Gender Warz World Wide- "Do People Lose Attraction When Love Becomes Too Safe?"

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Whoa, whoa, whoa, Yeah, listend, that's over.

Speaker 2 (00:07):
Y'all know what it is. Damn, let's go up here,
send this to mold to ship down, down, down, down.

Speaker 1 (00:21):
Let's go.

Speaker 2 (00:23):
It's compromised dying. That's what we want to know. It's
compromised dying. Right now, sh We're about to see. We're
about to see what everybody got to say about this ship.
It's about to get crazy again, trying to tell you,
trying to tell you. When it comes to this ship,
it gets crazy, it gets drastic, getting nasty.

Speaker 1 (00:47):
M hold up.

Speaker 3 (01:14):
This compromising guy, this generation. Let me go get everybody.

Speaker 4 (01:39):
I'm not sat right then, Yo?

Speaker 1 (02:02):
What the fuck are we doing? Where all at? Bro? Damn,
I haven't yo. Who turned my replays off yesterday?

Speaker 5 (02:08):
Y'all?

Speaker 2 (02:09):
Niggas was sitting in here. I know niggas turned my
replays off last night. You understand that, mo?

Speaker 5 (02:19):
I will.

Speaker 1 (02:21):
Like, I was pissed, Like, what's wrong with you? No more? March,
don't ask me no more. It's over. You want to
know why?

Speaker 2 (02:31):
Because my replays was gone? You like, I couldn't believe
this ship. I woke up in the morning. I was
so pi yo, How mad was I? I was so pissed,
but I get it.

Speaker 6 (02:46):
Like, when niggas get out of turning the replays off,
what's the point Like what what?

Speaker 5 (02:49):
What? Like?

Speaker 7 (02:50):
What y'all get out of that?

Speaker 1 (02:51):
Like that's weird, I know, tell me about it.

Speaker 2 (02:55):
So somebody turned the replays off and it was like
three am, RAINMO. It was probably three on the three
am tips. So I'm like, dave, y'all, niggas couldn't either.

Speaker 3 (03:03):
Somebody turned around way before.

Speaker 1 (03:05):
Three, way before three, right.

Speaker 3 (03:08):
Eight central timeses.

Speaker 1 (03:11):
That's why you don't fall.

Speaker 7 (03:12):
Asleep ship, That's why I was going to bed with
my man.

Speaker 2 (03:15):
I missed it, shy, I fell asleep. I was gonna
show y'all to sleep. I'm like, damn, so, y'all niggas
been going in the replay. But it's cool, we're back.
It's compromised dying in this generation though, Lucky talk to me,
They're really talk to me.

Speaker 1 (03:30):
What are we talking about?

Speaker 6 (03:31):
As these cornball ass motherfuckers in this generation? Compromises not
fucking dying motherfuckers is just selfish. Motherfuckers want to be selfish.
They feel like compromising with somebody. See, compromise doesn't mean
you don't get what you want. But motherfuckers, when they
hear they have to compromise, they feel they they think

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in their fucking vents ass smooth brain mentality, and they
think that that means that they don't get what they want.
Compromise means that you you do this and you can
still get what you want, but we're gonna do this.

Speaker 7 (04:08):
Right now so we can do that later.

Speaker 6 (04:10):
Compromise is just something that it works for everybody. It
doesn't mean that you don't get what you want. It
doesn't mean that you're just giving everybody what they wanted.
You just getting the short end of the stick. Motherfuckers
is it is making these words, turning these words into
what they want them to believe, so they can have
a reason or a cause for them acting like the victim,

(04:33):
acting like they're getting played. They just it's weird as fun.
That's why I don't date nobody my age, cornball lass.

Speaker 5 (04:42):
You don't think compromising It is dead in relationships.

Speaker 7 (04:45):
Lucky, don't start your shit.

Speaker 8 (04:52):
Shot.

Speaker 3 (04:57):
A lot of people don't compromise relationships.

Speaker 6 (05:00):
Majority men don't compromise in the relations Well will die
before they try.

Speaker 7 (05:09):
To compromise with a woman. It'll have to be a
fucking uh.

Speaker 6 (05:14):
No, fucking way out for that man in order for
him to compromise.

Speaker 9 (05:18):
Give us an example of what men are not compromising it.

Speaker 5 (05:25):
You see what I'm saying, Let's have a conversation.

Speaker 9 (05:27):
If you're saying men don't compromise with they women, can
you give us an example of what men are refusing
to compromise in a relationship.

Speaker 8 (05:34):
With I just said, don't talk to you somebody else.

Speaker 9 (05:39):
I know men compromise, the women don't want to compromise.
You got women who living in a certain way and
they think they gonna continue to live that way when
they get married to get with dudes, and they and
the dudes that try to help them alter their life
for the better. You call him controlling, You say he's manipulative,
you call him insecure. And all he's asking you to

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do is alter your behavior to be a suitable wife.
You can't operate the same way in a marriage that
you operated as a single woman. And a lot of
women struggle with that. A lot of y'all don't want
to dismiss y'all whole friends that men and y'all know
good when y'all get with serious dudes, y'all don't want
to stop going out as much to the marrias with

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the horny dudes trying to fuck you. You want to
continue to dress the same way you dress when you
were single. There is no compromising with the modern woman.
A modern woman wants to be who she was and
still benefit from a man without changing her behavior.

Speaker 5 (06:38):
That's the biggest problem with modern women.

Speaker 9 (06:41):
You think you can marry a guy and still hang
with holes every weekend.

Speaker 5 (06:47):
It ain't nothing, honey, we just going out having fun.

Speaker 9 (06:49):
And if a man checks that shit and ask you,
instead of every weekend, baby, can you do maybe once
a month, maybe once a month.

Speaker 10 (06:57):
With Oh, nigga, you ain't my dad.

Speaker 5 (06:59):
What you're trying to get me to compromise with you?

Speaker 9 (07:01):
Nigga, I ain't changing up just how I've been living
before I met you. Either you're gonna get with it
or gonna leave your ass. And that's what a lot
of ruds is going through, yep.

Speaker 11 (07:12):
And that also requires a woman to be accountable, and
they're incapable of being accountable so that they weren't raised
to be accountable to anything, so they can't compromise. So
that's why they break up their home or they leave

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exclusive relationship such as there the father of their child,
or they just file for divorce.

Speaker 12 (07:40):
I mean, that's there.

Speaker 6 (07:44):
We don't need y'all coming up here talking about the
women that y'all forged out sales and y'all forced out ways.

Speaker 7 (07:49):
Into their life. Women dealing with the women.

Speaker 13 (07:52):
That actually like y'all.

Speaker 7 (07:55):
Women that doesn't like do what you want to do.
That's why y'all. Cornball asked me, found.

Speaker 12 (08:01):
Can I finish? Thanks? And then the other piece of
this is most women.

Speaker 6 (08:14):
I'm saying most women because I can tell you you
haven't dated most women, So say the women you've dated women.

Speaker 12 (08:21):
Most women need counseling. They don't. They don't go to counseling.

Speaker 6 (08:27):
Uh yeah, I mean, and Youmber, so women that go
to we don't numbers for.

Speaker 7 (08:34):
The men they go to the doctor or therapy.

Speaker 13 (08:37):
Because you're.

Speaker 14 (08:43):
Again I'm trying to you, you're doing ship. I'm trying
to speak.

Speaker 7 (08:47):
Here and very dishonest.

Speaker 12 (08:51):
I'm trying to speak here.

Speaker 11 (08:55):
I've heard from multiple clinical therapists who work in psychotherapy
as well as.

Speaker 7 (09:04):
As well, maybe pull up the numbers.

Speaker 14 (09:09):
My god, can you please, my goodness, these numbers, my.

Speaker 9 (09:16):
Goodness, she can't even compromise.

Speaker 5 (09:23):
She won't even compresse too, because.

Speaker 7 (09:31):
My man don't have a problem. The problem because my
man don't sound like y'all.

Speaker 5 (09:37):
He won't even compromise.

Speaker 12 (09:39):
Do not sound like y'all, Right, I mean.

Speaker 7 (09:42):
Y'all sound like a bunch of.

Speaker 14 (09:45):
Victim mentality, cornballs, civilized conversation.

Speaker 8 (09:50):
No, no, let me stop trolling.

Speaker 7 (09:52):
I'm sorry, let me start trolling. I'm for real, I'm
I'm sorry, I'm trolling.

Speaker 8 (09:56):
Quit quit quin.

Speaker 11 (09:58):
I'm a rapper for one last thing, one other thing
that I'm currently doing with a with a black Columbiana
in metagine Is. And I told her today, I said, Okay,
you know, you say that you want these things with me. Okay,
so I'm going to start testing you, so you know

(10:19):
I'm so. So I put her to work. I've given
her a few things to do, and I said, okay,
you you say that you want those big things with me,
So let me see how you handle these little things
that I'm asking you to do. So being able to
do the simple things, little things like having a conversation,

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having a constructive discussion, or showing up when you say
you're going to show up, or doing what your man
acts you to do. Those are simple, basic things and
if a woman can't do those things, then that means
he's incapable of doing anything else.

Speaker 12 (11:01):
Thank you.

Speaker 5 (11:06):
Uh.

Speaker 9 (11:07):
They won't compromise with you, but I know who they
will compromise with the job because you signed the contract
and you read one.

Speaker 5 (11:16):
Hundred page employee handbook.

Speaker 9 (11:18):
Man, you and you better not violate any of the
terms you You will compromise your life for a job
that really that relative company, that the hospital.

Speaker 10 (11:28):
You will never ever.

Speaker 12 (11:33):
Side of the.

Speaker 9 (11:34):
Terms of that position. But when it comes to men,
you won't compromise with the men that married you. Well,
you need a man to you need a man to thrive.
And it always comes back to bad behavior, bad company,
bad habits that men are.

Speaker 7 (11:53):
That you think women need me to thrib is fucking insane.

Speaker 9 (11:56):
You can tell me, well, the statistics say you get
a big that when you single with children, you got
high devote It's so.

Speaker 10 (12:06):
Oh yo, yo yo.

Speaker 1 (12:07):
We into the topic. Hold on, let's into the topic.

Speaker 2 (12:10):
Let's get to this ship, Kylo, Danielle Mo, Let's get
to this ship, Lucky, Let's get to the top.

Speaker 1 (12:13):
Brother Rico, Let's get to this topic.

Speaker 5 (12:16):
Yo.

Speaker 2 (12:16):
If somebody turned my replays off last night, I'll be
giving a lot of people to being y'all niggas coming here.

Speaker 1 (12:22):
You know I'm gonna mention it. Every y'all niggas is crazy.
I can't.

Speaker 2 (12:26):
I can't go cut it with my girl real quick.
Go make some money real quick, come back and my
shit be good. Niggas got to turn the replays off.
None of that shit's happening tonight. I'm going to three am.
I'm not fucking around with Do you see the mods
right here?

Speaker 1 (12:39):
That's it.

Speaker 2 (12:40):
Don't ask me. It's compromise dying in this generation. That's
what I want to talk about. Get let's get to
the topic. I gotta answer a phone call real quick.

Speaker 8 (12:49):
I don't think compromises dying.

Speaker 6 (12:51):
I think people don't want to compromise with people they
don't really want to be with.

Speaker 8 (12:55):
Like people theyn't really want to be with. People make
a lot of compromises.

Speaker 6 (12:59):
So a lot of times when people are not listening
to you, like when y'all men complain about women not
submitting to you. She don't really like you like that,
or she damn sure don't think your ass is capable
of doing so. So I think people do absolutely make compromises.
They make compromises with.

Speaker 8 (13:12):
Who they want. It just may not be you.

Speaker 7 (13:15):
Thank you, Danyelle. That's all I said. That's all I said.

Speaker 6 (13:19):
These niggas be trying to make women compromise with them,
and the bitches don't like them. Them niggas be trying
to force the bitches that don't like them to be
with them, and then.

Speaker 7 (13:28):
Get mad when the bitch don't want to compromise. She
never really likes you. You're just not listening.

Speaker 6 (13:32):
Niggas that bitch don't like you, try to compromise with
the woman that likes you.

Speaker 7 (13:36):
Now, y'all don't want them women. Y'all want them women.

Speaker 9 (13:41):
You don't compromise women. The men that require something of you,
you run. The men who you stick with are the
weak of vessel. The men who allow.

Speaker 7 (13:51):
You Christian need to start your own room.

Speaker 9 (13:54):
The man who's okay with everything the weak of vessel.
The so called healthy relationship. When women say healthy, I'm
in a healthy relationship, that's a hint for my man
as a bata.

Speaker 5 (14:04):
He allows anything. You got to pick up on the terms.

Speaker 3 (14:08):
Avoiding, So I mean, you can't put that on a
lot of people.

Speaker 8 (14:13):
And not only that, But there's plenty of men who
have women that submit to them, and they're not weak men.

Speaker 6 (14:18):
It's just again, y'all think that you're going to get
the same level of respect as the next man when
you don't deserve that.

Speaker 8 (14:24):
And that's a lot of y'all problem.

Speaker 6 (14:26):
Like Stack, I might respect Stack and disrespect you because
Stack might be held in.

Speaker 8 (14:30):
The higher reverence. He just ain't you.

Speaker 6 (14:32):
I think y'all think that y'all are entitled for somebody
to treat your ass like you're better than you are,
or treat you like you're just like everybody else.

Speaker 8 (14:39):
You're not like everybody else.

Speaker 6 (14:40):
She might disrespect you and say hello and say sweet
things to the next man that walk past her.

Speaker 8 (14:45):
That just means that they don't respect you.

Speaker 6 (14:48):
I mean, no one owes you that, and no one
owes you compromise either.

Speaker 8 (14:52):
The only person that really should.

Speaker 6 (14:54):
Come, the only reason why, the only woman who really
should be obligated to compromise with you is your wife.
Anybody outside of that can get rid of your ass.
You ain't no fucking unicorn you. Nobody has to be
with you, nor do they have to compromise with you.
I don't know who Mama told you that. Then somebody
gotta listen to you. Somebody gotta be nice to you.
Somebody got a compromise with you. Nobody got a compromise

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with your ass.

Speaker 9 (15:18):
You give us two ways. How you compromised with your
baby daddy?

Speaker 8 (15:22):
Sure?

Speaker 5 (15:22):
How did I.

Speaker 6 (15:23):
Compromise by not putting his ass on child support? That
was a compromise, okay, compromised by anytime he wanted to
come get his kids.

Speaker 8 (15:32):
I didn't give a fuck when it was he could
come get him. That was a compromise.

Speaker 15 (15:37):
Right.

Speaker 6 (15:38):
So when people say that they don't want to compromise again,
y'all people who haven't issued sir, I do dictate it
at the time because rights to the I'm gonna answer
your question, sir. If I don't live in the same

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household as you, you can't top of that my house ten
o'clock at night, when you fucking feel like it.

Speaker 8 (16:02):
Is a child don't live with you, And at ten o'clock,
what the fuck do you need them for? Anyway? Your
reality is is this, y'all be.

Speaker 6 (16:09):
Expecting that you can do anything and everything you want
with people, and they supposed to have been to your will.
Who the fuck are you that's why you, as an adult,
you have to compromise.

Speaker 8 (16:17):
With a person communicate. A lot of y'all don't know
how to do that.

Speaker 6 (16:20):
Okay, that's not my problem, that's your problem.

Speaker 5 (16:25):
Those weren't good compromises because the relationship fell. If they
were good.

Speaker 8 (16:30):
Daddy, if the baby daddy will.

Speaker 9 (16:32):
It wouldn't be baby daddy if you that's because you
didn't compromise.

Speaker 5 (16:36):
Women that don't compromise get less.

Speaker 6 (16:40):
Most of y'all get left. Y'all talk about how women
fould but divorce. Most of you niggas get left. Y'all
are not leaving women. Y'all are getting left, Like what
are you talking about?

Speaker 1 (16:48):
And there you go.

Speaker 14 (16:50):
He just laid it out for first first child support,
so so so that's how she can force a man
to do anything.

Speaker 12 (17:00):
You laid it out.

Speaker 5 (17:02):
Laid out means.

Speaker 8 (17:06):
Getting lit. That's not what I said. I think he
was not on.

Speaker 12 (17:12):
Well no, no, you said.

Speaker 14 (17:15):
You basically, you basically said that you would leverage child support.

Speaker 8 (17:21):
That is not what she's saying.

Speaker 7 (17:24):
Is not what she's said. You're not listening, Christian is not.

Speaker 6 (17:29):
Listening to very clearly clearly.

Speaker 12 (17:33):
There's other room. There's other men in the room as well.

Speaker 8 (17:36):
So I mean.

Speaker 6 (17:39):
Talking about you the second the second you.

Speaker 7 (17:44):
She did not say that. The second thing she said.

Speaker 12 (17:48):
The second thing she said was.

Speaker 16 (17:52):
A mom so.

Speaker 10 (17:56):
You think, my god, can you mute up?

Speaker 12 (18:01):
Thank you. The second thing that.

Speaker 14 (18:03):
She said that that that women are leaving us, so
which which she went straight to divorce. So this is
my point about all of the about about child support,
no fault, divorce, snap wick hud sections and f A H.

Speaker 17 (18:25):
Longs, all all of these things, all all of these
things that the government have given to women as an option.

Speaker 10 (18:39):
Can I can I?

Speaker 14 (18:39):
Can I get it out? Can I get it out?
Before you even know?

Speaker 7 (18:44):
Because you keep lying up? You shut up, you keep lying,
you shut up.

Speaker 14 (18:55):
Those things that are that the government have given to women.
These things need to be repealed and rolled back.

Speaker 6 (19:05):
Agent women women, sir, married people.

Speaker 12 (19:11):
Women are more than men are. No women are running to.

Speaker 6 (19:16):
Get this is this is why I wish y'all would
stop speaking from your slow ass point of view.

Speaker 8 (19:22):
Married people get f a loan.

Speaker 10 (19:24):
We're not talking about people.

Speaker 12 (19:26):
We're not talking about married, sir.

Speaker 8 (19:28):
The majority of people that get.

Speaker 12 (19:30):
Loan we're not talking about, sir.

Speaker 6 (19:33):
I'm not talking about because I'm telling you it goes
for everybody, like eighty people to get home loans. Get
we're talking we're talking about that have homes, are married,
talking about single people, right, and I'm telling you out
of single people, the majority of single people, whether it's
a man or a woman, get a loans because the
majority of y'all do not have twenty.

Speaker 12 (19:53):
Women are getting those loans.

Speaker 14 (19:55):
Sir, Men are getting them to didn't because didn't women
didn't women brag? Did women just brag about about owning
the most homes?

Speaker 12 (20:05):
Women just brag about that.

Speaker 18 (20:07):
Last year just because the woman owned the home.

Speaker 12 (20:11):
That that black were women not?

Speaker 6 (20:19):
On a second, Christian, do you even know what a a.

Speaker 12 (20:24):
What is a government back loan?

Speaker 6 (20:26):
That's what it is, right, So when you say government back,
what does that mean?

Speaker 14 (20:31):
A government back loan into a given a citizen, not
the military or a military service member, which is a
v a loan, a government back loan given to a
citizen based off of uh income that they.

Speaker 8 (20:51):
May not otherwise have.

Speaker 14 (20:55):
And and the mortgage insurance fund that comes out.

Speaker 10 (20:58):
Of the federal budget.

Speaker 14 (21:00):
So it is a government back loan given to citizens.

Speaker 8 (21:08):
That's a government back as well, sir.

Speaker 14 (21:10):
And it causes problems in the housing market because you
have all these people.

Speaker 2 (21:15):
All right, all right, all right, all right, right, I'm
tired of you. All right, let's get back to the nigga.
I'm done, okay, but now I'm done. Let's get back.
Is compromise dying, nigga? Let's get back to the topic. Bro,
I can't even hop on a phone call for six seconds.
Niggas taking it everywhere. Let's talk about compromise. Is it
dying in the relationship? Why can people agree together? I'm

(21:37):
talking to you. You don't know how the motherfucking listen,
Let's get back to the subject. Why I gotta always
go down this motherfucking rabit hole of bullshit?

Speaker 1 (21:45):
Please mo.

Speaker 16 (21:47):
It.

Speaker 1 (21:48):
I don't get it.

Speaker 3 (21:49):
Compromise requires letting your guard now, and a lot of
people simply don't feel safe enough to do that anymore.
And I think it's because you have men and women
who weaponize your vulnerability against each other. So, yeah, compromise
is dying. I'm not going to say the majority, but
I think it's a good portion of couples, single, whatever,
that they just don't have that faith anymore.

Speaker 2 (22:15):
So she's saying the faith is dying real quick. That's
so he's saying the faith is dying within this ship. Yeah,
there's no hope. The hope line is done, the faith
line is closed.

Speaker 1 (22:26):
Crazy.

Speaker 6 (22:26):
Yeah, Compromise can only happen when comprehension is present. Compromise
can only happen when comprehension is present, is present, and
a lot of times people do not have the comprehension
skills to participate in it.

Speaker 8 (22:40):
Well, that's the.

Speaker 6 (22:41):
Reality, might because a lot of times people don't want
to compromise when they don't understand why they should.

Speaker 1 (22:46):
People stupid as hell.

Speaker 8 (22:47):
Yeah, they're stupid as fuck, A lot of them. Yes,
a lot of people like common sense.

Speaker 6 (22:51):
A lot of people don't know how to negotiate, a
lot of people don't know how to lose, a lot
of people don't know how to simply say, I don't know.
A lot of people don't know how to do those things. So, yeah, Mike,
I do I believe that wholeheartedly.

Speaker 19 (23:04):
Well, I think I think also that compromise. I think
you're only supposed to compromise your selfishness. You're not supposed
to compromise anything else. I think that. So from from
that standpoint, yes, to Compromise is certainly dying because men
and women are becoming more selfish in their relationships.

Speaker 5 (23:27):
Tolerance is also a part of it.

Speaker 19 (23:30):
I'm not gonna change the subject, but I think tolerance
is typically what people are talking about when they say compromise.

Speaker 5 (23:35):
Sometimes in these conferences they're talking.

Speaker 19 (23:37):
About no one's being more tolerant. But I don't think
you should. Tolerance was a whole nother thing. I think
compromise it should only be one thing self. You shouldn't
be compromised. Your morals, or your values or any of
any of those things should not be compromised.

Speaker 8 (23:54):
I agree whole heartedly.

Speaker 9 (23:56):
It's uncomfortable for a lot of women. They don't like
the compromise because it's it's just dirup in a pattern.
If you've been single for twenty years and you've been
operating a certain way and you meet somebody who's identifying
problems now you operate, most people are not willing to
change because it's uncomfortable, it's disruptive.

Speaker 5 (24:14):
Even though it's for the better, people still will.

Speaker 9 (24:17):
Pick they are regular ways of operating over a long
term marriage, specifically women.

Speaker 4 (24:24):
You can meet it.

Speaker 3 (24:29):
But honestly, true compromise means maturity, like, no one want
to have been in a relationship so it doesn't break
a lot of people aren't willing to be in a
relationship that's selfish, like let's see very good. A lot
of people aren't mature enough to compromise, to ben to
give and take a relationship is working. A lot of
people don't want to do the work. They want the title,

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but they don't want to do the work. They want
the husband and wife, but they won't. They don't want
to work to keep the husband on a wife. So
it's like, at this point, just be single and casually
they and don't even focus on the marriage. Marriage is
to go for you because in the end, all you're
doing is traumatizing somebody else. Now they have to heal
so they can actually find a person in for them.
And you just go ahead and be miserable.

Speaker 2 (25:13):
They meant, let's just keep it on hunting. And a
lot of people don't know how to compromise. That's why
I should go south. Y'all don't know how to listen
to the other person. Y'all think y'all know everything. A
lot of people think they already, Oh I know what

(25:34):
I got it, I got this shit, but you ain't
listening to the other person, and that's why this is feeling.
So listening active listening is very very very very very
very important. But a lot of people don't know that's skill.
They think, oh no, no, that's my way or the highway.
And that's why you buy yourself, you know.

Speaker 6 (25:49):
I think people need to normalize recognizing that people aren't
aligned with you and moving around with moving around them.
If you're a person that likes to save, why would
you get with somebody that likes to spend, if you're
a person that likes to be in that Because.

Speaker 1 (26:02):
People think they can change people dye, right, And.

Speaker 6 (26:05):
That's and that's the thing I always tell people, what
makes you think you that special? There's somebody gonna change
who they are for you. What makes you think that? Like,
I think that's a lot of people problem. They don't
want to acknowledge the fact. Yeah, she find as fucked,
but she doesn't align with none of the ship that
I'm aligned with. Instead of you trying to brow beat
this woman who don't listen to you, be disrespectful to you,
why can't you just respect me? She never respects you

(26:28):
to begin with. You thought just because you wanted her,
and because she was attractive that she was gonna eventually
fall in line, and.

Speaker 8 (26:34):
That doesn't happen most of the time. That's really what
it is.

Speaker 5 (26:39):
He not special enough for you to alter your behavior.

Speaker 8 (26:43):
No, because it depending on what it is.

Speaker 13 (26:45):
I'm not going to because.

Speaker 8 (26:47):
My but I feel like it's right for.

Speaker 9 (26:51):
Right, right, right, God, God, God, God forbid her. Nigga,
tell you to stop thinking out at bars. He see
he was special enough to meet bounced on raw dick.
You see, he was special enough to bounce on raw dick,

(27:12):
gid ejaculated in and have the baby.

Speaker 5 (27:15):
But God forbid the nigga. Try to correct your behavior.
What that's what.

Speaker 8 (27:21):
I was telling her, not to go to the bar
correcting behavior.

Speaker 6 (27:23):
The reality is if you if you met her in
the bar, for you to turn around and be like,
you don't need to be going to.

Speaker 1 (27:29):
The bar, sir.

Speaker 5 (27:30):
You mean, I'm saying the real But sir, you.

Speaker 6 (27:33):
Can't tell somebody going to the unless it's a bar
that you know people get shot at every day.

Speaker 5 (27:38):
You're not a lot a lot of he's.

Speaker 8 (27:41):
Gonna cheat on you and meet a man. She can
meet a man at the gas on your ass. That
is the reality. People cheat on people every day with
random people, not people in the club.

Speaker 18 (27:53):
It could be somebody you work.

Speaker 9 (27:56):
You've got a very negative way of thinking people you do.

Speaker 8 (28:01):
You do a lot of trauma dumping. You do.

Speaker 9 (28:03):
You do a lot of the trauma dumping in his
trauma And I think you can do a lot.

Speaker 5 (28:08):
That dude did. He did a number on you.

Speaker 8 (28:12):
Y'all always attack instead of attacking my points. I don't
know why y'all do that. I don't know why y'all
do that. Can y'all to the points?

Speaker 9 (28:19):
And I mean, because the biggest, the biggest thing that
let's stick to the topic.

Speaker 1 (28:24):
Bro, Let's stick to the topic.

Speaker 9 (28:26):
But that's what I'm doing that that's the biggest complaint
that I hear a lot of dudes leave women over
is that they won't compromise on their social life. Right,
that's not that's that that they are women refuse to
compromise on their on their social life. Women that you
won't compromise on that. And how you dress. A lot
of y'all got whole outfits and you get married and

(28:47):
continue to want to dress like that's gonna change that.
A lot of that those are the two main things
that dudes are saying that women refuse to compromise on
the way you present yourself in public.

Speaker 5 (28:58):
Right, you're not modest and publicly just like a whole
get her to begin with.

Speaker 6 (29:03):
If she never presented herself, well, why did you make
her your women back?

Speaker 8 (29:08):
It seems like the men.

Speaker 3 (29:09):
Are in the choke hold.

Speaker 1 (29:10):
Yes, Senor to come through, So I'm gonna I'm gonna.

Speaker 20 (29:13):
Try to help the men out because it seems like
they're very much in a choke hold.

Speaker 4 (29:16):
Okay.

Speaker 20 (29:18):
The reason why it's very hard to compromise with women
in this generation, it's because women based their women based
relationships on their happiness, and happiness is a fleeting emotion,
So there is no compromising with someone who can only
base their logic on emotion and their happiness. You're welcome, men.

Speaker 12 (29:41):
That's what I said.

Speaker 14 (29:41):
I said women are not logical thinkers, so they can't
they're incapable of compromising.

Speaker 8 (29:48):
If y'all were so logical, why are mostly all browke Uh?

Speaker 14 (29:52):
Most most single men are in the middle class, especially
as far as black.

Speaker 8 (29:57):
Men, not a lot of money.

Speaker 12 (30:03):
We're earning more money than black women are. I can
tell you that.

Speaker 8 (30:06):
Yeah, about twenty five dollars a week.

Speaker 11 (30:11):
Over ninety percent of black woman earned less than seventy
five thousand dollars.

Speaker 6 (30:15):
Every man across every diasp or makes more than women.
So black men only making about six thousand.

Speaker 8 (30:21):
Dollars more than their women is not a flex, sir,
because you live the same do you make it six
thousand dollars more than a woman? Y'all live the same life.

Speaker 6 (30:30):
Okay, so you're not living a much more extravagant life
than somebody you make six thousand dollars more than you
gotta stop.

Speaker 14 (30:38):
Yeah, And the idea that somehow that we're not able
to either earn a living or that we're incapable of
taking care of a family, that's.

Speaker 12 (30:49):
A total fallacy.

Speaker 5 (30:50):
We are.

Speaker 11 (30:51):
It's just that the women are incapable of wanting a husband.

Speaker 12 (30:56):
That's I mean, that's really the.

Speaker 5 (30:59):
Main if they don't need they don't no no no.

Speaker 14 (31:02):
No no no no, they no, they don't want a husband,
but right, they don't need. Their survival is their survival
is based on a man. So whether they whether they
get married or not, it is based on a man.

Speaker 6 (31:16):
Period into that, right, But I don't have to be
with one of you niggas for that to be a thing, right, that's.

Speaker 18 (31:28):
The that's the reality.

Speaker 6 (31:30):
Because I'm still gonna have a job because men allowed
me to work.

Speaker 8 (31:33):
I'm still gonna be able to pay bills because men
allowed me to do so. But that doesn't mean I
have to be in a relationship one of you men
for that to be a thing.

Speaker 6 (31:41):
That the whole because I can easily hire one of
y'all to come cut my grass. I can easily hire
employ you as a man, because I need men as
my employees.

Speaker 8 (31:50):
Absolutely, But to be in a relationship with you, no, right.

Speaker 11 (31:54):
That's because we have given you different things. So the moment,
the moment that we take any of those things away.

Speaker 10 (32:05):
You are your back to back.

Speaker 8 (32:08):
Do not have the power to take those things away,
y'all don't.

Speaker 6 (32:11):
Absolutely the only way you could white that's the only
way to get.

Speaker 12 (32:19):
Off the subject, of course the talks.

Speaker 14 (32:20):
But we could absolutely take those things away.

Speaker 6 (32:29):
Okay, So again, you couldn't do ship if white men
did not back you understand that?

Speaker 14 (32:35):
Not not really, And and and again that's not one
hundred percent true because of other things such as.

Speaker 6 (32:43):
The industry electoral map.

Speaker 11 (32:45):
Electoral map, you look at the look, you look at
the counties that are predominantly uh we're predominantly black people
live in. So let's just stop it right there.

Speaker 12 (32:56):
That's not true.

Speaker 8 (33:01):
Talking about uh no, you.

Speaker 14 (33:03):
Said you said that we could not do it unless
went unless we went no, no, no, no no.

Speaker 8 (33:09):
He said it said that we don't want you said that.

Speaker 14 (33:13):
You said you said that, you said that black men
could not do it unless we went to white people
or white men, And that's not true. If black men
got together and made a conscious effort to go in
one direction, and even if it wasn't more than I
would even it don't even have to be sixty percent,

(33:33):
it could be like maybe forty percent of us. If
forty or thirty percent of us all got on the
same page, we could absolutely move the system the way
we want.

Speaker 6 (33:43):
Could you stop women from working? How could you stop
women from being being able to buy houses? How could
you stop women from doing anything you fucking can without
some about some law backing you, which white men are
going to have to pass for it to happen.

Speaker 8 (33:55):
It did not show you anything, is that it doesn't
matter how black people vote.

Speaker 6 (33:59):
Most of us voter for Kamala, but you know who
won Trump right because the Latin people and white people
voted for him.

Speaker 8 (34:06):
That's the situation.

Speaker 12 (34:07):
Go back and look at those counties where black people live.

Speaker 6 (34:11):
Oh my god, sir, okay, did.

Speaker 21 (34:15):
Did you'll get an answer to the topic yet?

Speaker 1 (34:17):
Fucks know? We didn't get no end Latin comprehension.

Speaker 8 (34:20):
That's the answer. You guys aren't compromise.

Speaker 10 (34:23):
To answer the question.

Speaker 12 (34:27):
To answer the topic of the room.

Speaker 10 (34:29):
Yes, you need maturity.

Speaker 6 (34:33):
I'm starting to mix my golds and silvers, and I
love the emerald.

Speaker 18 (34:37):
So I've been getting emerald jewelry.

Speaker 8 (34:39):
That's my birth style.

Speaker 18 (34:40):
So I'm looking.

Speaker 2 (34:46):
Yeah, let's get to the topic. Just compromise and made
the relationship better. And do you need maturity to compromise
in this generation? Let's continue this ship. Anybody can jump
in it, don't matter who it is. James, I heard
you coming in Rico, Kyla, then Yelle, real one animal,
let's go that Christian, let's get it in man, let's
start this shit.

Speaker 22 (35:00):
Up, y'all. Was trying to answer the topic. Obviously, we
do need maturity. The example of some of the back
and forth in these rooms are clear that we don't
have maturity until we have it, then we can't truly
have a conversation.

Speaker 12 (35:14):
If if the goal.

Speaker 22 (35:16):
Is to meet on a common accord, then yes, we
need maturity, the ability to sit and actually listen to
what the person is saying and understand what they're saying.
There is an aspect of compromise and resolution of whatever
the argument or debate or issue is. But that allows
for both parties involved to get outside of your ego,

(35:38):
shut up, listen, and be in alignment on actually solving
whatever the issue is. But apparently we can't do that,
so I guess we'll continue to have these circular conversations
and or debates. I'm going back on mute.

Speaker 3 (35:52):
I feel like, go ahead, we go.

Speaker 21 (35:55):
The relationships going to go better.

Speaker 23 (35:57):
But if I'm being honest, compromise and anything you compromise
is based on leverage. It's based on what I have
and what you're trying to get. Feminism the first primary
way women could not leave. They couldn't do anything because
they did, they would being financially abused. So based off
the fact I'm gonna be honest, depending on what I

(36:19):
have and what you have, I may not be willing
to move. I may not be willing to take that
step towards you if I look at my life and
look at your life. Yes, And ideally I'm looking at
you as a human being and I care about you,
so I want you to be happy.

Speaker 21 (36:34):
That's in an ideal world.

Speaker 23 (36:36):
But in a realistic world, I'm looking at my situation
and looking at your situation, and depends on where that
leverage is at, I may not have to budge, I
may not have to. Now is that somewhere that I
think can be unfair or that may be a little
bit disheartening because a person situation, Yeah, but is it

(36:56):
really reality? You don't go into a business meeting and
compre my You go based off your strengths and their weaknesses. Now,
I don't think people should look at each other that way,
but that's my personal feelings, and I don't think that
always plays out with men dealing with women and women
dealing with men, depending on either either side.

Speaker 2 (37:17):
Yo, you know what freaking good point. But I wanted
to shout out my sister real one. Her son just
signed to the BC Lions as a wide receiver. So
shout out to you.

Speaker 24 (37:31):
Coming to Michigan girl, Thank you, thank you so much,
and welcome to hang when you come out here.

Speaker 18 (37:41):
You want to welcome to hang back Virginia.

Speaker 25 (37:44):
Right, I'll you out here.

Speaker 8 (37:48):
Okay, thank you, thank you so much.

Speaker 1 (37:51):
That's hard.

Speaker 5 (37:51):
Real one.

Speaker 26 (37:54):
Thanks.

Speaker 25 (37:58):
Yeah, we're real.

Speaker 8 (37:59):
That's amazing.

Speaker 25 (38:00):
We're thank you.

Speaker 1 (38:03):
That's good, the real one, thank you for coming through.
Real one.

Speaker 2 (38:06):
O g or you under saying she always rock with stacks.
She's been rocking with me since my business rooms, like
she's been seeing me do my business ship all the
way up to like what I'm doing rooms right now.

Speaker 1 (38:15):
So shout I.

Speaker 24 (38:16):
See you, shout out to great great friend parents.

Speaker 8 (38:24):
That's that's that's a fact.

Speaker 1 (38:27):
Real no for real, real one. Can you share it
real quick?

Speaker 2 (38:30):
I don't know if you're busy, but does compromise and
make a relationship better or you know, have you seen
that make something better or uh make it worse or
something with your experience.

Speaker 25 (38:39):
If you don't mind, compromising is a must. It's give
and take, you know, it's ah uplifting each other, helping
each other. I feel like the woman is a helpmate
to the to the man, but and I feel like

(39:00):
the man should lead. However, I still feel like he
should check with his woman. So I think that that
entails compromise. So yeah, I think it's very important, very important.
I was married twelve years. I am divorced, so but but.

Speaker 1 (39:17):
But real one, you know what it is to compromise.

Speaker 2 (39:20):
You have to compromise for twelve years, though, Yeah, and
how was that was it? Was it ever a struggle
doing that though, real one, Because you know, two people
with powerful personalities, it could it could clash, right, So
was there any struggles with that?

Speaker 25 (39:34):
There were? There absolutely were. And I mean I'm not
going to go into why I'm divorced. I will never
talk bad about him. We're still friends. He's father of
my child. It just didn't work out, and that's okay.
Sometimes people just grow apart. But yeah, it's a constant marriage.

(39:58):
Marriages work. That honeymoon period, I don't care. It always
wears off, you know, And the honeymoon period is always
gonna wear off in a long term relationship or marriage
and then it becomes work. So yeah, and compromise involves
that work.

Speaker 8 (40:18):
So begin in work to stay in.

Speaker 25 (40:21):
That's right, that's right. And sometimes it doesn't work out,
and that's okay too. You learn, you live, and you learn,
just don't carry that baggage into the next well.

Speaker 8 (40:33):
That's the best thing too. You gotta be adult enough
that even if it doesn't work out, the child still
do what's invest con with the best.

Speaker 6 (40:40):
Interest of the child, as long asstairs putting the child
to the forefront. Even if y'all two don't work out,
the stout and the chiall can still be grow up, happy, healthy,
resolute and great and do great things.

Speaker 8 (40:52):
I think that that's important.

Speaker 6 (40:53):
I mean, obviously, the outcome we want is for both
parents to stay together, but the best that we can
do if they don't is be the best parents that
you can be to that child.

Speaker 25 (41:01):
And don't ever talk about the other parent in front
of the child. That is the most damaging thing that
one can do. And don't keep the child away from
the other parent unless they are just completely unfit, and
we all know what that means if they're dangerous to
the child's well being. But don't do that just because

(41:22):
you're mad at each other. That's my best advice.

Speaker 21 (41:27):
I want to go back to something that Senora said.

Speaker 23 (41:29):
She said, so we're talking about compromise, but compromising is
us omitting that we that we're in agreeents. What happens
when the compromise fails? What happens when the compromise fails.
We're speaking as if we're willing.

Speaker 21 (41:45):
To do it.

Speaker 23 (41:46):
I don't think compromise always works. I think people have
they stand on the side they want to stand on.
She brung up the logic, the logic and the duty
base of what should be done. Be beyond your emotional capacity,
beyond how I'm feeling. Fuck how I'm feeling. This is
what has to be done. Can most people set that aside,

(42:09):
set their own egos, set their own pride aside, and
be like, Yo, I'm pissed off because I didn't get
my fucking way and we should have agreed at this point,
but I'm still on the team to push the family forward.

Speaker 5 (42:24):
I don't know.

Speaker 25 (42:27):
That was my point in allowing the man to lead,
and sometimes compromise doesn't work, but you should trust him
enough to know that he's doing what's in the best
interest of the fan.

Speaker 8 (42:40):
Dialogue with you for a minute.

Speaker 21 (42:41):
Are you okay, so okay? Just please to stay with me,
work with me, walk with me.

Speaker 23 (42:44):
You're saying if the compromise fails, are you saying, by default,
the man that should be the leader to take the
position of when the compromise fails.

Speaker 25 (42:55):
If he can't if he's the leader.

Speaker 27 (42:57):
Yeah, but some sometimes they you know, without sometimes the leader,
the leadership fails too.

Speaker 25 (43:07):
So there's many factors in in this and I and
don't ever give up too easily, you know, go to counseling,
do whatever you need to to try to make it work.
But yeah, I mean if you yeah, I mean there's
so many factors, Rico.

Speaker 5 (43:21):
You know, yeah, I know.

Speaker 23 (43:23):
But I think that when I hear certain women and
I'm not going to highlight those women when they speak.

Speaker 26 (43:29):
About you and the matrix, Rico, I think, go back
in real bad.

Speaker 8 (43:40):
Let me see that. I was gonna take a shot
at the title.

Speaker 3 (43:43):
What's he talking? Or I'll go quietly.

Speaker 1 (43:45):
I think we in the matrix?

Speaker 2 (43:47):
We go you back or can kind of come in
real quick, Rico, He's probably in the matrix.

Speaker 1 (43:56):
Nah, he'll come back in.

Speaker 28 (44:00):
I don't know.

Speaker 6 (44:00):
I think that there's a compromise and make the relationship better. Yes,
I'm working on this right now. I don't it makes
it better, but I think that in today's society we
lack it because we are not forgiving. So right now
where I'm at in my spiritual journey, I'm I'm having

(44:20):
a hard time forgiving.

Speaker 18 (44:23):
So forgiveness and compromise go hand in hand.

Speaker 6 (44:26):
And it's like, Okay, you want to be a wife,
you want to be a good person, you want to
be somebody who is good for a long lasting relationship.
I have to work on forgiveness because like I'm like, lord,
what am I doing? Okay, we're doing all these things
and he's like, oh, you got to forgive people that
really hurt you. What would you mean? I gotta what
you're talking about. I was like, wait, wait, wait, And

(44:49):
it's not for them, it's for me. But it's to
understand compromise. They go hand in hand. So you know,
you guys know that forgiveness removes the emotional weight of
what already has happen. So if you can't forgive your partner,
we don't have a lot of people that forgive. They
just condemn and they throw the whole relationship away, right,

(45:11):
and then you got compromise, which prevents the same issue
from happening. And sometimes, like you do have to forgive
because without forgiveness, compromise feels fake. There is no long
term relationship, there is no going through highs and lows
without forgiveness that goes for any relationship, even one I would.

Speaker 18 (45:33):
Say within yourself.

Speaker 6 (45:36):
So that's I'm just saying that because that's that's like
where I'm at right now. And I'm like, Lord, what
you wanted to do? This forgiveness thing? You're making me
forgive people, I'm saying, fuck, fuck the bloodline. You're like, no,
you gotta forgive. You gotta forgive because when you're a
wife and you're in a relationship, you're going to have
to compromise and forgive so that you don't cost repeated

(45:58):
pain not for your partner, but also for you. Nobody
talks about that because compromise without forgiveness is what?

Speaker 8 (46:07):
What is it?

Speaker 6 (46:08):
Anybody tholse It's resentment? And I only know that because
that's where I'm at right now on my spiritual journey.
I'm contemplating forgiveness as soon as I can get over
that threshold that's a whole thing within itself.

Speaker 2 (46:26):
Is not very hard to do it because it's like
some people, it's like some ship they can't even come
back from.

Speaker 6 (46:33):
Not only forgive, not only forgive, but to move with humility,
right Because if you.

Speaker 18 (46:40):
Haven't really forgiven, it's fake.

Speaker 6 (46:42):
There's no compromise, right, I just said that, So I
am working on that. It's like, do you know how
to stick things out? Do you mean it when you
say that you forgive someone? Do you forgive yourself in
this situation? So it's not only forgiving others, it's forgiving
myself and then showing.

Speaker 18 (46:58):
That grace and compass. I'm having a hard time with
that right now.

Speaker 6 (47:03):
That's an internal conflict with myself and that needs to
be resolved before I get it, before I become a
wife because forgiveness and I'm not talking about little stuff, right,
We're not talking about the little minute things that y'all
argue about.

Speaker 18 (47:19):
It was on media liking the pic I'm talking.

Speaker 8 (47:22):
About really.

Speaker 6 (47:25):
So yeah, that's that's That's where I'm at with it
right now.

Speaker 2 (47:29):
I feel I feel what coming from because it's like, hold,
I feel what Colle's coming from.

Speaker 1 (47:33):
It's like, Yo, it's some ship. This really takes a
lot out of you too.

Speaker 6 (47:37):
Forgiveness not only forgiveness, not only forgivenments real but really
mean it really mean it really.

Speaker 18 (47:46):
Really pull the waight ye wait, and not just you
but them.

Speaker 25 (47:52):
That's why we could don't take it into your next relationship.
I am still single right now by choice because I'm
still working on resentment. I'm so glad that you brought
Oh my gosh, don't work it out. Yeah, if you
don't work it out, you're gonna carry it into your
next relationship. You will, I promise you will.

Speaker 6 (48:15):
If there's for If there's no forgiveness, there's pain, and
that don't just go.

Speaker 18 (48:20):
For a man that go for you yourself.

Speaker 29 (48:22):
It's not.

Speaker 6 (48:23):
And it's like you gotta And I'm talking to God,
He's like, you gotta forgive too, the ones that really
hurt you. This this this show test. Not only do
I have to forgive them, I have to walk with
humility and integrity and treat them kindly. Oh my god,
I'm going through that right now. I'm mis real. Do
you understand?

Speaker 18 (48:40):
I want to get under understand when they get married
and the child.

Speaker 6 (48:45):
Come out, I want to take a fucking broom and
just knock for newborn out.

Speaker 13 (48:48):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 18 (48:49):
No, you can't do that, Kyla.

Speaker 5 (48:50):
You have to forgive.

Speaker 6 (48:52):
So if you don't know how, I don't. I'm so
serious that fuck. The blood line ain't even hear your fuck. Look,
we talk about compromise though, But that's really what compromise
is supposed to be by definition.

Speaker 8 (49:13):
Right.

Speaker 6 (49:13):
But when we talk about compromise, it's not always compromised,
like you want to do you want to go left,
I want to go right, and we compromise on which
way we go. It's sometimes compromising might be I'm compromising
my morals for this situation. And then in those cases,
I wouldn't tell people to compromise, right, somebody's asking you
to accept something that you don't accept. That's not a compromise, right,

(49:36):
Because if I don't believe in cheating and you cheat
on me and you're like, well, I'm supposed to you're
supposed to be my woman, the reality is is that
that's against my moral compass. So I'm not going to
compromise my morals for you. That's the reality of the situation.
Some people might do that and other people may not.
So when we talk about compromise, I don't think. I

(49:57):
think when your principles don't allow with my principles, it's
not about compromising it at that point. I think it's
realizing that me and you probably shouldn't be together because.

Speaker 21 (50:06):
I would say this.

Speaker 6 (50:08):
So that's one part of it. And you know that
compromising is being the bigger person too, saying sorry when
it wasn't your.

Speaker 8 (50:14):
Fault because.

Speaker 18 (50:21):
Let me let me cook, because you're talking about you.

Speaker 6 (50:24):
See, this is why I'm having a spiritual I'm having
a hard time with this journey.

Speaker 18 (50:28):
Right now, Like I'll be talking to God, like what
you mean?

Speaker 5 (50:31):
What you mean?

Speaker 7 (50:31):
You mean?

Speaker 6 (50:32):
Sometimes and this isn't any relationship. This is in a
relationship with yourself. You know it's conflicted, it's an internal battle.
You gotta apologize and be the bigger person even when
you know damn well that they were dead ass wrong,
because what's bigger me being right the relationship.

Speaker 18 (50:51):
And I'm not just talking.

Speaker 8 (50:52):
About if your you didn't do, how would they?

Speaker 6 (50:57):
That's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about something
bigger than minuscule things. So if you know your person
is this way, and I'm not even just talking about
your person, this ain't just got nothing to do with
no man, even with myself. I'm talking about any relationship.
Even with my sisters. Sometimes I apologize or I let
them feel like they won. Not because it's a pride

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and ego thing, right, not because I know they dead
ass wrong, But my relationship with them is bigger than
being right right now?

Speaker 30 (51:30):
You know how hard?

Speaker 18 (51:32):
So I'm that's forgiveness, that's compromised, that is compromised if
they don't have nothing to do with that. This is crazy.
Should I die on that here?

Speaker 8 (51:41):
Let me see. Let me see if I can get
you an example.

Speaker 6 (51:45):
You know this nigga until ate that candy block. Oh no, no,
we can't use that because I'm cussing your ass, clean
fuck out. Don't play with me. Gaslight me about a
candy rind. I don't even like candy rides. I can't
use that example.

Speaker 18 (51:55):
I don't like nothing sweet.

Speaker 21 (51:56):
I'm savory.

Speaker 6 (51:57):
But let me see you and your sister get in
an art argument. You know she's wrong, she has an issue.

Speaker 18 (52:04):
With I don't know. I don't know, just little stuff, right.

Speaker 6 (52:10):
I know that this particular argument is gonna blow up
into us not talking for months. But because I love
her and I want her around and our relationship is
better than me proving her wrong, I might just wave
the white flag and say, you know what, I love you.

Speaker 18 (52:25):
I apologize.

Speaker 6 (52:26):
I didn't see it that way, just because my relationship
with her and having her around is bigger than me
proving her wrong.

Speaker 8 (52:34):
I can't understand that.

Speaker 6 (52:35):
But here's the I'm not count because you know, because
the and I'm in this right now in my spiritual journey,
that's where I'm at.

Speaker 18 (52:45):
I don't have you don't have to always be right.
The relationship my sister. I love my sisters. The relationship
means more than me than me standing up. I'm the
big sister all I'm all it now. I'm past that.
I need you around me for more just a victory moment.

Speaker 7 (53:03):
Y'all know.

Speaker 18 (53:05):
That is a compromise.

Speaker 8 (53:07):
It is a somebody that's not.

Speaker 6 (53:11):
That is a that is a compromise. That is a
mature person. That is somebody looking at the situation bigger
than what maybe my person that I love is looking
at it. Right now, I'm gonna let that rock because
I need you. That's a compromise. That's a big If
you think I'm gonna win the argument with my sister,
I'm gonna let her go.

Speaker 18 (53:32):
All right, I'm gonna sit down on the field or
I'm gonna know. But if I know, if I know
my person.

Speaker 6 (53:42):
And the city and I love them more than this conflict,
sometimes we're gonna have to do that that's not all
the time. Sometimes you're gonna have to do that. Sometimes,
love that forgiveness, you're just gonna.

Speaker 10 (53:56):
Have to y'all.

Speaker 8 (53:57):
Nigga's not willing to do that. That's a part of
ego thing to think it was just that's not compromising.

Speaker 6 (54:03):
Well, y'all gonna see y'all lass and be single, because
I'm gonna tell you something. If I'm in a let
me finish. If I'm in a relationship with something. Yeah,
Jesus Christ, Now, all of a sudden, you got signal.
I can go back to being mute. Y'all niggas the
ones that got issues with your ego.

Speaker 8 (54:17):
I'm dead.

Speaker 7 (54:18):
I got a treat of God.

Speaker 18 (54:19):
Damn, y'all don't even want to talk.

Speaker 8 (54:21):
Actually, I'm mute.

Speaker 25 (54:22):
Y'all all.

Speaker 8 (54:24):
Done talking, Tyler, You and the matrix Now, Lord Jesus it, kick.

Speaker 18 (54:29):
It, kick it, y'all don't want me to talk.

Speaker 5 (54:30):
Kick it.

Speaker 30 (54:31):
I'm done talking, yo.

Speaker 1 (54:33):
Why don't y'all hold on? Why can't kind of get
what I like them? When she talked high finished finish.

Speaker 7 (54:46):
And guess what, No, I don't want to finish. I
need them.

Speaker 18 (54:51):
I need these two old motherfuckers to get their rocks off.

Speaker 1 (54:55):
God, oh lord, oh Lord.

Speaker 5 (54:59):
No, what.

Speaker 8 (55:03):
I was just telling you was going into the matrix
to Tyler. That was the only thing I said.

Speaker 1 (55:10):
M hm, come up.

Speaker 8 (55:15):
You know what I'm saying that they're right there. They're
right there usually at the universe.

Speaker 12 (55:18):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 8 (55:19):
Uh, it's usually the.

Speaker 31 (55:20):
Universe trying to stop y'all while y'all a head or
actually while y'all behind.

Speaker 32 (55:24):
Right.

Speaker 31 (55:25):
So I mean I need most times when y'all going
a matrix, just stay there, you know, just sometimes that
the matrix says us, you know what I'm saying, And
we be trying to fight and push and don't don't
fight and push.

Speaker 8 (55:39):
But I do think this compromise thing is gonna whoop
a lot of y'all ass. I would just be hones.

Speaker 31 (55:45):
It's gonna whoop a lot of y'all ass, And that's okay.
But I want you to be honest and not try
to be victim when you don't know why she ain't
gonna write in your lifecause y'all know how to compromise.

Speaker 10 (55:54):
Yeah.

Speaker 31 (55:54):
But but but I also understand to a lot of
y'all don't know definitions. So then we then we run
down a circle of what's this, what's that?

Speaker 8 (56:01):
So so?

Speaker 31 (56:01):
So I'm gonna be quiet because I see y'all don't
like the compromise here.

Speaker 2 (56:06):
Okay, Jock Josh Jos's quick question, Daniell quick question for y'all,
real quick, because I know a lot of people hate compromising,
and then you know Colin was kind of touching on
it too, but compromising doesn't really make people feel less
than like, damn, it's gonna bruise my ego.

Speaker 1 (56:21):
It's gonna bruise me in the long run.

Speaker 2 (56:23):
I can't I see myself on this damn polo high horse,
and I can't come from off of it and compromise
and understand where the person's coming from.

Speaker 1 (56:30):
Jazz, you want to answer that for you exactly what.

Speaker 8 (56:33):
A lot of y'all hate for your ego to be rules.

Speaker 31 (56:36):
You care more about your ego than a person that
you with, You more worried about how you're gonna be
viewed than the person that's viewing you. And that's crazy
to me that you would rather, you would rather stand
on the how horse than come down a little bit
and say, you know what, Damn, maybe y'all was wrong,
or maybe you.

Speaker 18 (56:54):
Know what I'm saying.

Speaker 31 (56:54):
Whatever the situation may be, I don't want to bring
up another specific because it could be compromises.

Speaker 8 (56:57):
It can be different.

Speaker 31 (56:58):
Compromise can be a friend. It's just a lot of
y'all card more about how your ego looks than the
people that actually car about you and how they how
you look to them, right, Because I know a lot
of y'all like the scream I don't care how nobody
view me, but you do, so most of y'all would
curb more about your ego than how your view But
you know, I'm gonna.

Speaker 8 (57:17):
Be quiet stack, I'm gonna let them compromise.

Speaker 6 (57:19):
I'm like.

Speaker 8 (57:22):
Some people a inch, they take a mile. I think
that's what a lot of it is.

Speaker 6 (57:26):
When you keep, oh, I'm gonna be the bigger person
and not say nothing, and then they do the shit again,
and then they do the shit again, and they do
this shit again. Well, the first three times you you
was the bigger person and sat down the bigger big
don't nobody want to keep doing that. A lot of
people take advantage when people concede to them. That's the
real of the situation where I'm not gonna make it
a big deal. I'm not gonna make it a big deal,
and then it becomes a bigger issue because you never

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corrected the problem to begin with.

Speaker 8 (57:50):
Okay, So I think when we.

Speaker 6 (57:54):
Talk about compromising, compromising again, I can't stress enough.

Speaker 8 (57:58):
That's like people meeting in the middle. But a lot
of things that y'all be describing concessions, Dan.

Speaker 2 (58:03):
Yell, nobody wants to meet Dan Yelle, Dan Yell. People
are all right, let's just get to it. Put a
fire emotion in the chap. You agree, But a lot
of people are selfish. Let's get to it right now.
Fuck it, Yeah, put a fire mouji in the chat,
get up in the chat. Niggas is selfish. A lot
of niggas do they think about themselves. They only care
about themselves when they get what you It's only about
sex and what you can do for them. Stop fucking around.

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Let's really get to this ships.

Speaker 1 (58:26):
Getting this ship.

Speaker 2 (58:27):
A lot of motherfuckers get in this ship. Oh yeah, yeah,
I'm there for you, but they only there for what
you can do for them or what they can get
out of you.

Speaker 1 (58:34):
It's always selfish.

Speaker 2 (58:35):
And when you know you with a real motherfucker is
when they care about what you want and how you feel,
and y'all you do the same for each other, and
y'all go in the middle with it, so that way
we can figure out how to make each other happy.
When one party is happy and another one they ain't.
Ship gon go up from there.

Speaker 23 (58:51):
Let's keep it, hond this is selfish jazz.

Speaker 1 (58:57):
And then Rico.

Speaker 31 (58:58):
Yeah, one thing I need to go. Look what the
word compromise has. The word concession is incompromised. So y'all
gotta stop trying to separate the tool when you're literally
doing that incompromising.

Speaker 18 (59:09):
I need you got to start using definition.

Speaker 23 (59:10):
Going Compromising is a tool that you get to use
before you decide to give up on the ship. That's
the point I was trying to make. Compromise is a
mediation that you get to use in the dispute before
the dispute goes too far. So there's certain non negotiables
that can't be compromised because you've already foregone even having

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the time to even having a compromise. That shit is out.

Speaker 21 (59:36):
The window.

Speaker 23 (59:37):
Forgiving is for those depending on the minimization of the forgiving.
It's not for everything. God don't want me to forgive
you for everything. There are certain things that can't be compromised.
Boundaries that you broke, you stole from me, you cheated
on me. These are things that compromise has already been foregone.
It's gone out the window. We can compromise, say hey,

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well on that, don't do this, we spend more time together.
Let's find out a way for us to see each
other more. That's a compromise that can happen if you
do something because we haven't been seen each other. No,
that compromise is gone. That boundary is not moving on
my boundary.

Speaker 8 (01:00:16):
That's not.

Speaker 10 (01:00:18):
Certain things like.

Speaker 8 (01:00:23):
You and the matrix.

Speaker 31 (01:00:25):
Don't think your I can't you know what you in
the matrix.

Speaker 8 (01:00:32):
That's that compromising.

Speaker 6 (01:00:33):
You're in the matrix. And when we talk about we
talk about conceding.

Speaker 7 (01:00:37):
Yeah, you you lose.

Speaker 8 (01:00:38):
In the moment.

Speaker 6 (01:00:40):
I still think I'm compromising because when I look at
the whole relationship, I'm winning in the relationship. I don't
have to have a victory moment with my partner if
I want them around long term.

Speaker 30 (01:00:54):
Y'all, don't.

Speaker 6 (01:00:56):
It be killing me like it be killing me, y'all
want y'all want an ego moment?

Speaker 18 (01:01:02):
I want a.

Speaker 6 (01:01:02):
Long lasting fiftieth anniversary moment.

Speaker 18 (01:01:08):
That's the difference.

Speaker 6 (01:01:10):
So with conceding, right, since you want to break it down, y'all,
so fucking smart, concession, I lose compromise, we adjust forgiveness,
I release, right.

Speaker 18 (01:01:20):
But if we're in a moment.

Speaker 6 (01:01:21):
We having a little ass argument and I decide to concede,
I don't feel I lost because the compromise.

Speaker 18 (01:01:29):
Right, we've compromised, We've adjusted.

Speaker 6 (01:01:31):
I've allowed you to have your moment because the relationship
I love you more than the argument.

Speaker 18 (01:01:36):
So I've compromised.

Speaker 6 (01:01:37):
We've won because we've moved on in the relationship for
a long term relationship.

Speaker 18 (01:01:44):
I don't get lost like y'all. Y'all gott to grow up.
You're getting in the moment like you're I'm not done talking.

Speaker 6 (01:01:51):
You get I'm not done talking, sir, y'all keep cutting
me off the problem?

Speaker 18 (01:02:00):
God, I can't.

Speaker 6 (01:02:01):
Why is it every time I talk, y'all want to
get rude with me. We go dan yelle, Like, what
the fuck wrong with y'all?

Speaker 10 (01:02:07):
Don't call my name? Nobody got being rude.

Speaker 23 (01:02:09):
You've been dominating the stage the whole No, I have
not what are you talking about?

Speaker 5 (01:02:13):
No?

Speaker 6 (01:02:13):
One is going, you know what, y'all got it because
I like y'all, So right now I'm a compromise.

Speaker 8 (01:02:18):
I could concede and.

Speaker 18 (01:02:20):
Cut y'all the fuck out right, Like what the fuck Dan, y'ell,
you cut me off?

Speaker 26 (01:02:25):
We go?

Speaker 18 (01:02:25):
You cut me off?

Speaker 8 (01:02:26):
Animal feel he could.

Speaker 5 (01:02:27):
Cut me off?

Speaker 10 (01:02:28):
That was an honest mistake, That's what I said.

Speaker 18 (01:02:32):
So now I'm going to compromise because I like y'all.
That's what I'm gonna do.

Speaker 12 (01:02:39):
Now, there's a prime example.

Speaker 18 (01:02:42):
That's a prime example of compromise.

Speaker 30 (01:02:45):
That's not a compromise.

Speaker 28 (01:02:46):
A compromise is a mutual agreement between two people. Because
that's not a compromise, and that you can. All I
want to explain to you is a coming.

Speaker 18 (01:02:59):
The conversation that that deep to be. Y'all, I had
a conversation, I could go.

Speaker 28 (01:03:02):
Do it, but you keep explaining it from one weird.
That's not that's not weird. The definition you.

Speaker 30 (01:03:09):
Need two people.

Speaker 14 (01:03:10):
You can't.

Speaker 28 (01:03:11):
It can't be one sided. That's all I was trying
to tell you. You keep explaining that. You give good
arguments and points, but you keep explaining it from.

Speaker 6 (01:03:20):
I don't care about your If you cut me off
that's violally issued.

Speaker 18 (01:03:25):
Ain't nobody said you was wrong?

Speaker 30 (01:03:26):
You're not.

Speaker 8 (01:03:27):
You're not gonna cut me off? But I'm done talking.

Speaker 18 (01:03:29):
Let you, daniel A Rico, get the conversation going.

Speaker 5 (01:03:32):
Y'all got motion the fuck.

Speaker 18 (01:03:34):
I don't like being cut off. I don't cut y'all off.

Speaker 30 (01:03:47):
And no, you know, you know it's crazy.

Speaker 28 (01:03:49):
Nobody, nobody gives a fuck, bro, Nobody want to hit
that ship.

Speaker 8 (01:03:58):
I mean, y'all did cut her off?

Speaker 7 (01:04:00):
Y'all quiet that he's.

Speaker 8 (01:04:02):
People cut me off all the time.

Speaker 5 (01:04:04):
I just don't get this fucking gender wars.

Speaker 30 (01:04:07):
That's first of all.

Speaker 28 (01:04:08):
Second of all, how you kick me off the stage
in my own fucking room. I run this room with
stacks every motherfucking day, and you kick me off the
stage because all I'm trying to do is make a
quick motherfucking suggesting to you that you have a point,
but you keep making it one sided. This is why
it's making it hard for people to follow. Because compromise

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it takes two. Conceding is one. That's why everybody was
saying that shit about the definition. You can't compromise if
the other person doesn't agree. This is why y'all relationships
be fucked up because you don't understand fucking words.

Speaker 6 (01:04:55):
Yeah, I understand all the words completely, like thoroughly.

Speaker 12 (01:05:02):
You don't.

Speaker 30 (01:05:04):
They don't. You keep giving example, But I don't want
to go.

Speaker 6 (01:05:08):
Back and forth with you because in my mind, the
conversation over when I stopped talking.

Speaker 10 (01:05:13):
You can keep going.

Speaker 18 (01:05:14):
Conversation will always be over when I stopped talking.

Speaker 4 (01:05:17):
You can talk to the crowd.

Speaker 18 (01:05:19):
It's done because I said it's done.

Speaker 30 (01:05:20):
And whatever.

Speaker 18 (01:05:22):
You can see that I can see. Who can see compromise?

Speaker 1 (01:05:28):
You can see the gender worlds.

Speaker 30 (01:05:30):
No, we ain't doing all.

Speaker 2 (01:05:32):
Please welcome to the gender wold. I know it's not
my fault. I'm not even I am chilling. I'm relaxed.
What is going on in here? Picking the room up? Okay, well,
let's get back to the topic. Can compromise and damage
a person ego? I think Colly was right. Animal was
coming in, dan and move Danielle, real one, jazz, everyone

(01:05:56):
that's in here. We let's continue this conversation. Can a
person be damaged their ego if they try to compromise?
I think it hurts some people to be like, you
know what, let me meet you in the middle. I said,
you know what, let me. Do you know what I'm saying?
That's what I feel like a lot of people like y'all,
that's what y'all fucking up at.

Speaker 5 (01:06:14):
Shit Like, let me ask you.

Speaker 28 (01:06:18):
A quick question about meeting in the middle, right, If
if you decide, if you're deciding right to meet me
in the middle, and I don't decide, is that a
fucking compromise?

Speaker 5 (01:06:31):
Uh oh.

Speaker 30 (01:06:34):
Nah, that's stonewalling, that's crazy. Like it's a simple construct.
Two people have to agree.

Speaker 28 (01:06:43):
If fucking America is disagreeing with another country on something
right and they don't meet in the middle, then there's
no compromise.

Speaker 30 (01:06:55):
Shit, be simple, man.

Speaker 28 (01:06:57):
Then motherfuckers get mad at the motherfucker because you just
don't understand.

Speaker 33 (01:07:10):
Sad face, sad face. Does anybody read the.

Speaker 8 (01:07:32):
Depth of the dictionary anymore?

Speaker 34 (01:07:34):
Anybody?

Speaker 8 (01:07:34):
No?

Speaker 10 (01:07:35):
Oh yeah, somebody read it.

Speaker 12 (01:07:38):
I don't know.

Speaker 5 (01:07:38):
Some funny y'all.

Speaker 16 (01:07:39):
Do believe.

Speaker 3 (01:07:51):
Some people's ego is fragile, so they rather be right
than be love. So you know, most peop want to
protect their pride more than they really relationship. So because
of that, you can run a beautiful thing.

Speaker 25 (01:08:04):
That part.

Speaker 6 (01:08:05):
But is it beautiful when you always have to play
dumb in order for things to be chilled?

Speaker 8 (01:08:11):
Is it really beautiful? Right?

Speaker 6 (01:08:14):
And that's what I'm saying, Like, if you always got
to be the one, to be the bigger person and
all of that shit, is that really a great relationship?

Speaker 8 (01:08:20):
I wouldn't consider ityone. I would probably be miserable as fun.

Speaker 6 (01:08:24):
So a lot of people do that just to keep somebody,
And it's like, you really miserable.

Speaker 8 (01:08:28):
But you can wave the flag.

Speaker 6 (01:08:29):
Of saying I've been married for twenty years, that's cool.
But like if your day to day operations you miserable
as fucked, then is that really.

Speaker 8 (01:08:36):
A great relationship? I would probably say no, no, it's not.

Speaker 25 (01:08:40):
And sometimes you just gotta go it's okay, it's okay.

Speaker 5 (01:08:44):
It doesn't work out.

Speaker 25 (01:08:46):
Like I said earlier, try everything that you can, try
to compromise, try to counseling, try whatever. If it doesn't work,
it just doesn't work, and that's okay. Don't sacrifice your
morals and your standards for anybody.

Speaker 3 (01:09:39):
But you know one thing I know people forget that
compromises a to wait to wait things.

Speaker 25 (01:09:46):
I feel like.

Speaker 3 (01:09:48):
Real compromises both people making adjustments and not one person
shrinking ordination themselves.

Speaker 6 (01:09:55):
So exactly, and that's all we was trying to say
this whole time. It takes two people to do it,
not one person just basically being like, you know what,
I'm not gonna fight with you, even though you're completely
wrong in this instance. I'm just not gonna fight with you.
That's not compromising. It's basically being like, fuck it right.

Speaker 25 (01:10:15):
Giving in all the time is making yourself small and
you will eventually, going back to Tyla's word, end up resenting.
So yes, compromise involves two people coming together.

Speaker 1 (01:10:32):
Very true.

Speaker 3 (01:10:35):
It truly is a strength, and I don't think a
lot of people realize that it doesn't make you. It
doesn't administer value if you compromise. In my personal opinion,
I think that's the key problem besides communication and relationships,
is that people don't want to compromise, and it's more
ego ed than you know, our partnership.

Speaker 15 (01:10:58):
It sounds like the people that are pushing back against
what you guys are describing as compromise are describing compromise
from the perspective of them compromising the discipline that it
takes to maintain a standard with the convenience of trying
to just make things go along smoothly by just belitally
or shrinking yourself. So the compromise really isn't with the
other party, it's with yourself and the work that you

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have to do to maintain the boundaries that you want
to uphold.

Speaker 3 (01:11:30):
I agree with you.

Speaker 7 (01:11:38):
Said that.

Speaker 1 (01:11:41):
At the bottom of the stage.

Speaker 5 (01:11:43):
Yeah, I agree. I love you, Kyla.

Speaker 6 (01:11:57):
Saying y'all Audio and I get there.

Speaker 8 (01:12:06):
For good night.

Speaker 3 (01:12:09):
Mm hmm, what abigo night Cola. Now, it's ego makes
people think that everything is an attack. It's like they're
not listening. Everything you say is an attacking.

Speaker 5 (01:12:27):
You know.

Speaker 3 (01:12:29):
It's damning as well.

Speaker 25 (01:12:37):
Michael, you're making a good point. The need to be
right a right fighter. Yeah, that's tough to deal with.

Speaker 3 (01:12:49):
Everybody want to be right. It's like it's okay to
not be right. It doesn't make what you're saying in valid.
But I mean, shit, it's like, you know, Alma's gonna
be right.

Speaker 7 (01:12:58):
You don't know everything.

Speaker 25 (01:13:08):
That's a fact. I don't know what's going on. Are
we are we moving room? It's like, what's what's happening?

Speaker 3 (01:13:17):
I don't know. Let me see.

Speaker 8 (01:13:24):
You have any clue.

Speaker 3 (01:13:26):
No, And I think we are. We can keep going
along with the topic animal Dana Jehovah, what do you
think about the title? Can compromising damage a person's ego?

Speaker 5 (01:13:45):
Bad?

Speaker 28 (01:13:45):
I was in whole food, but your force compromising can
damnage the first thing, ego even conceding because most people,
most people buy and large, and this is something that
one of the things I had to work on. I

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used to say, I am we a lot.

Speaker 30 (01:14:08):
I had to remove those things from well I right.

Speaker 28 (01:14:13):
I had to remove those things from and we from
my vocabulary when talking about certain things because I was
putting myself in position that made other people feel uncomfortable.

Speaker 5 (01:14:26):
Right.

Speaker 28 (01:14:27):
So most people are seeking confirmation, validation, and affirmation. Right,
So when I put the definition of compromise in the chat,
most people agreed, right. Most people agreed and understood what

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she was saying. But she kept using a scenario of
compromise where it was one sided, and we all know
that compromise takes two, right, So I was just like, yo,
that's that's really conceding, right, And all I tried to
do was jump in course, correct a little bit and

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then so we can have the conversation. Because it makes
it hard to follow when your brain is telling you
that's not right, that's not right, that's not right, right,
Like I can't understand. I'm trying to comprehend this, but
I can't comprehend because this is not being used in
the right form. And then the ego comes in, right,

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because instead of just saying, hold on, let me listen
to what you right, even though I don't cut off,
let me just listen to what you're trying to tell
me for a minute, right, because then you might say
something that makes me understand it a little different, right,
You might change your wording, and then I might be like,

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all right, you know what, you're right, and then I
fall back.

Speaker 12 (01:16:02):
Right.

Speaker 28 (01:16:03):
But the ego and the compromising, which is why we
can't meet in the middle.

Speaker 30 (01:16:09):
Is because instead of you just trying.

Speaker 28 (01:16:12):
To meet me in the middle and see what I'm
saying about what it is that you're trying to tell
us on the.

Speaker 30 (01:16:17):
Stage, you go off.

Speaker 28 (01:16:19):
Now I'm old motherfucker and this and you can kick
me off the stage, blah blah blah. And it's like,
for what, that's the fucking ego. Everybody's got a big ego.

Speaker 3 (01:16:31):
Let you know what, I agree, But ego tells people
to walk away before they even try so instead of
us meeting in the middle, people shut down, they get defensive. Honestly,
if you think about a leading feels much easier than compromise.
And also people don't want to apology because the ego
hates accountability, So accountability to meet in certain scenarios with

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the ego, it equates to embarrassment. Right, So accountabilities what
keeps healthy love, and a lot of people are want
to be accountable. So until you're able to hold yourself accountable,
then unfortunately, your ego is always coming in a way
of like your happiness.

Speaker 25 (01:17:10):
Wow, y'all got a good dollarge going on here, that's
good stuff.

Speaker 30 (01:17:15):
I would definitely agree, it's definitely.

Speaker 28 (01:17:19):
That's why it's such a hard thing to wrap your
head around, even in the relationship, right, because you got
to be willing to kill one's ego in order to
get to that vulnerability stage.

Speaker 5 (01:17:31):
Right.

Speaker 30 (01:17:32):
That's why a lot of women.

Speaker 28 (01:17:35):
H and I'll say, you know, most they always talk
about how men lack emotional intelligence. This is one of
the things they be talking about because a lot of
men don't know how to compromise because a lot of
the times in the compromising situation, you feel like you're

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being challenged, whether it be your intellect, your physical ability, right,
your acumen, something and that is being challenged.

Speaker 30 (01:18:09):
So then your ego speaks up.

Speaker 28 (01:18:11):
And then now you can't even get to a situation
to where you listen to the system, as Biggie says,
and you can come to a compromise. I feel like
a lot of and I feel like a lot of
the times the things that in the relationship where your

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ego gets involved are very mental skill things like she said,
I agree with that. I think a lot of times
there's little stuff like you know, uh when g g A,
I don't know if he's on the phone, but he
understands this being unevenly yoked. Most of the time people
are associate being unevenly yoked with having different religions, right,

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and and most often times that's not the case. Being
unevenly yoke means you and that person are not on
the same page.

Speaker 3 (01:19:14):
I agree. Really, the topic is can compromise and damage
your price AND's ego? What do you all think about
it is.

Speaker 34 (01:19:37):
In a relationship like type of situation. Yes, ma'am, you know.

Speaker 35 (01:19:51):
Some people, Okay, I'm gonna say, like you ever known
a person who would be like, you know, I'm gonna
say a man, not saying women don't do it, But
I feel like it could damage a person ego if
they feel like the compromise, like they feel like that

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the man in the house, but they gonna take the
compromise for what the woman says, you know, and then
they feel like they less than a man because they
supposed to be the man at the house and they
supposed to be making the decision and stuff, but they
just do, you know, decide to compromise or consider compromising
for the.

Speaker 34 (01:20:31):
Sake of the relationship, you know, to keep the peace
and stuff.

Speaker 35 (01:20:34):
I think it do because a lot of men take
that role as being the leader, and sometimes a compromise
are you questioning you know, some of their decisions may
make them feel less than the leader or the provider
or whatever like that.

Speaker 34 (01:20:53):
So sometimes I guess it depends on the person who
it is.

Speaker 3 (01:21:01):
Also, I think compromise doesn't kill a person's ego, ego
kills the relationship because honestly, think about it, if you're
not willing to bend a listener or just to consider
your partner's need, you're solely destroying your relationship and then
that's how you open other gates in our relationship, at
least the infidelity, etc. People you know, checking y'all mentally,

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and you could have had a good thing going, but
because you weren't willing to compromise you self, sambasize your
relationship and this unfortunate art. Yeah, I agree, and I
feel like if you're on a hell, you shouldn't be
with anybody, should focus on yourself, be the best version
of yourself to truly heal each layer trauma onto somebody

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else which is infair to them. And to me, that's selfish.

(01:22:36):
So can we agree that some people are addicted to
being validated not being understood, cause to me, validation fees
your ego and understanding requires humility. So compromise requires both
people to put their ego to the side so we
can actually sit down and listen to one another. And
a lot of people can't put their ego to the

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side to really listen to the true issues so that
they can continue to grow together.

Speaker 14 (01:23:05):
Honestly, I love I love that y'all keep saying that
compromise takes two people, because that is very important, very
very important, And.

Speaker 10 (01:23:17):
To be honest, I uh to be honest, most.

Speaker 14 (01:23:23):
Men ain't compromising with y'all. I ain't even gonna lie
to y'all. They're not compromising with y'all. Most men are
actually just acquiescing to y'all. They just acquiesced to y'all.
They shut up and they let y'all. You know, they'd
be like, all right, man, you whatever, you whatever, for
the sake of peace in the house. Most niggas ain't

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compromising with y'all. That's part of the reason why I
don't even I don't believe in compromise. If you choose
me as your leader, ain't no reason for me to
be compromising with you. There's no reason for me to
compromise with you if you choose me as the leader. Now,
if y'all women want partners' compromise with them niggas. But
if you want me to be the leader, ain't no compromising.

(01:24:05):
We ain't doing all that. But yeah, that's all I
wanted to say. Most of these niggas is acquiescing to y'all.
They not compromising with y'all. Y'all see it as compromising
because that nigga just shut up and you know, get
out the way.

Speaker 10 (01:24:20):
But Nah, that nigga just acquiescing for the sake of peace.
That ain't a compromise.

Speaker 14 (01:24:24):
And that's what most niggas in most households be doing.
They just get out, y'all, wait for the sake of peace.

Speaker 30 (01:24:31):
Heyjover, word is boring.

Speaker 13 (01:24:33):
Bro.

Speaker 28 (01:24:34):
I was gonna come in here and troll right earlier
when I half first got out of my job, right,
I was gonna come in here and be like man
compromising for suckers, right, like seeing the bronch town. But
then as the conversation went on, I'm like, oh, man,
here go to differ. Here go the dictionary. Wep in

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their ass again. They I don't know why p will
be so upset with that out there in dictionary, But
you're absolutely right. I totally agree with you. And that's
what I was putting points that I was pointing out
when I was giving my submission at You know, that's
why the woman complain that these men don't have emotional intelligence,
because most men ain't willing to compromise.

Speaker 30 (01:25:17):
Dog.

Speaker 10 (01:25:20):
You know what's crazy.

Speaker 14 (01:25:20):
These niggas be so emotionally intelligent that they just shut
the fuck up, Like literally, they understand that her emotions.

Speaker 10 (01:25:32):
It's gonna overthrow this conversation.

Speaker 14 (01:25:34):
So let me use my emotional intelligence and just shut up,
because the more I talk to her, the more emotional
she gonna get.

Speaker 10 (01:25:41):
See, the thing is women exp They don't understand.

Speaker 14 (01:25:48):
So that nigga who emotional and intelligent, He ain't gonna
let you just say no anything. He might not even
talk to you because you just saying anything. He gonna
tell you when you're wrong. He might tell you that
what you're saying it don't make no sense.

Speaker 10 (01:26:02):
It don't make no sense at all. I need you
to go back.

Speaker 14 (01:26:05):
To the drawing board with that and use your brain
before you just come to me with That's what emotional
intelligence look like.

Speaker 10 (01:26:12):
But y'all don't like that. A lot of women don't
behave that.

Speaker 8 (01:26:19):
Put it right there.

Speaker 3 (01:26:20):
I'm not gonna say women. I'll say people in general,
because that's I think that's men and women. Some people think,
you go, it's a sign of weakness in the sense
of being vulnerable. I think a lot of racial relationships
and sort require interdependence, and a lot of people don't

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want to do that. They're just like I said to self,
in a.

Speaker 10 (01:26:45):
Way, why y'all always say people? Y'all could just say women.

Speaker 3 (01:27:01):
Because its the Listen. First off, it's men and women, right,
I'm not going to just put it on my women
because men do the same thing all the time. Yes,
sometimes men and women that they rather assume your intentions
and ask questions. And like I said earlier, the ego
hates to be corrected. Compromise can't happen with pride. But

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pride is louder than curiosity, so we both do that.

Speaker 25 (01:27:35):
It goes back to what I said when I first
got here. You pick right, just just take your time
and pick right, because a woman should should, Like I said,
the man and the woman should sit there and talk
about things, and I hope that the man will consider

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the woman's thoughts and feelings. However, hick right, because as
the man, as your leader, should make the final decision,
and you should trust him to do so.

Speaker 5 (01:28:10):
So itick right.

Speaker 25 (01:28:12):
That's all I can say.

Speaker 10 (01:28:16):
I agree with you, real, I agree with you for sure,
for sure.

Speaker 14 (01:28:19):
Unfortunately, like you know what I'm saying, that word consideration
kind of be fucking women up a lot, just like
this word that we're talking about with you know, uh,
what's this word we're talking about?

Speaker 10 (01:28:33):
A fucking uh.

Speaker 14 (01:28:35):
Compromising see a lot of women think consideration means that, oh,
we have something going on.

Speaker 10 (01:28:43):
You bring what you bring to the table.

Speaker 14 (01:28:44):
You bring how you feel like the problem should be
solved at your suggestions. I bring mind and me considering
your situation. Your your answer is me doing what you say. No,
that's not how consideration works. Consideration works like this. I
hear what you say, I measure it up against all

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the other possibilities that I have in my head, and
then I make a.

Speaker 10 (01:29:09):
Decision and it might not be what you wanted me
to do.

Speaker 14 (01:29:13):
Unfortunately, though, when that cleans out, When that cleans out,
a lot of women feel as though niggas have not
considered them. But that's not it. That's I considered you.
I just ain't choose what you wanted me to choose.

Speaker 10 (01:29:27):
And that comes off.

Speaker 14 (01:29:29):
That comes off like niggas is dismissive to women when
niggas do that.

Speaker 29 (01:29:36):
But I think that goes both ways, though, because I
feel like when men give us their opinions about something
and we don't go with that, they feel the same way.

Speaker 36 (01:30:00):
I feel like an emotionally intelligent man will take what
we say into consideration and it may implement parts of
what we say into the final decision.

Speaker 37 (01:30:11):
However, sometimes they may not. They're going to do in
the end what's best for the family. That's the way
it should be in my opinion, again, pick right.

Speaker 28 (01:30:33):
The reason why you keep saying pick right, real, is
because you know that there's a possibility that even with
that man's emotional intelligence and him taking into consideration and
deciding to compromise, you know that with the wrong woman,
that that actually could be a weakness for him compromising.

Speaker 30 (01:30:53):
Is that is that?

Speaker 28 (01:30:53):
Is that part of the reason why you keep saying
part of the.

Speaker 8 (01:30:56):
Reason, Yeah, it could be.

Speaker 25 (01:30:58):
That's part of the reason. The other part is I
have been married. I was married for twelve years. I'm
now divorced, and I said, okay, we have a beautiful
child and we get along, but experience as well, because
looking back in hindsight, there's a few things I would
have done differently. It takes two to make it and
two to break it. So you cannot blame everything on

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the man. You can't blame everything on the woman. You
got to look back, look, look, look back, look deep,
and take accountability for your part.

Speaker 3 (01:31:30):
Real, I honestly feel like people are scared to compromise
because they think other people will weaponize within sum if
I give you and she'll take a mile. And I
can definitely say that that was one thing that I
had to work on in my marriage, was compromised, especially
in the being and at Clifreshia is being married, learning
how to compromise, learning how to communicate better because I

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understood it was a partnership. It wasn't just like my
way or his way. We will had to grow together.
And I had to remove that fear from things in
my childhood. I'm into my adulthood to be a little person.

Speaker 1 (01:32:06):
Fuck y'all still in here, fucking talking ship.

Speaker 25 (01:32:11):
We've been looking for you.

Speaker 2 (01:32:13):
Don't look for me. It's y'all, room, don't look for me.
Don't look for me. I am busy. I don't know
what the.

Speaker 4 (01:32:20):
Fuck are.

Speaker 25 (01:32:22):
I was just like different room.

Speaker 26 (01:32:26):
We just can't go.

Speaker 1 (01:32:28):
It's okay, it's okay. I'm just what happened in here?
You know what I'm saying?

Speaker 5 (01:32:33):
Like?

Speaker 1 (01:32:33):
What? What?

Speaker 4 (01:32:34):
What is doing?

Speaker 8 (01:32:35):
This?

Speaker 3 (01:32:35):
Agreement?

Speaker 1 (01:32:37):
A disagreement? What?

Speaker 28 (01:32:39):
Lord?

Speaker 10 (01:32:40):
Whatever?

Speaker 1 (01:32:42):
Bro Like, what's going on? What happened here? Who was
going in?

Speaker 3 (01:32:46):
Doctor cav What do you think about the title? Do
people lose attraction? When love becomes too safe.

Speaker 2 (01:32:51):
Oh that's a good one, right, which I think. Yeah,
and real that s r T, which I think Johnny, listen, toxic.

Speaker 1 (01:33:11):
Ship, let's talk about it. Let's get to this ship,
let's keep it.

Speaker 3 (01:33:15):
Yeah, people confuse boredom. Well, I'm sorry, people confuse safety
with boredom. Sometimes love becomes too stable, consistent and peaceful.
I think somebody said earlier, like when you're a good person,
it gets boring after a while. You need to spice
it up. But I rather the safety.

Speaker 1 (01:33:33):
Yeah, I want that toxic ship like.

Speaker 5 (01:33:39):
That.

Speaker 3 (01:33:39):
That was you, right, That was you right.

Speaker 38 (01:33:42):
But yeah, you gotta Yeah, you got to constantly work.
The honeymoon period wears off. I don't care if it's
in a relationship, long term marriage, whatever it's.

Speaker 5 (01:33:53):
You have to work at it.

Speaker 3 (01:33:54):
You have to do you don't stop doating. You have
to keep the spice and you have to do the
new thing.

Speaker 5 (01:34:01):
It's more.

Speaker 2 (01:34:01):
Yeah, you gotta let me, you got you gotta let
me cuff you up from the in the bed and
cuff you with the with the fluffy cuffs.

Speaker 10 (01:34:07):
Stago.

Speaker 5 (01:34:15):
But I gotta trust you, my husband, the stag.

Speaker 10 (01:34:22):
Be able to move allright over what's up, stag.

Speaker 14 (01:34:25):
I don't know why we got people in this title
when the title should be women. Women lose attraction when
love becomes two saints. It be the women leaving when
they get bored. It be the women leaving because things
are too routine. It be the women leaves leaving because
it ain't no spice in the relationship. Niggas just won't

(01:34:48):
go to work, come home and get some nova.

Speaker 1 (01:34:51):
I think I might agree with you.

Speaker 10 (01:34:55):
I think I agree with you.

Speaker 14 (01:34:57):
Excuse me, excuse me, I'm still talking, ma'am, Thank you,
thank you? AnyWho again? Like stack, think about all the
times we've heard these women talk about, oh, it was
just boring and it became too routine and all this
other shit that women be saying. Niggas is cool with routine.

(01:35:21):
Niggas is cool with the girl having new routine. Niggas
is cool with they. Niggas is cool with meeting women
wherever they act, and as long as they stay where
they was at, they cool. She don't have to get
better as long as she don't get worse. Niggas find
a girl and the way she he likes her, that's

(01:35:42):
how he like her. He don't really need her to
change or do no extra shit. I like you just
the way you is. The only time niggas complain is
when the quality of that woman, the things she do,
her attitudes, when that shit goes down.

Speaker 10 (01:36:01):
But check this out.

Speaker 14 (01:36:03):
If you met a woman right and you liked her,
and let's say she worked and she like SA, I
know this not the type of girl you deal with.

Speaker 10 (01:36:11):
But this is just a hypothetical.

Speaker 14 (01:36:13):
Let's say you met a woman who was like a
manager at a grocery store. But she was nice, she
was everything that you liked about her. But she was
a manager at a grocery store. Would you be looking
for her to get a promotion and go up to
corporate and all that.

Speaker 10 (01:36:28):
Probably not.

Speaker 1 (01:36:29):
No, I wouldn't care exactly.

Speaker 14 (01:36:32):
But if she stopped working and just started being a
bum or just went to start working at McDonald's or something,
that'll probably be a little like something to look at like, yeah, yeah,
you're worse than what I And that's the thing about niggas.
We don't look at shit and X for y'all to

(01:36:53):
get better. Y'all do that to us. Y'all meet us somewhere,
and y'all want us to keep growing and get better,
get moved. Niggas don't do that. So it be yo,
who be uh losing attraction when it gets routine and
boring like that.

Speaker 10 (01:37:10):
That don't be niggas. Niggas like routine.

Speaker 2 (01:37:12):
Now you're right, You're right, And then I'm gonna go
against what over set just to make the conversation even better.
I feel like niggas don't like routine. Some niggas get
tired of the same old pussy over all. Right, Man,
I'm coming home to the same shiit, same sandwich, same dinner,
same pussy.

Speaker 1 (01:37:25):
This ship is getting boring.

Speaker 2 (01:37:26):
Because ho it w had a point when you know,
when I was younger, bro, I was dealing with women,
it was like the same ship, Bro, Like, damn, tired
of this ship?

Speaker 5 (01:37:32):
Bro?

Speaker 1 (01:37:32):
And what and men?

Speaker 2 (01:37:34):
You know, we get tired of that. I'm tired of
that ship. I'm switching the ship. I get tired of
this ship hitting it all the time. I need something new,
I need something that goes crazier. I need something you
know what I mean? Like every time you know what
I mean? People sure like I want to go against
overset just for the conversation. But I'm just That's why

(01:37:56):
y'allas get tired of it, and I remember being one
than niggas.

Speaker 1 (01:38:00):
I was tired of it, shady like this is getting.

Speaker 25 (01:38:03):
Yeah right, hell and the other ship and y'all cheat
the stead of.

Speaker 8 (01:38:09):
Lead exactly shining.

Speaker 18 (01:38:12):
But here's my thing.

Speaker 3 (01:38:13):
A lot of people come from toxic situations and environments.
With your family, so all you know is toxic. So
when you get healthy love, it's unfamiliar. Why is it
okay to be in a dysfunctional situation instead of just
being in something that is healthy and stable.

Speaker 10 (01:38:29):
I don't even agree with that mode because like.

Speaker 14 (01:38:34):
The reason why I don't agree with that, And I
hate when people be saying that, Oh, I never saw
this growing up, so that's the only thing I could recognize.

Speaker 10 (01:38:41):
Like, bro, at some point at your grown age, you.

Speaker 14 (01:38:45):
Gotta look at what your mama with, your whoever you
grew up with, and look at what they got going on,
and decide for yourself, do I want to live like
this when I get older? If your mama got a
nigga who beating the sleeves out of her every fucking day,
and you fourteen, and you see that, you got a
choice to me, do I want to live like this?

Speaker 10 (01:39:05):
Or not.

Speaker 14 (01:39:06):
It don't matter about you being like you can recognize
that nigga beating your mama ass. So you gotta make
a choice. Do I want a nigga?

Speaker 1 (01:39:14):
That's true, You're true.

Speaker 25 (01:39:17):
But here it's the thing, we're setting an example for
our children.

Speaker 14 (01:39:23):
That if I cross this red light, I'm gonna get smack.
I don't need nobody to show me that I didn't need.
I understand that if I crossed this light when it's red,
I'm gonna get smack.

Speaker 10 (01:39:36):
Now, some people take the risks, but that's all on you.

Speaker 14 (01:39:39):
If you won't take the risk of doing something dumb,
don't say you ain't got no choice in that you
ain't got that's all you know.

Speaker 10 (01:39:46):
No, that's not all these people be knowing.

Speaker 1 (01:39:48):
Yah.

Speaker 2 (01:39:51):
Hold you know what You're right right there too bad choices.
But then also people just be comfortable.

Speaker 5 (01:39:56):
Bro.

Speaker 2 (01:39:56):
They stuck bros like nobody knows nothing else. If you
had ops like put all their eggs in one basket.
And when you put all your eggs in one basket,
you ain't got no motherfucking options.

Speaker 1 (01:40:04):
It's over. It's over.

Speaker 2 (01:40:06):
You put all your hope and trust in this motherfucker
and then leave no other doors open, and now you're
stuck there. That's what it be over. I know you
saying like, nah, you know what I mean. You put
yourself motherfuckers do really be stuck. They put all their
life ship in their ship, in this ship, bro, and
that no other choice but to just this is what
I did for the last fifty years, all right.

Speaker 10 (01:40:28):
But you still into that. You had a choice to
not enter it.

Speaker 14 (01:40:31):
So I don't give a fuck about you being stuck
because you had an opportunity to not be stuck.

Speaker 10 (01:40:37):
You didn't have to choose that path.

Speaker 14 (01:40:40):
Everything in this world, Stack, everything in this world is
cause and effect. Because you did this, this happened. Make
better choices. I don't like like stank. I got brothers,
I got a sister. I came up in a two
parent household. But I understand that my parents and what
I come from is an anomaly.

Speaker 10 (01:41:03):
It's an anomaly.

Speaker 2 (01:41:04):
Now, Yeah, niggas don't got that. Yeah, hope, niggas don't
got that. And That's what I'm saying. And we could
talk from that point. We could talk from.

Speaker 10 (01:41:11):
So Stack.

Speaker 14 (01:41:12):
It would be stupid of me to come up here
and be like, h y'all, don't come from two parent households.

Speaker 10 (01:41:17):
Y'all don't know what that looks like.

Speaker 14 (01:41:18):
That would be dumb, That would be dumb stack because
guess what, it's life outside of my mama in my
daddy house.

Speaker 10 (01:41:26):
It's life going on. And if I think that the
only thing.

Speaker 14 (01:41:30):
That's going on in the world is what's going on
in my mama in my daddy house, you have every
right to call me a dummy, but to say that
people don't recognize their choices and that's all they know. No,
that is not all you know. That's not all you know.
We got TV and everything. If you grew up when
we're in a house where your mama was getting her

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ass beat, I'm pretty sure you saw an example of
somebody not getting they ass beat. But you chose niggas
like your mom, So you put yourself in that choice.

Speaker 10 (01:42:05):
It's that simple. I know what crack do.

Speaker 14 (01:42:09):
I got a choice. Either I'm gonna smoke crack or
I'm not gonna do it. I'm not gonna blame nobody
if I start smoking crack and now I'm fucked up.

Speaker 10 (01:42:18):
I put myself.

Speaker 5 (01:42:22):
Own.

Speaker 4 (01:42:29):
You the Fishy pegg girls bagger talk, yo.

Speaker 30 (01:42:34):
Can y'all give me my bean, please.

Speaker 5 (01:42:38):
A side, bro.

Speaker 30 (01:42:41):
I can't even kick people.

Speaker 25 (01:42:45):
I can't. Yeah, something something's wrong. Got the bean and
something's wrong.

Speaker 5 (01:42:55):
Here we go.

Speaker 14 (01:43:08):
On a raal dot like man, I don't believe in
showing grace the world the God. That's for God to
give you. I don't believe in showing grace. Every time
you fucked that nigga. Every time you fucked that bitch
and she ain't get pregnant, that was grace being extended
to you, my nigga.

Speaker 10 (01:43:28):
That was grace. You ain't get that girl pregnant. You
did some shit and you know what comes from it,
but it didn't happen. That's grace.

Speaker 14 (01:43:36):
So all them fifty times you fucked that nigga and
you ain't get pregnant, that was the universe showing you grace. Now,
once you end up pregnant, I don't got I don't
feel sorry for you, cause you know what the fuck
you was doing. You continuously made the choice and.

Speaker 10 (01:43:53):
You got the outcome from the choice.

Speaker 14 (01:43:56):
It might have took you a couple of times to
get the outcome, but you got it.

Speaker 10 (01:44:01):
So I don't have no grace for you.

Speaker 14 (01:44:03):
That's just like if a nigga keep going to the
corner stove, and he keeps stealing the snicker. Every time
he's steal a snicker out there. Now, that nigga. No,
if he's steal his snigger and he get caught, it's
a possibility he gonna go to jail, catch a fine, whatever.

Speaker 10 (01:44:17):
But he keep on going.

Speaker 14 (01:44:19):
And every time he make it out that stove without
getting caught, that's the universe showing him grace. Now, the
day he get caught and the a rabs and the
ickis in the stove, decide to beat the fleas off
of him, that's all on him. I ain't got no
grace for that nigga. He made a choice, knowing the
possible outcome, and he still choose to do the shit.

Speaker 10 (01:44:41):
And that's what a lot of people do.

Speaker 14 (01:44:44):
They know the outcome of the shit, and he still
choose to do the dumb shit. So if you're choosing
to do dumb shit, I'm gonna call you a dummy.

Speaker 10 (01:44:53):
I don't care fuck you.

Speaker 3 (01:44:57):
I agree, Cullen, nobody you do better. So if you
keep making dumb choices, you with them, ass individual, Because
at what point are you gonna learn at your brown
age should make the right decision. You don't need that
meaning lessons about the same thing to understand the right
from the wrong.

Speaker 14 (01:45:20):
Man life the biggest teacher like hearing me the biggest
teacher of all.

Speaker 10 (01:45:25):
I didn't need to fuck a whole.

Speaker 14 (01:45:27):
Bunch of girls to understand that if I fucked this
girl and I'm not with her, she probably gonna make
my life. It's a possibility that my life could be
a living hell because I got a baby mama. So
gu's what I didn't do, make a baby mama. I
seen my partners going through shit with they baby mamas.
I seen my uncles going through shit with they baby mamas.

(01:45:49):
I saw my partners, my daddy potners, going through shit
with they baby mamas.

Speaker 10 (01:45:55):
And I come from a two parent household. And you
know what I said.

Speaker 14 (01:45:59):
I looked at them, and I looked at my parents,
and I looked at them niggas, and I said.

Speaker 10 (01:46:04):
I don't want to be that. I don't want to
be that, so I strive not to do it. Choices
and it's niggas like me.

Speaker 14 (01:46:14):
One of my best partners come from a two parent household,
and he got two kids out of wet Locke, two
different baby mims because he chose to do that. He
can't come from that, but that's what he chose to do.
That's not what he's seen growing up, but that's what
he chose to do. Stupid game, stupid prizes. I don't

(01:46:35):
have no race for nobody the same shit.

Speaker 9 (01:46:42):
You were married to that individual, because it's not always
out of wedline right. Sometimes people do the right thing
and it just don't work out. So what happens in
that instance. I don't think having a child or a
woman is a problem if you were with her for
a long period of time of marriage. Niggas retreat and

(01:47:04):
the family court that's the problem. Like man, when niggas
go to that family court, they retreat them, niggas running hide.
A lot of these women can easily be found to
be unfit dudes to just really take custod to their kids.
That's what dudes need to do. A lot of these
niggas don't. They don't have no visitation rights, they don't

(01:47:24):
have no court orders. They let women dictate, Like you
just heard Dan Yell say she dictated her baby daddy
when he can see the kids.

Speaker 5 (01:47:32):
So you know he laying he don't.

Speaker 9 (01:47:36):
He don't even have the balls to go get a
court order to let her know when he gonna come through.

Speaker 5 (01:47:42):
There is no way a woman it's gonna dictate to
me when or how I see my child.

Speaker 9 (01:47:49):
I'm gonna have that shit in writing, signed by superior
judge and ain't no woman gonna get in the middle
of that.

Speaker 5 (01:47:57):
But for some reason, you women are so delusional.

Speaker 9 (01:48:00):
You think you got more rights to a child than
the man, and you just don't.

Speaker 8 (01:48:05):
Nobody has more rights than you. Because the reality is
is that just like me, schedule.

Speaker 5 (01:48:14):
Keep going.

Speaker 8 (01:48:15):
It's called it's schedule. The real and smart people have them.

Speaker 6 (01:48:20):
You can't just show up as just like I can't
show up at your house at two am to drop
the baby off, you can't show up at my house
at two am.

Speaker 9 (01:48:28):
Felt like it's right, I'm not having no schedule with
a woman.

Speaker 1 (01:48:32):
I'm not.

Speaker 5 (01:48:33):
We can't reconcile and.

Speaker 6 (01:48:35):
You can't and you can't show up at somebody house
whenever you feel like when you're not with them.

Speaker 8 (01:48:40):
Then there's no more that's gonna say. You can do
whatever you want when you want.

Speaker 5 (01:48:50):
Determined.

Speaker 9 (01:48:50):
If the court says need to show up Tuesday at success,
that's a schedule. I want to be able to A
woman is not going to dictate when I see my kids.

Speaker 5 (01:49:05):
That's never I know the court won't either, because I'm always.

Speaker 6 (01:49:11):
I'm always sit there and say.

Speaker 39 (01:49:18):
At six thirty, if you choose, if you don't follow
about the christ's schedule, and then you don't follow about
the court schedules, and there can be problems. But when
I first came in here, I said, parents do not
keep the town away from the other parents unless the
court themes that parent completely unfit, which is a whole

(01:49:39):
different ball game. But you do have to go by
the schedule or there could be potential problems with the
court system.

Speaker 14 (01:49:47):
See, I just want to say, like, brother, you kind
of right, but it all goes back because you you
really kind of right. But it also it all goes
back to the choices. And again I don't donna give grace. Right,
A lot of people who have these kids, they don't
be playing these kids.

Speaker 10 (01:50:06):
They just be fucking and they have a kid.

Speaker 14 (01:50:10):
So you know what I'm saying, even with that, they not,
you know what I'm saying, making the best choices. That's
why I don't you know what I'm saying, I don't
give no grace Like I was saying earlier, you're fucking,
you're fucking, you're fucking you're not playing for this child.
You're fucking You didn't fuck this nigga twenty five times,
and grace's been extended all twenty five times. You got

(01:50:33):
to a hundred fucks and the grace they are left.
You didn't got to that one hundred and seventy fifth fuck,
and now you pregnant. You didn't plan that, y'all was nineteen.
You didn't plan it or none of that. That goes
to your choices, Sodrea, You right, Yeah, this shit don't sunk.

(01:50:53):
A lot of the times that don't, uh, it don't
work out. But to be honest, how is it gonna
work out with two people who didn't plan for this
to happen? They just was fucking not making choices. They
just was fucking. So you're right, it do end up
where people end up leaving, but that's because people not

(01:51:14):
making good choices. They just trying to fuck. They're not
they just trying to fuck. They just trying to fuck.
And I don't got no grace for that, all right,
You just trying to fuck?

Speaker 8 (01:51:25):
You?

Speaker 14 (01:51:25):
You you picked a bad nigga to fuck and now
your bebby daddy trash. Oh wow, that's all on you.
Just trying to get your click wet. That's all on you?
Are you? You you got a baby mama and you
say your bab and mama trash and she don't do that. Well,
my nigga, that's all on you. You was trying to
get your dick wet. You wasn't playing. All you just

(01:51:47):
wanted to do was fuck, And now you got a
baby mama and now it's over with because y'all wasn't
planning on being no relationship anyway.

Speaker 10 (01:51:55):
Y'all just wanted to fuck each other.

Speaker 8 (01:51:58):
Stat change the topic.

Speaker 6 (01:52:00):
Do people lose attraction when love becomes too safe?

Speaker 5 (01:52:06):
You can't reshut the room, you'd.

Speaker 10 (01:52:10):
Change people to women and the title correct.

Speaker 40 (01:52:15):
Some people need to regulate their nervous system because if
you motherfucking me safe, it's safe to you, like, for instance,
you can have everything you need. Y'all see that That
that thing they did with the with the rat and
a hearing, So they said the rat every day and
they started giving in doses a heroin, and the red

(01:52:35):
just started waking up and going to the hearing. Even
though the hearing sin doesn't doesn't provide no substance, even
though the ret gonna be hungry all day. You know
it chose the drugs and the nervous system of the
regis thrown off. So if you got a good woman
at the house or a good man at the house
to diffuse your needs, you don't have no issue with it.

(01:52:56):
Right And then you study steady leaving the house and
trying to go fuck on and be in the streets
and ship. Something is wrong with your your nervous system.

Speaker 26 (01:53:08):
My bad.

Speaker 1 (01:53:16):
It's fun.

Speaker 5 (01:53:18):
Run the streets. Is fun.

Speaker 8 (01:53:23):
Running the streets. Fun, men run the streets. I don't
know why you act like this is just a woman's.

Speaker 14 (01:53:29):
Honestly, the analogy was perfect. The reason why the rent
is choosing a heroin over the food because the heron
make him feel good. Literally, the heron makes you wait
wait wait wait wait.

Speaker 30 (01:53:43):
Dan, yell, dan yell.

Speaker 10 (01:53:45):
Do you know heroin addicts in real life do the
same thing.

Speaker 14 (01:53:49):
They will not eat to get some drugs because they
feel good.

Speaker 8 (01:53:55):
Chemistry to.

Speaker 10 (01:53:57):
They were whatever you want. Don't call it the yell.

Speaker 14 (01:54:02):
People go for what feels good, not what's smart, And
a lot of people make these dumb decisions.

Speaker 8 (01:54:19):
I did his microphone go out?

Speaker 3 (01:54:21):
I hope phone out, Jehovah.

Speaker 6 (01:54:24):
If you're talking, we can't hear you right now. I
don't know if you meet it as your phone or
what you did.

Speaker 3 (01:54:28):
I think you got a phone call because I see
the phone on my end.

Speaker 5 (01:54:32):
Why do you? Why do y'all leave good men when
it gets boring?

Speaker 9 (01:54:38):
I've heard a lot of women say that they've admitted
that they had good husbands and good partners.

Speaker 5 (01:54:44):
And it got boring.

Speaker 9 (01:54:46):
Like I've never heard a man say I left my
wife because she was boring after ten years? Why do
women do that? Why do y'all break up y'all homes
because it ain't fun no more?

Speaker 6 (01:54:56):
Well, I mean to be quite honest when we talk
about good man quote unquote, I mean, I know there
are some women that lead men that are doing great things, right,
But a lot of times people like to say women
left a good man.

Speaker 8 (01:55:09):
But you are never really that good, right.

Speaker 6 (01:55:12):
Youre going to work in paying bills doesn't make you
a good man. You that those things don't make you
a good man. Right, So to the women that leave
quote unquote good men, I can't speak to that because
I don't know I've never left the man that I
thought was that great.

Speaker 5 (01:55:28):
Okay, so hold on a good man.

Speaker 6 (01:55:33):
No, it doesn't, sir, it makes you a functional adult.
To pay bills, you have to live here, and mostly
y'all are not paying all the bills while a woman.

Speaker 5 (01:55:40):
Lives in your house.

Speaker 6 (01:55:44):
Gold When I said paying bills, that doesn't mean paying
all the bills.

Speaker 5 (01:55:48):
Are not doing Now you're moving, And now you're saying.

Speaker 8 (01:55:51):
Moving the gold post.

Speaker 6 (01:55:52):
I never said y'all paid all the bills. And if
you pay bills, sir, paying bills doesn't mean you pay
all of them.

Speaker 8 (01:55:59):
This is what I'm saying.

Speaker 6 (01:56:00):
Bills is And even if you paid all the bills,
that doesn't make you what I'm saying.

Speaker 9 (01:56:05):
This is why it's not a good deal. A man
going to work, being financially responsible, coming home to his
woman and his kids doesn't make him a good man.

Speaker 25 (01:56:16):
The only thing.

Speaker 8 (01:56:17):
Because you have to have all your stuff.

Speaker 5 (01:56:19):
If you're just doing it now, why do you think?

Speaker 9 (01:56:23):
Why do you think don't get it all as an
old woman with kids?

Speaker 8 (01:56:27):
You think you that you, as an ugly man, think
you can get it all.

Speaker 5 (01:56:32):
Why do you why do you think you can build.

Speaker 6 (01:56:35):
A man as an unattractive man.

Speaker 5 (01:56:37):
Woman, I know I look at daddy.

Speaker 8 (01:56:44):
You don't though you don't I don't know.

Speaker 5 (01:56:47):
You build ugly.

Speaker 9 (01:56:49):
I know you.

Speaker 5 (01:56:50):
I know you im mature.

Speaker 8 (01:56:52):
No, sir, that's probably.

Speaker 5 (01:56:55):
I know you'mmture, You're You're unattractive. That's what I'm saying, unattractive.

Speaker 8 (01:57:00):
That's cool if you don't like my word.

Speaker 9 (01:57:02):
And women have consistently stated that they need a provider,
and they've numbed it down to paying bills. But Danielle,
why do you keep interrupting me, sister Danielle.

Speaker 5 (01:57:15):
Danielle just stated that.

Speaker 9 (01:57:18):
A man going to work and being financially stable and
responsible does it make come a good man. I thought
that was the building bricks for a man. You must
have a job and be capable of that.

Speaker 8 (01:57:32):
Doesn't make him good.

Speaker 25 (01:57:33):
But there's more to it. But that is that is
a huge part of it.

Speaker 8 (01:57:38):
Yes, going to be an active participant in the household,
you also have to be a good communicator. You have
to be effectively.

Speaker 25 (01:57:51):
Sorry, daniel go ahead, honey, I'm sorry. Are your significant
other like diseases every month?

Speaker 6 (01:58:01):
Other month?

Speaker 25 (01:58:02):
If you're a great provider, then be a problem. You know,
there's different things that happen. And I'm not saying just men.
Women do function it too. You know there's other reasons
why relationships and marriages fail.

Speaker 5 (01:58:17):
Just say, and.

Speaker 8 (01:58:19):
Honestly, I'm gonna be I'm gonna be real with you.

Speaker 40 (01:58:22):
I dad yea between me and you automated in this room,
close your ears.

Speaker 5 (01:58:26):
Damn.

Speaker 40 (01:58:27):
I got lay off in October. I took like a
twenty thousand dollars pay cut. Right, I'm still making decent money.
But you know what I'm saying. You know, when it
was like, oh, these women want to come back, I
ain't gonna lie.

Speaker 8 (01:58:41):
I can use one of them providing ass niggas in it,
because you know, the cushion.

Speaker 40 (01:58:46):
Of like being able to give my hair done or
way I want to get it, being able to give
my nails done the way I want to get to.

Speaker 8 (01:58:51):
Look at my PCR.

Speaker 40 (01:58:52):
It took that for me to finally study for the
l set so sometimes so I can move forward in
my because I already got a Legal Studies in Criminology degree,
but I've been putting off a plant for law school
for like literally five fucking years because I was comfortable, right, So,
in that moment I didn't see you. I didn't see
no type of I just I didn't provided it. I
don't see no value in that. When I was making

(01:59:14):
damn near seventy thousand dollars, I didn't see no value
in that. I'm like, I could take care of myself.
It's good, I'm straight at whatever the case may be.
Then the bitch got laid off, and I'm like, hold on,
hold on, I need hold on.

Speaker 8 (01:59:25):
Where where that niggas at? Where that niggas at?

Speaker 40 (01:59:28):
So with that being said, I would say that it
is important for hell hell who laughing at me, It
is important for a man to be a contributor and
a provider. I'm starting to look my nigga upside of the head, like, God, damn,
you ain't gonna pay your money.

Speaker 8 (01:59:46):
You ain't gonna pay your life bill. Bitch, you ain't gone.
You ain't gonna patch up on the You ain't doing
you be here every day You're bitch, be cooking. You
ain't gonna do shit.

Speaker 5 (01:59:55):
I love you, Harriet. Let me ask you, Harry.

Speaker 9 (01:59:59):
Have you ever I heard a man say I had
a good Multiple men in mass say I had a
good wife.

Speaker 5 (02:00:06):
She was everything I wanted. She was a great mom,
She centered the family.

Speaker 9 (02:00:10):
She was all of the things that I wanted, but
she was boring and I left her after ten years.
My wife got boring. She couldn't make me shoot off.
She couldn't make me shoot off. So you hear men
in mass saying that they leave their wives.

Speaker 5 (02:00:22):
Because women because they're born. Men are not leaving their
families because it's boring. That's bullshit.

Speaker 6 (02:00:31):
Yeah, they'll leave because your luck stated even twenty years older,
we'll get a sad piece because you exactly, which leads
to the destruction of your marriage and you end up
getting left because your reality is that you're still not
satis small. You're just trying to supplement. So if you
lose your.

Speaker 8 (02:00:51):
Job, can I get any bills? I don't think so, right,
So what do you mean?

Speaker 6 (02:00:56):
Like, the reality is that a lot of y'all think
that you can be shipball people and somebody's gonna stay
with you. No one's gonna stay with your.

Speaker 5 (02:01:05):
Baby daddy either. We know you run away. You like
to run from man. Why do you keep bragging about
running away from.

Speaker 9 (02:01:11):
Your father, from your kielder's daddy?

Speaker 6 (02:01:15):
Why my son is grown is grown, sir?

Speaker 9 (02:01:21):
Why do y'all brag about leaving this. I've never heard
no other racial woman glorified ruining her home except the
black women.

Speaker 5 (02:01:31):
Black women glorified wrecking their home.

Speaker 7 (02:01:33):
Do you know you kill the wrong? You know you
kill the wrong?

Speaker 5 (02:01:38):
She killed the wrong?

Speaker 7 (02:01:39):
No, you killing you every day? My boy? You killing
every day?

Speaker 5 (02:01:45):
You know I'm killing your feelings. That's what I'm killing.
I want to know, right. I glorified leaving y'all families?

Speaker 10 (02:01:58):
Why is that start to her?

Speaker 9 (02:02:00):
Why do you keep glorifying leaving your children rather than her?

Speaker 7 (02:02:05):
Kill you?

Speaker 18 (02:02:06):
Sleep?

Speaker 5 (02:02:07):
Baby?

Speaker 6 (02:02:09):
My baby Daddy left me because he decided to check
out and go be with God. So, bitch, you can't
killing the rules.

Speaker 9 (02:02:23):
Yeah, the room where y'all kept cutting sister collar off
and she left, and that's when the numbers dropped, because
y'all want to be right with no results.

Speaker 5 (02:02:34):
That woman talking.

Speaker 6 (02:02:35):
Are you married?

Speaker 28 (02:02:36):
No, you're not.

Speaker 6 (02:02:37):
He ain't even got an he ain't even got a woman.

Speaker 5 (02:02:42):
That wife, my wife, Dominican. What's your next question? She?

Speaker 7 (02:02:53):
You know me if you got a wife?

Speaker 6 (02:02:56):
She your wife is letting you be with women that
you don't want all day.

Speaker 7 (02:03:02):
That is a bitch. She's a slow bitch. She's a
weak bitch. She's a dotil bitch. She's a dumb bitch.

Speaker 5 (02:03:09):
From your PTRs. Y'all spend a lot of time in
the drive through, and that's what I'm saying.

Speaker 8 (02:03:14):
Men, is though I always you know what's so funny.

Speaker 6 (02:03:23):
Drumming up in your head and needs assumption that you
make about women, They will never be factual, no matter
how do you spinch your eyes to fucking believe it, Mitch,
whatever assumption you can create in your little peaces move
brainhead of yours, I bet me.

Speaker 7 (02:03:37):
Mitch, it will never be factual.

Speaker 6 (02:03:39):
Sorry, I just think it's funny because, like plus size,
bridle is a million dollar industry. So I don't understand
how y'all think that the only people getting married are
skinny women. This is so stupid something y'all look around

(02:04:04):
and a lot of people that we see are married
are not skinny Women's sweetheart, that I don't know why
y'all be including this myth that you gotta be in
shape to get married.

Speaker 8 (02:04:13):
I see fat bitches get married every fucking day.

Speaker 6 (02:04:16):
Just like bitches with weaves, bitches with lashes, vishes that
wear makeup all the time. All of those women get married, Sir,
So when y'all get up here and y'all be crying
the blues, the reality is we can lose weight, but
you'll still be ugly, You'll still have a bad attitude,
and you still will be a wessig.

Speaker 8 (02:04:33):
So it's fine.

Speaker 6 (02:04:34):
I'm not talking about you because I didn't say the
real nobody.

Speaker 8 (02:04:41):
Why you think I'm talking to you, nigga?

Speaker 6 (02:04:43):
It must be because I never said anything to you.
Men that say that, you see animal didn't come off
the mic. You see Carl didn't come off the mic
because they don't feel.

Speaker 18 (02:04:56):
Because secure.

Speaker 8 (02:04:58):
You're an insecure and you going to project down the other.
That's fine, but you can't what somebody dumb.

Speaker 7 (02:05:07):
Okay, I don't care, sir.

Speaker 8 (02:05:10):
Nobody cares about your opinion.

Speaker 6 (02:05:12):
This is probably the most people your life. This is
probably the most that people ever listening.

Speaker 5 (02:05:17):
You're talking to Listen, then I'm talking to a listener.

Speaker 8 (02:05:21):
You got yeah, and you make more money than you
and yours.

Speaker 5 (02:05:25):
You don't even know me. You don't even know me.

Speaker 8 (02:05:27):
You don't know me, sir.

Speaker 5 (02:05:28):
I know you broke. You don't know me in Virginia,
broke your listing agent.

Speaker 9 (02:05:33):
Your baby, she's not broke.

Speaker 5 (02:05:41):
You got a bad shape.

Speaker 9 (02:05:42):
Big at the top of small at the bottom. You're rambunctious,
your overbearing, a lot about.

Speaker 6 (02:05:50):
Your corny and you're StAst and you got you can't
look over You can't even see your dick without looking
up your belly. You another one woman of another race
to get your ego strog because don't know black woman,
won't your ugly ass, your saying ass, dick and the
booty ass.

Speaker 13 (02:06:07):
You just don't.

Speaker 6 (02:06:08):
You hate women. You just hate women, That's all. That's
what it sounds like. You don't say women you in
your car none because in your car you must.

Speaker 7 (02:06:22):
Think every woman is overweighting.

Speaker 26 (02:06:25):
Oh be.

Speaker 7 (02:06:27):
Not reality. You brought me the one with the Chick
fil A bags in your car. Somebody else talk? Please?

Speaker 9 (02:06:41):
Oh last women out of here? Coming on here for comfort?
I'm not comforting.

Speaker 10 (02:06:48):
What are you about?

Speaker 8 (02:06:50):
Older than you are older than me?

Speaker 5 (02:06:54):
Not comfort woman?

Speaker 41 (02:06:56):
You you did you call?

Speaker 5 (02:07:02):
Oh with that ship? Bro?

Speaker 7 (02:07:04):
You're me.

Speaker 5 (02:07:07):
Woman?

Speaker 7 (02:07:08):
You are older than me.

Speaker 13 (02:07:11):
Talking you?

Speaker 32 (02:07:14):
Oh you are washed up.

Speaker 7 (02:07:27):
You are dried up abody.

Speaker 6 (02:07:32):
Oh but I bet you he has a lotion bottle
within his uh grip of reach right now? Baby, that
that man, that man went and married a woman that
he that he needed a nurse, he needed somebody to
take care of him, exactly what it sounds like. And
he went found the bitch that's willing to take care
of him because she's so desperate for a piece of

(02:07:53):
a black man, bad part of a piece of a
black man.

Speaker 5 (02:07:59):
Took a picture, left the gym. That's that's what big
women do. You want it to seem like you're working.

Speaker 8 (02:08:04):
There's plenty of videos of me working out.

Speaker 5 (02:08:07):
I don't see the result. I don't see the result.
You're if you.

Speaker 8 (02:08:13):
Want to go do that like the reality is is
niggas like you.

Speaker 5 (02:08:16):
Don't have y'all never her.

Speaker 8 (02:08:18):
Picture, You never have your ship connected because you always
nobody cares. Nobody cares.

Speaker 6 (02:08:25):
What you see is a place, because the reality is
just because you don't think a woman is attractive, that
don't mean other niggas don't. Because you're one person that's
insignificant right in the grand scheme of things. So you
gotta understand that the only person that values your opinion
is you.

Speaker 8 (02:08:41):
Nobody else cares.

Speaker 7 (02:08:42):
You don't hear a bitch in your background. We don't
hear a woman in your background.

Speaker 8 (02:08:51):
To say to.

Speaker 7 (02:08:54):
You you are you cool.

Speaker 13 (02:08:59):
So much profanity already Jesus Christ.

Speaker 8 (02:09:07):
So you don't even know this. That's why my putting
on this app.

Speaker 7 (02:09:11):
I'm taking care of a real man.

Speaker 13 (02:09:12):
And how about that.

Speaker 42 (02:09:15):
I bet I make mourning your real man.

Speaker 5 (02:09:19):
You don't know.

Speaker 7 (02:09:26):
Or money didn't mind? Real man?

Speaker 41 (02:09:28):
How about you go and get you a woman. You're
white and you and black people business.

Speaker 7 (02:09:38):
Get your ass on.

Speaker 1 (02:09:40):
Oh she's so mad?

Speaker 5 (02:09:43):
Yeah h you big woman.

Speaker 6 (02:09:50):
Sassy bitch ass nigga, shut up, shut up like her?

Speaker 7 (02:09:58):
Oh shut sure.

Speaker 5 (02:10:05):
A love inmates, that woman you got.

Speaker 7 (02:10:07):
I guess you don't listen to you enough. That's that.

Speaker 6 (02:10:11):
And you are a black man. I hear it in
your voice. You're a black man cosplaying as a white man.
That says a whole lot about your character. We can't, nigga,
you're not even comfortable being a black man. You have
to cosplay a white man on an app.

Speaker 5 (02:10:26):
She's damaged good brother, your.

Speaker 6 (02:10:28):
Mama damaged goods, and she's birth the damaged goods.

Speaker 5 (02:10:32):
You are.

Speaker 13 (02:10:35):
Good cornball.

Speaker 5 (02:10:40):
Beat worlder beast.

Speaker 10 (02:10:43):
She does sound pretty fast.

Speaker 5 (02:10:44):
She does what the hell.

Speaker 6 (02:10:56):
He calls a short?

Speaker 8 (02:11:02):
He said you sounded.

Speaker 6 (02:11:04):
Maybe it doesn't. It doesn't fucking matter. Because you know,
I don't sound fucking fat.

Speaker 7 (02:11:10):
I probably than the white missions that you settled for.

Speaker 6 (02:11:15):
Look better than than a Dominican mission that that nigga
settled for. And our damn show look better than the
white bitch you settled for.

Speaker 7 (02:11:22):
Help fast, something safe to do?

Speaker 13 (02:11:25):
My attached?

Speaker 7 (02:11:28):
My instagram is attached.

Speaker 8 (02:11:30):
Where's y'all the white man?

Speaker 40 (02:11:39):
But I used to be a strong Now I need
a little help. But what's type of stereotypes as a
black woman? Should I lean in to get a rich
white man to finishize me so I can pay.

Speaker 5 (02:12:01):
With the Now they're coming in with the solicitation.

Speaker 8 (02:12:04):
You ain't gonna come to me up.

Speaker 5 (02:12:08):
Now they're coming in with the solicitor.

Speaker 10 (02:12:10):
No, we we don't. We don't like uh, we don't
like black women like that, Harry.

Speaker 6 (02:12:16):
You know it sound like a black nigga that's white's.

Speaker 5 (02:12:24):
She's very upset.

Speaker 10 (02:12:28):
The niggas.

Speaker 8 (02:12:31):
They're so broke.

Speaker 42 (02:12:43):
I mean, like to what degree in extent are we talking?

Speaker 5 (02:12:49):
They're broke? To what degree in extent?

Speaker 40 (02:12:52):
Like you know, like for every hundred dollars a white
family has, I think a black family led by a
man has maybe like two or three dollars.

Speaker 42 (02:13:03):
Do you mind providing your your sources for not.

Speaker 16 (02:13:12):
Problem that the Coindrick got them?

Speaker 8 (02:13:28):
You're in the matrix, sir.

Speaker 42 (02:13:35):
Interesting if the data was based off of, you know,
actual evidence.

Speaker 43 (02:13:42):
I was able to provide you that evidence, and we
say that to be true because I don't mind posting
that in the chat for you, right, because I do
like to go and do some research, so I can
go look that up for you if you're too lazy
to look that up. But if that is the case, right,
let's just say, right, I'm able to provide you with

(02:14:02):
that data.

Speaker 6 (02:14:04):
What would be your deduction of that data in regards
to black men leading the family? In regards to white men, sir, I.

Speaker 42 (02:14:14):
Would say that, you know, it's all fear and love
and war. You know, we've had our advantages, We've had
our head starts, and so I think that you know,
the large swath and majority of black men in this
country are doing pretty well for the most part.

Speaker 10 (02:14:31):
It's twenty twenty five.

Speaker 8 (02:14:34):
What do you consider well bred?

Speaker 14 (02:14:36):
Well?

Speaker 42 (02:14:37):
Well, okay, so I personally work for the CDC and
my wife works for the Department of Labor, so like
we get a very hands on view at you know
the statistical data for not just the African American community,
but for a large swath of communities in the Western world.
So for African American males alone, from say like twenty

(02:15:01):
is about I'd go say seventy.

Speaker 5 (02:15:03):
Uh.

Speaker 42 (02:15:04):
The majority of black men are either in the middle
or the upper middle class. A lot of them just
don't they don't have children.

Speaker 8 (02:15:14):
What if the upper middle class brad.

Speaker 42 (02:15:17):
Upper upper middle class is above sixty eight thousand dollars
a year cet eight and a half actually, so I
mean on a single income with no children, right, So
single income, no children, Yeah, and that's.

Speaker 5 (02:15:31):
That very much.

Speaker 6 (02:15:32):
But that average male income in the United States for
among black men is about fifty five class.

Speaker 3 (02:15:38):
So much means the majority of them are not making that.

Speaker 40 (02:15:41):
But I think it's from the Pew Research Center. I
don't know how that came up with it. But basically,
for every eleven one hundred dollars a white household has,
it's about one eleven dollars for a black family. So basically,
if a white household is making two hundred and fifty
fifty thousand dollars a year, the black family is making

(02:16:05):
about twenty seven.

Speaker 8 (02:16:08):
Thousand dollars a year.

Speaker 40 (02:16:10):
Now, that's Pew research, And I don't know where that
data comes from beyond that or how they collected it,
you know.

Speaker 5 (02:16:16):
But yeah, doesn't mean that they're not doing well.

Speaker 9 (02:16:19):
And y'all keep saying just because somebody makes galery that
they're doing well, I could make it.

Speaker 10 (02:16:26):
I just want to wrap my head around, right.

Speaker 8 (02:16:29):
So, And Brad, I also want to ask.

Speaker 42 (02:16:31):
For the ladies making this argument, because you're like, is
this you guys just way of trying to disparage your
own men?

Speaker 6 (02:16:38):
No, So, Brad, I want to also ask you, what
does the average white man make?

Speaker 42 (02:16:48):
Jack, which was a few years ago, average black man,
I want to say it was like forty seven or
forty eight, and the average white man was like fifty
one fifty two.

Speaker 6 (02:16:59):
Right, so it's safe to say there's not that much
of a difference between the average black man and the
average white man.

Speaker 8 (02:17:05):
Would you say that I can.

Speaker 40 (02:17:07):
I can say that for some reason, when the families
come together, like in the black community, all the money
just like stops happening. If that's the case, Brad, is
it safe to say that even though the average white
man and the average black man don't make that much
difference in income, there's a dramatic difference when the black

(02:17:27):
man leads the household versus when the white man leads
the household.

Speaker 5 (02:17:33):
No, I can't.

Speaker 30 (02:17:34):
I can't say that.

Speaker 6 (02:17:34):
Well you just agree with the Well we just said
the average white friend.

Speaker 8 (02:17:46):
Dollars two one. That's in black male led households.

Speaker 5 (02:17:50):
Yeah.

Speaker 6 (02:17:51):
So if if the average black man and the average
white man don't have that much of a difference in money,
why is there a dramatic difference rents in the amount
of money that's circulated within the household.

Speaker 5 (02:18:08):
I'm not sure.

Speaker 42 (02:18:10):
I think that's Isn't that a that would be a
question for your men, right, what should.

Speaker 8 (02:18:15):
Be doing in your house?

Speaker 10 (02:18:22):
Like most American families would

Speaker 6 (02:18:26):
Just work it, see right, because and would you also
say

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