August 7, 2025 • 21 mins
The Light Walkers Path: A nurturing space for your inner light. Join Rosemary DeTrolio—Reiki Master Teacher, angel channeler, workshop presenter, and author—as she shares enlightening discussions and spiritual wisdom with inspirational guests.
Today's guest, Julie Stavitz, reinvention strategist. Contact her on Linked in and listen to her podcast, It's Not Over.
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(00:02):
OK. So you were mentioning the rise
method. So one of the things I would
like to know is when a client comes to you for the very first
time, what's your process? Do they fill out a paper?
Do they just chat with you? How do you like nail down what
they need so that they can transform and move forward?
What's your process? That's a great question,
(00:23):
Rosemary. So I do my puppy's here.
I love it. Looks like mine.
You know, she's the best and kind of worst thing I ever did
and she's made sense to get a white puppy anyway, yes, that's
it. That's an excellent question.
So I very, I do have a questionnaire that I do have
that I do fill out with women, but I all of my meetings out
(00:44):
with. What were you think of thinking
about when we were going to meettoday?
Oh, that's good. That's good.
It's. Very powerful.
Yeah, I. Listen and I listen and a lot of
people just want to be listened to and or even sometimes,
Rosemary, I'm not solving someone's problem.
Sometimes I do say I'm so sorry you're feeling that way.
(01:04):
That must be all. You know, it's, it's
interesting. I had a client the other day who
came in crying and she left, sheleft me laughing.
And she said, for the first timein my life, I feel seen.
I feel like you get me, you see me.
And I'm like, Oh my God, you know, all this time she never
felt like anybody really saw her.
And I think you're right. It's like your clients just want
to know I'm here for you. I see you, you know, even if
(01:27):
you're just the sounding board for them for that time that
they're with you. So that's, that's really
awesome. So the vision for yourself and
your life started from your own situation.
And like you, I was also, I alsowent through a divorce when I
was pregnant for my son. Well, actually he was six months
old. So I know that feeling of just
being frozen and like, I remember looking out the window
(01:49):
and I'm like, what do I do now? I have this house.
I, I'm married six years, I got this, I'm pregnant, I just had a
baby. What do I do?
And I was terrified. And at that time, there was
really no one like that I knew of that could guide me through.
So I know you had gone through this at A at a time in your
life. What made you understand that
(02:09):
you needed a change? What was it for you that that
inspired you to move forward? Following up on what you said,
Rosemary was something I wish I had in my divorce.
It and where I live. It seemed to me, and it always
seems worse to the individual, that I was the first one getting
into the corpse and it was a little bit shameful.
(02:32):
Yeah, yeah, I get that. Something it's something I could
not fix and I'm a SO. I got it.
You get it, right. So it changed.
And even my, my, my daughters, Ihave two daughters.
Their school work were two different houses.
And the stress around divorce and moving a lot are the two
(02:53):
most stressful things. And it's something that a lot of
people have to do in the divorce.
And you have a parenting plan and there's a forensic
accountant and there is a family, and you're so angry.
Yeah, who gets the friends? That was another one.
Who gets the that? Is a good one.
That is a good. One I, I the crazy stuff I
remember like I was in a house at the time, so I had to move to
(03:15):
a one bedroom apartment with my son and I lived there for
probably three years before I bought my own place up here.
And then when all the water broke in my house, that's why I
met my husband that I have now. He was he was the guy that I
bought the stuff from. So you you never know in life,
but it's it's so crazy how all these changes happen when you
don't expect and I think that's the whole thing.
(03:37):
It's like you don't expect that rug to be pulled out from under
you. And then when it.
Is what do you? Do right?
What do you do? What do you do?
You keep going, you keep going. So you a lot of people lay down
and they have that pity party. And it is speaking from my own
experience, I had this huge house and live and help and I
(03:58):
was living at a place in Vail and had the the most beautiful
life to everyone on the outside.But yes.
Inside I was not happy and I wanted more.
And as scary as it was, I think staying for me was scarier.
And I was getting a little bit older and I had teenage mothers
(04:18):
and menopause was kind of looming.
Oh yeah, fun stuff, I know. I get it.
There were days really Rosemary,I, I could not don't get out of
bed. I have, I have my friends needed
to come in the morning to help me get my daughter out of bed
because we're supposed to act happy for our children and a
(04:39):
happy face. But it's, it's very.
Stressful. Very.
Stressful and a lot of teams Rosemary wear, whether it be pro
SE, whether it be collaborative teams, it does not have to be
awful. The truth is that sometimes
relationships just don't work right.
That's true amicable relationship with your ex or
(05:02):
your partner and and it it it's doable.
Yeah, I, I believe it is. And I think too, it's the higher
mind. Like I was never the kind of
person to throw shade. Like, you know, I wouldn't say
to my my son, my personal feelings about the situation
because for me, you want that your children to have a good
(05:22):
relationship, what that means tothem.
And you don't want to put your garbage on them.
And I think that's the mistake alot of people make when they go
through something is they throw their garbage on their kids and
then the kids are holding it. Like, what do I do with it?
I love this person. Now I'm not supposed to love
them because they're not gettingalong with mom or dad, you know?
And I think that's that's reallyhard.
And that's where your emotional maturity has to kick in and say,
(05:45):
OK, I get it. I might be angry, but you know,
you have to be truthful to your kids, but not tell them while
you're junk. Like that's what I would say,
you know? Correct and it is an untapped
thing as even part of the divorce process.
Rosemary, I'm trying to bring light to it.
Therapist to talk to the children.
Absolutely. And of course, yes.
(06:06):
My parents married 62 years. Amazing.
Yes, my parents as well. I get it.
Yeah. And there's like, Oh my gosh,
you know, I must have done something wrong because I went
through this divorce or, you know, what are they going to
think of me and my Italian family being the first one?
And apparently I wasn't the onlyone because a lot of my cousins
had gone through this as well. But after you know so.
(06:29):
You watch all of these Disney movies and it's a glass slipper
go up into the sunset forever. But they don't talk about all
these things that do come up in relationships.
And relationships are tough, right?
You know, I, yeah, you're 2 diverse people with completely
different viewpoints. And I think the trick is being
able to express yourself and notfeel shut down.
(06:51):
And I think when you're with it,like for, with me, my, my first
was overpowering personality wise.
And I never felt like I can express myself.
And I think that for me was, waskilling me because I, for me, I,
I need to express myself and I couldn't.
And I think that's the thing, communication is really vital in
order to keep something going and keep it happy or keep it,
(07:13):
you know, status stable. It's wonderful that you
recognize that and the relationship I'm in now.
Really great guy. We sit every week, Rosemary, and
we sit and we go out and we talkabout the week.
You know, this really upset me or this was something felt icky
about and this is something I think we could work on.
(07:35):
That's great. Setting up that time, even if it
hurts someone's feelings, it's communication is so and when
it's a lot of people get marriedwhen they're young, they don't
realize that they want to change.
Yes, that's absolutely true. OK, So your path was one where
you learn from your experience, which is really powerful.
(07:58):
So for those people that are going through life changes right
now, what would be your like nugget of advice that you would
say this has helped or keep thisin mind as you go forward?
What would your piece of advice be for them?
A. 100% it is falling in love with yourself, knowing who you
(08:19):
are, celebrating who you are. And if there's something about
you that you want to tweak, it'swork.
It, it's, it's, it's an ongoing thing.
I, I, I, I say like it's a kaleidoscope and in a
kaleidoscope. And you turn it this way and you
turn it that way, it's figuring out where you want to stop and,
and enjoy the scene. So it's really figuring out what
(08:43):
what we like and what we want and and I think the generation
before us. Yes, they're very different,
Yeah. Very different there.
You got married, you came home and you cooked.
It was usually one working person and her job.
And the man had his job. And I know, I know growing up
you're Italian. I'm.
I'm Jewish. Same thing.
(09:03):
Same thing. Difficult for me, it was I was
going to be a nurse or a teacher.
I was never even pushed by. And not their fault, but.
Culturally, yeah. Right.
You're going to be a lawyer and you're going to make money.
You're going to have some sort of supplemental income and
you're going to meet a guy and he's going to.
(09:24):
Take care of you. Yeah, exactly.
I was lucky in that my mom always pushed us to be very
educated. And she said to me, always be
always make sure that you can support yourself.
And she did, you know, really push education and and working
hard. And she had a lot of great
values. And for her, like, in her time,
(09:47):
it was different, you know, but a lot of my aunts and uncles,
like on my father's side, we're all executives.
Like in Bell Telephone when it was first coming around, they're
very intelligent women. So like, I had all these
wonderful women that were moversand shakers behind me.
But yeah, you know, I wanted thetraditional like, let's be
married forever kind of thing. And it didn't happen the first
time. So, you know, it's it kind of
(10:09):
threw threw me for a little bit of a loop at the time.
But surrounding yourself by by this kind of girl gang.
Oh, I love, I love my girls. And also, Rosemary, I, I do have
to say, sometimes as you get older, it's figuring out who's
not. Sometimes there's friends that
(10:29):
are. They just go, yeah.
And that's OK. It's it's, it's OK.
It's recognizing it and say yes all the time.
No, I'm busy. I don't wanna do that.
Yes. So why will just say yes to
every? I love that.
And I think at a certain time I'm also in the Goddess years.
And one of the things I've learned too is that no is a
(10:50):
complete sentence and you're allowed to say it and not feel
guilty. And when you're younger, you try
to do everything to make everyone else happy.
And then you realize, wait a minute, now I got lost in the
shuffle somewhere. And you begin saying, it's OK if
you don't like me. You know, it's OK if I don't
want to spend time doing this, this or that.
And you begin having more of a voice about who you are.
So I wish I had this when I was like 2526.
(11:12):
I wish this was in my brain backthen because I learned
everything through going throughlife the hard way.
You know, like we all do sometimes.
I love that you called it the Goddess years.
Oh yeah, definitely baby. I love it, I love it 'cause it
is the most amazing time, whether when women our age or
(11:33):
empty. Noses.
It's awesome, right My my college how amazing it's more
time for me and I have this amazing relationship having
great relationship and I know myself now and it's.
It's. Gift and I think from what
you're doing and for your listeners, this is a great
(11:55):
lesson for them as they get a little bit older to to
acknowledge that and see that and.
Yes, I agree. Much power there.
I think there's so much focus onthe young people because our
culture used to be in a certain age group.
Now there's a lot of us older ones and then the young ones are
the ones that are driving everything right now because
(12:17):
social media, but they're the ones that are the most insecure
generation that don't have the resilience.
And they're worrying about who likes them, you know, on media
and how my lips look and how my butt is big and the implants.
And I'm like, they're missing the whole point.
It's like what's inside has to develop so that you know who you
are. And that's the part that a lot
(12:38):
of these youngsters or young young folk are missing at this
point. But that's where the core of who
you are is, and that's the beauty of you.
And then the other stuff, sure, we're going to do do our best to
keep it together, but you can't focus just there because then
you're like a shell with nothingin the side, so.
Generation Rosemary. I see it because I deal with a
(12:59):
lot of adolescents and they're not getting married.
They're not they are not having children and they are not
getting married. It is it's clear to them which
it which I I don't agree with. I think my origin is a beautiful
thing when you find. And having children, yeah.
And having children in social media, it's filtered like you
(13:20):
said, my daughter post somethingmom, can you like it?
I'm like. Yeah, yeah.
But they do. They do care.
Yes, yes. Here.
A lot of insecurity though, and I know a lot of the clients that
are a little bit younger that come to me are very insecure and
they don't know who they are andthey don't know they have a
voice. And it's kind of like how how I
might have been in my 20s and I'm like, yeah, I got it, you
(13:44):
know? But you got to begin to develop
who you are and what your valuesare early.
And then you're like, all right,this like for me, integrity is
really important. Honesty is really important.
So you know what, look what yourvalues are.
And then if you live from those values, you begin developing
this beautiful inside of you that will travel you through
life. And it's it's powerful, but you
(14:05):
got to start doing it. You know, you just can't live
through like who likes you on the outside of the world that
you don't know. Right.
And we we've been wired that waywith pockets in our eyes.
Oh my, my goodness, it is how dopeople see me?
How do people want it? I see it a lot with with my
health clients, Rosemary. Amazing.
(14:26):
But there's something inside of them that is not see and not
healthy. So that's where Galaxy S come
in. That's right.
So tell me about the health. I know that you do health
coaching as well. So how does that look like when
someone comes to you? Do you go over like a food plan
with them? Is it just more about mindset
and what you do? Like what is your your vision or
(14:47):
your focus with health clients? It's yes, it's all of that
Rosemary. I work with women, I work a lot
with macros, with carbohydrates and protein where you should be
at 100 grams or 100 grams at this.
And I'm a very big believer of having smaller meals throughout
your day. Yeah, OK.
(15:08):
So when we were Cavemen and we were looking for food and if you
go long hours without eating, your body literally thinks you
are starving, that's so. It's on to the.
And water hydration is somethingreal amazing in stress and
sleep. Yeah.
So they get this whole picture. You could eat right, You could
do, you could be thin and reallyunhealthy.
(15:30):
I I've seen it a lot. You know what I what I found
too, is like, my body's completely different than when I
was young. So I never could gain weight
even if I tried. I was very, very fit until I was
55. And then menopause hits.
And then like, no matter what I do, it's packing on the
midsection and it's hormonal andlike the fasting doesn't work.
(15:50):
If I go without eating, I can gain 3 lbs.
Like, you know, it's like weird stuff that happens when you hit
a certain age. Your body is showing you
different ways and it's like it gets frustrating.
So you don't know what to do to kind of shift it away, shift it
into fat burning, or you know what it used to do when it's not
doing it anymore. Protein is king.
(16:13):
Rosemary's a little older because we start to lose muscle.
A. Little bit older and working out
in bands and sit ups. Again, you're endorphins.
It's not a one shot, but you're also doing something great for
your body. It's so interesting because I'm
53 and I've been doing this for some time.
When I was my early 40s I would listen to women talking about
(16:35):
menopause. I'm like.
Yeah. Right, not eating right or
whatever, but it is a real it isa real thing.
And whether you decide to replace your hormones or I, I
work with a functional medicine doctor.
Also, not a doctor myself, but hormone replacement is great for
some women. We're diagnosing what for women
(16:59):
and we're walking them through it and having a cheerleader and
accountability. I have people, Rosemary, It's
funny, I have them when they start my program, send me a
picture of their meals. Oh, I'm like, you know, hey, you
got to get protein and healthy carbohydrates and all of that
stuff on there. So and I'm like, I see you at
the Taco place. I said, going back to what you
(17:21):
said earlier, you need to do work.
So it's in your decisions that you make it.
That's the outcome. That's right.
It's so interesting, you know, like it's funny because I've,
I've tried different things and they're all like, you've got the
healthiest diet I've seen. You've got great blood pressure.
You walk every day like I'm doing everything right.
But I'm like, I'm still, you know, you got this little.
I said, I look in the mirror. I'm like, that's my
(17:42):
grandmother's little Italian belly.
I got that, you know? Yeah, I turned sideways.
That's Mom in the mirror. It creeps up.
It creeps. It's, it's weird how it happens,
but I, you know, I guess it's just about embracing who you are
too and just knowing you're doing your best.
And if I still got this little Billy, I gotta love it because
it's gonna stay here till I figure out how to, how to move
it out of the way. And thank God my husbands like,
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oh, you're beautiful just the way you are.
I'm like, that's, that was golden, you know, cuz here I am
judging myself. He's like, no, you're great.
Look at you, you know you're great.
And we're all human and we all that and we, I, my grandmother
used to have crooked toes like. Seriously.
Yeah. Yeah, and my toes are getting
crooked. Unless like you, I see my mother
sometimes I'm like, I'm never going to do that.
(18:26):
Yes. And I see myself doing something
like my mother so. Yes.
It's it's, it's in US. It happens.
It happens. I my sister and I have a joke
that like, at some age we sound more like our mother than our
mother. Did, you know, find yourself
like saying something, Mom said.I'm like, Oh my God, I said it.
I can't believe myself. Yes.
Oh my gosh. OK.
(18:47):
What? Where?
What is your business actually called and where are you
located? And do you work virtually?
I only work virtually. If it's it's deeper or whatnot,
that's fine. I I have a client that doesn't
know his computer. He's awesome.
So I, I meet him at a Dunkin' Donuts and but I prefer to work
(19:09):
remote and jump on from whereverI am, which is wonderful.
And I, I meet one once a week with my clients, one hour
sessions, which is amazing. And we I have a plan.
Like I said, I know we spoke about you and I speaking.
It doesn't. It's not in set in stone
(19:30):
depending on what people need, but we're diagnosing at the
beginning. We're just diagnosing what's
happening. So my I'm calling myself a
reinvention strategist. I just thought.
It's love that. Yeah, that's good.
The life coach and divorce coachand health coach.
So just showing women, even withmy podcast.
Yeah. It is.
(19:52):
You got to laugh at yourself. Yeah.
Dating talk about dating Rosemary at 50. 3 So one of my
friends is doing she's a she's alife coach, but she does she's
also comedian. So her newest, her newest.
Thing that she's doing is comedians with women that are
going through menopause like what's funny about menopause and
she's she's lovely she's unalienable but she her name's
(20:13):
Rita Denoirs Garcia awesome woman so she's really fun and
she's like again poking fun at herself and poking fun at our
age groups and what happens to us when your body changes so
you. Have to you have.
To too. So how do they how do they find
you, Julie? So they want to sign up with
you. Yes, would.
Would you be just on LinkedIn? Would they e-mail you?
(20:35):
How would they get in touch withyou?
Yes. So I am on LinkedIn, Julie
Savitz, MSI have my master's degree in guidance and
counseling. JUFIESAVITZ comma period, S
period. That's a great way to get in
touch with me. You can see what I do.
You could see a little bit more about my rise method.
You could see some testimony. Emails.
(20:57):
Good. That is really the best way to
get in touch with me. Miss Rose.
Beautiful, beautiful. OK, so I would also tell people
that if they need, if they can'tfind you, they can always
contact me at info@rosemaryd.com.
And this has been the Light Walker's path and I hope to see
everyone. I hope you subscribe and
download. And Julie, thank you for your
(21:18):
beautiful gift of time and your energy today.
Thank you.
OK. So you were mentioning the rise
method. So one of the things I would
like to know is when a client comes to you for the very first
time, what's your process? Do they fill out a paper?
Do they just chat with you? How do you like nail down what
they need so that they can transform and move forward?
What's your process? That's a great question,
(00:23):
Rosemary. So I do my puppy's here.
I love it. Looks like mine.
You know, she's the best and kind of worst thing I ever did
and she's made sense to get a white puppy anyway, yes, that's
it. That's an excellent question.
So I very, I do have a questionnaire that I do have
that I do fill out with women, but I all of my meetings out
(00:44):
with. What were you think of thinking
about when we were going to meettoday?
Oh, that's good. That's good.
It's. Very powerful.
Yeah, I. Listen and I listen and a lot of
people just want to be listened to and or even sometimes,
Rosemary, I'm not solving someone's problem.
Sometimes I do say I'm so sorry you're feeling that way.
(01:04):
That must be all. You know, it's, it's
interesting. I had a client the other day who
came in crying and she left, sheleft me laughing.
And she said, for the first timein my life, I feel seen.
I feel like you get me, you see me.
And I'm like, Oh my God, you know, all this time she never
felt like anybody really saw her.
And I think you're right. It's like your clients just want
to know I'm here for you. I see you, you know, even if
(01:27):
you're just the sounding board for them for that time that
they're with you. So that's, that's really
awesome. So the vision for yourself and
your life started from your own situation.
And like you, I was also, I alsowent through a divorce when I
was pregnant for my son. Well, actually he was six months
old. So I know that feeling of just
being frozen and like, I remember looking out the window
(01:49):
and I'm like, what do I do now? I have this house.
I, I'm married six years, I got this, I'm pregnant, I just had a
baby. What do I do?
And I was terrified. And at that time, there was
really no one like that I knew of that could guide me through.
So I know you had gone through this at A at a time in your
life. What made you understand that
(02:09):
you needed a change? What was it for you that that
inspired you to move forward? Following up on what you said,
Rosemary was something I wish I had in my divorce.
It and where I live. It seemed to me, and it always
seems worse to the individual, that I was the first one getting
into the corpse and it was a little bit shameful.
(02:32):
Yeah, yeah, I get that. Something it's something I could
not fix and I'm a SO. I got it.
You get it, right. So it changed.
And even my, my, my daughters, Ihave two daughters.
Their school work were two different houses.
And the stress around divorce and moving a lot are the two
(02:53):
most stressful things. And it's something that a lot of
people have to do in the divorce.
And you have a parenting plan and there's a forensic
accountant and there is a family, and you're so angry.
Yeah, who gets the friends? That was another one.
Who gets the that? Is a good one.
That is a good. One I, I the crazy stuff I
remember like I was in a house at the time, so I had to move to
(03:15):
a one bedroom apartment with my son and I lived there for
probably three years before I bought my own place up here.
And then when all the water broke in my house, that's why I
met my husband that I have now. He was he was the guy that I
bought the stuff from. So you you never know in life,
but it's it's so crazy how all these changes happen when you
don't expect and I think that's the whole thing.
(03:37):
It's like you don't expect that rug to be pulled out from under
you. And then when it.
Is what do you? Do right?
What do you do? What do you do?
You keep going, you keep going. So you a lot of people lay down
and they have that pity party. And it is speaking from my own
experience, I had this huge house and live and help and I
(03:58):
was living at a place in Vail and had the the most beautiful
life to everyone on the outside.But yes.
Inside I was not happy and I wanted more.
And as scary as it was, I think staying for me was scarier.
And I was getting a little bit older and I had teenage mothers
(04:18):
and menopause was kind of looming.
Oh yeah, fun stuff, I know. I get it.
There were days really Rosemary,I, I could not don't get out of
bed. I have, I have my friends needed
to come in the morning to help me get my daughter out of bed
because we're supposed to act happy for our children and a
(04:39):
happy face. But it's, it's very.
Stressful. Very.
Stressful and a lot of teams Rosemary wear, whether it be pro
SE, whether it be collaborative teams, it does not have to be
awful. The truth is that sometimes
relationships just don't work right.
That's true amicable relationship with your ex or
(05:02):
your partner and and it it it's doable.
Yeah, I, I believe it is. And I think too, it's the higher
mind. Like I was never the kind of
person to throw shade. Like, you know, I wouldn't say
to my my son, my personal feelings about the situation
because for me, you want that your children to have a good
(05:22):
relationship, what that means tothem.
And you don't want to put your garbage on them.
And I think that's the mistake alot of people make when they go
through something is they throw their garbage on their kids and
then the kids are holding it. Like, what do I do with it?
I love this person. Now I'm not supposed to love
them because they're not gettingalong with mom or dad, you know?
And I think that's that's reallyhard.
And that's where your emotional maturity has to kick in and say,
(05:45):
OK, I get it. I might be angry, but you know,
you have to be truthful to your kids, but not tell them while
you're junk. Like that's what I would say,
you know? Correct and it is an untapped
thing as even part of the divorce process.
Rosemary, I'm trying to bring light to it.
Therapist to talk to the children.
Absolutely. And of course, yes.
(06:06):
My parents married 62 years. Amazing.
Yes, my parents as well. I get it.
Yeah. And there's like, Oh my gosh,
you know, I must have done something wrong because I went
through this divorce or, you know, what are they going to
think of me and my Italian family being the first one?
And apparently I wasn't the onlyone because a lot of my cousins
had gone through this as well. But after you know so.
(06:29):
You watch all of these Disney movies and it's a glass slipper
go up into the sunset forever. But they don't talk about all
these things that do come up in relationships.
And relationships are tough, right?
You know, I, yeah, you're 2 diverse people with completely
different viewpoints. And I think the trick is being
able to express yourself and notfeel shut down.
(06:51):
And I think when you're with it,like for, with me, my, my first
was overpowering personality wise.
And I never felt like I can express myself.
And I think that for me was, waskilling me because I, for me, I,
I need to express myself and I couldn't.
And I think that's the thing, communication is really vital in
order to keep something going and keep it happy or keep it,
(07:13):
you know, status stable. It's wonderful that you
recognize that and the relationship I'm in now.
Really great guy. We sit every week, Rosemary, and
we sit and we go out and we talkabout the week.
You know, this really upset me or this was something felt icky
about and this is something I think we could work on.
(07:35):
That's great. Setting up that time, even if it
hurts someone's feelings, it's communication is so and when
it's a lot of people get marriedwhen they're young, they don't
realize that they want to change.
Yes, that's absolutely true. OK, So your path was one where
you learn from your experience, which is really powerful.
(07:58):
So for those people that are going through life changes right
now, what would be your like nugget of advice that you would
say this has helped or keep thisin mind as you go forward?
What would your piece of advice be for them?
A. 100% it is falling in love with yourself, knowing who you
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are, celebrating who you are. And if there's something about
you that you want to tweak, it'swork.
It, it's, it's, it's an ongoing thing.
I, I, I, I say like it's a kaleidoscope and in a
kaleidoscope. And you turn it this way and you
turn it that way, it's figuring out where you want to stop and,
and enjoy the scene. So it's really figuring out what
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what we like and what we want and and I think the generation
before us. Yes, they're very different,
Yeah. Very different there.
You got married, you came home and you cooked.
It was usually one working person and her job.
And the man had his job. And I know, I know growing up
you're Italian. I'm.
I'm Jewish. Same thing.
(09:03):
Same thing. Difficult for me, it was I was
going to be a nurse or a teacher.
I was never even pushed by. And not their fault, but.
Culturally, yeah. Right.
You're going to be a lawyer and you're going to make money.
You're going to have some sort of supplemental income and
you're going to meet a guy and he's going to.
(09:24):
Take care of you. Yeah, exactly.
I was lucky in that my mom always pushed us to be very
educated. And she said to me, always be
always make sure that you can support yourself.
And she did, you know, really push education and and working
hard. And she had a lot of great
values. And for her, like, in her time,
(09:47):
it was different, you know, but a lot of my aunts and uncles,
like on my father's side, we're all executives.
Like in Bell Telephone when it was first coming around, they're
very intelligent women. So like, I had all these
wonderful women that were moversand shakers behind me.
But yeah, you know, I wanted thetraditional like, let's be
married forever kind of thing. And it didn't happen the first
time. So, you know, it's it kind of
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threw threw me for a little bit of a loop at the time.
But surrounding yourself by by this kind of girl gang.
Oh, I love, I love my girls. And also, Rosemary, I, I do have
to say, sometimes as you get older, it's figuring out who's
not. Sometimes there's friends that
(10:29):
are. They just go, yeah.
And that's OK. It's it's, it's OK.
It's recognizing it and say yes all the time.
No, I'm busy. I don't wanna do that.
Yes. So why will just say yes to
every? I love that.
And I think at a certain time I'm also in the Goddess years.
And one of the things I've learned too is that no is a
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complete sentence and you're allowed to say it and not feel
guilty. And when you're younger, you try
to do everything to make everyone else happy.
And then you realize, wait a minute, now I got lost in the
shuffle somewhere. And you begin saying, it's OK if
you don't like me. You know, it's OK if I don't
want to spend time doing this, this or that.
And you begin having more of a voice about who you are.
So I wish I had this when I was like 2526.
(11:12):
I wish this was in my brain backthen because I learned
everything through going throughlife the hard way.
You know, like we all do sometimes.
I love that you called it the Goddess years.
Oh yeah, definitely baby. I love it, I love it 'cause it
is the most amazing time, whether when women our age or
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empty. Noses.
It's awesome, right My my college how amazing it's more
time for me and I have this amazing relationship having
great relationship and I know myself now and it's.
It's. Gift and I think from what
you're doing and for your listeners, this is a great
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lesson for them as they get a little bit older to to
acknowledge that and see that and.
Yes, I agree. Much power there.
I think there's so much focus onthe young people because our
culture used to be in a certain age group.
Now there's a lot of us older ones and then the young ones are
the ones that are driving everything right now because
(12:17):
social media, but they're the ones that are the most insecure
generation that don't have the resilience.
And they're worrying about who likes them, you know, on media
and how my lips look and how my butt is big and the implants.
And I'm like, they're missing the whole point.
It's like what's inside has to develop so that you know who you
are. And that's the part that a lot
(12:38):
of these youngsters or young young folk are missing at this
point. But that's where the core of who
you are is, and that's the beauty of you.
And then the other stuff, sure, we're going to do do our best to
keep it together, but you can't focus just there because then
you're like a shell with nothingin the side, so.
Generation Rosemary. I see it because I deal with a
(12:59):
lot of adolescents and they're not getting married.
They're not they are not having children and they are not
getting married. It is it's clear to them which
it which I I don't agree with. I think my origin is a beautiful
thing when you find. And having children, yeah.
And having children in social media, it's filtered like you
(13:20):
said, my daughter post somethingmom, can you like it?
I'm like. Yeah, yeah.
But they do. They do care.
Yes, yes. Here.
A lot of insecurity though, and I know a lot of the clients that
are a little bit younger that come to me are very insecure and
they don't know who they are andthey don't know they have a
voice. And it's kind of like how how I
might have been in my 20s and I'm like, yeah, I got it, you
(13:44):
know? But you got to begin to develop
who you are and what your valuesare early.
And then you're like, all right,this like for me, integrity is
really important. Honesty is really important.
So you know what, look what yourvalues are.
And then if you live from those values, you begin developing
this beautiful inside of you that will travel you through
life. And it's it's powerful, but you
(14:05):
got to start doing it. You know, you just can't live
through like who likes you on the outside of the world that
you don't know. Right.
And we we've been wired that waywith pockets in our eyes.
Oh my, my goodness, it is how dopeople see me?
How do people want it? I see it a lot with with my
health clients, Rosemary. Amazing.
(14:26):
But there's something inside of them that is not see and not
healthy. So that's where Galaxy S come
in. That's right.
So tell me about the health. I know that you do health
coaching as well. So how does that look like when
someone comes to you? Do you go over like a food plan
with them? Is it just more about mindset
and what you do? Like what is your your vision or
(14:47):
your focus with health clients? It's yes, it's all of that
Rosemary. I work with women, I work a lot
with macros, with carbohydrates and protein where you should be
at 100 grams or 100 grams at this.
And I'm a very big believer of having smaller meals throughout
your day. Yeah, OK.
(15:08):
So when we were Cavemen and we were looking for food and if you
go long hours without eating, your body literally thinks you
are starving, that's so. It's on to the.
And water hydration is somethingreal amazing in stress and
sleep. Yeah.
So they get this whole picture. You could eat right, You could
do, you could be thin and reallyunhealthy.
(15:30):
I I've seen it a lot. You know what I what I found
too, is like, my body's completely different than when I
was young. So I never could gain weight
even if I tried. I was very, very fit until I was
55. And then menopause hits.
And then like, no matter what I do, it's packing on the
midsection and it's hormonal andlike the fasting doesn't work.
(15:50):
If I go without eating, I can gain 3 lbs.
Like, you know, it's like weird stuff that happens when you hit
a certain age. Your body is showing you
different ways and it's like it gets frustrating.
So you don't know what to do to kind of shift it away, shift it
into fat burning, or you know what it used to do when it's not
doing it anymore. Protein is king.
(16:13):
Rosemary's a little older because we start to lose muscle.
A. Little bit older and working out
in bands and sit ups. Again, you're endorphins.
It's not a one shot, but you're also doing something great for
your body. It's so interesting because I'm
53 and I've been doing this for some time.
When I was my early 40s I would listen to women talking about
(16:35):
menopause. I'm like.
Yeah. Right, not eating right or
whatever, but it is a real it isa real thing.
And whether you decide to replace your hormones or I, I
work with a functional medicine doctor.
Also, not a doctor myself, but hormone replacement is great for
some women. We're diagnosing what for women
(16:59):
and we're walking them through it and having a cheerleader and
accountability. I have people, Rosemary, It's
funny, I have them when they start my program, send me a
picture of their meals. Oh, I'm like, you know, hey, you
got to get protein and healthy carbohydrates and all of that
stuff on there. So and I'm like, I see you at
the Taco place. I said, going back to what you
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said earlier, you need to do work.
So it's in your decisions that you make it.
That's the outcome. That's right.
It's so interesting, you know, like it's funny because I've,
I've tried different things and they're all like, you've got the
healthiest diet I've seen. You've got great blood pressure.
You walk every day like I'm doing everything right.
But I'm like, I'm still, you know, you got this little.
I said, I look in the mirror. I'm like, that's my
(17:42):
grandmother's little Italian belly.
I got that, you know? Yeah, I turned sideways.
That's Mom in the mirror. It creeps up.
It creeps. It's, it's weird how it happens,
but I, you know, I guess it's just about embracing who you are
too and just knowing you're doing your best.
And if I still got this little Billy, I gotta love it because
it's gonna stay here till I figure out how to, how to move
it out of the way. And thank God my husbands like,
(18:05):
oh, you're beautiful just the way you are.
I'm like, that's, that was golden, you know, cuz here I am
judging myself. He's like, no, you're great.
Look at you, you know you're great.
And we're all human and we all that and we, I, my grandmother
used to have crooked toes like. Seriously.
Yeah. Yeah, and my toes are getting
crooked. Unless like you, I see my mother
sometimes I'm like, I'm never going to do that.
(18:26):
Yes. And I see myself doing something
like my mother so. Yes.
It's it's, it's in US. It happens.
It happens. I my sister and I have a joke
that like, at some age we sound more like our mother than our
mother. Did, you know, find yourself
like saying something, Mom said.I'm like, Oh my God, I said it.
I can't believe myself. Yes.
Oh my gosh. OK.
(18:47):
What? Where?
What is your business actually called and where are you
located? And do you work virtually?
I only work virtually. If it's it's deeper or whatnot,
that's fine. I I have a client that doesn't
know his computer. He's awesome.
So I, I meet him at a Dunkin' Donuts and but I prefer to work
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remote and jump on from whereverI am, which is wonderful.
And I, I meet one once a week with my clients, one hour
sessions, which is amazing. And we I have a plan.
Like I said, I know we spoke about you and I speaking.
It doesn't. It's not in set in stone
(19:30):
depending on what people need, but we're diagnosing at the
beginning. We're just diagnosing what's
happening. So my I'm calling myself a
reinvention strategist. I just thought.
It's love that. Yeah, that's good.
The life coach and divorce coachand health coach.
So just showing women, even withmy podcast.
Yeah. It is.
(19:52):
You got to laugh at yourself. Yeah.
Dating talk about dating Rosemary at 50. 3 So one of my
friends is doing she's a she's alife coach, but she does she's
also comedian. So her newest, her newest.
Thing that she's doing is comedians with women that are
going through menopause like what's funny about menopause and
she's she's lovely she's unalienable but she her name's
(20:13):
Rita Denoirs Garcia awesome woman so she's really fun and
she's like again poking fun at herself and poking fun at our
age groups and what happens to us when your body changes so
you. Have to you have.
To too. So how do they how do they find
you, Julie? So they want to sign up with
you. Yes, would.
Would you be just on LinkedIn? Would they e-mail you?
(20:35):
How would they get in touch withyou?
Yes. So I am on LinkedIn, Julie
Savitz, MSI have my master's degree in guidance and
counseling. JUFIESAVITZ comma period, S
period. That's a great way to get in
touch with me. You can see what I do.
You could see a little bit more about my rise method.
You could see some testimony. Emails.
(20:57):
Good. That is really the best way to
get in touch with me. Miss Rose.
Beautiful, beautiful. OK, so I would also tell people
that if they need, if they can'tfind you, they can always
contact me at info@rosemaryd.com.
And this has been the Light Walker's path and I hope to see
everyone. I hope you subscribe and
download. And Julie, thank you for your
(21:18):
beautiful gift of time and your energy today.
Thank you.
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