Intuitive Book Editing The Pleasurelit Way with Ruth Fae

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I cannot tell you how just reading some of the things you
shared has helped me become moreaware of some of my, I guess,
standard responses. Like holding your breath in an
orgasm like that was a oh, do I do that?
Hang on a minute. Yeah, actually, I do.
Let's try and do it differently.Hello and welcome back to
another episode of the Pleasure LED Podcast, a podcast to help

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you awaken, deepen and widen your pleasure potential.
Hi, I am pleasure Lead Patricia,from people pleasing to pleasure
leading, I guide you into magnetic confidence, empowered
pleasure play, and conscious connections through the Pleasure
Lead way. A fusion of deep education, real

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shared experiences and embodied pleasure.
With over 20 certifications and over 350 pleasure tools and
practices explored, I know how to embody self love, reclaim
pleasure and be fully turned on to be and live pleasure lit.
And in today's episode, I've gota beautiful guest speaker with

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me and I'm just very, very excited because it and it is
someone who's helped me to bringmy book, The Pleasurelit Way,
which is available on the 9th ofJuly 2025.
Very excited. Someone who helped me to bring
this vision to life. And I thought it would be such a
beautiful way to speak about book writing, publishing and all

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of that with her on the podcast.But before we're going to get
into it, I would love it if you could screenshot the podcast and
share it on your social medias. Take me and the guest speaker in
it so we can see it. And maybe at your take away
message from this podcast episode.
I'm so keen to hear about that. And yeah, let me introduce you

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to the founder of Faye Blood Publications, which is Ruth
Faye. She's an intuitive writing
coach, editor, publisher, author, and youth mentor.
She supports creative disruptorsand entrepreneurial change
makers who use Lift Experience storytelling telling to
challenge the effed up system that shaped the world that we

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live in. And through intuitive coaching
and deep connection, roof guidesin guides, A transformation that
occurs with when people speak their truth in their voice with
courage, conviction and confidence.
Welcome to the podcast. Thank you so much.
You know, that's the first time I've actually heard that bio

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read out loud. So I'm sitting here going, Oh my
goodness, do you know how your business evolves and things
change? And I've been more and more
stepping into that person. And when you ask for the bio, I
was like, it's time. It's time to let it into the
world and to stand in my truth and my voice.
So thank you because that's the first time I've heard that right

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out. And now I'm all goosebumpy.
I love that because it's such a beautiful way to actually
highlight you to to celebrate you as well.
So coming onto the podcast, I always love when you're my guest
speakers actually really feel welcomed.
I'm like. Oh my God, that's me exactly.
Just to get to know you a littlebit for the podcast and the

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audience as well. We are always a bit curious
about pleasure, so could you tell us where you are currently
at on your pleasure journey and what is something that brings
you a lot of pleasure? Oh, I've been thinking about
this one and it's, and it's suchan interesting question, 'cause
I'm 52, right? So I'm like, I'm a woman.

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I've been a woman for a very long time, you know, I've had
stuff happen in my life and all the rest of it.
So where am I now? Was really difficult to pinpoint
without bringing in judgement orshame or anything like that.
So basically what I have felt into, particularly since working

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on your book, and I'm not sayingthat lightly because it has
brought a lot to my attention about where pleasure fits into
my life, which I've told you as we've been going through the
process, but I'm learning is where I'm at.
I've done a lot of like, you know, spiritual, physical,
mental health, all all the stuffwork on myself over the last

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five years. And I feel like it's all kind of
led to this point where I'm now a little more comfortable
looking at myself in the mirror.I'm a little more comfortable
seeing myself naked. I'm a little more comfortable
with my menopausal body, like all of those things.
And I'm beginning to see the sexy, the powerful, the strong,

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all that is coming into play. So learning is where I would say
but learning fast. Yeah, I love that.
Thank you so much for sharing. I love like your feedback and
then that you were sharing partsof your journey, your story with
me and I was just like Oh my God, this is so beautiful.

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Well, I think one of the big things for me was I think I told
you I had an accident nearly three years ago now and where I
broke both my legs and was in a wheelchair for a long time and
then have had some health issuesand then broken my left foot
twice, 2-3 more times since then.
So it's been this ongoing thing and we've not really moving or

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moving well, not going to the gym, all of these things that
happened. We got very angry with my body.
And now I've started quite an Intel.
I've just come out of the moon boot again.
I've started an intense rehab program.
I'm going to to rehab four or five times a week.
And even in the last three weeks, I feel stronger.

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So like I went to the loo beforewe sat down today and I looked
at myself in the mirror in the bathroom and I just felt more in
my body and just that bit, that strength that has been mentally
strong, sure. Physically strong, not so much
the last few years and just feeling that strength and
appreciating my body, even with the pain, even with the brakes,

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even with the stuff that's happened, that's been a big part
of something that has removed mefrom the pleasure of being me.
Yeah. And, you know, all the
challenges that come with life as well.
But it felt really good just to stand there for that moment and
go, yeah, yeah, it's OK. I'm feeling, I'm feeling strong

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in my in my feet, which have notbeen strong, sort of lasted a
while. So yeah.
Thank you for sharing that is sounds like quite a big
challenge. I can only imagine like not
being able like I go to I am, I use the workout to feel good.
And if that's been taken away orlike even just like you say,
moving your body in a way when that's being taken away,

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obviously that will be a huge challenge to feel yourself.
Yeah, and I walk. I love walking.
I particularly love walking at the beach, but I don't actually
care. Like, I'll walk the dog, I'll
walk with the kids. Walking is my happy place.
It's also where I process a lot of stuff.
It's where my muse for my writing comes in.

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I will. Every time I come home from a
walk, I've got a story or the development of a story coming in
my head. So to have that taken away for
almost three years has been really rough.
And I got it back in phases and then with the constant breaks,
it went away again. And there's huge amount of
learnings and things that have happened in that time.
But although I'm not, I'm not allowed to go for walks yet,

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which is like a red ragged bull to me.
Like really, you're telling me Ican't.
So I have to be very careful andtake things very slowly, but
it's OK because I'm still able to move my body and going to the
gym and yesterday I can't think what it's called, but when you
do the feet press thing, when you push the weight with your
feet, we upped that by another 10K.
So in the last three weeks I've gone up 50 KS since when I began

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and I just came home going. It's like such a good feeling,
so. Love that.
What is something that brings you a lot of pleasure?
I thought about that as well. And you know, there's this big
part of me that wanted to say hanging with my kids and which
does like, I love it, it's good.But what really brings me

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pleasure is I love reading romance novels and for a lot,
and I have, since I was sneakingthem off my mum's shelf, like
way earlier than I should have been.
And some of them are erotic, some of them are less erotic.
I really like fantasy romance, which also can vary, but that is

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my thing. And it was a guilty pleasure for
quite a long time because no oneadmitted to reading romance
'cause it's mummy smart or, you know, it's just that thing that
you don't really talk about. And then as my business has
developed and I, I guess I've become more confidence as well,
confident as well, but I'm meeting more people in the
industry and talking more about books and, you know, with Tiktok

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and Instagram and all of those things.
People are talking about this now.
And it's less shameful than it was when I was a young woman.
So my bio, actually, when I first wrote my bio 067 years
ago, I actually had as an avid romance reader, 'cause I was
like, I need to claim this. Yeah.
Because I love to read. Because I learn about people

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through reading. I read all day, every day from
my work. But I will go to bed and read a
book. It'll be fiction of some sort,
but because that's how I get curious.
And I want to know what makes people tick and what makes them
make the decisions they make. And even if I don't like them.
Like it's about understanding other people and other
perspectives and seeing what resonates with me.
And took me a long time to realize that.

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But reading was an escape for a long time when I was a child,
and then it became this real curiosity about life.
And that also comes into it's more than just sex life, like
the romantic side of things and relationships between people.

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Yeah. Like one of my favourite romance
authors wrote a lot of male female books and then it was a
few years ago now she changed and she so she started doing
some male, male, female, male, male, female, female, like she
did all of these different things.
She wrote about 6 books in that series and she got a lot of

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backlash for that because that'snot what the readers wanted.
And I was devouring them and they were different and they
were different style. And I'm straight.
So it's not something that, you know, I've particularly explored
in my life. But to learn more about this
other part of the world, other people, other culture, other
ways of being. And yeah, it's really cool.

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So that's a very long answer to your short question, but reading
brings me pleasure. I love that because I recently
had someone else saying the exact same thing about If you
wanna get to know other people'sperspectives on things, read a
book because you are you are in someone else's mind and you're
seeing things from a different perspective when you actually

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read something. So that was really good.
Just the confirmation on that. And also interesting about the
comments when she's receiving back, like people not saying,
oh, that's not what people want to read.
It's interesting once you have build something that people
actually claim like, no, you can't go in any other direction.
Like you're going to have to stay the way you are.

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Correct. And you know what?
She can. And the thing was, she's been
writing for a long, long, long time.
So her earlier books, which is where I came in, I've been
reading her for years. Her earlier books were about
younger people. And then as she has matured, her
most more recent books have beenabout older people.
They're still having sex. They're still falling in love,

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they're still fighting. There's still breakups.
There's heartbreak, there's grief, there's love, there's
joy, there's romance. Like there's all of the things
that make us human all happen. And you don't have to be 25 and
straight for that to be the onlything that's OK.
So I love that she's explored. And she went into some like
there's one particular book thatwas one of the ladies who was

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like the main character in the book.
I'm going back a long way now. She was a dominatrix.
And it was fascinating. I was like, oh, tell me more
like this is but so empowering as well.
And so it's just interesting. It's interesting reading.
I love that because I'm just writing now with my first book

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now. Now I'm getting really curious
and excited about erotica like erotic reading.
And I'm just like, it actually just recently helped me to also
slow down and really focus on because you use the senses in
there as well. You describe your senses.
You're actually describing the scene so much more and it just
gives it so much more flavor. It's like so interesting and I'm

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learning new words as well and I'm exploring it from a
completely different side now. But I would love to hear how you
have become an intuitive writer.Intuitive like editing, Like
what is intuitive writing? Also what it means and how you
got into it and what's like the different approach about that?
Yeah, sure. So I invented it.

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I didn't invent the concept, butwhen I was like, what do I call
myself? I invented the intuitive writing
coach. And the reason for that is I've
written for years. Like when my kids were little, I
did wrote freelance journalism stuff, was involved in a
magazine for teenage girls that was based in Melbourne where I
live. And so I've written for a long

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time. I've written my own stories and
all that kind of stuff. And then when my youngest child
was starting school, I was like,what am I gonna do?
Like, I've got all this time andI can.
I'd worked, but not in jobs thatwere like, giving me like
massive amounts of passion and joy.
And what I realised is I've beenvolunteering in, you know, the

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basketball club and the dance studio that the kids were part
of and school and kindergarten and all of those sorts of
things. And what I realised is a lot of
volunteer work I've been doing involved copywriting, but I
didn't really recognise that copywriting was a thing.
So when I was researching, I waslike, I've found this
copywriting course for the Australian Writers Centre.

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And I was like, you get paid forthis stuff.
Like people pay you to do this thing that I'm doing.
Cool. So Long story short, ended up
working as a copywriter for quite a few years when the kids
were younger. But what I loved about that was
not so much, yes, it was helpingpeople write websites and you

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know, social media content and bits and pieces like that.
What I loved about it was helping people tell their story
through their blogs and through their websites.
It was about finding out about the person because I can go and
research being a chiropractor, but I'm not a chiropractor and
I'm saying chiropractic. There was a particular
chiropractor I worked with. She's adorable and we work

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together on her website copy, and I also helped her with
blogs. But it wasn't about me doing
this generic. This is a day in the life of a
chiropractor. It was what's in her life,
what's in her heart, what does she do, what she does, how does
she do it that's different to the chiropractor in the next
suburb. Like that sort of stuff came
into it. And also educating people how to

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write the blogs themselves 'cause people have a lot of
writing blocks. I hear it all the time.
I can't write. I don't know how they're valid.
Like maybe they got hassled whenthey were in high school or lots
of red pen or whatever. People wear English as a second
language, people who have dyslexia.
Like there's so many things thatcan block us from writing,

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People who are not in tune creatively.
And we like with everything, we tell ourselves stories and then
we go, I can't do it. I'm not good at it.
And I only realised this about five years ago when I got
together with my partner and he said something about, he said
I've never heard you sing. And I said, oh, I Can't Sing.

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And he said, yes, you can. And he's a singer-songwriter,
right? So I'm like, oh, I Can't Sing
around him. And he's like, of course you can
sing. I'm like, well, I Can't Sing
like you. And he's like, yes, true.
But I've been singing for years and trained and all that kind of
stuff. And, and he said that everyone
can sing. Everyone sings.
It doesn't matter if you're too completely tone deaf.

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Why stop yourself expressing thejoy of singing a song that you
love singing with your kids singing in whatever way we can
all sing. Some of it's yes, sound better
than others, but you can sing. And then it clicked that that's
that's how I feel about people with writing.
And we can all write because we're human and we can all tell
stories. That's what we do.

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What did you do on the weekend? Oh goodness, this happened.
Like, Oh my Lord, I just talked to my mom and blah, blah, blah.
Like we tell stories, but we think we can't write.
So for me, it came in helping people to express themselves in
the way they need to for their businesses, which you know, as a
copywriter, but to talk about them and their stories and their

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passions and their beliefs. And because only in doing that
in their voice, not me writing it for them, me helping them
find their voice and drawing it out.
And then with a blog, structuring it.
And certainly website, you know,your about page and your
whatever page, helping them do that helps them resonate with
the clients, with the people whoneed them.
Because that particular chiropractor, I love the way she

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works. I've been to other chiropractors
where I did not feel comfortableat all.
So to find her people, she needsto talk about her work and her
passion and her joy in a way that's gonna bring in her people
that need her. Yeah.
So that kind of developed. And then when COVID happened and
people were being very, very careful of spending money and
copywriting kind of was droppingoff.

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And I was actually going througha divorce at that time as well.
So I had my own stuff going on. Quite a few of my clients
started writing books. And so I started helping them
with it. And I know I was like, this is
divine. This is exactly what I need to
do. I love this.
And I trained as in editing and proofreading years ago.

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So it just evolved. And then by mid 2022 I was like,
see you later. Copywriting favorite
publications was born and I started doing the more of the
editing. I worked with lots of overseas
publishers and in Australia doing their editing, learning
the business 'cause I work in indie publishing, so it's not
traditional, you know, Penguin type publishing.

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So learning the industry, working with different
publishers to discover what I liked, what I didn't like.
So it's kind of stepped through from my focused on editing.
Then I brought in the coaching because it's working, it's
feeling. And when I edit people's work,
I'm feeling. I need to, I need to connect.
As you know, we work together, but I need to know who you are

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and what's driving you. And then when I'm editing your
book, for example, it's almost like I get into your head, like
I sit in that little space whereI'm feeling you.
And so the rules that come into English and the, you know, you
shoulds and all the stuff that you learn at school, that's out
the window because it needs to be the cadence of your voice and

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the way that you talk and the way that you'll express yourself
to your people. That's all the same kind of
thing. So editing for me is a very
feely process. It's about what feels right.
It's not necessarily going to begrammatically.
It's probably gonna be grammatically correct, but it'll
be grammatically correct in a way that's right for you and

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might not be the way I'd write it because that's that's to me
is what is important. So yeah, kind of went from
editing to coaching and then thepublishing has been in the last
six months, so. I think this is a perfect
example with your intuitive editing.
So this was how we started to connect.
And this is also why I chose youbecause when we had our

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connection call, you really wanted to connect with me.
You wanted to find out my why and about me.
And I'm just like, OK, I'm not just the number.
I'm not just someone you know, you sent the book to and oh,
yeah, I'm reading over it. This is all we're going to like,
needs to be addressed. And then here you go.
Off you go. But more like you really and
feeling into it and you just want it.

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Like I just felt like my book will be in good hands with you
because you will tune into it. You will feel into it.
And you want to help me bring this message across that I want
to bring across because it's this book is like really close
to my heart because it's part oflike my, my past is in there.
My my storytelling is in there. So it's not just pleasure

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practices and general prompts and wisdom.
It's also my, my, my story, my storytelling and very vulnerable
to share that publicly. So it was really important for
me to to connect with someone who would honor that.
And I loved when you're like when you went through the the

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book and then said, all right, I've finished my first round of
editing. Just you know, there are some
comments the way you communicatewith me as well was really
heartfelt and heart centered of like, you know, you might open
it might feel overwhelmed. There's lots of comments, but
there's lots of like little things like comma here and you

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know, this and that, but also readings through where you said
indulge in, like I say indulge into and you're like, well, it's
grammatically not like really correct.
But if you say that all the timecan work like it's, it's your
voice. And then I but he always said
like, tune into what feels right.

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And then I'm just like, OK, I'vealways said it that way, but
grammatically it would be that Idon't actually care if you say
it this way or that way. So let's do the grammatically
correct way. And I've actually learned it to
say it the correct way. But other things where I'm just
saying, now that's me. Let's let's do it that way.

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I, I think this is just me and it needs to be said it in that
certain way. But you always said I can tune
into and, and feel into it and, and we can change that.
And do you maybe think it could be this or it could be that?
I was like, I really love that when you're in the editing
place, so. That's lovely feedback.
Thank you. So I think that's The thing is

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as authors, as women, we are so conditioned by the shoulds.
I should be have this certification or I should be at
this level. I'm not an author because I
haven't done ABCXYZ, whatever itmight be.
But really that's why I talk about it being intuitive
storytelling and unlived experience storytelling.

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Because your experience and yourstory is yours and your way of
telling that is has to come fromyou.
It has to be you. But when I edit the first time,
it's you and me like in the room, even though you're not
necessarily in the room, but I'mfeeling into you, I guess.
But then the second or third time that I go through it, I'll

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actually do it from a reader's perspective as well.
And sometimes that blends and overlaps because more often than
not, the people I work with, I'mactually a target audience kind
of person anyway. So I am the reader and that's
why I send you and other clientsthings like, Oh my God, this
resonated so much with me. Or I've learned this already
from your book because I have like my favorite thing about my

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job is how much I learn. So that's cool because I get to
learn more talking to people andreading books like woo Hoo, so
lucky. But the other part of it is that
the reader needs to get it as well.
And sometimes the way that we say things, especially when
we're experts in our field or we've been talking about a lot,
we're so used to it and the reader won't necessarily

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understand that. So, and it's really important, I
feel it's really important to guide authors through you write
your story however you need to, but we also need to have that
second check of making sure it'sgonna resonate with your
audience. Because if your reader gets to a
bit where they get lost and theycome out of that story, they're
not gonna turn the next page. And we need them to turn the

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next page. So yeah, it's kind of a double
edged thing of feeling into themas well as feeling into the
author that I'm working with too.
And. But you reminded me of that as
well. Just the comments that you made
when I was talking about King, for example, and aftercare and
you just like the comment maybe do you want to explain what
aftercare is? Not everyone might know it.

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I'm like, oh, true. Yeah.
Like a little sentence in there of like what it actually is.
And then I think there was something else where I was
talking about something from my story from my past and you just
edit in. Maybe you want to give like a
little time frame of like, when was that?
Like, so I know when it was in your life and your past because

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I've been telling it and tellingit.
But my reader obviously won't know if that happened when I was
a teenager or a young woman or like, you know, five years ago.
So that was really good as well to just get my head around of
yeah, just learning to actually not expect that anyone knows me
as such. So like or all the terminologies

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with all the stuff that is at the moment happening with AI.
Yes. Yeah.
How do you think, Like, how can we protect or nurture like the
real, the raw, the human voice in all of that and what's

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currently happening and all the changes with AI?
So what's your perspective on all of that?
Oh, if you could see the number of times I stomp around my house
swearing about AI and it's so interesting because when it was
all first I'll start using chat TPT, I was like, no, I'm not

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doing that. It's just taking the soul away
from everything. And, you know, it was quite
vocal about it. And then I was like, OK, this is
here to stay. I need to explore this and see
it as a tool. And I can't be vocal about it
without actually knowing what I'm talking about.
That's not right. So I did a couple of courses and

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I've spoken to lots of people and, you know, I mean writers,
editors, publishers, groups on Facebook and out of Facebook and
whatever. So there's obviously lots and
lots of conversation and even ifI'm not necessarily jumping onto
a thread to talk about it, I'll always read them because again,
curious as to what other people think because different
perspectives and I like hearing different perspectives.

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But what I am finding day-to-dayin work that is coming across my
desk and even conversations likewith peers and colleagues is
that AI is a really useful tool.It can very much help you get
unstuck. It can be really handy for
research, but you need to doublecheck it because it also goes

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off on random tangents. So, you know, if you're
researching 1960s London, don't necessarily trust it because it
might not be correct, but it's definitely a time saver with
things like that. It is not a good thing to put in
a bulk of text and go edit this.For me, it's, it's skewed and

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it's, I don't know quite what the word is, but it's fed by so
many different sources that it'snot going to take your voice
into consideration. So what I'm seeing happening is
a lot of people who are not confident because most writers,
even people like Stephen King, are not confident.
Like read, read some of his things that he said over time
and and lots of other people like most creatives, we'll never

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think that we're doing everything that we should be
doing. So there's always self doubt.
What will people think? All those things come into play.
So I think it is completely understandable and I have done
it myself. As much as I hate to admit it,
I've been stuck on something andI've used Google or chat or
whatever and now you can't Google without AI coming in

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anyway. So to look at stuff, doing it
for like a double check or to help come up with ideas or
whatever, absolutely go for it. The problem is that what's
happening is that it's so nice in going, here's all this stuff
and let me write a paragraph foryou.
And then I think most of the people I'm working with anyway

(30:22):
are going, oh, that sounds so much better than me.
And so it's really affecting people's confidence.
That's the biggest thing. It's much quicker, which is
great 'cause you know everyone'stime for nowadays.
I'm actually creating an 8 week course at the moment and I'm
going to have a whole module on AI.
I think because for me what it is, is recognising the tool as

(30:45):
opposed to becoming too reliant on that tool.
It's so it's so easy to say, youknow, put in something, come up
with a paragraph or bio for example, come up with a bio and
put it in your words. But when you doubt your own
words, you're not necessarily going to want to put it in your

(31:05):
own words. And there are tells.
I know everyone's talking about it.
And there's all these arguments about this is a tell and this is
a tell. And you can tell when
something's AI is because. Oh yeah.
The M dash. Yeah, the M-I love using that.
And I before AI had said GPT, I loved using it.
Now someone told me off once, it's like, oh, that means your

(31:26):
text is AI. And I'm like, it's not that me,
like you can totally read that, but it's my voice.
I will go to the wall for an M-Ilove.
Them question my text, am I going to put it in there or not?
Not that someone thinks that's AI.
How would now I need to questionmy own work?
Because that means it's AI. The thing is, right, if it's

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like it's harder than an example, but AI will ChatGPT
will use it where there'll be some words and M dash and then
there'll be some more words and then there'll be a comma and
then there'll be a word beginning with I ending with
ING, that is ChatGPT and M dash used correctly is very rarely
found in ChatGPT. At the moment.

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It is getting better, but it's really interesting because I
love an M dash myself and I havebeen quite irate when people
have called other people haven'tdone it to me yet, but called
people like yourself out on it because now you're questioning
your natural writing style, which is I'm talking about this
and I want to add this and then I want to go back to that.

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And that is beautiful and fine and it's yours.
So I hate it to making us question ourselves in that way.
And it's the same with, oh, there's so many, so many things
like that. There are some definite tells.
Most of it is around, it's around heart.

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I got an e-mail the other day that was addressed to me from a
woman I know in the states. It was addressed to me.
I know it's a generic e-mail, I get that.
But it was written on a very personal level and I started
reading it and it had emojis didhave some M dashes, it had some
other, it talked about legacy and some other phrases that are
very ChatGPT. And I just went, this started

(33:16):
personal. This is not to me.
So I didn't finish reading it. That's the bit that's missing.
It's such a hard thing and it's developing all the time as well.
What I would encourage people todo is write first.
Like if you need ideas for chapter headings or whatever,
that can all happen later. That's all editing stuff, yeah.
Get what you need out. It doesn't matter.

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I think I even said it to you when we first spoke.
It doesn't matter if it's bulletpoints, if it's half finished
sentences, if it's ideas, if it's a mind map that you're
drawing on your wall. Like it doesn't matter.
Get the stuff out first. The refining can happen later,
but once you've got your stuff out a it's healing in many ways,
or at least enlightening and helps with self-awareness.

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Then there's more of your voice in there.
There's a beautiful client of mine.
Yeah. I did a book for her maybe two
years ago. And English is probably her
fourth language. And I love her to death.
And she sent me another manuscript recently.
And it started off really well. And then I was like, we need to
have a chat. And we did.

(34:21):
And I said, you've gone to AI. And she went, yeah.
And I said, can you bring you? But I'm not going to say her
name, But I said, can we bring you back into this?
Can you please take this away? I will hold on as long as it
takes, but I know how you write.And she's funny.
She's dry and she's funny and she's got this amazing take on

(34:41):
things and she brings in words from all the other languages
that she speaks. Like she's so cool to read.
And I said you're missing, come back.
And she's she said it's a confidence thing.
She felt because English is not her first language, she felt
that she was not going to be able to compete and her
confidence had gone. So what we did was a session

(35:04):
together where we she spoke it and I typed it, and then we
turned it into what it needed tobe.
So yeah, like our voice is, that's the energy, That's what
resonates, That's the frequency.If we give over all of that to
something, it's a great tool. But if we give it our part it's

(35:24):
it doesn't work. Yeah, I've had quite a few
people because I'm on sub stacks.
So This is why I've heard about the with the dash and like AI
and people also now looking actually for people's writing
where you can find a mistake, where you can be like, oh, this
is like human written and not AI.
But I have to like really agree or not, but I have to really

(35:48):
agree with what you've said about the writing being
transformational. Like this is healing the writing
process of writing my story of like what I wanted to share.
Like the last few months when I started writing, I have been
emotional. I've been I've cried.
I haven't cried so much in the last three years that I have

(36:10):
over the next last six months, but I've worked through it from
a like completely different way.I actually started writing my
book. I thought, I've done so much
healing. I'm ready now to share my story,
which I am, but I didn't know there was still so much to be
felt before I could actually nowshare with the with the public.

(36:30):
So it was just interesting. It was a different processing of
the emotions and feelings because obviously when I write
about my past stories, I put myself back in in that position
and I felt it again and I realized how far I've come and
what actually had happened. And this time I processed it in
a different way because I actually really took them the

(36:52):
time to feel it, to release it. And I think I also was grieving
that older version that I'm now letting go and and leave her out
into the world. Hopefully that older version
will now help many others as well.
And now I'm actually opening myself up for the next chapter
to receive and and live that pleasure, live life that I want
to live and inspire others to live as well.

(37:14):
So it was just really healing and transformational process to
Ride did. You find that at all in the
editing? I mean, our editing process was
very smooth, it was so easy. But I I just was curious as to
whether you found any of that happened differently in the

(37:34):
actual editing process. In the editing, I started a few
things to question. So I think the second row when
we went on just like, should I really say it that way?
Maybe should I just say it the other way?
And I was like, just like, how like is that?
Is that the right way? Maybe you should say less, maybe
I should say more, he said. He said enough.

(37:56):
So I was like having little chapters, not all of them, but
there were a couple where I'm like and I think I put like
there was one part where I just rewritten a little bit matter.
And then now that you're so close to publishing, because
it's what, 3 weeks away? Because this is a big thing for

(38:19):
authors as well, this point where they've written, which is
very, like you said, it's a verykind of internal thing.
And then they share it with editor or whoever it is that
they're sharing it with. And then, and then that's a
process. And then the next step is this
going out into the world and thefact that anyone can read your
book. And sometimes that can be like
incredibly exciting, but it can also bring up stuff for people

(38:43):
as well. Yeah, definitely so.
But I, I think I'm pretty content on my, on my story of
Mike sharing it because that's apart of me, like my human
design, for example, storytelling is a huge part of
my, of my gift to inspire and empower others through my own

(39:03):
story, through storytelling. And I know that that is the
right way. And I've always wanted to write
a book. And I always know I'm always
this open person of sharing my story because I believe that
will help others to, yeah, maybechange something or just bring a
different perspective. And it's also healing for me to
share my story to a certain point.

(39:25):
So I'm really, I'm, I'm certain about that.
I actually went out and I told everybody like, you need to buy
my book now on the 9th of July. Like but also totally forgot
about like I spoke to my family and then I thought, huh, maybe
not the best thing. But then like my most of my
family can't speak English, so we can buy the book and it can

(39:48):
sit there. Now I think at the moment I'm
just starting to learn a bit unsettled about publishing like
that everything works out. So I'm a little bit of like.
Is everything going to work out?Like is it going to be
publishing OK, Is it going to look good?
And it's just like basis at the moment where umm, I'm a little

(40:11):
bit unsettled. The rest is like I'm I'm content
with my story. I'm one more than 100% behind it
the way now. I also do my social medias, umm,
along this week since I know thepublic, umm, date of the 9th of
July. Talking more about the book,
I've just realized that every day something happens in my day

(40:32):
that I can actually relate to the book.
So something happened and I'm just like, huh, There's my
learning lesson of today. By the way, there's a little
chapter of that in my book and it's just such a beautiful
confirmation of how beautiful that connects in that the
pleasure lit way that the framework, the way of living and
being is really something I embody and that I really truly

(40:55):
desire to keep inspiring and empowering and live and be.
So it is an extension of, of, ofme, of my, of my way of living.
So it's just so beautiful. Yeah, and I think that was a
thing from reading it, like I think I've, I've said it to you
before, but that whole concept of, you know, look in the mirror

(41:15):
and tell yourself, tell you thatyou love yourself sort of thing.
And I found that really hard. I managed to do it a couple of
years ago after a quite intense healing session.
I'd gone on a 2 day retreat and that a healer came in and we did
this healing session and it was a lot.
And then next morning I had a shower and I got out of the
shower and it was after that accident.

(41:35):
So I was and I'd put weight on and I was just not healing me, I
guess. And I was sore.
I had like significant pain for a long time.
And you know, that is draining. And I looked in the mirror and I
managed to say I love you. And then I held.
But I was like, OK, I did it. But that was I've struggled to

(41:59):
do it again. There are times that I have,
since I read your book, the factthat it addresses not just
sexual stuff. It's not just about pleasure in
the bedroom. It's about finding pleasure in
cleaning your teeth or finding pleasure in eating food or the
clothes that you wear. Like all of these little things.

(42:19):
It has made me so much more conscious of that so that it has
enabled me to, I got out of the shower the other day and I put
on and they were literally playing, playing black bra and
playing undies. Like there was nothing fancy,
nothing particularly sexy or whatever.
But I caught sight of myself in the mirror and my body shape is

(42:40):
changing again because I've started back at the gym and
doing this stuff hasn't changed dramatically.
But I caught sight of myself andI went oh.
And it was just that moment of so then I had another, I'm just
going to look at the mirror and I'm just going to go, Oh, and
then I cleaned my teeth just in my bra and undies, which I have
not done for years. And that and then I was like

(43:02):
this. I was just smiling.
And then when I went to choose what I would wear, I'm more
consciously choosing doesn't have necessarily have to be
colours, but what do I feel likewearing today?
And if that's tracksuit pants and a hoodie, cool.
I'm gonna pick my favorite hoodie if it's Ugg boots, if
it's jeans and a, you know, a nice jump or whatever.
Like it's just that bringing that in, which is then falling

(43:25):
into other aspects. Like I'm a big not so much at
the moment, but I have been a big chocolate junkie.
Like it will get to lunchtime and I haven't had all after
lunch and I haven't had lunch and I'm hungry, whatever.
So I'll grab a snack of chocolate, whatever's in the
thing. I'm now.
I did actually, I'd just come home from a thing before.
So I did grab little Snickers because I was a bit hungry and I
didn't have time for lunch. But it's now a choice of do I

(43:50):
want to just grab that quick snack, which I might, and that's
fine, there's something wrong with eating chocolate.
Or am I going to actually spend 5 minutes making something that
is going to taste nice and nourish me and feel good and
just bringing that, allowing myself to not just be on the go.
Rush, rush, rush, rush, rush. I'm actually going to have a cup

(44:11):
of tea and I've sat outside and had a cup of tea the other day.
I haven't done, it's freezing, but I haven't done that in ages.
It was just nice. So yeah, it's those little
things. And I, I know from working with
you that you do genuinely, you are showing us your life and why
you have chosen that life and built that life for yourself,

(44:32):
which is a beautiful gift for you to share with people.
But it's also in doing it the way that you did it, it's
enabled me as one of the only people who's read it so far, to
just have that little level of awareness to bring that into my
own life as well. And and the same in the bedroom.
Like, I cannot tell you how justreading some of the things you

(44:53):
shared has helped me become moreaware of some of my, I guess,
standard responses, like holdingyour breath in an orgasm.
Like that was a oh, do I do that?
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I love that. Thank you so much for sharing
all of that. And I know you've already shared
some like of that with me through the editing process.
And that was a moment. You just put a big smile on my
face. And I'm like, this is exactly
what I hope that people get out of there just seeing like, even
if they pick up this book just to experience more pleasure in

(46:28):
the bedroom, they will gain so, so much through this book and
realize that your pleasure in the bedroom is so much connected
to how you experience pleasure outside the bedroom.
Because when you can start opening yourself up to just
pleasure the way you eat or how you dress, 1 will lead to the

(46:48):
other. Before you know it, you have got
this pleasure way that you're riding all day long.
And that is not just in the bedroom, but it can lead into
that. And to so much more.
And it's just so beautiful the way you shared that, how much
more conscious you are and just these little things.
And you also highlighted for me something that was really

(47:08):
amazing with the mirror. Instead of saying just I love, I
love you, I love myself. I'm saying these affirmations
with some people struggle with because if they don't believe
it, they're saying something like, yeah, but I don't believe
it. Like, no, I'm lying to myself,
yeah. Yes, that's exactly right.
Like I can say it, but I don't believe it.
And now I'm now I'm not being aligned with who I'm trying to

(47:29):
learn to be because I'm actuallylying to myself.
Yeah, but that I like the way I teach it is, is playfulness, the
lightness like just, you know, wink to yourself in the mirror
or just like, you know, like, Ohyeah, the booty is good enough.
OK, cool. So just like this little bit of
like, and even if you laugh likethis, totally OK, I laugh about

(47:51):
it. But the more you do it, you're
actually just really appreciating yourself more.
And this is what builds your confidence and you're you opens
yourself up to more pleasure. So I'm I'm so behind my book
flag. Yeah, and I've had my daughter's
almost 1515 this week and 19. She's just turned 19.

(48:13):
This is their birthday month andeven the conversations I've had
with them and my sons and my, my, I live with my stepsons as
well. It's so funny because I've
talked about the book as well and it has led me to have these
conversations that I potentiallywouldn't have had with the kids

(48:34):
'cause I don't want them to feelthat female pleasure is other or
something that you don't talk about or whatever.
But then how often do we talk about it, whether we're talking
in the bedroom or out of the bedroom.
Like, and now it's so funny because when I sit on the couch
and I go on Instagram, you know,after dinner or whatever, and
I'll look at something when one of your wheels come up, I go,
oh, it's Patricia and the kids go, what's she doing?

(48:55):
And my kids are older kids. Like, you know, but it's just,
it's so funny because it's just led to these conversations
around things that should be OK to be discussed, whether it's
bedroom related or not, whether it's kink or not, whether it's
pleasure. Being part of our lives is so

(49:16):
important. And This is why I've changed my
PIO. Going back to the whole
beginning thing about I see you as a change maker.
You're using your lived experience, your storytelling,
your business to create change in the world.
You've already changed it in me from reading your book, working
with your book. And I'm so thankful that you

(49:37):
chose me for this, which means I've had a fall on effect, even
just a tiny, tiny little bit. It's cool to my kids, who will
then hopefully, you know, it will spread and then more people
will read your book and it will come and ripple out as it needs
to, exactly as it needs to. And there's possibly going to be
people who don't like it, but you know, stuff then because

(50:00):
they're not your people. They're probably not my people
either. That's cool.
But this is how we do it. Like it's only by speaking, by
writing, by showing up on socials.
Like I'm, I'm not a big fan of, I'm not very good on social
media myself, but I'm working onforcing myself to do it because
I have to walk my talk exactly like you're walking yours.

(50:22):
So yeah, it's it's, I think it'samazing.
And yeah, I could go on about itfor days, honestly.
But I might have been going now.Thank You Beautiful to you.
And I'm so grateful that we connected.
That's really been such a pleasure to yeah, work with you

(50:46):
on on my book and bring that to life now.
Just I can't wait to hear so many more readers gaining so
much from it. And it's really like also
writing this book has helped me personally to be so much more
confident and grounded and sure about myself and whether I'm
heading towards to because I knew I wanted to write a book

(51:09):
for years. But I always like yeah, the
broad self love. Yeah, about this, about that.
And then it wasn't until the start of this year when I just
really felt a strong calling. It is time this year to share
your wisdom. It is time to Share your story.
And just like it was amazing howit just came out of me the way.

(51:29):
Also, I structured my chapters and the book outlining and I was
sitting here big circle with my pleasure lit word and then all
the topics that I wanted to talkabout and how can I like pair
them up and how can I yeah. And then it all like the more I
did it, I'm getting goosebumps. It just, it just came all
together and I'm just like, oh, this is meant to be.

(51:54):
Yeah, I, so many women I work with tell me that their book has
been in their head for five years, 10 years, like, and then
there's that's where some of thedoubt comes from because they're
like, I've been thinking about this for so long but haven't
done it yet. And then I'm gonna shame myself
because of that and whatever I truly believe.
And I'm the same, right? I have written in many books.
I have not written my story yet.It's I've started, it's there.

(52:18):
There were some hiccups along the way with some stuff
personally that happened that made me back burner it for a
bit. And I really need to to do this.
But part of what I think happensfor us is we know we want to
write. I've known I wouldn't wanted to
be an author since I was 4 when I announced it.
And my dad said, Oh no, you wantto be a doctor.

(52:38):
And I went, no, I want to be an author.
And he's like, no, no, no, you're going to be a doctor.
And then that threw me for years, like years.
That's a whole other story. But I think what happens is we
have these experiences and we dothe study and we, I don't know,
do the business and then we change careers and we do, or we
become a parent or we do all of these things.

(52:59):
And then it gets to that exact point that you talked about
where it's like it's been burning and it's been bubbling
and all the learnings are happening.
And then it's like, hello, time for you to do this.
And that's when, that's when sometimes you need support or
guidance or, or help, like with anything that you wanna learn to
do, some people don't. And it comes very naturally,

(53:19):
which it seems like maybe it wasn't natural.
I'm sure you put in a lot of work, but it flowed very well
for you because you listened to that.
And it's, but it's that trust, like you trusted in yourself to
do it. And a lot of people struggle
with who am I to what? What do I know?
I was speaking to a lady yesterday who is a client and a

(53:40):
friend and she's a money coach. She was a financial.
Well, she still is a financial planner, but then she moved into
money coaching because financialplans, you know, it's what it
is. And she said that.
She said there's so many financebooks out there, why would I
write 1? And I was like, because I've
worked with you and you have coached me and you're amazing.

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You deserve it. You read a book, it's usually
also because it's from that person.
So it's something like you've maybe followed them and you just
like, I want to know what he or she has to share, what they have
to share in in the way they haveto share it or are sharing it
because they have gone through that story.
So. Yeah.
And the the beautiful thing is my grandma always said I'm going

(55:36):
to write a book one day. When I was younger, I was very a
lot into creativity. So I was in A grades at school,
it was art and I was writing poems and I was writing poems
like they were out of this world.
My grandma was like wow. And wherever I had a chance,
birthday cards, Christmas, like I was writing poems.

(55:58):
But then like life happens and eventually I ended up in
Australia and English wasn't like language were not really
good for me. So I had to actually Start
learning English and then eventually also studied here in
English. Now writing my first book in
English. And now I think the erotic
stories now are getting me curious because now I start
feeling the connection to words again.

(56:20):
Although it still needs a littlebit more time because like in
German, it was so much easier for me to write poems when now
with English, I don't have access to the whole vocabulary
as such. So now with the erotic stories
that I'm reading and like, you know, getting some inspiration
from others, I'm learning new words.
So my, my vocabulary is currently starting.
Well, I'm like, oh, I would liketo say this, but I don't really

(56:42):
have the words yet. Like, what could I say instead
of this? So now I'm picking up on all of
that. So it's really beautiful.
But yeah, language was a part oflike, I'm not an author.
Like I've just learned English. Like how can I write in English?
So that was kind of a block for me as well.
What would be something, becausewe've talked about, or if you've
mentioned blocks, what would be a tip that you could give

(57:05):
someone listening right now? Well, maybe once you write a
book or they've got it sitting there, what could be a tip for
them to get started, to get thatinitial?
Oh, OK, I'm going to do it. This is why I'm creating this
course and it's so interesting because I can feel it but I
can't see it yet because if I work one-on-one with someone

(57:25):
it's fine. What I want to do is create
something that is 6 to 8 week course that is I'm more
available, I can actually serve more people.
I can have more conversations like with a group of people
rather than one at a time kind of thing because that is
different for everyone. What I see it as when we're busy

(57:52):
and when we're busy women particularly, and we've got all
of all of the things that we're doing with work and kids and
shopping and groceries and all the things, dog care and
whatever, all the things. And then trying to self-care for
ourselves and do be part of communities.
And I don't know, go to kinder meetings.
Like there's so many things thatwe're pulled in different
directions and it's so easy to lose that creative spark.

(58:15):
Like you said when you were younger and you'd write poetry
like that, so did I, I wrote andwrote and wrote and wrote and
then I, I don't know, I got busyand started ignoring it and
didn't. And it's been very hard for me
to find my way back to that. Yet this is what I work with
people to do because you know, it's like I know it so therefore
I can and I've lived it so I canteach it, but I also need to

(58:36):
practice it more myself. And I'm the first to admit that
so. But what it is is opening that
creative spark. So and and it's it it is it's
tapping into that creativity. And like you said, you started
writing this book. You've already moved on from
this book and it's not even it out into the world yet because
you've got your erotic fiction potentially coming into play.

(58:58):
Or maybe you're gonna do a book of poetry.
Who knows? Maybe you can book write a book
in German like the world's your roster really, but.
Germans have already asked me, so is that going to be available
in German too? And I'm like, no English first.
Like hold your Hostess people. Let's.
Look into it. Translate the book description

(59:20):
and the title so I could pass iton to say I don't know what it's
about. And see, that's The thing is
when we start opening that creative slow, I guess more and
more comes in and, and there's this, like you said, there's
inspiration from different places.
You'll hear a conversation or a song on the radio or whatever.
And you're like, oh, I want to write about that or, or that

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relates to my story or my life, like with your social media
stuff. So my advice to anyone listening
would be give themselves permission to find their way.
Chuck all the shoulds out, Chuckout their what you're taught in
English at school does none of that matters.

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And have fun. Play with it.
Like you said, big bit of paper,different coloured textures, a
beautiful journal that you want to write in.
It doesn't have to be journaling.
Journalling is great too but literally clear your mind some
people. I work with people to develop
their ritual because it's different for everyone.

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I know if I light a candle, thatis my now my cue to get stuck
in. I also like to play music.
If I'm in, I need to write some angry stuff, then Taylor Swift
reputation is going to absolutely let's get it done.
That's, you know, my kids love Taylor Swift.
So the girls, not the boys. So, you know, I, I know that I,

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if I play particular other music, then that will inspire
other parts of me. So it's finding what that is.
And some people like to write for 15 minutes in the morning.
Some people will block out a Sunday afternoon.
Like it's going to be, it's creative, it's going to be
different for everyone. But giving yourself permission
within the constraints, that's probably not quite the right

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word, but within the life that you're living just to taste it
and then it will grow. But you have to give yourself
permission to not self criticizeor judge whatever it is that you
get down on that paper because that that will kill any creative
spark that is existing. So that's the start.

(01:01:28):
Similar to I would say almost like a pleasure journey, self
love journey. Just be curious, take it as a
journey. So yeah, just be curious and and
and explore. So with my erotica, for example,
I love the reading and writing, but I also love the audio at the
moment. So like on social media I hear
like a follow now a few where they speak those words just with

(01:01:51):
that voice. And I'm just like, oh.
So I'm actually thinking becausea lot of people taught me also
they love my unique accent as well and like the way my
personality and sometimes like how I flip with the camera and
like, so I maybe could just have, you know, play with that
as well, bring in the erotic words, but also with that
playfulness that I have. So it's just curiously exploring

(01:02:16):
at the moment. It's not no making no any plans
because like, just start my book.
But it's also interesting. People congratulate me on my
first book accumulation on your first book.
Yeah. And I'm just like, do you know,
man, I'm gonna ride like. It's the same.
It's like when you have a child and they say that's so exciting,
When's your next one? Then you're like, I just did

(01:02:37):
that. Do we need to do it again right
now? Like, yeah.
No, once you have come here 1st and it's like, OK, when's the
second one coming up? Person just giving birth and
it's like, oh, that's so cute sleeping there.
Someone's coming, and the secondone's coming, Yeah.
Right, but I think that's the thing because societally we're
always there looking ahead and but creatively you need to be in

(01:03:01):
the now. And sometimes there's a cast
back if you're writing about, you know, something's happened
in the past. And sometimes there's,
especially with fiction, things like that, there's more of a
cast forward because you're writing outside of yourself,
because you might be world building or, you know, creating
these characters that don't actually exist, but maybe
talking in your head. But I think we need to be as a

(01:03:21):
writer, it helps to be grounded in the now and allow what needs
to come through to come through.I have got so many.
This is potentially a sign of ADHD or something, but I have
got so many fast started things where I've had a conversation
with someone and come home and go, Oh my God, I'm going to
write a blog about that. And I've written about it and

(01:03:43):
then I've gone and there might be a sentence in there that I
love. Or am I just going to go, no,
it's not really working for me. Or I'll go, this is amazing and
I'm going to put it out there. But by it's like any skill or
anything that we learn. It's it's practice and we've
practiced comes that confidence and but it's the courage and

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then the confidence and then thestanding in your conviction of
your voice and trying not to be intimidated by what if someone
doesn't like this? Because you know what?
Who cares? Where can people find you when
they would like to work with youor find out more about what you
do and follow you along? Well, my website, I'm currently
rewriting that at the moment, but my it is there.

(01:04:27):
So you can find me on my websitewhich is Faye Blood
publications.com dot AU. And then like I said, I'm not
brilliant on social media, but Itend to be on it.
So Facebook and Instagram are probably the best too.
I am on LinkedIn but I'm very rarely check that.
Have you got a book recommendation?
Like something that you accept now for mine ha ha have.

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You got enough. That you would recommend.
Well, I was speaking to a friendand business coach a couple of
weeks ago, and she's incredibly vibrant, bubbly woman and she
reads business books like they're going out of fashion.
But she had read A Court of Thorns and Roses, so fantasy

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romance, we've been out for quite a long time.
She had read that, which is the first time she has ever read a
fantasy novel, let alone a fantasy romance.
And she was like, Oh my God, like she was holding on to me.
And she's like, Oh my God, this,this has changed my life.
There's all like this stuff I can apply to my work and my

(01:05:37):
personal life. And she was like, I knew you
read this stuff, but I did not know that this was in there.
So I don't have a particular recommendation, but I would like
your readers to read something outside of their ordinary.
And if they've never read a romance novel, give it a shot.
I like that. I like that tip to just read

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something out of. What you.
Usually read and do yes. Yeah.
But just one last question before we're going to end this
episode. I always love to leave our
audience with a pleasure tip. What would be one of your like
#1 or top tips for in regards topleasure for anyone listening?

(01:06:23):
Oh, OK. I think feeling into it.
Yeah. OK, so curiosity, be curious.
Whatever it is, it doesn't matter if it's work, play, kids
stuff, whatever dishes. I read one of those things the

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other day. I was on Instagram where it was
a book. I am an absolute nerd.
And it was in a book group and the they were talking about
different ways to make boring things in your life interesting.
And this lady said, when I do the dishes, I pretend that I'm a
serving wench in a Tavern and I'm washing the dishes in my

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clothes. And I was like, I love that.
So bring that like curiosity, interest, like that otherness.
Bring that into life wherever, wherever you can, because when
you feel into that, that's when you find what gives you joy and

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makes you happy. And I tell you, since reading
that, doing the dishes, there's been so much more fun because
the kids think I'm standing there in my tracksuit pants and
my Ugg boots, but I'm actually not there at all.
I am in a Tavern. And the other part of it is
that, which is something I did when I was a young woman and I

(01:07:48):
back in the days to work in retail and I worked for bras and
things for a while and I loved it because you got, you know,
cheap undies. And so I would always have
matching sets. And then somewhere along the way
of life and children and probably financial constraints
and all the rest of it, I stopped doing that.
And I have started again in the last year.

(01:08:09):
My partner bought me two sets ofvery sexy underwear that I was
like and I after the accident. So as I said in the beginning, I
was feeling very about myself. Hey, they fitted like legend
like this is cool. And when I put them on, I feel
sexy. And again, I might be in my
tracksuit pants and my jeans, but I to have matching undies

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again and bra feels really, really good.
And it's a little secret for me.And he may notice the bra strap
and go, oh, I know what she's wearing and say I'll get a
little whack on the farm or whatever.
But that commitment to myself because when I choose again to
put those on, I feel really goodfor the day.
So that will be my other little tipped.

(01:08:53):
Love that. Thank you so much for sharing
and thank you so much for comingonto the podcast.
Oh. Thanks for having me, this has
been lovely. Thank you so much for tuning
into this pleasure lit episode. I would love it if you could
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