#49 Perception & Belief

In this video, Rosemary DeTrolio, RMT discusses perception and belief and how it drives your experiences. Learn about Law of Attraction, and the secret to shifting your experience. The Light Walkers Path is a place to nurture your inner light. Learn mindfulnesss, awareness, self-growth, and spiritual leaps included.

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Today's show is going to be on perception and beliefs.

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And the reason why I chose this today is because there's so much
out there that is very confusingto people.
And there's a lot of judgment and opinions and a lot of stuff
flying around on TV, on the radio, on the Internet.
And it's kind of hard to discernwhere you sit in the middle of

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all this and not let it affect you.
So I want you to think about if you've ever seen a magic show.
And as you're watching a magic show, perhaps it's Criss Angel
who's fantastic, or another great illusionist.
You're watching the show and youknow that what you're seeing
isn't real, but while you're watching, you believe that it

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is. You know you'll see something
disappear in front of your eyes,a car or an airplane.
You know something happens that can't logically happen, yet you
believe it while you're watching.
The other example I have is years ago, I was on stage with
Harry Blackstone, and he picked me out of the audience.
I was probably, I don't know, 18or 19.

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And he did this crazy magic trick where this, this bulb flew
across the stage. And I'm right there in front of
him and I'm watching and I'm watching trying to catch the
truth. And I couldn't see it.
And then the light bulb lit up and I'm watching and I still
couldn't figure out the trick. And I was right in front of the
man. So what I want to tell you is we

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believe what we perceive, even if it's false.
And unless you challenge that belief, you would continue to
have this perception that what you just saw is the truth.
How this affects us now, especially with AI and, and you
know, the chat and all the stuffthat they can do to fool you,

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it's really easy to believe eventhings that you're seeing that
are AI created because it looks so darn real.
And I think of the kids today looking at this fakely created
images and shows and magic and all the stuff that they're
seeing and it looks so real. So it's really hard to discern

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if something is authentic or nottoday in today's time.
There's also skewed reporting. And if you are getting your news
from, let's say Facebook or another one of those Internet
places, you have to realize thateveryone has opinions and what
is opinion is not necessarily fact.
So even though someone has a strong opinion and 100 people

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agree, it doesn't necessarily match factual information.
There's also brushed up photos on the Internet, in magazines,
you know, in movies. So women are getting the idea
that other people are perfect and they're not.
So you might have, you know, let's say these teens feeling

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like their bodies are not the right shape and they need to
make their lips really fat or their skin porcelain or they
have to do something with their hair.
And it creates a very unreal perception of what it is to be
female or what it is even to age.
I know people in my age group, you know, we get very concerned
because we're looking in the mirror and we don't have that

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youthful look anymore. But it's part of the aging
process. And I think the more fake
information and the more brushing up and the more, you
know, screens on your computer that make you look better, it
really hides the truth of what we really are, who we really are
as a person. I wanted to also tell you that a

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perception is often based on an experience you've had.
It could be your childhood, it could be your parenting, it
could be an experience you had when you were young that it
colors everything that you see or experience.
After that. I want to tell you about a
situation that my husband and I had.
We went out for Valentine's Day.So we went to this really nice

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restaurant for a nice quiet, romantic dinner for Valentine's
Day. And when we are in the line, you
know, to get into the restaurant, there's this man.
And he was so darn loud. And he was, his voice was
booming over everyone in the room.
And, you know, he was kind of like taking over the the the

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people that were in line. He kind of cut into the line.
Well, my first perception of himwas an assumption of his
character. And I have to admit I'm ashamed
of myself. But I did assume.
And the first thing I said was to myself was, oh, this guy is
so obnoxious. You know, he's must not be
smart. He's annoying.

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You know, I wish he'd quiet down.
He's ruining my peace, OK? And I'll tell you what happened
after that in a in a few moments.
So when this loud guy entered the room, I'm sure that other
people had perceptions too, maybe the same as mine, maybe
different. So there was one person, let's
say a person that lives in fear.They might have shirked back

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feeling very uncomfortable with this loud character, believing
that he might have been a dangerous person.
OK, my assumption was an assumption of character where I
was judging someone before I really knew him and it wasn't
really fair, but that's what I did.
Another person, it incited angerand under their breath I heard

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Oh my gosh, well this guy just shut up he's so annoying.
And I heard this kind of stream of of how this person was
annoyed and hoped this other person would get the the hint if
he just spoke loudly enough and put the man in his place.
There was another person that looked kind of Snooty and kind
of looked down at this man. Then there's the neutral

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observer. Now I want to tell you that we
all hold these perception based upon who we are and our own
thought processes. If you are a neutral observer,
that's probably a really good way to be.
So after I was the person that assumed I stepped back and I
said, you know, it's not fair ofme.
I don't know this man. I shouldn't be judging him.

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So I just kind of became like the country of Sweden, where I
was very neutral and not, you know, stepping into my own
perception or opinion. And I was watching him.
One of the things he did was he went across the room and he saw
this old woman who happened to be ahead of us in line.
And she had, like, a crutch in her hand.
He went over, He grabbed a chairfrom across the room.

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He carried this big chair over. He told he to hold, you know,
touch the woman on the shoulder.And he said, why don't you sit
down until it's your turn. And I was really surprised how I
viewed the man as selfish. Before I knew him.
Here he was putting himself out to help a woman that couldn't
stand. Once we entered the the

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restaurant, as law of attractiongoes, what you focus on
increases. He sat right next to us with
this. I guess this girlfriend, you
know, his girlfriend or his wife.
And one of the things that I noticed was she was extremely
shy. She actually, you know, didn't
talk much at their interaction. And he must have been a little
bit bored. He got up and got food.

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He sat down. Then he got back up and he went
to the table next to us and started telling them that he was
an author. He writes books.
And he started this big spiel about, you know, his books and
what he does. And again, I'm listening to the
whole conversation, and I'm trying not to judge.
Finally, he goes back to the food table and I had to get my

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dish filled because it was like a, you know, a serve yourself.
So I go up and he was ahead of me and he hands me a plate and
he says, why don't you cut in line?
Why don't you go ahead of me andI'll wait.
And again, I was surprised because here I was trying not to
judge him, right? And he's letting me move ahead
of him in line. And I thought that was really a

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kind gesture. So what I perceived was being
changed. So then he goes back to his
table and the woman that was with him said, you know, looks
over at me and she goes, I really, I'm so sorry.
Did did my boyfriend bother you?And I just said, no, it's fine,
have a wonderful dinner. And we left it at that.

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But what this shows you is that there was many options for how a
person could react to someone else.
A person that shrinks back in fear would have been very
nervous. Maybe taking that energy of
being nervous into the rest of their day.
It could have ruined their day. Maybe they'll say, oh, I'll
never go back to that restaurantbecause there was very annoying

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a loud person and I, I, I, it ruined my dinner.
OK, me, that assumed I challenged it, which shifted me
into being able to enjoy the rest of the dinner, no matter
who was there and what was goingon around me.
A person who would be incited byanger to tell this man off would
have been telling off a very nice person who had no social

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crisis. So I think the truth of the
matter, as I looked as as an observer, was that this man
didn't really know how to behavehimself properly or kindly or
quietly in a restaurant setting.But he probably was a very
exuberant, happy person that liked to help people because
based on his actions, that's what I saw.

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A person that was superior may have said, oh, I can't go back
to that restaurant. Those people are below me.
They're very gauche, you know? And that would have also been
incorrect. If you're a neutral observer,
you will step back and notice the factual information in front
of you rather than judging with a belief that you may have.

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A person that is easily incited to anger either grew up in a
household where they were dominated by an angry parent,
possibly OK, or they felt they weren't heard, so the only way
that they could be heard is to yell and shout to get their way.
A person that shrinks back in fear may have had a disturbing

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childhood or a trauma that affected the way that they felt.
They might have felt powerless. And I want to give you an
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to use the names at all, of course, but this person has a
neighbor that has been really pretty awful in her mind.
You know, she's been doing things that seemed very

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Welcome back. I'm Rosemary de Trolio and this
is the light walkers path. Grow your spirit with Rosemary
streaming on Bold Brave TV on this lovely Tuesday, 10 AM
morning. And today's show is perception
and beliefs. And before the break, I was

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speaking about situations where our beliefs can drive our
perceptions. Our perceptions can be positive
or negative, and they could impact the way that we
experience the situations that we're in.
So one of the things that that Isaid is that there's many
choices of how you perceive a situation.
You could either shrink back in fear, assume someone's character

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when you don't know them, inciteanger so it's always them and
not you. Oh my goodness, look at them.
You know it's always them, not you.
You can have a superior attitudeand feel that you're better than
that other person. Or you could be like Sweden, a
neutral country that doesn't involve themselves and they just
step back and watch, watch everything fly.

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So your perception does alter your, your, the experience that
you have. For instance, years ago, I had
one of my friends, we used to goout, I was probably, you know,
my 30s. We'd go to a club or something
we'd had, we'd be in the same environment, we would see the
same people. Her perception was always that

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someone bumped into her, she wasn't happy.
Someone scowled at her. You know, it was, she would
always have an awful time and itwas always what those other
people were doing to her. So she was very aware and angry
when anything happened. I'd be in the same place,
experiencing the same people andthe same everything.

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And my perception, because it was different, was always
positive. Oh, look at that.
I'm having a great time. I'm hearing music, so based on
who you are as a person and whatyour belief system is, it could
really drive how you see your experience and how you interact
with other people. If you're the kind of person
that is in a lot of fear or has had some early traumas, you will

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always go to fight or flight instead of I'm having a good
time here. So I want to tell you about
another person. One of my clients that came to
me and she said my neighbor is so mean and so vile.
She's a black hearted person andI think she's really evil.
Now I don't know this person. I know the actions were hurtful

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that this person was doing. I know that this person was not
acting in highest good to anyone.
So what I said to her is is challenge your how you are
framing or seeing this person. Because what you're telling me
from the facts is I'm seeing this person as someone with
possible mental illness. A self-centered character who

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wants so much to get attention and connection with other people
that she does these vile and mean things so that you notice
her. And at that moment, something
shifted in, in, in this in my client.
And she said, you know what, That's true.
And I said, well, if that is true that you are seeing a
person with problems, then do not let it affect how you

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experience your life because shedoesn't know any better.
And that's all she knows right now.
So what I want you to do is really be the neutral observer
the best you can and notice whatyou notice without going into
fight or flight. Fear, assumption or superiority.

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It's not an easy thing to do because a lot of it is
retraining the way that you perceive.
So what I would tell you to do is to challenge your belief.
What I'd like you to do now is Iwant you to imagine a person
that you're really having trouble with.
OK, Whatever this person is, I want you to put them in a white

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bubble about 25 feet away from you.
And I want you to be in your protected bubble.
And what I'd like you to do is Iwant you to just take a few deep
breaths in and from your heart center, I want you to send a
color to the person in the bubble across from you.

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Remember that color, OK? And if you are listening live or
you would like to ask me what the color means, that would be
awesome. Now I want you, that person to
send a color to you, alright, and remember that color.
You could always text me at [e-mail].

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One of the things I will tell you is if you are a person and
you're sending red, that is a color of anger.
So that means that your perception is colored by anger
and that might be what you're sending them or maybe what
they're sending you. Other colors have other meanings
as well. So if you're listening and you

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tried this activity and you say grow, what does this color mean?
I can tell you the relationship between your energies just by
knowing that your experience of sending or receiving.
OK, the other thing is that if you are a person that is sending
anger or fear, you are not clearly seeing a situation as it

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is, but it's completely colored by your emotion and your
experiences. If you're an empathetic person
or an empath, which I am, I'm very sensitive.
I can go into a room and I can feel the energies of the people
in the room. What I have to learn and what I
have learned through my life is to create an energetic buffer,

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an energy buffer, so that I don't think that their feelings
are my feelings. If they are angry, the first
thing without a buffer is, Oh mygosh, I'm feeling their anger in
my stomach. If you're an empath, it's really
common to develop anxiety if youdon't know how to create an
energetic buffer between you andthe other people in your life.

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And you'll do weird things like people pleasing, shielding your
feelings, not speaking your truth.
And there's all kinds of crazy things that happen when you
don't know how to shield your energy and you're allowing
everyone else's opinions to batter you.
So I want you to think about howyou experience energy.
Are you a fight or flight? Do you feel powerless when

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there's people around you with strong opinions or strong
feelings? Do you fight back?
Put them in their place. It's always them.
It's not me. I walked into the room and
someone was mean to me. Do you go into fight or flight?
Do you go into fighting? Do you judge?
Do you feel superior? Oh, they must be this or that.

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Do you make quick judgments on people?
It's very often, it's very common for us to, you know, have
a judgment. And it's usually the first thing
that comes in. Why?
Because we're experiencing an energetic world and our emotions
and energies and the other person's emotions and energies
can meet and they will either repel you or make you feel happy

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and good. A person with a really positive
energy field has the ability to upload, lift other people.
If the person is a judgmental person, they kind of have this
energy that pushes away all right.
A person in fight or flight, they shrink back and disappear.
Not not a good way to live your life either.

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So what you think of how you handle emotional situations in
your life? Are you able to express yourself
or shrink back? Or do you fight a person with?
Let's say you have an angry child or an angry person.
It's really common to get frustrated and yell back at that

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kid or that person. That is not a good way.
Why? Because anger and anger goes
boom. It makes it worse.
So if you have an angry person in your life, what I would tell
you to do is step back, be neutral, Observe what it is that
they're angry about, not the actual anger or yelling that

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you're hearing. So you might notice, Oh my
goodness, they are so frustratedand don't know how to express
themselves. So they are yelling doesn't mean
you're going to stand there and be yelled at or called names.
So one of the things that I would suggest that you can do is
you just say to the person, I'm going to come back and when

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you're calm, I would like you todiscuss or tell me what it is
that's bothering you so much. That's a really good way to
deflect anger and not make angerworse because anger incites
anger. So it's like one person throwing
fire and the other person joining in.
So that's not really an effective way to express
yourself or to calm down and quell a situation.

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It also will not bring you clarity or understanding of that
other person's emotions or feelings.
Now, I'm not a counselor. I'm not a psychologist.
But through life, you know, you learn certain lessons.
I am an empath. I'm very sensitive.
So in my life, I've worked for very domineering bosses.
I've had people in my life with very strong personalities and

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I've learned different ways to express myself but also cope
with people that are would over shadow me if I allowed them to.
OK before agreeing or disagreeing with anyone's
opinion. Instead, TuneIn and listen
without letting it hit your emotion.

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So there's a lot of people with strong opinions out there and
they're shouting or they're they're you know, they're
writing them on social media. And you should think this.
And I think that everyone has anopinion, but it doesn't
necessarily mean the opinion is a fact.
It's just an opinion. Everyone has an opinion.
An opinion is not a fact. So just because my opinion is

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this, this or that, it may not not match with what the truth is
or what your opinion is. And that's OK.
Instead of saying no, I don't want to think of what someone is
asking you to do, step back and view it from the eyes of being a
very neutral observer and then say to yourself, is this

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something that aligns with what I want to do or doesn't align
with what I want to do? One of my good friends had this
experience where she was out with a bunch of people and they
all wanted to do a certain activity and she didn't.
And because she is very strong in her personality and she knew
what she wanted, she was able tosay, you know, I really don't

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feel like doing that. I'm going to do this instead.
And she handled herself in a great way and it helped her to
enjoy her vacation more than feeling pulled along.
OK. Another thing is let's say
someone does a kind deed for you, instead of just saying that
was great, you know, you have toalso add what was so great.

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So it may be something of bringing gratitude.
I really appreciated when you bathed the dog yesterday.
Why? Because she was really smelly
and she needed a bath. And I really appreciated that
you did it instead of me becauseI would have a hard time at it.
That is showing gratitude and appreciation.

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It's better than great job, OK. The same goes for children.
If a child, a child needs consequences and a child also
needs gratitude for what they'redoing, that makes you happy.
So if a child has just put away his coat, you could say, I
appreciate that you hung your coat up today.
That's the right thing to do. If they threw it on the ground,

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instead of saying why did he throw it on the ground, you just
say pick up your coat. I will appreciate when you
follow through and hang your coat up.
I know it may take a few secondslonger than just screaming pick
up your coat, but it's really a better way to to teach your
child the right things to do. I taught kids for lots and lots

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of years for 32 years and I had taught kindergarten 1st and 3rd.
I had experience with middle grade kids and experience with
older adults and teens and adults through my business.
So I've guided a lot of people and I've noticed that the best
thing to do is just be the observer.
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Detrolio, your guide. So a couple things I wanted to
mention. One is that I have a business
called Hands of Light by Rosemary located in New Jersey.
I'm an Angel communicator and author, a Reiki master teacher,
and a former school teacher. So I have lots of different hats

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that I've worn in the past and that I can help my clients with
now. So I'm wanting to think about
the things that you do and the things you appreciate about
yourself, and I would like you to spend a few minutes in the
next couple days to quietly reflect on your experiences and
how they have colored your perceptions and how you walk

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through your life. If you find yourself in a
situation where you have been unhappy or do not feel heard, go
back and look at how you were parented and how your words were
received when you were younger. Oftentimes a person that was
told to be seen and not heard will shut down their
communication and not be able toexpress themselves as an adult

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in an adult or healthy way. And that's why the counselors
are so great. You know, people go to
counselors, psychologists, and you know, other people that can
help to guide them in in very different ways.
I have lots of people that come to me for guidance both through
angelic guidance and intuitive guidance.
Because of my very varied experiences of teaching adults

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and children, I really have a unique perspective on what makes
tick. And I can be like a neutral
observer and kind of guide someone along with ideas that
can shift their perception. OK, so spending time to quietly
reflect and see what you do and the things that also don't serve
you. So while you're reflecting, you

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might also say that, you know, every time I'm near a certain
kind of personality, it really ticks me off.
Now, my certain kind of personality that ticks me off
are people that ramble at you and are not listening
conversationally. They will talk about only them
and never ask how you're doing. If they're aggressive, loud,

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noisy, and in your face. That really affects me.
It bothers me again. I've learned how to be a neutral
observer and say they must want attention.
Maybe they don't know social matters, but I try not to let it
bother me in the way it used to when I was younger.
OK, if you're asking someone to do something and PSI have been

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guilty of this, when you ask someone to do something, make
sure that you are asking as if it is a request and not a
demand. You know, I've I've been caught
on this a few times, you know, with my husband because, you
know, sometimes the quickest thing to do is just do this, you
know, get it done. Because I'm the kind of person
that moves fast and I just I don't like grass grow under my

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feet. I get stuff done and I don't
like to wait. So my character flaw is that at
times I'm impatient with myself,not necessarily other people,
but sometimes a request instead will come out as a demand or a
do this all right. That is not really a good thing
to do. It's not respectful to the other
person. And yes, I have done it and I do

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try to catch myself because it'snot a healthy way to communicate
or to ask. OK.
The other thing is if you have an adult child, which is no
longer a child but an adult, youhave to be mindful that they are
on a path. They have their own life, they
have their own choices. If they are a parent, they have

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their own way to discipline and parent.
And it is not correct or responsible to push your views
on an adult person. All right, So that's another
situation where if you're in my age group, you may be
experiencing, if you have a person that's in college or
coming back from college and they've been away, chances are

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they're developing as independent humans away from
you. And when they come back to your
house to visit, it is challenging because they're
hitting with their childhood self and their adult self.
And you are also navigating as the adult parent of an adult.
So there's a big shift that happens in perception and
understanding when our children get older and they become adults

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and they're on their way in the world.
If you are upset by what something is said to you,
instead of reacting from the anger or the distress or
anything like that, be the observer and understand and
reflect. Like what it is exactly that is
bothering you. Is it that you don't feel loved?

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Is it that you feel pushed aside?
This is really common. I know sometimes you have a
person that feels pushed aside and instead of saying I really
want to spend time with you, instead they say why are you
with so and so so much I don't like blah blah blah blah blah.
And they try to argue their point rather than understand

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that the other person has something to do or they're
afraid to ask for what they needemotionally because they don't
want to appear weak. I know this often happens with
people that are adult parents and have, you know, adult
children. And let's say they have a family
now and they have kids. One of the things that's really

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helpful to do is say, you know, I know that you guys are so
busy, but I would love to spend a little bit of time with you
for the holidays. Holidays.
That's another hot button, right?
So if you're an adult and there's no different families
now involved with your adult married kids, it's very common
to feel jealous, like, Oh my goodness, you know, they're with
their family more than my family, and they have this more

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than that. But you have to step back and be
neutral and understand that whena person is married, their
spouse becomes their immediate family.
And as parents, we are the periphery of very important
people, but we're still not the core of what they need as an
adult. So that's something that you
have to be really mindful with when you have adult children,

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OK? Remember the illusionist, What
you see isn't always the truth, alright?
What you believe is colored by your perception.
So you have to be really carefulnot to judge what you see based
on your perception, but only thefacts, OK?
There's really good conversational techniques that

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I've used that I've learned through the years myself.
And one of the things is when someone says something really
nasty to you, you don't have to react to the nastiness.
So let's say someone has a really snarky, mean comment.
They just throw it at you because they're they're careless
with whatever they just said. So one of the things that I've

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done as a neutral observer is tosay, I don't understand what you
mean by that. Can you repeat that?
And usually the person will stepback and they'll either reframe
what they just said to make it sound nicer or they're going to
realize they just blurted something at you.
It works well for kids too. If you say I'm hearing that you

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are angry right now and you are telling me blah, blah and blah,
what are you angry about? Can we discuss this?
Can we talk about this? Can you calm down and tell me
what is upsetting you rather than reacting to don't yell,
that's not right, right? Because then you're inciting the
anger and you are making it worse because anger incites

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anger. It takes a lot of calm,
collected energy not to react when someone is angry.
It really does. And working with a lot of kids
in the past that had anger issues and energy issues,
etcetera. You have to learn to separate

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the person's anger and the way they act from what they're
feeling. And oftentimes an angry person
can't do that for themselves. They're in their anger.
They're not seeing what they're feeling, they're just reacting.
So, you know, just be careful and kind of step back.
The other thing is when someone's in anger, they're not

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really hearing you. You could, you could talk to
your blue in the face. If they're in that red anger,
whether it be a kid or an adult,they are in anger.
That's all they say. It's like looking through that
red screen. So if you remember the situation
where I, you know, we put that person in the bubble across from
you, I want you to try it this time, but I want to show you a

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technique that you can use. So what I'd like you to do is
imagine yourself in that bubble and the person that you're
having trouble with is in a bubble across from you 25 feet
away. So you're safe.
They're in this bubble and instead of sending a color, what
I want you to do is I want you to imagine from your heart
center that you are sending themwhite light and just imagine

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this beam of white light going from your heart to that other
person and just send with it. I want you to think of the
intention I send this light to you and you may use it to
balance and help you any way that you can.

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And then what you do is you wantto see this white light stream
from you to them, then stop after you're done.
And you're going to imagine either a guide or an Angel
between you separating the two beams of light.
And then for you, you're going to send yourself white light and
pink light into your heart so you can imagine a beam of pink

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light entering your heart centerI.
Didn't get that. My my watch is now talking to
me. You imagine the white light and
the pink light flowing into yourheart.
And your mantra for yourself is I am safe, I am loved, I am
whole. And this does a couple things.

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It separates you from that otherperson's energy.
Instead of sending anger, you have sent that person white
light to help them to balance and then they're on their own.
You are setting a boundary around yourself that you are
protected and safe from their energy or other people's
energies. Again, if you ever want to try

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this in a one to one session with me, I can help you discern
the relationship between the twoof you, the colors you send, the
colors they send you, what they mean, and how to further unlink
yourself. So the other thing I was going
to tell you is when you are in love with someone, if you've
ever had a physical connection with someone, if you are ever

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angry with someone, you have created a cord from your third
energy point, which is the solarplexus for confidence, your
heart center and that person. And these chords keep you kind
of connected to them even when you don't want to be connected
any longer. There are ways to release

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yourself from this connection and it takes a bit of intention
and a bit of know how to releaseyourself, but I can show you how
to do this. And I've done this in the past
with people I've been connected with just because I don't want a
chord that's a negative chord with someone.
We also have positive ones. So for instance, I have a loving

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positive chord with my son. I, you know, I have a loving
positive chord with my husband, with my grandkids, a loving
chord with my sister and my family, because these are people
that have a connection with me in a good way.
If you don't have that, and it'sreally common to have these kind
of twisted chords with people, you want to be able to discern

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what you want to keep and what you want to get rid of.
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Hi there. This is Rosemary.
This is the Light Walker's path and the show today is
perception, Beliefs, and Intent.So what I want to tell you is
there is a colon number 866-451-1451.
So you can call in the last couple minutes of the show and
ask a question if you're brave. Or you can text 1 into the show

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today either through Facebook orYouTube.
OK, so before the break, we weretalking about ways that we react
and our perceptions of intent. So oftentimes, like when we're
judging, like how someone's acting or feeling, that is our
perception of that other person's intent.
And oftentimes we get it wrong. We may perceive what they're

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thinking or feeling without really knowing or understanding
who they are or what they're actually are thinking or
feeling. And that's where you have to be
really careful to ask questions and understand.
One of the things that that we're doing or that I do is
called nonviolent communication,which is a way that you remain

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as neutral as you can. Your communication style is
open, it's approachable and compassionate and it allows that
other person to have the space to be who they are in a non
judgmental kind of way. It takes practice and you have
to catch yourself often as as I did, You know, you catch
yourself when you when you make one of those mistakes in

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judgment or when you are not perceiving what is there, but
you're going back to your own belief or perception.
When you change the belief, you'll change your perception.
So let's say my belief is that loud people are selfish.
That's a belief, but it's also my opinion and it's also not
true. Many times a loud person may

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just have a loud boisterous personality.
My own father was a loud boisterous person, but he was
very loving and he lit up a roomand he was funny.
Now, yes, when I was younger, I was a little bit embarrassed
when my father would boom into her room and start singing at
the top of his lungs. As an adult, I looked back, I'm
like, Oh my God, he was incredible.
Look at this. He lit up a room and how many

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people loved him and how happy he made people.
And you know, it's funny becausethese early experiences can
color how you view people in your life or situations that you
have. So what I would tell you is kind
of look at what kinds of people you align yourself with and what
kinds of personalities give you comfort.

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And one of the quick little things that you can try is
called a mind map. And what you do is you.
I'll just show. I don't know if you could see
it. You could draw a circle on paper
and you put a word in the 1st circle and the word might be
friendship. OK.
And around the word friendship, you make like a spider.
You know, you draw lines out andyou say, what kinds of friends

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do I align myself with? And then you write words.
So I do like outgoing, I like compassionate, I like friendly.
I enjoy people with varied interests and kind of quirky.
I I do like quirky people because they have interesting
lives and personalities. So you write down all of the
qualities that you have that arearound you and around your

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friends. Then you star the ones that also
match who you are. So at times, you know, I can,
I'm usually not a loud person, but I have a lot of varied
interests. So many people that I align with
also have beautiful and interesting things.
OK, so my friend says, how do you let go of a script that you

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were expecting the other person to act out?
I get it and I know exactly whatyou're thinking.
Yes, Gina, because I know you, Iwill tell you that one of the
things that you can do is don't like you're in the now, right?
So it's really hard to not go back and say 10 situations
before this, they did this. You have to look at right now.

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So like from today on, you want to say, OK, this is the person
and what I'm seeing today. So you want to be like Sweden.
You want to be the neutral observer of how someone is
reacting or acting. If they are in that old pattern,
it means that they are stuck in an old pattern that they don't
know how to break. So you have to break your
pattern. Your pattern might be, I want to

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tell this person what to do. So you want to break the pattern
that you find yourself in and instead be the neutral observer
and say, I trust you to think this through on your own.
I trust that you are old enough now to realize that your actions
have consequence and leave it atthat.
That puts the onus back on them and their reaction and it takes

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it off you as the parent. So I hope that helps.
All right, so usually we, we like to pick people in our lives
that are similar to us or have the similar beliefs.
And you'll notice like, you know, during election time,
people were jumping on differentbandwagons.
You know, you're, you're my people, you're not my people.
You're this, you're that. And a lot of name calling ensued

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and a lot of kind of weird behaviors happened and people
wouldn't talk to other people. Well, what I'm telling you is
it's fine, but be neutral. Be like Sweden.
You know, I I don't post my opinions on on social media for
reasons. I know what I think, but it's
also my opinion and my perception.
I could be wrong or I could be right, I don't know.

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Time will tell and and life bears out what it bears out.
So instead just be neutral and compassionate and understand
that things happen for reasons. Change happens for reason.
I'd also, I'm also going to tellyou that there's a lot of
changes that will be happening in the near future, both with
the government and spiritually, etcetera, etcetera.

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And this is a time of change anda time of new perception.
So as we go through this next part of the journey, the
planetary alignments, the changes, what I want you to do
is remain neutral. Observe and instead of going
into fight or flight or fear, step back and see how could I

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navigate this next issue carefully and calmly without
going in fight, flight, fear, oranger.
And it will be a challenge. And I will tell you that I'm
hearing this from a lot of people that are in the spiritual
realm, that they see this big wave coming, this big wave of
change. And that's where really us as
healers and helpers have to really step into our power, OK,

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step into our power and step into the light that we hold and
bring that out to other people. Instead of encouraging fight,
flight, fear or anger. Remember, the more that you are
in it, the more you entice this anger and it lights up a fire.
You don't want to create a bonfire.
You want to quell the fire. You want to be calm.

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All right, so someone put thank you.
I needed that neutral be thank you and breathe yes, breathing's
good. And you'll find that when we're
in anger or distress, we hold our breath in and our shoulders
go up here. So what you want to also do is
take some soft calm breaths intoyour heart center.

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Let it go. Remember that those soft, calm,
calming breaths calm your parasympathetic nervous system
down. It gets you out of fight and
flight and into the now. You want to react from what you
see now, not from what you saw three weeks ago, a year ago, or

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10 years ago. You have to remember that we
have now and now is the moment where we decide what to do.
Now is the moment where we discern.
Now is the moment where we make our choices.
So the more that you can set yourself into now and what I
need right now and be able to ask for it, the calmer and more

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productive your own life will become.
Check your own intention and seeif you are more interested in
someone's approval or how you'refeeling or how that other person
is feeling. There should be a give and take
between that. OK, let me see this OK, guess
chat. OK, cool.

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I saw that alright, so you want you want to really discern how
you're feeling and how you're doing.
OK instead of saying that you don't want to do something, say
what you do want and that's proactive.
So if someone is is saying something to you, instead of
saying I don't want to go to a movie, you might say I prefer to

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go to dinner and take a walk. I enjoy da da da da da.
I prefer, I enjoy. I would like to.
I am choosing to. Those are powerful words and
power creates belief. Your powerful words can create
your intention. OK, it's another comment coming

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in here. How how does Reiki help?
OK, cool. Yeah.
So as a Reiki master teacher, Reiki is really a calming
modality that I practice, I teach and I do sessions.
The one thing that I love about Reiki is it spiritually
enlightens and moves you forwardby raising your vibration of

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your soul level and also allows you to release a lot of these
old karmic things that we've collected through our own soul's
journey through these years. So those people that learn
Reiki, it's a beautiful modalitybecause you can self Reiki or
you can go for Reiki session. I'm a New Jersey Reiki master

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teacher and I also do sessions in person and I also do long
distance Reiki so you can also check my website for that.
Other ways that can change your perception is not listening to
negative things or dark energy things.
So I have written some enlightening books.
They are on the Internet and they are on my website so you

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may explore Divine Messengers. Wisdom Sages and Angels is
another one and Inspired by Angels, a book from the heart.
Two of them are workbooks that you can use and write in.
So one of the things I'm going to tell you is explore positive
things. All right, we have a couple of
seconds left of a show and I'm Rosemary, your host.

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This is the light Walker's path on Bold Brave TV.
Learn more about my workshops, sessions, self study books and
courses on rosemaryd.com. And please check back with me
next week. I have a great guest next week
at 10:00 and I'd love you to stop by and visit us and text
and call. Have a beautiful and blessed
day. Thank you.

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