Media Mentors: Have You Ever Had To Dim Your Light?

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When it's time to really dive in. This is what I need right here,
not dim yet, like I've seenit happen, since it's with me
first, I've seen it happen toa lot of people them in there,
like going around certain people and havingto like demn it. I don't.
I don't want to do it whenI when when I do some ship,

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I don't want to dim my life. I want to go all the way
in. I don't want to getaround people and feel like I gotta walk
on eggshops. Shi, It's gonnabe crazy to them because I I made
this topic because I'm like, yo, I'm really thinking about some ship,
Like a lot of people want youto be comfortable around up, like you

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really want me to be You reallywant me to dim my life to make
you feel comfortable. So this isthe this is this is the topic I
wanted to do. Right I'm aboutto pick this room up and share it
up to more people in the hallway. But I really want to understand why,
right, Like why would you wantme to them my potential for you
just to make you feel better?So I can't wait till you know,

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more friends pull up, more peopleband their mismanifest my self love. I
appreciate y'all. Know y'all first inhere, so I don't know. Man,
let's warm it up and let's talkabout it. How y'all feeling so
far? Because I'm about to,you know, get some more people in
here, but I really need y'allto help me warm it up. How
y'all feeling about dem in your life? Why do you feel like people go

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on to DEMI your like miss manifest? I'm pinging it up. Yeah,
I think it's fire this topic.Have you ever had to DEMI a light?
I think it's so good that youbrought yourself because there's a lot of
people not becoming successful because they arewalking on eggshells. I like that have
the little eggs and a little cheesein the chat because a lot of times
when we don't even realize that we'redeming our light. That's why we're not

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getting income in our bank account,that's why we're not excelling in our business.
And I used to be that person. So you know, I'm excited
about this room. I think it'sreally going to help somebody overstand that.
Why no one says, give ussome details, break it down for us
good, break it down and babyterms. Right. For instance, if
you I was just talking about this, if you are working a nine to
two five, right, or akayour dream funder I like to call it,

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I coin that dream funder. Okay, that funds your dreams. That's
what your job is. And you'retelling people around you, like your co
workers, your dreams and expectations thatyou have for yourself and your dream life,
and they look at you a littlesideways, or maybe they're quiet.
Then that means that maybe they don'tunderstand your dreams or they have never done
it to even understand it, sothey may not be supportive. So then

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subconsciously you might not even be excitedto tell the person your dreams anymore because
they're not excited or they're not givingthat energy back to you. Right,
So I had that hold on that'simportant, that that energy not not giving
that reciprocation. Right, you wantto break that down with me, Let's
let's talk about reciprocation, because intime, I've not had reciprocations since I

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said, you know what, screwyou, I don't want you don't want
to what you don't want to showme the same love that I showed you
so screw you. So that's howI feel about that. Sis, can
you break that down for me?And then you know, I'll make a
couple of announcements about what's going on. Yeah, that's important. Like,
so when people are telling you likewith their energy, right, because it's
a silent it's a silent language,if you know what I mean. So

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typically people won't realize that they're silent. Not I won't want to say it's
one hundred percent hating, because sometimesthey just really just not used to hearing
bigger dreams because maybe they just haven'tthought about it. But if they don't
want to support you, it isokay to disconnect from them, And it's
okay if you know you be humbleabout it. You know, I literally

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had to disconnect from my own bloodblood. You know, it's crazy.
It could be family, it couldbe friends, it could be people that
you grew up with all your andthey will be the most people that you
got to watch out for is thepeople that known you your whole life.
I agree. My own blood camein one of my actual groups. And
I haven't told this story in along time, but short story, my

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blood came in and because she didn'thave the same success as me and we're
supposed to be blood. She wasupset about that and started writing hate messages
in the group. So when Iwas sleepy, I get all these messages
from my clients that are that's messedup. God don't like ugly. God
damn it, that's crazy, right, But you know, mean like all

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of that, Like it really don'tbother me because I know something biggert for
me, Like I already know howeverything works. So her doing that at
the time, I was like,okay, cool. Like I woke up.
My clients had hit me up andit was like there's somebody in the
group going crazy, and I waslike, wow, it's because I'm adopted.
So a lot of people don't respectthat. So I had to kind
of dim my life when I wasyounger because I was the first born,

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so I was taken by my grandmother. They wasn't they They had to live
in a home with like maybe eightor nine people in the home and sharing
two bedrooms, so that's a loton them mentally. So it was okay,
you know that, you know shedid that? Why, because I
know that karma always is gonna work. You have to learn life lessons.
So when somebody's theming trying to themyour life or or sending that type of

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energy, you I don't, Idon't, you know, go back and
go off. I'll just say youknow what, I'm sorry you felt that
way and disconnect. I think silenceis silence is the best way to actually
connect that person to learn their lessonbecause they want a reaction. I don't
give reactions. And that's the thingwith me, and a lot of people
don't like that. And I thinka lot of people need to adopt that
because when you don't attract that energyand make them even more mad again,

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hold On says, bring that back, hold On, It makes them more
mad when what happens when you don'tfeed into the energy. If y'all agree,
put it one in the check.Put someones in the chad ya if
you feel that, like you know, like, if you feel like that,
silence is gonna make them upset beingthose haters, them being the people
that's not supporting you. And whenanother thing just to just to throw it

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in the up in the air,sometimes the support isn't Nine times out of
ten, it's not gonna come fromyour friends and family, it's gonna come
from people on the outside. Iknow black people hear that, but when
I first it's difference from hearing itfrom other people. And actually start to
see that when you do have aproduct or service and you're getting your actual
sales from people outside of the peoplethat are, you know, doing the

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thing, that makes sense. Soon the outside, the social media people
that's purchasing a products and services,don't be surprised that they're not your friends
and family. I had my firstsales from people that was not my friends
and family, so be excited aboutthat. Don't worry. So my set
said it right. There is alwaysgoing to be the outside people that support
you first. So you'll wonder why. You'll be like, damn, those

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people supported me more than the peopleI knew that I grew up with.
And you'll see this shit all thetime. You'll see it. You be
like, damn, why did youknow? Why did that happen to me?
Or why didn't so and so you'renot even supposed to worry about that
shit, right because at the endof the day, it's like this.
When I started getting out here,getting on clubhouse, meeting different people,

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that was the most supportive. Itwasn't. It's never going to be the
people that you you grow up within your hometown, that known you in
your back yard, that known youall your life, that's going to support
you. It's always going to bethe people on the outside world. I
swear it always is, because thepeople that known you for your whole life,
maybe they don't see their self atthat level. Let's get into that.

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Maybe they don't see theirself at thishuge level, so they want to
kind of dim your life. AndI've seen this happen to some of my
friends, some of my people.They'll get around certain people and start just
not popping they shit. You feelme banded, they like and like with
the like why you go ahead,bro, which how you feeling? Man?
I get rid of the people theyain't popping their shit, man,

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pop that ship. Man. It'sall true, And you got to cultivate
that network around you that's moving inthe same direction. And it gets to
a certain point where I found itwith even certain family and certain people,
it's like you just gotta like justaccepted things or where they're at, and
you almost got to like not evenshare the blessings, not even kind of
let people know what you got goingon, because that that, you know,
that dark energy and affect your trajectory. So I don't even like be

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telling people nothing now. It's like, you know, if people really care,
they can kind of peap my moves, they can see what we up
to. But you gotta be carefulwith that too, because a lot of
people want that. You know,it's natural. It's natural to want,
you know, affirmation from family forfriends, especially like parents or siblings,
But that can sometimes be the mosttoxic, you know, affirmation that you

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keep chasing, you keep seeking,like why don't they just accept me?
Why don't they happier for what I'mdoing? But you got to understand,
like when you're success a lot ofpeople, for a lot of people's success
is a mirror to themselves and whatthey're not doing. They say that again,
you just said it, say itagain, bro, Well, a
lot of times what happens is thata lot of people who didn't fight and

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work hard to achieve the things thatthey were fully capable of doing. If
you're doing that, you're gonna bea mirror to them, and they're gonna
just hate you and resent you justfor doing that. And they can never
They're never gonna come out and sayit so because obviously there's too much pride
in that. So what happens isthey'll just be they'll just passive aggressively dig
on you. And you got tobe careful enough to get stuck in that

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cycle of being like why are theynot giving me that affirmation? Why are
they not being like, Yo,you're doing great? Man? Are you
doing great? Stack? You knowwhat I'm saying. You guys are doing
great, like well, because theydon't want to say that shit because it's
like a reflection of the things theyaren't seeking in their own life. So
it's really not about you. It'snot like they're mad for your success,
because people who have success aren't hatingon other people's success. Like when I

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first met that, I was like, man, this fool's got to going
on. I want to get withhim. And you did? You did?
You did? Yeah, Like I'vegot a hater, bro, Because
it's like, if you're doing yourown thing, if someone's got some shit
popping, you should be like yourreaction should be like okay, okay,
yeah, yeah, yeah, what'sup with that lane? Like what's this
whole thing with? Like you weredoing the whole clubhouse thing earlier than I
even got onto it. You werelike, yeah, we're doing these rooms

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and I'm popping these rooms off.You should get on board with this,
And I was like, yeah,I've only been in a couple of rooms,
and your rooms that were popping,like you know, it's like that's
how you get more on is bysupporting what other people's lanes are and being
like, yo, let me helpyour lamee pop harder. But when people
are not even in that zone wherethey can't even do anything, those are
the most dangerous types because you're notgonna be able to like you're not really

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gonna be able to help them,and they're not gonna be able to help
themselves, and so what's gonna happenis you're just going to end up kind
of getting yourself burned. So thebiggest lesson I've learned, you know,
to circle back and land is justbe careful with who you're even trying to
kind of like bring into that worldand get support. The people that are
really gonna support you and really gonnafeel what you got going on, they
gonna let you know, they gonnareach out to you, they're gonna be

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gravitated. They'll be in your DMS, they'll be liking your stuff, they'll
be commenting. Like I had abunch of people who where I live.
They came out to my last show. You don't got to chase people to
support you. Oh yeah, thatshow looks crazy, Ben, tell us
about that. Man you was atthat? Who's doing those damn man?
Yeah? It was an DM.Bro. I was headlighted a big club
called Station sixteen forty in Hollywood.I'll be out there again in a few

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months, and I'm just doing mything back on the net. I used
to spend a lot, but Ifocus more, as you know, on
doing the production the media. Butit felt good to get out there again
and do my house stuff. Andyou know, when I was doing the
show, there was a couple ofpeople I sent it to and I didn't
it was like like family and stuff. They didn't say nothing about it.
But then a lot of people thatI didn't even think were supportive of it,
they ended up coming out and theylike came up to me while I
was spitting there like Bro, you'rekilling and I was like WHOA, Like,

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so what it just shows you islike let that good energy come to
you, you know, and letpeople who really want to be in your
corner show you that they want tobe in your corner, and it's all
gonna happen organically naturally. Try notto force that because I used to do
that a lot, especially like withmy family, you know, wanting that
family affirmation. It's like, yo, whyn't you guys back? You know,
it's just not worth it, Likeit'll happen if it's opposed to it.
If it not, be at peacewith that. Just be a peace

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with what is truly for you andwhat you're calling is, you know,
appreciate the space, my guy,always listen, be true to who's going,
it's going, fall writing your lap, don't stress it. Put them
one in the chat. Man.If you guys are just joining, you're
talking about had you ever had thatthen your life open discussion. Oh my
god. And I made this becauseyou know, I seen I've seen people

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do this before or walk on eggshelveswith people, and I feel like,
man, I'm not dimming my lightto make nobody feel uncomfortable. Feel you
if you if you don't like thelight, then stay up from round it.
That's how I feel if you don'tlike the light, stay or from
round it, because the I'm gonnakeep shining and it's the attitude you got
to have on the journey. Puta one in the chat real quick.

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Let me see some shit. Letme see where we be at with it,
right, put a one in thechat. Keep shining. Don't tell
I'm telling you soon as somebody tryto dim me your light, Man,
that's a red flag for me.Otis are you hearing? My brother?
I attached the link at the topman. We was getting to the back
in real estate last week. Man, how you feel about demming your lighting
and all that good stuff? Brother? Because I know you've been around for
you know a while, so talkto me. Yeah, I dim it,

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and I make the choice to demmit. No one else could ever dim
it. But I make the choiceto dimmit at certain times because there's a
certain outcome that I want to achieve. And you know you have to.
If you have let's say you havea light, whatever that represents, right,
you know how to manage it,okay, because you know it could
be mistaken for somebody just wanting someattention. Now, I got a team

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and there are certain people that areon my team that operate in different fields,
and when it's their moment, Idim my light so they can shine.
Because we're trying to collectively achieve anoutcome, and I need everybody on
my team to be outstanding and notjust me. So I'm very cognizant about
one reading the room and understanding whenit's my turn and when it's not.

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But that is something that you learnover time. Right now, I don't
it's not even healthy to always beshining everywhere you go because that can be
misinterpreted culturally, and when you startgoing into some of these rooms that it's
not easy to get into, youdon't want to shine. I've been in

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meetings with I've been in meetings withsome you know mostly you know, some
municipalities and you're dealing in development,you know, city council or all these
people that are in on this project. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can
do is be quiet. Sometimes themost powerful thing you can do is be
quiet and observe. And I alwaystalk last, right, because talking too

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much is a sign that you don'tbelieve you're supposed to be there. So
you know, you really have tomanage that process. Any person in leadership
dims their light on the regular,so other people can shine right, And
I think that the distinction needs tobe made me choosing to dim my light
or somebody else dimming it for me, which is not possible. But the

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outcome can dim my light. Ican walk into an environment and just be
shining and walk out of there.You know, Oh, they couldn't touch
me in there. I was.I was the sharpest, I was the
shiniest object in there. But didI achieve the outcome that I wanted to
achieve? No? I didn't.Because people in positions of power, you
can rub people the wrong way ifyou don't know how to manage that.

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So you know, you have toknow when to turn your light up and
you got to know when to demit, and you've got to be really strategic
in how you do that. Soyou should always put the outcome that you're
trying to achieve first. And ifshining bright is conducive to you achieving that
outcome, then go ahead. Butif shining bright is not conducive to you

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achieving that outcome, then choose todim it down. Sometimes you have to
be smarter and how you choose tokind of work a room. So I'll
leave it there. God damn it. Listen. If you guys are just
joining, have you ever had thedem open discussion. It's open everybody going.

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If you on a stage right nowand you're trying to go in,
put put a five E mojiva check. I want to hear from my assistant's
manifest too. I know she missedthe woman's affirmation room yesterday and it was
crazy. The women's affirmation room wasnuts. All the ladies yesterday y'all went
in. So put a heart inMoji in the chat for the ladies for
yesterday. If y'all seen that room, then y'all know how impactful that was

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and how much fire they put intothe whole entire You know what I'm saying.
It was so many. We appreciatethe transparency. We love that.
Right. Look, mismanifest, howare you feeling about this conversation? How
it is going so far? Ithink it's amazing. Shout out to everybody
that was in the affirmations room yesterday. All the women killed it. I

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literally had planned in events. Imis self loved my business Basty to the
right of me. She literally saidmy affirmation for the ladies. So if
you was there yesterday. It waslike I was the in spirit because it
was important. I was on aflight, so you know, I'm always
gonna make my way to be ableto still motivate the next person. So
I was able to give her myfavorite affirmations and she was able to say
it. I know, she toldme, so I was excited about that.

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It's all about that too. That'swhy a lot of times, even
with them in your light, right, if somebody's dimming your light, you
can start to attract what the affirmationsaying, I'm so happy and grateful that
everybody that meets me allows me tobe my highest authentic self and helps me
to achieve all my dreams. EffLesly, you can say what it is
that you're manifesting. You can startattracting those types of people in your tribe.
Because a lot of times when Iwas getting my light dimmed right because

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I was dimming it, for sure, it was because I was attracting myself
with people that wasn't on the rightvibration. Vibration meaning if we rich radio
stations, whatever, it's your favoriteradio station in your actual city, right,
if you're on that one station,you're going to be around those type
of people that's listening to that onestation, right, and the same thing
goes with energy. If you're onthe vibration with people that's level five,
the highest vibration, you're not gonnahave to worry about people dimming your light

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or make you feel uncomfortable. Yougotta figure out what light they're on,
right, If their light is superdimmed,'re ready and they're on number
one. You have to stay awayfrom that period because when i'm I'm only
gonna light everybody else's candle, You'renever gonna see me dem be a light
period. That's why I create leadersbecause it's important, right y'all. This
is why stat comes in these roomsand literally helps everybody become a leader and
learn information how you can be ableto show out your light here. So

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please share this room because it's apowerful room. I get serious about this
because there's not a lot of roomslike that on Clubhouse. So it's important
that you, guys, you don'tset this in your schedule so you could
consistently live in the highest authentic self, meaning your highest vibration, your highest
self. You're the best version ofyourself, the self that you ain't even
meet yet, but you start seeingit today, if you start allowing yourself
to connect with the right vibrations,that's how it feels sacked. Connecting with

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the right vibrations. I love that. Man, let's hear from some more
individuals. I love that connecting withthe vibration, miself. Love how you
feeling about that? Right, connectingwith the vibration, being with the right
people, saying the right things atthe right time. And thank you for
you know, being in the women'saffirmation room yesterday because you helped us,
you know, lead it in thereand flow it and make sure it was
a good flow. So my selflove over to you if you want to

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chime into anything about your time ofcourse, oh my goodness, thank you
Stack with the pack the legend ofClubhouse for you know, bringing Clubhouse back
with media mentors, these positive rooms. I love everything positivity. And yes,
shout us to miss manifest So thatlink above is amazing when you have
everybody a business strategy in a manifestationhour. We've had all about five hundred

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students in there on Clubhouse, soit's been an amazing journey. But yes,
shining your light. Everybody doesn't havethe same kind of light. And
that's what I just think that peopleneed to respect their own strengths and their
own light because the comparison, youwere put here to shine your own light
in a different way. Everybody isdifferent, nobody is the same. So

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when you understand your own strengths,you don't have to compare yourself. You
don't have to worry about jealousy.You can shine your own light and have
other people shine theirs. What isyour light? That's what self love is.
Who are you? What can youbring to the room? Well,
what can you bring to the table, or what can you bring to the
world. That's what shining your lightis. You'll never ever feel and I

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set us in the other room.You'll never ever feel powerful if you're always
comparing yourself to other people's light,and if other people like makes you uncomfortable,
you will always feel inferior and doubtfulof your own self. What are
your strengths? That's a huge partof self love, the strength part.
If you guys, put a onein the chat, the strength. I

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don't have the same strengths as mismanifest. You don't have the same strengths as
me. We have different, differentstrengths what are yours? So you don't
have to be comparing yourself like,oh, I want to be like that
person, like who are you?You know? So very important to have
other people bring that out so youcan be your own leader. This is
why I became an entrepreneur, soI can shine my own light in a

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certain way and be my own leaderand help other peoples be there. So
that's what I have to say aboutthis. Don't compare yourself. Remember who
you are, love yourself and yourstrengths. You got this, thank you
stack of manafact. She I'm doingone quick researt now we're gonna keep going

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in. I appreciate y'all everybody that'ssupporting the media mentors making men. She
cut the link at the top.If you're not part of the media mentors,
I'm doing one reset that I'm goingback in, share the room out,
picking the room out. She'd beover fifteen. Y'all know what it
is, k b it be backsoon. You hurt you going up?
You hurt ye not save you.Remember running through the city in the same

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shoes. Now I'm gunning in thebends and the arrange too. My mom
pointing out a nigga never take tooSo they said, I didn't reach man,
So I turned to a stop.Now I might have fucked around.
I'd have raised up the park.Now I'm talking cash Star cash all on
my pump, my nigga cash,said Roger. What they do killing one
wanted me fulling all over the groundwhen the cameras come out, want to

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hold my head? Must to beingout of your own mind? You no
more then you killing my right?Well, yeah, they take my caraindness
for a weakness still coming downst stillcoming, still coming out. Take my

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cinness for a weakness still coming,nostrum still coming about tax one? Nowadays,
if they don't have a story,they're gonna make one. Last night,
I gave my life to Mace bookout the end. First of all,

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man, you feel me because themin your life. It's real.
It's really important to me today.Like, don't you know it's gonna be
different opinions about this ship all day? Y'all know what it's gonna go down.
Put something in the chat if you'reall ready, because I want to
hear from some of your people aboutthis. If you're ready to, you
know, take the mic, goin right now, about you know,

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DEMI, your life or any sue. Please snatch this, please, Jimmy,
yeah, let me let me,let me add something because I think
the definition of light can can easilybe misinterpreted, right, And I personally
believe that your actions should be yourlight. And I was talking about the
outcome before the outcomes that you've achievedshould be your light. If you're if

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you're conducting yourself in a certain way, thinking that you're shining by the way
you may be behaving at the time, I don't think that's I don't think
that carries a lot of weight.That is you trying to influence somebody's perception
based on how you're carrying yourself atthe moment. You also need to consider
the environment that you're in. Sometimesshining your light can be not having a

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particular reaction in something. I'm inthe real estate space, and so I
can I can speak from that.And I've been in some rooms with some
people that were way more powerful thanme in the real estate game, like
way more powerful that can you know, they could write a check for everything
I see. I open my eyesand walk outside everything I see they could

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write a check for right, Sohow am I shining in that environment.
I'm not going to if I wastrying to do it with my behavior,
I look silly. These people know, these people know what it is.
So in some cases, me notreacting or me not seeking their approval is
shining. Me not taking advantage ofopportunities that they present, requesting me to

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be a part of their program thatI feel is beneath me shows that I
can't be bought, I can't beinfluenced by money. Sometimes that's shining.
Now let's take it to the entertainmentspace. Now, stack you do media
and you're involved with entertainment, that'sgoing to be different in that space,
right, because it's a different dynamicwhen you're dealing in imitation meat not imitation,

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when you're dealing in what do youcall it? Media and entertainment is
what I meant to say, it'sgoing to be different. People can up
themselves differently. So your brand andthe environment that you're in should influence the
way you choose to shine also,right, But if you don't know what
to do, if you don't knowwhat to do, if you go in
an environment you want to shine butyou don't know what to do, do

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nothing and just observe and find theperson who is shining the most, gravitate
towards them and ask them how theygot in that position, because I'm telling
you, the outcome that you achievedfrom that is far greater than if you
do walk in that room just tryingto out shine everybody, because now you
have the right people looking at you, and you can shine all day.

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If people ain't looking at you,or they're looking at you through a particular
set of lenses, how you comeacross to them may not be exactly how
you want. Right, So whenwe get into networking and all these other
things, like if you don't knowwhat to do, just kind of sit
back and observe. People will respectyou for that. Right. If I'm
trying to see who I'm going todo business with, it's not going to
be the loudest person in the roomdoing all the talking. First thing I'm

(25:57):
gonna think is they want too muchattention. I can't have that, right,
I can't have that. That's dangerousto my business. They're drawing too
much attention to themselves. Right,I'm gonna look at the person that's paying
attention and actively listening to people andjust kind of staying in the background and
observing and kind of taking it allin. That's the person I want to

(26:18):
do business with because professionally, Ican trust that that person can conduct themselves
in a meeting or in an environmentwhere they may not be taking the lead,
so they just food for thought.Man. There, Oh this going
in? Man? Put a onein the chat. Put a fire emoji
in the chat. If you guysare enjoying this conversation so far, have

(26:40):
you ever had to dim your life? Open discussion? Right, let's keep
going in, man. I wantto hear from some more people. JT.
Are you in the building? Bro? Are you in this place to
talk? I see you with JT'sthat. I haven't heard them in the
room in a while, calling JTone two JT Yeah. Man, somebody
at JT o man? Let himknow? Stackpack looking for him or shait

(27:03):
where he at? Man? Thatbrother? How you feeling man? How
you feel about this topic? Man? Oh? Man? Can you it's
kind it's kind of chippy. It'skind of chippy. Bro. I couldn't
hear JT tell him that his servicesare on sidekick cricket mobile. Something hit

(27:25):
him up at Trish. Go ahead, let's get it in. Hey man,
hey, so listen. I thisis like a really important topic to
me. I have to say myfavorite saying is be the light in somebody's
darkness. Mmm. I love that. So why'd you say that? Trisha
explained that you can't think you slick? That is my favorite favorite saying.

(27:48):
Anytime anybody asked me what my favoritesaying is, I always say be the
light in somebody's darkness, because Ialways say, pull people through when they're
in their darkness. You gotta betheir light. You got to shine for
them. And I believe, youknow, some people think that when you're
shining bright, when you're shining sobright, it's about being conceited, it's

(28:08):
about rubbing yourself in somebody's face.And I don't believe that at all.
I believe that when you shine bright, it's to encourage other people to shine
even brighter. It's about showing peoplethat it's possible. So you think it's
motivation, that's what you're saying,Oh yeah, totally, one hundred percent.
I think when you shine bright,it draws people to you, It

(28:32):
brings them to you, and itencourages them to shine even brighter. It
encourages them to like push the limitsand to brightly shine themselves upon other people.
So I just think that it's impossibleto encourage people to get even brighter,
to shine, to do one hundredpercent or even one hundred and twenty

(28:56):
percent. So I think when youshine, you just encourage people and allow
them to believe that they can dowhatever is possible. That's my thing.
I love that Trish Man get upin the chat for Trish, how do
you feel about the mismanifest going toback the JT. Let's see if his
sidekick works. We'll see if hisphone works. Let's go, come on,

(29:22):
j G. You next to meover here? Yeah, yeah,
No. I want to make surethat like Tricia, he is it too,
because this is important because when Ihear Trisha speaking a lot of times,
when Tricia speaks, I get somotivated because when I'm in room sometimes
I don't get a chance to heather speak. Right, So right now
I'm excited because I'm hearing Trisha shinein her light. Please make sure that

(29:42):
you guys are lowering, you know, that vibration of staying around negative people,
you know, very important, lowerthat vibration because what happens is that
like I literally watch people in differentrooms and I see a lot in them,
right, And sometimes he's not speaking. And in this room, you
know what I like about stacked room? Ya? And you know I'm standing
up to height like you know what, like stand up wants to get you

(30:04):
to stand up what I've stated against. You know, I just got back
to New York. I'm on ahundred, so like, I love the
fact that he gives the mic topeople to be able to shine their light.
There's rooms out here on Clubhouse.I've been on the only little bit
less than two years. But Iwatch people keep people on the bottom at
that part. Why hold on sinsput chater, y'all see that ship.

(30:30):
People keep people in the bottom.And subconsciously, you gotta pay attention to
these things in the rooms, right. I make sure that I stay in
rooms where you hear, you feelthe vibration, you feel the energy,
and you stay around people that aregoing to allow you to be in your
highest light. That's important because sometimeswhat happens you get caught up in in
a frequency of being in certain roomsor certain spaces even in life and going

(30:52):
to certain events, they'll keep youat the bottom for a reason. So
you gotta throw some fires in thechat for Stack for allowing people to be
able to get on the mic andshare what it is that they have inside
them. That's big. There's nota lot of people that do that.
I want to keep it a hundred. So I don't know what, maybe
because you know, we don't mentionall the time, but we gotta throw
fires in the chatter for Stack becausewhen he brought this room, the media
mentors room, he allowed people tobe themselves no matter who you are,

(31:17):
and that's cute. I love youall. I don't judge nobody right,
no matter what. So that's whatI wanted to say. That's how I
thought about that. So shout outto Trisha speaking and everybody else. Get
y'all mics out and share. She'sas well. Look, Massa is coming
in with that heat, right,and another person I want to check on
to keep this fire burning because youknow she helped me with that that woman's

(31:37):
affirmation room. Right, y'all knowwhat it is. I got lindsay ahare
with me, right, She's someonethat always supports goes in with me.
Right now, I know what itis, So put a fire Emoge in
the chat for that, for mismanifestsand what we But I'm checking on Lindzaia
right now because she helped us gocrazy yesterday inside the room for as long
as she could. So definitely definitelywant to get flowers or to and teaching

(32:01):
people that don't dim your light aswell. Y'all know where I go at
seven fifty in the morning, y'allknow where I'm at. I got to
practice that I do that's calling alot of things into my life, like
this new deal. So the shitthat's calling to my life, everything's going
the way I needed to go becauseI always do this practice a little it's
a little hack, right, Solindsay, if you're here, can you
please keep this fire burning on,you know, dimming your light and loving

(32:24):
on yourself. I'm passing it toyou. Let's go, Oh, let's
go. And yeah, how manyof us, and I've heard it in
here too, how many of ushave been told sold or made to feel
small, like we are told tobe quiet, to take up less space,

(32:45):
to be seen and not heard.And so yeah, allowing the light
that lives within the fire that burnsin her belly to come forth and to
really be what it is that welean into for you know, in honor
of and as an expression of ourselves, is so instrumental. You guys,
if you've ever been told to playsmall, maybe it's a you know,

(33:08):
a remark on your report CO reportcard coming up like mine was always she
talks too much, right, andso, you know, so often they
want to fit us in a box. If that's ever been you, if
there's ever been a box that hasbeen you know, constructed around you,
go put a one in the chat, because I want to see if you

(33:29):
are like me, if you've alsobeen told to take up less space,
to be less like you, ifsomehow you being you has offended someone or
I believe so often and so yeah, I see you, I see you
new light in Amanda Mismanifest and QueenShay and Sarah marrisol Mama Love, keep
blowing it up. Let's go Linjae, listen. All of those ones are

(33:51):
because we're far from alone. Thetruth is is that when you do things
that are big or radical or havea lot of energetic charge, it can
make others feel really insignificant. Itcan create a whole lot of stories around
how you're You know, what Ibelieve is that it brings forward competitiveness and

(34:12):
comparison, and so there are youknow, there are so many people that
we allow that. And I haveyou know, I have fallen victim to
this too. Is that others makeme feel like I'm supposed to be less
of me because they are far fromgiving themselves permission to be all of them.
Yeah, put put one in achair. Yeah, and so you

(34:37):
know who like, once we're grown, it's our permission to give and so
you know, yes, when we'rekids, it's harder to be your bold
and beautiful self. We are moreformable, we're you know, more likely
to be influenced by those around us. And then there comes a point,

(34:58):
and I believe this is when we'redoing the work, that we start to
come online as conscious human beings andwe make choices. Rather than having things
happen to us, we decide thatwe know that they are happening for us,
even when they're challenging. And sowe get to this point in our
life where we get to choose,and we get to choose. Are we

(35:20):
going to continue dimming, are wegoing to continue playing small? Are we
going to continue to allow our fearsto win? Or are we going to
step through the fear. Are wegoing to do the brave thing? Are
we going to follow the dream,the desire that's been placed upon our heart?
Are we going to go all in? Or are we going to give
up? And listen, it's eachone of us. It's our independent choice

(35:45):
to make. We get to makeit over and over and over again.
So there are many many times inwhich we're in a position of choosing.
In fact, we get to choosemore than we think too. And I'm
going to say this because here inour state it's a primary voting day too,
and so without it going full likefull political, because quite frankly,
that's the freedom we get to choose. Right, we get to choose.

(36:07):
And what I really want to callus too is being so proud of living
in a country. If you arehere in the United States, to have
the opportunity to choose, I heara whole lot of people hateing on our
country and dim in the light ofwhere it is that we all live,
where we rest our heads. Andthat gives us the freedom to have a
business, to chase a dream,to get an LLC, to make money,

(36:32):
to live in your own you know, your own way of sexuality,
to be able to do all ofthese things, even when you're a minority,
being able to start a business,have a business, make more money
than you know someone else can make. Like this is a powerful nation.
And when it comes to dimming ourlight, I invite us to really be

(36:54):
proud to be American, to stand, you know, two feet on the
ground. Many of our grandparents foughtfor this freedom, on this soil.
And so when we you know,we so often dim our light personally,
we'll also dim the light of ourcountry. We'll dim the light of our
neighborhood or our home, or ourworkplace or whatever that may be. We'll

(37:17):
look for the negative rather than seeingall the opportunities. So again I invite
us all to think about how dimmingour light is a choice once we're beyond
the scope of eighteen and so Iinvite us all to think, is there
something that you are willing to shinemore brightly in the way of your dream?
And That's what I'm calling us todo today. So thank you for

(37:38):
the space, love the room,love the conversation, and we're gonna you
know, for me, I'm goingto end it with I'm proud to be
freaking American to be a woman thatis also an entrepreneur and had the freedom
to you know, to stand upand vote and do all the other things.
And so yeah, I'm gonna shinemy American like brightly today and invite

(38:04):
you know, others from other countriesto be as proud of their country too,
because it really is about being allof you. So thanks again,
back to you Lindsay coming in hot. I told you we're gonna keep this
fire burning, like when y'all comein, keep the fire burning. Mismanifest
how you feeling about the conversation andhow and how you know, how's it

(38:24):
going? And also when they clickthis link, what happens at the top?
Sis? You know what I mean. I know you missed the room
yesterday, but tell me what happenswhen they cook this at the top.
And also you know about what Lindsayahsaid and then you know the dynamic of
everything. Let's go. I'm excited. Thank you Lindsaya for sharing, you
know, and getting everybody excited aboutbeing yourself. She labeled every single person

(38:47):
that's okay to be themselves and that'simportant. A lot of us don't know,
like even certain things that we haveas you know, I'm gonna tell
you about the link in two secondsjob. But like when as a child,
your childhood traumas or adult traumas canliterally start to attract a demo light
because maybe you haven't healed from that. I don't know you know how to
bring it back around real quick,because a lot of people don't even know

(39:07):
how to heal from that. Sowe have to figure out ways that we
can either a journal right or gointo rooms like spaces like Lenzaya's rooms right
to be able to heal certain things. Learn how to meditate, learn how
to be your highest vibration, andheal yourself so that you can start to
really be authentic self. So Ithink it's important for us to really figure
out why we're getting, why we'reattracting that frequency of people, you know,

(39:29):
trying to them all light. Wehave to be able to not react
to certain things, and like Iwas just saying, and really quieted and
silence it so that you can literallyjust push away that negativity so you're not
attracting more of it. Because whateveryou attract is because you're paying attention to
it, right, So if you'repaying attention to it, then it's gonna
come your way. If you're literallyclosing your eyes and focusing on your future

(39:51):
and your dreams, they're not gonnacome your way. I promise you,
you just gonna see it and gonnafly right over your head. So back
to the link. In case youwanted an instant, instant gratification of life
come in into your life. That'swhat I do in a manifestation. Now.
I allow people to be themselves.That's why I attracted myself with this
room because I love to be myself. I love to be excited because I
wasn't always excited. Right. Alot of people don't know I wasn't always

(40:12):
excited. I was extremely on lowvibration. Right. I was bullied since
kindergarten for my own kindergarten teacher.Right. So a lot of times when
I got older, I didn't knowhow to maneuver and talk to people and
be so excited. Right. Ididn't know I was adopted. So you
know a lot of people used tolike, you don't even have parents,
right, All these little things thatthey used to say when I was a
child that I had to heal becauseI didn't know how to make friends or
you know, be normal and Icame from poverty. So it's like when

(40:36):
I got the chance to really shineand be myself, I took that and
really let it out, you know. So I always allow people to be
themselves because you never know somebody's storyunless you ax right. So that's what
I do in a manifestation. Ifind out your story and I'll help you
put that out to the world.Because a lot of people are not manifesting
clients because they why they're not focusingon a purpose. So when I find
out your purpose right or get youin alignment to find your purpose, I'm

(40:59):
able to help you to put tradethat information and to get it out to
the world through what my favorite topicthat Stack literally poured this into me,
which is social media. So whatI use is my purpose on social media
to allow people to be themselves inthe manifestation hour, I'm helping you really
get yourself out there to be ableto know how to do the correct content
so that you attract your dream life. So a lot of this information like

(41:21):
that I'm gonna be telling you isbecause Stack literally met me about a year
about a year and a half agoand gave me the juice on how important
marketing was. So that's why Itell everybody be yourself, because if it
wasn't for Stack, I'm be onehundred percent honest. Like I probably wouldn't
have took social media so serious becausehe told me, you see the benefits.
Now you see it? I mean, what can I see it with

(41:43):
my eyes closed? I'm serious.I wake up at three in the morning.
I'm grateful to be alive. I'mgrateful for my purpose, and then
I think about what I'm gonna poston social media. It comes second nature
to brushing my teeth. Your sist, was there a time where you were
confused, like, I don't knowwhat am I gonna post? You know,
yeah, like this, so timesyou just stopped. So it's like,
you know, like you just notbecause you wanted to. Maybe you

(42:04):
just didn't know what to post orlife happens, right, I didn't really
know. I just knew that Iwould do the thing called doing it ugly
my self love and I. Wecalled it doing it ugly posting not really
worried about how it looks, andjust dropping it. We did that for
a very long time and there's certainthings. You know, it worked,
we got clients, but it's alwaysa better way to do things again,
you know, you want to tellthe story. So if you like scroll
all the way to the bottom ofmy social media, you always see that

(42:27):
it was never looking like that,but I left it up there to be
able to, you know, relateto somebody that don't know where to start,
and just know that you can progress. Because if everything looks perfect,
how can people relate to you.So that's why doing a manifestation hour,
I hope you get to your nextlevel in your content creation right and be
able to manifest clients right. Soit's literally just click the link you can
find out information about myself. Youknow, like I said, I was

(42:49):
never always just so excited, soyou're gonna be excited to Manifestation hour will
hold your hand through the process oflearning how to put out content to attract
clients and start making money in thebanking house. That's why I consisted them
and go back to the stack,right, because this is what happens when
people start to dim your light.You post money, right, and it
may be taken offensively to certain people, but it's not those those people connect
with that. This is for yourinspired clients, right, the people that

(43:12):
are like Oh my goodness, youcould really make money from social media.
You can't. You got a targetaudience. That's what you said, your
target audience, right, So that'sthe whole another topic that we gotta do
that. That's important because a lotof people are upset, you know,
when you post money sometimes it makespeople feel uncomfortable. And it's okay to
post for your target audience. Mytarget audience runs in my dms and they're
like, well, how did youdo that? They're excited, you know,

(43:34):
And that's how I'm able to helppeople, you know, and I
have my open arms because a lotof people didn't just say, hey,
mis manifest can I teach you howto make one hundred thousand dollars in a
day? You know? They didn't, And I'm like, you know,
that's a big thing for me.So that's why I made a manifestation out
because cause I was younger. WhenI was younger, since I was bullied,
I never had that community. SoI always created my own because I
didn't have it. So I'm excitedabout that. For anybody in here,

(43:55):
you know, that feels like you'redeming your light. You don't got to
do that in this room, Shinelike, be excited and make sure you
book your fifteen minutes the court withstack right, because that's how I was
able to get excited and you know, take myself to the next level.
So make sure if you are readyto book that call. Drop some fighters
in the chat, like don't there, I guess, so yeah, get
up in the chat asap. Man. You know who I want to check

(44:16):
on too, man, Miss manifestturned up right now, put a fight,
get get get up in the damnchat. Y'all know what we're doing
here. I want to check onmy brother j T. He said,
his mobile shirt, his cricket sidefor his I whatever he got over there,
it works now, So j tuthere, bro, let's go.
Let's keep this tracking. Bro,Let's get it. I can hear you

(44:37):
out of the clip. Bro,Let's go perfect. I'm in Cali,
man, so I guess I'm aboutof water in my service, no matter
where. Let's go, Jason,what's going on? Shout out to the
room man, beautiful space media mentorMonday through Friday. You know how it
up? Energy's high right now,let's go. Hey listen, man,

(45:01):
I got to go back to mybrother oldest man because he was speaking nothing
but facts. Man. A lotof times, you know what I'm saying.
He brought up the point of,you know, you know, sometimes
when you shine a light on otherpeople, you know what I'm saying,
that's always a beautiful thing. Man. You know, walk into a room,
read the room, figure out what'sgoing on. A lot of times
people go into a room and theywant to speak, you know what I

(45:21):
mean. Sometimes you know, evenbeing quiet sometimes this is a form of
dem in your life, you knowwhat I'm saying. It's like, just
listen, see what's going on.Man. And I really love the point
of when it comes to spaces,you know, just shedding that light on
other people, man, because alot of times you want to make it
about us, and sometimes it's notabout us. You're at you know what
I mean, It's not our time. It's time to shine the light on

(45:43):
other people. And I love thataspect. Man. I really loved what
Otis was saying, so I kindof want to channel and mirror what he
was mentioning about. So that's allI got to say about that. Man.
I'm JT. Thank y'all for havyman. Hope you have a great
evening. Let's go man, Ishould be going in with JT sometimes soon.
You know, we need another spicytopic here to spice it up a
little bit. Throw a bomb inhere or something. Hit me up,

(46:04):
JT. Man, let me knowwhat's going on? Who else want to
go in? Man, it's agreat topic, dimming your life? Right?
Have you ever had to open discussion? Who else is trying to take
the mic? What's is on stagethat wants to go in? Who's here?
Who's active? Because y'all know youknow who's that? Here's that?
I think I heard it. I'dlet it go. Hey, this is

(46:25):
Janelle. So I love this questionand it definitely brought me to the room.
And thank you so much for thismanifest for pinion me in. Have
you ever had to dim your light? Open discussion? So for me,
it's one of the things where Isay, shine as bright as you want,
tell people to put on shades.But know that when you have that

(46:51):
attitude, there will be people whowill try to limit you. That's why
there's certain rooms that I'm not ableto come into. People are fickle.
People love you till they feel thatyou are outshining them. They love you
till they feel they cannot contribute,they think, oh, you're passing me.

(47:12):
You've invested in their platform, butnow they think that you're passing them.
So it's one of those things wherethere's a cost to everything. If
you play small, if you're thewoman who he he ha has, people
don't feel threatened by you. Butwhen you get that backbone and you start
telling people about the disingenuous things thatthey do, and you own your worth
and you say I'm not gonna standfor this, I'm not gonna allow you

(47:36):
to mistreat me, then people wantto get mad, and I'm gonna make
it plain. It always depends onwho it is. I can say one
particular thing and somebody else will hateit. But if Linzia says it,
someone else will love it. IfStack says it, someone else will love

(47:57):
it. If Nick says it,someone else will love it. So we
have to make things plain. Atthe end of the day, it's never
face value out here. And I'mgoing to quote our former president. He
was down in South Calculat this pastweekend and he said, you know what,
these same systems and all of thediscrimination that black people have been facing,
he's been facing it. Now.That's former President Trump he said that

(48:20):
he's been facing it. Now,with everything that's been going on, we
have to acknowledge the fact that it'snever the same for everybody. Yes,
we are in America, but therights that all of us as citizens get,
they're not treated the same. Theway that people value one person,
they don't value someone else. Therespect that people will give one person they
will not get to someone else.The fact that, hey, I was

(48:45):
applauded in BWC for so long,but then all of a sudden I got
a little too good where people wantedto put me down in the audience.
People wanted to kick me out ofthe room for laughing doing things that everybody
else did. Then I got blockedout of the room. We have to
call a spade a spade. Peoplelike you as long as you stay in

(49:05):
your place. When you don't stayin your place according to how people view
you, then all of a suddenit becomes problematic. So I have to
say to people, when you whenyou don't allow your light to be dimmed,
there are gonna be people who willbe threatened and they will want to
convince you to dim your life.They will also want to say that you're

(49:27):
doing things that you're really not,because people don't want to acknowledge that.
At the end of the day,you can be better than them. You
can be brighter than them, youcan be smarter than them. You can
do things that they may not beable to do, even if they have
more experience, even if they've beentrained by toastmasters, even if they have
a PhD, even if they havean MD. We just have to call

(49:49):
a spade a spade. And that'swhat I do. And that's why some
people don't like me. So alwaysknow that you may be someone who is
considered just to tap it too much. If you do, let your shine,
your lights shine unapologetically. But Iwill forever be that girl to be
just too much. And I encourageeverybody to put your shades on because I'm

(50:10):
gonna keep shining. You. Nell'scoming in crazy otis she you heard it?
Bro? She ain't playing with noneof y'all, she said, I'm
sure put a fire emoji in thechat, jy otis. What's up man?
How you feeling, bro? Ijust need y'all to really understand where
Janelle's coming from. She ain't playingyou heard? Yeah? You really got
to be able to make the distinctionbecause there was a time I thought somebody

(50:31):
was trying to dim my life,and they weren't. In retrospect, they
weren't. They were just trying tosave me a lot of time and energy,
because there was a time where Iwas gonna shine on ten regardless of
where I was at. But thatwas that was because my self portrait wasn't
wasn't where it wasn't healthy. Andyou know, a lot of the things
that I was doing were superficial toovercompensate for how I was deficient, and

(50:57):
you know, myself portrait and howI viewed myself internally. So I think
over time and and I didn't havenone of this figured out, right,
I had to go in some environmentsand get humbled. Fortunately for me,
there were people positions of that powerand influence that saw some potential and pulled
me aside and said, hey,you know you you move this way,
move this way, move that way, don't move this way, don't move

(51:20):
that way, don't worry about this, don't worry about trying to trying to
do this. So you know,I'm forty eight now and I've been paying
attention to to you know, howI work a room since I was in
my early twenties. So you reallyhave to make a distinction. And if
you're going into an environment and somebodytries to dim your own, dim your
likeas create your own environment, andyou know, well, I actually I'm

(51:43):
not going to get into that's athat's a that's a much like doing back
here. You know what we dobro Well, you know on clubhouse,
you know, somebody sent me thisup, and I wasn't really you know,
I'm like, all right, I'llget to it when I get to
it. And then I jumped onhere one day and I heard some people
talking about real estate, and Ithought, all right, okay, they

(52:05):
sound like I didn't know what thisapp was. They sound like they were,
you know, the authority on whateverthey were talking about. But some
of the things they were saying theywere wrong. So I listened and I
thought, maybe I'm misinterpreted something becausethey were they had a lot of confidence
in what they were saying for itto be that wrong. So I chimed
in and you know, made acouple of polite, you know, corrections,
and I acknowledged that I may nothave heard certain aspects of what they

(52:29):
were saying. So you know,forgive me if i'm you know, if
i'm you know, overstepping. Butthey ended up kicking me out of the
room too, and I didn't getoffended. I just said, you know,
okay. As a matter of fact, the exact conversation was they were
talking about, ah, man,what was it. Oh. They were
saying that all the people that areteaching real estate basically are basically con artists,

(52:53):
right, and how they're telling youyou can buy real estate with no
money out of pocket and all thisstuff, and that was it they were
talking about that was a scheme,and I said, it's actually not.
It's been happening for a very verylong time. I can you know,
I can break it down to you. They say, could you break it
down in five minutes or less?I say, I can break it down
in three minutes if you could listenfast enough. But if you're not well

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versed in the process, I gotto teach you some things so you understand
what it is I'm trying to teach. They say, go ahead. So
about a minute and fifty eight seconds, they just kicked me out the room
because I was explained to folks.So I just start my own room because
but had I not started my orif I just let that bother me,
you know, look how many peoplefollow me now, and look what we've
been able to come on It istelling man, don't let nobody hold you.

(53:37):
Well, look what we've been ableto birth out of this networking platform,
all of us, a lot ofus. Right, this is still
one of the best networking platforms thatI've ever come across. And I wouldn't
have been steered in this direction.Had I not experienced that and then started
to get an understanding of how youknow, the negativity and where that comes
from and misleading people and all thesethings that are going on, I'd never

(54:00):
would have I never would have donethis. I developed what I'm doing,
the educational component of what I'm doingout of necessity. I didn't think anybody
was interested in real estate. Itwasn't until I got on this app that
I realized the demand was there.So you really have to be able to
distinguish between somebody diming your light orsomebody trying to help you, because there's
both. There's people that are actuallytrying to dim your light because they're threatened,

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and there's people that are all tryingto help you and I think you
should conduct yourself with grace in eithersituation because the world we live in,
there are people that can help you, but they don't want to help you
because of how you react to that. Right, there's people that, Man,
I really like to help this person, but this person thinks everybody's just

(54:44):
trying to dim her light or dimhis light. So I'm not even going.
It's not worth it for me totry to help this person because you
can't accept the feedback. And whensomebody is actually trying to dim your light,
then if somebody tries to dim mylight, we're having a conversation.
I have a lot of questioning that'sgoing to dim their light, right,
Like, you can't. You can'tdim somebody's light. If their light is

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they have good intentions, it's genuinethey got and I'm just talking about professionally.
They've got the credentials to back upwhat they're saying, they've got the
experience. You can't dim that light, right, it is what it is.
The light is a byproduct of justwho they are. Right. So
I think, however, people comeat you because there's value in somebody trying
to dim your light too, Right, Adversity and Adversity builds character, and

(55:30):
it puts you in a position where, okay, now I gotta perform.
There's been situations where I was inan environment and there were people in the
same environment that were at a muchhigher level than me, much higher level,
and they made a comment that pissedme off. But there was a
lot of people watching, and Isaid, all right, you know,

(55:52):
I'm gonna. I basically said,I'm gonna. I'll put some thought into
that, right, not just gracefullybowed out the conversation. And I ended
up leaving the room, and cometo find out, there were a lot
of people listening that actually knew meand knew my way of being, and
they tore that person to shreds whenI was gone, and I had no

(56:13):
idea. As a matter of fact, some people had circled back to me
and said, you know what,I've been following a lot of people,
and what did it for me washow you handled that conversation, right,
How you handle that conversation. Now, should I have been my true authentic
self? No? No, Mymy true authentic self wanted to wanted to

(56:34):
put some candles out right. Oneof my true authentic self wanted to come
on. Now, my true authenticself wanted to stomp a mud hole in
somebody's chest. That's sometimes that's mythree. But that's why I love Otis
Bro. Now I'm just telling youthe truth. I'm also smart enough to
know that my true authentic self isnot the right person to be many times,

(56:57):
so I got to be somebody else. It's just okay, if I'm
not gonna be me, who amI going to be? Well, I'm
gonna be the meat that I'm tryingto be five years from now, I'm
gonna be that guy, and thatguy wouldn't react this way. So you
know, it's it's you have controlover a lot of these outcomes, and
you can always control your reaction.And as long as you can refrain from
having an emotion an emotional response tothese things, you're always going to be

(57:20):
better off. I have to tellmyself that every day. I just had
somebody tear up one of my houses, steal the AC unit, cut the
copper, vandalize it just because theydidn't pay rent and I had to a
victim. Now, my true authenticself wanted to jump on a plane,
But at the end of the day, it's hey, you know, that's
what happens. What can I learnfrom this or it doesn't happen again.

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What type of insurance can I getto cover something like this? What type
of So I had to make adecision not to have an emotional response.
But I see people I was inthe corporate environment and I manage people that
look like me that had a hardtime, had a hard time, you
know, performing in that environment becausethey always thought people was trying to dim
their They always thought somebody was comingafter them. And because the way the

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corporate structure is set up, Ican't always tell them what I wanted to
tell them. What I wanted totell them was, look, I'm trying
to create a path for you,but you keep getting emotional about all these
things, and your emotions don't belongat work, right. They didn't hire
you to be your authentic self.They hired you to be the person that
was at the interview there and peoplelost out on so many opportunities. These

(58:24):
are six figure opportunities that I wasputting people on the path to. But
now they had a you know,they always trying to tell me I can't
do this, and they don't respectme, and you know, sometimes I
just need to cool off for twentyfour hours. No, you can't manage
your emotions, and you're closer toa child than an adult emotionally. That's
what it is, right, Solook, it's and I'm not saying that

(58:45):
to rub anybody the wrong way,but shoot, man, I see it
all the time. I see itall the time, and I'm guilty of
it too. I just evolved becauseI got bumped in the head enough times
and it cost me enough to belike, yeah, I can't. I
can't do that no more. SoI'll land my playing there stack listen,

(59:08):
we we I'm telling you we're gonnakeep burning up inside of the media mentor's
manship. Let's keep going. Iwant to hear from some more people.
I want to go in mis manifest. How are you feeling about this short?
Who's coming in? Next? Man? Who's that? Let's go stack

(59:30):
at the bottom. Yesterday it's Ibakathat go to guy. I got the
black and white logo hashtag no freework. That's me. So I've had
to dim my light on so multipleareas. I'm just keep I'm gonna keep
it short. I've had to dimmy light here on clubhouse kind of sort

(59:50):
of because I really resonated with whatthe otis said because I'm involved in the
entertainment industry, specifically music, beinga music manager and R and PR and
yes, I do not like allthose slashes. But when you're in but
when you're in the area that I'mat, and these artists have great material
and everybody just seems to be fumbling, You're like, well, I guess

(01:00:12):
I'll have to do this too.So I've had many situations where I've been
on the right track. Even herein Clubhouse. I've had rooms where I've
been kicked out the room for justhaving an opinion. Just happened an opinion,
I got kicked out the room,and I'm not worried about it.
But at the same time, Clubhouseduring the pandemic made me a lot of
money. Why because I know thatI'm still learning. You stop living when

(01:00:36):
you stop learning. So I wasable to show my level of expertise people
that worked with me. I treatedthem like family members. I have a
young lady. She is in NorthCarolina. I'm in South Carolina. She
was looking for someone to mentor herto be a better music manager. Somebody
charged her twice what I charged her, and I told her, if you

(01:00:57):
take what I'm telling you seriously andyou stay the path, you will never
lose me as a mentor, likeshe's a little sister to me, and
just seeing her take off and doamazing things. And then she came back
and said, Hey, the situationthat I'm working with it, I got
a possible position for you. Yousee how that works when you don't worry
about the paycheck, but you worryabout taking care of that person and putting

(01:01:22):
them on the right track. Theuniverse, God, whoever you believe the
higher power to be, will takecare of you. So I don't have
all the answers, but Clubhouse isa great platform for me because people get
to hear the passion in my voice, the hunger and my voice, and
see that every word, every syllableof my bio that's me. And I

(01:01:43):
probably have to do update my bio. But that's neither here nor there.
But STACK love this room. Michelleup more often. Yeaes, sir man,
Let's tap in man. I'll tapin with you soon. I have
my staff get on them emails maysatand send you a movie. Appreciate you,
brother for coming in chiming in.Everybody's welcoming. I want to go
in. I think Honey's going innext. Honey, is that you or
Donovan? Which one? Let's go? Who's coming in? I let you

(01:02:07):
go first? Is Honey, youcan go? It looked like she was
off mute, go ahead, Donovan, She's not so yeah. I mean
this kind of resonates. It's funnybecause one of the things I committed commitments
I made to myself going into twentytwenty four was I was going to not
let other people dim my life.And that's or allow them to make me

(01:02:30):
dim my life, right, becausesometimes you you know, it is about
when you walk into a room,you kind of under you kind of know,
like, I'm not a little dude, right, I'm six four,
two fifty and you know, Imean, if you've met me, you're
going you'll I mean, when yousee me, you'll see me, right,
and I don't I stand out sobut also in a sense of like,

(01:02:50):
and that's that's just physically, butwhen you actually have a conversation with
me. I've had people think thinkof me in a certain way before they
actually even meet me, and thatthat is a frustrating thing to deal with
with most people, it's like you'vealready put a stigma or a perception on
me before you even had allowed theopportunity for you to have a conversation with
me. And I'm gonna say thisbecause I was on a reality TV show

(01:03:12):
and and after the fact, I'mback, I think I saw you on
their Daughter. I think I sawyou on the show? Is that?
What show is that? One?Bro? He thought I forgot? He
thought I forgot? What show wasthat? Hey, Donovan, I just
walked away from my roadcaster and I'mworking in my computer. I'm like,
man, what so? Yeah,But you know, but in dealing with

(01:03:42):
that, it's like when you know, when they posted pictures of us coming
out, you know, the mencoming out and and everything, it's like,
okay, and I was identified,it was like, Okay, he
looks cynical, right, or helooks he looks like he's not accountable.
And I'm like, I'm like allthese words that that that they're throwing out
there, but none of them haveanything to do with actual character, right,
They're all based off of how someonelooks. And sometimes, you know,

(01:04:05):
in that sense of like those things, it's like I really, I
really kind of fall back in intothe you know, into the shadows.
So even when I even when Igo out, I don't I don't go
out and try to be I'm notloud and about. I usually kind of
fall back and kind of you know, chill in the background. Right.
I'm not that dude to really beloud and out out in front like that.
But in the sense, you know, when when it came to this,

(01:04:29):
this young lady who said that tome, and it said that you
looked I thought you were. Ithought you were uh, we'll say,
I thought you were siner going andyou and you don't look accountable. And
I said, ma'am, so sotell me what does accountability look like?
And she was like, well,I said, I said, exactly,
you really can't define what accountability lookslike. I said, because that's a
character of trait. You actually haveto have an opportunity to sit down and

(01:04:50):
actually a conversation with me. Isaid, Because when you did, I
said, I changed that perspective,didn't I? I said, because when
you sat down and you had aconversation with me, you realize that I
was no nothing that you thought Iwas. I said, but you know
what you you didn't even give mean opportunity to show up that way.
So you've already you you've prejudged meand and made me out to be a
bad person or a certain type ofperson before you even actually had a conversation

(01:05:13):
with me. And one is whatends up happening is that people do that,
right, People do that all thetime. We're always prejudging, We're
always you know, not allowing peopleto show up and beat them off off
their authentic self. And then wewonder why, you know, I was
like, well, I wonder whythis person's like that. Well, because
they might be skewed, they mightbe frustrated. So okay, well,
if you think I'm this way,I'm going to act this way. Right.

(01:05:34):
Some people do that, but otherother people will actually take that as
constructive criticism and say, you knowwhat, well, you know, maybe
maybe it's something about me that actuallytriggered you to make you think that.
And and typically that's what I thinkabout when these things happen, is like,
I don't think that people people lookat me and or people look at
someone else and think a certain way, But I really think it's more of

(01:05:56):
like the issues that things that they'vehad in their life right, because most
of the times is if you lookat situations where people act and react a
certain way, they're usually not reactingand acting about the person in front of
them. It's something that's happened tothem. It's something that they that they
they're reminded of about you that kindof reminds me, some of reminds them
of something about someone that they hada relationship with, and they really haven't

(01:06:17):
gone gotten over those things. Andfor me, the type of person I
am, I really let people.I really let people show up and be
who they want to be. AndI don't want to change anybody, even
when when I'm in a relationship,I always tell I always tell that young
ladies like listen, I do notwant you change for me. I want
you to be you and allow meto like that person because I don't want
to switch up and wake up nextmorning and or you know, in a

(01:06:41):
couple of years from now and youstart acting act like somebody I'm right phone
call, can you hear me?You know? And I never I've never
met this person before. So it'slegitimate, like you have to be okay
with being you and people and ifthey don't accept you for being you.

(01:07:01):
Then I hate to say, butfuck them. And that's just being real,
And that's just being real, likelegitimate, like you can't change who
you are, how you are,how you react to things, you laugh,
your your your demeanor, the lightthat you know, the light that
you have. Why would you wantto dim that for other people? And

(01:07:21):
I think for me, it's likeit's really coming to a true understanding of
who I am and being okay inthose spaces and and truly understanding, you
know what, I'm in the wrongcrowd. I'm in the wrong room because
if I'm in the right room,the right room will always be the people
who will make sure that I'm goodto go right, who will always talk
about me, just like they didOtis when he left the room. They

(01:07:43):
talked great about him, as thoughhe was sitting right there and he knew
nothing about it. Those are thetype of rooms I gotta be in because
you know what, I always tellthem, like, you're not on my
level, and that's why you're hatingon me right now. You look,
you look at me as as thoughI am a I am a threat,
and actually in actuality, I'm actuallyan asset. I can help you.

(01:08:04):
We can help each other, right, And that's the biggest thing is like
we look at each other as ascompetition and we have we have a we
have an unfortunately want to say thisI'm putting on our people is that we
do have a crab in a barrelmentality. A lot of our people have
a crab in a barrel mentality thatwe think that it only could be just
one right, and and that,and that there only can be and that

(01:08:26):
and and and we have a senseof scarcity of like there's it's like it's
always competition, and at the sametime it's it's not always competition. It's
all about unification. It's all aboutreally you know, pouring into each other
partnership and contribution, you know whatI mean. Like legitimately, if we
partner up as a culture and wego off and we do these things together
and we can we can move mountains, but we don't because we have a

(01:08:47):
slave mentality at times to where wefeel as though like we there can only
be one like every movie, everymovie that that we like. You know
that that that our culture really uhresonates with. Right, go, let's
look at our scarface, right,right, let's look at Scarface. Scarface
was one dude everybody wanted to geton top. He was killing out taking
everybody else, right, and it'sthe only thing that we can He thinks

(01:09:09):
that we could only be one.But the fact is that's just dude.
Once that person's gone, somebody elseis coming in place. Right. But
the best thing about like the Italianmafia, right, things like that they
work together. That's actually called andthat's a mafia. That's that's some real,
you know, real real time stuffwhere people are actually working together and

(01:09:30):
contributing and actually have agreements and everybody'sgetting paid. If people realize that and
and don't have that mentality of likethere only be one, he ain't got
to worry about nothing. But likeI said, but for me, I'm
getting in rooms right now with OhI'm part of O's for Data Points Academy.
You know what I'm saying. Iwork. I work. Got to
get you that gold reef. Wegotta get you that gold reef again.

(01:09:51):
We gotta get you that gold reefman. What we're doing, oh this
get him miss reef Man, togive him miss reef Man's good d I
work with stack, you know whatI mean? I work with now I'm
now working with Tony on some thing. So, man, I you with
the players, now you with theplayer. I'm with the player, bro.

(01:10:11):
So I know I'm in the rightroom because I know they're not gonna
hate on me. I'm not gonnahate on them. I want the best
for them. And if you wantthe best for other people, then they
only gonna want the best for you. You gotta make sure if people hate
on you, you in the wrongroom, get around some people that are
actually gonna gonna be there and bea champion for you and talk great about
you when you're not there. AndI'm out, yo, d coming in
hot, man, I need somefire emotives in the chat. And I

(01:10:33):
want to address something that was inthe chat from you. My brother Nick
too. He said a negative spiritis a jealous spirit, and I agree
with that shit. Man. Ify'all got negative spirits, man, get
that ship away for I have tofeel it. Like before you even get
around the negativity the spirit like peoplewant love to be but you know it's
crazy to Nick, They'll pretend likethey're being nice, but then really got

(01:10:56):
the negative spirit. That's when yougot to feel it. The discernment too.
You gotta be hold on it's afeeling too in your gut. But
like Nick said, man, thatnegative spirit making that shit up out of
here, Man until down twenty four. I don't want to deal with it.
I want it out the way.If you're not trying to contribute,
if you're not trying to build,grow, collab, be on the same
page, then I can't have youaround, brother, Nick, can you

(01:11:17):
address you know what you said,bro, and you keep this fire burning
for us, Bro, if you'rearound over the Nick, I'm always here
listening intentively. Brother, I'm alwayshere listening to what's being drops. And
I may have not reacted to everygym, but I know for a fact
I heard it well, loud andclear. I was actually in the gym

(01:11:39):
when I was hearing majority of theshares, and I'm sitting here thinking it
to myself. I'm like, anegative spirit is just a jealous spirit.
If people aim to dim your light, it's because they've already dimmed their It's
because they've already shut their light off. Man, put a fire emoj in
the chat fract ahead And I'm justbeing all the way honest, It's not
even that they dimmed their light.They just shut their light all the way

(01:11:59):
off, so they're deteriorating you offcourse to make you shut your light off
as well. And in this seasonof my life, I'm continually telling myself,
I'm not shrinking myself to fit in. I don't care what profession you
in. I don't care what yourname is, I don't care what your
network is. If you make mefeel small for doing what I'm doing,

(01:12:19):
you are not my people. Youare not for me. And that's okay,
because I'm not for everybody, andeverybody's not for me. I'm not
going to force myself to fit inwith people where I know I don't fit
in where I'm tolerated instead of celebrated. I say that frequently. Bring that
back, Nick, hold on,don't go over that way. Go back
a little bit, man. Whyyou say that celebrated, you know,

(01:12:43):
tolerated. Come on, man,bring it down. I say that specifically
because people tolerate you based on whatnarrative they've placed on you, and they
just don't want you to know that. Now. People will tell you left
and right to your face, likeI'm so proud of you. I see
what you're doing you're making moves,my boy, Like, this is all
toxic positivity. The people that saythis stuff to you, they don't really

(01:13:05):
mean it. They just mad,low key, but they won't show you
their emotion. They're just mad thatyou gaining more momentum than them. But
what otis and Dunovan was saying,it's not a competition, bro, It
never was a competition. It's meversus me when I wake up every day.
It's not me versus you. It'snever been me versus you. And
if your sole motive is to competewith other people, you are gonna live

(01:13:28):
a very unfulfilling life. You arenever gonna be fully satisfied because your sole
ambition is to wake up every singleday and compete with other people, despite
the if they're in the same professionor different than you. My ulterior motive
is to help other people shine whileI'm shining too. That's the difference right
there. I want people around methat are one hundred percent with me and

(01:13:50):
not fifty to fifty. What doI mean by that? Because certain people
will only be around you when theyfeel like it, when it's most opportunity
for them. Don't come around mewhen it's when it's beneficial for you.
Be around me when I'm nothing,as opposed to when I'm something, Be
with me before the world catches on, as opposed to when the world already

(01:14:11):
caught on. That's the kind ofpeople I want around me. I want
people that see my worth before Ieven see it. I want people that
are gonna help me get into positionsthat I probably couldn't get into myself,
not because there's something like a hiddenagenda's tied to it, but because it's
from the heart, it's from it'sfrom it's coming from a good place.
That intentionality piece is crucial, becauseif you don't got good intentions and your

(01:14:34):
spirit is iffy, I don't carehow big your words are. I don't
care how how extensive your vocabulary is. I'm not gonna listen to a word
you speak, bro realistically because itsounds good, But until I see some
action behind it, I'll never fullybelieve it. I will never fully believe
it, and actions will always provewhy words hold no weight. And I'm

(01:14:56):
not dimming my life for anybody,and the profession that i I'm in.
People public speakers always want to competewith each other. They want to be
on the biggest stages. They wantto be in front of the biggest audience.
Me, listen, if I gottago on that maternia that can help
me and you do you really thinkI'm gonna only worry about myself. Nah,
Listen, if you help, Ifyou helped me when nobody else did,

(01:15:19):
you better believe I'm gonna put youon to That's I'm built different.
I'm cut from a different fa I'mcut from a different fabric. Listen,
I can't speak for most people,but I'm cut from a different fabric.
If you put me on when Iknow that it didn't benefit you, and
you you didn't even have to dothat, I'm gonna do my best to
look out for you too. That'snot me dim in my light, that's

(01:15:41):
not you dim in your life.We shine it together. It's not about
who shines the brightest individually. It'sabout who shines the brightest together. I
don't want that to go over yourhead. Yeah, don't let that go
over their head mag at all.It's not about who shines solely as one
person. It's about how we shinetogether. And a lot of people don't

(01:16:02):
think like that. A lot ofpeople are only they're only they're small minded.
Now I'm that God said before Iall yield on this, I promise
you I'm not shrinking myself to fitin. I'm not playing small ball.
If you want to lock in andwin with me, let's find ways how
we can win. Let's find wayswe can elevate and flourish, because that

(01:16:23):
stagnancy and complacency are the growth killers. And if that's your mindset, man,
I don't care how long we kneweach other. I don't care how
tight the bond is. You gottaget up away from me. I can
love you from a distance, butI am not stopping my growth just to
help you get get on track.If you're not helping yourself, I can't

(01:16:44):
help you. I can't. Butthat's why I said stack. I'm not
for everybody, and everybody's not forme, and that's okay. But when
you stay grounded and you love yourselfenough to not tolerate weird energies, weird
vibrations, small talk, you justmove on a different coord You you you
beat to a different tune, ifthat makes sense. So so I'll say

(01:17:06):
this, I'm loving this conversation,man. I love the gems that are
being dropped. Everybody's being transparent.There's so much fire here, y'all don't
know. I don't think y'all understand. Oldis you dropping bombs? Brother?
Stop dropping bombs on me? Man, Let me get under a roof at
least before you drop these bombs,bro, because I ain't trying to get
I tried to be an open fieldand I'm getting bombed like that, man,

(01:17:28):
So just let me catch it.Let me get seltic. But anyways,
stat love the space brother, powerfulenergy. Man back to you,
bro, appreciate it. Listen,Man, we in the bill, enjoying
this conversation. Throw a fire emojiin the chat so you guys are enjoying
all the shares the conversation. Putthe fire emoji in the chat. Y'all.
See Lee right there next to Steve. Y'all see her right follow Lee

(01:17:50):
right there, she's gonna be comingin with the team talking about the Stack
brand, right, Pack brand.You're gonna be chopping it up though,
Cannabis, the CBD, the linethat's launching really really soon. And also
with Steve, I got the lemonade. She's right next to Steve. What
a coincidence, right, she's nextto Steve too, and we're doing stax

(01:18:12):
rage lemonade. So I got lemonadeabout to drop, and I also got
the line about to drop with thecannabis and the CDD. So shout out
to you two for being here.I appreciate you guys because you guys do
a lot of work behind the scenesthat nobody really gets to see what I'm
saying. There's people like me that'sgonna amplify it, like hell yeah right,
So shout out to you Lee,Shout out to Steve. Shout out

(01:18:33):
to Danny for pulling up the Donovant, Derek's head doctor, Clarissa, Queen,
Beth, everybody in the building,Ovis, Angelic Vibes, Dante ot
and Nick Marasol, Dang, everybody'sin the building, Lindseya, Missus MBK,
look Queen, Richard HK, everybodyon stage picking the room up.

(01:18:55):
Entrepreneur just pulled up. What it'sabout, everybody coming together man and diving
in. Have you ever had todim your lights? Let's continue this conversation.
I want to continue to see whowas supposed to take it, who
wanted to come in after this?I had Beth, It's on you.
Hey guys, Hey Otis. Ohmy gosh, I haven't seen you in

(01:19:16):
the streets for a while here,man, But you guys kill a room
and I loved Otis that you broughtup the fact of going into a room
and setting and listening to see whatwas happening before you jump in. You
know, and I've been told thismany times growing up with entrepreneurs as parents.

(01:19:39):
Be the last person to speak,Sit there and listen, and then
you'll be able to elevate whatever you'regoing to say. But I also think
sometimes it's okay to dim your lighta tiny bit. It's okay to take
a little bit of the oil outof your lamp and pour it over to
someone else, and you just crankdown the little turns thing on the side

(01:20:00):
and your lamb goes down a littlebit because it's going to help that person
that you care about elevate. Idid that over the weekend with my son.
Took everything I had had to chewon some candy for a little bit,
set over and pretend I was lookingat some email for a while,
but I wanted his light to shineas he's coming into real estate under me.

(01:20:21):
And I sat there and he hadthe biggest smile. That was worth
it. That was worth me dimmingmy light for a minute, because I
could have went in and told thesepeople every damn thing within five minutes,
been done with it, out thedoor. But he did a great job,
very proud and oh my goodness,gracious girl, you know that I

(01:20:45):
where'd she go? Did she leavethe stage? Did you know? Leave?
Ah? I wanted to tell her. Tell those people, Yeah,
just tell him, like Donovan said, to go fuck themselves. Who cares
about those people? They're just gonnadrag you down. Don't worry about them.
They kick you out of a room. Great, you know what.
I'm glad that you love exactly Donovan. They can just sit there and enjoy

(01:21:11):
talk about me. Open up aroom that has my name on it.
You're taking your time to talk aboutme, and guess what. I moved
on. I'm doing something different rightnow. But that's all I have to
say about this, so I willpass back up to you Stack. Look,
Beth, I appreciate that man.Misery loves company, y'all said.
If y'all agree, put it onein the chat. That's why I said
that negative spirit, that negative energy, like Nick what's up? Man?

(01:21:34):
I cannot have it around you,especially for this year. You gotta stay
focused on entrepreneurship, this journey,collaboration. You gotta feel top tier,
even if you don't feel like it. You gotta come tops. You gotta
be grateful. That gratitude part isa real good piece on this is being
grateful for the things that's around youso you can receive more. But have
you ever had the dem your lifeopen discussion? I want everybody to try.

(01:21:57):
Everybody has a voice on the stagewhen you come to media. Men,
Man, we love it here becauseyou can get media guidance. You
could tap in with the four datapoints and get the real estate advice.
You could tap it with mismanifest andget that manifestation. Podcasting will miss it.
Man, It's so much energy inhere. Who's coming next? Coming
next? Go ahead? Clarissa's you. You robbed the mic, You take

(01:22:17):
the mic? It ringe da.So I just want to I have something
to I want to weigh into thisconversation. But I just want to say,
Stack, I've been in rooms withyou, that have been on stages
with you. They've been very refined. In professional rooms. I've been in
some ratchet rooms with you, andI just have to say, you maintain
your identity and your I mean,you never change, and I just appreciate

(01:22:40):
that about you and how you areconsistently positive and you stay on task no
matter what's going on. And Imean, I'm new, kind of relatively
new to the app, but that'ssomething that has never changed on stage with
you. So I commend you forthat. Appreciate you, doctor Clarissa,
because you know, I like togo in those other rooms. Those are
my friends. They're kind of crazy. I got friends on this app that's

(01:23:03):
a little bit, a little bitnuts, do a little nuts things.
And then I go over there andsee what they talking about, and it's,
you know, like it's pretty entertained. I was in there with You're
careful to say I was in therewith you, so but I just wanted
to say I wanted to add tomy friend Beth what she was talking so

(01:23:24):
closely related. But sometimes I think, especially on a talking app, it
could be misconstrued that you have tobe loud or you're being damned. And
I'm not a loud person, andI don't think you have to be loud.
I think you can make an impactand you know I'm not loud,
but I'm not missed either. You'renot gonna miss me. You're gonna feel

(01:23:45):
me, but you but you won'tnecessarily always hear me. So I think
it's really important to not feel thepressure of a talking app to always be
noisy, to be chirky and buttingin, and if you're not belligerent because
and I'm not talking about this room. That's why I'm always in here,
because it's never like that here.But sometimes if you're not feisty and fighting,

(01:24:12):
you're thought to be damned, andthat's not true. One thing that
my cousins. I'm an only childand I'm not spoiled. But it's debatable.
But on one side there's twelve cousins. On the other side there's five.
And they always say, you know, Reesa is so sneaky and I'm
Resa in Georgia, but like Clarissa'sso sneaky, And what they mean by

(01:24:38):
that it's like, you never knowwhat I'm up to until it's ready to
come it's publishable, and I meanthat loosely. By the time you find
out what I'm working on, becausesometimes and I'm not sneaky, what it
is is if you're in the middleof strategy and you're in the middle of
working on whatever it is, whateverthe has been, however it's been presented

(01:25:01):
to you in the very unique waythat a vision is broken down for you.
You can't really contend with your embracingof it, their fears, their
concerns, their questions when you don'thave all the answers yet. So my
strategy has been to be them untilit's time to shine. And I think
it's okay to do that. AndI just wanted to say to people who

(01:25:27):
are not always on stage and sometimesin the audience and not always loud,
to not feel like you're not workingon something that is substantial, because,
like I said, I prefer tobe in the chat. I'm on stage
to support people and rooms that Ireally love and think that they're really pouring

(01:25:48):
into people and adding value. ButI'm in the chat person. But you
won't miss me, and you don't. You don't have to be on the
stage in loud with the sound effectswhich I love and the base because you
know this and Ois and stay havethis base competition. You don't have to

(01:26:11):
be that though, although I loveit. I got the more. I
got the most pace. It ain'tno competition, but oldest competition. I
don't know about that. I don'tknow if you can be me. We'll
see. I don't know. Butyou might be in the audience and you
may have never unmuted yourself on thisapp before, but it doesn't mean that

(01:26:33):
you don't have some power. SoI just wanted to say that thank you
for this. Listen. Listen,Clarissa. I appreciate you. It is
fire, this room is fire.It's on y'all, like y'all. Y'all
could keep going or we can shutdown. Man, it's on y'all.
A love of Clarissa was saying,I got Danny, I got ring.
It's on y'all. Man. Peoplecoming to the stage of y'all want to

(01:26:56):
keep the conversation flowing. It's ony'all. Y'all want to keep going or
y'all want to shut down for thewanting to chat. Let's go up.
If y'all had enough, I'm goingin tomorrow. I'm going in tomorrow with
another topic. So it's on y'all. So I want to keep going like
I have the room open. Ifnot, I think we I think it's
been enough with y'all thinking I don'tknow, it's up to somebody grabbing mic

(01:27:19):
though, and keep it going.If not, I'm gonna shut down.
I'll see y'all tomorrow. So on, y'all, who's grabbing the mic?
Next? Who's coming in? Queen? Let's go? I think, I
think Queen at the patches to queenand then dance. He was good with
Danny too, Let's go. Okay, okay, oh man, such a

(01:27:42):
fire dope shares, oh man.I just feel the energy in this room,
oh man, and resonated with everybody'sshare. I will realize like I
was them in my own light whenI was drinking myself to fit in with
others before understanding my true purpose.I always had my own self confidence,

(01:28:08):
my self esteem and self awareness wasalways present, But however, I prioritized
loving others over loving myself, whichled people to perceive me as someone without
autonominity or identity. To rectify thesituation, I had to reassess my worth

(01:28:34):
to care for myself without excessively beingconcerned over other people's feelings. So sometimes
it's not always other people, justin me, Like you gotta look at
yourself. Sometimes in the mirror andlook at that reflection of you, like
allowing yourself to be around people,shrinking yourself to like fit in with them,

(01:28:55):
not realizing that you were going tostand out. You were created to
stand out out, like and Ihad to realize that with my with my
own self, like I always hadthat in me, like I always had
it in me. It just tookme to go through healing to see exactly
what other people already saw me.When I would walk into a room,
people would just like turn and lookat me, and I'm just like,

(01:29:16):
yes, me, like why everybodylooking at me? And now I see
why everybody was looking at me,like cause I just show up and just
be me authentically like that, peoplethink that they can't be themselves, Like
no, it's okay with being yourselfunapologetically authentically, like just continue, like
just be yourself and don't don't dimyour own like trying to strengthen and fit

(01:29:42):
in and be around others when youwere meant to stand out. And I
passed a mic. He wants togo take them. He wants to go

(01:30:10):
take the testosterone shots so he canget his voice down down the downward needs
to be instead of sounding like MacaulayGulk and that's how he's sound in real
live. Y'all don't know Stack tryingto base me. Oh wow, I

(01:30:30):
will say he's a good dude.Man. I got to hang out with
him. You know. It's okay, he's a good dude. So shout
out to Stack for what he's justwhat he's accomplishing. He's making some serious
moves. He's helped a lot ofpeople too, on the marketing side.
So I don't know where where Stackis going. I think something else may
have come up. But we'll goahead and let the room just kind of

(01:30:53):
simmer. And if he shuts itdown, he shuts it down. But
a lot of good input today,a lot of a lot of good input.
Doctor Clariss, she I when sheDoctor Clarissa is still here, she's
still on Uh she's still on stage. I don't I don't want to see
her. I laughed, let mego after, okay, I laughed.
When doctor Carrissa laughed. She saidthat she was the only child, but

(01:31:15):
she's not spoiled. And then shekind of laughed a little bit. I
was up here cracking up. Sodoctor Clarissa's is she's in English. Uh,
professor right, So she uh,she's real. She's giving me feedback
on a few things, and incertain certain cases, I just I banded
with her like she's a big sister. But just give you an idea of

(01:31:38):
her personality. One day I senther a message that said it was it
was. It was an essay onwhy we need to remove the semi colon
from the English language, and shewas bonded. She got so mad because
she takes that seriously. Me.I just was joking and went to cht

(01:32:00):
GPT until I told it to doan essay to justify why she should remove
it, and she was so shewas so mad. So I can tell
that she's the only child, butin a good way because she is not
playing around. But when when itcomes to her English shout out to everybody
else, Man, I gotta runstack. I don't think you can hear

(01:32:21):
me. But if you can't,I can't. I can't hear you.
I can't. I'm back, bro. Let's go on listen, y'all,
crazy man, what happened in themroom? What y'all doing? Man?
Put a one in the chat,y'all enjoy today's conversation about them in the
life it's manifest in here causing chaos. Listen, put a value in the
chat, go crazy, and thenI love you guys. Gonna be coming

(01:32:43):
back tomorrow about you know, whatactually lights your fire? That's what I'm
talking about tomorrow, what actually lightsyour fire? And then Friday, I'm
coming in hot with Otis. We'regonna be talking about how to find the
right real estate. Damn. Soit's going to be a great topic on
Friday. Thursday, there's an openslot. So somebody's trying to go in
on Thursday, let me know ifnot, I'm coming in talking about social

(01:33:06):
media. I think Rocky want atag team or something. I probably hit
up Rocky. She says she wantedto do a room with us and come
back. So if nobody's trying togo in on Thursday being Rocky when we
talking about how to monetize social media, see if she wants a tag team
with that. She asks me,like a couple of days ago, when
I'm gonna come back in when wegonna do something. So we'll definitely have
her come back into the to theMega mansion, right, but be on

(01:33:29):
tune with Friday because the oldist we'regonna be going in about finding the right
real estate deal for data points,his team, everything, everything he's done,
and I wanted oldis what happened outthere in Houston? Man, How
was that event? Brother? Realquick, before you get up out of
here. How was that? Wehad a good time man and tall people
how to invest in apartment buildings,and you know, we had some people
join our real estate family. Soit was good man. I'm actually putting
together a virtual one today for Marchthirtieth, so most of most of the

(01:33:56):
folks that are listening right now arealready in my database. If you're not
text four data on one zero zero, we'll get you. We'll get you
set up. But it was good, man, it was all good.
I appreciate that. Run jumping beforeI get up out of here. Man,
we're going in on Friday, manwith Oldest. Man. We're talking
about I like when Oldest comes inbecause the real estate talk education on it

(01:34:17):
is important, It's crucial. Mybrother Tony does this oldis that I love
when they come in to the cluband really educate us, right, And
it's fire because I got all thesenotes. So run over to you,
brother, uh and then I'm gonnatake up us, take us out of
here. Let's go. What's upeverybody? Thanks Stack. I'm gonna just

(01:34:38):
say this, man, Listen,Houston was lit. Oh you was in
Houston too, You was out there? Yes, sir, Yes, sir,
it was. I've been to Texasbefore, but I hadn't been to
Houston before, and I got admitted. It's lit. It's lit out there.
I'm telling you, listen, Idon't know what. I know what

(01:35:01):
I enjoyed more, which was thefour Data Plex. I really enjoyed that.
But also, you know, Ilive in Philly. You know it's
cold out here, so I enjoyedthat warm weather. We had good food,
we had good last We got educated, we got edified, we got
informed, we got up lifted.Listen, we got uplifted, we got
poured into we we we we gotcentered. You. So y'all had the

(01:35:27):
light shined on y'all. That's whatyou're saying. That's what you're talking about,
hun run exactly. And speaking ofthe light, it's o cay to
them that light sometimes. And Idon't know if anybody talked about this before
I came in, but what happenswhen you look at something that's too bright?
You begin to cover your eyes becauseyou can't see where you're going.
You look at a light bulb orsomething or the sun too long, you

(01:35:49):
get that little glare when you lookaway, and you gotta wait for it
to fade away. And sometimes whenit's when you when you shine so bright,
people will check this out. They'llput shades on so they can try
to get a clear view. Ibring that back a little bit. Why'd
you say that? Why'd you saythat? That clear view part? Let's

(01:36:12):
let's break it down a little bit. Because when you shine and bright for
people to see you, people gotto be able to see what it is
that's shining. But if you shineso bright, they can't make out what
they're seeing. All they see isbright light, which could be condetented to
a lack of understanding, a lackof vision, if you will, both
figuratively and non figurativity. So ifyou say, if you got them light

(01:36:35):
bulbs in your house, will youslide the switch down or you turn it
two or three clicks and it makesit brighter or dimmer. Now you get
the right type of light exposure,and now you feel more comfortable. So
sometimes you can be too bright forsome of the people that surround you or
whatever environment that you and and it'sokay, I'm not saying be dumb.

(01:36:58):
I'm not saying dumb yourself down.I'm saying you got to learn to have
balance. You got to learn howto adjust yourself so that the people around
you can have a clear vision ofwho you are. And I'm just land
it right there. Stat sheeesh.Today was a great room. I tell
you that much, Dante. Yougot any last words for us? Brought

(01:37:19):
and hear from you? Brother?Are you there man? How you found
about this room? Man? Giveus a little outtake run. Appreciate you
brother, thank you for being Ohyeah, man, I'm just it's just
amazing all the different approaches that wehave to just you know, dem in
our light you know, for me, I always looked at dim in our
light is just not living into thatfullest purpose, you know, what we're

(01:37:39):
here to do. You know.And for one reason or another, whether
it be you know, self limitingbeliefs from childhood, whether it be just
the way that you know bullied inschool, whatever, for some reason,
you know, we decided to turnit off. And that you know,
I loved how kind of the appgot brought into it because I think for
a high percentage of us on thisapp, in one way or other week,

(01:38:00):
we found you know, a mediumor a place to really you know,
to to broadcasts and shine our lightand to really lean into our experiences
and and find the value and whatour experience and be able to you know,
bring it to other people, whetherit be monetarily or just flat out
just gifting it, you know whatI mean, but just being an example
and being a to me, that'sthat's hind of light. Is like if

(01:38:23):
one person gets one person gets valueout of something that I say, from
some sort of experience or you know, hardship or struggle or visister too that
I've been through, then to meit was you know, it's always worth
it, you know what I mean. So that that's what I can add,
bro, just you know, shiningthat light. You never know.
That's somebody said that to me.That's what really got me talking on this
app. You, you and andsome other people. But on Dante,

(01:38:45):
I should see you at the bottom, Bro, I'm glad you came to
the top with me. Man.Oh absolutely, well, you know,
and you know somebody said, younever know, uh how what you might
say how it might change or impactsomebody's life. And and then I've been
in some other room. Those guyscame to me told me stuff I was
wasn't even I wasn't even present withwhat I was saying. I was just
talking, and man, I neverforgot what you said. And I'm like,

(01:39:08):
man, that's and stuff like that. That's that's when you know,
that's when you lean into those you'reauthentic. And I think somebody was bringing
up authenticity and the true self,and I think where they were coming where.
The way I take that is,you know, those experiences, that
stuff that we have, that thatwhat makes us us, not not necessarily
us trying to fabricate some version tofit the mold. I get that corporate

(01:39:28):
stuff too. You can't always,you know, because keeping it real can't
go wrong. But as far asthe one in that chap, y'all agree
with Dante. Dante, let's breakthat down a little bit, bro,
Let's have a conversation, because Ifeel like people, you know, they
take to keep it real part youknow negative nowadays, bro, So let's
talk about it a little bit.Absolutely. Yeah, like sometimes keeping it
real is like just like like Iwould have said, it just honoring and

(01:39:53):
respecting ourselves in certain environments that doesn'tlimit the possibilities of what what could actually
happen if we just stay in hocketand keep our emotions in check, you
know what I mean? And andand sometimes that that grace and that dignity
in the way that we present ourselvesas professionals can is what's really about going
to those those higher levels. Youknow what I mean, because you know

(01:40:14):
it's not the stuff that you seeat the at different class levels is not
going on at higher class levels asfar as you know what I mean.
When we're talking about getting to thebag and whatnot, I don't mean any
other political stuff, but actually gettingto the bag, you know what I
mean? That that mindset? Soyeah, man, should I well,

(01:40:34):
yeah, so definitely, yeah.I mean just you know, and like
I said, that what you havewithin you don't hide it from somebody because
you never know. Uh, likeRain for example, yesterday, she just
I mean her level of vulnerability andauthenticity in the woman's affirmation room. It
was going in Dante. You likethat. And look, one thing women

(01:40:57):
won't do is that's what I canappreciate women is the vulnerability and you know,
as men, we guard that shipwith our with our life because you
know what I mean that that vulnerabilitythat sometimes can be it's a it's a
survival instinct, you know what Imean, to not let people see you
sweating. But you know when youwhen you really that vulnerability is really where
our strength is that and where thegrowth comes from. So you know,

(01:41:18):
like I said, and sometimes whenyou share that vulnerability with people, share
your experience. You know, ifyou if you were on opiates and you
did the body building, all ofa sudden woke up one day and said,
man, this ship, this ain'tme. I'm way better than this.
I had to hit this bottom andknow where it was at. But
then you say, you know what, then you hit the watch of David
Goggins video. You hop on clubhousehere, somebody say something and just it

(01:41:41):
can be that catalyst that just triggersyou into you know some Malcolm X ship,
Martin so ship. Yeah, butI just leave it on that bro.
Appreciate you holding space. Man.Always a pleasure to be here.
And fucking room was lit and uhman ah, y'all so much respect for
this room. This room is alwayshigh vibe. I like to come in
here when I got I'm charged.I got something to bring. You know

(01:42:02):
what I mean, bring that value. So appreciate you. Stat appreciate everybody
in your one love Look. Iappreciate you, Dante Man. We're gonna
be doing some major work. Man. Can't wait to help you on the
media stuff, you know, socialmedia anything, Bro, we're gonna do.
We're gonna take it to the moon. You know what I mean.
Anybody that wants to work, goto book with stack dot com to get
a free fifteen minute call and we'lllevel up on all platforms. Articles,

(01:42:26):
blogs, blogs, it don't matter, billboards, it don't matter. I
need people to get in the rightposition to win today, today, this
year, it don't matter. Getwith me so that way we can level
up together. Dante Man. Iappreciate it, man, because it's all
about that authentic self, being authentic. If you guys can be more authentic,
I'm telling you, it's gonna getyou to the next level profile emotion.

(01:42:46):
You to chat RSVP for tomorrow.What fires you? What actually lights
your fire? Tomorrow I'm bringing itback up. We talked about them in
your light today. Tomorrow i'm'll bringit back up. But actually lights your
fire. I need you to thinkabout this ship tonight. Think about it
so we can come in hot tomorrow. I love you. Let'st I might
have a show, got selled out, I grow to sleep. Watch norm

(01:43:08):
Mask. We got some norm mask. Yeah that's what you got on treating
oh man. Yes, yeah,I'm saying, look Joe, just bring
her friends. Yeah yeah, it'snot for me. You know, it's
just swimming dance Yeah yeah too much. Just play, Yeah, it's that's
I can Yeah how much just keeltyslights? Yeah, it's best I can's

(01:43:30):
back. Yeah. I ain't nevertrust no, I ain't no trust no
man. Yeah yeah, put upin the brand new brush. Put about
a mad black man. Yeah,yo, you never survided. Drum my
boy, got a mad black fan. Dang man on jod baby on your
look like dang Yeah yeah I theneed that everything and no crack Okaine Yeah
yeah, I ain't never doing nodug the yo. Yeah yeah. And
she was up unnies if she wantedup the ball Yeah yeah take that gun

(01:43:55):
man. Hey, now you don'twant to got a ball? Yeah yeah,
Now you don't want my money?I said not it no no Spanish
Gussie Holmes challenging to get my pantson. You can't get no money,
you don't get no go ho gohole. Shit went on that Thurday,
but bucking times O, Yes shelike

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