Topic: Today Jared Markiewicz founder of "Functional Integrated Training" will be Helping high-achieving parents balance the demands of career, family, and personal well-being—using strength training as a foundation for physical, emotional, and relational health.
So who is our fabulous guest?
Jared Markiewicz is a husband of 11 years, proud girl dad to energetic twin daughters, and the founder of Functional Integrated Training—a performance training gym in Fitchburg that’s been helping busy parents and professionals thrive for the past 13 years. His team currently coaches over 250 clients in personal and small group training, with a mission that goes far beyond reps and sets.
Through his work at FIT and his coaching platform, FIT Legacy, Jared helps high-achieving parents balance the demands of career, family, and personal well-being—using strength training as a foundation for physical, emotional, and relational health.
He’s spoken to groups ranging from 10 to over 500 participants, sharing strategies to help people sustainably integrate strength, movement, and discipline into their already full lives. His message is simple but powerful: you don’t have to choose between being a great parent, a high performer at work, and someone who feels strong in their own body. You can thrive in all three.
In today's discussion Jared is going to teach us the difference between motivation vs. discipline, how movement can be a positive factor in our relationships, what is foundational movements, and what is the one message that Jared wants all parents to know! So grab your workout gear, give your kiddo a coloring book, grab your coffee and lets get to "YOU"
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So who is our fabulous guest?
Jared Markiewicz is a husband of 11 years, proud girl dad to energetic twin daughters, and the founder of Functional Integrated Training—a performance training gym in Fitchburg that’s been helping busy parents and professionals thrive for the past 13 years. His team currently coaches over 250 clients in personal and small group training, with a mission that goes far beyond reps and sets.
Through his work at FIT and his coaching platform, FIT Legacy, Jared helps high-achieving parents balance the demands of career, family, and personal well-being—using strength training as a foundation for physical, emotional, and relational health.
He’s spoken to groups ranging from 10 to over 500 participants, sharing strategies to help people sustainably integrate strength, movement, and discipline into their already full lives. His message is simple but powerful: you don’t have to choose between being a great parent, a high performer at work, and someone who feels strong in their own body. You can thrive in all three.
In today's discussion Jared is going to teach us the difference between motivation vs. discipline, how movement can be a positive factor in our relationships, what is foundational movements, and what is the one message that Jared wants all parents to know! So grab your workout gear, give your kiddo a coloring book, grab your coffee and lets get to "YOU"
https://www.facebook.com/FITmadtown
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
This is the Mad's Own Mom Squad podcast, a production
of iHeartRadio. Hard working real mamas having real conversations. Now
sit back, relax, and get ready to talk mom life
with Chrisa and her squad.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
All right, Mama's I am super excited to be talking
with you today solo because you know, the other ladies,
they got things going on, so the struggle can be real,
as you know, as Mama's. But I am thrilled because
I had the opportunity of meeting this fabulous guest prior
to having him as a guest on her show.
Speaker 3 (00:34):
And let me just put this out there.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
I think that we can all agree as moms, the
one thing that we do not do is put ourselves first.
And it can be very very difficult when it comes
to balancing, you know, our lives, whether you're a stay
at home mom, your career mom, you're you know, a
single mom, you're a mother with a husband, a family.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
It's just it can be trialing.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
And that's why, you know what, it's time that we
find that time for ourselves and to make sure that
we are taking care of our health in the utmost respect.
And that's why I'm so excited to welcome Jared Marco
Wiz and let me tell you about this phenomenal man.
By the way, he is a husband of eleven years.
He's a proud girl, dad to two energetic twins, which
(01:21):
I just found out the birth of these beautiful girls.
And we know we all have our stories, right, ladies,
when we have our children. He is also the founder
of Functional Integrated Training. It's a performance training gym right
here in Fitchburg that has been actually helping busy parents
and professionals thrive for the past thirteen years. His team
currently coaches over two hundred and fifty clients in personal
(01:44):
and small group training with a mission that goes beyond
just reps and sets. And that's what we're here today.
And I'm so excited, Jared, that you're able to take
time away from your hectic schedule as well as a busy.
Speaker 3 (01:56):
Dad and a career man and everything. So how are you?
Speaker 4 (01:59):
I am phenomenal. And to that point, I get to
go and coach softball doubleheader later on this evening. So
my plans, Oh.
Speaker 3 (02:07):
My god, it's like NonStop for you, stop non stop.
Speaker 4 (02:10):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Well again, I'm so through because we have mutual friends
which is always great. I love networking, so big shout
out to you know, doctor rich and Charles mclymon's. They
are the phenomenal owners of a new health chiropractic out here,
and you know, making sure that we are in tuned
with our health is number one because I know at
the age of forty eight now and as a mom,
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the struggle just continues with your body, am I right?
Speaker 3 (02:37):
It doesn't get any easier, it never ends.
Speaker 4 (02:39):
And the thing about it is, at the same time,
it is an ongoing piece and if you understand that,
it's just it becomes part of who you are, the
identity of you. To just make that the routine, the
discipline of this is my norm, right right right.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
You definitely realize, oh, you know, so many people will say,
when was the prime time in my life? Oh man,
when I was in my thirties, I felt so amazing
in my thirties.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
It was always their thirties. So I'm like, yeah, I
could see.
Speaker 4 (03:04):
That it's the thirties and sometimes for us it's the
twenties that people go back that far, right, But the
reality is, I think that we have to recognize it
every time in our life is incredible and if we
look at it that way and we just focus on
being in the here and now. That is so powerful
for our mentality, for our approach to everything, because the
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reality is is, you know, in your forties, even in
your thirties, as a parent, you can't expect the same
kind of time how you had in college or high
school or people look back to these things and go, well, yeah,
but you have kids now, you have a job that
requires a significant amount of time in your life that
you didn't have before. To expect to be able to
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go and spend hours upon hours training and doing all
these things to keep your body healthy. Well, there's a way.
It just has to be a little bit more dialed
in and in tune with where you are right now.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
I like that, and where you are in life, you
know exactly, it's super sums of life SESU is alive.
So that's what we're talking about. I'm loving the topic again.
It's going to be all about helping high achieving parents
bounce to demands of career, family, and personal well being.
And we'll learn more about strength training how that will
help help us. The foundation for physical and emotional and
(04:20):
relationship health is what your expertise. So let's get into
this shared You talk a lot about the balance between
motivation and discipline. How do you help busy moms and
tap into both to stay consistent, especially with their health goals.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
So early on in our process, actually the first day,
we really focus on talking through the idea of motivation
and what that means to any person, but certainly a mom,
because more than often, more than likely someone's going to
come in and say, I want to get more toned,
i want to get lean, i want to get I'm
get my body back. And the reality of that is
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that falls more and what we call it an extrinsic focus.
It's more focused on the outer parts of me versus
like the intrinsic of what's important to that individual. And
I'll use an example of you know, going on vacation
and you're like, hey, we're going to take family photos
on vacation. The extrinsic or even the external extrinsic is
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someone comments on your social media post, or maybe it
says it to you politely, like hey, you're looking a
little fluffy in the last vacation photo. It's becomes this
punishment mentality, and as you work down the spectrum, there's
this part of extrinsic motivation called identified motivation, and this
for us is a place we always try and get
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to with the person on day one because if we
can get here, we know we've got a chance to
really start to build momentum. But it's this idea of
identifying who's important to you. So maybe the motivation changes
from if I don't go to the gym every day
leading up to this vacation, like I'm a bad person,
to hey, I want to establish health habits for my family, right,
(06:02):
and we should start these now because we're going on vacation.
We want to maintain these through vacation beyond that and
of course then we're going to be more proud of
the family pictures that we're taking on this vacation. But
it's about the positivity of others around you and your
involvement in that versus the negative punishment mentality.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
Do you find that challenging?
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Because right, we're all different than the reasons why we
come in and meet you as a trainer. Do you
find that to be challenging when someone is just so
wrapped up on their physical attribute to make them happy inside.
Speaker 4 (06:36):
Yeah, Yeah, it's it's never easy. Yeah, but it's also
why we do it. Like, I find it's such an
important piece, and I can tell you without fail everyone
gets done with that conversation goes like, I didn't think
that was gonna be a therapy session today.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
That's kind of how I see it, right, it is.
Speaker 4 (06:52):
Yeah, But for us, I think it's really important because
if so latering on motivation into discipline, it's like the
motivation of of you know, I say to somebody, if
I have in the morning when you just don't want
to get up to go and work out, that's discipline, right.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (07:08):
If your motivation is tied to well, I need to
punish myself if I don't work out at some point,
that's going to be a failure. It's going to fall apart.
But if you're focused on, hey, I'm doing this for
the betterment of my family. I'm setting an example for
my family. It's not truly internalized yet, but we're heading
that direction and that's much much more powerful. And when
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you combine that with you know, you go to the
gym and you've started a habit, but you've also you've
found connections through people. You know, they're the coaches that
you're working with. You're developing relationships. All of a sudden,
all those things help to make discipline more accomplishable. And
now that pattern, that behavior that you're starting to build
momentum with becomes more habitual and it becomes like a
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non negotiable for people. But if we don't address that
out of the gate and we just go, oh, cool,
you want to get more tone, you want to get
more lean, great, we'll get you on this weight loss programming,
get you on this, and that it doesn't work for
very long and it's not sustainable, and we really focus
on not the short term. This is a lifelong journey
that we're taking together. We're building a relationship here that
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we want to continue beyond that vacation, beyond that six month,
that twelve month. What is it that you want five
years from now, ten years from now, and how can
we start that process establishing, you know, short term goals
to move our needle in that direction.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
I love that because, as we all know, our kids
are like little sponges and they watch everything we do
and how you know we are and react in our emotions.
So to come into this more about the family aspect
and how we can be healthier as a family.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
That is going to help you as.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
A mom in general get to those goals that you
want and you're just going to feel so much better
and your kids are going to see that, and it's
like you're doing it for something bigger than just you.
Although we want you to put yourself number one.
Speaker 3 (09:03):
Because we never do.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
But I can see that this is kind of like
a team effort, which will help. I mean, especially if
you're doing it with your family too. I mean that's great.
Speaker 4 (09:12):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, connectedness with I mean connectedness is directly
tied to lifelong happiness. Yeah, and we need to connect
with ourselves. But again, and that's intrinsic, So that is
like that deepest, most heartfelt motivation, but our expectation. Occasionally
we have that person come in and say, I just
(09:34):
love strength training. I've been out of it for a while.
I really want to get back into it. I just
need guidance and accountability and a professionals take on this thing. Yes,
and awesome, Like we can totally help that person, but
far more people, especially moms, getting them to that point
of of I'm doing this for my family. We know
that we can start that process and work ourselves towards
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that self appreciation, that self connectedness to why it is
they really they truly are there. But we don't need
to start there to get the ball rolling, to get
the momentum going.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
Love it, love it.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
And by the way, I'm a huge fan of strength training.
That was always my passion in the gym, and it
just always makes me feel good. Being strong made me
feel good. So I'm a big, big fan of strength training.
All right, So let's move in now again. You work
with a lot of high performing parents. What's something moms
might be surprised to learn about how movement can positively
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impact their relationship when it comes to their kids.
Speaker 4 (10:33):
Yeah, well, I think that you look at high performers
and I'm going to use social media because it's just
kind of obvious thing and it's everywhere. Yeah, but the
high performers, it feels like they're crushing all their goals professionally.
They are super connected and present with their family, and
they're taking care of themselves physically in a way that
almost seems unattainable. And we get those people, but more
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often than that, we get somebody who wants that, who
kind of sees that and goes, how do I get there?
And so we kind of try and take it and go,
let's flip the script on this, and we call it
the ripple effect. So the idea is, you know you
want professional success, got it? And oftentimes moms are willing
to sacrifice our health for that sacrifice our health for
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the personal the family connectedness, and we say, no, we
need that physical piece. And if we take that approach,
it creates a ripple effect because all of a sudden,
this idea of giving yourself the time, take the time
to be disciplined, and go do your training, Go do
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the hard work that never gets easier, but you become
more in like, it becomes more of an enjoyable thing.
You now have built resiliency against stress. You're creating stress,
physical stress in a work in a workout or a
training session, and you then learn to be more resilient
against stress. Let's say at work. Yeah, and now you're
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at work and you're able to handle the stress better,
You're able to manage your time better, and you leave
work feeling like I had a great day, I got
a lot accomplished. I feel like I can leave work
without it coming home with me.
Speaker 3 (12:16):
Yes.
Speaker 4 (12:17):
And now you get home and now all of a sudden,
that works not on your mind, it's not weighing on you,
it's not causing anxiety that's going to carry through the
night into the next day, and so you can be
present with your family. And so all those things occurred
because you dedicated the time yourself to do that movement training.
And that's why we call it movement training or training
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is we don't want it to feel like work in
the sense of working out.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
Yes.
Speaker 4 (12:45):
Yeah, it's the idea of your training, your training for something,
for a purpose, and in this case, the purpose is
I want to be, you know, kind of high achieving
in all these different aspects of my life that are
super super important to me. And it doesn't take that
much Like for us in our you talked about, you know,
we do our small group training we call it fit
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Strong training, and then we have our fit personal training.
In those sessions they are essentially strength based movement training,
and we say give us three hours a week, like
three of those sessions a week, committed to that, and
then go be active with your family, do your own thing,
go on bike rides with your partner, do whatever it
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is you want to do. Be physically active outside of there.
That's enough. That's going to create that ripple effect. It's
going to create that stress adaptation response that carries through
to your professional life, that makes that better, that carries
through to then your family and now you feel like
you're doing what you want to do. You want to
be that person, that mom who's present for her kids,
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who's present for herself, yes, right, who is probably establishing
great bonds and connections at the gym socially yeah, and
has a chief professional success. So now we just we've
touched on all the different pieces and I started with
the training aspect.
Speaker 3 (14:07):
Is that wonderful? Yeah, it's wonderful.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
And I love the fact too that you brought this up,
especially if you have never worked out before, and you
know we're huge advocates on the Mom Squad, the mental
health portion of working out and what it does to
you is extraordinary. It is just in general, I mean,
it is to be able to release, like like you said,
the stress. I mean, if you have not yet done that,
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it's such a great avenue.
Speaker 4 (14:33):
Well, and I think that the idea of in a
lot of ways, I think there's things right now going
on where we're trying to separate the body into all
these pieces, but it's not the physical aspect. And I've
said this for a long long time, but you know,
strength training doesn't just build muscles. It's neurological. And when
you think about it that way, that's the brain, that's
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all of your nervous systems, everything that works together to
make your body is incredible organism. And that's going to
impact your mental resiliency. That's going to impact your mental health.
It has to, it has to, and what better you know,
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And obviously there's ways to take it too far, but
what better drug than working out being physically active right
or meant to do as human beings?
Speaker 2 (15:25):
Definitely, And then then you think of all the things
that you know that are out there, like sports are
great for your kids. You know, karate is great for
your kids. I mean, there's just so many different ways.
But that's what that's for. It's to get your body
into shape, your mind. It's it's kind of like all related.
It is to keep your body and top shape.
Speaker 4 (15:45):
Yeah. Well and outside of I mean the strength training, right,
for what purpose? Because who's to say that you can't.
I know, we have friend of our daughters in school
she joined martial arts. Well, her and her younger sister
joined martial arts and then the parents got involved it.
But yeah, whoosed to say you can't? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (16:04):
Yeah, hey I did with GEO when she was little
autely this is awesome.
Speaker 4 (16:08):
Yeah, And to have the resiliency and the physical capacity
to just even to stand up and raise your hand
and say, I feel confident enough in my own body's
abilities to be able to do this. Like, that's part
of why we build these foundational movement patterns for our
clients is because we want them when the opportunity arises,
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to not hesitate, to just say yes, I want to
and I know I'm going to be able to do
that amazing thing that's going to cause me enjoyment, memories,
whatever it might be.
Speaker 3 (16:41):
Yeah, I love it.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
I love the achievement and feeling that way is everything.
So can you explain what you mean when you say
fundamental movements are kind of like the base of all movements,
even if you know they're unplanned, or if you're chasing.
Speaker 3 (16:56):
A toddler around you're just like, oh, what do I do?
How do I start this?
Speaker 4 (17:00):
Yeah? So on day one again, So part of our
process is the motivational piece talking about that. But We
also do what we call a performance evaluation, which leads
to a movement evaluation where we have somebody do a
squat a hinge. So if you know training patterns like
an RDL or a deadlift kind of pattern, a split
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squad and a lunge, a pressing pattern, and then a
carrying pattern, and it's from those foundational movement patterns we
can build basically anything. And so when we do our
strength training again three days a week, we're going to
be utilizing those patterns. Essentially every single day. There's going
to be emphasis on one or different patterns. We're going
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to have you do all of those every time you
come in and train with us. The reason is is,
let's take an example of you know, maybe you do
have a toddler and he's writing down the street tracing
a ball, and you see this teenage biker that's coming
at you, you and going they have no idea what's going on.
I've got to catch my toddler. Okay. Now, now you're
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a super mom, so no matter what, you're gonna get
your toddler, absolutely. But worst case scenario is you strain
a hamstring in the process and now you can't physically
do a bunch of things that you would otherwise want
to be able to do because you saved your kid,
But at what cost. Now you've been in the gym,
you've been consistent with split squats and lunges and those
kinds of things, and now not only did you get
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your toddler, but you grabbed him and then you had
the capacity to run down that unbeknownst teenager and give
him a piece of your mind. That's right, absolutely right.
But but that's the idea is is giving you that
capacity and maybe even doing so and being like, oh,
I'm not even only hot of breath.
Speaker 3 (18:46):
Who knew?
Speaker 4 (18:47):
Right?
Speaker 3 (18:47):
I feel good today?
Speaker 4 (18:49):
Yeah? So that's that's the idea, is to be able
to to do these foundational things over and over again,
where you just have so much capacity that when there's
planned reactive things happen. Because we can't control everything in life,
I mean, that'd be absurd. And so if we're able
to build that capacity, build that stamina with just that consistent,
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repeated effort in a plan environment, all of a sudden,
those unplanned reactive things they're doable. And then you get
done with it and go, huh, that didn't cause me back?
Problems or that didn't cause me my need to flare up,
and you start to realize yourself what the work you've
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been doing has actually accomplished for you.
Speaker 2 (19:38):
And I love that you're you're not asking too much
from us, you know what I mean, because we're always like, oh,
I don't have the time.
Speaker 3 (19:44):
I don't have the time.
Speaker 2 (19:47):
But like you said, kind of like how you do
it comes see us three times a week, you know, And.
Speaker 4 (19:52):
I mean that is that's what we ask right. A
big part of where our business is going, and really
where my efforts in our business is to be more
forefront in our community to help people recognize that it
doesn't have to start by going to our gym. I mean,
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when we do that that movement evaluation, we're doing a
body weight squad, we're doing a body weight hinge, We're
doing a split squat in a lunge, sometimes with some assist,
like we're giving somebody a thing to hang on to
to do the exercise. Maybe most often an elevated push up.
We do a push up and most women are like,
oh gosh, not the push up again, And I'm like,
(20:35):
hang on, you're doing military one either. But I know
I always said that, right, and I'm like, I say
all the time, I wish I had a video camera
filming the reaction that everyone has when I'm like, okay,
now we're doing a push up and they're just like,
I love it.
Speaker 2 (20:51):
Well, And then they're not going to talk back to
you because you are a big dude, so let's just
put that out there.
Speaker 4 (20:55):
But then, but then I break it down and say,
hang on, hang on, we're going to elevate this thing.
I want to see how you do this well. I'm
not trying to embarrass you here, sure, I'm not trying
to make this massively difficult for you. I just want
to know where you are right now. And because of that,
it's like, if we teach people that these things they're
not that complicated, we say a lot of times it's simple,
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but not easy. They're simple things to do. You just
have to keep repeatedly doing them, and doing this stuff
at home is entirely feasible. At some point you're going
to say, I want more, I want guidance, I want direction,
I want accountability, I want somebody to tell me. Because
and this has been a big, big shift I think
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in the last three years for US women especially between
the ages of thirty five and fifty five, coming to
us and saying, I know I want to get stronger.
I know I need to get stronger because I don't
want the health problems I'm seeing with my mom, my grandmother,
or my older sister, whatever it might be. I don't
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want those things for myself. I know I need to
start now, but I don't have any idea what to
do or really where to start. And that's where we
can be such a huge resource for people to be
able to say, Okay, you've been putting the work in.
You know this is important to you. Let us help you.
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Let us be essentially the guides for you. We have
the professional experience, we have the knowledge, we have the
ability to modify things when you when you do tweak
your back or when you do your your knees, bugging
your elbows, bugging you you come in, you tell us.
Speaker 3 (22:39):
It is longest recovery. Why I hated age sucks, But
it happens. It does happen.
Speaker 2 (22:47):
I know no matter what you do, Dared, I remember
putting my makeup on and I dropped my blush brush
and I had jacked my neck up.
Speaker 3 (22:56):
I pulled it wrong. For a week I was in
pain for a blush brush.
Speaker 4 (23:02):
Yeah, it is, and it is. It's so frustrating m hm,
but we find it so powerful. I mean, imagine where
if your job is to be able to hear somebody
come in and tell you that and then help them
leave feeling better than when they came in. Yeah, it's
(23:23):
a pretty awesome job to have. Yes, it is, right,
I mean like that's a pretty cool opportunity that most
people don't get, is to literally impact someone's day, right week, life.
Speaker 2 (23:35):
Yeah, I mean for me personally, you know where I'm at.
You know, I'm forty eight. You know, the most important
thing for me is to feel good again. Like I
was telling Jared and I've talked to you guys before.
A year ago, I my health took a big hit
because I broke my foot in five areas, so two surgeries.
I'm not strong like I used to be, and in general,
(23:55):
I just see like I used to be really strong
and tight, and you know, I kind of just stopped
I'll be honest, I stopped working out once I went
through my divorce. I just in my motivation was gone,
and I've I have noticed my body change in two
years like I'm skinny, that's not that's not like my thing.
I want to be strong, right because some women are
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just like, oh but you're skinny, But that's not that's
that's not what makes me happy.
Speaker 4 (24:19):
Right.
Speaker 2 (24:19):
So I've seen my body change where you know, the
elasticity of my skin now is not as you know.
So it's all about those things. But for me, I
just really want to feel better.
Speaker 3 (24:28):
I need to. I need to feel better. This is
like no joke to me, you know.
Speaker 2 (24:32):
So I have to make that conscious decision to figure
out how I can get my body to feel pain free.
Speaker 4 (24:39):
Yeah. And it's a lot of going on there, I now, Oh,
I mean it is. And I think that that idea
of pain finding a way to just move the needle,
you know, it doesn't have to be And that's it's
hard because you know, for you, it's you're not that
far removed from feeling really good about your own physical abilities.
(24:59):
And and you've had setbacks. Yeah, yeah, you know, the
foot thing and a divorce. I mean that's a huge
yeah again, physical, professional, mental, personal strain on everything. Yeah,
And to expect that where you are now is going
to be the same as where you were two years
(25:20):
ago will be absurd can it?
Speaker 3 (25:23):
Can it get as good as that again?
Speaker 4 (25:25):
So the answer is no, but not because of the
way you think. Okay, you went through things that are
now a part of who you are. There's a philosophical
saying a man never crosses the same river twice. So
you cross the river, the river's flowing, you could literally
(25:45):
turn around and cross that river again and it's changed.
So in two years a ton of things have changed
for you, right, So to be who you were then
isn't fair because you can't be You've gone through some
significant things. Now. Here's a question, though, is you said,
can you get back there? My statement would be could
it be better?
Speaker 3 (26:06):
Yes?
Speaker 4 (26:07):
I mean it could be. It could be you you
went through something traumatic with a divorce that theoretically you're
on the other side of that now and you actually
feel better about where you are your relationships.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
Yes, absolutely, Yes, Emotionally yes, i'd met a better place
after three years ago and then, but you know, taking
this horrific fall right, that's completely now, Like I need
help to get my body back to being strong again.
Speaker 4 (26:36):
Yeah, And I think that that's part of it too.
It's understanding what can you do?
Speaker 3 (26:42):
Yes, what are my limitations?
Speaker 4 (26:44):
Yeah, yeah, because we all I mean, and you talk
about age, you know, as you get older, it's like
you've got all these things. I have a hip flexer
that I tore gosh eight years ago now and just keeps.
We can finding new like we're clearly peeling back the onion,
another one, another, one, other one, and it's just an
(27:07):
on going thing. And it's the reality is is it's
a part of my history and I can't do anything
about it. So I just have to work within those
limitations and realize, Okay, well what can I do? How
do I modify a just you know, your foot if
you were a runner, Well maybe it Ronnie's not gonna
be the thing you can do anymore. But could you row?
Could you bike? Could you bike the same trailers? Go
(27:30):
further on those trails, fin more cool things. Absolutely, there's
plenty of ways to do it. It's just a matter
of And this is where again I think it does
help sometimes to this idea of people will say everyone
needs a coach, the idea of having somebody to have
an outsider's perspective, be irrational and go, you know what,
(27:52):
you're right, You can't be what you were, but you
could be better, and let's find a way to start
again the ripple effect, drop that first pebble in and
start to see what happens and where we go and
how we can just build momentum and more and more.
Speaker 3 (28:07):
I love that. I love that.
Speaker 4 (28:08):
Yeah, So.
Speaker 2 (28:12):
Your platform fit legacy again is about thriving at work,
it's at home.
Speaker 3 (28:17):
It's just improving your health.
Speaker 2 (28:19):
What's your message to moms who feel like you know,
they're constantly dropping the vall you.
Speaker 3 (28:23):
They feel like that failure. We don't want you to
feel that way.
Speaker 2 (28:27):
I can clearly tell how you are setting yourself different
from other gyms. Your mission is very clear. But what
is the one thing you will tell moms right now?
Speaker 4 (28:36):
Yeah, so give yourself some grace.
Speaker 3 (28:41):
Love that word.
Speaker 4 (28:42):
If you look on social media right now, you could
go in your phone, look on social media, doesn't matter
whatever medium you're using. You can find somebody that you know,
a mom probably the same age as you are. Similar
on vacation, you can find another one who's at home
spending a ton of time being present with their kids.
And then one more who just got a big promotion
(29:04):
or got accolades professionally. But those are all individual events,
and yet when you look at that in that lens,
you just feel overwhelmed. I haven't done any of those things, right,
I'm not even close to any of those things. But independently,
what did each of those people sacrifice to be doing
(29:26):
what they're doing right then and there? And so it's
the idea of finding a starting point. But also with
that word grace, is that if we seek perfection, we're
never going to get where we need to go. We
have to create some sort of buffer and barrier. And
I've been using this for a long time and it
(29:47):
really stems from so I call it the elite formula,
but it stems from the old school grading system in school,
so a B and C grade. Okay, so let's take
an example for you. One thing that's really important is sleep.
Speaker 2 (30:03):
Yes, oh yes, yes, it is something I struggle with
actually ever since having my daughter insomnia for like fourteen years.
Speaker 4 (30:10):
Okay, yeah, perfect, we'll take that sixt me. So we
know that seven hours of sleep is kind of the
gold standard, and which really means you probably need to
give yourself closer to a seven hour thirty minute sleep opportunity,
meaning time in bed to time awake because you're not
going to fall asleep right away. You're gonna wake up
in the middle of the night, might rustle around, and
(30:31):
so to get that seven hours a golden opportunity. We
need to get seven hours and thirty minutes of time
in bed, and elite would be seven nights. That would
be like the optimal as you get that and you're
doing amazing, right, but for us to expect that that's
going to be feasible right now with you would be absurd.
(30:55):
We want to set that as a goal, a goal
or like where we could head to, but we all
need to be really realistic. So that would be an
A grade, okay. Then B grade is you're doing really
well and you're feeling like you're exceeding, right, so elite
exceed Okay, that'd be a B grade. Maybe for you
that's five out of seven nights a week that you're
(31:17):
achieving that, And then C grade, so elevating yourself maybe
right now with your schedule on the weekends, when you
can sleep in and you don't really have obligations, maybe
that's when you're getting those that's seven hours and thirty
minutes or more of sleep opportunity, and that real true
like ideal amount of sleep, So twice a week. Maybe
(31:40):
our elevate level, our C grade is four out of
seven nights. Finding two week nights a week where you
can modify your sleep habits, You can get yourself ready
to go to bed earlier, you can do all the
things that you know that you need to do, meditation
or you know, sleep mask, whatever it is that you
(32:00):
do to like calm down and relax to get to
the point of getting that sleep four nights a week
versus just two. Because we all know the phrase sees
get degrees.
Speaker 3 (32:12):
Oh no, I'm just writ down there.
Speaker 4 (32:15):
No, I don't think I've heard that es So the
elevator stass is like, let's find a way to just
have success and know that the controllables. Now for you
with your daughter, hold is you fifteen? Okay, so more
than likely she's not coming into your bedroom and waking
up in the middle of night.
Speaker 3 (32:30):
No, she just wants to be left alone in her room,
believe me.
Speaker 4 (32:33):
But I'm guessing you have a lot of listeners who
that's a struggle for the right and we can't expect
to control everything, certainly, not that. And to set the
standard of seven as seven nights would be absurd. Sometimes
it might happen, but if it doesn't, it doesn't mean
that you're failing. So creating YEA, creating a spectrum, creating
(32:55):
a continuum so that you can go, Okay, I'm I'm
doing what I need to do. I mean, all be
my family, maybe in this conversation of like, hey, I
need to get two week nights a week at least,
where I'm getting these seven hour and thirty minutes sleep opportunities,
can you help me?
Speaker 2 (33:10):
Sure?
Speaker 4 (33:11):
And and then it becomes a family effort. But because
once you start doing that, this is something that we've
found over and over again, is it can be very difficult.
And imagine you probably experienced this is when you don't
know what good feels like, it's very difficult to understand
(33:32):
how bad like bad sleep is. But if you slept
well and then all of a sudden you have insomnia, like,
oh my gosh, I know what I was capable of,
I know what I was doing, how I felt, my energy,
my mood, all these things, and now I'm sleeping terribly
and it's it's so bad. Yeah, But getting starting to
(33:54):
build that momentum towards recognition of hey, four nights out
of seven US of good quality sleep.
Speaker 3 (34:01):
I will take it. I will take it.
Speaker 4 (34:03):
You'll feel amazing, and they to find ways to level
that up. That becomes your standard.
Speaker 3 (34:09):
I think that's fabulous.
Speaker 2 (34:11):
Yeah, and that's just who that's just my my my makeup.
My brain is always racing because you know, I'm a
very like you know, with work and stuff. I'm always
on the go, so it's just very hard for me
to decompress. But I think you are fabulous shared. I
think what you have accomplished here in our community, what
your vision is, what your mission is, especially for moms.
I do want to let them know how can they
(34:33):
like get in touch with you?
Speaker 3 (34:35):
How do you start this?
Speaker 4 (34:36):
Absolutely so the best way is to honestly email us.
Speaker 3 (34:40):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (34:41):
I mean we have a website, so you have social media, yeah,
fitmadtown dot com, and I'm sure you're gonna link all
the socials and that sort of thing to the show notes.
But fitmadtown dot com. We're literally just emailing admin at
fitmadtown dot com.
Speaker 2 (34:55):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (34:56):
But we wanted to do is we wanted to provide
something special to the listeners. Okay, and so if you
just mention, hey heard you on the Mad Town Moms podcast.
We're going to do two things. So we talked about
motivation and discipline today, right, So we'll give ten percent
off of one month of either our Fit Strong so
(35:18):
that's our smaller group training or our fit personal training.
And if you attend ten sessions, so ten out of
the ideal twelve, we're going to give you a fit
Strong T shirt. So kind of our way of saying, hey,
you're disciplined. Yeah, even if you don't after that month,
join and want you like we know you are like
(35:40):
a good representative of our brand. You gave us a
fair shot. Yeah, and you put the work in. You've
earned this.
Speaker 3 (35:47):
I love that.
Speaker 4 (35:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (35:48):
Okay, well that sounds good to me. H. I definitely
know that I would love the opportunity to just you know,
try try you out, and you know'd love to have you.
Speaker 3 (35:58):
See where I am at.
Speaker 2 (35:59):
I'm getting a second opinion with this foot, you know,
seeing what maybe I need to do more when it
comes to occupational therapy or ot whatever, but probably getting
into a gym is probably the way that I need to.
Speaker 4 (36:11):
Go wellnes I think the reality too is we have
connections to a breadth of healthcare players, right. I mean
that's and that's we started the whole conversation about networking
with doctor Rich and but all that kind of stuff
we can help with that. If we don't, if we
realize that we can't, like you're out of our scope
(36:32):
in practice, we can find somebody who either we can
help you or refer you to who can then maybe
refer you further.
Speaker 3 (36:38):
Wonderful.
Speaker 4 (36:39):
That's the kind of stuff that we take pride in
because we also know that we aren't magic makers. We
can't do it all. But if we align ourselves with
people who are good in their own respective industries, again,
the goal is to have a huge impact on this
community in a healthy, sustainable.
Speaker 2 (37:00):
I love that well, and that's clear for you to
offer that and be like, you don't necessarily have to
be with us.
Speaker 3 (37:05):
We will get you the best.
Speaker 2 (37:07):
So once again, give it up to Jared mark Away.
It's a founder of Functional Integrated Training, a performance gym
right here in Fitchburg, coaching over two hundred and fifty
clients in personal and small group training.
Speaker 3 (37:17):
I would love to have you back if you want to.
Speaker 2 (37:20):
And then well, I mean, I'm sure we could talk forever,
but I would love to have you back as a guest.
Speaker 4 (37:24):
I'd love to be back. This would be fantastic, wonderful man.
Speaker 3 (37:27):
Well, thank you so much, shared for being amazing.
Speaker 2 (37:29):
You're you're adorable and uh yeah, I'm sure you've got
places to go. You have softball, honey, you got things
to do.
Speaker 4 (37:35):
Dad. I'm going all right.
Speaker 3 (37:37):
Until next time, Matt Tam We'll talk to you then.
Speaker 1 (37:41):
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Speaker 2 (00:15):
All right, Mama's I am super excited to be talking
with you today solo because you know, the other ladies,
they got things going on, so the struggle can be real,
as you know, as Mama's. But I am thrilled because
I had the opportunity of meeting this fabulous guest prior
to having him as a guest on her show.
Speaker 3 (00:34):
And let me just put this out there.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
I think that we can all agree as moms, the
one thing that we do not do is put ourselves first.
And it can be very very difficult when it comes
to balancing, you know, our lives, whether you're a stay
at home mom, your career mom, you're you know, a
single mom, you're a mother with a husband, a family.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
It's just it can be trialing.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
And that's why, you know what, it's time that we
find that time for ourselves and to make sure that
we are taking care of our health in the utmost respect.
And that's why I'm so excited to welcome Jared Marco
Wiz and let me tell you about this phenomenal man.
By the way, he is a husband of eleven years.
He's a proud girl, dad to two energetic twins, which
(01:21):
I just found out the birth of these beautiful girls.
And we know we all have our stories, right, ladies,
when we have our children. He is also the founder
of Functional Integrated Training. It's a performance training gym right
here in Fitchburg that has been actually helping busy parents
and professionals thrive for the past thirteen years. His team
currently coaches over two hundred and fifty clients in personal
(01:44):
and small group training with a mission that goes beyond
just reps and sets. And that's what we're here today.
And I'm so excited, Jared, that you're able to take
time away from your hectic schedule as well as a busy.
Speaker 3 (01:56):
Dad and a career man and everything. So how are you?
Speaker 4 (01:59):
I am phenomenal. And to that point, I get to
go and coach softball doubleheader later on this evening. So
my plans, Oh.
Speaker 3 (02:07):
My god, it's like NonStop for you, stop non stop.
Speaker 4 (02:10):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Well again, I'm so through because we have mutual friends
which is always great. I love networking, so big shout
out to you know, doctor rich and Charles mclymon's. They
are the phenomenal owners of a new health chiropractic out here,
and you know, making sure that we are in tuned
with our health is number one because I know at
the age of forty eight now and as a mom,
(02:34):
the struggle just continues with your body, am I right?
Speaker 3 (02:37):
It doesn't get any easier, it never ends.
Speaker 4 (02:39):
And the thing about it is, at the same time,
it is an ongoing piece and if you understand that,
it's just it becomes part of who you are, the
identity of you. To just make that the routine, the
discipline of this is my norm, right right right.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
You definitely realize, oh, you know, so many people will say,
when was the prime time in my life? Oh man,
when I was in my thirties, I felt so amazing
in my thirties.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
It was always their thirties. So I'm like, yeah, I
could see.
Speaker 4 (03:04):
That it's the thirties and sometimes for us it's the
twenties that people go back that far, right, But the
reality is, I think that we have to recognize it
every time in our life is incredible and if we
look at it that way and we just focus on
being in the here and now. That is so powerful
for our mentality, for our approach to everything, because the
(03:26):
reality is is, you know, in your forties, even in
your thirties, as a parent, you can't expect the same
kind of time how you had in college or high
school or people look back to these things and go, well, yeah,
but you have kids now, you have a job that
requires a significant amount of time in your life that
you didn't have before. To expect to be able to
(03:47):
go and spend hours upon hours training and doing all
these things to keep your body healthy. Well, there's a way.
It just has to be a little bit more dialed
in and in tune with where you are right now.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
I like that, and where you are in life, you
know exactly, it's super sums of life SESU is alive.
So that's what we're talking about. I'm loving the topic again.
It's going to be all about helping high achieving parents
bounce to demands of career, family, and personal well being.
And we'll learn more about strength training how that will
help help us. The foundation for physical and emotional and
(04:20):
relationship health is what your expertise. So let's get into
this shared You talk a lot about the balance between
motivation and discipline. How do you help busy moms and
tap into both to stay consistent, especially with their health goals.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
So early on in our process, actually the first day,
we really focus on talking through the idea of motivation
and what that means to any person, but certainly a mom,
because more than often, more than likely someone's going to
come in and say, I want to get more toned,
i want to get lean, i want to get I'm
get my body back. And the reality of that is
(04:56):
that falls more and what we call it an extrinsic focus.
It's more focused on the outer parts of me versus
like the intrinsic of what's important to that individual. And
I'll use an example of you know, going on vacation
and you're like, hey, we're going to take family photos
on vacation. The extrinsic or even the external extrinsic is
(05:17):
someone comments on your social media post, or maybe it
says it to you politely, like hey, you're looking a
little fluffy in the last vacation photo. It's becomes this
punishment mentality, and as you work down the spectrum, there's
this part of extrinsic motivation called identified motivation, and this
for us is a place we always try and get
(05:37):
to with the person on day one because if we
can get here, we know we've got a chance to
really start to build momentum. But it's this idea of
identifying who's important to you. So maybe the motivation changes
from if I don't go to the gym every day
leading up to this vacation, like I'm a bad person,
to hey, I want to establish health habits for my family, right,
(06:02):
and we should start these now because we're going on vacation.
We want to maintain these through vacation beyond that and
of course then we're going to be more proud of
the family pictures that we're taking on this vacation. But
it's about the positivity of others around you and your
involvement in that versus the negative punishment mentality.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
Do you find that challenging?
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Because right, we're all different than the reasons why we
come in and meet you as a trainer. Do you
find that to be challenging when someone is just so
wrapped up on their physical attribute to make them happy inside.
Speaker 4 (06:36):
Yeah, Yeah, it's it's never easy. Yeah, but it's also
why we do it. Like, I find it's such an
important piece, and I can tell you without fail everyone
gets done with that conversation goes like, I didn't think
that was gonna be a therapy session today.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
That's kind of how I see it, right, it is.
Speaker 4 (06:52):
Yeah, But for us, I think it's really important because
if so latering on motivation into discipline, it's like the
motivation of of you know, I say to somebody, if
I have in the morning when you just don't want
to get up to go and work out, that's discipline, right.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (07:08):
If your motivation is tied to well, I need to
punish myself if I don't work out at some point,
that's going to be a failure. It's going to fall apart.
But if you're focused on, hey, I'm doing this for
the betterment of my family. I'm setting an example for
my family. It's not truly internalized yet, but we're heading
that direction and that's much much more powerful. And when
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you combine that with you know, you go to the
gym and you've started a habit, but you've also you've
found connections through people. You know, they're the coaches that
you're working with. You're developing relationships. All of a sudden,
all those things help to make discipline more accomplishable. And
now that pattern, that behavior that you're starting to build
momentum with becomes more habitual and it becomes like a
(07:53):
non negotiable for people. But if we don't address that
out of the gate and we just go, oh, cool,
you want to get more tone, you want to get
more lean, great, we'll get you on this weight loss programming,
get you on this, and that it doesn't work for
very long and it's not sustainable, and we really focus
on not the short term. This is a lifelong journey
that we're taking together. We're building a relationship here that
(08:16):
we want to continue beyond that vacation, beyond that six month,
that twelve month. What is it that you want five
years from now, ten years from now, and how can
we start that process establishing, you know, short term goals
to move our needle in that direction.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
I love that because, as we all know, our kids
are like little sponges and they watch everything we do
and how you know we are and react in our emotions.
So to come into this more about the family aspect
and how we can be healthier as a family.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
That is going to help you as.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
A mom in general get to those goals that you
want and you're just going to feel so much better
and your kids are going to see that, and it's
like you're doing it for something bigger than just you.
Although we want you to put yourself number one.
Speaker 3 (09:03):
Because we never do.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
But I can see that this is kind of like
a team effort, which will help. I mean, especially if
you're doing it with your family too. I mean that's great.
Speaker 4 (09:12):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, connectedness with I mean connectedness is directly
tied to lifelong happiness. Yeah, and we need to connect
with ourselves. But again, and that's intrinsic, So that is
like that deepest, most heartfelt motivation, but our expectation. Occasionally
we have that person come in and say, I just
(09:34):
love strength training. I've been out of it for a while.
I really want to get back into it. I just
need guidance and accountability and a professionals take on this thing. Yes,
and awesome, Like we can totally help that person, but
far more people, especially moms, getting them to that point
of of I'm doing this for my family. We know
that we can start that process and work ourselves towards
(09:56):
that self appreciation, that self connectedness to why it is
they really they truly are there. But we don't need
to start there to get the ball rolling, to get
the momentum going.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
Love it, love it.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
And by the way, I'm a huge fan of strength training.
That was always my passion in the gym, and it
just always makes me feel good. Being strong made me
feel good. So I'm a big, big fan of strength training.
All right, So let's move in now again. You work
with a lot of high performing parents. What's something moms
might be surprised to learn about how movement can positively
(10:30):
impact their relationship when it comes to their kids.
Speaker 4 (10:33):
Yeah, well, I think that you look at high performers
and I'm going to use social media because it's just
kind of obvious thing and it's everywhere. Yeah, but the
high performers, it feels like they're crushing all their goals professionally.
They are super connected and present with their family, and
they're taking care of themselves physically in a way that
almost seems unattainable. And we get those people, but more
(10:58):
often than that, we get somebody who wants that, who
kind of sees that and goes, how do I get there?
And so we kind of try and take it and go,
let's flip the script on this, and we call it
the ripple effect. So the idea is, you know you
want professional success, got it? And oftentimes moms are willing
to sacrifice our health for that sacrifice our health for
(11:20):
the personal the family connectedness, and we say, no, we
need that physical piece. And if we take that approach,
it creates a ripple effect because all of a sudden,
this idea of giving yourself the time, take the time
to be disciplined, and go do your training, Go do
(11:43):
the hard work that never gets easier, but you become
more in like, it becomes more of an enjoyable thing.
You now have built resiliency against stress. You're creating stress,
physical stress in a work in a workout or a
training session, and you then learn to be more resilient
against stress. Let's say at work. Yeah, and now you're
(12:04):
at work and you're able to handle the stress better,
You're able to manage your time better, and you leave
work feeling like I had a great day, I got
a lot accomplished. I feel like I can leave work
without it coming home with me.
Speaker 3 (12:16):
Yes.
Speaker 4 (12:17):
And now you get home and now all of a sudden,
that works not on your mind, it's not weighing on you,
it's not causing anxiety that's going to carry through the
night into the next day, and so you can be
present with your family. And so all those things occurred
because you dedicated the time yourself to do that movement training.
And that's why we call it movement training or training
(12:40):
is we don't want it to feel like work in
the sense of working out.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
Yes.
Speaker 4 (12:45):
Yeah, it's the idea of your training, your training for something,
for a purpose, and in this case, the purpose is
I want to be, you know, kind of high achieving
in all these different aspects of my life that are
super super important to me. And it doesn't take that
much Like for us in our you talked about, you know,
we do our small group training we call it fit
(13:06):
Strong training, and then we have our fit personal training.
In those sessions they are essentially strength based movement training,
and we say give us three hours a week, like
three of those sessions a week, committed to that, and
then go be active with your family, do your own thing,
go on bike rides with your partner, do whatever it
(13:26):
is you want to do. Be physically active outside of there.
That's enough. That's going to create that ripple effect. It's
going to create that stress adaptation response that carries through
to your professional life, that makes that better, that carries
through to then your family and now you feel like
you're doing what you want to do. You want to
be that person, that mom who's present for her kids,
(13:50):
who's present for herself, yes, right, who is probably establishing
great bonds and connections at the gym socially yeah, and
has a chief professional success. So now we just we've
touched on all the different pieces and I started with
the training aspect.
Speaker 3 (14:07):
Is that wonderful? Yeah, it's wonderful.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
And I love the fact too that you brought this up,
especially if you have never worked out before, and you
know we're huge advocates on the Mom Squad, the mental
health portion of working out and what it does to
you is extraordinary. It is just in general, I mean,
it is to be able to release, like like you said,
the stress. I mean, if you have not yet done that,
(14:31):
it's such a great avenue.
Speaker 4 (14:33):
Well, and I think that the idea of in a
lot of ways, I think there's things right now going
on where we're trying to separate the body into all
these pieces, but it's not the physical aspect. And I've
said this for a long long time, but you know,
strength training doesn't just build muscles. It's neurological. And when
you think about it that way, that's the brain, that's
(14:55):
all of your nervous systems, everything that works together to
make your body is incredible organism. And that's going to
impact your mental resiliency. That's going to impact your mental health.
It has to, it has to, and what better you know,
(15:15):
And obviously there's ways to take it too far, but
what better drug than working out being physically active right
or meant to do as human beings?
Speaker 2 (15:25):
Definitely, And then then you think of all the things
that you know that are out there, like sports are
great for your kids. You know, karate is great for
your kids. I mean, there's just so many different ways.
But that's what that's for. It's to get your body
into shape, your mind. It's it's kind of like all related.
It is to keep your body and top shape.
Speaker 4 (15:45):
Yeah. Well and outside of I mean the strength training, right,
for what purpose? Because who's to say that you can't.
I know, we have friend of our daughters in school
she joined martial arts. Well, her and her younger sister
joined martial arts and then the parents got involved it.
But yeah, whoosed to say you can't? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (16:04):
Yeah, hey I did with GEO when she was little
autely this is awesome.
Speaker 4 (16:08):
Yeah, And to have the resiliency and the physical capacity
to just even to stand up and raise your hand
and say, I feel confident enough in my own body's
abilities to be able to do this. Like, that's part
of why we build these foundational movement patterns for our
clients is because we want them when the opportunity arises,
(16:30):
to not hesitate, to just say yes, I want to
and I know I'm going to be able to do
that amazing thing that's going to cause me enjoyment, memories,
whatever it might be.
Speaker 3 (16:41):
Yeah, I love it.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
I love the achievement and feeling that way is everything.
So can you explain what you mean when you say
fundamental movements are kind of like the base of all movements,
even if you know they're unplanned, or if you're chasing.
Speaker 3 (16:56):
A toddler around you're just like, oh, what do I do?
How do I start this?
Speaker 4 (17:00):
Yeah? So on day one again, So part of our
process is the motivational piece talking about that. But We
also do what we call a performance evaluation, which leads
to a movement evaluation where we have somebody do a
squat a hinge. So if you know training patterns like
an RDL or a deadlift kind of pattern, a split
(17:21):
squad and a lunge, a pressing pattern, and then a
carrying pattern, and it's from those foundational movement patterns we
can build basically anything. And so when we do our
strength training again three days a week, we're going to
be utilizing those patterns. Essentially every single day. There's going
to be emphasis on one or different patterns. We're going
(17:44):
to have you do all of those every time you
come in and train with us. The reason is is,
let's take an example of you know, maybe you do
have a toddler and he's writing down the street tracing
a ball, and you see this teenage biker that's coming
at you, you and going they have no idea what's going on.
I've got to catch my toddler. Okay. Now, now you're
(18:06):
a super mom, so no matter what, you're gonna get
your toddler, absolutely. But worst case scenario is you strain
a hamstring in the process and now you can't physically
do a bunch of things that you would otherwise want
to be able to do because you saved your kid,
But at what cost. Now you've been in the gym,
you've been consistent with split squats and lunges and those
kinds of things, and now not only did you get
(18:27):
your toddler, but you grabbed him and then you had
the capacity to run down that unbeknownst teenager and give
him a piece of your mind. That's right, absolutely right.
But but that's the idea is is giving you that
capacity and maybe even doing so and being like, oh,
I'm not even only hot of breath.
Speaker 3 (18:46):
Who knew?
Speaker 4 (18:47):
Right?
Speaker 3 (18:47):
I feel good today?
Speaker 4 (18:49):
Yeah? So that's that's the idea, is to be able
to to do these foundational things over and over again,
where you just have so much capacity that when there's
planned reactive things happen. Because we can't control everything in life,
I mean, that'd be absurd. And so if we're able
to build that capacity, build that stamina with just that consistent,
(19:13):
repeated effort in a plan environment, all of a sudden,
those unplanned reactive things they're doable. And then you get
done with it and go, huh, that didn't cause me back?
Problems or that didn't cause me my need to flare up,
and you start to realize yourself what the work you've
(19:34):
been doing has actually accomplished for you.
Speaker 2 (19:38):
And I love that you're you're not asking too much
from us, you know what I mean, because we're always like, oh,
I don't have the time.
Speaker 3 (19:44):
I don't have the time.
Speaker 2 (19:47):
But like you said, kind of like how you do
it comes see us three times a week, you know, And.
Speaker 4 (19:52):
I mean that is that's what we ask right. A
big part of where our business is going, and really
where my efforts in our business is to be more
forefront in our community to help people recognize that it
doesn't have to start by going to our gym. I mean,
(20:14):
when we do that that movement evaluation, we're doing a
body weight squad, we're doing a body weight hinge, We're
doing a split squat in a lunge, sometimes with some assist,
like we're giving somebody a thing to hang on to
to do the exercise. Maybe most often an elevated push up.
We do a push up and most women are like,
oh gosh, not the push up again, And I'm like,
(20:35):
hang on, you're doing military one either. But I know
I always said that, right, and I'm like, I say
all the time, I wish I had a video camera
filming the reaction that everyone has when I'm like, okay,
now we're doing a push up and they're just like,
I love it.
Speaker 2 (20:51):
Well, And then they're not going to talk back to
you because you are a big dude, so let's just
put that out there.
Speaker 4 (20:55):
But then, but then I break it down and say,
hang on, hang on, we're going to elevate this thing.
I want to see how you do this well. I'm
not trying to embarrass you here, sure, I'm not trying
to make this massively difficult for you. I just want
to know where you are right now. And because of that,
it's like, if we teach people that these things they're
not that complicated, we say a lot of times it's simple,
(21:19):
but not easy. They're simple things to do. You just
have to keep repeatedly doing them, and doing this stuff
at home is entirely feasible. At some point you're going
to say, I want more, I want guidance, I want direction,
I want accountability, I want somebody to tell me. Because
and this has been a big, big shift I think
(21:41):
in the last three years for US women especially between
the ages of thirty five and fifty five, coming to
us and saying, I know I want to get stronger.
I know I need to get stronger because I don't
want the health problems I'm seeing with my mom, my grandmother,
or my older sister, whatever it might be. I don't
(22:02):
want those things for myself. I know I need to
start now, but I don't have any idea what to
do or really where to start. And that's where we
can be such a huge resource for people to be
able to say, Okay, you've been putting the work in.
You know this is important to you. Let us help you.
(22:22):
Let us be essentially the guides for you. We have
the professional experience, we have the knowledge, we have the
ability to modify things when you when you do tweak
your back or when you do your your knees, bugging
your elbows, bugging you you come in, you tell us.
Speaker 3 (22:39):
It is longest recovery. Why I hated age sucks, But
it happens. It does happen.
Speaker 2 (22:47):
I know no matter what you do, Dared, I remember
putting my makeup on and I dropped my blush brush
and I had jacked my neck up.
Speaker 3 (22:56):
I pulled it wrong. For a week I was in
pain for a blush brush.
Speaker 4 (23:02):
Yeah, it is, and it is. It's so frustrating m hm,
but we find it so powerful. I mean, imagine where
if your job is to be able to hear somebody
come in and tell you that and then help them
leave feeling better than when they came in. Yeah, it's
(23:23):
a pretty awesome job to have. Yes, it is, right,
I mean like that's a pretty cool opportunity that most
people don't get, is to literally impact someone's day, right week, life.
Speaker 2 (23:35):
Yeah, I mean for me personally, you know where I'm at.
You know, I'm forty eight. You know, the most important
thing for me is to feel good again. Like I
was telling Jared and I've talked to you guys before.
A year ago, I my health took a big hit
because I broke my foot in five areas, so two surgeries.
I'm not strong like I used to be, and in general,
(23:55):
I just see like I used to be really strong
and tight, and you know, I kind of just stopped
I'll be honest, I stopped working out once I went
through my divorce. I just in my motivation was gone,
and I've I have noticed my body change in two
years like I'm skinny, that's not that's not like my thing.
I want to be strong, right because some women are
(24:15):
just like, oh but you're skinny, But that's not that's
that's not what makes me happy.
Speaker 4 (24:19):
Right.
Speaker 2 (24:19):
So I've seen my body change where you know, the
elasticity of my skin now is not as you know.
So it's all about those things. But for me, I
just really want to feel better.
Speaker 3 (24:28):
I need to. I need to feel better. This is
like no joke to me, you know.
Speaker 2 (24:32):
So I have to make that conscious decision to figure
out how I can get my body to feel pain free.
Speaker 4 (24:39):
Yeah. And it's a lot of going on there, I now, Oh,
I mean it is. And I think that that idea
of pain finding a way to just move the needle,
you know, it doesn't have to be And that's it's
hard because you know, for you, it's you're not that
far removed from feeling really good about your own physical abilities.
(24:59):
And and you've had setbacks. Yeah, yeah, you know, the
foot thing and a divorce. I mean that's a huge
yeah again, physical, professional, mental, personal strain on everything. Yeah,
And to expect that where you are now is going
to be the same as where you were two years
(25:20):
ago will be absurd can it?
Speaker 3 (25:23):
Can it get as good as that again?
Speaker 4 (25:25):
So the answer is no, but not because of the
way you think. Okay, you went through things that are
now a part of who you are. There's a philosophical
saying a man never crosses the same river twice. So
you cross the river, the river's flowing, you could literally
(25:45):
turn around and cross that river again and it's changed.
So in two years a ton of things have changed
for you, right, So to be who you were then
isn't fair because you can't be You've gone through some
significant things. Now. Here's a question, though, is you said,
can you get back there? My statement would be could
it be better?
Speaker 3 (26:06):
Yes?
Speaker 4 (26:07):
I mean it could be. It could be you you
went through something traumatic with a divorce that theoretically you're
on the other side of that now and you actually
feel better about where you are your relationships.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
Yes, absolutely, Yes, Emotionally yes, i'd met a better place
after three years ago and then, but you know, taking
this horrific fall right, that's completely now, Like I need
help to get my body back to being strong again.
Speaker 4 (26:36):
Yeah, And I think that that's part of it too.
It's understanding what can you do?
Speaker 3 (26:42):
Yes, what are my limitations?
Speaker 4 (26:44):
Yeah, yeah, because we all I mean, and you talk
about age, you know, as you get older, it's like
you've got all these things. I have a hip flexer
that I tore gosh eight years ago now and just keeps.
We can finding new like we're clearly peeling back the onion,
another one, another, one, other one, and it's just an
(27:07):
on going thing. And it's the reality is is it's
a part of my history and I can't do anything
about it. So I just have to work within those
limitations and realize, Okay, well what can I do? How
do I modify a just you know, your foot if
you were a runner, Well maybe it Ronnie's not gonna
be the thing you can do anymore. But could you row?
Could you bike? Could you bike the same trailers? Go
(27:30):
further on those trails, fin more cool things. Absolutely, there's
plenty of ways to do it. It's just a matter
of And this is where again I think it does
help sometimes to this idea of people will say everyone
needs a coach, the idea of having somebody to have
an outsider's perspective, be irrational and go, you know what,
(27:52):
you're right, You can't be what you were, but you
could be better, and let's find a way to start
again the ripple effect, drop that first pebble in and
start to see what happens and where we go and
how we can just build momentum and more and more.
Speaker 3 (28:07):
I love that. I love that.
Speaker 4 (28:08):
Yeah, So.
Speaker 2 (28:12):
Your platform fit legacy again is about thriving at work,
it's at home.
Speaker 3 (28:17):
It's just improving your health.
Speaker 2 (28:19):
What's your message to moms who feel like you know,
they're constantly dropping the vall you.
Speaker 3 (28:23):
They feel like that failure. We don't want you to
feel that way.
Speaker 2 (28:27):
I can clearly tell how you are setting yourself different
from other gyms. Your mission is very clear. But what
is the one thing you will tell moms right now?
Speaker 4 (28:36):
Yeah, so give yourself some grace.
Speaker 3 (28:41):
Love that word.
Speaker 4 (28:42):
If you look on social media right now, you could
go in your phone, look on social media, doesn't matter
whatever medium you're using. You can find somebody that you know,
a mom probably the same age as you are. Similar
on vacation, you can find another one who's at home
spending a ton of time being present with their kids.
And then one more who just got a big promotion
(29:04):
or got accolades professionally. But those are all individual events,
and yet when you look at that in that lens,
you just feel overwhelmed. I haven't done any of those things, right,
I'm not even close to any of those things. But independently,
what did each of those people sacrifice to be doing
(29:26):
what they're doing right then and there? And so it's
the idea of finding a starting point. But also with
that word grace, is that if we seek perfection, we're
never going to get where we need to go. We
have to create some sort of buffer and barrier. And
I've been using this for a long time and it
(29:47):
really stems from so I call it the elite formula,
but it stems from the old school grading system in school,
so a B and C grade. Okay, so let's take
an example for you. One thing that's really important is sleep.
Speaker 2 (30:03):
Yes, oh yes, yes, it is something I struggle with
actually ever since having my daughter insomnia for like fourteen years.
Speaker 4 (30:10):
Okay, yeah, perfect, we'll take that sixt me. So we
know that seven hours of sleep is kind of the
gold standard, and which really means you probably need to
give yourself closer to a seven hour thirty minute sleep opportunity,
meaning time in bed to time awake because you're not
going to fall asleep right away. You're gonna wake up
in the middle of the night, might rustle around, and
(30:31):
so to get that seven hours a golden opportunity. We
need to get seven hours and thirty minutes of time
in bed, and elite would be seven nights. That would
be like the optimal as you get that and you're
doing amazing, right, but for us to expect that that's
going to be feasible right now with you would be absurd.
(30:55):
We want to set that as a goal, a goal
or like where we could head to, but we all
need to be really realistic. So that would be an
A grade, okay. Then B grade is you're doing really
well and you're feeling like you're exceeding, right, so elite
exceed Okay, that'd be a B grade. Maybe for you
that's five out of seven nights a week that you're
(31:17):
achieving that, And then C grade, so elevating yourself maybe
right now with your schedule on the weekends, when you
can sleep in and you don't really have obligations, maybe
that's when you're getting those that's seven hours and thirty
minutes or more of sleep opportunity, and that real true
like ideal amount of sleep, So twice a week. Maybe
(31:40):
our elevate level, our C grade is four out of
seven nights. Finding two week nights a week where you
can modify your sleep habits, You can get yourself ready
to go to bed earlier, you can do all the
things that you know that you need to do, meditation
or you know, sleep mask, whatever it is that you
(32:00):
do to like calm down and relax to get to
the point of getting that sleep four nights a week
versus just two. Because we all know the phrase sees
get degrees.
Speaker 3 (32:12):
Oh no, I'm just writ down there.
Speaker 4 (32:15):
No, I don't think I've heard that es So the
elevator stass is like, let's find a way to just
have success and know that the controllables. Now for you
with your daughter, hold is you fifteen? Okay, so more
than likely she's not coming into your bedroom and waking
up in the middle of night.
Speaker 3 (32:30):
No, she just wants to be left alone in her room,
believe me.
Speaker 4 (32:33):
But I'm guessing you have a lot of listeners who
that's a struggle for the right and we can't expect
to control everything, certainly, not that. And to set the
standard of seven as seven nights would be absurd. Sometimes
it might happen, but if it doesn't, it doesn't mean
that you're failing. So creating YEA, creating a spectrum, creating
(32:55):
a continuum so that you can go, Okay, I'm I'm
doing what I need to do. I mean, all be
my family, maybe in this conversation of like, hey, I
need to get two week nights a week at least,
where I'm getting these seven hour and thirty minutes sleep opportunities,
can you help me?
Speaker 2 (33:10):
Sure?
Speaker 4 (33:11):
And and then it becomes a family effort. But because
once you start doing that, this is something that we've
found over and over again, is it can be very difficult.
And imagine you probably experienced this is when you don't
know what good feels like, it's very difficult to understand
(33:32):
how bad like bad sleep is. But if you slept
well and then all of a sudden you have insomnia, like,
oh my gosh, I know what I was capable of,
I know what I was doing, how I felt, my energy,
my mood, all these things, and now I'm sleeping terribly
and it's it's so bad. Yeah, But getting starting to
(33:54):
build that momentum towards recognition of hey, four nights out
of seven US of good quality sleep.
Speaker 3 (34:01):
I will take it. I will take it.
Speaker 4 (34:03):
You'll feel amazing, and they to find ways to level
that up. That becomes your standard.
Speaker 3 (34:09):
I think that's fabulous.
Speaker 2 (34:11):
Yeah, and that's just who that's just my my my makeup.
My brain is always racing because you know, I'm a
very like you know, with work and stuff. I'm always
on the go, so it's just very hard for me
to decompress. But I think you are fabulous shared. I
think what you have accomplished here in our community, what
your vision is, what your mission is, especially for moms.
I do want to let them know how can they
(34:33):
like get in touch with you?
Speaker 3 (34:35):
How do you start this?
Speaker 4 (34:36):
Absolutely so the best way is to honestly email us.
Speaker 3 (34:40):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (34:41):
I mean we have a website, so you have social media, yeah,
fitmadtown dot com, and I'm sure you're gonna link all
the socials and that sort of thing to the show notes.
But fitmadtown dot com. We're literally just emailing admin at
fitmadtown dot com.
Speaker 2 (34:55):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (34:56):
But we wanted to do is we wanted to provide
something special to the listeners. Okay, and so if you
just mention, hey heard you on the Mad Town Moms podcast.
We're going to do two things. So we talked about
motivation and discipline today, right, So we'll give ten percent
off of one month of either our Fit Strong so
(35:18):
that's our smaller group training or our fit personal training.
And if you attend ten sessions, so ten out of
the ideal twelve, we're going to give you a fit
Strong T shirt. So kind of our way of saying, hey,
you're disciplined. Yeah, even if you don't after that month,
join and want you like we know you are like
(35:40):
a good representative of our brand. You gave us a
fair shot. Yeah, and you put the work in. You've
earned this.
Speaker 3 (35:47):
I love that.
Speaker 4 (35:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (35:48):
Okay, well that sounds good to me. H. I definitely
know that I would love the opportunity to just you know,
try try you out, and you know'd love to have you.
Speaker 3 (35:58):
See where I am at.
Speaker 2 (35:59):
I'm getting a second opinion with this foot, you know,
seeing what maybe I need to do more when it
comes to occupational therapy or ot whatever, but probably getting
into a gym is probably the way that I need to.
Speaker 4 (36:11):
Go wellnes I think the reality too is we have
connections to a breadth of healthcare players, right. I mean
that's and that's we started the whole conversation about networking
with doctor Rich and but all that kind of stuff
we can help with that. If we don't, if we
realize that we can't, like you're out of our scope
(36:32):
in practice, we can find somebody who either we can
help you or refer you to who can then maybe
refer you further.
Speaker 3 (36:38):
Wonderful.
Speaker 4 (36:39):
That's the kind of stuff that we take pride in
because we also know that we aren't magic makers. We
can't do it all. But if we align ourselves with
people who are good in their own respective industries, again,
the goal is to have a huge impact on this
community in a healthy, sustainable.
Speaker 2 (37:00):
I love that well, and that's clear for you to
offer that and be like, you don't necessarily have to
be with us.
Speaker 3 (37:05):
We will get you the best.
Speaker 2 (37:07):
So once again, give it up to Jared mark Away.
It's a founder of Functional Integrated Training, a performance gym
right here in Fitchburg, coaching over two hundred and fifty
clients in personal and small group training.
Speaker 3 (37:17):
I would love to have you back if you want to.
Speaker 2 (37:20):
And then well, I mean, I'm sure we could talk forever,
but I would love to have you back as a guest.
Speaker 4 (37:24):
I'd love to be back. This would be fantastic, wonderful man.
Speaker 3 (37:27):
Well, thank you so much, shared for being amazing.
Speaker 2 (37:29):
You're you're adorable and uh yeah, I'm sure you've got
places to go. You have softball, honey, you got things
to do.
Speaker 4 (37:35):
Dad. I'm going all right.
Speaker 3 (37:37):
Until next time, Matt Tam We'll talk to you then.
Speaker 1 (37:41):
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