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(00:00):
Well, I had penetrative sex after over three years.
Welcome to the Pleasure Lit Podcast, a podcast to inspire
and empower you on your pleasurejourney.
Hi, I am Pleasure with Patricia,your trusted, multi
(00:21):
award-winning and certified pleasure Educator and creator,
guiding you on your journey to awaken, deepen, widen and
embrace your pleasure potential through unapologetic self love,
empowered exploration, embodied self-care, nourishing
(00:47):
connections and relationships, and conscious King, BDSM, Tantra
and so many other delicious pleasure practices.
Let's be and live the pleasure lit way.
Yes, you have that right and it's hard to believe when you
know that. I am a multi award-winning and
(01:09):
certified Pleasure educator and since I am sharing a lot about
my life and experience, especially in regards to
pleasure, I've received quite a few questions and comments about
what really why? Why is it taking you so long?
So let's talk about it. Let's unpack it together because
(01:32):
if a few already have these questions, I know there will be
a few more of you will have those questions.
I have actually made an episode,I believe after a year of not
having penetrative sex. So you can also tune into that
one by giving you a little background.
So it all started when I was moving into state from South
(01:54):
Australia to Queensland. And because as a full time
single mom with two young children, it is not as easy to
actually have time for yourself without the kids.
So naturally I didn't really have much time to date people
above that. I came out of a situationship
that didn't meet my needs, and casual dating is really tricky
(02:20):
for someone who needs to have a deeper connection to someone to
really open up and let go. And then I also started kind of
a new career path. I was a fitness trainer at that
stage with nutrition background,helping especially women to lose
weight, build muscle mass, become more stronger and
(02:43):
confident in themselves. But I then came across someone
who was also a PT but also creating adult content and that
really made me curious and I tipped my toes into that water
and started swimming. Before I knew it, I was creating
adult content as a solo content creator to change things up.
(03:07):
As a solo content creator, I started to use my toys and tools
that I had always had a passion for.
Toys and tools for exploration, for fun and sharing my journey
in one way or another. And that is when I actually
started to focus on myself. So instead of dating other
(03:27):
people, I then decided, you knowwhat?
I will start dating pleasure toys and tools.
I will explore them. I will explore my own body and
become really confident and comfortable and pleasure
embodied with myself. And to be honest, that was
(03:47):
exactly what I needed. It was the best decision to
deepen myself, love and to unlock my ultimate pleasure
potential. So over the three years I've
been focusing on deepening myself, love, getting to know my
body, getting to know myself andI have developed a love to
(04:11):
myself that I did not think was possible.
I have unlocked pleasures and pleasure features that I have
not thought possible. The first internal orgasm,
multiple orgasm, full body orgasm, energetic orgasms.
I have explored Tantra. I have then also gone deeper
(04:35):
into studying sex coaching because I got so curious about
what my body can do because I knew there was more more to
explore. Also discovered along that way,
that cell of love is the foundation of everything of your
(04:57):
happiest, most successful and most pleasurable life.
It all starts from within of howwe feel about ourselves, how we
love ourselves and care about ourselves.
And once we've unlocked that cell of love and get to know our
own body and what's possible andtake responsibility and claim
(05:19):
love and pleasure, this is when the magic happens and it all
starts because we're unlocking that.
And then we can deepen that. And when we are ready, we can
expand and widen it through exploration, sharing it with
others. So only now I'm ready to expand
and widen that pleasure potential and my love.
(05:42):
I needed that time to focus on myself, to really get to know
me, and normally now I feel ready to share that.
Curious to see what real, raw and unapologetic pleasure looks
like? Step into my private pleasure
(06:04):
playground at Pleasure Lit Patricia where I share my
personal and very intimate pleasure exploration journey
with you, including the exploration of pleasure,
sensations, toys, King Tantra and so much more.
(06:27):
This is your front row seat to real passion, real play and the
confidence of a woman claiming her pleasure.
Join me at pleasure LED Patriciato experience pleasure
uncensored. Those three years were deeply
(06:51):
sensual, deeply playful. These were three years of self
exploration and unlocking the deepest kind of self love and
pleasure that is for myself. To the point that I love turning
myself on. I love spending time with
myself. I love to watch myself like I am
(07:15):
deeply in love with myself. To the point even that others
feel intimidated now by my confidence and self love and the
way I claim my own pleasure. They believe, from what I hear,
that I've always been that way, but I haven't.
If you actually would have met me like my past version of 15
(07:37):
years ago, 10 years ago, that version of me didn't love
herself, was looking for love and external validation, were to
be loved and seen by others. She was a papal pleaser,
desperate, doing things that shedidn't actually wanted to do,
(07:57):
got mistreated, taken advantage of, couldn't communicate her
desires because she didn't even know your own desires.
She couldn't communicate her boundaries.
And then over the years and especially the last three to
five years, I have progressed and become this confident,
(08:18):
empowered, pleasure embodied version.
Are you ready to become the Queen or King of Pleasure?
Whether you are craving deeper connection, kinky play or more
delicious confidence with your toys and tools, my pleasure
(08:40):
packed online courses are here to guide you.
From the sacred art of Tantric King to hands on exploration
with toys and tools to embodied kink, there's something here for
everybody and every craving. These courses are designed to
(09:02):
awaken, accusate and empower you. 0 shame and all the juicy
pleasure guidance that you deserve.
So if you are ready to play unapologetically a love deeper
and pleasure better hadtopleasurelit.com and let's
(09:26):
be and live the pleasurelit way.Now do I say that everybody
needs to take three years of having patriot sex and just tune
inwards and play with yourself for the next three years.
Explore yourself. I'm not saying that you need to
do it. However, if you are struggling
(09:47):
with self love, if you're struggling with pleasure, it is
really a sign to work on the connection with yourself.
You can be in a partnership and still work on the connection
with yourself. Talking about all of this
actually reminds me of my book that I've just finished writing,
(10:07):
and I can't wait for you all to have it in your hands.
It's going to come out soon because that is your guide, your
tool kit to help you unlock, deepen, and then widen and
expand your pleasure potential. And in there, I actually take
(10:29):
you along my journey of how I have unlocked that, how I have
made that transformation. Because if I can do it, you can
too. There is a better life out there
for you. There is pleasure already at
your hands, already within you. It is about unlocking it,
harnessing it, and then deepening that connection with
(10:52):
yourself and expanding it. Then sharing it with your
lovers. Connections with the ones that
you want to share it with. So make sure you're going to
pleasurelit.com and get on my e-mail list.
Honestly, I am super proud of myself now looking back to how
far I've come now being able to communicate my desires, claim my
(11:16):
pleasure, the connection I have with myself.
Also setting healthy boundaries.The approach I have now to
pleasure to connecting with others has changed.
It's not coming out of a need because I seek the validation or
I need to be loved. I need to be seen.
And then doing things to just place the other.
(11:36):
But actually coming together of wanting to create something even
better. Sharing pleasure together,
sharing the love together, opening each other up, and then
really enhancing that to have more and better and deeper
pleasure and love together. Oh, it's so juicy and delicious.
(11:58):
So yes, it really, it really changed a lot for me in the most
positive way to take those threeyears to just really deeply
connect with myself. Ready to turn up your pleasure
and treat yourself to something deliciously divine?
(12:19):
I have hand picked my absolute favorite pleasure products just
for you. Your pleasure is always worth
investing in and especially whenit knows exactly how to tease
and take you riding those peak pleasure waves.
(12:42):
Slip into my world at pleasuretoyqueen.com and
discover my favorite collectionsof pleasure products, the ones
that I truly love and that will have you moaning in gratitude.
And guess what? You don't have to pay full
price. Use my exclusive discount codes
(13:05):
today to indulge a little deeperand let your next adventure
begin in pure, unapologetic pleasure.
You deserve it. Delicious, and I am so excited
for what's to come next. Now that I'm opening myself up
to really expand and share it with others, I'm actually
(13:28):
getting goosebumps and really leaning into my desires,
honoring my desires and my boundaries.
Really listening to myself, my body or and then when you create
something really beautiful with a connection, creating a safe
container, safety, trust, which are some sexy words to explore,
(13:54):
to let go, to play with different pleasure energies,
exploration, toys, tools, Tantra.
There's so much goodness out there.
We've got pleasure within us. We can access that every single
day. I'm really sidetracking here.
I cannot wait for you to read mybook because that will explain
(14:15):
it all. Thank you so much for tuning
into this episode and with love and pleasure.
Well, I had penetrative sex after over three years.
Welcome to the Pleasure Lit Podcast, a podcast to inspire
and empower you on your pleasurejourney.
Hi, I am Pleasure with Patricia,your trusted, multi
(00:21):
award-winning and certified pleasure Educator and creator,
guiding you on your journey to awaken, deepen, widen and
embrace your pleasure potential through unapologetic self love,
empowered exploration, embodied self-care, nourishing
(00:47):
connections and relationships, and conscious King, BDSM, Tantra
and so many other delicious pleasure practices.
Let's be and live the pleasure lit way.
Yes, you have that right and it's hard to believe when you
know that. I am a multi award-winning and
(01:09):
certified Pleasure educator and since I am sharing a lot about
my life and experience, especially in regards to
pleasure, I've received quite a few questions and comments about
what really why? Why is it taking you so long?
So let's talk about it. Let's unpack it together because
(01:32):
if a few already have these questions, I know there will be
a few more of you will have those questions.
I have actually made an episode,I believe after a year of not
having penetrative sex. So you can also tune into that
one by giving you a little background.
So it all started when I was moving into state from South
(01:54):
Australia to Queensland. And because as a full time
single mom with two young children, it is not as easy to
actually have time for yourself without the kids.
So naturally I didn't really have much time to date people
above that. I came out of a situationship
that didn't meet my needs, and casual dating is really tricky
(02:20):
for someone who needs to have a deeper connection to someone to
really open up and let go. And then I also started kind of
a new career path. I was a fitness trainer at that
stage with nutrition background,helping especially women to lose
weight, build muscle mass, become more stronger and
(02:43):
confident in themselves. But I then came across someone
who was also a PT but also creating adult content and that
really made me curious and I tipped my toes into that water
and started swimming. Before I knew it, I was creating
adult content as a solo content creator to change things up.
(03:07):
As a solo content creator, I started to use my toys and tools
that I had always had a passion for.
Toys and tools for exploration, for fun and sharing my journey
in one way or another. And that is when I actually
started to focus on myself. So instead of dating other
(03:27):
people, I then decided, you knowwhat?
I will start dating pleasure toys and tools.
I will explore them. I will explore my own body and
become really confident and comfortable and pleasure
embodied with myself. And to be honest, that was
(03:47):
exactly what I needed. It was the best decision to
deepen myself, love and to unlock my ultimate pleasure
potential. So over the three years I've
been focusing on deepening myself, love, getting to know my
body, getting to know myself andI have developed a love to
(04:11):
myself that I did not think was possible.
I have unlocked pleasures and pleasure features that I have
not thought possible. The first internal orgasm,
multiple orgasm, full body orgasm, energetic orgasms.
I have explored Tantra. I have then also gone deeper
(04:35):
into studying sex coaching because I got so curious about
what my body can do because I knew there was more more to
explore. Also discovered along that way,
that cell of love is the foundation of everything of your
(04:57):
happiest, most successful and most pleasurable life.
It all starts from within of howwe feel about ourselves, how we
love ourselves and care about ourselves.
And once we've unlocked that cell of love and get to know our
own body and what's possible andtake responsibility and claim
(05:19):
love and pleasure, this is when the magic happens and it all
starts because we're unlocking that.
And then we can deepen that. And when we are ready, we can
expand and widen it through exploration, sharing it with
others. So only now I'm ready to expand
and widen that pleasure potential and my love.
(05:42):
I needed that time to focus on myself, to really get to know
me, and normally now I feel ready to share that.
Curious to see what real, raw and unapologetic pleasure looks
like? Step into my private pleasure
(06:04):
playground at Pleasure Lit Patricia where I share my
personal and very intimate pleasure exploration journey
with you, including the exploration of pleasure,
sensations, toys, King Tantra and so much more.
(06:27):
This is your front row seat to real passion, real play and the
confidence of a woman claiming her pleasure.
Join me at pleasure LED Patriciato experience pleasure
uncensored. Those three years were deeply
(06:51):
sensual, deeply playful. These were three years of self
exploration and unlocking the deepest kind of self love and
pleasure that is for myself. To the point that I love turning
myself on. I love spending time with
myself. I love to watch myself like I am
(07:15):
deeply in love with myself. To the point even that others
feel intimidated now by my confidence and self love and the
way I claim my own pleasure. They believe, from what I hear,
that I've always been that way, but I haven't.
If you actually would have met me like my past version of 15
(07:37):
years ago, 10 years ago, that version of me didn't love
herself, was looking for love and external validation, were to
be loved and seen by others. She was a papal pleaser,
desperate, doing things that shedidn't actually wanted to do,
(07:57):
got mistreated, taken advantage of, couldn't communicate her
desires because she didn't even know your own desires.
She couldn't communicate her boundaries.
And then over the years and especially the last three to
five years, I have progressed and become this confident,
(08:18):
empowered, pleasure embodied version.
Are you ready to become the Queen or King of Pleasure?
Whether you are craving deeper connection, kinky play or more
delicious confidence with your toys and tools, my pleasure
(08:40):
packed online courses are here to guide you.
From the sacred art of Tantric King to hands on exploration
with toys and tools to embodied kink, there's something here for
everybody and every craving. These courses are designed to
(09:02):
awaken, accusate and empower you. 0 shame and all the juicy
pleasure guidance that you deserve.
So if you are ready to play unapologetically a love deeper
and pleasure better hadtopleasurelit.com and let's
(09:26):
be and live the pleasurelit way.Now do I say that everybody
needs to take three years of having patriot sex and just tune
inwards and play with yourself for the next three years.
Explore yourself. I'm not saying that you need to
do it. However, if you are struggling
(09:47):
with self love, if you're struggling with pleasure, it is
really a sign to work on the connection with yourself.
You can be in a partnership and still work on the connection
with yourself. Talking about all of this
actually reminds me of my book that I've just finished writing,
(10:07):
and I can't wait for you all to have it in your hands.
It's going to come out soon because that is your guide, your
tool kit to help you unlock, deepen, and then widen and
expand your pleasure potential. And in there, I actually take
(10:29):
you along my journey of how I have unlocked that, how I have
made that transformation. Because if I can do it, you can
too. There is a better life out there
for you. There is pleasure already at
your hands, already within you. It is about unlocking it,
harnessing it, and then deepening that connection with
(10:52):
yourself and expanding it. Then sharing it with your
lovers. Connections with the ones that
you want to share it with. So make sure you're going to
pleasurelit.com and get on my e-mail list.
Honestly, I am super proud of myself now looking back to how
far I've come now being able to communicate my desires, claim my
(11:16):
pleasure, the connection I have with myself.
Also setting healthy boundaries.The approach I have now to
pleasure to connecting with others has changed.
It's not coming out of a need because I seek the validation or
I need to be loved. I need to be seen.
And then doing things to just place the other.
(11:36):
But actually coming together of wanting to create something even
better. Sharing pleasure together,
sharing the love together, opening each other up, and then
really enhancing that to have more and better and deeper
pleasure and love together. Oh, it's so juicy and delicious.
(11:58):
So yes, it really, it really changed a lot for me in the most
positive way to take those threeyears to just really deeply
connect with myself. Ready to turn up your pleasure
and treat yourself to something deliciously divine?
(12:19):
I have hand picked my absolute favorite pleasure products just
for you. Your pleasure is always worth
investing in and especially whenit knows exactly how to tease
and take you riding those peak pleasure waves.
(12:42):
Slip into my world at pleasuretoyqueen.com and
discover my favorite collectionsof pleasure products, the ones
that I truly love and that will have you moaning in gratitude.
And guess what? You don't have to pay full
price. Use my exclusive discount codes
(13:05):
today to indulge a little deeperand let your next adventure
begin in pure, unapologetic pleasure.
You deserve it. Delicious, and I am so excited
for what's to come next. Now that I'm opening myself up
to really expand and share it with others, I'm actually
(13:28):
getting goosebumps and really leaning into my desires,
honoring my desires and my boundaries.
Really listening to myself, my body or and then when you create
something really beautiful with a connection, creating a safe
container, safety, trust, which are some sexy words to explore,
(13:54):
to let go, to play with different pleasure energies,
exploration, toys, tools, Tantra.
There's so much goodness out there.
We've got pleasure within us. We can access that every single
day. I'm really sidetracking here.
I cannot wait for you to read mybook because that will explain
(14:15):
it all. Thank you so much for tuning
into this episode and with love and pleasure.
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