Dr. Jaz interviews Krista on her final chapter of her up and coming book "7 Strategies to Overcome Trauma" with Chapter #7 "Know You're Not Alone" Now their next step is getting her book ready for print!
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
This is the mads Own Mom Squad podcast, a production
of iHeartRadio. Hard working real mamas having real conversations. Now
sit back, relax, and get ready to talk mom life
with Christa and her squad.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
All right, I have my Jamaican queen with me once again,
because when you go to Jamaica, I mean, how can
you not be a queen? Were you treated like a queen?
Speaker 3 (00:23):
I've never because it was amazing. We were at an
all inclusive resort, so we had all the food we
can eat for breakfast, lunch, dinner, snacks. We were on
the ocean and they were on the beach. They were
serving us stuff.
Speaker 4 (00:36):
There in the.
Speaker 3 (00:37):
Pool, they had like a walk up bar you could
go to swimming in the pool and get my goodness,
it was just saccaz.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
Please please tell me you got tipsy girl?
Speaker 4 (00:47):
No, I did.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
I want you to take that time. I want crazy girls.
Speaker 4 (00:54):
Right.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
Well, first of all, I'm still breastfeeding, oh yeah. Second
of all, even if I'm not breastfeeding, I can't. I
don't do well with alcohol, even if I drink like
the tiniest wine.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
Yeah, I'll just go crazy. Okay, So I have I
have no I get that.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Yeah, yeah, I get, but maybe you know I can
still see you dancing. You don't need drinks in your.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
Book launch party. Maybe I'll take a little sip of wine.
Speaker 4 (01:18):
Okayirl, okay, all right, wild and.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
Crazy and just take a little sip wine. But and
how have you been doing in general?
Speaker 4 (01:27):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (01:27):
Real good, really good? Yeah good? Thank you? Loving the
summer some of the heat, Oh thank you.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
I just love hearing all your stories about traveling and
going places, being out out in these streets.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Yeah. So I'll be out in the streets even more
once the Badger tailgates, I'll be doing and packer tailgates.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
Yes, tell me when you go to some of those
weird huge packer fans.
Speaker 4 (01:51):
You are very very big packer fans.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
All right, I'll be at B Dubs. So it's gonna
be it's gonna be on.
Speaker 4 (01:57):
That will be fun.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
So if if our listeners don't know by now, you
should know that miss amazing, fabulous Christa is an author
and her book is getting ready to come out. We've
been writing it live on the Mantow Mom Squad, and
so first I just want to ask you, Christa, we're
so close to finishing the book. In general, like how
(02:19):
do you feel about being an author? About this beautiful
project that you're birthing?
Speaker 2 (02:25):
Well, I'm in awe, Like, let's be honest. I mean,
this is something I've been wanting to do for like
five years, and I'm like, but I'm not a a
I don't have no idea how to write a book.
But then when you meet someone like doctor Jazz who
is as skilled and talented and amazing and articulate and
compassionate about you know, other women striving into becoming authors,
(02:48):
I mean, I'm just so blessed to have you to
help me. So this has just been super fun for me,
you know, to talk about. But again, I know there's
a whole bunch more that we need to do, but
the logistics and stuff, but I've had a blast. Y,
thank you.
Speaker 4 (03:04):
I'm so excited for you.
Speaker 3 (03:06):
And the questions that I wanted to ask you today
are related to knowing you aren't alone. When I asked
you earlier in this process, if there were seven words
of wisdom that you could tell other women who are
working to gain their power back, especially those who who
(03:26):
have experienced trauma but are fighting to heal and still
live a prosperous life, I asked you, what are your
seven pieces of advice? You said, activate your healing tools
forgive yourself, protect your peace, remember your self worth, give
yourself grace, learn to let go, and then the last
one that you said, And that's the focus of our
(03:48):
conversation today as we close out this book. Knowing you
aren't alone? What do you mean by that? To know
you aren't alone? What does that mean? And why is
it so important on your healing journey to know you
aren't alone?
Speaker 2 (04:01):
Because there are millions of other young women and men
that are going through the exact same thing you are.
So you're not alone the way that you feel your
self doubt, your depression, your anxiety, you're not alone in that.
(04:21):
It's knowing that there are other people out there that
should give you strength. It does for me mean me
knowing other people that have gone through their own you know,
stuff in life and who deal with it. I mean,
you're not alone. And if you feel like you are alone,
then that's time. It's time for you to reach out
(04:41):
to you know, people, You have to be able to
reach out to people. You can't hold it in by
yourself forever, which I was very good at.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
MMM.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
Okay, okay, and speaking of you are very good at it.
Tell me a personal story of when you before you
knew you weren't alone, before you reached out to other
people in that isolated state.
Speaker 4 (05:06):
What was that like?
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Oh, that's a good question. I think. I think when
I finally was able to just when I completed my
edm R trauma therapy, which was like two and a
half months long, when I was able to throw myself
a celebrate, celebratory party with all my friends who supported me,
(05:32):
and then I did the burning ritual of all the
you know, abusers in my life and burnt them to
a crisp and it all went away. That that, to me,
was a significant time in my life. It was so freeing.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
And you had you weren't when you did that burning ritual,
You weren't there by yourself.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
No, No, I was not alone. I was there with
people that have been there for me right through through
thick and thin. So I think it's important to surround
yourself because it was a victory. It was a victory
for me.
Speaker 4 (06:07):
That's powerful.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
Can you think of any even if you don't want
to say names, can you think of any individuals that
were like there for you? During that time that really
were instrumental in addition to your therapists.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Like, well, I was gonna say doctor Lori Asadi, Yes,
that is my go to, that is my rock. I
mean she's been in my life for seventeen eighteen.
Speaker 4 (06:35):
Oh wow. Nice.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
Yeah, So she's been through every single thing in my
life that you know that I needed, and I'm like,
oh god, I need someone to talk to. She's just
become one of my dearest friends and a huge advocate,
and so I owe a lot to her. So I
just want if she's listening. I love her. But yes, no,
(06:56):
of course, my family, my friends, you know what I mean,
you girls, I mean how long we've worked together for me.
My amazing neighbors who were there for me, My amazing
neighbors who were there for me. I just want to
say that that they're amazing. You just never know, like
(07:17):
who's going to walk into your life, and you're like, really,
you become that significant in my life and I just
you know, it's like I remember reading a book The
Five People You Meet and having the same author of
Tuesdays with Maury. I totally believe in that you meet
every single person in your life for a reason to
(07:39):
get you to the next path in life. You don't
know why, whether it's good or bad, but there's a
reason for it. And so yeah, many revelations on that.
When I think about, Wow, that makes sense, that makes sense.
Speaker 4 (07:53):
That okay.
Speaker 3 (07:55):
And for people who are listening right now who feel isolated,
they've gone through trauma, they're feeling alone right now, what
would you say to them and what things would you
encourage them to do to know they're not alone.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
That you're worth it, You're worth it, and you're worth
getting the help. And there's no shame in it. Do
not feel ashamed if you're someone that is struggling with
mental health. Absolutely not. Again, I always say, the most
powerful people that I know wake up every day with
mental health and you can live a happy, prosperous, successful life.
(08:36):
And this is why I chose to write a book.
I believe me you can have these things. You know,
we see too many stories that you know, if someone
is in hard times and depressed, well, what is the
outcome of that? It doesn't have to be that sad story, right,
(08:57):
It doesn't have to be that sad story. But again,
I think empowering ourselves to know, like that's not the
path that I want to walk. I want to have
everything in life, well you can, and.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
It starts with knowing you're not alone and connecting with
others that it seems like that was a big source
of strength for you.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
So I'm oh, for sure talking about that for sure.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
And it takes people like you to even write books
like this to let people know they're not alone. Everybody
a lot of times like want to be very secretive
about these things. But if everybody's secretive.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
It's true, it's hard to I mean, because you're putting
yourself out there for people to ridicule you.
Speaker 4 (09:37):
They're going to judge you.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
I mean, that's fine, you know, but I don't have
time for haters. You didn't walk in my shoes, and
I would never judge someone else or judge what I've
been through compared to you. By the way, I think
that's one of the worst things you can do to someone,
you know, compare yourselves. That's that's not supporting someone because
you can't. We can't do that.
Speaker 3 (10:00):
And any if they're looking for ways to connect with others,
any strategy, my.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
Guys, there's so many there's so many Facebook groups out
there that you can find you know of similar things
that you're going through. Yeah, join one. There's so many
like events that happen in our city here in Madison especially.
You know, if you feel like you're you're not able
to find someone that you can connect with. There's tons
(10:28):
of groups out here. I used to do retreats. Those
were fun for me. Yeah, so yeah, yes, I'll probably
need some help, but no, I've done retreats before. Go
get massages, you know what I mean. Reiki is amazing.
There's a lot of things. Go get your nails done.
Come on now, there's a whole bunch of things you
(10:49):
can do.
Speaker 4 (10:50):
I love that.
Speaker 3 (10:51):
I love that, and those are I love that you
make things so practical. A lot of times we'll talk
in general, but when these practical tips that you're doing,
I love that.
Speaker 4 (11:01):
That's something everyone can do right now.
Speaker 3 (11:03):
Go on Facebook and search up a group related to
whatever struggle they're dealing with. Sure, or go to an
event or search up a retreat or do things like
that to connect with others to know you're not alone.
Speaker 4 (11:14):
So thank you.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
Yeah, of course.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
And my last question related to the whole entire book.
I just want to a recap again of why did
you write this book, and who are you hoping that
it reaches?
Speaker 2 (11:36):
Because because I just feel it's my responsibility, you know,
and especially you know, with a platform that I have
the opportunity to have a platform being on the radio
and now having a podcast. But to me, it's you know,
I feel like I want to do more. So it's
(11:58):
you know, for me, you know, I would love to
be able to go and speak to other you know,
young women at colleges or public speak and you know,
to me, that's what's important. I need to help rid
the stigma. That is what I want to do in life.
(12:21):
I want to rid the stigma of mental health. And
if we don't do it as individuals and you want
to not speak about it, absolutely total respect for that.
But for me, my choice is to voice mine because
who knows that I might help someone, So that's why
(12:42):
I do it.
Speaker 3 (12:43):
Yes, and you already are so far with even just
what you've discussed so far, you.
Speaker 4 (12:49):
Have been and that's so powerful.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
Yeah, and if you could, okay, well, I mean look
at celebrities. I mean the celebrities now today are talking
about mental health more than ever. You know. I was
just at a gala that I helped speak at for Tillarian.
I mean Brett Faarr was there talking about his mental health.
Speaker 4 (13:08):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
Selena Gomez is very open talking about her mental health.
There's so many more people that are coming, and especially
I feel like if you have a platform like that
where you are known in this world, you better believe
me that you better take that opportunity to save other
people if you can, by ye say yes, you know,
if it can happen to you, why can't that happen
(13:31):
to me? Ooh, do you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 4 (13:33):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (13:34):
Oh, I love that using your platform and your visibility.
I was at my church recently, at my home church
that I grew up with my grandfather he before he
passed away.
Speaker 4 (13:48):
He was the pastor there for forty eight years.
Speaker 3 (13:50):
And we just went to celebrate the seventy fifth church
anniversary and the theme was talking about let your light shine. Yes,
And when you were talking, when you were just talking
right now, I got a visual of that. I was
reminded of that, like, the higher up you go and
you have a bright light shining, the more people can
see it absolutely, and so higher up can represent like
(14:14):
your platform.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
That you have Taylor Swift Mentor mentor. Every young girl
wants to beat Taylor Swift, So how can she help
other young women feel good about themselves by talking about herself?
Speaker 3 (14:25):
Yes, and that's what you're doing with your platform. So
I just commend yourself.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
I'm just not up.
Speaker 4 (14:32):
But you're going to that. No, you're going to reach
people in ways that she might not.
Speaker 3 (14:36):
Ever, she has people she's assigned to reach an impact,
But you have people that you're going to be able
to reach an impact, the ordinary people.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
That's ordinary folks, right.
Speaker 4 (14:50):
Job, you're a celebrity. You are, Yes, you are.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
That's so funny.
Speaker 3 (14:55):
And then the last thing I want you to this
is a final letter to your readers, but it's also
those readers. The people who are listening right now are
going to be reading your book. They're sitting where you
were three four years ago. I want you to just
(15:16):
close by talking to them any last words of love
or encouragement to them, and pretend like you're actually talking
to yourself. What would you have told yourself if you
could travel in time and talk to yourself three years ago?
What would you say, as it applies to this topic,
(15:37):
What last words of love would you and encouragement would
you say, for people who are just starting this journey
where you were a few years.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
Ago, I know this is scary. I know you have
no idea where to begin, because this is the first
time you feel out of control, where you are not
in control and can hide what you really feel inside
because you're really good on putting that fake face on
(16:04):
for everybody so they don't see your pain inside. But
now you're at a point where you can't. You can't
hide it anymore. It is your time. You deserve it.
You need to realize how valuable you are, how big
of a light you are in this world, how many
(16:26):
people love you and need you in this world, and
to know that in time you will become that person
that you always wanted to be, and you don't have
to be controlled by this darkness anymore in your life.
It's time for you to shine bright and you deserve it.
(16:51):
So walk forward, girl and young man, and grasp the
world because it's definitely in your hands. And let's pass abilities,
my love, endless possibilities.
Speaker 3 (17:04):
Yes, oh my gosh, you I need some tissues. Your daughter.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
I almost was like, oh my god, I said shine bright,
and I was like, please, don't make a Rihanna joke,
Christal Yes, and.
Speaker 3 (17:16):
That folks is gain your Power Back by the fabulous, amazing, wonderful,
award winning world traveling internationally. What are you about, Krista,
Oh no, you're about to do things.
Speaker 4 (17:30):
But that can clude. That's that's all I need.
Speaker 3 (17:33):
We got everything we know and so now I can't
wait for people to tune into the next episodes. We're
gonna get more into what happens next. Now that we
have the content for that book. We got all kinds
of things we need to talk about. What your book
cover is gonna look like. I think you might need
to do a little power polls on the front cover.
We might need to have you on the front cover.
(17:55):
What colors do you want to turn?
Speaker 2 (17:56):
Well, because I know there's a lot of people. And
then the reason why we're doing doing this is because
we know there's a ton of women and men you
know that are listening to this podcast that want to
be authored. So how do you do that? Everyone has
their own story, So doctor Jazz has just been gracious
enough to help me with mine, but this is for everyone.
Speaker 4 (18:14):
Yes, exactly, and so.
Speaker 3 (18:18):
A big picture when you're writing your book, what we
did over these last sessions was we did the we
follow the triple P method which I created on writing
your book. The first thing you have to create a
purpose driven outline, which basically you have to decide who
is it that I want to help and what problem
do I want to help them solve. So at the
beginning of this process, anybody listening to this who wants
(18:40):
to write a book can do the same thing.
Speaker 4 (18:42):
You have to.
Speaker 3 (18:43):
Visualize and think about who do I want to help
and what problem do I want to help them solve.
And so when you close your eyes, walked through that
door and we did that visualization exercise, you said you
saw young women who have had mental health mental health struggles,
have experienced trauma or abuse, who are feeling the weight
(19:05):
of the world, and you want to help them be
able to heal and still thrive through their journey. So
that's the first thing you do when you want to
write a book. Identify who it is you want to help,
what problem you help them solve. And then I asked
you if you were sitting across the table with this
person in tears and they say, can you please just
give me seven piece pieces of advice or words of wisdom?
(19:28):
What would you just pour out of your heart, and
you listed some powerful, powerful words of advice. You said,
activate your healing tools forgive yourself, protect your peace, remember
your self worth, give yourself grace.
Speaker 4 (19:41):
Learn to let go, and know you aren't alone. I've
got you.
Speaker 3 (19:46):
And guess what, those seven pieces of advice, we just
turn those into the seven chapters of ya book.
Speaker 4 (19:52):
Crazy okay.
Speaker 3 (19:53):
And then when you're doing each chapter, we did the
triple P method, which basically three moves. Provide a little
background information, share a personal story, and always end it.
Speaker 4 (20:03):
This is what all books are about.
Speaker 3 (20:05):
You have to end with empowering the reader of other people.
Speaker 4 (20:10):
It's not just about what happened to you. It's like,
what can you learn from my story?
Speaker 3 (20:15):
We want to pour into you. So that's how you
get the manuscript done. And then what we're gonna do
is in our next episode. So you gotta stay tuned.
All right, gotta stay tuned. We're about to close this episode.
We're gonna talk through you know what comes next. I
can't wait until you're holding that book in your hands.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
I love it, all right, I need you girl, though, Yes,
thank you, jav.
Speaker 4 (20:36):
I'm so proud.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
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Speaker 2 (00:15):
All right, I have my Jamaican queen with me once again,
because when you go to Jamaica, I mean, how can
you not be a queen? Were you treated like a queen?
Speaker 3 (00:23):
I've never because it was amazing. We were at an
all inclusive resort, so we had all the food we
can eat for breakfast, lunch, dinner, snacks. We were on
the ocean and they were on the beach. They were
serving us stuff.
Speaker 4 (00:36):
There in the.
Speaker 3 (00:37):
Pool, they had like a walk up bar you could
go to swimming in the pool and get my goodness,
it was just saccaz.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
Please please tell me you got tipsy girl?
Speaker 4 (00:47):
No, I did.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
I want you to take that time. I want crazy girls.
Speaker 4 (00:54):
Right.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
Well, first of all, I'm still breastfeeding, oh yeah. Second
of all, even if I'm not breastfeeding, I can't. I
don't do well with alcohol, even if I drink like
the tiniest wine.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
Yeah, I'll just go crazy. Okay, So I have I
have no I get that.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Yeah, yeah, I get, but maybe you know I can
still see you dancing. You don't need drinks in your.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
Book launch party. Maybe I'll take a little sip of wine.
Speaker 4 (01:18):
Okayirl, okay, all right, wild and.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
Crazy and just take a little sip wine. But and
how have you been doing in general?
Speaker 4 (01:27):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (01:27):
Real good, really good? Yeah good? Thank you? Loving the
summer some of the heat, Oh thank you.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
I just love hearing all your stories about traveling and
going places, being out out in these streets.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Yeah. So I'll be out in the streets even more
once the Badger tailgates, I'll be doing and packer tailgates.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
Yes, tell me when you go to some of those
weird huge packer fans.
Speaker 4 (01:51):
You are very very big packer fans.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
All right, I'll be at B Dubs. So it's gonna
be it's gonna be on.
Speaker 4 (01:57):
That will be fun.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
So if if our listeners don't know by now, you
should know that miss amazing, fabulous Christa is an author
and her book is getting ready to come out. We've
been writing it live on the Mantow Mom Squad, and
so first I just want to ask you, Christa, we're
so close to finishing the book. In general, like how
(02:19):
do you feel about being an author? About this beautiful
project that you're birthing?
Speaker 2 (02:25):
Well, I'm in awe, Like, let's be honest. I mean,
this is something I've been wanting to do for like
five years, and I'm like, but I'm not a a
I don't have no idea how to write a book.
But then when you meet someone like doctor Jazz who
is as skilled and talented and amazing and articulate and
compassionate about you know, other women striving into becoming authors,
(02:48):
I mean, I'm just so blessed to have you to
help me. So this has just been super fun for me,
you know, to talk about. But again, I know there's
a whole bunch more that we need to do, but
the logistics and stuff, but I've had a blast. Y,
thank you.
Speaker 4 (03:04):
I'm so excited for you.
Speaker 3 (03:06):
And the questions that I wanted to ask you today
are related to knowing you aren't alone. When I asked
you earlier in this process, if there were seven words
of wisdom that you could tell other women who are
working to gain their power back, especially those who who
(03:26):
have experienced trauma but are fighting to heal and still
live a prosperous life, I asked you, what are your
seven pieces of advice? You said, activate your healing tools
forgive yourself, protect your peace, remember your self worth, give
yourself grace, learn to let go, and then the last
one that you said, And that's the focus of our
(03:48):
conversation today as we close out this book. Knowing you
aren't alone? What do you mean by that? To know
you aren't alone? What does that mean? And why is
it so important on your healing journey to know you
aren't alone?
Speaker 2 (04:01):
Because there are millions of other young women and men
that are going through the exact same thing you are.
So you're not alone the way that you feel your
self doubt, your depression, your anxiety, you're not alone in that.
(04:21):
It's knowing that there are other people out there that
should give you strength. It does for me mean me
knowing other people that have gone through their own you know,
stuff in life and who deal with it. I mean,
you're not alone. And if you feel like you are alone,
then that's time. It's time for you to reach out
(04:41):
to you know, people, You have to be able to
reach out to people. You can't hold it in by
yourself forever, which I was very good at.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
MMM.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
Okay, okay, and speaking of you are very good at it.
Tell me a personal story of when you before you
knew you weren't alone, before you reached out to other
people in that isolated state.
Speaker 4 (05:06):
What was that like?
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Oh, that's a good question. I think. I think when
I finally was able to just when I completed my
edm R trauma therapy, which was like two and a
half months long, when I was able to throw myself
a celebrate, celebratory party with all my friends who supported me,
(05:32):
and then I did the burning ritual of all the
you know, abusers in my life and burnt them to
a crisp and it all went away. That that, to me,
was a significant time in my life. It was so freeing.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
And you had you weren't when you did that burning ritual,
You weren't there by yourself.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
No, No, I was not alone. I was there with
people that have been there for me right through through
thick and thin. So I think it's important to surround
yourself because it was a victory. It was a victory
for me.
Speaker 4 (06:07):
That's powerful.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
Can you think of any even if you don't want
to say names, can you think of any individuals that
were like there for you? During that time that really
were instrumental in addition to your therapists.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Like, well, I was gonna say doctor Lori Asadi, Yes,
that is my go to, that is my rock. I
mean she's been in my life for seventeen eighteen.
Speaker 4 (06:35):
Oh wow. Nice.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
Yeah, So she's been through every single thing in my
life that you know that I needed, and I'm like,
oh god, I need someone to talk to. She's just
become one of my dearest friends and a huge advocate,
and so I owe a lot to her. So I
just want if she's listening. I love her. But yes, no,
(06:56):
of course, my family, my friends, you know what I mean,
you girls, I mean how long we've worked together for me.
My amazing neighbors who were there for me, My amazing
neighbors who were there for me. I just want to
say that that they're amazing. You just never know, like
(07:17):
who's going to walk into your life, and you're like, really,
you become that significant in my life and I just
you know, it's like I remember reading a book The
Five People You Meet and having the same author of
Tuesdays with Maury. I totally believe in that you meet
every single person in your life for a reason to
(07:39):
get you to the next path in life. You don't
know why, whether it's good or bad, but there's a
reason for it. And so yeah, many revelations on that.
When I think about, Wow, that makes sense, that makes sense.
Speaker 4 (07:53):
That okay.
Speaker 3 (07:55):
And for people who are listening right now who feel isolated,
they've gone through trauma, they're feeling alone right now, what
would you say to them and what things would you
encourage them to do to know they're not alone.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
That you're worth it, You're worth it, and you're worth
getting the help. And there's no shame in it. Do
not feel ashamed if you're someone that is struggling with
mental health. Absolutely not. Again, I always say, the most
powerful people that I know wake up every day with
mental health and you can live a happy, prosperous, successful life.
(08:36):
And this is why I chose to write a book.
I believe me you can have these things. You know,
we see too many stories that you know, if someone
is in hard times and depressed, well, what is the
outcome of that? It doesn't have to be that sad story, right,
(08:57):
It doesn't have to be that sad story. But again,
I think empowering ourselves to know, like that's not the
path that I want to walk. I want to have
everything in life, well you can, and.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
It starts with knowing you're not alone and connecting with
others that it seems like that was a big source
of strength for you.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
So I'm oh, for sure talking about that for sure.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
And it takes people like you to even write books
like this to let people know they're not alone. Everybody
a lot of times like want to be very secretive
about these things. But if everybody's secretive.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
It's true, it's hard to I mean, because you're putting
yourself out there for people to ridicule you.
Speaker 4 (09:37):
They're going to judge you.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
I mean, that's fine, you know, but I don't have
time for haters. You didn't walk in my shoes, and
I would never judge someone else or judge what I've
been through compared to you. By the way, I think
that's one of the worst things you can do to someone,
you know, compare yourselves. That's that's not supporting someone because
you can't. We can't do that.
Speaker 3 (10:00):
And any if they're looking for ways to connect with others,
any strategy, my.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
Guys, there's so many there's so many Facebook groups out
there that you can find you know of similar things
that you're going through. Yeah, join one. There's so many
like events that happen in our city here in Madison especially.
You know, if you feel like you're you're not able
to find someone that you can connect with. There's tons
(10:28):
of groups out here. I used to do retreats. Those
were fun for me. Yeah, so yeah, yes, I'll probably
need some help, but no, I've done retreats before. Go
get massages, you know what I mean. Reiki is amazing.
There's a lot of things. Go get your nails done.
Come on now, there's a whole bunch of things you
(10:49):
can do.
Speaker 4 (10:50):
I love that.
Speaker 3 (10:51):
I love that, and those are I love that you
make things so practical. A lot of times we'll talk
in general, but when these practical tips that you're doing,
I love that.
Speaker 4 (11:01):
That's something everyone can do right now.
Speaker 3 (11:03):
Go on Facebook and search up a group related to
whatever struggle they're dealing with. Sure, or go to an
event or search up a retreat or do things like
that to connect with others to know you're not alone.
Speaker 4 (11:14):
So thank you.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
Yeah, of course.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
And my last question related to the whole entire book.
I just want to a recap again of why did
you write this book, and who are you hoping that
it reaches?
Speaker 2 (11:36):
Because because I just feel it's my responsibility, you know,
and especially you know, with a platform that I have
the opportunity to have a platform being on the radio
and now having a podcast. But to me, it's you know,
I feel like I want to do more. So it's
(11:58):
you know, for me, you know, I would love to
be able to go and speak to other you know,
young women at colleges or public speak and you know,
to me, that's what's important. I need to help rid
the stigma. That is what I want to do in life.
(12:21):
I want to rid the stigma of mental health. And
if we don't do it as individuals and you want
to not speak about it, absolutely total respect for that.
But for me, my choice is to voice mine because
who knows that I might help someone, So that's why
(12:42):
I do it.
Speaker 3 (12:43):
Yes, and you already are so far with even just
what you've discussed so far, you.
Speaker 4 (12:49):
Have been and that's so powerful.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
Yeah, and if you could, okay, well, I mean look
at celebrities. I mean the celebrities now today are talking
about mental health more than ever. You know. I was
just at a gala that I helped speak at for Tillarian.
I mean Brett Faarr was there talking about his mental health.
Speaker 4 (13:08):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
Selena Gomez is very open talking about her mental health.
There's so many more people that are coming, and especially
I feel like if you have a platform like that
where you are known in this world, you better believe
me that you better take that opportunity to save other
people if you can, by ye say yes, you know,
if it can happen to you, why can't that happen
(13:31):
to me? Ooh, do you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 4 (13:33):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (13:34):
Oh, I love that using your platform and your visibility.
I was at my church recently, at my home church
that I grew up with my grandfather he before he
passed away.
Speaker 4 (13:48):
He was the pastor there for forty eight years.
Speaker 3 (13:50):
And we just went to celebrate the seventy fifth church
anniversary and the theme was talking about let your light shine. Yes,
And when you were talking, when you were just talking
right now, I got a visual of that. I was
reminded of that, like, the higher up you go and
you have a bright light shining, the more people can
see it absolutely, and so higher up can represent like
(14:14):
your platform.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
That you have Taylor Swift Mentor mentor. Every young girl
wants to beat Taylor Swift, So how can she help
other young women feel good about themselves by talking about herself?
Speaker 3 (14:25):
Yes, and that's what you're doing with your platform. So
I just commend yourself.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
I'm just not up.
Speaker 4 (14:32):
But you're going to that. No, you're going to reach
people in ways that she might not.
Speaker 3 (14:36):
Ever, she has people she's assigned to reach an impact,
But you have people that you're going to be able
to reach an impact, the ordinary people.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
That's ordinary folks, right.
Speaker 4 (14:50):
Job, you're a celebrity. You are, Yes, you are.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
That's so funny.
Speaker 3 (14:55):
And then the last thing I want you to this
is a final letter to your readers, but it's also
those readers. The people who are listening right now are
going to be reading your book. They're sitting where you
were three four years ago. I want you to just
(15:16):
close by talking to them any last words of love
or encouragement to them, and pretend like you're actually talking
to yourself. What would you have told yourself if you
could travel in time and talk to yourself three years ago?
What would you say, as it applies to this topic,
(15:37):
What last words of love would you and encouragement would
you say, for people who are just starting this journey
where you were a few years.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
Ago, I know this is scary. I know you have
no idea where to begin, because this is the first
time you feel out of control, where you are not
in control and can hide what you really feel inside
because you're really good on putting that fake face on
(16:04):
for everybody so they don't see your pain inside. But
now you're at a point where you can't. You can't
hide it anymore. It is your time. You deserve it.
You need to realize how valuable you are, how big
of a light you are in this world, how many
(16:26):
people love you and need you in this world, and
to know that in time you will become that person
that you always wanted to be, and you don't have
to be controlled by this darkness anymore in your life.
It's time for you to shine bright and you deserve it.
(16:51):
So walk forward, girl and young man, and grasp the
world because it's definitely in your hands. And let's pass abilities,
my love, endless possibilities.
Speaker 3 (17:04):
Yes, oh my gosh, you I need some tissues. Your daughter.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
I almost was like, oh my god, I said shine bright,
and I was like, please, don't make a Rihanna joke,
Christal Yes, and.
Speaker 3 (17:16):
That folks is gain your Power Back by the fabulous, amazing, wonderful,
award winning world traveling internationally. What are you about, Krista,
Oh no, you're about to do things.
Speaker 4 (17:30):
But that can clude. That's that's all I need.
Speaker 3 (17:33):
We got everything we know and so now I can't
wait for people to tune into the next episodes. We're
gonna get more into what happens next. Now that we
have the content for that book. We got all kinds
of things we need to talk about. What your book
cover is gonna look like. I think you might need
to do a little power polls on the front cover.
We might need to have you on the front cover.
(17:55):
What colors do you want to turn?
Speaker 2 (17:56):
Well, because I know there's a lot of people. And
then the reason why we're doing doing this is because
we know there's a ton of women and men you
know that are listening to this podcast that want to
be authored. So how do you do that? Everyone has
their own story, So doctor Jazz has just been gracious
enough to help me with mine, but this is for everyone.
Speaker 4 (18:14):
Yes, exactly, and so.
Speaker 3 (18:18):
A big picture when you're writing your book, what we
did over these last sessions was we did the we
follow the triple P method which I created on writing
your book. The first thing you have to create a
purpose driven outline, which basically you have to decide who
is it that I want to help and what problem
do I want to help them solve. So at the
beginning of this process, anybody listening to this who wants
(18:40):
to write a book can do the same thing.
Speaker 4 (18:42):
You have to.
Speaker 3 (18:43):
Visualize and think about who do I want to help
and what problem do I want to help them solve.
And so when you close your eyes, walked through that
door and we did that visualization exercise, you said you
saw young women who have had mental health mental health struggles,
have experienced trauma or abuse, who are feeling the weight
(19:05):
of the world, and you want to help them be
able to heal and still thrive through their journey. So
that's the first thing you do when you want to
write a book. Identify who it is you want to help,
what problem you help them solve. And then I asked
you if you were sitting across the table with this
person in tears and they say, can you please just
give me seven piece pieces of advice or words of wisdom?
(19:28):
What would you just pour out of your heart, and
you listed some powerful, powerful words of advice. You said,
activate your healing tools forgive yourself, protect your peace, remember
your self worth, give yourself grace.
Speaker 4 (19:41):
Learn to let go, and know you aren't alone. I've
got you.
Speaker 3 (19:46):
And guess what, those seven pieces of advice, we just
turn those into the seven chapters of ya book.
Speaker 4 (19:52):
Crazy okay.
Speaker 3 (19:53):
And then when you're doing each chapter, we did the
triple P method, which basically three moves. Provide a little
background information, share a personal story, and always end it.
Speaker 4 (20:03):
This is what all books are about.
Speaker 3 (20:05):
You have to end with empowering the reader of other people.
Speaker 4 (20:10):
It's not just about what happened to you. It's like,
what can you learn from my story?
Speaker 3 (20:15):
We want to pour into you. So that's how you
get the manuscript done. And then what we're gonna do
is in our next episode. So you gotta stay tuned.
All right, gotta stay tuned. We're about to close this episode.
We're gonna talk through you know what comes next. I
can't wait until you're holding that book in your hands.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
I love it, all right, I need you girl, though, Yes,
thank you, jav.
Speaker 4 (20:36):
I'm so proud.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
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