February 5, 2025 • 22 mins
Does a man have the power to bring out a woman's femininity? Or is femininity something she must cultivate herself? 🤔
In this eye-opening episode of The vFelix Blackv Show, we dive deep into the modern dating dynamic and explore whether a strong, masculine man naturally brings out a woman’s femininity—or if society has changed the game.
💡 Key Topics Covered:
Can a woman be feminine in today’s independent era?
The role of masculine leadership in shaping feminine energy.
Why some women struggle to embrace femininity in relationships.
How high-value men and women complement each other.
🚀 This conversation will challenge everything you thought you knew about attraction, dating, and relationship dynamics!
👊 Join the discussion! Drop a comment below and let’s settle this debate:
Can a man truly bring out a woman’s femininity, or is it up to her?
📢 LIKE, COMMENT & SUBSCRIBE for more unfiltered relationship talk from Felix Black!
#Femininity #MasculineEnergy #DatingAdvice #FelixBlack #HighValueMen #Relationships #Podcast #ModernDating #SelfImprovement
In this eye-opening episode of The vFelix Blackv Show, we dive deep into the modern dating dynamic and explore whether a strong, masculine man naturally brings out a woman’s femininity—or if society has changed the game.
💡 Key Topics Covered:
Can a woman be feminine in today’s independent era?
The role of masculine leadership in shaping feminine energy.
Why some women struggle to embrace femininity in relationships.
How high-value men and women complement each other.
🚀 This conversation will challenge everything you thought you knew about attraction, dating, and relationship dynamics!
👊 Join the discussion! Drop a comment below and let’s settle this debate:
Can a man truly bring out a woman’s femininity, or is it up to her?
📢 LIKE, COMMENT & SUBSCRIBE for more unfiltered relationship talk from Felix Black!
#Femininity #MasculineEnergy #DatingAdvice #FelixBlack #HighValueMen #Relationships #Podcast #ModernDating #SelfImprovement
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Speaker 1 (00:12):
Welcome back listeners to the Felix Black Show podcast here
on all of your favorite streaming platforms for podcasts. Thank
you for tuning in to today's episode. I'm your host,
Felix Black. And what is this podcast about. It is
about me single man out here dating and go through
and give you some stories, some of my thoughts on
(00:37):
how dating should be and dating from my perspective. Right,
I understand, I know everyone is not going to agree
with how I feel about dating, but there are a
number of people that do. And so this is the
podcast for you. And this is the podcast if you
have doubts, if you don't understand quite what you know
(01:02):
high value men are talking about. Again, I know people
are starting to attack that term high value. It's not
a term that I made up. It's from the internet. Okay,
what are we talking about when we talk about high
value man? Let's talk about that, talking about a man
with a job, no kids, makes over one hundred k,
has all his own Okay, That's basically what it comes
(01:25):
down to. And we have a high level of emotional intelligence,
but also we come with rules, we come with discipline.
If you don't already know, if you have never been
on the stream before or on the podcast before. I
am a traditional guy. I understand people are going fifty
(01:46):
to fifty and I'm a guy who's more or less
paying the bills in the home. However, it's not a
free ride. There are things that I require as a
man in the home, and that's what I talk about
here on this podcast. Okay, make sure if you're not
following the podcast you do so. Full video can be
found on YouTube. What I want to talk about today,
(02:09):
A man doesn't bring out femininity in a woman. This
is something I hear a lot. I watch a lot
of dating shows. You know, I'm on dating apps, I
talk to people in person. I get to know women.
I like talking to women. They're very interesting to say
(02:30):
the least. Okay, so this is something I'm starting to
hear a lot. And when I start to hear things
a lot one, I'm starting to think that it's group think.
People are just saying what someone else says because it
sounds good and they don't really think through what's being said.
That's just my opinion. Okay, So when I start to
(02:51):
see dating shows and the not the same women, but
women are saying the same thing, is it a little
bit of it's a commonality, and that might be what
the issue is possibly, right, I agree, And I'm not
just here to talk to women. I talk to the
men too out there, so we can improve ourselves as
leaders as providers. So when women say, you know, men
(03:17):
aren't providing, men aren't leading like they used to, I
can agree with that, all right, and so I side
with the women on that topic. But there are some
things like this topic that I'm talking about today that
I just don't agree with. I do not believe that
it's true, and so believe I believe women are using
this as a cop out. Okay, let's get into it.
(03:39):
Femininity in a woman, What is it to me? I
like girly girls, right, So my definition of femininity is
a person who is loving, caring, supportive, very nurturing in
the home. Okay, she likes family, she likes taking care
of family. She may be into traditional roles taking care
(04:02):
of the house, taking care of the family. I'm not
saying she doesn't work, but her work is second in
her life. What's most important to her is taking care
of her family, her man, and her kids. I like
women who like to go to the salon and get
their hair done. I like women. I like to get
their nails done, like to get their toes done. You know,
(04:24):
they're trying to drag me to SPA treatments, you know,
to get massages and stuff like that. I like that.
I like an emotional woman who's crying. I don't want
to say that in a bad way, but who cries
easily because I know that she's soft, right, She's not
(04:45):
trying to play tough, she's not trying to be a guy.
She's soft, right, And so women are sensitive. Women are
soft creatures that should be handled as such. My belief.
So naturally, if you're a woman, to me, that is
something that you should know. I've talked about it before.
(05:08):
When are women taught how to take care of a
man and not only taught that they don't need one? Right?
We hear that a lot. Oh, I'm raising my daughter
so she doesn't need a man. I've never heard a
mother or a father raising their son so they don't
need a woman. They're raising their son to take care
(05:29):
of a woman, rightfully, So that's how I've raised my son.
So femininity is innate. It's within you as a female,
as a woman, as a girl, as a cheeka, so
it is innate in you. It should not take someone
(05:51):
else to bring that out of you. Why does it
take that? I understand if you are not able to
be a woman at all times, or able to be
feminine at all times, you have to play different roles.
Single parents have to be mom and dad. You know,
y'all have to be tough so you don't get taken
(06:12):
advantage of. I understand all of that. I understand it.
But to say you need a man to bring it out,
A man should bring it out automatically, and it should
automatically be there. You should just be waiting. You should
already You shouldn't even be waiting. You should already be
feminine when you approach when you start to talk to
(06:35):
a guy. Right, so, if we meet and we plan
a date, how long before I bring out your femininity?
How long? How many dates do we have to go on?
I have to prove to you that I'm a man,
that I'm an upstanding guy. And I always say this,
this whole notion of I don't know you. I have
(06:56):
to get to know you. You will never fully know somebody.
You will only know what they want you to know.
That is the truth. Of it. We hear stories all
the time about people have been together for thirty forty
fifty years and their partner does something that they've never
done before, that they didn't know, that they've never heard of. Right,
So to say that, you know, I don't know you,
(07:17):
so I have to I have to get to know
you in order to be feminine with me. You're not
going to get that opportunity either you come to the
table feminine and ready to go, or I'm not going
to prove anything to you. Why do I say that
I've never lied to you, never cheated on you. So
why am I proving to you that I don't cheat?
(07:39):
Why am I proving to you that I don't lie
when I've never done it to you? Right? So I
have to prove myself to you in order for you
to be a woman. How do I have to prove
myself to you? Right by being a man, by being masculine.
So the thought process there is, I come to the
(08:02):
table as a man, chivalrous, opening doors, making sure that
you're protected, making sure that you're safe, in order for
you to then dial it back and be a woman. No,
that's not that's not how this works. That's not how
it's gonna work with me. And you know a lot
I know a few people, and I want to say
(08:23):
a lot of people. I know a few people that
believe that same thing. Once you make that choice to
I want to go on a date with Felix. I'm
interested in him. I want to get to know him.
Femininity should be turned on if it's not already on,
the fact that it's not already on to me is scary, right,
(08:44):
that is not already on? Now? If you have to
become masculine in a certain situation, I understand that. But
to turn it on, as you know women say and
leave it on, no, No, I don't agree with that.
I don't agree with that. It's something that women should
(09:07):
be doing and should be okay with doing so. It
should not be a requirement for me to be a
man in order for you to be a woman. It
is not a requirement for you to be a woman
in order for me to be a man. I present
as such, I'm going to act as such. I'm going
to act accordingly at all times, right, at all times.
There is no you have to prove to me that
(09:29):
you're a woman in order for me to be a man.
The same goes for both, Like we need to stop
trying to put the lever in one side. Women need men,
men need women. That's how we connect, that's how we
get together, that's how the world creates. Okay, So we
need to stop trying to one up or put ourselves
(09:50):
in a position. As you know, you're claiming me, I'm
the prize here. We're both prizes to each other if
we are single and we find what we're looking for,
all right. I'm looking for a feminine, nurturing and loving woman.
She's looking for a strong, dependable man that can lead.
(10:12):
We are beneficial to each other. There is no leg up.
You're not any less worth worthy than I am because
you're not the leader. Leaders have teams, We take input.
We were down there in the trenches sometimes getting that
(10:33):
perspective because sometimes we can lose perspective on what you know,
those that we lead are actually doing. But a proper
leader does not make decisions in a vacuum. They do
not make decisions all by themselves, especially if it affects others. Right,
So this notion that I need to prove to you
(10:53):
that I'm a good leader. How how because as soon
as I make the wrong decion. You're gonna say, Oh,
he's not a good leader. I couldn't follow him, So
you're not going to find a perfect leader out there.
That's just how it happens. But back to the femininity piece.
I don't believe that a man can bring out your femininity.
(11:15):
I think it's either there and it exists, or it
doesn't if you have to I'm gonna say this again,
if you have to be less than feminine in any
certain situation, Okay, I understand that you turn it on,
you turn it off like a light switch. But to
walk around being masculine, because if you're not feminine, you're masculine.
(11:37):
To walk around being that way and think that some
dude is going to fight with you in order to
get you to be the woman he wants you to be,
that's false and that's how relationships don't last. I shouldn't
have to change you. That's why I say, come to
the table with your femininity ready to go, the same
(11:59):
way I have my masculinity ready to go, and you
can evaluate that as such. I'm going to be who
I am if you get into a relationship with me,
this is who I'm going to be. There is no secret.
I'm not holding anything back. I'm not putting on a show.
I'm not putting on a facade. This is who I am,
(12:21):
and so that gives you the ability to fully evaluate
my character, my personality, and to see if that's what
you want to be a part of, if that's what
you want in your life. Why do I have to
then wait for weeks, months, days, years, however long it
(12:42):
is to turn on your femininity for me to show,
for you, to show me who you are and what
I'm getting in the relationship. I'm sorry to tell you.
We are now, men are now, and I think we've
always been looking to see how you as a woman
benefits us. I know women don't like that what do
(13:05):
you bring to the table question? It's a valid question,
what do you bring to this relationship? Because you simply
existing and being a woman, that's not enough. We want more,
so the same way you want more as a woman.
You want a leader, a provider. You want someone who's
going to pay the bills and do all of this
stuff for you. Chivalry. Okay, So we want to know
(13:27):
what you're bringing to us, and so for you to
get offended by that question is offensive to us one
hundred percent. That's just being true. It's offensive to us.
That means you can't answer the question. You don't know
the answer to the question, and that's something you need
to think about. And for the men, if you don't
know the answer to that question, how you can provide
(13:50):
what you bring to the table for a woman, you
need to stop dating and go self reflect when we
come out as men to this dating scene, when we
come to the table with a woman, we need to
be ready to go. We need to be ready to
be the person that we are so she can then
(14:10):
evaluate who we are. We forget that we're animals. Humans
are animals. So if you watch National Geographic before, you've seen,
in certain instances, animals present themselves to the opposite sex
for mating purposes. Right, I can build a nest. I
(14:33):
have great feathers for DNA and for reproducing all of
that stuff. Right, So they come as they are. They
don't prove anything later, They're proving it right then and
there in front of them. This is what you're getting.
And so that's the way I carry it. That's the
way men should carry it. When we come to the table,
(14:54):
bull and this is who we are I'm not holding
on anything back. I don't mind opening doors. I don't
that's the way it's supposed to be. Open doors, pay
for the bill. But I'm not going to be showing
you I can open doors and pay for bill, and
pay bills, pay for dinner. If you don't have anything
to offer me because you're not feminine, you can't be supportive.
(15:17):
Because you're not feminine, you can't be loving, you can't
nurture a family because you're not feminine, you can't support me. Yes,
I am strong, i am dependable, I am a rock,
and I'm also human, So I look to my yin,
my yang, my woman to give me that comfort and support.
(15:41):
I failed as a man and something that I wanted
to do, something I was trying to do to benefit us.
It is not It is not okay for a woman
then to pile on and make a man feel worse
for doing that. I made a mistake trying to improve
our lives, mainly trying to improve your life, our family's life.
(16:04):
So then that's when I need that It's going to
be okay. We are going to make it through because
I know I have that support system with me. The
same way nine times out of ten, you have that
support system. Damn it, I didn't. I wasn't perfect. I
messed up one time, I messed up twice. It's okay,
(16:27):
but I need we need that femininity and it should
come to the table when we say hello. It shouldn't
come six months down the line, because six months down
the line, I might not be interested anymore. And it's
one of those things. Well, you weren't looking for commitment. No,
I was looking for a commitment. You just weren't ready
(16:47):
yet because you had walls up, you had things that
you had to deal with. So I'm supposed to wait around.
Am I supposed to wait around until you finish dealing
with your issues? That's not fair to me, because I'm
ready to go looking for a relationship and wanting to
be in a relationship. Is if I find what I'm
(17:08):
looking for, all systems go. That's just what it is.
It's not I'm going to wait as long as you
want me to wait. No, men, we should not be
doing that. We should not be doing that. We are
the lead. We should be taking the lead. We should
be directing this relationship which way it's going to go.
(17:32):
You give her those options. This is how it's going
to go. This is what I'm looking towards in this relationship.
Does this work for you? And then you have an option?
Yes it works, No it doesn't work. That's communication, right.
But this idea of femininity being hidden or it being
(17:54):
not present because there's not a man present is ridiculous.
Is ridiculous. I'm masculine yesterday, masculine today, masculine tomorrow. There's
never a time where I have to turn on my femininity.
(18:15):
Maybe it's different for women. I'm not a woman, so
I'm speaking from a man's perspective, but I know, damn well,
we don't want another man walking into our lives. We
are high value men looking for high value women, women
that we deem high value in the dating scene, and
so as people don't check your boxes, their value goes
(18:40):
down to where now you have any you don't have
any value. And that's men and women, right. If you
find someone, if you find a man, if you find
a woman who checks all your blocks, that and it's
that's high value. That's all that that means. Why are
we still arguing with this? With this word mean? What
(19:02):
this phrase means? As you get to know someone, your
interest level drops, they have no value to you. As
you get to know someone and your interest level increases,
you like what you hear, you like what they're about,
their value goes up to you. That's it. So, yes,
(19:24):
there is a general term of high value man, high
value woman. But everyone's values are different, and every part
of us when we're dating is valuable to another person,
whether it's because you don't have something or because you
do have something. If I lived at home with my
(19:46):
mom in her basement, how much value do I have
as a man? Right? Because from there you believe that
I can't provide. I can't take care of myself. So
how can I take care of a family. If I
can't take care of myself? How can I lead you?
How can I be the head of a family? How
can I provide? So I have no value to you
because you value being provided for? How can I protect you?
(20:11):
Because I'm not out here protecting myself yet I'm still
at home. I haven't left the nest. So how do
I know that you can nurture me? How do I
know that you can be loving? You can help me
with my emotional intelligence the same way I can help you.
You can help me. But how do I know that
(20:33):
if I'm fighting against you the entire time to break
through something that I didn't create, something that I didn't create,
And that's where healing comes through. We'll talk about that
in another video. Yeah, femininity, I don't believe a man
brings it out. I believe either you're feminine or not,
(20:56):
and you make a choice to be that way and
continue to be that way. If you don't have trust
in a man in order to be feminine, say that
that's something totally different when you start using words like trust,
like confidence, say those words to us. Say instead of
(21:16):
oh I'm looking for a man so I can't who
can bring out my femininity? Say I don't trust you
as a man to be feminine. Ooh, now we have
a conversation. Now we have something to talk about because
you're saying you don't trust me too enough to be
a woman. To me, I equate femininity with a woman.
(21:40):
That's how I equate it. If you don't, Sorry, so
you don't trust me enough to be a woman. So
what are you any at any other time? What do
you consider yourself if your femininity is not turned on?
I like to get answer? Is back on there? Please? Please?
(22:05):
Enlighten me and let me know it's a cop out.
Having a man bring out your femininity is one hundred
percent cop out, and no one else, no one can
convince me of anything else. This has been Felix Black.
This is a Felix Black Show podcast. Please make sure
you're following on all social media platforms and I will
(22:25):
see you guys in the next episode.
Welcome back listeners to the Felix Black Show podcast here
on all of your favorite streaming platforms for podcasts. Thank
you for tuning in to today's episode. I'm your host,
Felix Black. And what is this podcast about. It is
about me single man out here dating and go through
and give you some stories, some of my thoughts on
(00:37):
how dating should be and dating from my perspective. Right,
I understand, I know everyone is not going to agree
with how I feel about dating, but there are a
number of people that do. And so this is the
podcast for you. And this is the podcast if you
have doubts, if you don't understand quite what you know
(01:02):
high value men are talking about. Again, I know people
are starting to attack that term high value. It's not
a term that I made up. It's from the internet. Okay,
what are we talking about when we talk about high
value man? Let's talk about that, talking about a man
with a job, no kids, makes over one hundred k,
has all his own Okay, That's basically what it comes
(01:25):
down to. And we have a high level of emotional intelligence,
but also we come with rules, we come with discipline.
If you don't already know, if you have never been
on the stream before or on the podcast before. I
am a traditional guy. I understand people are going fifty
(01:46):
to fifty and I'm a guy who's more or less
paying the bills in the home. However, it's not a
free ride. There are things that I require as a
man in the home, and that's what I talk about
here on this podcast. Okay, make sure if you're not
following the podcast you do so. Full video can be
found on YouTube. What I want to talk about today,
(02:09):
A man doesn't bring out femininity in a woman. This
is something I hear a lot. I watch a lot
of dating shows. You know, I'm on dating apps, I
talk to people in person. I get to know women.
I like talking to women. They're very interesting to say
(02:30):
the least. Okay, so this is something I'm starting to
hear a lot. And when I start to hear things
a lot one, I'm starting to think that it's group think.
People are just saying what someone else says because it
sounds good and they don't really think through what's being said.
That's just my opinion. Okay, So when I start to
(02:51):
see dating shows and the not the same women, but
women are saying the same thing, is it a little
bit of it's a commonality, and that might be what
the issue is possibly, right, I agree, And I'm not
just here to talk to women. I talk to the
men too out there, so we can improve ourselves as
leaders as providers. So when women say, you know, men
(03:17):
aren't providing, men aren't leading like they used to, I
can agree with that, all right, and so I side
with the women on that topic. But there are some
things like this topic that I'm talking about today that
I just don't agree with. I do not believe that
it's true, and so believe I believe women are using
this as a cop out. Okay, let's get into it.
(03:39):
Femininity in a woman, What is it to me? I
like girly girls, right, So my definition of femininity is
a person who is loving, caring, supportive, very nurturing in
the home. Okay, she likes family, she likes taking care
of family. She may be into traditional roles taking care
(04:02):
of the house, taking care of the family. I'm not
saying she doesn't work, but her work is second in
her life. What's most important to her is taking care
of her family, her man, and her kids. I like
women who like to go to the salon and get
their hair done. I like women. I like to get
their nails done, like to get their toes done. You know,
(04:24):
they're trying to drag me to SPA treatments, you know,
to get massages and stuff like that. I like that.
I like an emotional woman who's crying. I don't want
to say that in a bad way, but who cries
easily because I know that she's soft, right, She's not
(04:45):
trying to play tough, she's not trying to be a guy.
She's soft, right, And so women are sensitive. Women are
soft creatures that should be handled as such. My belief.
So naturally, if you're a woman, to me, that is
something that you should know. I've talked about it before.
(05:08):
When are women taught how to take care of a
man and not only taught that they don't need one? Right?
We hear that a lot. Oh, I'm raising my daughter
so she doesn't need a man. I've never heard a
mother or a father raising their son so they don't
need a woman. They're raising their son to take care
(05:29):
of a woman, rightfully, So that's how I've raised my son.
So femininity is innate. It's within you as a female,
as a woman, as a girl, as a cheeka, so
it is innate in you. It should not take someone
(05:51):
else to bring that out of you. Why does it
take that? I understand if you are not able to
be a woman at all times, or able to be
feminine at all times, you have to play different roles.
Single parents have to be mom and dad. You know,
y'all have to be tough so you don't get taken
(06:12):
advantage of. I understand all of that. I understand it.
But to say you need a man to bring it out,
A man should bring it out automatically, and it should
automatically be there. You should just be waiting. You should
already You shouldn't even be waiting. You should already be
feminine when you approach when you start to talk to
(06:35):
a guy. Right, so, if we meet and we plan
a date, how long before I bring out your femininity?
How long? How many dates do we have to go on?
I have to prove to you that I'm a man,
that I'm an upstanding guy. And I always say this,
this whole notion of I don't know you. I have
(06:56):
to get to know you. You will never fully know somebody.
You will only know what they want you to know.
That is the truth. Of it. We hear stories all
the time about people have been together for thirty forty
fifty years and their partner does something that they've never
done before, that they didn't know, that they've never heard of. Right,
So to say that, you know, I don't know you,
(07:17):
so I have to I have to get to know
you in order to be feminine with me. You're not
going to get that opportunity either you come to the
table feminine and ready to go, or I'm not going
to prove anything to you. Why do I say that
I've never lied to you, never cheated on you. So
why am I proving to you that I don't cheat?
(07:39):
Why am I proving to you that I don't lie
when I've never done it to you? Right? So I
have to prove myself to you in order for you
to be a woman. How do I have to prove
myself to you? Right by being a man, by being masculine.
So the thought process there is, I come to the
(08:02):
table as a man, chivalrous, opening doors, making sure that
you're protected, making sure that you're safe, in order for
you to then dial it back and be a woman. No,
that's not that's not how this works. That's not how
it's gonna work with me. And you know a lot
I know a few people, and I want to say
(08:23):
a lot of people. I know a few people that
believe that same thing. Once you make that choice to
I want to go on a date with Felix. I'm
interested in him. I want to get to know him.
Femininity should be turned on if it's not already on,
the fact that it's not already on to me is scary, right,
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that is not already on? Now? If you have to
become masculine in a certain situation, I understand that. But
to turn it on, as you know women say and
leave it on, no, No, I don't agree with that.
I don't agree with that. It's something that women should
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be doing and should be okay with doing so. It
should not be a requirement for me to be a
man in order for you to be a woman. It
is not a requirement for you to be a woman
in order for me to be a man. I present
as such, I'm going to act as such. I'm going
to act accordingly at all times, right, at all times.
There is no you have to prove to me that
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you're a woman in order for me to be a man.
The same goes for both, Like we need to stop
trying to put the lever in one side. Women need men,
men need women. That's how we connect, that's how we
get together, that's how the world creates. Okay, So we
need to stop trying to one up or put ourselves
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in a position. As you know, you're claiming me, I'm
the prize here. We're both prizes to each other if
we are single and we find what we're looking for,
all right. I'm looking for a feminine, nurturing and loving woman.
She's looking for a strong, dependable man that can lead.
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We are beneficial to each other. There is no leg up.
You're not any less worth worthy than I am because
you're not the leader. Leaders have teams, We take input.
We were down there in the trenches sometimes getting that
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perspective because sometimes we can lose perspective on what you know,
those that we lead are actually doing. But a proper
leader does not make decisions in a vacuum. They do
not make decisions all by themselves, especially if it affects others. Right,
So this notion that I need to prove to you
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that I'm a good leader. How how because as soon
as I make the wrong decion. You're gonna say, Oh,
he's not a good leader. I couldn't follow him, So
you're not going to find a perfect leader out there.
That's just how it happens. But back to the femininity piece.
I don't believe that a man can bring out your femininity.
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I think it's either there and it exists, or it
doesn't if you have to I'm gonna say this again,
if you have to be less than feminine in any
certain situation, Okay, I understand that you turn it on,
you turn it off like a light switch. But to
walk around being masculine, because if you're not feminine, you're masculine.
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To walk around being that way and think that some
dude is going to fight with you in order to
get you to be the woman he wants you to be,
that's false and that's how relationships don't last. I shouldn't
have to change you. That's why I say, come to
the table with your femininity ready to go, the same
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way I have my masculinity ready to go, and you
can evaluate that as such. I'm going to be who
I am if you get into a relationship with me,
this is who I'm going to be. There is no secret.
I'm not holding anything back. I'm not putting on a show.
I'm not putting on a facade. This is who I am,
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and so that gives you the ability to fully evaluate
my character, my personality, and to see if that's what
you want to be a part of, if that's what
you want in your life. Why do I have to
then wait for weeks, months, days, years, however long it
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is to turn on your femininity for me to show,
for you, to show me who you are and what
I'm getting in the relationship. I'm sorry to tell you.
We are now, men are now, and I think we've
always been looking to see how you as a woman
benefits us. I know women don't like that what do
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you bring to the table question? It's a valid question,
what do you bring to this relationship? Because you simply
existing and being a woman, that's not enough. We want more,
so the same way you want more as a woman.
You want a leader, a provider. You want someone who's
going to pay the bills and do all of this
stuff for you. Chivalry. Okay, So we want to know
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what you're bringing to us, and so for you to
get offended by that question is offensive to us one
hundred percent. That's just being true. It's offensive to us.
That means you can't answer the question. You don't know
the answer to the question, and that's something you need
to think about. And for the men, if you don't
know the answer to that question, how you can provide
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what you bring to the table for a woman, you
need to stop dating and go self reflect when we
come out as men to this dating scene, when we
come to the table with a woman, we need to
be ready to go. We need to be ready to
be the person that we are so she can then
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evaluate who we are. We forget that we're animals. Humans
are animals. So if you watch National Geographic before, you've seen,
in certain instances, animals present themselves to the opposite sex
for mating purposes. Right, I can build a nest. I
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have great feathers for DNA and for reproducing all of
that stuff. Right, So they come as they are. They
don't prove anything later, They're proving it right then and
there in front of them. This is what you're getting.
And so that's the way I carry it. That's the
way men should carry it. When we come to the table,
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bull and this is who we are I'm not holding
on anything back. I don't mind opening doors. I don't
that's the way it's supposed to be. Open doors, pay
for the bill. But I'm not going to be showing
you I can open doors and pay for bill, and
pay bills, pay for dinner. If you don't have anything
to offer me because you're not feminine, you can't be supportive.
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Because you're not feminine, you can't be loving, you can't
nurture a family because you're not feminine, you can't support me. Yes,
I am strong, i am dependable, I am a rock,
and I'm also human, So I look to my yin,
my yang, my woman to give me that comfort and support.
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I failed as a man and something that I wanted
to do, something I was trying to do to benefit us.
It is not It is not okay for a woman
then to pile on and make a man feel worse
for doing that. I made a mistake trying to improve
our lives, mainly trying to improve your life, our family's life.
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So then that's when I need that It's going to
be okay. We are going to make it through because
I know I have that support system with me. The
same way nine times out of ten, you have that
support system. Damn it, I didn't. I wasn't perfect. I
messed up one time, I messed up twice. It's okay,
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but I need we need that femininity and it should
come to the table when we say hello. It shouldn't
come six months down the line, because six months down
the line, I might not be interested anymore. And it's
one of those things. Well, you weren't looking for commitment. No,
I was looking for a commitment. You just weren't ready
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yet because you had walls up, you had things that
you had to deal with. So I'm supposed to wait around.
Am I supposed to wait around until you finish dealing
with your issues? That's not fair to me, because I'm
ready to go looking for a relationship and wanting to
be in a relationship. Is if I find what I'm
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looking for, all systems go. That's just what it is.
It's not I'm going to wait as long as you
want me to wait. No, men, we should not be
doing that. We should not be doing that. We are
the lead. We should be taking the lead. We should
be directing this relationship which way it's going to go.
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You give her those options. This is how it's going
to go. This is what I'm looking towards in this relationship.
Does this work for you? And then you have an option?
Yes it works, No it doesn't work. That's communication, right.
But this idea of femininity being hidden or it being
(17:54):
not present because there's not a man present is ridiculous.
Is ridiculous. I'm masculine yesterday, masculine today, masculine tomorrow. There's
never a time where I have to turn on my femininity.
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Maybe it's different for women. I'm not a woman, so
I'm speaking from a man's perspective, but I know, damn well,
we don't want another man walking into our lives. We
are high value men looking for high value women, women
that we deem high value in the dating scene, and
so as people don't check your boxes, their value goes
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down to where now you have any you don't have
any value. And that's men and women, right. If you
find someone, if you find a man, if you find
a woman who checks all your blocks, that and it's
that's high value. That's all that that means. Why are
we still arguing with this? With this word mean? What
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this phrase means? As you get to know someone, your
interest level drops, they have no value to you. As
you get to know someone and your interest level increases,
you like what you hear, you like what they're about,
their value goes up to you. That's it. So, yes,
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there is a general term of high value man, high
value woman. But everyone's values are different, and every part
of us when we're dating is valuable to another person,
whether it's because you don't have something or because you
do have something. If I lived at home with my
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mom in her basement, how much value do I have
as a man? Right? Because from there you believe that
I can't provide. I can't take care of myself. So
how can I take care of a family. If I
can't take care of myself? How can I lead you?
How can I be the head of a family? How
can I provide? So I have no value to you
because you value being provided for? How can I protect you?
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Because I'm not out here protecting myself yet I'm still
at home. I haven't left the nest. So how do
I know that you can nurture me? How do I
know that you can be loving? You can help me
with my emotional intelligence the same way I can help you.
You can help me. But how do I know that
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if I'm fighting against you the entire time to break
through something that I didn't create, something that I didn't create,
And that's where healing comes through. We'll talk about that
in another video. Yeah, femininity, I don't believe a man
brings it out. I believe either you're feminine or not,
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and you make a choice to be that way and
continue to be that way. If you don't have trust
in a man in order to be feminine, say that
that's something totally different when you start using words like trust,
like confidence, say those words to us. Say instead of
(21:16):
oh I'm looking for a man so I can't who
can bring out my femininity? Say I don't trust you
as a man to be feminine. Ooh, now we have
a conversation. Now we have something to talk about because
you're saying you don't trust me too enough to be
a woman. To me, I equate femininity with a woman.
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That's how I equate it. If you don't, Sorry, so
you don't trust me enough to be a woman. So
what are you any at any other time? What do
you consider yourself if your femininity is not turned on?
I like to get answer? Is back on there? Please? Please?
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Enlighten me and let me know it's a cop out.
Having a man bring out your femininity is one hundred
percent cop out, and no one else, no one can
convince me of anything else. This has been Felix Black.
This is a Felix Black Show podcast. Please make sure
you're following on all social media platforms and I will
(22:25):
see you guys in the next episode.
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