#RELATIONSHIP GOALS (EDITED)

We All Have Different Relationships In Our Lives, but are We Making Sure To Invest The Proper Time And Things Into The Most Important Relationship We Have, Which Is With GOD?

Episode Transcript

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Mmmmm hm. Come up walking throughthem like man, it's the hour where
you didn't get some pair of change. Nothing, feel of power already got
that. Do it take you.I'll treat the worst of light and food.
Then it get the vow hip focusedgrand heart you when they don't notice

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this the holy water, who gonnahelp me? Poa make complain and put
in most. They do the mostwhen you chose this for the ones who
I spoken. If you up whenyou're broken, walking through them like man,
it's like our where you didn't getsome pair of change, nothing,
phil of power already got that.Do it the worst offs and food,

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the meeting God's beautiful people. Andwelcome to another exciting episode of the Mike
Minister. Our I am your host. That's always the Mic Minister, and
as always a kind of the blessing. I kind of a joy, I
kind of an honor to be withyou yet again in another episode of this

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thing that we call life. Alwaysa new year, y'all, but we're
still walking with God. We're stilltrusting Him, still showing the faith,
still seeing what God has for usin this life. You understand it.
As we get closer to God,we get closer to understanding ourselves, get
closer to understanding our purpose, getcloser to having better temperament for one another,
better love for one another. Oh, I know y'all haven't heard me
in a while, But I'm stillon God's side. I'm still coming by

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his blood. I am still seekingand searching for what ways God can manifest
himself more in my life? Whatmade ways he can give me more wisdom
to share with you, What waysHe can fix things in my life with
about you, y'all? They sayon that New Year song, may all
little queen tins be for God.Nah. God is a good God,

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Yes he is. That's what wehave because this is the year. This
is the year that you can getyour breakthrough. This is the year that
you can finally get out that wretyou've been in. This is the year
that you can finally see what Godhas for you. But the question is
are you ready? All? You'regetting ready? Are you even open?
Do you have the faith? All? You're gonna trust him? All,
you're gonna follow his lead. Wegot to stop putting ourselves before God.

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We got to stop putting our handson God's hand instead of trying to make
God follow us or make God fallin line with what we want. We
need to start following the line.So I am here. Oh. I
know it's been a while since wespoke, and I miss y'all, but
I thank God. I know Godhas been keeping you. I know God
has been molding you. I knowGod has been stretching you. I know
God has been putting more roots inthe ground for you. But all of

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that won't matter if we don't giveGod a chance. All of that but
manifests itself if we don't put ourhands in God's hands. I said earlier
not to put your hand in frontof God's But you put your hand in
God's hand, he can lead youanywhere, just like when we was a
little kid. You remember when youwas young, or matter of fact,
I think back to when we areyoung. We either have kids or grandkids
at this point, when you're little, and that little person gets a hold

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of the hand of the person thatthey trust, Oh my goodness, they
just know they can do anything.So imagine, as children of God,
if we put our hand in godhand, the things that we can do.
If we put our hand in God'shands, the mountains we can overcome,
and we put our hand in Godhands, how we could really see
who we are. But until wedo it, we're just living. Until

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we do it. We're just here. Until we do it, we won't
know who we are. I amso thankful. I am so grateful to
be back with you. It's beena while, It's been a lot going
on again. We're in the newyear. You know, the last time
we spoke, it was twenty twentythree, but now it's twenty twenty four,
so much has happened. Matter offact, since we spoke. Just
to give you a little testimony,me and my wife has moved to a

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whole nother state. God has openeda door to where we're halfway across the
country. Now, I was inSouth Carolina, but now I'm a'm in
Texas and I'm here. We've beenhere for a couple of months, getting
settle in seeing what God has forus, not only for us, but
for what for He have for usto do. Excuse my little fumbling,
but y'all know how it goes.We all humans. Sometimes we fumble over
our words. But just like inlife, sometimes you fumble, you might

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trip, But the question is doyou stop, do you give up?
Or do you keep going. Weall gonna make mistakes in life. But
the question is what do we dowhen we make those mistakes. Do we
get up knock ourselves off? Ordo we say, Oh God, I
can't move any more, Oh God, Oh God, woe is me?
God? No, no more,woe was me? No more, Old
God. I can't do no more, Old God. I'm not good enough
no more. That This is theyear. This is a matter of fact.

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Forget this is the year. Nowforget it. But let's let's take
it more deep. This is theday that the Lord has made. I
will rejoice and be glad in it. This is the day that God allowed
me to wake up. He didn'tmake no mistakes, so he didn't let
me wake up by mistake. Hewoke me up because he has a purpose
in my life. He woke meup because he had something to teach me.
He woke me up because he hadsomething for me to learn. He

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woke me up because he had somethingto pull out of me. He woke
me up because he wants me tobe a blessing to someone else. He
woke me up because I needed tobe here today to tell you that you
could make it through. I neededto be here today and let you know
that it's not over. I neededto be here today to tell you you
are more than a conqueror. MWe thank God. We thank God.

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I thank God for each and everyone of you. I'm so thankful to
be back, so thankful. Thisis part of my purpose. When I
am doing this, there is afeeling on the inside that I am making
God happy. When I am speakingthese words of encouragement to you, it
makes me feel that I am doingwhat God wants me to do. I
don't care if it's one person ofone hundred people, but as long as
someone get this message, as longas someone hears my voice and it changes

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something in their atmosphere that I feelthat I've done what God had me to
do, and I will not slackoff. I will not stop. I
might have to sometimes we have topause to put things or take care of
things, but that don't mean youstop. Matter of fact, in a
boxing match, they have twelve rounds, and then between each round don't they
stop. They go to the corner, they take a break. They don't
stop to fight unless somebody getting beatup too bad. But normally the bell

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rings, you go to your corner. You're regrouping, you come back out.
So I was in the corner fora minute, regrouping, and now
it's time to come back out.It's a lot more you're gonna see than
just the Mike Minister, how Igot some things burthen that's gonna happen this
year. And to be honest withYou'm gonna tell y'all straight up, Mike
Minister is not always confident in everythinghe do. Mike Minister doubts sometimes.
Mike Minister and I never doubt God, but I doubt myself sometimes I feel

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I don't have enough. But Godis tired of hearing those excuses, and
be honest with you, those excusesit's not gonna have things get done.
So I thank God for helping meunderstand it no matter what I feel,
that what God has put in me, what God has done for me,
is greater than what I feel.Because feelings will set you up if you're
not careful. Feelings will set youup if you're not careful. So we

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thank God for me not falling forthe setup. We thank God for you
not falling for the setup, foryou understanding that whatever God has for you
is for you and if you don'tgo for it, then you won't get
it. It is that simple.So we thank God. I thank God.
I thank God for all the platformthat allows us to still bring forth
this encouragement to the people. I'mgonna just make it simple for you.

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If you're listening for the first timeand you hear something that you like,
I asked that you share this withsomebody. I ask that you like it.
I acust you subscribe. I askfor those who want to know how
to get to The Mic Minister Hour, because this is my first episode for
the new year, but we haveepisodes that I cranked out the last couple
of years, and you could googlethe thch Mike Mic Minister Hour and it

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will show you what platform. Onwhatever platform you listen on, I'm pretty
sure you can catch the Mic MinisterHour. And I'm so thankful for those
of you who had tuned in inthe past year or so. I'm so
thankful for those of you who havelistened, who have shared, because the
truth of the matter is, ifyou're not listening, I'm talking to myself.
But I when I make these episodes, I trust and believe that God
put it in me. And whenI put it out in an atmosphere,

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those who need to hear it aregoing to hear it. So my job
is not to go and look andwonder and start asking, hey, did
you check out my Saul? Didyou listen to my shore? We wouln't
talk about That's not my job.My job is simply the do of God
put on my heart, and that'sjust to put these episodes out so that
you can get it. So,what is going to be the first thing

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we talk about on the new year? Mike Minister? What is the first
thing that we're gonna talk about thisyear? Oh? So many things we
could talk about. I could talkabout, I mean to be honest,
if we go online. You know, it's been a been a lot of
division going on in the church sincethe new year, just since the new
year, we're still in January,just since the new year. We could

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talk about the wars, the rumors, awards, how the word is being
fulfilled. We could talk about somany things. But the thing that I've
always said that it's very important tome to share with God's people is the
thing that we're going to talk abouttoday. So the thing that I want

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us to focus on today The thingthat I would like to bring to our
attention is in life, every oneof us has this. Some of us
have more than one of this,but we all have I'll say at least
two two to three of what I'mabout to talk about. But let me
say this what we have. Nomatter what we have in life, no

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matter what we obtain in life,no matter what we lose in life,
none of it is more important thanGod. There is no accomplishment we could
attain in life. There is noblessing that God can give us. There
is nothing that we can do forourselves. There's nothing that somebody can give
you. There's nothing that is greaterthan God. When we understand that there

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is nothing greater than God, whenwe accept that there is nothing greater than
God, when we submit to knowingthat there is nothing greater than God,
it starts making things easier in ourlives. When I say easier, When
I say easy, I don't alwaysmean that the situation is going to be
easy. But even at the situationand hard, your understanding might be easier,
Your patience might be easier, Yourtemperament during the process may be easier.

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That's what I'm saying. It shouldbe easy. And let me say,
maybe it should be because if we'retrusting God and giving it to God
the way we say we are,then those things should come easy. But
on today, the thing that Iwant us to look at is ultimately in
life. Like I was starting tosay, we have different relationships in our
life. For those who are marriedor in a boyfriend girlfriend relationship, you

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have that relationship. You have arelationship with your kids. You have a
relationship with your job, you havea relationship with your church, you have
a relationship with your friends. There'sso many relationships that we have in our
life. But the most important relationshipyou won't ever have in your life is
the one that we have with God. So on today, what I want

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to talk about I'm going to comefrom the topic of relationship goals. I
say again, relationship goals. Now, we know we've heard that term used
before, but we're so used toseeing it on Facebook or Instagram when we
see couples going around the world orthey're building a business and they put hashtag
relationship goals, hashtag oh we wentto Egypt, We're riding camels hashtag relationship

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goals, and we went to fiverestaurants to night there, eat some fine
dining. Relationship goals. We startedto do business and we're selling these T
shirts, are we selling these candles, We're selling whatever, but we're doing
it together. We're starting this journeyrelationship goals. Don't we know that?
In order for us to do anythingin life, or order us to accomplish

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anything in life, and they trulystand the way it should stand, we
need to have a relationship with God. So the question we ask ourselves today
as we go through this topic,what are your relationship goals? Do you
have relationship goals? Are you livingto obtain those relationship goals that we have

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with God? Let's think about that. So the first thing I want to
talk about before we get into thescriptures on this episode, I want to
look at the definition or really threedefinitions of relationship so we get a better
understanding of what we're looking at now. The first definition is the state of

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being connected. First and foremost,we have to be connected to God.
That means we should be spending timewith God. That means we should be
in prayer with God, communion withGod. If we're not spending time with
him, there is no way thatwe can be connected if we're not reading
about him. There is no wayyou can be connected if you're not talking
to him. How you're going tobe connected? How connected do we feel

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to people that we rarely talk to, that we really communicate with, So
keep that in mind. The seconddefinition is being connected by blood or marriage.
God said in the word we're coveredby Jesus blood. We're connected to

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God by Jesus sacrificing himself, Sohis blood we say a lot time,
I plead the blood of Jesus.I plead the blood. So by blood
we're connected to God. God.We are made in God's image, by
his image, So by blood we'reconnected to God. So already in the
relationship, you have to understand you'realready connected to him. So being that

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you're connected to him by blood,that should make it easier for you to
communicate with him because you should understandyou're already in the first thing that I
said, the state of being connected, because you're connected by the blood and
by being made in His image.Now, the third definition is the way
two or more groups regard and behavetowards one another. Hmm, that's the

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thing we got to think about.How are we acting towards God? How
are we behaving towards God? Arewe showing him that we have relationship goals?
Or are we showing him that wereally barely in this relationship? Now,
and think about that for a second. We've all I'm pretty sure if

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you've lived long enough, if youhave enough relationships, I don't care if
it's a job, whatever. Haveyou You've been in a relationship where you've
been on one side or you're wondering, is the other person really in this
relationship? Do they really care asmuch as I do? Or they putting
forth the effort that I'm putting forth? Are they really in this relationship like
I am? On the flip side, you've been that person that's been in

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a relationship. What about that jobyou don't like anymore? Is your relationship
with your job really that good?Do you really care about showing up?
Do you really care about being ontime? Are you're really giving one hundred
percent? Where are you at thattime? So the truth of the matter
is God it's never short changing usin the relationship. We are the ones
that short change Him. But thething that we always have more is expectation

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on God. Then we want himto have expectation on us. And the
sad thing is God don't act halfof much as we acts of him.
God don't even need us, buthe definitely don't act as much of us
that we acts of him. Sowe got to understand that in this thing,
in this relationship, we should begoing and moving towards a point to

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where God can look down and seethat we are just as invested in this
relationship. We're trying to get thisrelationship to the same place that God wants
it to be. If we're notdoing that, as God always graciously does,
he sends us an opportunity to changewhat we're doing. So here is
our opportunity, y'all say, opportunitynot so I just let it knock for

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you. So now let's look ata couple of scriptures that's gonna drive this
home a little more. First,one I would like to look at is
Romans, the fifth chapter in theeighth verse. It's Romans the fifth chapter
in the eighth verse. Now itreads, but God commendeth his love towards

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us that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Hmm.
So we know, first thing inrelationship we want to be love and accepted.
We here all the time. Takeme, ask who I am.
You gotta accept me for who Iam. And that's what we want.
We want people to accept us.Now, the funny thing about that,

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we got a hard time accepting peoplefor who they are. We want to
change people all the time. Wewant people to be different. We want
people to fit into this mold.Aren't we living in a season where if
you ain't doing right by me,if you ain't doing what I need you
to doing, cutting you off.So we already starting in a relationship wanting
more than what we're willing to give. Never have I heard anybody saying the
season I'm gonna give in a relationshipwhat that person needs. I'm gonna be

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a better friend, I'm gonna bea better No, it's always on the
other side. So now we needto start looking at what are we doing
or what are we bringing to therelationship. We should be bringing to the
relationship the same things that we're expectingto receive out of relationship. You shouldn't
be in a relationship expecting someone toaccept you for who you are, as

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as God has already done. Butthen we turn and we want people to
fit this mold before we accept them. The sad thing about that is the
first thing about that is that's unfair. If I am expected to accept you
for who you are, then Ishould be allowed to expect the same in
return. The thing is a truefriend to me, this is my opinion,

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is one who accepts the person forwho they are and not accordingly.
I never try to change anybody thatI call friend, because if I'm their
friend, I'm accepting them for whothey are. Now. We have habits,
and we see things that may beself destructive or things that irritate,
and we may talk about those things. But the truth of the matter is
that's a grown person. If theywant to change, they will change.
If they don't, then I'm notabout to hold it against them because obviously

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that's the season that they're in.If it bothers me that much, then
I have a choice to make.But first choice should be to pray for
them, because if it's now,let me say this, if you're praying,
if you're praying to God to tellsomebody to stop telling you the truth
because it bothers you, No,no, no, you need a change.
You need to be praying to Godto ask God to make you more
receptive to the truth. Now,if this person is always speaking condescending down

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to you and it bothering you,then yes, you need to pray about
that. But let's be mindful becausesome things that we don't like in the
relationship about a person are not acceptingare actually things that help mold us.
Or maybe some eye and sharpening eyesto be mindful of that. But what
I'm saying is, just as Godaccepted us, we should accept God.
We should accept others. We wantGod to only come the way we want
him. We want God to answerprayers the way we want him to.

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But ultimately we supposed to be ata place where God, I'm calling for
your help. God, I trustyou. So however you do it,
God, I will accept. Butunderstand, even if you don't accept this,
you still should look at the factthat God still accepted you and loved
you even though we weren't in theright standing. Next scripture to drive this

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home to show you that God lovedit so much. John three sixteen says,
for God so loved the world thathe gave his only begotten son,
that whosoever believeth in him should notperish, but have everlasting life. So
the show not only did he acceptus, not only did he accept us

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in the mess that we was in, not only that to show you that
he loved us, To show ushow much he loved us, He said,
his only son to die for oursins. He didn't send Jesus to
die for jesus sins. He didn'tsend him to die for God say,
because they didn't have any It wasus. So God said, I love

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you. I'm gonna accept you forwho you are. Not only that I'm
gonna show you. I'm gonna showyou what my goals are. I love
you so much that I'm gonna sendmy only son to die for you.
How many of us is willing togive up with the last the best thing
we have in this relationship with God, That pride that you're holding on too,
that you feel it's protecting you fromany more hurt? Are you're willing

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to give that up for to havea better relationship with God? That hurt
that you're holding on to for tentwenty years, that you say helps you
from being hurt again, even thoughyou're not getting any healing, because that
hurt has you bogged in and you'renot even letting healing in. You're so
worried about letting more hurt in.You forgot that you're not letting healing in
either, and that God wants toheal you are you're giving that up for
this relationship goal. What are wegiving up? What are we giving up?

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Are we giving up our habits?What are we giving up to show
God that we invested in this relationship? That's what we need to be asking
ourselves. But understand, if wewant to show that we have relationship goals
with God, that means we gotto be connected. Like I said before,
that's in the definition of the stateof being connected. How do we

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show that we are being connected?God showed us by giving up his only
begotten son. Not only that,God shows us by waking us up every
day in our mistakes. Don't wehave all made mistakes in life? Have
we always faced the worst outcome becauseof our mistakes that we put the mess
that we put ourselves into. No, a lot of times, how many
tell you we said, Oh God, I thank you, Ooh God,

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that could have been worse than that. Oh my God, I thank you
for not letting that happen. Sowhen are we gonna get to the point
where we're able what God is ableto say. Whooh boy, I'm glad
you took that road. I'm gladyou listened. Man, look at my
son. Then we could show himthat we're serious about this relationship too.
Now, if we're going to bein this relationship, that means we got

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to show that we're committed John fifteenand five. This is Jesus talking,
and he said, I am thevine. Ye are the branches He that
abideth in me, and I inhim the same bringing forth much fruit.

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For without me, ye can donothing. So we got to understand first
and foremost that you know, ina relationship, there's normally a stronger person,
then there's a weaker person, andthey help bring along. Now we
look at relationships because we're human andwe want to say, well, now
I ain't the weak when nobody wantsto be the weak one. So what
we say is we're fifty to fifty, I bring this. But the truth

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is even in your fifty to fifty, there's areas where the man is stronger
in one area and the woman bringsalong, or the woman be stronger in
this area. We all in everyrelationship you have certain lanes that the person
you're a relationship with rides better thanyou, and you know the stay in
your lane. That's when relationships work. When you know the lane that you're
in, You work in your lane, and you stay there. You make
sure that you're riding in that lane. So I'm saying that to say understand

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that we are the weaker when itcomes to God, when it comes to
Jesus, when it comes to theHoly Spirit, we need them. So
he said he is the vine.We are the branches, and we abide
in him, and we allow himto bide in us, we'll bring forth
much fruit. So relationship goes whenwe looking online, when we're looking at

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people. When we look at people, never say they want to have a
relationship like somebody who's never doing anything. You looking at fruitful people when you
when you see in the world everybodywant to be a pile couple. It
won't be jay Z and Beyonce.Me and my wife have no desire to
be beat jay Z and Beyonce becausefirst and foremost I don't know what it
took to be them too. Theirlife don't don't line up to what I

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visualize my life to be in God. Nothing against them. Everybody got a
right to choose and live the waythey want. But I'm just saying we
look at other people to try todictate how we want or what we think
the fruits supposed to be. Butif when we invest in God, when
we spend that time with God,God shows us what fruit really is.
We think a lot of time fruitmeans money, Fruit could be peace,

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fruit could be having being a trustingperson. We allow the world to tell
us what those things look like insteadof going to God. So when we
go to God, let me askyou this question, does your relationship with
God show connective fruit or disconnected emptiness? If we look at our life,

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can you look at your life andwhat's going on right now and say,
oh, man, this fruit's comingfrom me being connected to God? Are
you feeling empty because you're disconnected?That question alone will let you know what
you need to do and give youa gauge to where you're at with God.
But I can't answer that for you. And the truth of the matter
is you can answer it, butyou must answer it truthfully. Hallelujah,

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hallelujah. Next scripture Hebrews eleven andsix. It's another thing. So are
we trusting God enough to even bein a relationship with him? What we're
asking ourselves? Because if we're not, if we're not in a relationship like
we're supposed to be, if wedon't have a relationship with goals with God,

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that means there is either a lackof trust or there's a lack of
accountability. But we have to decidewhich one it is now. Hebrews eleven
and six says, but without faith, it is impossible to please him.
For he that cometh to God mustbelieve that He is and that He is
a rewarder of them that diligently seekhim, diligently seek him. Relationship goals?

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Do we diligently seek God? Dowe have the faith in God?
Relationship goals? Name me a relationshipthat works when you don't have faith in
the person you're in a relationship with. Furthermore, show me a relationship that
works when you don't diligently work atthat relationship. Try to get with that

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man or woman that you've been wantingto get the relationship with, but never
call, never talk to, andevery time they try to show you something,
you show that you don't trust them. How far in that relationship you
think you're going to get. Idon't think you're going to get that far.
First and foremost, God wants usto understand that he needs us to
trust him. What are you praying? Why are we praying to God while
we asking God for deliverance? Whyare we asking God for all these things

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if we're not even gonna give himthe trust that he's gonna do it.
We want people to trust us.We say, trust me, I can
do this. We go on jobsall the time, having interviews, sending
in applications because we want them totrust us to do the job. If
they don't trust us, then wehave a problem with that. So how
you think God feels if we actthat way with him? We can't please

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him without trusting him, because youcan't. If you don't trust him,
you're not going to follow. Ifyou don't trust him, you're not going
to have the relationship that you needto have. I'm not talking about the
relationship when you go on Sunday thisso everybody can see that you believe there's
a God. I'm talking about therelationship you have on Monday through Saturday when
people ain't looking, when you bringin everything, casting your kids upon him
because he cares for you. Whenyou bring everything to God, That's what

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I'm talking about. That's what Godis looking for someone to trust him,
because when you trust him, thatmeans you're saying to God, God,
you are the one with the answers. I don't have them all. God,
I know you're gonna show me theway. I don't know how to
get there. God, I amtrusting you. Once God knows that you
trust him, then he could startreally showing you some things. Put your
trust in God and see where thatrelationship goes. If you think you trust

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him, take it up another leveland see where your relationship goes. Because
the more you're in the way youtrusted that man or woman in year one
is way different than when you trustedthem in year ten, year five,
year fifteen. The more you trust, the more you gain trust. Just
a suggestion. So again, alwaysshowing that we trust him, what's our

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relationship goes? One Peter the fifthchapter, the sixth verse. Now I
understand there are certain things in therelationship that we should have in order to
show we're invested in that we're tryingto get to where we were going to
be. And first Peter tells usone of the main things that we have

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to have. And first Peter fiveand six says, humble yourselves therefore under
the mighty hand of God, thatHe may exalt you in due time.
If you really trust God, thenyou humble yourself under the mighty hand of
Him. We're allowing pride and faithin man dictate how we move in our

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relationship with God. And when Isay faith in man, I mean outside
your body, and I mean sometimesthe faith in yourself. The funny thing
is faith in man. The lackof faith that you have in yourself sometimes
hinders us from going in a relationshipfor God. We'll say we know we're
not good enough, but we won'tgo to God to help to have him
build us up. We will saywe don't know it all, but it'll
say I need to know more beforeI go to God. When God says

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clearly in his word, if youlack wisdom, asks the of God,
he'll give it to you liberally,just freely. But you got to trust
Him enough to go to him toask for it. Got to humble yourself.
People all the time. There's asong in the Word saying humble yourself.
There's a lot of songs to talkabout humbling yourself. We'll tell people
in a minute, humble yourself.Don't talk to me that way. You
better humble the way you talk tome. But we want humble ourselves before

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God. We won't bring things.We want humble ourself enough to pray to
God. We won't humble ourselves enoughto come to God. We try to
move faster. We want to humbleourselves to wait for when God tells us
to move, to wait for whenGod's ready to exalt us. Oh no,
God, you take it too long. In a relationship, we say,
you can't change that man, youcan't change that woman. You can't

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make them do what you want themto do. But we expect people to
do what we want them to dowhen we want him to do it.
That doesn't make sense. We gottatrust that God is going to move at
the right time, and we gotto humble ourselves to wait for when God
is ready to move us. That'sthe way it works. You can try
to move all you want, butGod gonna move in his time because his
time is not our time. Histhoughts, it's not our thoughts. So

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if we really trust him, We'llhumble ourselves and allow him to move us
as he wants us to move.Now, it's another thing that we got
to look at when it comes torelationship goals. What's the biggest thing that

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we want in our relationship. Now, I know the ladies out there are
gonna say this, they can screamthis. We want you to be honest.
You got to be honest with me. Now there's a lot more men
saying that. Now you don't wantyou got to be honest. You've got
to tell me the truth. Thetruth is, we all want to be
told the truth. Now, letme say a little thing about truth as

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a side note, we want tobe told the truth, but a lot
of times we want to be toldthe truth that we want to hear.
But the truth of the matter is, in any relationship, you should be
open to have any truth, whateverthe truth is, because sometimes the truth
is what I need to tell youis not something you're gonna like, But
I need to tell you the truth. Now, all we always receptive to
receive that truth that we claim wewant. I'll see you many time I

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have people tell me tell me thetruth, and I'll ask them you sure
you want the truth, and they'lltell me yes, and I'll tell them
the truth to their question that theyask me. And now we have a
problem. Now there's a disconnect.Now you're upset with me, and to
be honest, I used to allowthat to make me feel bad. But
the truth is, you ask mefor the truth. So if you ask
me, and then I ask youbehind that, if you want to want

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the truth and you say yes,then I need to give you the truth.
A lot of times we're not givingpeople the truth because we're worrying about
their feelings. But I'd rather toupset you with the truth that will make
you better and to make you happywith a lie that's going to turn around
and make you mad later. Butall we being honest with God, That's
why I brought this up. Allwe being honest with God, do we

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give God honesty? Because in thisrelationship, we need to be honest with
God. So first John one Innnesays, if we confess our sins,
If we confess our sins, heis faithful and just to forgive us our
sins and to cleanse us from allunrighteousness. So in this relationship, go

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if we be honest, because mostof the time we are lying because we
are fair. We have fear ofthe repercussions of whatever it is we're lying
about, the shame, the ridicule, the letting of someone down, or
just not wanting to deal with theaccountability of what we did, whatever the
case may be. This is whywe lie. But God said, if

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we confess, we're honest with him. He is so faithful. And sometimes
we lie because we're afraid of somebodynot being faithful enough to accept what we
did wrong and still be there.And God said, if we be confessed,
just be honest with him. Heis faithful enough to not only forgive
you, but to cleanse you fromthe unrighteousness. And what relationship would you

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not want somebody to forgive the wrongnessyou did, and not only forgive you,
but blot it out, not throwit up in your face, Not
bringing up five years later. You'renot move past that. As soon as
you don't wash iton fork, thenit goes back to something you did five
years ago. God won't do thatto us, whereas our relationship goes with
him. But do we trust himenough, Oh, we humble enough to

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be honest enough with him, Becausethe truth of the matter is. The
crazy thing is God already know whatyou did. So when you're being honest
with him, it's not that you're, oh, I'm revealing something that I
hit from you. He just wantto know if you trust him enough to
open up to say out your mouth, God, I am that's your apology.
I'm confessing to you God. That'sme saying God, I'm sorry.
That's me saying God, I amhumbling myself from the pride of the misdeed

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that I did, and I'm bringingit not only bringing it to you,
but I'm asking for your forgiveness init. Are we willing to do that?
Because if we got relationship goals andwe're trying to get somewhere in God,
we should be more than willing todo that. God is so good,
y'all, if we just give hima chance. God is so good.
Because the truth of the matter is, we can be in denial.
All we want to denial sometimes inrelationships, sometimes we don't want to admit

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when we're wrong. We want toact like. We want to act like
the things we did wrong is becauseof other people. We want to act
like we act this way now we'vebeen hurt, but we always want to
blame it on someone else. Wewant to act like where I talk this
way because of what used to happento me. I do this because I'm
non trustful because this person hurt me. We always want to bring up this
other stuff that supposed to make itokay that we're a certain way, make

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it okay that we don't do certainthings. But the funny thing about that
is we say this to people,but we expecting relationships for them to give
us the things that we're not giving. Oh, I can't give you trust,
but I want you to trust me. I can't have faith in you
because other people fail me, butI want you to have faith in me
because I'm a good person. Itdon't work that way. The same thing
that you expecting is what you shouldbe giving. Again, in this relationship

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with God, we can't even giveGod what he gives us, but we
sure should be trying to give himthe best of us. But the next
time we want to say, inour early relationship, especially in our God
relationship, I can't give this becausesomeone else. Let me remind y'all every
one of something Romans three and twentythree. Let's make it real simple for
all have sinned and come short ofthe glory of God. So the next

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time we want to blame people,be honest. No, the person that
hurts you ten years ago may haveput you in the place of making you
starting to talk a certain way.But for you to carry it for ten
years and you ain't seen that personin ten years, that's your fault that
you're still carrying that that person ain'tseen you in ten years. So that
means in ten years you have it, taken it to God, and ten

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years you allowed it to fester,and ten years you allow you put thoughts
in there. You had times whereyou couldn't let it go, but you
kept feeding it because it takes energyto keep that anger going. Anger just
don't sit there. Anger just don'tlast. Just like anything, just like
love, just like peace. Allthings have to be fed. So anything
you carry for ten years, you'vebeen feeding that thing. You can lie
and say, matter of fact,you either feeding it, thank you,

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Holy Ghost. Or it's like weeds. So either you're feeding it or you're
not addressing it. If you goten years to lawn, weed's gonna grow.
We've seen videos where they got weedsall over the place and They're like,
why you didn't just pull it out? You pull it out by praying,
you pull it out by taking itto God to pull it out,
sometimes by not letting to just festerand grow. But we do that so
understand, Yes, people have wrongedus in life. Yes, we've been

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in a relationship with people. Didn'tthey wasn't there, they didn't do what
they said it was gonna do.I've been guilty of that, but we
all have been guilty of that.We haven't always been there for God.
We didn't always listen to God.God couldn't always turn to us and have
an expectation that we want to bethere. And we did what we're supposed
to do. But yet we don'twant to acknowledge that. So the second
we acknowledge that we have sinned,also that's the second we humble ourselves.

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Then we could go to God andask for forgiveness for the time we fall
short. And now we can say, you know what, God, you
even blotted out for me, You'restill showing faith to me. That should
be more than enough to show faithin God who hadn't even failed us.
But again, how are we lookingat it? Where you want your relationship
goals. You just want to sayyou know God, or you want to

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say you're a relationship with God becauselast time I checked. Think about this
for a second. When you gowith the famous people or somebody at a
show, any gotta be somebody famous. Let's say you go to a show.
It's three people, two people.We make it simple. Two of
you. Two of you go tothe show. Both of you know the
person whose show it is. Youjust acquainted with them. You never spent

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time with them, You never goto the house, all the little shows
they had, you never came theother person that you came with. They
went to everything. They was invested. Who you think that they got one
slot left? Who you think gettingin? Just food for thoughts. Now,
before I go to my last scripture, I want to leave with us.
It's a couple of things I wantto a couple of little tips I

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want to share that we should thinkabout when we are in this relationship goals
and we're building this relationship with God'sa couple of things that are paramount.
The first thing I feel it's qualitytime in any relationship. If you're not
putting in quality time, that relationshipis not going to grow. And when

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I say quality time, that meansthe times outside of you begging God for
something, we all do it.Now we're supposed to go to God,
says come boldly before the throne ofgrace. We go to God for forgiveness.
Were suposed to talk to him.Wes' that's our father. So yes,
that's who we go to to getthose things. But how many times
do we go to God and say, God, what can I do for
you? How many times do wego to God and say, God,

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you know what? Don't coming toyou today? Just to thank you for
who you are, thank you forbeing to God in my life. So
not only that, how do wedo that? How we spend quality time?
We stay connected through communication. Prayeris the straight connection to God.
If you're going to be in relationshipwith anybody, you got to talk to
him, him or her in thatrelationship. Don't communicate with your job for

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three days and you will lose it. We ain't communicating in some cases with
God and the three four months andGod still is waiting on us to come
talk to him. It says,when you get a job, you missed
three days and don't call us,We're gonna assume you just don't care anymore.
Call that person you're in a relationshipwith three times and they don't answer.

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They don't respond. Hm. Unlessyou one of them crazy people,
you just gonna cut them off allyou're gonna start lurking and trying to see
what's going on. Either way,it's gonna do something in you that's not
good. Just stay connected through communication. How you gonna know what God is
capable of in your life if younever talk to him to see also,

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in this relationship with God, thisis something that trips up a lot of
us, and I had to geta better understanding of it myself. Be
prepared for the ups and downs.No way in God's word that he say
that you're never gonna go through anything. Nowhere in the word that he said,
Hey, your life is just gonnabe peaches in just sunny days every

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I mean, we even have rainand regular weather. So God allows it
to rain to show you in life, it's going to rain some days.
It's going to be you have theplans, you make plans and stuff of
that nature, but that doesn't meanthat the clouds are not gonna come.
The difference is that you have Godwhen the clouds come. The difference is
that you're not just standing out withoutan umbrella covering you. There's always a
covering. But if you're not connectedand spending that quality time, you won't

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be prepared for the ups and downs. Now I talked about the downs,
but you got to be prepared forthe ups. Sometimes we get blessed by
God and God allows good things tohappen, and we forget about God.
They say success is easy to obtain, easier to lose. It's harder to
sustain that success that you obtained.But if you're connected with God, got

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to teach you and he'll give youthe wisdom and give you the right know
how to sustain that. And ohit's the last tip I want to leave
you with. This one is veryimportant. In all relationship. We do
more talking than we do listening.We can go and talk God's head off,
but until we learn how to listenlisten for the voice of God,

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a lot of us don't know whatthe voice of God because we don't listen
for the voice of God. Wedon't sit down and just clear our thoughts
and clear our wants to see whatGod has for us. Because sometimes if
we do that matter of fact,if we do that, then God will
tell us what it is that We'vebeen searching for. God to give us
the way to go about it,but we're not listening. Oh God,
I needs you. How far wehurry with that name? God need to

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do this, God need to dothat? Then we just get off our
needs. The funny thing is whenwe call and we're asking for debt relief.
When we call and we ask forthe extension, we got to sit
there and listen to what they gotto say. Think about that. You
know, God make things easy forus. We make it hard because we
try so hard to go around withGod's simply telling us to do. But

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the last scripture don't want us tocover on this episode, I'm keeping in
mind on things I'm talking about becausewe got to have relationship goals. James
four, chapter six through the eighthverse, and it says, but it
giveth more grace, wherefore he saith. God resists the proud, but giveth

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grace unto the humble. The humble, however you say it. Verse seven
says, submit yourselves. Therefore theGod resist the devil, and he will
flee from you and draw nigh toGod. And he will draw nigh to
you. Cleanse your hands, yesinners, and purify your hearts, ye

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double minded. Hmm. That scripturetouched on just about everything that we talked
about. First, understanding in thisrelationship that God gave us grace. We
don't normally, we give grace inrelationships to a point and then we get
fed up. And then you ain'tgetting no more grace. Then that worldly

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song said, when a woman fedup. Even in these days we've seen
when men have fed up. Whenwe're fed up, that's it. But
God giveth more grace. But whathe's gonna do. He's gonna resist those
who are too prideful to ask forthat grace, to appreciate that grace,
to humble themselves before that grace.But he's gonna give grace to those who
humble themselves to understand that we gottahave relationship goals, and we gotta invest

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things into this relationship in order forit to work. So we're gonna do
that. For seven says submit yourselfto God. The other part is submitting
yourself. You can't submit yourself toGod but still entertain the devil. You
gotta resist him and he will fleefrom you, and then't say that he
won't come back. Understand ups anddowns when he leaves. Oh, it's

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a good thing. But sometimes hegonna come back, and he's gonna come
back harder. You gotta resist bebe out here trying to fight the devil.
Come on, devil. Let meshow you what it is the devil.
The devil will break you off.The devil will break you off.
If you ain't got God in yourcorner, the devil gonna break you off.
It never been around way longer thanyou. He got more tricks,
he got more tools, and hegot an army of people that follow him.
You just you, And to behonest, we ain't that powerful and

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we ain't that important unless God iswith us, drawing out of God,
and he will draw nine to you. The closer we draw to God,
the closer he will draw to us. God does not stand office. But
God ain't about to be chasing you. Why should God chase you when he
got everything you need. We goin the stores and they don't have they
be soul out of something. We'llgo find five or six more of their

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stores to get what we need.But there's one God, and he got
everything we need and we be runningfrom him. Cleanse our hands because we've
all sinned and fallen short, andstop being double minded. Stop going to
God when you want something or whenyou think you need something, but don't
go to God when he needs tochange you, when he needs to cleanse
you, when he needs to getthat filthiness out of us. We should

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be putting into the relationship just likewe want God to put into a relationship.
I encourage each and every one ofyou on today stop falling short in
your relationship with God, because thetruth of the matter is God will never
acts more of you than what He'swilling to give. In every relationship in
this world. We are expected togive what we are receiving. If you
go on your job, to expectyou to work fifty five or more hours

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for a paycheck that they take mostlytaxes out of, and relationships on this
earth. A lot of times weare getting the short end of the stick
in these relationships that we have.And for those who getting putting in more
than you understand on that side aportion of what God is because even though
you're putting more in that relationship,you're allowing that more. You're putting in
to be taken from what you couldbe putting more into God. So if
we're not putting most of our whatever, our time, our energy, everything

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into God first, the other relationshipsare never going to manifest into what they
need to be. Some of thoserelationships are going about the wayside because God
is trying to show you that relationshipis not for you. The only relationship
that's going to stand the test oftime, the test of every situation,
the tests of every temperament, thetests of every up, every down,
every situation, is the one thatwe have for God. So I ask

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you on today, what is yourrelationship goes? Thank God for having a
relationship with us. We thank Godfor sending his son to even further show
how invested He is in this relationship. So now it's our time to show

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God how invested we are. Letus pray, Dear Heavenly Father, we
thank you God. We're starting offby thanking you for a new year.
We're thanking you for new us.We're thanking you for a new, deeper,
more profound relationship with you on thisyear. God, than we bring
all our cares to you. God, we bring all our praises to you.

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God, we bring our questions toyou. We bring everything to you,
God. And not only will webring it to you, God,
we will sit and we will suckwith you. Not only will we sit
and sup, we will sit andlisten. We will move when you tell
us to move. We will staywhen you tell us to stay. We
will speak when you tell us tospeak. Be quiet when you tell us
to be quiet, because we willhumble ourselves so that you may exalt us
in due time. God, Iask us you touch everyone under the sign

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of my voice. Touch those whohave never heard me, Father, touch
those have Father, but I askthem to be an encouragement to your people.
I ask Father than us on thisyear, starting today, and every
day moving forward, that we doeverything in our power to get closer to
You, That we do everything inour power to be who you have us
to be. Because God, weknow that you before us. It doesn't
matter who's against us. We thankyou God for your son, We thank

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you for your spirit. God.Actually to touch those that are in war
zones. Actually touch those that aredealing with bereathement, Touch those that are
questioning who you are, Show themwho you are in their life, Father,
and allow them to see who theyare when you are manifested in them.
I thank you God for this podcast. I thank you God for another
year and what you're about to dothrough not only this podcast, but all

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the things that you have in thisworld to reach your people. God.
I am but one of the willingvessels God actually to touch those Father.
I say on today, Father,that all of us, including myself,
be serious about the relationship that wehave with you and showing of the relationship
to your people. I thank youGod for everything you're doing. I thank
you God for being the Alpha andOmega in our lives. Actually, that

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you continue to keep us, thatyou continue to bless us, that you
continue to mold us, and whoyou have us to be. It's with
these things and many other things thatwe put before you, and we bless
your holy name in your son Jesusname. We pray Amen and Amen.
Remember God loves you, and sodo I be blessed. Come up,

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welcome through them like man, it'sthe hour where you didn't get some pair
of change, doesn't feel the poweralready got the words of light and food.
Dad, it get the hippo grandeart. When they don't notice this,
the holy water, Who gonna helpme? Pupposed to make complain and put
in the most, do the most. This for the ones who I spoke.

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If you when you broken walking tothem like man, it's like our
well, you didn't get some pairof change nothing. Feel the power already,
Gotta do it. Take the wordsof like some food. The power