November 3, 2025 • 35 mins
On the 14h episode of The Joevelocity Show, Joe is joined by Hubba, and we discuss r/AITA stories from Reddit.
• AITA that my dog came with me to pick up take out?
As we unpack the first story, we examine both sides of the argument, discussing the entitled feelings of the dog owner versus the irritation of the other patrons. The discussion highlights social etiquette and personal responsibility, leading to moments of reflection on the complexities of shared public spaces.
• AITA for helping my daughter in law clean her studio space?
The second story evolves around a well-meaning mother-in-law who took it upon herself to clean her daughter-in-law's chaotic art studio. We discuss the miscommunication and lack of boundaries that led to an explosive reaction from the daughter-in-law, emphasizing the importance of respecting personal spaces and the dynamics that come with family relationships. Both comedic and poignant, this situation stirs a conversation about the unintended consequences of trying to help when boundaries are crossed.
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• AITA for making my son quit his part time job to go on our family vacation?
As we ease into the third story, we confront the dilemma of parental authority versus a teenager's independence. A family grapples with the decision to force their son to prioritize a family vacation over his part-time job, leading to conflict and lasting resentment. We ponder the implications of family values and individual responsibilities, drawing parallels to the broader expectations society places on young adults today.
• AITA for being a drug dealer to my son's cat?
The episode wraps up with a humorous yet thought-provoking tale of a grandmother who defiantly gives her son's cat a daily dose of catnip, despite his explicit instructions against it. This lighthearted story provides an opportunity to reflect on the relatable and often absurd nature of familial bonds—how the relationships are filled with both love and a touch of rebellion. We share our laughs while contemplating the deeper questions of trust and boundaries in family dynamics.
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• AITA that my dog came with me to pick up take out?
As we unpack the first story, we examine both sides of the argument, discussing the entitled feelings of the dog owner versus the irritation of the other patrons. The discussion highlights social etiquette and personal responsibility, leading to moments of reflection on the complexities of shared public spaces.
• AITA for helping my daughter in law clean her studio space?
The second story evolves around a well-meaning mother-in-law who took it upon herself to clean her daughter-in-law's chaotic art studio. We discuss the miscommunication and lack of boundaries that led to an explosive reaction from the daughter-in-law, emphasizing the importance of respecting personal spaces and the dynamics that come with family relationships. Both comedic and poignant, this situation stirs a conversation about the unintended consequences of trying to help when boundaries are crossed.
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• AITA for making my son quit his part time job to go on our family vacation?
As we ease into the third story, we confront the dilemma of parental authority versus a teenager's independence. A family grapples with the decision to force their son to prioritize a family vacation over his part-time job, leading to conflict and lasting resentment. We ponder the implications of family values and individual responsibilities, drawing parallels to the broader expectations society places on young adults today.
• AITA for being a drug dealer to my son's cat?
The episode wraps up with a humorous yet thought-provoking tale of a grandmother who defiantly gives her son's cat a daily dose of catnip, despite his explicit instructions against it. This lighthearted story provides an opportunity to reflect on the relatable and often absurd nature of familial bonds—how the relationships are filled with both love and a touch of rebellion. We share our laughs while contemplating the deeper questions of trust and boundaries in family dynamics.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
So talk to me very real quick.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Hello.
Speaker 1 (00:04):
Okay, I make sure. Yeah, it wasn't say hello. It wasn't.
It wasn't just a hello. It's the hello, yeah right.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Hello, Hey damn.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Oh man a man, Okay, you're ready, I think so. Okay,
let's do this so much your dive into the wild,
weird and wonderfully messy world of Reddit. This is the
(00:54):
Joe Velocity Show. And welcome to the Joe Velossy Show.
I am Joe. I'm here once again with my best
friend in the world. Have a hey there, how are
you doing?
Speaker 2 (01:07):
What's going on.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
The same old, different day. You know, it's kind of
we were talking before the show, and it's like we
have nothing to talk about. Everything's been pretty much for
the same there, other than the fact that may it's
getting colder outside. You know, I wore shorts to the
store today, but you know, of course I.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Had to be that period.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Yeah, but also too, it's like, literally, get my car,
go in the store, the start, getting back my car,
come home. It's not a big deal, but I know
I'm not gonna be able to do that much longer.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
You know, I can't do it now. How did you
manage to do it that.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
I didn't freeze the death. I wore like a hoodie,
you know, so it was basically me like looking like
John Fetterman, you know, in the hoodie in the shorts.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
Oh my goodness. That seeing somebody else said, like in
their gordon and sandals and shorts and the white beater
I said.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Today, yeah, oh my god, it was only like fifty
five degrees of that today.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Man, And at the time it had to be around
forty five.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Oh god. Okay, yeah, that's a bit much. I wouldn't
go that far. I mean, at least had socks on,
you know.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
Yeah. Right. He was messing with his go and I'm.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
Like cold, Oh my goodness. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, if
I'm gonna be outside for any length at time, yeah,
I'll put pants on. But I was just running into
the grocery store real quick to get some stuff, you know.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
At least pants and a hoodie and some shoes.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Yeah, I definitely putting the pants on. I was like,
you know, let me get one more wear out of
these shorts, you know, because I know I'm not gonna
be able to wear shorts much longer.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
Right.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
So anyways, here, so you wanted to ask about my mom.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
Yeah, I wanted to know how it went after the
last show with you know, talking with your mother.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
I actually played it for her yesterday whenever I was up,
you know, visiting her her house, and she she's like,
you didn't have to apologize. I was like, I felt
like I did. But yeah, it was one of those
cases there were you know, I love her the death and.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
Yeah, I'm glad she got a good laugh out of it.
You know, what does she think of this show?
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Well, she likes it. I mean she was on it
four times in a row, so yeah, right right. But
was what was interesting is that every response I get
from everybody whoever has done the show is that they
were nervous to do it. They do it and they
were like, oh, this was fun, let's do this again.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
So right.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
So you, on the other hand, you you have delusions
of grander. You want to you want to have your
own podcast and everything there, I mean what she did
in the past actually yeah. So but the key is
that trying to figure what to talk about on the podcast.
It's one of the hardest things to figure out what
to do there because.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
It's a lot trying to figure out what you want
to you know, talk about you know, because there's some
days I just don't want to talk, right, So it's just,
you know, it's a little different when you're doing when
you're dealing with a park podcast, you know. And yeah,
I like the fact that I could come on here
and actually talk about things and actually listen to great
(04:19):
stories and have my comments and reactions to listen to
other people's comments on it too, you know.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
So there's no pressure on your end, right.
Speaker 3 (04:28):
Right, But you know, but you know, this is what
you enjoy doing, you know, and it makes me happy
that I get to do it with you, you know what
I mean, and really cool.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
It's really cool and I'm enjoying and I'm enjoying it.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
I appreciate you being on here too, So.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
It is something different.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Well, anyways, are you ready to get into the show. Yes,
let's go ahead. It just started. So story and by
the asshole that my dog came with me to pick
up takeouts, I thirty three mail ordered lunch from a
spot around the corner about five minutes away. I brought
(05:10):
my dog, an Australian shepherd named Chief, with me. We're
just picking it up and going in and out. Five
minutes tops. I walk in and there's one other person waiting,
I guess the hostess standing and checking, and the host
says that should be back with the food. The other
guy sitting says to me, why do you have your
dog here? I said, I'm just picking up some food.
I'm going to be in and out. It's not busy.
(05:32):
I didn't think it would bother anybody. He's angry. I
can tell he's going on me a bit and saying
it's a restaurant.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
I know.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
Pet sign on the door says I'm an asshole for
thinking the rolls don't matter to me. I said, I
got it thanks to his rants. He says, I doubt
you do. I pet my dog in. Another guy, food
comes and we leave. It was just a few minutes.
Thought it would bother no one, and my dog is
trained and well behaved. The restaurant has never said anything
to me before. I DOESNET a few times. Am I
(06:01):
the asshole?
Speaker 2 (06:03):
No?
Speaker 1 (06:04):
He is? Who the guy who brought the dog in
or the guy who yelled?
Speaker 3 (06:09):
The guy who yelled he was he was an ass
you know, he was the asshole here. I mean he's
an innocent dog, you know, and he's well he's well trained.
I'm pretty sure the people at the restaurant knows this dog.
They just said it like they never had a problem
with it. So mind your business. That's his problem. He
don't know how to mind his business. That's all you
(06:32):
got to do. You had to come with somebody else's
business to get I he wanted was attention.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Or just to be an ass you know. But here's
something interesting, and that's the comments. Don't agree with you,
that's okay, okay, but also too, I'd add something into
their work. I'm gonna agree with you, but also bring
up something that we never thought of. The first come
out said, you're the asshole. If there's a no pet
sign and you ignore it and take your pet, how
(07:01):
can you possibly not be the asshole? It's a rule,
The rules apply to you. Another person said, you're the asshole.
I love dogs, I love my dog. I hate dogs
in public places, specifically saying no pets. The world doesn't
revolve around you and your pet.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
Ooh uh.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
The third one actually was kind of inresting you're the asshole.
Your dog has fur, your dog sheds dog fur is
a health violation in a restaurant. Also, it's posted who
are you to say fucking and just do what you
want something it's just a few minutes or was just
one or whatever. Bs you're creating your head. It convinces
you don't need to follow rules like everyone else. You're
entitled conceded in. So this person thinking that, oh my god.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Ay bro, I okay, okay.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Go fuck yourself and the horse you rode in on
basically is what they're saying. Here's something the employees think.
It's the customers the health department think got caught out
and came in here and showed your two colors. They
don't like the guy who had the dog, the guy
who yet was in the right. But what about people
who have service dogs? Yeah, it's that health violation. No, no,
(08:08):
So in that sense there, then I would say, if
they're well behaved, if they're actual certified the emissional support
animal or service dog, then yes, I can maybe understand
that person there came in real quick with their dog,
got their food and then then left. I can understand
(08:29):
that there. But if they come in actually sit down
the restaurant with the dog there, and the dog's not
a service dog or anything, that would be a different story.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Yeah, I just look at it as the people at
the restaurant knows of this dog. Yeah, they know that
he comes in there with with his dog. And don't
get me wrong, he knew that sound was there and everything,
and then yeah, bad right. He should have, you know,
applied to the rules. Yeah, you know what I mean,
bad right. He should have applied to the rules. But
(08:58):
apparently the people with the best want to let.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Him do it.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Maybe they like the dog. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
Yeah, maybe they know the dog is well trained.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
Yeah, exactly, it's better he's you know, but you never
know because he's a you.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
Know, probably the reason why they have that sign is
to keep out the badly behaved animals, because you know,
somebody's always gonna get fuck it up for everybody else.
You know, you know they're coming with their dog.
Speaker 3 (09:23):
Like, if you know your dog ain't got it, it's
not well, like, doesn't listen to you, not very well behaved,
why would you bring that dog in there?
Speaker 2 (09:30):
Now that's a whole different story.
Speaker 1 (09:32):
Well, they do, yeah, and he should have.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
He should have their right though far as he should
have applied to the rules. But there's a way of
saying things, you know, like it's just I didn't like
how he just was coming for for the juggler, you
know what I mean, just like, my gosh, okay, we
get it, you know, like you shouldn't have a pet
(09:55):
in the public pace. And I don't think edis an
asshole though I don't think he's in as.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
I could understand the guy being mad if the dog
wasn't being well behaved, but the dog was behaved and
everything there, and you know, it was being nice and
everything there. So yeah, I mean I can see it
being on both sides of this year, you know.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
But see, I see how I see when people use
those kind of things on someone and weaponize them with it,
and it's just like, that's the part that's not cool
to me because Okay, he did something like that, and like, okay,
you you let him know you shouldn't have a dog
in here or whatever.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
Okay, you should have left it doing that. But yeah,
another thing I did have to think about is he
said he petted his dog, and then.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
I figured, I don't think he should.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
Have petted the dog in the restaurant.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
I figured, you know, if the dog was an issue,
that would be an issue overall. But the dog wasn't
an issue, and the guy was just you know, just
being mad for the sake of being mad, you know. Yeah,
So let's just leave this as everybody sucks, you know, right, Well,
it's not like really any bake sucks. It's just kind
of like in a it's kind of like we really
(11:04):
don't know the answer to it, or.
Speaker 3 (11:06):
Are we my God, the guy came from the juggler,
it was I think he was having a bad day
for one.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
I think, you know, it really should not have been
in that big redeal. But anyways, let's go on. Let's
move on to the second story. And by the asshole
for helping my daughter in law clean her studio space.
I'm in a situation where I'm not certain if I'm right,
but I do know my heart was in the right place.
I'm living with my son and his wife temporarily to
(11:32):
help them around the house. They have young kids and
work long hours, so they left things fall by the wayside.
You may see a sinkful dishes or laundry powered up.
It's number too bad. One room in our home always
has been exceptionally messy. My daughter in law's art studio
slash office space. It's a tiny room in the back
of our house. I wish I could post a picture
of it. Paint everywhere flow the ceiling. She used to
(11:55):
have these beautiful colored walls, but now there's just paint everywhere.
She has brushes and paint everywhere. She has paintings in
various stages hanging all over the place, so her art
supplies are just in different pals all over the room.
She has giant piles of books that are often strewn about.
The floor is dusted with pencil shavings, crayon wrappers. It
is nerve wracking. She allows the kids that draw on
(12:17):
the walls in the room to do big chemist projects
on the floor. She allows them to paint with dangerous
oil paints. I've always won to tackle that room and
organize it so it's a pleasant place for she and
the kids to be in. So I did. I organized
all the arts supplies, swept the floors, got some of
the kids that scribbles off the walls, organized the books
and the categories and neat pals. It took me nearly
(12:39):
four hours, but I was happy with it. I even
ordered nontoxic paint and some regular crayons for the children.
Evening comes around, I'm excited to show her the room.
She'll be off work for a couple of days something,
and she'll really have a great time enjoying it. She
got home and when she saw her office, she was
actually angry. She started yelling what did you do and
complaining about me cleaning the place. I told her she
(13:02):
needed to calm down. The room was stealthy. She proceeded
to scream up sending these at me and walk away
from me. Tell me not to touch her shit. I'm
watching your children and picking up after them for your charge.
I do not deserve to be talked to that way.
I posted the Facebook with a before and after the
room one post here for privacy. I just wanted to
(13:23):
let my feelings out about the situation. It gets some
consolation from my friends. She ended up going on a
rent in the comments and started up in argument and
a lot of drama. I was surprised to see that
some of my friends were actually on her side, even
when I mentioned that the children were playing around in
the field. I would like more perspective on the situation,
so I'm asking here if I'm an asshole for cleaning
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up the room.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
Mmm.
Speaker 3 (13:48):
I see both sides, but she should have asked first.
She really should have asked first. I do look at
it that way, like she should have asked first, But.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
I agree that I representableately, Yes.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
Yeah, she should have asked first. But there's a way
of talking there was. You didn't have to scream at
her and holler and collar all kind of names, and
you know, this is the this is you know, the
mother of your husband, your husband, you know, just come on.
Speaker 2 (14:18):
It's just that's a little too forward to me.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
But I would say here because the fact that it
was her creative space, you know, it was a space
where she did her art and everything there. Yeah, I
think maybe she was happy with it being messy, and
the fact that her mother in law tried to help
and go in and clean it up made up words
for her because basically that was a place where she
(14:44):
escaped to.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
Yeah, I mean in a way I was doing.
Speaker 3 (14:48):
I understand her frustration because for what she should ass first,
that's that's her past space, you know, that's her personal space.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
But I don't know.
Speaker 3 (14:58):
I mean, I think when she got there, she solid
she should I mean let her know, like gently, like hey.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
I really didn't need you to do that, really didn't
need you to do that. But yeah, you know, I
don't know.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
I don't know. I completely understand. I think you you
hit it right on the dot there. Yeah, you should
have asked first before you decided to clean something up
that maybe didn't need cleaned.
Speaker 3 (15:20):
Up, right, And maybe there was a reason for her
really be like it was her room, it doesn't matter,
it's her personal space.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
Yeah, and that was the entire thing there where. It's
kind of like, you know, what if somebody came in
to organize my office thinking that they were cleaning it up,
I would probably be bad too, you know, because things
are in a place because I put them in that
place specifically.
Speaker 3 (15:41):
Right, you know, I don't know about the even the
putting it on Facebook and showing it before and after
all that stuff. To me, there was no reason for
her to really even do that, you know, because at
this point it's on social media, you know, like you
got that you know, or people she might know that
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really didn't want this situation to get out through it
like that.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
You know.
Speaker 3 (16:06):
Yeah, Like I think maybe she is. She must, she
could be probably a little problematic.
Speaker 1 (16:13):
It sounds like she's trying to be helpful and trying
to justify what she did, you know again in sympathy,
and it backfired on her. Yeah, the commenters I think
agreed with us there. Yeah, you're the asshole. I know
we're only supposed to go on what we were being
presented with, but I can read right through your innocent
I was only trying to help it. You didn't like
the room. It bothered you, so you took it upon
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yourself to clean it up. Paint isn't filth. Maybe she
likes it messing and crazy. It doesn't matter because it's
her creative space. Like what I said, Yeah, to then
go on Facebook where she could see it was so
extremely passive aggressive. You knew what you were doing. The
second comment said, my mother fed my cats once while
my husband and I were on holiday, and we came
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back to him to a completely reorganized house. She says
she was only trying to help. She wasn't trying to help.
She thought she knew better than us and how we
wanted our home and wanted to control our home. Some
others can't deal with not being his mother or the
woman in charge. Sounds like this is what is happening here.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
The third one, Yeah, I kind of really hit home
in a sense. My mother in law rearranged my linen
closet when visiting once before because she can't think straight
when things are a mess. She also rearranged my launcher room,
which I probably changed back because why the fuck would
you think it's logical to put tide over the dryer?
Speaker 3 (17:29):
Peggy, Do you know just because of work for you
doesn't mean it works for everybody else. You know, you
got to learn and not touch other people's things. Yeah,
you know, I mean, she she knew. I think I'm
starting to ReadWrite through. I think she knew better. She
knew what she was doing.
Speaker 1 (17:50):
Well, all sit there too. It's kind of like some
people just like to recognize things, and sometimes the organization
just doesn't make sense to you, you know. You know,
I mean, I love my mom. Like I said before,
I said, I love my mom, but I swear the
glasses had been in three four different locations over the
past few years. I never know where the glasses are
(18:12):
at in her house because they keep.
Speaker 2 (18:14):
Moving, right, so keep moving stuff around.
Speaker 1 (18:19):
Yeah, I mean, but you know what, it's her organization,
you know. And for the most part, I like how
she had things organized, but the glasses I can never
find the damn glasses, right, I mean, it's really not
a big deal. You know, it's not nothing I'm gonna,
you know, go home and cry about. Yeah, but it's
just kind of like right but anyways, Yeah, so yeah,
(18:43):
because the glasses were in one cabinet now and the
other cabinet, it's kind of actually where they're at now
makes sense. So where they're at it before it didn't
make sense. But in this case then, you know, I'm
not complain because you know, they know best, you know,
and I put my glasses where I want them because
I know best, I know where I want them at,
you know, So.
Speaker 2 (19:03):
I think I had my glasses in the things but for.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
Years because because they're in the best spot that you know,
where they put them at. Right, are are they buy
your sink?
Speaker 3 (19:15):
Yeah, they're they're a little they're a little more close
to this think. Okay, so it's just easier to grab them,
it's right, you.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
Know, right, so exactly because yeah, because mine are by
my sink and now my parents are by their sinkers too.
Speaker 2 (19:31):
Hey mom, touch and stuff.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
Well it's hers, she can do whatever she wants.
Speaker 3 (19:37):
With the third No, I'm not talking about that, mom,
not not your mother. I'm talking about somebody who's house
and stuff. You know, at the end of the day,
she gets it, you know, when they're not touch other
people's things, you know, ask or you should ask.
Speaker 2 (19:53):
He that's we didn't like that one, Peggy.
Speaker 1 (20:00):
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reading that. But more than Joe Vlassi Show. Welcome back
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to the Joe Velossi Show. Here once in the end
with Taba, good about how you doing it.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
Good?
Speaker 1 (21:10):
We'll pluging along in this episode here We're gonna go
ahead and continue on with the third story, and by
the asshole for making my son quit his part time
job to go in our family vacation. My husband and
I have three children and a sixteen year old son
and two daughters thirteen and ten. Our son got a
part time job as lifeguard at the poll back in March.
(21:31):
We live in South Florida, so the polls are open
pretty much always. It was a good job for him.
He liked it and was happy to have the money.
The issue was his boss wasn't asked about giving him
time off. Our family takes a yearly vacation to this
little beach house we rent for a year. We've done
this since the year I was pregnant with only son.
Of course, the kids all love it and look forward
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to it. While my son told his boss about the
week when he signed up, but because it was only
six weeks after he started there, he denied it. We
made it that he was still going. It's just a
part time job and there are a million of those.
He protested, but we made him go and his boss
fired him. He's furious the entire time, refused to doing
family stuff or listen to us. And so he was
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grounded when we got back. It's not that we don't
trust him to stay home alone or anything like that.
We just don't want him to prioritize work over family,
especially some weekend job. He found a job and any're
polled two weeks later, so it's not like this impacted
him in any way. But he still holds a grudge
about it. He claims we didn't respect his choices, and
he's right, we don't respect him trying to choose his
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job of our family time. That we don't hold it
against him since he's just a team. Yeah, I'm kind
of like, oh is this boy? Oh is he Let
me go back and take a look here, six year
old son. Yeah, it sounds like in a titled family.
To me, sounds like a rich family. It's kind of like,
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fuck your job. We're going on vacation and you're gonna
go whether you like it or not.
Speaker 2 (22:59):
You know, yeah, really, I mean I can't. I don't know.
I'm kind of looking at.
Speaker 3 (23:06):
It as Yeah, he's, well, he's old enough to be
a home on his like by himself, he is old enough.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
Yeah, so I mean he could have just stayed at home.
They could have won a vacation there. Finily really wanted
him there. You know.
Speaker 2 (23:21):
Yeah, come on now, y'all could have let that boy
go and enjoyed that job. He enjoyed it.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
Yeah, get fired money, Yeah, he won't get fired.
Speaker 2 (23:31):
Come on, now, you took away something that he really enjoyed.
Speaker 1 (23:35):
You know, And it's not Unfortunately, it's not how it
works in the real world. Whenever you're an adult and
on your own. It's not like it's like, you know,
I can't just take a vacation whenever I want. I
have the vacation time number one, number two has to
get it approved otherwise I'm not taking that vacation. You know.
Speaker 3 (23:51):
I wish the boss would have understand I mean, his
boss kind of would have understood that his family.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
Yeah, I think the boss and his control.
Speaker 1 (23:59):
I think the boss was a bit of an asshole
here because the boss was just kind of like, you
know what, because you know, me on a pay vacation.
Speaker 2 (24:09):
He's a sixteen year old kid. Yeah, his parents is
still making his choices for him.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
You know.
Speaker 3 (24:19):
I just didn't like that how she, you know, took
him away from something he really liked. And of course
he's gonna hold a grudge on that because, like you said,
you interfere in his life too much. He wants to
you want sometimes you're gonna let him do something he
really he wants to do.
Speaker 1 (24:37):
I think the worst part about all this here is
is that the fact that got grind him whenever he
came back.
Speaker 2 (24:42):
It's kind of.
Speaker 3 (24:45):
You know, you're gonna ground him because he liked a
job and yap had it taken away from him.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
Come on, now, this family just screams entitled to me there,
and it's just kind of like, you know what, It's
kind of like, Yeah, your obligations to the family come
before your job. You know, screw you know, screw them,
we come first. But like I said before, this doesn't
work like that in the real world. You know, no,
and the commenters I think agree with us there that yeah,
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you're the asshole. Look, he forced them to go on vacation,
causing his job and his income to be lost. Then
you grounded him for being upset. Unless you offer to
make up his income, then I don't see how you
were being fair. Do the kids love it or do you?
I think this is a situation that if the parents
aren't careful, the kids are gonna be like, we're going
to know contact once they're growing.
Speaker 3 (25:36):
Up, and he will he will be grounding, like well,
I'm pretty sure he is now, but you know, because.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
They won't want to put up with this bullshit.
Speaker 2 (25:43):
Basically, no, he's gonna want to do his own thing.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
So yeah, the second commenter said, I'm confused to him
why people think it's okay that the kid got fired
because it will impact this future job prospects after high school.
He still got fired. He still experienced something that was
out of his control. And now he has that memory
that he got fired from a job. It's still a
negative experience. He's still gonna be affected by it, even
it's not in a huge way. And moreover, it's less
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about the job and more about his parents disrespecting him.
Others may not care if he got fired, but clearly
he does.
Speaker 3 (26:15):
Yeah. Yeah, and shouting his like shouting something like that
be something she should care about, like, you know, like
hurting him like that.
Speaker 1 (26:26):
I don't think the parents were being very good stewards
of him in this case here, because yeah, they were
basically saying, Okay, your family comes before your job. And
number two, if you don't agree with us, you're gonna
get you know.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
Grounded exactly.
Speaker 3 (26:41):
It's just like they're just going too much is their
way or the highway all the time.
Speaker 1 (26:47):
Yeah, And I think that's gonna leave a really bad
taste in his mouth. And I think whenever he gets older,
he's gonna be like, you know what, I'm not gonna
put up with this anymore.
Speaker 2 (26:54):
So yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
Yeah, And finally, his parents are trying to impress upon
him that a vacation comes before a crappy job. But
in the real world, your job has to come first.
Lots of people don't even get to take a vacation
because they may not have the PTO and the bills
have to be paid. I think it's much more important
to teach a teenager that you work. I think it
is the most important thing. That it's actually a good
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lesson for him to have the MISTI vacation because he
has the work, just my opinion.
Speaker 3 (27:22):
And you know what, I'm glad he already had that
in him, you know what I mean, that the work
to sit up there going to vacation that you know,
that can cost him his dad on job, which it did.
I'm glad he have that kind of mindset. Yeah, you know,
just come on, now, you took away something he really
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loved doing, and he loved doing a job. That's the
crazy part. There's a lot of people out here in
this world that hate their jobs, but they go to
work because they have to pay the bill.
Speaker 1 (27:53):
Right, Yeah, I think really the parents were definitely the
ousehole on that.
Speaker 3 (27:58):
So all of it is going to do make him
chase after something he really wants and he's going to
find a way to make himself happy and that at.
Speaker 2 (28:06):
That point when he's grown, that's all that matters really.
Speaker 1 (28:09):
At that and I doubt it's gonna be his parents
are gonna be the one that's gonna make him happy.
So anyways, yeah, I believe it or not. Guess what
time is this? No conclusion? Our last story of the show?
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Am I the asshole for being a drug dealer to
my son's cats? I love the title of this. I
agree to be responsible for my son's cat during the
day while he's at work as he's living with us
right now. Was he give me the director not to
let the cat have any cat nip? I've been giving
it to him every day since he was a kitten.
He loves that stuff. Only give it to him once
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a day, where it would be hard on the nip.
Even though I have a slight allergy, I become very
fond of my grand cat. He is fine, healthy and spoiled.
But I hide the bag of catnip like I'm hiding
coke from Poplo. My husband thinks this is hysterical and
joggingly returns to rat. No penitentent me out. I could
find nothing on the Google that says this caten it
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will hurt him. I'm probably not stopping every boy, the asshole.
Speaker 2 (29:20):
I don't know. I don't know about this one.
Speaker 3 (29:23):
I mean, he did say he does not want him
to have catnip because he doesn't want to be.
Speaker 2 (29:28):
Addicted to it.
Speaker 1 (29:29):
Anyway. Here, here's what I have to say to it.
Speaker 3 (29:33):
No no, no, no, no, no no no.
Speaker 1 (29:38):
This is so funny, you know, it's kind of funny though.
I actually had two cats and I never fed them catnap, right, Yeah,
but apparently, I guess most cats a love this stuff.
My my cat's literally looked at it and just batted
it around and was like, Okay, we've never done anything different,
you know with the theres kind of like, I guess
you guys will live without it.
Speaker 3 (29:59):
So my cat loves cantonap all right, Oh, he loves knton,
but I.
Speaker 2 (30:06):
Don't give it to him often at all.
Speaker 3 (30:08):
Yeah, you know it's something where I know he did
a good job or something, or you know, it's nothing
on something doing it every.
Speaker 1 (30:17):
Day he pooped in the litter box, ya right, does.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
That's a big yay.
Speaker 1 (30:26):
But anyways, the comments were kind of funny, very slightly.
You're the ausholdier son's cat. You're not feeling the splisit wishes.
I'm sure he would be very unhappy if he finds out,
which you know, because you're hiding the cat that. On
the other hand, it's not super serious, so only slightly
asshole behavior. You should be very careful though, if your
son finds out he can't trust you with his cat.
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They have an impact on access to future grandchildren. Oh
my god, I mean these peep want Reddit sometimes.
Speaker 3 (30:54):
Let me tell you something about a grandparent. A grandparent
is gonna do what a grandparent do, and they gonna
do what over.
Speaker 2 (31:00):
The hell they want to with your grand with your kids.
Speaker 3 (31:03):
Okay, that's what the point of the kids loving to
go to the grandparents because they can get almost what
they want you know.
Speaker 1 (31:11):
Yeah, and another person brought up to have an important point.
Have you asked why he doesn't want the cat to
have catnip? There's some cats are allergic, so I expect
you would have noticed that by now. Are there cats
who can get very aggressive or rambunctious under the influence,
You probably have seen that as well, if that was
an issue. The redditor who said this is what Grandma's
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do is correct, no real harm done, but very very
softy or the asshold for crossing an established boundary edging
it's not the asshole because this little critit seems to
enjoy it so much.
Speaker 3 (31:41):
Right, it's hard to say, because it's just like he
enjoys it, you know, and then make some happy.
Speaker 2 (31:50):
She'd like to see him happy.
Speaker 1 (31:53):
But guess what update update.
Speaker 2 (31:59):
Loone.
Speaker 1 (32:00):
So I spoke to my son back to the onslought
of insane reactions like I was reacting there was like, okay,
calm down, people in a nutshell. He doesn't care. Is
initially worried that the cat that may make him wacky
and didn't want to deal with it, and then told
him about the am I the asshole post. I asked
her if he distrusted me and I was a bad
mom who would never see his grand kids one day,
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to which we both laughed hysterically. That was a legit
and my asshole question that ended up for me being
a great sociological lesson. I co stated I checked that
catnap online and that it didn't really affect the cat.
I have one spoiled grand cat and two spoiled grand
dogs from another son in the army. I raised my
kids four other kids, and I had been a therapeutic
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foster mom. I always put myself last and never have
even snooped in any of my kid's rooms because I
knew boundaries. My kids were all successful and happy. My
son was shocked at how people acted as a great
cat nip caper and suggested maybe these people were projecting
from issues they had with their parents. Hmm. May be
on a computer, not writing all the information, assuming without
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thinking about all options create some pretty nasty, immature vets
therapists and doctors. I respect all the responses. I'm always
curious about the issues be signed in nominty that plugued
those seemed to be so angry, nasty. So it turns
out I'm a slight asshole for telling them about the nip.
I accept my faith. The rest of the destructive and
nasty anger posted here is bingal deflection the pest. Stay
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safe and calm down, guys, soft a yeah, okay.
Speaker 3 (33:33):
Yeah, I mean it really wasn't that serious for people
to be going in on her, like, like, it really.
Speaker 2 (33:39):
Isn't you know it's it's it's cat nip.
Speaker 3 (33:42):
Come on, one man, you know it's catten if I
know the sun kind of.
Speaker 2 (33:52):
Didn't it. This was stupid. This was like, it's just
like y'all get mad about dumb stuff. And it's right.
Speaker 3 (33:58):
I get that, you know, yes, you know she might
have crossed the little boundary with or something about that,
but it makes the cat happy and and it doesn't
affect them for has helped her.
Speaker 1 (34:08):
Anything seriously on the helm down, you know. Yeah, so
that's his mother.
Speaker 2 (34:16):
She knows best, right, All her kids are successful. She's
a good mom. She always put her kids first.
Speaker 1 (34:25):
And she wasn't reorganizing the rooms. So keep that in mind.
Speaker 2 (34:28):
Yeah, we love her, We love her.
Speaker 3 (34:31):
Come on the feast like some Catenet, honey, I could useually,
I can use you, Catet.
Speaker 2 (34:36):
We need to send her this show I love her already.
Speaker 1 (34:42):
Anyways, guess what we're at the end of the show.
Speaker 2 (34:47):
We're at the end.
Speaker 1 (34:49):
So once again, thank you for checking out the Joe
Velocity Show. Make sure to subscribe, just showing your favorite
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Also for access to our websites, this leit us at
Joelosy dot com. Thanks for listening and have a good one.
Speaker 3 (35:13):
M
So talk to me very real quick.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Hello.
Speaker 1 (00:04):
Okay, I make sure. Yeah, it wasn't say hello. It wasn't.
It wasn't just a hello. It's the hello, yeah right.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Hello, Hey damn.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Oh man a man, Okay, you're ready, I think so. Okay,
let's do this so much your dive into the wild,
weird and wonderfully messy world of Reddit. This is the
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Joe Velocity Show. And welcome to the Joe Velossy Show.
I am Joe. I'm here once again with my best
friend in the world. Have a hey there, how are
you doing?
Speaker 2 (01:07):
What's going on.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
The same old, different day. You know, it's kind of
we were talking before the show, and it's like we
have nothing to talk about. Everything's been pretty much for
the same there, other than the fact that may it's
getting colder outside. You know, I wore shorts to the
store today, but you know, of course I.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Had to be that period.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Yeah, but also too, it's like, literally, get my car,
go in the store, the start, getting back my car,
come home. It's not a big deal, but I know
I'm not gonna be able to do that much longer.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
You know, I can't do it now. How did you
manage to do it that.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
I didn't freeze the death. I wore like a hoodie,
you know, so it was basically me like looking like
John Fetterman, you know, in the hoodie in the shorts.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
Oh my goodness. That seeing somebody else said, like in
their gordon and sandals and shorts and the white beater
I said.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Today, yeah, oh my god, it was only like fifty
five degrees of that today.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Man, And at the time it had to be around
forty five.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Oh god. Okay, yeah, that's a bit much. I wouldn't
go that far. I mean, at least had socks on,
you know.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
Yeah. Right. He was messing with his go and I'm.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
Like cold, Oh my goodness. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, if
I'm gonna be outside for any length at time, yeah,
I'll put pants on. But I was just running into
the grocery store real quick to get some stuff, you know.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
At least pants and a hoodie and some shoes.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Yeah, I definitely putting the pants on. I was like,
you know, let me get one more wear out of
these shorts, you know, because I know I'm not gonna
be able to wear shorts much longer.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
Right.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
So anyways, here, so you wanted to ask about my mom.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
Yeah, I wanted to know how it went after the
last show with you know, talking with your mother.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
I actually played it for her yesterday whenever I was up,
you know, visiting her her house, and she she's like,
you didn't have to apologize. I was like, I felt
like I did. But yeah, it was one of those
cases there were you know, I love her the death and.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
Yeah, I'm glad she got a good laugh out of it.
You know, what does she think of this show?
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Well, she likes it. I mean she was on it
four times in a row, so yeah, right right. But
was what was interesting is that every response I get
from everybody whoever has done the show is that they
were nervous to do it. They do it and they
were like, oh, this was fun, let's do this again.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
So right.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
So you, on the other hand, you you have delusions
of grander. You want to you want to have your
own podcast and everything there, I mean what she did
in the past actually yeah. So but the key is
that trying to figure what to talk about on the podcast.
It's one of the hardest things to figure out what
to do there because.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
It's a lot trying to figure out what you want
to you know, talk about you know, because there's some
days I just don't want to talk, right, So it's just,
you know, it's a little different when you're doing when
you're dealing with a park podcast, you know. And yeah,
I like the fact that I could come on here
and actually talk about things and actually listen to great
(04:19):
stories and have my comments and reactions to listen to
other people's comments on it too, you know.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
So there's no pressure on your end, right.
Speaker 3 (04:28):
Right, But you know, but you know, this is what
you enjoy doing, you know, and it makes me happy
that I get to do it with you, you know what
I mean, and really cool.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
It's really cool and I'm enjoying and I'm enjoying it.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
I appreciate you being on here too, So.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
It is something different.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Well, anyways, are you ready to get into the show. Yes,
let's go ahead. It just started. So story and by
the asshole that my dog came with me to pick
up takeouts, I thirty three mail ordered lunch from a
spot around the corner about five minutes away. I brought
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my dog, an Australian shepherd named Chief, with me. We're
just picking it up and going in and out. Five
minutes tops. I walk in and there's one other person waiting,
I guess the hostess standing and checking, and the host
says that should be back with the food. The other
guy sitting says to me, why do you have your
dog here? I said, I'm just picking up some food.
I'm going to be in and out. It's not busy.
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I didn't think it would bother anybody. He's angry. I
can tell he's going on me a bit and saying
it's a restaurant.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
I know.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
Pet sign on the door says I'm an asshole for
thinking the rolls don't matter to me. I said, I
got it thanks to his rants. He says, I doubt
you do. I pet my dog in. Another guy, food
comes and we leave. It was just a few minutes.
Thought it would bother no one, and my dog is
trained and well behaved. The restaurant has never said anything
to me before. I DOESNET a few times. Am I
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the asshole?
Speaker 2 (06:03):
No?
Speaker 1 (06:04):
He is? Who the guy who brought the dog in
or the guy who yelled?
Speaker 3 (06:09):
The guy who yelled he was he was an ass
you know, he was the asshole here. I mean he's
an innocent dog, you know, and he's well he's well trained.
I'm pretty sure the people at the restaurant knows this dog.
They just said it like they never had a problem
with it. So mind your business. That's his problem. He
don't know how to mind his business. That's all you
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got to do. You had to come with somebody else's
business to get I he wanted was attention.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Or just to be an ass you know. But here's
something interesting, and that's the comments. Don't agree with you,
that's okay, okay, but also too, I'd add something into
their work. I'm gonna agree with you, but also bring
up something that we never thought of. The first come
out said, you're the asshole. If there's a no pet
sign and you ignore it and take your pet, how
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can you possibly not be the asshole? It's a rule,
The rules apply to you. Another person said, you're the asshole.
I love dogs, I love my dog. I hate dogs
in public places, specifically saying no pets. The world doesn't
revolve around you and your pet.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
Ooh uh.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
The third one actually was kind of inresting you're the asshole.
Your dog has fur, your dog sheds dog fur is
a health violation in a restaurant. Also, it's posted who
are you to say fucking and just do what you
want something it's just a few minutes or was just
one or whatever. Bs you're creating your head. It convinces
you don't need to follow rules like everyone else. You're
entitled conceded in. So this person thinking that, oh my god.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Ay bro, I okay, okay.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Go fuck yourself and the horse you rode in on
basically is what they're saying. Here's something the employees think.
It's the customers the health department think got caught out
and came in here and showed your two colors. They
don't like the guy who had the dog, the guy
who yet was in the right. But what about people
who have service dogs? Yeah, it's that health violation. No, no,
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So in that sense there, then I would say, if
they're well behaved, if they're actual certified the emissional support
animal or service dog, then yes, I can maybe understand
that person there came in real quick with their dog,
got their food and then then left. I can understand
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that there. But if they come in actually sit down
the restaurant with the dog there, and the dog's not
a service dog or anything, that would be a different story.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Yeah, I just look at it as the people at
the restaurant knows of this dog. Yeah, they know that
he comes in there with with his dog. And don't
get me wrong, he knew that sound was there and everything,
and then yeah, bad right. He should have, you know,
applied to the rules. Yeah, you know what I mean,
bad right. He should have applied to the rules. But
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apparently the people with the best want to let.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Him do it.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Maybe they like the dog. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
Yeah, maybe they know the dog is well trained.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
Yeah, exactly, it's better he's you know, but you never
know because he's a you.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
Know, probably the reason why they have that sign is
to keep out the badly behaved animals, because you know,
somebody's always gonna get fuck it up for everybody else.
You know, you know they're coming with their dog.
Speaker 3 (09:23):
Like, if you know your dog ain't got it, it's
not well, like, doesn't listen to you, not very well behaved,
why would you bring that dog in there?
Speaker 2 (09:30):
Now that's a whole different story.
Speaker 1 (09:32):
Well, they do, yeah, and he should have.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
He should have their right though far as he should
have applied to the rules. But there's a way of
saying things, you know, like it's just I didn't like
how he just was coming for for the juggler, you
know what I mean, just like, my gosh, okay, we
get it, you know, like you shouldn't have a pet
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in the public pace. And I don't think edis an
asshole though I don't think he's in as.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
I could understand the guy being mad if the dog
wasn't being well behaved, but the dog was behaved and
everything there, and you know, it was being nice and
everything there. So yeah, I mean I can see it
being on both sides of this year, you know.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
But see, I see how I see when people use
those kind of things on someone and weaponize them with it,
and it's just like, that's the part that's not cool
to me because Okay, he did something like that, and like, okay,
you you let him know you shouldn't have a dog
in here or whatever.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
Okay, you should have left it doing that. But yeah,
another thing I did have to think about is he
said he petted his dog, and then.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
I figured, I don't think he should.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
Have petted the dog in the restaurant.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
I figured, you know, if the dog was an issue,
that would be an issue overall. But the dog wasn't
an issue, and the guy was just you know, just
being mad for the sake of being mad, you know. Yeah,
So let's just leave this as everybody sucks, you know, right, Well,
it's not like really any bake sucks. It's just kind
of like in a it's kind of like we really
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don't know the answer to it, or.
Speaker 3 (11:06):
Are we my God, the guy came from the juggler,
it was I think he was having a bad day
for one.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
I think, you know, it really should not have been
in that big redeal. But anyways, let's go on. Let's
move on to the second story. And by the asshole
for helping my daughter in law clean her studio space.
I'm in a situation where I'm not certain if I'm right,
but I do know my heart was in the right place.
I'm living with my son and his wife temporarily to
(11:32):
help them around the house. They have young kids and
work long hours, so they left things fall by the wayside.
You may see a sinkful dishes or laundry powered up.
It's number too bad. One room in our home always
has been exceptionally messy. My daughter in law's art studio
slash office space. It's a tiny room in the back
of our house. I wish I could post a picture
of it. Paint everywhere flow the ceiling. She used to
(11:55):
have these beautiful colored walls, but now there's just paint everywhere.
She has brushes and paint everywhere. She has paintings in
various stages hanging all over the place, so her art
supplies are just in different pals all over the room.
She has giant piles of books that are often strewn about.
The floor is dusted with pencil shavings, crayon wrappers. It
is nerve wracking. She allows the kids that draw on
(12:17):
the walls in the room to do big chemist projects
on the floor. She allows them to paint with dangerous
oil paints. I've always won to tackle that room and
organize it so it's a pleasant place for she and
the kids to be in. So I did. I organized
all the arts supplies, swept the floors, got some of
the kids that scribbles off the walls, organized the books
and the categories and neat pals. It took me nearly
(12:39):
four hours, but I was happy with it. I even
ordered nontoxic paint and some regular crayons for the children.
Evening comes around, I'm excited to show her the room.
She'll be off work for a couple of days something,
and she'll really have a great time enjoying it. She
got home and when she saw her office, she was
actually angry. She started yelling what did you do and
complaining about me cleaning the place. I told her she
(13:02):
needed to calm down. The room was stealthy. She proceeded
to scream up sending these at me and walk away
from me. Tell me not to touch her shit. I'm
watching your children and picking up after them for your charge.
I do not deserve to be talked to that way.
I posted the Facebook with a before and after the
room one post here for privacy. I just wanted to
(13:23):
let my feelings out about the situation. It gets some
consolation from my friends. She ended up going on a
rent in the comments and started up in argument and
a lot of drama. I was surprised to see that
some of my friends were actually on her side, even
when I mentioned that the children were playing around in
the field. I would like more perspective on the situation,
so I'm asking here if I'm an asshole for cleaning
(13:45):
up the room.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
Mmm.
Speaker 3 (13:48):
I see both sides, but she should have asked first.
She really should have asked first. I do look at
it that way, like she should have asked first, But.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
I agree that I representableately, Yes.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
Yeah, she should have asked first. But there's a way
of talking there was. You didn't have to scream at
her and holler and collar all kind of names, and
you know, this is the this is you know, the
mother of your husband, your husband, you know, just come on.
Speaker 2 (14:18):
It's just that's a little too forward to me.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
But I would say here because the fact that it
was her creative space, you know, it was a space
where she did her art and everything there. Yeah, I
think maybe she was happy with it being messy, and
the fact that her mother in law tried to help
and go in and clean it up made up words
for her because basically that was a place where she
(14:44):
escaped to.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
Yeah, I mean in a way I was doing.
Speaker 3 (14:48):
I understand her frustration because for what she should ass first,
that's that's her past space, you know, that's her personal space.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
But I don't know.
Speaker 3 (14:58):
I mean, I think when she got there, she solid
she should I mean let her know, like gently, like hey.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
I really didn't need you to do that, really didn't
need you to do that. But yeah, you know, I
don't know.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
I don't know. I completely understand. I think you you
hit it right on the dot there. Yeah, you should
have asked first before you decided to clean something up
that maybe didn't need cleaned.
Speaker 3 (15:20):
Up, right, And maybe there was a reason for her
really be like it was her room, it doesn't matter,
it's her personal space.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
Yeah, and that was the entire thing there where. It's
kind of like, you know, what if somebody came in
to organize my office thinking that they were cleaning it up,
I would probably be bad too, you know, because things
are in a place because I put them in that
place specifically.
Speaker 3 (15:41):
Right, you know, I don't know about the even the
putting it on Facebook and showing it before and after
all that stuff. To me, there was no reason for
her to really even do that, you know, because at
this point it's on social media, you know, like you
got that you know, or people she might know that
(16:02):
really didn't want this situation to get out through it
like that.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
You know.
Speaker 3 (16:06):
Yeah, Like I think maybe she is. She must, she
could be probably a little problematic.
Speaker 1 (16:13):
It sounds like she's trying to be helpful and trying
to justify what she did, you know again in sympathy,
and it backfired on her. Yeah, the commenters I think
agreed with us there. Yeah, you're the asshole. I know
we're only supposed to go on what we were being
presented with, but I can read right through your innocent
I was only trying to help it. You didn't like
the room. It bothered you, so you took it upon
(16:34):
yourself to clean it up. Paint isn't filth. Maybe she
likes it messing and crazy. It doesn't matter because it's
her creative space. Like what I said, Yeah, to then
go on Facebook where she could see it was so
extremely passive aggressive. You knew what you were doing. The
second comment said, my mother fed my cats once while
my husband and I were on holiday, and we came
(16:56):
back to him to a completely reorganized house. She says
she was only trying to help. She wasn't trying to help.
She thought she knew better than us and how we
wanted our home and wanted to control our home. Some
others can't deal with not being his mother or the
woman in charge. Sounds like this is what is happening here.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
The third one, Yeah, I kind of really hit home
in a sense. My mother in law rearranged my linen
closet when visiting once before because she can't think straight
when things are a mess. She also rearranged my launcher room,
which I probably changed back because why the fuck would
you think it's logical to put tide over the dryer?
Speaker 3 (17:29):
Peggy, Do you know just because of work for you
doesn't mean it works for everybody else. You know, you
got to learn and not touch other people's things. Yeah,
you know, I mean, she she knew. I think I'm
starting to ReadWrite through. I think she knew better. She
knew what she was doing.
Speaker 1 (17:50):
Well, all sit there too. It's kind of like some
people just like to recognize things, and sometimes the organization
just doesn't make sense to you, you know. You know,
I mean, I love my mom. Like I said before,
I said, I love my mom, but I swear the
glasses had been in three four different locations over the
past few years. I never know where the glasses are
(18:12):
at in her house because they keep.
Speaker 2 (18:14):
Moving, right, so keep moving stuff around.
Speaker 1 (18:19):
Yeah, I mean, but you know what, it's her organization,
you know. And for the most part, I like how
she had things organized, but the glasses I can never
find the damn glasses, right, I mean, it's really not
a big deal. You know, it's not nothing I'm gonna,
you know, go home and cry about. Yeah, but it's
just kind of like right but anyways, Yeah, so yeah,
(18:43):
because the glasses were in one cabinet now and the
other cabinet, it's kind of actually where they're at now
makes sense. So where they're at it before it didn't
make sense. But in this case then, you know, I'm
not complain because you know, they know best, you know,
and I put my glasses where I want them because
I know best, I know where I want them at,
you know, So.
Speaker 2 (19:03):
I think I had my glasses in the things but for.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
Years because because they're in the best spot that you know,
where they put them at. Right, are are they buy
your sink?
Speaker 3 (19:15):
Yeah, they're they're a little they're a little more close
to this think. Okay, so it's just easier to grab them,
it's right, you.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
Know, right, so exactly because yeah, because mine are by
my sink and now my parents are by their sinkers too.
Speaker 2 (19:31):
Hey mom, touch and stuff.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
Well it's hers, she can do whatever she wants.
Speaker 3 (19:37):
With the third No, I'm not talking about that, mom,
not not your mother. I'm talking about somebody who's house
and stuff. You know, at the end of the day,
she gets it, you know, when they're not touch other
people's things, you know, ask or you should ask.
Speaker 2 (19:53):
He that's we didn't like that one, Peggy.
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to the Joe Velossi Show. Here once in the end
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Speaker 2 (21:10):
Good?
Speaker 1 (21:10):
We'll pluging along in this episode here We're gonna go
ahead and continue on with the third story, and by
the asshole for making my son quit his part time
job to go in our family vacation. My husband and
I have three children and a sixteen year old son
and two daughters thirteen and ten. Our son got a
part time job as lifeguard at the poll back in March.
(21:31):
We live in South Florida, so the polls are open
pretty much always. It was a good job for him.
He liked it and was happy to have the money.
The issue was his boss wasn't asked about giving him
time off. Our family takes a yearly vacation to this
little beach house we rent for a year. We've done
this since the year I was pregnant with only son.
Of course, the kids all love it and look forward
(21:52):
to it. While my son told his boss about the
week when he signed up, but because it was only
six weeks after he started there, he denied it. We
made it that he was still going. It's just a
part time job and there are a million of those.
He protested, but we made him go and his boss
fired him. He's furious the entire time, refused to doing
family stuff or listen to us. And so he was
(22:12):
grounded when we got back. It's not that we don't
trust him to stay home alone or anything like that.
We just don't want him to prioritize work over family,
especially some weekend job. He found a job and any're
polled two weeks later, so it's not like this impacted
him in any way. But he still holds a grudge
about it. He claims we didn't respect his choices, and
he's right, we don't respect him trying to choose his
(22:33):
job of our family time. That we don't hold it
against him since he's just a team. Yeah, I'm kind
of like, oh is this boy? Oh is he Let
me go back and take a look here, six year
old son. Yeah, it sounds like in a titled family.
To me, sounds like a rich family. It's kind of like,
(22:54):
fuck your job. We're going on vacation and you're gonna
go whether you like it or not.
Speaker 2 (22:59):
You know, yeah, really, I mean I can't. I don't know.
I'm kind of looking at.
Speaker 3 (23:06):
It as Yeah, he's, well, he's old enough to be
a home on his like by himself, he is old enough.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
Yeah, so I mean he could have just stayed at home.
They could have won a vacation there. Finily really wanted
him there. You know.
Speaker 2 (23:21):
Yeah, come on now, y'all could have let that boy
go and enjoyed that job. He enjoyed it.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
Yeah, get fired money, Yeah, he won't get fired.
Speaker 2 (23:31):
Come on, now, you took away something that he really enjoyed.
Speaker 1 (23:35):
You know, And it's not Unfortunately, it's not how it
works in the real world. Whenever you're an adult and
on your own. It's not like it's like, you know,
I can't just take a vacation whenever I want. I
have the vacation time number one, number two has to
get it approved otherwise I'm not taking that vacation. You know.
Speaker 3 (23:51):
I wish the boss would have understand I mean, his
boss kind of would have understood that his family.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
Yeah, I think the boss and his control.
Speaker 1 (23:59):
I think the boss was a bit of an asshole
here because the boss was just kind of like, you
know what, because you know, me on a pay vacation.
Speaker 2 (24:09):
He's a sixteen year old kid. Yeah, his parents is
still making his choices for him.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
You know.
Speaker 3 (24:19):
I just didn't like that how she, you know, took
him away from something he really liked. And of course
he's gonna hold a grudge on that because, like you said,
you interfere in his life too much. He wants to
you want sometimes you're gonna let him do something he
really he wants to do.
Speaker 1 (24:37):
I think the worst part about all this here is
is that the fact that got grind him whenever he
came back.
Speaker 2 (24:42):
It's kind of.
Speaker 3 (24:45):
You know, you're gonna ground him because he liked a
job and yap had it taken away from him.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
Come on, now, this family just screams entitled to me there,
and it's just kind of like, you know what, It's
kind of like, Yeah, your obligations to the family come
before your job. You know, screw you know, screw them,
we come first. But like I said before, this doesn't
work like that in the real world. You know, no,
and the commenters I think agree with us there that yeah,
(25:14):
you're the asshole. Look, he forced them to go on vacation,
causing his job and his income to be lost. Then
you grounded him for being upset. Unless you offer to
make up his income, then I don't see how you
were being fair. Do the kids love it or do you?
I think this is a situation that if the parents
aren't careful, the kids are gonna be like, we're going
to know contact once they're growing.
Speaker 3 (25:36):
Up, and he will he will be grounding, like well,
I'm pretty sure he is now, but you know, because.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
They won't want to put up with this bullshit.
Speaker 2 (25:43):
Basically, no, he's gonna want to do his own thing.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
So yeah, the second commenter said, I'm confused to him
why people think it's okay that the kid got fired
because it will impact this future job prospects after high school.
He still got fired. He still experienced something that was
out of his control. And now he has that memory
that he got fired from a job. It's still a
negative experience. He's still gonna be affected by it, even
it's not in a huge way. And moreover, it's less
(26:08):
about the job and more about his parents disrespecting him.
Others may not care if he got fired, but clearly
he does.
Speaker 3 (26:15):
Yeah. Yeah, and shouting his like shouting something like that
be something she should care about, like, you know, like
hurting him like that.
Speaker 1 (26:26):
I don't think the parents were being very good stewards
of him in this case here, because yeah, they were
basically saying, Okay, your family comes before your job. And
number two, if you don't agree with us, you're gonna
get you know.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
Grounded exactly.
Speaker 3 (26:41):
It's just like they're just going too much is their
way or the highway all the time.
Speaker 1 (26:47):
Yeah, And I think that's gonna leave a really bad
taste in his mouth. And I think whenever he gets older,
he's gonna be like, you know what, I'm not gonna
put up with this anymore.
Speaker 2 (26:54):
So yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
Yeah, And finally, his parents are trying to impress upon
him that a vacation comes before a crappy job. But
in the real world, your job has to come first.
Lots of people don't even get to take a vacation
because they may not have the PTO and the bills
have to be paid. I think it's much more important
to teach a teenager that you work. I think it
is the most important thing. That it's actually a good
(27:16):
lesson for him to have the MISTI vacation because he
has the work, just my opinion.
Speaker 3 (27:22):
And you know what, I'm glad he already had that
in him, you know what I mean, that the work
to sit up there going to vacation that you know,
that can cost him his dad on job, which it did.
I'm glad he have that kind of mindset. Yeah, you know,
just come on, now, you took away something he really
(27:42):
loved doing, and he loved doing a job. That's the
crazy part. There's a lot of people out here in
this world that hate their jobs, but they go to
work because they have to pay the bill.
Speaker 1 (27:53):
Right, Yeah, I think really the parents were definitely the
ousehole on that.
Speaker 3 (27:58):
So all of it is going to do make him
chase after something he really wants and he's going to
find a way to make himself happy and that at.
Speaker 2 (28:06):
That point when he's grown, that's all that matters really.
Speaker 1 (28:09):
At that and I doubt it's gonna be his parents
are gonna be the one that's gonna make him happy.
So anyways, yeah, I believe it or not. Guess what
time is this? No conclusion? Our last story of the show?
(28:31):
Am I the asshole for being a drug dealer to
my son's cats? I love the title of this. I
agree to be responsible for my son's cat during the
day while he's at work as he's living with us
right now. Was he give me the director not to
let the cat have any cat nip? I've been giving
it to him every day since he was a kitten.
He loves that stuff. Only give it to him once
(28:52):
a day, where it would be hard on the nip.
Even though I have a slight allergy, I become very
fond of my grand cat. He is fine, healthy and spoiled.
But I hide the bag of catnip like I'm hiding
coke from Poplo. My husband thinks this is hysterical and
joggingly returns to rat. No penitentent me out. I could
find nothing on the Google that says this caten it
(29:14):
will hurt him. I'm probably not stopping every boy, the asshole.
Speaker 2 (29:20):
I don't know. I don't know about this one.
Speaker 3 (29:23):
I mean, he did say he does not want him
to have catnip because he doesn't want to be.
Speaker 2 (29:28):
Addicted to it.
Speaker 1 (29:29):
Anyway. Here, here's what I have to say to it.
Speaker 3 (29:33):
No no, no, no, no, no no no.
Speaker 1 (29:38):
This is so funny, you know, it's kind of funny though.
I actually had two cats and I never fed them catnap, right, Yeah,
but apparently, I guess most cats a love this stuff.
My my cat's literally looked at it and just batted
it around and was like, Okay, we've never done anything different,
you know with the theres kind of like, I guess
you guys will live without it.
Speaker 3 (29:59):
So my cat loves cantonap all right, Oh, he loves knton,
but I.
Speaker 2 (30:06):
Don't give it to him often at all.
Speaker 3 (30:08):
Yeah, you know it's something where I know he did
a good job or something, or you know, it's nothing
on something doing it every.
Speaker 1 (30:17):
Day he pooped in the litter box, ya right, does.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
That's a big yay.
Speaker 1 (30:26):
But anyways, the comments were kind of funny, very slightly.
You're the ausholdier son's cat. You're not feeling the splisit wishes.
I'm sure he would be very unhappy if he finds out,
which you know, because you're hiding the cat that. On
the other hand, it's not super serious, so only slightly
asshole behavior. You should be very careful though, if your
son finds out he can't trust you with his cat.
(30:46):
They have an impact on access to future grandchildren. Oh
my god, I mean these peep want Reddit sometimes.
Speaker 3 (30:54):
Let me tell you something about a grandparent. A grandparent
is gonna do what a grandparent do, and they gonna
do what over.
Speaker 2 (31:00):
The hell they want to with your grand with your kids.
Speaker 3 (31:03):
Okay, that's what the point of the kids loving to
go to the grandparents because they can get almost what
they want you know.
Speaker 1 (31:11):
Yeah, and another person brought up to have an important point.
Have you asked why he doesn't want the cat to
have catnip? There's some cats are allergic, so I expect
you would have noticed that by now. Are there cats
who can get very aggressive or rambunctious under the influence,
You probably have seen that as well, if that was
an issue. The redditor who said this is what Grandma's
(31:32):
do is correct, no real harm done, but very very
softy or the asshold for crossing an established boundary edging
it's not the asshole because this little critit seems to
enjoy it so much.
Speaker 3 (31:41):
Right, it's hard to say, because it's just like he
enjoys it, you know, and then make some happy.
Speaker 2 (31:50):
She'd like to see him happy.
Speaker 1 (31:53):
But guess what update update.
Speaker 2 (31:59):
Loone.
Speaker 1 (32:00):
So I spoke to my son back to the onslought
of insane reactions like I was reacting there was like, okay,
calm down, people in a nutshell. He doesn't care. Is
initially worried that the cat that may make him wacky
and didn't want to deal with it, and then told
him about the am I the asshole post. I asked
her if he distrusted me and I was a bad
mom who would never see his grand kids one day,
(32:20):
to which we both laughed hysterically. That was a legit
and my asshole question that ended up for me being
a great sociological lesson. I co stated I checked that
catnap online and that it didn't really affect the cat.
I have one spoiled grand cat and two spoiled grand
dogs from another son in the army. I raised my
kids four other kids, and I had been a therapeutic
(32:41):
foster mom. I always put myself last and never have
even snooped in any of my kid's rooms because I
knew boundaries. My kids were all successful and happy. My
son was shocked at how people acted as a great
cat nip caper and suggested maybe these people were projecting
from issues they had with their parents. Hmm. May be
on a computer, not writing all the information, assuming without
(33:02):
thinking about all options create some pretty nasty, immature vets
therapists and doctors. I respect all the responses. I'm always
curious about the issues be signed in nominty that plugued
those seemed to be so angry, nasty. So it turns
out I'm a slight asshole for telling them about the nip.
I accept my faith. The rest of the destructive and
nasty anger posted here is bingal deflection the pest. Stay
(33:25):
safe and calm down, guys, soft a yeah, okay.
Speaker 3 (33:33):
Yeah, I mean it really wasn't that serious for people
to be going in on her, like, like, it really.
Speaker 2 (33:39):
Isn't you know it's it's it's cat nip.
Speaker 3 (33:42):
Come on, one man, you know it's catten if I
know the sun kind of.
Speaker 2 (33:52):
Didn't it. This was stupid. This was like, it's just
like y'all get mad about dumb stuff. And it's right.
Speaker 3 (33:58):
I get that, you know, yes, you know she might
have crossed the little boundary with or something about that,
but it makes the cat happy and and it doesn't
affect them for has helped her.
Speaker 1 (34:08):
Anything seriously on the helm down, you know. Yeah, so
that's his mother.
Speaker 2 (34:16):
She knows best, right, All her kids are successful. She's
a good mom. She always put her kids first.
Speaker 1 (34:25):
And she wasn't reorganizing the rooms. So keep that in mind.
Speaker 2 (34:28):
Yeah, we love her, We love her.
Speaker 3 (34:31):
Come on the feast like some Catenet, honey, I could useually,
I can use you, Catet.
Speaker 2 (34:36):
We need to send her this show I love her already.
Speaker 1 (34:42):
Anyways, guess what we're at the end of the show.
Speaker 2 (34:47):
We're at the end.
Speaker 1 (34:49):
So once again, thank you for checking out the Joe
Velocity Show. Make sure to subscribe, just showing your favorite
podcast up to listen under man on this an episode.
Also for access to our websites, this leit us at
Joelosy dot com. Thanks for listening and have a good one.
Speaker 3 (35:13):
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