December 19, 2024 • 60 mins
Dedicated to Ms. Single Ma, Ms. Single Mama, Ms. Single Mom, Ms. Single Mother, and Ms. Single Mother Dear Speak UP Enterprises and Creative Minds Publishing presents the 2nd edition of Robbie Butler’s comprehensive single-parent parenting manual, “Ms. Single Mom – Yes, You Can!” This engaging Self Help Guide is practical and easy to read; it will help Single Moms (and many married moms) manage a situation that’s often overwhelming. A divorced mother of three, Robbie Butler is Founder/CEO of Speak UP Enterprises communications company, established in October 2000; and President/Executive Director of Speak Up Empowerment Foundation, Inc., a 501(3)c company created to provide resource connections, growth based training, and support for single parent families based in Los Angeles. Her visionary leadership, coupled with a staff of experienced consultants, provides a high level of communications expertise; “empowered parenting” skills, health and wellness, and educational quality for families headed by a single parent. With more than 25 years of experience on a variety of subjects ranging from parenting and personal enrichment to business development; Ms. Butler unselfishly shares knowledge gained from her own personal experiences .She continues to be actively involved in community, civic and corporate affiliations, having served on the Los Angeles Urban League Board of Directors, BBA Corporate Advisory Board, National Alliance of African American Athletes Planning Committee, and served as the Los Angeles Urban League Speaker’s Bureau Chair. Ms. Butler is a proud member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc., National Sales Network-LA Chapter, and Who’s Who in Publishing; she currently resides in Long Beach, CA.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Have my private reasons. See even more fabulous about your
Mother Loves coming to you live and the living color
right here on this regular program. We're here, We're on
all the platforms. You know, We're on the Facebook and whatever.
The guys changed the name to the to the Dove,
to the X, you know, all that curzy stuff. But
we get to do fun stuff right here on the
(00:20):
Mother Love Show. Speaking of fun, seeking of spirity, speaking
of being out in the community and not afraid to
get your dirty things, just dirty and get your feet
a dirty because you are out there in attrenches. That's
beautiful lady. That's miss Robbie Blessings. And she is the
founder and CEO of Speak Up Enterprises of Communicating Company,
(00:44):
and she's an author. You wrote this book that is
still resonating. He continues to resonate. He will never go
out of stile. Unfortunately, no, I can sound importune because
some people don't, you know, want to be married and
you know, still want to have kids. Talk tell people
about you, Bobbie. But as an author, she's reading a
book and it's dedicated to her. It is so funny,
it's so so true. She is dedicated to Miss single Mom.
(01:08):
Miss single Mama, miss single mom, miss single mother, and
miss single mother and mother did because you know, we
got people call money welcome to the program. Which could
you see you doing?
Speaker 2 (01:21):
My dead think you mother?
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Love?
Speaker 2 (01:24):
It's been way too long. I knew I was coming
on the show today. I got super duper excited. You know,
I lived life. I lived my life with the excite
that when I knew I was gonna be in the
chair talking to you again, I was just over the
moon happy. I said, oh, I'm gonna be on that
show because she's a real mother.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Say you right, he had a real mother for you
if your life coming. I started to tell you, I
am not your mother to birky act better than you do,
so don't give me a crazy stuff and then I'll
be you know how sometimes you see the kids out
here and then I call them kids.
Speaker 3 (01:59):
Anybody that younger than.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
Me, you're a kid, So back in them here and
and then just how you you know, using all the
spout language and acting like they don't have any home training,
you know, And he's on my nerve, and my husband say,
don't go over and bother them. Boys do not? Well,
maybe I can fix something to them and they won't
have this. Boys behavere as they get older.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
You are, you know, learn learn things that bood head
out of me, the head out of me, the hell
out of me, and just burns me and themn. Seeing
them boys, I sere with they tan sagging and all
their draws out. I'm going to them, I say, hey, hey, hey, ple,
you try to see all that? See you trying to
do all of that pumim things up?
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Oh see as we got to come at them from
all angles, because I go when I feeling like that,
I just want up behind them and pull their pants
all the way down. I'm like you said, you want
to show you behind, Let's see it. You can come on.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
I'm on, please let me see.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Let me see them draws, since you want me to
see them. Oh, and then they'll do this, Oh oh
that's over low. He pulled my pants down. You act
like you don't want them up on your behind, So why.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Not to make at all that?
Speaker 3 (03:05):
And they come up.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Got important though, mother mouse a friend of mine. He'll
go up and he'll say, hey, hey, my man, you
gotta steam back.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
Then I thought I thought about waiting at you know,
from all angles.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
And then I'm just gonna get these kids right here.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
And they, you know, doing unstupidous activity with their panther,
but the biler around their kneecap and there's something that
had no vision doing. The police is after them, trying
to chase them down, and they can't run.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
You got what is wrong with the undiest scene every girl?
I saw a news story one night the same thing.
Oh boy, they chasing him, were trying to get away.
He's trying to jump over the but he's holding onto
his hands. That's exactly how he's going.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
And you know what, no better for them to get caught.
That's right, you and you're not doing anything. We got
the bailers. Every person. Remember when we were growing up
and they would say, uh, you know big brother will
be watching you. Yeah, I'm like, okay, And now big
brother is watching everybody in there. People are so paranoid.
And my thing is, if you're not doing any unstupidish activity,
(04:15):
if you're not doing anything that you're not supposed to
be doing espressively in public, because when you come out,
you're in public, don't do it. They could on the
Walmart of wave at them, give them a POSMD back
listen I'm like, hey, less, you saw she used to be.
I could pay more bout why I see we're capital going.
(04:39):
You know, we could squeeze a dollar and have an
eagle flying off the quarter.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
I know this, squeeze it, squeeze it back and still
looking for.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
And want to get this. We could stop on a diamond,
give your nickel change because we know what we're doing.
And your birthday, Happy birthday, for your birthday comes, know
that we love you and we're sending out our birthday
wishes for all of us here at the camp. Happy Birthday,
my dead. Remember the Decepber the twenty sixth or twenty seven.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
It's decent li the twenty sixth, and the way I
have people to remember it, I tell the Jesus Christ
first on the twenty fifth, and then Robbie Brody the sixth,
and me on the twenty nine. And you're on the
twenty nights. So don't get it dead.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
And this is what people need to realize. I would
I want. One of my wishes is if we can
have Christmas every day, even if it's just a little
bit of Christmas every day. We seem to be on
our best behavior, we seem to be. I came up
with a new one to what they really isn't new.
You know, when y'all shoppling, especially during the holidays, y'all stoppering,
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you bump into somebody, you know, you go excuse me,
or you know, running, I will say excuse me. I say,
that's a that's a that's a holliy De's what what
I tell them, that's a shopping bump. If you don't
bump into somebody during Christmas, something is wrong with you. Yeah,
so I'm bumping him and say, there's a Christmas book there.
I have my offering in the you know, watch the day.
(06:10):
Why do the kids have all the fun? You know
how the kids will say, I'm I'm eleven and a
half and you go, okay, well see I'm in And
well in two couple of weeks we'll be right there.
And so now let's talk about your organization and what
it is did you do and where did you find
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the passion and compassion because you can do hell and
Gassoline draw and you are still doing your thing and
you get get better every day every year. I mean,
when we get together, it's like we just pick up
where we left out. As you know and you always
know that I'm here talk to people about the passion
that you have for single women.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
Okay, man raploaded question the whole thing. Okay, earlier this
my first book, miss single Mom. Yes you can. Back
in two thousand and nine, and you and everybody done
a saying this wasn't my idea, that was not to be.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
Of the sort, but my higher power to do. Okay, okay,
spend my life. Okay, wait, okay, okay, I gotta ask
you this. Okay, let's just hold that one there.
Speaker 3 (07:26):
When he said, this was not my plan.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
See, because I'm sure you know with your relationship that
you have with God and you know we is favors.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
Yeah, you know that, guys, we already know.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
And you you probably what the God had told him.
Your player and God and map out and map out
with you knew what you were doing. And God went, yeah, right.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
Man, let's because see I was planning. Me and myself
and I all three of us were planning to write
a New York Times best seller about something extremely fabulous,
and God did just what she suggested did He laughed
at me and said, Okay, now that you finished with
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your joke, let me tell you what's really going to happen.
So he gave me the idea to write that book.
And at first I thought it was just a little
quid article in his book, and it grew because I
was writing for a magazine. I was a freelance journalist,
and I thought, okay, cool, cool, cool. But it developed
(08:31):
into a book. None of the publishing houses would touch it,
and so God told me he said he whipped it
in my ear. He really did. He said, hey, I
took you away from everything I did your job to do.
Now get it done. He freed up resources so I
could self publish that book, which I did. We published
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a couple of editions, and I thought I was done.
I thought, okay, you know, mister acomplice, Little did I know,
Mother love that that was just the beginning. So so
I write this book. I'm selling it Onesie tuesdies after
drunk of my car or whatever until I sold them all.
I'm thanking for the next episode. Well, the next episode
(09:16):
came by way of feedback from the readers of the book,
because they started asking me, well, can we come together
and just talk about stuff that pertains to us? And
I thought about it. I was like, well, how we
gonna do this? You know, y'all talk about labor you
want me to walk? So then I found out it
(09:40):
and I seriously I did. And I spoke with one
of my greatest business mentors and she said, you know,
you really should do a conference. I thought, well, okay,
I will, but if you help me so I would
sucker for it. I mean, I wrote, don't tell to stay.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Togetherl I am.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
I asked her to join me, and I found several
of the seasoned business people who who met with me
and we began to craft this idea out. And that
was back in twenty and fifteen. And so as a
result of that, I then created the Speak Up Empowerment Foundation.
(10:25):
That's our nonprofit that supports all the work we do. Well. Now,
I had to create a nonprofit because we were in
the process of creating the annual Miss Single Mom Empowerment
for Life. And the cool thing about the empowerment for
me and everything else that I do, I do not
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charge the women to attend. So I had to go
beg to get some money to make it happen.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
Let me ask you, this is it easier for you,
as you.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
Said, beg for money?
Speaker 1 (10:57):
Because listen, I only commentate you for one thing. And
have you told me call me when you need something? Okay?
Well I need like a check to help this out?
You know? And and do you find it easier for
you to ask for assistance for the for the company,
for the conference as opposed to asking for yourself? Do
you find it different posed to ask people to help you?
Speaker 2 (11:20):
Yes, you get because it's hard to be to ask
people to help me, because I think as long as
I'm able to get up and get outside and turn
some corners and and then I have the ability to
go make my own money.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
Right.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
But but what I do for the community, for these women,
it's a hundred percent responsor driven. And I help individual
understand the shoes that these women walk in, because see,
when I appeal to them, I remind them all of
our lives have been touched by a single mother, one
way or the other. That either you are your mother,
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words your sister, is your cousin, is is your best girlfriends?
All of our lives have been touched by a single
mother in some regard. And if you stop and think
about their journey, why wouldn't you open up your pocketbooks
to help provide access to resources to help them manage
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their life. And like you said, this is one hundred
percent sponsored driven. So I asked everybody to pitch in
and write.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
A check and not that that's what we really need
to do. We need to continue to pull our resources together.
And I've been told this as a billion times, why
do you want to be so dedicated to the black
women and why you don't do so and so and something.
I'm like, I'm gonna start at home first. I'm gonna
start at home. I'm looking we go over here, cross
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students tell me, Jemmie, well, you need to do us
and so and so and so my.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
House is.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
And that's what we're supposed We're supposed to commune together.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
That's what we do is we have to look in
the mirror and start there. I was able to write
this book with authority because I too was a teenage mother.
Were it not for the for my strong support system,
my mom and my siblings, I don't know what would
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have happened. But because I had their support every single
step of the way, I was able to graduate high
school that yes, that young, and I was able to
attend and graduate whether the top universities in the country
all because I had their support pushing me forward, which
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is one of the reasons why I'm so big on
support group. I don't care who you are, where you are,
you need somebody to have your back.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
This always to get ridden for this all the time.
I've been in therapy since I was working. I started.
That's when I first started therapy. And I've always said,
if they weren't for that, I don't know what kind
of crazy I would have been involved in. But you
know what they said, God watches over old folks, babies
and fools.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
Yeah, hick one of them for me, and you know you.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Would be right, absolutely, And so we were. I had
three there were six of us, four girls and two boys,
and our mother laid down the law, and they gotta
laid out on the law. You know you to be.
I'm still scared of my mother. She died a long
time ago, but her body did.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
But mee her my mother talking to night and what
I answered her out.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
Look at and you can hear them with me now.
They stay whis her and you could hear them just
as clear if they were in the room physically.
Speaker 3 (14:48):
Right then, I thought, I'm.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
Still scared of my mom.
Speaker 2 (14:51):
Yeah, and on that subject, everything I do is to
make my mother proud, even though she is in heaven now.
My mother, other my grandparents, my aunties, every smooth I
made professionally, every step I take it is to honor
the legacy of all of them, because I know the
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shoulders that I see it on, I know the examples
that they laid out for me, and nothing else would
be acceptable. It just wouldn't. And I just want to
give them a reason to smile and say, look at
that girl down They don't, you know.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
This is the case, and it's so unmportant that that's
still in the twenty first century, women are being ostracized
about being single, being criticized about, you know, oftentimes, especially
now in this damn age, you can't be single. It
is completely acceptable. You know.
Speaker 3 (15:46):
Just pisses me off when people.
Speaker 1 (15:48):
Talk to women, you know, like and they forty, well,
why you didn't have now kids? Well maybe out in
world kids, you know, you say, I think you know.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
Every every program that we host, one of the very
first things I do is to explain who and what
a single mother is.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
Now, let's hear that explanation, because it's a poinding to
you if not what people really think.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
Right, It's a single mother who's raising children on her own,
whether she never married, whether she's a widow, whether she's
a divorce see, or she might be one of the
millions of substitutes who are filling the shoes of a
mother who's missing for whatever reason, whether that mother is incarcerated,
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whether that mother is gonna deployed military duty, whether that
mother is deceased. Because see this is I don't care
for created your status. All I want to know is
what we gonna do. Now? Where do we go from here?
How do we move forward? And that's where I come
in to share the success strategies that I know have
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worked in my life and the lives of many other
single women raising children throughout this country.
Speaker 3 (17:03):
And it's it's we're gonna be the ones.
Speaker 1 (17:06):
You know, we're gonna be the ones to clean up
this crab show. You already know this. It's you're gonna
be the women, and we're gonna need everybody, whether if
they're all hands on deck. We don't have got to be,
you know, being in that crab barrel. We gotta listen.
I ain't got a problem with getting down on my
knees and letting one of the youngest get up, and
you know, she got to call up my back, you know,
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or whatever it is we got to do, and let
me stand up and with her on my shoulders so
she could see heresins and I can't. So she can
go slide when I can. And apparently your people, your tribe,
your leader, they were you ain't going down like that.
And it's not a mistake.
Speaker 3 (17:47):
And you never took that.
Speaker 1 (17:48):
As you know, when I'm a young mother, it's a mistake.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
Children, God don't make no. Was a creation blessed by him,
whether we thought we were there that baby or not.
The highest power in our lives. Since hide looks snow
and wide and can see a feature that we can't
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even imagine.
Speaker 1 (18:18):
I mean, if when you know, when you look at
when you turn around and look at it, you got
to think about we've lived in two centuries, Robby, we
lived in the twentieth century and the first twenty four
years of the twenty first century. Now we got something
to say, talk about buildings, and we can do this.
Speaker 3 (18:36):
We can do this. As you were growing up and
you know.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
You've got this positive foundation what kept you going because
being a being a mother I don't care if you
got a love and I got a husband. I never
been I've never considered myself a single mother because my
husband was all it was. You know, listen, I could
walk into the room yard this and this is one
of the ones that I say this, Hey, mother, love,
why you don't wear it?
Speaker 2 (19:00):
I'm like, well, you know, society puts puts labels on
us growing up. I mean, well, well, after I have
my child, I didn't look at myself as a single mother.
I just looked at myself as a mother with obligations
and responsibilities. So we just have to be really, really
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careful of what we allow society to feed into our lives,
to feed into our psyche, to feed into our emotionals,
to feed into our overall health and wellness. You know
you are where you speak into existence. But now I'll
tell you my driving forces, those things that kept me grounded.
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Number one, my mother. You know we're from East Texas.
I come from a tribe of strong, accomplished African American women.
My mother had three three siblings, all women. We all
walk very proud. We we didn't necessarily have a whole
lot of money, that we did have pride and honor,
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and that came from my grandfather. We always walked with
his head held Tina's back straight because we all do
you know what I'm saying. You might have a little
bit more than me materialistically, yeah, but you know to
go that's how that's worth. It is like what it
is your winter work. But they they showed me fairly.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
On that this I can.
Speaker 2 (20:33):
They didn't just tell me, they say, sold me by example,
so I knew that it was possible. Well, all I
had to do was get up off my lazy uh
behind and get out there and make it half way.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
And most of us Capricorn women are late bloomers because
we are women thodical.
Speaker 3 (20:53):
And we tell okay, let me let me trid this.
Speaker 1 (20:56):
And another thing I've learned about and i've and being
under that though they are signed as well, is that
the way I look at something, a project or whatever,
I'll say, Okay, this is what I want and this
is what my end goal is. Now I will go here.
So I looked and like, oh yeah, like I put
now look at me, go back to the starting point.
How can I make this work? What I'm going to jail?
Speaker 2 (21:20):
Absolutely right? And that's pretty much my approaches. I look
at the end game, I look at where I am,
I look at what I want to do. I look
at the end game, and then I worked back, Yes,
make it happen and think. But the thing is, I
think first. You know, you have to think it through.
It's just like cookies. Preparation is the most of it.
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Do you get up to just implement?
Speaker 1 (21:43):
So that's it that anybody can read them, well, not
anybody could read the follow directions and the rest of people,
because they got a jillion of them out there, and
a lot of these people cannot boil water. It's frightened
to that.
Speaker 3 (21:54):
And that's that's another thing.
Speaker 1 (21:57):
A lot of these young women and listen, let you
earlier you know whatever has separated them from their mothers
and announce they have to pick up the gauntlets and
walk through it and how they're gonna make this work.
People don't understand. You know, you got that.
Speaker 3 (22:11):
You've got to really pay.
Speaker 1 (22:12):
Attention to what your relationship is like with God. That's
got to be the first thing. I don't sure who
you conceived God to be. You've got to knowing your
hunt in your spirit that you ain't the only pluce
of saying I'll here on this beach. Baby. Now you
stand out and God can see, He can hear you.
She knows what you're thinking. Shall look at God in
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all kinds of ways, you know, because because you know,
I know men came up with how hell shoes in Brazils,
I know that it's God and get you see, we
ain't gonna even get started. So I'm trying to help you.
If you don't have to have a sense of humor
and life, I mean, why are you taking it so serious?
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We're not coming out of this alive. Let's make sure
that that Dads. In between the time you hit the
planet Dad and I tell you the planet gone, that
you left something here for people to look up to.
And when you talk about uh, you know, having strong
mentors and strong examples of how a woman is supposed
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to conduct herself and she don't be speaking all. I
feel a lot of that, a lot of that lady
like stuff. I kind of missed it when it was
given to hold directions for me at the original time.
Speaker 3 (23:24):
And then because I went.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
From girl to woman, I knew I was a grown
woman when I was seventeen years old, and I was like, Okay,
this woman had told me everything she knows. It's not
for me to get about it here, you know, and
everybody consays he's not gonna do it. He's this is
the word I honest think I've ever heard of except
in my family. He's such a flippy gigget like it's
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a cumft world. They sound like it's a count world
or something that you flippity gig He don't start not see.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
Oh absolutely with what we do so very easy.
Speaker 3 (24:06):
You never see he I just wanted that to know,
she started.
Speaker 1 (24:09):
I just did it sound like a cuss word? You said, yeah,
it's good. Be a cut for her, because you don't
know what that means. That could shut up up a up.
So now when you talk about supporting, what are some
of the maybe the top four or five instances that
you come across that are in you know, because all
of us are you know, part of the thread. You
know you're going with the needle and that we've in
the ever together that you've seen that they that they're lacking.
Speaker 2 (24:33):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
One of the things opportune and especially you know my
thing is you know, going out and talking with our
with our community about the importance of having good health
and understanding that you could. You deserve to be well
cared for. And what give me was a lot of
these women didn't even think about their health, their mental wellness.
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They were too busy thinking about what other people are doing. Okay,
I gotta keep going. I got ropy to pay Paul.
These babies I want to shoot. I been going and
Sath Linden, this is just with a bad nash. Okay, yeah, Mama,
that's when I was a baby. I need a fast
now woman's shoe, and it's so.
Speaker 3 (25:10):
Much coming at me so fast.
Speaker 1 (25:12):
What are those the threads that usually coming through with
the young people now especially?
Speaker 2 (25:18):
I want to ask that we as women, as mothers,
are our natural nurturing. We don't always look at what
we need. We fancy nurturing those around us, especially our
children and or our significant others, so we tend to
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neglect ourselves a lot. But I'm really happy essentially since
twenty twenty with COVID and everything, the saft that the
lands has been amplified on our health and wellness. There
are a lot of programs and we tend to incorporate
that into almost everything we do now. But a lot
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of things that are looking at women's overall health and wellness,
your mental health, your mysical health, your emotional health, because
all of that exists. All of that is important. Even
in one of the chapters in my first book, I
explained to the mothers, you're still important too. You want
all this stuff for your children and so on and
so forth. But what are you doing for you? Go
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take a walk on the beach. If you don't have
no money, you know, go sit us apart for half
an hour and just relax. You have to take care
of yourself. It's just like when you both a plane.
You know, they tell you you got to make sure
you ended work in order it. But you can take
care of anybody else, so in case there's an accident
or whatever. But back to our health. I'm a part
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of the Black Health Equity Collaborative in Long Beach. We
are a group of black serving nonprofits that came together
to support each other's success in doing COVID and help
is just a big component of everything that all of
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us do. Because so you step and think about it.
If you're physically ill, what can you do? Not very much.
It's emotionally ill. You're sitting over there all heartbroken, like
love sick, puppy. What can you really do protectively? And
if you're impacting in any other ways, it takes away
from your main focus. So I like the fact that
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we are now focusing on the health and wellness of
our women, of our mothers, and every year doing our
annual empowerment for them in April, we cover something in
that arena, in that area because the women and the
mothers we suffer from a lot of this. I got
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to take care of everybody else.
Speaker 1 (27:56):
You know, if somebody come home, momy you, I can
run around this go for a minute.
Speaker 3 (28:01):
And don't believe this is what God.
Speaker 1 (28:04):
They don't believe that they deserve to be in good health.
They don't believe they involve wellness. They don't believe that
you know, the power of the spirit and the universe
will open up a conspire for your success.
Speaker 3 (28:16):
Each of us has a gift.
Speaker 1 (28:18):
Don't have your gifts up under a basket?
Speaker 3 (28:20):
What is wrong with you?
Speaker 1 (28:22):
And if you don't, if you don't want to look,
can I can I have a light? Okay? If you
don't want it any good? You only do their sung
glasses when I'm come into the room, and and they
don't they look when you say, they look we and
we are nurturers. We are nurtury and I'm out of
the hard way.
Speaker 3 (28:37):
If I'm not.
Speaker 1 (28:38):
If I'm not well, like you just said, I can't
help anybody else be well.
Speaker 2 (28:44):
And a lot of us have fallen victims of death.
I am not deserving.
Speaker 1 (28:51):
Playing.
Speaker 2 (28:54):
We do deserve every blessing that God has put our
name on. So it's like receives it willingly, happily because
you do deserve it. You deserve to be taken care of,
You deserve to be pampered. Sometimes the other time, what
you do with you.
Speaker 3 (29:16):
I know that my husband know that you can't court me.
Speaker 1 (29:19):
It ain't gonna be Nona court, okay. And we've been
together the fifty years.
Speaker 2 (29:24):
And so it's reminding. It's reminding our mothers, our women,
our single mothers. You do deserve this. Take some time
out and focus on you. And I get that it's
difficult when you've got to play the little babies running
around you, even one little little toddler in the house
of me. It's so completely time consuming. But put that
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baby down for it now, Mary. Fact that makes me
think about my my virtual tea party. I would encourage
the mothers in the summer, buy a copy of my book,
drew a cup of tea, put the babe the sleeper
outside the place, focus on you. Read a chapter in
my books and let's let's move the needle forward and
we can do them and elevate the game. But I
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only just wrote the second book in twenty twenty three,
Miss single moms. Elevate your game. And that's because now
that you figured it that, yes you can, it's time
to elevate your game.
Speaker 1 (30:25):
Boy.
Speaker 3 (30:26):
In fact, you go do it, go again.
Speaker 2 (30:29):
But not only we don't just tell you how, we
don't still tell you to do it. We also give
you example, show you how to go do it.
Speaker 3 (30:39):
And that's what what that is.
Speaker 1 (30:41):
You guys are so needed. And I want to say
on behalf of all the women, especially the single women
the wonder who are out here, you know, working to
build their tribe, keeping their kids in a safe place.
I mean, when we were growing up, Doc, you've got
things with your childs on Saturday morning, but they say,
God got a play? Yeah, what about about snapping?
Speaker 2 (31:03):
No town?
Speaker 1 (31:03):
What is wrong with you? This? This was our safety net.
We lived in the project and our mother tell us
all the time and see she was a She said
he was never single. He had six kids. When my
when my father passed away, and she said, I'm a
widowed woman. I am the unremarried widow of She said,
that's what I want on my tombstone. I'm like, I
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ain't putting that on your tomb stone. She and my
dad were married until death parted them. And she would say,
when I go out there, somebody trying to because a
guy tried to snap my one of my little sisters
off the streets, and she she said, ron and hollow, Mama, Mama, mama,
help me, mama, and everybody mother will come out and
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come out of and oh miss and I mean they'd
be ten mothers and the guy on my way to
Dapple gold blind and we we waunt that sense of
security with all the craziness that's going on.
Speaker 3 (31:56):
That's all we've got to put on, all our armor.
Speaker 1 (31:59):
We got to be certainly, we got to step it on.
We gotta put two ammas out. I had a half
on on. I gotta lettle tiny baby head. I have
to put two helmes on because they're coming after us.
And we got to understand we're not fighting each other.
We're fighting the evil in this world. Just like you
gotta know, you got to know Satan believe in God.
It Satan didn't believe in God. He will be running things. Well,
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he ain't running nothing unless I allow him to run it.
And it's gonna be people. And I found I found
this out too when you're a praying person and people,
because you can tell when somebody have a relationship with God,
and and they will say, oh they come up that
holy water, Oh she doing so good. Other said, no, no,
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I got magic stuff. Who No, We are here to
be obedient. Here's things. All of us have a job,
and we all have a right to be at the
table of life and the table.
Speaker 2 (32:54):
Of absolutely right and except to us whether we accept
it and receive it, because you know, we don't try
to put yourself on nobody. And that's pretty much the
way we should live our lives. We really should. It's
just like, if it makes sense, receive it and move forward.
Speaker 1 (33:16):
Risk it, okay, even if it doesn't make sense to
you at the time. You know you've been earlier and
we talked about it. When you got want to hear
God laugh, you telling me your plan and I was
gonna you id.
Speaker 3 (33:28):
This is what I want to do, and that's what
I'm gonna have.
Speaker 1 (33:31):
And if I'm gonna be and well, you gotta be
obedient and ended that obedience. I have all of that.
I used to tell my friends all the time, people
in the world going on me, I know how I
was gonna do it. I used to tell them I
want to be rich and famous that I don't want
to be famous. I want to be rich and richer.
And I'm gonna fancy house and I have a fine husband.
We're gonna have a great life. We're gonna laugh every day.
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Even when we talk to crazy, we find a way
to laugh it out, you know.
Speaker 2 (33:58):
And you don't how I find. I find that when
I listen to my interspirit, that inner voice, that inner
boice talking to me, that is our interspirit. As long
as I listen and follow that direction, I don't go wrong.
But it's when I try to act wrong and take
over and do what I think I want to do,
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that's when I'm run into problems and I'm flf enough
now to come to real life. That that inner voice
speaking to me, it's my higher power to bring into
my ears. I simply have to have enough sense to
listen and follow. And it's not easy to No, it's
not easy. We have learning. I'm learning to do that
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more and more.
Speaker 1 (34:44):
And this is another thing, especially especially women, especially women
that are in you know, the heads of households of
you know, the head of a company, and whatever the
is that you're doing. You know when you're gonna get,
you're gonna get if what the kids. If you don't
have haters you and or nothing, you ain't doing that right.
If you don't have hater You know, you gotta be
careful about who prayed for you, because some folk are
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praying for your demand they are.
Speaker 2 (35:09):
Glad you better come on tell the Tuesday shave the
devil with that.
Speaker 3 (35:13):
See I'm you know, and and we'll tell you.
Speaker 1 (35:16):
Oh girl, you know you're a nice little girl. But
you know, if you have some of that wait off
for you, you'll be all right. I said, ahh, I
get off. Men's gonna turn up on your fat behind.
So you don't know what I'm saying. Oh, well, this
way came for my mother and love. I told you,
don't be messing with me, and you'll mess children. You
do not mess with the masters, kill them because.
Speaker 2 (35:37):
No, you do not. You are absolutely right about that.
And you know what, I get up every morning and
I have this conversation back about me saying I ain't
playing with you. Nonsense, okay, this black out.
Speaker 1 (35:54):
Uh it's like, you know one of the things that
you like to put it for your office or wherever
you in your house, and one of my EVERSU is
uh okay, now Jesus, could you get that for me?
I closed it at the door again.
Speaker 3 (36:11):
He got around.
Speaker 1 (36:12):
I got you, I got you. I think I didn't
even know where the resources were going to come from,
especially when you're starting out something new, and I would
I was like you, I'm gonna help God along. I can,
I can move this along. And then when I had
that conversation and he set me down in a real
hard place. Sometimes you gotta get snatched on your behind
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for you to pay attention to what you are being
told and that you have to discern for yourself, and
he'll lay you out. He will lay you out going.
I have p sciatica. I didn't even know what a
sciatic I mean, I knew what a siatic nerve was,
but I don't know it was gonna be that painful.
Oh my God twenty four hours a day I cooked.
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It was just crazy and just to suddenly if it
came upon me and God had me let stuff. I
got up off the couch one day and the doctor saying,
you know, there's no kay, I don't know what starts
by half. I saw that's another thing. And to give
us sciatica nook in that same thing, women.
Speaker 2 (37:15):
Well it's a job. It's it's okay. I like to
take the conversation back to simply we were touching up
one earlure. Okay, So I reim mentioned myself. You know,
as you probably remember, I came from a full corporate
career where I was a corporate executive doing all of
that stuff, and then I was given this assignment that
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I have right now with this non profit. The non
profit will be ten years old in twenty twenty five.
Speaker 1 (37:48):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (37:49):
But even bigger than that, it's the fact that in April,
on April nineteenth, twenty twenty five, we will host our
ninth ninth Miss Our Night annuals Miss Single Mom Empowerment Forums.
Now this this is this forum. It's a day that
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we built especially for the single mothers in the community.
This is our pree Mother's Day gifts.
Speaker 1 (38:18):
That's wonderful to look us through some of the important
issues that you're going to be covering in this conference,
and why it's important to single mothers and other mothers
who attend because they need to support system. We can
be there to be supportive.
Speaker 2 (38:33):
You ask such wonderful questions. First of all, it was
created and is designed for the to help the success
of the single mothers. However, I don't discriminate on the
base of nothing, not your dippodes, not your age, not
your gender, not that I have many single fops in attendance.
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I have married mothers who attend because there is something
in there for every parent. Uh. The event takes place
at the Long Beach Airport Marriott Hotel in the Grand Ballroom.
On purpose they they could retreat women the way I
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believe they deserve to be treated. And I'm gonna tell
you a little bit more about the program, the day's program.
But in the middle of that day, we feed them lunch,
a sit down lunch, a sit down, white tablecloth lunch
in the ball at the marriage I'm not talking about
no brown paper sandwich in no facts in the rock.
Speaker 1 (39:39):
They got the little box they give them like.
Speaker 2 (39:42):
Okay, I'm with you. So we we feed them a
three court lunch. And again, for many of these women,
they have them been treated on this level before. And
I know that because of the feedback, the surveys, our
results tell me things like, miss Brother, this program saved
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my life. Missus Butler, this program changed my life, Miss Brother,
thank you for treating us with such dignity and respect.
I simply treat them the way I know they deserve
to be treated. And again, it's one hundred percent sponsorsive.
I do not charge the attendees, not even ten dollars,
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because I feel, if you got ten dollars, you go
buy a roller quarters for your family and do the laundry. Love,
And I hate get ten dollars, you know, because I'm
gonna find the money. And every year we have been
blessed exponentially.
Speaker 1 (40:44):
Everybody said, this ain't my program, mother, Love.
Speaker 2 (40:47):
This is God's the way. So by he told us, so,
didn't he say I will provide all your needs?
Speaker 3 (40:57):
You say you will.
Speaker 1 (41:00):
That's what I wanted to say to you when I
was trying to explain that God was telling me what
to do. And then I said, and it was I
was like, wait, wait, that sounds really crazy. Why I'm
will get to Uh, we don't worry about it. I
got that you, I said, But what about what I'm
gonna ta? You don't worry about I got.
Speaker 2 (41:17):
You, He's John.
Speaker 3 (41:18):
I said, but what I mean?
Speaker 1 (41:19):
And I'm just going And he said, I just shut up.
Speaker 2 (41:22):
I just right there. Just sit on in the corner
and pay attention that a piece of paper and take
notes while he's talking to you. But bast to that
empowerment for me.
Speaker 1 (41:37):
So what we do.
Speaker 2 (41:39):
We we provide expert speakers on a on a core
group of critical subjects such as financial literacy, business development, housing, uh.
We have covered other topics such as teenage gender identity
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because a lot of my boys want to be girls,
a lot of my girls want to be boys, and
my daddy's want to be mama, So my mama's want
to be gaddy.
Speaker 1 (42:06):
Now, look, that's your goodness.
Speaker 2 (42:10):
But the thing is, you have to know how to
talk to your children on this subject. And that's why
I had one of my colleagues and experts to come
in and explain how to have a conversation, how to listen,
and how to talk. Just as an example, we have
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speakers from some of the some of the major well
known corporations, companies that's going and so forth, And again
I was this is one hundred per cent n everybody
on this program donates their time and their talent. This
is a part of our well, there's a term, you know,
when we give back to the community. Who much is given,
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much is required.
Speaker 1 (42:56):
And people got to understand that, I mean they want to.
I mean, and I know the Bible, especially the King
James Virgin, you know, I understand about it all that,
and he changed the Bible so he can make give
divorce to get mad and everything. It's the foundation, you know,
it's a map. It's a blueprint for how to conduct
yourself through life. I mean everything from the time you
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hit the planet to the time you know, you find
them what your whole pation is and you do that.
Speaker 3 (43:24):
And then when it's over, when what they say those.
Speaker 1 (43:26):
Who can do, those who can't speak.
Speaker 2 (43:29):
So we.
Speaker 1 (43:32):
Probably like eleventeen hundred times, you know, from and back door,
put it on the bed and you go from that.
And I was like, okay, now here's a blueprint for
how to be a good wife, how to be a
good husband, how to be a good mother, a good father,
a good How al are you going to be with
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your finances?
Speaker 3 (43:53):
You know, all of this?
Speaker 1 (43:55):
Taking care of your health? He said, your body is
a temple. You're not. Don't get ready through no God
but myself.
Speaker 3 (44:02):
And when when when it's seeing that I'm.
Speaker 1 (44:06):
Put I'm still looking for the instructure of being retired.
There is no instruction.
Speaker 2 (44:16):
You want you hired, you won't hired that that nerd
does not exist in I will vocabulary.
Speaker 1 (44:22):
Mother love, I thought you knew I was like retired up.
Speaker 2 (44:27):
You have been given life long assignments. I now a
community servant. I am here. I have discovered my purpose,
which is also very much my passion, and I will
do this until I can't any longer. I realized I
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am here to make a difference. He gave me a
voice and he told me to use it. And that's
what I do. And the cool thing about what I
do I bring in all my friends and associate See,
why do you think I did.
Speaker 1 (45:02):
A PREDI your program because we don't we we don't
have access to the media where we can talk about
pretty much everything from you know, from praying to politics.
That you know, my husband Guy on my last nerve.
I gotta tell you this. You know the difference between
a good girlfriend and a great girlfriend. Tell me, okay,
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a good girlfriend. I have called up late Robbie Man, Yeah,
touching up the mother love. Do not touch anything, don't
talk to anybody until I get there. Don't call the police,
wait till I get there. A great friend. I'm gonna Robbie,
Robbie I think he did. He said, don't worry, I'm
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coming with the shovel in the dirt, and.
Speaker 2 (45:48):
How much the are we gonna need.
Speaker 1 (45:49):
If we do, he's going to shallow when we got
to be out there, bigger than all night. Now, you
know what I'm talking with the last me.
Speaker 2 (45:58):
I love you, I know you.
Speaker 1 (46:00):
I'm that girlfriend. I'm that girlfriend.
Speaker 3 (46:03):
I got up in the middle of it, I think,
and we're so thanks. I'm here.
Speaker 2 (46:08):
Where I mean. I gotta tell you this. I gotta
tell you this. Okay. So this past year we are
full to relationship with the month four point Marine Association
Chapter eight in La and my cousin's chapter down into Mechila.
But the reason I mentioned that is because they have
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just gifted my association with an allotment of toys that
will be distributing to our single mothers over the weekend.
Speaker 1 (46:42):
We're gonna do. I'll come with my very off, but
you know, I'm sacking self in the hood.
Speaker 2 (46:47):
I'm a Christmas well girl. I was up all night
two nights ago putting the email together, sending it out
to my mother's and we're going to distributorys on probably
often I carry the things to the family. So this
Christmas week, for example, brotherhod Cruse with one hundred pair
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of brand new tennis shoes of three or four years ago.
I personally delivered those shoes to the to the single
mothers so that they would have something under the tree
for their family that year. I'm serious about it, and
these toys are going to make a big difference. But
I just use that as an example. We have given
the women grocery gift card because he will get a
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turkey and ham anywhere. But there's more to a meal
than just a turkey or ham.
Speaker 1 (47:39):
Well just suit. Yeah, you gotta get y right.
Speaker 2 (47:42):
So those are just some of the things that my organization.
I say, my it's a bunch of us, but the
organization does that. But I would be remissius. I did
not mention the fact that registration for the ninth annual
Miss Single Mom and Forum will open at the end
of January. I will be sending you that date as
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soon as we lock it down, because each year we
throw the net further and wider. I want to bring
them all over there into that ballroom because the more
that the more people I get in that room, the
bigger the room will be me into a bigger than you.
And remember, we don't charge you a dime. But we
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do take donations.
Speaker 1 (48:29):
Okay, Lotty had a bucket ready, you know, there's that's
what we have to do.
Speaker 2 (48:34):
We take We take donations. We take financial and product donations.
And the products important because we give away some awesome
gift bags. When you check in, you've got an amazing
gift bag from our sponsors and supporters waiting for you.
I'm talking about usable stuff you're gonna throw the trash can.
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Oh no, I'm talking about some car and some real
province and things that you need in your life, some
stuff you want to have.
Speaker 3 (49:07):
So can you hear with what share with us?
Speaker 1 (49:09):
When you talk about sponsorship and a lot of women,
especially nowadays, who are entrepreneurs, are working to become an entrepreneur.
Are some of the sponsors that will be there. That's
give a shout out to them because they love you.
Speaker 2 (49:22):
Oh my god, I have to the very first sponsor
who's always comes into the table every year, the Port
of Long Beach, go Long Beach.
Speaker 1 (49:32):
About that.
Speaker 2 (49:33):
Yeah, support of Long Beach, Long Beach Transit, the city
mayor and the City Council, Gold Beach. We have support.
Oh god, it's so many of them. The La Lakers
use Foundation that stood with us and supported us, Blueshields,
LA Care. Oh my god, why do you raise the
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Bar found which is a foundation owned by Lorie Barr
and her son who plays for the Minnesota Vikings. And
the Bar Foundation is giving us a college scholarship to
give to one of our deserving single mothers. We afford
that relationship. So we're going to begin that. Hey, mother, love,
I'm doing so much. I can't even remember half the time.
Speaker 1 (50:23):
You move it up fast. You can't even keep up
with yourself.
Speaker 2 (50:27):
Now, I'm telling you. Because look, we give out things
like hotel bounces you I should say, overnight stays for two.
Thank you to the Western Hotel of Long Beach. The
holiday en Oh my god, that list is so long.
If you hit my website though, www dot Speak Up
Empowerment Foundation dot Ford, it tells the entire story. I
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got to say it again www dot Speak Up Empowerment
Foundation dot Ford. All one word, Oh my god. And
I forgot to mention the community empowerment leaders yere Yes.
Each year we select three women whose life work has
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helped empower the women, the mothers and or the single
mothers in our community. And I'm gonna let the cat
out of bag. You're on our very short list, so
they'll be surprised when you get the email. I'm just saying,
but now we do that, well.
Speaker 3 (51:29):
Then you're going to.
Speaker 1 (51:32):
You yet.
Speaker 2 (51:36):
We have an eye on you. I just want you
to know that power. You empower the community with your show,
and you've done that for many years.
Speaker 1 (51:46):
I found out I've been out here for thirty five years,
and everybody back home said he'll be back.
Speaker 2 (51:51):
In a month.
Speaker 1 (51:52):
We'll give her a month, and they still to this day,
thirty five years later. So when you come home, I'm like,
I'm at home. Now we got on when you coming
really coming home, I'm like, I'm at home wherever my
baby laundry is.
Speaker 3 (52:07):
That's where I live.
Speaker 1 (52:08):
That's why I live in a hotel when I have
to go, you know, got to have ptivis. And they don't.
They don't get it, you know. And and I just
I'm gonna keep on doing it. I will keep doing it.
I keep I will keep talking about the the importance
of a wellness spiritually. Uh, your health is so important.
And people just and exactly our people. And if you
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then with your people, Roberts, they think like they don't
need to have no health, good health care and come
in and look well. And then it's the part to
give me. Now, you know your feet is swell enough
because you've been cooking five pounds of chickens every fifteen
minutes for the church funck. And you got to go
near the baby's back. And cause sister Rivers daughter granddaughter
having a new baby, and we want the baby to
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have something new. We are such nursery. We will take
our ex husband's new wife baby in because they come
find a babyfitter. Well it's time. Well he's dealing with kills.
You know, we got all the Levantine children, so and
you know we will. You know, I got you, I
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got you.
Speaker 2 (53:10):
You're you're right, and you know I'm with you when
you're right, and you're right.
Speaker 1 (53:14):
And I might say, okay, everybody, everybody has a role
to play. Understand what your role is. Get into it.
It's no, it's not going to be easy, but when
you get the call and get up, you know they set.
My aunt used to yep, God rest her. So when
I was a kid, she used to say, you know
you're gonna be in the banded this. I was like
what what? Okay? First of all, I had too many
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syllables in it, and I was like, okay, e vandil
this what is that? And she used to tell me
that all the time that I was gonna do God's work.
I just thought she's kind of looky, because what kind
of looking. He's one of my favorite aunts. He's kind
of lucy. And when I got the opportunity to speak
at a church and I was like, okay, guys, you
ain't gonna throw a lightning boat down here because this
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this your wall said, Okay, you're fight and understanding that
you don't have to be sick, you have to be unhealthy.
You know, there are little things, like you said earlier,
there are little things that you get up off of
your behind and do cannip a walk around the block,
you know. And I think that's what helped save me
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from that psiatica, because when I started walking back, I
didn't even walk backwards. I started walking backwards, and I
was like, just as soon as it came on, it
went off. But I got the message now. But and
I got the message loud and clear.
Speaker 3 (54:34):
This is not for you to stop.
Speaker 2 (54:35):
You stop.
Speaker 1 (54:36):
When I say stopping, I'm like, okay, you to stop.
I'm gonna give you the tools. I'm open up the
doors for you. Because when you're talking to gun and you.
Speaker 3 (54:42):
Know what you're supposed to do, God and the.
Speaker 1 (54:44):
Universe will open up and inspire for your great success.
Speaker 2 (54:49):
My lord.
Speaker 1 (54:49):
And when you you know where it's coming from, and
that's where you get the honor and the glory. And
I I ain't never got to be playing. You don't
have to need to know my name, but they gonna
know our was here. I remember sister Maya Asia. I
had her aunt to myself until they kicked the fund
of both of us after studio, so I said, okay,
I know y'all offense to your girlfriend things, but I
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got to go home. It got dark and she said
to me. This was many years ago, she said to me,
She said, uh, darling, and I you know, first of all,
my head got real this big. And she wasn't as
she was prominent in our community with other like the
other sections of the community did not know who she was.
And she said, and it was like he had one
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of my aunt's feet and trying to take as many
notes as I can. And I got everything from her
and how she made me feel. And that's what she said,
she said, don it. Uh, people are not going to
remember what she said. People I don't remember what you do.
They don't remember how you made them feel.
Speaker 2 (55:47):
Yes, yes, so true, so so so true.
Speaker 1 (55:51):
And people.
Speaker 2 (55:54):
People that had attitude when I remember what they did
to me, but that or are insulting or are disrespectful
or something like that. And you know, I thought about
I thought about something I say in the morning and
at night our father who aren't in heaven hall, it
would be thy names I Kingdom comes And there's a
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phrase in there forgive us pass those who has passed
against us. Even if I don't like then, bald, I mean, yes,
the individual soften my heart as I ask you to
soften your heart.
Speaker 1 (56:35):
Towards me, and you know we are we don't hear
some exact love stuff. You know, I know personally this
is a personal thing. I know I'm living on house money. No,
he comes down to me, I'm living on house money.
So I'm kind of like keeping next me because you
don't catch up with me eventually, and says about a
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God well done.
Speaker 2 (56:57):
And that's that's what I went to pay. The type
of mother.
Speaker 1 (57:04):
And you've got to understand God sees everything, you.
Speaker 2 (57:08):
Know, everything everything, well, he say bring.
Speaker 1 (57:11):
Everything to me in prayer. He just said, Okay, gonna
bring me some stuff. Just bring me the pretty stuff,
you know, Okay, just bring me the crazy stuff.
Speaker 3 (57:19):
You bring everything to me.
Speaker 2 (57:23):
We have the nerve, we a mitigated goll to say, yeah,
I'm gonna forgive them and won't forgive see saying talking
we want God to go ahead and throw our stuff
into the sea of forgetting.
Speaker 1 (57:39):
And they make the purple going on to the oh
and it. But we want to be so hard. I
mean people, there are still people that I know personally
who have been holding grudges their entire adult life. This
lady said, the twins, I mean they were they and
they were I difficult to I disficult And they had
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a fallen out now and the falling out was of
a birthday party. And one of the twins was fawing
a birthday party and then the other twin had just
got her dream job and then she had to go
like out on the retreat or something, you know, to
get everything together, and she didn't make it to birthday party.
The mother forgot she his sister refused to speak to
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her sister for almost thirty weeks. All the US and
nephews and here they was all type but they were like, well,
what's going with mama? What you And they were all saying, well,
you know, they twenty so both of them crazy and
they you know, but you know it ain't got time
to beholding no grudges. No, we just went outside, giving
the people the website and let them know about the
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conference coming up. And then close to you too, you know,
I get another business.
Speaker 2 (58:49):
Yes, yes, once again the website www dot Speak up
a Foundation and Long and He Foundation dot or mark
your calendar. Saturday, April nineteenth, twenty twenty five at the
Lone Beach Airport Marriott Grand Ballroom. We will be hosting
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our ninth annual Miss Single Mom empowerment for them. I
can't do is hit the website registration for him. Everything
will be on there. Everything.
Speaker 1 (59:21):
I would incourage to all the single mothers to attend
this wonderfully. Then congratulations on their ninth year, Happy Prisman,
Happy Kwanza, Happy birthday. This ladies and gentlemen, Robbie Butler,
he is an author, he is an entrepreneur, and he
loves me anywhere and tell people that on purpose. And
I ain't even gotta let her check PI. I doubly
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have a one stump. There's blessings. And remember this baby,
no matter how big or small, short or tall, pick
a chance matters, my ws Akin, You're in. Everybody needs
the mother loved now and then. And remember this, never
underestimate the power of forgiven.
Speaker 3 (01:00:00):
I love you, I mean it.
Speaker 1 (01:00:01):
See my love, thank you, and the welcome I Alex
Speaker 3 (01:00:09):
Maybe oh
Have my private reasons. See even more fabulous about your
Mother Loves coming to you live and the living color
right here on this regular program. We're here, We're on
all the platforms. You know, We're on the Facebook and whatever.
The guys changed the name to the to the Dove,
to the X, you know, all that curzy stuff. But
we get to do fun stuff right here on the
(00:20):
Mother Love Show. Speaking of fun, seeking of spirity, speaking
of being out in the community and not afraid to
get your dirty things, just dirty and get your feet
a dirty because you are out there in attrenches. That's
beautiful lady. That's miss Robbie Blessings. And she is the
founder and CEO of Speak Up Enterprises of Communicating Company,
(00:44):
and she's an author. You wrote this book that is
still resonating. He continues to resonate. He will never go
out of stile. Unfortunately, no, I can sound importune because
some people don't, you know, want to be married and
you know, still want to have kids. Talk tell people
about you, Bobbie. But as an author, she's reading a
book and it's dedicated to her. It is so funny,
it's so so true. She is dedicated to Miss single Mom.
(01:08):
Miss single Mama, miss single mom, miss single mother, and
miss single mother and mother did because you know, we
got people call money welcome to the program. Which could
you see you doing?
Speaker 2 (01:21):
My dead think you mother?
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Love?
Speaker 2 (01:24):
It's been way too long. I knew I was coming
on the show today. I got super duper excited. You know,
I lived life. I lived my life with the excite
that when I knew I was gonna be in the
chair talking to you again, I was just over the
moon happy. I said, oh, I'm gonna be on that
show because she's a real mother.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Say you right, he had a real mother for you
if your life coming. I started to tell you, I
am not your mother to birky act better than you do,
so don't give me a crazy stuff and then I'll
be you know how sometimes you see the kids out
here and then I call them kids.
Speaker 3 (01:59):
Anybody that younger than.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
Me, you're a kid, So back in them here and
and then just how you you know, using all the
spout language and acting like they don't have any home training,
you know, And he's on my nerve, and my husband say,
don't go over and bother them. Boys do not? Well,
maybe I can fix something to them and they won't
have this. Boys behavere as they get older.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
You are, you know, learn learn things that bood head
out of me, the head out of me, the hell
out of me, and just burns me and themn. Seeing
them boys, I sere with they tan sagging and all
their draws out. I'm going to them, I say, hey, hey, hey, ple,
you try to see all that? See you trying to
do all of that pumim things up?
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Oh see as we got to come at them from
all angles, because I go when I feeling like that,
I just want up behind them and pull their pants
all the way down. I'm like you said, you want
to show you behind, Let's see it. You can come on.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
I'm on, please let me see.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Let me see them draws, since you want me to
see them. Oh, and then they'll do this, Oh oh
that's over low. He pulled my pants down. You act
like you don't want them up on your behind, So why.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Not to make at all that?
Speaker 3 (03:05):
And they come up.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Got important though, mother mouse a friend of mine. He'll
go up and he'll say, hey, hey, my man, you
gotta steam back.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
Then I thought I thought about waiting at you know,
from all angles.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
And then I'm just gonna get these kids right here.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
And they, you know, doing unstupidous activity with their panther,
but the biler around their kneecap and there's something that
had no vision doing. The police is after them, trying
to chase them down, and they can't run.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
You got what is wrong with the undiest scene every girl?
I saw a news story one night the same thing.
Oh boy, they chasing him, were trying to get away.
He's trying to jump over the but he's holding onto
his hands. That's exactly how he's going.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
And you know what, no better for them to get caught.
That's right, you and you're not doing anything. We got
the bailers. Every person. Remember when we were growing up
and they would say, uh, you know big brother will
be watching you. Yeah, I'm like, okay, And now big
brother is watching everybody in there. People are so paranoid.
And my thing is, if you're not doing any unstupidish activity,
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if you're not doing anything that you're not supposed to
be doing espressively in public, because when you come out,
you're in public, don't do it. They could on the
Walmart of wave at them, give them a POSMD back
listen I'm like, hey, less, you saw she used to be.
I could pay more bout why I see we're capital going.
(04:39):
You know, we could squeeze a dollar and have an
eagle flying off the quarter.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
I know this, squeeze it, squeeze it back and still
looking for.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
And want to get this. We could stop on a diamond,
give your nickel change because we know what we're doing.
And your birthday, Happy birthday, for your birthday comes, know
that we love you and we're sending out our birthday
wishes for all of us here at the camp. Happy Birthday,
my dead. Remember the Decepber the twenty sixth or twenty seven.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
It's decent li the twenty sixth, and the way I
have people to remember it, I tell the Jesus Christ
first on the twenty fifth, and then Robbie Brody the sixth,
and me on the twenty nine. And you're on the
twenty nights. So don't get it dead.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
And this is what people need to realize. I would
I want. One of my wishes is if we can
have Christmas every day, even if it's just a little
bit of Christmas every day. We seem to be on
our best behavior, we seem to be. I came up
with a new one to what they really isn't new.
You know, when y'all shoppling, especially during the holidays, y'all stoppering,
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you bump into somebody, you know, you go excuse me,
or you know, running, I will say excuse me. I say,
that's a that's a that's a holliy De's what what
I tell them, that's a shopping bump. If you don't
bump into somebody during Christmas, something is wrong with you. Yeah,
so I'm bumping him and say, there's a Christmas book there.
I have my offering in the you know, watch the day.
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Why do the kids have all the fun? You know
how the kids will say, I'm I'm eleven and a
half and you go, okay, well see I'm in And
well in two couple of weeks we'll be right there.
And so now let's talk about your organization and what
it is did you do and where did you find
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the passion and compassion because you can do hell and
Gassoline draw and you are still doing your thing and
you get get better every day every year. I mean,
when we get together, it's like we just pick up
where we left out. As you know and you always
know that I'm here talk to people about the passion
that you have for single women.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
Okay, man raploaded question the whole thing. Okay, earlier this
my first book, miss single Mom. Yes you can. Back
in two thousand and nine, and you and everybody done
a saying this wasn't my idea, that was not to be.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
Of the sort, but my higher power to do. Okay, okay,
spend my life. Okay, wait, okay, okay, I gotta ask
you this. Okay, let's just hold that one there.
Speaker 3 (07:26):
When he said, this was not my plan.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
See, because I'm sure you know with your relationship that
you have with God and you know we is favors.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
Yeah, you know that, guys, we already know.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
And you you probably what the God had told him.
Your player and God and map out and map out
with you knew what you were doing. And God went, yeah, right.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
Man, let's because see I was planning. Me and myself
and I all three of us were planning to write
a New York Times best seller about something extremely fabulous,
and God did just what she suggested did He laughed
at me and said, Okay, now that you finished with
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your joke, let me tell you what's really going to happen.
So he gave me the idea to write that book.
And at first I thought it was just a little
quid article in his book, and it grew because I
was writing for a magazine. I was a freelance journalist,
and I thought, okay, cool, cool, cool. But it developed
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into a book. None of the publishing houses would touch it,
and so God told me he said he whipped it
in my ear. He really did. He said, hey, I
took you away from everything I did your job to do.
Now get it done. He freed up resources so I
could self publish that book, which I did. We published
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a couple of editions, and I thought I was done.
I thought, okay, you know, mister acomplice, Little did I know,
Mother love that that was just the beginning. So so
I write this book. I'm selling it Onesie tuesdies after
drunk of my car or whatever until I sold them all.
I'm thanking for the next episode. Well, the next episode
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came by way of feedback from the readers of the book,
because they started asking me, well, can we come together
and just talk about stuff that pertains to us? And
I thought about it. I was like, well, how we
gonna do this? You know, y'all talk about labor you
want me to walk? So then I found out it
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and I seriously I did. And I spoke with one
of my greatest business mentors and she said, you know,
you really should do a conference. I thought, well, okay,
I will, but if you help me so I would
sucker for it. I mean, I wrote, don't tell to stay.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Togetherl I am.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
I asked her to join me, and I found several
of the seasoned business people who who met with me
and we began to craft this idea out. And that
was back in twenty and fifteen. And so as a
result of that, I then created the Speak Up Empowerment Foundation.
(10:25):
That's our nonprofit that supports all the work we do. Well. Now,
I had to create a nonprofit because we were in
the process of creating the annual Miss Single Mom Empowerment
for Life. And the cool thing about the empowerment for
me and everything else that I do, I do not
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charge the women to attend. So I had to go
beg to get some money to make it happen.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
Let me ask you, this is it easier for you,
as you.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
Said, beg for money?
Speaker 1 (10:57):
Because listen, I only commentate you for one thing. And
have you told me call me when you need something? Okay?
Well I need like a check to help this out?
You know? And and do you find it easier for
you to ask for assistance for the for the company,
for the conference as opposed to asking for yourself? Do
you find it different posed to ask people to help you?
Speaker 2 (11:20):
Yes, you get because it's hard to be to ask
people to help me, because I think as long as
I'm able to get up and get outside and turn
some corners and and then I have the ability to
go make my own money.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
Right.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
But but what I do for the community, for these women,
it's a hundred percent responsor driven. And I help individual
understand the shoes that these women walk in, because see,
when I appeal to them, I remind them all of
our lives have been touched by a single mother, one
way or the other. That either you are your mother,
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words your sister, is your cousin, is is your best girlfriends?
All of our lives have been touched by a single
mother in some regard. And if you stop and think
about their journey, why wouldn't you open up your pocketbooks
to help provide access to resources to help them manage
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their life. And like you said, this is one hundred
percent sponsored driven. So I asked everybody to pitch in
and write.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
A check and not that that's what we really need
to do. We need to continue to pull our resources together.
And I've been told this as a billion times, why
do you want to be so dedicated to the black
women and why you don't do so and so and something.
I'm like, I'm gonna start at home first. I'm gonna
start at home. I'm looking we go over here, cross
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students tell me, Jemmie, well, you need to do us
and so and so and so my.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
House is.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
And that's what we're supposed We're supposed to commune together.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
That's what we do is we have to look in
the mirror and start there. I was able to write
this book with authority because I too was a teenage mother.
Were it not for the for my strong support system,
my mom and my siblings, I don't know what would
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have happened. But because I had their support every single
step of the way, I was able to graduate high
school that yes, that young, and I was able to
attend and graduate whether the top universities in the country
all because I had their support pushing me forward, which
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is one of the reasons why I'm so big on
support group. I don't care who you are, where you are,
you need somebody to have your back.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
This always to get ridden for this all the time.
I've been in therapy since I was working. I started.
That's when I first started therapy. And I've always said,
if they weren't for that, I don't know what kind
of crazy I would have been involved in. But you
know what they said, God watches over old folks, babies
and fools.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
Yeah, hick one of them for me, and you know you.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Would be right, absolutely, And so we were. I had
three there were six of us, four girls and two boys,
and our mother laid down the law, and they gotta
laid out on the law. You know you to be.
I'm still scared of my mother. She died a long
time ago, but her body did.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
But mee her my mother talking to night and what
I answered her out.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
Look at and you can hear them with me now.
They stay whis her and you could hear them just
as clear if they were in the room physically.
Speaker 3 (14:48):
Right then, I thought, I'm.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
Still scared of my mom.
Speaker 2 (14:51):
Yeah, and on that subject, everything I do is to
make my mother proud, even though she is in heaven now.
My mother, other my grandparents, my aunties, every smooth I
made professionally, every step I take it is to honor
the legacy of all of them, because I know the
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shoulders that I see it on, I know the examples
that they laid out for me, and nothing else would
be acceptable. It just wouldn't. And I just want to
give them a reason to smile and say, look at
that girl down They don't, you know.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
This is the case, and it's so unmportant that that's
still in the twenty first century, women are being ostracized
about being single, being criticized about, you know, oftentimes, especially
now in this damn age, you can't be single. It
is completely acceptable. You know.
Speaker 3 (15:46):
Just pisses me off when people.
Speaker 1 (15:48):
Talk to women, you know, like and they forty, well,
why you didn't have now kids? Well maybe out in
world kids, you know, you say, I think you know.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
Every every program that we host, one of the very
first things I do is to explain who and what
a single mother is.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
Now, let's hear that explanation, because it's a poinding to
you if not what people really think.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
Right, It's a single mother who's raising children on her own,
whether she never married, whether she's a widow, whether she's
a divorce see, or she might be one of the
millions of substitutes who are filling the shoes of a
mother who's missing for whatever reason, whether that mother is incarcerated,
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whether that mother is gonna deployed military duty, whether that
mother is deceased. Because see this is I don't care
for created your status. All I want to know is
what we gonna do. Now? Where do we go from here?
How do we move forward? And that's where I come
in to share the success strategies that I know have
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worked in my life and the lives of many other
single women raising children throughout this country.
Speaker 3 (17:03):
And it's it's we're gonna be the ones.
Speaker 1 (17:06):
You know, we're gonna be the ones to clean up
this crab show. You already know this. It's you're gonna
be the women, and we're gonna need everybody, whether if
they're all hands on deck. We don't have got to be,
you know, being in that crab barrel. We gotta listen.
I ain't got a problem with getting down on my
knees and letting one of the youngest get up, and
you know, she got to call up my back, you know,
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or whatever it is we got to do, and let
me stand up and with her on my shoulders so
she could see heresins and I can't. So she can
go slide when I can. And apparently your people, your tribe,
your leader, they were you ain't going down like that.
And it's not a mistake.
Speaker 3 (17:47):
And you never took that.
Speaker 1 (17:48):
As you know, when I'm a young mother, it's a mistake.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
Children, God don't make no. Was a creation blessed by him,
whether we thought we were there that baby or not.
The highest power in our lives. Since hide looks snow
and wide and can see a feature that we can't
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even imagine.
Speaker 1 (18:18):
I mean, if when you know, when you look at
when you turn around and look at it, you got
to think about we've lived in two centuries, Robby, we
lived in the twentieth century and the first twenty four
years of the twenty first century. Now we got something
to say, talk about buildings, and we can do this.
Speaker 3 (18:36):
We can do this. As you were growing up and
you know.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
You've got this positive foundation what kept you going because
being a being a mother I don't care if you
got a love and I got a husband. I never
been I've never considered myself a single mother because my
husband was all it was. You know, listen, I could
walk into the room yard this and this is one
of the ones that I say this, Hey, mother, love,
why you don't wear it?
Speaker 2 (19:00):
I'm like, well, you know, society puts puts labels on
us growing up. I mean, well, well, after I have
my child, I didn't look at myself as a single mother.
I just looked at myself as a mother with obligations
and responsibilities. So we just have to be really, really
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careful of what we allow society to feed into our lives,
to feed into our psyche, to feed into our emotionals,
to feed into our overall health and wellness. You know
you are where you speak into existence. But now I'll
tell you my driving forces, those things that kept me grounded.
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Number one, my mother. You know we're from East Texas.
I come from a tribe of strong, accomplished African American women.
My mother had three three siblings, all women. We all
walk very proud. We we didn't necessarily have a whole
lot of money, that we did have pride and honor,
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and that came from my grandfather. We always walked with
his head held Tina's back straight because we all do
you know what I'm saying. You might have a little
bit more than me materialistically, yeah, but you know to
go that's how that's worth. It is like what it
is your winter work. But they they showed me fairly.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
On that this I can.
Speaker 2 (20:33):
They didn't just tell me, they say, sold me by example,
so I knew that it was possible. Well, all I
had to do was get up off my lazy uh
behind and get out there and make it half way.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
And most of us Capricorn women are late bloomers because
we are women thodical.
Speaker 3 (20:53):
And we tell okay, let me let me trid this.
Speaker 1 (20:56):
And another thing I've learned about and i've and being
under that though they are signed as well, is that
the way I look at something, a project or whatever,
I'll say, Okay, this is what I want and this
is what my end goal is. Now I will go here.
So I looked and like, oh yeah, like I put
now look at me, go back to the starting point.
How can I make this work? What I'm going to jail?
Speaker 2 (21:20):
Absolutely right? And that's pretty much my approaches. I look
at the end game, I look at where I am,
I look at what I want to do. I look
at the end game, and then I worked back, Yes,
make it happen and think. But the thing is, I
think first. You know, you have to think it through.
It's just like cookies. Preparation is the most of it.
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Do you get up to just implement?
Speaker 1 (21:43):
So that's it that anybody can read them, well, not
anybody could read the follow directions and the rest of people,
because they got a jillion of them out there, and
a lot of these people cannot boil water. It's frightened
to that.
Speaker 3 (21:54):
And that's that's another thing.
Speaker 1 (21:57):
A lot of these young women and listen, let you
earlier you know whatever has separated them from their mothers
and announce they have to pick up the gauntlets and
walk through it and how they're gonna make this work.
People don't understand. You know, you got that.
Speaker 3 (22:11):
You've got to really pay.
Speaker 1 (22:12):
Attention to what your relationship is like with God. That's
got to be the first thing. I don't sure who
you conceived God to be. You've got to knowing your
hunt in your spirit that you ain't the only pluce
of saying I'll here on this beach. Baby. Now you
stand out and God can see, He can hear you.
She knows what you're thinking. Shall look at God in
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all kinds of ways, you know, because because you know,
I know men came up with how hell shoes in Brazils,
I know that it's God and get you see, we
ain't gonna even get started. So I'm trying to help you.
If you don't have to have a sense of humor
and life, I mean, why are you taking it so serious?
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We're not coming out of this alive. Let's make sure
that that Dads. In between the time you hit the
planet Dad and I tell you the planet gone, that
you left something here for people to look up to.
And when you talk about uh, you know, having strong
mentors and strong examples of how a woman is supposed
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to conduct herself and she don't be speaking all. I
feel a lot of that, a lot of that lady
like stuff. I kind of missed it when it was
given to hold directions for me at the original time.
Speaker 3 (23:24):
And then because I went.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
From girl to woman, I knew I was a grown
woman when I was seventeen years old, and I was like, Okay,
this woman had told me everything she knows. It's not
for me to get about it here, you know, and
everybody consays he's not gonna do it. He's this is
the word I honest think I've ever heard of except
in my family. He's such a flippy gigget like it's
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a cumft world. They sound like it's a count world
or something that you flippity gig He don't start not see.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
Oh absolutely with what we do so very easy.
Speaker 3 (24:06):
You never see he I just wanted that to know,
she started.
Speaker 1 (24:09):
I just did it sound like a cuss word? You said, yeah,
it's good. Be a cut for her, because you don't
know what that means. That could shut up up a up.
So now when you talk about supporting, what are some
of the maybe the top four or five instances that
you come across that are in you know, because all
of us are you know, part of the thread. You
know you're going with the needle and that we've in
the ever together that you've seen that they that they're lacking.
Speaker 2 (24:33):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
One of the things opportune and especially you know my
thing is you know, going out and talking with our
with our community about the importance of having good health
and understanding that you could. You deserve to be well
cared for. And what give me was a lot of
these women didn't even think about their health, their mental wellness.
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They were too busy thinking about what other people are doing. Okay,
I gotta keep going. I got ropy to pay Paul.
These babies I want to shoot. I been going and
Sath Linden, this is just with a bad nash. Okay, yeah, Mama,
that's when I was a baby. I need a fast
now woman's shoe, and it's so.
Speaker 3 (25:10):
Much coming at me so fast.
Speaker 1 (25:12):
What are those the threads that usually coming through with
the young people now especially?
Speaker 2 (25:18):
I want to ask that we as women, as mothers,
are our natural nurturing. We don't always look at what
we need. We fancy nurturing those around us, especially our
children and or our significant others, so we tend to
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neglect ourselves a lot. But I'm really happy essentially since
twenty twenty with COVID and everything, the saft that the
lands has been amplified on our health and wellness. There
are a lot of programs and we tend to incorporate
that into almost everything we do now. But a lot
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of things that are looking at women's overall health and wellness,
your mental health, your mysical health, your emotional health, because
all of that exists. All of that is important. Even
in one of the chapters in my first book, I
explained to the mothers, you're still important too. You want
all this stuff for your children and so on and
so forth. But what are you doing for you? Go
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take a walk on the beach. If you don't have
no money, you know, go sit us apart for half
an hour and just relax. You have to take care
of yourself. It's just like when you both a plane.
You know, they tell you you got to make sure
you ended work in order it. But you can take
care of anybody else, so in case there's an accident
or whatever. But back to our health. I'm a part
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of the Black Health Equity Collaborative in Long Beach. We
are a group of black serving nonprofits that came together
to support each other's success in doing COVID and help
is just a big component of everything that all of
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us do. Because so you step and think about it.
If you're physically ill, what can you do? Not very much.
It's emotionally ill. You're sitting over there all heartbroken, like
love sick, puppy. What can you really do protectively? And
if you're impacting in any other ways, it takes away
from your main focus. So I like the fact that
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we are now focusing on the health and wellness of
our women, of our mothers, and every year doing our
annual empowerment for them in April, we cover something in
that arena, in that area because the women and the
mothers we suffer from a lot of this. I got
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to take care of everybody else.
Speaker 1 (27:56):
You know, if somebody come home, momy you, I can
run around this go for a minute.
Speaker 3 (28:01):
And don't believe this is what God.
Speaker 1 (28:04):
They don't believe that they deserve to be in good health.
They don't believe they involve wellness. They don't believe that
you know, the power of the spirit and the universe
will open up a conspire for your success.
Speaker 3 (28:16):
Each of us has a gift.
Speaker 1 (28:18):
Don't have your gifts up under a basket?
Speaker 3 (28:20):
What is wrong with you?
Speaker 1 (28:22):
And if you don't, if you don't want to look,
can I can I have a light? Okay? If you
don't want it any good? You only do their sung
glasses when I'm come into the room, and and they
don't they look when you say, they look we and
we are nurturers. We are nurtury and I'm out of
the hard way.
Speaker 3 (28:37):
If I'm not.
Speaker 1 (28:38):
If I'm not well, like you just said, I can't
help anybody else be well.
Speaker 2 (28:44):
And a lot of us have fallen victims of death.
I am not deserving.
Speaker 1 (28:51):
Playing.
Speaker 2 (28:54):
We do deserve every blessing that God has put our
name on. So it's like receives it willingly, happily because
you do deserve it. You deserve to be taken care of,
You deserve to be pampered. Sometimes the other time, what
you do with you.
Speaker 3 (29:16):
I know that my husband know that you can't court me.
Speaker 1 (29:19):
It ain't gonna be Nona court, okay. And we've been
together the fifty years.
Speaker 2 (29:24):
And so it's reminding. It's reminding our mothers, our women,
our single mothers. You do deserve this. Take some time
out and focus on you. And I get that it's
difficult when you've got to play the little babies running
around you, even one little little toddler in the house
of me. It's so completely time consuming. But put that
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baby down for it now, Mary. Fact that makes me
think about my my virtual tea party. I would encourage
the mothers in the summer, buy a copy of my book,
drew a cup of tea, put the babe the sleeper
outside the place, focus on you. Read a chapter in
my books and let's let's move the needle forward and
we can do them and elevate the game. But I
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only just wrote the second book in twenty twenty three,
Miss single moms. Elevate your game. And that's because now
that you figured it that, yes you can, it's time
to elevate your game.
Speaker 1 (30:25):
Boy.
Speaker 3 (30:26):
In fact, you go do it, go again.
Speaker 2 (30:29):
But not only we don't just tell you how, we
don't still tell you to do it. We also give
you example, show you how to go do it.
Speaker 3 (30:39):
And that's what what that is.
Speaker 1 (30:41):
You guys are so needed. And I want to say
on behalf of all the women, especially the single women
the wonder who are out here, you know, working to
build their tribe, keeping their kids in a safe place.
I mean, when we were growing up, Doc, you've got
things with your childs on Saturday morning, but they say,
God got a play? Yeah, what about about snapping?
Speaker 2 (31:03):
No town?
Speaker 1 (31:03):
What is wrong with you? This? This was our safety net.
We lived in the project and our mother tell us
all the time and see she was a She said
he was never single. He had six kids. When my
when my father passed away, and she said, I'm a
widowed woman. I am the unremarried widow of She said,
that's what I want on my tombstone. I'm like, I
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ain't putting that on your tomb stone. She and my
dad were married until death parted them. And she would say,
when I go out there, somebody trying to because a
guy tried to snap my one of my little sisters
off the streets, and she she said, ron and hollow, Mama, Mama, mama,
help me, mama, and everybody mother will come out and
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come out of and oh miss and I mean they'd
be ten mothers and the guy on my way to
Dapple gold blind and we we waunt that sense of
security with all the craziness that's going on.
Speaker 3 (31:56):
That's all we've got to put on, all our armor.
Speaker 1 (31:59):
We got to be certainly, we got to step it on.
We gotta put two ammas out. I had a half
on on. I gotta lettle tiny baby head. I have
to put two helmes on because they're coming after us.
And we got to understand we're not fighting each other.
We're fighting the evil in this world. Just like you
gotta know, you got to know Satan believe in God.
It Satan didn't believe in God. He will be running things. Well,
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he ain't running nothing unless I allow him to run it.
And it's gonna be people. And I found I found
this out too when you're a praying person and people,
because you can tell when somebody have a relationship with God,
and and they will say, oh they come up that
holy water, Oh she doing so good. Other said, no, no,
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I got magic stuff. Who No, We are here to
be obedient. Here's things. All of us have a job,
and we all have a right to be at the
table of life and the table.
Speaker 2 (32:54):
Of absolutely right and except to us whether we accept
it and receive it, because you know, we don't try
to put yourself on nobody. And that's pretty much the
way we should live our lives. We really should. It's
just like, if it makes sense, receive it and move forward.
Speaker 1 (33:16):
Risk it, okay, even if it doesn't make sense to
you at the time. You know you've been earlier and
we talked about it. When you got want to hear
God laugh, you telling me your plan and I was
gonna you id.
Speaker 3 (33:28):
This is what I want to do, and that's what
I'm gonna have.
Speaker 1 (33:31):
And if I'm gonna be and well, you gotta be
obedient and ended that obedience. I have all of that.
I used to tell my friends all the time, people
in the world going on me, I know how I
was gonna do it. I used to tell them I
want to be rich and famous that I don't want
to be famous. I want to be rich and richer.
And I'm gonna fancy house and I have a fine husband.
We're gonna have a great life. We're gonna laugh every day.
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Even when we talk to crazy, we find a way
to laugh it out, you know.
Speaker 2 (33:58):
And you don't how I find. I find that when
I listen to my interspirit, that inner voice, that inner
boice talking to me, that is our interspirit. As long
as I listen and follow that direction, I don't go wrong.
But it's when I try to act wrong and take
over and do what I think I want to do,
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that's when I'm run into problems and I'm flf enough
now to come to real life. That that inner voice
speaking to me, it's my higher power to bring into
my ears. I simply have to have enough sense to
listen and follow. And it's not easy to No, it's
not easy. We have learning. I'm learning to do that
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more and more.
Speaker 1 (34:44):
And this is another thing, especially especially women, especially women
that are in you know, the heads of households of
you know, the head of a company, and whatever the
is that you're doing. You know when you're gonna get,
you're gonna get if what the kids. If you don't
have haters you and or nothing, you ain't doing that right.
If you don't have hater You know, you gotta be
careful about who prayed for you, because some folk are
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praying for your demand they are.
Speaker 2 (35:09):
Glad you better come on tell the Tuesday shave the
devil with that.
Speaker 3 (35:13):
See I'm you know, and and we'll tell you.
Speaker 1 (35:16):
Oh girl, you know you're a nice little girl. But
you know, if you have some of that wait off
for you, you'll be all right. I said, ahh, I
get off. Men's gonna turn up on your fat behind.
So you don't know what I'm saying. Oh, well, this
way came for my mother and love. I told you,
don't be messing with me, and you'll mess children. You
do not mess with the masters, kill them because.
Speaker 2 (35:37):
No, you do not. You are absolutely right about that.
And you know what, I get up every morning and
I have this conversation back about me saying I ain't
playing with you. Nonsense, okay, this black out.
Speaker 1 (35:54):
Uh it's like, you know one of the things that
you like to put it for your office or wherever
you in your house, and one of my EVERSU is
uh okay, now Jesus, could you get that for me?
I closed it at the door again.
Speaker 3 (36:11):
He got around.
Speaker 1 (36:12):
I got you, I got you. I think I didn't
even know where the resources were going to come from,
especially when you're starting out something new, and I would
I was like you, I'm gonna help God along. I can,
I can move this along. And then when I had
that conversation and he set me down in a real
hard place. Sometimes you gotta get snatched on your behind
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for you to pay attention to what you are being
told and that you have to discern for yourself, and
he'll lay you out. He will lay you out going.
I have p sciatica. I didn't even know what a
sciatic I mean, I knew what a siatic nerve was,
but I don't know it was gonna be that painful.
Oh my God twenty four hours a day I cooked.
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It was just crazy and just to suddenly if it
came upon me and God had me let stuff. I
got up off the couch one day and the doctor saying,
you know, there's no kay, I don't know what starts
by half. I saw that's another thing. And to give
us sciatica nook in that same thing, women.
Speaker 2 (37:15):
Well it's a job. It's it's okay. I like to
take the conversation back to simply we were touching up
one earlure. Okay, So I reim mentioned myself. You know,
as you probably remember, I came from a full corporate
career where I was a corporate executive doing all of
that stuff, and then I was given this assignment that
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I have right now with this non profit. The non
profit will be ten years old in twenty twenty five.
Speaker 1 (37:48):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (37:49):
But even bigger than that, it's the fact that in April,
on April nineteenth, twenty twenty five, we will host our
ninth ninth Miss Our Night annuals Miss Single Mom Empowerment Forums.
Now this this is this forum. It's a day that
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we built especially for the single mothers in the community.
This is our pree Mother's Day gifts.
Speaker 1 (38:18):
That's wonderful to look us through some of the important
issues that you're going to be covering in this conference,
and why it's important to single mothers and other mothers
who attend because they need to support system. We can
be there to be supportive.
Speaker 2 (38:33):
You ask such wonderful questions. First of all, it was
created and is designed for the to help the success
of the single mothers. However, I don't discriminate on the
base of nothing, not your dippodes, not your age, not
your gender, not that I have many single fops in attendance.
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I have married mothers who attend because there is something
in there for every parent. Uh. The event takes place
at the Long Beach Airport Marriott Hotel in the Grand Ballroom.
On purpose they they could retreat women the way I
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believe they deserve to be treated. And I'm gonna tell
you a little bit more about the program, the day's program.
But in the middle of that day, we feed them lunch,
a sit down lunch, a sit down, white tablecloth lunch
in the ball at the marriage I'm not talking about
no brown paper sandwich in no facts in the rock.
Speaker 1 (39:39):
They got the little box they give them like.
Speaker 2 (39:42):
Okay, I'm with you. So we we feed them a
three court lunch. And again, for many of these women,
they have them been treated on this level before. And
I know that because of the feedback, the surveys, our
results tell me things like, miss Brother, this program saved
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my life. Missus Butler, this program changed my life, Miss Brother,
thank you for treating us with such dignity and respect.
I simply treat them the way I know they deserve
to be treated. And again, it's one hundred percent sponsorsive.
I do not charge the attendees, not even ten dollars,
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because I feel, if you got ten dollars, you go
buy a roller quarters for your family and do the laundry. Love,
And I hate get ten dollars, you know, because I'm
gonna find the money. And every year we have been
blessed exponentially.
Speaker 1 (40:44):
Everybody said, this ain't my program, mother, Love.
Speaker 2 (40:47):
This is God's the way. So by he told us, so,
didn't he say I will provide all your needs?
Speaker 3 (40:57):
You say you will.
Speaker 1 (41:00):
That's what I wanted to say to you when I
was trying to explain that God was telling me what
to do. And then I said, and it was I
was like, wait, wait, that sounds really crazy. Why I'm
will get to Uh, we don't worry about it. I
got that you, I said, But what about what I'm
gonna ta? You don't worry about I got.
Speaker 2 (41:17):
You, He's John.
Speaker 3 (41:18):
I said, but what I mean?
Speaker 1 (41:19):
And I'm just going And he said, I just shut up.
Speaker 2 (41:22):
I just right there. Just sit on in the corner
and pay attention that a piece of paper and take
notes while he's talking to you. But bast to that
empowerment for me.
Speaker 1 (41:37):
So what we do.
Speaker 2 (41:39):
We we provide expert speakers on a on a core
group of critical subjects such as financial literacy, business development, housing, uh.
We have covered other topics such as teenage gender identity
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because a lot of my boys want to be girls,
a lot of my girls want to be boys, and
my daddy's want to be mama, So my mama's want
to be gaddy.
Speaker 1 (42:06):
Now, look, that's your goodness.
Speaker 2 (42:10):
But the thing is, you have to know how to
talk to your children on this subject. And that's why
I had one of my colleagues and experts to come
in and explain how to have a conversation, how to listen,
and how to talk. Just as an example, we have
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speakers from some of the some of the major well
known corporations, companies that's going and so forth, And again
I was this is one hundred per cent n everybody
on this program donates their time and their talent. This
is a part of our well, there's a term, you know,
when we give back to the community. Who much is given,
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much is required.
Speaker 1 (42:56):
And people got to understand that, I mean they want to.
I mean, and I know the Bible, especially the King
James Virgin, you know, I understand about it all that,
and he changed the Bible so he can make give
divorce to get mad and everything. It's the foundation, you know,
it's a map. It's a blueprint for how to conduct
yourself through life. I mean everything from the time you
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hit the planet to the time you know, you find
them what your whole pation is and you do that.
Speaker 3 (43:24):
And then when it's over, when what they say those.
Speaker 1 (43:26):
Who can do, those who can't speak.
Speaker 2 (43:29):
So we.
Speaker 1 (43:32):
Probably like eleventeen hundred times, you know, from and back door,
put it on the bed and you go from that.
And I was like, okay, now here's a blueprint for
how to be a good wife, how to be a
good husband, how to be a good mother, a good father,
a good How al are you going to be with
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your finances?
Speaker 3 (43:53):
You know, all of this?
Speaker 1 (43:55):
Taking care of your health? He said, your body is
a temple. You're not. Don't get ready through no God
but myself.
Speaker 3 (44:02):
And when when when it's seeing that I'm.
Speaker 1 (44:06):
Put I'm still looking for the instructure of being retired.
There is no instruction.
Speaker 2 (44:16):
You want you hired, you won't hired that that nerd
does not exist in I will vocabulary.
Speaker 1 (44:22):
Mother love, I thought you knew I was like retired up.
Speaker 2 (44:27):
You have been given life long assignments. I now a
community servant. I am here. I have discovered my purpose,
which is also very much my passion, and I will
do this until I can't any longer. I realized I
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am here to make a difference. He gave me a
voice and he told me to use it. And that's
what I do. And the cool thing about what I
do I bring in all my friends and associate See,
why do you think I did.
Speaker 1 (45:02):
A PREDI your program because we don't we we don't
have access to the media where we can talk about
pretty much everything from you know, from praying to politics.
That you know, my husband Guy on my last nerve.
I gotta tell you this. You know the difference between
a good girlfriend and a great girlfriend. Tell me, okay,
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a good girlfriend. I have called up late Robbie Man, Yeah,
touching up the mother love. Do not touch anything, don't
talk to anybody until I get there. Don't call the police,
wait till I get there. A great friend. I'm gonna Robbie,
Robbie I think he did. He said, don't worry, I'm
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coming with the shovel in the dirt, and.
Speaker 2 (45:48):
How much the are we gonna need.
Speaker 1 (45:49):
If we do, he's going to shallow when we got
to be out there, bigger than all night. Now, you
know what I'm talking with the last me.
Speaker 2 (45:58):
I love you, I know you.
Speaker 1 (46:00):
I'm that girlfriend. I'm that girlfriend.
Speaker 3 (46:03):
I got up in the middle of it, I think,
and we're so thanks. I'm here.
Speaker 2 (46:08):
Where I mean. I gotta tell you this. I gotta
tell you this. Okay. So this past year we are
full to relationship with the month four point Marine Association
Chapter eight in La and my cousin's chapter down into Mechila.
But the reason I mentioned that is because they have
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just gifted my association with an allotment of toys that
will be distributing to our single mothers over the weekend.
Speaker 1 (46:42):
We're gonna do. I'll come with my very off, but
you know, I'm sacking self in the hood.
Speaker 2 (46:47):
I'm a Christmas well girl. I was up all night
two nights ago putting the email together, sending it out
to my mother's and we're going to distributorys on probably
often I carry the things to the family. So this
Christmas week, for example, brotherhod Cruse with one hundred pair
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of brand new tennis shoes of three or four years ago.
I personally delivered those shoes to the to the single
mothers so that they would have something under the tree
for their family that year. I'm serious about it, and
these toys are going to make a big difference. But
I just use that as an example. We have given
the women grocery gift card because he will get a
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turkey and ham anywhere. But there's more to a meal
than just a turkey or ham.
Speaker 1 (47:39):
Well just suit. Yeah, you gotta get y right.
Speaker 2 (47:42):
So those are just some of the things that my organization.
I say, my it's a bunch of us, but the
organization does that. But I would be remissius. I did
not mention the fact that registration for the ninth annual
Miss Single Mom and Forum will open at the end
of January. I will be sending you that date as
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soon as we lock it down, because each year we
throw the net further and wider. I want to bring
them all over there into that ballroom because the more
that the more people I get in that room, the
bigger the room will be me into a bigger than you.
And remember, we don't charge you a dime. But we
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do take donations.
Speaker 1 (48:29):
Okay, Lotty had a bucket ready, you know, there's that's
what we have to do.
Speaker 2 (48:34):
We take We take donations. We take financial and product donations.
And the products important because we give away some awesome
gift bags. When you check in, you've got an amazing
gift bag from our sponsors and supporters waiting for you.
I'm talking about usable stuff you're gonna throw the trash can.
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Oh no, I'm talking about some car and some real
province and things that you need in your life, some
stuff you want to have.
Speaker 3 (49:07):
So can you hear with what share with us?
Speaker 1 (49:09):
When you talk about sponsorship and a lot of women,
especially nowadays, who are entrepreneurs, are working to become an entrepreneur.
Are some of the sponsors that will be there. That's
give a shout out to them because they love you.
Speaker 2 (49:22):
Oh my god, I have to the very first sponsor
who's always comes into the table every year, the Port
of Long Beach, go Long Beach.
Speaker 1 (49:32):
About that.
Speaker 2 (49:33):
Yeah, support of Long Beach, Long Beach Transit, the city
mayor and the City Council, Gold Beach. We have support.
Oh god, it's so many of them. The La Lakers
use Foundation that stood with us and supported us, Blueshields,
LA Care. Oh my god, why do you raise the
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Bar found which is a foundation owned by Lorie Barr
and her son who plays for the Minnesota Vikings. And
the Bar Foundation is giving us a college scholarship to
give to one of our deserving single mothers. We afford
that relationship. So we're going to begin that. Hey, mother, love,
I'm doing so much. I can't even remember half the time.
Speaker 1 (50:23):
You move it up fast. You can't even keep up
with yourself.
Speaker 2 (50:27):
Now, I'm telling you. Because look, we give out things
like hotel bounces you I should say, overnight stays for two.
Thank you to the Western Hotel of Long Beach. The
holiday en Oh my god, that list is so long.
If you hit my website though, www dot Speak Up
Empowerment Foundation dot Ford, it tells the entire story. I
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got to say it again www dot Speak Up Empowerment
Foundation dot Ford. All one word, Oh my god. And
I forgot to mention the community empowerment leaders yere Yes.
Each year we select three women whose life work has
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helped empower the women, the mothers and or the single
mothers in our community. And I'm gonna let the cat
out of bag. You're on our very short list, so
they'll be surprised when you get the email. I'm just saying,
but now we do that, well.
Speaker 3 (51:29):
Then you're going to.
Speaker 1 (51:32):
You yet.
Speaker 2 (51:36):
We have an eye on you. I just want you
to know that power. You empower the community with your show,
and you've done that for many years.
Speaker 1 (51:46):
I found out I've been out here for thirty five years,
and everybody back home said he'll be back.
Speaker 2 (51:51):
In a month.
Speaker 1 (51:52):
We'll give her a month, and they still to this day,
thirty five years later. So when you come home, I'm like,
I'm at home. Now we got on when you coming
really coming home, I'm like, I'm at home wherever my
baby laundry is.
Speaker 3 (52:07):
That's where I live.
Speaker 1 (52:08):
That's why I live in a hotel when I have
to go, you know, got to have ptivis. And they don't.
They don't get it, you know. And and I just
I'm gonna keep on doing it. I will keep doing it.
I keep I will keep talking about the the importance
of a wellness spiritually. Uh, your health is so important.
And people just and exactly our people. And if you
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then with your people, Roberts, they think like they don't
need to have no health, good health care and come
in and look well. And then it's the part to
give me. Now, you know your feet is swell enough
because you've been cooking five pounds of chickens every fifteen
minutes for the church funck. And you got to go
near the baby's back. And cause sister Rivers daughter granddaughter
having a new baby, and we want the baby to
(52:49):
have something new. We are such nursery. We will take
our ex husband's new wife baby in because they come
find a babyfitter. Well it's time. Well he's dealing with kills.
You know, we got all the Levantine children, so and
you know we will. You know, I got you, I
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got you.
Speaker 2 (53:10):
You're you're right, and you know I'm with you when
you're right, and you're right.
Speaker 1 (53:14):
And I might say, okay, everybody, everybody has a role
to play. Understand what your role is. Get into it.
It's no, it's not going to be easy, but when
you get the call and get up, you know they set.
My aunt used to yep, God rest her. So when
I was a kid, she used to say, you know
you're gonna be in the banded this. I was like
what what? Okay? First of all, I had too many
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syllables in it, and I was like, okay, e vandil
this what is that? And she used to tell me
that all the time that I was gonna do God's work.
I just thought she's kind of looky, because what kind
of looking. He's one of my favorite aunts. He's kind
of lucy. And when I got the opportunity to speak
at a church and I was like, okay, guys, you
ain't gonna throw a lightning boat down here because this
(53:56):
this your wall said, Okay, you're fight and understanding that
you don't have to be sick, you have to be unhealthy.
You know, there are little things, like you said earlier,
there are little things that you get up off of
your behind and do cannip a walk around the block,
you know. And I think that's what helped save me
(54:19):
from that psiatica, because when I started walking back, I
didn't even walk backwards. I started walking backwards, and I
was like, just as soon as it came on, it
went off. But I got the message now. But and
I got the message loud and clear.
Speaker 3 (54:34):
This is not for you to stop.
Speaker 2 (54:35):
You stop.
Speaker 1 (54:36):
When I say stopping, I'm like, okay, you to stop.
I'm gonna give you the tools. I'm open up the
doors for you. Because when you're talking to gun and you.
Speaker 3 (54:42):
Know what you're supposed to do, God and the.
Speaker 1 (54:44):
Universe will open up and inspire for your great success.
Speaker 2 (54:49):
My lord.
Speaker 1 (54:49):
And when you you know where it's coming from, and
that's where you get the honor and the glory. And
I I ain't never got to be playing. You don't
have to need to know my name, but they gonna
know our was here. I remember sister Maya Asia. I
had her aunt to myself until they kicked the fund
of both of us after studio, so I said, okay,
I know y'all offense to your girlfriend things, but I
(55:10):
got to go home. It got dark and she said
to me. This was many years ago, she said to me,
She said, uh, darling, and I you know, first of all,
my head got real this big. And she wasn't as
she was prominent in our community with other like the
other sections of the community did not know who she was.
And she said, and it was like he had one
(55:30):
of my aunt's feet and trying to take as many
notes as I can. And I got everything from her
and how she made me feel. And that's what she said,
she said, don it. Uh, people are not going to
remember what she said. People I don't remember what you do.
They don't remember how you made them feel.
Speaker 2 (55:47):
Yes, yes, so true, so so so true.
Speaker 1 (55:51):
And people.
Speaker 2 (55:54):
People that had attitude when I remember what they did
to me, but that or are insulting or are disrespectful
or something like that. And you know, I thought about
I thought about something I say in the morning and
at night our father who aren't in heaven hall, it
would be thy names I Kingdom comes And there's a
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phrase in there forgive us pass those who has passed
against us. Even if I don't like then, bald, I mean, yes,
the individual soften my heart as I ask you to
soften your heart.
Speaker 1 (56:35):
Towards me, and you know we are we don't hear
some exact love stuff. You know, I know personally this
is a personal thing. I know I'm living on house money. No,
he comes down to me, I'm living on house money.
So I'm kind of like keeping next me because you
don't catch up with me eventually, and says about a
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God well done.
Speaker 2 (56:57):
And that's that's what I went to pay. The type
of mother.
Speaker 1 (57:04):
And you've got to understand God sees everything, you.
Speaker 2 (57:08):
Know, everything everything, well, he say bring.
Speaker 1 (57:11):
Everything to me in prayer. He just said, Okay, gonna
bring me some stuff. Just bring me the pretty stuff,
you know, Okay, just bring me the crazy stuff.
Speaker 3 (57:19):
You bring everything to me.
Speaker 2 (57:23):
We have the nerve, we a mitigated goll to say, yeah,
I'm gonna forgive them and won't forgive see saying talking
we want God to go ahead and throw our stuff
into the sea of forgetting.
Speaker 1 (57:39):
And they make the purple going on to the oh
and it. But we want to be so hard. I
mean people, there are still people that I know personally
who have been holding grudges their entire adult life. This
lady said, the twins, I mean they were they and
they were I difficult to I disficult And they had
(58:02):
a fallen out now and the falling out was of
a birthday party. And one of the twins was fawing
a birthday party and then the other twin had just
got her dream job and then she had to go
like out on the retreat or something, you know, to
get everything together, and she didn't make it to birthday party.
The mother forgot she his sister refused to speak to
(58:23):
her sister for almost thirty weeks. All the US and
nephews and here they was all type but they were like, well,
what's going with mama? What you And they were all saying, well,
you know, they twenty so both of them crazy and
they you know, but you know it ain't got time
to beholding no grudges. No, we just went outside, giving
the people the website and let them know about the
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conference coming up. And then close to you too, you know,
I get another business.
Speaker 2 (58:49):
Yes, yes, once again the website www dot Speak up
a Foundation and Long and He Foundation dot or mark
your calendar. Saturday, April nineteenth, twenty twenty five at the
Lone Beach Airport Marriott Grand Ballroom. We will be hosting
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our ninth annual Miss Single Mom empowerment for them. I
can't do is hit the website registration for him. Everything
will be on there. Everything.
Speaker 1 (59:21):
I would incourage to all the single mothers to attend
this wonderfully. Then congratulations on their ninth year, Happy Prisman,
Happy Kwanza, Happy birthday. This ladies and gentlemen, Robbie Butler,
he is an author, he is an entrepreneur, and he
loves me anywhere and tell people that on purpose. And
I ain't even gotta let her check PI. I doubly
(59:44):
have a one stump. There's blessings. And remember this baby,
no matter how big or small, short or tall, pick
a chance matters, my ws Akin, You're in. Everybody needs
the mother loved now and then. And remember this, never
underestimate the power of forgiven.
Speaker 3 (01:00:00):
I love you, I mean it.
Speaker 1 (01:00:01):
See my love, thank you, and the welcome I Alex
Speaker 3 (01:00:09):
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