March 20, 2025 • 39 mins
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Susan Bratton and the Pleasure Toy Queen Patricia talk about how to unlock your orgasms, pleasure, multi-orgasmic being and living, pleasure toys and tools, pleasure toy trends, how to communicate with your partners, how to voice your desires and much more.
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Pleasure & Toy Queen Patricia
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It would be really fun if we were doing doggy style in the
mirror. And you know how you love to see
my boobs swinging back and forth?
Well, I'd like to hold a vibrator on my clit while we do
that. And sometimes I'd like you to
reach around and put your fingers in my mouth and hold me
and let me suck on your fingers while you're and maybe you
squeeze a boob now and then. Would you be willing to try
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something like that with me? Welcome to the Pleasure LED
podcast, a podcast to inspire and empower you on your pleasure
journey. If you are new here, hi I am
Patricia I am the award-winning a pleasure educator.
I am certified in fitness, nutrition, yoga, meditation,
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breath Tantra, thematic sex coaching, professional
dominatrix king and so, so much more.
Before we're going to get into this pleasure LED episode, I
would love it if you could screenshot this podcast episode
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Tag me and if there's a guest speaker, tag the guest speaker
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with your take away messages so we can see it and support you on
your pleasure journey. Today I have got a beautiful
guest speaker with me which is Susan Breton and she's known as
the intimacy expert and sexual biohacker.
She's a champion and advocate for all those who desire ageless
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intimacy and she has created hundreds of techniques that
transform having sex into makinglove.
She's one of the best selling authors and published over 44
books and programs on love making techniques and bedroom
communication skills. Welcome to the podcast.
Hi Trisha, I'm so, so happy thatwe're finally getting to do our
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show together. I have been looking forward to
this for so long. You are my kind of woman.
We are such kindred spirits and we have so many things in
common, including the fact that I am also a German girl.
Oh, you. Wanna.
Oh, yes, I I wasn't born in Germany, but a lot of my family
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members were. Yeah.
So you and I, it's so funny too,because you have you have some
little monikers. And I have been jokingly called
the Queen of Peen because one ofmy areas of expertise is penis
pumping for reversing Ed and formale enhancement.
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And I've written a book about it.
You, you saw that, the pumping guide and things like that.
And then I recently, someone recently dubbed me the Queen of
orgasms because I, I like to teach people all twenty kinds of
orgasms and how to achieve theirorgasmic potential.
And most people think that the kind of orgasm that they're
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having is the one that they have.
And it is in fact not at all that.
And you know that and you, you know you and I know that using
sex toys, which I like to call sex tools, which we also both
say are really good for orgasmiccross training, teaching you how
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to have orgasms in new ways. It's one of the best ways to
stimulate an expanded orgasmic response.
But I had always called myself an orgasma knot.
Not the queen, not the orgasm queen, but an orgasm.
Not because about 20 years ago, when I was really awakening to
my sexuality, when I was in my early 40s, I started an expanded
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orgasm practice. And I was coming for an hour at
a time. Like to the point where I just
had to stop if I got if I got thirsty or exhausted from
orgasms. And I called my mentor who
taught me this expanded orgasm clitoral stroking technique to
achieve these long heightened states of orgasmic ecstasy.
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And I said, Patty, like, I'm at the edge of this Cliff in this
darkness, looking out at the void, and I am afraid to keep
going, to step off. I'm going into some very
uncharted orgasmic territory here.
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What's going to happen? What should I do?
And she said, step off, step outin there, let go.
And I said, will I come back? And she said it could take you a
little while to regain some of your complete consciousness
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because you're going into an altered state.
But yeah, honey, you'll be fine.Go ahead and step off.
And so since then, I've often thought about myself as being
like, dressed in a silver spacesuit, really sexy 1, of
course, and stepping off into the unknown of orgasmic ecstasy
and then coming back with the map, the directions to that
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territory. So you could go there and
experience that too. And that's what I've been doing
is I've been writing step by step orgasm techniques because
we all have the same operating system.
And so I'm basically like an Olympic gold medal Comer.
And I like to help women really break out of that.
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And men, I like to help people across the gender spectrum
really achieve, you know, a level of ecstasy and ability to
come and confidence and pleasurethat they never even imagined
could be possible because we don't see it in our media.
It's not there. It's very male dominated
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constructs in our media. So I think that's just about all
Hell's going to break loose. Women are stepping up and we
have the tools now. Like you're so good with the
tech tools that and, and we havethese, we have the ability to
have these very uncensored, deepconversations on podcasts about
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how to open to our potential andthings like that.
And this is how I discovered youon the podcast The Diary of the
CEO. And I was celebrating you
because I thought there she is someone with the toys spreading
that message of they are an enhancement for your pleasure
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potential. So I celebrated you so much.
So I was so excited when we thenconnected afterwards and I'm
like oh finally someone. You wrote a really nice comment
and it it, it, you know, it really touched my heart.
And that's how we ended up connecting because we didn't
know each other. And then it turns out you live
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in Brisbane, where my daughter will be going to college.
She's getting her PhD at Coffs Harbour.
And so it's just like such a small world these days.
So yeah, it's wonderful to be with you.
We always ask the guest speakersa couple questions at the start
so we can get to know you a little bit.
Where are you currently at on your pleasure journey?
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Well, I've been spending a lot of time personally, you know,
over 20 years I've done a lot ofthings.
You know, I've done the expandedorgasm practice and I've
awakened my G spot and I've learned the beautiful art of
female ejaculation and I've learned how to have orgasms from
intercourse. And I've become massively multi
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orgasmic. And I've started to my, I've
been married for 33 years to a wonderful man who loves to have
group sex. So we started having other other
partners and making love with other partners.
And that's been really, really empowering and wonderful.
And I've probably had more than 1000 threesomes and mostly with
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a small handful of the same people.
And so one of the things that I've been doing a lot of is just
learning how to run a lot of energy in larger numbers of
people simultaneously, like really how to have deep
connection and massive pleasure in Group dynamics.
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So that's been fun. And I've also, over the last few
years, worked a lot on writing down very specific techniques
for orgasmic intercourse so thatwomen who were feeling like
maybe they couldn't have an orgasm from intercourse could
realize how to basically come the whole damn time.
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And so that's been a lot of work.
And then most recently I've beenreally learning about sex tech,
a lot about it. I was just in Lai was in
Hollywood last weekend and I moderated a panel on sex tech at
the X Biz Expo, which is a business to business conference
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for people who who have adult toy stores, brick and mortar
retailers who sell toys. And so all the tech companies
and the tool companies come there and they exhibit.
And so I ran a panel on where sex tech is going and we talked
about about haptics and teledyldonics and warmth and
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photobiomodulation and inflationand, you know, all of the
different things that tools are are taking on as the technology
grows. And that was really fun.
So I guess that's kind of the arc of some of the things that
I've been working on. I'm always writing bedroom
communication techniques. I'm always writing pleasuring
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skills and I write a lot about erotic play date.
It's giving you specific ideas that you can do to keep learning
different aspects of your sexuality in really fun ways.
And what is something that brings you personally a lot of
pleasure? I like, I like just having
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really languorous, pleasurable love making with my partners.
That's what I like the most. That and I like speaking from
the stage. I like doing conferences.
Most people don't hire me to come in and tell you how to have
hot sex. People aren't ready for that.
So my Trojan horse into getting stage speaking opportunities
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because I love the audience interaction because I am such an
educator at heart, You know, I just love to tell people how to
do shit so they can have a greattime.
And I talk a lot about sex span,extending your health span, and
what is sexual biohacking and how do you have ageless
intimacy? Because the longer you keep
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having hot pleasurable intimacy,the the longer you live and the
happier you are and the healthier you are.
It's really additive. People say that, you know, it's
like nutrition, exercise and sleep are the cornerstones of
longevity, but it's only becausewe're such a repressed society
that that intimacy isn't the 4thpillar.
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That is the fourth pillar. The people who have great
intimacy, they, they just, they look younger, they're healthier
and they're way happier than people who don't.
Going into one of the questions from my audience.
So because you are very specificand expert in also communication
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in the bedroom, I have got quitea big male following who's
usually asking one of the commonquestions of how can I get my
girlfriend to use toys? But then I've also got women on
the other side who ask in a shy way.
I would like to introduce toys because I actually need that
clitoris stimulation, but I don't know that he's going to
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feel intimidated by it. So what can you say or
recommend? How can couples start a
conversation about experimentingwith new toys or tools that
feels safe for them but also exciting for both of them?
Yeah, it's one of the most common questions that we always
get, you and I both that that's that's what we hear a lot.
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And the very at the very top of the pyramid of of understanding
how to approach this. You've got, you've got to
understand that it's the only reason that someone hasn't yet
fully embraced the incredible diversity and pleasure that sex
tools bring into lovemaking is fear.
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And that's often fear is generated through a lack of
knowledge, and the lack of knowledge is often exacerbated
by repression and shame. Primarily religious.
So the people who struggle the most are the people who have had
very little sex education, who have been told that sex is for
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procreation only, who feel like all that you need is your body.
You know, all of these kind of like very old patriarchal
constructs that are to keep you down.
That's what they're doing. They're they're they're
repressing you and controlling you through that kind of lack of
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information, abstinence only sexeducation, you know, never
learning anything about how yourbody works, etcetera.
So the very first thing that youhave to do is you have to bring
a very kind heart to the partnerthat has the fear and know that
it's fear from a lack of information.
And then you have to look at, OK, how does my partner take in
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information the best? Because some of us are visual
auditory or kinesthetic learners.
And kinesthetic learners do bestif you put a toy in their hand
and say, this is what I had in mind and like, I'm just going to
show you one of my favorite toys.
This is the queen. And it's one of the things I'm
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recommending right now. My my number one top sex trend
of 2025 is yoni massage. Out of my top ten, It's the
number one trend. Women want it, Men want to give
them and they're not sure how todo it and they think they need
to just do it manually when in reality using a tool can can
make it way more pleasurable, efficient, etcetera, orgasmic.
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And so I would do something like, I got this and I want to
show it to you and I want you tofeel it.
And I want to explain how it works.
And here's what it is. And it uses this technology and
feel how nice it is and feel howthe movement of it.
What it's really going to do is it's going to send signals of
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pleasure into your tissue and bring blood flow in and expand
the surface area and send more pleasure signals to your brain
so that your brain, your biggestsex organ, actually registers
this as incredible pleasure. And when you start talking about
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it with a little science, with alittle show and tell, with an
explanation of what you hope theexperience can be for some
people, that is really helpful for other people, it's tell me
what it is that concerns you about it.
Let's let's get deep into why thinking about using a tool
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seems wrong to you or uncomfortable to you.
Is it that you think you'll be replaced?
Is it that you think it's cheating?
Have you been told these tools are bad in some way?
Where is it coming from? Tell me why you're triggered by
this. So some people are able to do
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that, but not most people. Most people aren't aware of
their triggers. They they have a vague
uneasiness. They would never be able to put
a point on it and tell you exactly what it is.
And so then sometimes it's another strategy is to say what
I would call fantasy sharing. I would, I would often do this
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while you're making love to yourpartner and say, baby, I have
this fantasy, you know, maybe while you're riding in cowgirl,
if he's resistant to tools. I have this fantasy and I can't
stop thinking about it. And I was really hoping that you
could help me try something new together with us in the bedroom.
And that is? Are you ready to unlock, widen
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and deepen your ultimate peak pleasure potential?
Then I invite you to go to pleasurelit.com for more
details. If you're curious to find out
more about me and my own pleasure journey, I suggest you
go to pleasuretoyqueen.com to Joy.
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I will see you there. I'd like to really warm myself
up by using a vibrator on my clitoris while we're doing a
couple things. And I keep thinking about how
amazing it would be if you held me and played with my boobs and
I held that vibrator on my clitoris and we kissed.
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And that would turn me on so much to have all that
stimulation. And I would like to try to have
some orgasms that way. Or I was also thinking it would
be really fun if we were doing doggy style in the mirror.
And you know how you love to seemy boobs swinging back and forth
as you're fucking me? Well, I'd like to hold a
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vibrator on my clit while we do that.
And sometimes I'd like you to reach around and put your
fingers in my mouth and hold me and let me suck on your fingers
while you're fucking me. And I've got a vibrator on my
clit. And maybe you squeeze a boob now
and then. Would you be willing to try
something like that with me? Because I just can't get it out
of my mind. Like that's another I.
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Know to. That how can anybody say no to
that? All I have to think about is my
boobies hanging and, you know, like brushing the bed back and I
mean, like, that is enough for me.
Yeah. So giving them examples is
really, really helpful as well. Another one could be, and I'll
end with this one, but it could be something like I love it when
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you fuck me and it turns me on so much and I really have a
great time, but I'm not coming orgasming when we're having
intercourse. But I think I could if I had a
vibrator on my clit. And then I think I would learn
over time how to do it even without a vibrator.
But I want to do what I heard. I heard this thing from this
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expert named Susan where she talked about orgasmic cross
training and you know the GI do that all the time in the gym,
right? I'm always trying new moves and
things. I think I'd like to try that in
bed with you. Would you be open to me
experimenting a little bit? Because I'd love to have even
more orgasms with you, stuff like that.
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Amazing tips to really give themthe idea of what actually the
benefits are. Like we will get more pleasure
out of it to actually explain itin that way instead of just
purely saying I want to use thattoy because man, that's the
other part. When I for example post
something on Instagram and I hada real going viral with 3
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million views, 4 million views about all my tools and toys and
I hit a bit the wrong audience and a lot of them.
Felt intimidated by the toys andFords like this is a replacement
or how can we compete with that?And you will never be happy with
having intercourse now you won'tfind a man all of that.
So how can we or what are your ideas on how can we help men
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shift that mindset of seeing toys as intimidating but rather
like like an enhancement for pleasure?
Yeah, one of the biggest things that people don't understand
about toys is the notion that it's because they don't, we
don't understand how our genitalstructures work.
And the biggest thing that I find really helpful is when you
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explain to and it's it's men whoare triggered by women using sex
toys. I mean, that's what it is.
Men, men feel like they're goingto be replaced, not women.
And I mean, I just, I've literally never heard a woman
say that to me. I've only ever heard men say it
or women tell me their men are saying it.
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Have you, have you ever had a woman be like, Oh no, I think
I'll be replaced if we use a sextoy?
I don't think I have, but I can feel that this might shift as
technology is progressing. And with all of that, I mean,
I've heard women's complaining more about he's using
pornography, He's watching porn instead of, you know, having sex
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with me. So I think there's just a
different shift of between womenand men of like, there's a
pornography issue and there's like, oh, I'm afraid of you
having sex toys. That is fair, Trisha, because
I'll tell you what's coming. Jesus.
It is going to change everything.
And that is the augmented reality with haptics and
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teledildonics. I mean, men aren't going to
leave their house. They're going to have a stroker
on their cock. It's going to, it's starting now
with the Cam girls, the Colombian Cam girls mostly.
And those Cam girls have those, you know, dildos, and they fuck
them and they suck them and theystroke them.
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And the men can put in more tokens and it turns them up and
makes them work even more and makes them calm.
And they're feeling on their Dick what she's doing to herself
with the dildo, whether she's fucking it, sucking it or
jerking it off. And that level of dopamine is
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hugely addictive. And when it turns into augmented
reality, it's going to be another order of magnitude more
addictive to the point where themen today who are having a hard
time, you know, they're watchingmore hard, hard, hard, hard,
harder, harder, harder core porn.
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And now they can't get an erection with, you know, a
girlfriend, a human female anymore.
That is going to be so bad out there.
We're going to lose generations of men to orgasm, remote orgasm
devices and augmented reality. So we're on the cusp of that
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being a huge problem. And it's interesting too,
because, and there isn't so muchof that for women at this point.
And I do think that it is because men generally do tend to
be more visual. Some are very auditory, some are
kinesthetic. But over, over all, I'd say men
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are more visual. But porn is teaching women to be
more visual too. As more and more women watch
porn, they're starting to becomemore visual.
So I don't know whether it's thechicken or the egg on all that
stuff, but generally, how do you, I want to go back to the
question that you asked me and answer it very succinctly.
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So ask me specifically again so I can be very succinct in my
answer. Just to also connect to that
prior, I've just received a stroker that actually connects
with any videos and than the porn that you're watching.
You've got different sleeves that you can use, but it does
the movement from the video. So they can really have that
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feeling of like whatever happensthere, I feel it.
So yes. And then this is just the
beginning of that technology. That's right, exactly.
What I was asking was about how can we help men to shift their
mindsets so they don't see toys as an intimidation, but rather
as an enhancement for pleasure. Right, I got off on that.
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Was this really a question men are asking that women are
asking? And it is it is men feeling
worried about being replaced. So one thing that I know that
men love is to hear us come and to make us come.
Like honestly, there's a lot of talk about men being selfish
sexually, but I have generally in my lifetime mostly found that
the only reason a man comes off as selfish is that he literally
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just hasn't had a good sex education to understand what to
do. And that that we're getting
better at as well with people like you and me out in the
world. And so he wants to give us
incredible pleasure. And when you talk to a guy and
you say, well, you use tools. I mean, I joke that if Makita
made a vibrator, guys would buy it and use it on us, you know,
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like the branding of the, you know, the power tool brand
Makita. And they've got the, you know,
screw, you know, all the different electric devices for
construction that would make it more approachable for them.
They don't quite understand how it all works.
And so they need, they need to have more experience and
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exposure to it. And I also think that would help
guys if someone explained to them, look, there's basically
eight types of pleasure tools that work on the vulva and
vagina. And you could actually start to
become really handy with all of them.
And then here's how you incorporate them into sex.
So here's 10 ideas for ways to use these devices on your female
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partner that would be really helpful for men as well.
So they know what to buy, how touse it and create experiences.
And then they would understand that when they have the right
tools for the right job, that they are actually giving her so
much more pleasure than any other man out there who's afraid
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of it, that they have a competitive advantage.
So he's always looking to be respected for the job that he
does. He's always looking to win and
he's always looking to be appreciated for it.
And so when you frame it in those ways, when you say here's
here, here would be the tools I would like to try in the
following order. And the reason that I want to
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try a thruster is because I'm trying to, you know, learn how
to orgasm while we're having intercourse.
And I think that'll help me or I'd really like to activate my G
spot because I'm interested in trying to become a female
ejaculator. I'd like to unleash my feminine
waters on you and experiment with that.
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And so I'd like to try this G spot activator or I'm trying to
really work on my clitoral erection because I've heard that
if I get a really good click boner, then everything else we
do feels better. So I'd like to try an air
stimulator before, kind of like in the foreplay air time time
frame of our sex so that when you're finally penetrating, I've
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got a boner too because I just learned that women have as much
erectile tissue as men, but it takes us longer to get it erect.
And I would like to have some support.
So everything we do feels good, like any one of those kinds of
things would we give a, you know, we give a guy more
guidance to know what you're going for and reduce his concern
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that he's not enough. I like also there the idea that
you've mentioned before that visualization of like, look at
all these amazing things that's going to happen and then if we
add the toy in there, because everything is already juicy in
that fantasy. And then why wouldn't you want
that? But I also think it's for men.
They usually think straight awaydildos the the replacement of
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their penis instead of there areso many toys and tools out
there. Even putting a blindfold on and
you know, restraining your arms,it's a toy and tool.
And there are so many toys obviously for men out there as
well. And something else that I've
recently discovered is because Ithink it's really important for
that communication and helping people to get started on their
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pleasure toy journey. I might actually develop a
little pleasure toy card game with some starter questions that
couples can use and I go a pleasure toy date and
exploration journey. I think it's a great idea.
I'd love to coordinate and collaborate with you on that.
Yeah. One of the toys that I recommend
for women who have recalcitrant boyfriends and who are fearful
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is a cock ring, a vibrating cockring.
And I also recommend that for women who are having difficulty
orgasming directly from intercourse without needing
direct clitoral stimulation. And that comes from just having
enough warm up and engorgement so that all the tissue that
wraps around the vaginal canal gets plump and gets an erection,
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if you will. So there's enough material, you
know, sensation sending enough signals to the brain.
And so if you want to cross the gasm chasm, close that orgasm
gap, you know, be able to have orgasms from intercourse
without, without anything but a Dick.
A cock ring is really good. Have you seen the atom plus?
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Do you know this toy? I really like this double
vibrating cock ring for couples.The penis and the the testicles
both go through here and and it can be really nice because it
has a remote so you can, you know, work on it.
But I also like little toys likethis with a lasso, because then
you know you're going to get like the perfect fit because you
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can make it really small or you can make it really big because
guys Dicks are different sizes on different days.
It just depends on so many factors.
And so I like something like this.
It's very low profile and has, you know, just this is a little
satisfier cock ring. And these can be really nice
too, because I just think the lasso closure is brilliant for
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people. Then you know it's going to fit
you. So those that's almost always
what I recommend as like the starter toy for couples to
introduce sex toys into the bedroom is vibrating cock ring.
Yeah, with that just said about the different size of the Dick,
the cock, the penis, it is true.So for example, for chastity
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cages in my master class, I actually had to explain to them
you need to measure on differenttimes of the day and even
temperature in summer, winter, your measurements will be
different in the morning, lunchtime, evening temperature.
So it's a very interesting point.
It's the same with Wolvers. They change over time too, when
I've taken photos of myself. Yeah, one week for custom photo
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and then the next week I'm like looks slightly different, but
it's the same one. Yes, Oh, my girlfriend has a
program called Pussy Ology. She's in the intimacy alliance
that I'm that I'm inviting you into and we're she's going to do
vulva readings for us all. You've got to do the vulva
readings with us. I think it'll be so cute.
Where can people find you if they like to work with you?
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Find out more about you. Well, I don't do any one-on-one
work, but because I'm a publisher of passionate
lovemaking techniques. So I have a newsletter that I
send out twice a week at betterlover.com.
And if you have a question for me, you can reply to any e-mail
that you get from me on my newsletter that goes directly to
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my inbox. So people e-mail me everyday.
I get questions from people. And 90% of the time it's like,
Oh yeah, here's this is, you know, this book will fix that or
this read this article or watch this video.
And sometimes it's a little morecomplex and we have to go back
and forth to solve the problem, whatever it is.
You know, there's a lot of multifactorial issues out there,
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but I just do that for free because it helps me become
smarter. So I don't do any like
one-on-one coaching. It's all just my content and 90%
of that is free. So betterlover.com is good.
And then Instagram, which is my name, all smushed together.
Susan Bratton. And that's SUSANBRATTON.
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Susan Bratton. I love that because it's so
important to actually reach moreso you can actually spread more
pleasure into the world, help more people to really unlock
their pleasure potential. The questions that I get, I,
rather than answer, create some content around and put it in
there because I'm going to get the question again and then I
can just refer to it. Amazing, I love that.
It's that you know, when when you've been in doing this for
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decades and you get emails from people and DMS from people every
single day for decades, what yourealize is that people think
they're broken and there's something wrong with them.
And they're weird and different and they're pretty much, we're
all pretty much the same and we all have the same questions.
And so if you think, oh God, I'mso weird or there's something
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wrong, it you're not, you're fine.
Yeah, we're you're good, baby. Yeah.
What is one of your favorite pleasure toys?
God, I I broke this one and I got to get a new one.
I think I fucked myself too hardwith it.
This one is a satisfier and it it it I can't even show you, but
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it inflates. What's up?
It blows up inside your vagina and it has a rabbit clitoral
stimulator. I I literally I got to call
satisfier today and be like, I need three more of those because
I don't know how I broke it, butI did and I hadn't had a new sex
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toy that blew my fucking mind like this and I don't know how
long. And I like their heated toys
too. Their heated toys are
incredible. I like a nice warm toy on my
pussy, but this one, when it blows up.
One of the things that I've beendoing is I've been running
around with a balloon showing people what a vagina actually
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looks like inside and why it doesn't just want why it wants
the pressure in the whole cave and why your penis should be
working every area of that cave to activate that tissue to make
her more orgasmic from intercourse.
And when I got this inflatable, I think it's called the air pump
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Bunny. It's the air pump Bunny 5 plus.
I've got that one too, and I've also got the booty air pump as
well. Yeah, have you tried the Booty 1
yet? Yeah, I have tried the booty one
too. Yeah, that looks like a dummy.
Basically it's like I'm going topop that in my butt like a
dummy. How was it?
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I love that feeling of being filled up and yeah, having that
fool like I'm experimenting so Ilove that anyway, so pleasure,
it's me experiences. I'm always for it so.
Me too, and this was the one that I loved the most and I'm
sad because it's not blowing up anymore and so I'll be getting
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another one, but that I think isone of my favorites.
Another one of my favorites is the Curve from Hot Octopus.
Have you tried that? I haven't had that one yet.
No, one of the things I like about it, it has this really
soft tip. Wishy.
And what's great about I like toDeep Throat my husband's cock
while I have this in my vagina. And that kind of filling both
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ends is really nice and it givesme throat chasms and pussycasms
simultaneously. And so that's another party
trick of mine. That's one of my faves right
now. Yeah, that one let.
Me. See that tonight?
Squirt alarm for me. That one, That perfect curve on
that head. Yes, it's so good for that.
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I know. I love it so much for that.
I can really make myself squirt a lot with that product.
Do you have a favorite book thatyou could recommend?
Yeah, I think probably The Woman's Anatomy of Arousal by
Sherri Winston is my all time favorite book about sex.
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It is chock full of vital details about the female sexual
operating system and it definitely helped me orgasm more
ways and more intensities and more frequencies, etcetera.
So I like that book. Awesome.
Thanks for sharing. For anyone listening, it would
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be amazing if you could screenshot the podcast episode
and then take us, share it, takeus both of us in there with your
take away message of this podcast episode and it's a
great. Idea.
Yeah, because I would love to hear what they've taken away
from this, and I can't see it ifthey take us both in there.
So take a screenshot, share it, let us know what was the most
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interesting part of it. And then one last question I've
got for you. What would be like your #1 tip
or one of your best tips for everyone in regards to pleasure?
That pleasure is a practice and you keep getting better at it
and expanding it so and that it's the antidote to stress.
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And we are under so much stress in our cultures today that the
more that you can evoke pleasureand slowly warm up to and expand
it, the healthier, happier and longer you live.
Thank you so much for that and thank you for coming onto the
podcast. My pleasure.
Are you kidding me? I love that.
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I literally would do this every day with you.
Thank you. Thank you so much for tuning
into this Pleasure lit episode. I would love it if you could
share this episode along with your loved ones and also make
sure you follow and subscribe tomy channel so you don't miss out
on any future episodes. And if you haven't rated or
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reviewed the Polish LED podcast,yeah, it might be time to do
this now. I will see you or hear you at
one of my next episodes. With love and pleasure.
It would be really fun if we were doing doggy style in the
mirror. And you know how you love to see
my boobs swinging back and forth?
Well, I'd like to hold a vibrator on my clit while we do
that. And sometimes I'd like you to
reach around and put your fingers in my mouth and hold me
and let me suck on your fingers while you're and maybe you
squeeze a boob now and then. Would you be willing to try
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something like that with me? Welcome to the Pleasure LED
podcast, a podcast to inspire and empower you on your pleasure
journey. If you are new here, hi I am
Patricia I am the award-winning a pleasure educator.
I am certified in fitness, nutrition, yoga, meditation,
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breath Tantra, thematic sex coaching, professional
dominatrix king and so, so much more.
Before we're going to get into this pleasure LED episode, I
would love it if you could screenshot this podcast episode
and share it on your social medias.
Tag me and if there's a guest speaker, tag the guest speaker
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with your take away messages so we can see it and support you on
your pleasure journey. Today I have got a beautiful
guest speaker with me which is Susan Breton and she's known as
the intimacy expert and sexual biohacker.
She's a champion and advocate for all those who desire ageless
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intimacy and she has created hundreds of techniques that
transform having sex into makinglove.
She's one of the best selling authors and published over 44
books and programs on love making techniques and bedroom
communication skills. Welcome to the podcast.
Hi Trisha, I'm so, so happy thatwe're finally getting to do our
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show together. I have been looking forward to
this for so long. You are my kind of woman.
We are such kindred spirits and we have so many things in
common, including the fact that I am also a German girl.
Oh, you. Wanna.
Oh, yes, I I wasn't born in Germany, but a lot of my family
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members were. Yeah.
So you and I, it's so funny too,because you have you have some
little monikers. And I have been jokingly called
the Queen of Peen because one ofmy areas of expertise is penis
pumping for reversing Ed and formale enhancement.
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And I've written a book about it.
You, you saw that, the pumping guide and things like that.
And then I recently, someone recently dubbed me the Queen of
orgasms because I, I like to teach people all twenty kinds of
orgasms and how to achieve theirorgasmic potential.
And most people think that the kind of orgasm that they're
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having is the one that they have.
And it is in fact not at all that.
And you know that and you, you know you and I know that using
sex toys, which I like to call sex tools, which we also both
say are really good for orgasmiccross training, teaching you how
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to have orgasms in new ways. It's one of the best ways to
stimulate an expanded orgasmic response.
But I had always called myself an orgasma knot.
Not the queen, not the orgasm queen, but an orgasm.
Not because about 20 years ago, when I was really awakening to
my sexuality, when I was in my early 40s, I started an expanded
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orgasm practice. And I was coming for an hour at
a time. Like to the point where I just
had to stop if I got if I got thirsty or exhausted from
orgasms. And I called my mentor who
taught me this expanded orgasm clitoral stroking technique to
achieve these long heightened states of orgasmic ecstasy.
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And I said, Patty, like, I'm at the edge of this Cliff in this
darkness, looking out at the void, and I am afraid to keep
going, to step off. I'm going into some very
uncharted orgasmic territory here.
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What's going to happen? What should I do?
And she said, step off, step outin there, let go.
And I said, will I come back? And she said it could take you a
little while to regain some of your complete consciousness
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because you're going into an altered state.
But yeah, honey, you'll be fine.Go ahead and step off.
And so since then, I've often thought about myself as being
like, dressed in a silver spacesuit, really sexy 1, of
course, and stepping off into the unknown of orgasmic ecstasy
and then coming back with the map, the directions to that
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territory. So you could go there and
experience that too. And that's what I've been doing
is I've been writing step by step orgasm techniques because
we all have the same operating system.
And so I'm basically like an Olympic gold medal Comer.
And I like to help women really break out of that.
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And men, I like to help people across the gender spectrum
really achieve, you know, a level of ecstasy and ability to
come and confidence and pleasurethat they never even imagined
could be possible because we don't see it in our media.
It's not there. It's very male dominated
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constructs in our media. So I think that's just about all
Hell's going to break loose. Women are stepping up and we
have the tools now. Like you're so good with the
tech tools that and, and we havethese, we have the ability to
have these very uncensored, deepconversations on podcasts about
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how to open to our potential andthings like that.
And this is how I discovered youon the podcast The Diary of the
CEO. And I was celebrating you
because I thought there she is someone with the toys spreading
that message of they are an enhancement for your pleasure
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potential. So I celebrated you so much.
So I was so excited when we thenconnected afterwards and I'm
like oh finally someone. You wrote a really nice comment
and it it, it, you know, it really touched my heart.
And that's how we ended up connecting because we didn't
know each other. And then it turns out you live
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in Brisbane, where my daughter will be going to college.
She's getting her PhD at Coffs Harbour.
And so it's just like such a small world these days.
So yeah, it's wonderful to be with you.
We always ask the guest speakersa couple questions at the start
so we can get to know you a little bit.
Where are you currently at on your pleasure journey?
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Well, I've been spending a lot of time personally, you know,
over 20 years I've done a lot ofthings.
You know, I've done the expandedorgasm practice and I've
awakened my G spot and I've learned the beautiful art of
female ejaculation and I've learned how to have orgasms from
intercourse. And I've become massively multi
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orgasmic. And I've started to my, I've
been married for 33 years to a wonderful man who loves to have
group sex. So we started having other other
partners and making love with other partners.
And that's been really, really empowering and wonderful.
And I've probably had more than 1000 threesomes and mostly with
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a small handful of the same people.
And so one of the things that I've been doing a lot of is just
learning how to run a lot of energy in larger numbers of
people simultaneously, like really how to have deep
connection and massive pleasure in Group dynamics.
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So that's been fun. And I've also, over the last few
years, worked a lot on writing down very specific techniques
for orgasmic intercourse so thatwomen who were feeling like
maybe they couldn't have an orgasm from intercourse could
realize how to basically come the whole damn time.
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And so that's been a lot of work.
And then most recently I've beenreally learning about sex tech,
a lot about it. I was just in Lai was in
Hollywood last weekend and I moderated a panel on sex tech at
the X Biz Expo, which is a business to business conference
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for people who who have adult toy stores, brick and mortar
retailers who sell toys. And so all the tech companies
and the tool companies come there and they exhibit.
And so I ran a panel on where sex tech is going and we talked
about about haptics and teledyldonics and warmth and
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photobiomodulation and inflationand, you know, all of the
different things that tools are are taking on as the technology
grows. And that was really fun.
So I guess that's kind of the arc of some of the things that
I've been working on. I'm always writing bedroom
communication techniques. I'm always writing pleasuring
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skills and I write a lot about erotic play date.
It's giving you specific ideas that you can do to keep learning
different aspects of your sexuality in really fun ways.
And what is something that brings you personally a lot of
pleasure? I like, I like just having
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really languorous, pleasurable love making with my partners.
That's what I like the most. That and I like speaking from
the stage. I like doing conferences.
Most people don't hire me to come in and tell you how to have
hot sex. People aren't ready for that.
So my Trojan horse into getting stage speaking opportunities
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because I love the audience interaction because I am such an
educator at heart, You know, I just love to tell people how to
do shit so they can have a greattime.
And I talk a lot about sex span,extending your health span, and
what is sexual biohacking and how do you have ageless
intimacy? Because the longer you keep
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having hot pleasurable intimacy,the the longer you live and the
happier you are and the healthier you are.
It's really additive. People say that, you know, it's
like nutrition, exercise and sleep are the cornerstones of
longevity, but it's only becausewe're such a repressed society
that that intimacy isn't the 4thpillar.
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That is the fourth pillar. The people who have great
intimacy, they, they just, they look younger, they're healthier
and they're way happier than people who don't.
Going into one of the questions from my audience.
So because you are very specificand expert in also communication
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in the bedroom, I have got quitea big male following who's
usually asking one of the commonquestions of how can I get my
girlfriend to use toys? But then I've also got women on
the other side who ask in a shy way.
I would like to introduce toys because I actually need that
clitoris stimulation, but I don't know that he's going to
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feel intimidated by it. So what can you say or
recommend? How can couples start a
conversation about experimentingwith new toys or tools that
feels safe for them but also exciting for both of them?
Yeah, it's one of the most common questions that we always
get, you and I both that that's that's what we hear a lot.
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And the very at the very top of the pyramid of of understanding
how to approach this. You've got, you've got to
understand that it's the only reason that someone hasn't yet
fully embraced the incredible diversity and pleasure that sex
tools bring into lovemaking is fear.
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And that's often fear is generated through a lack of
knowledge, and the lack of knowledge is often exacerbated
by repression and shame. Primarily religious.
So the people who struggle the most are the people who have had
very little sex education, who have been told that sex is for
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procreation only, who feel like all that you need is your body.
You know, all of these kind of like very old patriarchal
constructs that are to keep you down.
That's what they're doing. They're they're they're
repressing you and controlling you through that kind of lack of
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information, abstinence only sexeducation, you know, never
learning anything about how yourbody works, etcetera.
So the very first thing that youhave to do is you have to bring
a very kind heart to the partnerthat has the fear and know that
it's fear from a lack of information.
And then you have to look at, OK, how does my partner take in
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information the best? Because some of us are visual
auditory or kinesthetic learners.
And kinesthetic learners do bestif you put a toy in their hand
and say, this is what I had in mind and like, I'm just going to
show you one of my favorite toys.
This is the queen. And it's one of the things I'm
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recommending right now. My my number one top sex trend
of 2025 is yoni massage. Out of my top ten, It's the
number one trend. Women want it, Men want to give
them and they're not sure how todo it and they think they need
to just do it manually when in reality using a tool can can
make it way more pleasurable, efficient, etcetera, orgasmic.
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And so I would do something like, I got this and I want to
show it to you and I want you tofeel it.
And I want to explain how it works.
And here's what it is. And it uses this technology and
feel how nice it is and feel howthe movement of it.
What it's really going to do is it's going to send signals of
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pleasure into your tissue and bring blood flow in and expand
the surface area and send more pleasure signals to your brain
so that your brain, your biggestsex organ, actually registers
this as incredible pleasure. And when you start talking about
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it with a little science, with alittle show and tell, with an
explanation of what you hope theexperience can be for some
people, that is really helpful for other people, it's tell me
what it is that concerns you about it.
Let's let's get deep into why thinking about using a tool
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seems wrong to you or uncomfortable to you.
Is it that you think you'll be replaced?
Is it that you think it's cheating?
Have you been told these tools are bad in some way?
Where is it coming from? Tell me why you're triggered by
this. So some people are able to do
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that, but not most people. Most people aren't aware of
their triggers. They they have a vague
uneasiness. They would never be able to put
a point on it and tell you exactly what it is.
And so then sometimes it's another strategy is to say what
I would call fantasy sharing. I would, I would often do this
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while you're making love to yourpartner and say, baby, I have
this fantasy, you know, maybe while you're riding in cowgirl,
if he's resistant to tools. I have this fantasy and I can't
stop thinking about it. And I was really hoping that you
could help me try something new together with us in the bedroom.
And that is? Are you ready to unlock, widen
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and deepen your ultimate peak pleasure potential?
Then I invite you to go to pleasurelit.com for more
details. If you're curious to find out
more about me and my own pleasure journey, I suggest you
go to pleasuretoyqueen.com to Joy.
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I will see you there. I'd like to really warm myself
up by using a vibrator on my clitoris while we're doing a
couple things. And I keep thinking about how
amazing it would be if you held me and played with my boobs and
I held that vibrator on my clitoris and we kissed.
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And that would turn me on so much to have all that
stimulation. And I would like to try to have
some orgasms that way. Or I was also thinking it would
be really fun if we were doing doggy style in the mirror.
And you know how you love to seemy boobs swinging back and forth
as you're fucking me? Well, I'd like to hold a
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vibrator on my clit while we do that.
And sometimes I'd like you to reach around and put your
fingers in my mouth and hold me and let me suck on your fingers
while you're fucking me. And I've got a vibrator on my
clit. And maybe you squeeze a boob now
and then. Would you be willing to try
something like that with me? Because I just can't get it out
of my mind. Like that's another I.
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Know to. That how can anybody say no to
that? All I have to think about is my
boobies hanging and, you know, like brushing the bed back and I
mean, like, that is enough for me.
Yeah. So giving them examples is
really, really helpful as well. Another one could be, and I'll
end with this one, but it could be something like I love it when
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you fuck me and it turns me on so much and I really have a
great time, but I'm not coming orgasming when we're having
intercourse. But I think I could if I had a
vibrator on my clit. And then I think I would learn
over time how to do it even without a vibrator.
But I want to do what I heard. I heard this thing from this
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expert named Susan where she talked about orgasmic cross
training and you know the GI do that all the time in the gym,
right? I'm always trying new moves and
things. I think I'd like to try that in
bed with you. Would you be open to me
experimenting a little bit? Because I'd love to have even
more orgasms with you, stuff like that.
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Amazing tips to really give themthe idea of what actually the
benefits are. Like we will get more pleasure
out of it to actually explain itin that way instead of just
purely saying I want to use thattoy because man, that's the
other part. When I for example post
something on Instagram and I hada real going viral with 3
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million views, 4 million views about all my tools and toys and
I hit a bit the wrong audience and a lot of them.
Felt intimidated by the toys andFords like this is a replacement
or how can we compete with that?And you will never be happy with
having intercourse now you won'tfind a man all of that.
So how can we or what are your ideas on how can we help men
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shift that mindset of seeing toys as intimidating but rather
like like an enhancement for pleasure?
Yeah, one of the biggest things that people don't understand
about toys is the notion that it's because they don't, we
don't understand how our genitalstructures work.
And the biggest thing that I find really helpful is when you
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explain to and it's it's men whoare triggered by women using sex
toys. I mean, that's what it is.
Men, men feel like they're goingto be replaced, not women.
And I mean, I just, I've literally never heard a woman
say that to me. I've only ever heard men say it
or women tell me their men are saying it.
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Have you, have you ever had a woman be like, Oh no, I think
I'll be replaced if we use a sextoy?
I don't think I have, but I can feel that this might shift as
technology is progressing. And with all of that, I mean,
I've heard women's complaining more about he's using
pornography, He's watching porn instead of, you know, having sex
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with me. So I think there's just a
different shift of between womenand men of like, there's a
pornography issue and there's like, oh, I'm afraid of you
having sex toys. That is fair, Trisha, because
I'll tell you what's coming. Jesus.
It is going to change everything.
And that is the augmented reality with haptics and
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teledildonics. I mean, men aren't going to
leave their house. They're going to have a stroker
on their cock. It's going to, it's starting now
with the Cam girls, the Colombian Cam girls mostly.
And those Cam girls have those, you know, dildos, and they fuck
them and they suck them and theystroke them.
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And the men can put in more tokens and it turns them up and
makes them work even more and makes them calm.
And they're feeling on their Dick what she's doing to herself
with the dildo, whether she's fucking it, sucking it or
jerking it off. And that level of dopamine is
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hugely addictive. And when it turns into augmented
reality, it's going to be another order of magnitude more
addictive to the point where themen today who are having a hard
time, you know, they're watchingmore hard, hard, hard, hard,
harder, harder, harder core porn.
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And now they can't get an erection with, you know, a
girlfriend, a human female anymore.
That is going to be so bad out there.
We're going to lose generations of men to orgasm, remote orgasm
devices and augmented reality. So we're on the cusp of that
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being a huge problem. And it's interesting too,
because, and there isn't so muchof that for women at this point.
And I do think that it is because men generally do tend to
be more visual. Some are very auditory, some are
kinesthetic. But over, over all, I'd say men
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are more visual. But porn is teaching women to be
more visual too. As more and more women watch
porn, they're starting to becomemore visual.
So I don't know whether it's thechicken or the egg on all that
stuff, but generally, how do you, I want to go back to the
question that you asked me and answer it very succinctly.
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So ask me specifically again so I can be very succinct in my
answer. Just to also connect to that
prior, I've just received a stroker that actually connects
with any videos and than the porn that you're watching.
You've got different sleeves that you can use, but it does
the movement from the video. So they can really have that
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feeling of like whatever happensthere, I feel it.
So yes. And then this is just the
beginning of that technology. That's right, exactly.
What I was asking was about how can we help men to shift their
mindsets so they don't see toys as an intimidation, but rather
as an enhancement for pleasure. Right, I got off on that.
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Was this really a question men are asking that women are
asking? And it is it is men feeling
worried about being replaced. So one thing that I know that
men love is to hear us come and to make us come.
Like honestly, there's a lot of talk about men being selfish
sexually, but I have generally in my lifetime mostly found that
the only reason a man comes off as selfish is that he literally
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just hasn't had a good sex education to understand what to
do. And that that we're getting
better at as well with people like you and me out in the
world. And so he wants to give us
incredible pleasure. And when you talk to a guy and
you say, well, you use tools. I mean, I joke that if Makita
made a vibrator, guys would buy it and use it on us, you know,
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like the branding of the, you know, the power tool brand
Makita. And they've got the, you know,
screw, you know, all the different electric devices for
construction that would make it more approachable for them.
They don't quite understand how it all works.
And so they need, they need to have more experience and
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exposure to it. And I also think that would help
guys if someone explained to them, look, there's basically
eight types of pleasure tools that work on the vulva and
vagina. And you could actually start to
become really handy with all of them.
And then here's how you incorporate them into sex.
So here's 10 ideas for ways to use these devices on your female
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partner that would be really helpful for men as well.
So they know what to buy, how touse it and create experiences.
And then they would understand that when they have the right
tools for the right job, that they are actually giving her so
much more pleasure than any other man out there who's afraid
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of it, that they have a competitive advantage.
So he's always looking to be respected for the job that he
does. He's always looking to win and
he's always looking to be appreciated for it.
And so when you frame it in those ways, when you say here's
here, here would be the tools I would like to try in the
following order. And the reason that I want to
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try a thruster is because I'm trying to, you know, learn how
to orgasm while we're having intercourse.
And I think that'll help me or I'd really like to activate my G
spot because I'm interested in trying to become a female
ejaculator. I'd like to unleash my feminine
waters on you and experiment with that.
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And so I'd like to try this G spot activator or I'm trying to
really work on my clitoral erection because I've heard that
if I get a really good click boner, then everything else we
do feels better. So I'd like to try an air
stimulator before, kind of like in the foreplay air time time
frame of our sex so that when you're finally penetrating, I've
(27:58):
got a boner too because I just learned that women have as much
erectile tissue as men, but it takes us longer to get it erect.
And I would like to have some support.
So everything we do feels good, like any one of those kinds of
things would we give a, you know, we give a guy more
guidance to know what you're going for and reduce his concern
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that he's not enough. I like also there the idea that
you've mentioned before that visualization of like, look at
all these amazing things that's going to happen and then if we
add the toy in there, because everything is already juicy in
that fantasy. And then why wouldn't you want
that? But I also think it's for men.
They usually think straight awaydildos the the replacement of
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their penis instead of there areso many toys and tools out
there. Even putting a blindfold on and
you know, restraining your arms,it's a toy and tool.
And there are so many toys obviously for men out there as
well. And something else that I've
recently discovered is because Ithink it's really important for
that communication and helping people to get started on their
(29:05):
pleasure toy journey. I might actually develop a
little pleasure toy card game with some starter questions that
couples can use and I go a pleasure toy date and
exploration journey. I think it's a great idea.
I'd love to coordinate and collaborate with you on that.
Yeah. One of the toys that I recommend
for women who have recalcitrant boyfriends and who are fearful
(29:27):
is a cock ring, a vibrating cockring.
And I also recommend that for women who are having difficulty
orgasming directly from intercourse without needing
direct clitoral stimulation. And that comes from just having
enough warm up and engorgement so that all the tissue that
wraps around the vaginal canal gets plump and gets an erection,
(29:51):
if you will. So there's enough material, you
know, sensation sending enough signals to the brain.
And so if you want to cross the gasm chasm, close that orgasm
gap, you know, be able to have orgasms from intercourse
without, without anything but a Dick.
A cock ring is really good. Have you seen the atom plus?
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Do you know this toy? I really like this double
vibrating cock ring for couples.The penis and the the testicles
both go through here and and it can be really nice because it
has a remote so you can, you know, work on it.
But I also like little toys likethis with a lasso, because then
you know you're going to get like the perfect fit because you
(30:35):
can make it really small or you can make it really big because
guys Dicks are different sizes on different days.
It just depends on so many factors.
And so I like something like this.
It's very low profile and has, you know, just this is a little
satisfier cock ring. And these can be really nice
too, because I just think the lasso closure is brilliant for
(30:57):
people. Then you know it's going to fit
you. So those that's almost always
what I recommend as like the starter toy for couples to
introduce sex toys into the bedroom is vibrating cock ring.
Yeah, with that just said about the different size of the Dick,
the cock, the penis, it is true.So for example, for chastity
(31:18):
cages in my master class, I actually had to explain to them
you need to measure on differenttimes of the day and even
temperature in summer, winter, your measurements will be
different in the morning, lunchtime, evening temperature.
So it's a very interesting point.
It's the same with Wolvers. They change over time too, when
I've taken photos of myself. Yeah, one week for custom photo
(31:40):
and then the next week I'm like looks slightly different, but
it's the same one. Yes, Oh, my girlfriend has a
program called Pussy Ology. She's in the intimacy alliance
that I'm that I'm inviting you into and we're she's going to do
vulva readings for us all. You've got to do the vulva
readings with us. I think it'll be so cute.
Where can people find you if they like to work with you?
(32:03):
Find out more about you. Well, I don't do any one-on-one
work, but because I'm a publisher of passionate
lovemaking techniques. So I have a newsletter that I
send out twice a week at betterlover.com.
And if you have a question for me, you can reply to any e-mail
that you get from me on my newsletter that goes directly to
(32:26):
my inbox. So people e-mail me everyday.
I get questions from people. And 90% of the time it's like,
Oh yeah, here's this is, you know, this book will fix that or
this read this article or watch this video.
And sometimes it's a little morecomplex and we have to go back
and forth to solve the problem, whatever it is.
You know, there's a lot of multifactorial issues out there,
(32:47):
but I just do that for free because it helps me become
smarter. So I don't do any like
one-on-one coaching. It's all just my content and 90%
of that is free. So betterlover.com is good.
And then Instagram, which is my name, all smushed together.
Susan Bratton. And that's SUSANBRATTON.
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Susan Bratton. I love that because it's so
important to actually reach moreso you can actually spread more
pleasure into the world, help more people to really unlock
their pleasure potential. The questions that I get, I,
rather than answer, create some content around and put it in
there because I'm going to get the question again and then I
can just refer to it. Amazing, I love that.
It's that you know, when when you've been in doing this for
(33:30):
decades and you get emails from people and DMS from people every
single day for decades, what yourealize is that people think
they're broken and there's something wrong with them.
And they're weird and different and they're pretty much, we're
all pretty much the same and we all have the same questions.
And so if you think, oh God, I'mso weird or there's something
(33:50):
wrong, it you're not, you're fine.
Yeah, we're you're good, baby. Yeah.
What is one of your favorite pleasure toys?
God, I I broke this one and I got to get a new one.
I think I fucked myself too hardwith it.
This one is a satisfier and it it it I can't even show you, but
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it inflates. What's up?
It blows up inside your vagina and it has a rabbit clitoral
stimulator. I I literally I got to call
satisfier today and be like, I need three more of those because
I don't know how I broke it, butI did and I hadn't had a new sex
(34:36):
toy that blew my fucking mind like this and I don't know how
long. And I like their heated toys
too. Their heated toys are
incredible. I like a nice warm toy on my
pussy, but this one, when it blows up.
One of the things that I've beendoing is I've been running
around with a balloon showing people what a vagina actually
(34:59):
looks like inside and why it doesn't just want why it wants
the pressure in the whole cave and why your penis should be
working every area of that cave to activate that tissue to make
her more orgasmic from intercourse.
And when I got this inflatable, I think it's called the air pump
(35:23):
Bunny. It's the air pump Bunny 5 plus.
I've got that one too, and I've also got the booty air pump as
well. Yeah, have you tried the Booty 1
yet? Yeah, I have tried the booty one
too. Yeah, that looks like a dummy.
Basically it's like I'm going topop that in my butt like a
dummy. How was it?
(35:44):
I love that feeling of being filled up and yeah, having that
fool like I'm experimenting so Ilove that anyway, so pleasure,
it's me experiences. I'm always for it so.
Me too, and this was the one that I loved the most and I'm
sad because it's not blowing up anymore and so I'll be getting
(36:06):
another one, but that I think isone of my favorites.
Another one of my favorites is the Curve from Hot Octopus.
Have you tried that? I haven't had that one yet.
No, one of the things I like about it, it has this really
soft tip. Wishy.
And what's great about I like toDeep Throat my husband's cock
while I have this in my vagina. And that kind of filling both
(36:31):
ends is really nice and it givesme throat chasms and pussycasms
simultaneously. And so that's another party
trick of mine. That's one of my faves right
now. Yeah, that one let.
Me. See that tonight?
Squirt alarm for me. That one, That perfect curve on
that head. Yes, it's so good for that.
(36:53):
I know. I love it so much for that.
I can really make myself squirt a lot with that product.
Do you have a favorite book thatyou could recommend?
Yeah, I think probably The Woman's Anatomy of Arousal by
Sherri Winston is my all time favorite book about sex.
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It is chock full of vital details about the female sexual
operating system and it definitely helped me orgasm more
ways and more intensities and more frequencies, etcetera.
So I like that book. Awesome.
Thanks for sharing. For anyone listening, it would
(37:36):
be amazing if you could screenshot the podcast episode
and then take us, share it, takeus both of us in there with your
take away message of this podcast episode and it's a
great. Idea.
Yeah, because I would love to hear what they've taken away
from this, and I can't see it ifthey take us both in there.
So take a screenshot, share it, let us know what was the most
(37:58):
interesting part of it. And then one last question I've
got for you. What would be like your #1 tip
or one of your best tips for everyone in regards to pleasure?
That pleasure is a practice and you keep getting better at it
and expanding it so and that it's the antidote to stress.
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And we are under so much stress in our cultures today that the
more that you can evoke pleasureand slowly warm up to and expand
it, the healthier, happier and longer you live.
Thank you so much for that and thank you for coming onto the
podcast. My pleasure.
Are you kidding me? I love that.
(38:41):
I literally would do this every day with you.
Thank you. Thank you so much for tuning
into this Pleasure lit episode. I would love it if you could
share this episode along with your loved ones and also make
sure you follow and subscribe tomy channel so you don't miss out
on any future episodes. And if you haven't rated or
(39:04):
reviewed the Polish LED podcast,yeah, it might be time to do
this now. I will see you or hear you at
one of my next episodes. With love and pleasure.
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