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Speaker 1 (00:10):
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it's me the high value man, the person that you
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the position of a high value man here in the
dating pool. What is the high value and job? No kids,
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All right, what am I talking about today? I'm talking
about competition. This was actually a topic. I don't know
why people don't send me more topics like send me
things that, hey, like, what do you think about this?
What do you think about this topic? Right? Usually when
people ask me stuff like that, it's not anything that's
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I can talk about for a long time. Maybe like
two to three minutes, and it's an answer I'm rambling.
Let's get started with the program. Older men competing with
younger men, and older women competing with younger women, and
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how does that go down? From my perspective, this is
how it goes down. Older men competing with younger men,
and older women competing with younger women. A younger dude
cannot compete with me. He just can't write when we're
talking about dating. If we're talking about athletics and stuff
like that, yeah, but when we're talking about dating, being
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with the woman, providing for her, being a leader for her,
they can't. They can't touch me with a ten foot
poll for lack of a better term, right, they can't.
They can't see me on their best day. Why do
I say that? Because they just don't have the resources.
They don't have the experience, They don't have the balance,
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they don't have the adapt adaptability and the flexibility. What
do we always say experience is the best teacher. We
always make this comment that men mature slower than women, Right,
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so it takes us longer. I'm more experienced, so that
means I'm more mature by that logic, Right, We'll bring
that back when we're talking about women women, older women
competing with younger women. I have the resources at the
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end of the day, the mature woman who is looking
for peace, security, stability, because I've made videos on how
you know, younger women usually don't look for that. They
just look for attention. All you look good, you know,
you got a nice body, You're sexy. They want the compliments,
they want the money. The older women want the stability,
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they want the consistency, they want the intimacy, they want
the romance. Right, they want that feeling of belong and
having a place somewhere. I can provide that. Right. So,
a young dude is still out there finding his way.
We all do it. We've all done I mean we've
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done it. I've done it. Let me just not speak
for everybody. I've done it. I've been on a path
to find myself in searching, making bad decisions, not having
the amount of resources that I wanted, not being able
to provide for a family if I had had one
at that point in time. Right now, there's nothing that
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a young dude can show me, can teach me, except
for something technologically based that I might not be cryptocurrency
or something like that. But when we're talking about dating,
when we're talking about having emotional intelligence, for women being
in tune with what they are thinking, what they want,
what they should be looking for, there's no competition there.
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So it's a really it's a really easy answer. There
is no competition. The only thing is they may be
less body fat, right, but when a when an older
dude works out, he still looks good too. We still
have we have a we have a better fashion sense
because we we have the ability to look younger, to
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look formal, and to look older. I mean, if you
really want to do that, right, Younger guys are with
the with the trend mostly they're with whatever's trendy. And
as an older man, as a gentleman, a distinguished gentleman,
once we get to a certain point, we don't follow
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the trends. I think we're okay spending our money money
that we don't have on keeping up with the joneses
when we're when we're younger, that's expected. But once we
start getting into our thirties, we reset threshold. We are
now looked at as men that should be able to
provide a place for a family to come and grow
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and flourish, right, And so we start to count money differently.
Some of us, if you can afford it, you can
afford it. But what we're looking at is we're looking
at how do I maximize the money that I have,
not just throw it away? Is this a bad investment?
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And a lot of times we would put our wants
before our needs, and then we start to put our
needs before our wants, and then we work to be
able to take care of our necessities and still have
enough leftover for what we want to do. Right. So
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that's how that's how a man balances the two. There's
men that's still into shoe collection. There's men that's still
into you know, train collections, remote control cars, things like that.
But I guarantee most of them take care of their
necessities first, and what's left over goes into their hobby,
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goes into whatever brings them peace, guarantee, because that's the
shift before we're just like, oh, man, I need to
go get some new shoes. You know, I need a
new hat, some new jewelry. Cool. That's our first thought.
And it doesn't matter, you know, if we're still living
at home with mom, if we are sleeping on a
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mattress with no headboard, a mattress that's on the floor.
I have basic furniture in my apartment. I don't care
because I'm good with that. But I want to look good.
I want to smell good. I want to feel good
because that's what the women are at my age are into.
They're into the bling and what what a man looks
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like he has, and once we get older, that that changes.
We want to make sure. Hey, my house is cool.
I got a roof over my head, the refrigerator is full,
nobody needs anything. We good in here like cool. Now
what I have left I can spend on me because
I've taken care of my responsibilities. The average young dude
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hasn't hasn't gotten there yet. So that's why I say
there's no competition an older man. A younger dude is
not competing with me when it comes to dating. I
come from a generation where we didn't have let me
get your Instagram, let me get your Facebook, right. I
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had to adapt to that because now I'm like, hey,
can I get you? You have a number, Let's exchange numbers.
I got a card. I don't even give people my
number anymore. Got a business card here? You go, here's
my card, and they're the ones that's just like, uh,
you know, I'll give you my Instagram And because giving
the phone number is a big deal, I don't know.
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I mean, it's a phone number. Whatever. It's the world
of social media, which I am on, so make sure
you follow me on all social media platforms. It's a
world of social media. So that's something I had to
adapt to. So I just I wasn't always able to
just jump in someone's DMS because they look good. Now
we had to make a b line and have that conversation.
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And if she wasn't feeling you, she'll tell you as
no to your face, and you turn around and walk
the fuck away, right because he's not into it, and
there's nothing that there's nothing you can do. You just
you just built built confidence and you built game through that.
And now they don't to me, they don't have the
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social the social skills that we did. So again that's
another thing I can adapt to being online. I can
talk to someone online. I can hit you up on
Instagram all that type of stuff, and I can also
talk to you in person. I can I can get
your information, extrame information, talking to you face to face.
I'm able to do that, and I don't believe that
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all young men are able to do that. There are some, yes,
but I don't believe all are. So there's no competition there.
There's a little bit more competition when it comes to
older women versus younger women. Competition is fierce. It's fierce
because us as men, we like a mature woman who
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understands the level of feminine woman. We want the level
of nurturing, care and love we want to receive from
our women. We like the woman who likes to be
at home, doesn't mind going out. Right, there's nothing wrong
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with going out, but you don't want to be in
the club every weekend. Right, You're not partying and drinking
every single weekend. And that's what younger women tend to
be on. They tend to be on being seen, being chased,
being pursued, because they're at their peak. I've said that before.
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I will say that again. Women are at their peak
when they're in their twenties. As you get to your thirties,
as you get to your forties, bomb your stock starts
to decline. That's a fact. That's a fact in dating.
The only problem with women in their twenties is that
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they are just not developed yet to care for us.
I'm speaking generally. Of course, there are exceptions, so stop
giving me well that I knew one person that did.
I'm talking generally generally. Your twenty two year old woman
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does not have that concept yet. If she doesn't have children, right,
And if she had children, it's because she probably was
out having fun. I don't know if she planned to
have a family. If she did, good on her, continue
to move forward. If she didn't, that is the result
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of that. The average twenty one year old twenty two
year old does not have that concept yet. They are
looking to be taught, and if they're with an older man,
they're looking to be taught those things. A lot of
younger women say they don't like men their age. Why
because men just want to cut, right, That's what we're
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on when we're in our twenties. We just want to cut.
And it's easy to say I don't like men my
age because they just want that. We all want that,
we all do. Just when we get older, we go
about it a different way because a lot of that
has already gotten out of our system. So we understand
that sexist part of a relationship. And I hope women
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understand that too. We understand that's part of the relationship
that's going to happen. But what else is gonna happen?
Are you gonna nurture me? Are you gonna build a family?
Are we going to Are you gonna improve me as
a twenty two year old woman. Do you have something
to provide me as a forty year old man or
a thirty year old man that's going to improve myself?
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And that's where we get into the gray area. Usually
they don't right. Usually they're still in school, they're still partying,
they're still getting out of their system. You know, they're
at their peak. Their bodies are at their peak, and
they are getting all this attention from men young and old.
So they're not really looking to start a family. They're
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not really looking to start a family. They're looking to
get their things in order in order to start a
family in their thirties, their mid thirties, whatever. So in
their twenties, they're not really looking for that. Yes, there
are exceptions. I keep having to say that because someone's
going to bring that up. But older women, their focus
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is different. They are not looking for the fun. They're
looking for the stability. They're looking for that man that
has a home, that has his path, who's on his
pathway to his success. He's made that decision career wise,
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he's kind of set and on the way. The problem
with the older woman and where the younger woman trumps
her is attitude. These older women have such bitter, bad
attitudes and it's it is annoying, and it is a
real turn off because they've been through so much. Is
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your attitude warranted? Probably, so you probably have the right
to have an attitude. You don't have the right to
have an attitude with me because I didn't do that. Right,
whoever you were talking to Stanley Ernesto, they did that.
I didn't do that. So I have a problem when
you have an attitude with me just meeting me and
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you have all these rules. You know, don't do this.
I don't want a man who does this, who does that?
Who does that? That's because somebody else did that, right.
I understand you're learning what you will accept and what
you won't accept, but don't come to me. Don't approach
me with rules. I don't want someone who does this,
who does this? Who does this? I know what I'm
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looking for but I'm never gonna go negative and be like,
I don't want a woman who does this, who does this?
I want a woman who does this because I do this.
It's just the frame to go negative. And I appreciate
how younger women still have positivity in relationships in the
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world inside of them. So that is where the competition
comes from, is that they look really nice in their twenties.
They look really nice. Sometimes their mental is really it's
really energetic. They give you a lot of energy because
they're still positive on life. But they're not mature to
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the way the world works outside of looks, how you
have to pay stuff, how you have to chill out,
how you have to start to invest in, you know,
nurture and build empires. They're not they're not interested in that,
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where the mature woman is interested in building and is
interested in in doing certain things to build general rational wealth.
But they come with baggage sometimes and that can be
you know, when you come with baggage and you have
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a bad attitude and you're not at your peak. I
hate to say that you're not at your peak. That
just makes for the competition. So as a man, to me,
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it's not it's a lot of competition because both of
them have their perks. Both of them have their good
and have their bad. I like to find someone with
a little bit of both. I don't mind an attitude.
I don't mind that, but just make sure that it's
focused in the right way. I don't mind someone who's
been through things. We've all been through things, But have
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you gotten through them? Are you ready to move on?
Are you ready to move up? Are you ready to improve?
Looks are temporary because we all change over time, we do.
But there is this, there is I have to be
attracted to you, I really do. And so I understand
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being a mom. I understand life happens. But just as
men should be taking care of themselves, women should be too.
But yes, there's definitely competition older women and younger women.
For me, I don't think there's any competition for older
men younger men. I don't. I just don't see it.
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I don't see how there could be, how there would be.
But maybe somebody out there listening has a different point
of view. And that's what I'm here for. This is
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