May 27, 2024 • 24 mins
In this episode I will share more about..
- How did I start working in the adult industry as an adult content creator on OnlyFans?
- Why and how did pleasure toys become my brand?
- How is my journey as an adult content creator?
- What other pages do I have?
- What content do I create?
- How did my friends and family react?
- What are some benefits working as an adult content creator?
- Tips for anyone considering to start their own adult content page.. and so much more
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(00:00):
Hello and welcome to the Self Love and Pleasure Podcast, a
podcast to help you unlock your deepest love and pleasure
potential for an orgasmic life to be and live pleasure lit.
I am a sex educator, Tantra practitioner, yoga teacher, PT
(00:25):
pleasure toy reviewer and adult content creator and so much more
than that. And before we're gonna get into
this delicious episode, please do me a favour, follow this
podcast, give it a rating and share it with your loved ones or
anyone who needs to know about the Self Love and Pleasure
(00:45):
podcast. Thank you so, so much.
Now let's get into it. Welcome to this episode all
about how did I get into becoming an adult content
creator? What am I currently doing where
I'm up to? What is my journey about all of
that? Because recently I went viral
(01:05):
with one of my toy reels on Instagram.
It got over a million views. I kind of hit also the wrong
audience to be honest. The people that don't really
accept pleasure toys for their partners and they were quite
shocked, which kind of opened myeyes that it is really, really
(01:26):
beneficial that I continue what I'm doing to really help
normalize self pleasure. Normalize the use of body Safer
pleasure toys to enhance your pleasure experience no matter
your gender, sexual orientation,or relationship dynamic.
I feel like I wanted to get thisout there.
(01:47):
This is a take away message. Multiple ways of how I am
helping to do this. So there are my reviews, there
is my adult content creation, which I'm going to get into in a
minute. And there's also my education as
an educator and as a coach working with me closely
one-on-one or via online courseswhere I have created and
(02:10):
launched my self love pleasure toys school where I also teach
about pleasure toys, how you canuse them because it can get
quite overwhelming. So one of the common questions
always like how did you get intotoy reviews?
And this all started with becoming an adult content
creator. And then when they find out or
when I tell like, I'm also an adult content creator.
(02:30):
Oh, how did you get into that? How did that all go?
So because it all kind of came together as a whole thing, I
thought it might be a great ideato have an episode about this.
So if you've always had a question about how did Patricia
become an adult content creator,how's it going because some of
(02:51):
you might not even know, then this episode is for you.
I started my adult fans page, which was my only fans page to
that time, in January 2022 and that was when I just moved from
South Australia to QLD. I had been working as a nurse,
(03:11):
quality coordinator, work healthand safety, infection control,
aid trainer and assessor. I had quite a few roles within
my position in aged care management, which was a really
good job, but I quit that one and left it all behind because I
did not come to Australia from Germany all the way to live in
(03:35):
South Australia remotely in the Bush.
I got quite bored there and wasn't really feeling.
There were a lot of opportunities for me to grow and
I knew I love Queensland, so I moved to Queensland and it was
towards the end of the COVID times as well.
I was also next to this working on my own business which I
(03:58):
started in 2020 as a personal trainer, nutrition coach and
back then I was a weight loss transformation coach and have
helped many women to lose weightin a really healthy way and to
keep it off long term. Due to the fact that I was
moving into state as a single mom with two kids, which was
(04:20):
quite a challenge towards the end of the COVID times, I went
full in with running my own business as APT nutrition coach,
weight loss transformation coach.
However, I lost quite a few local regular clients, obviously
because of the location change and it was quite a difficult
time to that time to really stand out as a weight loss
(04:43):
coach. Plus I also felt like it was not
really it yet and I knew I needed to make more income to
really pay the rent and to really provide for my children
so we could really build our dream life here in Queensland.
Because I wasn't a permanent resident to that time either.
(05:06):
For Australia, I did not have any financial benefits from the
government for the children or the government from Germany.
So I was all on my own and I also didn't have any family
around who to have taken the kids and I had quite young kids,
so I knew I needed to do something that I can do from
home as well. The way I actually found only
(05:28):
fans was because I followed a personal trainer from Germany on
Instagram. And while I was scrolling
through her profile, I'm like, oh, she's like, Oh yeah, you can
see more of me here. And I press on there and I'm
like, oh, only fans. So she was posting on there
flexing and posing videos and pics in sexy lingerie and just
(05:50):
really like highlighting her body, her muscles.
And I was like, hey, I'm doing that for free on my Instagram at
the moment, posing and flexing, which comes really good.
Why don't I put that on only fans And within a day I signed
up. Did not know what I'm going to
get myself into. I had never heard about Only
Fans before that. The second day after I've signed
(06:14):
up, I told everyone about it. I'm like, I'm on Only Fans.
Put it on my private Facebook, told everyone, everyone I knew
that I'm on Only Fans, not knowing what quite a lot of
people actually do on Only Fans.And one of them of my friends
pointed out to me and said, Patricia, Are you sure you
actually want to tell everybody that you are on Only Fans and
(06:36):
how much are you? I'm showing of yourself on there
And I'm like, what do you mean? So and then I actually got to
know a little bit more about Only Fans.
By that time I had already told everybody and have also said
well I'm not using this to create any porn, I'm not gonna
go nude on there. I'm just gonna do some sexy
(06:56):
posing instead of putting it on Instagram, which would got
really interesting anyway because Instagram got by that
time really funny was like showing a lot of skin.
This was basically the start of my only fans journey.
I did not know anybody who was in there so I didn't really had
any guidelines. It was pretty much learning by
(07:17):
doing, researching it, and then obviously I went onto Reddit,
Twitter, created my Instagram, and I knew I needed to promote
it. There came a little bit more of
the background of like I alreadyknew how to run a business and
run an online business and I knew about promoting and
marketing, etc. So I kind of already put that
into place to avoid unhappy fans.
(07:40):
I really put it clear into the profile description in the bio
what they could expect, but it didn't need very long until I
actually started to open myself up to the opportunity of like,
hi, I could show a little bit more of me.
I did recline quite a few requests at that stage because I
(08:01):
wasn't ready. And for anyone who's listening
and thinking about it, this is definitely 1 tip.
Only go as far as you feel comfortable doing.
It is totally OK if you have gotyour limits and your boundaries,
which is actually like really, really beneficial for yourself.
And most of the times you slowlyprogress into a little bit more,
(08:23):
but you don't have to. And if you do, take your time
and do only what feels comfortable to you.
So I did decline a few things back then, especially because I
wasn't really happy with my saggy mom boobs to that stage.
But over time, I became much, much more confident in myself
(08:43):
and in my body. And that is because I had quite
a few lovely and loyal fans who pointed out all the good things
about me. I loved receiving all these
compliments. Wow, your thighs are so amazing.
Oh my God, you've got such long legs.
Oh my God, your armpits, Oh my God, your feet.
Oh my God, your beautiful boobs,all your long hair, all your
(09:06):
glasses. Oh, when you do this and all
when you do that. And it just really lifted my
mood and really helped myself self esteem and myself
confidence. I've always been quite open
minded so I kind of knew that I'm going to progress in that
stage eventually. But I really took my time to be
comfortable with each stage thatI progressed.
(09:28):
Then I started to put up nudes and eventually the next step was
I created videos. By that time I used my only fans
to self pleasure, but recorded so I could actually share it
using various pleasure toys, sextoys until I was running out of
what I actually had. And I'm a person who likes to
(09:52):
change things up to keep things exciting and I'm experimental
and I'm a little bit kinky. I'm that energetic central kinky
type. So I wanted more sex toys so I
could try a few new things and do them as like reviews.
And this is how I then started my sex toy reviews, My pleasure
(10:12):
toy reviews. I created a YouTube channel,
went through all the toys that I've already had, made reviews
of them, and then I reached out to some brands and retailers and
asked them if they would give mea free toy for a review to put
on my channel. They quickly saw the opportunity
there because my channel was growing really fast at that
(10:33):
time. It was about 4-5 months in after
I've started. That was in April.
So I started my only fans in January and then that was April
when I started my YouTube channel with the toy reviews.
So I used that toy on my only fans made a video, I testing it,
but sharing it on my adult fans page so my fans can see how I'm
(10:56):
using it, what I'm doing, am I enjoying it, what is happening
with it? And then I create my reviews
with it on my channel, which I like the more safe for work
reviews. And this was growing and hitting
off really, really well. And I had so much fun creating
it that at this stage and you, Idon't think I want to go back to
(11:21):
nursing or working in aged care or I'm working in HK management.
So by that time I enjoyed creating content a lot more and
it slowly progressed into becoming one of my main parts
because it was hitting off so well.
Also because it was after the COVID times, the sex toy market
was booming. I ended up with getting a lot of
(11:44):
free sex toys and it started to become work.
This was a moment when I actually then started to charge
for the toy reviews. Now by that time family friends
have already also figured out that I have progressed in my
journey on only fans and have started to create more adult
(12:05):
content by solo playing by usingsex toys.
I have one of the questions coming in in regards to like how
did your family react? How did your friends react?
Do you get any negative comments?
How would you deal with that? And with that being said, it
doesn't matter what you do in life, you will always receive
negative comments from somewhereor someone.
(12:28):
And this is usually a projectionof themselves.
So either they're not educated enough, so they just don't know
what they have got certain perspectives because they have
guilt, shame, jealousy. They feel like they would love
to do the same, but they don't feel brave enough.
So there are different reasons why someone might share their
(12:51):
unnecessary negative opinion with you.
You can't change that. But what you can change is the
way how you react to it and knowing that it will happen no
matter what you do, no matter. Because when I was doing my
fitness, my PT, and was a weightloss coach, the same thing
happened to me because I was training quite a lot.
Don't train so much. You're going to start to look
(13:12):
bulky. Oh, you don't look like you're
going to eat cake. You're going to get comments.
So it doesn't matter what you do.
So my tip in this regards, do what makes you truly happy.
Do what makes you happy. Because no matter what you're
going to do, you're going to getthe comments anyway.
And the best way to react to it is pick your battles.
(13:33):
If it's coming out of really noteducated enough, not
understanding and they are actually curious about it,
provide the education. If that's coming from a
different perspective and they actually need to do some, you
know, work, don't fight it. Just turn around.
Leave it be. If it's in social media, it's
(13:53):
usually I ignore it. Blog, it depends.
I rarely get onto the comments though.
With the latest real that went viral.
I just realized there's a huge gap in education.
So here and there I put then comment on there to try to
educate, but then you see sometimes where it works and
(14:14):
where it doesn't work and you get kind of a little bit of a
sense when it's worth it to put energy into it or where it's
better to just leave it by friends and family.
So family is far away in Germanyand there's a good reason why
I'm living in Australia. So there's that friends that has
(14:35):
changed quite a bit from the moment that I actually separated
and I changed my whole life. I went into fitness, healthier
eating, not stopping drinking, all these party people,
different people. I just cut things loose.
So my friend circle network has changed over the last few years
(14:57):
anyway, so now I'm embracing myself.
The right people will meet, accept me and love me the way I
am. I've still got my bestie from
2011. She is with me the whole
journey, she supports me no matter what and the right people
will. They will want me to be my most
(15:17):
authentic self and to deeply love myself and embrace myself
and experience more pleasure. As you could just hear, there
are quite a few benefits that came out of my journey as an
adult content creator, which started as Only Fans and then I
also started a lawyer fans, fansLee.
I'm also on pawn up. Well, that journey helped me to
fall in love with myself, to fall in love with myself, to
(15:39):
fall in love with my body, to actually get get to know my body
and to experience more love, more pleasure.
I was considering working in that spectrum of sexuality many,
many, many years ago and step bystep I it opened one door after
(16:00):
the next door. So I started with the adult
content creation and in that time my toy reviews from moving
from lifting heavy weights and being in that masculine doing,
doing, doing, doing. I found yoga.
I love for yoga because it was flowing.
It was more feminine. I was a little bit more in my
body space which helped me to open up there did my yoga
(16:22):
teacher, did my meditation and breath work, did my Reiki.
I also did my trauma and formed certificate and I did my somatic
sex coaching course and Tantra practitioner because I knew
already there that there is a huge gap in education around
(16:42):
sexuality, sex and that this is also a huge part in loving
yourself and experiencing more pleasure.
And what I learnt out of that was helping so many women to
lose weight in a healthy way. They all had the same results at
the end. They said after doing my
programs, thank you Patricia. I'm loving myself more because
(17:07):
ultimately they came in because they wanted to lose weight.
Thinking weight loss equals happiness, but living a
healthier lifestyle because thisis what I taught them.
Move your body, how to eat healthy, how to look after
yourself, stress management, sleep management.
All of that helped them to care about themselves more, to look
after themselves more, which ledto them loving themselves more.
(17:29):
And spirit and sexuality is alsohuge part in that.
To love yourself more, to get toknow your own body and to
experience more pleasure becauseyourself.
Love is the foundation of your happiest, most successful and
most pleasurable life. This is what I would like to say
and it's true when you think about it.
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When you love yourself fully anddeeply and embrace your most
authentic self, you experience more pleasure and everything
else will fall into place. You will be a better person, a
better partner, a better parent,a better work colleague,
business owner, a better everything.
It's all starts with you and it let me from one step to the next
to the next to the next to become a sex educator, to become
(18:15):
the pleasure toy queen, to launch myself Love pleasure Toy
school, helping adults to fall in love with themselves, to
experience more pleasure and also to have fun along the way.
Exploring different pleasure toys, sex toys, embracing my
sexuality, helping to normalize self pleasure and the use of
body safe are pleasure toys and putting it out there.
(18:38):
Showing myself how toys can be used for self pleasure and
having so much fun along the wayand having a good income to
build the life of my dreams for myself and my kids.
I also had the question of why sex toys, why pleasure toys, why
solo content? Why not create content with
(19:00):
another content creator? I think it kind of self explains
it now after you've heard my journey.
I also think it was a right pathfor me personally to take the
time to get to know my own self,get to know my own body, learn
more about sexuality, sex, pleasure, toys, but myself, self
(19:21):
love and everything combining itand to really take the time to
also heal from the past. And as a single full time mom,
you don't really have the time to go out and explore and travel
and do collapse all the time. And I've always had a passion
for sex toys. I love exploring, I love
(19:42):
variety. When I started my Only Fans, I
started as Trisha's life. Basically, this is my life and
I'm just going to share it with you, which has now rebranded to
Pleasure Toy Queen because it has really become my brand.
So Pleasure Toys my brand all the way through.
In each part of my business, if it's adult content creation, if
(20:05):
it is my toy reviews, if it is my sex education, it is a part
of all of that. So it is the pleasure toy queen,
which now has also changed on mylawyer fans, which I really love
that platform and fancily. And you can also see that now
pleasure to a queen on Pornhub, which I actually have two
(20:25):
channels, which is one for the reviews and one for the adult
content creation, but a softer, more teasing version For the
good stuff. You will have to go to the other
pages. And I had the question also in
regards to like future. So how long am I going to do
this? Am I going to start creating
content with others? And now there's always a little
(20:47):
bit of hope that I might do somecontent with other creators.
And to be honest, it has been onmy mind as well recently.
And I'm not going to say it's not going to happen.
However, the way I would probably approach it, which I am
considering, is creating contentwith others in regards to how
can you use toys in couples play?
(21:08):
How can you use how could I use toys with another female?
How could I use toys with another with a male?
How can you include toys when you have a stray sum?
Something like this is on my mind and it's something cooking
and I will keep you posted. For how long am I gonna still do
this? I don't know.
I am enjoying it. Who knows what's gonna happen in
(21:29):
five years and 10 years. The transformation that I've
done, the past I've been on within the last five years,
blowing my mind and I I'm at thehappiest, healthiest and most
successful stage of my life. At this stage, I'm loving the
path that I'm on and I've got big goals.
(21:50):
So I'm just excited for life andto open myself up to even more
love and pleasure. There were so many other things
that I actually wanted to get into, but I also don't want to
blow this episode. If you've got any more specific
questions in regards to my adultcontent creation journey, let me
know. Just a few tips in regards to if
(22:13):
you are considering starting to become an adult content creator.
Make sure you sit down with yourself, check in with yourself
why you want to do it or you accidentally just slide into it
doing it like I did just fitness.
And then, oh, I can actually do this.
Oh, I'm actually comfortable doing that.
(22:34):
But otherwise, if it's somethingthat you want to consider with
your partner, like sit down and go through the reason why you
want to do it. And then really just do what
feels comfortable to you. Find your own limits, find your
boundaries, stick to them, do lots of research, learn from
(22:54):
other creators, reach out to them.
And also, it is a lot more work than you would think.
When I hear comments like oh they just do a couple of photos
and a bit of videos and make bigmoney.
There's so much work going on behind the scenes and you could
have the best content on your page, but if you don't do any
promotion, then no one's going to know about it.
(23:16):
Suddenly you won't have an audience, you won't have a fans
base. So there's a lot of work going
into promotion and to really just marketing yourself, find
your own niche, your brand, do what makes you happy.
You don't have to create contentwith others.
You can be successful as a solo content creator.
The thing is, you need to find your thing that's like your
(23:39):
unique gift, your unique talent,whatever it is, highlight that,
embrace that and have fun, enjoyyourself.
So probably some more tips that I've got, but this is what I can
just think of right now. But happy to chat there as well.
So if you are considering it, reach out and I'm happy to help.
(23:59):
And with that being said, it is a pleasure toy Queen on all the
good platforms for the adult content creation.
I will probably see you there orif you would like to learn more
on how you can work on the relationship with yourself.
To deepen the relationship with yourself.
To fall in love with yourself and become the love of your
(24:22):
life. To experience and unlock more
pleasure with or without the useof body safe or pleasure toys
and then come and join myself Love pleasure toys school
online. You can also work with me
one-on-one via my online coaching.
And if you're after new toys, ifyou want to explore, go check
out my reviews. More details on how to join it
(24:44):
all you will find at selflovepleasure.com.
I will hear you. See you in one of my next
episodes. With love and pleasure.
Hello and welcome to the Self Love and Pleasure Podcast, a
podcast to help you unlock your deepest love and pleasure
potential for an orgasmic life to be and live pleasure lit.
I am a sex educator, Tantra practitioner, yoga teacher, PT
(00:25):
pleasure toy reviewer and adult content creator and so much more
than that. And before we're gonna get into
this delicious episode, please do me a favour, follow this
podcast, give it a rating and share it with your loved ones or
anyone who needs to know about the Self Love and Pleasure
(00:45):
podcast. Thank you so, so much.
Now let's get into it. Welcome to this episode all
about how did I get into becoming an adult content
creator? What am I currently doing where
I'm up to? What is my journey about all of
that? Because recently I went viral
(01:05):
with one of my toy reels on Instagram.
It got over a million views. I kind of hit also the wrong
audience to be honest. The people that don't really
accept pleasure toys for their partners and they were quite
shocked, which kind of opened myeyes that it is really, really
(01:26):
beneficial that I continue what I'm doing to really help
normalize self pleasure. Normalize the use of body Safer
pleasure toys to enhance your pleasure experience no matter
your gender, sexual orientation,or relationship dynamic.
I feel like I wanted to get thisout there.
(01:47):
This is a take away message. Multiple ways of how I am
helping to do this. So there are my reviews, there
is my adult content creation, which I'm going to get into in a
minute. And there's also my education as
an educator and as a coach working with me closely
one-on-one or via online courseswhere I have created and
(02:10):
launched my self love pleasure toys school where I also teach
about pleasure toys, how you canuse them because it can get
quite overwhelming. So one of the common questions
always like how did you get intotoy reviews?
And this all started with becoming an adult content
creator. And then when they find out or
when I tell like, I'm also an adult content creator.
(02:30):
Oh, how did you get into that? How did that all go?
So because it all kind of came together as a whole thing, I
thought it might be a great ideato have an episode about this.
So if you've always had a question about how did Patricia
become an adult content creator,how's it going because some of
(02:51):
you might not even know, then this episode is for you.
I started my adult fans page, which was my only fans page to
that time, in January 2022 and that was when I just moved from
South Australia to QLD. I had been working as a nurse,
(03:11):
quality coordinator, work healthand safety, infection control,
aid trainer and assessor. I had quite a few roles within
my position in aged care management, which was a really
good job, but I quit that one and left it all behind because I
did not come to Australia from Germany all the way to live in
(03:35):
South Australia remotely in the Bush.
I got quite bored there and wasn't really feeling.
There were a lot of opportunities for me to grow and
I knew I love Queensland, so I moved to Queensland and it was
towards the end of the COVID times as well.
I was also next to this working on my own business which I
(03:58):
started in 2020 as a personal trainer, nutrition coach and
back then I was a weight loss transformation coach and have
helped many women to lose weightin a really healthy way and to
keep it off long term. Due to the fact that I was
moving into state as a single mom with two kids, which was
(04:20):
quite a challenge towards the end of the COVID times, I went
full in with running my own business as APT nutrition coach,
weight loss transformation coach.
However, I lost quite a few local regular clients, obviously
because of the location change and it was quite a difficult
time to that time to really stand out as a weight loss
(04:43):
coach. Plus I also felt like it was not
really it yet and I knew I needed to make more income to
really pay the rent and to really provide for my children
so we could really build our dream life here in Queensland.
Because I wasn't a permanent resident to that time either.
(05:06):
For Australia, I did not have any financial benefits from the
government for the children or the government from Germany.
So I was all on my own and I also didn't have any family
around who to have taken the kids and I had quite young kids,
so I knew I needed to do something that I can do from
home as well. The way I actually found only
(05:28):
fans was because I followed a personal trainer from Germany on
Instagram. And while I was scrolling
through her profile, I'm like, oh, she's like, Oh yeah, you can
see more of me here. And I press on there and I'm
like, oh, only fans. So she was posting on there
flexing and posing videos and pics in sexy lingerie and just
(05:50):
really like highlighting her body, her muscles.
And I was like, hey, I'm doing that for free on my Instagram at
the moment, posing and flexing, which comes really good.
Why don't I put that on only fans And within a day I signed
up. Did not know what I'm going to
get myself into. I had never heard about Only
Fans before that. The second day after I've signed
(06:14):
up, I told everyone about it. I'm like, I'm on Only Fans.
Put it on my private Facebook, told everyone, everyone I knew
that I'm on Only Fans, not knowing what quite a lot of
people actually do on Only Fans.And one of them of my friends
pointed out to me and said, Patricia, Are you sure you
actually want to tell everybody that you are on Only Fans and
(06:36):
how much are you? I'm showing of yourself on there
And I'm like, what do you mean? So and then I actually got to
know a little bit more about Only Fans.
By that time I had already told everybody and have also said
well I'm not using this to create any porn, I'm not gonna
go nude on there. I'm just gonna do some sexy
(06:56):
posing instead of putting it on Instagram, which would got
really interesting anyway because Instagram got by that
time really funny was like showing a lot of skin.
This was basically the start of my only fans journey.
I did not know anybody who was in there so I didn't really had
any guidelines. It was pretty much learning by
(07:17):
doing, researching it, and then obviously I went onto Reddit,
Twitter, created my Instagram, and I knew I needed to promote
it. There came a little bit more of
the background of like I alreadyknew how to run a business and
run an online business and I knew about promoting and
marketing, etc. So I kind of already put that
into place to avoid unhappy fans.
(07:40):
I really put it clear into the profile description in the bio
what they could expect, but it didn't need very long until I
actually started to open myself up to the opportunity of like,
hi, I could show a little bit more of me.
I did recline quite a few requests at that stage because I
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wasn't ready. And for anyone who's listening
and thinking about it, this is definitely 1 tip.
Only go as far as you feel comfortable doing.
It is totally OK if you have gotyour limits and your boundaries,
which is actually like really, really beneficial for yourself.
And most of the times you slowlyprogress into a little bit more,
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but you don't have to. And if you do, take your time
and do only what feels comfortable to you.
So I did decline a few things back then, especially because I
wasn't really happy with my saggy mom boobs to that stage.
But over time, I became much, much more confident in myself
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and in my body. And that is because I had quite
a few lovely and loyal fans who pointed out all the good things
about me. I loved receiving all these
compliments. Wow, your thighs are so amazing.
Oh my God, you've got such long legs.
Oh my God, your armpits, Oh my God, your feet.
Oh my God, your beautiful boobs,all your long hair, all your
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glasses. Oh, when you do this and all
when you do that. And it just really lifted my
mood and really helped myself self esteem and myself
confidence. I've always been quite open
minded so I kind of knew that I'm going to progress in that
stage eventually. But I really took my time to be
comfortable with each stage thatI progressed.
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Then I started to put up nudes and eventually the next step was
I created videos. By that time I used my only fans
to self pleasure, but recorded so I could actually share it
using various pleasure toys, sextoys until I was running out of
what I actually had. And I'm a person who likes to
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change things up to keep things exciting and I'm experimental
and I'm a little bit kinky. I'm that energetic central kinky
type. So I wanted more sex toys so I
could try a few new things and do them as like reviews.
And this is how I then started my sex toy reviews, My pleasure
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toy reviews. I created a YouTube channel,
went through all the toys that I've already had, made reviews
of them, and then I reached out to some brands and retailers and
asked them if they would give mea free toy for a review to put
on my channel. They quickly saw the opportunity
there because my channel was growing really fast at that
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time. It was about 4-5 months in after
I've started. That was in April.
So I started my only fans in January and then that was April
when I started my YouTube channel with the toy reviews.
So I used that toy on my only fans made a video, I testing it,
but sharing it on my adult fans page so my fans can see how I'm
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using it, what I'm doing, am I enjoying it, what is happening
with it? And then I create my reviews
with it on my channel, which I like the more safe for work
reviews. And this was growing and hitting
off really, really well. And I had so much fun creating
it that at this stage and you, Idon't think I want to go back to
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nursing or working in aged care or I'm working in HK management.
So by that time I enjoyed creating content a lot more and
it slowly progressed into becoming one of my main parts
because it was hitting off so well.
Also because it was after the COVID times, the sex toy market
was booming. I ended up with getting a lot of
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free sex toys and it started to become work.
This was a moment when I actually then started to charge
for the toy reviews. Now by that time family friends
have already also figured out that I have progressed in my
journey on only fans and have started to create more adult
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content by solo playing by usingsex toys.
I have one of the questions coming in in regards to like how
did your family react? How did your friends react?
Do you get any negative comments?
How would you deal with that? And with that being said, it
doesn't matter what you do in life, you will always receive
negative comments from somewhereor someone.
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And this is usually a projectionof themselves.
So either they're not educated enough, so they just don't know
what they have got certain perspectives because they have
guilt, shame, jealousy. They feel like they would love
to do the same, but they don't feel brave enough.
So there are different reasons why someone might share their
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unnecessary negative opinion with you.
You can't change that. But what you can change is the
way how you react to it and knowing that it will happen no
matter what you do, no matter. Because when I was doing my
fitness, my PT, and was a weightloss coach, the same thing
happened to me because I was training quite a lot.
Don't train so much. You're going to start to look
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bulky. Oh, you don't look like you're
going to eat cake. You're going to get comments.
So it doesn't matter what you do.
So my tip in this regards, do what makes you truly happy.
Do what makes you happy. Because no matter what you're
going to do, you're going to getthe comments anyway.
And the best way to react to it is pick your battles.
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If it's coming out of really noteducated enough, not
understanding and they are actually curious about it,
provide the education. If that's coming from a
different perspective and they actually need to do some, you
know, work, don't fight it. Just turn around.
Leave it be. If it's in social media, it's
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usually I ignore it. Blog, it depends.
I rarely get onto the comments though.
With the latest real that went viral.
I just realized there's a huge gap in education.
So here and there I put then comment on there to try to
educate, but then you see sometimes where it works and
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where it doesn't work and you get kind of a little bit of a
sense when it's worth it to put energy into it or where it's
better to just leave it by friends and family.
So family is far away in Germanyand there's a good reason why
I'm living in Australia. So there's that friends that has
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changed quite a bit from the moment that I actually separated
and I changed my whole life. I went into fitness, healthier
eating, not stopping drinking, all these party people,
different people. I just cut things loose.
So my friend circle network has changed over the last few years
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anyway, so now I'm embracing myself.
The right people will meet, accept me and love me the way I
am. I've still got my bestie from
2011. She is with me the whole
journey, she supports me no matter what and the right people
will. They will want me to be my most
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authentic self and to deeply love myself and embrace myself
and experience more pleasure. As you could just hear, there
are quite a few benefits that came out of my journey as an
adult content creator, which started as Only Fans and then I
also started a lawyer fans, fansLee.
I'm also on pawn up. Well, that journey helped me to
fall in love with myself, to fall in love with myself, to
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fall in love with my body, to actually get get to know my body
and to experience more love, more pleasure.
I was considering working in that spectrum of sexuality many,
many, many years ago and step bystep I it opened one door after
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the next door. So I started with the adult
content creation and in that time my toy reviews from moving
from lifting heavy weights and being in that masculine doing,
doing, doing, doing. I found yoga.
I love for yoga because it was flowing.
It was more feminine. I was a little bit more in my
body space which helped me to open up there did my yoga
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teacher, did my meditation and breath work, did my Reiki.
I also did my trauma and formed certificate and I did my somatic
sex coaching course and Tantra practitioner because I knew
already there that there is a huge gap in education around
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sexuality, sex and that this is also a huge part in loving
yourself and experiencing more pleasure.
And what I learnt out of that was helping so many women to
lose weight in a healthy way. They all had the same results at
the end. They said after doing my
programs, thank you Patricia. I'm loving myself more because
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ultimately they came in because they wanted to lose weight.
Thinking weight loss equals happiness, but living a
healthier lifestyle because thisis what I taught them.
Move your body, how to eat healthy, how to look after
yourself, stress management, sleep management.
All of that helped them to care about themselves more, to look
after themselves more, which ledto them loving themselves more.
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And spirit and sexuality is alsohuge part in that.
To love yourself more, to get toknow your own body and to
experience more pleasure becauseyourself.
Love is the foundation of your happiest, most successful and
most pleasurable life. This is what I would like to say
and it's true when you think about it.
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When you love yourself fully anddeeply and embrace your most
authentic self, you experience more pleasure and everything
else will fall into place. You will be a better person, a
better partner, a better parent,a better work colleague,
business owner, a better everything.
It's all starts with you and it let me from one step to the next
to the next to the next to become a sex educator, to become
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the pleasure toy queen, to launch myself Love pleasure Toy
school, helping adults to fall in love with themselves, to
experience more pleasure and also to have fun along the way.
Exploring different pleasure toys, sex toys, embracing my
sexuality, helping to normalize self pleasure and the use of
body safe are pleasure toys and putting it out there.
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Showing myself how toys can be used for self pleasure and
having so much fun along the wayand having a good income to
build the life of my dreams for myself and my kids.
I also had the question of why sex toys, why pleasure toys, why
solo content? Why not create content with
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another content creator? I think it kind of self explains
it now after you've heard my journey.
I also think it was a right pathfor me personally to take the
time to get to know my own self,get to know my own body, learn
more about sexuality, sex, pleasure, toys, but myself, self
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love and everything combining itand to really take the time to
also heal from the past. And as a single full time mom,
you don't really have the time to go out and explore and travel
and do collapse all the time. And I've always had a passion
for sex toys. I love exploring, I love
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variety. When I started my Only Fans, I
started as Trisha's life. Basically, this is my life and
I'm just going to share it with you, which has now rebranded to
Pleasure Toy Queen because it has really become my brand.
So Pleasure Toys my brand all the way through.
In each part of my business, if it's adult content creation, if
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it is my toy reviews, if it is my sex education, it is a part
of all of that. So it is the pleasure toy queen,
which now has also changed on mylawyer fans, which I really love
that platform and fancily. And you can also see that now
pleasure to a queen on Pornhub, which I actually have two
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channels, which is one for the reviews and one for the adult
content creation, but a softer, more teasing version For the
good stuff. You will have to go to the other
pages. And I had the question also in
regards to like future. So how long am I going to do
this? Am I going to start creating
content with others? And now there's always a little
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bit of hope that I might do somecontent with other creators.
And to be honest, it has been onmy mind as well recently.
And I'm not going to say it's not going to happen.
However, the way I would probably approach it, which I am
considering, is creating contentwith others in regards to how
can you use toys in couples play?
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How can you use how could I use toys with another female?
How could I use toys with another with a male?
How can you include toys when you have a stray sum?
Something like this is on my mind and it's something cooking
and I will keep you posted. For how long am I gonna still do
this? I don't know.
I am enjoying it. Who knows what's gonna happen in
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five years and 10 years. The transformation that I've
done, the past I've been on within the last five years,
blowing my mind and I I'm at thehappiest, healthiest and most
successful stage of my life. At this stage, I'm loving the
path that I'm on and I've got big goals.
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So I'm just excited for life andto open myself up to even more
love and pleasure. There were so many other things
that I actually wanted to get into, but I also don't want to
blow this episode. If you've got any more specific
questions in regards to my adultcontent creation journey, let me
know. Just a few tips in regards to if
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you are considering starting to become an adult content creator.
Make sure you sit down with yourself, check in with yourself
why you want to do it or you accidentally just slide into it
doing it like I did just fitness.
And then, oh, I can actually do this.
Oh, I'm actually comfortable doing that.
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But otherwise, if it's somethingthat you want to consider with
your partner, like sit down and go through the reason why you
want to do it. And then really just do what
feels comfortable to you. Find your own limits, find your
boundaries, stick to them, do lots of research, learn from
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other creators, reach out to them.
And also, it is a lot more work than you would think.
When I hear comments like oh they just do a couple of photos
and a bit of videos and make bigmoney.
There's so much work going on behind the scenes and you could
have the best content on your page, but if you don't do any
promotion, then no one's going to know about it.
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Suddenly you won't have an audience, you won't have a fans
base. So there's a lot of work going
into promotion and to really just marketing yourself, find
your own niche, your brand, do what makes you happy.
You don't have to create contentwith others.
You can be successful as a solo content creator.
The thing is, you need to find your thing that's like your
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unique gift, your unique talent,whatever it is, highlight that,
embrace that and have fun, enjoyyourself.
So probably some more tips that I've got, but this is what I can
just think of right now. But happy to chat there as well.
So if you are considering it, reach out and I'm happy to help.
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And with that being said, it is a pleasure toy Queen on all the
good platforms for the adult content creation.
I will probably see you there orif you would like to learn more
on how you can work on the relationship with yourself.
To deepen the relationship with yourself.
To fall in love with yourself and become the love of your
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life. To experience and unlock more
pleasure with or without the useof body safe or pleasure toys
and then come and join myself Love pleasure toys school
online. You can also work with me
one-on-one via my online coaching.
And if you're after new toys, ifyou want to explore, go check
out my reviews. More details on how to join it
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all you will find at selflovepleasure.com.
I will hear you. See you in one of my next
episodes. With love and pleasure.
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