sometimes you just can't be avoided. But yeah, I
mean when there are butterflies and things, you know, birds
flying in front of you, we started calling them suicide
birds or butterfly if they get hit, because you know,
bug gets squashed on the windshield. There's suicide bugs.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
Oh god. But anyways here, Yeah, I think the commenters,
I think agreed with us. There absolutely not a jerk.
Did you ask her what else could I do but
slam on the brakes? If you could safely swerve, then
I don't know what you expected. You avoid killing an
animal and no one is seriously injured. In my book,
that makes you a fine human being. So uh, the
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other one's going there to say, I agree, you have
good reflexes and critical path method on judgment of the situation.
The funny thing is, whenever I break heart, I reflectively
reach over to catch the passenger. What reflects from before
safety belts? Do you do that?
Speaker 3 (08:44):
I used to do that. Yeah, I used to do
that with when you kids were you know, in the
car and little in the car and we didn't have
to have seat belts on. Oh yeah, all the time,
all the.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
Time, right, And so we don't slam our heads against
the dashboard.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
Yeah, it's like that was your safety.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
But here's a good question. Did we wear safety belts
when we were kids.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
I don't think that really started until I don't know.
You'd have to look that one up.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
But like us, me and my sister.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
You had car seats, I mean I had you have
car seats.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Well, no, Like what I'm saying is that after we
got out of the car seats there we were just
sitting the car seat. Were we wear in our seatbelt
all the time?
Speaker 3 (09:24):
No? I mean I don't think our cars even had
seatbelts in them.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
I think they did, but.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
Maybe but you weren't. They could have had seatbelts. I
don't know. I don't know, you don't know. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
We weren't driving nineteen fifty Ford fairlanes that seatbelts.
Speaker 3 (09:43):
This was I don't know when the seat belt came
out and you weren't.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
I mean, we had seatbelts in the eighties.
Speaker 3 (09:48):
It was a mandatory that you wear them and use them.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
I will agree with you there, it wasn't in mandatory
until like the.
Speaker 3 (09:54):
Nineties sometimes, so then you were all growing up.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
Because at that point there we also grew up during
the time where they started before airbags, so they had
like so they started either you had to have air
bags in the car or you had to have the
retractable seatbelts, like the motorized seatbelts remember those, Yes, but
we never had a car that had those, thank god.
So but anyways, yeah, it was just like you know,
(10:21):
but still instinctively, like if I had to break quickly
and I have some eels in the car, yeah, I
will put my arm out, you know, check in there. Yeah.
It's always just it's kind of like a good reflex
to have.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
I guess, yeah, you know, I mean really getting back
to to all this, it'd be nice if they had
some sort of underground roadway for animals, and I know
some places do have things like that, but I think,
you know, they could do a lot more too.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
Or put the cars underground.
Speaker 3 (10:52):
And animals above.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Yeah, level of animals above. Because it's kind of funny
there because like there'll be signs for deer crossing and
some people be like, how do they think if they
move this deer crossing? It's not like, you know, we
have any true where they.
Speaker 3 (11:06):
Need to build an underground you know, just a tunnel.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
Yeah, and the Grand Tunnel with the.
Speaker 3 (11:14):
No, I don't want to drive like through a tunnel
all the time.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
I don't see the way it's going to work. Finally,
the comment the last comment said, ask her she would
rather have you run over the cat because that seems
the only other option here. So I mean, yeah, basically
me here, it's kind of like, you know what I mean,
it was like she had to sop hard. You know,
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I'm sorry he did.
Speaker 3 (11:40):
You know, he should ask her, what would you do?
What would you have done?
Speaker 2 (11:43):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (11:44):
You know, first of all, she probably said, I wouldn't
be doing fifty miles Oh god.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
Still, yeah, that's the part that kind of struck me
when I read that. It's kind of like fifty miles
an hour around a curve, like your tires have these
squ at that point, you know. Yeah, but also too Yeah,
it's just I mean, you know, I think he did
the right thing. That that's all you could do there, you.
Speaker 3 (12:09):
Know, Yeah, he did the best in his situation, and
she should be happy he did.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
That right exactly. So anyways, here go ahead here and
move on to the second story. Am I the jerk?
About how I handled a frustrating situation at the pharmacy?
I take multiple medications. I don't like people knowing what
they are. I live in a town where it's very
likely to know at least one person in the store
you're on in any given day. My name is also
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somewhat well known around town. For this reason, when I
pick up my meds at CVS, I hand them my
ID instead of having to save my name and other
information out loud. And also, as a female, I feel
better doing it this way and not saying my address
out loud. I also need to show my ID for
some of the meds. Anyways, this has never been a problem.
The workers behind the counter always just take the ID
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and go about the transaction. Well, the other day a
lady behind the counter took my ID and then said,
not quietly, your last name is Smith. I'm annoyed already,
but just say yeah. She then says, what is your
first name? I said, do I really have to say
it out loud? That's the whole entire point of me
handing you the ID. And she says yes, but I
typed that in pointing to my last name and I
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find nothing. And then she says, can you point to
your name on here? Referring to the ID, and at
this point, I was confused and just asked, you don't
know how to read a Massachusetts ID? And she said, no,
I know, and then finished a transaction. I said thank you,
and she didn't say anything back or even look at me.
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So I think I was mad or thought I was
just being rude, But I was generally perplexed by wise
being put through the whole entire process, and was honestly
asking if she didn't know how to read an ID,
because obviously that would be an issue for her in
that line of work. I didn't say it harshly, as
I was asking, so am by the jerk.
Speaker 3 (14:03):
Now I can see a lot of reasons she wouldn't
want to give her name and address allowed in a pharmacy.
But I think what the clerk did was really against
a lot of HEPPA laws. I think, you know, you're
not supposed to be telling people about, you know, medications
you take and things like that.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
Yeah, because I think, I mean, if she hadn't violated
that hippolawe, then at that point she was very close
to doing.
Speaker 3 (14:29):
It there, very close.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
I have your cream, I have your solve this, I.
Speaker 3 (14:36):
Have your that yes, and I mean, you know you're
not allowed to do that. So she should have at
some point just asked for the pharmacist or the manager
of the pharmacists to talk with them because they probably
knew her there. It's not like, you know, she said,
it was a small town and everybody knew each other,
but you know, they probably knew who she was. And
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I mean maybe the girl was new, but and you know,
trying to follow directions that she can get nice. You know, well,
she doesn't sound like she is being very nice, but
you know, she could have been a little bit more accommodating.
But at some point she should have. I think this lady,
miss Smith, should have just asked to talk to the
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manager pharmacist. I think that would have been the best
way to handle that situation, because you know, I mean,
you know, like she said, there there are people out
there if she's screaming her dress out loud stuff. You know.
I know, at my pharmacy, I have to always give
my birth date, and I'm like, really, I'm like Diane
(15:41):
can and I lie about my age all the time,
so sometimes I can't remember my birthday.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
I was born in nineteen eighty, I'm twenty nine. Well,
I don't think you twenty nine, if nineteen eighty, but anyways, still, yeah,
it's I could understand that. It's just kind of like
like I'm at working for example, when I had the
verify people who don't actually work there, they're like a contractor,
I toy other information other than their Social Security number
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because we're not allowed to keep that information. So I
ask them their date of birth. And I know, I
was cringe when I have to do that there, because
masking women their day to birth, and a lot of
women don't like telling their age, you know, right because discrimination.
It still is this unfortunately in this world. And for me,
it's just kind of like, okay, what's your date of birth?
You know? And then I cringe when it's like two thousands,
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you know when they were born, you know, and it's
kind of like, well, I was really yeah, it's like
you're either very young or really old, you know, why
are you still here? Kind of thing you should be
retired for at least the last fifteen years at this point.
Speaker 3 (16:47):
Well that's probably why they don't want to give there, right.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
Yeah. So but anyways here, Yeah, the commenters I think
agreed with us as well there, but they get really
funny in the comments there. The first one basically said,
I agree with you wanted to keep her name in private.
I don't think you're being difficult. I think that tech
was being impatient and didn't want to take the time
to read your I D. Asked to speak to a
supervisor like you suggested. This happens again. Explain what you
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prefer to have them read your I D and so
now to state your name. But anyways, here, yeah, they
go on the let's say here, maybe she didn't have
her reading glasses on and couldn't read the small font easily.
But in any case, I notice a lack of privacy
at the pharmacy. Sometimes that my pharmacy. They even say
it loud. I've drug A, drug B, and drug C
ready for you a lot enough that other people can
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definitely hear what meds you're picking up.
Speaker 3 (17:34):
No, they should never do that, never ever.
Speaker 2 (17:37):
Yeah, I actually stopped to even give my meds there
through the pharmacy. Actually, I now do it basically through
the mail or basically I ordered them, you know online,
have them to ship them to me basically, and it's
amazing how well that works out and how much time
it saves me and everything I know that everybody can't
do that because there's certain like drugs you can't get
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online through the mail.
Speaker 3 (17:59):
So I do the same thing. I get mine through
the mail. I've had my own run hands at the pharmacies,
and you know, I'd rather not stand in line forever.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
The last one made me laugh. There try picking vaginal
cream at Walgreens through the speaker's turned all the way up.
Inspite of the customer's request of no, I don't need instructions,
will receive the broadcast every humillion detail about using the product. Yes,
the whole time of waiting, car Is get to hear names,
medication stick her right on in there.
Speaker 3 (18:32):
Not we did k.
Speaker 2 (18:36):
But in that case, yeah, I think that goes in
the half.
Speaker 3 (18:38):
I would never go to that pharmacy again. I would
do everything I could get them.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
I want to show my face.
Speaker 3 (18:45):
I mean, unless they were doing it as a jake,
maybe they knewer, you know, maybe you.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
Know, here's your vaginal cream.
Speaker 3 (18:51):
Yeah, Jennevie steaking.
Speaker 2 (18:54):
In your who ha three times a day. It's like God, no, no, no, no, no,
but uh believe it or not. Guess what time it is.
It's time for a break. So we're gonna ahead, We're
gonna take a break here, we'll rate back with more
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Speaker 2 (20:40):
Welcome back to the juke glossy shoe. I'm here again
with my mom, and hey, you're doing jobs. Thanks because
I know, like you know, at first you're kind of like, yeah, right,
whatever it is just that.
Speaker 3 (20:58):
Hey episode that we always have something to talk about.
Speaker 2 (21:03):
But we made it work so far, and you know, anyways,
third story, here am I the jerk for not only
to pursue my dream job because my wife sacrificed hers
I twenty eight mal I've always dreamed of being an
artist as a kid. I's been iron sketching characters, landscapes
and whatever came to mind. It was the only thing
that made me feel live whenever life got hard. Growing up,
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my family was financially unstable, so art supplies weren't always accessible.
My parents were always supported in the theory, but they
were also realists. They often said things like art is
a nice hobby, but you need a real job. Fast
forward to college, I majored in graphic design because it
felt like a safe way to pursue art will stay employable.
Around this time, I met my now wife, Emily twenty
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seven female. Emily was studying biology and dream of becoming
a veg vegetarian. Yeah, dream of becoming a veterinarian. She's
always been one of the most hard working and selfless
people I know. We colicked immediately became inseparable. After graduation,
Emily's path to becoming a VET hited major red block.
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Her father had a stroke and her family couldn't afford
the cost of both his care in her graduate school.
Without a hesitation, Emily dropped our plans and started working
full time to help her parents. I offered the contribute,
but she refused, saying, you've got your dreams too focus
on them. She encouraged me to chase my art career,
even when I felt guilty watching her put hers on hold.
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With her support, I managed to lay in a decent
graphic design job at a marketing firm. It wasn't exactly
what I envisioned, but it paid the bills. Over the years, though,
my passion for art started to fade. Deadlines, uninspiring projects,
and corporate constraints made me feel like I was just
another clog in the machine. About a year ago, Emily
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suggested I take some time off to rediscover my love
for art. She said, you've always supported me, let me
return the favor. At first, I was hesitant, but her
insistence won me over. I quit my job and started
working on personal art projects. For the first time in years,
I felt like myself again. But here's where things get complicated.
A few months ago, I was offered an incredible opportunity
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to work for a game studio, something I've dreamed those
since I was a kid. It's a high paying, prestigious position,
and everyone says I'd be crazy to turn it down.
The problem it's in a city across the country, and
Emily can't come with me. Emily recently started a small
pet care business in our town, finally finding a way
they reconnect with her passion. She has built a loyal
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client base and is generally happy. Moving isn't an option
for her right now, and she does want to do
long distance. She told me repeatedly that she'd support me
if I took the job, but I can see the
sadness in her eyes when we talk about it. Here's
the part that makes me feel like a jerk. I've
decided not to take the job. I haven't told Emily yet,
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but I made up my mind. I know she has
encouraged me to go, but I can't bring myself to
leave her She's sacked so much for me in her family.
How could I repay her by abandoning her now? At
the same time, I wonder if I'm being unfair to
myself by getting up in my dream for no reason.
What if I start to resent her later, even though
she never asked me to stay. I don't want to
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feel like I've wisdom my potential, But I also don't
want to hurt the person who means the most to me.
So am I the jerk for not wanting to pursue
my dream job because my wife sacrificed hers? This is
really interesting.
Speaker 3 (24:31):
I think she's the jerk. Why because what has he
sacrificed for her?
Speaker 2 (24:41):
Well, that's a good question.
Speaker 3 (24:45):
She said to him over and over again that you've
got your dreams, to focus on them. You've always supported me,
Let me return the favor. How is she ever? I mean,
she has as long as he's like tied to the
town that she's living in. But they're married now, and
I think this is a discussion they should really really
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talk to, you know, over with like a counselor or
something like that, so neither one of them ends up
being the jerk. But you know, someone somewhere along the line,
they have decide what their end gool game is going
to be. You know, are they going to live in
a small town where he's sounds like he's yeah, he's
(25:28):
you know, burnt out there too, and he uh, you know,
has a great opportunity. She is a small business, small
pet care business. She could start that anywhere, you know,
and build up a clientele if she was that good
in her own town to do that. So I think
she's being the jerk about here.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
Well I also understand where he's coming from there too.
It's kind of like, you know, I don't want to
disrupt her because she has a good thing going.
Speaker 3 (25:54):
He has a small pet care business. I mean, I
don't take that lightly. I mean I'm glad that she's
doing that, and it sounds like, you know, it's important
business in her town.
Speaker 2 (26:05):
But but it's something that could be mobile, can be moved.
Speaker 3 (26:08):
Yes, yes, And you know, unless he would look into
seeing if his job would be mobile, you know, maybe
he could work from home. That never wasn't brought up here,
but it would be uninteresting, you know, maybe he could
do do that. But I do think they should go
and talk to a counselor about this because moving's not
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an option for her right now, so you know, and
she doesn't want to do long distance what's that mean?
It doesn't sound like she's too happy with ye.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
But anyways, here I think the commenters agreed with you,
especially with the you know, you know, seeking advice here.
One of them said, don't make a decision without asking
her opinion first. Yes, definitely talk it over. Yeah, they
need to have a sit down and have a you know,
but I think.
Speaker 3 (26:53):
They even should go through like, you know, a mediator
some some kind, because you know, he's like two into
her and she's like, you know, kind of like setting
her way or something. I don't know what. I don't
know her problem she has definitely probably she doesn't want
to leave her family because her father still needs care.
Speaker 2 (27:14):
But the other thing is there too, is that she
never went to graduate school, so she never really became
an actual vet.
Speaker 3 (27:21):
Right. I think they've heard the opportunity and yeah, she
wants to.
Speaker 2 (27:26):
Do that still, right, Because in the case then I
think that you know, there.
Speaker 3 (27:31):
Is a way here for them both to be happy
and have their dream job as well.
Speaker 2 (27:36):
Because when the commenter said, we should be able to
go back to school maybe and become a vet tech
at the very least would be able to cover all
the bills. And then also to related to that, there,
your dream job may enable her to chase her dream.
The one is the jerk, but you may eventually is
not her encourage her to look at schools in the
new city. It's a tough situation, right, Yeah, they kind
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of agree with us. There is that one they need
to talk into. They need to basically figure out here
what to do so that way everybody is at least
you know, happy there because if they move and she
can get back to school, I think she'll be happy
with the fact that she can actually become a debt
you know.
Speaker 3 (28:13):
Yeah, or at the very least you know, you know,
vet tech or something like that. But yeah, right, right, So,
but I guess it's too late for them now.
Speaker 2 (28:27):
Well, it's not too late yet.
Speaker 3 (28:28):
They can talk so well they I hope they're talking, right.
Speaker 2 (28:33):
But anyways, guess what time it is time to do?
It's time for the last story. Our moment of conclusion.
Am I the jerk for not being mad at my
daughter and thinking that she's actually pretty funny? So my
I'm forty three. Dad, who's sixty four, used to love
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taking us on adventures as kids, but he's slowed down recently.
He still loves spending time with my daughter, who is
a female and twelve years old. So Dad decided to
introduce them to his favorite childhood shows, and for whatever reason,
she loves them. Star Trek, Bonanza, Dandy Griffith Show, all
of it. She's hooked. She thinks it's all fantastic. Okay,
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so fun fact about my daughter. She loves googling fun facts.
Her favorite phrase is did you know? Like we'll drive
past a sign that says we're X miles away from
some location. She whips out that phone and it's like,
did you know X location is the salamander capital of
the world. It's really cute and annoying at the same time.
So last week she comes downstairs and says, did you
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know that ABC made Bert war to take pills to
shrink his penis? Totally dead pan, didn't even crack when
I tell you I wheezed. She showed me the article,
and yet they did the sixties. What a time. The
wife was mad. She told daughter that never used that word.
We were gonna wash her mouth up. My daughter patted
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and went about her day. Next day, she told her dad,
you didn't believe her at first, then absolutely lost it
when he read the article she pulled up. I can't
remember the last time I saw him laugh that hard.
The wife came out, heard that what the commotion was
all about, and told the daughter she brought it up again,
she would be in big trouble. Well, today, one of
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my wife's friends called while the girls were having a playdate,
and you'll never guess what my daughter did. You'll never
guess in a million years. Go on, yes, yes, she
told this story to her little friend, who also thought
it was hilarious. Mother did not. My wife is serious
now and says we need to come up with a punishment.
I don't want to punish her. I think we stopped
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making a big deal about it. She'll get bored of
it eventually. The voice's argument is that she's doing it
for attention. Yeah, she's twelve, but she's going to learn
about the stuff now in health class soon anyways, as
we'll get the giggle out of the system. Now, A
mother church for not supportting my wife and dragging my
heels unpunishing my daughter. My wife says, even if I'm right,
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we at least need to punish her for disobeying us.
I say, the harder we come down, the more she
will push back. Did you ever have that problem with
us the kids?
Speaker 3 (31:22):
I think every parent has a moment, you know, and
it usually comes from like babies when they're learning to talk.
You know, you're in the grocery store and all of
a sudden, like you know, something comes out that you like,
want to crawl under the table because how did you
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learn that word? We never use that word in our house.
But yeah, I think every parent this is every parent's
kind of nightmare. The thing here I think is, you know,
in your own house, you set your own rules, but
it's important to you know, make sure that it's part
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on it's put on the parents that you know, they
both get on the same side of this. He can't.
He can't let her tell him, sneak around, tell him
stuff like this on the sly and he giggles about it.
But then if she's caught doing it, you know with
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her dad and her mother disappears. I mean, it just
causes tension. They have to both get on the on
the same side of this.
Speaker 2 (32:35):
Because otherwise it makes one parent look like the bad parents.
Speaker 3 (32:38):
Yes, I mean they you know, I mean even it's
it may sound like it's just a trivial little thing,
but twelve year olds going around and you know, saying this,
you know, you get in the wrong crowd or something.
It just it just looks bad on you. And yeah,
the whole family basically, I mean, you know, I like.
Speaker 2 (32:57):
A compromise, be like, yeah, you can say that at home,
but don't, right, please.
Speaker 3 (33:02):
You know, and please don't enough if I hear that
you are, you know, telling these stories, even to your
friend at her house. You know there will be consequences
for it, and you know, I.
Speaker 2 (33:14):
Mean and also too, we should point out Bert Ward
is actually Robin from Batman and Robin back in the day.
So and actually I looked this up here. That's say,
if it was true, it's absolutely absolutely true.
Speaker 3 (33:27):
It is true. I remember back when it, you know,
it came out and.
Speaker 2 (33:31):
Yeah, it was like so apparently the story was making
the pills and then he immediately stopped because it was
kind of like, well, I'm not going to be able
to have kids if I take these pills.
Speaker 6 (33:44):
I have kids, I don't know, because okay, I thought.
Speaker 3 (33:54):
Yeah, I think they just need to have a heart
to heart, you know, with their daughter. It seems like
there they must have a pretty good relationship with her anyway,
And even if there are younger kids in the house too,
I mean, that's something else to be concerned about. You
don't want them going around and saying things that are
inappropriate for their age, you know, like like you said,
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they're going to be learning about this and health class.
You know, it's going to be you know, awkward and
all that when they go through that stage. But right now, yeah,
I think it's too late to punish her now though
I think it's a little over the you know now
that he doesn't he can't punish her for something that happened,
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you know way back when it's you have to you
have to make it fit with the you know, consequences,
fit with the punishment.
Speaker 2 (34:45):
The commenter is actually brought up an important point, not
the assholes. She's twelve. She keeps bringing it up because
she'll get a reaction from mom just to ignorant and
it will stop.
Speaker 3 (34:54):
So that's that's a lot of it too. That is
a lot of it.
Speaker 2 (34:57):
Another person said, I think that throws a lot of
parents for a loop. To hear names for generals proper
or slang dropped casually by their middle schoolers. They associate
those words with sex and sexuality, and it freaks them
out to hear it av a child's mouth. It's a
jarring reminder that their baby is not quite a baby anymore.
Speaker 3 (35:15):
You know. The other the other focus on this and
it's like a sexist thing. But maybe if if they
had a son and he said it, okay, you know,
I don't I don't know anymore, like, you know, would
they the same way? Yeah? Would they? That'd be an
interesting you know, right actor in this as well.
Speaker 2 (35:36):
Yeah. I never thought of that actually there, Yeah, that's
an that's kind of interesting. I don't think they would
be taken as well there, I mean, but I just
think it was just kind of like the fact that's
so absurd. But it's also true that I think that's why,
you know, he's kind of like, you know, this is hilarious.
Speaker 3 (35:51):
You know, yes, And I guess to hear his daughter
like say it to you. And I know I know
families that this would have been completely completely you know,
a non issue for them. I know couples that you know,
their kids, I mean, they think their kids are hilarious
and they let them say like just about anything they want,
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you know, right, you know, and it doesn't bother them.
But then, like you say, you take them into another
household and maybe it's you know, yeah, I mean, you.
Speaker 2 (36:24):
Know it's going to fly here's not going to fly there.
Speaker 3 (36:26):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (36:27):
Right. The final one I thought was hilarious. We're not
allowed to use the words penis or volva at work
because my boss's wife thinks will give the doctor impure thoughts.
I work in a veterinary dermatology. I promise that if
I'm talking about a penis or volva is not a healthy,
sexually appealing human one.
Speaker 3 (36:50):
God, Well, that's you know, that's another that's something he
has to deal with every day.
Speaker 6 (36:57):
His punishment is, oh, man, you.
Speaker 3 (37:04):
Have to have a sense of humor. If you're going
to have kids, you need to have a sense of humor.
And you know, I mean, if this goes on and
on and on on, no, you know, you have to
set them straight. But you know it's going to happen.
Every family has had yees, this happened.
Speaker 2 (37:22):
So anyways, Yeah, Burke can take his penis reducing pills
and Robin won't have as much of a you know
show in the front, but aways believe or not, we
come to the end of the show, so no I know.
I want to thank you so much for being with
(37:43):
us here.
Speaker 3 (37:45):
I can't wait to do the next one.
Speaker 2 (37:46):
Well guess what we're going to recording.
Speaker 3 (37:48):
Everyone wratch with us, so we'll be around.
Speaker 2 (37:51):
Thanks for checking out the Juvelosti Show and make sure
this suscribe to us and your favorite podcast up so
don't miss out on an episode. New episodes drop every Monday.
For access to our websites, visit us at jove velocity
dot com. Thanks for listening and we'll see you next week.
Have a good one.
Speaker 3 (38:09):
Bye bye.
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