Naybors Podcast S6E7 "What do you call"

What do you call your mom's kids? 

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
Danny. It's the Neighbors podcast with recent Mike. They discausing
different issues that affect up treating like that. It's the
Neighbors with the Neighbors. Yeah, yeah, yes, sir. What's going
on y'all? How y'all feeling today?

Speaker 2 (00:19):
Top of the morning, Top of the morning, and so, uh, Mike,
I got a question, bro, what's up?

Speaker 1 (00:25):
You know?

Speaker 3 (00:26):
I saw this thing on Instagram, and on Instagram it
said what do you call your mom's best friend?

Speaker 1 (00:37):
Kids? And it made me think about, all right, my.

Speaker 3 (00:42):
Mom her best friend, and then what those kids were.

Speaker 1 (00:49):
And then really what it did for me though? Did
I like them?

Speaker 2 (00:52):
First?

Speaker 1 (00:54):
Then I like everybody right right? You know? And I
can't say my mom had best friends that your mom
had best friends? Uh? She did? Okay, she did? Okay?
So so.

Speaker 3 (01:05):
I don't know if my mom had a best friend,
she had friends that she kind of was closest to,
you get what I mean? You know, So, so I
don't know what to or if any of y'all out
there that's listening, you know, what were your mom? Did
your mom have a best friend? Did she just had
one person that she had multiple friends? Cause my mom partied,

(01:26):
My mom used to like to.

Speaker 2 (01:27):
Go out right right right right, you know so, and
I listened to the post and people will responding because
the guy had the microphone out on the street, people write,
and so everyone kind of said the same thing that
if it's my mom's best friend kids, they're my cousins.

(01:52):
Yeah that was right, And I was like, you know,
you're right, everybody, even till today, I still call them
my cousin because yep, now I'm not sure if that
was the right idea. Well, uh well, uh, I mean,

(02:16):
you know, because like especially the ones your mom associated with,
the one on the block right right, they all we know,
like Fridays, Friday and Saturday come over, but they always
bringing their kids.

Speaker 1 (02:32):
Sometimes you think, are they trying to get a free meal?
I think there were a few that was like that, yes.

Speaker 2 (02:39):
Yeah, eating all your snacks probably right right. Playing with
your toys, I could agree with that. Breaking your toys,
I could. I don't know about breaking mind. They weren't
breaking man. Because here's the challenge that I had.

Speaker 3 (02:56):
Even though my mom has some friends that that had
is that was around my age, but they were all
girls I didn't have. I don't have any Yo, you
my mama friend son. You know what I mean, Like
I don't have like everybody are girls. So it was

(03:19):
a different life.

Speaker 2 (03:21):
I guess, yeah, I guess yeah, but my situation was
totally different both and it's like, okay, I see y'all right,
mm hmmm, damn there every day?

Speaker 1 (03:38):
Can I get a break? Mmm?

Speaker 2 (03:40):
Can't you mind take you to the playground or something?
Because it's like, I mean, I had all the toys
you know back then, the SSPs. You remember those of
Tatanka toys. Here they come, oh please let them.

Speaker 1 (03:55):
Play with it? Were they younger than you? Was all
the same age? Okay? And stuff getting broken right right? Stolen?

Speaker 2 (04:06):
Yeah, I ain't come on now, I know what stuff
right right?

Speaker 1 (04:12):
I mean I used to hate it. I used to.
It's crazy.

Speaker 2 (04:16):
It depends what theay they would moved, especially though it's
raining out, you don't mind them coming over, right, But
besides that, and see and see here was my issue,
like it was either they were so my brother and
I are two years apart, okay, so it was always
like the girl was always sandwiched.

Speaker 1 (04:36):
In between us. Oh like like.

Speaker 3 (04:44):
You know, it was like it was either like most
of them were like in between our two ages or
they were younger, you know, and you know, and so
as we were young, you know, kids, you know whatever,
it's like hey, you know, oh wow, kind of cute,
you know. Right now as we had gotten older, late teens,
early twenties, no, we're like, no, we're cousins. We can

(05:06):
know what I mean, you know, but when you're trying
to you know, figure your life out, you know whatever.

Speaker 1 (05:12):
Else.

Speaker 3 (05:13):
So because sometimes I wish I did have that guy
cousin that was closer to my age because my unfortunate
with me not having my father's family around, I would
have had some first cousins my age literally but on
my mom's side, called close to my mom's side, My

(05:34):
first cousin, my two first cousins that are boys. One
is four years younger, so we could kind of play
with some things. But by the time I'm fourteen, fifteen, sixteen,
like you're still in the toys. I'm in the girls
right right, you get what I mean. I'm not trying
to sit around and watch no movies, especially not with you.

Speaker 1 (05:53):
You know what I saying, you know.

Speaker 3 (05:55):
And then my other boy cousin, first cousin of my
mom's he's twenty years younger than me, so we have nothing,
you know, you know. So, but then but on my
dad's side, I have boy cousins that are like like
we're all stair steps, okay, you know, so based off

(06:16):
of my dad and his three sisters, I think the
oldest one is probably about eight years older than me,
my first cousin, and then we're all every year after.

Speaker 1 (06:29):
That, you know.

Speaker 2 (06:32):
So, so it's like two or three boys that all
these girls, and then.

Speaker 1 (06:36):
The rest everybody else was boys, you know. You know, so.

Speaker 3 (06:43):
If I was around my dad family, it would have
been nothing, because I think it's like ten of us
twelve twelve grandkids something like that, so I would have
had almost six boy cousins or something like that, first
cousins and so so yeah, so so I kind of
relished that idea of having guys around. Luckily I grew

(07:06):
up in West Philly it was primarily nothing but boys,
so I had the balance to some degree, you know.

Speaker 1 (07:14):
But when it came to my mom and her friends,
like everybody was girls.

Speaker 3 (07:19):
So I kind of understood how girls thought to some degree,
at least from a kid perspective.

Speaker 1 (07:24):
Yeah, you know, yeah, but.

Speaker 2 (07:26):
Besides that, why you chuckle, Mike, Why are you chuckling Mike?

Speaker 1 (07:37):
Well, I'm sorry, y'all. If I'm sorry, if Mike is
over here reminiscent but.

Speaker 2 (07:43):
Me, you don't want to have the polsey the girls
over man, listen, man, I mean, but you know we had.

Speaker 1 (07:51):
One of the things I did I had to take
from some of them though, were the cooking come up.

Speaker 3 (07:58):
Like they will come over like this one cousins more,
especially like when her and her mom would come over
and let's say, my mom and her mom would go out, okay,
you know whatever, and so it's the three of us
in the crib. So we were like, hey, you know what,
we're gonna cook dinner. We're gonna cook you know whatever.
So she kind of gave me some tips here and there.
I mean, I made some I don't know if any
of y'all. I don't know if my mom or her

(08:20):
bib or whatever is listening, but that one Mother's Day
when we made some hot wings not so they were
so spicy that no one could eat them at all.

Speaker 1 (08:35):
They were too hot. Y'all dumped the whole bottle of
hot but it wasn't hot sauce. It was paprika.

Speaker 3 (08:42):
We had this paprika and shoot, I can't remember the
other spice we had, but I didn't mean to put.

Speaker 1 (08:49):
So much on it, and it was so spicy.

Speaker 3 (08:53):
I mean, my mom and them tried to pump feel like,
oh yeah, it's you know, it's all right, We're going
through this whole paint in the trash. You know that idea,
so you know, but you know, just those type of
things where it's like, hey, encouragement, you know what I
mean of doing X, Y and Z. So yes, I

(09:14):
just want to know how what y'all you know what
y'all call y'all y'all mom's best friend kids now. Mike,
when we talked about this off camera, you said crumb snatchers.

Speaker 1 (09:23):
So tell us how you truly feel, bro, crumb snatchers.
It's just like way before the Grimlin stage. M M.

Speaker 2 (09:32):
I'm like, you know, it's just like they were just
some some of them was just some man. And the
thing is some of them will come over their parents.
They their parents know their knuckleheeds and let them do
what they want to do. Like, yo, the only thing
you want to do makes you want to go to
your little I want to go I just want to

(09:53):
go to my room right right right, Being like I said,
I have some you know, some good ones. There's some
knucklehead ones, especially you know my she used.

Speaker 1 (10:00):
To babysit and uh it's like from the neighborhood. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 (10:05):
We was all cool. But one person do something wrong,
we all get our ass b of course, right, But
that's one I think I say. We never dined each
other out. We never dimed each other.

Speaker 1 (10:17):
Really, can I say we dombed each other? I don't
think we know. I don't think I did.

Speaker 3 (10:26):
Kind of maybe I did once out of jealousy, yeah, once,
but you know it was kids stuff.

Speaker 1 (10:35):
Right, but certain things looking like one of my cousins.

Speaker 2 (10:38):
He took the dead gold fish and ride stuck into
the head, you know the light socket.

Speaker 1 (10:44):
Wow, I came my unby, yella, what the yeah? Who
the hell did that? Right? Right? So she comes downstairs
in the basement, who did it? Tell you what?

Speaker 2 (11:00):
She went back upstairs, got that belt you're talking about
when you cut the lights on, the roaches scattered right right,
It was a bathroom in the basement.

Speaker 1 (11:09):
Three.

Speaker 2 (11:12):
I never knew mine was that damn strong. We whooped
all our asses. She was going all around the road,
come back here, whooped all our asses? Was like, damn, man, yo, man, you.

Speaker 1 (11:24):
Should never did that.

Speaker 2 (11:26):
But what do you mean because you was bored? Right right,
I don't mean to get all us in trouble. And
it's always even because it's one he's cool, then he's not.

Speaker 1 (11:37):
Cool, right right right, that's the one to be.

Speaker 2 (11:40):
Taking your toys too, because they think, you know, definitely related,
they can take your stuff. No.

Speaker 3 (11:46):
Wow, that's why I said, man, I mean, I guess
in that space because I had the girl cousins, I
had to worry about toys, you know, being taken or
stolen or broken or anything because we were we were
two busy doing other stuff. So like that's how I
learned how to play card games, board games, you get
what I mean?

Speaker 2 (12:06):
You know those other things that that kind of is
not gender specific. Yeah, still, you can't wait. I was
hoping they have me go to hell home, go home.

Speaker 3 (12:20):
There was only I think it was only one time
I can remember. I was like, you know, I'm tired
of y'all that I could remember. But most times I
was I was cool. Most times I was cool because
if I if because again I had a brother, you know,
so if I didn't feel like being bothered.

Speaker 1 (12:40):
Oh yo, go ahead, be entertained.

Speaker 3 (12:42):
You get what I mean, or whatever it is I mean,
because again we're still talking. I'm talking before ninth grade
because after that. So actually, I'm probably even talking before
seventh grade because by the time I got to high
school and it's one in particular, one cousin I could.

(13:03):
I know that we still literally call each other cousins today.
And we would see each other because I went to
Overbrook and she went to Lamberton, Okay, okay, you know,
and so we would hop on the bus at the
same time, like I would hop on the thirty one bus,
you know, after school. And so because she was around

(13:25):
a whole bunch of girls, right and I was around
a whole bunch of guys, we were all hop on
a bus together, you get what I me, And we
everybody ride the bus together, and do you know whatever.
So but yeah, but after that, I mean, I'm sorry,
but before that, you know, we lost touch for a
hot second. I guess her mom my mom might have

(13:46):
had a little dis you know, disagreement or just how
adults go. You get what I mean, Like, yeah, you know,
I don't remember, but but yeah, you know, so that
was fun for me, you know, especially when I got
on that the first time I had gotten on that
bus and I was like, hey god, you know, and
she was like hey god, you know, and then everybody

(14:08):
was like who that?

Speaker 1 (14:09):
Who that? You get what I mean?

Speaker 3 (14:12):
You know, and then all of a sudden, I mean, yeah, unfortunately,
I think, uh to her to her friends ended up
being on my favorite list, you know. That was the
fun part of having the girl cousins. Mike player the
younger age, I wasn't a player. They were just on

(14:34):
my favorite list.

Speaker 2 (14:35):
Yeah, there was just there was they say, gotcha?

Speaker 1 (14:41):
They was no, I mean because it was so so.
The the other side.

Speaker 3 (14:47):
Of that would be, you know, I had girl cousins,
real girl cousins that were my age, and they went
the girls high so and so then and now they
weren't my first cousin there, you know, a little down
the line, you know, and so but but blood, you know, nonetheless,

(15:08):
So since we're reminiscing real quick, I would go and
be with be on my guy friends. We would be
on the bus right on the thirty one bus to
be on my cousin right quote unquote on the thirty
one bus with all the girls from Lamberton. Then we
would ride the thirty one all the way downtown, hop

(15:32):
on a sub to go all the way up to
Girls High because my girl cousins from Girls High.

Speaker 1 (15:38):
Was getting out.

Speaker 3 (15:39):
Then we would be with my girl cousin with all
her girlfriends and ride back down Center City. That's all about, right,
So yeah, I mean, yeah, I we did some women.
I think this is I'm telling them myself, so I
think the statutory limits are passed.

Speaker 1 (15:57):
So mom, please forgive me.

Speaker 3 (16:00):
Doing y'all know, right, you know, but yeah, I mean
those are type of things that you know, I you know,
I had when it came to cousins, I didn't have.

Speaker 1 (16:12):
I didn't have any boy cousins.

Speaker 3 (16:13):
I wish I did in some cases I wish I did, but.

Speaker 1 (16:17):
It was what it was.

Speaker 2 (16:18):
But you know what, back then, even though even with
your cousins still we was the way we was raised,
we wasn't really raised like cousin were like brothers and sisters.
So right, you know, right even though we still you know,
other white yeah, because they coud like you know what
we're talking about, but a real cousins, it was like
brothers and.

Speaker 1 (16:36):
Sisters right, I mean even with the one that I'm
referring to.

Speaker 3 (16:39):
I think it became we were becoming so close, you
know that, Yeah, it ended up being like yo, like
like even like right now, even though we don't talk
to each other much today, but and we're really we
only really talk to each other really through Facebook. But
you were thinking that, hey, we've never lost track, right,
you get what I mean, you know, And so I

(17:03):
think that's what helped to build a bond, you know,
a family of hey, you know, if anything were to
go wrong or whatever, like I always had somebody to call,
talk to, whatever it might be. And it's just us
adulting pretty much, you know, because I mean even the
people that I was closest to at that time period
because we became adults, life changing changing, you know, you know,

(17:26):
for those people that have got married, to those who
got who had kids, to those who went away to school,
you know, started working at nine to five earlier than
everybody else, like myself, you know, because because now your
circle changes, you know, your priorities change. And I'm sorry,
but I know when I went to work right after

(17:47):
high school, I'm with these adults.

Speaker 1 (17:50):
I'm sorry. I didn't want to be with no kids.

Speaker 2 (17:53):
Crazy bar With that, I was working second shift, okay,
three to eleven with my father, and I was like, oh, man,
I'm missing out all stuff, blah blah. Then that for
final I ain't really missing nothing when the money coming.

Speaker 3 (18:07):
There, man, listen, especially when, because, like I said, I
was so from my mindset was like, Yo, I'm working
with these adults and it's health insurance local health insurance
plays down Center City and I'm like, yo, what are
they into?

Speaker 1 (18:23):
What are they doing?

Speaker 3 (18:24):
They're talking about going to concerts and the comedy shows
and plays, and you know, you know, I was, oh,
what was that the restaurant right there on I want
to say it was sixteenth and Walnut, Shade, Oh what
was the name of it? Ribbons was right next to it, though,

(18:47):
what was that sixteenth and Walnut. It was Shade somebody.
But what it was was that those were that was
my first experience of fifty and seventy five dollars plates.

Speaker 1 (18:56):
Oh okay, went in real road, you know.

Speaker 3 (18:59):
And so with me, you having these now adult people,
I'm at eighteen years old and I'm paying you know,
they're paying one hundred dollars plate for me.

Speaker 1 (19:09):
Yo. I don't want to be around nobody's going to
I hop.

Speaker 3 (19:12):
Right, But I mean, you know, I say I had
a problem with that, but it was different.

Speaker 1 (19:17):
It was a different experience experience. You know.

Speaker 3 (19:20):
Now you feel like, hey, I made it to the
big league, right, you know what I mean. And then
it's like as you get older and you start dating
people or whatever, is like, I can't understand why people
get into the.

Speaker 1 (19:36):
Yo. You know, I don't want to just go to.

Speaker 3 (19:38):
Applebee's idea, like I get the idea because that might
have been some of you experience.

Speaker 2 (19:44):
But you can't do that every day. You can't be
in that Chris Ruth mentality every day. Let's I mean,
it is what it is.

Speaker 1 (19:54):
It is what it is.

Speaker 2 (19:56):
Whispering Yeah, boogie whispering fo Yeah, I'm boogie. Our kids
is lousy, you.

Speaker 1 (20:01):
Know, I mean, I mean it was.

Speaker 3 (20:05):
It's interesting when you have those type of experiences because
you're going through the stages right, different you know, different things,
and it's part of it's part of growing up, growing
up most death.

Speaker 1 (20:17):
You know.

Speaker 3 (20:17):
So I think that's that's one of the things that
that I've been afforded, you know, with having that that
cousin because even with with her, Like I said, the
one person I'm referring to that was consistent and consistent
until today. We had a lot of different experiences, you know,
with her friends, my friends, you know, her hanging out

(20:42):
and even my friends you know, become really really good
friends with her. I actually had my actual god brother
actually had such a big crush on her, Like he
was trying to marry her.

Speaker 1 (20:55):
Oh wow, yeah, he really wanted to. Man.

Speaker 3 (20:58):
Now here's the thing again, You seventeen, eighteen, nineteen years
old and he's like, yeah, you know we're gonna get married, right,
how do you how do you take that? Like, you know,
it's not serious. You don't feel like it's serious. You know,
he's like, yo, you know you're gonna marry me. We
are gonna marry me.

Speaker 1 (21:16):
Like so it doesn't sound serious. Nah no, No, So
basically he was just jealous of me.

Speaker 3 (21:21):
Oh no, he wasn't jealous of me because he already
knew what my old situations. Oh excuse me, Yeah, he
wasn't jealous.

Speaker 1 (21:29):
He wasn't jealous of me, you know. No.

Speaker 3 (21:31):
I mean, and like I said, he was my god brother.
So we we we kind of helped each other out
you go what I mean, and yokay, you know whatever.

Speaker 1 (21:41):
It was, whatever it was popping for wait for the
other chuckle man, it is.

Speaker 3 (21:48):
No man, I'm just this little dark skinned fella that
you know, it's chubby, that's it.

Speaker 1 (21:56):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (21:56):
Anyway, Yeah, this is a crazy subject we on but
you know, even we kind of flipped the script tad
bit throughout this.

Speaker 3 (22:07):
But I mean, you know, bo's this is the neighbors
like this was. This was listen, y'all. First of all,
let's let's let's let's recap for a minute, right, So,
even though we are literal we're literally neighbors, we are
really considering taking this microphone outside with the rest of
the neighbors, right because we need to. This summer, we've

(22:30):
had more than enough congregating outside with our neighbors. Sure did,
Sure did, and it has been the most hilarious conversations.

Speaker 1 (22:44):
No comment. So if it wasn't for the one thousand
degree weather outside, man, we would have more more.

Speaker 3 (22:56):
Yo, it would have been and here's the thing, it
would have been, in all honesty, it would have been
people out there that's relatively like my parents' age. You
know that we're sitting out there with too, you know,
like someone I would say, is my baby sister.

Speaker 1 (23:13):
You get what I mean.

Speaker 3 (23:14):
Like, it's just kind of so we have a range
of people out there with us, right correct, you know,
and we've just been we were busting it up. But
I don't know why anybody be picking with me though,
because man, see, I guess once I get off this
microphone quiet, I don't say nothing. I know, yeah, cause

(23:37):
you sit in the cuttle and just watch yep. I
sit in the cut and crack up.

Speaker 2 (23:42):
With your cup of drink, and it's like, y'all call
text me yo, we outside?

Speaker 1 (23:48):
Okay, all right, come down?

Speaker 3 (23:50):
Well, I mean, but you know there's some neighbors man
that just can't help themselves.

Speaker 1 (23:55):
It's like, you know, again, you're on the block. Everybody
want to tease each other.

Speaker 2 (23:58):
Yeah, but they always tease me crazy for here we come. Yeah,
go ahead, Jimmy.

Speaker 3 (24:09):
But that's okay. I can hold my own definitely. It's
the funniest though. So so tell us what your thoughts are.
Should should we take this on the literal pavement, because
we're not gonna take it on the road. We're gonna
take it on payment, you know, just up the street,
down the street with our neighbors. But you know, we
just want to know what your thoughts are, you know that,
because we would love to just have a nice little

(24:32):
round table with everybody.

Speaker 1 (24:34):
Right, it'd be halass. I mean, if you want to
chime in, yeah, we'll have a conversation with you too,
right right, you know you know so yeah, I thank
y'all for listening.

Speaker 2 (24:42):
Of course, you'll make sure that you email The Neighbors
Podcast at gmail dot com if you want to come
on the show or anything like that. Yes, feel free
and follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. Yes, and
Needy and uh, I guess we'll talk to you later.
How about that?

Speaker 1 (25:04):
All right, y'all We talked to y'all later. Please, we're
taking out We're just trying to pull out our friends up.
You are the reason they can't. You are the agent
and we look for change. You counted the pressure and
you did not fall. But you are a diaaland and
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