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In this episode of the Pleasurelit Podcast, I have Mistress Eros as a guest speaker to explore in more depth what temple night are. Get an insight into the tantric kink events, parties and gatherings to explore and embrace your pleasure potential.
- What are temple nights
- How are they different to other sex parties, swinger parties and kink parties?
- Who can join those temple nights?
- What are the benefits and transformations for people attending temple nights?
- What re the barriers and challenges some might face before attending?
- How is safety and consent navigated at those nights?
- What can you expect? Do you need to participate? Is everything allowed?
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Have you ever wondered what Temple Nights are?
What are they getting up to whenthey are speaking about
attending a temple night that infused King Capitia Sam
sensation play? Is that a sex party?
Do they have sex there? Is that a kind of swingers party
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just declared as a temple night?Are they going well?
They're how are they dressed like?
What is involved? If you've ever been curious
about temple nights, then this episode is for you.
In this episode, I have got the guest speaker, Mistress Arrows
and we are I'm going to go deeper into what to expect at a
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temple night and how you can explore your pleasures at one of
these nights. TuneIn to be inspired and
empowered on your pleasure journey.
Welcome to the Pleasure Lit Podcast, a podcast to inspire
and empower you on your pleasurejourney.
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Hi, I am pleasure with Patricia,your trusted, multi
award-winning and certified pleasure educator and creator,
guiding you on your journey to awaken, deepen, widen and
embrace your pleasure potential through unapologetic self love,
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and so many other delicious pleasure practices.
Let's be and live the pleasure lit way.
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And before we get into this episode, I would love it if you
could screenshot the podcast episode, share it on your social
medias and take me and the guestspeaker in it with your take
away message of this episode so we can see it, what you've taken
out of it and we can re share your love.
Thank you so much. And today I have got here with
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me, Mistress Eros. And she's a strong force in
sacred sexuality, merging domination with Tantra,
mindfulness and zomatics to create profound transformations.
So as a pro Dom educator and community leader, she creates
exquisite spaces where power, healing, and desire come
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together with a redefined balance of strength and
sensuality. She's creating a legacy that
empowers, liberates, and elevates.
Sounds so good? Welcome to the podcast.
Thank you so much for having me,it's such a joy.
To get to know you a little bit,I would love to hear where you
are currently at on your pleasure journey.
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I love this question. So I thought about this a little
bit and I'm I'm on a beautiful journey at the moment and I'm
really working towards being multi orgasmic.
So that is a big part of my practice working with like self
pleasure really going really slow and I think I spent a lot
of my life going very fast. So at this point in my life, I'm
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like really starting to unravel and unwind just the fibers of my
being to become multi orgasmic. So I think that's my kind of
where I'm at at the moment. I love fat and can relate to
that as well. What is something that brings
you a lot of pleasure? I love the feeling of silk and
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feathers, like I'm very sensual in my practice.
I love massage, like firm massage, like like grab me and
then soft feathers and that's what I love.
Oh, that gets me all like all just up here.
I've been following you for a long time and I love what you
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put out there. And now recently also seen with
the pro domination as well that we are connecting there in a way
as well. I've seen that you are offering
temple nights. Thought it would be a really
great opportunity to use this chance here to actually bring a
little bit more awareness into what is a temple night.
Not many people can really imagine what what it is like and
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what to expect, so could you describe what a temple night is
and what someone could expect when they're attending?
Absolutely. So imagine a time when there was
no shame when people would gather, you know, hundreds of
years ago when men and women would gather and they would
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celebrate pleasure in these ancient tantric temples.
So these practices that we have evolved now in the kind of
modern life have been derived from this ancient practice where
priestesses would come and they would heal men from war that
would come back and they would, you know, cleanse them through
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sexual pleasure, through connection.
They would perform initiations on young men.
And it was something that was really celebrated.
Like it was like they were high up in the political like sphere,
these women that would perform these ecstasies and these
delicious practices. And they were given a lot of
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power. They were even given power
around like land and making decisions in politics.
So that's pretty far from what we have these days.
And I think what we kind of try and bring forth in Eros temples
is a kind of ode to this ancientpractice.
And we bring like ritual and embodiment, connection, like
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awareness. So think a celebration of Eros,
which is our sexual energy. So I kind of like to think of it
as a bit of a blend of workshop as well as a place to actually
go and experience and play in those realms without
facilitation. So yes, it is a sex party
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because it is sexually infused, but not in the way that we would
think of it as Hermes of a swingers party because it brings
consciousness, it brings awareness, it brings presence,
which can be really off putting.You know, for some people it can
be really scary because we actually have to look inside.
You know, we can't just go, OK, let's go hard, fast gangbang.
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Like I won't come all over me. And while there's nothing wrong
with that, I love that as well. But this is a place for slowing
down and really starting to access the parts of our body and
these new pathways to pleasure that we might not even know that
we had. So when we take away penetration
from the space, what else becomes available?
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Maybe it's wax play, maybe it's shibari, maybe it's a cuddle
puddle and just being rolling around on the ground and, you
know, nuzzling into six different people.
Or it could be the kinky side. So this is where I like to
infuse like my kind of work and passion, which is in the kink
space in with the tantric principles.
So the way that our temples run are a bit of a fusion between
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all the different like realms ofsexuality and pleasure.
But I know that a lot of other temple businesses or other
brands do it a whole differently.
So they're all very, very different and it just depends on
the facilitators and their experience, what they've
learned, their backgrounds, whatthey're coming in with.
But I guess the main piece of a tantric temple compared to like
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a sex party is that you're bringing conscious awareness and
embodiment. So it's bringing, I know that
can even those words can sound really foreign if there's any
listeners that don't like, well,what's embodiment?
If you've never done any embodiment practices, it's
basically just a tuning to yourself and then to others, a
tuning to yourself and then tuning to others.
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And we kind of dance between those two spaces at temple and
kind of get really comfortable in how is my energy feeling?
What does it want to do? And then, oh, there's another
body here. How do our how do our bodies
want to meet and merge together?So I know that can probably
sound a little bit like vague, but we can go into the specifics
of how the knight actually runs,but just to give a little kind
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of sprinkle of what to kind of expect.
I love that you've differed it from like the swingers party and
like sex parties. And as someone like, I've been
to swingers parties, sex parties, I've been to king
parties and I've been to temple Knights.
And I have to say, by far, Temple Knights, the Tantric King
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is my absolute favorite because that's just the moment when I
can step into my body and I'm actually really present and I
actually really feel pleasure where the the swingers is.
There's not much of connection. What are you into?
What are you looking for? Yeah.
Or that fits me. Let's go.
And I've been also to parties where even when you are doing
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something there and you've got other people already waiting for
the bed to be free. And I'm just like, this is not
in. And then the king party that
I've been to. So it was king stations and it
could go to the different king stations, but it wasn't
necessarily stepping into your body space or preparing you into
that, like opening up the space.And we're all doing some, you
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know, activities together to really drop into it.
And then to really explore each other, like the temple nights
where you go around and you havelike some sort of connection
with everyone you like walk through and you just build up
that energy as a collective. And then you can just explore
that more deeply. And I've just experienced such a
deep pleasure with that. That's.
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Such a beautiful description andso true that that really is the
difference. It's like this kind of
disassociated, not really present version, which is fine
and it's enjoyable and it's pleasurable and it's a great
intro for a lot of people because you can kind of be 1
foot in, one foot out because you're kind of not really there
necessarily mentally. But I guess that is the part.
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It's like people are like, OK, well, I'm really ready for
something deeper. And it does become this like
melting pot where everyone becomes really connected because
you are doing all these practices that, you know, you
might connect with this person and this person and this person.
You're walking around the room and the whole room just becomes
this like vortex of pleasure. It's super delicious.
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In regards to this, because I recently saw a situation where
someone went on like an adult play resort hotel situation.
So it's basically like like a sex hotel, adult only and it's
really open and sex positive. And this is what ends up there
usually. And I got like quite a bit of
negative feedback because oh, what happens?
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Like I got this negative situation with with that other
person and then there was no oneelse to help me.
There was not anything in regards to the safety of the
people. So what difference like the
Temple Knights for example? Like what kind of like
guidelines or agreements are in place to ensure safety or
consent? Amazing.
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We have a lot in place actually and probably not enough time to
go through all of it, but a quick, quick spiel is that.
So we send everyone like pre work videos that basically
describe the nervous system, thebasics of boundaries and consent
and everyone watches these before coming.
Then they come to a consent and boundaries workshop which is 2
hours at the beginning of the temple night.
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This is for all new participants.
So everyone that's come to temple our temples before is
allowed to like skip that. But honestly, we make it so
juicy and fun that everyone always wants to come to the
consent workshop as well. Make it really playful, like I
don't know if you've been to Taste of Love.
Yes, yes, the last one. I ran the consent and work
consent and boundaries workshop and then the opening temple
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night, so it was really cool because people were like, I
didn't know that consent could be so fun.
So that is a massive part of it is teaching people about
consent. We also have a consent fairy who
is always available for emotional support because it can
be really hard to come up to thefacilitators during an event,
especially like if we're holdingspace for 60 people.
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It's just, it's too, you know, it can be really hard, that
barrier. So having someone safe to talk
to. We also have a what we call
regulation station. So that's where you can go and
see if you're feeling just a bit, a little bit heightened.
You can sit there and you know that no one's going to try and
play with you. They're not going to interact
with you unless it's one of our team.
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And they will come up and just check in and say how you're
going, how you're going. Is everything OK?
And they give them support from there, whether it's a cuddle or
maybe to go sit outside and helpthem regulate.
So, and we're also reminding people of the nervous system.
So we also speak to it whilst we're in the event and remind
people about the different responses.
So especially fawning, freeze, these kinds of things, what it
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might look like in the body. Because sometimes we don't even
know that we're having one of those responses until
afterwards. And that's mostly the case.
And this is how we learn. But then people once they know,
oh, I was just wanting to freeze, OK, rather than going,
oh, my God, what just happened to me?
Like, I have no idea what's going on.
This is not safe. But rather than having the
awareness of, oh, OK, I just hadthat response, OK, Then they can
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start to unpack it and have the kind of, yeah, the autonomy over
their own body, which is what wereally want to empower people to
have, really. And then that way they can meet
the space where they're available and then they can go,
oh, OK, this is, this was my edge last time that I kind of
went into a bit of A and then next time I can go a little bit
further and they kind of start to have build that confidence
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within themselves to know where they're at.
I I felt the most seen and heardand like cherished and and
valued and loved in these spaces.
With this process, everyone has gone through the consent and the
boundaries and knows about the nervous system.
And I also love them that that people are just present to be
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there. If there's any support extra
needed for swinging, they sometimes try to keep the
numbers in place, like not too many single men or they have got
certain criterias. Is there an application of
vetting progress for Tempo Knights as well?
Some, yeah, for sure. There are some that you have to
like be invited. Our ones we've we haven't had to
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have an application process because we've seemed to attract
amazing humans always. I don't know, Touchwood, we do
have. So what the way that we've kind
of combated the single male conundrum that anyone that works
in the adult entertainment industry will know that there is
always an influx of single malesthat want to attend.
So to go to to keep the numbers even, there's always different
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tactics that different businesses take.
So what we've done is we've put the prices up of single male
tickets and then the that way itencourages them to go and find a
female and then they can buy a couple's ticket.
So then, so then the non binary tickets are the same price as
the female tickets. And that's, that seems to be
working for us. I just saw recently actually I'm
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going to a temple night on the weekend, which is going to be
really fun. And I noticed that they don't
even sell single male tickets. It's just they can buy a 2 for
one deal for females or yeah, you can buy a couples ticket as
a male, but there's no single male ticket.
So I guess there's just different ways of combating that
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that different businesses take. And then yeah, some will have
application processes for sure. Yeah.
And it's also, I mean, the consent and boundaries free
workshop basically is also an extra step that people have to
go through. And if they are just like
looking for something else, theycouldn't be bothered to actually
go through all of that as well. So they're just that's not my
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thing then? Exactly because I have to kind
of put up with. Exactly.
Playing by the rules and yeah, Imean, look, you're obviously
going to get people that come that just want to hook up and
have sex. It's just unavoidable, you know?
And that's OK. But I think when we can bring
those desires out of the shadowsand really bring them to light,
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be like, OK, well what else is there for you?
Like what else is actually beyond just penetration?
Is it intimacy? Is it connection?
Is it a cuddle? And more often than not, the men
that come to these things with those strong intentions have
these like huge realizations that there's so much more to
connection and pleasure beyond just penis and vagina or, you
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know, P and VP and A. So this is what I love about
that as well, is that they, I often find that the single men
that come with those kind of preconceived ideas around what
it's going to be have the biggest transformations.
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uncensored. Two questions in this regards,
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actually. So first up, I want to ask about
the personal and transformative benefits that people can
experience when they attend. But I also just before I forget,
when people participate, do theyhave like what can happen or can
they decide like I actually do not want to engage in physical
touch or play, or I actually do want to go all the way?
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What what is allowed? What isn't allowed?
Like how can they navigate that?Beautiful.
So I guess because of the journey of consent boundaries,
practices and games that get them connecting by the time we
get to the open play section, which is where they get to
experience all the different kind of flavors of sensuality.
By that stage, we would hope that they would have a little
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bit of an idea around what they may or may not want to try.
So completely encouraged to watch.
We have people that come and might just sit on the edge and
just participate by watching, which you know, is totally
encouraged. We have couples that come only
want to play with each other. We have people that go, OK, I've
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got this strong desire. I want 7 hands on me, 7-8 hands
on me. And you know, I want 1 here and
I want this seven. Such a random number.
So it is such a big spectrum. And what I love about it being
so varied in terms of experiencelevels is that we get beginners
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that have come that have never experienced anything kinky,
anything beyond, you know, the three positions.
And, you know, boom, it's over. And they come to this.
And they go, oh, my gosh. Because we get these experienced
players who come and they're just like, so embodied in their
desires that they just want this, this.
Yeah, I know exactly what I want.
They're curating these epic scenes that they get to receive
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this juicy transmission from, which I think is just as
powerful by observing and watching than actually
participating. So always encourage people to
just do it is what they feel that they are feeling in that
moment. And sometimes people come that
are bleeding and they just stilllove want to come because they
love the community. So yeah.
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But. And then you also asked here
what we actually have available in the space.
So all of the temples that I have run up until these next
two. Have been no penetration.
So moral has been OK, like fingers inside have been OK, but
just no P and VP and A. So that has been our kind of I
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guess expectation of the space. But these next two, we have been
getting so many requests for a Level 2 experience.
So we just decided that it was time to incorporate penetration
into the space and allow that energy into the environment.
So because we have so many different things available, like
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I've been to temples where there's been penetration and
it's, it's still not really a big focus of the space.
Like, yes, there are people engaging in penetrative sex, but
because there's like so much more that's been created in the
energy of the space. There's like, you know, sensual
touch happening. There's massage, there's
feathers, there's like ChocolateEngland cough bodies.
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And there's just more kind of roots to pleasure that seem to
happen in those spaces, like intent in Tantric Temple Nights
even when there is penetration. So it'll be really interesting
to see how these next two events.
What are some like personal or transformative like benefits?
So we've already like slightly talked about it, but have you
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really witnessed some bigger transformations or shifts in
people who have been attending? Absolutely.
Like I have noticed, so I can think of a couple people in my
mind that when they first came to me, I was receiving long
inbox messages around their yeah, the inhibition stuff that
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have been holding them back, like story trauma, all this
stuff and going, are these spaces right for me?
What am I going to get out of this?
I'm terrified. But something is like staring in
me like I need to come. I've got that.
And when you get that butterflies in your belly, it's
like that's when you know it's it's your time.
If you have that feeling when I'm talking about temples, then
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it's your time to come. So she had all of that and then
she came in on her first temple and was really terrified.
Like really terrified, really standoffish, didn't really
participate. Kind of watched a little bit,
was kind of, you know, just observing, very coy.
And then came to another temple night and then another one and
another one. And then next minute this is
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like a completely liberated, like walking into the temple,
like, you know, really could feel her energy, her feminine
power, her prowess, herself worth.
And actually she did a little speech at our Christmas party
and it was just beautiful how witnessing her transformation
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and how much it had actually like kind of imbued into the and
in the rest of her life as well.Like, you know how she shows up
and of confidence. So that's just one case.
I get so many people messaging me telling me how much it's
changed their life. I get messages all the time.
Like when is the next one? Like because it really does
allow people this chance to stepinto this like extension of who
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we actually are, but we don't get to experience in our
day-to-day life. So it's like when you come to
these spaces, it's like you really get to, I get to do this
every day because I'm a Dom, butI get to always be in this like
other version of me. Whereas for other people, this
might be their one chance to kind of be in this energy of
like, power and connection. And just so much becomes
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available from there. So yeah, it's so many people.
It's amazing. I I must be amazing just to
witness that when you see them coming again and again and just
like how much they embrace themselves and finally, you
know, isn't to their desires andreally go for it.
It's so it's really beautiful and it really does keep me so
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like keep me grounded and like so excited about this work.
Like it just makes me really want to like, OK, this is really
creating an impact in people's lives.
And I really want to keep doing this like offering these spaces
because yeah, it really does change people's lives and how
they show up, whether it's in their relationships at work,
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like creative sexual energy, your, your life force.
I'm sure you, you know this, right?
It like it totally changes the way you show up in life, like in
yourself confidence, like havingthat unfuck withable self worth
inside is it just changes everything.
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What are some like common fears or blockages that people might
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have before attending And like how could they overcome it?
So basically, what kind of advice would you give someone
who was curious about attending their first temple night?
But it's got these fears or blockages?
I mean, everyone's a little bit different, but like for me, I
always find because I'm a line one in human design, I'm an
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investigator. So I like knowledge and
information that makes me feel safe.
So doing research, you know, looking into it, looking into
what to expect, looking into thedifferent things that are
available, reading people's stories, listening to podcasts,
these kinds of things start to create a bit of an idea and your
head to create a bit of safety to go, OK, I know a bit about
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what I'm going to expect, you know, and then I would just if
they really weren't kind of ready for that, you could do a
one-on-one session with someone with a sex worker.
You could, you know, what was I going to say?
There's a book that I wanted to Oh yes, actually, I know this is
skipping getting early, but thisone, the multi orgasmic woman,
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I'm Mantechia that is epic, you know, and just these these
little pieces that can help create that safety.
That would be my suggestion. Awesome I love that.
And how does your role as a pro Dom and kink educator like
influences your temple Knights? Well, bringing, I guess bringing
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that mistress energy into the space is paramount really,
because I am conducting a space of sometimes 60 people plus all
the helpers plus all the space holders.
Like it, It requires a certain level of like dexterity and
like, you know, to really be able to hold that pillar.
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So I bring a lot of my Dom energy mixed in with my sensual,
you know, Tantra openness, flowygoddess vibes into the space.
I've also run like a kink kind of mini kink workshop at the
beginning of open play, which issuper cool.
Just taking people through the basics of, you know, different
kink practices that they might want to try.
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I also offer like little mini experiences for people.
So I'm often in the kink space flogging people or, you know,
tying someone up or providing these like little mini
experiences, which for some people might be their first time
ever experiencing something along those lines of kink or
being spanked. They might have never had impact
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play. So I love being able to give
people their first experiences. And you work with like any
gender, any kind of dynamic, etcetera.
Yes, absolutely. So we do get queer people, We've
had trans people come non binary, gender fluid, all the
different flavors of humans cometo these spaces.
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And I'm really passionate about really trying to make that more
available. I know that often that I've
heard this a lot from the queer community that coming to tantro
events can be super triggering because it's very like
masculine, feminine energy, men over there, women over there.
So the way that we kind of combat that is that we will,
rather than saying, OK, men overthere, women over there will say
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if you're feeling more, you know, creative and flowy, come
onto this corner. If you're feeling more driven
and focused and task orientated,then come into this section.
So just trying to get away from the gender norms to kind of
strip back the layers of conditioning and let's just get
into our bodies and see how our souls want to be beyond our
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labels and identities. I love that because it actually
makes you to tune into yourself.Like, OK, how do I actually feel
today? Do I feel like more creative
without you telling, like without someone else telling you
what you should be doing and howyou should be Right now it's
about, huh, do I want to go there or there?
Hang on, let me TuneIn, I actually feel like this today.
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So I'm going with that. Amazing, love that As a pleasure
toy queen I'm going to have to ask about pleasure toys Kinky
tours. How does that work for the
Temple Knights? Can everybody just bring the
whole collection? Is there something there that
you can explore? Like how does that work?
Amazing. Yeah.
So everyone is totally encouraged to bring their toys.
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So we have people that bring like all sorts of crazy stuff.
We have this amazing human called Doc Love you Dog or
Master D if he's listening. He is incredible.
He brings like a restraint chair.
He brings like all this kink equipment, like a frames.
He brings like often like electrical play, maybe fireplace
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stuff, all sorts of goodies. So people are really encouraged
to bring things that really excites them as as long as they
can, you know, use it safely. And so, yeah, we get people
bringing like, you know, their classic toys, like floggers and
whips and feathers and stuff, but we also provide quite a lot.
So over the years, I have this, like, ridiculous suitcase now
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kind of filled with like lots ofdifferent paddles and whips and
toys and heaps of stuff. So we kind of lay it all out on
the table and then people are welcome to borrow it for the
open play. I love this.
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You deserve it. While we are speaking about King
and BDSM, is there a tip that you could give to anyone who
would like to explore King BDSM?Like something beginner
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friendly? Amazing.
You could go onto my website anddownload my kink checklist.
That would be a great way to start.
This is generally what I suggestto people is because often
you're like, well, kink, what even is that?
You know, there's so much that becomes available when we get
out of OK, it's whips and chainsand pain.
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It's like, no, it can be soft, it can be cheeky, it can be role
play, it can be fish, it can be all these different kind of
flavors. So I've developed a bit of a
kink checklist. It's not everything that exists
in the world, obviously, becausethe limit is our imagination.
But going on there and if you'vegot a partner going through it
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and going, OK, well, how willingam I for these things?
And then you might look at your partner's list and go, Oh my
God, you are way more kinky thanI knew that you were, or that
maybe there's things that kind of link up you like, OK, well
let's try this and let's try this.
So that would be a good way to start, or joining Fetlife would
be another one. And I love that you've just
mentioned King and BDSM. It doesn't have to be impact.
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It does not. Because when I signed up to
become a professional dominatrixand did my certificate, I got
quite a few people reaching out like, Oh my God, are you just
like gonna, you know, flog people?
And, and I thought, this is the typical picture that we have got
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when someone who doesn't know much about it is OK, there's
this lady now in in black latex and high heels and her whip and
she's just flogging man. Basically, this is a dominatrix,
but like what I've learned and what I love to pass on now as
well is that it's such a big spectrum, like it can be a pro
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Dom, can be a queen, which like I love to embody or Goddess, you
know, it's worshipping. Oh my God, like I love being
worship or having that authorityand train people.
But you could also be nurturing,like you know that that mother
nurturing energy, There's so much energy to play with.
So I love that you have this checklist because this gives
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like some inspiration and ideas of like, oh, I've never thought
about that. Or we could explore that.
Or no, I don't think I could do that.
Absolutely, yeah. And I think it's a big part of
getting past the stigma around what King is.
A lot of people go, oh, so creepy, like I think of people
in a cage or something like that.
But it can be so sensual and sexy and it can even just be
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like voicing a really cheeky role play and not even acting it
out, just saying it to the partner.
Like even that would be considered kinky.
So I think when we start to kindof strip back what it actually
is is when we get to be creativeand go, OK, well, what could we
actually do here? Like what how does do I want
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chocolate sauce? Do I want feathers?
Like just all the really soft beautiful things, I think is
just where, yeah, people really get to expand and melt into
this, practice that. But not there's anything wrong
with impact. I love impact and pain and.
What being caged being? Caged, absolutely love it.
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I I. Always like to use the, the, the
kind of picture of kink is like a buffet.
And when we, when we go to our buffet every day, when we want
to eat, we can pick our flavors.Like today, I feel like, you
know, I want to have this, I want to have that and we can
plate our plate with all the flavors and the yumminess that
we feel like. And then when we go sit down at
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the table, we might want to lookfor someone who's eating
something similar. So we get along and we can dine
together and we can have that experience together.
And maybe next day you pick a few other flavors and you go sit
at other different on table because you know we're going to
explore something differently. So I just love it that because
that takes away the pressure of like also putting yourself in a
category of like, this is not me.
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You can just decide every time, like what do you want to go and
explore a little bit more. Absolutely, yes.
I love that. I love that analogy.
Where can people find you if they would like to work with
you? Join your temple night.
Amazing. So it's just Lotus Erotica dot
com dot AU and then Lotus under score Erotica is my Twitter, my
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Instagram, and then I'm Lotus Eros on Facebook.
So yeah, can you find me on all the different platforms?
Lotus Erotica? Mighty suggested.
And then don't forget you can screenshot this episode and then
take me and Mistress Eros A as well so we can see what you've
taken away from this episode. I would love to ask you another
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few questions before we end thisepisode.
Do you have like a favorite pleasure product?
Could be anything that brings you pleasure.
I do love my Yanni Pleasure Palace toys and the crystal
dildos. Do you love those?
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They're always really beautiful.Do you have a special book
recommendation? I've already seen the multi
orgasmic woman. Yeah, another one.
Hmm. Existential Kink is the first
one that comes into my head. Is a fantastic book.
I mean, it's quite common. If everyone's in this work,
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they'll probably know that one. Or Urban Tantra, A beautiful
book. Yeah, I love that one too.
And before we going to end this episode now, what would be your
#1 tip or one of your best tips for everybody listening for
pleasure? #1 tip for pleasure I would say
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finding pleasure doesn't have tobe sexual.
It can be Eros is in everything.It can be in the sound of the
rain. It can be writing a poem for the
wind. You can write a love letter to a
tree, the sensation of, you know, even just the softness of
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the marble on your fingers of the desk.
And I think when we really startto drop this idea that pleasure
and touch has to be sexual, you know, we really get to drop into
the juiciness of what can becomealive in every single moment to
make your entire life this orgasmic, blissful experience.
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I love that. Thank you so much for coming
onto the podcast. Thank you so much.
Such a pleasure. Loved it.
Thank you, Patricia. Thank you so much for tuning
into this Pleasure lit episode. I would love it if you could
share this episode along with your loved ones and also make
sure you follow and subscribe tomy channel so you don't miss out
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one of my next episodes. With love and pleasure.
Have you ever wondered what Temple Nights are?
What are they getting up to whenthey are speaking about
attending a temple night that infused King Capitia Sam
sensation play? Is that a sex party?
Do they have sex there? Is that a kind of swingers party
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just declared as a temple night?Are they going well?
They're how are they dressed like?
What is involved? If you've ever been curious
about temple nights, then this episode is for you.
In this episode, I have got the guest speaker, Mistress Arrows
and we are I'm going to go deeper into what to expect at a
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temple night and how you can explore your pleasures at one of
these nights. TuneIn to be inspired and
empowered on your pleasure journey.
Welcome to the Pleasure Lit Podcast, a podcast to inspire
and empower you on your pleasurejourney.
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Hi, I am pleasure with Patricia,your trusted, multi
award-winning and certified pleasure educator and creator,
guiding you on your journey to awaken, deepen, widen and
embrace your pleasure potential through unapologetic self love,
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connections and relationships, and conscious King, BDSM, Tantra
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out of it and we can re share your love.
Thank you so much. And today I have got here with
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me, Mistress Eros. And she's a strong force in
sacred sexuality, merging domination with Tantra,
mindfulness and zomatics to create profound transformations.
So as a pro Dom educator and community leader, she creates
exquisite spaces where power, healing, and desire come
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together with a redefined balance of strength and
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empowers, liberates, and elevates.
Sounds so good? Welcome to the podcast.
Thank you so much for having me,it's such a joy.
To get to know you a little bit,I would love to hear where you
are currently at on your pleasure journey.
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I love this question. So I thought about this a little
bit and I'm I'm on a beautiful journey at the moment and I'm
really working towards being multi orgasmic.
So that is a big part of my practice working with like self
pleasure really going really slow and I think I spent a lot
of my life going very fast. So at this point in my life, I'm
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like really starting to unravel and unwind just the fibers of my
being to become multi orgasmic. So I think that's my kind of
where I'm at at the moment. I love fat and can relate to
that as well. What is something that brings
you a lot of pleasure? I love the feeling of silk and
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feathers, like I'm very sensual in my practice.
I love massage, like firm massage, like like grab me and
then soft feathers and that's what I love.
Oh, that gets me all like all just up here.
I've been following you for a long time and I love what you
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put out there. And now recently also seen with
the pro domination as well that we are connecting there in a way
as well. I've seen that you are offering
temple nights. Thought it would be a really
great opportunity to use this chance here to actually bring a
little bit more awareness into what is a temple night.
Not many people can really imagine what what it is like and
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what to expect, so could you describe what a temple night is
and what someone could expect when they're attending?
Absolutely. So imagine a time when there was
no shame when people would gather, you know, hundreds of
years ago when men and women would gather and they would
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celebrate pleasure in these ancient tantric temples.
So these practices that we have evolved now in the kind of
modern life have been derived from this ancient practice where
priestesses would come and they would heal men from war that
would come back and they would, you know, cleanse them through
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sexual pleasure, through connection.
They would perform initiations on young men.
And it was something that was really celebrated.
Like it was like they were high up in the political like sphere,
these women that would perform these ecstasies and these
delicious practices. And they were given a lot of
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power. They were even given power
around like land and making decisions in politics.
So that's pretty far from what we have these days.
And I think what we kind of try and bring forth in Eros temples
is a kind of ode to this ancientpractice.
And we bring like ritual and embodiment, connection, like
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awareness. So think a celebration of Eros,
which is our sexual energy. So I kind of like to think of it
as a bit of a blend of workshop as well as a place to actually
go and experience and play in those realms without
facilitation. So yes, it is a sex party
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because it is sexually infused, but not in the way that we would
think of it as Hermes of a swingers party because it brings
consciousness, it brings awareness, it brings presence,
which can be really off putting.You know, for some people it can
be really scary because we actually have to look inside.
You know, we can't just go, OK, let's go hard, fast gangbang.
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Like I won't come all over me. And while there's nothing wrong
with that, I love that as well. But this is a place for slowing
down and really starting to access the parts of our body and
these new pathways to pleasure that we might not even know that
we had. So when we take away penetration
from the space, what else becomes available?
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Maybe it's wax play, maybe it's shibari, maybe it's a cuddle
puddle and just being rolling around on the ground and, you
know, nuzzling into six different people.
Or it could be the kinky side. So this is where I like to
infuse like my kind of work and passion, which is in the kink
space in with the tantric principles.
So the way that our temples run are a bit of a fusion between
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all the different like realms ofsexuality and pleasure.
But I know that a lot of other temple businesses or other
brands do it a whole differently.
So they're all very, very different and it just depends on
the facilitators and their experience, what they've
learned, their backgrounds, whatthey're coming in with.
But I guess the main piece of a tantric temple compared to like
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a sex party is that you're bringing conscious awareness and
embodiment. So it's bringing, I know that
can even those words can sound really foreign if there's any
listeners that don't like, well,what's embodiment?
If you've never done any embodiment practices, it's
basically just a tuning to yourself and then to others, a
tuning to yourself and then tuning to others.
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And we kind of dance between those two spaces at temple and
kind of get really comfortable in how is my energy feeling?
What does it want to do? And then, oh, there's another
body here. How do our how do our bodies
want to meet and merge together?So I know that can probably
sound a little bit like vague, but we can go into the specifics
of how the knight actually runs,but just to give a little kind
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of sprinkle of what to kind of expect.
I love that you've differed it from like the swingers party and
like sex parties. And as someone like, I've been
to swingers parties, sex parties, I've been to king
parties and I've been to temple Knights.
And I have to say, by far, Temple Knights, the Tantric King
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is my absolute favorite because that's just the moment when I
can step into my body and I'm actually really present and I
actually really feel pleasure where the the swingers is.
There's not much of connection. What are you into?
What are you looking for? Yeah.
Or that fits me. Let's go.
And I've been also to parties where even when you are doing
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something there and you've got other people already waiting for
the bed to be free. And I'm just like, this is not
in. And then the king party that
I've been to. So it was king stations and it
could go to the different king stations, but it wasn't
necessarily stepping into your body space or preparing you into
that, like opening up the space.And we're all doing some, you
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know, activities together to really drop into it.
And then to really explore each other, like the temple nights
where you go around and you havelike some sort of connection
with everyone you like walk through and you just build up
that energy as a collective. And then you can just explore
that more deeply. And I've just experienced such a
deep pleasure with that. That's.
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Such a beautiful description andso true that that really is the
difference. It's like this kind of
disassociated, not really present version, which is fine
and it's enjoyable and it's pleasurable and it's a great
intro for a lot of people because you can kind of be 1
foot in, one foot out because you're kind of not really there
necessarily mentally. But I guess that is the part.
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It's like people are like, OK, well, I'm really ready for
something deeper. And it does become this like
melting pot where everyone becomes really connected because
you are doing all these practices that, you know, you
might connect with this person and this person and this person.
You're walking around the room and the whole room just becomes
this like vortex of pleasure. It's super delicious.
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In regards to this, because I recently saw a situation where
someone went on like an adult play resort hotel situation.
So it's basically like like a sex hotel, adult only and it's
really open and sex positive. And this is what ends up there
usually. And I got like quite a bit of
negative feedback because oh, what happens?
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Like I got this negative situation with with that other
person and then there was no oneelse to help me.
There was not anything in regards to the safety of the
people. So what difference like the
Temple Knights for example? Like what kind of like
guidelines or agreements are in place to ensure safety or
consent? Amazing.
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We have a lot in place actually and probably not enough time to
go through all of it, but a quick, quick spiel is that.
So we send everyone like pre work videos that basically
describe the nervous system, thebasics of boundaries and consent
and everyone watches these before coming.
Then they come to a consent and boundaries workshop which is 2
hours at the beginning of the temple night.
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This is for all new participants.
So everyone that's come to temple our temples before is
allowed to like skip that. But honestly, we make it so
juicy and fun that everyone always wants to come to the
consent workshop as well. Make it really playful, like I
don't know if you've been to Taste of Love.
Yes, yes, the last one. I ran the consent and work
consent and boundaries workshop and then the opening temple
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night, so it was really cool because people were like, I
didn't know that consent could be so fun.
So that is a massive part of it is teaching people about
consent. We also have a consent fairy who
is always available for emotional support because it can
be really hard to come up to thefacilitators during an event,
especially like if we're holdingspace for 60 people.
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It's just, it's too, you know, it can be really hard, that
barrier. So having someone safe to talk
to. We also have a what we call
regulation station. So that's where you can go and
see if you're feeling just a bit, a little bit heightened.
You can sit there and you know that no one's going to try and
play with you. They're not going to interact
with you unless it's one of our team.
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And they will come up and just check in and say how you're
going, how you're going. Is everything OK?
And they give them support from there, whether it's a cuddle or
maybe to go sit outside and helpthem regulate.
So, and we're also reminding people of the nervous system.
So we also speak to it whilst we're in the event and remind
people about the different responses.
So especially fawning, freeze, these kinds of things, what it
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might look like in the body. Because sometimes we don't even
know that we're having one of those responses until
afterwards. And that's mostly the case.
And this is how we learn. But then people once they know,
oh, I was just wanting to freeze, OK, rather than going,
oh, my God, what just happened to me?
Like, I have no idea what's going on.
This is not safe. But rather than having the
awareness of, oh, OK, I just hadthat response, OK, Then they can
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start to unpack it and have the kind of, yeah, the autonomy over
their own body, which is what wereally want to empower people to
have, really. And then that way they can meet
the space where they're available and then they can go,
oh, OK, this is, this was my edge last time that I kind of
went into a bit of A and then next time I can go a little bit
further and they kind of start to have build that confidence
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within themselves to know where they're at.
I I felt the most seen and heardand like cherished and and
valued and loved in these spaces.
With this process, everyone has gone through the consent and the
boundaries and knows about the nervous system.
And I also love them that that people are just present to be
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there. If there's any support extra
needed for swinging, they sometimes try to keep the
numbers in place, like not too many single men or they have got
certain criterias. Is there an application of
vetting progress for Tempo Knights as well?
Some, yeah, for sure. There are some that you have to
like be invited. Our ones we've we haven't had to
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have an application process because we've seemed to attract
amazing humans always. I don't know, Touchwood, we do
have. So what the way that we've kind
of combated the single male conundrum that anyone that works
in the adult entertainment industry will know that there is
always an influx of single malesthat want to attend.
So to go to to keep the numbers even, there's always different
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tactics that different businesses take.
So what we've done is we've put the prices up of single male
tickets and then the that way itencourages them to go and find a
female and then they can buy a couple's ticket.
So then, so then the non binary tickets are the same price as
the female tickets. And that's, that seems to be
working for us. I just saw recently actually I'm
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going to a temple night on the weekend, which is going to be
really fun. And I noticed that they don't
even sell single male tickets. It's just they can buy a 2 for
one deal for females or yeah, you can buy a couples ticket as
a male, but there's no single male ticket.
So I guess there's just different ways of combating that
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that different businesses take. And then yeah, some will have
application processes for sure. Yeah.
And it's also, I mean, the consent and boundaries free
workshop basically is also an extra step that people have to
go through. And if they are just like
looking for something else, theycouldn't be bothered to actually
go through all of that as well. So they're just that's not my
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thing then? Exactly because I have to kind
of put up with. Exactly.
Playing by the rules and yeah, Imean, look, you're obviously
going to get people that come that just want to hook up and
have sex. It's just unavoidable, you know?
And that's OK. But I think when we can bring
those desires out of the shadowsand really bring them to light,
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be like, OK, well what else is there for you?
Like what else is actually beyond just penetration?
Is it intimacy? Is it connection?
Is it a cuddle? And more often than not, the men
that come to these things with those strong intentions have
these like huge realizations that there's so much more to
connection and pleasure beyond just penis and vagina or, you
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know, P and VP and A. So this is what I love about
that as well, is that they, I often find that the single men
that come with those kind of preconceived ideas around what
it's going to be have the biggest transformations.
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uncensored. Two questions in this regards,
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actually. So first up, I want to ask about
the personal and transformative benefits that people can
experience when they attend. But I also just before I forget,
when people participate, do theyhave like what can happen or can
they decide like I actually do not want to engage in physical
touch or play, or I actually do want to go all the way?
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What what is allowed? What isn't allowed?
Like how can they navigate that?Beautiful.
So I guess because of the journey of consent boundaries,
practices and games that get them connecting by the time we
get to the open play section, which is where they get to
experience all the different kind of flavors of sensuality.
By that stage, we would hope that they would have a little
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bit of an idea around what they may or may not want to try.
So completely encouraged to watch.
We have people that come and might just sit on the edge and
just participate by watching, which you know, is totally
encouraged. We have couples that come only
want to play with each other. We have people that go, OK, I've
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got this strong desire. I want 7 hands on me, 7-8 hands
on me. And you know, I want 1 here and
I want this seven. Such a random number.
So it is such a big spectrum. And what I love about it being
so varied in terms of experiencelevels is that we get beginners
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that have come that have never experienced anything kinky,
anything beyond, you know, the three positions.
And, you know, boom, it's over. And they come to this.
And they go, oh, my gosh. Because we get these experienced
players who come and they're just like, so embodied in their
desires that they just want this, this.
Yeah, I know exactly what I want.
They're curating these epic scenes that they get to receive
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this juicy transmission from, which I think is just as
powerful by observing and watching than actually
participating. So always encourage people to
just do it is what they feel that they are feeling in that
moment. And sometimes people come that
are bleeding and they just stilllove want to come because they
love the community. So yeah.
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But. And then you also asked here
what we actually have available in the space.
So all of the temples that I have run up until these next
two. Have been no penetration.
So moral has been OK, like fingers inside have been OK, but
just no P and VP and A. So that has been our kind of I
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guess expectation of the space. But these next two, we have been
getting so many requests for a Level 2 experience.
So we just decided that it was time to incorporate penetration
into the space and allow that energy into the environment.
So because we have so many different things available, like
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I've been to temples where there's been penetration and
it's, it's still not really a big focus of the space.
Like, yes, there are people engaging in penetrative sex, but
because there's like so much more that's been created in the
energy of the space. There's like, you know, sensual
touch happening. There's massage, there's
feathers, there's like ChocolateEngland cough bodies.
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And there's just more kind of roots to pleasure that seem to
happen in those spaces, like intent in Tantric Temple Nights
even when there is penetration. So it'll be really interesting
to see how these next two events.
What are some like personal or transformative like benefits?
So we've already like slightly talked about it, but have you
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really witnessed some bigger transformations or shifts in
people who have been attending? Absolutely.
Like I have noticed, so I can think of a couple people in my
mind that when they first came to me, I was receiving long
inbox messages around their yeah, the inhibition stuff that
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have been holding them back, like story trauma, all this
stuff and going, are these spaces right for me?
What am I going to get out of this?
I'm terrified. But something is like staring in
me like I need to come. I've got that.
And when you get that butterflies in your belly, it's
like that's when you know it's it's your time.
If you have that feeling when I'm talking about temples, then
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it's your time to come. So she had all of that and then
she came in on her first temple and was really terrified.
Like really terrified, really standoffish, didn't really
participate. Kind of watched a little bit,
was kind of, you know, just observing, very coy.
And then came to another temple night and then another one and
another one. And then next minute this is
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like a completely liberated, like walking into the temple,
like, you know, really could feel her energy, her feminine
power, her prowess, herself worth.
And actually she did a little speech at our Christmas party
and it was just beautiful how witnessing her transformation
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and how much it had actually like kind of imbued into the and
in the rest of her life as well.Like, you know how she shows up
and of confidence. So that's just one case.
I get so many people messaging me telling me how much it's
changed their life. I get messages all the time.
Like when is the next one? Like because it really does
allow people this chance to stepinto this like extension of who
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we actually are, but we don't get to experience in our
day-to-day life. So it's like when you come to
these spaces, it's like you really get to, I get to do this
every day because I'm a Dom, butI get to always be in this like
other version of me. Whereas for other people, this
might be their one chance to kind of be in this energy of
like, power and connection. And just so much becomes
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available from there. So yeah, it's so many people.
It's amazing. I I must be amazing just to
witness that when you see them coming again and again and just
like how much they embrace themselves and finally, you
know, isn't to their desires andreally go for it.
It's so it's really beautiful and it really does keep me so
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like keep me grounded and like so excited about this work.
Like it just makes me really want to like, OK, this is really
creating an impact in people's lives.
And I really want to keep doing this like offering these spaces
because yeah, it really does change people's lives and how
they show up, whether it's in their relationships at work,
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like creative sexual energy, your, your life force.
I'm sure you, you know this, right?
It like it totally changes the way you show up in life, like in
yourself confidence, like havingthat unfuck withable self worth
inside is it just changes everything.
So yeah, very passionate. Are you ready to become the
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What are some like common fears or blockages that people might
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have before attending And like how could they overcome it?
So basically, what kind of advice would you give someone
who was curious about attending their first temple night?
But it's got these fears or blockages?
I mean, everyone's a little bit different, but like for me, I
always find because I'm a line one in human design, I'm an
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investigator. So I like knowledge and
information that makes me feel safe.
So doing research, you know, looking into it, looking into
what to expect, looking into thedifferent things that are
available, reading people's stories, listening to podcasts,
these kinds of things start to create a bit of an idea and your
head to create a bit of safety to go, OK, I know a bit about
(26:43):
what I'm going to expect, you know, and then I would just if
they really weren't kind of ready for that, you could do a
one-on-one session with someone with a sex worker.
You could, you know, what was I going to say?
There's a book that I wanted to Oh yes, actually, I know this is
skipping getting early, but thisone, the multi orgasmic woman,
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I'm Mantechia that is epic, you know, and just these these
little pieces that can help create that safety.
That would be my suggestion. Awesome I love that.
And how does your role as a pro Dom and kink educator like
influences your temple Knights? Well, bringing, I guess bringing
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that mistress energy into the space is paramount really,
because I am conducting a space of sometimes 60 people plus all
the helpers plus all the space holders.
Like it, It requires a certain level of like dexterity and
like, you know, to really be able to hold that pillar.
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So I bring a lot of my Dom energy mixed in with my sensual,
you know, Tantra openness, flowygoddess vibes into the space.
I've also run like a kink kind of mini kink workshop at the
beginning of open play, which issuper cool.
Just taking people through the basics of, you know, different
kink practices that they might want to try.
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I also offer like little mini experiences for people.
So I'm often in the kink space flogging people or, you know,
tying someone up or providing these like little mini
experiences, which for some people might be their first time
ever experiencing something along those lines of kink or
being spanked. They might have never had impact
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play. So I love being able to give
people their first experiences. And you work with like any
gender, any kind of dynamic, etcetera.
Yes, absolutely. So we do get queer people, We've
had trans people come non binary, gender fluid, all the
different flavors of humans cometo these spaces.
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And I'm really passionate about really trying to make that more
available. I know that often that I've
heard this a lot from the queer community that coming to tantro
events can be super triggering because it's very like
masculine, feminine energy, men over there, women over there.
So the way that we kind of combat that is that we will,
rather than saying, OK, men overthere, women over there will say
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if you're feeling more, you know, creative and flowy, come
onto this corner. If you're feeling more driven
and focused and task orientated,then come into this section.
So just trying to get away from the gender norms to kind of
strip back the layers of conditioning and let's just get
into our bodies and see how our souls want to be beyond our
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labels and identities. I love that because it actually
makes you to tune into yourself.Like, OK, how do I actually feel
today? Do I feel like more creative
without you telling, like without someone else telling you
what you should be doing and howyou should be Right now it's
about, huh, do I want to go there or there?
Hang on, let me TuneIn, I actually feel like this today.
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So I'm going with that. Amazing, love that As a pleasure
toy queen I'm going to have to ask about pleasure toys Kinky
tours. How does that work for the
Temple Knights? Can everybody just bring the
whole collection? Is there something there that
you can explore? Like how does that work?
Amazing. Yeah.
So everyone is totally encouraged to bring their toys.
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So we have people that bring like all sorts of crazy stuff.
We have this amazing human called Doc Love you Dog or
Master D if he's listening. He is incredible.
He brings like a restraint chair.
He brings like all this kink equipment, like a frames.
He brings like often like electrical play, maybe fireplace
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stuff, all sorts of goodies. So people are really encouraged
to bring things that really excites them as as long as they
can, you know, use it safely. And so, yeah, we get people
bringing like, you know, their classic toys, like floggers and
whips and feathers and stuff, but we also provide quite a lot.
So over the years, I have this, like, ridiculous suitcase now
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kind of filled with like lots ofdifferent paddles and whips and
toys and heaps of stuff. So we kind of lay it all out on
the table and then people are welcome to borrow it for the
open play. I love this.
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You deserve it. While we are speaking about King
and BDSM, is there a tip that you could give to anyone who
would like to explore King BDSM?Like something beginner
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friendly? Amazing.
You could go onto my website anddownload my kink checklist.
That would be a great way to start.
This is generally what I suggestto people is because often
you're like, well, kink, what even is that?
You know, there's so much that becomes available when we get
out of OK, it's whips and chainsand pain.
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It's like, no, it can be soft, it can be cheeky, it can be role
play, it can be fish, it can be all these different kind of
flavors. So I've developed a bit of a
kink checklist. It's not everything that exists
in the world, obviously, becausethe limit is our imagination.
But going on there and if you'vegot a partner going through it
(33:20):
and going, OK, well, how willingam I for these things?
And then you might look at your partner's list and go, Oh my
God, you are way more kinky thanI knew that you were, or that
maybe there's things that kind of link up you like, OK, well
let's try this and let's try this.
So that would be a good way to start, or joining Fetlife would
be another one. And I love that you've just
mentioned King and BDSM. It doesn't have to be impact.
(33:42):
It does not. Because when I signed up to
become a professional dominatrixand did my certificate, I got
quite a few people reaching out like, Oh my God, are you just
like gonna, you know, flog people?
And, and I thought, this is the typical picture that we have got
(34:02):
when someone who doesn't know much about it is OK, there's
this lady now in in black latex and high heels and her whip and
she's just flogging man. Basically, this is a dominatrix,
but like what I've learned and what I love to pass on now as
well is that it's such a big spectrum, like it can be a pro
(34:24):
Dom, can be a queen, which like I love to embody or Goddess, you
know, it's worshipping. Oh my God, like I love being
worship or having that authorityand train people.
But you could also be nurturing,like you know that that mother
nurturing energy, There's so much energy to play with.
So I love that you have this checklist because this gives
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like some inspiration and ideas of like, oh, I've never thought
about that. Or we could explore that.
Or no, I don't think I could do that.
Absolutely, yeah. And I think it's a big part of
getting past the stigma around what King is.
A lot of people go, oh, so creepy, like I think of people
in a cage or something like that.
But it can be so sensual and sexy and it can even just be
(35:11):
like voicing a really cheeky role play and not even acting it
out, just saying it to the partner.
Like even that would be considered kinky.
So I think when we start to kindof strip back what it actually
is is when we get to be creativeand go, OK, well, what could we
actually do here? Like what how does do I want
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chocolate sauce? Do I want feathers?
Like just all the really soft beautiful things, I think is
just where, yeah, people really get to expand and melt into
this, practice that. But not there's anything wrong
with impact. I love impact and pain and.
What being caged being? Caged, absolutely love it.
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I I. Always like to use the, the, the
kind of picture of kink is like a buffet.
And when we, when we go to our buffet every day, when we want
to eat, we can pick our flavors.Like today, I feel like, you
know, I want to have this, I want to have that and we can
plate our plate with all the flavors and the yumminess that
we feel like. And then when we go sit down at
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the table, we might want to lookfor someone who's eating
something similar. So we get along and we can dine
together and we can have that experience together.
And maybe next day you pick a few other flavors and you go sit
at other different on table because you know we're going to
explore something differently. So I just love it that because
that takes away the pressure of like also putting yourself in a
category of like, this is not me.
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You can just decide every time, like what do you want to go and
explore a little bit more. Absolutely, yes.
I love that. I love that analogy.
Where can people find you if they would like to work with
you? Join your temple night.
Amazing. So it's just Lotus Erotica dot
com dot AU and then Lotus under score Erotica is my Twitter, my
(36:57):
Instagram, and then I'm Lotus Eros on Facebook.
So yeah, can you find me on all the different platforms?
Lotus Erotica? Mighty suggested.
And then don't forget you can screenshot this episode and then
take me and Mistress Eros A as well so we can see what you've
taken away from this episode. I would love to ask you another
(37:18):
few questions before we end thisepisode.
Do you have like a favorite pleasure product?
Could be anything that brings you pleasure.
I do love my Yanni Pleasure Palace toys and the crystal
dildos. Do you love those?
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They're always really beautiful.Do you have a special book
recommendation? I've already seen the multi
orgasmic woman. Yeah, another one.
Hmm. Existential Kink is the first
one that comes into my head. Is a fantastic book.
I mean, it's quite common. If everyone's in this work,
(38:02):
they'll probably know that one. Or Urban Tantra, A beautiful
book. Yeah, I love that one too.
And before we going to end this episode now, what would be your
#1 tip or one of your best tips for everybody listening for
pleasure? #1 tip for pleasure I would say
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finding pleasure doesn't have tobe sexual.
It can be Eros is in everything.It can be in the sound of the
rain. It can be writing a poem for the
wind. You can write a love letter to a
tree, the sensation of, you know, even just the softness of
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the marble on your fingers of the desk.
And I think when we really startto drop this idea that pleasure
and touch has to be sexual, you know, we really get to drop into
the juiciness of what can becomealive in every single moment to
make your entire life this orgasmic, blissful experience.
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I love that. Thank you so much for coming
onto the podcast. Thank you so much.
Such a pleasure. Loved it.
Thank you, Patricia. Thank you so much for tuning
into this Pleasure lit episode. I would love it if you could
share this episode along with your loved ones and also make
sure you follow and subscribe tomy channel so you don't miss out
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on any future episodes. And if you haven't rated or
reviewed the Polish LED podcast,yeah, it might be time to do
this now. I will see you or hear you at
one of my next episodes. With love and pleasure.
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