October 5, 2022 • 15 mins
It's no secret that John C Maxwell is one of my favorite authors and for good reason but there is one law that I am having a hard time with. What does legacy mean anyway? Let's talk about it.
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00:00 One of my favorite books; 21 Irrefutable laws of leadership
02:05 The chapter of the book that ticks me off
04:25 What does legacy mean?
08:24 This is what legacy means to me
11:14 Book report for this week
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Quote
“Leaders touch a heart before they ask for a hand.” - John C Maxwell
Chapters
00:00 One of my favorite books; 21 Irrefutable laws of leadership
02:05 The chapter of the book that ticks me off
04:25 What does legacy mean?
08:24 This is what legacy means to me
11:14 Book report for this week
14:27 Outro
The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership: 25th Anniversary: Follow Them and People Will Follow You
https://amzn.to/3dlk2Vg
Please rate & review the podcast so I know you are listening:
https://ratethispodcast.com/100
Sponsored by Heartcast Media
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Let's Connect!
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mollydruland
Website: https://mollyruland.com/
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(00:10):
What up down, It's me yourfavorite Wednesday morning. Hang. Hey,
so today's episode is like just kindof one big book report, Not really,
but kind of. You know,I've been reading The twenty one Irrefutable
Laws of Leadership, which is byfar my favorite book, and John C.
(00:33):
Maxwell just put out a twenty fiveyear anniversary edition of it, and
so it is a little updated andit's an audiobook so you could hear them
talking, and I just think that'ssuper cool. I'm a huge fan of
John C. Maxwell. That bookchanged my life, and reading it again
reminded me that I should probably readit again because there's a lot of things
(00:55):
that I could be better at asa leader and being a leaders like being
a good person. Right, itdoesn't matter like leadership. You might think
leadership, I'm not. I don'thave employees or whatever. No, you
can be a leader and your familyand your life and your relationships like all
of that, right, And soit's a lot to take in. Leadership
is a lot. And so thatthat book, the twenty one Irrefutable Laws.
(01:18):
He loves books with numbers, buthe really loves leadership. And you
know, for an old white guy, you know, I got a hand
it to him. He's pretty solid. He talks a lot about God,
which he is usually a turn offfor me, but I'm here for it.
I appreciate the perspective and I'm opento it. Right, Like,
this is a guy who's like reallyfamily oriented. He's like walk the walk.
He's empowered a lot of people.He's like literally created millions of leaders
(01:40):
around the world, impacted families,government's communities. You know what, maybe
he's onto something. So I'm notmad at it. Open open arms,
open heart, open mind. Youknow, give me the information, and
my life has definitely improved, likereally taking in the information he shares and
expressing that in the things that Ido. And so I should probably read
(02:00):
that book every six months so Icould do a better job being a leader.
But the very last chapter is theone. Well, I mean,
we're probably gonna talk about all thechapters over the course of the next couple
of months because it's all super relevant, but the last one really got me.
And it was a law of legacy, and I just like kind of
(02:21):
shut off because I'm like, well, that doesn't relate to me, and
I'm not sure that I don't knowlegacy, Like what does legacy mean,
right, Like, what does legacyactually mean? It's like you know,
handing something down. And so fora guy like John Maxwell, who spent
his whole life like training and creatingleaders around the world, like I definitely
can appreciate that legacy is huge forhim. He's also a guy who has
(02:43):
a family and who has children,so legacy is important to him, right,
Well, what about the old spencerbras like me who ain't got no
children, Right, I don't havekids, and I don't I don't have
a legacy to pass on, andI'm not here to pass on a legacy.
And when you really look at likepeople who have just been handed a
bunch of money through nepotism and youknow, trust funds and all that,
(03:07):
like they they're not like the best, you know what I'm saying. Like
it's like people who win the lotterylike ruins their lives, Like it's not
all butterflies and rainbows, and like, uh, you know, I'm not
sure that that's the way to go, right, Like, you know,
getting money not having to work forthings, It doesn't make the victory's sweeter
and I think it doesn't make youa better person. And so there's a
(03:29):
lot of people, you know,I know somebody who makes a ton of
money and he has absolutely no intentionof leaving any of it to his children.
Now, mind you, he's alreadyset his kids up for life.
They all have you know, they'regood, they're not struggling. But he's
gonna die with a whole bunch ofmoney that he has no intention of leading
to his kids because he knows thatit's not going to be good for them
(03:50):
and that money could do so manyother things. And I respect that right.
And so what does legacy really mean? Especially you know times have changed.
You know, I'm forty six yearold woman, I'm not married,
I didn't have kids. Now,was that the plan? No, the
Luigi board told me that I wasgoing to marry somebody with the initials FS
when I was twenty six, andthat shit lied. Okay, wegi bore
to want my money back, butI didn't know that was gonna happen.
(04:14):
But here I am. I don'thave a legacy, right, and his
legacy what's motivating me to be agood leader or be a good business owner
to pass it down to somebody?Now? But you know, what does
legacy mean to me? I don'tknow, man, I think that's maybe
the question, right, Like,I don't want to leave a legacy,
but if I could empower people inmy life, like my engineer Matt and
Anthony. You know, if Icould empower them by giving them large shares
(04:40):
of this company and leaving it tothem, that would be fantastic to me,
because at some point I'm gonna beold and trying to be drunk on
a beach like every day. Imean, my goals are smidge higher than
that, not much smidge, ButI want to leave them with something that
they can make money like for sure. But like, like is that legacy?
(05:00):
I don't know. It feels alittle too high falutin from me,
man, I'm not a I don'tknow. I want god a legacy or
a memory, a remembrance of me, you know, I don't know.
I don't really know what I'm tryingto say. But I think that when
we're striving for excellence and the thingsthat we do, I don't know if
it's to be remembered later, right, Like I did a lot of things
in DC, and I have relationshipswith people all over that city, relationships
(05:25):
with people that nobody even knows about. That's why sometimes people see me pop
up and they're like, how didyou get in this room? And then
the people who know me, you'relike, not surprised anywhere. You don't
think Molly is gonna be boop thereshe is, right, that's kind of
my jam. And so that tome is like the connection, like the
how have I impacted other people's lives? You know what I mean? Like
(05:45):
was it a hug? Was it? Was it a meal? Was it
a conversation? Was it just theintention of listening to somebody wholeheartedly? And
you know though, that's the legacyI want to leave. That's the mark.
The mark I want to leave isjust a little bit of hindness and
giving people a platform, right,Like people say, you know, giving
people a voice. Man, that'ssome privilege to have. Shit, ain't
(06:06):
know you ain't giving somebody a voice? God, No, you're not giving
people voices. Were giving people platforms, right, And And that's that's what
I'm passionate about because I think right, I think we do what we want
right. Well, I think there'sno question as to why there's the word
love and heart and both the biggestcompanies I've ever owned because that's what I've
(06:29):
always been looking for. Um No, the relationship I have with my staff
is different. I would like tothink. I think I could improve it
with my you know, my workerswho are far away, and we're changing
that actually this week, to bemore connected with them. But what is
the impact that I want to have? I just want to do good things
and I want to. I wantto. I want to create a stage
(06:51):
for people to have a voice,and I want or to express themselves and
for their voice to be amplified andheard. And I want I want,
you know, change the world bettercontent. I want listening to be the
revolution if we could just listen toeach other. You know, yeah,
maybe it's the hardcast media tagline,but maybe that's how I really feel.
You know, listening is the revolutionstraight up. You know when I came
(07:17):
up with that pre pandemic, butman, is it more relevant than ever
because when they're one thing we don'tknow how to do, it's listen to
one another. So so that's youknow, legacy. What does legacy mean
to you? Right? And whatif you don't build some great company that
you can leave to your kids orthis thing? Like, what does legacy
mean to you. Does it meanbeing a kind, good person for your
(07:40):
kids to model? Does it meanloving this shit out of your children unconditionally
so that they model that in theirown life? Like? What does legacy
mean to you? Right? AndI think I don't know. I think
sometimes it swings into this like grantcard own like ten X, like unreasonable
amounts of money and this and thatand go go go and Tony Robbins and
walk John C. Maxwell he gota legacy. Don't fuck with John C.
(08:03):
Maxwell's legacy. I will mess youup because that man has worked hard,
okay, but the rent and notsaying that the other guys didn't work
hard. But like, I don'tknow, man, and I know you
Tony Robinson gonna be like MESI aman, Tony, I don't care,
man, I don't care. Legacy, what does it mean to you?
What does it mean to you?To me, it means showing up in
(08:24):
impeccable ways and very small rooms andvery small conversations. And they build this
foundation of wholeness, you know,not greatness, wholeness, you know,
because for every hug I've given,I've gotten one. You know. I
got a friend Jason, And whenI met him, he was going through
(08:45):
some stuff and we're bonded for lifebecause I saw that and I gave him
a hug. That that fixed bothof us. And in that same year,
I was riding my bike in thecity in DC. I love you
toast. I was riding my bikein the city in DC and this woman
almost fucking killed me. She'd almostkilled me. She tried to throw a
(09:05):
full soda at me. And itwas dead in the winter. It was
like November. It was cold asshit. I was struggling trying to get
to work. I'm like, I'mat the intersection. I'm on North Capitol
in New York Avenue in DC.This is like the biggest intersection in the
whole city. There's cars everywhere.It's sketchy. Shit. This woman through
a whole fucking Wendy's full ass sodaat me, and the dead ass of
(09:28):
winner right, try to run meoff the road, which happened all the
time. If you ever wonder whenI'm so angry, it's ptsdep and running
bike in DC. But I gotto the next intersection and it's the biggest
intersection in the whole city, right, And I'm on my bike and I
just get up. I'm shaking becausemy nervous system is like, you know,
(09:48):
freaking out because the woman just tryingto kill me and through shit at
me. I'm not doing anything wrong, you know, I'm just trying to
get to work to deal with mystressful life. And I just stopped and
I like, you know, I'mshaking, and I started crying. And
this woman on the corner, thisblack lady, says, to me,
(10:09):
girl, what you crying about?I said, you know, I just
looked at her and she said,oh no, no no, and she
came over to me and she gaveme the biggest best bear hug ever where.
You know, I'm imagine this isa busy intersection. It's rush hower.
You know, here comes as whitegirl on a bike, right,
I'd start crying as one comes overhugs me. She says, come on,
come on, we're not gonna dothat. She gave me a real
(10:31):
hug. She said, you're gonnabe okay. You're gonna get to work
and you're gonna be safe. Andyou just remember I love you. And
I said I love you too,and you know, the light change.
I got back on my bike andI kept going and to me that's legacy.
Right to me, that's legacy becauseI paid it forward in so many
ways just like that, and Igot it back and I'll never forget that.
(10:52):
To me, that's legacy. Idon't think it's about making millions of
dollars. I think it's about makinga million moments where people feel whole and
seen. That's what I think itis. So yeah, I think I've
cried on this podcast two weeks inrows. I gotta go, y'all freaking
me out. Stay tuned for thebook report. I'll catch you next week.
(11:16):
We back. It's time for thebook of board people. It's time
for the book report. All right, Well you already know what it is
because I already talked about it,and it is the twenty five year aniversary
of the twenty one Irrefutable Laws ofLeadership. Man saying again, the twenty
one Irrefutable Laws of Leadership. Ilove that book. I love that book
so much. I think I've readit five or six times. But I
(11:37):
need to read it every six months, because girl, I need a tune
up. Okay, this this leaderright here gets a little lost in the
saw. Sometimes I fell off thetrack, but I listened to it again
and it just reminded me that Ineed to listen to it again and really
dial in. And I feel likea lot of that book speaks to me.
I definitely. You know, I'vebeen talking about my mom a little
bit, but my mom used toalways call me the Queen and the Justice
(12:00):
League, and she's tell me Iwas bossy and loud, and turns out
those is a great you know,the best ingredients for a great leader.
I give a shit about people,and I fight for the rights of other
people incessantly, and things that aren'tfair upset me. I'm a very emotional
and logic basic person, so whenthings don't make sense, it really upsets
me. Like people being treated unfairly. Don't like that, you know.
(12:24):
And yes, I'm bossy, goddamnit, I'm a leader. Okay,
I could work on being less bossyin my relationships outside of business, but
those things make me a great leader. And reading that book from my friend
John C. Maxwell, I learnedthat about myself. And I don't need
to hide those things in myself.I just need to know when to use
them, when to hold them andwent and fold them like oh Willie Nelson
(12:45):
said, right, And so oh, man, that book is so good.
And so if you're just you know, if you would just want to
if you just want a little tuneup for how to be in life and
how to be a better person,this is an excellent, excellent book.
And I love his voice, andI love everything he's done. And I've
never really wanted to join like acoaching kind of program or whatever, but
(13:05):
man, I would love to jointhat one because I feel like I feel
like I could do some really goodstuff with that. I feel like I
could maybe harness whatever all this stuffis. Right. See, I was
supposed to die by the time Iwas twenty. Actually that's not even true.
When the doctors diagnosed me at fifteenmonths old, they said I wouldn't
live more than twenty years. Butthe only other documented case like me die
(13:28):
by the time she was twelve.Right, And so I don't know what
I'm supposed to do here, butI know I ain't done it yet or
i'd have been gone, right.And so yeah, John C. Maxwell,
I'm saving up my pennies. Man, I'm coming for you. Please
don't leave this planet just yet.Please, I just want to shake your
hand one more time. He doesn'twant to hear that he's seventy five,
But I'm just saying that he's sharpestattack. He's gonna be run forever.
(13:50):
But I digress. John C.Maxwell, you are my like my hero
man. I really appreciate your content. And if you are listening to this,
oh, get that book. Itdoesn't matter if you think you're a
leader or not. Go get thatbook, man, Go get the book.
Go get the book. Listen onaudible. He's got a great voice
too. He's really nice to listento. And one of my favorite things
(14:11):
is how he signs off. Sothis has been long enough and I'm going
to do the same thing. Andjust like John, he says, he
says that, Well, I'm gonnasay it. My name is Molly,
and I am your friend until nexttime. Well no, I'm your friend
forever, but until next time,be excellent. Thank you for tuning into
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What up down, It's me yourfavorite Wednesday morning. Hang. Hey,
so today's episode is like just kindof one big book report, Not really,
but kind of. You know,I've been reading The twenty one Irrefutable
Laws of Leadership, which is byfar my favorite book, and John C.
(00:33):
Maxwell just put out a twenty fiveyear anniversary edition of it, and
so it is a little updated andit's an audiobook so you could hear them
talking, and I just think that'ssuper cool. I'm a huge fan of
John C. Maxwell. That bookchanged my life, and reading it again
reminded me that I should probably readit again because there's a lot of things
(00:55):
that I could be better at asa leader and being a leaders like being
a good person. Right, itdoesn't matter like leadership. You might think
leadership, I'm not. I don'thave employees or whatever. No, you
can be a leader and your familyand your life and your relationships like all
of that, right, And soit's a lot to take in. Leadership
is a lot. And so thatthat book, the twenty one Irrefutable Laws.
(01:18):
He loves books with numbers, buthe really loves leadership. And you
know, for an old white guy, you know, I got a hand
it to him. He's pretty solid. He talks a lot about God,
which he is usually a turn offfor me, but I'm here for it.
I appreciate the perspective and I'm opento it. Right, Like,
this is a guy who's like reallyfamily oriented. He's like walk the walk.
He's empowered a lot of people.He's like literally created millions of leaders
(01:40):
around the world, impacted families,government's communities. You know what, maybe
he's onto something. So I'm notmad at it. Open open arms,
open heart, open mind. Youknow, give me the information, and
my life has definitely improved, likereally taking in the information he shares and
expressing that in the things that Ido. And so I should probably read
(02:00):
that book every six months so Icould do a better job being a leader.
But the very last chapter is theone. Well, I mean,
we're probably gonna talk about all thechapters over the course of the next couple
of months because it's all super relevant, but the last one really got me.
And it was a law of legacy, and I just like kind of
(02:21):
shut off because I'm like, well, that doesn't relate to me, and
I'm not sure that I don't knowlegacy, Like what does legacy mean,
right, Like, what does legacyactually mean? It's like you know,
handing something down. And so fora guy like John Maxwell, who spent
his whole life like training and creatingleaders around the world, like I definitely
can appreciate that legacy is huge forhim. He's also a guy who has
(02:43):
a family and who has children,so legacy is important to him, right,
Well, what about the old spencerbras like me who ain't got no
children, Right, I don't havekids, and I don't I don't have
a legacy to pass on, andI'm not here to pass on a legacy.
And when you really look at likepeople who have just been handed a
bunch of money through nepotism and youknow, trust funds and all that,
(03:07):
like they they're not like the best, you know what I'm saying. Like
it's like people who win the lotterylike ruins their lives, Like it's not
all butterflies and rainbows, and like, uh, you know, I'm not
sure that that's the way to go, right, Like, you know,
getting money not having to work forthings, It doesn't make the victory's sweeter
and I think it doesn't make youa better person. And so there's a
(03:29):
lot of people, you know,I know somebody who makes a ton of
money and he has absolutely no intentionof leaving any of it to his children.
Now, mind you, he's alreadyset his kids up for life.
They all have you know, they'regood, they're not struggling. But he's
gonna die with a whole bunch ofmoney that he has no intention of leading
to his kids because he knows thatit's not going to be good for them
(03:50):
and that money could do so manyother things. And I respect that right.
And so what does legacy really mean? Especially you know times have changed.
You know, I'm forty six yearold woman, I'm not married,
I didn't have kids. Now,was that the plan? No, the
Luigi board told me that I wasgoing to marry somebody with the initials FS
when I was twenty six, andthat shit lied. Okay, wegi bore
to want my money back, butI didn't know that was gonna happen.
(04:14):
But here I am. I don'thave a legacy, right, and his
legacy what's motivating me to be agood leader or be a good business owner
to pass it down to somebody?Now? But you know, what does
legacy mean to me? I don'tknow, man, I think that's maybe
the question, right, Like,I don't want to leave a legacy,
but if I could empower people inmy life, like my engineer Matt and
Anthony. You know, if Icould empower them by giving them large shares
(04:40):
of this company and leaving it tothem, that would be fantastic to me,
because at some point I'm gonna beold and trying to be drunk on
a beach like every day. Imean, my goals are smidge higher than
that, not much smidge, ButI want to leave them with something that
they can make money like for sure. But like, like is that legacy?
(05:00):
I don't know. It feels alittle too high falutin from me,
man, I'm not a I don'tknow. I want god a legacy or
a memory, a remembrance of me, you know, I don't know.
I don't really know what I'm tryingto say. But I think that when
we're striving for excellence and the thingsthat we do, I don't know if
it's to be remembered later, right, Like I did a lot of things
in DC, and I have relationshipswith people all over that city, relationships
(05:25):
with people that nobody even knows about. That's why sometimes people see me pop
up and they're like, how didyou get in this room? And then
the people who know me, you'relike, not surprised anywhere. You don't
think Molly is gonna be boop thereshe is, right, that's kind of
my jam. And so that tome is like the connection, like the
how have I impacted other people's lives? You know what I mean? Like
(05:45):
was it a hug? Was it? Was it a meal? Was it
a conversation? Was it just theintention of listening to somebody wholeheartedly? And
you know though, that's the legacyI want to leave. That's the mark.
The mark I want to leave isjust a little bit of hindness and
giving people a platform, right,Like people say, you know, giving
people a voice. Man, that'ssome privilege to have. Shit, ain't
(06:06):
know you ain't giving somebody a voice? God, No, you're not giving
people voices. Were giving people platforms, right, And And that's that's what
I'm passionate about because I think right, I think we do what we want
right. Well, I think there'sno question as to why there's the word
love and heart and both the biggestcompanies I've ever owned because that's what I've
(06:29):
always been looking for. Um No, the relationship I have with my staff
is different. I would like tothink. I think I could improve it
with my you know, my workerswho are far away, and we're changing
that actually this week, to bemore connected with them. But what is
the impact that I want to have? I just want to do good things
and I want to. I wantto. I want to create a stage
(06:51):
for people to have a voice,and I want or to express themselves and
for their voice to be amplified andheard. And I want I want,
you know, change the world bettercontent. I want listening to be the
revolution if we could just listen toeach other. You know, yeah,
maybe it's the hardcast media tagline,but maybe that's how I really feel.
You know, listening is the revolutionstraight up. You know when I came
(07:17):
up with that pre pandemic, butman, is it more relevant than ever
because when they're one thing we don'tknow how to do, it's listen to
one another. So so that's youknow, legacy. What does legacy mean
to you? Right? And whatif you don't build some great company that
you can leave to your kids orthis thing? Like, what does legacy
mean to you. Does it meanbeing a kind, good person for your
(07:40):
kids to model? Does it meanloving this shit out of your children unconditionally
so that they model that in theirown life? Like? What does legacy
mean to you? Right? AndI think I don't know. I think
sometimes it swings into this like grantcard own like ten X, like unreasonable
amounts of money and this and thatand go go go and Tony Robbins and
walk John C. Maxwell he gota legacy. Don't fuck with John C.
(08:03):
Maxwell's legacy. I will mess youup because that man has worked hard,
okay, but the rent and notsaying that the other guys didn't work
hard. But like, I don'tknow, man, and I know you
Tony Robinson gonna be like MESI aman, Tony, I don't care,
man, I don't care. Legacy, what does it mean to you?
What does it mean to you?To me, it means showing up in
(08:24):
impeccable ways and very small rooms andvery small conversations. And they build this
foundation of wholeness, you know,not greatness, wholeness, you know,
because for every hug I've given,I've gotten one. You know. I
got a friend Jason, And whenI met him, he was going through
(08:45):
some stuff and we're bonded for lifebecause I saw that and I gave him
a hug. That that fixed bothof us. And in that same year,
I was riding my bike in thecity in DC. I love you
toast. I was riding my bikein the city in DC and this woman
almost fucking killed me. She'd almostkilled me. She tried to throw a
(09:05):
full soda at me. And itwas dead in the winter. It was
like November. It was cold asshit. I was struggling trying to get
to work. I'm like, I'mat the intersection. I'm on North Capitol
in New York Avenue in DC.This is like the biggest intersection in the
whole city. There's cars everywhere.It's sketchy. Shit. This woman through
a whole fucking Wendy's full ass sodaat me, and the dead ass of
(09:28):
winner right, try to run meoff the road, which happened all the
time. If you ever wonder whenI'm so angry, it's ptsdep and running
bike in DC. But I gotto the next intersection and it's the biggest
intersection in the whole city, right, And I'm on my bike and I
just get up. I'm shaking becausemy nervous system is like, you know,
(09:48):
freaking out because the woman just tryingto kill me and through shit at
me. I'm not doing anything wrong, you know, I'm just trying to
get to work to deal with mystressful life. And I just stopped and
I like, you know, I'mshaking, and I started crying. And
this woman on the corner, thisblack lady, says, to me,
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girl, what you crying about?I said, you know, I just
looked at her and she said,oh no, no no, and she
came over to me and she gaveme the biggest best bear hug ever where.
You know, I'm imagine this isa busy intersection. It's rush hower.
You know, here comes as whitegirl on a bike, right,
I'd start crying as one comes overhugs me. She says, come on,
come on, we're not gonna dothat. She gave me a real
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hug. She said, you're gonnabe okay. You're gonna get to work
and you're gonna be safe. Andyou just remember I love you. And
I said I love you too,and you know, the light change.
I got back on my bike andI kept going and to me that's legacy.
Right to me, that's legacy becauseI paid it forward in so many
ways just like that, and Igot it back and I'll never forget that.
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To me, that's legacy. Idon't think it's about making millions of
dollars. I think it's about makinga million moments where people feel whole and
seen. That's what I think itis. So yeah, I think I've
cried on this podcast two weeks inrows. I gotta go, y'all freaking
me out. Stay tuned for thebook report. I'll catch you next week.
(11:16):
We back. It's time for thebook of board people. It's time
for the book report. All right, Well you already know what it is
because I already talked about it,and it is the twenty five year aniversary
of the twenty one Irrefutable Laws ofLeadership. Man saying again, the twenty
one Irrefutable Laws of Leadership. Ilove that book. I love that book
so much. I think I've readit five or six times. But I
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need to read it every six months, because girl, I need a tune
up. Okay, this this leaderright here gets a little lost in the
saw. Sometimes I fell off thetrack, but I listened to it again
and it just reminded me that Ineed to listen to it again and really
dial in. And I feel likea lot of that book speaks to me.
I definitely. You know, I'vebeen talking about my mom a little
bit, but my mom used toalways call me the Queen and the Justice
(12:00):
League, and she's tell me Iwas bossy and loud, and turns out
those is a great you know,the best ingredients for a great leader.
I give a shit about people,and I fight for the rights of other
people incessantly, and things that aren'tfair upset me. I'm a very emotional
and logic basic person, so whenthings don't make sense, it really upsets
me. Like people being treated unfairly. Don't like that, you know.
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And yes, I'm bossy, goddamnit, I'm a leader. Okay,
I could work on being less bossyin my relationships outside of business, but
those things make me a great leader. And reading that book from my friend
John C. Maxwell, I learnedthat about myself. And I don't need
to hide those things in myself.I just need to know when to use
them, when to hold them andwent and fold them like oh Willie Nelson
(12:45):
said, right, And so oh, man, that book is so good.
And so if you're just you know, if you would just want to
if you just want a little tuneup for how to be in life and
how to be a better person,this is an excellent, excellent book.
And I love his voice, andI love everything he's done. And I've
never really wanted to join like acoaching kind of program or whatever, but
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man, I would love to jointhat one because I feel like I feel
like I could do some really goodstuff with that. I feel like I
could maybe harness whatever all this stuffis. Right. See, I was
supposed to die by the time Iwas twenty. Actually that's not even true.
When the doctors diagnosed me at fifteenmonths old, they said I wouldn't
live more than twenty years. Butthe only other documented case like me die
(13:28):
by the time she was twelve.Right, And so I don't know what
I'm supposed to do here, butI know I ain't done it yet or
i'd have been gone, right.And so yeah, John C. Maxwell,
I'm saving up my pennies. Man, I'm coming for you. Please
don't leave this planet just yet.Please, I just want to shake your
hand one more time. He doesn'twant to hear that he's seventy five,
But I'm just saying that he's sharpestattack. He's gonna be run forever.
(13:50):
But I digress. John C.Maxwell, you are my like my hero
man. I really appreciate your content. And if you are listening to this,
oh, get that book. Itdoesn't matter if you think you're a
leader or not. Go get thatbook, man, Go get the book.
Go get the book. Listen onaudible. He's got a great voice
too. He's really nice to listento. And one of my favorite things
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is how he signs off. Sothis has been long enough and I'm going
to do the same thing. Andjust like John, he says, he
says that, Well, I'm gonnasay it. My name is Molly,
and I am your friend until nexttime. Well no, I'm your friend
forever, but until next time,be excellent. Thank you for tuning into
the next one hundred. Sponsored byHeartcast Media. We are a digital media
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