Shantell Kennedy & Tunisia Offrey on So. CA Women’s Health Conference 2024

Shantell Kennedy is a dedicated community advocate  With a strong foundation in community service instilled by her family, Shantell has committed many years to public service, notably assisting Councilmember John J. Kennedy of Pasadena. She also serves as an active board member of the Southern California Women’s Health Conference, where she contributes to initiatives that promote women's health and empowerment. Tunisia Offrey became a Certified Domestic Violence Counselor driven with a passion for helping others through Project PeaceMakers at the 77th District police station in Los Angeles, CA. She co-founded Shepherd’s Door Domestic Violence Resource Center with her mother, Linda Offray. Drawing from her training and personal experience as a survivor of domestic and teen dating violence, Tunisia teaches 52-week court-mandated Domestic Violence classes and educates youth on healthy versus unhealthy relationships. In 2009, Tunisia founded Women, Wealth, Warriors, a platform to support women entrepreneurs. 

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello, my cyber babies. It's mother Love. I don't know
what's going on here, but right now we just want
to let you know they we're happy that you're here
with us today. This is Giving Tuesday of the holiday season. Okay, okay,
this is season. This is Giving Tuesday. And we had
over the weekend support the small businesses in your community.

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And today is Giving Tuesday. And at the end of
the week there's going to be because if you're not
taking care, I'll tell you about what's going on at
the end of the week. But we don't take care
of ourselves as the matriarchs and our families as the
connective tissue in our community, and we don't take care
of our health. We really don't have too much to

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offer because when you think about it, you gotta think
about it. And one of the things that we don't
do is, especially as women, we will take care of
everybody else in the families in the community at your church.
I mean, think about family. You are willing to sacrifice
your goals and your dreams to help somebody in the

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family who's not doing as well. I mean, I know
women who have taken in their ex husbands. His new
wife took in the baby because they couldn't find any
really good effective child care that they could afford. And
for her to step up and say, well, I'll take
care of the baby. And her cousin said, well, why
would you do that? And she said, well, the baby

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didn't have to be here and so I can do it.
Why would I not do that. You're the father of
my children. This is their brother, so why would I
not take care of them? She said, do their sucks?
Because she was committed to taking care of that baby,
and he would. He became closer to her than a
lot of kids come to other, you know, members of

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their family, first cousin, the you know aunts, and she was.
He was very close to her, thriving and doing. Well,
we'll do that. Think about your community. You're a jointed coalition.
You become an advocate for whatever's going on in your neighborhood.
You know, whether it's it's it's team violence, it's it's
you know, teaching young women about the importance of taking

(02:09):
care of their bodies and even it's a lot of stuff.
They're advocates out there, and you will do this. Whether
you had a good night at sleep, you might have
had a bad day and you see what the what
you bring to the table, and you go, oh, I
gotta do that because this is bigger than I am.
And I think that's where a lot of people don't

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understand what their assignment is because you know, well, this
is just to be Why would I think about I
would see and you all know me. Y'all know me.
You know I love God, God love me. I'm just saying.
And to add that interpersonal, personal, intimate relationship with God,

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whoever you conceive God to be the God that I
uh in my life is so forgiving and so loving
and so nonjudgmental. And I can say that we all
do conviction and all do joy in my heart because
I'm still here. I am, I am a I am

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one of gods. You know, I'm one of the good stories.
Well a third of the stories. Well used to be
a two and a half heathens, and I'm down to
a half a heathen. So I know that God is
still working on me. And I don't think that there
is anything wrong with anybody being able to commune, celebrate

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pray with the people that they love. And just because
they might not love the same God you love, they
might love the different one, and that's just fine. You
don't have to you know, agree with everything, agree with
we want to live in peace, Agree that we want
to be in good health. Agree that we believe that
we can live in peace. We've seen it before, and

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believe that we can be in good health and send.
All of that takes work, All of that takes a commitment,
and a lot of people oftentimes don't just go. Like
I said, it's just too big. Well why do I
need to go? And I wasn't that same in that
same conversation that I was trying to have with God,

(04:17):
and when the opportunities came along for me to go
to the next step, to go to a higher step,
to go to a higher plane, or let me say stuff,
I'm gonna I'm just from yump breath all on me,
I was like, Okay, you can't say God has lost
his mind. You have to believe you'd have lost your
mind for believing this is some crazy stuff that you
could do. And why would God come to you two

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and a half Jesus and say this is what I
need you to do daughter, because I had a plane.
Oftentimes our plan does not fit God's plan. It just
doesn't fit. And many of us, including myself, we learned
the hard way. We learned that we could do it.

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We could do it, you know, we just got to
be in there. We just gotta do it. Then when
it gets to be too big, too heavy, then you go, oh,
my money, Oh this is too much. Oh don't think
I want to do this anymore. And you know you
have to. You know, this is your assignment. And it's
not my responsibility to tell you what your assignment is.
It's not anybody's responsibility to tell you what kind of

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personal relationship you ought to have, you should have, you
need to have with your higher power so you can
step into your purpose. And I say that boldly. I
do not believe that any person that hits this planet
is hereby happen chance. You are here because you have
an assignment, You have a mission. There are things that

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you can do, and there are things that you are
supposed to do, and oftentimes it might not be your
call one of the And I say that because when
you realize that each of us has a purpose, and
I'm sure, go, well, mother love, what about the sick babies?
That's a purpose, these children? And I think that's awful
that our babies get sick and we really don't know

(06:05):
what to do. I mean, you got a two and
a half three year old and you know her belly
is swelling up and you know she's starting to get lethargic, and.

Speaker 2 (06:11):
You're like, well, what's fuck?

Speaker 1 (06:12):
What's the baby? And then you know she's sick for
a couple of days and you get nervous and you're like, okay,
and we gotta go. We got you get to the doctor,
you get to the emergency room, you get in you
and they tell you your baby has cancer, whatever it is.
And I have said with six Chi six children from
as young as six years old and the younger ones,

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they got a lot more resilience than people wanna give
themselves credit for. And you say, what, what is what
is this baby having cancer? How is that? Her? Finman
to make you think with your heart, with your heads,
with your hands, what can I do? This is my child?
And and you feel helpless. You just like what am

(06:57):
I supposed to do?

Speaker 3 (06:59):
Yea?

Speaker 1 (06:59):
And you go to get help and there are places,
there are strong foundations that you go and they find
out what's going on with your baby, and that's their assignment.
To help make your baby well. And your assignment is
to make sure your baby is safe. She knows that
she's loved, she knows that she can do whatever she does.
And you know, we're sitting there trying to hold back

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because you wanted to let it all spill out, and
you just can't. And we have to be strong for them,
your child, other people's children. I look at all the
kids as belonging to me unless they're paying rent, buying groceries,
big car insurance. Other than those, that's a different group.

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The group I'm talking about our children that are so
we need to learn to mold them better, to start
teaching them better sooner that the whole world does not evolved,
especially in this day and age. The whole world does
not resolved to revolve around a video game or you know,
being on the on the computer. And and I know,
I know how you know, how passionate and how crazy

(08:07):
we can make this right here, and we can sit
here no matter where you are, uh and in your
mama basement or in your grandma, up on your on
your bosses, up on the rooftop, and you're doing what
you're doing, and and and you you know, you get
caught up in it. I I get caught up in it.
I mean a long time. It will not go be
a long time. Well, no, it's been a long time.

(08:27):
And I have to remember the timeline. And I remember
once I got my first computer. Okay, I want to
see they come in here and make me lose my thought,
say lord, I have to be focused in care. And
what happened. Nonetheless, it got me a computer and that
was my first well actually that was my second or

(08:49):
third home office. I don't remember, but they give me
a computer because it you know, were creating a new
home office on the different side of the country. So
get the computer and it's set and I'm watching all
this stuff that's going on around me with people with
these computers, and I was like, I don't think I
wanna be involved in that. I think, you know, everything

(09:11):
is not good for everybody. And I was, you know,
that's my thinking. And so I was I don't know
that I wanna be involved in this whole computer age.
And you know, the kids are saying, oh no, you
gotta get involved. This is where it's going. You gotta
keep up with the times. And like I told you earlier,
I slunk the type of class because I didn't like
the teacher. And now I stupid with that, oh my
part people getting pay check. To this day, I still

(09:33):
type like this with two things. That's why I finger
for them and often over here and get cramped them sometimes.
And you gotta, you know, take care of yourself. Don't
ignore it. And I kept trying to ignore it, and
so I said, well, you know what I'm gonna One
day I came here from work and they had taken
the computer out, booted it up. Only thing I knew
about boots, which you you put 'em on like glosses

(09:54):
when the weather is bad, you know, rain and sing
on them, what have you. They took it out. They
you know, got me in it, got me a user
name and all of that stuff. And it is a
big window to the world. It could be very loving
and giving and so full of information, and it can

(10:15):
also be very vicious. And it's not the computer. It's
not the software. It's our take on it and how
we interact with this, you know, we, I mean, they
got stuff. Now, I was like freaking out. I have
type two diabetes and I do manage it well. I
have type two diabetes, and so you know now now
you start to get up and go to see the

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doctor every three months, you know, make sure you know
all my pieces parts of working, doing what it is
that I need to do to have so that I
have diabetes and diabetes does not have me. Okay, so
you know now at the beginning of the year, or
maybe at the end of last year, you know, my
primary care physician, she says, Okay, you know you need

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to go online and register for the office, when you
could get your appointments, you could schedule your lab work.
You can do this back in the third and I'm
like on a computer, okay, just the same entity that
had my had my identity. And that was a nightmare
to have my identity stolen. Like I didn't even do it.

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I mean I literally had to begin again from scratch.
And just so you know, that seems to be my
one of my strong points. You know, I can have it.
It can all fall down, but then it can all
get right back up.

Speaker 4 (11:32):
O hate, No, I'm talking Tony, Okay, hang up, honey,
I am well.

Speaker 1 (11:44):
I was just talking about the importance of women at
taking good care of themselves and their health. We can
do all these magnificent things and the advocates in the community,
and we want to help the children, and then what
happens with us? Oh wait, wait, wait, wait wait, okay,
wait a minute, I got Tanisa. She's here too. Oh perfect, Hey, Tonisa, Hi,

(12:08):
how are you? I am? Well, thank you very much.
I was just sharing with the audience and uh and
Chantelle and you know this as well. You know, you
guys look so beautiful to y'all.

Speaker 3 (12:18):
Know.

Speaker 1 (12:18):
I had to come with my aid. I put on
my good off for you. I'm so see when you
get to be I say, where I am you. I
used to wonder why you older women not where was
there out in public? Because I thought I was like crazy.
As a seasoned person, I totally understand, y'all. I told
you I get it. I get it because you gotta

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take care of your body. You gotta take care of
your health. And I want to thank you both. This
is Chantelle Kennedy, Chantelle Kennedy, that's really her last name
is Chantelle Kennedy. And this is Tanisa. Oh afreak off
way open, ohfray, Well, welcome to the program. These are
two of the leaders who have you're putting together this

(13:01):
women's conference here in Casadena with Leanna Kennedy, who is
just an absolutely phenomenal person who shared with me, Oh, mother, love,
you don't have to go out there in the big
white rule. You can do great in your community. And
coming from a community communicative, certainly, I totally understand that.
So let's get to know about you all, so and
then we'll talk about the conference. So, first of what,

(13:23):
you can't tell what? I know you're from Pasadena. What
lets you involved and wanting to do what you do
and be an advocate in the community.

Speaker 5 (13:35):
Well, I come from a family that is all about
community service, So it's just it's kind of one of
those things that are just passed down. But as you
continue to do the work of serving your community and
being able to be involved with so many different things
and have a say, showing things and know what's happening,
you kind of find a love for it. So I've

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kind of, over the years, you know, especially with the
conference and serving on different communities, just kind of threw
myself in there and ended up here.

Speaker 1 (14:05):
See, I don't think they're ending up anywhere my dead
I see you know you're doing the dog one thing.
So tell us about you. Tell us about Tanisha.

Speaker 6 (14:15):
Hello, thanks everyone, thank you for having me here.

Speaker 7 (14:18):
I am tannisia O pray. What has led me into
community service.

Speaker 6 (14:24):
I would say a lot of it is my own
lived experience.

Speaker 5 (14:27):
I have a domestic violence organization and which I worked
with women and.

Speaker 6 (14:32):
Families impacted by domestic violence, and that.

Speaker 5 (14:35):
One started by my mother is twenty five years ago.
Based on my lived experience, she is very community driven
and she got out there, and she comes from the
old school here to get out there, you speak, your
hands dirty, your feet on the ground, and you just do.

Speaker 7 (14:49):
The work right. And I've seen her turn.

Speaker 2 (14:52):
All of this stain in to power by doing the work.

Speaker 8 (14:55):
After coming through my own life struggles, I then circled
back around and here I am doing the work as
well being involved in the community. Peeps be around it
and people okay, did you be grateful and humble? And
I love to be able to share my own experiences.

Speaker 2 (15:10):
With keep going in order to uplift jump and.

Speaker 6 (15:12):
In turns them, especially women, go ahead, Yeah that's.

Speaker 1 (15:20):
Right, I'll okay you Oh, you have way more than that.
And as chan Telles says, this is a family thing.
And I remember when we were kids, we couldn't even vote.
We had to be out there in the polls, taking
people to the polls, watching their kids. Why he want
to vote, making sure the kids had snacks and you know,
and that was what we had to do. And that's

(15:41):
how you get involved. And then when you get it,
sometimes you there's nothing. Did you want to get a downhill?
I mean, did you want to get did you have
a showtail Kennedy plan? And this came along.

Speaker 2 (15:53):
No, this is all part of the plans. This is
all part of the person purposes.

Speaker 3 (15:59):
You know.

Speaker 2 (15:59):
We have to work together and be connected. This is
how we get the work done.

Speaker 1 (16:03):
And if if we're easy, anybody can do it. And
when you with the community, you know, it's really about relationships,
It truly is, and including the relationship with yourself and
how you perceive yourself. Unfortunately, and I'm thing because I
work with with the with the people that have diabetes
and with women's health issues. And that's the passion that

(16:24):
I have because especially our brothers and sisters, they act
like they don't deserve to be healthy. You know, it's like, Okay,
I can go to work eight, ten, twelve hours a day.
You know, I have to do this that and a third.
But then I don't know why my peace were or not,
just because I've been frying ticket for the church for
three hours. I don't know what's going.

Speaker 7 (16:43):
On with that.

Speaker 1 (16:44):
I don't know what this thing is on my toe.
I know I need to get some more steel toe
boosters right now. I have to deal with this instead
of looking inside and saying, let me be the first
person I take care of. My uncle told me this
when I was a teenager. He said, and you know
how we get heart, we want to help everybody else.
We'll put ourselves on the back burner, and you know,

(17:05):
we gotta do this that. And he said, they're gonna
say this self preservation is the first law of nature.
If we're not well, how do we take how do
we tell other people? Well you can do this and
you do it? Not there, I'm like, wait, you got
a big swag on your four head. I'm talking about
a fatty too. Men, It wasn't Fams or nothing like.
That's gonna have a flashback like this, well that, and

(17:26):
so it is important. So now tell tell if you
because I know you're willing to share your story, and
I think that is very very humble of view and
a very commendable to you to be able to open up,
because oftentimes, when bad things happen to us, we'll want
to just ignore it like it didn't happen. You know,
the fourteen year old girl come in, she pregnant, She's

(17:47):
just gonna wear big clothes, and this is this is
just gonna go away. You know, it's not gonna go away.
You have to deal with the issue. You have been
you said, from your own personal experiences and while you
created your let me take I got it. Women Wealth
Warriors that's their what.

Speaker 8 (18:05):
So there's two organization shepherds Doors, the Domestic Violence Organization.

Speaker 1 (18:11):
You need to get that.

Speaker 7 (18:13):
No, I don't know what's going on.

Speaker 8 (18:15):
Oh okay, the domestic violence organization and Women Wealth Worries
is there's a platform that I've created to help women
reach their destiny right.

Speaker 7 (18:25):
Create the life that they invasion for themselves.

Speaker 6 (18:27):
Again, out of my living.

Speaker 8 (18:28):
Experience becoming a teenage mom, I'm doing the sexual assault.

Speaker 1 (18:32):
Arguing a teenager now too. He looks like you about seventeen.
I wish I was.

Speaker 7 (18:40):
No, I'm not sup.

Speaker 1 (18:41):
We're like, yeah, it can it? Can it? Thank your grandma?

Speaker 7 (18:49):
Okay, yeah, I'm like I wish I was saying to know.
I know, I'm actually happy that I'm forty.

Speaker 1 (18:53):
Five, Okay, and I don't look like what I've been through.

Speaker 7 (18:56):
But it's a blessing.

Speaker 2 (18:58):
Yeah.

Speaker 7 (18:58):
But when I'm a born creative because very early and
I don't know what's going or is that you you
know they're doing?

Speaker 1 (19:10):
Oh if you see smoke this later.

Speaker 6 (19:15):
Life is life right now over here?

Speaker 7 (19:18):
You know that's life.

Speaker 1 (19:19):
I guess this is what we did.

Speaker 7 (19:23):
So for myself, I have to figure out a better
way to provide for me and my kids.

Speaker 6 (19:29):
I realized that I didn't say in quo for.

Speaker 7 (19:31):
America because I was a single mom with multiple suislings and.

Speaker 1 (19:35):
With that multiple children that's more than two. Ya, it's
a good thing, you pretty, because that's just that's crazy.

Speaker 2 (19:47):
I have four total.

Speaker 7 (19:48):
But yeah, so clop America was not my friend and.

Speaker 1 (19:56):
It's not your friends, especially not back then.

Speaker 8 (19:59):
Right like now now, don't we have all this people
work from home and then they have accommodations. You know
that didn't exist when I was thrust it into corporate America.
If you couldn't be at work because your kids were
sick and your kids were forced to.

Speaker 6 (20:12):
Stay at home and be last two kids as a.

Speaker 7 (20:14):
Single parent, you know, and I come from a two
parent home, and.

Speaker 8 (20:17):
I realized it was really important for me to be
their mom first. I don't need stood that, but I
didn't know how I could be their mom first without
the security of a husband or someone else to share.

Speaker 7 (20:28):
My financial responsibilities with.

Speaker 2 (20:30):
So life happened.

Speaker 8 (20:31):
I got, you know, this part from my job due
to the economy back in two thousand and six.

Speaker 6 (20:37):
I'm a spiritual person, y'ad.

Speaker 7 (20:38):
I didn't open up any doors for me to get
a job.

Speaker 6 (20:40):
And I prayed and I was like, God.

Speaker 1 (20:42):
What do you want me to do?

Speaker 7 (20:43):
I can't seem to find a job. And he laid
it in my own my heart to start.

Speaker 6 (20:47):
My own business.

Speaker 7 (20:48):
And I thought it was crazy.

Speaker 8 (20:50):
So at the time that I did it, I never
seen a black teenage, young single mother living in South
into LA start her own business and be a seat.

Speaker 7 (21:00):
There was no platform for that.

Speaker 1 (21:02):
See that, that's why you get to do what you do.
This is your assignment and it looks big and giant
a teenager. When I have two kids. Me from eighteen
years old, I would have been thinking about you at age.
I ain't gonna tell you what I was thinking about
it at eighteen, and he certainly wasn't. Having no children,
that is a tremendous responsibility. And I thought God would
pay me back if I had I had a kid,

(21:24):
because there would be a girl. And my mother when
I when I was pregnant, my mother said to God,
please let her have a daughter. Please let her have
a daughter. And I was like, why would you want
me to have a daughter. She said, because I want
her to be just like you, so you'll understand why
you still live this. And I was like, that's pretty
deep and and and being such a so you had

(21:45):
literally had to grow up quickly with it with two
kids at eighteen years old. So now did you have
a fast check like that with you? Chantelle Chantelle? How
would you? I wouldn't.

Speaker 6 (22:00):
It's not quite my story. So I have to get
my son is.

Speaker 5 (22:03):
I have one son thirteen years old and I had
them a little bit later, so that wasn't quite my story.
But I wanted to touch on something that you spoke
about a little bit earlier.

Speaker 2 (22:13):
And you were talking about, you know, just not us
not knowing, like.

Speaker 5 (22:16):
What's going on with our foot, and it just made
me think about why I love this conference so much.
A lot of those things is just lack of knowledge,
and we're not always sitting in spaces that.

Speaker 2 (22:28):
Are just discussing these things.

Speaker 5 (22:30):
So one of the things that I love about the
conference is all of these different subjects are brought up
and it ignites something in us to get more information,
to learn more about what's happening with us. You may
hear something up there with from one of the speakers
that is discussing something you.

Speaker 2 (22:44):
May have been dealing with, and that causes you to
want to.

Speaker 5 (22:47):
Know more information about that. So I really love that
it's a great place to.

Speaker 2 (22:52):
Connect with people to just ignite that firing you.

Speaker 5 (22:56):
Also, because as women, we often put ourselves on the
back bar because we're taking care of so many other people.

Speaker 2 (23:03):
And we forget our dreams and forget the things.

Speaker 5 (23:05):
And sometimes we don't even know we have them because
you haven't had the space or the time to do that.
So what I love about it is that on that
Friday we get to put everything else aside, connect to
your girls, you know, some old friends, some new friends,
get a whole ton of knowledge that you can take
back and just you know, recreate or relive or redream

(23:27):
those dreams that you have. So I look forward to
seeing everyone there on Friday.

Speaker 2 (23:31):
Am I going to see you?

Speaker 1 (23:33):
Yeah? If you ask crazy questions like that, you know
I'm going to be there.

Speaker 2 (23:39):
Absolutely.

Speaker 1 (23:40):
This is important. Matter of fact, I'm coming with guests
and young girls. And so miss Selina said, my love,
Now you know I've got your back, and it is
so important that we get together, that we understand that
there is safety in numbers, and there is knowledge in numbers,
and we don't need to feel like, oh, I'm the

(24:01):
only one that's carrying this burden. Oh I've got to
do this all by myself. Oh you didn't get in
that position on by yourself, So let me go and
get the resources. Don't be afraid. And I see this,
and I know you all see this too, and a
lot of women they don't want to go and ask
for help because they look at it as a sign
of weakness. And I was like, wait, if I don't

(24:24):
I don't know that, why wouldn't I gonna talk to
somebody who might know that, so then I can't know
it too. But then they'll think I'm stupid. They'll think
I'm dumb. I said, let me tell what the stupid
and dumb thing you will be And I'll just be
straight with him. You know I'm straight, no chaser. If
you thought it was so stupid and so dumb, why
wouldn't you go and get the information so you don't
look like you're stupid or dumb and nobody's gonna judge you.

(24:44):
We all are women in this and we are in
a dog fight now. You know, you got politics talking
about want to rail the health care systems? You got doctor.
I don't even want to get into that part. And
that's why we have to hold ourselves together and be
strong with what we know to do and this conference.
Now talk about the conference again. You tell about benician?

Speaker 3 (25:05):
What are you?

Speaker 1 (25:06):
What are your role? What is your role? And your role? Okay, Tanisa,
tell me what is your role and what attracted you
to the Southern California Women's Health Conference twenty four Mm.

Speaker 7 (25:15):
Well, when Ms le Ni Kennedy approached me to view
chair with Chandel this year, it just really.

Speaker 8 (25:23):
Inspired me because I understand the power of getting.

Speaker 6 (25:26):
Women together in a room. What happened right, You get
to make new connections.

Speaker 8 (25:31):
The youth bram be empowered and also the education proponent
is really important working.

Speaker 7 (25:37):
With women the way that I do.

Speaker 6 (25:39):
I understand that everyone has.

Speaker 8 (25:40):
Access riend is able to get access to information or
even know what mefluences are available to them.

Speaker 6 (25:46):
We take it for friends to thinking that everybody.

Speaker 2 (25:49):
Knows right what your certain health art needs.

Speaker 8 (25:52):
Are as a woman, or what's actually the correct thing
to do if you're having a certain situation, or if
someone else is experiencing something else that I've bought through.
We think that it is accessible to everybody to know
these things, and it's not. And that doesn't come with
economic status or age, but it just comes with knowing.

Speaker 7 (26:10):
And for me, the conference is very powerful because we're
getting women together who.

Speaker 6 (26:15):
Are all very knowledgeable, and.

Speaker 8 (26:20):
They can give you knowledge to the rest of the
audience and hope to educate and inspire other women to either.

Speaker 7 (26:26):
Learn something that you didn't know or apply something that
you needed to apply, and.

Speaker 6 (26:31):
Or to build relationships and connections with other women.

Speaker 7 (26:35):
For me, I just love the unity and women and I.

Speaker 8 (26:39):
Draw friends from seeing other strong women, and I draw
friends from being what they have accomplished and what they
have been able.

Speaker 6 (26:46):
To do with their lives. So I was really excited
to be a part of that process, and I'm.

Speaker 1 (26:51):
Looking forward to seeing how that involves and being a
feakon and willing to share your story in your background,
when did you fine the strength and the encouragement and
the wherewithal to say, okay, okay, this is what is happening,
this is what dumb up? Now? What am I going
to do? What made you know in yourself and in

(27:14):
your soul that you could do this with multiple children,
with two babies before by the time you were eighteen.
So that's just so fascinating to me. I'm like, eighteen,
I got one I'm with you shot, I got one song.
I just wanted to see if my body worn't it
did did all this stuff? I understood why your parents
will said, yea, I bought your here. I think you

(27:35):
about that. I mean I couldn't. I couldn't even imagine
sitting at my mother's table saying, well I don't want
to eat that. You'd have been a home tell I
know all this? I mean, could you imagine? And they
don't have that foundation. A lot of y'all young people

(27:57):
don't have that. They don't know what it's like to
sit down to dinner. Yeah, that's been that has been
preparing at home and sit down to dinner as a
collective and have that. Uh, we had Sunday dinner all
the time, and sometimes I have Sunday dinner on Wednesday
because I didn't want it on but I might have
wanted the tackles and we say, you know, and to

(28:18):
be able to do that. My our son has a
friend when they were younger, you know, Bobby Sells come over,
you know, and he's our only child, and so he's
coming over and he said, well, Ma, can you stay
for dinner again? You know, we always got a place
at the table for somebody, so he thought. We was
sit eating in the living room. I was like, well,

(28:38):
where are you going with your place?

Speaker 6 (28:39):
Baby?

Speaker 1 (28:40):
He said, well, oh no, we sit at the table.
We say grace and you got and he came in.
He said, well, y'all got place and utensils that make noise.
I didn't know what that means because he, you know,
he ate off of paper and plastic, and so I said,
he said, and he must have been about maybe fifteen,
and he been looking a girl. He looked up at

(29:01):
me and he said, this is the first time I
ever said down to a table and ate dinners. Something
simple like that, and we could put into a child
to let them know. And as we grow older and
side I have the kids or what have you. He
sits his children at the table and they put no
matter what day it is, they sit down, they say

(29:21):
grace than they eat. And that's a foundation for you.
And I appreciate you saying that God is your first voice.
You said the same thing, same thing to Chantelle.

Speaker 2 (29:31):
Why is God so.

Speaker 1 (29:32):
Important in your life? And what kind of trouble has
he kept you out of? Shut up up, Oh my goodness.

Speaker 5 (29:38):
I always often say that, you know, when people are
on this spiritual journey and they're looking for God and
they kind of think that, you know, when they find God,
that there is just gonna take all their problems away.

Speaker 2 (29:53):
That's not quite what it is for me.

Speaker 5 (29:54):
But I can tell you I've been through some things
and I cannot imagine going through them without go I mean,
it has been my anchor. It has been when you
know there's no one there, you know, just just even
just scripture. Just having that in my heart sometimes is.

Speaker 2 (30:10):
What gets me through some of the things. And sometimes
you just don't want to talk about, you know. So
and even with my son I always call him he's
a He is a prayer warrior. That boy can praise.

Speaker 3 (30:22):
I won't say it better than me, but getting there,
getting there absolutely, you know, and just and that gives
me a good feeling inside because I know when as
he grows, there's gonna be things that he comes across,
and just knowing that he also has that foundation is really.

Speaker 1 (30:39):
Important in writiful and I think it's all responsibility to
introduce our children to the spiritual world. They don't know
too well. They know a lot of stuff and babies
know everything. I'm with you for one of the new babies.
He's a plan to say that there's a lot of
Remember I got one for it, because you know, they
know everything and they can talk to me. God so pure.

(31:01):
You ever looked at a baby in the crib and
they're looking up and you look like they're having a conversation,
you know, the faith of expressions and everything, and then
they're just so pure. And then we're gonna jack them
up with all our crazy stuff, you know. So, and
it is very difficult, especially in this day and age,
to be an effective parent. And what is and what's

(31:24):
effective for you might not be effected for somebody else.
So you have to find your way as parents, as
the leaders, as a spiritual foundation in your family. Because
I say this often, if it were easy, anybody could
do it, and everybody won't do it because it looks
too big. What was the look too big thing for you? Chantelle?

(31:44):
When God because to your God to slap your flade,
to hear it, lay on your back, try to figure out.
And this is from experience. You're not following the plan.
You're gonna have to pay the price and you will
get there. Oh God, while I'm not laying on my back.
You didn't want to listen, you know, you're just fit
because I am an obedient daughter. Yeah, nobody ever said

(32:10):
I didn't want to listen to what my mother said,
you know, and I loved her even I thought she
was crazy, and then I found that she really was crazy.
But that's where I got my crazy from your children.

Speaker 2 (32:21):
I think your children will humble you, you know.

Speaker 5 (32:25):
I think I learned to become obedient through my son,
just trying to mirror that.

Speaker 2 (32:33):
For him because I wanted him to be obedient as well.
So I think once you have children, you often see
where you're laughing.

Speaker 1 (32:40):
At you and so he's a nobody. Ask you to
bring that up right now. I thank you very much, Niffy.

Speaker 5 (32:47):
So that's that's been the thing, the thing for me,
just you know, wanting something from him, but knowing I
have to show him what that looks like.

Speaker 2 (32:55):
And so I think I.

Speaker 5 (32:57):
Probably wasn't the most obedient before he was here, but
I started to become a lot more obedience or when.

Speaker 1 (33:03):
They were homeble you and you to me, you have
four different personalities besides yourself. Now did you get married?

Speaker 2 (33:13):
Oh no, that's.

Speaker 1 (33:19):
No Listen, you know, and I know I get it.
I do. I get it. That's why I love my husband,
you know, because oh he's a good I got got
one of the good guys. I really got one of
the Yeah.

Speaker 7 (33:32):
Well god blest you know God. That was not in
the cars for me. However, like we talked about journeys
and paths, I have all journeys own pass and.

Speaker 2 (33:40):
I tell people I made it look easy because it.

Speaker 6 (33:42):
Was mone And everyone has to walk their own journeys
and everyone will have their own path.

Speaker 7 (33:46):
So we'll work. So one might not work for all.
But the most important thing is that you're being authentic
to yourself.

Speaker 2 (33:52):
You were't on the path that guy that you to
be on.

Speaker 8 (33:56):
And that's what empowerment is all about, helping people find
their path and their journey. Most often we look at
other people when we want to mimit we've seen someone
else do, but that's how authentic to who we.

Speaker 6 (34:05):
Are, who's outfringed us to be.

Speaker 8 (34:08):
So I love the fact that I am in a
position where I can help inspire women to find their
journey and their path, and.

Speaker 6 (34:15):
I look to mind to find what it is meant.

Speaker 7 (34:17):
For you, you know, and help and support them along
that path and that journey.

Speaker 6 (34:22):
Especial when we talk about society.

Speaker 7 (34:23):
Society has your.

Speaker 8 (34:24):
Own subival norms and which you know, we all feel
like we are obligating to a blog buy and that
works for people and whom it works for.

Speaker 7 (34:32):
But we have to be clear that everybody can fit
into a box and there's someone to get into a box,
and that's where it can do.

Speaker 8 (34:38):
So we help people find what is your lane and
whether that's entrepreneurship, whether.

Speaker 7 (34:43):
It is you want to be a call mom for yourself.

Speaker 2 (34:47):
For me, I wanted to do both.

Speaker 8 (34:49):
You go out away bass combining both, and I was
able to figure that out my own treativity for my
own self.

Speaker 6 (34:56):
I be a who wants to do me, and that's
what empowerment is about.

Speaker 2 (34:59):
By me what worked for you being your own aufense.

Speaker 1 (35:03):
Let me ask you what is the eighth cracket of
your children? Because you have four kildren.

Speaker 7 (35:08):
My son is twenty nine, twenty seven. I'm a grandmother
for my grandma now was.

Speaker 6 (35:13):
Thirteen fifteen months oh, a twenty.

Speaker 8 (35:16):
Year old and an eleven year old. I raised them
all successfully, one boy, three girls. I'm daughter who's going
to college, another one in beauty school, another one in
private school. I own my own home and I raised
all my kids independently by myself.

Speaker 7 (35:29):
Nobody's been in prison jail.

Speaker 6 (35:32):
My son, he's a paramedic.

Speaker 7 (35:33):
So I did a pretty good job.

Speaker 1 (35:35):
You did a dozen job something.

Speaker 7 (35:38):
My kids my blessing and there will God. Now I
knew it to become the woman that I am today.
So I stand so all all that and there's nothing.

Speaker 2 (35:46):
In my life on my chist that I was.

Speaker 1 (35:49):
And this is what you're supposed to do. I knew
multiple kids was here. I never even thought that if
there's somebody that told me I would get married and
be married to the same man for and be with
this cat for fifty two years. You know, seriously, we've
been together since nineteen seventy, Yes, fifty two years. And

(36:10):
I was like, I'm not fifty two years old. How
could I possibly? I think their numbers are wrong. I'm
still trying to figure out whether this guy comes in
with the beer with the gray and talk about, Hey, mom,
who are you? And I understand that, And like you said,
kids will watch everything you do, listen to everything you say,
and watch your movements because these are a reflection of you,

(36:34):
and I wasn't one of I don't if you're about
the four kids, because now you got four different personalities.
You've got three adult children and an eleven year old.
Like I said earlier, that's a good thing. You pretty
cause you crazy. Yes you did this breach. I'm like,
that's the one all and now that is so great.
One of my girlfriends, one of my girlfriends I loved,
her niece just had her eleventh child. She and her husband.

(36:59):
He said, look, he said, She asked, well, what do
you want? He said, I want a wife and a
house ful of kids. And he had a real good
I think he owns like three or four companies so
that finances are not the other. She just had her
eleventh child, and I've always been a the mindset when
you have a bunch of kids, you know the look
style watering down after like the sixth or the seventh child.

(37:20):
Every one of their kids were beautiful, and because I
knew they were created in love and that is what
is important. How were you able to maneuver it with
all these different personalities and now even loving you old?
What if there is a secret sauce, if there is
a secret method that helped you get through all of
these different stages of their lives.

Speaker 6 (37:41):
My mother, she told me.

Speaker 7 (37:42):
One thing that I always remember and through your every day.

Speaker 8 (37:47):
After my second child, she said, see you, I don't
care how many kids you have.

Speaker 6 (37:52):
You always made.

Speaker 8 (37:53):
Time to take care of yourself. And I lived by
that period.

Speaker 7 (38:00):
And that meant that I understood that I would have
to create spaces.

Speaker 8 (38:05):
In ways that I can do self care for me,
even taking care of myself physinessly right our physical body.

Speaker 2 (38:12):
I understood the important to that.

Speaker 8 (38:13):
And I feel really blessed that I had a mother
who was able for the point that I believed in.

Speaker 6 (38:18):
And I realize that everybody.

Speaker 7 (38:19):
Has those groups that can be important into them.

Speaker 6 (38:23):
And that's why I love being in this space.

Speaker 2 (38:25):
Because we can do that for people that don't have
anyone to whisper.

Speaker 7 (38:27):
In there and say, hey, okay, baby girls, no matter what,
you make sure you take care of you. Don't taking
care of me.

Speaker 8 (38:34):
Looks different as you know, our age and the years
go on, right, but I do mentioned don't talk about
this often self care. Right, Like we're stressed and doing
a lot of different things. We always check on each
other and you will okay today?

Speaker 2 (38:48):
She will say that.

Speaker 8 (38:49):
Before I would call her undertann and she would say, okay,
first I want you Are you okay?

Speaker 5 (38:54):
And I'm like, you need people can ask you that,
Who can.

Speaker 8 (38:57):
Remind you to make sure that because when we're taking
care of everybody else, know that matters.

Speaker 7 (39:03):
If we don't take care of ourself or have that.

Speaker 1 (39:06):
Or have that that sisterhood around us. You know that,
and you know when when that's the girl when they
even ride or that chicks they know instinctively. My girlfriend's
gonna call me okay, wells U and I and you
know I'm always cheering. And she said, I don't even
want to hear that don't give me that studio. I
don't want to hear that studio tongue. Tell me what

(39:28):
is going on five minutes a little and she said, there, wait,
I teap me a main pain because you never know
and I would not know what to do. And my
girlfriend I got that some of the same girlfriends I
had since I was eleven years old. That's and you know,

(39:50):
and I realized, we are a crazy bunch of kicks,
and most of them live back East and so for
this to be able to feel me three thousand miles away,
that's what we need. And that's why I am absolutely
adamant about the importance of these health conferences. And these
are women's health conferences, not just for women, for young

(40:11):
girls too. We get them when they're young, so by
the time they become two natives, they know what they
need to do, they know who they are, and we're
not insuing that. And enough people. You know, if I
tell you how many times I was almost beat down,
pour up from the floor, almost, you're aggressive because I'm
telling some of the twelve year girl about the importance
of what's happening to her body when she starts hermensus

(40:33):
because her mother had told her all her life that
what women beed like that they got to be over
here by themselves.

Speaker 2 (40:38):
They can't be around it like.

Speaker 1 (40:39):
It was like a horrible thing. You know, I'm like, no,
this hapen to every woman hopefully you know this is
a part of our natural quot And we got her calm.
It was it was terrible. We got her calm and
with and you can't be lying to kids, especially lives
that can come up with the lot will always come out.
See that's what God got us because I lie or

(41:00):
I'll get to tell a fifteen times tooth don't never
has to change it. You never have to change it.
And making sure that we don't have to change our
values and step away from what we need as women,
what we and not let me because it's important. You
got four kids, you got one, I got grandchildren. I'm
not there n the grandchildren about my house. It's pleason.

(41:23):
And so because you need that quiet time, you need
that time as inflection. So you know this is on
a personal note. And tell me if i'm you know,
if I don't even know, I want to know, because
they're like you said, what works for you might not
work for somebody else. But what works for you may
work for somebody else. So that's why I believe it's
a power in and cheering and power in being open

(41:46):
and being authentic. So when you're trying to be authentic
and you know, our Missen say no joke putting on
a conference with a bunch of on this. There's no
joke putting on any kind of big event with anybody.
But when you're doing something like this, it takes a
lot of planning that there's a lot of moving parts.
You know, you have to find out who's going to
be with a fit whol, what we're winning, why, and

(42:09):
that's important and we need people to understand that they
are they're something that that is in the community that
they are going to want to come and see and
be a part of. So tell us about the conference
of Chantelle and who's going to be there and what
we're going to expect, because this is a big doing.

Speaker 2 (42:25):
I'm telling you, well, I'm super excited about it. We've
I believe this is the twenty third year for the
for the women's conference.

Speaker 1 (42:35):
Wait wait, wait, I'm so fast. I think I might
have been at the first of the second one. Yes,
and about the other ones that I might have been
twenty three years.

Speaker 2 (42:48):
Twenty three years, but then you know what I love
about it is our chappy.

Speaker 5 (42:53):
I've been able to sit in different positions as volunteering
as you know, helping in the front.

Speaker 2 (42:58):
This is my first years, so I've got to see
all the different spaces in different positions, and I get to.

Speaker 5 (43:04):
Hear all the feedback and all that good stuff. And
what I often hear is most people that come, they
are receiving more than they th thought that they would receive.
You know, they are really really impressed. You know, this
year we're having I don't know if you've heard of
her jewels diamond table.

Speaker 1 (43:19):
No, I've never heard of Muel Dinmon, not in my
whole entire life. We get I didn't. That wasn't the
lady I went on the cruise with. No, that wasn't No,
that was not.

Speaker 2 (43:30):
Well, you're gonna get to meet her this year.

Speaker 1 (43:32):
That'll be exciting. In and other stuff. Okay, y'all know
we're doing podcast, but.

Speaker 5 (43:36):
You know, having some some really great, great women there
that are just inspiring, you know, and being able to
have some of these women leave with some of those jewels,
even that she's depositing is just like it's it's it's
so amazing and gets when you get to hear all
the feedback. You know, we're working on a really nice room.

(43:57):
I think we were talking about a little bit earlier,
just that quiet time, and we're coming together thinking about
all those little elements that women don't get in their
everyday life.

Speaker 2 (44:06):
So we're trying to make.

Speaker 5 (44:07):
Sure that you know there's knowledge there that there are
like minded people there, women of substance.

Speaker 1 (44:12):
You know.

Speaker 6 (44:14):
Sometimes I invox.

Speaker 5 (44:15):
Someone the other day and I personally invited him, and
I kind of felt like you felt of inviting someone
to dinner, she says. I can't wait to be there.
She says, no one ever invites me to anything, you know,
And so having those type of people in your setting
is just you know, knowing that they're going to lead
with just so much just igniting something. I've been in

(44:37):
so many conferences. Some are good, some are not that great.
But the ones that I leave and I just feel
literally inspired. It's like you can feel a spark insight
to lead.

Speaker 1 (44:48):
You know, all your ideas.

Speaker 2 (44:49):
Start coming together.

Speaker 5 (44:50):
You want to connect with this person, talk to this person,
even leave Sometimes making a doctor's appointment that you didn't.

Speaker 2 (44:56):
Think about before. And one of the things Denis and
I have been talking about is there's a lot of
stuff going on with the perimenopause.

Speaker 5 (45:03):
You know, I don't remember my mom talking about perimenopause
as I was growing up, but the knowledge is just
floating around for us. There's certain symptoms that a lot
of women are dealing with younger women, and we didn't
have information about them. Thankfully to social media. You know,
if we're able to kind of sit through what's true
and what's not true, we're learning a lot more. But

(45:24):
that's another thing that I love about this conference.

Speaker 2 (45:27):
You know, some of the ladies don't have mother figures
in their lives.

Speaker 7 (45:30):
They don't have people that.

Speaker 5 (45:31):
Can teach them proper hygiene, you know, or explain something
to them that they may be going through.

Speaker 2 (45:36):
Having this platform does all of that.

Speaker 1 (45:39):
I want to talk about this and this is something
I've always wanted to do. You are an experienced doula, yes,
and that is just awesome. That is just awesome. Tell
people who doually is, what she does, and what attracted
you to becoming a doula.

Speaker 2 (46:00):
The word doulah itself is just a Greek servant, and
I like to believe.

Speaker 1 (46:05):
That all of us are doulas.

Speaker 2 (46:07):
I even called some of my.

Speaker 5 (46:09):
That are the partners to the ladies that I assist,
I called their partners or their husband's doodlers.

Speaker 2 (46:18):
And so I've been at doulah sost part of doulah
and birth.

Speaker 5 (46:21):
Doula, also at the encapsulator for about thirteen years.

Speaker 1 (46:25):
My son thirty, so, well, did you did you? Did
you deal with Perry menopaul?

Speaker 2 (46:32):
I believe I'm dealing with that currently.

Speaker 1 (46:34):
Okay, have you spad in the freezer? Why the air
conditioner is on?

Speaker 2 (46:44):
You know, sip through the middle of.

Speaker 1 (46:47):
Oh, stopping through the middle of the night. I'm glad
you put on.

Speaker 6 (46:53):
To menopause.

Speaker 2 (46:54):
You know, you're not sure really what's happening? Are you
getting sick? So again, having that knowledge, but going back
to becoming.

Speaker 5 (47:02):
A d I had a really awful experience, in my opinion,
with my birth and so as I was laying there
and I was fore to my son, I said, you
know what, I'm going to change the world.

Speaker 2 (47:12):
I'm going to make sure that no woman you know.

Speaker 5 (47:15):
Ever feels what I felt during this during this time,
just just because every woman remembers their birth.

Speaker 2 (47:20):
You could be eighty years old and just still say
and let me tell you what happened.

Speaker 5 (47:24):
And so I got online and I googled, and I
found this whole community of.

Speaker 7 (47:28):
These people called doulas.

Speaker 5 (47:32):
So maybe about two months two to three months later,
I was signed up for my classes.

Speaker 2 (47:37):
I was able to take my son, I was nursing
him at the time. I was able to take him
to all my classes, and.

Speaker 5 (47:43):
I began supporting families from that day forward, and it's
been a really, really nice journey.

Speaker 2 (47:49):
I began as a birth dula. Now I'm also a
postpartum duela.

Speaker 5 (47:52):
So going back to taking care of yourself, I mean,
I've seen women who have c sections to Syrians and
they've literally not only gave birth to a full human,
they've had a full surgery and they're like moving within
the next two to three days and not caring for themselves,
where maybe if they had a broken finger or broken

(48:12):
toa they're down for the count, you know. So just
being that person to give them the correct knowledge that
they need help them to make informed decisions during birth.
Sometimes you didn't know something as small as you can
ask for a different nurse as you're giving birth, maybe
that nurse and you aren't, you know, connecting, and sometimes

(48:33):
that can slow down the birthing process as well. So
just being able to give that knowledge to people so
that they can make their own informed decisions. The whole
goal of a doula is to support families through that
birth in time, but also to remember cap and remember
what their power is.

Speaker 1 (48:49):
Okay, and that's important. I know, I understand that we're
about to lead. Denique has another place to be. Thank
you so much for your time and in ethic, But
before you so tell people what there's a few numbers
of what they're going to see at the conference.

Speaker 7 (49:06):
Well, we put together.

Speaker 8 (49:07):
Three wonderful channels of three dynamic channels of women live
women on these channels.

Speaker 6 (49:14):
And these women are coming with power.

Speaker 8 (49:17):
They are all expertise in health and wellness, which is
so enforcing.

Speaker 2 (49:23):
Entrepreneurships and business.

Speaker 8 (49:25):
And I think that I told you a little bit wise,
So like that is so important because I believe that
every woman should have the capability.

Speaker 6 (49:32):
Of being able to be financially independent.

Speaker 8 (49:35):
Hiven, if you have a spelf, it's still feels.

Speaker 6 (49:37):
Good to know that you can take care of the
vivory yourself if ever you need to right.

Speaker 7 (49:41):
And what does that look like for you?

Speaker 2 (49:44):
And then also knowing.

Speaker 7 (49:45):
How to have a feed at the table.

Speaker 8 (49:47):
I mean, the world is still ran by men, and
I talk to women every day who wants too says
like I have this idea, I.

Speaker 7 (49:53):
Want to do this, I want to do that, but
I don't know how to make it happen. Oh I
got got damn and.

Speaker 6 (49:58):
I felt intimidated, So why didn't forward? So we're going
to talk about that.

Speaker 8 (50:02):
And also, like me said, those talking about balance, right,
like how do you balance your life with these other.

Speaker 6 (50:08):
Great things that you have going on?

Speaker 8 (50:09):
I think it's so important self here, and then it's
gonna end it also with some empowerment by the women
all some different fields. Powerhouse women will run, inspire and
empower all the women in the room to be their
best soe. So it's going to be really really educational, informative, inspiring.

Speaker 6 (50:29):
That's what I love the most.

Speaker 7 (50:30):
I'm going to be bringing some of the ladies from
my program.

Speaker 6 (50:32):
We go back to accessibility and equity, right.

Speaker 8 (50:35):
We think that this information is accessible to aciety and
it is by way of mayving social media platforms.

Speaker 6 (50:41):
But sometimes you don't know what you don't know.

Speaker 7 (50:43):
What you don't people don't know that they don't know something.

Speaker 8 (50:47):
And then lost two people in the room and put
things up and bring up topics to see if we
all know it, and if.

Speaker 1 (50:53):
We don't know, that's what we did to learn from
we get to learn. Yeah, now tell them what the
conflict is going to be, because I know that you're
leaving me.

Speaker 8 (51:02):
The Pasadena Knowlson Hotel in Pasadena from nine to four.

Speaker 6 (51:06):
Come in.

Speaker 8 (51:07):
It's gonna be vendor boots, right, and those fre gonna
have a beautiful meditation room.

Speaker 1 (51:11):
Right.

Speaker 6 (51:12):
You go in there and get a massage if you like,
do some beautiful healing.

Speaker 7 (51:15):
Are We gonna have these beautiful stones.

Speaker 8 (51:17):
And you can write words of encouragement on your stones
to sink with you also from journal writing and there.

Speaker 6 (51:22):
If you just want to steal moments I love.

Speaker 1 (51:33):
I'm just saying, you know, I tell people all the time,
I save my empty calorie for wine, not only the pastry. Listen,
like I said, it's a good thing. You pretty, because
you've got to be and all of us got to
be a little bit like off kilter. So when we
know when we get back on kilter because sometimes you

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might want to have to check somebody because everybody is
not cooperating. They will make that's just me and I'm
not a micro manager. You tell me you can do it.
I believe you. Tell me mother life, I got fly
to the morning. I'm like, girl, okay, tell me why
I gotta get to pass for it and so and
that's another beauty of this event is because people get

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to hear the truth, they get to see the truth,
and they get to see people that look like they're
who are actually in there doing the dog one thing
and continue to do it because this is tell them Shontelle,
because I you know my brain I a us off
for my eight burn sells.

Speaker 2 (52:32):
Well, I'm sent Tail Kennedy. I'm sharing this year along
with DENISEE.

Speaker 5 (52:35):
Frey and like she said, we will see you all
on Friday, December the sixth, from nine to four.

Speaker 7 (52:43):
And you know, just using this day again to just
fill up.

Speaker 2 (52:46):
Your cup says a lot.

Speaker 5 (52:48):
It says that you are ready for change, you want
something to change in your life. So I'm look forward
to seeing everyone there on Friday.

Speaker 1 (52:56):
Well I'm gonna be there on Friday, and I understand
you have to leave Tanisha, I liked Anesia. Thank you
very much for.

Speaker 8 (53:02):
You in this powerful conversation. I'll afford to me you
mother in law on Priy, you know I love you.
Chantelle and everybody have.

Speaker 1 (53:12):
A beautiful thank you. That was so sweet. Some time
when you talk about because we just got a few
more minutes, when you talk about what do you talk
about the confidence? What do you most want to see
women walk away from this conference with, We're have something different?

Speaker 2 (53:31):
I want I want women to remember who they are.
You know, when we come into this world, we are
filled with everything that we need, and some way along
the road, you know, we.

Speaker 5 (53:41):
Are depleted in certain areas, and I just I want
people and women to walk away remembering who they are
and having that sense of being filled back up again,
you know, a sense of just being ignited.

Speaker 2 (53:54):
That's what I want them to.

Speaker 5 (53:55):
Walk away from making great connections with people, new friends,
you know, just maybe connected with some of your old friends.
But I want a sense of them walking away they're
taking something. Not only are we doing like the little
stones like Tonisha talked about, but that's tangible. But I
want a feeling that they take with them that encourages

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them to.

Speaker 2 (54:16):
Be them, be their best self, remember who they are,
and to get to know who they are.

Speaker 1 (54:22):
Oftentimes women will come to these conferences, you know, and
I've seen them come in their head is all down,
and you know, they're like, Okay, well do I really
need to be here? Am I gonna sit in want?
And I'm like, see me, I'm like, what's gonna be
a great conference? Were gonna have a good time. It's
gonna be. And you know, miss Lena, you know how
she is. And thank you Lena. Think you think you

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think I love her to piece it? And oh, Mike,
how do you not love Please? Just ask me. You know,
Lenna's one of those kind of women that you don't
say no to because he really comes to you would
have would have with a conference you can't refuse.

Speaker 2 (54:59):
H you know, a really really small quick story, really
quick about Lena.

Speaker 5 (55:04):
Okay, I was volunteering a few years ago at the conference.

Speaker 2 (55:10):
I mean it was this huge conference. I mean she
was being.

Speaker 5 (55:13):
Pulled in so many different directions and so I was
assisting in I think our green room at the time,
and I got a text in the middle of the
conference from Lena.

Speaker 2 (55:25):
And it just said high speedy.

Speaker 1 (55:26):
I just wanted to let you know you're.

Speaker 2 (55:28):
Doing such a great job. That was something that I
never ever forgotten. That really is who she is. When
it comes to something.

Speaker 5 (55:37):
That she's involved in, it's always that little special touch.
And I'm thinking, here are all these people she has microphones.
I mean, she's literally being pulled and I'm like, how
did she even find.

Speaker 6 (55:49):
The time to do this?

Speaker 7 (55:50):
But that is the type of person that she is,
And that's.

Speaker 2 (55:53):
How I remember. It almost makes me cry. She's just
so special, not just to me, but to so many people.

Speaker 1 (56:00):
Special to me too, because you know, people will say, well,
I can't get to I need to talk to Lynna Kennedy.
I can't get to her. And the first thing I said,
that's a crack and crab. So you obviously are novel
you know, tell go go somewhere, like President Biden say
go go pound saying how do you know? I'm telling

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I could call her pretty much anytime I want to.
He's gonna pick up she doesn't have and he answers
her own phone. That is what he answers her own phone.
He is the gatekeeper. You know, she really does need
the gatekeeper. But you and when you see him like that.
He is like on fire and you get too close,
you're gonna get birned, or you won't get that flameor home.

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You can make you understand this is somebody to be around.

Speaker 4 (56:45):
And it is.

Speaker 1 (56:46):
I was gonnay, it's not to two the horn. Yes,
it is the two hor horn because he is not
because and he is, and all of the Kennedy because
it's like eleventeen hundreds of yards. You know, I think,
I think what a Kennedy party about every street Passaden,
you know, That's what That's what John told me was
that I said, well, how many of you listen? Because
you always introducing me to this, to that? How many kidies,

(57:08):
how many easies of you all? I'm not too far
off at about us Kennedy's living on every street, not
just I'm not going so beautiful about the family connections.
And you always, you all, every one of you, all
that I have ever come in contact with, ever had
any kind of dialogue, any kind of hug, you know,

(57:30):
just even a short conversation, and this goes for all
of the ones that I've met so far. You always
make us feel like we're supposed to be there, you know,
and we are supposed to be there to look up
to each other, to look up for one and look
out for one another, because we got a lot of
brothers and sisters. So when you're growing up, don't don't
don't make don't make me call my sister them see

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not them and them mam and them, hommonim, don't make
me call my sister there when you know.

Speaker 2 (57:56):
That's right, that's what.

Speaker 5 (57:59):
That's comes Also from my grandmother's feel us. You know,
it just kind of trickles trickles down. She always has
that thing that made people feel really really special with
not that many words, but when you left her presence,
you always you remember who you were.

Speaker 1 (58:13):
And you also remember to pray because listen and that
oftentime I have to tell people be careful, be careful
who you are asking to pray with you and for you,
because sometimes, which is a sad, sad commentary, they'll pray
for your demand, they'll pray for your downfall. So you
got to be careful who's praying with you and who's

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praying for you. And remember that same believe in God too.
You don't head brand new were coming answer the tempers
on December the sixth, from nine to four at the
tap of being the Hillton's Hotel, and we're coming in
with our armor on. And if you don't have any armor,
with the armor part, because you have done a right.

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When we go out in the trenches, you have to
have it all on because you know somebody always looks
to see where you gotta tink in your armor. Well,
I have lots of chinks in my armor, but it
ain't pierced my soul. So I think we're doing all right.
I can't wait to see you guys on Friday, December
sixth at the Pasadenia Hillston Hotel for the twenty four
twenty third Annual Southern California Women's Health Conference. Twenty twenty four.

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Thank you, my dear, you be blessed and know that
we love you. It's my pleasure. And remember these babies
no matter how big, guitar, short and small, sick oft thin,
it matters not what skin you're in. Everybody needs the
mother love now and then pase babies my pleasure and

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in nine, ten, seven, eighteen. But this is really a
good conversation. Thank you. I'm both for sharing the love
with us.