February 12, 2025 • 15 mins
🚨 Is a man with no kids at a certain age a red flag? Or is this just another dating myth? In this explosive episode of The Felix Black Show, we break down the stigma surrounding men without children and whether it’s a sign of high standards or a major warning sign.
💡 Key Topics Covered:
Why some women see childless men as a red flag.
The double standards between men and women with no kids.
Does a man’s age impact how he’s judged in the dating market?
The truth about dating high-value men with no children.
🔥 This conversation will challenge mainstream dating narratives and spark major debate!
💬 Drop your thoughts in the comments!
Is a man with no kids a red flag, or is that just nonsense?
Let’s settle this once and for all. 📢 LIKE, COMMENT & SUBSCRIBE for more unfiltered relationship talk from Felix Black!
💡 Key Topics Covered:
Why some women see childless men as a red flag.
The double standards between men and women with no kids.
Does a man’s age impact how he’s judged in the dating market?
The truth about dating high-value men with no children.
🔥 This conversation will challenge mainstream dating narratives and spark major debate!
💬 Drop your thoughts in the comments!
Is a man with no kids a red flag, or is that just nonsense?
Let’s settle this once and for all. 📢 LIKE, COMMENT & SUBSCRIBE for more unfiltered relationship talk from Felix Black!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
So today I'm going to be talking about red flags
in the dating pool. Today, let's get into the topic. Hey,
welcome back everybody to the Felix Black Podcast. I am
(00:22):
your host, Felix Black, and today we're talking about red
flags in the dating pool. Thank you all for you know,
tuning in to listen to the podcast wherever you listen
to your podcast or view it if you're here on YouTube.
As always, please listen. If you have any comments, if
you have any questions, please put that in the comments
(00:44):
section and always follow if you haven't already. If it's
your first time listening, thank you very much. I hope
you enjoy your listen, you enjoy your stay, and decide
to come back for future episodes. Red flags. I've been
hearing a lot lately that a man of a certain age.
(01:04):
There's no specific criteria, so women out there can let
me know if this is something that they believe as well,
men of a certain age who don't have any children
are a red flag. Now we've gone from men without
any children being a good thing in dating to now
(01:26):
I'm starting to hear a lot of women say men
of a certain age without any children are a red flag. Okay,
I think this is something a ploy, if you will,
to minimize men and women that have no children. The
women that have said that they prefer a man with kids,
(01:49):
you know, they may be older in age. The woman
herself may be older in age, so she prefers a
man with children, and because she doesn't want to have anymore.
Understand that. Now, to say your preference is a man
with kids is one thing. But to say a man
without children is a red flag is to say that
(02:10):
that's a bad thing. And I don't understand why. I've
rarely I have heard it, but I've rarely heard a
man say a woman without children at a certain age
is a bad thing. Now, sometimes we like to say,
you know, a woman who has never been married without
any kids at a certain age, you know there must
be something wrong with them. I have heard that before.
(02:32):
But that's not anything common that's being said or being
spoken a lot. I'm starting to hear this thing about
the men without children being spoken a lot. I don't
understand how that is a red flag if it's not
your preference. Okay, God, it understood. But to say it's
a red flag, meaning that that's a character flaw, it's
(02:53):
something's wrong with him. There cannot be anything wrong with
a man or a woman who has chosen not to
have any children. Sometimes I'm not talking about the medical
Sometimes it's a medical issue that in itself, Okay, obviously
they can't they want to. But to say somebody has
(03:14):
to have a child by a certain age, where is
that written right? Where is that said? We are individuals.
We live in a culture. We live in a society.
That is a society rule that you must graduate, go
to college, get a job, start a family. That that
(03:37):
image is changing for a lot of people. Births are
on the decline with the newer generations because things are
so expensive, including children, and that you know that started
with the Generation xers, went into the millennials and now
gen z jen Alpha. But to say it's a red flag,
(03:59):
How is someone being responsible with their life, making the
conscious decision to be safe protect themselves a bad thing?
I can tell you for me. For me specifically, the
choice not to have children when I was younger was
a personal thing. I wanted to travel, I wanted to
(04:20):
see the world. As a parent, I want my children,
my child to have everything. That's just the way that
I see it. So I wanted to be financially stable.
I was not financially stable when I'm in my twenties.
When I'm in my thirties, right, I was still out
having fun, you know, not paying bills the way I
(04:42):
was supposed to doing things some normal twenty year olds do.
So that was a decision. That was a discipline decision.
Did I have the opportunity to have children, Yes, I
mean I did, but I chose not to. So how
is that now a red flag? How is that now
a bad thing. You don't have to meet a baby mama.
(05:04):
You don't have to meet anyone else. You don't have
to bond with a child, because that's going to be
important to any parent. Right. If you don't get along
with their children, then something's not going to connect with
you and him, you and her. You don't have to
do that. It's just me. You don't have anything that's
taking my time away. I choose to do what I
(05:27):
want to do with my time just because I don't
have kids. I mean, people have assumed that I'm available
twenty four to seven. Oh, well, you know you're always
available and I'm not because I have kids. Wait, who
says that I'm always available? I have things to do, right,
It's just me. Though I don't have the added responsibility
of having children, I still have my own priorities. I
(05:50):
still have work, I still have things that I have
to get fixed, things that I have to call about,
things that I like doing, hobbies. I have all of
that type of stuff. So I made the conscious decision like,
how is that now a bad thing? It is of
my opinion that if more people planned properly, we wouldn't
(06:12):
have so many broken homes, single person homes. I know
that we can't control that, but I know I know
for a fact in some instances it could have been
controlled with better planning. So now I'm being told, or
I'm seeing in the dating pool that because I'm past
(06:34):
a certain age i'm past thirty, I don't have any children,
that I am a red flag because there's something wrong
with me. And that's without even getting to know me,
without even talking to me. I would never say that
a woman without any children as a red flag. There
are a thousand reasons why you wouldn't have a child, right,
(06:55):
And that's a conversation that you have to have with
that individual. Maybe it was their plan, Maybe they couldn't,
Maybe they don't want children. That's their god given right,
is whether they want to procreate or not. But now
we're starting to turn the tables on dating a man
(07:16):
without children. He's hainted somehow, and I don't understand that.
I don't understand where it came from, and I don't
understand why it's being said. I've never said that I
wouldn't date a woman without children. Like, she's free to go,
she's free to do whatever she wants to do. She doesn't.
I don't have to meet a baby daddy. I don't
(07:37):
have to meet another dude, right, I don't have to
meet a child. I don't have to connect with a child.
So what would be the downside in that? Now you
can meet some people and you can say, oh, well,
you know, I understand why you don't why you're by yourself,
why you don't have someone. No, you really don't understand.
Because our situations, our experiences, are what makes us who
(07:58):
we are today, and so we adapt. We have gone
through some things that we prefer not to go through anymore,
and so we try to adjust to prevent ourselves from
going through things. Again. Everybody does that. Everybody does that,
but that's still something we are getting away from the
(08:20):
conversation of relationships and everyone is intentional. I'm dating intentional,
I'm dating with the intent to marry. And that is
getting in the way of just getting to know someone.
And there's nothing wrong with being friends everyone. I will
continue to say this, Everyone that you talk to does
(08:41):
not have to be someone that you want to get
married to, that you want to be in a relationship with.
Sometimes you can just be friends, you can just be cool.
We are so far removed from that now because people
don't want friends, people don't want to communicate, people don't
want anything unless it's going to leave to marriage. You
(09:01):
have no way of knowing that, And so that to
me is an issue because now you're rushing to get
the title for what like why why why can't we grow?
Why can't we get to know each other? Because that's
the something else I hear. I don't know you very well,
so get to know me, get to know me. Don't
rush to say we have to hit benchmarks by three months,
(09:24):
by six months, by nine months. We must be here,
we must be there. No, let's just go with the flow.
If things geil and we like each other's company and
we want to basking each other's auras. We will do that.
It doesn't have to be forced, it doesn't have well,
you know, it's been twenty four hours without doing this,
and if we're going to date intentionally, we need to
(09:45):
be doing this. No, there is no systematic way. You're
removing the energy, the exchange of just auras and vibes
and energies whatever you want to call it between two
people that make you more compatible, because we're just rushing
so we can host the social media. You know, she
(10:05):
said yes or I said yes, or we're getting married
when most people don't really care, like we don't care
if you're getting married, like that's on you. We're getting
We're trying to impress people who are not important in
that decision. So what is the rush. You have a boyfriend,
you have a girlfriend, you get to know them, you
(10:27):
move forward like, no one has to know your time hacks,
No one has to know your time requirements, and there
shouldn't be any but the red flag thing. I don't know.
That's confusing me, and that's starting to and that's starting
to it bothers me. It bothers me because it seems
like now we are really starting to nick pick. We're
(10:51):
really not looking for people who are compatible. We are
looking for a reason now to say no, I'm not
in Dating shows are not what they used to be.
Dating shows, legit, we're trying to match you together. People
went on there to find someone to get to know,
(11:12):
to see they were combatible and things, you know, went
to that level of relationships or you know, to network.
I don't really know, but people were looking for a companion.
Our dating shows now are just all about moments and
trying to trying to increase your visibility. You want more
people to see you for what because again, we want
(11:35):
that validation, we want the likes. We want people in
our dms to want us right. Oh, you know, I
want to hook up with you. I want You're so beautiful,
you're you know, you're so handsome. We're not looking for substance.
We're just looking for confidence builders. We're looking for self
esteem builders. And so that's my issue with dating shows
(11:57):
now is everyone's looking for that clout doing that clout chase.
And so that's what I see that is now we're
turning the clock or we're turning the scales to say
someone without children is a red flag mainly a man
without a child is a red flag. That's something that
(12:18):
someone will have to really get in there and explain
that to me, because there cannot be a bad reason
why someone chose to delay bringing life into this world.
Shouldn't it be brought into this world in a system
of love, a system of structure, not a system of chaos.
(12:43):
It shouldn't be brought in unexpectedly. Now, it happens unexpectedly
and people make do, but they try to bring some
sense of normalcy, some sense of routine. We shouldn't be
bringing children into the world with anarchy, without a plan,
without knowing out money, just need an assistance from day one.
That's that's not the way it's supposed to go. And
(13:06):
so those of us who don't have children, nine out
of ten of us have thought that way, like we've
thought that planned through. There was a reason why we
might have been looking for someone who was compatible to
have a child with, right, that's important. There's a lot
of back and forth between men and women who have
children together, just about custody, just child support, all of
(13:30):
that type of stuff. So we don't have to deal
with that if we don't have any kids. How is
that a red flag? Am I better off having one?
Am I better off having two? Three? No one ever
says that. They just say, hey, you know, you know
he's over thirty and he doesn't have any kids, Like
that's a red flag for me, not that that's I
(13:52):
prefer a man who doesn't have kids, because well, I
prefer a man who has kids because I don't want
to have any. Even though you don't want to have any,
that doesn't mean that I want to have children with you. Again,
that's still a decision that I make. You don't make
that for me. You don't know whether I want to
(14:14):
have kids. You just know I don't have any, So
you're assuming because I don't have any, that I will
want some. And that's the problem with dating. And so
that's why I do this podcast so we can get
open the lines of communication both ways about what is
happening and what are we doing as men and women together.
And it seems like we're growing further apart than coming
(14:37):
together because we're finding different ways to nitpick each other
and to make that rift even wider. I don't understand,
but this has been Felix Black with a Phelix Black podcast. Please,
if you have any questions, any comments, any concerns, Please
hit me up on social media, you know, or hit
(14:58):
the comments section here on the YouTube video if you're
watching on YouTube, Thank you guys for watching. And red
flags and not having kids as a red flag. Now
that's interesting. But I'll see y'all in the next one.
So today I'm going to be talking about red flags
in the dating pool. Today, let's get into the topic. Hey,
welcome back everybody to the Felix Black Podcast. I am
(00:22):
your host, Felix Black, and today we're talking about red
flags in the dating pool. Thank you all for you know,
tuning in to listen to the podcast wherever you listen
to your podcast or view it if you're here on YouTube.
As always, please listen. If you have any comments, if
you have any questions, please put that in the comments
(00:44):
section and always follow if you haven't already. If it's
your first time listening, thank you very much. I hope
you enjoy your listen, you enjoy your stay, and decide
to come back for future episodes. Red flags. I've been
hearing a lot lately that a man of a certain age.
(01:04):
There's no specific criteria, so women out there can let
me know if this is something that they believe as well,
men of a certain age who don't have any children
are a red flag. Now we've gone from men without
any children being a good thing in dating to now
(01:26):
I'm starting to hear a lot of women say men
of a certain age without any children are a red flag. Okay,
I think this is something a ploy, if you will,
to minimize men and women that have no children. The
women that have said that they prefer a man with kids,
(01:49):
you know, they may be older in age. The woman
herself may be older in age, so she prefers a
man with children, and because she doesn't want to have anymore.
Understand that. Now, to say your preference is a man
with kids is one thing. But to say a man
without children is a red flag is to say that
(02:10):
that's a bad thing. And I don't understand why. I've
rarely I have heard it, but I've rarely heard a
man say a woman without children at a certain age
is a bad thing. Now, sometimes we like to say,
you know, a woman who has never been married without
any kids at a certain age, you know there must
be something wrong with them. I have heard that before.
(02:32):
But that's not anything common that's being said or being
spoken a lot. I'm starting to hear this thing about
the men without children being spoken a lot. I don't
understand how that is a red flag if it's not
your preference. Okay, God, it understood. But to say it's
a red flag, meaning that that's a character flaw, it's
(02:53):
something's wrong with him. There cannot be anything wrong with
a man or a woman who has chosen not to
have any children. Sometimes I'm not talking about the medical
Sometimes it's a medical issue that in itself, Okay, obviously
they can't they want to. But to say somebody has
(03:14):
to have a child by a certain age, where is
that written right? Where is that said? We are individuals.
We live in a culture. We live in a society.
That is a society rule that you must graduate, go
to college, get a job, start a family. That that
(03:37):
image is changing for a lot of people. Births are
on the decline with the newer generations because things are
so expensive, including children, and that you know that started
with the Generation xers, went into the millennials and now
gen z jen Alpha. But to say it's a red flag,
(03:59):
How is someone being responsible with their life, making the
conscious decision to be safe protect themselves a bad thing?
I can tell you for me. For me specifically, the
choice not to have children when I was younger was
a personal thing. I wanted to travel, I wanted to
(04:20):
see the world. As a parent, I want my children,
my child to have everything. That's just the way that
I see it. So I wanted to be financially stable.
I was not financially stable when I'm in my twenties.
When I'm in my thirties, right, I was still out
having fun, you know, not paying bills the way I
(04:42):
was supposed to doing things some normal twenty year olds do.
So that was a decision. That was a discipline decision.
Did I have the opportunity to have children, Yes, I
mean I did, but I chose not to. So how
is that now a red flag? How is that now
a bad thing. You don't have to meet a baby mama.
(05:04):
You don't have to meet anyone else. You don't have
to bond with a child, because that's going to be
important to any parent. Right. If you don't get along
with their children, then something's not going to connect with
you and him, you and her. You don't have to
do that. It's just me. You don't have anything that's
taking my time away. I choose to do what I
(05:27):
want to do with my time just because I don't
have kids. I mean, people have assumed that I'm available
twenty four to seven. Oh, well, you know you're always
available and I'm not because I have kids. Wait, who
says that I'm always available? I have things to do, right,
It's just me. Though I don't have the added responsibility
of having children, I still have my own priorities. I
(05:50):
still have work, I still have things that I have
to get fixed, things that I have to call about,
things that I like doing, hobbies. I have all of
that type of stuff. So I made the conscious decision like,
how is that now a bad thing? It is of
my opinion that if more people planned properly, we wouldn't
(06:12):
have so many broken homes, single person homes. I know
that we can't control that, but I know I know
for a fact in some instances it could have been
controlled with better planning. So now I'm being told, or
I'm seeing in the dating pool that because I'm past
(06:34):
a certain age i'm past thirty, I don't have any children,
that I am a red flag because there's something wrong
with me. And that's without even getting to know me,
without even talking to me. I would never say that
a woman without any children as a red flag. There
are a thousand reasons why you wouldn't have a child, right,
(06:55):
And that's a conversation that you have to have with
that individual. Maybe it was their plan, Maybe they couldn't,
Maybe they don't want children. That's their god given right,
is whether they want to procreate or not. But now
we're starting to turn the tables on dating a man
(07:16):
without children. He's hainted somehow, and I don't understand that.
I don't understand where it came from, and I don't
understand why it's being said. I've never said that I
wouldn't date a woman without children. Like, she's free to go,
she's free to do whatever she wants to do. She doesn't.
I don't have to meet a baby daddy. I don't
(07:37):
have to meet another dude, right, I don't have to
meet a child. I don't have to connect with a child.
So what would be the downside in that? Now you
can meet some people and you can say, oh, well,
you know, I understand why you don't why you're by yourself,
why you don't have someone. No, you really don't understand.
Because our situations, our experiences, are what makes us who
(07:58):
we are today, and so we adapt. We have gone
through some things that we prefer not to go through anymore,
and so we try to adjust to prevent ourselves from
going through things. Again. Everybody does that. Everybody does that,
but that's still something we are getting away from the
(08:20):
conversation of relationships and everyone is intentional. I'm dating intentional,
I'm dating with the intent to marry. And that is
getting in the way of just getting to know someone.
And there's nothing wrong with being friends everyone. I will
continue to say this, Everyone that you talk to does
(08:41):
not have to be someone that you want to get
married to, that you want to be in a relationship with.
Sometimes you can just be friends, you can just be cool.
We are so far removed from that now because people
don't want friends, people don't want to communicate, people don't
want anything unless it's going to leave to marriage. You
(09:01):
have no way of knowing that, And so that to
me is an issue because now you're rushing to get
the title for what like why why why can't we grow?
Why can't we get to know each other? Because that's
the something else I hear. I don't know you very well,
so get to know me, get to know me. Don't
rush to say we have to hit benchmarks by three months,
(09:24):
by six months, by nine months. We must be here,
we must be there. No, let's just go with the flow.
If things geil and we like each other's company and
we want to basking each other's auras. We will do that.
It doesn't have to be forced, it doesn't have well,
you know, it's been twenty four hours without doing this,
and if we're going to date intentionally, we need to
(09:45):
be doing this. No, there is no systematic way. You're
removing the energy, the exchange of just auras and vibes
and energies whatever you want to call it between two
people that make you more compatible, because we're just rushing
so we can host the social media. You know, she
(10:05):
said yes or I said yes, or we're getting married
when most people don't really care, like we don't care
if you're getting married, like that's on you. We're getting
We're trying to impress people who are not important in
that decision. So what is the rush. You have a boyfriend,
you have a girlfriend, you get to know them, you
(10:27):
move forward like, no one has to know your time hacks,
No one has to know your time requirements, and there
shouldn't be any but the red flag thing. I don't know.
That's confusing me, and that's starting to and that's starting
to it bothers me. It bothers me because it seems
like now we are really starting to nick pick. We're
(10:51):
really not looking for people who are compatible. We are
looking for a reason now to say no, I'm not
in Dating shows are not what they used to be.
Dating shows, legit, we're trying to match you together. People
went on there to find someone to get to know,
(11:12):
to see they were combatible and things, you know, went
to that level of relationships or you know, to network.
I don't really know, but people were looking for a companion.
Our dating shows now are just all about moments and
trying to trying to increase your visibility. You want more
people to see you for what because again, we want
(11:35):
that validation, we want the likes. We want people in
our dms to want us right. Oh, you know, I
want to hook up with you. I want You're so beautiful,
you're you know, you're so handsome. We're not looking for substance.
We're just looking for confidence builders. We're looking for self
esteem builders. And so that's my issue with dating shows
(11:57):
now is everyone's looking for that clout doing that clout chase.
And so that's what I see that is now we're
turning the clock or we're turning the scales to say
someone without children is a red flag mainly a man
without a child is a red flag. That's something that
(12:18):
someone will have to really get in there and explain
that to me, because there cannot be a bad reason
why someone chose to delay bringing life into this world.
Shouldn't it be brought into this world in a system
of love, a system of structure, not a system of chaos.
(12:43):
It shouldn't be brought in unexpectedly. Now, it happens unexpectedly
and people make do, but they try to bring some
sense of normalcy, some sense of routine. We shouldn't be
bringing children into the world with anarchy, without a plan,
without knowing out money, just need an assistance from day one.
That's that's not the way it's supposed to go. And
(13:06):
so those of us who don't have children, nine out
of ten of us have thought that way, like we've
thought that planned through. There was a reason why we
might have been looking for someone who was compatible to
have a child with, right, that's important. There's a lot
of back and forth between men and women who have
children together, just about custody, just child support, all of
(13:30):
that type of stuff. So we don't have to deal
with that if we don't have any kids. How is
that a red flag? Am I better off having one?
Am I better off having two? Three? No one ever
says that. They just say, hey, you know, you know
he's over thirty and he doesn't have any kids, Like
that's a red flag for me, not that that's I
(13:52):
prefer a man who doesn't have kids, because well, I
prefer a man who has kids because I don't want
to have any. Even though you don't want to have any,
that doesn't mean that I want to have children with you. Again,
that's still a decision that I make. You don't make
that for me. You don't know whether I want to
(14:14):
have kids. You just know I don't have any, So
you're assuming because I don't have any, that I will
want some. And that's the problem with dating. And so
that's why I do this podcast so we can get
open the lines of communication both ways about what is
happening and what are we doing as men and women together.
And it seems like we're growing further apart than coming
(14:37):
together because we're finding different ways to nitpick each other
and to make that rift even wider. I don't understand,
but this has been Felix Black with a Phelix Black podcast. Please,
if you have any questions, any comments, any concerns, Please
hit me up on social media, you know, or hit
(14:58):
the comments section here on the YouTube video if you're
watching on YouTube, Thank you guys for watching. And red
flags and not having kids as a red flag. Now
that's interesting. But I'll see y'all in the next one.
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Does hearing about a true crime case always leave you scouring the internet for the truth behind the story? Dive into your next mystery with Crime Junkie. Every Monday, join your host Ashley Flowers as she unravels all the details of infamous and underreported true crime cases with her best friend Brit Prawat. From cold cases to missing persons and heroes in our community who seek justice, Crime Junkie is your destination for theories and stories you won’t hear anywhere else. Whether you're a seasoned true crime enthusiast or new to the genre, you'll find yourself on the edge of your seat awaiting a new episode every Monday. If you can never get enough true crime... Congratulations, you’ve found your people. Follow to join a community of Crime Junkies! Crime Junkie is presented by audiochuck Media Company.
NFL Daily with Gregg Rosenthal
Gregg Rosenthal and a rotating crew of elite NFL Media co-hosts, including Patrick Claybon, Colleen Wolfe, Steve Wyche, Nick Shook and Jourdan Rodrigue of The Athletic get you caught up daily on all the NFL news and analysis you need to be smarter and funnier than your friends.