September 9, 2025 • 38 mins
This week on The Rewrite, I’m joined (again!) by the incredible Maura Eliza (@mauraeliza)—a naturopath and trauma-informed health coach who helps women uncover the hidden emotional roots of chronic symptoms.In this conversation we dive deep into the ways emotional trauma can manifest physically, and what it truly takes to heal from the inside out.
We talk about:
- Her personal healing journey
- How the body stores trauma—especially in fight, flight, or freeze
- German New Medicine & Dr. Hamer’s groundbreaking work
- What a “healing code” is—and how she uses it
- The power of listening to your body
- Her Rewrite and the birth of her 8-week program, The Vibrant Way
This one is for anyone who’s ever felt symptoms with “no explanation”… and is ready to explore the deeper story their body might be holding.
Learn more at thevibrantway.com
Follow Maura: @mauraeliza
We talk about:
- Her personal healing journey
- How the body stores trauma—especially in fight, flight, or freeze
- German New Medicine & Dr. Hamer’s groundbreaking work
- What a “healing code” is—and how she uses it
- The power of listening to your body
- Her Rewrite and the birth of her 8-week program, The Vibrant Way
This one is for anyone who’s ever felt symptoms with “no explanation”… and is ready to explore the deeper story their body might be holding.
Learn more at thevibrantway.com
Follow Maura: @mauraeliza
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to The Rewrite, a podcast about divorce, choice and
new beginnings. I'm your host Wendy Sloan, former TV producer,
mom of two and one sweet golden retriever. This is
a space for real talk about the moments that break us,
the choices that define us, and the power we have
to begin again. You'll hear personal stories, heartfelt insights, and
(00:22):
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Kuda Law Firm guidance that moves lives forward. Welcome back
to the Rewrite. I'm your host Wendy Sloan, and today
we're diving even deeper into the mind body connection with
a powerful, powerful, returning guest and one of my favorites.
Mara Eliza is a traditional natural path and trauma informed
health code coach who helps women uncover the hidden emotional
roots of chronic symptoms. After navigating her own unexplained health issues.
(01:07):
She discovered that healing isn't just what we eat or
how we move, It's about what we hold. If you've
ever felt like your body was trying to tell you something,
this episode is absolutely for you. Welcome back to my show, Maura, Eliza.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
Thank you for having me. Wendy, thank you.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
For being back here. You know I'm always fascinated by
what you do.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
Thank you. It's a very exciting line of work to
see women go from thinking that their body's attacking them,
thinking that you know, there is no hope, to seeing
dramatic changes really rapidly.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
It's pretty amazing. Can we start back with your for
those of you that didn't hear the first interview, those
of us, Can you start back with your personal story?
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Absolutely so. I left a twenty year relationship and I
was one of those women who was like, oh, we're
never going to get divorced, you know, like so sure.
So when I started facing the problems that we were
having were actually big problems, it was quite it was
pretty well blindsided. I was just really shocked, and we
worked on it as best as we could and it
(02:14):
just fell apart. It just was not meant to be,
and so obviously I was pretty devastated whenever I left,
and just kind of in a state of shock. But coincidentally,
around the same time, I learned about something they're named
German New Medicine, and I already had the notion that
(02:36):
our emotions and our thoughts can affect our body. You know,
I'm familiar with your feeling stressed and your muscles and
your shoulders are tight, or you're set to give a
presentation and your stomach is churning, you think you're going
to throw up. You know, all of those physical symtings
that are just emotion based. And this man named doctor
(02:59):
Hammer had created German New Medicine. He had gone really,
really deeply into it and was able to explain the
physiological connection to emotions. So I started kind of just
paying attention to my life in that way. And at
the time, I had self diagnosed myself as having a
gluten intolerance and joined a group to learn more about
(03:21):
German New medicine, and another woman who had previously had
a gluten intolerance shared with the group. She said, you know,
a lot of things changed for me when I realized
that gluten was the trigger, not the problem. Not the
actual root of the problem. So what we're doing here
is getting to a lot of root cause. Later on,
(03:42):
I made a connection between the first time those gluten
what I had called gluten intolerance symptoms showed up and
a pretty big argument that I had had with my ex,
and I was like, oh my gosh, could this this
could be that? Like, and when you make these connections,
(04:03):
your body will tell you like, oh, yes, we are
right here. You got you got it, you know, So
now I'm muting everything?
Speaker 1 (04:12):
Is that so interesting? So you thought it was you
thought it was the gluten, but it really wasn't. It
was just something that triggered when you had some emotional
trauma or something going on.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Right, Well, the gluten was the trigger. So like what
our body does is when we come into a sudden, unexpected,
isolating shock. So that means we weren't expecting you know,
we weren't expecting it. It's kind of shocking, and we either
didn't think to tell anybody about it, or we didn't
have any safe space to tell anybody about it. There's
(04:43):
some people out there who don't have any any people
that they can really trust, so they'll the body will
take those and we'll assign other things that were going
on as like oh, watch out, watch out. So you
could have an argument with your neighbor, and your body
associates whatever flower was blooming at that time with the argument. Now,
(05:06):
when that flower blooms, your body's like subconsciously like, oh
remember when that Remember when we had that fight, it
was one that flower was blooming, and in my case,
and so you start to have symptoms to kind of
prepare yourself to survive that shock again. So in my case,
you know, was eating a lot of gluten, may have
had just had it, you know, right when we had
(05:28):
the argument. I don't even really remember. I just was
only able to connect the the symptom with the event.
And then that's kind of the cool thing. But doctor
Homer kind of gives us this guide and way to
to make those connections even if we don't, Like I
don't remember what I had to eat that day, right,
(05:49):
but my body had registered like not safe, not safe,
not safe with gluten. So when I told my body, no, actually,
gluten is safe, that argument had nothing to do with
the gluten. And we had to all sit down a
little talk and I was like, oh, okay, we can't
eat that now.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
Isn't that amazing? So had you not been going through
deciding you were getting out of your twenty year relationship,
you might not even be the person. You might not
even be here talking about this today.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
Oh exactly, I wouldn't be doing. My life is totally
different than if I had not left that relationship, And
a lot of it was through the fire that I
walked through leaving amazing.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
How old were your kids at that time?
Speaker 2 (06:33):
Oh gosh, let's see six and eleven. I think six
and nine, I guess then.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
So your own healing journey shifted once you started listening
to your body more closely.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
Oh, so many things shifted, so many things. I started
to be a much more mindful person, mindful of my thoughts,
mindful of my beliefs, mindful of my own little innerpersonal stories.
And at the same time, I was able to make
my life much more simple because I had been in
that biohacking realm, like, oh hey, we need to do
(07:09):
the red light, we need to do the best, We
need to do this. You know how those can get
the bioacts can become almost a full time job. And
I was able to figure out, like, okay, what things
do I really need? And it's such a much more
simple routine than what I had been stressing myself to
stay to adhere to prior to that.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
Like all those things don't matter, right, It's like, let
just why everything and make everything and then life just
like moves more freely. Right.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
Well, I mean as a naturopath, I will also the
first thing I ever do with people is check on
the basics. So so much you can do with just
the basics. Like I had a gal who came to
me and had had quite a bit of emotional trauma.
Her dad had passed away and and all kinds of
(08:00):
things had started happening after that. But she had been
seeing another natural path who had given her supplement after
supplement after supplement after supplement. When this woman wasn't even
drinking a leader of water, you know, she was not
drinking much water. And I was just like, I don't
care if you take any more supplements, drink this water.
Let's do this emotion stuff. And she started feeling better
within weeks I mean actually days with the water. But
(08:22):
then when we started working on the emotions, that made
a big difference too. We reset her nervous system. What
everyone why.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
Does everyone not. It's like so hard, like let's just
get to the root of it instead of like putting
band aids on it. Right, I feel like that's like
so many people do, so many doctors do healthcare.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
I think, I mean, root causes a big buzz word
right now, but I think a lot of people are
missing what the root cause actually is. So the way
this was described to me by my instructor. His name's
Jake Curry, really great guy. He had a straw out
a pyramid and with the flat side on the bottom right.
(08:59):
So he's like, here's where most people start with the physical.
So you've got your physical therapist, you've got your exercise,
you've got your eat right that you know, whatever the
problem is, there's there's something there. So for a while,
the next layer above that people said, oh well, it's
not just just the physical, it's also the chemical, like
(09:19):
what are you eating, what are you being released in
your body? What you know? Do you are you in
high cord? Those kinds of questions that people will say,
So these all have valid, are valid, but there's another
layer above that, and that's what's going on with your
nervous system. Are you in fight flight or freeze all
the time. Are you able to get into rest and
digest when you go to sleep? Is your body doing
(09:42):
that normal cycling or not not. There's even another layer
above that, which is the perspective. And that's where I
help people start to examine because, like I always use
the example if if you're deathly afraid of snakes and
I said, hey, when don't look, there's a snake behind you,
(10:02):
you would be like your your nervous system would go
into fight flight or freeze. It would release a whole
bunch of adrenaline and you'd be booking it out the door,
like it would just be you'd be gone, right. But
it doesn't. That's because you hadn't changed perspective. It doesn't
matter if there actually was a was a snake behind you.
It's because you have associated snake with so much danger
(10:24):
that it caused a cascade of all of those other
things to happen.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
How does it work? Like your body remembering what you're holding? Like,
how does that work?
Speaker 2 (10:33):
Yeah? So doctor hammered, and I just want to give
all credit to him because he I am just repeating
his work. So he's was just a phenomenal, amazing man
and just wanted nothing more than to for people to
learn German new medicine because he just he dialed he
quite he dialed it quite well. So what he found
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because he was a physical he was an actual physician,
so he was able to do brain scans on people.
And what he found was when you have what I
said earlier, the sudden, unexpected, isolating shocks, something that catches
you off guard, you weren't expecting it, then there are
changes on the psyche, but there's also physiological changes on
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the brain and on the organ. So the brain will
literally make a lesion on a part that controls an
organ or a part of an organ. Right where that
lesion is formed is determined by the psyche and how
you're interpreting the situation. So in my case, I work
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with a lot of women who've been through, you know,
betrayals in their relationships. They've left toxic relationships. That's my specialty.
So infidelity is really common topic that comes up. So
we can have two women who partners were unfaithful, cheated
on them, and they have two totally different symptoms because
they've interpreted that same thing different. One maybe has interpreted
(12:02):
as I'm not good enough, I wasn't good enough to
keep his attention or blah blah blah. She will have pain,
she may have swelling. Another woman who's just so unbearably angry,
it was like overwhelming to have that information. She may
have digestive issues with this. We call that an indigestible
(12:22):
morsel conflict. And it can cause you know, leaky gut,
it can cause food sensitivities, it can cause it lead
to all these other things. So that can be that's
always worth looking at the root cause, because the way
the world is right now, we can have people who
are trying to take responsibility for their health. They're they're
like in my case, not eating the gluten, or they're there,
(12:46):
you know, exercise or you know, they're trying to take
the supplements or whatever it is. But like you said earlier,
they're kind of putting a band aid over the situation,
and it's kind of escalating, like, oh, you have to
you can't well, now you're reacting to proccli, you can't
eat proccly. Now you're reacting to daery, now, night shades, now,
all of these things, and people will get themselves down
(13:07):
to only having six foods that they can eat. But
that's not healing. You know, if you're constantly having to
restrict your foods more and more and more, your body's
not healing. It's actually just adding more triggers to the
track because there's something making your body think that that
food isn't safe. So let's address that. That's where the
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root cause actually is.
Speaker 1 (13:31):
It's so interesting, it's your work is fascinating. I'm sure
like you're still learning, right.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
I mean, I don't know what kind of he was.
An amazing man, master or wrong man, doctor hammer, amazing man,
just had perseverance and persistence like you you would not believe.
He made just an incredibly intricate thing. I actually layered
(13:59):
when I was going through when I went back to
school to become a naturopath, I layered in German New
medicine with the things that I was learning through naturopathy.
So we would we would study blood sugar issues and
I'd be like, Okay, well what does German New medicine say,
And just looking at the resource and the way he
had really gotten so specific about the different parts. I
(14:22):
learned more about anatomy from from from German New medicine
than I did through my acturopathy. Program, And yeah, because
like I mean, the pagre is in particular that we
have the beta alpha beta cells or the beta islet
cells and the alpha islet cells, they have different conflicts
and like to understand that even just to understand like
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how those two cells work differently, It was just amazing.
So he was a really incredible person.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
And Ryan continues to blow me away, and we're gonna
take a quick break from one of our responsors.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
Were right back.
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own body?
Speaker 2 (16:32):
Yeah? So, I mean that is there can be a
nervous systemwhere component to it, which we see a lot
of a lot more people coming out talking about nervous
system regulation, and that's kind of become a little bit
more of a buzzword, and there's definitely something to that
what I didn't finish earlier about the brain will form
a lesion, like I said, on the body, which that
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is there to enact changes on the oregon level. So
say the digestive digestive one, like we'll just use that
example again. It'll be either adding cells or taking away
cells depending on the phase of the conflict as well
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as the type of organ that is. So some types
of organs during conflict active time will take away cells,
so they'll kind of, you know, in medical terms, they're
deteriorating or they're atrophying, you know, these big scary words.
And then whenever it shifts into safety into that rest
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digest heel phase, your body will start to add cells
to that area. And then sometimes you'll see like they'll
get diagnosis tumors or polyps or cysts, and it is
just a predictable phase of the body. Have these special
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biological programs, that's what he called them, special biological programs.
Biological it's life logical that your body is doing this.
And the thing that's really cool about your MANU medicine
is when I explain to people like, oh, hey, you
had this conflict. Your body thinks it's a quote unquote
indigestible morsel conflict, and you need food to eat, so
your body is opening and making space so that it's
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letting in more nutrients, as much nutrients as possible to
keep you alive. And then people are like, oh, that
makes sense. That makes I understand that now. And then
when we can get the body to understand that things
are safe, things are all good, we take some of
those triggers or those experiences that created those triggers, and
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we flip them around so that you still have the memory,
but it's not the same gut reaction when you think
about it. We even can get some insight and some
learning from that. Then you can go into the phase,
which I do want to cover.
Speaker 1 (19:01):
That a little bit, because yes, I want to yes.
Speaker 2 (19:04):
Yes, okay, so I'm kind of alluding to I would
just to flesh it out a little bit more specifically,
these conflicts happen in two phases. You have the event
that puts you into that fight fighter freeze. We call
that conflict active, and sometimes you can be conflict active
and not really even realize it unless you're familiar with
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the signs. Because keep in mind, this is your time
when your body is like we have to survive. Our
survival is at risk, and so we're going to do
some things to make sure that we survive. I always
go back to the gym example. If you go to
the gym and you're telling your body to lift weights
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that it's never lifted before, or just it's been the
first time in a long time, it's going to rise
to the challenge. It's going to be like, yes, okay,
we will lift those weights. And there's a reason why
so many people don't realize that they're overdoing it when
they're literally at the gym. It's because your body is
responding to that demand and doing more than it's used
to doing because it's getting the idea like, oh, we
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need this to survive, right, So we also know that
in that case, it breaks down. The muscle breaks down
the muscle during that workout, and then when you leave
the gym, you go into the healing phase, and that's
where you get your muscles gonna get hot, you get
really sore, it's hard to get off the couch and
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then you realize, oh my gosh, I overdid it. Yeah,
so your body kind of goes through the same thing.
You have the conflict active. In conflict active, we call
it cold fase. Sometimes you can have like cold hands,
cold feet, just have a little bit of a hard
time getting warm. There's a metabolic reaction to that, because
again your body's just bare basics surviving. And then when
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you flip into the healing phase, which is done by
resolving that conflict. So you get out of this situation,
you leave the gym, the argument with the neighbor is done,
and you actually go back and you make up. Then
your body goes into this healing phase, and this is
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what we call the warm phase. You might actually literally
get a fever, you might get coughing, you might have diarrhea,
you might be throwing up, you might be laid out
in bed because you have no energy. And that's because
your body is creating the environment so that it uses bacteria, fungus, yeast,
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those kinds of things to send your body to do
the repair job, and so that heat all of that
rest time, your body is like, hey, hold up, we're
not worried about survival anymore. We're worried about healing your
body and actually making it stronger so that if you
come across it again, you will survive. Like your muscles
get bigger so that the next time you can lift
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more waits. But I love the gym analogy because it
brings it home to something that we've all experienced. But
this is the phase that's going on with your body
all the time. So I don't I don't say that
I caught a bug anymore, or that I'm sick. I'm healing.
If I'm in bed, you can hear my voice is
actually a little bit rasty because I had a little
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bit of healing over the weekend. And I and that's
one of the Yes. It changes your perspective so that
you see like, oh my gosh, my body's doing something
really really functional. I wasn't being attacked. It's my body
working for me a better good.
Speaker 1 (22:36):
Amazing it just like this whole It fascinates me because
this is a whole way of training your your your
mind and your body. So it's so different than what
we're all used to.
Speaker 2 (22:48):
Yes, and and it's really neat because you can start
to you know, see your symptoms as messengers, not as malfunctions.
So if I'm going down the stairs and my knee hurts,
it's not a chronic issue for me. Although we can
get into chronics, I'd be happy to. I would love
to go into that. It's just a temporary issue. I
can say, oh my gosh, Okay, So where was I
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feeling like I was struggling to keep up? Where was
I worried about my performance? And then, knowing that the
pain often happens during the healing, I usually can find like,
oh gosh, I had this happen and that resolved it,
and now I'm feeling better. So my pain and the
pain showed up at the resolution. And what happens with
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chronics is that those triggers that we were talking about earlier,
you know, we were talking about the blooming flower or
the gluten they put us back into that conflict active
phase if we have not resolved the original conflict. So
then you go into healing, you have the symptoms, then
you if you haven't fully again, if you haven't fully resolved,
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you kind of loop back to the beginning of the
conflict and put yourself back into the conflict active phase
where you have less symptoms. You don't, you're not really
as bothered by it. It's when you resolve something, and
most people are looking when they have those sentences, they
most most people are looking for what did I do wrong?
What did I eat? What is the problem? Look for
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what is the resolution? What did I just let go of? Evolution?
Speaker 1 (24:24):
I like that a lot. So sometimes, like give myself
as an example, sometimes I get really tired, like just tired,
and I just like need to lay down. And I'm like, well,
is my iron low or did I just like overdo
it or did I go out too much? But maybe
my body's telling me something different is exactly and for
(24:49):
some reason, I just like conk out, like just all
of a sudden conk out. What is about telling me
right exactly?
Speaker 2 (24:57):
And so we can have big conflicts, we can have
little conflicts. So you can have a really really small
conflict that gets resolved and it's just like that I
just needed a day to rest. I do also believe that,
like you can put yourself, keep yourself in a kind
of a too busy state and your body will just
need some time to rest. If you didn't sleep well,
your body didn't actually get all of the recharge that
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it's supposed to have done. But the intensity of the
conflict that you go through will determine the intensity of
the resolution. So big conflict resolution is going to have
big pain. And so I kind of help women understand
that too, because there's some conflicts that maybe we can't
get out of. You know. I have a lot of
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women who their ex really loves to bring chaoster lives,
loves to just kind of toy with their minds every
time they see him, and they have to see them
because they have kids and they do you know, the
kid exchange stuff, and so that conflict. We will obviously
change perspective as much as we can there. But what
we can also do is calm the nervous system. You know,
you're going to see him, Like, let's let's put a
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special self self love, you know, routine before or after
you see him to calm yourself down so that your
nervous system doesn't go into that extreme level. It can
be calmer in your healing will be calmer as well.
Speaker 1 (26:16):
It makes a lot of sense. Okay, so so much.
There's always so much to talk with you. It's just
never ending. There's so many questions if someone feels stuck, sick,
disconnected after talks relationship, where do they begin?
Speaker 2 (26:33):
Yeah, I would say, come come see me, because we will.
I also use a bio resonance feedback device and so
we'll run that. We'll see like what is your body
trying to tell you? Because kind of the biggest problem
back at what are we running? What is that that
you just said. I'm a multimodal kind of person. So
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everything we think of everything I or well way I
think of everything, everything is as in a sense, like energy.
There's a frequency in your body when you're stressed, you know,
like there's nothing to well, let me just say this
differently that perspective. Say, you know the example that I said,
when you're giving a presentation and you're feeling stressed, your
(27:16):
shoulders are tight, your stomach is queasy. That's all just
energy from your mind. But it's creating a physiological change
right now. A lot of the women I work with
not only have been through a toxic relationship, but there
was patterning way before they met that person, and so
their nervous systems are kind of stuck in this trauma loop.
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And I worked with one woman who had done literally
everything I had ever thought of both natural and not natural.
She had even had electroshock therapy, she was had psychmed
she'd been hospitalized, she'd had hypnosis, she'd had yoga and meditation,
you know, all of these. She had tried it all.
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And when she came to me, I was like, Okay, well,
let's do this bio resonance feedback there. But it can
be done at a distance. And what it just does
is measure the person's frequency of all their organs, all
their tissues, all the way down to the amino acids,
and then it offers the proper frequencies to that body.
So what we get there that I haven't found any
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other way to get is this huge nervous system reset,
where in her case, she called me three days later
and was like, I don't have rage. I mean she
called me crying. Actually, I don't have rage. I don't
feel overwhelmed. I don't feel angry. She started being on
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time for things, which a lot of people don't know.
That's a nervous system function. Like if you are always
late and you don't even realize like how you got
that way. Sometimes there's nervous systems forgetfulness. The same way
if you really have a terrible the memory. That's a
sign of trauma. So she got that reset. We continued
to work on the on the experiences and on her
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habits and things like that, and she just had started
in her life. She's like, I feel like my life
began when I started working with you.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
Wow. Yeah, that's so meaningful for you. I mean, because
this is the work that you do. And for someone
to say something like that, that's huge.
Speaker 2 (29:25):
It's it's huge. And to think that, you know, I
come across women who've been in therapy for ten years
and they're like, I'm just feeling broken, Like this is
not I don't feel that much better. And to be
able to say, well, listen, we can, we can make
some changes. And my program's an eight week program, so
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like we continue to support later, but like that's to
see the actual changes and to give them the tools
that they can use to go back to and go
back to go back to after they've worked with me.
Speaker 1 (30:00):
And tell us, I want to ask you what it
does mean to rewrite your story not just emotionally but
physical and also your eight week program.
Speaker 2 (30:10):
Yeah, well, you know, I like to tell women that
your partner held your healing codes, and what it does
for people is it helps them look at what happened
to them in a different way, a way that takes
them out of the victim place, the victim spot, takes
away the shame because a lot of women do have
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shame about not seeing the red flags or not making
different choices, or you know that their kids have to
live with the choices that they made. We add a
purpose to that, so we'll pull in sometimes people who
who want us, who are showing to us what we
need to live or need to change on a very
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exaggerated level. So when we can start to look at
what healing codes are here, you know, if that person
isn't paying the child support he's supposed to be paying,
and you're really struggling, maybe your healing code is to
realize how great you could be at business, or that
you're holding back waiting on him financially instead of going
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for the promotion or looking for a better job or
starting that side hustle that could be really really great.
That's a healing code right there. So let's dive into
what you need to learn to do that and what
you need to work through for that. That's just one
of the examples of just these reframes, taking the experience
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and focusing on the woman who's in front of me,
while so many other practitioners or women are telling me
their other practitioners are focusing on the X and like's
going on there.
Speaker 1 (31:54):
Yeah, we don't need to focus on that, Okay. So
what is what does it mean to rewrite your story?
Speaker 2 (32:04):
Rewriting your stories, rewriting your life? It's really an opportunity
to go and to As much as it's hard to
grieve the relationship you thought you were getting into at
the beginning and everything that happened, the betrayal, the hurt,
the anger, it's an opportunity to also just grow into yourself.
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I mean, in my case, I started Latin dancing. I
would never have done that. I would never have done
that if I was still married, not because he was
telling me don't do that, but because it was in
my mind a choice between staying home and connecting with
him or leaving him and like going to do this
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other thing. And I started to realize I just love it,
like it lights me up. If I am in a
down mood, I know I have to out back to
the last time I went dancing it's usually been too long.
So I can go dancing and recharge myself, refresh myself.
And I never would have been able to do that.
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I never would have been able to I probably wouldn't
have had the guts to go and become a natural
path if I was still married and here I am.
Speaker 1 (33:19):
And we didn't our story as many times as we want.
You always seem so light and brightness around you when
I when I talk, when I see you, when I
talk to you, every time, there's always a lightness to you.
Speaker 2 (33:35):
Well, thank you. Actually, that's one of the women said
that about my program. She's like, it's not heavy. You know.
I developed this program. It's called the Vibrant Way. I
developed this program after years and years and years of
looking into almost every self development modality out there. I
don't do it anymore.
Speaker 1 (33:54):
But like.
Speaker 2 (33:56):
You know, I did so many things, and I wasn't
going to stick with anything that took hours and hours
and hours. I had two kids, I had a business, Like,
I don't have time to spend three hours on the
floor crying right right, And I was going to do
anything that's going to leave me an emotional wreck for
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the rest of the day. That's kind of what was
happening to me when I would go to therapy. I'd
be there for an hour and then it'd be a
long time. Now we do have highs and lows, but
like it made me a little hesitant to want to
go to therapy because I knew i'd be like a mess.
I didn't really feel freedom like I do with the
methods that I use now. And then I wasn't going
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to do anything that required me to like take a
pill every day, keep buying a product. I have favorite products.
Of course, nothing against that, but if you have to
keep taking the CBD pill, then it's not healing, you know,
like you've maxed out your healing potential with that, just
that one for example. But so I created a method
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that is light and and that is like in our
session we end up laughing like that's our marker, or
like we got the job done because we're laughing about
you know, this thing or that thing. I worked with
a woman named Rebecca, and she shares this on my
YouTube channel, and she's like she had the misfortune of
somebody said called her an old hag when she shared
(35:20):
that she was getting divorced. It's like such a rude, terrible,
insensitive thing to say. But people do say terrible things too,
Like people don't even understand like how much you, especially
after a divorced, how much you lose your social circle,
people start treating you differently. So in Rebecca's case, she
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was still like really, She's like, it was like an
arrow that I couldn't pull out, and so we started
diving into it and like sifting through. We just kind
of confronted it and sat with it and like, you know,
explored it a little bit more. And then suddenly she's like,
oh my gosh, this isn't an old hag, this is
a vixen.
Speaker 1 (36:00):
Oh my gosh, okay, and then everything changed, right, and
everything changed.
Speaker 2 (36:07):
Took her maybe thirty minutes to do that, you know,
like it was just so powerful for her, and she's like,
ever since then, when people say things like that to me,
it doesn't land the same. It's just different.
Speaker 1 (36:20):
It's amazing how your mind can change things. More advisa.
We could go on for days and and again and again.
Of course the Natural Path, her eight week program is
called The Vibrant Way. We'll have it all up on
social we talk so much about diving into the how
emotional trauma can manifest in your body and what it
truly takes to heal, and so much more. Thank you
(36:41):
so much for this, and we'll absolutely have you back
again and again and again. Thank you and everyone everyone
to meet you and to talk to you and spend
time with you.
Speaker 2 (36:51):
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and it's free for people to join and get an
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Kuda Law Firm guidance that moves lives forward. Welcome back
to the Rewrite. I'm your host Wendy Sloan, and today
we're diving even deeper into the mind body connection with
a powerful, powerful, returning guest and one of my favorites.
Mara Eliza is a traditional natural path and trauma informed
health code coach who helps women uncover the hidden emotional
roots of chronic symptoms. After navigating her own unexplained health issues.
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She discovered that healing isn't just what we eat or
how we move, It's about what we hold. If you've
ever felt like your body was trying to tell you something,
this episode is absolutely for you. Welcome back to my show, Maura, Eliza.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
Thank you for having me. Wendy, thank you.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
For being back here. You know I'm always fascinated by
what you do.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
Thank you. It's a very exciting line of work to
see women go from thinking that their body's attacking them,
thinking that you know, there is no hope, to seeing
dramatic changes really rapidly.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
It's pretty amazing. Can we start back with your for
those of you that didn't hear the first interview, those
of us, Can you start back with your personal story?
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Absolutely so. I left a twenty year relationship and I
was one of those women who was like, oh, we're
never going to get divorced, you know, like so sure.
So when I started facing the problems that we were
having were actually big problems, it was quite it was
pretty well blindsided. I was just really shocked, and we
worked on it as best as we could and it
(02:14):
just fell apart. It just was not meant to be,
and so obviously I was pretty devastated whenever I left,
and just kind of in a state of shock. But coincidentally,
around the same time, I learned about something they're named
German New Medicine, and I already had the notion that
(02:36):
our emotions and our thoughts can affect our body. You know,
I'm familiar with your feeling stressed and your muscles and
your shoulders are tight, or you're set to give a
presentation and your stomach is churning, you think you're going
to throw up. You know, all of those physical symtings
that are just emotion based. And this man named doctor
(02:59):
Hammer had created German New Medicine. He had gone really,
really deeply into it and was able to explain the
physiological connection to emotions. So I started kind of just
paying attention to my life in that way. And at
the time, I had self diagnosed myself as having a
gluten intolerance and joined a group to learn more about
(03:21):
German New medicine, and another woman who had previously had
a gluten intolerance shared with the group. She said, you know,
a lot of things changed for me when I realized
that gluten was the trigger, not the problem. Not the
actual root of the problem. So what we're doing here
is getting to a lot of root cause. Later on,
(03:42):
I made a connection between the first time those gluten
what I had called gluten intolerance symptoms showed up and
a pretty big argument that I had had with my ex,
and I was like, oh my gosh, could this this
could be that? Like, and when you make these connections,
(04:03):
your body will tell you like, oh, yes, we are
right here. You got you got it, you know, So
now I'm muting everything?
Speaker 1 (04:12):
Is that so interesting? So you thought it was you
thought it was the gluten, but it really wasn't. It
was just something that triggered when you had some emotional
trauma or something going on.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Right, Well, the gluten was the trigger. So like what
our body does is when we come into a sudden, unexpected,
isolating shock. So that means we weren't expecting you know,
we weren't expecting it. It's kind of shocking, and we either
didn't think to tell anybody about it, or we didn't
have any safe space to tell anybody about it. There's
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some people out there who don't have any any people
that they can really trust, so they'll the body will
take those and we'll assign other things that were going
on as like oh, watch out, watch out. So you
could have an argument with your neighbor, and your body
associates whatever flower was blooming at that time with the argument. Now,
(05:06):
when that flower blooms, your body's like subconsciously like, oh
remember when that Remember when we had that fight, it
was one that flower was blooming, and in my case,
and so you start to have symptoms to kind of
prepare yourself to survive that shock again. So in my case,
you know, was eating a lot of gluten, may have
had just had it, you know, right when we had
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the argument. I don't even really remember. I just was
only able to connect the the symptom with the event.
And then that's kind of the cool thing. But doctor
Homer kind of gives us this guide and way to
to make those connections even if we don't, Like I
don't remember what I had to eat that day, right,
(05:49):
but my body had registered like not safe, not safe,
not safe with gluten. So when I told my body, no, actually,
gluten is safe, that argument had nothing to do with
the gluten. And we had to all sit down a
little talk and I was like, oh, okay, we can't
eat that now.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
Isn't that amazing? So had you not been going through
deciding you were getting out of your twenty year relationship,
you might not even be the person. You might not
even be here talking about this today.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
Oh exactly, I wouldn't be doing. My life is totally
different than if I had not left that relationship, And
a lot of it was through the fire that I
walked through leaving amazing.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
How old were your kids at that time?
Speaker 2 (06:33):
Oh gosh, let's see six and eleven. I think six
and nine, I guess then.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
So your own healing journey shifted once you started listening
to your body more closely.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
Oh, so many things shifted, so many things. I started
to be a much more mindful person, mindful of my thoughts,
mindful of my beliefs, mindful of my own little innerpersonal stories.
And at the same time, I was able to make
my life much more simple because I had been in
that biohacking realm, like, oh hey, we need to do
(07:09):
the red light, we need to do the best, We
need to do this. You know how those can get
the bioacts can become almost a full time job. And
I was able to figure out, like, okay, what things
do I really need? And it's such a much more
simple routine than what I had been stressing myself to
stay to adhere to prior to that.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
Like all those things don't matter, right, It's like, let
just why everything and make everything and then life just
like moves more freely. Right.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
Well, I mean as a naturopath, I will also the
first thing I ever do with people is check on
the basics. So so much you can do with just
the basics. Like I had a gal who came to
me and had had quite a bit of emotional trauma.
Her dad had passed away and and all kinds of
(08:00):
things had started happening after that. But she had been
seeing another natural path who had given her supplement after
supplement after supplement after supplement. When this woman wasn't even
drinking a leader of water, you know, she was not
drinking much water. And I was just like, I don't
care if you take any more supplements, drink this water.
Let's do this emotion stuff. And she started feeling better
within weeks I mean actually days with the water. But
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then when we started working on the emotions, that made
a big difference too. We reset her nervous system. What
everyone why.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
Does everyone not. It's like so hard, like let's just
get to the root of it instead of like putting
band aids on it. Right, I feel like that's like
so many people do, so many doctors do healthcare.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
I think, I mean, root causes a big buzz word
right now, but I think a lot of people are
missing what the root cause actually is. So the way
this was described to me by my instructor. His name's
Jake Curry, really great guy. He had a straw out
a pyramid and with the flat side on the bottom right.
(08:59):
So he's like, here's where most people start with the physical.
So you've got your physical therapist, you've got your exercise,
you've got your eat right that you know, whatever the
problem is, there's there's something there. So for a while,
the next layer above that people said, oh well, it's
not just just the physical, it's also the chemical, like
(09:19):
what are you eating, what are you being released in
your body? What you know? Do you are you in
high cord? Those kinds of questions that people will say,
So these all have valid, are valid, but there's another
layer above that, and that's what's going on with your
nervous system. Are you in fight flight or freeze all
the time. Are you able to get into rest and
digest when you go to sleep? Is your body doing
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that normal cycling or not not. There's even another layer
above that, which is the perspective. And that's where I
help people start to examine because, like I always use
the example if if you're deathly afraid of snakes and
I said, hey, when don't look, there's a snake behind you,
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you would be like your your nervous system would go
into fight flight or freeze. It would release a whole
bunch of adrenaline and you'd be booking it out the door,
like it would just be you'd be gone, right. But
it doesn't. That's because you hadn't changed perspective. It doesn't
matter if there actually was a was a snake behind you.
It's because you have associated snake with so much danger
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that it caused a cascade of all of those other
things to happen.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
How does it work? Like your body remembering what you're holding? Like,
how does that work?
Speaker 2 (10:33):
Yeah? So doctor hammered, and I just want to give
all credit to him because he I am just repeating
his work. So he's was just a phenomenal, amazing man
and just wanted nothing more than to for people to
learn German new medicine because he just he dialed he
quite he dialed it quite well. So what he found
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because he was a physical he was an actual physician,
so he was able to do brain scans on people.
And what he found was when you have what I
said earlier, the sudden, unexpected, isolating shocks, something that catches
you off guard, you weren't expecting it, then there are
changes on the psyche, but there's also physiological changes on
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the brain and on the organ. So the brain will
literally make a lesion on a part that controls an
organ or a part of an organ. Right where that
lesion is formed is determined by the psyche and how
you're interpreting the situation. So in my case, I work
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with a lot of women who've been through, you know,
betrayals in their relationships. They've left toxic relationships. That's my specialty.
So infidelity is really common topic that comes up. So
we can have two women who partners were unfaithful, cheated
on them, and they have two totally different symptoms because
they've interpreted that same thing different. One maybe has interpreted
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as I'm not good enough, I wasn't good enough to
keep his attention or blah blah blah. She will have pain,
she may have swelling. Another woman who's just so unbearably angry,
it was like overwhelming to have that information. She may
have digestive issues with this. We call that an indigestible
(12:22):
morsel conflict. And it can cause you know, leaky gut,
it can cause food sensitivities, it can cause it lead
to all these other things. So that can be that's
always worth looking at the root cause, because the way
the world is right now, we can have people who
are trying to take responsibility for their health. They're they're
like in my case, not eating the gluten, or they're there,
(12:46):
you know, exercise or you know, they're trying to take
the supplements or whatever it is. But like you said earlier,
they're kind of putting a band aid over the situation,
and it's kind of escalating, like, oh, you have to
you can't well, now you're reacting to proccli, you can't
eat proccly. Now you're reacting to daery, now, night shades, now,
all of these things, and people will get themselves down
(13:07):
to only having six foods that they can eat. But
that's not healing. You know, if you're constantly having to
restrict your foods more and more and more, your body's
not healing. It's actually just adding more triggers to the
track because there's something making your body think that that
food isn't safe. So let's address that. That's where the
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root cause actually is.
Speaker 1 (13:31):
It's so interesting, it's your work is fascinating. I'm sure
like you're still learning, right.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
I mean, I don't know what kind of he was.
An amazing man, master or wrong man, doctor hammer, amazing man,
just had perseverance and persistence like you you would not believe.
He made just an incredibly intricate thing. I actually layered
(13:59):
when I was going through when I went back to
school to become a naturopath, I layered in German New
medicine with the things that I was learning through naturopathy.
So we would we would study blood sugar issues and
I'd be like, Okay, well what does German New medicine say,
And just looking at the resource and the way he
had really gotten so specific about the different parts. I
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learned more about anatomy from from from German New medicine
than I did through my acturopathy. Program, And yeah, because
like I mean, the pagre is in particular that we
have the beta alpha beta cells or the beta islet
cells and the alpha islet cells, they have different conflicts
and like to understand that even just to understand like
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how those two cells work differently, It was just amazing.
So he was a really incredible person.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
And Ryan continues to blow me away, and we're gonna
take a quick break from one of our responsors.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
Were right back.
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own body?
Speaker 2 (16:32):
Yeah? So, I mean that is there can be a
nervous systemwhere component to it, which we see a lot
of a lot more people coming out talking about nervous
system regulation, and that's kind of become a little bit
more of a buzzword, and there's definitely something to that
what I didn't finish earlier about the brain will form
a lesion, like I said, on the body, which that
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is there to enact changes on the oregon level. So
say the digestive digestive one, like we'll just use that
example again. It'll be either adding cells or taking away
cells depending on the phase of the conflict as well
(17:17):
as the type of organ that is. So some types
of organs during conflict active time will take away cells,
so they'll kind of, you know, in medical terms, they're
deteriorating or they're atrophying, you know, these big scary words.
And then whenever it shifts into safety into that rest
(17:38):
digest heel phase, your body will start to add cells
to that area. And then sometimes you'll see like they'll
get diagnosis tumors or polyps or cysts, and it is
just a predictable phase of the body. Have these special
(18:00):
biological programs, that's what he called them, special biological programs.
Biological it's life logical that your body is doing this.
And the thing that's really cool about your MANU medicine
is when I explain to people like, oh, hey, you
had this conflict. Your body thinks it's a quote unquote
indigestible morsel conflict, and you need food to eat, so
your body is opening and making space so that it's
(18:22):
letting in more nutrients, as much nutrients as possible to
keep you alive. And then people are like, oh, that
makes sense. That makes I understand that now. And then
when we can get the body to understand that things
are safe, things are all good, we take some of
those triggers or those experiences that created those triggers, and
(18:44):
we flip them around so that you still have the memory,
but it's not the same gut reaction when you think
about it. We even can get some insight and some
learning from that. Then you can go into the phase,
which I do want to cover.
Speaker 1 (19:01):
That a little bit, because yes, I want to yes.
Speaker 2 (19:04):
Yes, okay, so I'm kind of alluding to I would
just to flesh it out a little bit more specifically,
these conflicts happen in two phases. You have the event
that puts you into that fight fighter freeze. We call
that conflict active, and sometimes you can be conflict active
and not really even realize it unless you're familiar with
(19:26):
the signs. Because keep in mind, this is your time
when your body is like we have to survive. Our
survival is at risk, and so we're going to do
some things to make sure that we survive. I always
go back to the gym example. If you go to
the gym and you're telling your body to lift weights
(19:47):
that it's never lifted before, or just it's been the
first time in a long time, it's going to rise
to the challenge. It's going to be like, yes, okay,
we will lift those weights. And there's a reason why
so many people don't realize that they're overdoing it when
they're literally at the gym. It's because your body is
responding to that demand and doing more than it's used
to doing because it's getting the idea like, oh, we
(20:09):
need this to survive, right, So we also know that
in that case, it breaks down. The muscle breaks down
the muscle during that workout, and then when you leave
the gym, you go into the healing phase, and that's
where you get your muscles gonna get hot, you get
really sore, it's hard to get off the couch and
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then you realize, oh my gosh, I overdid it. Yeah,
so your body kind of goes through the same thing.
You have the conflict active. In conflict active, we call
it cold fase. Sometimes you can have like cold hands,
cold feet, just have a little bit of a hard
time getting warm. There's a metabolic reaction to that, because
again your body's just bare basics surviving. And then when
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you flip into the healing phase, which is done by
resolving that conflict. So you get out of this situation,
you leave the gym, the argument with the neighbor is done,
and you actually go back and you make up. Then
your body goes into this healing phase, and this is
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what we call the warm phase. You might actually literally
get a fever, you might get coughing, you might have diarrhea,
you might be throwing up, you might be laid out
in bed because you have no energy. And that's because
your body is creating the environment so that it uses bacteria, fungus, yeast,
(21:38):
those kinds of things to send your body to do
the repair job, and so that heat all of that
rest time, your body is like, hey, hold up, we're
not worried about survival anymore. We're worried about healing your
body and actually making it stronger so that if you
come across it again, you will survive. Like your muscles
get bigger so that the next time you can lift
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more waits. But I love the gym analogy because it
brings it home to something that we've all experienced. But
this is the phase that's going on with your body
all the time. So I don't I don't say that
I caught a bug anymore, or that I'm sick. I'm healing.
If I'm in bed, you can hear my voice is
actually a little bit rasty because I had a little
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bit of healing over the weekend. And I and that's
one of the Yes. It changes your perspective so that
you see like, oh my gosh, my body's doing something
really really functional. I wasn't being attacked. It's my body
working for me a better good.
Speaker 1 (22:36):
Amazing it just like this whole It fascinates me because
this is a whole way of training your your your
mind and your body. So it's so different than what
we're all used to.
Speaker 2 (22:48):
Yes, and and it's really neat because you can start
to you know, see your symptoms as messengers, not as malfunctions.
So if I'm going down the stairs and my knee hurts,
it's not a chronic issue for me. Although we can
get into chronics, I'd be happy to. I would love
to go into that. It's just a temporary issue. I
can say, oh my gosh, Okay, So where was I
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feeling like I was struggling to keep up? Where was
I worried about my performance? And then, knowing that the
pain often happens during the healing, I usually can find like,
oh gosh, I had this happen and that resolved it,
and now I'm feeling better. So my pain and the
pain showed up at the resolution. And what happens with
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chronics is that those triggers that we were talking about earlier,
you know, we were talking about the blooming flower or
the gluten they put us back into that conflict active
phase if we have not resolved the original conflict. So
then you go into healing, you have the symptoms, then
you if you haven't fully again, if you haven't fully resolved,
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you kind of loop back to the beginning of the
conflict and put yourself back into the conflict active phase
where you have less symptoms. You don't, you're not really
as bothered by it. It's when you resolve something, and
most people are looking when they have those sentences, they
most most people are looking for what did I do wrong?
What did I eat? What is the problem? Look for
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what is the resolution? What did I just let go of? Evolution?
Speaker 1 (24:24):
I like that a lot. So sometimes, like give myself
as an example, sometimes I get really tired, like just tired,
and I just like need to lay down. And I'm like, well,
is my iron low or did I just like overdo
it or did I go out too much? But maybe
my body's telling me something different is exactly and for
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some reason, I just like conk out, like just all
of a sudden conk out. What is about telling me
right exactly?
Speaker 2 (24:57):
And so we can have big conflicts, we can have
little conflicts. So you can have a really really small
conflict that gets resolved and it's just like that I
just needed a day to rest. I do also believe that,
like you can put yourself, keep yourself in a kind
of a too busy state and your body will just
need some time to rest. If you didn't sleep well,
your body didn't actually get all of the recharge that
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it's supposed to have done. But the intensity of the
conflict that you go through will determine the intensity of
the resolution. So big conflict resolution is going to have
big pain. And so I kind of help women understand
that too, because there's some conflicts that maybe we can't
get out of. You know. I have a lot of
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women who their ex really loves to bring chaoster lives,
loves to just kind of toy with their minds every
time they see him, and they have to see them
because they have kids and they do you know, the
kid exchange stuff, and so that conflict. We will obviously
change perspective as much as we can there. But what
we can also do is calm the nervous system. You know,
you're going to see him, Like, let's let's put a
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special self self love, you know, routine before or after
you see him to calm yourself down so that your
nervous system doesn't go into that extreme level. It can
be calmer in your healing will be calmer as well.
Speaker 1 (26:16):
It makes a lot of sense. Okay, so so much.
There's always so much to talk with you. It's just
never ending. There's so many questions if someone feels stuck, sick,
disconnected after talks relationship, where do they begin?
Speaker 2 (26:33):
Yeah, I would say, come come see me, because we will.
I also use a bio resonance feedback device and so
we'll run that. We'll see like what is your body
trying to tell you? Because kind of the biggest problem
back at what are we running? What is that that
you just said. I'm a multimodal kind of person. So
(26:54):
everything we think of everything I or well way I
think of everything, everything is as in a sense, like energy.
There's a frequency in your body when you're stressed, you know,
like there's nothing to well, let me just say this
differently that perspective. Say, you know the example that I said,
when you're giving a presentation and you're feeling stressed, your
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shoulders are tight, your stomach is queasy. That's all just
energy from your mind. But it's creating a physiological change
right now. A lot of the women I work with
not only have been through a toxic relationship, but there
was patterning way before they met that person, and so
their nervous systems are kind of stuck in this trauma loop.
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And I worked with one woman who had done literally
everything I had ever thought of both natural and not natural.
She had even had electroshock therapy, she was had psychmed
she'd been hospitalized, she'd had hypnosis, she'd had yoga and meditation,
you know, all of these. She had tried it all.
(28:01):
And when she came to me, I was like, Okay, well,
let's do this bio resonance feedback there. But it can
be done at a distance. And what it just does
is measure the person's frequency of all their organs, all
their tissues, all the way down to the amino acids,
and then it offers the proper frequencies to that body.
So what we get there that I haven't found any
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other way to get is this huge nervous system reset,
where in her case, she called me three days later
and was like, I don't have rage. I mean she
called me crying. Actually, I don't have rage. I don't
feel overwhelmed. I don't feel angry. She started being on
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time for things, which a lot of people don't know.
That's a nervous system function. Like if you are always
late and you don't even realize like how you got
that way. Sometimes there's nervous systems forgetfulness. The same way
if you really have a terrible the memory. That's a
sign of trauma. So she got that reset. We continued
to work on the on the experiences and on her
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habits and things like that, and she just had started
in her life. She's like, I feel like my life
began when I started working with you.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
Wow. Yeah, that's so meaningful for you. I mean, because
this is the work that you do. And for someone
to say something like that, that's huge.
Speaker 2 (29:25):
It's it's huge. And to think that, you know, I
come across women who've been in therapy for ten years
and they're like, I'm just feeling broken, Like this is
not I don't feel that much better. And to be
able to say, well, listen, we can, we can make
some changes. And my program's an eight week program, so
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like we continue to support later, but like that's to
see the actual changes and to give them the tools
that they can use to go back to and go
back to go back to after they've worked with me.
Speaker 1 (30:00):
And tell us, I want to ask you what it
does mean to rewrite your story not just emotionally but
physical and also your eight week program.
Speaker 2 (30:10):
Yeah, well, you know, I like to tell women that
your partner held your healing codes, and what it does
for people is it helps them look at what happened
to them in a different way, a way that takes
them out of the victim place, the victim spot, takes
away the shame because a lot of women do have
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shame about not seeing the red flags or not making
different choices, or you know that their kids have to
live with the choices that they made. We add a
purpose to that, so we'll pull in sometimes people who
who want us, who are showing to us what we
need to live or need to change on a very
(30:54):
exaggerated level. So when we can start to look at
what healing codes are here, you know, if that person
isn't paying the child support he's supposed to be paying,
and you're really struggling, maybe your healing code is to
realize how great you could be at business, or that
you're holding back waiting on him financially instead of going
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for the promotion or looking for a better job or
starting that side hustle that could be really really great.
That's a healing code right there. So let's dive into
what you need to learn to do that and what
you need to work through for that. That's just one
of the examples of just these reframes, taking the experience
(31:41):
and focusing on the woman who's in front of me,
while so many other practitioners or women are telling me
their other practitioners are focusing on the X and like's
going on there.
Speaker 1 (31:54):
Yeah, we don't need to focus on that, Okay. So
what is what does it mean to rewrite your story?
Speaker 2 (32:04):
Rewriting your stories, rewriting your life? It's really an opportunity
to go and to As much as it's hard to
grieve the relationship you thought you were getting into at
the beginning and everything that happened, the betrayal, the hurt,
the anger, it's an opportunity to also just grow into yourself.
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I mean, in my case, I started Latin dancing. I
would never have done that. I would never have done
that if I was still married, not because he was
telling me don't do that, but because it was in
my mind a choice between staying home and connecting with
him or leaving him and like going to do this
(32:49):
other thing. And I started to realize I just love it,
like it lights me up. If I am in a
down mood, I know I have to out back to
the last time I went dancing it's usually been too long.
So I can go dancing and recharge myself, refresh myself.
And I never would have been able to do that.
(33:10):
I never would have been able to I probably wouldn't
have had the guts to go and become a natural
path if I was still married and here I am.
Speaker 1 (33:19):
And we didn't our story as many times as we want.
You always seem so light and brightness around you when
I when I talk, when I see you, when I
talk to you, every time, there's always a lightness to you.
Speaker 2 (33:35):
Well, thank you. Actually, that's one of the women said
that about my program. She's like, it's not heavy. You know.
I developed this program. It's called the Vibrant Way. I
developed this program after years and years and years of
looking into almost every self development modality out there. I
don't do it anymore.
Speaker 1 (33:54):
But like.
Speaker 2 (33:56):
You know, I did so many things, and I wasn't
going to stick with anything that took hours and hours
and hours. I had two kids, I had a business, Like,
I don't have time to spend three hours on the
floor crying right right, And I was going to do
anything that's going to leave me an emotional wreck for
(34:16):
the rest of the day. That's kind of what was
happening to me when I would go to therapy. I'd
be there for an hour and then it'd be a
long time. Now we do have highs and lows, but
like it made me a little hesitant to want to
go to therapy because I knew i'd be like a mess.
I didn't really feel freedom like I do with the
methods that I use now. And then I wasn't going
(34:38):
to do anything that required me to like take a
pill every day, keep buying a product. I have favorite products.
Of course, nothing against that, but if you have to
keep taking the CBD pill, then it's not healing, you know,
like you've maxed out your healing potential with that, just
that one for example. But so I created a method
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that is light and and that is like in our
session we end up laughing like that's our marker, or
like we got the job done because we're laughing about
you know, this thing or that thing. I worked with
a woman named Rebecca, and she shares this on my
YouTube channel, and she's like she had the misfortune of
somebody said called her an old hag when she shared
(35:20):
that she was getting divorced. It's like such a rude, terrible,
insensitive thing to say. But people do say terrible things too,
Like people don't even understand like how much you, especially
after a divorced, how much you lose your social circle,
people start treating you differently. So in Rebecca's case, she
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was still like really, She's like, it was like an
arrow that I couldn't pull out, and so we started
diving into it and like sifting through. We just kind
of confronted it and sat with it and like, you know,
explored it a little bit more. And then suddenly she's like,
oh my gosh, this isn't an old hag, this is
a vixen.
Speaker 1 (36:00):
Oh my gosh, okay, and then everything changed, right, and
everything changed.
Speaker 2 (36:07):
Took her maybe thirty minutes to do that, you know,
like it was just so powerful for her, and she's like,
ever since then, when people say things like that to me,
it doesn't land the same. It's just different.
Speaker 1 (36:20):
It's amazing how your mind can change things. More advisa.
We could go on for days and and again and again.
Of course the Natural Path, her eight week program is
called The Vibrant Way. We'll have it all up on
social we talk so much about diving into the how
emotional trauma can manifest in your body and what it
truly takes to heal, and so much more. Thank you
(36:41):
so much for this, and we'll absolutely have you back
again and again and again. Thank you and everyone everyone
to meet you and to talk to you and spend
time with you.
Speaker 2 (36:51):
Absolutely, I love I would love to and be watching
for webinars. I have one that's called the Inside Scoop
and it's free for people to join and get an
idea of changing that mindset around things. So we go
through the three most common mistakes that women make after
they've left a toxic relationship.
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